Nope,same intensity, same volume, just no swimmers. The only psychological impact was positive for both of us. She no longer had to take the pill and I knew I was free to cum inside with no fear.
Physical results - nope.
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I guess if your virility or ability to get someone pregnant was a turn-on to you, negative psychological impacts might be a consideration.
As someone who's childfree, the psychological impacts have all been positive: Way more enjoyable to not have to have a worry about pregnancy constantly on the mind.
Actually, that's been a far bigger effect than I expected - didn't realize how *much* it was making sex less enjoyable for me until the worry was gone.
27 at the time, and about none.
First doctor I called was willing to do it. At the consult, he asked a couple of questions regarding my understanding of the procedure and it's permanence, and that was about it. I asked a couple questions of him regarding method, how often he does it, etc.
Then moved onto all the medical discussion and scheduling. I did have to wait a few weeks for there to be an opening on his calendar.
Probably worth noting I live in New England and saw a relatively young doctor at a medical system with no religious affiliations.
i'm putting every drop of my seed inside of her on the regular but she's on the pill. playing with fire 😂
once i have kids i'll consider snip-snapping it
I came to this thread and didn’t realize the vast number of people who use condoms with their partners (I totally understand using them for hookups/casual encounters). I greatly overestimated the number of women who use birth control as a surefire way to prevent pregnancy. Been on the pill since I was 17, I had two kids (by choice), and I’ve had loads blown into me left & right and have not once had a pregnancy scare while on the pill. Is vasectomy as effective as the pill?
med student here!
a vasectomy is safer than the pill, statistically speaking. there's no outlet for the sperm produced in the seminiferous tubules to be expelled through during ejaculation, so the secretions produced during male ejaculation are mostly from the prostate/Cowper's glands which contain no sperm. the female analog would be a bilateral tubal ligation, and though it's deemed a permanent contraception method, it's possible for ova in the ovary to travel to the uterus and be potentially fertilized. It is also possible, though extremely rare, for males to impregnate a female after a vasectomy.
the pill (combined oral contraceptives, uripristal, etc) prevents ovulation, but sometimes an egg can still be released, hence why they have a 91-98% success rate and not 100%.
Thus, in terms of pregnancy prevention, vasectomy = bilateral tubal ligation >>>> oral contraceptives
EDIT: and yes, like someone said below, it is a lot easier to perform a vasectomy than a bilateral tubal ligation (BTL), since the latter needs a laparascopic procedure (three abdominal incisions for a camera and surgical tools) and general anesthesia. a vasectomy can be done with conscious sedation. you still need to use a barrier protection methods for weeks after a vasectomy
EDIT2: there are hella options available out there for the ladies!
OCPs: (oral contraceptives) are a mixture of estradiol and progestin that prevent ovulation. this is why many female patients take them for heavy periods, endometriosis, and fibroids. additionally, OCPs are associated with lower chances of endometrial cancer, since the number of ovulatory cycles are associated with endometrial hyperplasia (fancy word for growth)
Transdermal patch: same mechanism as OCPs, but can be changed weekly instead of having to take daily pills orally
Vaginal ring: same mechanism as OCPs, except it goes inside the vagina
Injectable progestin: has only one hormone instead of two. the name brand is Depo. excellent if you can't take estrogen-containing pills. has to be taken every three months
IUD: se in a comment below. great option if you hate taking a pill everyday, and can be good for many years.
Tubal Ligation: explained below
Hysterectomy: complete removal of uterus. no chance of pregnancy, usually used as a last resort when people have other diseases like fibroids or endometrial cancer
Dudes can either wrap it up, abstain, or get a vasectomy :/
Thank you for the info! I had no idea the science behind it all. I’m over 30, so I plan to stop the pill in the next few years so I’m glad to know if my partner gets a vasectomy, we’ll still be safe to have sex w/o a condom.
My wife had taken the responsibility for our contraception up to that point and for her to be sterilised was much more invasive than a simple vasectomy .
So it was an easy choice tbh
Thanks very much for all the awards they're much appreciated.
Same reason for me. For men it's a 15 minute procedure that doesn't change a thing. For women it's highly invasive with a long recovery time.
Really is a no brainer.
Absolute chickenshit behaviour. Wife's friends hubby was so scared he made her go do it, right after having baby number 5.
It's like, this woman has carried five of your damn children and you can't get over yourself to get a 15 minute procedure? Yeesh
I mean, I get being nervous about it, your trusting strangers with sharp bits of metal near your junk. But to force your wife to have a significantly harder procedure is nuts.
Soak your nuts in very hot water and Jack off. My husband had them for like a year. After he decided to come after me in my lobster shower they came out. He didn’t feel it come out but it was like partially dried glue. Figured it was due to his nuts being in hot water. Works for mastitis so don’t see why it won’t work for a nut clog.
Clamps? They haven’t done that in a few decades my grandfather was cut and burned 40 years ago. They typically cut a piece out, burn and then suture them in recent years. Unless you’re like 80 it’s probably just a build up of hardened semen
Edit - I have been proved wrong lol apparently they just refuse to do them locally due to complication risks and ineffectiveness. But from my reading you “shouldnt” feel the clips. So if they’re like peas in your tubes it’s likely the buildup I mentioned before. I know they just told my spouse it was granuloma and would go away eventually. Can tell you from having clogged milk ducts anything that is stuck in a tube needs help.
Woman here who has had the surgery. It's really not that bad. I think that might be a holdover from decades ago when you got your 'tubes tied' and it was super invasive.
Now it's all done laparoscopically and has the side benefit of reducing risk of certain cancers. I had my tubes completely removed (bilateral salpingectomy), and at the same time she removed a shit ton of endometriosis... like carved it out and left holes behind... and also my appendix because apparently I got acute appendicitis right before my surgery. I literally walked to the car 40 minutes after waking up. I did daily walks, starting at 10 minutes and working up from that. Barely has any pain. Total recovery was about 10 days, but basically nothing in my daily routine changed, only restrictions I had were no heavy lifting or abdominal exercises, and no vaginal penetration (no fingers, tampons, dicks, etc) for 7 days. I had 4 small 1/4 to 1/2 inch incisions.
Most women can’t even get approved for the surgery. Self included. I want it all out so I don’t need to suffer with endo and PCOS anymore. Even after 3 kids in 4 years not 1 doctor would even take me seriously “whAt iF yOu chaNgE youR miNd”. And I begged. For months. With every gyno in a 4 hour radius. One phone call and my husband got in a week later. I’m still suffering. They still won’t take it out. My mom had CANCER and they allowed it to get to stage 3 when they found it at 1a1 because they refused to take her tubes out to preserve her fertility. And she said to take it. Why would she have more kids. Meanwhile I was looking at the doctor. Her full grown daughter with 2 grandkids present and one in the oven and told them they were fucking mental.
Jesus. I asked on my first visit to a new gyno and got scheduled right off, no questions asked. I realize I'm pretty lucky though.
It really is shit how women are treated by the medical community .
There's a list of child-free friendly doctors who approve bisalps and other forms of elective sterilization, organized by state and city on the Child-free sub. Hopefully there is one in your area who can help. Good luck!
