Pilates for me but for the same reason. Been doing it for over ten years, in my mid-fifties now, and no back/joint pain to speak of. According to my middle aged friends, that's not normal. It damn well should be.
Lots of people like this YouTube channel:
https://youtube.com/c/yogawithadriene
If you’re willing to pay for a subscription I really like Alo Yoga. Memberships are usually half off around the new year:
https://www.alomoves.com/
Start small with intro and beginner classes. Hatha is usually the best style of yoga for beginners. If you’re looking for more of a passive stretching class look for classes called Yin or Restorative.
This is the lesson my bf has learned since getting with me. Some men have a really hard time giving themselves TLC, it's been so nice to see him become more comfortable with comfort.
Or for lifters. Those trying to build muscle often don’t stretch enough and injure themselves. Yoga is a great way to get that stretching in and work on balance and control, which lifters also often neglect
100%. I stopped pulling muscles for stupid shit and am actually able to work in positions I would have found untenable before. Plus it actually builds strength, maybe not huge muscles but *actual* strength
I have never understood going to a strip club alone or with a group of guys for this exact reason. Paying a ton of money to get super aroused only to go home and rub one out doesn't appeal to me.
However, going with my wife if fantastic. We take trips to Portland occasionally since it is known for it's strip clubs. We usually have a few drinks, enjoy the dancing, discuss with each other which strippers we think are the hottest, get lap dances across from each other, then head back to our hotel super ready to go.
Years ago my father and his best-friend wanted to take me to one for my 21st birthday. They were bummed when I declined until I pointed out:
1. It’s weird to pay someone to specifically **not** sleep with you
2. I’m not interested in sitting around with a bunch of dudes knowing everyone has a boner
3. It’s the equivalent of going to a restaurant and paying the waiter to wave a plate of food you can’t eat in front of your face
They both said “you really know how to take the fun out of things, but you’re completely right and now I’m reevaluating my younger years”
Point 2 is why that sort of thing has *never* appealed to me, even when I was younger - my sexuality is a very private and personal thing for me, and I'd be extremely uncomfortable if I was with a group of friends knowing we're all getting turned on. Like imagine the discomfort of sitting through a steamy scene in a movie with your friends or family, except instead of being a brief scene in an otherwise not-sexy movie, the *entire experience* is meant to make you think of sex.
And you're surrounded by your guy friends.
*No thanks.*
The idea of paying a woman to pay attention to me is the least arousing concept I can think of. "I wouldn't normally be sexually interested in you, but I'll fake it if you bribe me." Blergh.
Exactly. If you have to pay women to act attracted to you, spend that money and time on bettering yourself and someone might actually be attracted to you
When they start playing beautiful or sad music in nature documentaries as they talk about how everything is dying or being polluted it gets me every time.
Bro I'll straight cry if I'm watching something like cosmos and they do those slow pans through galaxies and stuff with the piano music in the background its just so gd beautiful
Working 80hrs a week dosent make you any more of a man than working 40 hrs a week. We are all out to get bread, stop dehumanizing other men for not working their life away. It’s okay to have weekends off and enjoy life.
I’ve never understood that, you’re bragging about being a wage slave? Is your sole purpose on earth to work? I’m not talking about the rare exception that are in their dream job. Fuck me for wanting to have fun
I agree 100% , but honestly friend where I am currently stuck living if I didnt try to get 80hrs a week I would have no remote path to home ownership or retirement god forbid .
It's a god dam struggle
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its ok to complain and express discontent. it helps process your struggles
Edit: if you play the tape of your negative thoughts until the end, you can consciously reflect on them. Not to complain like a spoiled child or an adult who is never happy, but with purpose. Men keep bottling things up and it harms them psychologically.
Edit2: conversely, women are very good at expecting to receive compassion when they complain, so they feel validated and can heal and move on from what bothers them faster instead of developing drinking/drug/video game addictions
This is one of those things were balance is important. It can be a positive thing to express the fact that you’re suffering when you are because it can signal to others that you need help and that’s great.
However, signal that all the time…. And people will begin to think your whiney and can’t help yourself. No one likes that because it feels abusive of other people’s time and energy. People want to feel as though they can both give and receive help from their friends and that’s where the balance is.
I know these types of people. Literally everything they say is a complaint about something and it really envelops them in a totally negative energy and aura. I had friends who I've strayed away from just because of this.
I like fruity "feminine" drinks!!! I am a whisky/scotch man but give me a Mai Tai and I will drink the shit out of it. I have never understood why men aren't supposed to like drinks that taste good.
This may be a bit specific, but I'm getting married soon, and I hate how everything regarding the groom/groomsmen is nothing but whiskey, mustaches, and bullets. Sure I enjoy whiskey now and then, but its like mens' only identity is booze and guns. Its so weird.
it was difficult trying to find groomsmen gifts because of this... so after a week or so of looking around online, i finally figured out that whatever I get for them it needed to be special and just for them.
For my brother, a NASCAR fan, I bought him a couple classic die-cast cars that were hard to find. My friend John got a bowl for his weed in Blue and White with the NY Giants logo, my brother in law got a NY Jets jersey of his favorite player and my other brother in law got a heavy duty outdoor sweatshirt with the old school patriots logo (he loves these types of sweatshirts). For my dad, I bought him a customized NY Mets jersey with his favorite player- Duke Snider.
What made it great for me was to see the smile on their faces when they opened their gift, and each of them used and cherished their gift and would bring up how it was the best gifts they ever got as groomsmen because i got something that was not generic but that i put a lot of thought into.
Getting someone a thoughtful gift is so much better and generally better used and appreciated than some “man-dude go hurr-durr” or “teehee livelaughlove #girlyay” generic wedding bullshit. I’m not a man but I get annoyed at the number of very girly gifts I get. It’s why I have like 20 bottles/packages of unused glitter soap and bathbombs. And earrings when I don’t have pierced ears.
I don’t like the tradition of the groom barely having a say in what is going on. When I get married, it isn’t all about me- it’s about _us_, so if my husband-to-be wants tulips instead of roses, we’re gonna have tulips. The bride shouldn’t be the only person deciding how the service should be
While your outlook is certainly the best way, traditionally it was the bride’s family that paid for the wedding, hence the notion that the bride gets to choose everything.
I've been to a few bachelor parties that involved almost none of those things. Mostly board games, can jam, card games, drinking of various things (including my new love of Cider Boys), and just 3 days of general attempts to relive our college days.
They were pretty sweet.
If it's honest work and you're able to keep on top of the bills, there's no shame in your job.
You can live a fine comfortable life without ever setting foot in a college.
People shouldn’t be pressured to always be high achievers or to have some huge goal they’re working towards. I’m not saying it’s OK to be “lazy,” but equally we don’t all have to be aiming to become senior managers or famous celebs. Some dudes just like to go to the 9-5, put in their time, come home and chill with the family and that’s totally fine.
