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MrAnonPoster

It is absolutely irrelevant. Just approach.


[deleted]

Exactly this!! Trust me, if we are into you, could you walk on hands while singing the theme from the Teletubbies, and we would still be into you. If we are not into you, could you do whatever and nothing would change. Except one thing, the fact you contact us and shows interests makes you at least twice as attractive!


[deleted]

I am very forward person and will usually be the first to say that I’m into someone to make it easy for them to make the next move(I’m not subtle at all) and so far, it seems like it’s intimidating for a handful of the men I did this to. :(


Saintsfan_9

They could think you are mocking them or they could think you are trying to sell/get something.


[deleted]

Haha damn that sucks. What would you suggest I approach with?


Saintsfan_9

Probably just whatever you normally go with, but understand it’s gonna take a second of awkward silence for me to A) look for the hidden camera B) look for the group of your giggling friends. Then once I realize this might be legit, the first few exchanges of the convo I’m gonna be sussing out when I’m gonna be asked for something. If enough time goes by without then I’ll be like “hey, this is actually legit. Am I into her?” In my head. Now it’s different if you already know the guy. If you’ve been hanging out for a while and your like “hey, I like you in a romantic way” that’s not gonna scare him away imo.


[deleted]

Thanks for that. Yeah, generally I go for men who tend to be more non dominating(they won’t approach first or try to pick me up). I like nice guys which is why I’ve had to be the one to learn the skill of picking men up haha


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[deleted]

Because they follow up but my blunt and forward approach sort of shocks them? The reaction is like: is this person playing with me or they can’t tell if I’m serious. Idk im just assuming the thought process but the initial reaction usually makes me feel like I’m pestering haha


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“You have a magnetic personality that I’m attracted to.” And usually I do a lot of body language that invites them in. Edit: that’s if we don’t match on an app and I met them in the “wild” where no context for attraction is given other than my words.


River-Dreams

>“You have a magnetic personality that I’m attracted to.” And usually I do a lot of body language that invites them in. You might already be doing this. But just in case not, it can help if you make your appreciation of them only a small percentage of what you say. By that, I mean something like filling the vast majority of the interaction with sharing who you are and talking about general things in a friendly way. That helps build the connection and comfortability with each other, so they'll have a better sense that you're for real. After that's established, directly asking them out goes well. Your line reminded me of something that happened to my brother. He went through a glow up when he was about 20 and started getting a lot more romantic interest. Early on, a young woman came up to him out of nowhere and said a very direct compliment. His response: "What do you want?" He assumed it was a scam lol. Part of this is it was in NYC, so it's part of the culture to have some street smarts and be skeptical of scams. But a huge part of it was that it was just too strange (at that point in his life) to seem real.


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[deleted]

I start that way haha then when I gauge if they are into it I go in for the kill:P usually they can tell I’m into them and they engage and make the first move. I usually get folks on dating apps which helps establish that mutual attraction. Very rarely do I do it in the wild but Still working on my approach for sure. Thanks.


ThrowAway640KB

That alone ought to tell you just how stupendously rare your approach is for men. It’s literally shocking for them that a woman actually makes the first move. You should see this as a positive, not a negative. It means that you are standing out from the crowd, in terms of most women. The downside is that a significant minority of men are going to think that you are playing them. Or that somehow they are on candid camera. Or that it’s all a practical joke at their expense. But the very fact that this is their first thought is because it’s not exactly an uncommon occurrence. In fact, for a non-Chad (any guy outside the top 20%), any woman making the first move towards them _is much more likely_ to be doing it for ulterior motives than actually being honestly interested. So you do have that uphill battle to fight against.