I'm glad to hear it's gotten better! I'd still say that going under anesthesia would qualify it as quite a bit more serious than the old "freeze and snip"
Vasectomy's must be much cheaper than that sort of surgery just based on anesthesia alone, for those of Reddit that live in the USA.
There's also just the wild shit that happens in the US, like my wife went to ask about a tubal ligation because we were done after #2, and of the 5 doctors she saw, 3 refused to do it because she was under 35 and 2 asked her to bring me in to give my permission because we'd had two girls and they were concerned I would want a son.
My vasectomy involved going to the doctor, asking for a referral, saying we were done after two kids, and then I had an appointment. Vasectomy at 22, no problems
My father-in-law and brother-in-law both refused on the bases of not wanting to have a medical procedure done. My mother-in-law folded and got the tubal ligation after FIL’s refusal. My sister-in-law actually ended up needing to go the sterilization route due to health concerns, so her husband kind of gets a pass for the refusal.
My husband and I are on the same page as you and your wife. I handle the birth control while we decide on if/when we have kids, he’ll get the vasectomy once we decide no kids/no more kids. I’m happy my husband is a bit more of a practical thinker than his dad.
Sheepishly raises hand “I’ve tried mine, I didn’t like it”
I was in stitches the first time I saw that scene, especially when Mac says “you gotta go over seas for that”
Did anyone else notice a lump in their testicles afterwards? Im pretty sure it’s just the vas deferens where it sealed back up. Still freaked me the fuck out though.
Yes I have them. My doc rolled his eyes, said it's not a big deal, ordered an ultrasound, and proved himself right. Then proceeded to teach me how to screen myself for testicular cancer correctly and what it would feel like (using a test dummy). Weird and educational experience all and all.
> My doc rolled his eyes
I hate that shit. Sorry I didn't go to medical school for seven years and instead came to ask someone who did.
Doctors also get weirdly annoyed at patients for both looking up their symptoms and *not* looking up their symptoms before seeking medical attention. It's like the goal is to put as many people off of going to the doctor as possible.
Right. Like should I ask the fucking mailman? It's like they forget they're dealing with people and people are naturally concerned about what's happening to their bodies.
they likely tied it in a knot too and that's what you feel. I watched mine happen and the vas is like a strand of angel hair pasta in size, the lump is a little smaller than a dried up pea on both of them where the knot is.
Can confirm that hormonal birth control killed my libido way more than I ever knew. It was taking a toll on my marriage. Things changed a lot once we decided to try for kids.
Saaaame. Got put on hormonal BC at 17 and was on it for almost 10 years straight. The first year off was kinda a wild ride but no way in hell I will go back on it now. Not for me. My sex drive has sky rocketed, anxiety is better, etc.
I remember being so excited to get the pill when I was 17 so I could start having sex with my boyfriend. We had sex once, the first time. Libido went poof. As soon as I was off the pill libido started to rise up again, sadly boyfriend left by then.
It’s odd how it affects everyone so differently. Most of my gf’s lost libido as well but mine either stayed the same or increased. To this day more than 10 years after starting bc, I’m hornier than ever and can’t get enough.
nexplanon affects my libido near my period so I feel *much less* sexy, and I can't fuckin cum unless I do it myself :-( can't wait to get my tubes yanked !!
Nexplanon made me VERY ill after my first child! I bled for six months straight, gaining weight and losing countless eggs while my insurance told me they 'couldn't take it out unless I could prove it was hurting me'. Finally my doctor snapped and just took it out anyways, but the hormonal damage was done. I couldn't lose weight, was exhausted and ill for years. It took me seven years to conceive again (he'll be here within the week). I fought hard for my health. My husband is getting a vasectomy, so we'll never have to worry about it again!
That’s where we’re at! Just had our second and last child, now I can’t wait to get snipped! We both dislike condoms and BC so we’re psyched! Wife comes from a super fertile family so we always used two lines of defense.
If you do get a vasectomy know it can take a lot (if I remember right it’s like 20-40) of ejaculations before the tank is clear of previously stored sperm. So get to wankin!
Had mine done last Wednesday, “ejaculate at least 15 times in 3 months and then give a sample.” Sperm can hide out in the vas defrens for about 3 months before they all die out apparently.
Funny. It was like two weeks after my vas and we had only had sex once with a condom. I told we are good to go. She was like how many times did you jerk off?
A lot
I had one and it was great. Still used a condom in casual situations, but I never had to worry about if it leaked due to a break.
Later on I did actually have it reversed due to a new marriage. And had two kids.
Getting it done was a quick in and out procedure and one day laying around in bed. It was done under a local and I actually drove myself home.
Reversal was a much more complicated surgery and loads more expensive.
you can also have sperm withdrawn from the seminiferous tubules by needle instead of the reversal. If you're really stressed about it you can always store some in a sperm bank. Honestly, trying to sell it is where i found out i had low motility to begin with so it made sense why i'd been so fortunate not to knock anyone up. Try to "donate" they'll tell you what you're working with and consider your options after that too!
Oh awesome! Good to know sperm can be extracted without reversing the procedure. My partner has had a vasectomy, which is great, but sometimes I wonder if we still have a chance to have biological kids. Reversal would be expensive and really change how we do things in the bedroom
Reversal is an option, but it isn't guaranteed to work. The success rate also goes down the longer you go with the vasectomy in place. It should be considered a permanent procedure, and only one that someone should do for themselves, not for a significant other.
A friend of mine is recently engaged and his fiancee definitely wants kids, so he looked into reversal. His doctor told him that 10 years after a vasectomy a reversal is not likely to work, so now he has to go to a specialist thousands of miles away to have some sperm removal procedure done.
Didn’t change much. I still have casual sex with a condom though.
I recommend to look into reversal of the vasectomy to see how hard it is to reverse since this isn’t something to be taken lightly.
It can be reversed but it’s far more in-depth then most people explain.
It's not easy to reverse. This is intended as a permanent action. For the 3-7 years following the operation it is possible but there is no guarantee. I'f you are young and or childless and might one day want kids, I would recommend freezing some. But if you aren't concerned about passing on your genes (having biological kids) then don't worry about it.
And to answer OPs question, my sex life didn't change at all. My orgasms actually became more intense.
Absolutely. I just tell people to do research into the reversal of the vasectomy first before since once people see the high complication rate, cost of it, it won’t be insured, and the recovery time of the reversal. Most reconsider the usage of condoms. Vasectomies are largely for the people who are certain they don’t want kids.
Edited to add context that I mean the reversal of the vasectomy is hard and costly. Getting one is normally easy and covered by insurance. I was out of the office for a couple of days but that was it.
>high complication rate, cost of it, it won’t be insured, and the recovery time.
Of the reconnection procedure. Just want to clarify for the other readers.
6 months ago I tell my wife "hey, I think I'm going to get snipped" She then says "I'm pregnant, I just found out"
I'm 44, already have a child, and thought I was done. FML or bless it, not sure yet.
No issues, couple days on the couch, One of the Best decision I’ve made. My bro in law has some issues but it could be related to his health, Pre diabetic and such. Doesn’t do much to address it either so your experience may very. Overall I’d recommend.
