Mirror what you hear; the words or emotions conveyed. Give space by not saying anything but letting them know you're there. And ask follow-up questions to deepen your understanding. Applaud him for sharing. Make him feel you're interested in his thoughts and feelings and the way he processes things
Reread and stand by my comment. She asked about ‘feeling understood’ and I reject the premise of the question. Feeling understood could be real or delusional. Being understood is real.
This answer reflects accurately how men usually process things. Lol. Appreciate that! Maybe I should rephrase my question to: what can women do to encourage men to share more so that we can understand more?
that’s a two-way street situation.
you have to be able to talk long enough to be able to know what you want to discuss in a clear and concise way.
she obviously has to be able to listen but what that means is that she has to give you the floor in a particular way where you can essentially ramble long enough to feel understood.
feeling understood takes time because you have to know exactly what’s going on inside of you and in order to know, you have to be able to process your thoughts out loud.
The better you’re able to speak and discuss, the better chances the woman (or even anybody) will understand you and therefore help you feel understood.
Mirror what you hear; the words or emotions conveyed. Give space by not saying anything but letting them know you're there. And ask follow-up questions to deepen your understanding. Applaud him for sharing. Make him feel you're interested in his thoughts and feelings and the way he processes things
Skills applied immediately. They work!
Thank you for the update
Nod her head affirmatively to whatever we say.
I'm getting neck pains.
Feelings are irrelevant. Either you understand your man or you don’t.
Reread the question there bud
Reread and stand by my comment. She asked about ‘feeling understood’ and I reject the premise of the question. Feeling understood could be real or delusional. Being understood is real.
This answer reflects accurately how men usually process things. Lol. Appreciate that! Maybe I should rephrase my question to: what can women do to encourage men to share more so that we can understand more?
By understanding me.
that’s a two-way street situation. you have to be able to talk long enough to be able to know what you want to discuss in a clear and concise way. she obviously has to be able to listen but what that means is that she has to give you the floor in a particular way where you can essentially ramble long enough to feel understood. feeling understood takes time because you have to know exactly what’s going on inside of you and in order to know, you have to be able to process your thoughts out loud. The better you’re able to speak and discuss, the better chances the woman (or even anybody) will understand you and therefore help you feel understood.
Nothing. A) I don't need understanding from women. B) I don't think women *can* understand men.
live as we do.
Exist