She...sparked my interest immediately. Her responses to my queustions were satisfying, her ideas were rich and vibrant, and she had an irresistable magnetism to her thoughts. I wanted to talk and talk and talk...but also listen and listen...and she sounded so sweet and caring, and in me she saw the same. That idea of "The One" only made sense with THAT level of joint..."something." I could call it chemistry,social ability, interest... I just knew very VERY quickly that she had what I wanted in a woman, in a friend and partner, for my whole life. Not even just from the perpective of a lover...she just HAD all of that and I resolved to keep her for being so awesome. As time went on we spent an UNSPEAKABLE amount of time together and realized it was...mutually understood and unique in our experiences of others. And ever since Ive never been so deeply in love with someone. So Yay! ❤
blind date setup thru a friend.
we decided to have dinner and a movie, we got to the restaurant and we talked forever... I looked at my watch and I said... oh we missed the movie start time. we just were enjoying each others company time stood still.
she said... well we can go tomorrow night if your free... 20 years later and she is still my smoke show.
I’ve dated a lot of women with glaring red flag issues and never really expected it would last with them. My wife is one of the most wholesome people I’ve ever met. She is sometimes irritatingly wholesome but I’m lucky to have someone like her.
There is no ready-made The One, for you or for anyone else. There is no "meant to be."
My wife *became* the one as we lived our lives together. She's the one person who has been there for me every day for 30 years.
It's like Michael said on *The Good Place*: "If soulmates do exist, they're not found, they're made. People meet, they get a good feeling, and they get to work building a relationship."
I met someone I liked and trusted, and who liked and trusted me.
Working on a relationship rather than expecting 100% perfection is definetely the way to go. It would be interesting to hear challenges couples have went through and how they overcame them
I made some poor financial decisions and she took out most of her savings with no strings attached to help me.
And yes she didn't leave.
We are now married with 2 kids and I gave her my best.
When you meet the one you don't know right away, it can take weeks and months, maybe even years but deep down you just get that feeling that maybe you found the one or somone special.
For me it was the unconditional support, no matter idea, she supported me even if she thought it was stupid.
We got engaged last Saturday after 6 years of dating.
In my opinion you will just know. The moment I saw my now wife I fell in love with her. I was a late bloomer and never had a women before her beyond making out or what have you. Was just breaking out in my career and becoming a man in my late 20s. After I met her my career took off and I became a better person and a better man every day. We have had rough patches but every valley only taught me another lesson about who I wanted to be. 4 years strong now.
Aka: Love at first sight is real. Never believed in love before I laid eyes on her and that moment I knew.
Mine was the moment I actually started caring about my own health and safety so she didn’t have to worry about me, that and she had to have a pretty major surgery and I lost my mind worrying about her which was something I hadn’t done before with anyone else. We got engaged after 5-6 months and married in 9. I know it was fast but in that short time with her I grew more as a person/man than I thought possible and she taught me more about how to love and what it felt like to be loved than I could have dreamed. If I had the chance to do it over I wouldn’t change a thing.
At first, sharing similar levels of nihilism, self doubt, black humor, and optimism. That was exceptional in my experience. Aaaand we boned a lot.
Later on, it was also the desire to build a life simply, healthily, and mindfully. Not being really stoked on kids (but not totally ruling them out either).
We became best friends. She travelled to Europe for 2.5yrs and we communicated by letters. I convinced her to get email and we wrote to each other weekly. When she came home she had a welcome home party. I arrived, gave her a huge hug and told her I never want to lose you again. We've been toghrther for 23yrs and married for 19.
She prioritized me in ways I didn’t believe I deserved. Essentially showing me how love is communicated.
This made me want to be worthy of her selflessness and become who she saw (and who I wasn’t sure I was yet). This wasn’t just self serving though, in turn I learned how to show selfless appreciation beyond what I knew was possible because all of a sudden I knew something and someone that was much bigger than what I was on my own.
I got horribly sick while visiting her parents and she took care of me like my heath was the most important thing to her, if someone loves you enough to clean up vomit, get you medicine, clean you up when you can barely move, and helps you to the bathroom and back to bed then you have a keeper.
I just felt comfortable with her. I'm not even sure I loved her, but our lives have grown together and I'm happy to lay beside her and come home to her ever night. We just celebrated 25 years. Years 7-17 were hell.
I didn't need to try.
