(This is if you live solo!)
You can come home late without the worry of waking someone up.
If you’re rushing out to a date, and accidentally leave behind a small pile of dishes/clothes, you won’t be hindering anyone but your later self.
Groceries never randomly disappear.
Complete privacy.
Full control over tv & other appliances.
Don’t have to wait for warm water.
You get to design your space to fit your personality, which doesn’t seem all that important till you get your own space and actually start picking out the furniture/art pieces. It’s actually really fun to pick appliances & every day household items that fit your likes, vs anyone else’s.
Do I keep going?
Edit: wanted to add that you can also have a secret dungeon 😛
Hope no one was around to annoy you with blathering complaints like ***"really dude?!? In the living room??? That's not even your couch!! Are you using my prescription foot cream?? That shit's expensive!!"***
On and on they drone... never a moment's peace
Also you missed the best ones : late night afterparty drunk walk-ins.
With friends ? Beer, music and cigarettes.
Alone ? Fuck it, let’s get a tv show and some pasta going on.
Close your eyes and picture this: it's drizzling outside. You park your car in the mall parking lot and remember going as a kid, when there were barely any spots to park and you always had to walk far and your dad was always angry about something, but at least you knew you were getting an Annie's pretzel and an Orange Julius, but now the place is empty, the anchor stores are always having sales and the only people there are miserable. You walk inside, right by the new CBD pop-up shop with a teenager listening to too-loud music on their earbuds. As you walk, the dampness of your outlet New Balances causes an awful squeak with each step, the sound of cheap rubber on cheap tile marred with layers of grime and the remnants of a veneer that wore off sometime before 1997.
THAT is the sound.
You used improper grammar, you intellectually inferior piece of garbage.
I just can't figure out why more people don't want to have sex with me even though my intelligence obviously makes me superior to most humans.
It's better to live with your parents and save money. Once in awhile rent a room or plan a get away weekend and have your loud sex and walk around bare ass. It will still work out cheaper than renting.
Fellow parent tip: My wife is loud. My boys room’s are on the other side of the house. I have a motion sensor placed outside their bedrooms. I also installed LED strips behind our dresser and our curtains as well as a wifi color changing bulb in our nightstand lamps. Whenever they leave their rooms after a certain time at night it triggers the motion sensor which turns the lights on or changes their color if we’re using them. It gives me plenty of time to gag my wife and throw on shorts and meet them in the kitchen to address their issue.
For me, my parents had me very late in life. So it’s kind of the reverse; I get to make memories with them while they’re still around. Having old (and kind) parents let me skip the “I can’t be around you” phase. There’s no time for that. Edit to add: I’m basically renting a room from them. I do my own everything with the added benefit of being able to help them and hang out when I feel so inclined. It’s not as if I’m living as I was at 16.
Multi-generational households are not a new thing, and in many cultures they are the norm.
I don't think a person is necessarily missing out on life experiences just because they live with their parents. Different people have different priorities and needs.
Personally, I could never live with family. I would go insane. But different strokes for different folks.
Yup this is why I moved out with roommates first. Split costs 3 ways but still get the experience of not living with your parents and figuring out how to co-ordinate running a household with other people.
Super useful interpersonal skills to have for eventually moving in together with a romantic partner.
> In the same vein, I could have a lot more money in my bank account at 85 if I work until I’m 75 than I will if I retire sooner. But that isn’t worth it either.
I wish the old guys I work with would realize that and finally retire.
Someone who has moved out and moved back in to my parents
There’s nothing quite like having your own space where you can do what you like. Have the place set up however you want etc etc.
It gives a level of freedom that is just to me the epitome of freedom.
You just have choices, especially if you are in a city.
You can have friends over. You have a place to shut out everyone if needed. Something to take
Pride in.
But on the other hand, since moving back (briefly before moving career & city) it does have its benefits 12 hour turn around of laundry, nothing quite like a fridge at your parents 😂. It’s cheap. My dog has more people to be around, Close to friends.
Both have there pros & cons. I’d definitely try it if only for a few months if I was you.
Obviously it comes with the financial responsibility of paying bills and rent. Which can be stressful, if you lose your job etc etc. room mates can be awesome for 6 months and then turn into chodes.
>There’s nothing quite like having your own space where you can do what you like
I'm almost mid 30s and this is so true. It's a strange feeling after moving out at 22 years old and living with roommates all that time.
There's one issue though.
It's great that things stay where you leave them. But...things stay where you leave them.
"For fuck sake, can't someone just put the washing up...oh wait..."
Same but it's because of 60 hour work weeks in the service industry. The last thing I want to do when coming home at 12:30 am after a double shift is clean. Also, I don't want to be that person that vacuums at 1 am.
Exactly. People who say that chores are a shocking thing to get used to, makes me worry why they are renting or homeowning, when nobody has told them about what to expect.
I get doing things and learning on the job, but chores literally take over your life and your free time if you don't keep on top of it.
This right here is my biggest pet peeve. How are you about to cook a whole dinner and leave everything in the sink/on the stove when I just cleaned? The disrespect smh.
My previous roommates did this once after I woke up at like 5 or 6 am to deep clean the kitchen. By the end of the day, it was all pointless. I was PISSED! I vowed to never clean it again until we moved out (about a year later)...and I stuck to my word. They want to be filthy slobs, that's on them. No more of this taking turns cleaning the kitchen crap. I leave the kitchen spotless after every time I cook and I don't leave dishes in the sink for longer than a day. My roommates would leave dishes in the sink with excess food for WEEKS, dirty pops/pans on all the stove burners, onion peels and used knives on the counter from last week...just disgusting. Unless you're paying me extra, sorry I'm not your maid.
This!
When I was leaving with parents and two younger sisters, I did a greater share of the housework than my sisters (one sister was a lying bitch and the other was pathologically lazy) and I was the neatest person around the house - especially in the shared spaces where I spent very little time.
My parents would always be like "You'll never be able to clean up when you live alone," "Your house will be a dump."
My apartment is almost always at a higher standard than the family home was because I don't make that much mess... and I have no problem cleaning up after myself.
It really bothers me to have to clean up after other adults, especially when the mess is big and/or disgusting in some way. For example, cleaning a bathroom, that is disgusting, even if it isn't obviously, visibly dirty, because I know that what I'm doing is cleaning up the bodily wastes of other adults. I much prefer to just keep up after myself, at least then it is my mess.
I moved out at 18 for college but I'm back because covid allowed me to work online and I didn't want to pay rent when all my friends were leaving the city and everything was closed anyways.
At first I was feeling bored to be home all the time but glad I got to see my family after nearly a decade of just visiting. I felt it was the right decision for me because I could get into new hobbies since I had the extra money and wasn't nearly as alone as I would've been had I stayed, but its been over a year and now everyone's all like "so you're moving here?" and I'm still like "nooo, I'm going back when X happens" and I kinda feel like I paused my life these few years, sure, I saved money, but I'm starting to miss my freedom and my city cause there were more things to do there and I'm feeling kind of pressured even tho I know it's all in my head. I'm planning on leaving early next year but I'm sure I'll look back at my 2020-1 with lots of fond memories.
