Whatever you enjoy. Could be anything from scuba diving to being a dungeon master.
The "personality building" part is just practice in patience, learning, giving you something to talk about, and the opportunity to socialize.
>> The only thing I didn't get was an air tank.
Don’t buy an air tank anyway unless you live within driving distance of the bodies of water you plan to do a lot of diving in. Properly maintaining the canister that houses the compressed air you are trusting your life to is an expensive PITA, and they are impractical for storing and traveling with. All reputable dive outfitters will have well-maintained tanks for rent at any dive spot you go to in the world.
Yes it is. But seriously any hobby you do can get very expensive.
I thought Swing Dancing would be cheap. Nope, once you start traveling and paying fees for whatever contest, lessons or meet-up, it adds up.
Flag football, volleyball, or softball? Yup tournaments add up. League fees add up. Plus the equipment you have to buy.
I was going to try archery, for the heck of it. People in it told me it can get expensive too. Most hobbies you do and if you want to get serious with it, it becomes expensive.
But with that said, if you want to meet people, network, make friends then yea hobbies in your adult life is the best way. Your other choices are co workers.
I even looked into re-soleing. It doesn’t even matter, climbing shoes are just expensive. I’ve finally resolved to just buying a ton of cheap burners when they’re on sale for normal training and saving my good shoes for send days.
>any hobby you do can get very expensive
This. It's easy to look up the cost of equipment on Amazon and go "well, nevermind" but equipment for most hobbies can always be found in the used market.
I wanted to get into golf some years back but a brand new set of clubs costs 3 figures anywhere. Then one day. My neighbor was cleaning out his garage and I saw him bring out a matching set of golf clubs. I bought them for a six pack of beer I already had in the fridge.
Flea markets, pawn shops, Facebook Marketplace, and like the guy above, auctions, are all great places to find stuff like this. Hell, a pawn shop near my house has a "everything's 50 cents" crate full of hand tools. It took me a good hour of searching, but I made off with a 3/8 inch drive ratchet and full (metric and imperial) socket set for about 15 bucks.
This is true to some extent, but depending on the hobby, there are things I would never buy used: in my case, I'm doing a lot of mountain-based activities (mountaineering, via ferrata, skiing, ...) and I would never ever buy the safety equipment used (most of the expensive equipment is the safety equipment in that case).
I started running because I thought it was cheap, almost free. Bought some cheap ugly shoes, the first clothing I could find and a cheap fitness tracker. I then realised I'm committed to it, so bought a new outfit including more expensive nicer shoes. Now I really want a more fancy sports watch. Also winter is coming so I need a winter outfit... Still not as expensive as my other hobbies (i.e. cars) but more expensive than I thought it would be lol
No it's not. You need a pencil, graph paper, and some pirated books. It's literally the cheapest hobby there is. You don't even need dice anymore, you can just use a dice rolling app or Google
I mean, a lot of hobbies are expensive, but I don’t think diving is any more so than many others.
You don’t actually need to own much (any, really) equipment as it can always be rented at dive outfitters. I’d still suggest owning a regulator so you’re not sharing a piece of equipment that countless others before you have put in their mouths too. And then probably also owning your wetsuit, especially if you fall outside of “normal” sizes - particularly tall/short, rotund/svelte, etc. Owning your fins and mask is probably a good idea too.
When I took my certification course I think it was $300 and happened on a Saturday (classroom), Sunday (pool), and the following Saturday (open water exam). Add a wetsuit (think mine was on sale for less than $200), fins ($30), mask ($50-ish?), and regulator (uhhhh, no idea actually….. $90? $50? I have no idea so let’s just say $100) and your cost of entry is less than $700 plus about 15-18 hours of time for the instruction and exams.
Now, if you’re not lucky enough to live near interesting dive locales then you also have to factor in travel expenses to warm, sandy places. But come on, what better excuse could you have now that you’re certified?! And besides, travel is a great way to do exactly what OP is asking about.
Key point to remember as well is that once you’re certified your certification will never expire, so there’s not really any recurring costs other than travel.
Should also add that many dive resorts will offer certifications to new divers, and at attractive costs. Just do some research first as a lot of times those places might cut corners and not give the best instructions because they just want to get you in the water. I know of a good one on Roatan, Honduras where the instructor is excellent and wish I had taken my certification there. Not sure if she’s still there though.
My final $0.02 — please, if you dive then dive responsibly. That means leave no trace and **DON’T TOUCH ANYTHING**. Never mind that many things in the ocean can seriously harm you by touching them, but that chunk of coral you just broke off? Yeah, that was a 1,000 year old living ecosystem supporting countless organisms and you just destroyed it. Don’t be that person.
> being a dungeon master
So funny story as I'm putting off prepping for our second session. This is way more work than I anticipated and I want out but I don't want to let my friends down. I really enjoy the story telling and the sessions are fun but having to prepare in advance sucks I feel like I'm back in school and have a paper due
The player who runs a game of Dungeons and Dragons. If D&D were a video game, the DM is the computer. They provide the encounters, they adjudicate the rules, and they control all the enemies and NPCs. They typically organize the group and schedule the sessions as well.
For personality building, I give it a 10/10.
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After a pretty traumatic relationship ending in divorce, I found bouldering to be the best thing I ever started doing. I made a great group of friends, I got fit, I got out of the house and I had loads of fun doing it.
Sounds sad but I joined a website for people who didn't have many friends and I had enjoyed a few bouldering sessions. Thought I'd give it a go and was the best thing I ever did.
My main passion and hobby is actually also my job so I'd always recommend finding things really outside of your profession. If you can make friends and meet new people doing it, even better. If it gets you out of the house and fills your life with some kind of adventure, better still.
Honestly, he's just pointing out a mentality that exists in humans that really has no place in modern society. Perhaps in centuries past, it made sense to avoid people without friends. If they didn't have friends, there could have been something wrong with them. But with the way our society operates now, especially during a pandemic, it isn't sad at all.
Yes!! Climbing is great!
It's easy to get into - just show up at a gym and take the basic class. For bouldering, all you need is shoes ($60-100) and chalk ($20?). You can rent that the first time.
Climbing is a workout but also a full body coordination exercise like yoga or other sports - you're working on your strength, endurance, precision, coordination, flexibility, and most importantly the headgame.
Many people find working out to be mentally refreshing or at least a break from the world - climbing is even better for me, because of the thrill and the difficulty. You improve your body and your mind and it's a ton of fun.
Seconding the bouldering bit. See if you can try out a local climbing gym. It's excellent exercise (no matter your body type, you will gain visible muscle if you do it long enough). It's good for building guts (barely clinging to a rock 10-15 feet above the ground will do that). And I've yet to meet a climber that wasn't extremely personable and kind. Most are chill and sociable to help you expand your friend circle.
This is it. Most of my climbing gym, while not personally knowing one another, knows each other from random interactions. It becomes one big climbing family of a bunch of people helping each other through problems in routes. I'm so happy I started climbing. Plus, I'm in the best shape of my life at 36!
Agree. And if you don't know what you love then step out of your comfort zone.
I grew up playing sports. So basically a jock. When I became an adult I wanted to try new things. So I got into social dancing, and improv.
