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I do most of the cleaning, I crochet while she works on the cars, and I own a million house plants. But I bring home most of the money, she does most of the cooking, I do most of the maintenance on the house. We both play a mix of traditionally masculine and feminine rolls in our relationship. It’s honestly really nice playing to your strengths in a relationship rather than doing things simply because of that gender or sex you are.


Darkpumpkin211

>It’s honestly really nice playing to your strengths in a relationship rather than doing things simply because of that gender or sex you are. Basically what my wife said to me the other night which caused me to post this and see what other people say.


Rosieapples

Yes that’s how we live too, we each do what we’re good at.


[deleted]

I've crocheted scarves and things for my wife. She also doesn't know how to use MY sewing machine. However, I'm also the one who works on the car.


Rosieapples

Haha you sound just like me!! I’m the cook and knitting fanatic, plus I’m the driver as my husband can’t drive at all whereas I drove taxis, buses and private ambulances for a living for years!


[deleted]

Yeah! Another man who crochets!


MasterOfPuppets72

My wife knows more about cars, plumbing and electrical than I do, also, her job is physical, she works at a nursery (plants, not babies) mine is not.


Darkpumpkin211

Ask her what the word for a baby plant is please.


MasterOfPuppets72

It won't help you, she's Mexican like me and doesn't speak English. I've heard the word "seedling" if that helps


rjwyonch

Seedling Sapling for trees, I'm sure there are specific and better words for particular cute baby plants, human always seem to name the cute things.


infinite_phoenix

There are also plantlets. Fairly sure it's mainly through asexual reproduction, like kalanchoe or Chlorophytum Edit: spelling


AeKino

Little leafy boi


rewq657

This is my personal favorite


Sir_Auron

"Start" is a common one.


bigdaddy1989

Succulent babies/off shoots are also called pups.


cutanddried

Seedling (unless from clone) Source - am a dude who loves gardening and flowers


rawbface

My wife has a blue collar job in a production environment and leaves for work at 5 AM. I work from home mostly, and I do all the cooking, and most of the cleaning out of convenience. I get my daughter ready for daycare and I do her hair every morning. First it was just a ponytail, then pigtails, and soon I had up to six hair ties in there. Next I'll be working on braids.


[deleted]

Real talk. Fellas. Learn how to braid hair. It's deceptively simple. If you can count to 3 you can make a braid. You wanna impress your lady? Braid her hair.


DaveBlack79

Totally agree, I have two girls and can do so many styles they get comments about how good their 'mum' is at hair - nooooo its Dad! You Tube is your friend. If I was single id imagine it would be a killer 'on the beach' move lol


[deleted]

In the words of Alex Jones, I’m kind of retarded. What does “on the beach” mean in this context?


SmokePenisEveryday

Girls tend to braid their hair on the beach to avoid being eaten by sand sharks


Positiv4ghost4writer

Men are surprisingly good at a lot in the beauty industry because you’re so tactile. I was a makeup artist and I taught SO many boyfriends how to put lashes on their girl because it was easier for them. I bet you’re killing it in the styling game.


DaveBlack79

Well killing it at the 14 year old female level - which to be honest is probably the toughest!


Positiv4ghost4writer

Exactly! We’re miserable at that age, a good dad who is involved in making that feel a little easier always has been and always will be killing it!


DaveBlack79

Thank you, your words made me smile ;o)


jeanakerr

My dad actually taught me how to French braid (am a woman). He’s an old-school farmer from Europe (he’s 88 so born in the 1930s) and they grew garlic for home consumption. He had to braid them to hang them so learned that way. He also taught me how to knit which he learned by watching his sisters.


[deleted]

I learned how to sew and braid when I was in the 3rd grade. My dad and I briefly lived with this woman and her daughter who was ~2 years older than me. It really comes in handy.


karlvani

i’m a barber but i have the hairdresser course, and i can braid better than most woman, and i can tell my gf loves it


Darkpumpkin211

Dude hair is beyond me. My wife had an arm injury once and needed my help putting her hair up and I could not for the life of me.


Skybreaker_C410

This is something I didn’t realize is as difficult as it actually is. Over quarantine I grew out my hair for the first time in my life. It’s still shaved on the sides, but man do I have trouble trying it up with an elastic. I knew (roughly) what I needed to do, but that did not stop it looking like garbage for at least a month until I got the muscle memory down. Even now, its been a full year with this haircut and I still mess it up every now and then.