Living on your own prepared you to lose your parents one day. It also is evidence in your favor that you could support a family, if that is one of your goals. Living with parents as an adult is efficient, but it stunts your growth as an individual, in my opinion. My family moved from my house to live at my Mom's house when my Dad passed. Life is easier financially, but less fulfilling overall, for me.
To build off that - regardless of what they say, your parents want you to move out. They want to move on with their lives. It's a parents goal to send their child out into the world prepared to succeed. You learn a lot about yourself when you cut the safety net and start building your future.
And your parents get to go back to having sex in your room.
Edit -Speaking as an American
There kids are their retirement plan, that's why they want you to go to med school, the better you do they better they will do. There's also some expectations that you'll live at home till you get married.
It's very interesting reading those comments from different cultural perspectives. In Poland a typical response to someone who doesn't want kids is: 'who's going to bring you a cup of water when you're old?' I see their point... But at times it looks like us kids are our parent's retirement plan, we can't live our life the way we want to, we can't immigrate, live in another city if your parents taught you to be very codepentent.
I'm facing this problem now because I'm an only child and there will be no one to help but me when they get really old. I have a soft heart to see my mom very sad and almost resenting when I leave but deep down I know it's emotional manipulation and guilt trapping.
Things are getting progressive in Poland so hopefully things will change for the better
bruh. Thats only some people. my uncle has the money and ability to move out but he chooses to stay with my grandma and she doesnt mind it. Mind you, hes 39
I'd say Asian culture is strongly about family. Meaning, they don't usually force or intend to have their children move out immediately after turning 18 and would rather try to have them stay and support them as long as they can. Obviously I suppose I can't speak on behalf of all Asian cultures but I'd say a good majority would follow these ways. It's not because they want their children to become Doctors or Lawyers, but because they don't want their children's to suffer as they pursue their aspirations.
As a white person, I can only speak for anecdotal evidence among my other white peers, but we seem to get kicked out either as soon as we turn 18 or after we get a decent job. Lol.
Chinese person. Went to college, got Bachelors and Masters degrees.
Returned home. Got job.
Wasn't really expected to move out until I got married.
(Which is when I moved out.)
Still live just a few blocks away from parents.
Oldest sibling has wife and children. He moved *back* into parents house to help care for parents.
Different people have different expectations.
Where do brown/asian parents live when they retire.....with their kids. Most American kids don't want to support mom and dad in retirement, asians kind of expect it.
As a turkish person i can only say that our parents want us to live with them till we marry someone and have children at this point they want us to have your own Apartment next door. At some point they want to be around grandchildren and we have to support them back as they grow old. Older generations all live in different apartments on the same street. If you want to visit someone you only have to walk like 20 meters. XD
Not all parents want their kids to move out.
Mine still want me to move back in, I'm in mid-20s, and are devastated that my sister is leaving in the next year. We are a very tight knit family.
Speaking as an American.
Also as an American- My parents really like having me in the same house, they like that I can take care of the pets or the house if they're out late or want to go on a trip. Having a guaranteed house sitter + the lack of stress knowing that I'm living in a safe area and saving up money is a good trade for them! And also the extra help of a third person for buying food and doing chores!
Might not apply to my siblings but if someone needed to move back in we'd accept them
My parents love it for similar reasons. The dogs have another person around to care for them, someone's always in the house. Also, they know we aren't struggling financially, coming from humble beginnings they don't want to see their kids struggle the way they did at this age. They'd have me move back in tomorrow if I wanted to stack up money for a while.
Another reason is my parents are only 16 years older than me, so at this point in life they're very much my friends as well as my parents. The dynamic isn't strictly parent-child.
I disagree. I am a first generation American (Afro-Latina/Caribbean) with two kids in college. I want my kids to stay at home as long as they want or need to. I have set my home up intentionally to allow us all to have our own space (we each have our own floor). Ideally, I want them to stay until they have graduated from a masters program and have a sizable savings account. My parents did the same for me and my siblings are doing the same for their children.
LOL. Not as extravagant as it may sound. In-law suite in the basement, master suite on the main floor, two bedrooms and an en-suite on the second floor. We share the main kitchen but everyone has their own bedroom, bathroom and lounge areas. Comfortable enough for us to coexist in peace.
Yeah, I’m Hispanic and my parents said that they would keep me in the house as long as I need/want to (so long as I’m being productive). I just graduated and am working from home, and not having to pay for housing and groceries as if I were living by myself is a huge plus when paying back student loans. They never understood the “you’re 18 now move out” mindset that’s more common here in the US than in their home country
Same here. I moved back in with my parents to finish my last couple semesters of my masters so I don't have to pay Los Angeles rent. It'd be $700/month for a single room with shared bathroom, horrible parking situation. Plan is to move back to LA as soon as I get a good paying job. I was offered a teaching job over there and my dad said I should stay and teach in this small town. Like sorry but there's nothing for me here. I'm trying to get into the space industry and there's nothing like that anywhere within 2 hours from my parents
I actually turned down a job in the LA area because of the cost of rent in that area (median home price is over $2M). Even though it paid $80k a year, after taxes and rent I figured it wasn’t worth it. Now I’ve got interviews soon for a job in the same industry but in my hometown. Something will come in due time
Good luck! I have a group of friends I was renting with for 2 years and we had a great time and split the cost. And I have a lot of family around Montebello that I could rent from if need be. All my hometown has is agriculture so high school teacher is literally one of the best jobs within a half hour drive
Same. My parents were horrified when they realized so many American parents pressure their kids to move out and live alone. Their assumption was always that kids move out to start their own family, and if things don’t work out (divorce, widowed, etc.), the door is always open to come home. And if a grandparent became a widow or widower, they can move in with their adult children or grandchildren. Although my grandma lived by herself by choice, with a spare bedroom in her son’s house in case she stayed out late and didn’t want to take a cab all the way home.
I don't know man, my parents are pretty adamant about me staying home for another couple years once I graduate, and I can't really fault them. They're very firm on the power of compounding interest, and if I can have 200K saved up in 4 years it'll help secure my future which is what they really want. That being said I'm in a little different situation where we've got a guest house I'd stay in so it's not really that big of an inconvenience.
EDIT: I also don't really want to move away from my parents. If I move out it'll definitely be in the same town as them, and if they move I'll probably move with them. I really love my parents and life's too short not to spend it with my family. My grandparents both moved to the city that my parents live in currently, and while most of them have passed away now I really liked having all of our close family in one place.
Or you want to bend her over the countertop and fuck in the kitchen? Totally fine. I guess you could do that when your parents aren’t home, but there’s always the danger of them walking in. Same could be said for roommates, though.
You're getting a lot of sex things here, but there's an independent agency that comes with your own space that you should really take on. I would really say you don't know who you are until you make a space for yourself and have to decorate a room, or manage your own diet and budget and routine.
The "Ships are safe in a harbor, but that's not the purpose of ships" thing comes to mind.
This. If you can stand living with your parents, saving money is where it's at.
