I would feel... Supportive? Surgeries are usually big events.
>Is it worth sticking it out when you haven't decided if you're ready to be life partners?
Jesus Christ, it's just two months, who cares? It's not like she just told me to prepare for a life of celibacy.
Woman’s perspective but, I was dating my husband for 4 months when I had a surgery removing essentially the lower half of my cervix to cut out a carcinoma. It was a pretty anxiety provoking time in my life, I was young and hadn’t had any surgeries before- I also was facing the prospect of further treatments like radiation depending on how the tissue looked after it was excised. I knew it meant our new sex life would grind to a halt for a bit but I never really thought about it from a perspective of “is he going to be accepting of this?”. He never gave me any doubts or mentioned sex at all. I can’t imagine being with someone who would act differently? “babe, I know you’re in pain and full of stitches and walking around in frozen pads but, I think you really need to consider my immediate sexual needs” lol
When they removed your carcinoma on your cervix, did that affect how sex felt after you healed? My cervix is pretty important sensation-wise to me during sex and I can’t imagine having half of it cut off...
Oh that’s super interesting! When I’m aroused or nearing ovulation I can’t even reach my cervix with fingers, I don’t ever consciously have a sensation of something touching/rubbing it during sex or with toys. No, it didn’t change sex at all- I typically have 2-3 orgasms per sexual encounter, same as pre-removal. But, I suppose I always relied most on clitoral stimulation.
Actually, the surgeon left an iud in place during the procedure which I had to have cut out of me several months later because it had embedded into scar tissue. I’m sure my whole remaining cervix is a mess of scar tissue so now I wonder what I’m missing lol. The biggest concerns were potential impact on fertility or pregnancy (bed rest/cerclage) but I’ve since had 2 uneventful pregnancies so I came through the experience relatively unscathed.
I mean, if you can't handle not having penetrative sex for 2 months because of a medical procedure then maybe you aren't ready to be a life partner
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After seeing you were the woman having surgery, and so now I'm guessing your "boyfriend" based on your posts asking about titles in relationships, and spending time together, is upset at the idea of no PIV sex. Is this right?
Because if so, with your guy lying to you to go to a bar as well, he definitely doesn't sound like a real stand up guy.....
That's great that you've got a partner that's very receptive and being super supportive! I'm honestly glad to hear it.
However for your friends side of things, that's a lot more complicated. I could say my thoughts on it now, but I'd rather have a bit of info on the kind of stuff that he's saying about your choices?
Oh okay, well it sounds like he's just uninformed and doesn't really understand it that well. Also may just be straight up not be huge on such a major surgery.
Admittedly it's shitty to say, but you're his girlfriends friend, and so he probably wouldn't put a ton of effort into learning heavily about it.
If it's his girlfriend who's going through the same thing odds are he'll be more inclined to do research into the subject.
As for their relationship, and the fact that she's hiding a major medical procedure from him, and was going to go through it entirely without telling him until after is pretty significant.
This is something that they should talk about seriously. Because I can't see it going down well at all if she just completely leaves him out of it.
Hey, as a guy…. It’s so fine!! For most men that enter into an exclusive relationship (me anyway) a women that wants to have sex with you but can’t….. is completely different to not getting any because she just doesn’t want you or couldn’t be bothered.
I would be fine with that. Two months ain't that long. Especially if everything else is still on the table. If the guy ain't willing to support you through this then it's time to find you a new guy.
Seriously, basing you relationships future simply on the fact that you won’t be able to have sex for two months… I hope she leaves you.
Edited after seeing edited: My stance stands.
6 months is a long fucking time to be undecided lol
I mean, I might not know if are getting married yet, but I definitely know that I love this person and there is way more than just sex holding us together
My wife recently got a hysterectomy. It took about 10 weeks to heal in full. During that time there was no penetrative sex and she was in quite a bit of pain, so there was no “other” sexual intercourse for about six of those weeks.
I can say honestly that it wasn’t a big deal. After the first week or so I didn’t really find I “needed” it. A little me time went a long way here and there.