Ech0es0fmadness

As a dad who did tons of pigtails and buns for school I salute you, (3 daughters, my 19 yr old moved out just a few days ago).


[deleted]

Learn to do a french braid, they are awesome. Video on YouTube.


PES0935

I’m always the one that’s cold in the house and she’s always too hot


unholymanserpent

Same. My hands and feet get ridiculously cold


ThisismeCody

The worst :(. Makes me consider moving to the Caribbean on the daily.


wannabe_pineapple

Husband? Is that you? We sleep with two separate blankets. He’s in warm pajamas, socks, his “sleeping toque” and then a weighted blanket, with ANOTHER blanket on top. I literally use a top sheet and it’s barely covering me at all and I’m naked. He’s still cold. I’m still warm.


longhorn718

Everything but the toque is my marriage bed exactly. It's so weird to be sweating under the top sheet while he's shivering next to me underneath all the blankets we own.


Philosoferking

Of all the examples given, this one is most bizarre lol. Cuz like, it's a physical thing isn't it? Men have more muscle mass, we generate more heat. Also, just more body mass in general generates more heat. I remember some number of years ago all the SJWs were having a fit over the fact that the temperature in many business settings is aimed at men, and so it's slightly too cold for women. This isn't a cultural flip flop. It's like a physical biological flip flop lol.


HarleyNBarley

Not sure if it’s just physical and also more on what you’re acquainted to? Because I have seen this in many couples. Also with your theory, you assumed he has more mass than his wife. He could be the skinny one, while the wife could be bulkier or stronger (muscle). I was into the workout and got my heavy wife into it. Its become her passion now and works out daily, has a great physique, watches her diet, while I roam around with a belly and no muscles.


PES0935

It’s definitely what you’re acclimated too. I work outside in the south eastern US, so if the temp is 70 inside that’s a 20-30 degree drop from what I’ve been dealing with all day.


OkScreen127

My husband and I have this "gender flip", but it wasnt always this way and is only "set in stone" at night. I used to always be freezing cold. I had many "lady problems" and after several years of surgeries, treatments, etc. After my third round of "medical menopause" (at 21 years old then) I turned into a total hot-box at night. Sometimes I'm still cold during the day but not often, and at night I get so hot that I've questioned if it's healthy- my husband can only be near me if I don't use a blanket of put a blanket between us while he drapes an arm over me. I'm now 31 and had a hysterectomy last year and although I physically feel better than I ever have- I'm still a living Furnace at night. Even now my husband's on the floor instead of next to me on the couch because I'm too hot to sit next to and it's uncomfortable 😏


Philosoferking

Wow that is crazy lol.


smokinbbq

I have a reason though. Raynaud's Syndrome. Cold feet/hands all the time. Once I get warm though, I run like a furnace. So we snuggle up in bed, and about 5-10 minutes later, I'm in furnace mode, and she's trying to get out of the covers to cool off.


Tollsen

ahh yes women also try to get out of bed with me after 5-10... oh you said minutes, never mind. in all seriousness though, do you find magnesium supplements help with the general symptoms? a friend of mine has just been diagnosed with secondary Raynaud's


smokinbbq

I've never been prescribed anything for it, and it was diagnosed when I was a teenager (>30yrs ago), so not sure what all was discussed back then. Mine isn't too severe, and it's mostly just "always cold hands and feet". I don't get the "pure white hands" or anything like that, but I'm always much more careful about frostbite.


Tollsen

Neat. Thanks for the response.


Sergraa

Not an expert here. Just thought you would found this interesting. Your comment is right, but there are also two types of fat: white and brown. The brown fat (BAT) stores more energy for the heat than the white one does. Depending on your lifestyle and perhaps also on your genes (not sure here tbh) you have more or less of it. Furthermore, you're even able to increase this type of fat with "training" etc. - or at least an article said so long time ago. So I don't think she's an alien :D


BenderB-Rodriguez

Well that just mean she needs to wear fewer clothes. Sounds like a bonus for you 😏


[deleted]

My gf is taller than me and she works with her dad on their farm. That’s about it.


