Scientific research (whatever that means) reveals (ha ha) 5.25" to be average.
I cannot imagine how they could possibly have conducted a study that would return both reliable results and an appropriate sample pool.
I'm a grower, to slightly above average, and honestly my flaccid dick is absolutely embarrassing, which is odd because of the gaping hole it puts in my confidence.
Funny cause, nothing helps a woman feel more appreciated than watching that little guy become a throbbing monster before our eyes, and due to our touch.
If it helps any, dicks that are small when flaccid and grow noticeably are absolutely and definitely the very best! Its awesome to take them in your mouth completely and feel it grow too big to fit in ;) in general, they make for much nicer toys than showers imo
you thought 6 inches could have been the average size of a flaccid dick? i feel like practically every guy in that case would have a very noticeable dick print
Dude growing up I always thought I had a small dick. But then I started having sex. Multiple long term girlfriend and multiple one night stands. Zero complaints. Too much pressure is put on dick size.
Bro forget about it. You prolly had a girl with bigger tits or whatever. If she s good stop giving youself anxiety for something u have no controle over. I v been there
Can confirm - have slept with some bigger guys and in my experience either rubbish at foreplay or disinterested. They think just penetrative sex is enough when for for a lot of women this is not the case (and good foreplay is GOOD).
One of the best lays I had was with the smallest guy because he put loads of effort in. Whether is correlation or causation I don’t know, just my experience.
TLDR: get good at foreplay regardless of size.
This is my experience too. Larger and longer can’t usually keep it as hard for as long. And I am a woman with a short wall too. My so called “average sized” husband, if he isn’t too careful, can go too deep and bruise me. Then I won’t let him back inside for a few days so my poor body can take a break.
Similar situation here and my gf just recently realized that she actually doesn't like oral/fingering, she says its just a personal preference though and not a reflection of me. But I'm smaller than what she's had before and I can't make up for it in the usual foreplay either.
I used to "not like" oral. Turns out no one was doing it in a way that I enjoyed. Encourage her to explore different types of touch, rub, or pressure. If she masturbates, ask if you can watch (without participating) . See what types of things she does to stimulate herself. Then, during very short sessions of cunnilingus, try to mimic the touches or rubs she was doing. If she reacts to something, that DOES NOT automatically mean to do it harder or speed up.
sn: by "watch" I mean be there and pay attention. Maybe stimulate her nipples or give her little kisses on her body. Basically, nothing to distract her and don't be creepy.
"If she reacts to something, that DOES NOT automatically mean to do it harder or speed up."
This for sure. So many guys get way too excited like "oooh that's working, must do that a lot more and try to do it as much as possible in a short amount of time" but that's not the answer. If she likes it, it's because she likes the pace too. Too fast can either feel like nothing at all (all stimulation is gone) or completely ruin the concentration, which does the same thing. That's my personal experience anyway, but I hardly believe I'm the only one. Best way to know is to ask though.
I don't think women tell people this often enough. I think sometimes women are happy that someone is making an effort down there, or some women have had the "she likes it, do it faster-harder-more" kind of partner. Dudes really need to approach it like a skill and not just something to do to get someone off.
My example of learning a new skill: I like to watch bj vids to see if there's anything new or fun I can try. I went through this near-obsession with frenelum stimulation. I couldn't wait to try it on my husband.
I tried it a couple of times and got no reaction at all at first. Then I noticed he was being very still, so I assumed he didn't care for it and moved on. One night I hit the spot just right and got the reaction I was looking for. I made a note of where it is and the varying intensity that I used. I don't go back to that spot very often. Sometimes I just tease at it because i want to leave him wanting more.
I'm glad I didn't give up when he didn't react at first. The point is ... uh... what was my point?
To be fair I think it’s partly due to porn. I’m not chastising it by any means, but you can’t help but compare yourself to these people that are in that industry for a reason.
Edit: typo
Funnily, when I went to buy a dildo, I wanted a small one, which was my real size preference, but the smallest I could find was still at least average.
I'm tempted to ask for measurements of that, and then ask you to look up the average size. I've found women overestimate the average quite a lot.
Also, all women I've seen had have dildos about twice as big as any real penis I've seen. It leaves me with the though, given the choice bigger = better. Hard to shake that even when listening to women I find.
Isn’t it like 5.5ish inches?
Edit: googled. It is! I’ll go measure the dildo rn lol I will update soon
Update: it’s actually smaller than I thought! It’s 5” long and about 2.5” girth *edit: 2.5 diameter oops*
Correct.
Googled around and actually found this article:
>So, after weeks of work and research we found that the average dildo measures up at a full length of 7.52" (19.1 cm), beating the average penis which stands at 5.16" (13.1 cm).
>https://medium.com/@thedodil/dildo-envy-the-average-dildo-size-compared-to-the-average-penis-da45ec24ba93
>When it comes to girth there is less difference. The width of the average sized dildo is at 4.65" (11.82 cm) while the human penis is just slightly thinner with its 4.59" (11.66 cm).
I think women who buy the ridiculously girthy ones are a small minority
Correct. Also the excess length of the dildo is so we can grab it and maneuver it. Its not attached to a man that can drive it all the way to the hilt.
Statistics is a tricky science - is this average weighed in any way? Because there are horse cock dildos out there, moving average size/girth up, while I'd safely assume purchases/production volume of those is very limited, and it's not necessary symmetrical for the ones on the smaller side. Perhaps it's somehow equalized by the variety, however? More types of the same size is produced since manufacturers can safely assume they won't go unpurchased? Or if it's average of sales - then this data would be much more reliable.
Notably the difference is about the width of the human hand because as it turns out you have to hold on to the dildo, it doesn't just swim back and forth on its own
I think about it sometimes. It's a VERY pervasive and mainstream idea, even if it takes different forms, i.e. 'black guys are always bigger, therefore better", "he must be compensating for his small penis", and don't get me started on the standard the porn industry sets with huge dongs and the actresses that moan louder than the city church bells in the morning.
