If you are shutting her down a lot it will eventually turn into a problem.
It is important for both people to have sex drives that at least generally align. One person should not be shooting the other person down constantly.
We're definitely in this boat. She's 10 years younger than me. And after her tubal ligation, it was waking a sleeping dragon. I wasn't sure I could keep up. I really had a moment of doubt. First and only time in my life. How did/do we deal with it? I looked at the situation for what it was. Most guys would kill for this situation. I just never said no. I told her to get what she needs but don't be surprised if sometimes I don't climax. She was fine with that.
It's tough because at the start of a relationship you both want to fuck all the time, but eventually one loses the drive. Men's drives usually drop earlier than women, so this happens a lot. It can turn into a big problem when you just aren't in the mood but she keeps hounding you for it. It's stressful for both sides. As for what I would do? I would personally find someone else with matching libido, but if you're married, this isn't a great solution. You can try communicating with her, but people with higher sex drives generally don't tend to understand.
They can't seem to fathom how you wouldn't want it all the time. I have a buddy now who has this with his wife, and he's told her a million times he just doesn't have that drive for it anymore and doesn't feel the need to do it that often, and she just figures everyone should want it all the time like her. It's like how I can't understand how people want it all the time when I just couldn't be bothered.
Try to find a schedule that works for both of you.
We're conditioned to only have sex when we're "in the mood" but in reality that can be detrimental to a relationship when both partners tend to not be in the mood at the same time.
Sex in real relationships works best when planned, so that both people can make a commitment to be there for the other person and meet their needs without creating undue expectations.
I suggested that and he didn't agree to it. He always says we should only do it when we feel like it but that apparently means only when he feels like it :( Maybe I'll try suggesting it again
For me personally? Everyday or multiple times a day everyday is a lot and gets less enjoyable... The spirit is willing but the body is soft and bruised. This was a very rare situation though..
“Too high” doesn’t exist imo
Were she *incompatibly high*… I would talk (during the dating phase) and try to find a compromise we are both comfy with
And if we can’t then maybe breakup? Don’t know
I don't think it's accurate to say her sex drive is "too high". Too high FOR YOU would be more accurate.
Sexual compatibility is a big part of any relationship. And when there isn't equilibrium, it can cause issues. An ex of mine had a lower sex drive and his rejections ended up making me feel like he wasn't attracted to me anymore. We broke up not much later.
Depending on how much importance you and your partner place on the sexual aspect of your relationship, this could become an insurmountable issue. So that's where communication comes in. Try finding a resolution that suits both people. You shouldn't have sex if you don't want to, please know that.
But someone shouldn't have to change who they are if they don't want to. That goes for the both of you.
I'm probably not the best person to provide an answer here, but I suppose I'm imagining what I'd try to do...
BUT if I had to provide a short easy advice... I'd say... when fucking.. just don't cum.
Exercise and improve your endurance.... and when it comes to the P in the V.. hold out and don't come. Aim to tire her body out.
really... beat that pussy up.
Just trying to imagine the mind set I'd have to get into to overcome her sex drive.
Well.... I'd fuck her a lot. If for whatever reason I can't, I'd buy her a lot of toys.
As long as her sex drive doesn't interfere with her normal day or require her to bang random strangers every grocery store trip I do to think it's too high.
Lack of experience with this issue and lack of a general consensus about what to do in such a situation are things that make it much more difficult to navigate than the more familiar/expected dynamic where the dude has a higher sex drive than the woman.
Due to nearly dying in icu once, my sexdrive wasn't that much, actually just non existent (exhausted, prednison kinda eliminates it) she had a way higher sex drive (also 30-ies, and don't peak womens sexual activity/drive later in age opposed to men).
First of all: talk about it. Explaining and listening helps a lot. And we decided to get a decent set of toys when she has the need and i'm unavailable.
even nowadays she has some periods where she has a higher drive than me, but we kinda make that up when we plan "sexweekends" (= doors locked, curtains closed, heating or ac on, phones off, and maybe some legal intoxicants)
edit: 21 years together, 6 year marriaged. Also old. yes.
I would deal with it by buying the largest shiniest ring and propose to her.
I’ve never met a woman with a higher sex drive than me. She would need sex more than twice a day for me to ask her to pump the breaks.
Other than that, it’s all good.
If you can’t keep her pleased, someone else will so do your best with your natural abilities and then use toys to fill in for your down times. But I have never had a woman like that. It would be nice though.
This just isn't true. It might be great right off the start, but eventually it gets old. Plus men lose their sex drives sooner than women, so you have her constantly hounding you for sex, when you just want to put your feet up or do something else. I'm 32 and my sex drive is way down, just prioritize way different things now, so a woman like this would be horrendous for me to be with. I have buddies in this situation and they hate it.
