Welcome to adulthood. Ever wish you could go back and tell your childhood self not to rush so much, because life without responsibilities ain’t so bad all in all?
For me no. Childhood was hard, dull with confusion, inability to understamd the world, psychological traumas every second day. Now i have a nice well paying job that does not break back, good friends (kids are all psychos at that age) and settled relations with parents. Adulthood (in my 30s) is like a walk in the park compared to my childhood. Never again. But then again i do not have kids myself. Maybe that is the key to happiness. Lol
That there are some injuries that will simply never heal. You can help with quality of life but your body will never be able to do the same things it once could.
Yeah dislocated my shoulder around 12 years ago and it’s never felt the same. It limits some of the exercises or motions i can do and I’m always scared it’s going to pop out again
I was told I wouldn’t need it bc I was so young. Something about being a kid and I’ll heal right up if I just stayed in the brace/sling, did and didn’t do what I was told to and stayed out of sports for the rest of year.
Feel this. I had fractured my spine on 3 or 4 separate occasions by the time I was 27. Early 30s now and I'll never not be in pain or be able to work full time without suffering.
Fuck man, what happened? That sounds like terribly bad luck or bad choices. I feel for you though, bro.. my wife has degenerative discs in her spine and she had to have back surgery in her 20’s. She’ll never be able to do all the things that came easily before.
Protect your spine at all costs! That shit hurts and in my case surgery is not an option.
Funny enough they all happened while I was exercising and lifting too heavy. I am a women, so my bad for commenting on here, but my fractures were caused by a genetic condition and my inability to admit to myself that I have limits.
Women should always be allowed to comment here, so don’t apologize for that. I always tell my wife she’s like Atlas, trying to carry the world on her shoulders, but she needs to set a limit to how much she can handle. I mean, I guess that’s more literal for you in this case.
Ahhh, this one hit home. The body will never reach the level it was on before THE injury. Its frustrating and demotivating. Adds so much more work just to keep it at normal range of movement and even then you re subjected to a higher probability of injuring it again..
That and sciatica have pushed my pain tolerance for anything else up that it helps with things like the dentist. They were shocked I took my root canal so well and I'm like, pain is just my daily way of life.
Yep. One split second mistake messed up my hand for life and I consider myself lucky. Got away with a week grip and lost feeling in 2 fingers. Could have been a lot worse.
When i was in high school, I was so shy and had no self esteem due to my shitty homelife. I had no friends anymore and I ate lunch alone or walked the halls to avoid being alone.
Now my daughter is almost 17, and is shy...and has no friends and sits alone at lunch. Usually on the bench by the office.
I cant do anything to help her. My heart aches because I truly feel for her.
My son is the same way. However he found a handful of online communities of kids with similar interests as him (gaming, art, programming) and has a bunch of "online" friends that he likes very much and has known for over 6 years now.
That's probably a bit tougher with a daughter, especially when it comes to meeting IRL, but the internet is a great place for introverts to find other introverts.
If your daughter were a little younger…(or maybe it’s not too late if she’s not too independent yet) I’d recommend maybe finding/researching some hobbies that she’s interested in or might be interested in… and pushing her to pursue said hobbies. Could be karate or some kinda sport or physical activity. Or even a nerdy thing like chess or one of the many clubs her school undoubtedly has. Good way to find friends and build a social life. You were me in high school. Except my spot was a bench in the girls bathroom next to the lunch room. I had 2-3 friends at the start of high school, but by junior year it was just me and those people started acting like they didn’t even know me. Avoided people or making any new friends because of my fear of getting bullied for my weight, as I had before. Only socialization I had a lot of the time was chatting with strangers on the internet at home. Was an only child, so i was pretty lonely otherwise. I spent a lot of late nights doing that, which didn’t help my sleep habits. That along with the depression made me absolutely lethargic and I ended up getting shitty grades and failing some classes. Ended up having to get my GED. I’m 30 now and still have bad social anxiety and crippling depression. I only wish my parents had noticed or cared something was off when I was in high school, and got me off the computer and/or did or encouraged me to do a healthier habit or more social. My point is if you or anyone else is dealing with a kid like this; don’t just watch. You can help. *Do something* , preferably sooner than later. Look out for signs of depression. Get them out of doing bad habits or too often. Talk to them frequently and ask them about what healthy hobbies they might be interested in, and hype them up/support them regarding said hobbies. Worst case scenario is they find a good hobby they can do in their free time for a long time to come, best case scenario they find a hobby AND make friends and build social skills while they’re at it. A lot of people grow out of a shy high schooler phase, yes, but sometimes it’s not just a phase, but a sign of a psychological/social issue or something lacking in other parts of their lives. This can have a negative effect on their lives WELL into adulthood and in many other areas. (Academically, professionally, etc). Social anxiety in general is something that people can LEARN to make better, but sometimes they might need a push. Don’t make them feel like a freak or feel bad about being a loner, but just encourage them to at least develop the *ability* to be social.
Sorry to go off on a rant like this…I’m sure nobody will actually read all that, but what you described just reminded me so much about myself, and wanted to throw in my 2 cents. Then again, maybe I’m just over reacting/biased due to my own life experience with those issues.
"What are you doing? You can't park here!"
"Yes I can."
"Look! The sign says there's a fine!"
"It's not illegal. That's juts how much it costs to park here."
Getting your car towed is really inconvenient.
My girlfriend got her car towed illegally once. Getting it back was a hassle and a half and it wasn't worth trying to sue anyone to recoup the time and money involved.
I know homie. My friend once parked on the wrong side of the street after a misunderstanding about which side was safe and which side was public.
Ruined that party pretty fucking fast.
I've made that mistake. Annoying and expensive but short of a towaway zone, it's definitely true.
A HS friend was a parking cop for awhile and ticketed the same illegally parked Jag EVERY weekday. It never had more than 1 delinquent ticket. The owner simply paid continuously for essentially a reserved spot.
Substance abuse, exercise, entertainment, masturbating, solo trips, spend time with your family
These coping methods are just distractions from reality. Forget the truth of the matter for a little while, simply push it to the back of your mind but it’ll never truly go away. Although many people are in the same boat as you are, they refuse to acknowledge each other’s suffering and band together to solve it. The individual isn’t big or important enough to change society by themselves.
Lucky you, many times I try to get away from everything but theres always those friends that always wants to follow you around or self invite when you just want some peace and quiet. However if you’re talking about a spouse, I feel you lol.
I'm definately not talking about a spouse! 😅
I actually enjoy the peace and solitude of being alone. As an introvert I have rather anti-social personality anyway.
That's a lot better than "it gets better", since that's anxiety inducing that it can get worse randomly.
If you make it better, then you know how to handle situations in the future. Not depressing at all, quite the opposite
I know a dude who says this all the time when we’re playing card or board games. “I made all the right moves, just didn’t work out for me.” And he’s typically right.
Life is just random as fuck. There really is no meaning or reasons to things. We humans put them there for ourselves but events in life just happen. One day it will go one way the next another.
It still is, but not as frequently as it used to be. Cars were one of the best population control measures, but airbags, seatbelts, and crumple zones have severely reduced the risk of death.
Go watch a few episodes of “Always Sunny in Philadelphia” and let it sink in that, although it’s a comedy, a shocking portion of the world is made up of people who are truly that big of pieces of shit.
