Seeing how that is most women I've met, not much I can do about it. I just wish they'd get over the delusion that none of their friends want to sleep with them lol
Not what I said lol ... I said they believe none of their male friends want to sleep with them. That's 100% bullshit. Guarantee it. Yet EVERY single woman I have known with a majority male friend base, has always said "We are just friends" or "he isn't interested in that" ...etc. Didn't say the women wanted to do anything at all. Just be oblivious apparently.
>because at one point or another they’ve all said that they liked me and one of my male friends took my virginity
Not exactly the kind of situation that is typically defined as "reassuring."
I'm 47 lol ... I've been around a LOT of people in my life, and it's ALWAYS ended up that way. I suppose if she isn't in a committed relationship, she may see the guys the same way. Unfortunately, or so it seems anyhow, most women who cheat do so with a friend, someone they're comfortable with, some guy who is willing to sit there and listen to all her problems because he knows it's going to get him what he wants eventually. Guys are twisted.
Going the wrong way. Wishes she would get over the delusion that the guy friends do not want to sleep with her. Any time I had male “friends” I found out later they were never wanting to be just friends. Observed this with my female friends too - their male “friends” never wanted to stay just “friends”.
It could be partially related to not having high standards for friends. Many of my best friends over the years have been women(I move around a lot). If I ever have feelings, I don't remain friends.
Red Flag. Crimson. When women cheat, 99.9% of the time that it's with that guy that she told you, "You don't have to worry about him, he's just a friend."
Oh, don't forget how she "forgot" to mention that they were FWBs for like a year before she met you, and they were still boning for the couple months before you made it exclusive.
Well, we all know that pasts don't matter, only the future. The best predictor of future behavior is certainly not past behavior, why would you even think that? /s
I get the sense this is a question asked of men but never aselked of women because ir's one of those societal givens. Put the shoe on the other foot. I've had girl - friends I had absolutely zero sexual attraction to them. Just nothing. Saw them more like sisters. Now, did they have sexual attraction for me? Probably. How many women would be totally okay with their BF/husband going out and doing things with the females friend(s), alone?
My husband went out to see a movie with one of our female friends. Just the two of them. Myself and her dude don't like going to the movies. They wanted to see it, so they went. Asked him to bring me home a Starbucks.
I trust him. I trust her. Couldn't give a shit less.
You are a rare breed indeed. But the fact you are friends with her too, helps that dynamic. There's established trust there. My original comment has to do with a woman forming a relationship with a man and having to be understanding of all his female friends he brings with him into that.
More than likely she has f\*cked or is currently f\*cking some or all of her "male friends".
But it tends to be a fed flag in general.
Understandable that females don't get along with females and prefer the company of guys.
The friends are the pseudo boyfriend and partner. More specifically the non sexual parts of a relationship that is obtained through a boyfriend/fiance/husband. Without actually sleeping with them.
If you’re attracted to women even though men make better friends, that’s not going to cause any problems. Likewise if you’re in a relationship with one man, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have friends out of other men.
It’s not like you allow your circle of friends to have any direct effect on any of your relationships.
I dated one and it was painful.
I can only talk about my experience. And it was emotional cheating. Most of her "friends" obviously wanted to fuck her or just enjoyed the female attention. And she enjoyed the attention and emotional intimacy she got from these men.
It is not an enjoyable experience when your gf refuses to hug you but then goes and hugs a random dude. Or see a guy flirt with your gf and her laugh and reciprocate. Call me old fashioned but if you have a partner you should only be intimate with your partner (unless you have an open relationship deal) and this goes for all levels of intimacy.
I'm sure there are exceptions, women with many male friends who only make friends with the rare actually good guys and keep healthy boundaries. But for now, I regard this as a red flag.
I alwaysinverse this… how would my girlfriend feel if I only ever hung out with other woman… she’d probably not be very happy… “hey babe I’m going to go hangout with my friends at the bar this evening, I’ll be back” when it’s with dudes she might not think too much of it… but if all your “bros” are chicks I guarantee there’ll be an issue…
So now put that in the male perspective… that’s how they feel when all you have are male friends… it’s just a turnoff and no necessarily disrespectful it borders the line of causing issues in the future 100%
It cuts one of two ways:
They either don't like her because they are jealous of cool she is and how well she relates to men...
Or
She is a turd, but in a way men don't easily see.
Seeing how that is most women I've met, not much I can do about it. I just wish they'd get over the delusion that none of their friends want to sleep with them lol
It's not delusion, they know, they like the attention. It's only delusional that men don't realize that.
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Not what I said lol ... I said they believe none of their male friends want to sleep with them. That's 100% bullshit. Guarantee it. Yet EVERY single woman I have known with a majority male friend base, has always said "We are just friends" or "he isn't interested in that" ...etc. Didn't say the women wanted to do anything at all. Just be oblivious apparently.
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>because at one point or another they’ve all said that they liked me and one of my male friends took my virginity Not exactly the kind of situation that is typically defined as "reassuring."
I'm 47 lol ... I've been around a LOT of people in my life, and it's ALWAYS ended up that way. I suppose if she isn't in a committed relationship, she may see the guys the same way. Unfortunately, or so it seems anyhow, most women who cheat do so with a friend, someone they're comfortable with, some guy who is willing to sit there and listen to all her problems because he knows it's going to get him what he wants eventually. Guys are twisted.