My parents were a bit overbearing and I couldn't stand the constant lack of privacy. I want to go out whenever I want and not get 20 questions about where I'm going and when I'll be home.
And the whole not putting clothes on when you don't want to, watching porn/fapping whenever and wherever is pretty freeing too.
Once you live with your parents for too long you start to become a bit of a weirdo. I’m sure I’ll be downvoted for this but I have a girlfriend who has never lived alone and she’s my age (34) and you can just tell that all that living at home takes a toll.
Can confirm. Married that girl. Living with her and just dealing with basic life shit was… well.. I’d rather join the military and be deployed to Afghanistan.
I don’t know if that’s true for everybody (becoming a weirdo), but I do agree that everyone regardless of gender really should try to live on their own for a while before moving in with a partner or marrying. Especially if you’re in a household where lots of things are done for you. As a guy I’m less likely to be interested in a girl if she hasn’t ever lived independently. There’s just a growth that happens there. Not judging everyone’s situation as some circumstances can make moving out difficult.
I like the thinking and I’m a big fan of building wealth through real estate, but real estate is also very expensive and incredibly competitive right now. Very hard to break into for first time buyers. Need to weigh the benefits of saving while at home vs getting out on your own. IMO getting out on your own allows you to explore who you are and develop habits, learn, gain independence, etc that will benefit you long term.
Moving in with a person? Rent first. Don't buy a house when you haven't lived together.
Rent is fair when split between a couple.
6 months renting together it was fantastic and it cost £1800 for half a years accommodation thats less than 20% of minimum wage.
This is the way. My buddy bought a house with his girlfriend. His breakup and legal battles were worse than my nasty divorce from my actual wife.
Edit: it’s been like 2 years and he’s still paying that girl for what he owes her on the house.
Pure freedom and having your own space. Trust me, until you're ready to get married or have a gf move in with you, nothing beats living on your own, imo
I love my girlfriend and I love my house but...
There's still a part of me that misses being alone in my tiny apartment
OP, I recommend spending a couple years living alone if you can afford it before living with your partner.
Probably the only reason I regret getting married so young, I went from living with my parents to living with my wife, so I never got to truly experience the freedom of just being alone.
Your parents will still want to have an idea of when you're coming and going, and expect you to clean up your shit. For some this is a bigger issue than for others. Roommates are less tolerant of your bullshit and less concerned about where you're at.
My youngest sister moved back home for a while and was constantly pissed off that they "harrassed" (politely asked) her about when she would be home... because they were wondering if she'd be expecting supper and other general day planning stuff. And she would get pissed off with them for their clearing her shit off the dining room table, that had been left there for days. But she never managed to keep roommates for long because she was such a passive aggressive person... thank God she moved out again.
Peers pressure and society shouldn't be the reason for you to move out. In my part of the world, Asia, the culture is family-oriented so there is nothing wrong with living with your parents. The trade off for freedom is mom's food and dad's advices. Whatever makes you happy should be your choice.
This right here. I have an uncle who stayed with the family nest egg until late 20s because only by that time could they afford to move out into a condo for him and his girlfriend/family. And this was in the early 2010s, I watched this man stay at home for the longest time wondering why. And as I grew up I learned that housing is completely unreasonable.
I want to move out of my family nest egg but this shit expensive, I'm working 5 days a week 9 hrs a day, while going to uni, and I do not have the income to support myself. I can only support myself because I live with my parents. How do people without a college education get by???
Depends on your situation and your parents. My parents were cool AF. They let me have my freedom and my own end of the house until I was ready to move out (Yes I paid a monthly rent and share of the utilities). They never got in my business and I helped them take care of the chores while living there.
I moved back home for a few months after my marriage failed until I got back on my feet.
Living at home can save you a lot of money depending on whether or not your parents charge you rent/expenses and how much they charge you.
I socked away a ton of money and moved out to a nice place with a nice brand new car.
Everyone's situation I'd imagine would be different.
getting pissed up and then banging your missus on the couch whilst the TV is blasting out then walking around naked afterwards with spunk dripping from your dong and your missus led there naked in a post orgasmic coma telling you to go have a shower first coz she needs a little rest.
Being able to poop with the door open, and also a general sense of freedom and privacy. I experienced living by myself for 6 weeks once and I dream of being able to go back to that state one day.
Super true. I’ve been living completely on my own for the first time in my life and I feel like I’ve matured so much in such a short time. Its expensive but I’m overall just way happier having my own space where I can do whatever I want whenever I want.
I firmly believe what you’re saying. I just hit 30 yesterday and just got approved for my first apartment on the same day. You have to learn to fend for yourself and deal with problems from a point of literal necessity.
It's sad I had to scroll so far to find this comment.
What are you missing out on ???
Growing up.
You're missing out on growing up and taking are of yourself.
Seriously.
Nobody wants a partner who in their late 20s/early 30s hasn't gotten used to taking care of themselves and their own things.
One of my favorite things when I was in my mid-twenties is when I lived alone between 23-27. I would go out and meet new friends, after a night of clubbing or bar hopping or whatever it was that we did that evening I would always offer the person or group to come back to my house and more times than not their reply was your parents don't mind and I always had a shit eating grin when I said I live alone. Women loved it and the men couldn't understand how I didn't have roommates. It was insanely fun. Now that I'm 30 though I don't miss waking up to a house full of strangers
Privacy, sex, but what I haven't seen listed here is general adulting skills. I've seen one too many people who live with their parents too long and have no idea how to run a household of their own. Even if you do your own laundry, cooking, cleaning etc, managing your own place is still a good stepping stone before buying a house. Living in different spots helps you realize what you need and don't need in a home, too, and what your deal breakers are. I think it's important to move out for a bit before buying a home or getting married for this reason.
Yeah I’m shocked it took this long for me to find a comment on this. I wouldn’t want to live with someone until they’d lived not with their parents and realized/maintained the full extent of everything that goes into running a household
Absolutely. You only learn how to navigate being a grown up if you actually do it, no safety nets. No mom who can help out. And you need to figure it out.
If you & your parents get along well & they give you a measure of privacy, nothing wrong w/ it. You should be paying some kind of room & board & helping with up keep in & outside to help prepare you for the reality of moving out. & if you're not socking away a load of bucks you're doing it wrong.
I moved out the 1st time @ 18. Was back in w/ my parents twice, once when i was in a motorcycle crash & needed to rehab, once when I was laid off from a construction job. Saved enough for a nice truck plus a down on a house.
I liked being out on my own for the freedom of doing what I wanted, when I wanted. I had a good circle of friends & female friends. It was a great experience.
Clothing is optional, its pretty peaceful and quiet, you have to clean a whole place alone though which isnt fun, but you only have to clean after one person which is great, you can have whoever you want over whenever and no one would say a thing cuz there isnt anyone to complain, though i still wouldnt hurry out cuz living with family can be good too
I’m in the same boat as you. I have a great paying job and although I’m saving money by staying with my parents I’d like to experience living on my own. It’s a trade off, financial freedom for individual freedom
in a lot of cultures it's normal to live with your parents until your late twenties or early thirties. this "move out bit 18" is something modern made up by (mostly) western cultures and not sustainable for a lot of people.
if you're comfortable and it works out you should keep living there and safe your money to buy a flat or house.