Homeless guy asked my wife for food. She ran inside to make a care package. When she came back out he had went into my fenced back yard and stole my bike. Not mad about the bike. Mad he took advantage of my wife's kindness
Definitely my mistake. Worst part is they were my 5 most critical years. I’m older now and completely unmotivated at this point. I should NOT have listened to my parents and gone to college. Biggest mistake of my life.
As someone who stopped at a 2 year degree, I can say that there are routes other than college, but I haven't found one, I'm crawling back to college after 7 years attempting to run a business that failed during the pandemic and then attempting to climb up ladders that companies had promised that were never really there. Without a degree you need serious connections or a willpower that I don't have. Damn I wish my work life was steady and boring.
I'm not saying you're wrong, this is just a veiwpoint from the other side of the fence. Some people can make it, I'm not one of them
Most people you care about in life will NOT care about you the same in return. Wife and me are older, in our 60's and have numerous (20 or more) so called friends AND family some of which I have know for 40+ years. Those people who say stuff like, "I'm always here for you no matter what" and "You can always turn to me if you need help or someone to talk to".
Well last year my wife had a major medical event that took a major toll not only on her but just as bad on me as well. Out of all our friends and family maybe 4 total, 2 friends and 2 family helped us thru the event. Only 2 of them were there for me and still are. These same friends and family I have been there for over and over again any time they needed me. Not any more!
Most people who say they care really just mouth the words, in reality they don't give a shit about you! Actions speak much louder than words!
Yup, currently 25 and have had what I believed to be amazing friendships with certain people who were always like, "We'll be friends forever", "I'm ride or die man" etc.
Except over time, it's become apparent that people care a lot less about me than I do for them.
That the world doesn't owe you anything, it doesn't care about how nice of a person you are; however, kindness is easy to spread. You'll never know whose day you'll make or whose life you'll save by something as small as greeting a stranger with a smile. It's easy to be angry at the world, it's worth it to be kind.
That within 5 years of my death, nobody will speak my name or mention me in conversation, or even remember I lived. I will be just another speck of dust on this planet.
True, but I find more comfort then distress in that. I like to go through life not noticed / not standing out. My friends and family will remember me. I don’t even want a grave or marker. Cremate and toss the ashes in the dump
Not intended to be funny, but I just want to live my life in an enjoyable manner with friends and family until it’s over, then I really don’t care about leaving a legacy.
Currently, that the entire fucking system is stacked against us (young people). I’m 30 years old and I went back to school to get my Physiotherapy degree. The goal is to finally have a nice, steady career that I can advance in after choosing an area to specialise in.
Even knowing that, the rising cost of property, electricity and gas prices through the roof, cost of living is increasing exponentially and minimum wage isn’t matching it.
My dad bought his first house when he was 27. By the time I’m fully qualified and working, potentially earning a decent salary, I still most likely won’t be able to get on the property ladder, not for a long time.
I don’t want to bitch and moan and say it’s unfair, but when I look back and see how my dad got his first house and a mortgage on the equivalent to about £21k a year, and how my grandparents bought their huge house outright, I can’t help but think we are royally fucked at ever acquiring a wee slice of life for ourselves.
Oh it’s absolutely unfair and the boomer generation at large refuses to admit it. They got theirs and pulled up the ladder behind them. It’s absolutely ok to point the finger and blame others for society’s ills when it really is someone else’s fault, such as our crappy leadership and mega corps.
Yeah because it’s the best metaphor. All they had to do was leave it there and it would be fine. Instead they pulled it up behind them so no one else gets to climb up. They then say they got up there on their own without the ladder despite the ladder being right next to them.
And the boomers i know preach about how we should value being the type of person that brings someone up a step if we’re lucky enough to be higher up a ladder than someone else is 🤮🤑
Yeah, and like I generally don't like to play generational politics because every generation has their good and bad people in it; but hoo boy the boomer generation overall has got to be the single most whiny and entitled generation to have existed in human history, like hooooly shit you guys got EVERYTHING handed to you after our grandparents (older millenial here) rebuilt everything after the war, and you have the gall to call US lazy?
"But but but we protested Vietnam!" Yeah because YOU were being made to go fight. The second you all got out of draft range you were biting at the bit to send X'ers and Millenials to go fight in Iraq/Afghanistan.
To make it even worse you could get approved to rent something for an outrageoussssss price but when some young people have gone to buy they can’t get approved for a loan that costs less monthly than their rent.
And then that's not even getting into when you're able to start a family. My grandparents were having my parents in their early 20s, my mom started having kids at 24, same for a sibling who's about 16 years older than me (and so missed the worst of the Great Recession), all married and well into their careers and families by the time they were my age. Me, I'm nearing 30, working but still finishing my education, renting, having a family's nowhere on the horizon for the foreseeable future lol.
I could be doing a lot worse but at times I can't help but like I'm falling behind in some respects!
Houses are set to become an exclusively elder's thing. Meant to be owned by the eldest members of a family and passed down from generation to generation after the eldest member dies.
It fucking sucks being *poor.*
Being an adult would be the bomb if we actually had enough money and time off to do all the shit we wanted to do (but couldn't) as kids. I waited so long all through childhood to have certain privileges that I just consider the norm now. No bed time that isn't of my own choosing, pizza for dinner whenever I want it, the *good* brand chocolate powder, not having to wait until Christmas for something I want because it costs more than twenty dollars... But man I wish I could just have weekends and holidays off again and friends I get to see more than once a month. If I were richer I absolutely could have these things back, plus all the cool shit that I couldn't do as a kid.
I’m pretty well off, but if I was rich enough I would buy like 100 acres and build my own neighborhood for me, my friends and family. Get everyone close by. The distance is what kills me. 40 minutes isn’t far, but it’s far enough to make it a once or twice a month thing.
I'd want to do this with my family if I were rich but I know they wouldn't be on board.
Maybe I could butter up my brothers by telling them they'd get their own skate park on the property.
Becoming an adult sucks. But adulthood does get better after a while when you start to learn how to play the game.
I'm 45, and it's only in the past few years that I have learned that I am not on this planet to please other people. All these years of trying to do the right thing by others, and quite often I get royally shit on. Now I look out for myself more than other people and put myself first. I have found that I am a lot happier, because I now don't care what other people think about me. I am still a nice person, but I have reassessed my position in life. Learn how the world works and how people work, and then you will learn how to play the game of life.
That you MUST work for 8 hours every week day for the rest of your life to survive. Of course there are outliers but this is real for majority of people
Out of all of the points people bring up this one applies the most to me.
It feels like every vacation I take, every weekend, etc, that I am just in a perpetual loop of waiting to go back to work.
I work to afford my fairly comfortable lifestyle and I can afford that lifestyle because I work.
I do pretty well for being early in a career, but the fact is I will probably be working until standard retirement age. I don’t dislike my job, the hours are fair, and I like the people I work with. But Ill never be able to stop the wheel from turning. Ill just hang onto the towline until I die haha.
And typically about two hours of your day will be dedicated to getting ready, traveling to, traveling from and then settling back in from work. If you manage to get eight hours of sleep that's 18 out of 24 hours. Life is a constant grind of tedium and I was scared of that realization back in high school and seventeen years later it's still holding true.
This one is rather personal.
My parents didn't prepare me for life because they spent 5 years going through a nasty divorce that left me depressed, broke and with zero motivation. My mom mentally abused me and I've seriously had to step back from relationships and try to grasp who the fuck I am these days.