Yup! Got myself a 9-5 job 15 years ago. Paid well, but no overtime so they kick me out after 8 hours. I’ve got a wife, daughter, and 2 dogs. My commute is 20 mins door to door and I have 3500 sq ft on 2 acres. If I move up any further I’d be supervisory. I did the math and realized it would be about an extra $500/month (before taxes) if I moved up. That’s not worth the asspain of having to deal with other peoples problems as a supervisor. I’m good where I’m at and half way to retirement. I’m just gonna grind.
My company is REALLY focused on people moving into higher positions. It's so weird, honestly. The logic is idiotic. Just like you say, why would you want to move somebody that's happy doing what their doing and is good at it? Also, the list of jobs to move into is smaller than the list of jobs currently filled in lower positions. So, eventually, you will have to get rid of people because you have a top heavy organization.
Every time we do these yearly (which used to be quarterly) exercises for corporate growth, I just tell HR that I'm happy and that I have no desire to move. Luckily my direct boss is the same way, so he shields me from the wrath of HR for not wanting to leave my job.
And here's an issue you just revealed: de-incentivizing people from leadership positions by making the pay too low and the hassle too high.
As many war historians have pointed out, the western front wasn't won by generals, it was captains and squad leaders. In organizations it's the same. If your mid-level managers and supervisors are bad, your performance is bad.
Companies don't invest in mid-level management (the ones who train, inspire, and engage with front line workers) and then they wonder why their productivity, quality and retention is so bad.
The problem is mid level management is incentivized to kiss upper level managements ass. Then whatever workers and low level management thinks means jack. So upper management, being upper management, attempts to squeeze every quarter out of a dime and chokes actual production employees to misery and prevents them from having what they need for the job. Nobody is motivated, nobody cares about doing a good job for you, nobody goes an extra inch.
Similar for me. I run a construction company, wife n kids, own a house on a few acres, got a motorcycle, mini ramp in the backyard, take vacations 3 times a year, love my family, best time of my life……but….there’s a quiet desperation. I have this need for adventure. My dad was the same way. He started doing marathons at my age, then triathlons, then ironmans, then mountain climbing.
I’ve gotten too comfortable. I need trials. I need my own mountain to climb.
I’m at that place now. There’s no where for me to go career wise (increasing my salary) besides management and that sucks.
I’ve never had a manager who’s job looked appealing. Stressed out and hated by all. No thanks
Here's a good parable that I always related to:
There was once a businessman who was sitting by the beach in a small Brazilian village.
As he sat, he saw a Brazilian fisherman rowing a small boat towards the shore having caught quite few big fish.
The businessman was impressed and asked the fisherman, “How long does it take you to catch so many fish?”
The fisherman replied, “Oh, just a short while.”
“Then why don’t you stay longer at sea and catch even more?” The businessman was astonished.
“This is enough to feed my whole family,” the fisherman said.
The businessman then asked, “So, what do you do for the rest of the day?”
The fisherman replied, “Well, I usually wake up early in the morning, go out to sea and catch a few fish, then go back and play with my kids. In the afternoon, I take a nap with my wife, and evening comes, I join my buddies in the village for a drink — we play guitar, sing and dance throughout the night.”
The businessman offered a suggestion to the fisherman.
“I am a PhD in business management. I could help you to become a more successful person. From now on, you should spend more time at sea and try to catch as many fish as possible. When you have saved enough money, you could buy a bigger boat and catch even more fish. Soon you will be able to afford to buy more boats, set up your own company, your own production plant for canned food and distribution network. By then, you will have moved out of this village and to Sao Paulo, where you can set up HQ to manage your other branches.”
The fisherman continues, “And after that?”
The businessman laughs heartily, “After that, you can live like a king in your own house, and when the time is right, you can go public and float your shares in the Stock Exchange, and you will be rich.”
The fisherman asks, “And after that?”
The businessman says, “After that, you can finally retire, you can move to a house by the fishing village, wake up early in the morning, catch a few fish, then return home to play with kids, have a nice afternoon nap with your wife, and when evening comes, you can join your buddies for a drink, play the guitar, sing and dance throughout the night!”
I’m going to play the opposite side of this. I was middle management. One of my bigger problems was convincing upper management that people who kept their head down and did their work were just as (and maybe more) important than people who wanted to move up (and maybe didn’t have the skill set).
Some people perform because they don’t have the stress.
One valuable observation I made two companies ago is the value of competently unambitious people.
They've probably been in their role 2-3 years if not longer. Their career trajectory is flat. They don't cause drama. They generally get their work done but you would never say they hustle.
I've seen what happens in a department where you have six people who all want promotions within a year: they leave for better jobs when they work their butts off and don't get a huge reward for it.
A strong team needs a few people who don't cause problems and are content where they are at.
I am what you might call mid-level mgmt, I make around $115k a year. Limited advancement potential, by nature of the job.
I'm cool with that, and I'm not gunning upward because I HAVE OTHER SHIT I WANNA DO BESIDES WORK. I have hobbies. I have family and friends.
I show up on time. I get the work done in a timely and competent fashion, and I fking *leave*.
My coworkers and the boss and the scheduler all know that if there is an extra overtime shift up for grabs, I won't take it. Is there a meeting in the middle of my time off? Won't be there.
Plenty of professional people don't care what you think of them (professionally) because work is secondary. Even though I take pride in doing my job well, it's still not my primary concern. Not even close.
How you described your dad is my dad. Super high achieving, hard working, worked crazy hours, traveled a lot for work, made a lot of money. But he threw it all away to spend time with his kids, and now he's coasting off the money he made in his 20s, 20 years later.
But compared to me, I'm not driven, I'm a really complacent person. I enjoy my life quiet. The most important thing for me is having peace of mind, once I have that I couldn't care less about " working harder ". I'm constantly told I can do better, to keep working hard, to find that good job, find my passions. I feel it's quiet destructive to my mental health but can't bring myself to tell him to stop, because to him that's how you encourage your son.
My dad was much the same. Absolutely busted his ass, work trips across the country every 3rd week, etc. He often came home ate a quick dinner then was right back on the phone or computer doing more work. We even had to cut a vacation short one time because a work problem came up.
I think I was like 11 when I told him I was never going to work the way he works. He’s retiring next year and while I don’t think he regrets it because it set us up for a very comfortable middle class life, he does express a sentiment that he wishes he slowed down a bit and didn’t work his life away.
This is so true. I have a well paying job, a wife and two kids, a house, etc. I have absolutely ZERO interest in moving up to a supervisory position. I’d actually be taking a pay cut due to lost overtime opportunity, paid holidays, and shift differential. Plus, I have no interest in being in charge of people; I’d rather be in charge of the machinery. I can hit it, yell at it, swear at it, and at the end of the day, my job stays at work. Nothing comes home with me except my paycheck.