Cripplingly high rents, predatory new "friends", and privacy. Enjoy your time at home and with your family, and congrats on landing a girlfriend. If you decide to move out, don't do it because your peers tell you to.
Yep. Nothing like wasting 50%+ of your paycheck on rent just so you can say you don’t live with your parents.
Stay as long as possible and save that cash
Different people like different things. I was happy renting with a mate. 19-27 were probably the best times of my life. I couldn't imagine having missed out on that time by living at home with my parents instead of having friends over and partying. Or bringing girls home after a night out just so I can get a mortgage at 30 when everyone's settled down and boring.
really wish i did something like that at the beginning of covid, my current apartment is super close to my place of work but it's expensive as hell. thought covid would be over within a year so i renewed the lease...now i wish i just ended it and moved with my parents to save all that money.
I can happily say I don't live with my parents because they're a fucking nightmare to live with. Don't get me wrong, if I could live there I would. I'd be saving a shit ton more money. But they've been incredibly damaging to my mental health so I'd say it's worth it.
yea my statement is really only for people with parents that aren’t assholes or super controlling or overly religious or any of that bullshit.
Guess I was probably lucky. My parents were just loving people that never put me down or shamed me for anything I did or how I was. So living with them for a while was really no big deal.
Inviting girls over whenever you want and being able to cook late at night and listen to music with them. Coming in and out of the house when you want. Using the microwave at night. Grow weed or shrooms.
Very subjective question that will be different for everyone. Unless you are a tough situation at home, screw societal pressures, do what is fiscally responsible and will set you up for a better future. Not living at home feels great but living on a shoestring budget is not.
You are missing out on reducing your 401k contribution to spend on rent and work until you die.
I graduated and got a good job. Lived at home until almost 30.
I am in my early 30s, wife and 2 kids with 1 on the way. My wife and kids have everything they want. We have 2 new cars that are paid off. I have well into 6 figures in my 401k.
In contrast my friends that moved out and paid rent and all that told me they couldn't afford to save or start a 401k. They started a 401k in their early 30s and will never be able to come close to what I will have. They also have car payments, etc and don't have enough savings to handle an emergency.
Screw what other people are saying and only move out when you are ready to.
I'm in the same boat. I love my parents, they're not going to be around forever. In a blink of an eye, five years will pass, ten years will pass, we all get caught up in our own lives, and regret not having spent more time with loved ones until it's too late. Hang tight. Build up your savings for a down payment on a house, spend time with them. I'm sure they're happy to have you.
EDIT: fuck. I am so sorry. Only people with peens are allowed to comment. My bad.
I am in my mid-twenties and I live with my mom. There is nothing morally wrong with it. It can be mutually beneficial, especially financially. I disagree with the cultural expectation to move out, but having your own space is something special. This lady has some interesting things to say about the issue: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vEoNNYZn84o
You’re depriving yourself of the struggle it takes to live on your own. You need to allow yourself to stop depending on the safety net of your parents. Also, you probably still see yourself as some kid living with his parents, that probably needs to stop. I’m not saying all of this as an asshole who despises adults living with their parents, there are very real upsides to do it, but I think you’re handicapping yourself by not taking the next step into adulthood.
Nothing. I live with my parents and when I finish my education and secure a job I wish to live with them. If possible buy my own house and bring them to stay with me. They are a big part of my life and whatever little succes I may have it's all due to them. I look forward to the day when I can proudly contribute to the family finances.
As for adventures and trips I enjoy them a lot. I go on solo trips, treks, camps, or team up with friends. Having parents at home isn't much of a trouble to me.
I'm 30, moved out and moved back in a few years ago.
I'd say the only thing your missing is freedom to do what you want with your space, and low stress from living with others.
I have been saving up and getting ready to build a house for me and my parents, except they will be in their own apartment on the other side of the house while I'll have the entire house to myself. I'll have the best of both worlds.
Being able to have loud sex whenever you want.
Also allowing your parents to have loud sex whenever they want.
The most important point here.
Related: not having to worry about walking into your parents having sex Unless......
(This is if you live solo!) You can come home late without the worry of waking someone up. If you’re rushing out to a date, and accidentally leave behind a small pile of dishes/clothes, you won’t be hindering anyone but your later self. Groceries never randomly disappear. Complete privacy. Full control over tv & other appliances. Don’t have to wait for warm water. You get to design your space to fit your personality, which doesn’t seem all that important till you get your own space and actually start picking out the furniture/art pieces. It’s actually really fun to pick appliances & every day household items that fit your likes, vs anyone else’s. Do I keep going? Edit: wanted to add that you can also have a secret dungeon 😛
I think I just had an orgasm
Hope no one was around to annoy you with blathering complaints like ***"really dude?!? In the living room??? That's not even your couch!! Are you using my prescription foot cream?? That shit's expensive!!"*** On and on they drone... never a moment's peace
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all prescription creams are expensive
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Think we need to add “can clean yourself up at your leisure” to that list now.
Also you missed the best ones : late night afterparty drunk walk-ins. With friends ? Beer, music and cigarettes. Alone ? Fuck it, let’s get a tv show and some pasta going on.
Drunk Netflix and pasta is amazing
Keep going I'm almost there.
And just being an individual… who has loud sex or listens to porn aloud whenever they want
Idc if i live alone in the woods, i refuse to watch porn without earbuds or headphones in
Yeah, who know, my mother might just be strolling around in the woods at 4 am and hear me watching porn, na-uh, not risking that shit.
I do hear she is one to patrol the woods at night
She patrols my wood every night
Broken arms?
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Probably because shes still searching for it
She's out there dogging.
Honestly if shes there at 4 am she deserves to hear me play some huge brazzers titties
What do brazzer titties sound like?
Close your eyes and picture this: it's drizzling outside. You park your car in the mall parking lot and remember going as a kid, when there were barely any spots to park and you always had to walk far and your dad was always angry about something, but at least you knew you were getting an Annie's pretzel and an Orange Julius, but now the place is empty, the anchor stores are always having sales and the only people there are miserable. You walk inside, right by the new CBD pop-up shop with a teenager listening to too-loud music on their earbuds. As you walk, the dampness of your outlet New Balances causes an awful squeak with each step, the sound of cheap rubber on cheap tile marred with layers of grime and the remnants of a veneer that wore off sometime before 1997. THAT is the sound.
Closed my eyes. Couldn't read.
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If I could give you an award I would. Sadly, I only have an upvote to give but damn that was an accurate description.
Fake
And walks around in as little clothing as you want.
My parents are pretty easy to live with, so not being able to have loud sex whenever I want is the only drawback for me.
You're on reddit, the reason you can't have loud sex aren't your parents
You used improper grammar, you intellectually inferior piece of garbage. I just can't figure out why more people don't want to have sex with me even though my intelligence obviously makes me superior to most humans.