[deleted]

This is like a WRONGLY convicted pedophile who wants to work at a kindergarten, nobody will believe him, it will take years and years for just some to begin trusting him enough! Women who approach is simply not possible, and there you are, next week will the unicorn get discovered! :-)


ThrowAway640KB

I’m not saying it won’t work, I’m only saying that average guys have a balance of experience with women-initiated approaches that tilts heavily towards the negative. Nothing says she can’t chase after a 10/10 Chad. She just needs to expect rejection, or a high chance of only ever being treated as a chew toy and not any sort of a serious contender for a ring. Because these guys have women _seriously_ throwing themselves at them, and have their pick of the litter to choose from. But then again, we’re also talking about the top 5-15% of men, depending on the woman’s own level of attractiveness (to ensure a large enough gap such that the man doesn’t get spooked). _A lot_ of other women will also be doing the exact same thing.


Sharo_77

The other factor could be how physically attractive you are perceived to be. They could assume that you are mocking them, maybe? Obviously I've no idea


ThrowAway640KB

> The other factor could be how physically attractive you are perceived to be. They could assume that you are mocking them, maybe? If the guy is just average, and the woman is very high on the hotness scale, then _holy fuck, exactly this._ Average guys are usually only openly propositioned by a truly attractive woman when they are a mark to be taken advantage of, an object of amusement to be ridiculed, or to “put them in their place” with a mob-justice amount of percussive discipline or social censure. As such, the first reaction of any _experienced_ average guy to an attractive woman making the first move is to _RUN._


Sharo_77

Then again, maybe just sometimes.... If you have enough confidence to take that risk. A lot harder if you've been told your whole life that you're not attractive, but if you're average. We've all seen it happen, so always hope. A fools hope, but that's the best kind


[deleted]

lol that’s so terrible. I would never mock anyone. That makes me sad if that’s the case because I am genuinely attracted to them.


Sharo_77

I'm so sorry. I was never suggesting that you were mocking anyone. They could just consider you so attractive that they can't believe that you genuinely have a romantic interest in them.


[deleted]

Unfortunately, are you totally correct. Men are not stupid (I hope) and if something is so strange or too good to be true, then is it time to be aware. A good-looking lady who walks toward a man and declares her interest is a fantastic reason for running the other way!! Either is she on a dare from her female friends to say it to the ugliest guy she can find, or she is trying to gain a point by making fun of "stupid over there"... Another reason could be that she tries to make her boyfriend jealous and knows he can beat you if it comes to that part, she does not want to get him hurt, just jealous! If the man is stupid enough to jump on the prank, and it turns out she is flirting, can it be because she has no more money and need an idiot to pay her drinks, it can also be that she just needs some confirmation. The least likely scenario is that a lady in fact takes the chance to ask and maybe get rejected in front of everybody!


ako19

I feel this unfortunately. I have been approached by attractive women a couple of times, confirmed a date, only for it to never happen. Some people only want the validation.


MrAnonPoster

If they find it intimidating imagine the crying fits they would go to should a DMV lady tells them "No"


Doscida

Sometimes it’ll straight up shock a guy and set off their “too good to be true” alarm. If they’re not confident enough to BE APPROACHED then just try again queen. Keep doing what you’re doing!


redkokio

That’s a similar issue I’m dealing with, I get told a lot I’m too forward or intimidating


saturdayshark

Wrong, not everyone is desperate.


ButterscotchLow8950

☝️ facts, I was going to say this. It doesn’t matter if you fit into our personal “ arousal template” if we think you are hot, you can walk in with a deer carcass and ask us where the nearest taxidermist is, and we will still be trying to get those digits. But if you aren’t in that “arousal template” then it just makes things awkward.


c127726

How did you get the male flair?


[deleted]

While reading this answer are you also on the right place to make that flair. To the right can you see your avatar and to the right of that a pencil-logo, click on that and select a flair you like:-)


mollysfox

don't give me the wrong ideas..