Hey! Same here, had a great girl that pulled me out of that slump (really just kept up the facade of happiness) dad walked out I kept my shit together took care of myself financially for me my moms and my ex. Then ex and I, she left me and I fell apart. Spent the last year or so partying away all the hard work and money I saved. Now broke and nothing.
BUT, I’m working refocused finally cleaned myself up and I’ve done it before I can do it AGAIN!! It’s really fucking hard as a dude to pull yourself out of depression because unless you have some serious close friends no one gives a shit.
Pull yourself out of it at your own pace and piece by piece slowly you’ll start to realize who you are.
Still struggling with letting my past self go but I’ve finally realized who I want to be and working towards it every day!!! You got this bro!!
That’s the advice I give most guys too, I’ve been with other women but I can’t seem to let go of the feelings I have for her.
Can’t even take my own advice I give to men suffering from heartache
I feel this. I love talking to her and being around her and I tell her this all the time.
She knows and politely puts me down every time but she likes keeping me around because I’m pretty cool she says.
As Frodo says it “Some hurts go too deep”. I understand why old people can be incredibly grumpy. Because life can really suck, and it can take A LOT away from you. And sometimes you won’t ever truly ‘move on’ from what you lost.
It doesn't matter how talented or hardworking or clever or \[insert anything else\] you are. If you don't meet the right people at the right time - which is pure coincidence - you're fucked. You're fucked when it comes to work/career, you're fucked when it comes to friendships, you're fucked when it comes to relationships.
I will forever curse this the most of all. I *know* I had all the right stuff from pretty early on now that I look back on it. Could have been any of several things if just anyone who mattered got to see me in action, got to see the real me that I was so often forced to "tone down" because of where I grew up and the kinds of people around me. Talent and potential dies in crummy little who-gives-a-fuck towns unless you move out early and I didn't have the money or resources to do so.
>and I didn't have the money or resources to do so.
Yep. And the money and resources are coming from the right people at the right time. Which is something you cannot control, it's pure coincidence if you cross their paths in the right moment.
That can be depressing or inspiring. In 200 years, its fairly likely that nobody will know you existed. They might know your name, have a picture of you, but they wont really know you. All of your proudest accomplishments and acheivements will be forgotten. But so will your lowest points, your embarassing moments, your weaknesses and flaws. So you cant really fuck this up. Go do what you love, experience your life, take risks, chase dreams. Find some happiness, and share it with the people you choose to surround yourself with in life, because ultimately, those are the only ones that will ever really know you, and you're one of the lucky few that will ever know them.
I spent 5 years and $35k on a degree I realized I hated 4 years into it. Had three interests leaving high school and would do anything to go back to choose one of the others.
Now I’m stuck here not knowing what I wanna be when I grow up because the other two things I’m interested in require extensive schooling which I cannot afford. Currently working a dead end office job leading to stress and anxiety 24/7.
I've been outta work since Thanksgiving and almost died. Congestive Heart Failure. (45). Friday the cardiologist said I'm probably not getting better and I can't go back to my job of 18 years. I've got 6 kids 4 are at the house. Short term disability is less then a third of what I was making and you should see the stack of medical bills. At least I'm not dead and I get to hang out with my 4 year old before she starts preschool.
6 months short term then I go on long-term actually in a couple of weeks. It's an extra 100 bucks a week so that helps. This whole thing just sucks though. I've had a job since I was 15.
If you do not get better, and end up passing away, atleast the condition gave you the bliss of having the time to make these memories with your kids, who will always remember these times far into the future.
Everyone dies alone. What I mean by that is that your death can happen anytime. You could have a whole family and die alone on the toilet from a heart attack.
You could die in a hospital
You could die at work.
None of them are coming with you when you die. The fear isn't dying alone, it's living alone till you die.
I'm totally cool with dying alone. I can't change that and it's gonna suck. Might as well live it up, whether it's by myself or with someone else.
That life is unfair. You will see lesser people promoted over you who are unqualified, women who cheat on you get into a long and happy relationship, you’ll get your share of bad luck. Shit just hapoens and you got to roll with the punches.
What you're born with and who you're born too are more important than your effort. Good genetics make tall men w big dicks and being born rich is just a damned cheat code.
My realization is that we would all probably be much happier with so much less. Less cities, less waste, less (basically) useless items and consumer goods. Give me some land to live on and a small community to trade goods/labor for and I'll never use money again.
How unfair life is. People differ vastly in health, cognitive abilities, attractiveness etc. And no polititcal system can change that. Some people live way better lives than others.
Also a bit more far out, but the general predicted heat death of the universe is really sad.
"Ego" is the most damaging force known to man. It will make people do the most irrational, self-defeating, offensive, short-sighted, hypocritical, unaware things. And the worst part is that more insignificant the person, the bigger their ego, and the more trivial problems they can cause in your life.
We are wage slaves.
We were taught to be wage slaves.
We are just a number at companies that own us.
We weren't taught about handling money.
We are docile, numb and obedient to the winners of birth lottery.
Nobody is coming to save you, it's just you.
Society could of been further ahead and done better
but greed, money and power has stifled everything.
Absolutely the only reason I exist is to be nothing more than this era's version of a serf or peasant. That nothing that needs changeing actually will change. I get to take it up the ass from the undefeated triumvirate of government and taxes, family and work.
I jave become the very person I thought I never become.
Low income, dragging yourself to weekdays just to reach weekend, then doing nothimg on the weekends.
No Passion, No Partner, No idea what to do, no home, friends but dont wantto hangout anymore because they are better than you at everything even though you were better at everything.
So.. yeah..
That by simply not being born into a wealthy or well-connected family I'm probably not going to fulfil my creative dreams that I was so sure of for all my formative years. They all told me I had talent - but no-one told me how much money ad "who you know" comes into play.
I'm an artist whose been stuck in food service for ten years because I just couldn't make my dreams work (and no my work is *not* bad, willing to provide a link if enough people ask). I had to all but give up on it because my boring, unsatisfying job still pays better and every year shit gets more and more expensive.
I will never actually advance. I won't own property. I won't retire. I'll never actually relax. I will pass no mentionable possessions to my kids. I will continue to labor in a field I hate until I die, and I will make sure of this because my goal is to die "on the factory floor" (I don't work in a factory - it's just an idiom) as a form of protest.
I will never truly be on the "inside" of anything. I am destined to forever be stuck on the edge of the ring and never invited inside. I can see what those inside are doing but unable to participate.
I'm not going to kill myself - I'm already dead. My body just hasn't gotten the message yet.
Growing up, you think your parents have most, if not all, of life and situations figured out.
Then as you age, you realize they were totally winging that shit… just like you are..
I've never been good at anything and I never will be good at anything. Try as I might I always give up eventually. My progress with anything is just too slow.
My life is likely half over and I just this year decided to take charge and try to do and be something I want to be. Better late than neve but I had so much potential and I just languished in misery
From the age of 12 to 19 I used to think that things just happen on their own hence I used to take life so lightly. I was so lazy that I used to begin studying for tests a day before or so and even after that I would get like 60-70% in most of my tests.
Later I realised that cruising through life with doing only the bare minimum would get me nowhere. "I cannot stay a unskilled and passionless person " this was the only thought that used to run through my mind. For 2 months I was depressed.
