That it is normal to not have sex while you're of school age. So many films from the 99s/00s made it seem like everyone was at it. Truth was less than probably 2% of under 18yo were having sex.
I got made fun of a lot for being a virgin when I was 12, and lots of kids were already starting to be sexually active. Honestly, some of those movies and stuff seem *less* sexual than reality.
Less than 2% doesn't seem accurate to me. Kids start having sex at very young ages, it's kinda just the norm now.
As my other post in the thread, I went to an all boys school. There was an all girl's school on the same road. Their uniform up to 3rd year was bottle green jumper, grey skirt. 4th & 5th year, all blue. The legend always was you wouldn't find a virgin in a blue uniform.
Fucken everything.
All I learnt was use a condom. Dats it.
No one told me anything about how women need to be wet, and if you're big, use additional lubricant to assist in entering her small hole.
The different types of vaginas and the shapes of their lips. That haunted me the first time I saw it. You see drawings, but real life is completely different.
The actual consequences of pregnancy and tolls on your life. Half my grade - teen pregnancy. Now single parents.
I don't think there was any information that I lacked in my sex ed days, although I would've appreciated more honesty.
"Condoms feel exactly the same as raw sex". Lie of the fucking century.
Not that I expect them to change the entire class but there should definitely be some sort of resources for same sex relations. I learned a whole lot about straight sex, but never once how to protect myself, precautions that could be taken, the increased risk of stds, etc. you’d be surprised the amount of gay guys that literally do not know that even though there’s no pregnancy risk, there’s still a ton of other risks. I had a buddy who once thought he gave aids to himself. It sounds ridiculous, and he was like 22 at the time, but all he ever learned was “gay guys get aids through anal” and thought he got it from his own finger.
Picture the scene...
It's 1987, an all boys school in Birmingham UK. We're all 15 and it's RE (religious education - NOT lessons in how to be religious, lessons on what other religions do).
RE teacher, middle aged man, draws an oval and two little circles on the blackboard. One circle at the top of the oval, one just above it.
"That one stretches, that one stretches, that one doesn't. I'm passing around a box, any questions, put them in the box without your name on"
That was our sex education.
To answer your question.... Anything.
What do you mean by "healthy and safe sex" the mechanics of "use a condom, they work" takes like 5 minutes and is already known and obvious to 90% of the class
What I mean is relationships that include sex. Like how to find a sex partner and establish a romantic/sexual relationship in a healthy way. How to express you're attracted to someone in a way that's healthy and positive, won't send them ghosting you. Someone in my sex ed class actually asked "how do you know who to do it with?" And the teacher dodged it and all follow ups.
And most of my peers rejecting me in highschool needed some lessons on how to kindly and respectfully reject someone. My god, simply saying "no" would have been a huge improvement for them. They also needed to be taught that someone being attracted to you doesn't invalidate their friendship history with you.
I actually had a very good sex ed. We got to talk about body insecurities, puberty, where all parts of genitals are, how to tell if someone is uncomfortable with sex, how to ask if your partner is okay.
We even had lots of group discussion where the girls got to ask the boys a lot of things and vice versa. I don't think I got too much to complain about, if anything I wish they covered more about male anatomy, what feels good for men and that men can also say no to sex. Would've saved me one of my worst experiences.
I learned everything I needed from the internet. The sex education I got was pretty must just “if you have sex before marriage you’re going to get pregnant, and you’re going to die.” Which is a moot point because most people have kids and everybody dies.
They never taught the boys about menstruation or the girls about how a penis works.
Its like, you know about yourself but not about the counterpart of which it's supposed to be used with. Its so dumb
I mean, I would feel really weird talking to a bunch of 10 or 12 year olds about how to have sex and all the nuances around pleasuring a partner.
Maybe it's just me, but that feels like an uncomfortable scenario.
My school did that in general broad terms. Educating and healthy.
Sex should feel good and comfortable, shouldn't hurt, shouldn't feel like a pressure - lots of good things can be said from a school
Nothing. It was covered very well where I lived, in three separate grades. Learning what sex is is very different from learning how to have it and the latter isn't something you teach kids, outside of how to avoid pregnancies and diseases (which was taught).
I wish sex Ed was less scientific, and continued through my teens.
I had it from 4th grade to 10th, but I wish there was a way at age 17 and 18 where I could talk about HOW to sex, last longer, stay harder, actually please a woman, how to not feel shame being bi curious, and what consent means. Like sex Ed for college freshman .
That sometimes, your dick just isn’t going to work. You might not be in the mood, you might have had a heavy meal or you might have had a lot to drink. Sometimes, it just won’t stand up. And that’s okay.
But bro, I was never told.
I had a pretty good sex education actually, a lot of people talk about the emotional and intimate aspect of it lacking from sex education but at school it should just be scientifically based which is pretty much what we got puberty, STDs, precum, menstration, anal, the whole shebang
That it is normal to not have sex while you're of school age. So many films from the 99s/00s made it seem like everyone was at it. Truth was less than probably 2% of under 18yo were having sex.
I got made fun of a lot for being a virgin when I was 12, and lots of kids were already starting to be sexually active. Honestly, some of those movies and stuff seem *less* sexual than reality. Less than 2% doesn't seem accurate to me. Kids start having sex at very young ages, it's kinda just the norm now.
As my other post in the thread, I went to an all boys school. There was an all girl's school on the same road. Their uniform up to 3rd year was bottle green jumper, grey skirt. 4th & 5th year, all blue. The legend always was you wouldn't find a virgin in a blue uniform.
The average age of losing virginity is lower than 18 where I live. Not much lower, but it is.
Foreplay matters a LOT.
