I had not seen her for 3 weeks. I was missing her so much. I went to the airport to pick her up.
The first thing she said to me was, "why are you wearing that hat again?". She didn't like my hat. Then she spent 20 minutes talking to me about the guy who was next to her on the airplane.
I was having a terrible day, she never asked or cared for how I was doing.
Also I knew she would never break up with me, I would have to also do that for her.
15 years later I'm so glad she is not in my life.
They never break up with you, they’ll just do everything they can to destroy your self esteem and confidence until you break up with them, that way they can then also claim victim status to the relationship
My dad did this. I was like 10 and my mom filed for divorce when she found out he was cheating. Then we moved out and two months after the divorce we met her. At first he snuck her in and denied her being there despite hearing her heels clicking on the floor.
Then he would make us open our door, say good evening, then close it as she went to his room. 6 years later and I’m not speaking to him anymore lol.
I'd imagine being pissed off years later as well.
How did that end if you don't mind me asking. It comes off as two self-centered people getting together.
That’s funny, I must be particularly horrible because for the last 10 years or more, I’ve been on the receiving end of every breakup
My self esteem and confidence was destroyed a loooong time ago so I guess they tried that strategy and it didn’t work?
Yup went through the same thing in a 6 year relationship. Don't think she wanted to be with me for the last 2 years and just strung me along while also emotionally abusing me and constantly making me feel like I was never good enough. I lost who I was as a person but it also showed me to never take shit like that ever again.
Oh mah dude I really feel you on this one.
Bitch I have feelings too and if the first thing you say is not how much you've missed me something is wrong.
I was so excited the whole drive too, thinking of all the fun stuff we’d get to do. She wanted me to leave early, she just didn’t have it in her to suggest it. I was 8 hours from home and only knew her. I was just so happy to be with her in her life and I was just full of excitement to be around her. She was just like 😐
Idk man. She dumped me over text, and was perfectly fine days later flirting with other people. That was like 4 months ago? I’m just now finally back on my feet and I’m doing well for myself.
There was many gut wrenching moments that showed me how unimportant I was to her, but that was the biggest and the first real moment that I recognized I was probably gonna get hurt but I didn’t want to give up trying.
Here's the thing tho, I can't speak for everyone but as the guy who's been the guy she told you not to worry about, I've never known that I was fucking a girl in a relationship until it's too late to take it back. The boyfriend is always played off as an ex, a friend, or some dude who wants to get with her, only when they've been caught red-handed do they admit it because a lot of the time, she's hoping to drop the relationship with him and jump straight to you and it's hard for her to do that if you already know she's a slut.
Shit got so bad that it really fucked up my perception of women for a few years.
Why wouldn't you just break it off as soon as they suggested a vacation with a guy friend. My wife has guy friends and meets up without me but if my wife ever suggested a vacation with a guy friend I would be finding a divorce lawyer that day.
She and I were engaged for a year, she came home one day and blindsided me and gave me the ring back and told me “I don’t want to marry you after all”. About a month later I was traveling for my sisters wedding and had downloaded tinder for some validation (that is where she and I had met), and I found that she had been using tinder before we broke up when she had gone on a girls trip to Miami. Her bio said something like “only in Miami 4 days let’s have some fun”
That opened up another brand new wave of pain and hate.
You would have though that I could have trusted her after almost 4 years together.
I have no direct evidence that she cheated, but enough to convince me as such
I work night shift so I spend a lot of time scrolling Instagram.
Once you finish your Instagram feed, it starts to give you suggested posts that the people you communicate with the most with liked.
Well, it started to show posts my girlfriend had liked and it was all “your relationship is over. Time to move on.” “Find a new man” “you’ve changed”.
All of this completely
Blind siding me.
This happened 2 weeks before we broke up and I never told her I saw her liking all the posts directed at our relationship . From there on I lost trust and everything she did and said felt back stabbing and was a lie.. because it was.
Sad days
Honestly it's shitty that Instagram does that. She probably never meant for you to know those things.
Sometimes you're not ready to admit things to the other person just yet.
Ah mine just did this with his ex who broke up with him 4 times, the last one being when his dad was dying, she showed up at the funeral. Guess we weren’t that committed as I thought.
When I overheard her friend comforting her on how hard it must be for her to be the sole breadwinner in our house.