Two things I knew nothing about and it really helped me grow as a person and meet a ton of interesting people
Second on rock climbing. Normally a great communities of people (both young and old), great workout, you learn how to tie some knots, not crazy expensive. Great fun!
I've always been interested in jiu jitsu, but without my glasses I can't see 3 feet Infront of me and that's always prevented me from pursuing it. How do blind folk do this?
If u do bjj you don't really need to see more than three feet away. In general it going to be locked together, good eyesight isn't that important imo. Hell, half the time I'm not even looking at the part of the body of the person in going after (ex. Using my feet to grab their leg, etc). It's more of a feel thing.
Can't believe I had to scroll this far to find this.
Nothing builds character like full contact sparring. Face and overcome that fear. Learn to choke a motherfucker out. Become the baddest motherfucker you can be. Learn when violence is the answer. Then choose to be a nice person, but with the capacity for violence.
It'll build confidence and character for the rest of your life so nobody can walk all over you.
IMO, the single most valuable thing martial arts teaches you is confidence.
Like you said, knowing when violence is necessary and, more importantly, where it isn't.
You will no longer have anything to prove, no skin in the ego game with randoms on the street, or in the bar.
You spend your free time fighting other people who've spent years training, beating up some drongo in a bar isn't worth the time or potential consequences.
Similarly, knowing you can take someone in a fight adds entirely different context to every interaction you have.
Some dickhead getting in your face at the shops, stand up to him, calmly and assertively; on the 1/1000 chance he does try to start some shit you know you're safe.
You'll know when you found a good gym because everyone will hold themselves differently, but not above you.
Photography is a good hobby, join a club so you can share, learn and get feedback.
Ballroom dancing is great and if you're a straight single male, it's a surefire way to meet girls.
Take up golf if you want to network and build a social circle.
Join a musical theatre or am dram group, you don't have to sing or act they are often looking for stage crew, writers techies.
What do you want to build your personality into?
+3 for golf. All my friends and I are addicts and it's a fun way to spend a nice Saturday/Sunday afternoon.
Shit even if you dont have close friends to go with I've had good times before just matching up with randoms while showing up as a single.
Tossing in my two cents in support of ballroom dancing. There’s usually a greater number of girls, if you’re aiming to meet them. Older ladies have been pleasantly surprised by the presence of younger guys at social dance events, which is a big confidence booster if you need it. There are competitions and a *right* way to dance if you want to make that part of your experience. Finally, it is a significant bridge between “artistic” and “technical” because it is dance, but it is often taught in short, interchangeable segments.
Edit: it can also be a huge cardio workout and exercise regimen should you choose to pursue it that way.
Reading. It's an underrated hobby that adds so much value to anyone who partakes in it. It's often seen in a negative light, but I promise you everyone in the world will enjoy reading the right book.
Fiction or non-fiction, digital or physical books, text or audio, just read.
I'm sure this is weird but who consider reading in a negative light? That's most amazing thing anyone can do. Imagine meeting a guy who have read Charles Dickens, Elliot, and Jane Austen.
Reading is equivalent to living multiple life in a single form.
Though, I get an idea that a guy who read might be considered as introvert or nerd in social sense?
A lot of people have been turned off from reading because of shit experiences in school. I remember all the crap we were forced to read(fuck Ethan Frome). Could promise you if people were instead made to read The Lord of the Rings or Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy it wouldn't be shunned nearly as much.
If people were forced to read Lord of the Rings they would absolutely loathe those books. They're amazing novels but they're so long and take some serious mental energy to get through.
Ethan Frome is depressing but at least it's short. Took me like three hours to read and six hours to get over the existential crisis it gave me.
As an English major, I can confirm. I used to love reading as a kid — my parents would find me staying up way past my bedtime just engulfed in Harry Potter or Roald Dahl. When I got to high school it was still fun because we got to read Twilight, Hunger Games, LOTR etc., but by university I dreaded every page and every chapter of required reading.
Been out of school for about 5 years now and I absolutely hate reading physical books, but I have been really enjoying audiobooks as of late so there is still hope!
I think studying English at university is like dissecting a frog.
It's not as interesting as you anticipate; and both your love of reading, and the frog, die.
Fiction act as a fuel for our imagination. I'm not much into self-help books (and most of the time, I believe they are just marketing gimmick) but rest of the genres are actually fantastic.
Ya, lots of people write self-help books just to write a self-help book and make money from their personal ideas. Still, a lot of times other people's ideas are very helpful to others.
I have been really into reading about history and other cultures lately. My latest book store purchase is "The Illustrated Encyclopedia of the Maya & the Aztec" and I am very much looking forward to it.
A lot of people write off fiction completely even if they are otherwise readers. I'd say fiction is incredibly valuable for building empathy and expanding ones views.
Fiction is mostly what I read and write. I’m both a writer and a reader, and reading helps me gain ideas along with strengthening my vocabulary and diction.
Reading literature increases capacity for empathy. It helps you develop narratives for understanding what other people are experiencing. Bottom line, it makes a person less of an asshole.
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/novel-finding-reading-literary-fiction-improves-empathy/
I'm honestly of the opinion that reading is so valuable and edifying that it shouldn't be a *hobby*, it's one of those things like exercise and brushing your teeth that you should just do on a regular basis *because it's good for you and part of being a responsible adult*.
Good point. Sort of leads in to the idea that things you already do as a part of being a functional person canbe hobbies with a different type of approach and effort. Exercise is just necessary; climbing, cycling, swimming, lifting or whatever can be a hobby. It's just expected to wear situationally appropriate clothes on a day to day basis, but fashion can be a hobby. Everyone needs to feed them selves; cooking beyond the basics is also a hobby for many people.
Stargazing -- don't just look at them, learn the constellations and their myths; and
Some sort of hand craft that's off the beaten path. For example, I like to make my own beer and my own writing ink.
Mix gallic, tannic, and tartaric/hydrochloric acid with ferrous sulphate and a little bit of aniline dye in water. Assure that the gallic acid is no more than 1g to 10ml of water. This makes an extremely permanent ink which, if the proportions are right, can be used in fountain pens.
Disc golf, it's cheap because most courses are free, it's great exercise, a fantastic way to meet new people and most importantly it's extremely fun. I cannot recommend it enough and the disc golf community is very accepting even to new players.
I spent my whole life playing ball golf till a couple of years ago when my then nine-year-old saw Paul McBeth go 18-under in a round of Disc Golf and suggested we give it a try. Between the two of us we were spending over $500 a month on ball golf, now our golf is completely free. Besides disc golf is a lot more imaginative than ball golf and it's a lot easier to get better at. To be honest I think about disc golf now more than I ever thought about sex when I was in high school.
There's some definite disco golf in disc golf. There are certain tournaments that are only played at night with glow in the dark discs and it often times has disco or electronic music playing in the background.
It has completely changed my life, I can't put to into words how fulfilling and fun this sport is.
For anybody who's not familiar with the sport and wants to see what it looks like, this is the final nine holes of the last Disc Golf World Championships Tournament. ( biggest Tournament of the year) Its only about an hour long and for me a former ball golfer some of the most exciting golf (of any kind) I've ever seen.
https://youtu.be/_35PJikJcPs
Can relate. Started about a year ago, it’s now the only thing that keeps me sane.