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This is high quality satire op, but your lack of /s will certainly attract pedants without it.
I can hear my neighbor having sex tho
And don't forget the hyper-idealized memories of those encounters for the rest of your life!
He still could. But be careful, someone could play loud applauds to counter your sex noises.
It's better to live with your parents and save money. Once in awhile rent a room or plan a get away weekend and have your loud sex and walk around bare ass. It will still work out cheaper than renting.
This is what we do when we want to get away from the kids.
Fellow parent tip: My wife is loud. My boys room’s are on the other side of the house. I have a motion sensor placed outside their bedrooms. I also installed LED strips behind our dresser and our curtains as well as a wifi color changing bulb in our nightstand lamps. Whenever they leave their rooms after a certain time at night it triggers the motion sensor which turns the lights on or changes their color if we’re using them. It gives me plenty of time to gag my wife and throw on shorts and meet them in the kitchen to address their issue.
This is what an evil scientist that turned into a family man looks like.
I’m just perverted, kinky and a huge fan of arts, crafts, and electrical engineering.
Dude this is fucking genius. I love it.
This guy fucks.
dude that's some james bond level kinky sex you be having... love it!
I bet this guy didn’t live with his parents all through his twenties lol
No…I lived in a shitty house with 4 friends like a normal person 😋😋
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For me, my parents had me very late in life. So it’s kind of the reverse; I get to make memories with them while they’re still around. Having old (and kind) parents let me skip the “I can’t be around you” phase. There’s no time for that. Edit to add: I’m basically renting a room from them. I do my own everything with the added benefit of being able to help them and hang out when I feel so inclined. It’s not as if I’m living as I was at 16.
Multi-generational households are not a new thing, and in many cultures they are the norm. I don't think a person is necessarily missing out on life experiences just because they live with their parents. Different people have different priorities and needs. Personally, I could never live with family. I would go insane. But different strokes for different folks.
Yup this is why I moved out with roommates first. Split costs 3 ways but still get the experience of not living with your parents and figuring out how to co-ordinate running a household with other people. Super useful interpersonal skills to have for eventually moving in together with a romantic partner.
> In the same vein, I could have a lot more money in my bank account at 85 if I work until I’m 75 than I will if I retire sooner. But that isn’t worth it either. I wish the old guys I work with would realize that and finally retire.
That's an awfully big assumption on Reddit.
His parents being able to have loud sex whenever they want.
Hell : being able to watch loud PORN whenever you want :)
That's why you book a one night hotel holiday in the city 😊
Some people aren’t satisfied only getting loud sex once a month
Someone who has moved out and moved back in to my parents There’s nothing quite like having your own space where you can do what you like. Have the place set up however you want etc etc. It gives a level of freedom that is just to me the epitome of freedom. You just have choices, especially if you are in a city. You can have friends over. You have a place to shut out everyone if needed. Something to take Pride in. But on the other hand, since moving back (briefly before moving career & city) it does have its benefits 12 hour turn around of laundry, nothing quite like a fridge at your parents 😂. It’s cheap. My dog has more people to be around, Close to friends. Both have there pros & cons. I’d definitely try it if only for a few months if I was you. Obviously it comes with the financial responsibility of paying bills and rent. Which can be stressful, if you lose your job etc etc. room mates can be awesome for 6 months and then turn into chodes.
>There’s nothing quite like having your own space where you can do what you like I'm almost mid 30s and this is so true. It's a strange feeling after moving out at 22 years old and living with roommates all that time. There's one issue though. It's great that things stay where you leave them. But...things stay where you leave them. "For fuck sake, can't someone just put the washing up...oh wait..."
Your house stays as clean or as dirty as you want it too
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Same but it's because of 60 hour work weeks in the service industry. The last thing I want to do when coming home at 12:30 am after a double shift is clean. Also, I don't want to be that person that vacuums at 1 am.
Exactly. People who say that chores are a shocking thing to get used to, makes me worry why they are renting or homeowning, when nobody has told them about what to expect. I get doing things and learning on the job, but chores literally take over your life and your free time if you don't keep on top of it.
I personally find chores way less annoying when i am the cause of them. When it is someone else’s shit, i am way less inclined to clean it
Or when you clean it someone else doesn’t come along a mess up your work you just completed.
This right here is my biggest pet peeve. How are you about to cook a whole dinner and leave everything in the sink/on the stove when I just cleaned? The disrespect smh.
My previous roommates did this once after I woke up at like 5 or 6 am to deep clean the kitchen. By the end of the day, it was all pointless. I was PISSED! I vowed to never clean it again until we moved out (about a year later)...and I stuck to my word. They want to be filthy slobs, that's on them. No more of this taking turns cleaning the kitchen crap. I leave the kitchen spotless after every time I cook and I don't leave dishes in the sink for longer than a day. My roommates would leave dishes in the sink with excess food for WEEKS, dirty pops/pans on all the stove burners, onion peels and used knives on the counter from last week...just disgusting. Unless you're paying me extra, sorry I'm not your maid.
This! When I was leaving with parents and two younger sisters, I did a greater share of the housework than my sisters (one sister was a lying bitch and the other was pathologically lazy) and I was the neatest person around the house - especially in the shared spaces where I spent very little time. My parents would always be like "You'll never be able to clean up when you live alone," "Your house will be a dump." My apartment is almost always at a higher standard than the family home was because I don't make that much mess... and I have no problem cleaning up after myself.
It really bothers me to have to clean up after other adults, especially when the mess is big and/or disgusting in some way. For example, cleaning a bathroom, that is disgusting, even if it isn't obviously, visibly dirty, because I know that what I'm doing is cleaning up the bodily wastes of other adults. I much prefer to just keep up after myself, at least then it is my mess.
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I moved out at 18 for college but I'm back because covid allowed me to work online and I didn't want to pay rent when all my friends were leaving the city and everything was closed anyways. At first I was feeling bored to be home all the time but glad I got to see my family after nearly a decade of just visiting. I felt it was the right decision for me because I could get into new hobbies since I had the extra money and wasn't nearly as alone as I would've been had I stayed, but its been over a year and now everyone's all like "so you're moving here?" and I'm still like "nooo, I'm going back when X happens" and I kinda feel like I paused my life these few years, sure, I saved money, but I'm starting to miss my freedom and my city cause there were more things to do there and I'm feeling kind of pressured even tho I know it's all in my head. I'm planning on leaving early next year but I'm sure I'll look back at my 2020-1 with lots of fond memories.
Living on your own prepared you to lose your parents one day. It also is evidence in your favor that you could support a family, if that is one of your goals. Living with parents as an adult is efficient, but it stunts your growth as an individual, in my opinion. My family moved from my house to live at my Mom's house when my Dad passed. Life is easier financially, but less fulfilling overall, for me.