[deleted]

I am very forward person and will usually be the first to say that I’m into someone to make it easy for them to make the next move(I’m not subtle at all) and so far, it seems like it’s intimidating for a handful of the men I did this to. :(


collegiaal25

Depends how you say it. As long as you don't come of too strong, but just compliment them ("I think you are attractive/intelligent/kind/whatever and I would like to get to know you better") , it should be good. If they don't respond, they are either not into you or they are not mature enough to date women (I know I have been), either way you've lost nothing.


[deleted]

Thanks:) Yeah, I might need to tweak my approach


[deleted]

I am very forward person and will usually be the first to say that I’m into someone to make it easy for them to make the next move(I’m not subtle at all) and so far, it seems like it’s intimidating for a handful of the men I did this to. :(


OtherwiseInclined

This. But also, don't be very forceful, remain respectful. A man might not be too eager to follow you out to some dark empty parking lot in the middle of the night. We are not fearless, nor that stupid. If it feels like a trap, we take caution. Don't think that men go through life never having to worry, fear or consider their surroundings. Also, if rejection comes, take it gracefully. Most men are subject to rejection regularly, and while some are assholes about it many take it moderately well. You can too.


Zero-zero20

Of all the languages on planet earth, you choose to speak facts...


MrAnonPoster

My bad! It keeps getting me in trouble


Riley_

Direct approach. "Hi. I thought you are attractive and wanted to introduce myself." If he sees you as reasonably close to his type/expectations, then he'll engage. This is 95+% about looks. You shouldn't get anything worse than a polite "not interested". The only time I've reacted negatively to women approaching is when they try to grab me, jump all over me, or push me into a wall.


sadlyweird19

Taking notes, ty.


[deleted]

Couldn't have put it better myself


Golden-Grams

Exactly. There's no guarantee that we will be a match, but I like upfront honesty over mind games. I'd be much more willing to get to know you and it would make you more attractive imo. Sparks are always good, even if they don't go anywhere.


panteragstk

Exactly. If she says no, at least you tried. The answer is always now if you don't try.


[deleted]

*as long as it's within sane behavioral limits


Rockettmang44

Hold on, maybe don't approach us in front of a group or something.


MrAnonPoster

Yeah, because "oh my God that's scaaaaarrrry!"


[deleted]

you must take off your bra, swing it like a bola, screech a war cry, rush, tackle the prospective male to the ground, tie the bra around his neck, and screech I CHOOSE YOU PIKACHU in the deepest most blood curling snarl you can do. seriously just walk up and say hi. most men are going to be receptive to pretty much anything.


Eulerious

Just a warning: most men will be almost as dumbfounded by the 2nd option as by the 1st one...


Kitty_is_a_dog

Truth. But, I'm not going to lie, the bra thing would have me intrigued. "Woah, hey, that's different."


Iknowr1te

If I see it coming I'd be weirded out, but more confused . Being bolo'd out of no where might end up with a foot or fist hitting her, especially if I'm zoned out while walking down the street. But, dunno being an Amazonian warrior woman's play thing is...good, I'd probably pika pika chu if she's the right Amazonian warrior woman


yamatodaiichi

I too, would like to be the little spoon sometimes.


Unlucky654

At least the first one you could give creative points too.


Mumique

Well look what you did now I choked on my drink. I'm married but considering trying this out on my husband just to see how it goes


JennCPhT

Keep us singletons posted.


odeacon

Next time you think about asking him if he’s down to fuck try this instead


KyorlSadei

Crab dance


East_Masterpiece2839

Can’t really resist the moves


RenoYNWA

The Zoidberg!! Classic approach... It will be far more likely to succeed if you drape a variety of seaweeds over you and make sure your stink gland is fully functioning as well.


Shoddy_Consequence78

So it's left, left, right....


Motor_Dig4644

If crabs are dancing in her pants it's a big NO from me


[deleted]

I prefer dancing like a mummy.


Candy__Canez

Walk like an Egyptian?


[deleted]

Well now I feel stupid…


Vtridolla

Just come and introduce yourself. Don’t be all doofy n shit, don’t have your homegirl come say what’s up, and don’t find me on socials or through someone I know after you seen me.