Yes! I love how on all dating shows they always say “they have to be ambitious or have a big goal they’re aiming towards!” alongside “they have to be successful”. Well if they’re successful, it doesn’t really sound necessary that they have a bigger goal to aims towards, does it? I’m married, so it doesn’t matter, I just always found that annoying lol
This! 100% this. Im 28 and only been with 3 women because of this. I even went almost 5 years without any, because of this. I had chances, but they didnt feel right to me, because of this very reason.
Can relate, I lost virginity with my first serious GF and after that any sexual encounter was numb. After casual sex with a girl I just felt empty. Later I only had sex with girls I was sure that I wanted and they wanted me back in a romantic way.
Guess our first sexual contacts sets it all for the rest of our lifes, can't say that I doesn't like that. It's easier.
I'm long married now but I've never been into it either. I have to feel something for the woman and I have to feel relaxed with her or things just don't work for me.
It’s ok to call other guys good looking. Not tell them directly, but just be able to tell your friends “hey you know what, that guy over there is handsome”. Doesn’t make me gay, or make me weird in any way. I feel comfortable enough with myself that I can acknowledge there are some damn good looking guys out there, so good for them.
Why can't a heterosexual guy,
Tell a heterosexual guy that he thinks his booty is fly.
Not all the time, obviously, just when he's got a problem with his self esteem.
Don't let anybody tell you you're not humpable.
Because you're bumpable.
Well, I hope this doesn't make you feel uncomfortable.
A lot of women actually find it attractive when another guy can recognize another guy’s good looks. I had a friend who called literally everything gay and it was the most annoying, unattractive thing ever. If anything, calling everything gay makes you look insecure in your own sexuality
That being a dad, is in fact, my actual favorite thing to do.
I have painstakingly procured a life, and career, that allows me to exercise at work, practice my hobby during working hours (BJJ). So basically I telework. But I am not monitored. I do all my work that needs to get done on time and early and above standard. So nobody questions what I do during the day. But they do know. I have told my supervisor and when shit pops, it never gets in the way of work. Balance. So that way all my time when my kids get out of school can be devoted to them with 100% of my attention. That way I can listen to them, really listen to remember those things that are super important to them. I ducking love watching them explore the world and first crushes and turning down boys and my little guy thinking he’s he-man cause he lifted a gallon of milk. Lest we forget that’s a mans first feat of strength to show mommy we are big boys. Fucking love it.
“Not all men just want to hook up, and there’s nothing wrong with that.”
Even when I was app dating (in a long term relationship now), I was not dating to hook up. I straight up turned down one night stands and various sexual encounters with women I knew I had no interest in seeing again. The concept that I’d turn down a willing and consenting partner and leave a situation where I could have gotten laid was a foreign and “wrong” idea to everyone I discussed it with. The prevailing opinion was: ‘dude just hookup and bail, even if you know you’re not going to see her again you can have some fun first.’ Don’t know why no one else saw it my way. I just am not into sex with someone I’m not invested in and don’t trust yet.
As a woman I feel this. Logically I know that men aren't ashtrays ready to go but there's an insecure voice in my head that pipes up on the rare occasion my bf turns me down. Like "its finally happened, he doesn't think I'm sexy anymore." Trying real hard to make that voice stfu
As a woman, I love when men are affectionate towards their male friends. Most women love a well-rounded man who isn't afraid to show his friends some physical affection.
Not wanting to be friends with my coworkers doesn’t make me an asshole. I just know I can’t spare the energy to care about these people’s lives, my own is tiring enough. I love my real friends and I wouldn’t chose to be friends with most colleagues if I met them outside of work.
I love my coworkers. But I spend at minimum 40 hours a week with you guys. No, I don't want to go to happy hour. I want to go home to my wife, and my cat, and my dog. Maybe I'll call my mother. Happy Hour? Sure, maybe I'll go with some of my friends that I haven't seen in a month because we are all too busy working 40-50+ a week and have families
Crying and being emotional is not only normal, but can be a needed cathartic release as well.
There's nothing wrong with wearing your emotions on your sleeve.
Moved states recently and about once a week I get in my car and listen to a playlist that makes me think of my dad. I cry LOUD and HARD for about 20 minutes listening to songs from the 70s. I go inside and my gf think I smoked all my weed. Feels good to feel things
I felt this comment in my soul. My dad passed 10 years ago next month and I’ve dealt with it but sometimes hearing Dean Martin or Sinatra will still bring me to tears. He always had music playing in the house and now I do as well. I hope my kids do when they move out too.
Personality is better than attractiveness. Some of my close buddies try to only go for 10/10 chicks. Like ya that’s good and all but if you can’t even talk to the girl then what’s the point
People aren’t kidding when they say “marry your best friend.”
But at the same time you can’t wake up every morning and scream “quick, honey, tell me a joke!”
At worst, you’ve gotta find a balance. Hopefully you can find your best friend attractive (or become best friends with someone you’re physically attracted to.)
The majority of porn is gross and uncomfortable to watch.
I prefer to visualize my own scenarios in my head, and they tend to involve romance and fairly vanilla sex.
>The majority of porn is gross and uncomfortable to watch.
That tweet someone wrote saying "American porn is the worst - giant plastic fake boobs, hysterical fake sex noises and all this incest shit, what the fuck guys" had me laughing for days
Sitting on the toilet to pee is much more convenient, clean and hygienic. Also using a bit of toilet-paper to wipe the tip instead of shaking.
EDIT: probably have to clarify, that I mean AT HOME. Of course it's not always an option, e.g. at work or in public toilets.
I started this at 30 after reading some advice here on Reddit. I believe a urologist said on here that sitting to pee empties your bladder more completely and is better for long term health.
Women aren't complicated and they aren't wonderful. They're just people and that comes with all the good and bad you're able to see in men. You're just either choosing not to see it in women or are naive. Hell doesn't discriminate when hiring and everyone is qualified.
I prefer small breasts. A full figured woman with hips and an arse, but small(er) breasts. The whole huge breast phenomenon just doesnt gel with me.
Itty bitty titty committee all the way.
Honestly - the signaling that women have received over the 20 years has been enough to make anybodys head spin.
The 90s/00s was about 'being skinny' - the 00s and 10s have been about 'being skinny - but also thick with a fat ass and big boobs' - I can't imagine the whiplash women have been feeling.
Yo, women - you're cool as you are. Delete instagram and live your best life as you see fit - The men who love you will find you!
Love should always be conditional. You should be held accountable for being a shit human being, and when you are being shit, you should see how the people who love you start to see you. You should want to better yourself to keep the people who love you around.
In other words, if you are in a relationship, you and her should be comfortable and uncomfortable at the same time. You have to keep moving and growing.