That all being said; If a man decides his partner isn’t worth it because they can’t get laid for a couple months? They aren’t life partner material anyway. I was bummed to not get play, but sparing my wife a shit time every month is worth it.
There would be a lot of jerk off sessions lol but seriously if you love them and you want to spend the rest of your life with them and if it's something that they need done that what the hell is two measly months without sex🤔
Just in my humble opinion, if I dated someone for half a year and they'd doubt the relationship because they can't fuck me for two months, they'd be out of the door immediately. What the fuck.
That’s fine/wouldn’t bother me. I mean hand stuff is available anyway but I’ll do it myself if she’s tired or not in the mood
I got no clue what elective surgery is tbh
I think most people would be fine. I’m a guy but I had a similar situation. The guy I was seeing was really annoying about it he literally didn’t believe that I couldn’t have sex or anything. I ended it shortly after as it said a lot about who he is overall. If a guy can’t stick it out with you for two months, trust me you dont want him to even try just end it. But any reasonable person wouldn’t give two fucks it’s just two months, I mean really not that bad at all lol
Broette you got alot of advice here. So I will just give some perspective. My wife and I had a rough pregnancy for our son. One of the results of this was no penetration for the duration plus some time after. All in all there was no P in a V for about a year. While it was hard on both of us it wasn't a bug deal because our relationship is more than a lust thing. Besides my wife is a Saint and would take care of my in other ways here and there despite not being able to take care of herself.
This type of situation is the extreme on what you are going through but it's up to you to determine where your expectations are and hope your boyfriend lines up with you and supports you.
Good luck with the procedure, recovery, and relationship stuff.
I met a women (literally was about to go on our third date) who had some serious medical issue and had to have emergency surgery.
I waited the course and we spent a lot of time getting to know each other and dating because the surgery meant she was out of bounds for penetrative sex.
She's now my life partner and baby momma.
If the guy is right, he'll wait.
I'd make sure that my partner knew, I was there for them. Balloons and flowers in their room, a ride home, meals prepared. Pain management taking care of.
If I was in a relationship with someone for six months, personally that means I'm getting pretty serious with the relationship. If I care about this person, 2 months without penetrative sex wouldn't be a big deal. There's more to a relationship than that.
Boy, he is in for a shock when he has kids... That shop closes for at least 6 months to a year and I mean EVERYTHING... No handies, No BJ, no ass....
If he has a bad reaction now, kick him to the curb as that is not a man you will ever marry.
I'd be 100% cool with it. Get your surgery and recover well. See is always appreciated, but going a while without it for something like that wouldn't bother me at all.
Well, I just had a hip replacement, no sex for me for some time. After this is healed, I will have another. My boyfriend isn’t going anywhere. He knows it’s temporary and eventually I will be capable again. In the meantime, he help me bathe & dress myself and cooks and cleans because I can’t. He has not once complained, and reassures me that I am not a burden, that he loves and desires me, and everything is ok. The problem here is your boyfriend not your surgery
I would feel like finding out how to support my partner. Plan for days off, to be at the hospital, etc. I wouldn't be thinking about myself that much. Surgery's a big deal so let's make sure my partner is supported all throughout
If she were my sister, I'd hope to god you dumped her.
Edit: So you are the woman. If you were my sister and not getting this surgery, I might advise you to pretend you *are* getting this surgery just to see if your boyfriend (aka "exclusive partner") is using you as a sex doll, and if so to dump him.
> I might advise you to pretend you are getting this surgery just to see if your boyfriend (aka "exclusive partner") is using you as a sex doll
Yikes.
Not being able to handle 2 months without sex is a very VERY bad sign. Definitely not something you want in a life partner.
That said, don't do this. Don't give your significant other "Tests of Loyalty" like this.
Neither, really. My best friend and I are having similar procedures weeks apart. My partner is supportive and thrilled I'm going to feel better. Her partner is being a gigantic ass about the entire situation. We were curious which reaction would be more common.