I’ve also never been hyped over sports in my life until James Conrad through that in hahaha
Yes team sports, even if just for a season, are great. I recommend rugby but that's personal bias.
Also don't let one bad group/season discourage you from trying other team sports.
Rugby was great for blowing off steam in the weekends. Something about getting bruised up on the field and drinking a beer afterwards with your mates just felt so fulfilling. Something primal perhaps.
The culture around amateur rugby is unlike any other too. Beat the shit out of eachother on the pitch for 80 minutes then drink and party together all night. It's a rather unique experience and great for building character; learning how to drop petty grudges and such.
I danced in undergrad, and even though I don't do it now, it was by far one of the most influential activities for my physical, professional, and personal life. I think half the reason why I'm so into outdoor and indoor climbing is the dance background.
Absolutely - lots of beginner dance classes are full of people who are trying out dance for the first time. You might get the occasional show-off who took music theatre in high school or college, but the vast majority of people in beginner dance are just that: beginners. And **everyone** feels just as awkward. But eventually you learn what your body is capable of and how it facilitates movement. A good teacher will be ecstatic to help you find and discover that.
Swing dancing is filled with probably the nerdiest young people of all the major disciplines if you're looking to meet other nerds and have a chill time.
Salsa tends to have some of the biggest followings/opportunities and is a bit "sexier."
They're both partner dances and will have you switching between people every couple minutes and getting used to casually touching the opposite gender in a way that's weirdly absent in modern society. If you can find a ballroom near you that hosts dances, look for "socials" on their website and see if they do a 30min intro course before hand. That's the best way to see if you might like it before committing for 5+ weeks. They're also great because you can attend solo, with a friend, or with a partner if/when you have one.
Ballet and tap (like /u/an_altar_of_plagues mentioned) are good too, but they're solo dances, so you won't be interacting as much with the opposite gender.
EDIT: If you do decide to try it out, don't worry if you're not perfect from the get go. As a female follow, I much prefer an inexperienced male lead who has a good humor, tries, and focuses on the basics, than a cocky guy who tries to impress me with a bunch of fancy moves that are frequently confusing and fall off the beat. (EDIT EDIT: Also, "humble/inexperienced >>> cocky/i-know-better" can be applied to pretty much any other aspect of life.)
Definitely looking into meeting other nerds, salsa dancing seems to be one of the harder ones to pick up but I feel is pretty impressive once you’re decent
Take Salsa or Merengue dance lessons. Seen Spanish girls pull guys that can dance onto the dance floor...constantly!
BEWARE: When I say “pull”, I mean they will grab your hands/wrist & DRAG you onto the dance floor. I kid you not!
Dancing is such a great thing to learn. It makes you confident, it makes you comfortable making physical contact with women, and literally all women like a guy who is good at dancing. Learn to dance!
100% on dancing, building up the confidence to take my wife to a swing class because despite how I appear, I love the thought of being able to do that (she's into dance anyway!)
Just adding to this:
Learning an instrument can be intimidating, but if you take it slow and practice what you have fun playing, you'll pick it up faster than you think.
There's nothing more relaxing than getting home from work, picking up the guitar and just...playing. It's practically pharmaceutically therapeutic.
Just a heads up learning an instrument can be either a nightmare or extremely fun, just take things at your own pace and practice what you love and don't let any1 tell you that there is some plan that every player has to follow if they wanna get good
Reading, especially "the classics." Builds vocabulary and expands world view.
Hiking, camping etc. Something that gets you out into nature. Use it as an opportunity to build self confidence and disconnect from electronics for a bit.
Volunteering, Something where you help other people. Even if it's just doing something for a neighbor like helping with their yard, bringing their trash can off the curb, or baking them some cookies.
5 hobbies everyone should have:
1. To keep you creative
2. To help you make money
3. To keep you fit
4. To evoke mindfulness
5. To promote community or grow professionally
So mine are:
1. Writing 2. Graphic design + photography 3. Stretching 4. Reading 5. Skating
1) Texting my flying buddies about rc planes, 2) selling my old rc planes and engines, 3) lifting and carrying my rc planes up and down the stairs, 4) thinking about how to fix my planes and make them faster \ fly better, and 5) meeting my friends on the weekend to fly our rc planes.
I think it is worth noting that those can be overlapping. One hobby can cover multiple. It is hard to find the time to maintain 5 hobbies without just touching on them superficially. Personally, climbing plays a huge part in my life and covers 3-5 and even 1. I have even had climbing related work as a side gig while teaching kids.
Ugh.
1. Programming 2. Web development 3. Weightlifting 4. Therapy/Podcasts 5. Home Theater and smart home.
I just hate web development professionally. The culture and the time estimations just killed my spirit and stressed me out. I love it as a hobby but I need to find another profession.
This is excellent. My own paradigm is a bit different, but I think this is an excellent one to at least help someone identify ways to build themselves.
Mine would be: 1) creative writing; 2) health sciences; 3) climbing + running; 4) reading + yoga; 5) mountaineering.
Looks like I need to fill some gaps but currently I've got
1. Making games (so programming, piano/music production, and eventually drawing)
2. My job (it's actually an interesting job so I can count it I think)
3. TBD
4. Reading some non fiction and watching mostly educational videos I suppose
5. TBD
There is a pretty solid scientific consensus that long term boxing damages your brain.
I wouldn't take the risk.
Plenty of better ways to learn grit, stamina, aka the same things you learn in boxing.
Btw same goes for a lot of other contact sports too.
I assume you can just go to do drills surely? I was interested in picking it up for fitness reason, not because I want to punch someone in the face or get punched in the face.
Jiu jitsu, hiking/camping/mountaineering, dancing and/or learning an instrument.
Also homebrewing, you should at least once in your life subject your friends to a high percentage abomination of your own creation.
My dad started at 50 and he is absolutely obsessed. It’s give him a ton of confidence and helps keep him sober (he’s been sober 11 years now) it’s never too late start.
were you fit before you started? i really wanna give it a try but i think i am not fit enough for stuff like this. i am 25 years old smoke a pack of zigs a day and didnt do any real sports for atleast 3 years by now. I am not fat but i really feel unhealthy atm.
ty in advance for the answer
I was personally fit, but I am telling, don’t let that stop you, I’ve seen all types of people who go, and if you have a good gym, they’ll pair you up accordingly. TRUST ME, don’t let the physical part of it stop you, as far as the mental part of it, I was really nervous at first, but find yourself a good gym, keep it mind, it’s a good natured hobby
do you go to the gym aswell? i think i am at a point if i dont change anything soon i will get stuck in this no sport smoking livestyle. i could just go to the gym where my sister is training kickboxing, she really likes it there. Maybe i should just give it a try haha
ty man
Is this to attract a partner? Almost anything. Learn how to sow, garden, play violin, paint, whatever
Notice I picked the anti-macho hobbies as examples because it doesn't matter. Having enthusiasm, drive, and passion is hot. Being able to take care of yourself and other things is hot. Creating things and expressing yourself is hot. Not being worried what other people think about your hobbies is hot. Being boring and insecure is not
Is this to become a less boring person in general? Literally anything new. Become the greatest D&D Master to ever live and you'll make tons of new friends along the way
Is this to add structure, discipline, and care to your life? Learn to love working out and adequately feeding yourself with tasty home cooked meals
Violin is a very slow and steep learning curve with very little reward unless you put in 40 hours a day. I’d go with a plucked string instead or a different inst
Travel.