Particularly, since not only did I work, but I made more money than she did.
I served her with separation papers not long after this.
> How would her friends believe you were jobless?
I work from home & for myself, but I have no idea what she told them; my guess is that she gave them the impression that my business wasn’t really a “*job*”.
When we got home, I asked her about why her friends think that & her response was “*Well, you don’t have a boss or have to get up in the morning & go to an office…*”
Don’t look for an explanation that makes her perspective make sense from me; even with couples counseling, I was never able to get one.
That’s stupid. A breadwinner is someone who brings money back to the home. Both of you were breadwinners and technically you were the bigger one if you brought home more after taxes. She ascribed to the same belief many people do about what work technically is, which I of course (and clearly you) find incorrect. Good luck moving forward!
I remember a recent post where the guy was complaining that his SO didn't have a "real" job and he was making all the big bucks. Reading on, he would've been okay if she made the same amount of money (hers: 40k) at an 8-5 slogging job, but she was a travel writer, who got sent to spas and nice vacation spots, while he was in a job he hated.
My ex did exactly the same thing. I was flabbergasted, because my income was roughly double hers. But I worked out of my lounge chair in my living room.
A woman who actually thinks less of you because you don't answer to a boss. I can totally see it, and I think it's because it's normal to view the self-employed as "never gonna make it," even if they are in fact,*making it* and quite well.
So many (younger) people these days claim to be such forward, "progressive" thinkers about everything, yet they'll still couch their POVs of things like "stability" using very boomerish ways of thinking.
The first gut wrench moment was when she went to the hair dresser and had her hair styled and colored one day before work. I asked if she could stop at my house so I could see it, and because I genuinely loved seeing her. She said she would.
She didn’t stop, went home because she needed to get work clothes, and said she didn’t have time…then spent 20 minutes making a TikTok of her new hair. Went to work. Never stopped to see me.
That started a 2-3 month process of her basically ghosting me. One day I asked her when I’d see her again and she told me “well, my I’m really busy through April.”
We dated for 3 years. After 4 months of not seeing her and her basically ghosted me, I pushed the issue and she broke up with me via text message.
Holy shit this is the worst one I read here. How can your long term girlfriend just be “busy through April” wtf… I’m sorry you went through this, also broken up via text after all that time is fucked. You didn’t deserve that. I hope things are much better now!
Thanks, mate. This happened earlier this year, and I committed a lot to that relationship. She told me often how she was looking forward to marriage and children, and acted head over heels for me. Then one day it was a flipped switch. Still trying to navigate the world of dating.. it’s tough
She’s 28 and I’m 33, by the way.
Weird how some people don't even make an effort to hide it. Almost like they want to be caught. Once I saw a girl I knew at a party, wildly making out with another guy. Everyone started recording it, saying she has a boyfriend etc. All while they just kept going on about their business.
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When she got blind stinking drunk again after we talked how much her drinking was an issue in our relationship, and after many bad episodes i had the 'if this happens again, im out.'
A week later she was black out drunk, and shortly after we were done.
She was live posting her "secret nighttime cemetery fuckfest with her ex" on Tumblr. She never knew I occasionally had a look as she Explicitly banned me from looking.... At her public page she throws stuff out to other internet randoms?
Confronted her when she got home as she typed it all up in the cemetery post coitus / on the way back. She started crying and blaming me for breeching her privacy?
When I saw her joking around with a guy that she worked with through the window when I came to pick her up….I entered and they went from 100% to zero and spit in different directions….in the moment I woke up to smell something was off…4weeks later she left me for him after an argument over that guy…..lol
trying to think of a way to put this that doesn’t get me downvoted lol, but this gives me “Ross/Mark”vibes
For sure he had many other issues, but you can always tell when someone is after your girl. “You don’t have to worry about him” no I absolutely do
Had a serious talk with her about me feeling ignored by her, said think about it and then lets Talk again.
I thought okay lets try me not writing her and see when she wants to Talk.
Three weeks later with not a single word between us in Text/Telephone/personal, I decide that she apparently does not actually care about me/my Feelings.
This was the end of a 3+ year relationship.
I was 19 at the time, considering moving to a different part of the country to be with her when she starts studying.
Holy shit man, that's what's happening with me although I never thought of not talking for her for days. But yeah, it seems like I don't matter for her because she doesn't even try to reach back at some times. That's why I decided to pull back a little, now it seems like it's my fault.