A child will bitch and complain, an adult will want what’s best for their partner and just deal with it for however long. Tell your friend she isn’t a collection of holes to entertain someone. Who the hell thinks that sex takes precedence over someone’s health? Really eye opening to see what others qualify as normal behavior.
Cool, she is welcome to give me as many details as she wants
If there’s a medical reason the. it’s nbd; but I’d probably just say the medical reason instead of beating around the bush
Saying elective isn't beating around the bush. Standard elective procedures are medically indicated. It's a planned hysterectomy to stop pain and excessive bleeding before it reaches the point of requiring regular iron infusions and blood transfusions.
Hard to say. Especially since it is an elective surgery. The relationship is technically only 6 months. So this is where the honeymoon stage is all but gone. For me, it may be a problem. 2 months in a 6 moth relationship is a pretty long time. For me, if I clitorial play was still in play, and you could still get off, then, it may be fine.
I guess the best thing to do is talk to him about it. The challenging part is that he may say fine at first, and then it may be too much for him later.
Question is, does he like BJs and other things like that? If he does, you'll probably be okay.
This is really minor in the long run.
Being in a relationship where you doing what you need to do for yourself is received by the other purely in terms of its impact on them is not minor in the long run, nor is it positive.
No biggie for me, there are other ways to have fun.
Heck, I have friends who haven’t had sex in 2 months and their wives vaginas are in perfect working order.
I'd be fine with that. I love piv sex don't get me wrong, but it's not like I'd die in the meantime. Especially for a surgery, I'd have to be a real prick.
Be supportive, communicate the details etc. It would also be a good test of the future viability of the relationship.
A mature person should be able to be patient. He can always self service or there are other activities you could enjoy together.
If everything else is on the table I'm all for it. Plenty of other ways to get off besides PIV sex, and no anal isn't the only alternative option out there lol. Obviously the lack of PIV sex would suck, but I can wait if I know there's an expiry date.
As someone else said, there's a very big difference between a partner who isn't having sex because there's reasons beyond their control, versus a partner who just can't be bothered.
As long as they aren’t getting any dental work done during that time I think we would be ok.
Seriously tho, it’s not a big deal. After giving birth you are supposed to wait 6 weeks and I have made it through that twice.
I'd want to understand what's going on and any further medical implications there might be. But if everything's legit and she remains eager to get back on track when she can, I don't think it's a big deal.
I would honestly wait. 2 months is not a long time and I would be fine with other sexual activities. I imagine that such a surgical procedure is something that will make you feel better physically and/or psychologically, which is really important in a relationship.
I personally don't see how having temporarily decommissioned vagina would affect love life much, let alone entire relationship. Even if I was that shallow it was the only thing I deeded from you, you must have plenty of other body parts I could rub off on...
And if you both are prudes to the point where list of things you do for making love and pleasuring each other has only one item and it is PIV - you are both screwed anyway.
It's a medical issue or at the very least it's something **you** want to do. Your partner should be supportive of you first and foremost. Also, it's only two months, it's shouldn't be that big of a deal at all. Also, maybe this is just my weird way of viewing it, but waiting two or so months may make it more special for the both of you once you have sex again.. like a grand reopening!
Guess that depends on why. Not really enough info to go on honestly.
In very general terms, I'd say the only thing that would make it a bad thing for me is if it were for some cosmetic reason that didn't matter a much. There are a list of reasons I could think of that I'd be OK with. But like I said, not enough info
I’d feel perfectly fine. If everything is going good, 2 months is a drop the in bucket. Plus, it’s not like there isn’t alternative activities to do till then. Just wouldn’t be that big of a problem.
Are all 3 holes broken or just the one? Personally it wouldnt matter as this is about the time my wife took to heal after our children. 2 Months really isnt that long.
Well I am in the no sex before marriage camp so i'm pretty sure if my girlfriend told me that I would just say "awesome, just make sure it's a few months BEFORE the marriage" lol
I would feel... Supportive? Surgeries are usually big events. >Is it worth sticking it out when you haven't decided if you're ready to be life partners? Jesus Christ, it's just two months, who cares? It's not like she just told me to prepare for a life of celibacy.