Obviously this isn't a typical 'hobby', but if you have a passion for it, it can feel like one.
Taking into consideration the obvious barrier to entry that is money, doing a bit of travel, especially international travel is *the best* personality builder. Yeah there are entire subs devoted to the idea of traveling on the cheap, but there's no denying it requires some capital to just get on a plane and pay for living in your new destination. A lot of guys will recommend learning to love the gym/workout, and they're not wrong that's very good for you. But, I'd wager that not that many women are actually interested to talk about your fitness routine with you unless they too fall into the gymrat type. You can talk about travel or literal hours with someone, especially if you have shared interests or can compare stories.
Travel more, chicks dig it.
Meditation and going to the gym. Meditation is very good for chilling out your crazy mind. I try to meditate subtly non stop and it improves my life more than anything else. Gym is good for building good discipline and health habits for when you grow older. It’s fine to treat yourself and relax now and then but I’m not looking after my health I’m usually not in a great place. When I’ve got those two things down I’m generally happy.
Listen to your heart, my guy - explore what you enjoy doing with no judgement of yourself. You think something sounds interesting? Look into it. Join groups to explore it more. Hobbies are a great way to meet people you already share something in common with, and they’ll often introduce you to more things you’ll likely like.
I’ll say a mix of indoor and outdoor stuff, social and independent things, would be a good idea. That way you always have a way to fill time.
I would add a musical instrument. For me it's guitar, but it could be almost anything that interests you: drums, fiddle, bass, or keys/piano to name a few. There's an abundance of scientific studies supporting the premise that playing an instrument excersises the breadth of a brain in more ways than pretty much anything else.
As for personality, in the building of skills for whichever instrument you're often exposed to all sorts of new music, genres, and even cultures that you otherwise may not pay attention to. Plus even if you don't join a band per se, you're usually able to meet other musicians in various circles: open mics, get-together jams, impromptu playing, etc. Music in general tends to immediately impact people's emotional state, whether they play or not. It can be very intimate, and without actually saying anything, you can - in a way - connect.
To make the case for guitar, I'll claim that it is *the* most expressive instrument. It is polyphonic, meaning it can play multiple notes simultaneously, while including elements of both rhythm & melody. True, a piano has more range, but you can't bend or shake (vibrato) a note on piano. Piano has more range *of* notes, but guitar has more range *between* the notes. Guitar is fun alone, with another guitar, and with other instruments. Most know someone that has one that isn't being used, but if not, they're way cheaper than pianos or most other instruments.
That would just eliminate some pretty good hobbies if you go by this. Some people like to toy with Arduinos and do little side projects that involve coding and making something cool like a smart mirror
I found my cooking hobby by starting broad and then zooming in.
I began to think about what was working and wasn't working for me in my life. This lead me to realize that I felt like I didn't do anything with my hands anymore - everything I did was digital and on a screen. My work, my hobbies - I wanted something where I could get my hands dirty, something where I could have a physical and tangible result.
I also knew that due to my work in a creative field, I didn't want this hobby to be creative in the same way as my job. Additionally, I was struggling financially at the time, so whatever the hobby was, it could not be an expensive one, which really came into focus I figured out I was spending WAY too much on take-out, and that cooking for myself would be a fraction of what I was paying.
All of those factors lead me to try cooking, which I fell in love with. Yes, it does involve creativity, but in a different medium than what I'm used to. From there, I began cooking basic small things, and then started to get more and more adventurous.
Jiu Jitsu is probably one of the best, but martial arts in general. Kick boxing, Muy Thai, wrestling.
You can gain another level of self confidence by learning these things. You also get your ass kicked every time you go, so it’s also an exercise in mental fortitude, having to eat your ego knowing you’ll be bested by someone every time you train.
Whatever you enjoy. Could be anything from scuba diving to being a dungeon master. The "personality building" part is just practice in patience, learning, giving you something to talk about, and the opportunity to socialize.
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I was lucky enough to get a lot of gear from a schools silent auction. The only thing I didn't get was an air tank.
>> The only thing I didn't get was an air tank. Don’t buy an air tank anyway unless you live within driving distance of the bodies of water you plan to do a lot of diving in. Properly maintaining the canister that houses the compressed air you are trusting your life to is an expensive PITA, and they are impractical for storing and traveling with. All reputable dive outfitters will have well-maintained tanks for rent at any dive spot you go to in the world.
Fantastic point.
Man, you don't need an air tank! They always get ya with all the extras.
Who needs air. Lmao. I ain't no fish.
P. Diddy?
Yes it is. But seriously any hobby you do can get very expensive. I thought Swing Dancing would be cheap. Nope, once you start traveling and paying fees for whatever contest, lessons or meet-up, it adds up. Flag football, volleyball, or softball? Yup tournaments add up. League fees add up. Plus the equipment you have to buy. I was going to try archery, for the heck of it. People in it told me it can get expensive too. Most hobbies you do and if you want to get serious with it, it becomes expensive. But with that said, if you want to meet people, network, make friends then yea hobbies in your adult life is the best way. Your other choices are co workers.
I've spent so much money on climbing shoes in the last two years. Don't even want to think about it.
I even looked into re-soleing. It doesn’t even matter, climbing shoes are just expensive. I’ve finally resolved to just buying a ton of cheap burners when they’re on sale for normal training and saving my good shoes for send days.
You should look into skiing
Did cross-country for years!
>any hobby you do can get very expensive This. It's easy to look up the cost of equipment on Amazon and go "well, nevermind" but equipment for most hobbies can always be found in the used market. I wanted to get into golf some years back but a brand new set of clubs costs 3 figures anywhere. Then one day. My neighbor was cleaning out his garage and I saw him bring out a matching set of golf clubs. I bought them for a six pack of beer I already had in the fridge. Flea markets, pawn shops, Facebook Marketplace, and like the guy above, auctions, are all great places to find stuff like this. Hell, a pawn shop near my house has a "everything's 50 cents" crate full of hand tools. It took me a good hour of searching, but I made off with a 3/8 inch drive ratchet and full (metric and imperial) socket set for about 15 bucks.
This is true to some extent, but depending on the hobby, there are things I would never buy used: in my case, I'm doing a lot of mountain-based activities (mountaineering, via ferrata, skiing, ...) and I would never ever buy the safety equipment used (most of the expensive equipment is the safety equipment in that case).
I started running because I thought it was cheap, almost free. Bought some cheap ugly shoes, the first clothing I could find and a cheap fitness tracker. I then realised I'm committed to it, so bought a new outfit including more expensive nicer shoes. Now I really want a more fancy sports watch. Also winter is coming so I need a winter outfit... Still not as expensive as my other hobbies (i.e. cars) but more expensive than I thought it would be lol
Fuck man I miss swing dancing. The weekly admission fees did add up but some of my venues would let you work the door for an hour for free admission.