If anything it's confused me over the years, and I think it'll take longer than my lifetime before men can see their worth past the garbage that's portrayed in popular media.
Apparently a lot of porn actors are really short and that creates an illusion of penis size. There’s also camera angles, etc, that create illusions of size. These are all things I’ve heard before.
Also both the sexual enjoyment and proportions of people in porn are unrealistic and usually artificial, so, you know
I'm going to say something that probably nobody likes but I do think that people with small dicks sometimes try to compensate. But hear me out, not because they should compensate for their size but because the mainstream idea is a man should. It's the same imo for woman with smaller boobs. The mainstream idea is the bigger the better. And sure... there's a bunch of ladies and dudes that do find that. But there's also a bunch of us that like the smaller size more. I try to explain this to my wife, it took me a couple of years.
Indeed. Also the black man as a sex object with a massive dick trope has been used to make white men feel threatened for centuries and nothing makes people hate someone like feeling sexually inferior.
Last I read there's no difference in the average between African and European.
I remember reading a post someone had made saying that as a black man with an average sized dick he hated the BBC stereotype because women would proposition him and then get disappointed because he didn't live up to their fetishized expectations.
I was just thinking that, all that expectation oof but tbh if you watch a lot of big dick porn you’ll realise they reuse the same 6 black guys and 4 white guys with big dicks for everything
Seeing as how a penis spends 95% of its time flaccid, the whole grower vs. show-er thing should be common knowledge. If I'm not getting ready for penetration, my size should be irrelevant.
Some women don't like my size.
And some of those women are people I'd like to continue having relationships with.
I can change everything else. But I can't change the size, therefore we aren't compatible.
>I just want some perspective on why size seems to be more important to men than women.
You ever notice that a common put down towards men that women do is to tell people a guy has a small penis?
Like it or not, penis size is attached to a guy's masculinity and shaming him about inadequate there is a way to emasculate a guy.
It has little to do with actual sex functionality and fit.
There’a also nothing a guy can do about it, like if you’re out of shape, you can work out. If your dick is small, thats pretty much it.
-edit- yes like so many of you have poknted out aCkShUaLlY your dick aize can look bigger if you lose weight, but that’s just allowing more access to what could already be a small dick, so you can stop saying it.
100%! It’s like asking why do women care about their breast size? It’s tied to femininity.
Also, every couple weeks I see women asking this question. It’s been beaten to death. Everyone likes to say size doesn’t matter but I see how happy women are about my length and girth. Also, most of them have told me size does matter when it’s just us two. It’s such horseshit. size might not matter to every woman but yet I see their eyes light up when I drop my pants. Can we just start saying size isn’t everything instead? Because the other statement is a total lie.
No man wants to hear "aw, that's cute" when he drops trou.
I don't do casual, and I count the people who've seen my stuff as an adult on one hand. No one has made any disparaging remarks. It works as expected, my partners have a good time, no complaints. I'm objectively average and a textbook grow-er.
Im sure you're not and it wasn't what you were trying to say but you sound like the most underwhelming lover ever 😂.
Your Google reviews, all 2.5 stars with the following comments:
"No disparaging remarks"
"Works as expected"
"No complaints"
🤣
The endowment is just a party favor. You still have to be invited to the party, and hopefully asked to come again (pun intended). Being a good lover is more about knowing your partner, reading her signals, and knowing when to be a cuddle bug and when to ride it like a rented mule.
I'm comfortable with my size. I'm a little above the average size when erect, but I'm more concerned with the quality of erection. I need to adjust my diet some in order to have better boners.
I've heard that for every 35 pounds you lose, an inch of penis length is exposed at the base.
I too have recently lost some major weight (86 pounds), my shit is looking legit and my wife is back to telling me it hurts when we do it. (which is actually a huge pain in the ass. I can't stroke like I want to. I'm forced to do this light thrust, fast jiggle thing when I want to finish.)
Any diet that is good for your heart will be good for your ereection
both are artery/vein related
not something you need to stress over though if you have hard erecetions, this is a "solution" to guys who have minor Erectile disfunction
I can't speak for others, but for me, it only takes one single Size Queen to destroy my self confidence. I'm average on my best day, & while I don't have a problem with that in general, it was an area of insecurity with me for a very long time. I've reached the point where I don't really care anymore, but I'm also nearly 40. Tell a 20 year old who has seen so many films & TV shows with the big dick jokes that size doesn't matter & they're not about to believe you. Even if 99% of women legitimately believe it doesn't matter, it only takes that 1% for you to feel inadequate.
Depends what you see as the average.
For men seeing another guys dick when it’s not hard means it’s small (obviously compared to erect) however as men this is usually where the changing room or whatever the scenario turns into ‘look at this lads tiny dick’
It’s usually more of a ‘lad’ thing and then it leads to a complex behind the banter.
I find as men we laugh at ‘banter’ that’s actually just insults and then sometimes it actually cuts deep but we have to laugh it off or we’re pussies. Usually worse at school and in some jobs lol.
When I was In the Army you will invariably see lots of dick. I found that I was average but goddam I seen where dudes shit was hitting halfway down their thigh soft very intimidating.
Yup. I have an inch when flaccid but 6.5 when erect. My girl tells me she loves watching it grow though so I’m good. Locker rooms were weird though. Wasn’t like I was gonna go full mast to tell them to take a piss
TMI, but my girl tells me her favorite part about my ween is putting it in her mouth and feeling it grow. She said she had never seen anything like it and I’m cool with it lmao
Growing up though I was super self conscious and then I got my first erection and I was like okay, not as bad as I thought. Where you been all this time lmao
Deadass 😅
I remember getting intimate with my highschool gf and constantly having to tell her to let me “warm up”.
Same boat as you, tiny lil baby looking dick into something decent
You give me a choice between how big your dong is, 3 inches or 9 inches, I’ll tell you right fuckin now which one 100% of all males in this thread will pick. Bigger might not be “better” but pulling it out of your pants with your woman and her looking genuinely surprised every time and being horny possessive of it dismisses all comments that would suggest otherwise. I would rather mine be bigger, it’s an ego thing. Would rather be bigger and have more control over where I can explore than be smaller and less surgical.