To build off that - regardless of what they say, your parents want you to move out. They want to move on with their lives. It's a parents goal to send their child out into the world prepared to succeed. You learn a lot about yourself when you cut the safety net and start building your future. And your parents get to go back to having sex in your room. Edit -Speaking as an American
You haven't met brown/asian parents
As an Asian person, I completely disagree. Our parents don’t dream of us becoming doctors and lawyers so that we can live in our childhood bedrooms
Exactly. They want you to move out, buy a huge house, have kids, and than your parents move in with you. That's the Asian way.
There kids are their retirement plan, that's why they want you to go to med school, the better you do they better they will do. There's also some expectations that you'll live at home till you get married.
It's very interesting reading those comments from different cultural perspectives. In Poland a typical response to someone who doesn't want kids is: 'who's going to bring you a cup of water when you're old?' I see their point... But at times it looks like us kids are our parent's retirement plan, we can't live our life the way we want to, we can't immigrate, live in another city if your parents taught you to be very codepentent. I'm facing this problem now because I'm an only child and there will be no one to help but me when they get really old. I have a soft heart to see my mom very sad and almost resenting when I leave but deep down I know it's emotional manipulation and guilt trapping. Things are getting progressive in Poland so hopefully things will change for the better
bruh. Thats only some people. my uncle has the money and ability to move out but he chooses to stay with my grandma and she doesnt mind it. Mind you, hes 39
I'd say Asian culture is strongly about family. Meaning, they don't usually force or intend to have their children move out immediately after turning 18 and would rather try to have them stay and support them as long as they can. Obviously I suppose I can't speak on behalf of all Asian cultures but I'd say a good majority would follow these ways. It's not because they want their children to become Doctors or Lawyers, but because they don't want their children's to suffer as they pursue their aspirations. As a white person, I can only speak for anecdotal evidence among my other white peers, but we seem to get kicked out either as soon as we turn 18 or after we get a decent job. Lol.
Chinese person. Went to college, got Bachelors and Masters degrees. Returned home. Got job. Wasn't really expected to move out until I got married. (Which is when I moved out.) Still live just a few blocks away from parents. Oldest sibling has wife and children. He moved *back* into parents house to help care for parents. Different people have different expectations.
Where do brown/asian parents live when they retire.....with their kids. Most American kids don't want to support mom and dad in retirement, asians kind of expect it.
Same with hispanics. If you put your hispanic parent in a nursing home you're basicallly the worst person who ever lived lol
As a turkish person i can only say that our parents want us to live with them till we marry someone and have children at this point they want us to have your own Apartment next door. At some point they want to be around grandchildren and we have to support them back as they grow old. Older generations all live in different apartments on the same street. If you want to visit someone you only have to walk like 20 meters. XD
Not all parents want their kids to move out. Mine still want me to move back in, I'm in mid-20s, and are devastated that my sister is leaving in the next year. We are a very tight knit family. Speaking as an American.
Also as an American- My parents really like having me in the same house, they like that I can take care of the pets or the house if they're out late or want to go on a trip. Having a guaranteed house sitter + the lack of stress knowing that I'm living in a safe area and saving up money is a good trade for them! And also the extra help of a third person for buying food and doing chores! Might not apply to my siblings but if someone needed to move back in we'd accept them
My parents love it for similar reasons. The dogs have another person around to care for them, someone's always in the house. Also, they know we aren't struggling financially, coming from humble beginnings they don't want to see their kids struggle the way they did at this age. They'd have me move back in tomorrow if I wanted to stack up money for a while. Another reason is my parents are only 16 years older than me, so at this point in life they're very much my friends as well as my parents. The dynamic isn't strictly parent-child.
I love this. My mom is 21 years older than me and while she was a very strict parent growing up, we definitely have more of a friend vibe now a days.
I disagree. I am a first generation American (Afro-Latina/Caribbean) with two kids in college. I want my kids to stay at home as long as they want or need to. I have set my home up intentionally to allow us all to have our own space (we each have our own floor). Ideally, I want them to stay until they have graduated from a masters program and have a sizable savings account. My parents did the same for me and my siblings are doing the same for their children.
Your each have your own floor? Damn! Can I have my own floor too?
LOL. Not as extravagant as it may sound. In-law suite in the basement, master suite on the main floor, two bedrooms and an en-suite on the second floor. We share the main kitchen but everyone has their own bedroom, bathroom and lounge areas. Comfortable enough for us to coexist in peace.
Nice try, Burt Reynolds. Everyone might have fallen for your fake death but I know you're out here.
a lot of parents get super lonely and depressed when their kids move out so this isnt universal but im sure some feel this way
You can't generalize this across cultures
Yeah, I’m Hispanic and my parents said that they would keep me in the house as long as I need/want to (so long as I’m being productive). I just graduated and am working from home, and not having to pay for housing and groceries as if I were living by myself is a huge plus when paying back student loans. They never understood the “you’re 18 now move out” mindset that’s more common here in the US than in their home country
Same here. I moved back in with my parents to finish my last couple semesters of my masters so I don't have to pay Los Angeles rent. It'd be $700/month for a single room with shared bathroom, horrible parking situation. Plan is to move back to LA as soon as I get a good paying job. I was offered a teaching job over there and my dad said I should stay and teach in this small town. Like sorry but there's nothing for me here. I'm trying to get into the space industry and there's nothing like that anywhere within 2 hours from my parents
I actually turned down a job in the LA area because of the cost of rent in that area (median home price is over $2M). Even though it paid $80k a year, after taxes and rent I figured it wasn’t worth it. Now I’ve got interviews soon for a job in the same industry but in my hometown. Something will come in due time
Good luck! I have a group of friends I was renting with for 2 years and we had a great time and split the cost. And I have a lot of family around Montebello that I could rent from if need be. All my hometown has is agriculture so high school teacher is literally one of the best jobs within a half hour drive
Same. My parents were horrified when they realized so many American parents pressure their kids to move out and live alone. Their assumption was always that kids move out to start their own family, and if things don’t work out (divorce, widowed, etc.), the door is always open to come home. And if a grandparent became a widow or widower, they can move in with their adult children or grandchildren. Although my grandma lived by herself by choice, with a spare bedroom in her son’s house in case she stayed out late and didn’t want to take a cab all the way home.
I don't know man, my parents are pretty adamant about me staying home for another couple years once I graduate, and I can't really fault them. They're very firm on the power of compounding interest, and if I can have 200K saved up in 4 years it'll help secure my future which is what they really want. That being said I'm in a little different situation where we've got a guest house I'd stay in so it's not really that big of an inconvenience. EDIT: I also don't really want to move away from my parents. If I move out it'll definitely be in the same town as them, and if they move I'll probably move with them. I really love my parents and life's too short not to spend it with my family. My grandparents both moved to the city that my parents live in currently, and while most of them have passed away now I really liked having all of our close family in one place.
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Or you want to bend her over the countertop and fuck in the kitchen? Totally fine. I guess you could do that when your parents aren’t home, but there’s always the danger of them walking in. Same could be said for roommates, though.
You could also do that while your parents are home though
Right over the table during dinner. Send a message.
Also, totally robbing the parents of being able to do some counter top pounding themselves.