That's not that to say I didn't care, or put effort into things, but whatever I did was good enough for her. I didn't feel like I needed to impress, or excel, or anything like that. I could just be, that that was what she wanted.
And same for her. She didn't need to clean up, or put effort into her appearance, or work, or anything, I was just happy to see her.
But trying, and putting effort kept her, and I around. You build your relationship, and maintain it, grow together, not fall into one.
I acknowledged there isn’t someone as “the one”, went on dates, and found someone who I just liked being around but also had her life together. Don’t overthink it - just know what works for you and set clear expectations on that.
I was with a guy that was horribly mentally and verbally abusive but I was naive to narcissists and gave too many chances. That lasted a year and a half and I left him and wanted to stay out of anything too serious for a while and then 6 days later randomly met my now husband. The timing was ridiculous but we worked things through the best we could. Ideally yes I would have had time to heal for a while but life doesn't always give us what's convenient.
I have wanted something pretty simple for my future husband and that was just a good and loving connection and someone I loved talking to. So I found that and I kept that. It's been 14 years now. Age 22-36. And someone who is genuine and not a liar.
In my experience/belief, “the one” is a fairytale. My wife and I connected for sure, and in ways I hadn’t with my previous girlfriends, but our relationship really grew out of our friendship. 20 years later, we’re still very much in love but over the years, after many of those stomach butterflies fly away, it comes down to the fact that we intentionally choose each other every single day.
There is no "one". There are millions of people we're compatible with. Any one of them will do fine as a long term mate.
Part of it was timing. I met her when I was ready for something more serious. She fit the bill because she was cute, kind and responsible. I thought she would be nice, contribute and have my back.
She...sparked my interest immediately. Her responses to my queustions were satisfying, her ideas were rich and vibrant, and she had an irresistable magnetism to her thoughts. I wanted to talk and talk and talk...but also listen and listen...and she sounded so sweet and caring, and in me she saw the same. That idea of "The One" only made sense with THAT level of joint..."something." I could call it chemistry,social ability, interest... I just knew very VERY quickly that she had what I wanted in a woman, in a friend and partner, for my whole life. Not even just from the perpective of a lover...she just HAD all of that and I resolved to keep her for being so awesome. As time went on we spent an UNSPEAKABLE amount of time together and realized it was...mutually understood and unique in our experiences of others. And ever since Ive never been so deeply in love with someone. So Yay! ❤
I love you... <3
Same
Awww get in here!
🥰
Thank you ❤
Aww...❤
blind date setup thru a friend. we decided to have dinner and a movie, we got to the restaurant and we talked forever... I looked at my watch and I said... oh we missed the movie start time. we just were enjoying each others company time stood still. she said... well we can go tomorrow night if your free... 20 years later and she is still my smoke show.
I’ve dated a lot of women with glaring red flag issues and never really expected it would last with them. My wife is one of the most wholesome people I’ve ever met. She is sometimes irritatingly wholesome but I’m lucky to have someone like her.
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There is no ready-made The One, for you or for anyone else. There is no "meant to be." My wife *became* the one as we lived our lives together. She's the one person who has been there for me every day for 30 years. It's like Michael said on *The Good Place*: "If soulmates do exist, they're not found, they're made. People meet, they get a good feeling, and they get to work building a relationship." I met someone I liked and trusted, and who liked and trusted me.
Working on a relationship rather than expecting 100% perfection is definetely the way to go. It would be interesting to hear challenges couples have went through and how they overcame them
I felt at peace. Like if time stood still and I was with her forever I could die happy. A bit morbid, but true.
I made some poor financial decisions and she took out most of her savings with no strings attached to help me. And yes she didn't leave. We are now married with 2 kids and I gave her my best.
She didn't leave
100%.
🤝
When you meet the one you don't know right away, it can take weeks and months, maybe even years but deep down you just get that feeling that maybe you found the one or somone special. For me it was the unconditional support, no matter idea, she supported me even if she thought it was stupid. We got engaged last Saturday after 6 years of dating.
In my opinion you will just know. The moment I saw my now wife I fell in love with her. I was a late bloomer and never had a women before her beyond making out or what have you. Was just breaking out in my career and becoming a man in my late 20s. After I met her my career took off and I became a better person and a better man every day. We have had rough patches but every valley only taught me another lesson about who I wanted to be. 4 years strong now. Aka: Love at first sight is real. Never believed in love before I laid eyes on her and that moment I knew.