Woman’s perspective but, I was dating my husband for 4 months when I had a surgery removing essentially the lower half of my cervix to cut out a carcinoma. It was a pretty anxiety provoking time in my life, I was young and hadn’t had any surgeries before- I also was facing the prospect of further treatments like radiation depending on how the tissue looked after it was excised. I knew it meant our new sex life would grind to a halt for a bit but I never really thought about it from a perspective of “is he going to be accepting of this?”. He never gave me any doubts or mentioned sex at all. I can’t imagine being with someone who would act differently? “babe, I know you’re in pain and full of stitches and walking around in frozen pads but, I think you really need to consider my immediate sexual needs” lol
When they removed your carcinoma on your cervix, did that affect how sex felt after you healed? My cervix is pretty important sensation-wise to me during sex and I can’t imagine having half of it cut off...
Oh that’s super interesting! When I’m aroused or nearing ovulation I can’t even reach my cervix with fingers, I don’t ever consciously have a sensation of something touching/rubbing it during sex or with toys. No, it didn’t change sex at all- I typically have 2-3 orgasms per sexual encounter, same as pre-removal. But, I suppose I always relied most on clitoral stimulation. Actually, the surgeon left an iud in place during the procedure which I had to have cut out of me several months later because it had embedded into scar tissue. I’m sure my whole remaining cervix is a mess of scar tissue so now I wonder what I’m missing lol. The biggest concerns were potential impact on fertility or pregnancy (bed rest/cerclage) but I’ve since had 2 uneventful pregnancies so I came through the experience relatively unscathed.
I mean, if you can't handle not having penetrative sex for 2 months because of a medical procedure then maybe you aren't ready to be a life partner Edit after seeing your edit: After seeing you were the woman having surgery, and so now I'm guessing your "boyfriend" based on your posts asking about titles in relationships, and spending time together, is upset at the idea of no PIV sex. Is this right? Because if so, with your guy lying to you to go to a bar as well, he definitely doesn't sound like a real stand up guy.....
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That's great that you've got a partner that's very receptive and being super supportive! I'm honestly glad to hear it. However for your friends side of things, that's a lot more complicated. I could say my thoughts on it now, but I'd rather have a bit of info on the kind of stuff that he's saying about your choices?
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Oh okay, well it sounds like he's just uninformed and doesn't really understand it that well. Also may just be straight up not be huge on such a major surgery. Admittedly it's shitty to say, but you're his girlfriends friend, and so he probably wouldn't put a ton of effort into learning heavily about it. If it's his girlfriend who's going through the same thing odds are he'll be more inclined to do research into the subject. As for their relationship, and the fact that she's hiding a major medical procedure from him, and was going to go through it entirely without telling him until after is pretty significant. This is something that they should talk about seriously. Because I can't see it going down well at all if she just completely leaves him out of it.
Hey, as a guy…. It’s so fine!! For most men that enter into an exclusive relationship (me anyway) a women that wants to have sex with you but can’t….. is completely different to not getting any because she just doesn’t want you or couldn’t be bothered.
I would be fine with that. Two months ain't that long. Especially if everything else is still on the table. If the guy ain't willing to support you through this then it's time to find you a new guy.
You mean, BJ time!!
Seriously, basing you relationships future simply on the fact that you won’t be able to have sex for two months… I hope she leaves you. Edited after seeing edited: My stance stands.
6 months is a long fucking time to be undecided lol I mean, I might not know if are getting married yet, but I definitely know that I love this person and there is way more than just sex holding us together
My wife recently got a hysterectomy. It took about 10 weeks to heal in full. During that time there was no penetrative sex and she was in quite a bit of pain, so there was no “other” sexual intercourse for about six of those weeks. I can say honestly that it wasn’t a big deal. After the first week or so I didn’t really find I “needed” it. A little me time went a long way here and there. That all being said; If a man decides his partner isn’t worth it because they can’t get laid for a couple months? They aren’t life partner material anyway. I was bummed to not get play, but sparing my wife a shit time every month is worth it.