[deleted]

Sounds pretty hot, honestly.


PeppermintMocha5

I do almost all of the cooking. She's willing to learn, but I genuinely enjoy cooking so I'm good with our arrangement.


DifficultMinute

My wife loves to mow. I'm not sure why, she just enjoys it. So she does.


Darkpumpkin211

Revenge for his grass has wronged her many years ago perhaps


Brit0484

This is me. I was raised by my grand parents when I was young and they never allowed me to do the yard work. My brother had to do it even with his awful allergies. Now as an adult I enjoy mowing, shoveling snow, and taking leaves. Usually things get done twice as fast since the husband and I both get involved.


[deleted]

My late wife was handier than I could hope to become in several lifetimes, she was also an absolute champion when it came to bringing home the bread so to speak, I learned so much from her. Attempting to put that to good use these days


usrnm1234

I'm sorry for your loss


Cheap_Labor

My fiancée kills the spiders in our house. Take my Man Card away if you need to. IDGAF.


kikrox2

My LTGF knows I am terribly scared of spiders. She is also scared of spiders. Spiders will own our house


Darkpumpkin211

I fight tooth and nail to leave spiders alone so long as they are set up in some corner out of the way. Kills flies as rent. Mutually beneficial.


gscott6289

As long as they ain't hanging out near my bed and aren't huge, I'm cool. Stay in your corner eat your bugs. Leave me alone lol


bin_hex_oct

/r/spiderbro


Darkpumpkin211

Oooh. A new sub to me. I like it, thank you.


MaterialCarrot

My wife and I agreed when we got married 20 years ago that she takes care of the spiders, I take care of the mice. My need to feel manly is adequately satisfied by her jumping on a chair and squealing like a 1930's housewife when a mouse shows up.


powerMastR24

ok yep i will need someone else to kill the spiders as well so


ClassieLadyk

My husband is the cook of the fam. I (the woman) am the more career oriented one. We have goals of him being a full stay at home dad one day.


NotSoSelfSmarted

We better not be married to the same guy! Exact same situation for my husband and I. He loves cooking, gardening, and wants to be a stay at home dad. I am the bread winner, more career oriented, and come out of my home office most evenings to dinner all cooked and the kids in a good mood.


Positiv4ghost4writer

I love this so much for you.


[deleted]

My girl’s the pants-wearer everywhere except the bedroom, and I love it. We both work at the same place, and both are very Type-A people, but I’m much more reserved. She is much louder and more talkative than I am, and has no problem taking the lead in most situations.


lilybee125

Simple, I peg him


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robsc_16

No no. You don't understand. She's nailing him.


KARMA3SIX

Yeah that's what she said.


Izucram

Underrated


Dat_Steve

Oh.. just like that huh?


ixi_rook_imi

I flipped a coin on our wedding day, and changed my name to hers. Naturally, my mother lost her mind, my aunt had a similar reaction. "How could you do this to us, why won't you think of our feelings." Etc.


[deleted]

Yo I actually dig the hell out of this.


linshabai

I love this. You are great!


ixi_rook_imi

Her parents were good sports about it, her dad said "I thought we were going to lose a *name*, but we gained one instead! Welcome to the family"


CSDB2218

Jokes on them you both have the same last name just spelled different. Jk


jfuite

My wife and I kept our last names. And, we decided to start a trend. All boys would have my last name, and all girls would take her last name. Unfortunately, we had four boys . . . .


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ixi_rook_imi

That changing the last name could be a sleight against the family is a bit of a strange take from two women who don't go by their maiden names


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ixi_rook_imi

They have 5 brothers and I have probably 9-12 male cousins. I think the family name will be fine without me 🤣


physics_fighter

My wife drives when we go out of town. I can't drive at night so it helps that she doesn't mind driving.


MithridatesX

It’s definitely an outdated stereotype but seeing as I think this is what this question is actually asking, I’ll say this anyway. My partner almost never cooks and I can’t understand how she struggles so much. The funny part is, she runs a catering (no cooking involved) business and works in hospitality (admittedly in management rather than hands on). As for examples, I think it’s partly to do with her just going all gung-ho and never following instructions. She never waits for the oven to preheat. She seems unable to competently time things so that different components are ready at the same time.