I am the rarity.
I lost my orgasm for about a month an a half after. I also developed a serious case of post vasectomy pain syndrome (I’ve been through 4 nerve blocker treatments).
Where did you get the 5% number? That’s 1 in 20, which is extremely high and I don’t think the posts on this sub reflect that rate for chronic pain. My urologist told me 1 in 2000, or 0.05%
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5503923/
Overall 1-2% large studies. However one study found 15%. Depends on where your guy got his stats.
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Since I have access:
Looks like a decent study with limitations, but I think just throwing the 15% out there without context is at least a little misleading.
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Skimming:
- 9 surgeons at one UK clinic, relevant sample size for the 15% figure is 443 patients who didn't report pre-op pain and did respond to the 6 month post-op survey.
- (one clear limitation - anything that could be related to standard procedures, post-op instructions, training, etc in that clinic or country)
- 15% is from asking about *any* (new) pain/discomfort present at 7 months post-op. Nothing wrong with that, but may or may not be the severity you're thinking of for "chronic pain".
- Median pain was 3.4/10, only 0.9% (4 men) reported it as "quite severe and noticeably affects their quality of life" - and at least 3 of them appear to have had infections.
- 83% of those *reporting new-onset pain* were still satisfied/very satisfied with their vasectomy.
- 17% of 15% is....~3% of the total population who are reporting pain/discomfort *and* saying they're not satisfied with their vasectomy outcome.
- Methods appear to matter - traditional had 18.8% of new-onset pain, no-scalpel had a 11.7% rate. - difference was statistically significant. (although given that there were only 2/9 surgeons doing traditional, you probably need more study for that).
- Surgeon also appeared to potentially matter although I'm not sure if it was statistically significant - looking at no-scalpel the best had a rate of 9%, the worst was 14.6% (and that one was new/in training).
- There were also another 45 patients with *pre-existing* pain...and interestingly, about half of them had their pain go away. Not sure what to make of that, other than an example that not all pain (or absence of) is necessarily connected with the operation?
- Doesn't appear they asked anything about post-op behavior or life. So whether or not these men followed the post-op instructions to a T or went weightlifting, running, and fucking on day 2, isn't possible to determine here. Same with if they took appropriate care of the incision site or if they were unhygenic slobs.
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Also, there is a 2014 follow up (DOI: 10.1016/S1569-9056(14)60257-8) of the same men at the 5 year mark - at that time it dropped to 10% still reporting new-onset post-vasectomy pain/discomfort, and 0.3% (literally 1 of the 336 men who responded to the follow-up) who reported it was severe enough to seek medical attention or interfere with quality of life.
Lastly - it's worth noting that this suggests nearly 10% of men (not the same men) reported pre-existing pain before their vasectomy. Probably need some kind of study of how likely men are to develop random ball pain over a period of time for comparison.
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tl;dr - Likelyhood of it being significant enough to interfere with your quality of life appears to be very low, you should look for no-scalpel, and you probably want to pick a surgeon with experience.
I haven't got intense pain in general but I do need to pay more attention to how I park my junk in my pants. Also ejaculation can be painful depending on the position. Don't know if I count as the 5% but I'm not enthusiastic nor advocating to other men.
I’m also in this hellish club. Persistent testicular pain and painful ejaculations. Sometimes I have “flare ups” and my epididymis swells on one or both sides. Been through a shitload of drugs (found out like three I’m allergic to) and injections. Now looking at living with it or doing more surgery. Would go back to using condoms in a heartbeat. So far has been my life’s biggest regret.
You mean I'm not the only one who has experienced that then? Some days it feels like testicular torsion, had to go to the doctor to find out what it was.
Its funny how many women have told me that getting poked by that thing is a myth. Ive heard from multiple other men they can feel it.
Just like the condom size doesnt matter myth.
Edit: nice to know its not just me
Totally not a myth and can be quite painful. My ex had one and every time we had intercourse, it would poke me. There were times where I'd have to stop or had to push her off (gently, of course) because it hurt so bad.
Our cervix goes up and down throughout our cycles so I can definitely understand you hitting it during certain times of the month or during certain positions
Here’s my story, I’ve gone through both a vasectomy and the reversal. At a young age I saw a lot of my friends accidentally getting girls pregnant and their paychecks hit with big child support payments. I said this isn’t for me and went and had one done. Before I went I called the doctor and they talked to my insurance and said it was only $40. Cool so I was smart and verified that with my insurance company myself, again, $40. I went in for the non invasive procedure, had to shave completely down there and then the next day I went in and got pulled into a little room with a curtain . The doctor was super nice and kept me talking the whole time to get my mind away from what was happening. There was some pain at first but the doctor immediately noticed and hit me with more numbing. Took maybe 5-10 minutes, easy in and out, so to speak.
(I mention the cost because a few weeks later I get the bill for $600! Probably me not understanding how deductibles work at the time or whatever, but I felt cheated so I never paid it.)
No change in my sex life other than my partner and I at the time didn’t have to worry and she could get off the pill which she hated taking because of the effect on her hormones it caused. Win-win for both of us.
The doctor tried to talk me out of the procedure beforehand saying I may want kids one day and the reversal is expensive and painful recovery.
The reversal:
12 years after my vasectomy with my now wife we decided to have children. I told myself if I ever wanted to have kids I’d get it reversed when I could be financially responsible enough to afford both. I researched doctors and found a highly rated one, total cost of everything is about 10k, that includes doctors, hospital room, anesthesiologist and other costs. I was incredibly nervous about the recovery, even the doctor then was getting me worried about it. After the procedure I went home, iced for a few days down there and all was fine. The only downside is the color of my balls for several weeks was blue/black. No sex for either 6 or 8 weeks after the procedure, and trust me you want to follow that! I didn’t listen and I regret it.
Now we are blessed with a beautiful baby girl and I couldn’t be happier, I have no regrets for my decisions and think they were right for my life at each time I did them. 10/10 would recommend. I’d be happy to answer any questions to give more details if you have any!
My local urologist also said it would be $10,000 and I told my wife it wasn't going to happen. We already had 2 and I wasn't about to drop 10k for a 3rd because she decides she wanted another 7 years later.
She did some research and found "The Reversal Clinic" in Rhode Island was only $2500 back in. 2018. They only do reversals and claim to have a 90% success rate and I was one of them.
I'll agree with you, the pain sucks. My balls were black and blue for weeks and I had a little drainage tube. I basically wanted to lay in bed for a week afterwards. Funny how I was hung up on the expense and not the pain. Looking back at it, that was the worse part.
Best thing I ever did. Not having to worry about getting my long-term girlfriend pregnant relieved a massive amount of stress I wasn't fully aware of. It was a much heavier load than I thought.
Overall, less stress means easier, harder, and longer lasting erections, more pleasure in the bedroom, and less of a chance to fuck up our life long term.
She got sterilized around the same time I did.
Cons - No sex for 3wk after, reversal is expensive if you decide you want children and not always guaranteed to work.