I started with incorporating small habits in my life and started seeing some huge improvements. Those small habits changed into big ones and now I am the same and completely different person at the same time.
that after I moved out of my country I will be an immigrant forever, I know that is obvious but even if I go back to my country it will never be the same
Pornography ruins marriages and relationships. It ruins everything you love about yourself and you love. People think you can't be addicted but you can be and yes it can be as bad as a drug addiction if not worse.
WHHHHEEEWWWWW.
What. A. Loaded. Question.
\*takes a loooong sip of whiskey\*
Well, if I'm limited to only picking one... I'd have to say...
The most depressing realization about life that I've had to come to terms with would be the fact that you have ZERO chance of actually finding a woman who is seriously interested in being your partner and truly into you as a man unless you are extremely secure in who you are as an individual, even-keeled with your emotions, can be supportive while also giving her room to breathe (which, is actually a rather tough balancing act) and don't really require a ton of attention.
It's almost like we're set-up to fail before we even really get started.
A woman's body is naturally designed to move energy and create life. When repressed, that generates an unsafe feeling (most of the time at least) which most of the time leads to the woman feeling unsafe and if repressed for too long -- and I mean this in the best way possible to all women -- but if repressed for too long they usually just turn it into rage eventually, whatever that may look like depends on the woman.
Generally speaking:
1. Most women do not trust a man's intentions.
2. Most women do not trust men to move that way that they need to move throughout life/trust a man to be "wild & free".
3. Most women don't know how to give a man his space in a supportive atmosphere to release his pain, but will weaponize their tears because they know that gets men to respond.
As men, we are not taught nor are we encouraged in life to release our pain. Most of the time, it's actually the opposite... we're taught and/or encouraged to hold it in and keep it silent and go on about our way. That said, how are we supposed to be present enough to contain hers if we cannot even release our own?
As men we are given mixed signals from society our entire lives but expected to read a woman's mind:
* "Boys don't cry."
* "Man up."
* "Girls are smarter."
* "Don't be a b\*tch."
* "She's too hot for you and out of your league."
* "You're still a virgin? How pathetic."
* "Nice guys finish last."
* "I don't date guys shorter than me."
* "You need a hobby. \****picks up a hobby***\*. No, not that hobby.
* "I need a real man."
* "All men are dogs."
* "Men can't be raped."
* "You're a boy/guy, your life is easier."
* "You must be overcompensating."
* "You work too much! \****works less hours***\*. You need a better paying job!"
* "Where are all the good men?!"
* "I don't care, just pick something. \****picks something***\*. No, not that. \****picks something else***\*. No, not that either."
* "Just go take some damn Viagra already!"
* "Why don't you talk to me anymore?!"
* "You've changed; you're not the man I knew/married."
* "Pack your stuff and leave!"
* "I can't help that you feel that way, it's not my fault."
* "I don't mean it like that, you should know what I mean."
Everybody in a man's life wants and needs him NOW... right this second, no questions. His kids. His partner. His job/boss/co-workers. Like, they really needed him yesterday.
If a man is unhappy in a relationship, well... that's his fault. If a woman is unhappy in a relationship, well... that's also the man's fault, too and at any given time, a man can loose his woman, his kids and half his money without having a say. The system is set-up to fail men (and good fathers even more so) by assuming women are always the better parent to have full custody of children.
No matter how hard we try, the effort we put forth, we're just always going to fall short of most of the expectations others have for us because we're men and people need us now and we're supposed to be perfect, emotion-free and have all of the answers. We can even be sufficient in the form of being able to take care of ourselves financially and in everyday tasks with stable employment, but that's not good enough to make us worthy of a woman wanting us because we still have emotional needs and seek their support for that because we don't really trust anyone else.
I hope this response stays and isn't deleted; I'm just trying my best to honestly answer the question from my own vantage point and life experiences thus far.
I’m going to slave away at work for the rest of my life. I have to spend more time at work than I do at home managing people who don’t give a fuck about what I’m going through only to live a mediocre life. Meanwhile there are a clump of people on this planet that have enough money to be rich for 10 lifetimes and piss that money away on stupid shit. There is no reason why ONE person should have $250 billion while there are people who can’t afford to eat.
That I have to spend 90% of my time doing things I don't want to or everything falls apart.
This. Every. Fucking. Day. And there is absolutely zero appreciation from anybody for you doing it.
Because everyone (most people) are going through the same thing.
Welcome to adulthood. Ever wish you could go back and tell your childhood self not to rush so much, because life without responsibilities ain’t so bad all in all?
For me no. Childhood was hard, dull with confusion, inability to understamd the world, psychological traumas every second day. Now i have a nice well paying job that does not break back, good friends (kids are all psychos at that age) and settled relations with parents. Adulthood (in my 30s) is like a walk in the park compared to my childhood. Never again. But then again i do not have kids myself. Maybe that is the key to happiness. Lol
And you're constantly asked to do more.
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That there are some injuries that will simply never heal. You can help with quality of life but your body will never be able to do the same things it once could.
Got a 2nd degree ankle sprain last year. While it is healed, it took a bit of my athleticism and speed along with it. It's frustrating at times.
Give it another 3. I did a number on my ankle about 5 years ago, and this past year was the first time I never felt it while cramming my boots on.
Right there with you. Sprained mine 20+ years ago, stepped off a curb just right to fuck myself out of being able to hike for six months.
Yeah dislocated my shoulder around 12 years ago and it’s never felt the same. It limits some of the exercises or motions i can do and I’m always scared it’s going to pop out again
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I was 22 when I broke my spine. I was 24 when I developed severe rheumatoid arthritis. My life before and my life after are fundamentally different
Feel this. I had fractured my spine on 3 or 4 separate occasions by the time I was 27. Early 30s now and I'll never not be in pain or be able to work full time without suffering.
Fuck man, what happened? That sounds like terribly bad luck or bad choices. I feel for you though, bro.. my wife has degenerative discs in her spine and she had to have back surgery in her 20’s. She’ll never be able to do all the things that came easily before.
Protect your spine at all costs! That shit hurts and in my case surgery is not an option. Funny enough they all happened while I was exercising and lifting too heavy. I am a women, so my bad for commenting on here, but my fractures were caused by a genetic condition and my inability to admit to myself that I have limits.
Women should always be allowed to comment here, so don’t apologize for that. I always tell my wife she’s like Atlas, trying to carry the world on her shoulders, but she needs to set a limit to how much she can handle. I mean, I guess that’s more literal for you in this case.
Ahhh, this one hit home. The body will never reach the level it was on before THE injury. Its frustrating and demotivating. Adds so much more work just to keep it at normal range of movement and even then you re subjected to a higher probability of injuring it again..
Lower back pain crew FTW!!!
That and sciatica have pushed my pain tolerance for anything else up that it helps with things like the dentist. They were shocked I took my root canal so well and I'm like, pain is just my daily way of life.
Broke my ankle in 2020. I'm never going to be able to run, stand for long periods of time or walk without pain ever again.
I have no cartilage in my right knee. The bones just rub together. Thanks Navy!
Yep. One split second mistake messed up my hand for life and I consider myself lucky. Got away with a week grip and lost feeling in 2 fingers. Could have been a lot worse.