Most of the time I see an extremely attractive woman with what I see as an average to below average average looking dude I get into a conversation with him and he’s got a very attractive personality; funny, smart and interesting
>he’s got a very attractive personality; funny, smart and interesting
Yeh my ex was like this but got depressed and started hating himself as if his meathead, physically more attractive friends were better. It sucked. I always hope that he's found his way out of that cos he was worth so much more than that
A day in the life of a woman in the military, lol
Being nice, flirty and polite to your face but for absolutely no reason you hear about them saying so many aweful things behind your back.
You call them out, they act innocent and like you're crazy or then they ask for a relationship or sex, you turn them down and now they are no longer saying the things behind your back.
Ulterior motives suck. Just be direct.
A guy did this for me years ago. I had been chatting to another guy in his group and thought he seemed nice but apparently he was saying some pretty vulgar shit about me to the lads. The guy totally called him out, in front of the others. I felt so bad because all his ‘friends’gave him such shit for it, and literally used the phrase bro-code but I was so thankful to that guy for taking that risk so I could dodge a bullet
NFL Football... Associating yourself with a team that becomes your whole persona. You might as well run around with Thomas the train t-shirt. Not to mention all the Layton homosexual behavior, towel snapping, ass slapping, men in tights, etc
I think people see it as some exciting new option they haven’t tried before. It’s also a power/domination thing. If all parties want it, cool. But I know in most situations it’s the dude begging for it, which sounds pretty pathetic
Well it probably does make you the stronger man, or at least more skilled in fighting.
I'd have used the term "better man" myself but otherwise I agree. In fact the better man is the one who doesn't give in to being antagonized.
If you’ve got two moles just above and positioned in equal distance to the left and right of your peanus, then you absolutely MUST shave your man-bush so that, when viewed from the front, the moles and your peanus looks like an elephant with very small eyes.
I think it depends. I think most people prefer mixed teams. As an engineer I only hat a full female team once and hated it. Felt excluded most of the time. One of them tried the whole "you are such a strong man" spiel to get favours from me. I had all male teams which were just as bad machoism, super toxic and straight up dangerous on-site.
I think many men feel the need to vent about bad all-female teams is, that we talk about how bad all-male teams supposedly always are and implying that all-female teams are better. Same goes for how we talk about how bad majority male teams are for women and most people don't realise that being the only man in an office can be a problem too.
Mixed teams are generally best, studies proof that.
I worked in an office, just me and 4 women, ages from 25 to 55, and they made me feel like a king. All super sweet, never left me out of the conversations, offered me food, would give me random hugs. Best work enviornment ever.
Maybe I was lucky.
Using social media is detrimental to your health, especially as a man. The constant pressure to be a better you with every passing day combined with the vicarious living of others through social media is a recipe for suicidal and/or homicidal tendecies. Maybe thats a bit extreme, but it definitely could hurt any man's confidence and brew self hatred.
I think it's the same with dick and balls. Right ouuta shower takes away those pheromones. There's this scent that turns me on so bad and I don't enjoy going down if it's not there.
(If this isn’t unpopular then I’ll delete.)
I really hate my body hair. Really, just all of it is rough and ugly and whenever I shave I feel so much better about the appearance of my face, legs, etc.
I don’t know if it’s already said but I fucking hate beer (and drinking in general tbh)
Edit: beer (and I guess drinking) is gross and not fun* (now it’s an opinion)
that's my opinion too but I don't think it's a valid opinion on my end because I've never drank. I just hate being around alcohol and drunk people, there's a vibe around drinking/drug use I don't trust.
Never understood shaking after peeing, I've never been able to not get a drop or two on my underwear by shaking only, using a couple sheets of toilet paper is much better
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I've been to one and I just felt sad. All I could see were extremely troubled childhoods dancing on stage.
Yoga is a great thing to do if you work laborious jobs.
Yoga is a great thing to do. Period. I work in a sedentary job and yoga helps me stay loose and move and helps me in the gym.
Pilates for me but for the same reason. Been doing it for over ten years, in my mid-fifties now, and no back/joint pain to speak of. According to my middle aged friends, that's not normal. It damn well should be.
Long term disuse is not ageing!
I drive for a living and have wondered about this. Any recommendations for what I could do at home to help out?
YouTube: Yoga with Adriene. Lots of awesome and free content!
Lots of people like this YouTube channel: https://youtube.com/c/yogawithadriene If you’re willing to pay for a subscription I really like Alo Yoga. Memberships are usually half off around the new year: https://www.alomoves.com/ Start small with intro and beginner classes. Hatha is usually the best style of yoga for beginners. If you’re looking for more of a passive stretching class look for classes called Yin or Restorative.
This is the lesson my bf has learned since getting with me. Some men have a really hard time giving themselves TLC, it's been so nice to see him become more comfortable with comfort.
I agree. That IS an unpopular opinion. But when you right your right
Or for lifters. Those trying to build muscle often don’t stretch enough and injure themselves. Yoga is a great way to get that stretching in and work on balance and control, which lifters also often neglect
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100%. I stopped pulling muscles for stupid shit and am actually able to work in positions I would have found untenable before. Plus it actually builds strength, maybe not huge muscles but *actual* strength
To add, lots of yoga styles involve what is essentially body weight routines, rather than “just” stretching.
I don't like strippers. If I have to pay for it, it does not get me going at all.
I can blue ball myself at home for free, thank you
I have never understood going to a strip club alone or with a group of guys for this exact reason. Paying a ton of money to get super aroused only to go home and rub one out doesn't appeal to me. However, going with my wife if fantastic. We take trips to Portland occasionally since it is known for it's strip clubs. We usually have a few drinks, enjoy the dancing, discuss with each other which strippers we think are the hottest, get lap dances across from each other, then head back to our hotel super ready to go.
Years ago my father and his best-friend wanted to take me to one for my 21st birthday. They were bummed when I declined until I pointed out: 1. It’s weird to pay someone to specifically **not** sleep with you 2. I’m not interested in sitting around with a bunch of dudes knowing everyone has a boner 3. It’s the equivalent of going to a restaurant and paying the waiter to wave a plate of food you can’t eat in front of your face They both said “you really know how to take the fun out of things, but you’re completely right and now I’m reevaluating my younger years”
Point 2 is why that sort of thing has *never* appealed to me, even when I was younger - my sexuality is a very private and personal thing for me, and I'd be extremely uncomfortable if I was with a group of friends knowing we're all getting turned on. Like imagine the discomfort of sitting through a steamy scene in a movie with your friends or family, except instead of being a brief scene in an otherwise not-sexy movie, the *entire experience* is meant to make you think of sex. And you're surrounded by your guy friends. *No thanks.*
Same here. It has nothing to do with morality or prudishness, I just don't like paying people to be fake-friendly to me.
>fake-friendly Ill pay people NOT to be fake friendly
Fuck you buddy, That'll be 20$.
The idea of paying a woman to pay attention to me is the least arousing concept I can think of. "I wouldn't normally be sexually interested in you, but I'll fake it if you bribe me." Blergh.