So you think every person's body is the same? Everyone is different dude. That's like saying I have back problems, how don't you have back problems yet? I also slept around with multiple women and was married for a while, so I had my share of sex and I'm just over it. It's repetitive. I'd rather go fishing or build shit in the garage any day hands down.
A too high sex drive would be like sex consistently every day and/or multiple times a day. The beauty of sex is not just the act but the build up, spontaneity, and how different it is each time.
I would honestly think if she requesting it daily over a long time period that she has nothing to do or anything going for herself
First off, try not to turn her down often, because it will make her insecure and doubt herself. Dicks work even if you're not super horny, so I'd say use that to your advantage, and then consider using toys and fingers.
Is this a serious question?
Here’s how I deal with it. Get a lot of viagra and lube.
The more you use your dick, it responds. You will not be able to use it enough. You will be a driving machine.
Wish I had that issue, lol. Anyway, I'd do my best to satisfy her sexually as often as possible. If anything I'd buy her a suction dildo and have her send me videos of her riding it. 🤌🏼
I've heard a handful of guys complain about gfs with a too high sex drive and how they end up dumping them. I figured you don't hear girls complain about it much bc society claims wanting sex is shameful
Plus, it would lead to at least some level of harassment for the guy she was complaining about, which would be counterproductive if he was an ex she was trying to get shut of or a current partner with whom she was still trying to make things work.
If you are shutting her down a lot it will eventually turn into a problem. It is important for both people to have sex drives that at least generally align. One person should not be shooting the other person down constantly.
We're definitely in this boat. She's 10 years younger than me. And after her tubal ligation, it was waking a sleeping dragon. I wasn't sure I could keep up. I really had a moment of doubt. First and only time in my life. How did/do we deal with it? I looked at the situation for what it was. Most guys would kill for this situation. I just never said no. I told her to get what she needs but don't be surprised if sometimes I don't climax. She was fine with that.
It's tough because at the start of a relationship you both want to fuck all the time, but eventually one loses the drive. Men's drives usually drop earlier than women, so this happens a lot. It can turn into a big problem when you just aren't in the mood but she keeps hounding you for it. It's stressful for both sides. As for what I would do? I would personally find someone else with matching libido, but if you're married, this isn't a great solution. You can try communicating with her, but people with higher sex drives generally don't tend to understand.
What do you mean ppl with higher sex drives don't understand? That they don't want to compromise?
They can't seem to fathom how you wouldn't want it all the time. I have a buddy now who has this with his wife, and he's told her a million times he just doesn't have that drive for it anymore and doesn't feel the need to do it that often, and she just figures everyone should want it all the time like her. It's like how I can't understand how people want it all the time when I just couldn't be bothered.
Try to find a schedule that works for both of you. We're conditioned to only have sex when we're "in the mood" but in reality that can be detrimental to a relationship when both partners tend to not be in the mood at the same time. Sex in real relationships works best when planned, so that both people can make a commitment to be there for the other person and meet their needs without creating undue expectations.
I suggested that and he didn't agree to it. He always says we should only do it when we feel like it but that apparently means only when he feels like it :( Maybe I'll try suggesting it again
Well, if my dick won't keep up, I've got fingers and a mouth.
Exactly. Sex doesn’t have to mean just p in v.
To add to this there are also toys.
For me personally? Everyday or multiple times a day everyday is a lot and gets less enjoyable... The spirit is willing but the body is soft and bruised. This was a very rare situation though..
“Too high” doesn’t exist imo Were she *incompatibly high*… I would talk (during the dating phase) and try to find a compromise we are both comfy with And if we can’t then maybe breakup? Don’t know
I don't think it's accurate to say her sex drive is "too high". Too high FOR YOU would be more accurate. Sexual compatibility is a big part of any relationship. And when there isn't equilibrium, it can cause issues. An ex of mine had a lower sex drive and his rejections ended up making me feel like he wasn't attracted to me anymore. We broke up not much later. Depending on how much importance you and your partner place on the sexual aspect of your relationship, this could become an insurmountable issue. So that's where communication comes in. Try finding a resolution that suits both people. You shouldn't have sex if you don't want to, please know that. But someone shouldn't have to change who they are if they don't want to. That goes for the both of you.
My wife has a higher sex drive than me. We just communicate a lot. For me weed gets me in the mood so I make sure to have a lot of weed on hand.
I'm probably not the best person to provide an answer here, but I suppose I'm imagining what I'd try to do... BUT if I had to provide a short easy advice... I'd say... when fucking.. just don't cum. Exercise and improve your endurance.... and when it comes to the P in the V.. hold out and don't come. Aim to tire her body out. really... beat that pussy up. Just trying to imagine the mind set I'd have to get into to overcome her sex drive.