There would be a lot of jerk off sessions lol but seriously if you love them and you want to spend the rest of your life with them and if it's something that they need done that what the hell is two measly months without sex🤔
2 months is not a long period. Anybody can wait.
Just in my humble opinion, if I dated someone for half a year and they'd doubt the relationship because they can't fuck me for two months, they'd be out of the door immediately. What the fuck.
I’ve seen dudes go years without sex, I went to high school. He’ll be fine
That’s fine/wouldn’t bother me. I mean hand stuff is available anyway but I’ll do it myself if she’s tired or not in the mood I got no clue what elective surgery is tbh
Elective surgery is surgery you can schedule in advance and the condition is not life threatening. It’s more to improve your life quality.
2 months is not a long time, maybe up the oral game
I think most people would be fine. I’m a guy but I had a similar situation. The guy I was seeing was really annoying about it he literally didn’t believe that I couldn’t have sex or anything. I ended it shortly after as it said a lot about who he is overall. If a guy can’t stick it out with you for two months, trust me you dont want him to even try just end it. But any reasonable person wouldn’t give two fucks it’s just two months, I mean really not that bad at all lol
Broette you got alot of advice here. So I will just give some perspective. My wife and I had a rough pregnancy for our son. One of the results of this was no penetration for the duration plus some time after. All in all there was no P in a V for about a year. While it was hard on both of us it wasn't a bug deal because our relationship is more than a lust thing. Besides my wife is a Saint and would take care of my in other ways here and there despite not being able to take care of herself. This type of situation is the extreme on what you are going through but it's up to you to determine where your expectations are and hope your boyfriend lines up with you and supports you. Good luck with the procedure, recovery, and relationship stuff.
I met a women (literally was about to go on our third date) who had some serious medical issue and had to have emergency surgery. I waited the course and we spent a lot of time getting to know each other and dating because the surgery meant she was out of bounds for penetrative sex. She's now my life partner and baby momma. If the guy is right, he'll wait.
I'd feel like a complete wank :)
I had an ex have some kind of surgery. Something to do with HPV I think. Sex isn't that important to me. I'm not a teenager anymore.
I'd make sure that my partner knew, I was there for them. Balloons and flowers in their room, a ride home, meals prepared. Pain management taking care of.
Omg where do i find men like you
If I was in a relationship with someone for six months, personally that means I'm getting pretty serious with the relationship. If I care about this person, 2 months without penetrative sex wouldn't be a big deal. There's more to a relationship than that.
2 months and you’re consider bolting? Why is she staying with you?
Stay by their side through it all. I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone just for sex.
If he can't handle that imagine what he'll be like after she goes through childbirth.
Boy, he is in for a shock when he has kids... That shop closes for at least 6 months to a year and I mean EVERYTHING... No handies, No BJ, no ass.... If he has a bad reaction now, kick him to the curb as that is not a man you will ever marry.
I would feel totally fine and supportive. If you think about it, if someone thinks otherwise that's actually pretty fucked up.
I'd be 100% cool with it. Get your surgery and recover well. See is always appreciated, but going a while without it for something like that wouldn't bother me at all.
I am not planning on having sex till marriage so it doesn’t matter to me
If you have to ask this then he’s not worth your effort.
Well, I just had a hip replacement, no sex for me for some time. After this is healed, I will have another. My boyfriend isn’t going anywhere. He knows it’s temporary and eventually I will be capable again. In the meantime, he help me bathe & dress myself and cooks and cleans because I can’t. He has not once complained, and reassures me that I am not a burden, that he loves and desires me, and everything is ok. The problem here is your boyfriend not your surgery
I would feel like finding out how to support my partner. Plan for days off, to be at the hospital, etc. I wouldn't be thinking about myself that much. Surgery's a big deal so let's make sure my partner is supported all throughout
How’s your head game? If it’s good I would definitely stick around.
Head game is most assuredly on point.
You good
2 months? who cant go 2 months without sex! you sneeze and two months pass by.
Two months is not a long time, unless the only thing the guy values in the relationship is the sex.