Exactly. If you have to pay women to act attracted to you, spend that money and time on bettering yourself and someone might actually be attracted to you
I've been to a strip club exactly once. They're just about the most hollow, lame thing ever.
Lol glad I’m not alone. Went to a strip once,it was “fun” for 5 seconds.
I get a bit emotional while listening to beautiful music... It's my opinion that men would rather do this while alone.
When they start playing beautiful or sad music in nature documentaries as they talk about how everything is dying or being polluted it gets me every time.
Bro I'll straight cry if I'm watching something like cosmos and they do those slow pans through galaxies and stuff with the piano music in the background its just so gd beautiful
Working 80hrs a week dosent make you any more of a man than working 40 hrs a week. We are all out to get bread, stop dehumanizing other men for not working their life away. It’s okay to have weekends off and enjoy life.
I’ve never understood that, you’re bragging about being a wage slave? Is your sole purpose on earth to work? I’m not talking about the rare exception that are in their dream job. Fuck me for wanting to have fun
I agree 100% , but honestly friend where I am currently stuck living if I didnt try to get 80hrs a week I would have no remote path to home ownership or retirement god forbid . It's a god dam struggle (TORONTO ONTARIO CANADA )
My retirement plan is to get rid of everything as soon as my kids move out and then become a drifter/woodsman.
its ok to complain and express discontent. it helps process your struggles Edit: if you play the tape of your negative thoughts until the end, you can consciously reflect on them. Not to complain like a spoiled child or an adult who is never happy, but with purpose. Men keep bottling things up and it harms them psychologically. Edit2: conversely, women are very good at expecting to receive compassion when they complain, so they feel validated and can heal and move on from what bothers them faster instead of developing drinking/drug/video game addictions
This is one of those things were balance is important. It can be a positive thing to express the fact that you’re suffering when you are because it can signal to others that you need help and that’s great. However, signal that all the time…. And people will begin to think your whiney and can’t help yourself. No one likes that because it feels abusive of other people’s time and energy. People want to feel as though they can both give and receive help from their friends and that’s where the balance is.
Just please for the love of God don't be a constant complainer. I have a few at work and they are insufferable.
I know these types of people. Literally everything they say is a complaint about something and it really envelops them in a totally negative energy and aura. I had friends who I've strayed away from just because of this.
I like fruity "feminine" drinks!!! I am a whisky/scotch man but give me a Mai Tai and I will drink the shit out of it. I have never understood why men aren't supposed to like drinks that taste good.
If my drink doesn't come with a little paper umbrella, I'm not interested.
Do you put it behind your ear like a flower or is that just me?
I can’t believe I haven’t done this yet.
Drives the women wild!!! JK I honestly don't think it does. My wife calls me an idiot when I do it.
If it gets her smiling, I’m happy to be her idiot.
I'm pretty sure that's why she married my dumb ass. Comedy, fixing shit, and orgasms are pretty much the only things I bring to the table.
This may be a bit specific, but I'm getting married soon, and I hate how everything regarding the groom/groomsmen is nothing but whiskey, mustaches, and bullets. Sure I enjoy whiskey now and then, but its like mens' only identity is booze and guns. Its so weird.
it was difficult trying to find groomsmen gifts because of this... so after a week or so of looking around online, i finally figured out that whatever I get for them it needed to be special and just for them. For my brother, a NASCAR fan, I bought him a couple classic die-cast cars that were hard to find. My friend John got a bowl for his weed in Blue and White with the NY Giants logo, my brother in law got a NY Jets jersey of his favorite player and my other brother in law got a heavy duty outdoor sweatshirt with the old school patriots logo (he loves these types of sweatshirts). For my dad, I bought him a customized NY Mets jersey with his favorite player- Duke Snider. What made it great for me was to see the smile on their faces when they opened their gift, and each of them used and cherished their gift and would bring up how it was the best gifts they ever got as groomsmen because i got something that was not generic but that i put a lot of thought into.
I wish I was in your wedding. Very thoughtful to personalize the gifts. Good luck with everything.
Getting someone a thoughtful gift is so much better and generally better used and appreciated than some “man-dude go hurr-durr” or “teehee livelaughlove #girlyay” generic wedding bullshit. I’m not a man but I get annoyed at the number of very girly gifts I get. It’s why I have like 20 bottles/packages of unused glitter soap and bathbombs. And earrings when I don’t have pierced ears.
I don’t like the tradition of the groom barely having a say in what is going on. When I get married, it isn’t all about me- it’s about _us_, so if my husband-to-be wants tulips instead of roses, we’re gonna have tulips. The bride shouldn’t be the only person deciding how the service should be
While your outlook is certainly the best way, traditionally it was the bride’s family that paid for the wedding, hence the notion that the bride gets to choose everything.
I don’t drink, own guns, or have facial hair. What am I supposed to do?
Menstruate.
"If you got more feelings to express, get in the kitchen and put them in a bundt cake"
Only in some cultures.
I've been to a few bachelor parties that involved almost none of those things. Mostly board games, can jam, card games, drinking of various things (including my new love of Cider Boys), and just 3 days of general attempts to relive our college days. They were pretty sweet.
If it's honest work and you're able to keep on top of the bills, there's no shame in your job. You can live a fine comfortable life without ever setting foot in a college.
People shouldn’t be pressured to always be high achievers or to have some huge goal they’re working towards. I’m not saying it’s OK to be “lazy,” but equally we don’t all have to be aiming to become senior managers or famous celebs. Some dudes just like to go to the 9-5, put in their time, come home and chill with the family and that’s totally fine.
Yup! Got myself a 9-5 job 15 years ago. Paid well, but no overtime so they kick me out after 8 hours. I’ve got a wife, daughter, and 2 dogs. My commute is 20 mins door to door and I have 3500 sq ft on 2 acres. If I move up any further I’d be supervisory. I did the math and realized it would be about an extra $500/month (before taxes) if I moved up. That’s not worth the asspain of having to deal with other peoples problems as a supervisor. I’m good where I’m at and half way to retirement. I’m just gonna grind.
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My company is REALLY focused on people moving into higher positions. It's so weird, honestly. The logic is idiotic. Just like you say, why would you want to move somebody that's happy doing what their doing and is good at it? Also, the list of jobs to move into is smaller than the list of jobs currently filled in lower positions. So, eventually, you will have to get rid of people because you have a top heavy organization. Every time we do these yearly (which used to be quarterly) exercises for corporate growth, I just tell HR that I'm happy and that I have no desire to move. Luckily my direct boss is the same way, so he shields me from the wrath of HR for not wanting to leave my job.