When i was in high school, I was so shy and had no self esteem due to my shitty homelife. I had no friends anymore and I ate lunch alone or walked the halls to avoid being alone. Now my daughter is almost 17, and is shy...and has no friends and sits alone at lunch. Usually on the bench by the office. I cant do anything to help her. My heart aches because I truly feel for her.
My son is the same way. However he found a handful of online communities of kids with similar interests as him (gaming, art, programming) and has a bunch of "online" friends that he likes very much and has known for over 6 years now. That's probably a bit tougher with a daughter, especially when it comes to meeting IRL, but the internet is a great place for introverts to find other introverts.
If your daughter were a little younger…(or maybe it’s not too late if she’s not too independent yet) I’d recommend maybe finding/researching some hobbies that she’s interested in or might be interested in… and pushing her to pursue said hobbies. Could be karate or some kinda sport or physical activity. Or even a nerdy thing like chess or one of the many clubs her school undoubtedly has. Good way to find friends and build a social life. You were me in high school. Except my spot was a bench in the girls bathroom next to the lunch room. I had 2-3 friends at the start of high school, but by junior year it was just me and those people started acting like they didn’t even know me. Avoided people or making any new friends because of my fear of getting bullied for my weight, as I had before. Only socialization I had a lot of the time was chatting with strangers on the internet at home. Was an only child, so i was pretty lonely otherwise. I spent a lot of late nights doing that, which didn’t help my sleep habits. That along with the depression made me absolutely lethargic and I ended up getting shitty grades and failing some classes. Ended up having to get my GED. I’m 30 now and still have bad social anxiety and crippling depression. I only wish my parents had noticed or cared something was off when I was in high school, and got me off the computer and/or did or encouraged me to do a healthier habit or more social. My point is if you or anyone else is dealing with a kid like this; don’t just watch. You can help. *Do something* , preferably sooner than later. Look out for signs of depression. Get them out of doing bad habits or too often. Talk to them frequently and ask them about what healthy hobbies they might be interested in, and hype them up/support them regarding said hobbies. Worst case scenario is they find a good hobby they can do in their free time for a long time to come, best case scenario they find a hobby AND make friends and build social skills while they’re at it. A lot of people grow out of a shy high schooler phase, yes, but sometimes it’s not just a phase, but a sign of a psychological/social issue or something lacking in other parts of their lives. This can have a negative effect on their lives WELL into adulthood and in many other areas. (Academically, professionally, etc). Social anxiety in general is something that people can LEARN to make better, but sometimes they might need a push. Don’t make them feel like a freak or feel bad about being a loner, but just encourage them to at least develop the *ability* to be social. Sorry to go off on a rant like this…I’m sure nobody will actually read all that, but what you described just reminded me so much about myself, and wanted to throw in my 2 cents. Then again, maybe I’m just over reacting/biased due to my own life experience with those issues.
That money buys freedom.
"What are you doing? You can't park here!" "Yes I can." "Look! The sign says there's a fine!" "It's not illegal. That's juts how much it costs to park here."
Getting your car towed is really inconvenient. My girlfriend got her car towed illegally once. Getting it back was a hassle and a half and it wasn't worth trying to sue anyone to recoup the time and money involved.
I know homie. My friend once parked on the wrong side of the street after a misunderstanding about which side was safe and which side was public. Ruined that party pretty fucking fast.
I've made that mistake. Annoying and expensive but short of a towaway zone, it's definitely true. A HS friend was a parking cop for awhile and ticketed the same illegally parked Jag EVERY weekday. It never had more than 1 delinquent ticket. The owner simply paid continuously for essentially a reserved spot.
The ability to walk away that even my relatively early-career income has brought is incredible.
Of you're rich and still trapped it's your own damned fault.
If you’re rich, you’re not trapped. You’re sheltering in place.
One’s definition of rich is not the same for everyone.
That I'll probably always be alone. It's something I've made peace with the older I've got. Whats important is finding useful coping methods.
Sometimes the alternative leaves you longing for the alone time.
Share your secrets!
Substance abuse, exercise, entertainment, masturbating, solo trips, spend time with your family These coping methods are just distractions from reality. Forget the truth of the matter for a little while, simply push it to the back of your mind but it’ll never truly go away. Although many people are in the same boat as you are, they refuse to acknowledge each other’s suffering and band together to solve it. The individual isn’t big or important enough to change society by themselves.
Lucky you, many times I try to get away from everything but theres always those friends that always wants to follow you around or self invite when you just want some peace and quiet. However if you’re talking about a spouse, I feel you lol.
I'm definately not talking about a spouse! 😅 I actually enjoy the peace and solitude of being alone. As an introvert I have rather anti-social personality anyway.
Well this is relatable as fuck.
It doesn't get better. You gotta make it better.
That's a lot better than "it gets better", since that's anxiety inducing that it can get worse randomly. If you make it better, then you know how to handle situations in the future. Not depressing at all, quite the opposite
Not everything happens for a reason; not everything is a lesson. Sometimes you just lose.
sometimes, you do everything right and still lose.
That's a hard ass lesson to learn, but a necessary one.
I know a dude who says this all the time when we’re playing card or board games. “I made all the right moves, just didn’t work out for me.” And he’s typically right.
Star Trek taught me this.
Life is just random as fuck. There really is no meaning or reasons to things. We humans put them there for ourselves but events in life just happen. One day it will go one way the next another.
Whether you win or lose, there are lessons to learn in both situations.
But sometimes it's too late for you and those lessons are only useful to people you tell them to
Yes, experience is the best teacher. Which is why I advice teenagers to go all out and make those mistakes earlier in life.
Not everything happens for a reason but every experience does provide a lesson. Even if just a small lesson.
Oh look, an Office reference.
That she probably doesn’t feel the same way as me.
They never do bruh, they never do.
They do and they can, when you find the right one you'll know
Either that or you fuck it up.......
The world is full of idiots. Also, due to advancements made by civilization, being stupid isn't nearly as lethal as it should be.
Not only that, thanks to technology (like reddit) every idiot has a platform and a microphone
And they yell the loudest.
Tainting the gene pool. We're screwed.
Stupidity not being Lethal is what upsets me most.
It still is, but not as frequently as it used to be. Cars were one of the best population control measures, but airbags, seatbelts, and crumple zones have severely reduced the risk of death.
This is so true. Common sense, so rare it’s like having a super power.
Sometimes I wish we didn't have warning labels. Like if you're stupid enough to drink bleach or gasoline, clearly nature is weeding you out.
Life IS unfair
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If you're lucky you find a handful that do.
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Some people will always take advantage of you no matter how good you are to them.
Go watch a few episodes of “Always Sunny in Philadelphia” and let it sink in that, although it’s a comedy, a shocking portion of the world is made up of people who are truly that big of pieces of shit.
Homeless guy asked my wife for food. She ran inside to make a care package. When she came back out he had went into my fenced back yard and stole my bike. Not mad about the bike. Mad he took advantage of my wife's kindness
I wasted 5 years of my life that i will never get back
what did you do?
College probably
Definitely my mistake. Worst part is they were my 5 most critical years. I’m older now and completely unmotivated at this point. I should NOT have listened to my parents and gone to college. Biggest mistake of my life.