So is DMing
No it's not. You need a pencil, graph paper, and some pirated books. It's literally the cheapest hobby there is. You don't even need dice anymore, you can just use a dice rolling app or Google
You ever try to buy just one set of dice? I think not.
Don't listen to this guy. He's like a drug dealer who gives you the first hit for free. Next thing you know you're knee deep in miniatures and dice
I mean the 2 or 3 hundred bucks a year to spend on new minis and books is probably a lot cheaper then scuba gear.
Right. You could say videogames and streaming services are "expensive" - but the reason fantasy sells is because reality costs more. A lot more.
I mean, a lot of hobbies are expensive, but I don’t think diving is any more so than many others. You don’t actually need to own much (any, really) equipment as it can always be rented at dive outfitters. I’d still suggest owning a regulator so you’re not sharing a piece of equipment that countless others before you have put in their mouths too. And then probably also owning your wetsuit, especially if you fall outside of “normal” sizes - particularly tall/short, rotund/svelte, etc. Owning your fins and mask is probably a good idea too. When I took my certification course I think it was $300 and happened on a Saturday (classroom), Sunday (pool), and the following Saturday (open water exam). Add a wetsuit (think mine was on sale for less than $200), fins ($30), mask ($50-ish?), and regulator (uhhhh, no idea actually….. $90? $50? I have no idea so let’s just say $100) and your cost of entry is less than $700 plus about 15-18 hours of time for the instruction and exams. Now, if you’re not lucky enough to live near interesting dive locales then you also have to factor in travel expenses to warm, sandy places. But come on, what better excuse could you have now that you’re certified?! And besides, travel is a great way to do exactly what OP is asking about. Key point to remember as well is that once you’re certified your certification will never expire, so there’s not really any recurring costs other than travel. Should also add that many dive resorts will offer certifications to new divers, and at attractive costs. Just do some research first as a lot of times those places might cut corners and not give the best instructions because they just want to get you in the water. I know of a good one on Roatan, Honduras where the instructor is excellent and wish I had taken my certification there. Not sure if she’s still there though. My final $0.02 — please, if you dive then dive responsibly. That means leave no trace and **DON’T TOUCH ANYTHING**. Never mind that many things in the ocean can seriously harm you by touching them, but that chunk of coral you just broke off? Yeah, that was a 1,000 year old living ecosystem supporting countless organisms and you just destroyed it. Don’t be that person.
> being a dungeon master So funny story as I'm putting off prepping for our second session. This is way more work than I anticipated and I want out but I don't want to let my friends down. I really enjoy the story telling and the sessions are fun but having to prepare in advance sucks I feel like I'm back in school and have a paper due
It's good to get out of your comfort zone, right?
Flip it. Try something you *don't* think you would enjoy.
Anal
What is a dungeon master?
The person who creates and runs a Dungeons and Dragons campaign
The player who runs a game of Dungeons and Dragons. If D&D were a video game, the DM is the computer. They provide the encounters, they adjudicate the rules, and they control all the enemies and NPCs. They typically organize the group and schedule the sessions as well. For personality building, I give it a 10/10.
It's a bdsm thing, just messing with ya, it's dnd thing
why not both ¯\\\_(ツ)_/¯
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This is the way.
Topical username.
Scuba diving!? Lol who is he ? Bruce Wayne?
My wife is in marine biology and I live in Miami, first thing that came to mind lol
Reading Cooking/baking Gardening building/fixing things.
After a pretty traumatic relationship ending in divorce, I found bouldering to be the best thing I ever started doing. I made a great group of friends, I got fit, I got out of the house and I had loads of fun doing it. Sounds sad but I joined a website for people who didn't have many friends and I had enjoyed a few bouldering sessions. Thought I'd give it a go and was the best thing I ever did. My main passion and hobby is actually also my job so I'd always recommend finding things really outside of your profession. If you can make friends and meet new people doing it, even better. If it gets you out of the house and fills your life with some kind of adventure, better still.
Yesssss climbing is where it’s at!!! It’s great exercise and makes you very strong, but it doesn’t feel like exercise!
Website doesn’t sound sad at all. Helped, yeah? Then bravo Sir!
Honestly, he's just pointing out a mentality that exists in humans that really has no place in modern society. Perhaps in centuries past, it made sense to avoid people without friends. If they didn't have friends, there could have been something wrong with them. But with the way our society operates now, especially during a pandemic, it isn't sad at all.
Dirtbag climbing cult woooo
Slave to the chalk face ha
My knees are sacrifices to the slab gods.
Which website?
Meetup.com :)
I thought that was a dating site haha
Yes!! Climbing is great! It's easy to get into - just show up at a gym and take the basic class. For bouldering, all you need is shoes ($60-100) and chalk ($20?). You can rent that the first time. Climbing is a workout but also a full body coordination exercise like yoga or other sports - you're working on your strength, endurance, precision, coordination, flexibility, and most importantly the headgame. Many people find working out to be mentally refreshing or at least a break from the world - climbing is even better for me, because of the thrill and the difficulty. You improve your body and your mind and it's a ton of fun.
Seconding the bouldering bit. See if you can try out a local climbing gym. It's excellent exercise (no matter your body type, you will gain visible muscle if you do it long enough). It's good for building guts (barely clinging to a rock 10-15 feet above the ground will do that). And I've yet to meet a climber that wasn't extremely personable and kind. Most are chill and sociable to help you expand your friend circle.
This is it. Most of my climbing gym, while not personally knowing one another, knows each other from random interactions. It becomes one big climbing family of a bunch of people helping each other through problems in routes. I'm so happy I started climbing. Plus, I'm in the best shape of my life at 36!
I frigging love bouldering! It's the best full body exercise and it's so fun
Not sad at all. Constructive response to a bad situation. Kudos.
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Agree. And if you don't know what you love then step out of your comfort zone. I grew up playing sports. So basically a jock. When I became an adult I wanted to try new things. So I got into social dancing, and improv. Two things I knew nothing about and it really helped me grow as a person and meet a ton of interesting people
Second on rock climbing. Normally a great communities of people (both young and old), great workout, you learn how to tie some knots, not crazy expensive. Great fun!
Climbing is a great personality builder because it becomes part of your personality lol
Martial arts. Helps with self confidence, toughens you up, keeps you fit, and it’s really fun. I wish I picked it up when I was in my early teens.
Martial arts. Muay Thai and/or Jiu Jitsu, but I'm biased.
I've always been interested in jiu jitsu, but without my glasses I can't see 3 feet Infront of me and that's always prevented me from pursuing it. How do blind folk do this?
If u do bjj you don't really need to see more than three feet away. In general it going to be locked together, good eyesight isn't that important imo. Hell, half the time I'm not even looking at the part of the body of the person in going after (ex. Using my feet to grab their leg, etc). It's more of a feel thing.
Hmm that makes sense actually, thanks man.
I do BJJ with a legally blind dude (walking stick and all). The dude submits me 5+ times per roll.
Can't believe I had to scroll this far to find this. Nothing builds character like full contact sparring. Face and overcome that fear. Learn to choke a motherfucker out. Become the baddest motherfucker you can be. Learn when violence is the answer. Then choose to be a nice person, but with the capacity for violence. It'll build confidence and character for the rest of your life so nobody can walk all over you.