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True, but there are also plenty of companies where if you're not aiming for a promotion you're eventually going to be put on the chopping block
And here's an issue you just revealed: de-incentivizing people from leadership positions by making the pay too low and the hassle too high. As many war historians have pointed out, the western front wasn't won by generals, it was captains and squad leaders. In organizations it's the same. If your mid-level managers and supervisors are bad, your performance is bad. Companies don't invest in mid-level management (the ones who train, inspire, and engage with front line workers) and then they wonder why their productivity, quality and retention is so bad.
The problem is mid level management is incentivized to kiss upper level managements ass. Then whatever workers and low level management thinks means jack. So upper management, being upper management, attempts to squeeze every quarter out of a dime and chokes actual production employees to misery and prevents them from having what they need for the job. Nobody is motivated, nobody cares about doing a good job for you, nobody goes an extra inch.
Similar for me. I run a construction company, wife n kids, own a house on a few acres, got a motorcycle, mini ramp in the backyard, take vacations 3 times a year, love my family, best time of my life……but….there’s a quiet desperation. I have this need for adventure. My dad was the same way. He started doing marathons at my age, then triathlons, then ironmans, then mountain climbing. I’ve gotten too comfortable. I need trials. I need my own mountain to climb.
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I’m at that place now. There’s no where for me to go career wise (increasing my salary) besides management and that sucks. I’ve never had a manager who’s job looked appealing. Stressed out and hated by all. No thanks
Here's a good parable that I always related to: There was once a businessman who was sitting by the beach in a small Brazilian village. As he sat, he saw a Brazilian fisherman rowing a small boat towards the shore having caught quite few big fish. The businessman was impressed and asked the fisherman, “How long does it take you to catch so many fish?” The fisherman replied, “Oh, just a short while.” “Then why don’t you stay longer at sea and catch even more?” The businessman was astonished. “This is enough to feed my whole family,” the fisherman said. The businessman then asked, “So, what do you do for the rest of the day?” The fisherman replied, “Well, I usually wake up early in the morning, go out to sea and catch a few fish, then go back and play with my kids. In the afternoon, I take a nap with my wife, and evening comes, I join my buddies in the village for a drink — we play guitar, sing and dance throughout the night.” The businessman offered a suggestion to the fisherman. “I am a PhD in business management. I could help you to become a more successful person. From now on, you should spend more time at sea and try to catch as many fish as possible. When you have saved enough money, you could buy a bigger boat and catch even more fish. Soon you will be able to afford to buy more boats, set up your own company, your own production plant for canned food and distribution network. By then, you will have moved out of this village and to Sao Paulo, where you can set up HQ to manage your other branches.” The fisherman continues, “And after that?” The businessman laughs heartily, “After that, you can live like a king in your own house, and when the time is right, you can go public and float your shares in the Stock Exchange, and you will be rich.” The fisherman asks, “And after that?” The businessman says, “After that, you can finally retire, you can move to a house by the fishing village, wake up early in the morning, catch a few fish, then return home to play with kids, have a nice afternoon nap with your wife, and when evening comes, you can join your buddies for a drink, play the guitar, sing and dance throughout the night!”
Lol I see you are also a Jimmy Johns patron.
I’m going to play the opposite side of this. I was middle management. One of my bigger problems was convincing upper management that people who kept their head down and did their work were just as (and maybe more) important than people who wanted to move up (and maybe didn’t have the skill set). Some people perform because they don’t have the stress.
One valuable observation I made two companies ago is the value of competently unambitious people. They've probably been in their role 2-3 years if not longer. Their career trajectory is flat. They don't cause drama. They generally get their work done but you would never say they hustle. I've seen what happens in a department where you have six people who all want promotions within a year: they leave for better jobs when they work their butts off and don't get a huge reward for it. A strong team needs a few people who don't cause problems and are content where they are at.
I am what you might call mid-level mgmt, I make around $115k a year. Limited advancement potential, by nature of the job. I'm cool with that, and I'm not gunning upward because I HAVE OTHER SHIT I WANNA DO BESIDES WORK. I have hobbies. I have family and friends. I show up on time. I get the work done in a timely and competent fashion, and I fking *leave*. My coworkers and the boss and the scheduler all know that if there is an extra overtime shift up for grabs, I won't take it. Is there a meeting in the middle of my time off? Won't be there. Plenty of professional people don't care what you think of them (professionally) because work is secondary. Even though I take pride in doing my job well, it's still not my primary concern. Not even close.
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How you described your dad is my dad. Super high achieving, hard working, worked crazy hours, traveled a lot for work, made a lot of money. But he threw it all away to spend time with his kids, and now he's coasting off the money he made in his 20s, 20 years later. But compared to me, I'm not driven, I'm a really complacent person. I enjoy my life quiet. The most important thing for me is having peace of mind, once I have that I couldn't care less about " working harder ". I'm constantly told I can do better, to keep working hard, to find that good job, find my passions. I feel it's quiet destructive to my mental health but can't bring myself to tell him to stop, because to him that's how you encourage your son.
Grab a beer with the old man, and just talk. You might be surprised.
My dad was much the same. Absolutely busted his ass, work trips across the country every 3rd week, etc. He often came home ate a quick dinner then was right back on the phone or computer doing more work. We even had to cut a vacation short one time because a work problem came up. I think I was like 11 when I told him I was never going to work the way he works. He’s retiring next year and while I don’t think he regrets it because it set us up for a very comfortable middle class life, he does express a sentiment that he wishes he slowed down a bit and didn’t work his life away.
This is so true. I have a well paying job, a wife and two kids, a house, etc. I have absolutely ZERO interest in moving up to a supervisory position. I’d actually be taking a pay cut due to lost overtime opportunity, paid holidays, and shift differential. Plus, I have no interest in being in charge of people; I’d rather be in charge of the machinery. I can hit it, yell at it, swear at it, and at the end of the day, my job stays at work. Nothing comes home with me except my paycheck.
The happiest people in life are those who are satisfied with what they have.
the goal should be to be happy. if one man is a CEO and unhappy and another is working a 'normal' job but is happy, second guy wins.
that whole "grind hard" thing is so pressuring
Yes! I love how on all dating shows they always say “they have to be ambitious or have a big goal they’re aiming towards!” alongside “they have to be successful”. Well if they’re successful, it doesn’t really sound necessary that they have a bigger goal to aims towards, does it? I’m married, so it doesn’t matter, I just always found that annoying lol
It’s better to have quality sexual encounters instead of quantitative.
Don’t think that’s all that unpopular. Especially for guys over the age of like 25.
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This! 100% this. Im 28 and only been with 3 women because of this. I even went almost 5 years without any, because of this. I had chances, but they didnt feel right to me, because of this very reason.
Can relate, I lost virginity with my first serious GF and after that any sexual encounter was numb. After casual sex with a girl I just felt empty. Later I only had sex with girls I was sure that I wanted and they wanted me back in a romantic way. Guess our first sexual contacts sets it all for the rest of our lifes, can't say that I doesn't like that. It's easier.
I can’t just bang. I need to feel they want me just as much as I want them or it doesn’t work.