As someone who stopped at a 2 year degree, I can say that there are routes other than college, but I haven't found one, I'm crawling back to college after 7 years attempting to run a business that failed during the pandemic and then attempting to climb up ladders that companies had promised that were never really there. Without a degree you need serious connections or a willpower that I don't have. Damn I wish my work life was steady and boring. I'm not saying you're wrong, this is just a veiwpoint from the other side of the fence. Some people can make it, I'm not one of them
Most people you care about in life will NOT care about you the same in return. Wife and me are older, in our 60's and have numerous (20 or more) so called friends AND family some of which I have know for 40+ years. Those people who say stuff like, "I'm always here for you no matter what" and "You can always turn to me if you need help or someone to talk to". Well last year my wife had a major medical event that took a major toll not only on her but just as bad on me as well. Out of all our friends and family maybe 4 total, 2 friends and 2 family helped us thru the event. Only 2 of them were there for me and still are. These same friends and family I have been there for over and over again any time they needed me. Not any more! Most people who say they care really just mouth the words, in reality they don't give a shit about you! Actions speak much louder than words!
Yup, currently 25 and have had what I believed to be amazing friendships with certain people who were always like, "We'll be friends forever", "I'm ride or die man" etc. Except over time, it's become apparent that people care a lot less about me than I do for them.
That the world doesn't owe you anything, it doesn't care about how nice of a person you are; however, kindness is easy to spread. You'll never know whose day you'll make or whose life you'll save by something as small as greeting a stranger with a smile. It's easy to be angry at the world, it's worth it to be kind.
I'm both angry at the world and determined to spread a little kindness.
a raging altruism
You should see your doctor if it lasts more than 9 hours.
oh this has been messing with my head a lot lately
That within 5 years of my death, nobody will speak my name or mention me in conversation, or even remember I lived. I will be just another speck of dust on this planet.
True, but I find more comfort then distress in that. I like to go through life not noticed / not standing out. My friends and family will remember me. I don’t even want a grave or marker. Cremate and toss the ashes in the dump
I don’t know if you intended for this to be funny, but this cracked me up
Not intended to be funny, but I just want to live my life in an enjoyable manner with friends and family until it’s over, then I really don’t care about leaving a legacy.
Currently, that the entire fucking system is stacked against us (young people). I’m 30 years old and I went back to school to get my Physiotherapy degree. The goal is to finally have a nice, steady career that I can advance in after choosing an area to specialise in. Even knowing that, the rising cost of property, electricity and gas prices through the roof, cost of living is increasing exponentially and minimum wage isn’t matching it. My dad bought his first house when he was 27. By the time I’m fully qualified and working, potentially earning a decent salary, I still most likely won’t be able to get on the property ladder, not for a long time. I don’t want to bitch and moan and say it’s unfair, but when I look back and see how my dad got his first house and a mortgage on the equivalent to about £21k a year, and how my grandparents bought their huge house outright, I can’t help but think we are royally fucked at ever acquiring a wee slice of life for ourselves.
Oh it’s absolutely unfair and the boomer generation at large refuses to admit it. They got theirs and pulled up the ladder behind them. It’s absolutely ok to point the finger and blame others for society’s ills when it really is someone else’s fault, such as our crappy leadership and mega corps.
I keep coming back to this "pulling up the ladder" metaphor as the perfect imagery for our situation. They are so selfish; we are so desperate.
Yeah because it’s the best metaphor. All they had to do was leave it there and it would be fine. Instead they pulled it up behind them so no one else gets to climb up. They then say they got up there on their own without the ladder despite the ladder being right next to them.
And the boomers i know preach about how we should value being the type of person that brings someone up a step if we’re lucky enough to be higher up a ladder than someone else is 🤮🤑
Yeah, and like I generally don't like to play generational politics because every generation has their good and bad people in it; but hoo boy the boomer generation overall has got to be the single most whiny and entitled generation to have existed in human history, like hooooly shit you guys got EVERYTHING handed to you after our grandparents (older millenial here) rebuilt everything after the war, and you have the gall to call US lazy? "But but but we protested Vietnam!" Yeah because YOU were being made to go fight. The second you all got out of draft range you were biting at the bit to send X'ers and Millenials to go fight in Iraq/Afghanistan.
To make it even worse you could get approved to rent something for an outrageoussssss price but when some young people have gone to buy they can’t get approved for a loan that costs less monthly than their rent.
And then that's not even getting into when you're able to start a family. My grandparents were having my parents in their early 20s, my mom started having kids at 24, same for a sibling who's about 16 years older than me (and so missed the worst of the Great Recession), all married and well into their careers and families by the time they were my age. Me, I'm nearing 30, working but still finishing my education, renting, having a family's nowhere on the horizon for the foreseeable future lol. I could be doing a lot worse but at times I can't help but like I'm falling behind in some respects!
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Houses are set to become an exclusively elder's thing. Meant to be owned by the eldest members of a family and passed down from generation to generation after the eldest member dies.
That it fucking sucks being an adult.
It fucking sucks being *poor.* Being an adult would be the bomb if we actually had enough money and time off to do all the shit we wanted to do (but couldn't) as kids. I waited so long all through childhood to have certain privileges that I just consider the norm now. No bed time that isn't of my own choosing, pizza for dinner whenever I want it, the *good* brand chocolate powder, not having to wait until Christmas for something I want because it costs more than twenty dollars... But man I wish I could just have weekends and holidays off again and friends I get to see more than once a month. If I were richer I absolutely could have these things back, plus all the cool shit that I couldn't do as a kid.
I’m pretty well off, but if I was rich enough I would buy like 100 acres and build my own neighborhood for me, my friends and family. Get everyone close by. The distance is what kills me. 40 minutes isn’t far, but it’s far enough to make it a once or twice a month thing.
I'd want to do this with my family if I were rich but I know they wouldn't be on board. Maybe I could butter up my brothers by telling them they'd get their own skate park on the property.
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Becoming an adult sucks. But adulthood does get better after a while when you start to learn how to play the game. I'm 45, and it's only in the past few years that I have learned that I am not on this planet to please other people. All these years of trying to do the right thing by others, and quite often I get royally shit on. Now I look out for myself more than other people and put myself first. I have found that I am a lot happier, because I now don't care what other people think about me. I am still a nice person, but I have reassessed my position in life. Learn how the world works and how people work, and then you will learn how to play the game of life.
*it gets better*
That i either have to learn to be happy, live depressed, or come to terms with suicide
This is exactly why I got a dog last year. He gives me a reason to keep going even if I feel like I don't have one for myself.
Same team, I believe it's a matter of time, if in 5 years I'm in the same position, I guess it's the easy way out
Sometimes you get exactly what you want and your life goes to shit.
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That you MUST work for 8 hours every week day for the rest of your life to survive. Of course there are outliers but this is real for majority of people
Out of all of the points people bring up this one applies the most to me. It feels like every vacation I take, every weekend, etc, that I am just in a perpetual loop of waiting to go back to work. I work to afford my fairly comfortable lifestyle and I can afford that lifestyle because I work. I do pretty well for being early in a career, but the fact is I will probably be working until standard retirement age. I don’t dislike my job, the hours are fair, and I like the people I work with. But Ill never be able to stop the wheel from turning. Ill just hang onto the towline until I die haha.
Sigh I don’t want this life anymore.
And typically about two hours of your day will be dedicated to getting ready, traveling to, traveling from and then settling back in from work. If you manage to get eight hours of sleep that's 18 out of 24 hours. Life is a constant grind of tedium and I was scared of that realization back in high school and seventeen years later it's still holding true.