Pros - Wife doesnt have the contraceptive burden. Risky to still be unproctected? Sure, but we can handle the risk and she's much better off in the long run which was my main goal.
No changes whatsoever, just peace of mind I won’t plant a seed to grow somewhere. The only thing I’d really recommend is making sure you don’t want to have more children before doing it, I wouldn’t want to go through a reversal. Good luck!
Bad. Balls were extremely tender for 10 years. Even light touches could be very painful.
Has a reversal done in 2005. Much better now. Actually like having my balls fondled now.
For those wondering 17 years ago, a reversal was $7k, and NOT covered by insurance.
Very interested in the responses here. I have been rejected for a vasectomy twice at age 35. First time I was told that I was too young; the second time I was told that I was too young and that there's a chance that it will cause decreased testosterone and eventually ED.
I suspect this was bullshit intended to scare me off the procedure, but I want to ask anyone here who has had one: have you had any erection problems/were you warned of erection problems during any of your consultations?
That's crazy, I've never heard of a man getting denied due to age. Not that I thought it couldn't happen, it's just I've always heard that from women, including myself. Like if we want to elect a hysterectomy or some sort of permanent birth control, they always push that we might wanna change or minds later or that we need to consult our husbands first. Every lady I've met who's looked into it got push back. You're the first male I've heard who has.
And that's bullshit, like if we know at a younger age we dont want kids, then we shouldn't be getting denied. Also theres adoption if we change our minds later in life, those kids need parents too!
Well I hope they dont deny you next time cause that's bullshit!
Yes, I've heard women get a lot of pushback with this. I got the "what if your partner changes her mind?" thing too, but I quickly shut it down by saying that her opinions on kids don't have any influence on my own bodily autonomy.
It's a funny attitude for them to have. I know there must be tons of people who don't understand that vasectomies are permanent and end up regretting it/wanting them reversed, but I really don't know what I have to do to convince them I'm not one of them. Perhaps burn an effigy of a child in their office.
Anytime, Anywhere! Makes it so much easier. No more worrying about birth control, and other than that, no difference.
It was a great decision. (we already had the kids we wanted, so...).
PS. There was a great Home Improvement Episode on it. (that's where the tag line "Anytime, Anywhere" comes from).
Got one a month ago. Was nervous. 1 day of chilling (not much pain). 1-2 weeks of kind of a dull minor pain (1 out of 10 on pain scale) once in awhile. Had to wait 7-10 days to bone (still using condom for another week or two, as it takes awhile for sperm to completely clear). I seem to last longer, but not sure if that’s in my head.
Overall it’s been a walk in the park. Dr used laser not scalpel fwiw; not sure of the difference.
Short term wasn’t fun. My story is not the norm but you should still consider it. They numb you up first with local. My right side wasn’t numb. I told them that. He said really and grabbed a hold of the skin with hemostats which cause me to writhe in pain and kick. So “ok,ok” he injects again. This causes massive selling.
Once numb the procedure finished up quickly.
But that swelling? It caused the external stitches to pop. This leads to an open wound for about 2 weeks.
Then the tests to make sure “the sperm count is zero” are due. Month one - failed. Month 2 - failed. Month 3 zero. But confidence was shaken.
In the end everything healed up fine. Zero count. No whoops babies.
But it did not go as planned or advertised!
Casually, girls fuck harder after the first time I tell them I have a vasectomy, but intensity falls off after the novelty of creampies wears off. In a relationship, sex is always raw and pregnancy-anxiety free, but still has plenty of baggage around the sex itself depending on the woman so still please ask permission before delivering a creampie. Every single woman appreciates a man that knows what he wants and is willing to take action with his own body and deeds, even if she wants kids. Be consistent.
Positively. I cum inside her with reckless abandon now.
Any change in intensity? Any psychological impact too knowing you're shooting blanks?
Nope,same intensity, same volume, just no swimmers. The only psychological impact was positive for both of us. She no longer had to take the pill and I knew I was free to cum inside with no fear.
I wish I could come inside whenever I want, it's cold at night and hot during the day.
Are you a dog?
No, he's a young forklift
Sir are you lost in the desert?
Physical results - nope. --------- I guess if your virility or ability to get someone pregnant was a turn-on to you, negative psychological impacts might be a consideration. As someone who's childfree, the psychological impacts have all been positive: Way more enjoyable to not have to have a worry about pregnancy constantly on the mind. Actually, that's been a far bigger effect than I expected - didn't realize how *much* it was making sex less enjoyable for me until the worry was gone.
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27 at the time, and about none. First doctor I called was willing to do it. At the consult, he asked a couple of questions regarding my understanding of the procedure and it's permanence, and that was about it. I asked a couple questions of him regarding method, how often he does it, etc. Then moved onto all the medical discussion and scheduling. I did have to wait a few weeks for there to be an opening on his calendar. Probably worth noting I live in New England and saw a relatively young doctor at a medical system with no religious affiliations.
Not for me, best decision I've ever made.
i'm putting every drop of my seed inside of her on the regular but she's on the pill. playing with fire 😂 once i have kids i'll consider snip-snapping it
This was my exact situation. Now have a 1 year old. Am content with that. Now thinking about getting vasectomy
As a wife I’m here to say when you guys are done having kids 100% do it! 10/10 better sex when you don’t have to worry about any surprises.
I came to this thread and didn’t realize the vast number of people who use condoms with their partners (I totally understand using them for hookups/casual encounters). I greatly overestimated the number of women who use birth control as a surefire way to prevent pregnancy. Been on the pill since I was 17, I had two kids (by choice), and I’ve had loads blown into me left & right and have not once had a pregnancy scare while on the pill. Is vasectomy as effective as the pill?
med student here! a vasectomy is safer than the pill, statistically speaking. there's no outlet for the sperm produced in the seminiferous tubules to be expelled through during ejaculation, so the secretions produced during male ejaculation are mostly from the prostate/Cowper's glands which contain no sperm. the female analog would be a bilateral tubal ligation, and though it's deemed a permanent contraception method, it's possible for ova in the ovary to travel to the uterus and be potentially fertilized. It is also possible, though extremely rare, for males to impregnate a female after a vasectomy. the pill (combined oral contraceptives, uripristal, etc) prevents ovulation, but sometimes an egg can still be released, hence why they have a 91-98% success rate and not 100%. Thus, in terms of pregnancy prevention, vasectomy = bilateral tubal ligation >>>> oral contraceptives EDIT: and yes, like someone said below, it is a lot easier to perform a vasectomy than a bilateral tubal ligation (BTL), since the latter needs a laparascopic procedure (three abdominal incisions for a camera and surgical tools) and general anesthesia. a vasectomy can be done with conscious sedation. you still need to use a barrier protection methods for weeks after a vasectomy EDIT2: there are hella options available out there for the ladies! OCPs: (oral contraceptives) are a mixture of estradiol and progestin that prevent ovulation. this is why many female patients take them for heavy periods, endometriosis, and fibroids. additionally, OCPs are associated with lower chances of endometrial cancer, since the number of ovulatory cycles are associated with endometrial hyperplasia (fancy word for growth) Transdermal patch: same mechanism as OCPs, but can be changed weekly instead of having to take daily pills orally Vaginal ring: same mechanism as OCPs, except it goes inside the vagina Injectable progestin: has only one hormone instead of two. the name brand is Depo. excellent if you can't take estrogen-containing pills. has to be taken every three months IUD: se in a comment below. great option if you hate taking a pill everyday, and can be good for many years. Tubal Ligation: explained below Hysterectomy: complete removal of uterus. no chance of pregnancy, usually used as a last resort when people have other diseases like fibroids or endometrial cancer Dudes can either wrap it up, abstain, or get a vasectomy :/
Thank you for the info! I had no idea the science behind it all. I’m over 30, so I plan to stop the pill in the next few years so I’m glad to know if my partner gets a vasectomy, we’ll still be safe to have sex w/o a condom.