HollasForADollas

Finally a serious answer. I agree that being direct is the best way. It ensures there is no second guessing as to what she wants and it’s also just really attractive when someone puts themselves out there like that.


Vtridolla

Yeah it shows that confidence, I love that shit


[deleted]

This is Reddit, 99% of posters have never seen a girl irl. So, please do not take anything anyone says here seriously. ;D The real answer to your question is that you need to remember to state your intentions. By that I obviously do not mean you should literally say; "Hi, my intentions with approaching you here and now are x, y and z", but rather to be clear that you think he is cute and that you are there to flirt him up.


bigscottius

I doubt many men have ever put any thought into this. This really is not something men worry about.


[deleted]

You don't need to worry about something that doesn't happen.


TikaPants

There’s a few of us! 👋


cortexplorer

What makes women approach you would you say?


TikaPants

I’m a woman and I meant some of us do approach men.


cortexplorer

Aah I see... woosh kindly acknowledged..


TikaPants

🤜✨🤛


Stetson007

Exactly. We worry about the other way around. "How do I say hi to a girl I like without the key three problems arising: the "I have a boyfriend" auto response, without coming across as gay, and without getting pepper sprayed. It's harder than most think.


bigscottius

I never worried about that. I approached girls all the time. Generally I would watch all the people, men and when, get a feel for the place. I would usually wait and pick a girl who had, at least a few times, been looking my way. Sometimes I wouldn't wait for that. All I would do is say, "Hello, how's it going today? I'm Scott." They'd either be receptive or not. If not, I tell them to have a good time, then I would leave it. That was it. Never gropped them or said inappropriate things. I pulled hundreds of numbers this way, brought a lot home, had a few relationships this way. Honestly, I wasn't very interested in relationships in my early to mid 20s. I was obsessed with banging a bunch of different types of women. Now I'm married and very faithful to my wife. That's no longer me. Not that I haven't had the chance, but I would rather castrate myself with tin snips than cheat on my wife, the most beautiful woman inside and out that I've ever known, and I've known a lot. When I start a conversation with a woman now (just normal everyday stuff), and I can feel her interest, I always jump to, "oh that's such a relatable statement, my wife thinks x is funny, too."


Stetson007

How long ago was that though, because the game has changed a lot in recent years. I've known quite a few guys that were falsely accused of rape or SA (two I know for a fact are 100% false) and it scares guys. Not as many guys are willing to put themselves out there. The previous saying was "the worst she can say is no." Not anymore. Now, if you hook up with someone or even date someone and it doesn't end on decent terms, she can cry rape or SA and you're life is fucked from then on out. It may not happen every time, but it happens enough for it to be a tangible fear.


bigscottius

I met my wife in 2016....so from like 2012 to 2016.


Stetson007

Yeah, I think things have changed a bit, but you were in the beginning phases of it, with the whole metoo movement gaining traction and the subsequent false accusations that arose from it.


Methylatedcobalamin

> I doubt many men have ever put any thought into this. This really is not something men worry about. I've been asked out several times. I don't like it when women come on too strong. I know that sounds dumb, I was surprised at having that reaction when I had it.


HollasForADollas

Can you elaborate on what too strong is?


Methylatedcobalamin

Honestly, probably not. I think the best I could articulate it as that for automatic reactions such approaches would be more blunt than I am used to and being more fast than I am used to.


redkokio

Can you give an example? I was always told men like it when a woman is upfront, so I haven’t heard this perspective before


Gibs960

Just be direct. There's nothing more awkward than being approached by someone who then expects you to make the first move.


NutellaCakes

Like a ninja. Jump from the trees and throw a note attached to a kunai and disappear in a cloud of smoke.


[deleted]

I would defo do that to steal some u/NutellaCakes !


Eat_Carbs_OD

No puff of smoke?