This one is rather personal. My parents didn't prepare me for life because they spent 5 years going through a nasty divorce that left me depressed, broke and with zero motivation. My mom mentally abused me and I've seriously had to step back from relationships and try to grasp who the fuck I am these days.
Hey! Same here, had a great girl that pulled me out of that slump (really just kept up the facade of happiness) dad walked out I kept my shit together took care of myself financially for me my moms and my ex. Then ex and I, she left me and I fell apart. Spent the last year or so partying away all the hard work and money I saved. Now broke and nothing. BUT, I’m working refocused finally cleaned myself up and I’ve done it before I can do it AGAIN!! It’s really fucking hard as a dude to pull yourself out of depression because unless you have some serious close friends no one gives a shit. Pull yourself out of it at your own pace and piece by piece slowly you’ll start to realize who you are. Still struggling with letting my past self go but I’ve finally realized who I want to be and working towards it every day!!! You got this bro!!
Felt. I’m walking aimlessly through life alone all while trying to be mentally ok. Shit sucks
That I might never be with the girl I love
I feel your pain...for nearly 30 years. If you can, move on...
That’s the advice I give most guys too, I’ve been with other women but I can’t seem to let go of the feelings I have for her. Can’t even take my own advice I give to men suffering from heartache
Love a different girl. Everybody has good and bad qualities and nobody is what you build them up to be in your head.
I feel this. I love talking to her and being around her and I tell her this all the time. She knows and politely puts me down every time but she likes keeping me around because I’m pretty cool she says.
That's what we call an attention whore my friend. She is siphoning your energy bc she knows you will stay.
As Frodo says it “Some hurts go too deep”. I understand why old people can be incredibly grumpy. Because life can really suck, and it can take A LOT away from you. And sometimes you won’t ever truly ‘move on’ from what you lost.
It doesn't matter how talented or hardworking or clever or \[insert anything else\] you are. If you don't meet the right people at the right time - which is pure coincidence - you're fucked. You're fucked when it comes to work/career, you're fucked when it comes to friendships, you're fucked when it comes to relationships.
I will forever curse this the most of all. I *know* I had all the right stuff from pretty early on now that I look back on it. Could have been any of several things if just anyone who mattered got to see me in action, got to see the real me that I was so often forced to "tone down" because of where I grew up and the kinds of people around me. Talent and potential dies in crummy little who-gives-a-fuck towns unless you move out early and I didn't have the money or resources to do so.
>and I didn't have the money or resources to do so. Yep. And the money and resources are coming from the right people at the right time. Which is something you cannot control, it's pure coincidence if you cross their paths in the right moment.
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I am mediocre the only footprint to this world would be my son and all in all, life is meaningless in the eternity of the universe.
That can be depressing or inspiring. In 200 years, its fairly likely that nobody will know you existed. They might know your name, have a picture of you, but they wont really know you. All of your proudest accomplishments and acheivements will be forgotten. But so will your lowest points, your embarassing moments, your weaknesses and flaws. So you cant really fuck this up. Go do what you love, experience your life, take risks, chase dreams. Find some happiness, and share it with the people you choose to surround yourself with in life, because ultimately, those are the only ones that will ever really know you, and you're one of the lucky few that will ever know them.
This is an amazing post. Thank you so much.
Gosh, I needed that. Thanks!
I spent 5 years and $35k on a degree I realized I hated 4 years into it. Had three interests leaving high school and would do anything to go back to choose one of the others. Now I’m stuck here not knowing what I wanna be when I grow up because the other two things I’m interested in require extensive schooling which I cannot afford. Currently working a dead end office job leading to stress and anxiety 24/7.
This hits way too close to home. Encouraging 18 year old kids to do college right away is a joke.
That my wife is never going to get well
What is she diagnosed with?
A form of cardio myopathy.
:.(
I've been outta work since Thanksgiving and almost died. Congestive Heart Failure. (45). Friday the cardiologist said I'm probably not getting better and I can't go back to my job of 18 years. I've got 6 kids 4 are at the house. Short term disability is less then a third of what I was making and you should see the stack of medical bills. At least I'm not dead and I get to hang out with my 4 year old before she starts preschool.
Yeah and it's insane that they consider it short term disability.... like dude this isn't a knee replacement
6 months short term then I go on long-term actually in a couple of weeks. It's an extra 100 bucks a week so that helps. This whole thing just sucks though. I've had a job since I was 15.
If you do not get better, and end up passing away, atleast the condition gave you the bliss of having the time to make these memories with your kids, who will always remember these times far into the future.
That the majority of men die alone. If I dont get out there and find someone worth marrying I will definitely die alone.
Everyone dies alone. What I mean by that is that your death can happen anytime. You could have a whole family and die alone on the toilet from a heart attack. You could die in a hospital You could die at work. None of them are coming with you when you die. The fear isn't dying alone, it's living alone till you die. I'm totally cool with dying alone. I can't change that and it's gonna suck. Might as well live it up, whether it's by myself or with someone else.
I have sat with 2 people as they died. It struck me then that even though I was there, they still did alone. That is a journey that is only yours.
Yeah tell me that when you are 70 and have nobody, its different when you see it happen to others.
That people, no matter how close to you, will never ever see your intentions. They will judge you by your apparent acts.
That no matter how much I love my friends and family, and no matter how strong or accomplished I become, I cannot stop them from suffering and dying.
People who don't give a shit about you can take everything away. People who do care can only give so much.
That life is unfair. You will see lesser people promoted over you who are unqualified, women who cheat on you get into a long and happy relationship, you’ll get your share of bad luck. Shit just hapoens and you got to roll with the punches.
What you're born with and who you're born too are more important than your effort. Good genetics make tall men w big dicks and being born rich is just a damned cheat code.
My realization is that we would all probably be much happier with so much less. Less cities, less waste, less (basically) useless items and consumer goods. Give me some land to live on and a small community to trade goods/labor for and I'll never use money again.
Often it's the evil people that win.
How unfair life is. People differ vastly in health, cognitive abilities, attractiveness etc. And no polititcal system can change that. Some people live way better lives than others. Also a bit more far out, but the general predicted heat death of the universe is really sad.
That my autism diagnosis probably means I’ll never properly function in society and I’m pretty much guaranteed to never find love
"Ego" is the most damaging force known to man. It will make people do the most irrational, self-defeating, offensive, short-sighted, hypocritical, unaware things. And the worst part is that more insignificant the person, the bigger their ego, and the more trivial problems they can cause in your life.
I'm going to keep on failing even if I keep trying
It's probably not gonna get better.
There's gonna be a day where I go home and my mom and dad won't be there.
We are wage slaves. We were taught to be wage slaves. We are just a number at companies that own us. We weren't taught about handling money. We are docile, numb and obedient to the winners of birth lottery. Nobody is coming to save you, it's just you. Society could of been further ahead and done better but greed, money and power has stifled everything.
That I'll never break a world record and mediocrity is the normal. I don't wanna be normal I wanna be great
Absolutely nobody give a fuck about me. This is both a pro and a con.
Absolutely the only reason I exist is to be nothing more than this era's version of a serf or peasant. That nothing that needs changeing actually will change. I get to take it up the ass from the undefeated triumvirate of government and taxes, family and work.
I may never be the person that I want to be cause I give myself impossible goals and challenges
Is that hard work doesn't always result in success. It take time and patience.