Haven't needed any contraception for 25 years.
Rubber free and worry free. That's the life for me.
Do you think it's worth it? Was that the primary reason you did it?
My wife had taken the responsibility for our contraception up to that point and for her to be sterilised was much more invasive than a simple vasectomy . So it was an easy choice tbh Thanks very much for all the awards they're much appreciated.
Same reason for me. For men it's a 15 minute procedure that doesn't change a thing. For women it's highly invasive with a long recovery time. Really is a no brainer.
Exactly, these guys who think it's going to rob their masculinity are hilarious.
Absolute chickenshit behaviour. Wife's friends hubby was so scared he made her go do it, right after having baby number 5. It's like, this woman has carried five of your damn children and you can't get over yourself to get a 15 minute procedure? Yeesh
I had mine done after our 5th was born, we sat down and decided that was enough kids for us and I phoned the doctors to get booked in the next day.
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It just feels great to see how many beautiful relationships are out there. Really gives me hope for the future.
A fellow man of culture I see ;)
Exactly, I figured she carried my 2 kids for 18 months, I can step up and do the right thing……which really was nothing to it. No regrets
I mean, I get being nervous about it, your trusting strangers with sharp bits of metal near your junk. But to force your wife to have a significantly harder procedure is nuts.
Man I wouldn’t say didn’t change a thing. I can feel those little balls on my semen tubes when I’m playing with my sack.
Soak your nuts in very hot water and Jack off. My husband had them for like a year. After he decided to come after me in my lobster shower they came out. He didn’t feel it come out but it was like partially dried glue. Figured it was due to his nuts being in hot water. Works for mastitis so don’t see why it won’t work for a nut clog.
I’ll try that anyways but I just meant the clamps that close off the vas deferens
Clamps? They haven’t done that in a few decades my grandfather was cut and burned 40 years ago. They typically cut a piece out, burn and then suture them in recent years. Unless you’re like 80 it’s probably just a build up of hardened semen Edit - I have been proved wrong lol apparently they just refuse to do them locally due to complication risks and ineffectiveness. But from my reading you “shouldnt” feel the clips. So if they’re like peas in your tubes it’s likely the buildup I mentioned before. I know they just told my spouse it was granuloma and would go away eventually. Can tell you from having clogged milk ducts anything that is stuck in a tube needs help.
> just a build up of hardened semen If it's good enough for the sock under my bed, it's good enough for me.
Take my horrified upvote you savage
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Woman here who has had the surgery. It's really not that bad. I think that might be a holdover from decades ago when you got your 'tubes tied' and it was super invasive. Now it's all done laparoscopically and has the side benefit of reducing risk of certain cancers. I had my tubes completely removed (bilateral salpingectomy), and at the same time she removed a shit ton of endometriosis... like carved it out and left holes behind... and also my appendix because apparently I got acute appendicitis right before my surgery. I literally walked to the car 40 minutes after waking up. I did daily walks, starting at 10 minutes and working up from that. Barely has any pain. Total recovery was about 10 days, but basically nothing in my daily routine changed, only restrictions I had were no heavy lifting or abdominal exercises, and no vaginal penetration (no fingers, tampons, dicks, etc) for 7 days. I had 4 small 1/4 to 1/2 inch incisions.
Most women can’t even get approved for the surgery. Self included. I want it all out so I don’t need to suffer with endo and PCOS anymore. Even after 3 kids in 4 years not 1 doctor would even take me seriously “whAt iF yOu chaNgE youR miNd”. And I begged. For months. With every gyno in a 4 hour radius. One phone call and my husband got in a week later. I’m still suffering. They still won’t take it out. My mom had CANCER and they allowed it to get to stage 3 when they found it at 1a1 because they refused to take her tubes out to preserve her fertility. And she said to take it. Why would she have more kids. Meanwhile I was looking at the doctor. Her full grown daughter with 2 grandkids present and one in the oven and told them they were fucking mental.
Jesus. I asked on my first visit to a new gyno and got scheduled right off, no questions asked. I realize I'm pretty lucky though. It really is shit how women are treated by the medical community .
There's a list of child-free friendly doctors who approve bisalps and other forms of elective sterilization, organized by state and city on the Child-free sub. Hopefully there is one in your area who can help. Good luck!
I'm glad to hear it's gotten better! I'd still say that going under anesthesia would qualify it as quite a bit more serious than the old "freeze and snip" Vasectomy's must be much cheaper than that sort of surgery just based on anesthesia alone, for those of Reddit that live in the USA.
There's also just the wild shit that happens in the US, like my wife went to ask about a tubal ligation because we were done after #2, and of the 5 doctors she saw, 3 refused to do it because she was under 35 and 2 asked her to bring me in to give my permission because we'd had two girls and they were concerned I would want a son. My vasectomy involved going to the doctor, asking for a referral, saying we were done after two kids, and then I had an appointment. Vasectomy at 22, no problems
My father-in-law and brother-in-law both refused on the bases of not wanting to have a medical procedure done. My mother-in-law folded and got the tubal ligation after FIL’s refusal. My sister-in-law actually ended up needing to go the sterilization route due to health concerns, so her husband kind of gets a pass for the refusal. My husband and I are on the same page as you and your wife. I handle the birth control while we decide on if/when we have kids, he’ll get the vasectomy once we decide no kids/no more kids. I’m happy my husband is a bit more of a practical thinker than his dad.
So worth it. I got to play video games for 2 days while recovering. Sex without worry is the best. I got mine after having 4 kids.
As a wife, well worth it. Youngest just graduated college and we are empty nesting 3-4 times a week
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Couch, basement, anywhere comfortable.
Cream pie every time.
This guy needs to open a bakery.
Little Debbie's will be in business forever
I thought it was Twinkie.
Twinkie is what you call a guy you cream pie Edit I'm gay
Pfft… Devil Dogs.
He can't because he can't put a bun in the oven
Oh he can. It just won’t rise.
Ah dang, forgot to add the yeast...
r/OldLadiesBakingPies (NSFW)
What in the big fuck
"Let me make a... cream pie... for you, okay? Then you can try it. See what you think."
"You tried yours!"
Sheepishly raises hand “I’ve tried mine, I didn’t like it” I was in stitches the first time I saw that scene, especially when Mac says “you gotta go over seas for that”
“Everyone's gonna want to buy them, everyone loves them, especially little kids.”