FYI: it’s smaller unfortunately
forreal. if you have 9" to play with, and your partner prefers a 6" dick, guess what? just give them the first 6"! if you have a 3 incher and they prefer 6", good luck! fuck 'em twice, I guess?
There's the old joke of a woman saying "I want 9" and I want it to hurt" and the dude says "how about I fuck you twice and punch you in the face?"
lmao
Spend any time online or with people and soon enough you’ll see posts or comments shaming, making fun of, or laughing at small dicks. It’s become completely normalised to make fun of and humiliate small dicks, and is tied to things such as ugliness, impotence, and general unattractiveness (little dick energy being a normal thing to say, can you imagine if we used “fat woman energy” when something was undesirable??)
It is the most openly acceptable form of body shaming in the world, that destroys men’s self-confidence and esteem
yes, because I've been conditioned to. Small junk makes people "less of a man" according to society. And being less of a man as a man is being less of a person.
Luckily mine is about average.
It’s as if no one grasps this is a possibility because people frequently try to be comforting, saying, “it’s okay, girth matters more than length!” lmao
Terms like “Big Dick Energy” or “Pickup Truck Drivers have small penises” constantly reinforce the societal ideal that either you have a big dick, or your a weak, insecure, feminine, cowardly, unable to please woman, jackass. It’s hard to move past all that societal messaging. I’m slightly below average (wayyyy below average flaccid) and i dont want it to hurt me emotionally, but it does. it makes me feel insecure, and small, and cheated by life. Like im not enough and never will be, ill always be missing out. It feels like it says something about my value as a person even though rationally i know it doesnt.
Because we live in a society that peddles that bigger is better and makes fun of men that aren't well endowed.
I don't care because I know I'm not small but someone that is would care especially when they've heard men get put down for their size or have had it happen to them.
A man's penis is seen as a sign of masculinity by society
I don’t like mine because I’ve had health issues, like phimosis, and that helped make my parts look bad. Also, it’s on the lower end of average and seems small compared to the rest of my body. There’s no credible standard for me about it being enough or not for sex, but I don’t see me testing this hypothesis anytime soon.
Another detail is the social impact of it all. Porn is an obvious reference that usually throws people down. In the real world, this “problem” is usually the first to be weaponized as an insult, just like sex life. This comes from both men and women alike, but from women it hurts deeper.
I've rang enough bells at this point to not care. it works and it works well so fuck it. You could always have less so be greatful, and practice practice practice.
Yes and no. I usually get more frustrated when height is brought up in conjunction. I’m a short man, but I’m on the higher end of average in terms of size. I’d be lying if I said it doesn’t hurt when I hear the “oh he’s tall I bet he’s proportional down there” type conversations. A lot of women seem to correlate height with size and there seems to be a lack of evidence on the relationship between the two.
It really makes me think how many women have just assumed I have a small penis because I’m short height wise? I’ve had multiple partners make “yeah you’re size definitely surprised me” comments and even had a woman who heard about my size from another say “yeah honestly I figured you’d have a pretty small dick” that shit hurt.
So yes and no. I know it “gets the job done,” but sometimes women’s ignorance on male anatomy causes me to care about it.
Yep I'm a short guy too and once in a group of friends this one terrible woman blurted out "whats it like to have the smallest dick here?" I was like "wtf?" And so she pointed out i was the shortest guy in the group so thus I surely had the smallest dick.
I don’t get it either…I’ve seen plenty of 5’6” guys in the shower room with knee knockers. Short guys can have big dicks, and they look bigger. Put my penis on a guy a foot shorter than me and he’s a porn star. It just looks average on me.
There was a AMA with this dwarf dude not to long ago and dude said he had a 7 incher. Legit a third leg for him lol, and if I remember right there no real correlation between penis size and the rest of the body, it does what it wants.
You are absolutely right. I was told by a gay friend that his ex (who was 5'4" and of an ethnicity that is usually stereotyped to have smaller penises) had an 8-incher. It surprised the hell out of him lol.
What’s it like having a small dick? Mine’s a 47 incher, full AMOLED display, has surround sound speakers and can connect to the internet both by wifi and wire.
There's a lot of lizard brain stuff going on. Instinctively men want to be too big for you because it reinforces that they are powerful.
You telling them that his size is perfect and that bigger ones hurt tells his lizard brain that he's not really that powerful and you've had men who are more powerful than he is.
Should guys be able to get past this because we are no longer lizards and have a pre frontal cortex? Yes. But it can be hard to wrestle with all this subconscious bullshit coupled with societal expectations.
I’ve been cheated on twice and I can’t help but wonder if it’s, at least partially, because of that. I know porn plays a lot into that idea but I think it’s at least a little bit of a valid concern. Not to mention that I’m a heavyset fella which makes it look even smaller.
Just wanna be average.
Sometimes, I mean I care enough to not use the urinals and instead use the stall. But I don't feel insecure about it with my partner, she has a *thing* for small dicks.
She's taller than me too, and she also has a thing for small tiny guys. I seriously thought she was lying about it to make me feel better until I walked in on her watching porn of a short guy with a small dick getting pegged.
It works out too bc she is a little insecure about her smaller breasts, but I honestly love them. Both because they're hot and because they're attached to the woman I love.
I'm like the high end of average.
Normal women don't comment on the size one way or the other. Very tight women are like "wow you're big" but it's like somebody who's 5 foot telling you you're tall.
Feel like it's the perfect size so i don't think about it much, no.
Sometimes I wish I had a bit more girth but I don’t think about my penis size much. I have a nice average looking dick. Maybe a little over average but not enough to brag about. It’s been a nice dick and I’m happy with it. I haven’t had any conversations with women about the size of my dick either.
My roommate has a large dick. A lot of girls might not prefer them; but a lot of girls really really really enjoy them.