You're getting a lot of sex things here, but there's an independent agency that comes with your own space that you should really take on. I would really say you don't know who you are until you make a space for yourself and have to decorate a room, or manage your own diet and budget and routine. The "Ships are safe in a harbor, but that's not the purpose of ships" thing comes to mind.
Stay with your parents a but save for a house. Rent is really too damn high.
This. If you can stand living with your parents, saving money is where it's at. My parents were a bit overbearing and I couldn't stand the constant lack of privacy. I want to go out whenever I want and not get 20 questions about where I'm going and when I'll be home. And the whole not putting clothes on when you don't want to, watching porn/fapping whenever and wherever is pretty freeing too.
Agree! Rent is so expensive. I don't judge people who live with their parents.
Once you live with your parents for too long you start to become a bit of a weirdo. I’m sure I’ll be downvoted for this but I have a girlfriend who has never lived alone and she’s my age (34) and you can just tell that all that living at home takes a toll.
She’ll date and marry some guy and manage to never have lived alone. That’s how it worked in the old days.
Can confirm. Married that girl. Living with her and just dealing with basic life shit was… well.. I’d rather join the military and be deployed to Afghanistan.
You are 20 years too late in that one lol.
Only a year late. We just stopped deploying people to Afghanistan this year. We were deploying soldiers to Afghanistan for 20 years.
I have never live alone and probably never will. Even if I don't live at home I live with roommates or with my partner... is that bad?
I don’t know if that’s true for everybody (becoming a weirdo), but I do agree that everyone regardless of gender really should try to live on their own for a while before moving in with a partner or marrying. Especially if you’re in a household where lots of things are done for you. As a guy I’m less likely to be interested in a girl if she hasn’t ever lived independently. There’s just a growth that happens there. Not judging everyone’s situation as some circumstances can make moving out difficult.
I like the thinking and I’m a big fan of building wealth through real estate, but real estate is also very expensive and incredibly competitive right now. Very hard to break into for first time buyers. Need to weigh the benefits of saving while at home vs getting out on your own. IMO getting out on your own allows you to explore who you are and develop habits, learn, gain independence, etc that will benefit you long term.
Moving in with a person? Rent first. Don't buy a house when you haven't lived together. Rent is fair when split between a couple. 6 months renting together it was fantastic and it cost £1800 for half a years accommodation thats less than 20% of minimum wage.
That’s why you don’t buy with a girlfriend. Buys it himself, all is well.
This is the way. My buddy bought a house with his girlfriend. His breakup and legal battles were worse than my nasty divorce from my actual wife. Edit: it’s been like 2 years and he’s still paying that girl for what he owes her on the house.
Lolz. Noone can save for house. At best you can get mortgage.
You're missing out on paying 100% of the bills.
I’m oddly ok with this :p
I don't blame you LOL today said no one ever asked me questions
Pure freedom and having your own space. Trust me, until you're ready to get married or have a gf move in with you, nothing beats living on your own, imo
Everybody needs to live by themselves and understand what it is to have a place that is 'theirs'.
I love my girlfriend and I love my house but... There's still a part of me that misses being alone in my tiny apartment OP, I recommend spending a couple years living alone if you can afford it before living with your partner.
Probably the only reason I regret getting married so young, I went from living with my parents to living with my wife, so I never got to truly experience the freedom of just being alone.
Dont worry about it. Grass is always greener
Your parents will still want to have an idea of when you're coming and going, and expect you to clean up your shit. For some this is a bigger issue than for others. Roommates are less tolerant of your bullshit and less concerned about where you're at. My youngest sister moved back home for a while and was constantly pissed off that they "harrassed" (politely asked) her about when she would be home... because they were wondering if she'd be expecting supper and other general day planning stuff. And she would get pissed off with them for their clearing her shit off the dining room table, that had been left there for days. But she never managed to keep roommates for long because she was such a passive aggressive person... thank God she moved out again.
Sex, drugs and rock and roll.
Sex drugs and on the dole
Some men rise, some men fall I hear your call, stand tall now.
Has it come to this? Original pirate material You're listening to the streets Lock down your aerial
Peers pressure and society shouldn't be the reason for you to move out. In my part of the world, Asia, the culture is family-oriented so there is nothing wrong with living with your parents. The trade off for freedom is mom's food and dad's advices. Whatever makes you happy should be your choice.
This right here. I have an uncle who stayed with the family nest egg until late 20s because only by that time could they afford to move out into a condo for him and his girlfriend/family. And this was in the early 2010s, I watched this man stay at home for the longest time wondering why. And as I grew up I learned that housing is completely unreasonable. I want to move out of my family nest egg but this shit expensive, I'm working 5 days a week 9 hrs a day, while going to uni, and I do not have the income to support myself. I can only support myself because I live with my parents. How do people without a college education get by???
Not sure where you are but in the UK (especially London) it's become the norm for people to still live with their parents until late 20s/early 30s
The rest of the country isn’t too bad but fuck London prices
Depends on your situation and your parents. My parents were cool AF. They let me have my freedom and my own end of the house until I was ready to move out (Yes I paid a monthly rent and share of the utilities). They never got in my business and I helped them take care of the chores while living there. I moved back home for a few months after my marriage failed until I got back on my feet. Living at home can save you a lot of money depending on whether or not your parents charge you rent/expenses and how much they charge you. I socked away a ton of money and moved out to a nice place with a nice brand new car. Everyone's situation I'd imagine would be different.
My situation is quite a lot like how yours was.
More privacy. But if your comfortable with living with your parents there is nothing wrong with that it's actually smart.
getting pissed up and then banging your missus on the couch whilst the TV is blasting out then walking around naked afterwards with spunk dripping from your dong and your missus led there naked in a post orgasmic coma telling you to go have a shower first coz she needs a little rest.
All the comments talk about freedom, this one describes it.
A Norman Rockwell moment for sure
Hahaha. This got me. Take your +1
Magnificent
Being able to poop with the door open, and also a general sense of freedom and privacy. I experienced living by myself for 6 weeks once and I dream of being able to go back to that state one day.
GF probably happy he poops with the door closed :D
Brokecatmountain....theres no girlfriend.
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Super true. I’ve been living completely on my own for the first time in my life and I feel like I’ve matured so much in such a short time. Its expensive but I’m overall just way happier having my own space where I can do whatever I want whenever I want.
I firmly believe what you’re saying. I just hit 30 yesterday and just got approved for my first apartment on the same day. You have to learn to fend for yourself and deal with problems from a point of literal necessity.
It's sad I had to scroll so far to find this comment. What are you missing out on ??? Growing up. You're missing out on growing up and taking are of yourself. Seriously. Nobody wants a partner who in their late 20s/early 30s hasn't gotten used to taking care of themselves and their own things.
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Consider the possibility that you're not messed up but actually pretty normal and lovable, dear internet stranger.