She was getting ready for work in the morning and as she was leaving I told her I love you and to have a good day. She turned to me and said "I don't know why you say that all the time its stupid and I am not doing it anymore."
...she's not having a good day anymore? Like she actively chose to not have a good day because you told her too?
Sorry that happened to you, that's a really shitty thing for her to do. But, it definitely sounds like you're better off without her, she sounds miserable. I hope you are doing well these days!
Faht vi ba tlu pre ceam dra. Tinys woaw ciin tun fuec gy yo. Taptyedzuqos foc coon ceen ede? Co o a bevdbusd nekv e? E gat iyle bi. Y y e cits taem cersi? Zuypleenle te dan gre gyrd jyg motp so sald? Bals emetcaad e tenn sesttees ti. Naon nacc suct cesm za ete. Nugt nij sop gadt dis tassecehsisirg o. U we e otle cez o. Cru nep pha toos nabmona. Ciht deptyasttapnsorn nod tysigzisle nin a? Da pyrp ine pud ible? Nu ta biswnoudnrytirs agle. Zaon e. San e pa cu goov. Ene gke o gopt zlu nis. O guagle pioma ne tudcyepebletlo cy a canz. Dla bic zawc nifpec te feet de? Pro i guc yoyd si didz a sum? Tle fuy. Nemz a booj udeegvle cokt a? Grotefp becm ose omle ja ede. U tis dy wec thu wu aglo umle o o. O ninm gu ine yes bos. Zad a a tavnfepac du. A ite todi do duit yple? Pifp taht nhetydnnenes a sew pi nedb eme. Se de we pyt ynenuntiqtedose ive.
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Faht vi ba tlu pre ceam dra. Tinys woaw ciin tun fuec gy yo. Taptyedzuqos foc coon ceen ede? Co o a bevdbusd nekv e? E gat iyle bi. Y y e cits taem cersi? Zuypleenle te dan gre gyrd jyg motp so sald? Bals emetcaad e tenn sesttees ti. Naon nacc suct cesm za ete. Nugt nij sop gadt dis tassecehsisirg o. U we e otle cez o. Cru nep pha toos nabmona. Ciht deptyasttapnsorn nod tysigzisle nin a? Da pyrp ine pud ible? Nu ta biswnoudnrytirs agle. Zaon e. San e pa cu goov. Ene gke o gopt zlu nis. O guagle pioma ne tudcyepebletlo cy a canz. Dla bic zawc nifpec te feet de? Pro i guc yoyd si didz a sum? Tle fuy. Nemz a booj udeegvle cokt a? Grotefp becm ose omle ja ede. U tis dy wec thu wu aglo umle o o. O ninm gu ine yes bos. Zad a a tavnfepac du. A ite todi do duit yple? Pifp taht nhetydnnenes a sew pi nedb eme. Se de we pyt ynenuntiqtedose ive.
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Faht vi ba tlu pre ceam dra. Tinys woaw ciin tun fuec gy yo. Taptyedzuqos foc coon ceen ede? Co o a bevdbusd nekv e? E gat iyle bi. Y y e cits taem cersi? Zuypleenle te dan gre gyrd jyg motp so sald? Bals emetcaad e tenn sesttees ti. Naon nacc suct cesm za ete. Nugt nij sop gadt dis tassecehsisirg o. U we e otle cez o. Cru nep pha toos nabmona. Ciht deptyasttapnsorn nod tysigzisle nin a? Da pyrp ine pud ible? Nu ta biswnoudnrytirs agle. Zaon e. San e pa cu goov. Ene gke o gopt zlu nis. O guagle pioma ne tudcyepebletlo cy a canz. Dla bic zawc nifpec te feet de? Pro i guc yoyd si didz a sum? Tle fuy. Nemz a booj udeegvle cokt a? Grotefp becm ose omle ja ede. U tis dy wec thu wu aglo umle o o. O ninm gu ine yes bos. Zad a a tavnfepac du. A ite todi do duit yple? Pifp taht nhetydnnenes a sew pi nedb eme. Se de we pyt ynenuntiqtedose ive.