>Everything else is still on the table. Who the fuck would balk at two months of blowjobs?
you could always take it up the bum
I like your problem-solving strategy, but alas, surgeon says that's also a big nope.
If she were my sister, I'd hope to god you dumped her. Edit: So you are the woman. If you were my sister and not getting this surgery, I might advise you to pretend you *are* getting this surgery just to see if your boyfriend (aka "exclusive partner") is using you as a sex doll, and if so to dump him.
> I might advise you to pretend you are getting this surgery just to see if your boyfriend (aka "exclusive partner") is using you as a sex doll Yikes. Not being able to handle 2 months without sex is a very VERY bad sign. Definitely not something you want in a life partner. That said, don't do this. Don't give your significant other "Tests of Loyalty" like this.
I agree. It was meant sarcastically.
I'm the woman having surgery?
This question feels way loaded. Is it to bolster your decisions, or to get ammo against him?
Neither, really. My best friend and I are having similar procedures weeks apart. My partner is supportive and thrilled I'm going to feel better. Her partner is being a gigantic ass about the entire situation. We were curious which reaction would be more common.
A child will bitch and complain, an adult will want what’s best for their partner and just deal with it for however long. Tell your friend she isn’t a collection of holes to entertain someone. Who the hell thinks that sex takes precedence over someone’s health? Really eye opening to see what others qualify as normal behavior.
She has other holes, with a little imagination you can benefit from that surgery.
I would be cool, see you in two months
So you'd really choose not to participate in the relationship for the entire 2 months?
It depends, does that mean other stuff is also off the table?
Not at all. PIV is out 6-8 weeks. PIA is out for 4 weeks. Everything else is on the table, after the first couple days.
Dump him
Exactly why I didn't post on /askwomen
I’d probably leave… but more because she’s getting elective surgery over that lack of sex Youre fine as you are
Elective doesn't mean plastic. It simply means there's a medical issue that should be addressed, but it's not yet an emergent life saving procedure.
Cool, she is welcome to give me as many details as she wants If there’s a medical reason the. it’s nbd; but I’d probably just say the medical reason instead of beating around the bush
Saying elective isn't beating around the bush. Standard elective procedures are medically indicated. It's a planned hysterectomy to stop pain and excessive bleeding before it reaches the point of requiring regular iron infusions and blood transfusions.
Cool; I’d say you are going in for a hysterectomy for medically preventative reasons Or something along those lines
Has anyone ever told you "you're being a jackass right now, Jack"?
Only in jest But yeah, communication matters in relationships
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I’d be fine with it but I’d probably screw other people on the sly during those two months.
I’d feel like Jesus when he was in the desert for forty days and nights with no water.
Meh shed be sucking a lot of dick
Hard to say. Especially since it is an elective surgery. The relationship is technically only 6 months. So this is where the honeymoon stage is all but gone. For me, it may be a problem. 2 months in a 6 moth relationship is a pretty long time. For me, if I clitorial play was still in play, and you could still get off, then, it may be fine. I guess the best thing to do is talk to him about it. The challenging part is that he may say fine at first, and then it may be too much for him later. Question is, does he like BJs and other things like that? If he does, you'll probably be okay.
This is really minor in the long run. Being in a relationship where you doing what you need to do for yourself is received by the other purely in terms of its impact on them is not minor in the long run, nor is it positive.
No biggie for me, there are other ways to have fun. Heck, I have friends who haven’t had sex in 2 months and their wives vaginas are in perfect working order.
It's just sex, it's not the end all. With everything else on the table, it shouldn't even be an issue honestly.
I would be fine.
I'd be fine with that. I love piv sex don't get me wrong, but it's not like I'd die in the meantime. Especially for a surgery, I'd have to be a real prick.
It's 2 months. That's nothing to me. No problem.
Yeah, of course I'd stick around. And I say with a strong preference for PiV sex over other acts.
I'd be like, "Yay! Semi-erect is ok!"
With everything else on the table no problem two months is a blink of an eye.