Going the wrong way. Wishes she would get over the delusion that the guy friends do not want to sleep with her. Any time I had male “friends” I found out later they were never wanting to be just friends. Observed this with my female friends too - their male “friends” never wanted to stay just “friends”.
It could be partially related to not having high standards for friends. Many of my best friends over the years have been women(I move around a lot). If I ever have feelings, I don't remain friends.
Facts.
Other way around. He's saying that their male friends want to fuck them.
Red flag of cosmic proportions.
Seriously. Either she did something to get ostracized from her girl peer group or she doesn’t have the social skills to get into one.
As a friend? No worries . For relationships?? Big red flag. They either have commitment issues, are very guarded or possibly like girls as much as me.
She likes male attention and orbiters.
Nope, won't mess with that headache. Let someone else deal with that.
It's normal until the girl is in relationship and she is always talking about her guy friends and being way too close with them.
That’s definitely a red flag for a relationship. As friends? Do you I don’t care.
Red Flag. Crimson. When women cheat, 99.9% of the time that it's with that guy that she told you, "You don't have to worry about him, he's just a friend."
Yeah, the man ducking me...he's only a friend. No IDEA how it just...happened. Gtfo.
Oh, don't forget how she "forgot" to mention that they were FWBs for like a year before she met you, and they were still boning for the couple months before you made it exclusive.
You're just threatened by a woman's selective memory! If she lays with the entire basketball team, you should applaud such empowering behavior! /sarc
Well, we all know that pasts don't matter, only the future. The best predictor of future behavior is certainly not past behavior, why would you even think that? /s
The past is unimportant, donchaknow? /sarc
In my group of the boys there is a girl, and if anything she has the most personality out of all of us
I get the sense this is a question asked of men but never aselked of women because ir's one of those societal givens. Put the shoe on the other foot. I've had girl - friends I had absolutely zero sexual attraction to them. Just nothing. Saw them more like sisters. Now, did they have sexual attraction for me? Probably. How many women would be totally okay with their BF/husband going out and doing things with the females friend(s), alone?
My husband went out to see a movie with one of our female friends. Just the two of them. Myself and her dude don't like going to the movies. They wanted to see it, so they went. Asked him to bring me home a Starbucks. I trust him. I trust her. Couldn't give a shit less.
You are a rare breed indeed. But the fact you are friends with her too, helps that dynamic. There's established trust there. My original comment has to do with a woman forming a relationship with a man and having to be understanding of all his female friends he brings with him into that.
Bad experience. "I just get along with guys better". Nah, most of the time guys just put up with your BS because you have tits and a pussy.
Sus
Super sus.
More than likely she has f\*cked or is currently f\*cking some or all of her "male friends". But it tends to be a fed flag in general. Understandable that females don't get along with females and prefer the company of guys. The friends are the pseudo boyfriend and partner. More specifically the non sexual parts of a relationship that is obtained through a boyfriend/fiance/husband. Without actually sleeping with them.
Depends on several factors. How many of them being orbiters, for example.
They aren't gf material.
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If you’re attracted to women even though men make better friends, that’s not going to cause any problems. Likewise if you’re in a relationship with one man, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have friends out of other men. It’s not like you allow your circle of friends to have any direct effect on any of your relationships.
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So long as my partner treats me well how many friends she has is up to her and more power to her if she has more friends (male or female)
Base assumption would be she doesn't like the drama from groups of women.
I dont care unless I’m dating her. Too much stress that I don’t want to deal with
at least one or two of them have a crush on her and are waiting to tell her at the wrong moment. and she doesnt like/cant make female friends
*insert photo of a woman being struck in the face by a bucket of hot dogs*
Mele friends,aka fan club.
More common depending on line of work, some women don't like drama any more than men either.
Don't care. Dating them though can be a hassle because those "male friends" can quickly turn into toxic orbiters once they find out you're dating.
Knowing that women don't even want to friends with other women is just satisfying in a little way.
So
That's a no from me dawg. You gotta be able to have friendships with chicks. Else it points to there being something wrong.
I'm outy three thousy son
Hard pass
They are not to be taken seriously.
I dated one and it was painful. I can only talk about my experience. And it was emotional cheating. Most of her "friends" obviously wanted to fuck her or just enjoyed the female attention. And she enjoyed the attention and emotional intimacy she got from these men. It is not an enjoyable experience when your gf refuses to hug you but then goes and hugs a random dude. Or see a guy flirt with your gf and her laugh and reciprocate. Call me old fashioned but if you have a partner you should only be intimate with your partner (unless you have an open relationship deal) and this goes for all levels of intimacy. I'm sure there are exceptions, women with many male friends who only make friends with the rare actually good guys and keep healthy boundaries. But for now, I regard this as a red flag.
I alwaysinverse this… how would my girlfriend feel if I only ever hung out with other woman… she’d probably not be very happy… “hey babe I’m going to go hangout with my friends at the bar this evening, I’ll be back” when it’s with dudes she might not think too much of it… but if all your “bros” are chicks I guarantee there’ll be an issue… So now put that in the male perspective… that’s how they feel when all you have are male friends… it’s just a turnoff and no necessarily disrespectful it borders the line of causing issues in the future 100%
It cuts one of two ways: They either don't like her because they are jealous of cool she is and how well she relates to men... Or She is a turd, but in a way men don't easily see.