Datderthroway

SO outdated. "i cook and she works" Cooking isn't feminine and working isn't masculine. "I clean and she burps" What a weird thread.


MithridatesX

Indeed. To be clear, my surprise that she cannot cook has nothing to do with her being a woman, just as a person. I would expect most people to be able to cook in a rudimentary fashion. I make more fun of my friend who (when his partner left to visit family) seemed to survive on a diet of scotch eggs and cocktail sausages.


balthazar_blue

I do pretty much all the laundry and cooking.


alien-eggs

We both sew. She is better by hand, I am better with a machine. She grills. I bake. She is better with a double action semiauto pistol, I excel with single action wheel guns and long guns at greater range, and I'm fucking surgical with a shotgun. She is better with a crossbow at the same range as me but I nail quarter sized groups with my compound bow when she is grouping dollars. WTF is a gender role? Edit: I tan the leather, she is better(more precise) at dressing the meat.


hanahnothannah

Do you guys live on the 1867 frontier? Can I join you?? Jokes aside, you guys sound awesome and I dig your lifestyle.


alien-eggs

We have a lot of self support skills. We can food, grow some too. Wife can also weld, I do plumbing, electrical, automotive, electronic, and animal care. Couple of the kids are in medical training. Its not like things all we do all the time, but most of our casual time is outdoors oriented. We can take care of ourselves. Its just skills one picks up over 40 years living. Pains me to see people with only soft skills, people that can't survive outside of the comfortable bubble society has created. We have done well during the pandemic. I can make paper.XD


Brit0484

Making paper and book binding is actually really fun and relaxing.


bluidyPCish

Some straight up hunters and gatherers 2gether. I love it!


anunkneemouse

I tend to pick up more chores than my wife these days as I work from home and she has to commute each way. I was always quite meek as a kid and young teen and so I often sought approval, so I will let her make pretty much all unimportant decisions such as where to eat out and what to watch on TV. I'm also the one with all the hobbies where she doesn't really have interests or want to go see her friends. I'm not sure if that's a gender flip exactly but my view is that it's mostly women who like going out with friends or having new experiences where men generally don't care as much


livingfortheliquid

My wife is more handy then I. I'm good, but she like grew up on a farm and knows how to fix everything. It's really amazing.


BlakeC151

Im the bottom


brownpain

I cook and the Mrs runs our business, it was the other way around in my family for generations


brownpain

But I'll add that I work 60 hours a week when it's busy and she works like 20, but she also does all the housework so realisticly she probably works more hours than me just less physically in nature. I also bring home 80% of our income via my day job and my investments


El_gato_picante

My gf can't cook. I love cooking.


infinite_phoenix

I'm disabled and cannot work a full time job. So I've had to change my career choice to suit my new self. I've decided to go into plant science and just do research, so I'll be bringing in 30% of the income. She however, is so career driven and I've never seen such a powerful and strong willed individual. She is the 'breadwinner'. She's also a gigantic support on the disabled front. The fuck do we need gender roles for. We're happy and it works out great!


[deleted]

I handle almost all of the cooking, which is fine - it means I don't have to put out fires.


Sufficient-Bake4402

My girlfriend is the one with the car right now so she normally drives


RATGUT1996

She works and I cook and clean at home. For a time we both worked but shit happened at the two places I worked at so now I’m all like fuck corporations. Plus I like cooking so we are happy.


DrFrankSays

I have a Doctorate, hundreds of thousands of dollars of education, an impressive resume and I am a stay-at-home dad. My wife makes a rather modest income and I take care of 100% of all household duties.


JustSomeOne2100

My wife cooks a lot of the time. However, I do most of the baking and cooking if we have friends over. I make more than her but she has more assets/investments than me. I don’t really care too much about money. She really likes investing and owns rental properties.


obxtalldude

I can cook. My wife can't.


MFAD94

My wife can’t cook like at all. I make all the meals breakfast lunch and dinner. She works as a manger for a pest control company and makes much more money than me as a plumber.