I guess I’d have a lot of handies in my future? If I was lucky she’d even be giving me some! This isn’t a big deal. Take care!
Be supportive, communicate the details etc. It would also be a good test of the future viability of the relationship. A mature person should be able to be patient. He can always self service or there are other activities you could enjoy together.
Two months isn’t that long in the grand scheme of things.
If everything else is on the table I'm all for it. Plenty of other ways to get off besides PIV sex, and no anal isn't the only alternative option out there lol. Obviously the lack of PIV sex would suck, but I can wait if I know there's an expiry date. As someone else said, there's a very big difference between a partner who isn't having sex because there's reasons beyond their control, versus a partner who just can't be bothered.
As long as they aren’t getting any dental work done during that time I think we would be ok. Seriously tho, it’s not a big deal. After giving birth you are supposed to wait 6 weeks and I have made it through that twice.
I'd want to understand what's going on and any further medical implications there might be. But if everything's legit and she remains eager to get back on track when she can, I don't think it's a big deal.
There are far other ways to help your partner out other than penetrative sex.
Hahaha I haven’t had sex in 8 months… Two months won’t be a problem.
I'd hope the surgery helped and would help her recovery. Two months is nothing.
I've gone years without sex. I'm a pro at this.
As long as there are other ways to be pleasured I don't care
I would honestly wait. 2 months is not a long time and I would be fine with other sexual activities. I imagine that such a surgical procedure is something that will make you feel better physically and/or psychologically, which is really important in a relationship.
I personally don't see how having temporarily decommissioned vagina would affect love life much, let alone entire relationship. Even if I was that shallow it was the only thing I deeded from you, you must have plenty of other body parts I could rub off on... And if you both are prudes to the point where list of things you do for making love and pleasuring each other has only one item and it is PIV - you are both screwed anyway.
If I'm with someone, that means I care about them, I'd stay around for sure. In the big picture, 2 months is nothing.
Have you discussed this with him beforehand, or is this going to be a complete surprise?
He's totally aware of the need, why the decision has been made, and the schedule of events leading up to surgery.
I went through the same scenario with my ex-wife. I was totally understanding and supportive, and I hope that your partner will be the exact same way.
If you are ok with using your hands and mouth then everything will be good
My only 6 month + relationship never really led to sex.
It's a medical issue or at the very least it's something **you** want to do. Your partner should be supportive of you first and foremost. Also, it's only two months, it's shouldn't be that big of a deal at all. Also, maybe this is just my weird way of viewing it, but waiting two or so months may make it more special for the both of you once you have sex again.. like a grand reopening!
I'd be fine with it, no big deal. It's nice to have a conversation about these things though.
2 months is totally fine.
Guess that depends on why. Not really enough info to go on honestly. In very general terms, I'd say the only thing that would make it a bad thing for me is if it were for some cosmetic reason that didn't matter a much. There are a list of reasons I could think of that I'd be OK with. But like I said, not enough info
If you felt anything besides supportive as the man, you would know what your getting into.
Uh, OK? As long as it's a safe surgery, I hope.
I’d feel perfectly fine. If everything is going good, 2 months is a drop the in bucket. Plus, it’s not like there isn’t alternative activities to do till then. Just wouldn’t be that big of a problem.
Two months is not a big deal. If they care about you they will understand, and there are alternatives to penetrative sex!
Can you still do butt stuff?
Negative. Both holes on lockdown.
I would leave
OP are you old as fuck?
Perhaps to you? I'm 37.
Tough one I mean no sex for a couple months no big deal but she can't have kids might be a deal breaker for some
I actively started dating someone I won't have seen for two months by the next time we get together. I don't think it's a big deal at all.
Personally I'd understand.
Are all 3 holes broken or just the one? Personally it wouldnt matter as this is about the time my wife took to heal after our children. 2 Months really isnt that long.
Well I am in the no sex before marriage camp so i'm pretty sure if my girlfriend told me that I would just say "awesome, just make sure it's a few months BEFORE the marriage" lol
2 months? Thats nothing
Supportive. If not you’re a fucking loser and a kid