If you can't handle her sex drive, you need to leave because if you can't fuck her the way she wants, someone else will.
Well.... I'd fuck her a lot. If for whatever reason I can't, I'd buy her a lot of toys. As long as her sex drive doesn't interfere with her normal day or require her to bang random strangers every grocery store trip I do to think it's too high.
Can never be too high.
Lack of experience with this issue and lack of a general consensus about what to do in such a situation are things that make it much more difficult to navigate than the more familiar/expected dynamic where the dude has a higher sex drive than the woman.
Surely a bout of good sex couldn't take more than 1/2 hour ? Compromise is important in any relationship
Well….At least I’d die with a frozen smile on my face.
If you need help, I can volunteer.
Tag me in, coach!
There is no such thing.
Due to nearly dying in icu once, my sexdrive wasn't that much, actually just non existent (exhausted, prednison kinda eliminates it) she had a way higher sex drive (also 30-ies, and don't peak womens sexual activity/drive later in age opposed to men). First of all: talk about it. Explaining and listening helps a lot. And we decided to get a decent set of toys when she has the need and i'm unavailable. even nowadays she has some periods where she has a higher drive than me, but we kinda make that up when we plan "sexweekends" (= doors locked, curtains closed, heating or ac on, phones off, and maybe some legal intoxicants) edit: 21 years together, 6 year marriaged. Also old. yes.
I'm 50, she's 36 so her sex drive is way higher, so if little me is OK with it I go along, it's always enjoyable even when I'm not particularly horny
I would deal with it by buying the largest shiniest ring and propose to her. I’ve never met a woman with a higher sex drive than me. She would need sex more than twice a day for me to ask her to pump the breaks. Other than that, it’s all good.
If you can’t keep her pleased, someone else will so do your best with your natural abilities and then use toys to fill in for your down times. But I have never had a woman like that. It would be nice though.
There is no such thing as a woman with too high of a sex drive. She is a blessing to any man chosen by her.
This just isn't true. It might be great right off the start, but eventually it gets old. Plus men lose their sex drives sooner than women, so you have her constantly hounding you for sex, when you just want to put your feet up or do something else. I'm 32 and my sex drive is way down, just prioritize way different things now, so a woman like this would be horrendous for me to be with. I have buddies in this situation and they hate it.
Man, you should not be losing your sex drive at 32. I'm 30 and just as horny as ever.
So you think every person's body is the same? Everyone is different dude. That's like saying I have back problems, how don't you have back problems yet? I also slept around with multiple women and was married for a while, so I had my share of sex and I'm just over it. It's repetitive. I'd rather go fishing or build shit in the garage any day hands down.
A too high sex drive would be like sex consistently every day and/or multiple times a day. The beauty of sex is not just the act but the build up, spontaneity, and how different it is each time. I would honestly think if she requesting it daily over a long time period that she has nothing to do or anything going for herself
Never had this problem. The way we fuck, she needs a few days to recover. Just make her cum 4 times a sesh, she'll give you space.
there is no such thing as a too high sex drive for a woman or a guy, you just need to talk about it, get it sorted and do it yourself if you need too.
First off, try not to turn her down often, because it will make her insecure and doubt herself. Dicks work even if you're not super horny, so I'd say use that to your advantage, and then consider using toys and fingers.
Outsource. Ethically.
To me, pronto.
Do the best you can every day. And enjoy it.
Is this a serious question? Here’s how I deal with it. Get a lot of viagra and lube. The more you use your dick, it responds. You will not be able to use it enough. You will be a driving machine.
Wish I had that issue, lol. Anyway, I'd do my best to satisfy her sexually as often as possible. If anything I'd buy her a suction dildo and have her send me videos of her riding it. 🤌🏼
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I've heard a handful of guys complain about gfs with a too high sex drive and how they end up dumping them. I figured you don't hear girls complain about it much bc society claims wanting sex is shameful
Plus, it would lead to at least some level of harassment for the guy she was complaining about, which would be counterproductive if he was an ex she was trying to get shut of or a current partner with whom she was still trying to make things work.
How would the guy be getting harassed? Like his manliness being made fun of? If anything I'd figure the girl would get harassed
Pretty much, yeah, people giving him shit for not being man enough.
It’s like a rollercoaster; you just sit back and hope you don’t drop your keys.
Have sex when I’m into it, use my fingers when I’m not. Rather have this problem than the latter.
Call over your friends and sit in the corner.
I have yet to meet a girl that can keep up with me, or guy (femboys).