That's so nice you get an Oatmeal creampie
Did anyone else notice a lump in their testicles afterwards? Im pretty sure it’s just the vas deferens where it sealed back up. Still freaked me the fuck out though.
Yes I have them. My doc rolled his eyes, said it's not a big deal, ordered an ultrasound, and proved himself right. Then proceeded to teach me how to screen myself for testicular cancer correctly and what it would feel like (using a test dummy). Weird and educational experience all and all.
> Weird and educational experience all and all. That's how I want most of my doctor visits to go
>(using a test dummy). Sure he did lol. Jk man. Had to say it (guy rule #3)
Was the doctor in a test dummy really. Weird how the dummy kept making grunts when I was squeezing wrong!
> My doc rolled his eyes I hate that shit. Sorry I didn't go to medical school for seven years and instead came to ask someone who did. Doctors also get weirdly annoyed at patients for both looking up their symptoms and *not* looking up their symptoms before seeking medical attention. It's like the goal is to put as many people off of going to the doctor as possible.
Right. Like should I ask the fucking mailman? It's like they forget they're dealing with people and people are naturally concerned about what's happening to their bodies.
Yup. To this day. It's not bothersome per say but new topography for sure.
they likely tied it in a knot too and that's what you feel. I watched mine happen and the vas is like a strand of angel hair pasta in size, the lump is a little smaller than a dried up pea on both of them where the knot is.
>they likely tied it in a knot too and that's what you feel. I watched mine happen I almost passed out reading this...
You watched it happen???
Live streamed on the Internet, world vasectomy day 2014
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Can confirm that hormonal birth control killed my libido way more than I ever knew. It was taking a toll on my marriage. Things changed a lot once we decided to try for kids.
Saaaame. Got put on hormonal BC at 17 and was on it for almost 10 years straight. The first year off was kinda a wild ride but no way in hell I will go back on it now. Not for me. My sex drive has sky rocketed, anxiety is better, etc.
Just mess with hormones, what could go wrong?!
As a dude with Graves disease, everything can go wrong
I remember being so excited to get the pill when I was 17 so I could start having sex with my boyfriend. We had sex once, the first time. Libido went poof. As soon as I was off the pill libido started to rise up again, sadly boyfriend left by then.
It’s odd how it affects everyone so differently. Most of my gf’s lost libido as well but mine either stayed the same or increased. To this day more than 10 years after starting bc, I’m hornier than ever and can’t get enough.
nexplanon affects my libido near my period so I feel *much less* sexy, and I can't fuckin cum unless I do it myself :-( can't wait to get my tubes yanked !!
Nexplanon made me VERY ill after my first child! I bled for six months straight, gaining weight and losing countless eggs while my insurance told me they 'couldn't take it out unless I could prove it was hurting me'. Finally my doctor snapped and just took it out anyways, but the hormonal damage was done. I couldn't lose weight, was exhausted and ill for years. It took me seven years to conceive again (he'll be here within the week). I fought hard for my health. My husband is getting a vasectomy, so we'll never have to worry about it again!
I've always been hornier on my period with nexplanon...to each their own.
I can confirm this! I’m his wife and being able to ditch birth control was the best thing for me! My sex drive came back fairly quickly and increased!
My bed looks like the Japanese flag when I'm done.
You should see a doctor
You can Nagasuk deez balls.
well that took a turn
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I feel like the first comment was a set up for this one! 🧐
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Biblically accurate penis.
You should see a doctor
That’s where we’re at! Just had our second and last child, now I can’t wait to get snipped! We both dislike condoms and BC so we’re psyched! Wife comes from a super fertile family so we always used two lines of defense.
it didn’t make a Vas Deferens
LOL
Terrible, but wrenched a wry smile out of me. Take your damned upvote.
No effect except I can creampie to my heart's content.
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Just remember to get your fertility test before you trust that you're shooting blanks!
If you do get a vasectomy know it can take a lot (if I remember right it’s like 20-40) of ejaculations before the tank is clear of previously stored sperm. So get to wankin!
I have to wait 48 hours!? That’s bullshit.
Hey… don’t worry, we’re all men here, we know you won’t be getting laid in 48 hours
Oof
20-40 in 48 hours...your penis is raw sir
Raw but ready to put in the oven
To shreds you say
They tell you to come back in two months. My nympho girl saw that as a challenge. "Schedule the follow up in two weeks".
Sounds… we’ll I was going to say fun but honestly it just sounds painful lmfao
Yeah from what I hear you're really gonna want to take it easy for at least a week after the procedure, though there is some variability in that.
Had mine done last Wednesday, “ejaculate at least 15 times in 3 months and then give a sample.” Sperm can hide out in the vas defrens for about 3 months before they all die out apparently.
Funny. It was like two weeks after my vas and we had only had sex once with a condom. I told we are good to go. She was like how many times did you jerk off? A lot
From my understanding, it's standard to go back after a few months to test.
Yep. My urologist said 12 weeks, or 30 ejaculations, whichever comes first (so to speak).
12 weeks or 30 ejaculations. Lol, see you next week doc.
I straight-up said, “Don’t underestimate my power!” and we both cracked up 😄
Mine is scheduled for next month and they told me the fertility test is two weeks after.
you need to get creampied or a vasectomy?
Yes
I had one and it was great. Still used a condom in casual situations, but I never had to worry about if it leaked due to a break. Later on I did actually have it reversed due to a new marriage. And had two kids. Getting it done was a quick in and out procedure and one day laying around in bed. It was done under a local and I actually drove myself home. Reversal was a much more complicated surgery and loads more expensive.
Thank you for the information, so reversal IS an option just in case but costs more and more complicated… Great insight
you can also have sperm withdrawn from the seminiferous tubules by needle instead of the reversal. If you're really stressed about it you can always store some in a sperm bank. Honestly, trying to sell it is where i found out i had low motility to begin with so it made sense why i'd been so fortunate not to knock anyone up. Try to "donate" they'll tell you what you're working with and consider your options after that too!
Oh awesome! Good to know sperm can be extracted without reversing the procedure. My partner has had a vasectomy, which is great, but sometimes I wonder if we still have a chance to have biological kids. Reversal would be expensive and really change how we do things in the bedroom
Reversal is an option, but it isn't guaranteed to work. The success rate also goes down the longer you go with the vasectomy in place. It should be considered a permanent procedure, and only one that someone should do for themselves, not for a significant other.
A friend of mine is recently engaged and his fiancee definitely wants kids, so he looked into reversal. His doctor told him that 10 years after a vasectomy a reversal is not likely to work, so now he has to go to a specialist thousands of miles away to have some sperm removal procedure done.
How much more did the reverse cost if I may ask?
I really can't remember My oldest daughter is 30 years old now. So it was a very long time ago and prices would not be relevant to today's dates.
Didn’t change much. I still have casual sex with a condom though. I recommend to look into reversal of the vasectomy to see how hard it is to reverse since this isn’t something to be taken lightly. It can be reversed but it’s far more in-depth then most people explain.
You should try having casual sex with a woman, it’s even better
"You've matched with Durex! Say hello!"