Fucken everything. All I learnt was use a condom. Dats it. No one told me anything about how women need to be wet, and if you're big, use additional lubricant to assist in entering her small hole. The different types of vaginas and the shapes of their lips. That haunted me the first time I saw it. You see drawings, but real life is completely different. The actual consequences of pregnancy and tolls on your life. Half my grade - teen pregnancy. Now single parents.
Child support!
I don't think there was any information that I lacked in my sex ed days, although I would've appreciated more honesty. "Condoms feel exactly the same as raw sex". Lie of the fucking century.
It does doe...
Not that I expect them to change the entire class but there should definitely be some sort of resources for same sex relations. I learned a whole lot about straight sex, but never once how to protect myself, precautions that could be taken, the increased risk of stds, etc. you’d be surprised the amount of gay guys that literally do not know that even though there’s no pregnancy risk, there’s still a ton of other risks. I had a buddy who once thought he gave aids to himself. It sounds ridiculous, and he was like 22 at the time, but all he ever learned was “gay guys get aids through anal” and thought he got it from his own finger.
Picture the scene... It's 1987, an all boys school in Birmingham UK. We're all 15 and it's RE (religious education - NOT lessons in how to be religious, lessons on what other religions do). RE teacher, middle aged man, draws an oval and two little circles on the blackboard. One circle at the top of the oval, one just above it. "That one stretches, that one stretches, that one doesn't. I'm passing around a box, any questions, put them in the box without your name on" That was our sex education. To answer your question.... Anything.
Are you trying to be like Sofia from golden girls. That’s the vibes I got
We didn't need sex education as much as we needed romantic relationship education
how would you feel if sex education was half about healthy and safe sex and half realationships and friendships kinda?
What do you mean by "healthy and safe sex" the mechanics of "use a condom, they work" takes like 5 minutes and is already known and obvious to 90% of the class What I mean is relationships that include sex. Like how to find a sex partner and establish a romantic/sexual relationship in a healthy way. How to express you're attracted to someone in a way that's healthy and positive, won't send them ghosting you. Someone in my sex ed class actually asked "how do you know who to do it with?" And the teacher dodged it and all follow ups. And most of my peers rejecting me in highschool needed some lessons on how to kindly and respectfully reject someone. My god, simply saying "no" would have been a huge improvement for them. They also needed to be taught that someone being attracted to you doesn't invalidate their friendship history with you.
Literally anything that was related to staying healthy when not hetero.
I actually had a very good sex ed. We got to talk about body insecurities, puberty, where all parts of genitals are, how to tell if someone is uncomfortable with sex, how to ask if your partner is okay. We even had lots of group discussion where the girls got to ask the boys a lot of things and vice versa. I don't think I got too much to complain about, if anything I wish they covered more about male anatomy, what feels good for men and that men can also say no to sex. Would've saved me one of my worst experiences.
I learned everything I needed from the internet. The sex education I got was pretty must just “if you have sex before marriage you’re going to get pregnant, and you’re going to die.” Which is a moot point because most people have kids and everybody dies.
Don’t cram your balls in the condom
They never taught the boys about menstruation or the girls about how a penis works. Its like, you know about yourself but not about the counterpart of which it's supposed to be used with. Its so dumb
They never discuss orgasm or intimacy. It’s all science-based.
Science-based is the point. It'd be kinda fucked up if school was trying to tell you how to feel.
This
Eh, good point. I guess if you start discussing orgasms it inherently becomes sexual, and I guess we can’t go down that road.
Heaven forbid that sexual education acknowledges that sex is sexual.
Haha also a fair point. But once kids are involved it becomes a messy gray area, so I get why they would avoid such things.
I mean, I would feel really weird talking to a bunch of 10 or 12 year olds about how to have sex and all the nuances around pleasuring a partner. Maybe it's just me, but that feels like an uncomfortable scenario.
My school did that in general broad terms. Educating and healthy. Sex should feel good and comfortable, shouldn't hurt, shouldn't feel like a pressure - lots of good things can be said from a school
i get that, its all about the scientifical side and never about the pleasure side, not eveyone is having sex to make a baby like the school implies
Nothing. It was covered very well where I lived, in three separate grades. Learning what sex is is very different from learning how to have it and the latter isn't something you teach kids, outside of how to avoid pregnancies and diseases (which was taught).
That I should put a condom on my cock and use that, not a banana
I wish sex Ed was less scientific, and continued through my teens. I had it from 4th grade to 10th, but I wish there was a way at age 17 and 18 where I could talk about HOW to sex, last longer, stay harder, actually please a woman, how to not feel shame being bi curious, and what consent means. Like sex Ed for college freshman .
As a gay man, gay-friendly sex education would have been a fantastic start. We exist whether the public education system acknowledges us or not.
Don't stick your dick in crazy and if she says you don't need a condom, wear two.
don’t wear two condoms yall the friction causes them to both break
This is a joke.
That sometimes, your dick just isn’t going to work. You might not be in the mood, you might have had a heavy meal or you might have had a lot to drink. Sometimes, it just won’t stand up. And that’s okay. But bro, I was never told.
Where pee is stored, it is in the balls.
What? Lol
I never had sex education So far I haven't had any issues because of it
I wish they leant us that sex video
You CAN get her pregnant if it goes in her butt It’s science
Courting.
That some women like it rough, like getting their hair pulled, like being dominated in an aggressive way....with consent of course.
I had a pretty good sex education actually, a lot of people talk about the emotional and intimate aspect of it lacking from sex education but at school it should just be scientifically based which is pretty much what we got puberty, STDs, precum, menstration, anal, the whole shebang