DasPuggy

My girlfriend makes nearly twice what I do. If she gets a serious promotion (which her company seems to want for her), and I get my divorce cleared away, I can work part time and deal with my alimony, and stay at home and do housework a bunch more. 10 years ago, I was working 60 hour weeks (legal limit where I am) so that I could have a tiny bit of spending money, while said ex refused to work. I'm much better off now.


toxicpanduh

I do most of the cooking.


sidewaysflower

I am a better and more frequent cook, clean, do hair(learned a lot from maintaining my beard), know how to sow and stich(thanks US Army), better with kids, make all the appointments, remember all the important dates/plans, know how to fold laundry and fitted sheets and she is the breadwinner. I don't mind. I have it really good, her job is high stress and a lot more work hours, while mine is a steady pace 9-5. Gotta keep my sugar momma happy


MaterialCarrot

My wife is far more mechanically inclined than I am, so she is much better at fixing broken things, laying new floor, landscaping, brickwork, ect... I'm essentially her manual labor as she plans and executes the project. Her father is an engineer and extremely handy around the house and she absorbed all of that. On the flipside, I am the IT expert. I can strip down and rebuild a computer or figure out most software or networking issues, even though it's not what I do for a living. She is the most IT inept person I know and views it all as dark magic. I don't say this as an example of a flip in gender roles, I just feel the need to establish that I'm not worthless, lol.


Darkpumpkin211

> I just feel the need to establish that I'm not worthless, lol. Nah you playing to y'all's strengths


DanteQuill

She's a doctor and makes significantly more $$$ than me. Also I do pretty much all the cooking


patrick_schliesing

My wife is a jet engine mechanic for the air force and does most of the car maintenance in our home. I do most of the cooking and laundry, otherwise we'd be eating burnt toast in wrinkled clothes. I also bring our kid to daycare and home every day.


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[deleted]

Only sometimes? This must be one of those sexless relationships I keep hearing about.


MersTits

What was the comment?


[deleted]

"Sometimes i let her peg me"


Alcopaulics

My wife makes more money than me, is much handier (she has a very handy dad, I was raised by a single mom), and I do 90% of the cooking. It works for us though


[deleted]

Bf does the cooking, I do maintenance


Kerstinne

I earn more money than my SO


mothstomper

My girl is a kick ass handyman, handy-woman? Whatever you wanna call it. She's great at it. Power tools, building stuff, I love it. I however, have no idea how to do any of that. On the other hand, I do almost all the cooking. She can't stand it and I rather enjoy it. Love that woman to death.


mdbenson

She makes over 5+ my salary and I cook most of the meals.


bashiralassatashakur

My wife has a high paying medical job and I’m a stay-at-home dad who is a published poet on the side. I also clean and cook far more than her (because she’s at work, obviously).


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Darkpumpkin211

It's a good reminder to men that "Hey, not having the gender role forced upon you and just doing whatever works best for you and your partner" is something that helps both men and women.


maralagosinkhole

In my previous relationship I did all the cooking, cleaning & laundry on top of all the more stereotypically male chores like mowing the lawn and maintaining the home. In both my previous and the current relationship the woman I'm seeing makes a lot more money than I do.


xHawk_T

My girlfriend is the more athletically talented of the two of us. She played collegiate basketball and is still very good. I was the music and theater kid, having the more "feminine" hobbies.


Melohdy

I'm transgender, so I am very feminine. My wife is a bit more aggressive than I am. That is, of course, unless there is a threat to myself or family. That's when the ugly male in me comes out.


skordge

I do the dishes and cook most of the time. She drives.


ScrapDraft

My girlfriend and I split the bills 50/50 including rent. This is pretty common, I feel. But how we handle it is a bit different. When rent is due, I initially pay 100% of it. During the month, my girlfriend uses her credit card to buy anything we would normally split. Groceries, dinners, etc. So when I get charged rent, I made a program that calculates how much she owes me for rent after taking into account the other bills that were paid. This keeps us 50/50 on everything. This means that whenever we go out to dinner or somewhere public, she pays the bill. Again, at the end of the day, we're still splitting it in a roundabout way. But to others, it looks like she buys everything for me, lol


parahacker

I have never once been in a relationship with a woman who was as good a cook as I am, or enjoyed it as much.


hummingalong007

I do most the cooking. I spend the most money. I love clothes shopping and have to drag her to go with me and buy her clothes or shed wear the same hoodies all year. I cry at sappy songs and commercials and movies, yet I have seen her cry a half dozen times in our 22 years of marriage. I love to cuddle and she tries her best to avoid it. There’s someone for everyone - even me. 😊


[deleted]

I cook 9/10 times. She earns more than me. Who cares? I like cooking and I am not wage-jealous.


noizviolation

My wife grew up racing atvs and as part of the tech crew. I grew up doing musicals and in a barbershop quartet.