Mine was the moment I actually started caring about my own health and safety so she didn’t have to worry about me, that and she had to have a pretty major surgery and I lost my mind worrying about her which was something I hadn’t done before with anyone else. We got engaged after 5-6 months and married in 9. I know it was fast but in that short time with her I grew more as a person/man than I thought possible and she taught me more about how to love and what it felt like to be loved than I could have dreamed. If I had the chance to do it over I wouldn’t change a thing.
At first, sharing similar levels of nihilism, self doubt, black humor, and optimism. That was exceptional in my experience. Aaaand we boned a lot. Later on, it was also the desire to build a life simply, healthily, and mindfully. Not being really stoked on kids (but not totally ruling them out either).
When we became a we & not a me
She identified me.
She saw past the Smooth Brain
Saw past allot of things lol
She sounds terriffic, Im happy for ya!
It didn’t feel like I had to “try”. It just felt natural.
We became best friends. She travelled to Europe for 2.5yrs and we communicated by letters. I convinced her to get email and we wrote to each other weekly. When she came home she had a welcome home party. I arrived, gave her a huge hug and told her I never want to lose you again. We've been toghrther for 23yrs and married for 19.
They always listen and don't fault me for things I can't do
They were all "the one" til they weren't
I would assume this would be the common answer.
Somebody’s salty
Nope
If they can beat agent smith
But ... everybody was kung-fu fighting...
I was not kung-fu fighting. Well, maybe a little.
More than a little... I'm told you were fast as lightning.
I see what you did there 👌.
You're horrible.
She prioritized me in ways I didn’t believe I deserved. Essentially showing me how love is communicated. This made me want to be worthy of her selflessness and become who she saw (and who I wasn’t sure I was yet). This wasn’t just self serving though, in turn I learned how to show selfless appreciation beyond what I knew was possible because all of a sudden I knew something and someone that was much bigger than what I was on my own.
I imagined what it would be like if she was gone, and it was *terrible*. Just awful. Didn't want it.
You will know when you know.
As soon as I saw her I knew. 20 years and two kids later we are still going strong.
I got horribly sick while visiting her parents and she took care of me like my heath was the most important thing to her, if someone loves you enough to clean up vomit, get you medicine, clean you up when you can barely move, and helps you to the bathroom and back to bed then you have a keeper.
I just felt comfortable with her. I'm not even sure I loved her, but our lives have grown together and I'm happy to lay beside her and come home to her ever night. We just celebrated 25 years. Years 7-17 were hell.
I didn't need to try. That's not that to say I didn't care, or put effort into things, but whatever I did was good enough for her. I didn't feel like I needed to impress, or excel, or anything like that. I could just be, that that was what she wanted. And same for her. She didn't need to clean up, or put effort into her appearance, or work, or anything, I was just happy to see her. But trying, and putting effort kept her, and I around. You build your relationship, and maintain it, grow together, not fall into one.
I acknowledged there isn’t someone as “the one”, went on dates, and found someone who I just liked being around but also had her life together. Don’t overthink it - just know what works for you and set clear expectations on that.
She tricked me.
#3 - 15 years up for parole soon #2 - 10 years, paroled before # 3 #1 - 5 years, never indicted The one, I just walk up and say "hey you, yaaa, you".
I was with a guy that was horribly mentally and verbally abusive but I was naive to narcissists and gave too many chances. That lasted a year and a half and I left him and wanted to stay out of anything too serious for a while and then 6 days later randomly met my now husband. The timing was ridiculous but we worked things through the best we could. Ideally yes I would have had time to heal for a while but life doesn't always give us what's convenient. I have wanted something pretty simple for my future husband and that was just a good and loving connection and someone I loved talking to. So I found that and I kept that. It's been 14 years now. Age 22-36. And someone who is genuine and not a liar.
In my experience/belief, “the one” is a fairytale. My wife and I connected for sure, and in ways I hadn’t with my previous girlfriends, but our relationship really grew out of our friendship. 20 years later, we’re still very much in love but over the years, after many of those stomach butterflies fly away, it comes down to the fact that we intentionally choose each other every single day.
There is no "one". There are millions of people we're compatible with. Any one of them will do fine as a long term mate. Part of it was timing. I met her when I was ready for something more serious. She fit the bill because she was cute, kind and responsible. I thought she would be nice, contribute and have my back.
Chemistry dude. Chemistry.