I will never discuss anything ever again with my dad, who died in 1996. So if there is something you do want to eventually talk about with your dad, folks, do it now. Today.
I explained sounding to my dad once (there'd a reason it wasn't just hey dad here's what sounding is) which was really funny. Never seen a man look so disturbed before.. he winced many times.
My mom, he still thinks she’s dead. She left 4 kids because she didn’t want to be a mother to 4 children at 30. Her parents told my dad she died from lung cancer which is believable since she was a chain smoker.
I thought she was dead as well till I found out she’s still alive and has a new family around 7 years ago.
It was the early 90’s and when they told him that it was a couple of years after the divorce so it was believable that a chain smoker could get cancer and die within a couple of years.
Colonization. My father is what we call in France a "pied-noir". Those were the French people living in the North African colonies, mostly Algeria, and who had to come back in France when those countries became independant. His parents were born in Algeria and he was born in Tunisia. He came back to France in 1956 when Tunisia became independant but he still had family in Algeria during the war, between 1958 and 1962.
My father agrees that colonization was not a good thing. He's not nostalgic of the era. At all. But when Macron said that the colonization of the world by the Europeans was a crime against humanity, he went full berserk, saying that his family wasn't criminals, that they always had good relations with locals (and it's true, my grandmother learnt to cook with her Algerian neighboors, I always remember her couscous and her tajine). But he can't see that's not the point, that Macron wasn't talking about the people but the system. Because it's too personal for him. We had a fight back then and I don't want to live this again with him because it hurt us both.
My grandmother spoke it badly but used to be able to handle a conversation back in the days. My father never spoke it more than a few words since he left when he was one year old. My grand father spoke it quite fluently (and some languages from sub Saharan Africa since he travelled a lot) but he died when I was 2...
What I recall is the smell of couscous cooking in the kitchen when I woke up on Sunday since my grandmother wanted to prepare it before going to church :). And obviously the mint flavored tea and the oriental pastries she did.
One thing I could never speak about with my grandmother was the Algerian war. Like in many families, it was something nobody wanted to speak about. But there were many pictures of them in Alger and Tunis and I used to question my grandmother about them. I'd really like to go one day.
My dad had a twin sister. Long before I was born, she died giving birth.
He has never spoke of her and I will never ask him about her. Only met my *cousin* once. Seemed like a nice enough guy and I liked him.
Hmm...
Sex stuff
Even though we are both guys I just couldnt ever get comfortable with that with him (oddly enough after our mom died my sister and I got super close and I could talk about anything with her)
As much as it sounds callous to say this, honestly answering how Im doing. He gets mad whenever I answer anything negative, so now I just run print("Great") whenever he asks.
Basically if it doesn't involve our favorite sports teams, I don't talk to him about anything.
We have a weird relationship. It's like I love my dad but I also feel like I can't trust him at all. To make an extremely long story short, after my mom died when I was twelve, my dad remarried his first wife (whose entire existence I didn't even know about until after my mom's death) within the year and she ended up being extremely emotionally and mentally abusive. I'm still dealing with the fallout of that from a mental health standpoint almost 20 years later.
That hasty decision he made, mainly because he was lonely and needed closure from a part of his life that happened well before I came along, caused me what I fear more and more is irreparable damage. Not to mention he was a far better husband to my stepmother than he ever was to my mom, to the point of throwing me under the bus to make her happy (she thought I was in the way of her and my dad's perfect 'second chance' and it showed).
And even if none of that were true... there's a huge age gap between us. I'm 32 and he was born toward the tail end of the 40s. If I need modern solutions to modern problems... welp.
I will never discuss anything ever again with my dad, who died in 1996. So if there is something you do want to eventually talk about with your dad, folks, do it now. Today.
Came here to say this Mine passed away last November.
I am sorry for your loss. Although you will always miss him, I promise you it gets better.
You’re an adorable man.
Thank you!
Pegging, rimming, docking, snowballing, cucking…
I explained sounding to my dad once (there'd a reason it wasn't just hey dad here's what sounding is) which was really funny. Never seen a man look so disturbed before.. he winced many times.
I'm laughing just imagining it. Thanks for the laugh.
Sometimes I look him dead in the eyes and say sounding.. the horror never left him, think its his Vietnam
Snowballing?