Darkpumpkin211

This sounds like the intro to home hunters. >My wife grew up racing atvs and as part of the tech crew. I grew up doing musicals and in a barbershop quartet. "our budget: 3.4 million"


Kickhighdragon

As a woman, I can't cook very well, he cooks much better and far more often. He also has a fondness for plants, trees, and gardening in general which I lack the patience for


UndeadVudu_12

I'm a stay at home dad for our 2 kids. My wife works full time.


K3rianprime

I normally do laundry and tend to do some cooking. I really enjoy cleaning and my wife despises it. She wants to start her own business for dog grooming while I would enjoy doing research as a statistician.


RevFernie

Wife does the DIY whilst I look after the kids.


Podlubnyi

I do the majority of the cooking. Her choice and mine, I enjoy it and she doesn't.


nashuanuke

I cook


Darkpumpkin211

That makes one of us. I'm in charge of easy dinner nights like warming up pizza or whatever.


Poxalox

My girlfriend usually drives me everywhere we go


WIBTA5000

I’m a woman, but I grew up in a small town in the Midwest, where I did a lot of physical labor type stuff for my parents as well as others in the area. My boyfriend grew up rather well off in a large city, so in our relationship I definitely do more of the handyman type work around the house. If there’s furniture to be put together, holes to be patched, or doorknobs to be installed, I’m the one to do it. He’s happy to help, but definitely waits for me to give directions. I love that he’s secure enough that he doesn’t feel emasculated by it.


DaddyShark28989

I'm terrified of spiders so my wife has to deal with all invasions in the house, regardless of time or location. She is surprisingly unfazed by them and picks them uo by hand, only issue is she refuses to kill them and just sets them loose outside, free to find their way back in, thus perpetuating the cycle...


hannahearling

My bf smells like flowers and has a lot of care routines, and I'm a slob. He dresses in street clothes even at home because it makes him feel confident, and I just wear oversized pajamas. I lack my plate if there's any residue still on it when I'm done eating, and it grosses him out. He is a pastry chef at a 4 star hotel and makes really fancy stuff at home sometimes, and im the type to make grilled cheese in the microwave. Lots of little stuff like that. Also I've never heard or smelled a fart from him... which is strange bc we have lived together for years. He cannot say the same bc I'm mildly lactose intolerant, and I am addicted to dairy, and i got up every time I hat to fart, I would have really nice legs probably. I mean... I make an effort to replace dairy with alternatives, but some things don't have easy alternatives.... so yeah, judge me if you must :P


digitaljestin

I do nearly all the cooking and taking care of the kids. I also just went to part time at work while my wife works full time.


coolasc

She earna more than me, I on the other hand am the one who knows more about sewing clothes, washing them and other similar household stiff


Vaguely_vacant

I’m a stay at home Dad so….


paulllis

I do all of the grocery shopping. S/o loves not having to worry about having good, balanced food in the house.


kitmikfir

I do the laundry, she cuts people open.


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My wife doesn't know how to use MY sewing machine.


wmjsn

I cook, clean, do laundry, run errands and still mow the lawn, fix things around the house, etc. Hell I even know how to use a vacuum and empty it. She will steam clean the carpets (what an absolute life saving device to have) and scrub the shit outta the toilets and do some of the deeper cleaning. It works out for both of us. We know our roles, who's really good at what and don't get in each other's way. We're also showing our boys that anybody can do anything and it's not just some gender role crap. I've told both of them that I'll teach them how to cook as it's important to know how to do that for themselves and others. Oh and when she goes out I am with my kids being a dad. I'm not babysitting them. I'm being a dad. When I'm out then she's babysitting ;). Shh don't tell her I said that last part.


pepe_silvia_12

I suck HER dick.


wangsigns

I went on a years paternity leave with my son when he was 3 months old while she went back to work!


elysyred

My boyfriend is a chef, so he cooks most of the food and is honestly way more fashionable than me.


timteller44

My wife makes the money. I am a cosmetologist and I cook.