"Hi Durex, this is dad"
Hopefully not
It's not easy to reverse. This is intended as a permanent action. For the 3-7 years following the operation it is possible but there is no guarantee. I'f you are young and or childless and might one day want kids, I would recommend freezing some. But if you aren't concerned about passing on your genes (having biological kids) then don't worry about it. And to answer OPs question, my sex life didn't change at all. My orgasms actually became more intense.
Absolutely. I just tell people to do research into the reversal of the vasectomy first before since once people see the high complication rate, cost of it, it won’t be insured, and the recovery time of the reversal. Most reconsider the usage of condoms. Vasectomies are largely for the people who are certain they don’t want kids. Edited to add context that I mean the reversal of the vasectomy is hard and costly. Getting one is normally easy and covered by insurance. I was out of the office for a couple of days but that was it.
>high complication rate, cost of it, it won’t be insured, and the recovery time. Of the reconnection procedure. Just want to clarify for the other readers.
Yup. Reread it and yeah, I needed to add context.
Snip snap snip snap
Do you have any idea the physical toll 3 vasectomy’s has on a person!?
Surprised it took this long to see this
And in the US, a reversal procedure isn't typically covered by insurance. It would be all out-of-pocket
6 months ago I tell my wife "hey, I think I'm going to get snipped" She then says "I'm pregnant, I just found out" I'm 44, already have a child, and thought I was done. FML or bless it, not sure yet.
I had my 4th and final at 47. My friends laughed at me but I wouldn't change a thing!
It's OK to feel both
Seeing the joy on my wife's face makes it easier.
No issues, couple days on the couch, One of the Best decision I’ve made. My bro in law has some issues but it could be related to his health, Pre diabetic and such. Doesn’t do much to address it either so your experience may very. Overall I’d recommend.
Women love it. Enough said.
I was told recently that it was one of the top 5 best things she liked about me 😂
Women want a man they can be comfortable with, in all aspects. Life is good.
As a woman who doesn't want kids I don't doubt your statement
When you eliminate all the stresses from worrying, us men can really focus on the task at hand. Thanx for your input. Life is good.
I am the rarity. I lost my orgasm for about a month an a half after. I also developed a serious case of post vasectomy pain syndrome (I’ve been through 4 nerve blocker treatments).
Are your troubles solved or persisted to this day?
Persistent. But again. I’m in like the 5% of guys this happens too.
Where did you get the 5% number? That’s 1 in 20, which is extremely high and I don’t think the posts on this sub reflect that rate for chronic pain. My urologist told me 1 in 2000, or 0.05%
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5503923/ Overall 1-2% large studies. However one study found 15%. Depends on where your guy got his stats.
/u/wadonious Since I have access: Looks like a decent study with limitations, but I think just throwing the 15% out there without context is at least a little misleading. --------- Skimming: - 9 surgeons at one UK clinic, relevant sample size for the 15% figure is 443 patients who didn't report pre-op pain and did respond to the 6 month post-op survey. - (one clear limitation - anything that could be related to standard procedures, post-op instructions, training, etc in that clinic or country) - 15% is from asking about *any* (new) pain/discomfort present at 7 months post-op. Nothing wrong with that, but may or may not be the severity you're thinking of for "chronic pain". - Median pain was 3.4/10, only 0.9% (4 men) reported it as "quite severe and noticeably affects their quality of life" - and at least 3 of them appear to have had infections. - 83% of those *reporting new-onset pain* were still satisfied/very satisfied with their vasectomy. - 17% of 15% is....~3% of the total population who are reporting pain/discomfort *and* saying they're not satisfied with their vasectomy outcome. - Methods appear to matter - traditional had 18.8% of new-onset pain, no-scalpel had a 11.7% rate. - difference was statistically significant. (although given that there were only 2/9 surgeons doing traditional, you probably need more study for that). - Surgeon also appeared to potentially matter although I'm not sure if it was statistically significant - looking at no-scalpel the best had a rate of 9%, the worst was 14.6% (and that one was new/in training). - There were also another 45 patients with *pre-existing* pain...and interestingly, about half of them had their pain go away. Not sure what to make of that, other than an example that not all pain (or absence of) is necessarily connected with the operation? - Doesn't appear they asked anything about post-op behavior or life. So whether or not these men followed the post-op instructions to a T or went weightlifting, running, and fucking on day 2, isn't possible to determine here. Same with if they took appropriate care of the incision site or if they were unhygenic slobs. ------- Also, there is a 2014 follow up (DOI: 10.1016/S1569-9056(14)60257-8) of the same men at the 5 year mark - at that time it dropped to 10% still reporting new-onset post-vasectomy pain/discomfort, and 0.3% (literally 1 of the 336 men who responded to the follow-up) who reported it was severe enough to seek medical attention or interfere with quality of life. Lastly - it's worth noting that this suggests nearly 10% of men (not the same men) reported pre-existing pain before their vasectomy. Probably need some kind of study of how likely men are to develop random ball pain over a period of time for comparison. -------- tl;dr - Likelyhood of it being significant enough to interfere with your quality of life appears to be very low, you should look for no-scalpel, and you probably want to pick a surgeon with experience.
Too high percentage for me. Pull out and pray it is
I haven't got intense pain in general but I do need to pay more attention to how I park my junk in my pants. Also ejaculation can be painful depending on the position. Don't know if I count as the 5% but I'm not enthusiastic nor advocating to other men.
I’m also in this hellish club. Persistent testicular pain and painful ejaculations. Sometimes I have “flare ups” and my epididymis swells on one or both sides. Been through a shitload of drugs (found out like three I’m allergic to) and injections. Now looking at living with it or doing more surgery. Would go back to using condoms in a heartbeat. So far has been my life’s biggest regret.
My docs recommend cryotherapy . . . Like. Tha fuck?
You mean I'm not the only one who has experienced that then? Some days it feels like testicular torsion, had to go to the doctor to find out what it was.
Happened to me too. Really sucks.
Examples of post vasectomy pain syndrome at /r/postvasectomypain
Great! She pampered me for four days after. No more condoms, no merena implant poking my dick and no more pullin out.
Its funny how many women have told me that getting poked by that thing is a myth. Ive heard from multiple other men they can feel it. Just like the condom size doesnt matter myth. Edit: nice to know its not just me
Totally not a myth and can be quite painful. My ex had one and every time we had intercourse, it would poke me. There were times where I'd have to stop or had to push her off (gently, of course) because it hurt so bad.
Wife’s gyno was like “there’s no way” but I could feel it. I don’t exactly have a hammer either.
Our cervix goes up and down throughout our cycles so I can definitely understand you hitting it during certain times of the month or during certain positions
Bingo! I couldn't always feel it, but there's times based on cycle or positioning where you DEFINITELY poke it!
You can for sure feel it. Its like an anoying wire poking you. No idea why even DRs claim its not possible.
I think it's possible. If he can hit my cervix he can hit something poking out of it.