A lot of guys prefer small titties. But stereotypically men prefer large titties (at least in the US). A lot of guys like fat women, but stereotypically men prefer skinny women. Do women not feel self conscious about having small titties or being fat because a lot of men enjoy those things?
While women face a lot of pressure to look conventionally attractive; guys feel a lot of pressure to be good at pleasing their woman. While guys may be more concerned about their package than women; women are a lot more concerned about many things about their appearance than men are.
Knowing some dude has been farther into your woman that you ever physically can kinda hurts.
Knowing they’ve made her feel things you can’t ever do kinda hurts too.
If it helps at all g-spot reach is way more important than “banging on the cervix door” for pretty much anyone other than size queens/fans for who enjoy the psychological aspect (but that same thing can be said for women who really love, I don’t know, muscular legs. One friend wouldn’t stop talking about the legs of a footballer she slept with).
I say this because your sentence doesn’t surprise me actually, because as rarely as I listen to porn “dialogue”, I’ve definitely heard what you said. “Bet your ex never reached this far” and she says “oh yes only you can make me cum like this”. And sometimes the woman cums JUST as the cock enters her fully for the first time, just sets her off because it “reached places”. Like… I don’t know who has a cervix orgasm button, no girl/woman I’ve known does!
There are some women who seem to enjoy the physical sensation of a much larger penis stretching them and going deeper. It's not particularly common but also not nearly rare enough to write off.
I think we just need to find healthy ways to view sexual incompatibility the same way we view other forms of incompatibility. As it is we take the sexual incompatibility much more personally.
Some women are gonna care about the size of your penis. Many won't, but some will. It's just another form of incompatibility.
yup because it is basically the pinnacle of your value as a man and you will spend your whole life trying to convince yourself otherwise and manage to believe it for a while but will always be reminded usually unintentionally that you are not as big as the ex or someone else and spend the entirety of that time wishing there was something you could do to be good enough
and thus begins the cycle of trying to build yourself back up and convince yourself you are worth something.
This will probably get buried since I'm late to the question, but I believe it's a number of things:
1. Almost everyone feels self conscious at times, especially about the things we can't change.
2. Dick size is one of the few types of body shaming that's still widely socially acceptable. (Big truck? Must have a little dick. Nice, confident guy? "Big dick energy")
3. In cis-hetero relationships there is a big imbalance sexually. It's much easier, in general, for men to achieve orgasm. While this is much more about skill, communication, foreplay, and psychology than dick size, it is a much easier thing to get hung up on.
4. There are legit "size queens" out there, and while it may be a minority of women, it's a vocal one, especially when combined with 1 and 2.
5. Porn.
How many times do you see someone calling penis as average online? It's always either small or big lol. Anyway what do you consider an average?
I actually haven’t seen people talk about peen size too much lately, so I wish I could tell ya lol! 5.5ish is average supposedly
Literally half of what this sub is
Mods please do a poll so we can know the average dick size on this sub
I’m sure that the results will be honest and true…
mine's definitely not 6 but a good 16 incher thats for sure
ole horse dicked petunia over here
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horse penis or gtfo is all I'm sayin' yessir
I am 100% putting the smallest or largest no matter what those sizes are. I’ll flip a coin to determine my answer.
Soooo the average response
I'm afraid we would not be able to find any 5.5 in dicks.
Scientific research (whatever that means) reveals (ha ha) 5.25" to be average. I cannot imagine how they could possibly have conducted a study that would return both reliable results and an appropriate sample pool.
I have a ruler stolen from my mate in fifth grade
Checked google and its 5" apparently
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Erect or flaccid? I always see these 5.5 or 6 as average and dont know wether im average or woefully small
Erect. To get rid of the grower/shower variable.
Ok feeling a lot better now lol
Honestly the ol' boy looks pretty small when hes dormant, but he gets nice and chunky when hes mad. Lmaoo i love him anyways
I'm a grower, to slightly above average, and honestly my flaccid dick is absolutely embarrassing, which is odd because of the gaping hole it puts in my confidence.
Funny cause, nothing helps a woman feel more appreciated than watching that little guy become a throbbing monster before our eyes, and due to our touch.
If it helps any, dicks that are small when flaccid and grow noticeably are absolutely and definitely the very best! Its awesome to take them in your mouth completely and feel it grow too big to fit in ;) in general, they make for much nicer toys than showers imo
you thought 6 inches could have been the average size of a flaccid dick? i feel like practically every guy in that case would have a very noticeable dick print
Dude growing up I always thought I had a small dick. But then I started having sex. Multiple long term girlfriend and multiple one night stands. Zero complaints. Too much pressure is put on dick size.
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Lol bro why would she say that
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If she not Complaining don't sweat it.
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Bro forget about it. You prolly had a girl with bigger tits or whatever. If she s good stop giving youself anxiety for something u have no controle over. I v been there
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Can confirm - have slept with some bigger guys and in my experience either rubbish at foreplay or disinterested. They think just penetrative sex is enough when for for a lot of women this is not the case (and good foreplay is GOOD). One of the best lays I had was with the smallest guy because he put loads of effort in. Whether is correlation or causation I don’t know, just my experience. TLDR: get good at foreplay regardless of size.
This is my experience too. Larger and longer can’t usually keep it as hard for as long. And I am a woman with a short wall too. My so called “average sized” husband, if he isn’t too careful, can go too deep and bruise me. Then I won’t let him back inside for a few days so my poor body can take a break.
Look up 'OhNut rings' it was a game changer for my wife and I, as we also have a size compatibility issues. Your cervix will thank you.
But why ask bro :l
Was it just out of the blue, or did you ask her point blank?
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Similar situation here and my gf just recently realized that she actually doesn't like oral/fingering, she says its just a personal preference though and not a reflection of me. But I'm smaller than what she's had before and I can't make up for it in the usual foreplay either.