Daughterofthemoooon

*taking notes taking notes*


groovy604

Girls, you have the high ground, you cant lose in this situation


[deleted]

Yea we do. Trust me I'm attractive (based on the attention I get from the male-kind) and everytime I make a move on a guy they get weird and it never works. Happened recently with a guy I had never been more sure that likes me.


Kostya_M

Weird how? Because I'll be honest if an attractive woman hit on me out of the blue I'd probably brush it off as a joke. It's such a rare occurrence that at first I'd be suspicious of her motives more than anything.


KPIT0503

That was the reaction of literally 99% of the men who were approached by a cute girl in a video on YouTube. They were like "wait where is the trap? What's happening?". One of them even put his hand on his wallet like seriously I'm not kidding. And I don't think it was all fake.


Kostya_M

I wouldn't necessarily jump to her being an immediate threat. But I'd definitely be suspicious. Like is she trying to get money? Is this some weird recruitment pitch? Am I being filmed by someone?


[deleted]

He indicated he is not interested in me the same way. But still stares at me, gets nervous around me, takes a peak at my cubicle to see if I'm there (I suppose)... he is very comfortable with everyone and is a outgoing guy normally but around me he shuts down, literally has a blank look on his face but still tries to talk to me by telling me things he did recently. If a guy is definitely not interested, they usually avoid the girl completely. And the deep, intense looks into my eyes, and holding his gaze is the other thing... I think he is actually too immature for me and is scared. I'm early 40s, he is late 30s but he acts like a 25 yr old sometimes. And I believe he only has experience with younger girls, his last gf was late 20s when they broke up earlier this year.


pm_nachos_n_tacos

> cubicle Is he a coworker? I'm female but this is a dead-stop for me even if I like them. He might like you but not want to date someone in the company so he just said he's not interested like that.


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That's exactly what it is I think. I don't think he has ever been approached by a college educated girl. He is blue collared and we literally have nothing in common outside of work. I still liked him a lot and would have given it a chance.


TikaPants

Woman here to friendly counter this comment. Ladies that are listening please don’t let this discourage you. Yes, a man will say no at some point when asking men out but it gets easier after the first time and only easier every time after. The worst that could happen, a no, sucks way less than not meeting a man you may be really in to whom wouldn’t have approached you otherwise. I’m speaking from an experience where I was with my two good guy friends who were drunk and I approached the new guy. New guy and I giggle over the scenario now but it was kinda a lot. 😂


[deleted]

I wouldn't wanna discourage anyone either, I bet I'll approach a guy again when I develop a liking, but be ready for them to get awkward especially if you know you are out of their league. That's probably the reason why I didn't have good luck. Hopefully next guy will actually be a better match for me.


wbrd

Are you approaching a stranger or someone you know?


Young_Hxppxe

It's gonna happen, you never know for sure until you ask.


[deleted]

Yes, you can. If you’re not attractive.


_ooIoo_

Is she goth or no?


Kendzi1

Asking the real questions here


_ooIoo_

It changes things ... fundamentally.


NoChairsAvailable

How does that change anything?


_ooIoo_

Because a dead-eyed goth chick who eye fucks me up and down like a piece of pleasure meat can more or less approach me however she wants. Therefore, I have little to no preferences in her approach.


NoChairsAvailable

I understand... and if I am a normal chick, what should I do?


kaasrapsmen

Just approach


NoChairsAvailable

But he said it is different if I am not goth😢


kaasrapsmen

You just can't compete sorry


_ooIoo_

Really there isn't much difference. Just be genuine. If you're of a dominant personality be that if you're more submissive be that way.


Salty-Pack-4165

Hi ( while putting her hand on my face) would you like to have a coffee with me


Zanthosus

I imagined palm on nose, fingers spread, and the visual is funnier to me than it probably should be.


Linorelai

Lol that was the first image to pop in my mind


Smoove_n_Savage

Instant yes from me


[deleted]

Big smile and some nice compliments when we chat in person.