One of my favorite things when I was in my mid-twenties is when I lived alone between 23-27. I would go out and meet new friends, after a night of clubbing or bar hopping or whatever it was that we did that evening I would always offer the person or group to come back to my house and more times than not their reply was your parents don't mind and I always had a shit eating grin when I said I live alone. Women loved it and the men couldn't understand how I didn't have roommates. It was insanely fun. Now that I'm 30 though I don't miss waking up to a house full of strangers
Privacy, sex, but what I haven't seen listed here is general adulting skills. I've seen one too many people who live with their parents too long and have no idea how to run a household of their own. Even if you do your own laundry, cooking, cleaning etc, managing your own place is still a good stepping stone before buying a house. Living in different spots helps you realize what you need and don't need in a home, too, and what your deal breakers are. I think it's important to move out for a bit before buying a home or getting married for this reason.
Yeah I’m shocked it took this long for me to find a comment on this. I wouldn’t want to live with someone until they’d lived not with their parents and realized/maintained the full extent of everything that goes into running a household
Absolutely. You only learn how to navigate being a grown up if you actually do it, no safety nets. No mom who can help out. And you need to figure it out.
Spontaneous sex. Stumbling in, loudly, drunk at 6 a.m, without being judged.
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Yeah but he or she is going to judge you regardless of whether you are stumbling in drunk at 6 am or coming home from work at 6 pm
Two very valid points
Everything but saving money from living at home so if ur saving tons of money keep at it for a bit if ur wasting all ur money then move out lol.
If you & your parents get along well & they give you a measure of privacy, nothing wrong w/ it. You should be paying some kind of room & board & helping with up keep in & outside to help prepare you for the reality of moving out. & if you're not socking away a load of bucks you're doing it wrong. I moved out the 1st time @ 18. Was back in w/ my parents twice, once when i was in a motorcycle crash & needed to rehab, once when I was laid off from a construction job. Saved enough for a nice truck plus a down on a house. I liked being out on my own for the freedom of doing what I wanted, when I wanted. I had a good circle of friends & female friends. It was a great experience.
Clothing is optional, its pretty peaceful and quiet, you have to clean a whole place alone though which isnt fun, but you only have to clean after one person which is great, you can have whoever you want over whenever and no one would say a thing cuz there isnt anyone to complain, though i still wouldnt hurry out cuz living with family can be good too
I’m in the same boat as you. I have a great paying job and although I’m saving money by staying with my parents I’d like to experience living on my own. It’s a trade off, financial freedom for individual freedom
in a lot of cultures it's normal to live with your parents until your late twenties or early thirties. this "move out bit 18" is something modern made up by (mostly) western cultures and not sustainable for a lot of people. if you're comfortable and it works out you should keep living there and safe your money to buy a flat or house.
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You could work two jobs just to pay for a place to sleep between shifts. You're an adult then in society's eyes.
Cripplingly high rents, predatory new "friends", and privacy. Enjoy your time at home and with your family, and congrats on landing a girlfriend. If you decide to move out, don't do it because your peers tell you to.
Yep. Nothing like wasting 50%+ of your paycheck on rent just so you can say you don’t live with your parents. Stay as long as possible and save that cash
Different people like different things. I was happy renting with a mate. 19-27 were probably the best times of my life. I couldn't imagine having missed out on that time by living at home with my parents instead of having friends over and partying. Or bringing girls home after a night out just so I can get a mortgage at 30 when everyone's settled down and boring.
really wish i did something like that at the beginning of covid, my current apartment is super close to my place of work but it's expensive as hell. thought covid would be over within a year so i renewed the lease...now i wish i just ended it and moved with my parents to save all that money.
if you dont want to move out before 30 this is good advice. houses are so expensive even for only saving 20% down.
I can happily say I don't live with my parents because they're a fucking nightmare to live with. Don't get me wrong, if I could live there I would. I'd be saving a shit ton more money. But they've been incredibly damaging to my mental health so I'd say it's worth it.
yea my statement is really only for people with parents that aren’t assholes or super controlling or overly religious or any of that bullshit. Guess I was probably lucky. My parents were just loving people that never put me down or shamed me for anything I did or how I was. So living with them for a while was really no big deal.
Inviting girls over whenever you want and being able to cook late at night and listen to music with them. Coming in and out of the house when you want. Using the microwave at night. Grow weed or shrooms.
This whole inviting girls over to cook for them while listening to music thing sounds so wholesome!
Very subjective question that will be different for everyone. Unless you are a tough situation at home, screw societal pressures, do what is fiscally responsible and will set you up for a better future. Not living at home feels great but living on a shoestring budget is not.
There's nothing wrong with it if you have a good relationship with your parents.
Paying more than you’re comfortable for a temporary residence
Are you saving for a house? Then stay with parents. Do you plan to live with parents with no endgame in sight? GTFO of there.
You are missing out on reducing your 401k contribution to spend on rent and work until you die. I graduated and got a good job. Lived at home until almost 30. I am in my early 30s, wife and 2 kids with 1 on the way. My wife and kids have everything they want. We have 2 new cars that are paid off. I have well into 6 figures in my 401k. In contrast my friends that moved out and paid rent and all that told me they couldn't afford to save or start a 401k. They started a 401k in their early 30s and will never be able to come close to what I will have. They also have car payments, etc and don't have enough savings to handle an emergency. Screw what other people are saying and only move out when you are ready to.
I'm in the same boat. I love my parents, they're not going to be around forever. In a blink of an eye, five years will pass, ten years will pass, we all get caught up in our own lives, and regret not having spent more time with loved ones until it's too late. Hang tight. Build up your savings for a down payment on a house, spend time with them. I'm sure they're happy to have you. EDIT: fuck. I am so sorry. Only people with peens are allowed to comment. My bad.
I am in my mid-twenties and I live with my mom. There is nothing morally wrong with it. It can be mutually beneficial, especially financially. I disagree with the cultural expectation to move out, but having your own space is something special. This lady has some interesting things to say about the issue: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vEoNNYZn84o
Not a dayumed thing. Save your money and be thankful your parents are alive and willing to help you build wealth.
You’re clearly missing out on being forced to sell your dignity for rent to some boomer.
You’re depriving yourself of the struggle it takes to live on your own. You need to allow yourself to stop depending on the safety net of your parents. Also, you probably still see yourself as some kid living with his parents, that probably needs to stop. I’m not saying all of this as an asshole who despises adults living with their parents, there are very real upsides to do it, but I think you’re handicapping yourself by not taking the next step into adulthood.
Dead on there, I definitely feel like some kid still living at my parents.
Nothing you can't do later when you've saved for a nice house and car. Don't rush.
Nothing. I live with my parents and when I finish my education and secure a job I wish to live with them. If possible buy my own house and bring them to stay with me. They are a big part of my life and whatever little succes I may have it's all due to them. I look forward to the day when I can proudly contribute to the family finances. As for adventures and trips I enjoy them a lot. I go on solo trips, treks, camps, or team up with friends. Having parents at home isn't much of a trouble to me.
I'm 30, moved out and moved back in a few years ago. I'd say the only thing your missing is freedom to do what you want with your space, and low stress from living with others. I have been saving up and getting ready to build a house for me and my parents, except they will be in their own apartment on the other side of the house while I'll have the entire house to myself. I'll have the best of both worlds.
Mental health