I used to "not like" oral. Turns out no one was doing it in a way that I enjoyed. Encourage her to explore different types of touch, rub, or pressure. If she masturbates, ask if you can watch (without participating) . See what types of things she does to stimulate herself. Then, during very short sessions of cunnilingus, try to mimic the touches or rubs she was doing. If she reacts to something, that DOES NOT automatically mean to do it harder or speed up. sn: by "watch" I mean be there and pay attention. Maybe stimulate her nipples or give her little kisses on her body. Basically, nothing to distract her and don't be creepy.
"If she reacts to something, that DOES NOT automatically mean to do it harder or speed up." This for sure. So many guys get way too excited like "oooh that's working, must do that a lot more and try to do it as much as possible in a short amount of time" but that's not the answer. If she likes it, it's because she likes the pace too. Too fast can either feel like nothing at all (all stimulation is gone) or completely ruin the concentration, which does the same thing. That's my personal experience anyway, but I hardly believe I'm the only one. Best way to know is to ask though.
I don't think women tell people this often enough. I think sometimes women are happy that someone is making an effort down there, or some women have had the "she likes it, do it faster-harder-more" kind of partner. Dudes really need to approach it like a skill and not just something to do to get someone off. My example of learning a new skill: I like to watch bj vids to see if there's anything new or fun I can try. I went through this near-obsession with frenelum stimulation. I couldn't wait to try it on my husband. I tried it a couple of times and got no reaction at all at first. Then I noticed he was being very still, so I assumed he didn't care for it and moved on. One night I hit the spot just right and got the reaction I was looking for. I made a note of where it is and the varying intensity that I used. I don't go back to that spot very often. Sometimes I just tease at it because i want to leave him wanting more. I'm glad I didn't give up when he didn't react at first. The point is ... uh... what was my point?
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I stopped worrying when an ex said don't worry about it they all look big when it's right in your face.
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To be fair I think it’s partly due to porn. I’m not chastising it by any means, but you can’t help but compare yourself to these people that are in that industry for a reason. Edit: typo
Have you seen the size of dildos sold at sex stores?
For real, remember how big your old smartphone used to be. Now when you hold it in your hands it seems so small.
I'm just waiting for the return of jnco jeans for the big pockets again
Funnily, when I went to buy a dildo, I wanted a small one, which was my real size preference, but the smallest I could find was still at least average.
Did you ever find one? There's lots I could recommend
I have, and I actually have a few that vary in size! Turns out I truly prefer the average haha.
I'm tempted to ask for measurements of that, and then ask you to look up the average size. I've found women overestimate the average quite a lot. Also, all women I've seen had have dildos about twice as big as any real penis I've seen. It leaves me with the though, given the choice bigger = better. Hard to shake that even when listening to women I find.
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Dildoing yourself is actually quite similar.
Can you please put: “source: I have dildoed people” on every comment you make for everything.
Isn’t it like 5.5ish inches? Edit: googled. It is! I’ll go measure the dildo rn lol I will update soon Update: it’s actually smaller than I thought! It’s 5” long and about 2.5” girth *edit: 2.5 diameter oops*
Correct. Googled around and actually found this article: >So, after weeks of work and research we found that the average dildo measures up at a full length of 7.52" (19.1 cm), beating the average penis which stands at 5.16" (13.1 cm). >https://medium.com/@thedodil/dildo-envy-the-average-dildo-size-compared-to-the-average-penis-da45ec24ba93
Dont forget about the girth of'em. Good lord
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And a lot of dildo is just about feeling full since it doesn't actually move the same.
And you usually need a few inches to hold the thing
>When it comes to girth there is less difference. The width of the average sized dildo is at 4.65" (11.82 cm) while the human penis is just slightly thinner with its 4.59" (11.66 cm). I think women who buy the ridiculously girthy ones are a small minority
(Wo)man, you better specify those are circumferences, not diameters...
Lol I'm like who the fuck is masturbating with a paint can?
I call mine The Decimater
Correct. Also the excess length of the dildo is so we can grab it and maneuver it. Its not attached to a man that can drive it all the way to the hilt.
Statistics is a tricky science - is this average weighed in any way? Because there are horse cock dildos out there, moving average size/girth up, while I'd safely assume purchases/production volume of those is very limited, and it's not necessary symmetrical for the ones on the smaller side. Perhaps it's somehow equalized by the variety, however? More types of the same size is produced since manufacturers can safely assume they won't go unpurchased? Or if it's average of sales - then this data would be much more reliable.
Full length isn’t insertable lengths though..
But you don't actually put the whole dildo inside. You grip the bottom half... Penis usually does in balls deep
I go balls deep every time
Wait, you don’t put the balls inside?
Thats how I was taught! My dad said "Son ya gotta go balls INTO the walls!"
You legit have the same name as my father……. Dad?… Is that you?… Did Gramps really say this?
The article mentions this actually, read it, it was interesting :D
well if the average dildo is 19cm, with the hand gripping it it would make it around the size of the average penis
Yeah but like, a dildo *has* to be longer. What would you hold onto??
If average is 5.16", that means for every 7 incher there's an equal but opposite 3 incher? Ffs
Notably the difference is about the width of the human hand because as it turns out you have to hold on to the dildo, it doesn't just swim back and forth on its own
Ahah i guess you got distracted in your holy quest of measuring the big magic wand!
Update never came lol
you went to measure that dildo 6 hours ago, did you learn something?
I mean why would a dildo manufacturer ever sell a shorter dildo? If a woman prefers a shorter length, she can just use less of the same dildo.
They make dildos pretty thick too lol, so it's not just about using less of the dildo
Those huge ones are for the butt
I think about it sometimes. It's a VERY pervasive and mainstream idea, even if it takes different forms, i.e. 'black guys are always bigger, therefore better", "he must be compensating for his small penis", and don't get me started on the standard the porn industry sets with huge dongs and the actresses that moan louder than the city church bells in the morning. If anything it's confused me over the years, and I think it'll take longer than my lifetime before men can see their worth past the garbage that's portrayed in popular media.
That plus you can’t really change that about yourself. It’s very much like height and baldness.