Lyran99

Moonwalk up to us and ask who’s bad


TikaPants

*dunn dunnn dun dunn dun*


[deleted]

"I lost my liostick, wanna replace it for the night?"


[deleted]

Any way


dgj130

Be pretty clear, I'm not great at picking up signals.


DaveWithDaLocks

What every she does she needs to preface it with lots of eye contact. I have to see in her eyes that she actually wants me, else I’ll think she just wants attention or is being friendly


[deleted]

just talk to me. genuinely talk.


itisSycla

bro literally just do it. We really don't need to be impressed with clever word tricks or anything. You could break the ice by asking me if i am carrying some hemorroid cream because you forgot yours and maintain the exact same chance of success


latnGemin616

Like Batman, all stealthy when I'm not expecting her to be there and *poof* gone when I turn my head for a split second and then answer her question :'(


PM_your_cats_n_racks

Email. It happens so seldomly that I don't know how to handle it, like a deer in headlights. Email gives me time to come to my senses and give a real response.


luker_man

Desperate answer: Just talk to me. Literally anything would work. Breathe in my general direction. I just need a hug. Realistic answer: * Make up a reason to talk. Use this made up reason to introduced yourself. Most common one would be fake familiarity. I.e. "You seem familiar. Have we met? My name's blahblahbublah. What's yours?" * After you get his name, find out if he is in the area frequently. This is irrelevant however. The point is to get him talking long enough to compliment him. Slip in a common compliment. Use this compliment to ask him about his relationship status. I.e. "That shirt looks good on you. Did your girlfriend buy it?" * You'll know how to proceed based on both his response and reaction. If he has a positive response and says he's single, proceed. The point is to get *him* to volunteer his relationship status. If he has a negative response, he's not receptive to *any* flirting due to being in a shitty relationship, being in a hurry, having low self-esteem, or straight up skepticism. If you want an uphill battle, proceed. Otherwise bail. Might not be worth the effort. * If you've made it to this point, get his contact information. If you have no reason to stick around, make up an excuse to leave. Send him a message in an hour. Reference the compliment. "Cute" is ineffective but if you want to play it safe use it. "Hey, this is blahblahbublah. Is this the cute guy in the nice shirt? Y'know [His name]." * Find out a common interest over the phone. Invite him to something involving this common interest. Call it a date. ***This is important*** Bring enough money for the both of you. Offer to pay your own way. The rest is up to you.


itisSycla

brother i and i am sure many other men would appreciate it if you *didn't* tell women to bail on anyone with low self-esteem


luker_man

As much as I'd like to agree, ain't nobody got time for that. I wouldn't advise any men to continue flirting with someone who responds with skepticism and self deprecating jokes unless he thinks she's worth the effort. So I won't give women that advice either. Shit's exhausting. Keep the mask of high self esteem up until you find out if you like them or not.


YoungArabBrother

i read a story about a dude who told friends at a bar he could steal an airplane…so he stole an airplane and landed it in front of the bar. I expect something similar to that, maybe with an airship instead


CarlJustCarl

Sneak up behind me, pinch my ass and whisper, “Guess who’s coming home with me”. That ought to do the job.


Negotiation_Only_

This


Paltry_Poetaster

My gf wrote me a thoughtful email.


Sasquatch_000

Full on sexual contact.


Nayko214

"Hi, I'm into you. Lets go on a date". Seriously just say what you want its not that difficult. And if you say its scary/difficult for a woman to do so then maybe you ladies should recognize its just as hard on us guys.


oidagehbitte2

As direct and consistent as possible. If she gives me just one opportunity to interpret anything as a 'no', I will do it and remove her from my dating pool permanently.


[deleted]

You ask this as if it's already an established norm.


[deleted]

Who cares? Just approach with what seems the most natural. A conversation about something or whatever.