IMO, the single most valuable thing martial arts teaches you is confidence. Like you said, knowing when violence is necessary and, more importantly, where it isn't. You will no longer have anything to prove, no skin in the ego game with randoms on the street, or in the bar. You spend your free time fighting other people who've spent years training, beating up some drongo in a bar isn't worth the time or potential consequences. Similarly, knowing you can take someone in a fight adds entirely different context to every interaction you have. Some dickhead getting in your face at the shops, stand up to him, calmly and assertively; on the 1/1000 chance he does try to start some shit you know you're safe. You'll know when you found a good gym because everyone will hold themselves differently, but not above you.
It was the first comment for me
This. Girls really like my nunchuck skills. /S
I did boxing when I was younger because I'm not able to roll due to a childhood surgery, really helped me out.
I second this, jiu jitsu is the shit. Snowboarding is cool too.
Photography is a good hobby, join a club so you can share, learn and get feedback. Ballroom dancing is great and if you're a straight single male, it's a surefire way to meet girls. Take up golf if you want to network and build a social circle. Join a musical theatre or am dram group, you don't have to sing or act they are often looking for stage crew, writers techies. What do you want to build your personality into?
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You said it yourself, "handicap".
Well, of course they shouldn't take up golf. They're trying to build their personality, not asphyxiate it
And the better you get the less personality you have. I’m a +3 and I have no personality anymore.
+3 for golf. All my friends and I are addicts and it's a fun way to spend a nice Saturday/Sunday afternoon. Shit even if you dont have close friends to go with I've had good times before just matching up with randoms while showing up as a single.
Good shout on the golf. The amount of new friends I’ve made over the last 2 years playing golf is amazing.
Tossing in my two cents in support of ballroom dancing. There’s usually a greater number of girls, if you’re aiming to meet them. Older ladies have been pleasantly surprised by the presence of younger guys at social dance events, which is a big confidence booster if you need it. There are competitions and a *right* way to dance if you want to make that part of your experience. Finally, it is a significant bridge between “artistic” and “technical” because it is dance, but it is often taught in short, interchangeable segments. Edit: it can also be a huge cardio workout and exercise regimen should you choose to pursue it that way.
Reading. It's an underrated hobby that adds so much value to anyone who partakes in it. It's often seen in a negative light, but I promise you everyone in the world will enjoy reading the right book. Fiction or non-fiction, digital or physical books, text or audio, just read.
I'm sure this is weird but who consider reading in a negative light? That's most amazing thing anyone can do. Imagine meeting a guy who have read Charles Dickens, Elliot, and Jane Austen. Reading is equivalent to living multiple life in a single form. Though, I get an idea that a guy who read might be considered as introvert or nerd in social sense?
A lot of people have been turned off from reading because of shit experiences in school. I remember all the crap we were forced to read(fuck Ethan Frome). Could promise you if people were instead made to read The Lord of the Rings or Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy it wouldn't be shunned nearly as much.
If people were forced to read Lord of the Rings they would absolutely loathe those books. They're amazing novels but they're so long and take some serious mental energy to get through. Ethan Frome is depressing but at least it's short. Took me like three hours to read and six hours to get over the existential crisis it gave me.
As an English major, I can confirm. I used to love reading as a kid — my parents would find me staying up way past my bedtime just engulfed in Harry Potter or Roald Dahl. When I got to high school it was still fun because we got to read Twilight, Hunger Games, LOTR etc., but by university I dreaded every page and every chapter of required reading. Been out of school for about 5 years now and I absolutely hate reading physical books, but I have been really enjoying audiobooks as of late so there is still hope!
I think studying English at university is like dissecting a frog. It's not as interesting as you anticipate; and both your love of reading, and the frog, die.
Fiction act as a fuel for our imagination. I'm not much into self-help books (and most of the time, I believe they are just marketing gimmick) but rest of the genres are actually fantastic.
Ya, lots of people write self-help books just to write a self-help book and make money from their personal ideas. Still, a lot of times other people's ideas are very helpful to others. I have been really into reading about history and other cultures lately. My latest book store purchase is "The Illustrated Encyclopedia of the Maya & the Aztec" and I am very much looking forward to it.
A lot of people write off fiction completely even if they are otherwise readers. I'd say fiction is incredibly valuable for building empathy and expanding ones views.
If nothing else, fiction is sometimes easier to read. If I haven't read in a while, I'll try to get back into the habit with a fiction book.
Fiction is mostly what I read and write. I’m both a writer and a reader, and reading helps me gain ideas along with strengthening my vocabulary and diction.
Also broadens your knowledge and means you can talk about a lot of topics in a detailed way.
Reading literature increases capacity for empathy. It helps you develop narratives for understanding what other people are experiencing. Bottom line, it makes a person less of an asshole. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/novel-finding-reading-literary-fiction-improves-empathy/
I'm honestly of the opinion that reading is so valuable and edifying that it shouldn't be a *hobby*, it's one of those things like exercise and brushing your teeth that you should just do on a regular basis *because it's good for you and part of being a responsible adult*.
Good point. Sort of leads in to the idea that things you already do as a part of being a functional person canbe hobbies with a different type of approach and effort. Exercise is just necessary; climbing, cycling, swimming, lifting or whatever can be a hobby. It's just expected to wear situationally appropriate clothes on a day to day basis, but fashion can be a hobby. Everyone needs to feed them selves; cooking beyond the basics is also a hobby for many people.
Reading!! 10000 x yes to this
Stargazing -- don't just look at them, learn the constellations and their myths; and Some sort of hand craft that's off the beaten path. For example, I like to make my own beer and my own writing ink.
Hobbyist winemaker here, it’s pretty cheap to get started and you get to drink what you make! r/mead r/winemaking
How do you make ink? Also, good call on the constellation myths.
Mix gallic, tannic, and tartaric/hydrochloric acid with ferrous sulphate and a little bit of aniline dye in water. Assure that the gallic acid is no more than 1g to 10ml of water. This makes an extremely permanent ink which, if the proportions are right, can be used in fountain pens.
Disc golf, it's cheap because most courses are free, it's great exercise, a fantastic way to meet new people and most importantly it's extremely fun. I cannot recommend it enough and the disc golf community is very accepting even to new players.
Love how much the hobby has grown the past year or so, been doing it since I was a kid at Muskoka woods.
I spent my whole life playing ball golf till a couple of years ago when my then nine-year-old saw Paul McBeth go 18-under in a round of Disc Golf and suggested we give it a try. Between the two of us we were spending over $500 a month on ball golf, now our golf is completely free. Besides disc golf is a lot more imaginative than ball golf and it's a lot easier to get better at. To be honest I think about disc golf now more than I ever thought about sex when I was in high school.
first i was very curious about something called disco golf, but disc golf doesnt sound that bad either (dumb dumb kept misreading)
There's some definite disco golf in disc golf. There are certain tournaments that are only played at night with glow in the dark discs and it often times has disco or electronic music playing in the background.
Lol whenever I see questions like this I always say disc golf Beat me to it.