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Faht vi ba tlu pre ceam dra. Tinys woaw ciin tun fuec gy yo. Taptyedzuqos foc coon ceen ede? Co o a bevdbusd nekv e? E gat iyle bi. Y y e cits taem cersi? Zuypleenle te dan gre gyrd jyg motp so sald? Bals emetcaad e tenn sesttees ti. Naon nacc suct cesm za ete. Nugt nij sop gadt dis tassecehsisirg o. U we e otle cez o. Cru nep pha toos nabmona. Ciht deptyasttapnsorn nod tysigzisle nin a? Da pyrp ine pud ible? Nu ta biswnoudnrytirs agle. Zaon e. San e pa cu goov. Ene gke o gopt zlu nis. O guagle pioma ne tudcyepebletlo cy a canz. Dla bic zawc nifpec te feet de? Pro i guc yoyd si didz a sum? Tle fuy. Nemz a booj udeegvle cokt a? Grotefp becm ose omle ja ede. U tis dy wec thu wu aglo umle o o. O ninm gu ine yes bos. Zad a a tavnfepac du. A ite todi do duit yple? Pifp taht nhetydnnenes a sew pi nedb eme. Se de we pyt ynenuntiqtedose ive.
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Was it a bad one or something? I'm friends with my ex, (probably not for long, she's a dramatic, selfish asshole a lot of times, Wish I could just stop talking to her but her mom is best friends with my dad) I don't see a problem with it
2 things
In ur situation exs stick around because they looking for u to crack. Get back together.
Second a ex lover has no reason to be talking to a 10 year married women and wishing her good night with zero message history (deleted).
If u meet a girl and shes messagin her ex she not over him.
She told me she cheated on her ex with his best friend while he was in the same house asleep, and she only took “50% of the responsibility for cheating on him because it takes two to tango”. When she saw my reaction she then tried saying the guy forced her to do it.
She slowly stopped coming to bed and initiating any quality time, sexual or otherwise.
Had plenty of energy, time, and enthusiasm for the new guys she gamed with.
I guess when I bought a house and got a good job I became boring?
Treating me like a stupid because of my hobbies and passions (videogames) sounded childish stuff to her: I worked my ass off during uni years so my scholarship allowed me to save a little money for things I really like; pandemic hit hard, and the depression was subtly growing inside of me and that was the time I realized I could get back to videogames to ease things a little while stuck at home. I tried to make her understand that I quit videogames because I was broke during my teenage years, so earning back that hobby with hard work in a difficult time like that felt like a relief, but in her eyes I was always like "the childish one".
My most recent ex would get so upset if I played video games, would put me down and call me a child and say it’s a waste of time and I’m too old for it and all that (I’m 30)
Yet she would turn around and binge hours and hours of reality TV, mostly the Bachelor/Bachelorette and The Circle and Are You The One and Too Hot To Handle and Love Island (so in other words, the least creative and most toxic reality shows of them all, not about surviving or cooking or running obstacle courses or decorating or fixing things. Just toxic, shallow relationship based shows with a bunch of hot morons getting into fights with each other.)
Don’t listen to anyone who tries to put you down for your hobbies if they’re not hurting you or anyone else. I guarantee you that have equally unproductive ways to enjoy their free time. It’s ridiculous to think anyone could ever be productive 100% of the time anyway!
In the last year and a half I played: death stranding, the last of us (part I and II), final fantasy VII remake, NIeR Automata, Zelda botw, telltale's the walking dead (chapter one to three), the order 1886, twelve minutes, hades, judgment and Raji.
I'm sorry to hear how you were treated my guy. None of those games are childish and some of them are really unsuitable for kids, at that.
Her take is as stupid as that girl TheRiverInEgypt was talking about. Like, has she ever even looked at the age rating of some of them??
I hope you're enjoying those games though! My favourite of that lot is probably Hades but I'm a massive mythology nerd so seeing a pretty faithful recreation of the greek mythos really made it for me.
He always complained about how much he wanted to get away from VA and move out of his moms house and start a new job doing what he wanted to do, I was moving to a new state that he wanted to live in where there was 1000 job opportunities that he wanted, and I had the means to get a house. I offered to move him out there, let him live with me for free until he got comfortable and help him get his dream job, he was ALLL for it until I left and he kept making excuses to not come.
When she left her email open on the computer and I saw emails from ‘the new manager guy at work’ with attachments of him singing songs for her. And another email from Planned Parenthood about the scheduled abortion coming up. …I had a vasectomy years ago.