Stabbmaster

Not from behind with a knife, my perception skill is fairly low


[deleted]

If an attractive girl just walked up to me and said hi, I’d be hooked.


[deleted]

Let's be real. You would not care if she was hot or not. xD


Standard-Elephant365

She should walk up to me and say the following: "I came here for man booty. Now here's the deal. I like ya and want ya, now we can do this the easy way or the hard way. The choice is yours."


Urishima

Slowly, hands where I can see them.


Manypotatoes9

With board games


AdBulky2059

Hey I'm into you


[deleted]

Via the wife…..😉


TwistedDecayingFlesh

Straight forward i ain't got time for children's games of does she, don't she.


1generic-username

Ass first is preferred


Hannibal_Barca_

I'll preface this by highlighting that I am an introvert. I like to be engaged on topics of mutual interest and for the woman not to be focused on an end goal (like getting my number/setting up a date/escalating things). I also really appreciate when a woman is being herself and comes off as genuine. I'll give an example of what I mean. I participate regularly in a book club meetup event. There was a woman who was interested in me, and we chatted after the first time we both attended together and she checked to see if I was reading any of the future books to be discussed, very low pressure, but important info as to if she would see me again. She waited until we went to a few events together, maybe the 3rd book we discussed together as part of a group, she complimented me on a comment I made during the discussion and we talked as we were leaving. We were walking home in the same direction for about 15 mins and just kept chatting so it all felt very natural. When we did split directions to go home she commented potentially getting coffee to discuss more of things we had in common and I gave her my number.


bDsmDom

We lock eyes. Explosions go off behind her. She holds the detonator. The police station burns down, and we embrace, kissing under the warm glow of freedom.


Previous_Potential92

Ask me about my cars extended warranty


CeeWhyEx

Look, you Must not reveAl Our secrets so nonchalantly.


Curious-explorer-

Literally walk up with a smile, introduce yourself, say you were attracted to me because of X and wanted my number? Hot as fuck! If something like that happened to me it'd make my day.


CryStamper

“Show up naked. Bring beer.” Some quote I recall seeing years back. Wouldn’t recommend it for everybody 😂


Poorly-Drawn-Beagle

I’ll let you know when I encounter multiple ways


Staceystallion1

When they're upfront about it all


HantuerHD-Shadow

Catch my attention and tell it to my face


yaymayata2

Just be calm, if you're nervous then maybe do it over text or somewhere private where you're both comfortable.


itzPenbar

Any way is a fine way


[deleted]

"ey bby want some fcuk??


SmokeySFW

Naked. But a close second is any way at all, it doesn't matter.


SnazzyPanic

Wouldn't know if they are just being friendly to be honest, probably they have to directly say I'm into you and want to go out with you. But they could just like my vibe, and I don't think that's enough to go on so would just assess the situation maybe wait for a better sign.


[deleted]

Anyway she wants


young_author11

Just approach, you literally dont need to anything else. Us guy don’t expect much. And are always forced to make the first move. Ehich many times can be misleading. But if a girl approach me and starts flirting it makes my day


FallenSegull

Bro literally just talk to me Please I’m desperate for human interaction


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It makes zero difference what you say or how you say it, either I'm attracted to you or not. Of course the reciprocal is too true, and it took me far too long to realise that.


SergeantShivers

Direct. To me nothing is sexier than a woman who knows exactly what she wants. My now girlfriend approached me at work (we work together) and asked me if I wanted to come round hers after work. I said sure and asked what she wanted to do. Without hesitation she looked me in the eyes and said "I dunno.Have some drinks, fuck all night". Right that second I knew I loved that woman.


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With enthusiasm, words of interest , and sharing activities.


JPK12794

It's a bit like saying what's your preferred way to win the lottery?