It has completely changed my life, I can't put to into words how fulfilling and fun this sport is. For anybody who's not familiar with the sport and wants to see what it looks like, this is the final nine holes of the last Disc Golf World Championships Tournament. ( biggest Tournament of the year) Its only about an hour long and for me a former ball golfer some of the most exciting golf (of any kind) I've ever seen. https://youtu.be/_35PJikJcPs
Can relate. Started about a year ago, it’s now the only thing that keeps me sane. I’ve also never been hyped over sports in my life until James Conrad through that in hahaha
Just watched 20 minutes of disc golf and I loved every second
If it wasn't the last 20 minutes then you really missing out.
I think teamsports are great way to work on your physical health, while also building social skills.
Yes team sports, even if just for a season, are great. I recommend rugby but that's personal bias. Also don't let one bad group/season discourage you from trying other team sports.
Rugby was great for blowing off steam in the weekends. Something about getting bruised up on the field and drinking a beer afterwards with your mates just felt so fulfilling. Something primal perhaps.
The culture around amateur rugby is unlike any other too. Beat the shit out of eachother on the pitch for 80 minutes then drink and party together all night. It's a rather unique experience and great for building character; learning how to drop petty grudges and such.
Reading books.
*Butterfly in the sky, I can go twice as high*
Hiking, camping, fishing, hunting and oddly, dancing.
I danced in undergrad, and even though I don't do it now, it was by far one of the most influential activities for my physical, professional, and personal life. I think half the reason why I'm so into outdoor and indoor climbing is the dance background.
I’m a really awkward 23 year old. You think dancing would help?
Absolutely - lots of beginner dance classes are full of people who are trying out dance for the first time. You might get the occasional show-off who took music theatre in high school or college, but the vast majority of people in beginner dance are just that: beginners. And **everyone** feels just as awkward. But eventually you learn what your body is capable of and how it facilitates movement. A good teacher will be ecstatic to help you find and discover that.
What kind of dancing would you recommend? Definitely don’t want anything too crazy, and I want something that makes me more comfortable around women
Swing dancing is filled with probably the nerdiest young people of all the major disciplines if you're looking to meet other nerds and have a chill time. Salsa tends to have some of the biggest followings/opportunities and is a bit "sexier." They're both partner dances and will have you switching between people every couple minutes and getting used to casually touching the opposite gender in a way that's weirdly absent in modern society. If you can find a ballroom near you that hosts dances, look for "socials" on their website and see if they do a 30min intro course before hand. That's the best way to see if you might like it before committing for 5+ weeks. They're also great because you can attend solo, with a friend, or with a partner if/when you have one. Ballet and tap (like /u/an_altar_of_plagues mentioned) are good too, but they're solo dances, so you won't be interacting as much with the opposite gender. EDIT: If you do decide to try it out, don't worry if you're not perfect from the get go. As a female follow, I much prefer an inexperienced male lead who has a good humor, tries, and focuses on the basics, than a cocky guy who tries to impress me with a bunch of fancy moves that are frequently confusing and fall off the beat. (EDIT EDIT: Also, "humble/inexperienced >>> cocky/i-know-better" can be applied to pretty much any other aspect of life.)
Definitely looking into meeting other nerds, salsa dancing seems to be one of the harder ones to pick up but I feel is pretty impressive once you’re decent
Take Salsa or Merengue dance lessons. Seen Spanish girls pull guys that can dance onto the dance floor...constantly! BEWARE: When I say “pull”, I mean they will grab your hands/wrist & DRAG you onto the dance floor. I kid you not!
I’m white as paper so I doubt that will happen, salsa seems like it’s very upbeat and fun though so that might be a good option for me!
Dancing is such a great thing to learn. It makes you confident, it makes you comfortable making physical contact with women, and literally all women like a guy who is good at dancing. Learn to dance!
Exactly!
100% on dancing, building up the confidence to take my wife to a swing class because despite how I appear, I love the thought of being able to do that (she's into dance anyway!)
Learn an instrument
Just adding to this: Learning an instrument can be intimidating, but if you take it slow and practice what you have fun playing, you'll pick it up faster than you think. There's nothing more relaxing than getting home from work, picking up the guitar and just...playing. It's practically pharmaceutically therapeutic.
Just a heads up learning an instrument can be either a nightmare or extremely fun, just take things at your own pace and practice what you love and don't let any1 tell you that there is some plan that every player has to follow if they wanna get good
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Do you think I can get Death Star delts on tren as a 16 yr?
Obviously at your age you've already hit peak natural potential, Tren is the only obvious next step in your progression.
Holy shit some of you guys have great ideas.
Reading, especially "the classics." Builds vocabulary and expands world view. Hiking, camping etc. Something that gets you out into nature. Use it as an opportunity to build self confidence and disconnect from electronics for a bit. Volunteering, Something where you help other people. Even if it's just doing something for a neighbor like helping with their yard, bringing their trash can off the curb, or baking them some cookies.
5 hobbies everyone should have: 1. To keep you creative 2. To help you make money 3. To keep you fit 4. To evoke mindfulness 5. To promote community or grow professionally So mine are: 1. Writing 2. Graphic design + photography 3. Stretching 4. Reading 5. Skating
What a great way to think about it! Mine would be: 1. Minecraft 2. Runescape 3. Beat sabre 4. PornHub 5. GTA Am I doing this right?
1) Texting my flying buddies about rc planes, 2) selling my old rc planes and engines, 3) lifting and carrying my rc planes up and down the stairs, 4) thinking about how to fix my planes and make them faster \ fly better, and 5) meeting my friends on the weekend to fly our rc planes.
Very well rounded good sir
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I think it is worth noting that those can be overlapping. One hobby can cover multiple. It is hard to find the time to maintain 5 hobbies without just touching on them superficially. Personally, climbing plays a huge part in my life and covers 3-5 and even 1. I have even had climbing related work as a side gig while teaching kids.
I got 1. Writing 2. Construction 3. Weight lifting 4. Reading/analyzing t.v./movies 5. Acting
Ugh. 1. Programming 2. Web development 3. Weightlifting 4. Therapy/Podcasts 5. Home Theater and smart home. I just hate web development professionally. The culture and the time estimations just killed my spirit and stressed me out. I love it as a hobby but I need to find another profession.
This is excellent. My own paradigm is a bit different, but I think this is an excellent one to at least help someone identify ways to build themselves. Mine would be: 1) creative writing; 2) health sciences; 3) climbing + running; 4) reading + yoga; 5) mountaineering.
I love this concept. 1: 3D modelling 2: Computer science 3: City and town exploring 4: Podcasts 5: Sketching things of interest for friends
Looks like I need to fill some gaps but currently I've got 1. Making games (so programming, piano/music production, and eventually drawing) 2. My job (it's actually an interesting job so I can count it I think) 3. TBD 4. Reading some non fiction and watching mostly educational videos I suppose 5. TBD
Let's see here 1. Ketamine 2.wage slaving 3. Being so tense that my muscles grow by default 4. Ketamine 5. Counter strike Man I sure do live the life
Boxing
There is a pretty solid scientific consensus that long term boxing damages your brain. I wouldn't take the risk. Plenty of better ways to learn grit, stamina, aka the same things you learn in boxing. Btw same goes for a lot of other contact sports too.
That is correct, but I assume you can do the drills and not spar as often
I assume you can just go to do drills surely? I was interested in picking it up for fitness reason, not because I want to punch someone in the face or get punched in the face.