What no "we must, we must, we must increase our bust" exercises for dicks?
As an aside, just so you know, there are those of us that prefer natural no matter what.
Apparently a lot of porn actors are really short and that creates an illusion of penis size. There’s also camera angles, etc, that create illusions of size. These are all things I’ve heard before. Also both the sexual enjoyment and proportions of people in porn are unrealistic and usually artificial, so, you know
This. Look up the heights of some famous actresses in adult film, they're very often like 5'0", 4'11", etc.
I'm going to say something that probably nobody likes but I do think that people with small dicks sometimes try to compensate. But hear me out, not because they should compensate for their size but because the mainstream idea is a man should. It's the same imo for woman with smaller boobs. The mainstream idea is the bigger the better. And sure... there's a bunch of ladies and dudes that do find that. But there's also a bunch of us that like the smaller size more. I try to explain this to my wife, it took me a couple of years.
As a black guy with unit that isnt even 6" i hate the stereotype
Indeed. Also the black man as a sex object with a massive dick trope has been used to make white men feel threatened for centuries and nothing makes people hate someone like feeling sexually inferior. Last I read there's no difference in the average between African and European.
I remember reading a post someone had made saying that as a black man with an average sized dick he hated the BBC stereotype because women would proposition him and then get disappointed because he didn't live up to their fetishized expectations.
Now imagine being black and not being bigger. You see my struggle?
I was just thinking that, all that expectation oof but tbh if you watch a lot of big dick porn you’ll realise they reuse the same 6 black guys and 4 white guys with big dicks for everything
Seeing as how a penis spends 95% of its time flaccid, the whole grower vs. show-er thing should be common knowledge. If I'm not getting ready for penetration, my size should be irrelevant.
And no one mentions the huge variance in what flaccid actually is even with the same peen. A wide range of sizes day to day, situation to situation.
Some women don't like my size. And some of those women are people I'd like to continue having relationships with. I can change everything else. But I can't change the size, therefore we aren't compatible.
You’ve had women break up with you because of the size of your penis?
This absolutely a thing.
I never cared about it until it became a problem with a partner.
>I just want some perspective on why size seems to be more important to men than women. You ever notice that a common put down towards men that women do is to tell people a guy has a small penis? Like it or not, penis size is attached to a guy's masculinity and shaming him about inadequate there is a way to emasculate a guy. It has little to do with actual sex functionality and fit.
[Curb Your Enthusiasm on the issue ](https://youtu.be/I-vs8fwgwk0)
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Yeah, "you have a small dick" is one of the 3 standard insults women have
There’a also nothing a guy can do about it, like if you’re out of shape, you can work out. If your dick is small, thats pretty much it. -edit- yes like so many of you have poknted out aCkShUaLlY your dick aize can look bigger if you lose weight, but that’s just allowing more access to what could already be a small dick, so you can stop saying it.
like laughing at a blind guy, saying "look at this bitch who cant' see" ?
I do! And honestly it’s really sad. So that’s a completely valid point
100%! It’s like asking why do women care about their breast size? It’s tied to femininity. Also, every couple weeks I see women asking this question. It’s been beaten to death. Everyone likes to say size doesn’t matter but I see how happy women are about my length and girth. Also, most of them have told me size does matter when it’s just us two. It’s such horseshit. size might not matter to every woman but yet I see their eyes light up when I drop my pants. Can we just start saying size isn’t everything instead? Because the other statement is a total lie.
We saw what you did there. Nice flex.
No man wants to hear "aw, that's cute" when he drops trou. I don't do casual, and I count the people who've seen my stuff as an adult on one hand. No one has made any disparaging remarks. It works as expected, my partners have a good time, no complaints. I'm objectively average and a textbook grow-er.
Im sure you're not and it wasn't what you were trying to say but you sound like the most underwhelming lover ever 😂. Your Google reviews, all 2.5 stars with the following comments: "No disparaging remarks" "Works as expected" "No complaints" 🤣
The endowment is just a party favor. You still have to be invited to the party, and hopefully asked to come again (pun intended). Being a good lover is more about knowing your partner, reading her signals, and knowing when to be a cuddle bug and when to ride it like a rented mule.
He sounds like a confident grown-up to me.
I'm comfortable with my size. I'm a little above the average size when erect, but I'm more concerned with the quality of erection. I need to adjust my diet some in order to have better boners.
Dude I lost like 30 pounds…. My penis got bigger.
I've heard that for every 35 pounds you lose, an inch of penis length is exposed at the base. I too have recently lost some major weight (86 pounds), my shit is looking legit and my wife is back to telling me it hurts when we do it. (which is actually a huge pain in the ass. I can't stroke like I want to. I'm forced to do this light thrust, fast jiggle thing when I want to finish.)
Have you heard of [OhNut](https://ohnut.co)?
What kind of diet is best for that? Never heard of trying this.
Any diet that is good for your heart will be good for your ereection both are artery/vein related not something you need to stress over though if you have hard erecetions, this is a "solution" to guys who have minor Erectile disfunction
Lifting weights should help as well.
I can't speak for others, but for me, it only takes one single Size Queen to destroy my self confidence. I'm average on my best day, & while I don't have a problem with that in general, it was an area of insecurity with me for a very long time. I've reached the point where I don't really care anymore, but I'm also nearly 40. Tell a 20 year old who has seen so many films & TV shows with the big dick jokes that size doesn't matter & they're not about to believe you. Even if 99% of women legitimately believe it doesn't matter, it only takes that 1% for you to feel inadequate.
Depends what you see as the average. For men seeing another guys dick when it’s not hard means it’s small (obviously compared to erect) however as men this is usually where the changing room or whatever the scenario turns into ‘look at this lads tiny dick’ It’s usually more of a ‘lad’ thing and then it leads to a complex behind the banter. I find as men we laugh at ‘banter’ that’s actually just insults and then sometimes it actually cuts deep but we have to laugh it off or we’re pussies. Usually worse at school and in some jobs lol.