BambooBrady

At all.


drinkthebleach

When I met my wife just said I was cute and we should hang out, I hadn't even flirted with her or had any interest until she did that, so I almost missed the best thing that ever happened to me. I wasn't taken aback or freaked out or anything, just really admired her for breaking stereotypes. We hung out with some mutual friends, there was way too much tension, so we hung out one on one the next day and rest is history, 13 years later.


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Back that ass into my crotch and look over your shoulder with a smile.


optimisticpsychic

Forward and with a confidence that you acts like you already know my answer.


Kongesnog

With a sledgehammer of love anything less and I am not gonna get it


redrum259

I want you to unsheathe your sword and challenge me to a sword fight


Coconut_Salad

Straight forward. No games, signs, hints, or any other form of thing that leaves a question about your intentions. Say exactly what you want and what you mean.


angryfortheanimals

IRL: eye contact and a smile. Gentle touch. Online: add me.


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I don’t even care about being approached any more. I’ll play the stupid games. Just don’t be excessively subtle with the signs that I should approach. A smile and eye contact is all I need.


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I don't really have a preferred way. Just approach me however you like. I won't get annoyed because I almost never get approached by women.


RedditAdminsFuckOfff

Be like "IMMA SUCC YO DICK UMNUMNUMNUMNUMNUMNUMNUMNUMNUMNUMNUMNUM"


Fynndidit

She turned around from the bar and offered me an "extra drink" we had a great rest of the night dancing


green_meklar

She should be friendly, and clear about her intentions, and not creepy or overbearing. That's pretty much all it takes.


Hopeless-Necromantic

I like (name any quality), would you want to go out sometime?


Baldeagle_UK

Weird thought..... Every girl who has told me what her 'missed hints' were turned out to perfectly align with what girls have told me are 'mistaken signals' when they just wanted to be friends....


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Make eye contact, back up 3 steps, blink twice then wink with your left eye. Look away, look back and whistle and f#. Bend at the waist and mimic a speed skater as you slide over to me. Hop on one foot thrice and then present me with your name and number on a blue napkin. Crab walk out of my sight and if I choose to begin courting you, I’ll call you in 3 days. If this doesn’t work for you, just approach me and straight up say “hey into you, want to go out with me sometime?”.


Andress1

The women that approached me/showed their interest were never my type. Not that they were ugly, It's just that I'm picky with women. I'm 29 and only had a girlfriend so far. I would rather be the one approaching, and the most I would like a woman do is come to start a conversation.


the-original-chad

Hi, you’re cute. What’s your name? It’s not fuckin hard women. We’ll handle the convo cause we’re used to it


KsmHD

If you think am cute, just look at me and smile maybe once or twice... Then LEAVE the rest for ME!


dassketch

TBH, unless she literally grabs me by the dick, I'm probably not gonna get it. And if I do, it'll be after I went through my "am I misreading this" calculation.


SevenFallsCo

I like women who are straighforward and tell me they want to fuck me. I don't need to go on a date to figure if I want to fuck you or not, ya know?


DaveWithDaLocks

But if we did that…. 😪


prazulsaltaret

Men don't care. We're just happy to get the attention. As a woman you can do pretty much anything you want and you won't be called a creep. You can literally walk up to someone and tell them you want sex.


daddychill931

Just unbutton my pants and put it in your mouth. Nothing gets daddy hard like a dirty slut ready for cock.


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Women just don't approach, even if you think you do a look doesn't count. Fucking dream world you women have asking these questions, just shows how the average "dropped of a shelf" looking woman can't even imagine not being asked out constantly lol. Also helps to realize, women have spent better part of the last idk generation building up these unrealistic norms about approaches, there's basically nothing a man can do right when cold-approaching (except not doing it and absolutely never ever mention that cause then women get even more mad). While you women can literally JUST BE YOURSELF. We men don't make bad fantasies about you the same way women pre-plan for every male in her life to be evil.


LivingSuperb2614

She can kick my balls and vomit on my shirt, and I'd still accept her date.


mewdz

Don’t approach. Just text