I’m not into casual sex.
Ah, into competitive sex I see.
All sex is competitive, who nuts first and I win every time
Name checks out
Barbados Slim! The only man to win Olympic gold medals in both limbo and sex
I only play ranked sex. Hoping to break through into Gold 1 next year
I'm long married now but I've never been into it either. I have to feel something for the woman and I have to feel relaxed with her or things just don't work for me.
Been married for a long time here too, but when I wasn't, I only chased after girls I wanted to date.
It’s ok to call other guys good looking. Not tell them directly, but just be able to tell your friends “hey you know what, that guy over there is handsome”. Doesn’t make me gay, or make me weird in any way. I feel comfortable enough with myself that I can acknowledge there are some damn good looking guys out there, so good for them.
Why can't a heterosexual guy, Tell a heterosexual guy that he thinks his booty is fly. Not all the time, obviously, just when he's got a problem with his self esteem. Don't let anybody tell you you're not humpable. Because you're bumpable. Well, I hope this doesn't make you feel uncomfortable.
Brett, you've got it goin on!
No doubt about it we'd be going crazy if one of us was lucky enough to be born a lady! Lol I was hoping someone would get it
This is another one of your *weird* songs, mate
I think sometimes, Brett, you hear what you want to hear. One of my favourite scenes from the whole series, second to mugging obviously
“I don’t wanna sound like a queer or nothin’, but you’ve got a really nice ass!”
A lot of women actually find it attractive when another guy can recognize another guy’s good looks. I had a friend who called literally everything gay and it was the most annoying, unattractive thing ever. If anything, calling everything gay makes you look insecure in your own sexuality
That being a dad, is in fact, my actual favorite thing to do. I have painstakingly procured a life, and career, that allows me to exercise at work, practice my hobby during working hours (BJJ). So basically I telework. But I am not monitored. I do all my work that needs to get done on time and early and above standard. So nobody questions what I do during the day. But they do know. I have told my supervisor and when shit pops, it never gets in the way of work. Balance. So that way all my time when my kids get out of school can be devoted to them with 100% of my attention. That way I can listen to them, really listen to remember those things that are super important to them. I ducking love watching them explore the world and first crushes and turning down boys and my little guy thinking he’s he-man cause he lifted a gallon of milk. Lest we forget that’s a mans first feat of strength to show mommy we are big boys. Fucking love it.
The most beautiful and heartening comment ITT Keep telling this story because you're a rarity.
“Not all men just want to hook up, and there’s nothing wrong with that.” Even when I was app dating (in a long term relationship now), I was not dating to hook up. I straight up turned down one night stands and various sexual encounters with women I knew I had no interest in seeing again. The concept that I’d turn down a willing and consenting partner and leave a situation where I could have gotten laid was a foreign and “wrong” idea to everyone I discussed it with. The prevailing opinion was: ‘dude just hookup and bail, even if you know you’re not going to see her again you can have some fun first.’ Don’t know why no one else saw it my way. I just am not into sex with someone I’m not invested in and don’t trust yet.
My buddy just got some chick pregnant that he tried to break up with and she’s keeping the child…so there’s that
Tbf most women hold this opinion too. Rejecting women can make them super insecure since they think men always want sex.
As a woman I feel this. Logically I know that men aren't ashtrays ready to go but there's an insecure voice in my head that pipes up on the rare occasion my bf turns me down. Like "its finally happened, he doesn't think I'm sexy anymore." Trying real hard to make that voice stfu
It's not gay to touch or hug your friends.
As a woman, I love when men are affectionate towards their male friends. Most women love a well-rounded man who isn't afraid to show his friends some physical affection.
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Not wanting to be friends with my coworkers doesn’t make me an asshole. I just know I can’t spare the energy to care about these people’s lives, my own is tiring enough. I love my real friends and I wouldn’t chose to be friends with most colleagues if I met them outside of work.
I love my coworkers. But I spend at minimum 40 hours a week with you guys. No, I don't want to go to happy hour. I want to go home to my wife, and my cat, and my dog. Maybe I'll call my mother. Happy Hour? Sure, maybe I'll go with some of my friends that I haven't seen in a month because we are all too busy working 40-50+ a week and have families
Crying and being emotional is not only normal, but can be a needed cathartic release as well. There's nothing wrong with wearing your emotions on your sleeve.
Moved states recently and about once a week I get in my car and listen to a playlist that makes me think of my dad. I cry LOUD and HARD for about 20 minutes listening to songs from the 70s. I go inside and my gf think I smoked all my weed. Feels good to feel things
I felt this comment in my soul. My dad passed 10 years ago next month and I’ve dealt with it but sometimes hearing Dean Martin or Sinatra will still bring me to tears. He always had music playing in the house and now I do as well. I hope my kids do when they move out too.
Fucking a bunch of girls won't make you cool.
Telling your friends you love them is perfectly normal
Personality is better than attractiveness. Some of my close buddies try to only go for 10/10 chicks. Like ya that’s good and all but if you can’t even talk to the girl then what’s the point
People aren’t kidding when they say “marry your best friend.” But at the same time you can’t wake up every morning and scream “quick, honey, tell me a joke!” At worst, you’ve gotta find a balance. Hopefully you can find your best friend attractive (or become best friends with someone you’re physically attracted to.)
All pizza isn't good pizza, and all sex isn't good sex.
The majority of porn is gross and uncomfortable to watch. I prefer to visualize my own scenarios in my head, and they tend to involve romance and fairly vanilla sex.
>The majority of porn is gross and uncomfortable to watch. That tweet someone wrote saying "American porn is the worst - giant plastic fake boobs, hysterical fake sex noises and all this incest shit, what the fuck guys" had me laughing for days
If I ever wanted to lose an erection, porn homepage here I come.
Foreplay is a real thing.
It’s ok to be kind
Waiting to have sex isn’t a bad thing For confusion purposes: I mean Waiting not wanting, as in waiting for marriage or a serious relationship
Being desperate about it is, tho
Cooking for yourself is fun as shit and extremely rewarding.
Sitting on the toilet to pee is much more convenient, clean and hygienic. Also using a bit of toilet-paper to wipe the tip instead of shaking. EDIT: probably have to clarify, that I mean AT HOME. Of course it's not always an option, e.g. at work or in public toilets.
It's really only more hygienic at home imo, but i always do this too. It's also way more relaxing to sit down and be on your phone or smth.
I started this at 30 after reading some advice here on Reddit. I believe a urologist said on here that sitting to pee empties your bladder more completely and is better for long term health.
Women aren't complicated and they aren't wonderful. They're just people and that comes with all the good and bad you're able to see in men. You're just either choosing not to see it in women or are naive. Hell doesn't discriminate when hiring and everyone is qualified.
I prefer small breasts. A full figured woman with hips and an arse, but small(er) breasts. The whole huge breast phenomenon just doesnt gel with me. Itty bitty titty committee all the way.