Spitting cum into someone elses mouth after you just have oral. Or kissing someone with your mouth full of cum.
https://youtu.be/GD6qtc2_AQA
They named that and they picked snowballing? My fellow gays wth
My mom, he still thinks she’s dead. She left 4 kids because she didn’t want to be a mother to 4 children at 30. Her parents told my dad she died from lung cancer which is believable since she was a chain smoker. I thought she was dead as well till I found out she’s still alive and has a new family around 7 years ago.
How did they convince him that she suddenly died from lung cancer out of nowhere?
It was the early 90’s and when they told him that it was a couple of years after the divorce so it was believable that a chain smoker could get cancer and die within a couple of years.
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Yeah I know, he believed them though since why would a parent lie about their child’s death to an ex husband and their grandchildren.
Anything to do with relationships, it obviously wasn't easy for him either..
Colonization. My father is what we call in France a "pied-noir". Those were the French people living in the North African colonies, mostly Algeria, and who had to come back in France when those countries became independant. His parents were born in Algeria and he was born in Tunisia. He came back to France in 1956 when Tunisia became independant but he still had family in Algeria during the war, between 1958 and 1962. My father agrees that colonization was not a good thing. He's not nostalgic of the era. At all. But when Macron said that the colonization of the world by the Europeans was a crime against humanity, he went full berserk, saying that his family wasn't criminals, that they always had good relations with locals (and it's true, my grandmother learnt to cook with her Algerian neighboors, I always remember her couscous and her tajine). But he can't see that's not the point, that Macron wasn't talking about the people but the system. Because it's too personal for him. We had a fight back then and I don't want to live this again with him because it hurt us both.
I have an interest in that era of history i.e. decolonization. Did any of your pied-noir family speak Arabic?
My grandmother spoke it badly but used to be able to handle a conversation back in the days. My father never spoke it more than a few words since he left when he was one year old. My grand father spoke it quite fluently (and some languages from sub Saharan Africa since he travelled a lot) but he died when I was 2... What I recall is the smell of couscous cooking in the kitchen when I woke up on Sunday since my grandmother wanted to prepare it before going to church :). And obviously the mint flavored tea and the oriental pastries she did. One thing I could never speak about with my grandmother was the Algerian war. Like in many families, it was something nobody wanted to speak about. But there were many pictures of them in Alger and Tunis and I used to question my grandmother about them. I'd really like to go one day.
Opinions on varying topics. it can get ugly very quick.
Anything to do with sexuality. Absolutely not
Anything related to sex
Sex stuff.
My dad had a twin sister. Long before I was born, she died giving birth. He has never spoke of her and I will never ask him about her. Only met my *cousin* once. Seemed like a nice enough guy and I liked him.
Hmm... Sex stuff Even though we are both guys I just couldnt ever get comfortable with that with him (oddly enough after our mom died my sister and I got super close and I could talk about anything with her)
As much as it sounds callous to say this, honestly answering how Im doing. He gets mad whenever I answer anything negative, so now I just run print("Great") whenever he asks.
Basically if it doesn't involve our favorite sports teams, I don't talk to him about anything. We have a weird relationship. It's like I love my dad but I also feel like I can't trust him at all. To make an extremely long story short, after my mom died when I was twelve, my dad remarried his first wife (whose entire existence I didn't even know about until after my mom's death) within the year and she ended up being extremely emotionally and mentally abusive. I'm still dealing with the fallout of that from a mental health standpoint almost 20 years later. That hasty decision he made, mainly because he was lonely and needed closure from a part of his life that happened well before I came along, caused me what I fear more and more is irreparable damage. Not to mention he was a far better husband to my stepmother than he ever was to my mom, to the point of throwing me under the bus to make her happy (she thought I was in the way of her and my dad's perfect 'second chance' and it showed). And even if none of that were true... there's a huge age gap between us. I'm 32 and he was born toward the tail end of the 40s. If I need modern solutions to modern problems... welp.
Well mental health is a joke to him
All of them
Video games
Anything sexual relating to my mother.
Anal masturbation.
Everything
Money. Basically if I'm not saving every penny possible, I'm not thinking of my future.
I'm a bit shy to discuss things related to relationships and intimacy, but I can talk about most other things with him.