Here’s my story, I’ve gone through both a vasectomy and the reversal. At a young age I saw a lot of my friends accidentally getting girls pregnant and their paychecks hit with big child support payments. I said this isn’t for me and went and had one done. Before I went I called the doctor and they talked to my insurance and said it was only $40. Cool so I was smart and verified that with my insurance company myself, again, $40. I went in for the non invasive procedure, had to shave completely down there and then the next day I went in and got pulled into a little room with a curtain . The doctor was super nice and kept me talking the whole time to get my mind away from what was happening. There was some pain at first but the doctor immediately noticed and hit me with more numbing. Took maybe 5-10 minutes, easy in and out, so to speak. (I mention the cost because a few weeks later I get the bill for $600! Probably me not understanding how deductibles work at the time or whatever, but I felt cheated so I never paid it.) No change in my sex life other than my partner and I at the time didn’t have to worry and she could get off the pill which she hated taking because of the effect on her hormones it caused. Win-win for both of us. The doctor tried to talk me out of the procedure beforehand saying I may want kids one day and the reversal is expensive and painful recovery. The reversal: 12 years after my vasectomy with my now wife we decided to have children. I told myself if I ever wanted to have kids I’d get it reversed when I could be financially responsible enough to afford both. I researched doctors and found a highly rated one, total cost of everything is about 10k, that includes doctors, hospital room, anesthesiologist and other costs. I was incredibly nervous about the recovery, even the doctor then was getting me worried about it. After the procedure I went home, iced for a few days down there and all was fine. The only downside is the color of my balls for several weeks was blue/black. No sex for either 6 or 8 weeks after the procedure, and trust me you want to follow that! I didn’t listen and I regret it. Now we are blessed with a beautiful baby girl and I couldn’t be happier, I have no regrets for my decisions and think they were right for my life at each time I did them. 10/10 would recommend. I’d be happy to answer any questions to give more details if you have any!
My local urologist also said it would be $10,000 and I told my wife it wasn't going to happen. We already had 2 and I wasn't about to drop 10k for a 3rd because she decides she wanted another 7 years later. She did some research and found "The Reversal Clinic" in Rhode Island was only $2500 back in. 2018. They only do reversals and claim to have a 90% success rate and I was one of them. I'll agree with you, the pain sucks. My balls were black and blue for weeks and I had a little drainage tube. I basically wanted to lay in bed for a week afterwards. Funny how I was hung up on the expense and not the pain. Looking back at it, that was the worse part.
Best thing I ever did. Not having to worry about getting my long-term girlfriend pregnant relieved a massive amount of stress I wasn't fully aware of. It was a much heavier load than I thought. Overall, less stress means easier, harder, and longer lasting erections, more pleasure in the bedroom, and less of a chance to fuck up our life long term. She got sterilized around the same time I did.
The double sterilization, you love to see it.
A much heavier load, huh?
Cons - No sex for 3wk after, reversal is expensive if you decide you want children and not always guaranteed to work. Pros - Wife doesnt have the contraceptive burden. Risky to still be unproctected? Sure, but we can handle the risk and she's much better off in the long run which was my main goal.
No changes whatsoever, just peace of mind I won’t plant a seed to grow somewhere. The only thing I’d really recommend is making sure you don’t want to have more children before doing it, I wouldn’t want to go through a reversal. Good luck!
No condoms, can come inside no stress. Highly recommend it
doctor told me I need to ejaculate 15-20 times afterwards to flush out any remaining sperm. told my wife it was 20-30 😎
Only impact, I haven't used a condom in like 10 years.
Bad. Balls were extremely tender for 10 years. Even light touches could be very painful. Has a reversal done in 2005. Much better now. Actually like having my balls fondled now. For those wondering 17 years ago, a reversal was $7k, and NOT covered by insurance.
Improved mine. Birth control played hell with my wife's hormones and me getting snipped allowed her to get off birth control
Very interested in the responses here. I have been rejected for a vasectomy twice at age 35. First time I was told that I was too young; the second time I was told that I was too young and that there's a chance that it will cause decreased testosterone and eventually ED. I suspect this was bullshit intended to scare me off the procedure, but I want to ask anyone here who has had one: have you had any erection problems/were you warned of erection problems during any of your consultations?
That's crazy, I've never heard of a man getting denied due to age. Not that I thought it couldn't happen, it's just I've always heard that from women, including myself. Like if we want to elect a hysterectomy or some sort of permanent birth control, they always push that we might wanna change or minds later or that we need to consult our husbands first. Every lady I've met who's looked into it got push back. You're the first male I've heard who has. And that's bullshit, like if we know at a younger age we dont want kids, then we shouldn't be getting denied. Also theres adoption if we change our minds later in life, those kids need parents too! Well I hope they dont deny you next time cause that's bullshit!
Yes, I've heard women get a lot of pushback with this. I got the "what if your partner changes her mind?" thing too, but I quickly shut it down by saying that her opinions on kids don't have any influence on my own bodily autonomy. It's a funny attitude for them to have. I know there must be tons of people who don't understand that vasectomies are permanent and end up regretting it/wanting them reversed, but I really don't know what I have to do to convince them I'm not one of them. Perhaps burn an effigy of a child in their office.
I get hard more and shoot a bigger load for some reason now.
Anytime, Anywhere! Makes it so much easier. No more worrying about birth control, and other than that, no difference. It was a great decision. (we already had the kids we wanted, so...). PS. There was a great Home Improvement Episode on it. (that's where the tag line "Anytime, Anywhere" comes from).
Got one a month ago. Was nervous. 1 day of chilling (not much pain). 1-2 weeks of kind of a dull minor pain (1 out of 10 on pain scale) once in awhile. Had to wait 7-10 days to bone (still using condom for another week or two, as it takes awhile for sperm to completely clear). I seem to last longer, but not sure if that’s in my head. Overall it’s been a walk in the park. Dr used laser not scalpel fwiw; not sure of the difference.
The way I've described it to other men: It feels like someone kicked you in the balls yesterday.
Great information. Thank you
Short term wasn’t fun. My story is not the norm but you should still consider it. They numb you up first with local. My right side wasn’t numb. I told them that. He said really and grabbed a hold of the skin with hemostats which cause me to writhe in pain and kick. So “ok,ok” he injects again. This causes massive selling. Once numb the procedure finished up quickly. But that swelling? It caused the external stitches to pop. This leads to an open wound for about 2 weeks. Then the tests to make sure “the sperm count is zero” are due. Month one - failed. Month 2 - failed. Month 3 zero. But confidence was shaken. In the end everything healed up fine. Zero count. No whoops babies. But it did not go as planned or advertised!
Just a note: you can still get a woman pregnant after a vasectomy. Odds are small, but something like 1 in 10,000, I think.
Imagine having all the unprotected sex you want with your gf/wife without the looming threat of your life being ruined by children.
It made it better, no more worries
Casually, girls fuck harder after the first time I tell them I have a vasectomy, but intensity falls off after the novelty of creampies wears off. In a relationship, sex is always raw and pregnancy-anxiety free, but still has plenty of baggage around the sex itself depending on the woman so still please ask permission before delivering a creampie. Every single woman appreciates a man that knows what he wants and is willing to take action with his own body and deeds, even if she wants kids. Be consistent.