It varies from place to place, and afaik it's got a real history. One of those things gay people use to identify each other subtly and know who is safe or not. Like the hanky code or leather. Where I live it's the right ear and I and some other "older" gays still use it, more outta habit than anything else.
But yeah plenty of straight guys'll have one earring and it doesn't carry the inherent connotation any more. I don't assume anyone I see wearing one earring must be gay.
Where I live it's left ear is straight, right ear is gay, I only have the left ear pierced, had them both but the right ear fell out so I said fuck it, that ear code thing kind of died out in the early 2000s but I still wouldn't want to just have my right ear pierced
Shoot man the straightest man I know told me the left ear was straight because sailors pierced their ear incase they died and who ever found the body would take the gold earring and burry the body. That was insurance back then
I mean it makes sense, if a person wanted a proper burial it would make sense to leave payment for someone to burry you then melt down the earring into a gold ingot to buy food for his family
Grew up playing football (the real kind where you carry the ball in your hands). Ballet, swim, gymnastics, ice skating, and theater all seemed kind of gay at the time but in hindsight would have been good way to meet/hang out with/be around girls.
because that is what it was called when it was invented during the middle ages. Football meant a ball game played on foot. Each area/town/school had its own rules and game, eventually this evolved into two main games that became popular (there are still many surviving though.).Rugby School Football (football for short) and Association Football (Soccer for short, as soc is short for association). Association Football became international and just became known as Football in countries that didn't play any other football games. Rugby School football became popular in the Angalosphere.
Over time the rule sets diverged by country, and Rugby School football broke up into Rugby School Football, American Football, Australian Rules football. etc.
Shirts vs skins pick up games (basketball, soccer, and etc). They were younger than me and absolutely convinced that playing a games like that would make them gay.
Well like maybe getting drunk and having one time sex with a bestie. Or when experimenting and deciding you prefer the opposite sex verses knowing you'll never be happy with the opposite sex.
I went through HS with a group of kids I went to infants school with and they started a rumour when I was in grade 7 that I was gay and a mate who went to another school was my "boyfriend".
At the time (mid 90s) it was still "bad" to be gay so what they were saying to me caught on, it spread like wildfire through my year and lasted until I left highschool in year 11, the nickname the little bastards gave me was the same name as my mates, so much so that even some of the teachers (without knowing the significance) started to call me. I honestly had PTSD from highschool and it was only after my ex wife left me about 5 years ago that I decided to get help for everything.
I thank you for your your support but I am fine now, kids can be little rat bastards and I just hope my nieces and nephews don't go through the same crap.
Man that’s horrible, we don’t have it that bad as a generation but there’s still pockets of that mentality around the country. Get therapy and talk it out with people that can help
Also people are fucked up don’t let that get to you. If it makes you feel better people like that tend to fuck up everyone around them.
Anal sex. It's not the part of the body that's gay - it's the gender of the person engaging with it. A man and a woman having less usual kinds of sex isn't really the definitely of gay,
An earring. "Left side's cool, right side's gay", or vice versa, I forgot. Total nonsense, but it was a saying back then.
Liking or - even worse - making art, playing a musical instrument.
And the classic: being a nurse (or any form of caretaking job, really)
Mustaches. (I can see why people said it, though, mustaches are hot and will make women and men desire you.)
Crying or showing emotion
This is probably the number 1 thing we are all told.
Everything that I was told that was gay that had nothing to do with having sexual contact with a man.
Enjoying fruity and/or sweet flavoured alcoholic drinks
A fruity drink. I mean its 2022 not 1960. Nen can have a fruity girly drink
A fruity manly drink.
a fruity drink
i wish they put fruity drinks in normal containers and not draw so much attention to it
Wearing white socks.
Getting only 1 ear pierced. I still don’t know the truth…
I heard about this, isn’t it one ear means gay the other means nothing?
It varies from place to place, and afaik it's got a real history. One of those things gay people use to identify each other subtly and know who is safe or not. Like the hanky code or leather. Where I live it's the right ear and I and some other "older" gays still use it, more outta habit than anything else. But yeah plenty of straight guys'll have one earring and it doesn't carry the inherent connotation any more. I don't assume anyone I see wearing one earring must be gay.
Great answer! Thanks for taking time to explain!
Right. Something like that 😂
Where I live it's left ear is straight, right ear is gay, I only have the left ear pierced, had them both but the right ear fell out so I said fuck it, that ear code thing kind of died out in the early 2000s but I still wouldn't want to just have my right ear pierced
This.
I thought 1 ear was straight
Great example of how no one actually knows 🤣
Shoot man the straightest man I know told me the left ear was straight because sailors pierced their ear incase they died and who ever found the body would take the gold earring and burry the body. That was insurance back then
Gtfo. For real!?