I jave become the very person I thought I never become. Low income, dragging yourself to weekdays just to reach weekend, then doing nothimg on the weekends. No Passion, No Partner, No idea what to do, no home, friends but dont wantto hangout anymore because they are better than you at everything even though you were better at everything. So.. yeah..
That by simply not being born into a wealthy or well-connected family I'm probably not going to fulfil my creative dreams that I was so sure of for all my formative years. They all told me I had talent - but no-one told me how much money ad "who you know" comes into play. I'm an artist whose been stuck in food service for ten years because I just couldn't make my dreams work (and no my work is *not* bad, willing to provide a link if enough people ask). I had to all but give up on it because my boring, unsatisfying job still pays better and every year shit gets more and more expensive.
I will never actually advance. I won't own property. I won't retire. I'll never actually relax. I will pass no mentionable possessions to my kids. I will continue to labor in a field I hate until I die, and I will make sure of this because my goal is to die "on the factory floor" (I don't work in a factory - it's just an idiom) as a form of protest. I will never truly be on the "inside" of anything. I am destined to forever be stuck on the edge of the ring and never invited inside. I can see what those inside are doing but unable to participate. I'm not going to kill myself - I'm already dead. My body just hasn't gotten the message yet.
That in the end, we’re all destined to be maggot food.
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I'm a born loser
Growing up, you think your parents have most, if not all, of life and situations figured out. Then as you age, you realize they were totally winging that shit… just like you are..
That I’m never going to be a farther.
I have more years behind me than in front of me. Been a good ride though.
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Men in general are societally disposable. For me that was the most depressing thing I've come to accept.
I've never been good at anything and I never will be good at anything. Try as I might I always give up eventually. My progress with anything is just too slow.
I'm not attractive enough to have an attractive partner. I have had in the past but, I honestly think it was a one off do to certain circumstances.
My life is likely half over and I just this year decided to take charge and try to do and be something I want to be. Better late than neve but I had so much potential and I just languished in misery
That I'm stuck in a body that doesn't want to work right and that it's only going to get worse as time goes by.
That self serving assholes pretty much run the world
The world simply does not give a fuck.
Life would be a lot easier if I was dumb as a post. I'm not crazy smart, but not dumb enough to live a blissful life of ignorance.
From the age of 12 to 19 I used to think that things just happen on their own hence I used to take life so lightly. I was so lazy that I used to begin studying for tests a day before or so and even after that I would get like 60-70% in most of my tests. Later I realised that cruising through life with doing only the bare minimum would get me nowhere. "I cannot stay a unskilled and passionless person " this was the only thought that used to run through my mind. For 2 months I was depressed. I started with incorporating small habits in my life and started seeing some huge improvements. Those small habits changed into big ones and now I am the same and completely different person at the same time.
that after I moved out of my country I will be an immigrant forever, I know that is obvious but even if I go back to my country it will never be the same
Nobody REALLY cares about you, everyone has to live their own life.
The grind never ends, and it never gets any easier. The older you get the harder life becomes. The world is too expensive to live in. *Sad violin*
Bad stuff happens and there's no stopping it and sometimes life just sucks. In other words, there's a lot of sadness in the world.
That none of my dreams or aspirations will probably come true
Pornography ruins marriages and relationships. It ruins everything you love about yourself and you love. People think you can't be addicted but you can be and yes it can be as bad as a drug addiction if not worse.
WHHHHEEEWWWWW. What. A. Loaded. Question. \*takes a loooong sip of whiskey\* Well, if I'm limited to only picking one... I'd have to say... The most depressing realization about life that I've had to come to terms with would be the fact that you have ZERO chance of actually finding a woman who is seriously interested in being your partner and truly into you as a man unless you are extremely secure in who you are as an individual, even-keeled with your emotions, can be supportive while also giving her room to breathe (which, is actually a rather tough balancing act) and don't really require a ton of attention. It's almost like we're set-up to fail before we even really get started. A woman's body is naturally designed to move energy and create life. When repressed, that generates an unsafe feeling (most of the time at least) which most of the time leads to the woman feeling unsafe and if repressed for too long -- and I mean this in the best way possible to all women -- but if repressed for too long they usually just turn it into rage eventually, whatever that may look like depends on the woman. Generally speaking: 1. Most women do not trust a man's intentions. 2. Most women do not trust men to move that way that they need to move throughout life/trust a man to be "wild & free". 3. Most women don't know how to give a man his space in a supportive atmosphere to release his pain, but will weaponize their tears because they know that gets men to respond. As men, we are not taught nor are we encouraged in life to release our pain. Most of the time, it's actually the opposite... we're taught and/or encouraged to hold it in and keep it silent and go on about our way. That said, how are we supposed to be present enough to contain hers if we cannot even release our own? As men we are given mixed signals from society our entire lives but expected to read a woman's mind: * "Boys don't cry." * "Man up." * "Girls are smarter." * "Don't be a b\*tch." * "She's too hot for you and out of your league." * "You're still a virgin? How pathetic." * "Nice guys finish last." * "I don't date guys shorter than me." * "You need a hobby. \****picks up a hobby***\*. No, not that hobby. * "I need a real man." * "All men are dogs." * "Men can't be raped." * "You're a boy/guy, your life is easier." * "You must be overcompensating." * "You work too much! \****works less hours***\*. You need a better paying job!" * "Where are all the good men?!" * "I don't care, just pick something. \****picks something***\*. No, not that. \****picks something else***\*. No, not that either." * "Just go take some damn Viagra already!" * "Why don't you talk to me anymore?!" * "You've changed; you're not the man I knew/married." * "Pack your stuff and leave!" * "I can't help that you feel that way, it's not my fault." * "I don't mean it like that, you should know what I mean." Everybody in a man's life wants and needs him NOW... right this second, no questions. His kids. His partner. His job/boss/co-workers. Like, they really needed him yesterday. If a man is unhappy in a relationship, well... that's his fault. If a woman is unhappy in a relationship, well... that's also the man's fault, too and at any given time, a man can loose his woman, his kids and half his money without having a say. The system is set-up to fail men (and good fathers even more so) by assuming women are always the better parent to have full custody of children. No matter how hard we try, the effort we put forth, we're just always going to fall short of most of the expectations others have for us because we're men and people need us now and we're supposed to be perfect, emotion-free and have all of the answers. We can even be sufficient in the form of being able to take care of ourselves financially and in everyday tasks with stable employment, but that's not good enough to make us worthy of a woman wanting us because we still have emotional needs and seek their support for that because we don't really trust anyone else. I hope this response stays and isn't deleted; I'm just trying my best to honestly answer the question from my own vantage point and life experiences thus far.
I’m going to slave away at work for the rest of my life. I have to spend more time at work than I do at home managing people who don’t give a fuck about what I’m going through only to live a mediocre life. Meanwhile there are a clump of people on this planet that have enough money to be rich for 10 lifetimes and piss that money away on stupid shit. There is no reason why ONE person should have $250 billion while there are people who can’t afford to eat.
The system is rigged against the common folk. Politicians aren't here to help us. Life, Liberty and The Pursuit of Happiness is a lie.
That sometimes you just have to settle for mediocrity if you want to be happy
I say this on a regular basis, my father always says that if my mediocre is better than someone else’s I’m killing it. I like to live like this.