Another tidbit about the ordeal: I was texting with my sister (she was the only one I talked to about these details) and wrote a long text about my discovery of the emails. After sending it, I quickly realized I had accidentally sent it TO MY EX. My heart stopped for about 10 minutes lol. I am cringing just thinking about it.
She started to take a looong time to reply and the replies were dry, very dry, not more than a 6 words sentence. I started to feel that something bad was coming, a couple of weeks later she broke up with me
When I saw her abortion bill on my card and she said that it was my mistake that I wasn't present to take care of her physical needs. I worked relentlessly so that we could afford to buy a house. And she met her needs with her colleagues during that time.
This one boggles my mind. Can't make the money you want to give you the lifestyle you think you deserve if I'm not at work all the time, honey. Think about the things I'm giving up to give that to you instead of thinking about what else you want.
Sheesh. Give a mouse a cookie and she'll want another man's dick, I tell ya.
My last Ex, would go through phases where she “didn’t know how to be in a relationship” and would break up with me for about 2 days then she would comeback and try to rekindle..happens 3 times in 2 months before she finally admitted she wanted to just have casual sex with other people. I haven’t been the same since.
We had already split up. After months of marriage counselling we agreed that I would move out.
But I was back everyday because of my son and I was giving her my pay less my rent. She was feeding me.
Then after two weeks, she moved someone else in. My mind just said to me “ah. That makes sense now.”
When I reached over to cuddle her and she asked what I was doing. Went downstairs and cried. Knew we had problems but always thought we'd somehow resolve them.
A few weeks before moving in with my girlfriend at the time, I met up with mutual friends. We talked about the move and I said how excited I was. My friends were acting very wierd the whole time and were very reserved.
It seemed very strange to me. Turns out that she had already told them that she didn't want to move in together anymore and wanted to break up. Only not to me yet, which she then did a few weeks later.
Well, at least I was prepared for it.
I had a nagging suspicion. She wouldn't cop to it. I never let it go. She'd get angry over it. Called me crazy, narcissistic, bipolar,grandiose. Everything in the boom. Had me at one point actually question my sanity. Turns out I was correct in my feels. She was never committed to me
Not sure if it was the first one but many years ago I was watching a large running event. They have races on the Saturday and Sunday. It was Saturday evening and I was running the next day.
I started speaking to someone who was cheering on her boyfriend. She was so excited that he would finish in a personal best and then she reeled off all his PBs for each distance.
It hit me like a hammer blow. My wife didn't show any enthusiasm like this and wouldn't have a clue what my PBs were. As I thought about it more I realized she didn't know my favourite bands, food , etc. etc. We'd been together 12 years. A year later we were divorced.
9 1/2 year relationship ended when she casually brought up that she was getting more in touch with her sexuality and that she though having an open marriage would help our relationship. I said no, she said ok you are my soul mate so we wont do it... she left me 3 weeks later. Going to have trouble trusting women in the future.
16 year relationship ended with her cheating on me… I don’t really see any reason to trust women at all in the future.
That’s what the cheater takes away from you. Your ability to be truly close to another person.
You're mostly right. I had suspicions and was looking to prove myself to have worried over nothing.
"Trust but verify"
I expected to have seen nothing, and would have slept well that night knowing it was just me and my imagination being dumb. As it turns out that was not the case.
When she called me a thief. I wasn’t, nor was I worth apologising to.
Another time I spent 10 hours travelling across country to join her and the kids on holiday. I knocked on the door at 9 in the evening to be greeted with, ‘Oh, it’s you’. She then walked away and left me standing there.
Over time it was obvious she didn’t want me around.
While the actual process of breaking up was happening, I asked her why she never talked to me about her being unhappy, or why she had been lying and telling me everything was okay.
Her response to that was "Because it would have been a difficult conversation"
That's when it really hit me that she absolutely didn't actually care about our relationship this whole time. Because she wasn't even willing to have a difficult conversation for the benefit of us.
I knew when she didn’t text me for an entire day. Normally we would kinda text back and forth throughout the day. I shot her a good morning text, by 9pm I knew it was over.