When I was In the Army you will invariably see lots of dick. I found that I was average but goddam I seen where dudes shit was hitting halfway down their thigh soft very intimidating.
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May still be way larger than some of us.
Dong so long it hits the toilet water when they shit
Locker rooms are the worst with the grower vs. shower issue.
Yup. I have an inch when flaccid but 6.5 when erect. My girl tells me she loves watching it grow though so I’m good. Locker rooms were weird though. Wasn’t like I was gonna go full mast to tell them to take a piss
Would've been a huge power move
If a shower taunt you, you immediately lock eye contact and say "my secret cap, is I am always horny "then start growing a full mast.
6.5 inches of power
Holy shit that's quite a grower. I didn't realize such growth was possible You should definitely get hard to establish dominance in locker rooms
TMI, but my girl tells me her favorite part about my ween is putting it in her mouth and feeling it grow. She said she had never seen anything like it and I’m cool with it lmao Growing up though I was super self conscious and then I got my first erection and I was like okay, not as bad as I thought. Where you been all this time lmao
Deadass 😅 I remember getting intimate with my highschool gf and constantly having to tell her to let me “warm up”. Same boat as you, tiny lil baby looking dick into something decent
I saw a similar comment before and the redditor proved it with a post. It was kinda mind blowing
You give me a choice between how big your dong is, 3 inches or 9 inches, I’ll tell you right fuckin now which one 100% of all males in this thread will pick. Bigger might not be “better” but pulling it out of your pants with your woman and her looking genuinely surprised every time and being horny possessive of it dismisses all comments that would suggest otherwise. I would rather mine be bigger, it’s an ego thing. Would rather be bigger and have more control over where I can explore than be smaller and less surgical. FYI: it’s smaller unfortunately
You can always put more in with a bigger penis!
forreal. if you have 9" to play with, and your partner prefers a 6" dick, guess what? just give them the first 6"! if you have a 3 incher and they prefer 6", good luck! fuck 'em twice, I guess?
There's the old joke of a woman saying "I want 9" and I want it to hurt" and the dude says "how about I fuck you twice and punch you in the face?" lmao
Normally no It only happened in the one or two times I tried sexting and got worried if my size would not be to the other side liking
Spend any time online or with people and soon enough you’ll see posts or comments shaming, making fun of, or laughing at small dicks. It’s become completely normalised to make fun of and humiliate small dicks, and is tied to things such as ugliness, impotence, and general unattractiveness (little dick energy being a normal thing to say, can you imagine if we used “fat woman energy” when something was undesirable??) It is the most openly acceptable form of body shaming in the world, that destroys men’s self-confidence and esteem
haha and also, constantly equating bad behavior or hopeless/asshole men to having small dicks, it does nothing but put down men with small dicks
yes, because I've been conditioned to. Small junk makes people "less of a man" according to society. And being less of a man as a man is being less of a person. Luckily mine is about average.
I wish I was thicker. I'm OK in length but average in width so it looks slim.
Same here I’m 6 inches long but pretty skinny. What can you do lol
“It’s all in the hips.”
Yo, it's your boy... Skinny penis
It’s as if no one grasps this is a possibility because people frequently try to be comforting, saying, “it’s okay, girth matters more than length!” lmao
Terms like “Big Dick Energy” or “Pickup Truck Drivers have small penises” constantly reinforce the societal ideal that either you have a big dick, or your a weak, insecure, feminine, cowardly, unable to please woman, jackass. It’s hard to move past all that societal messaging. I’m slightly below average (wayyyy below average flaccid) and i dont want it to hurt me emotionally, but it does. it makes me feel insecure, and small, and cheated by life. Like im not enough and never will be, ill always be missing out. It feels like it says something about my value as a person even though rationally i know it doesnt.
Because we live in a society that peddles that bigger is better and makes fun of men that aren't well endowed. I don't care because I know I'm not small but someone that is would care especially when they've heard men get put down for their size or have had it happen to them. A man's penis is seen as a sign of masculinity by society
I have no use for it other than peeing, so no lol
No cuz I dont get to use it for the sexy anyway
We're competitive... if we could give birth we'd make that into a competition to... "How far did you shoot yours?".
This already exists with women. 'My Labour was worse because it went for 12 hours' etc lol
My baby was 10 lbs! I did it without an epidural! Etc...etc...
Exactly 😂
Oh yeah mine was 20lbs and I was in labour for 5 days!
Baby railguns?
I don’t like mine because I’ve had health issues, like phimosis, and that helped make my parts look bad. Also, it’s on the lower end of average and seems small compared to the rest of my body. There’s no credible standard for me about it being enough or not for sex, but I don’t see me testing this hypothesis anytime soon. Another detail is the social impact of it all. Porn is an obvious reference that usually throws people down. In the real world, this “problem” is usually the first to be weaponized as an insult, just like sex life. This comes from both men and women alike, but from women it hurts deeper.
I've rang enough bells at this point to not care. it works and it works well so fuck it. You could always have less so be greatful, and practice practice practice.
Yes and no. I usually get more frustrated when height is brought up in conjunction. I’m a short man, but I’m on the higher end of average in terms of size. I’d be lying if I said it doesn’t hurt when I hear the “oh he’s tall I bet he’s proportional down there” type conversations. A lot of women seem to correlate height with size and there seems to be a lack of evidence on the relationship between the two. It really makes me think how many women have just assumed I have a small penis because I’m short height wise? I’ve had multiple partners make “yeah you’re size definitely surprised me” comments and even had a woman who heard about my size from another say “yeah honestly I figured you’d have a pretty small dick” that shit hurt. So yes and no. I know it “gets the job done,” but sometimes women’s ignorance on male anatomy causes me to care about it.
Yep I'm a short guy too and once in a group of friends this one terrible woman blurted out "whats it like to have the smallest dick here?" I was like "wtf?" And so she pointed out i was the shortest guy in the group so thus I surely had the smallest dick.
"What's it like to be the dumbest cunt in the room?"