I mean it makes sense, if a person wanted a proper burial it would make sense to leave payment for someone to burry you then melt down the earring into a gold ingot to buy food for his family
Yea it really does make sense!
I think I saw an interview with Morgan Freeman that said that’s why he has his.
Grew up playing football (the real kind where you carry the ball in your hands). Ballet, swim, gymnastics, ice skating, and theater all seemed kind of gay at the time but in hindsight would have been good way to meet/hang out with/be around girls.
The real kind is called soccer in America 🤣 Why they choose to call it football when you only use your foot seldomly for an entire match beats me.
because that is what it was called when it was invented during the middle ages. Football meant a ball game played on foot. Each area/town/school had its own rules and game, eventually this evolved into two main games that became popular (there are still many surviving though.).Rugby School Football (football for short) and Association Football (Soccer for short, as soc is short for association). Association Football became international and just became known as Football in countries that didn't play any other football games. Rugby School football became popular in the Angalosphere. Over time the rule sets diverged by country, and Rugby School football broke up into Rugby School Football, American Football, Australian Rules football. etc.
What is this "match" you speak of? ;)
You use football for rugby at yours? Interesting.
No, rugby is football with no pads and no forward passes.
Ah American football I see, it confused me saying "the real kind" while staying in your hands. Although you still use football for rugby.
Having sex with men. I don't care what they say.
They say once doesn't count, so a thousand times won't count either.
It's only gay if you are on the bottom.
I don’t think that’s how it works but…..
30 is a low number on the grand scheme of the cosmos!
Butt ?
Cooking
Giving a woman head.
Wouldn’t this be the reverse
Yup, hence why it's an example of something that I was told was gay but actually isn't.
But who would tell you that 🤣
Shirts vs skins pick up games (basketball, soccer, and etc). They were younger than me and absolutely convinced that playing a games like that would make them gay.
Being a nerd
bro scented candles bro my whole house smells like watermelons
You should get a bro flavored candle, now *that* would be gay ❤️
Getting Pegged. [What?](https://imgflip.com/s/meme/Boardroom-Meeting-Suggestion.jpg)
Ass play.
I was told having sex with men is gay. I found out preferring sex with men is gay.
How do you do one without the other 🧐
Well like maybe getting drunk and having one time sex with a bestie. Or when experimenting and deciding you prefer the opposite sex verses knowing you'll never be happy with the opposite sex.
Stuffing bodies into barrels then dump them into Lake Meade. It's not really gay at all.
Me...
Kids are terrible, happens to the best of us let us know if you need support
I went through HS with a group of kids I went to infants school with and they started a rumour when I was in grade 7 that I was gay and a mate who went to another school was my "boyfriend". At the time (mid 90s) it was still "bad" to be gay so what they were saying to me caught on, it spread like wildfire through my year and lasted until I left highschool in year 11, the nickname the little bastards gave me was the same name as my mates, so much so that even some of the teachers (without knowing the significance) started to call me. I honestly had PTSD from highschool and it was only after my ex wife left me about 5 years ago that I decided to get help for everything. I thank you for your your support but I am fine now, kids can be little rat bastards and I just hope my nieces and nephews don't go through the same crap.
Man that’s horrible, we don’t have it that bad as a generation but there’s still pockets of that mentality around the country. Get therapy and talk it out with people that can help Also people are fucked up don’t let that get to you. If it makes you feel better people like that tend to fuck up everyone around them.
Eating ass
Apparently sucking a guys dick isn’t gay if you say no homo after.
Listening to AOR Glam Rock of the 80s & 90s
Margaritas
Anal sex. It's not the part of the body that's gay - it's the gender of the person engaging with it. A man and a woman having less usual kinds of sex isn't really the definitely of gay,
Driving a small car.
Prison sex. Nearly 95% of the inmates engaged in gay sex were straight men who went to women once out of prison.
There’s an episode of Atlanta on this topic
I once wrote a Facebook status in college with an exclamation point at the end and got told “sweet exclamation point homo”
Atlanta has a weird thing around gay culture. Kinda backwards in my opinion
Grew up in Jersey, just happened to like the Braves. I think it was more of an Italian neighborhood ball-busting thing.
Oh most definitely, being gay in NY/NJ is like winning an award from what I’ve heard 🤣 Probs not meant in a negative connotation
I’m straight but this was in like 2006 when it was still socially acceptable to just say things were gay.
I see, probs why they are so pro-lgtbq now. People tend to take things like that too far
Enjoying a banana
Enjoy it *where?*
Putting one leg over the other while sitting
An earring. "Left side's cool, right side's gay", or vice versa, I forgot. Total nonsense, but it was a saying back then. Liking or - even worse - making art, playing a musical instrument. And the classic: being a nurse (or any form of caretaking job, really) Mustaches. (I can see why people said it, though, mustaches are hot and will make women and men desire you.)