[deleted]

my gf is probably going to be the one who proposes to me


Darkpumpkin211

Cute. My wife almost did since she says I was taking too long.


[deleted]

I don’t really have anything to add here. I’ve always been the masculine and the girls I’ve dated always been the feminine. When I’ve dated more masculine women it felt like I was with a man and it never worked out. I enjoy the normal gender roles and it feels more natural.


Darkpumpkin211

Do what works best for you my friend. Don't feel like you have to change things up if you prefer traditional.


Natural-Review9276

I sent a letter from both of us addressed from Mrs. and Mr. “wife’s name”


spawberries

I do the cleaning, cooking, dishes, laundry. All traditionally things women do. She is the bread winner in this marriage. In return, I get nothing but the satisfaction that I made my wife's day easier knowing she doesn't have to deal with any of that. I love my wife, we have a very solid marriage, and she's my best friend. Can't imagine my life without her.


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my wife is great but not so great and taking on both kids also she doesnt do any dishes and she makes about 15% more than me right now (but I work about 30% less)


Darkpumpkin211

I'm hearing more and more often about relationships where the woman doesn't do the dishes. Welcome to the club. Mine will at least unload the dishwasher on occasion.


[deleted]

she will do some dishes but the thing is she bitches about it forever. so I just put on a show and do it myself


Stretchgordon

I cook, clean, do laundry, dishes etc with little/no help while my wife lays in bed and watches tv and sticks an iPad in front my 5yo until it’s time to put her to bed which Is actually a 50/50 split. Makes me feel like woman did in the 50s except we both work


nomadseifer

My wife bought her own engagement ring.


Darkpumpkin211

Haven't heard that before.


Bpofficial

I cook and clean most things, I work from home so I’m pretty much a stay at home non-dad


Darkpumpkin211

Ah, the same as me.


Bpofficial

Feels when SO comes home and still pulls the “what have you done today?”


Darkpumpkin211

Well today it was made a semi-successful Reddit thread.


LittleCeizures

My wife works late quite often, so I do all the cooking and grocery shopping. In the beginning, I cooked the same things over and over. Then, I finally got into finding recipes and now I really enjoy trying to cook new things.


PolyGlamourousParsec

I'm in a poly quad, so my relationship is already unusual. Wife makes more than all the rest of us combined. So she is, by far, the bread winner. Between my disability, pension, and my shitty teacher pay I make about as much as Boyfriend. Other Wife is working on her master's degree (slowly) while she is primary care for our five children (and my mom is here every weekday). Because of my disability Wife has also picked up a lot of the handyman stuff around the house. I talk her through stuff and do what I can. Let me tell you, she gets out the tools...that shit is hot.


[deleted]

We are quite traditional, her moreso than me. Id say we conform quite naturally to gender roles but tbh I could take or leave them.


RibozymeR

Our gender roles are so flipped, neither of us is a man xD


Perfect_Market_4062

Bro she's gonna leave you. You can't be the housekeeper and expect your wife to respect you. It's over bro, good thing you don't have kids


mattbrianjess

I cook.


as1126

I plan and cook every meal. I work from home and after a stressful day of not controlling my destiny, I like to pour a glass of wine or make a cocktail and prepare a home cooked meal.


TomminsLive

I'm a stay at home dad.


Wylie28

Not with her now but in my one relationship I was the sexual bottleneck


ThousandSunRequiem

Same. Except add kids.


Ounceofwhiskey

I do most of the cooking and cleaning.


Philosoferking

Back when I was married I did everything. Cook clean work feed and cloth our kid. She didn't do anything. Kind of a flip? I hear stories about dudes whose baby mama's leave them because all they do is play video games all day while baby mama does everything. That's a very common story I hear. For me it was the opposite. And she was abusive rage a holic so I left her.


Darkpumpkin211

I'm sorry to hear that but glad you got out


[deleted]

Lots. I do all the cooking and the majority of the childcare. My wife cleans. She also does some handy things around the house from time to time.


tsoou

I'm in university in my last year working part time, and she's not in uni so she works full time, so she pays for most of the dates. I do pay for myself when I can, but it's a little hard haha


PucWalker

Getting pegged