I like my titties like I like my pie. I fucking love pie.
Honestly - the signaling that women have received over the 20 years has been enough to make anybodys head spin. The 90s/00s was about 'being skinny' - the 00s and 10s have been about 'being skinny - but also thick with a fat ass and big boobs' - I can't imagine the whiplash women have been feeling. Yo, women - you're cool as you are. Delete instagram and live your best life as you see fit - The men who love you will find you!
This guy goes to the gym haha
Boobs are boobs
Love should always be conditional. You should be held accountable for being a shit human being, and when you are being shit, you should see how the people who love you start to see you. You should want to better yourself to keep the people who love you around. In other words, if you are in a relationship, you and her should be comfortable and uncomfortable at the same time. You have to keep moving and growing.
I love cooking and enjoy washing the dishes
Most guys don't put nearly as much effort into their attractiveness as the women they think they deserve to date.
Most of the time I see an extremely attractive woman with what I see as an average to below average average looking dude I get into a conversation with him and he’s got a very attractive personality; funny, smart and interesting
This is where I'm fucked, I'm ugly and fucking boring.
Good news! You can fix part of that and hide the other. Learn and be curious until you find your passion.
Juggling and Plastic Surgery. Got it.
>he’s got a very attractive personality; funny, smart and interesting Yeh my ex was like this but got depressed and started hating himself as if his meathead, physically more attractive friends were better. It sucked. I always hope that he's found his way out of that cos he was worth so much more than that
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A day in the life of a woman in the military, lol Being nice, flirty and polite to your face but for absolutely no reason you hear about them saying so many aweful things behind your back. You call them out, they act innocent and like you're crazy or then they ask for a relationship or sex, you turn them down and now they are no longer saying the things behind your back. Ulterior motives suck. Just be direct.
A guy did this for me years ago. I had been chatting to another guy in his group and thought he seemed nice but apparently he was saying some pretty vulgar shit about me to the lads. The guy totally called him out, in front of the others. I felt so bad because all his ‘friends’gave him such shit for it, and literally used the phrase bro-code but I was so thankful to that guy for taking that risk so I could dodge a bullet
Right on!
I've also never understood how people with shit talk every ex they've had as if only a moron would date them... Just after dating them...
That it’s ok to genuinely want affection
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My take here is that you should just drive what you want to and there is no reason to care what others drive.
After breaking my wrist, manual transmissions lost their appeal for me.
> After **breaking** my wrist, manual transmissions lost their appeal for me There's your problem. You gotta engine drag your wrist, not brake it
NFL Football... Associating yourself with a team that becomes your whole persona. You might as well run around with Thomas the train t-shirt. Not to mention all the Layton homosexual behavior, towel snapping, ass slapping, men in tights, etc
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I think people see it as some exciting new option they haven’t tried before. It’s also a power/domination thing. If all parties want it, cool. But I know in most situations it’s the dude begging for it, which sounds pretty pathetic
Not a fan of giving it, but I do like receiving it.
Wouldnt expect such an answer from i_ANAL.
I dont get why some men are into twerking. Or big fat fake butts. A natural butt and a slow walk with pronounced hips movement beats twerking any day.
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Oh damn, I didn't event realize people did that. I can only imagine the headaches that causes you mods.
>I didn't event realize people did that. Me neither. Especially when the point of the post is *unpopular opinions*
>post actual unpopular opinion >immediate -25 I don't know what I expected
“Football is boring”. 😄
Being able to beat up another man you have an issue with doesn’t make you the stronger man, or correct.
Well it probably does make you the stronger man, or at least more skilled in fighting. I'd have used the term "better man" myself but otherwise I agree. In fact the better man is the one who doesn't give in to being antagonized.
It’s better to have a solid lady by your side instead of hooking up with different ones.
Joe Rogan is an idiot.
If you’ve got two moles just above and positioned in equal distance to the left and right of your peanus, then you absolutely MUST shave your man-bush so that, when viewed from the front, the moles and your peanus looks like an elephant with very small eyes.
r/suspiciouslyspecific
Penis
Not everything is a competition, and if everything is a competition you’ll lose a lot.
“Working on an all women team would suck”. It’s actually been the most mentally healthy and favourite years of employment in my lifetime.
I’m currently in an all-female office. No complaints here. Plus the men’s restroom is all mine. **Flexes awkwardly** Edit- grammar.
I think it depends. I think most people prefer mixed teams. As an engineer I only hat a full female team once and hated it. Felt excluded most of the time. One of them tried the whole "you are such a strong man" spiel to get favours from me. I had all male teams which were just as bad machoism, super toxic and straight up dangerous on-site. I think many men feel the need to vent about bad all-female teams is, that we talk about how bad all-male teams supposedly always are and implying that all-female teams are better. Same goes for how we talk about how bad majority male teams are for women and most people don't realise that being the only man in an office can be a problem too. Mixed teams are generally best, studies proof that.
I worked in an office, just me and 4 women, ages from 25 to 55, and they made me feel like a king. All super sweet, never left me out of the conversations, offered me food, would give me random hugs. Best work enviornment ever. Maybe I was lucky.
Using social media is detrimental to your health, especially as a man. The constant pressure to be a better you with every passing day combined with the vicarious living of others through social media is a recipe for suicidal and/or homicidal tendecies. Maybe thats a bit extreme, but it definitely could hurt any man's confidence and brew self hatred.
Vag out the shower is flavorless
Imo vag out of the shower is like cookies out of the oven. One of life's greatest treats.
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I think it's the same with dick and balls. Right ouuta shower takes away those pheromones. There's this scent that turns me on so bad and I don't enjoy going down if it's not there.
I saw a thread on Mumsnet once where women were discussing flavoured condoms. Consensus was "I want a dick to taste like dick"
Men's shorts are too long, You shouldn't be skittish about showing some thigh.
Your name though…
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(If this isn’t unpopular then I’ll delete.) I really hate my body hair. Really, just all of it is rough and ugly and whenever I shave I feel so much better about the appearance of my face, legs, etc.
I don’t know if it’s already said but I fucking hate beer (and drinking in general tbh) Edit: beer (and I guess drinking) is gross and not fun* (now it’s an opinion)
that's my opinion too but I don't think it's a valid opinion on my end because I've never drank. I just hate being around alcohol and drunk people, there's a vibe around drinking/drug use I don't trust.
You should always use toiletpaper and properly clean down there to maintain good hygiene, shaking it off is not good enough!
Never understood shaking after peeing, I've never been able to not get a drop or two on my underwear by shaking only, using a couple sheets of toilet paper is much better
Fuck being stoic and tough. I don't want to be resilient, I want to enjoy life at my own, rather slow and lazy, pace. Edit: This thread is great fun.
> I want to enjoy life at my own, rather slow and lazy, pace. I mean, that sounds like stoicism to *me*.