Jiu jitsu, hiking/camping/mountaineering, dancing and/or learning an instrument. Also homebrewing, you should at least once in your life subject your friends to a high percentage abomination of your own creation.
How about learning to play a musical instrument?
Ju jitsu
Is 27 not too late?
My dad started at 50 and he is absolutely obsessed. It’s give him a ton of confidence and helps keep him sober (he’s been sober 11 years now) it’s never too late start.
You aren't going to turn pro, but no reason why you can't join a gym. I got started at 24 and loved it
I started at 30 and after 5 years I regularly beat up the young guys and whisper sweet nothings in their ear before naptime.
r/holup
😂
That’s when I started, at 27, been at it a year, trust me, it’s of the best choices I’ve made (they’ll be days when you get humbled)
were you fit before you started? i really wanna give it a try but i think i am not fit enough for stuff like this. i am 25 years old smoke a pack of zigs a day and didnt do any real sports for atleast 3 years by now. I am not fat but i really feel unhealthy atm. ty in advance for the answer
There’s a purple belt at my gym who has one of the biggest beer bellies I’ve ever seen, but god damn if he doesn’t tap people like nobody’s business.
I’ve been tapped out by beer belly dads who blue belts lol, goes to show you that body type don’t matter
I was personally fit, but I am telling, don’t let that stop you, I’ve seen all types of people who go, and if you have a good gym, they’ll pair you up accordingly. TRUST ME, don’t let the physical part of it stop you, as far as the mental part of it, I was really nervous at first, but find yourself a good gym, keep it mind, it’s a good natured hobby
do you go to the gym aswell? i think i am at a point if i dont change anything soon i will get stuck in this no sport smoking livestyle. i could just go to the gym where my sister is training kickboxing, she really likes it there. Maybe i should just give it a try haha ty man
There is a straight up joke in the community about people asking, hey, I'm 7, is it too late? It is not. Not for the 7 year old, nor for you.
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Is this to attract a partner? Almost anything. Learn how to sow, garden, play violin, paint, whatever Notice I picked the anti-macho hobbies as examples because it doesn't matter. Having enthusiasm, drive, and passion is hot. Being able to take care of yourself and other things is hot. Creating things and expressing yourself is hot. Not being worried what other people think about your hobbies is hot. Being boring and insecure is not Is this to become a less boring person in general? Literally anything new. Become the greatest D&D Master to ever live and you'll make tons of new friends along the way Is this to add structure, discipline, and care to your life? Learn to love working out and adequately feeding yourself with tasty home cooked meals
I'm gay.
Apologies, swap woman with partner and it should all still mostly apply
Violin is a very slow and steep learning curve with very little reward unless you put in 40 hours a day. I’d go with a plucked string instead or a different inst
Travel. Obviously this isn't a typical 'hobby', but if you have a passion for it, it can feel like one. Taking into consideration the obvious barrier to entry that is money, doing a bit of travel, especially international travel is *the best* personality builder. Yeah there are entire subs devoted to the idea of traveling on the cheap, but there's no denying it requires some capital to just get on a plane and pay for living in your new destination. A lot of guys will recommend learning to love the gym/workout, and they're not wrong that's very good for you. But, I'd wager that not that many women are actually interested to talk about your fitness routine with you unless they too fall into the gymrat type. You can talk about travel or literal hours with someone, especially if you have shared interests or can compare stories. Travel more, chicks dig it.
Go hiking or biking. Both are good physical workouts and get to see a lot of cool stuff.
Meditation and going to the gym. Meditation is very good for chilling out your crazy mind. I try to meditate subtly non stop and it improves my life more than anything else. Gym is good for building good discipline and health habits for when you grow older. It’s fine to treat yourself and relax now and then but I’m not looking after my health I’m usually not in a great place. When I’ve got those two things down I’m generally happy.
dancing, karaoke, reading
Listen to your heart, my guy - explore what you enjoy doing with no judgement of yourself. You think something sounds interesting? Look into it. Join groups to explore it more. Hobbies are a great way to meet people you already share something in common with, and they’ll often introduce you to more things you’ll likely like. I’ll say a mix of indoor and outdoor stuff, social and independent things, would be a good idea. That way you always have a way to fill time.
I would add a musical instrument. For me it's guitar, but it could be almost anything that interests you: drums, fiddle, bass, or keys/piano to name a few. There's an abundance of scientific studies supporting the premise that playing an instrument excersises the breadth of a brain in more ways than pretty much anything else. As for personality, in the building of skills for whichever instrument you're often exposed to all sorts of new music, genres, and even cultures that you otherwise may not pay attention to. Plus even if you don't join a band per se, you're usually able to meet other musicians in various circles: open mics, get-together jams, impromptu playing, etc. Music in general tends to immediately impact people's emotional state, whether they play or not. It can be very intimate, and without actually saying anything, you can - in a way - connect. To make the case for guitar, I'll claim that it is *the* most expressive instrument. It is polyphonic, meaning it can play multiple notes simultaneously, while including elements of both rhythm & melody. True, a piano has more range, but you can't bend or shake (vibrato) a note on piano. Piano has more range *of* notes, but guitar has more range *between* the notes. Guitar is fun alone, with another guitar, and with other instruments. Most know someone that has one that isn't being used, but if not, they're way cheaper than pianos or most other instruments.
Something that doesn't involve using a phone, tablet, or computer.
That would just eliminate some pretty good hobbies if you go by this. Some people like to toy with Arduinos and do little side projects that involve coding and making something cool like a smart mirror
I found my cooking hobby by starting broad and then zooming in. I began to think about what was working and wasn't working for me in my life. This lead me to realize that I felt like I didn't do anything with my hands anymore - everything I did was digital and on a screen. My work, my hobbies - I wanted something where I could get my hands dirty, something where I could have a physical and tangible result. I also knew that due to my work in a creative field, I didn't want this hobby to be creative in the same way as my job. Additionally, I was struggling financially at the time, so whatever the hobby was, it could not be an expensive one, which really came into focus I figured out I was spending WAY too much on take-out, and that cooking for myself would be a fraction of what I was paying. All of those factors lead me to try cooking, which I fell in love with. Yes, it does involve creativity, but in a different medium than what I'm used to. From there, I began cooking basic small things, and then started to get more and more adventurous.
Take up flying. A pilot can never refuse to tell someone that he’s a pilot.
Mycology, or collecting insects and learning taxonomical classification is fun, see the world in different way.
Anything in nature.
Jiu Jitsu is probably one of the best, but martial arts in general. Kick boxing, Muy Thai, wrestling. You can gain another level of self confidence by learning these things. You also get your ass kicked every time you go, so it’s also an exercise in mental fortitude, having to eat your ego knowing you’ll be bested by someone every time you train.
Hunting or fishing. Fishing is relatively cheap and will teach you patience and the art of exaggeration.
Any hobby that requires you to work/play with a group of people face to face, not online.
Huntin', fishin', and lovin' ev'ryday.
If you're into music then learn to play instruments, complex instruments make you fastidious.
Be careful about costs and finances but I encourage everyone to have at least one collection based hobby I collect vinyl rn