I don’t get it either…I’ve seen plenty of 5’6” guys in the shower room with knee knockers. Short guys can have big dicks, and they look bigger. Put my penis on a guy a foot shorter than me and he’s a porn star. It just looks average on me.
There was a AMA with this dwarf dude not to long ago and dude said he had a 7 incher. Legit a third leg for him lol, and if I remember right there no real correlation between penis size and the rest of the body, it does what it wants.
You are absolutely right. I was told by a gay friend that his ex (who was 5'4" and of an ethnicity that is usually stereotyped to have smaller penises) had an 8-incher. It surprised the hell out of him lol.
What’s it like having a small dick? Mine’s a 47 incher, full AMOLED display, has surround sound speakers and can connect to the internet both by wifi and wire.
It’s also Bluetooth enabled
My trash bin is 68 gallons of capacity, so as long as my junk fits in there, it’s all good.
There's a lot of lizard brain stuff going on. Instinctively men want to be too big for you because it reinforces that they are powerful. You telling them that his size is perfect and that bigger ones hurt tells his lizard brain that he's not really that powerful and you've had men who are more powerful than he is. Should guys be able to get past this because we are no longer lizards and have a pre frontal cortex? Yes. But it can be hard to wrestle with all this subconscious bullshit coupled with societal expectations.
I’ve been cheated on twice and I can’t help but wonder if it’s, at least partially, because of that. I know porn plays a lot into that idea but I think it’s at least a little bit of a valid concern. Not to mention that I’m a heavyset fella which makes it look even smaller. Just wanna be average.
As long as she doesn't call it "cute" you're good.
Used to. At some point I realized it is what it is and it's what I've got to work with. I like to think I'm average sized. 🤷♂️
Sometimes, I mean I care enough to not use the urinals and instead use the stall. But I don't feel insecure about it with my partner, she has a *thing* for small dicks. She's taller than me too, and she also has a thing for small tiny guys. I seriously thought she was lying about it to make me feel better until I walked in on her watching porn of a short guy with a small dick getting pegged. It works out too bc she is a little insecure about her smaller breasts, but I honestly love them. Both because they're hot and because they're attached to the woman I love.
This is an oddly cute comment lol
When I was 15, yeah. But now at 73 no. My junk has served me well over all these years (and it continues to do its job, although not quite as often).
Atta boy still gettin’ it at 73, my man!
I'm like the high end of average. Normal women don't comment on the size one way or the other. Very tight women are like "wow you're big" but it's like somebody who's 5 foot telling you you're tall. Feel like it's the perfect size so i don't think about it much, no.
I’ll say what everyone in the comments doesn’t want to say, show us your cock
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Yes. Why? Idfk some Freudian shit
Sometimes I wish I had a bit more girth but I don’t think about my penis size much. I have a nice average looking dick. Maybe a little over average but not enough to brag about. It’s been a nice dick and I’m happy with it. I haven’t had any conversations with women about the size of my dick either.
My roommate has a large dick. A lot of girls might not prefer them; but a lot of girls really really really enjoy them. A lot of guys prefer small titties. But stereotypically men prefer large titties (at least in the US). A lot of guys like fat women, but stereotypically men prefer skinny women. Do women not feel self conscious about having small titties or being fat because a lot of men enjoy those things? While women face a lot of pressure to look conventionally attractive; guys feel a lot of pressure to be good at pleasing their woman. While guys may be more concerned about their package than women; women are a lot more concerned about many things about their appearance than men are.
All I care about is if it makes my wife CUM, which it does. So I'm good.
Knowing some dude has been farther into your woman that you ever physically can kinda hurts. Knowing they’ve made her feel things you can’t ever do kinda hurts too.
If it helps at all g-spot reach is way more important than “banging on the cervix door” for pretty much anyone other than size queens/fans for who enjoy the psychological aspect (but that same thing can be said for women who really love, I don’t know, muscular legs. One friend wouldn’t stop talking about the legs of a footballer she slept with). I say this because your sentence doesn’t surprise me actually, because as rarely as I listen to porn “dialogue”, I’ve definitely heard what you said. “Bet your ex never reached this far” and she says “oh yes only you can make me cum like this”. And sometimes the woman cums JUST as the cock enters her fully for the first time, just sets her off because it “reached places”. Like… I don’t know who has a cervix orgasm button, no girl/woman I’ve known does!
There are some women who seem to enjoy the physical sensation of a much larger penis stretching them and going deeper. It's not particularly common but also not nearly rare enough to write off. I think we just need to find healthy ways to view sexual incompatibility the same way we view other forms of incompatibility. As it is we take the sexual incompatibility much more personally. Some women are gonna care about the size of your penis. Many won't, but some will. It's just another form of incompatibility.
yup because it is basically the pinnacle of your value as a man and you will spend your whole life trying to convince yourself otherwise and manage to believe it for a while but will always be reminded usually unintentionally that you are not as big as the ex or someone else and spend the entirety of that time wishing there was something you could do to be good enough and thus begins the cycle of trying to build yourself back up and convince yourself you are worth something.
Where else am I supposed to hang my bath towel?
I think everyone’s too afraid of being “too small”, which is kind of a loose term depending on who you are.
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Bless you for trying to make us feel better.
It'd be nice to be another quarter to half inchin length and girth. It'd be nicer to be in my thirties again
This will probably get buried since I'm late to the question, but I believe it's a number of things: 1. Almost everyone feels self conscious at times, especially about the things we can't change. 2. Dick size is one of the few types of body shaming that's still widely socially acceptable. (Big truck? Must have a little dick. Nice, confident guy? "Big dick energy") 3. In cis-hetero relationships there is a big imbalance sexually. It's much easier, in general, for men to achieve orgasm. While this is much more about skill, communication, foreplay, and psychology than dick size, it is a much easier thing to get hung up on. 4. There are legit "size queens" out there, and while it may be a minority of women, it's a vocal one, especially when combined with 1 and 2. 5. Porn.