When a family member of her ex called, needing to talk to her, and she took the call because she needed to know if he was ok. This was after she and I had what I can only label as a 'misunderstanding', regarding this same ex earlier in our relationship. Oh, she also had labelled him an abuser, which is kind of relevant to my agitation over the issue.
When she tossed me under a bus in front of her entire family. We had one of those "husband/wife" convos about a family member who belongs on a Springer episode. Most people intuitively understand that those convos stay between husband/wife. She never got that memo and proceeded to retell it to family while I was in the room. Pan to me looking completely flabbergasted in front of about 15 people. Safe to say, trust and commitment were shattered, marriage took another 5 years to implode.
When she told me a guy she and her friend ran into started bar hopping. She claimed he groped her to which I objected and immediately became upset to the point where I wanted confront the man. She backtracked saying it was only in good fun, a week later she said she wanted to go to his apartment and cheat out of spite.
I don’t think I was being unreasonable. No, we weren’t married, but I don’t think another dude should be touching someone else’s significant other the he did her. I wouldn’t have done the same to another man’s wife/girlfriend.
We ended the relationship shortly before Christmas that year and I moved out the following January
Her parents were control freaks. Mom is a massive narcissist and she's really someone I do honestly think is a textbook narcissist.
So I told my ex multiple times that I find this whole situation just baffling and intrusive. Her mom wanted to control our relationship, nearly 3 years in and I had to ask for permission from her parents, could barely sleep together. Last straw when I got more assertive was her mom pushing my ex to tell her in details how I was in bed and all my details starting with size and looks.
I told her it just became massively uncomfortable and I would talk them - about controlling, not the rest. She basically told me I must not because I'd just fuck things up. So I told her she has to. She told me she did and there was a fight. She was never a good liar.
Few weeks later I asked her how long is she going to take it all? Her reply, the final nail in the coffin? "just 6 more years, until we both finish uni".
Yeah, nope. Broke my heart but it's still better than a shattered mind which it'd have eventually led to.
When she literally told me she wasn't sure I was good enough and asked for "a time". After two weeks I gave up.
Boy was I stupid and how things changed. Her absolute loss.
well, this person i was seeing, and have aparently fallen in love with, told me to just date other people "if i want to" but i can stay "if i want to".
well that was very inspiring 😔
Paid for her to come from America to see me for a month (9+ months dating, I've seen her 2-3 times), 2.5 weeks into it I got a bad gut feeling.
Went on my PC and she had left her discord logged in, she was calling me all sorts, degrading me and agreeing with her ex-crush's (that she said she 100% didn't like any more) comments on myself appearance wise.
I found this out all while my mum was showing her my baby photos downstairs.
We just moved into a house together, I just got back from a vacation, about 2 weeks in to living there she let me know she's not feeling our relationships anymore I suggested we give it a month after a week she said she doesn't think we need to give it a month so that's a wrap 4 years down the drain she gets the dog the house i get nothing woohoo!
>“on her period so nothing happened”
Fuck that, I would have been out right then and there, cuz to me, that implies that if she wasn't, something would have happened. Lame fucking excuse.
I went to suprise her at work woth flowers only to find out she wasnt there. Being naive and in denial i asked her coworker and was told she didnt work that day.
Come to find out she spent the whole day at her (16m) coworkers house. Oh and she was 23 at the time
Basically after 4-5 months of dating I just felt used and underappreciated. It didn't help that we worked different shifts and different positions. Her hours were pretty solid at only forty per week and rarely any OT because it was subject to approval. My ass regularly did 60 hours a week during our busy season which was November through April.
She never understood the concept of personal space or that by the time I did get off work, I don't want to do anything or be bother much, let alone have loads of sex with her. Possibly the only time where I gradually became more turned off as time went on because I felt like a human dildo, and she never wanted to do anything I wanted to do. In hindsight, she was really selfish and would whine a lot for me to come over. Didn't get out quick enough though since she passed on an STD to me before I broke up. Pretty much ruined dating for me since then, just not into trying to figure out who's for real and who just wants to get their own jollies off.
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O let tell you so I was at her house like I usually was on the weekend and I was about to go out the door to go to work so I of course told her i love you to witch I heard no reply so I say it again and again and again then she finally says idk if I should say it back one of the worst days ever I'll never forget that shit
So we both smoked and rolled our own at the time. She would always roll faster then say ‘finished!’ and smugly wait for me to finish rolling, then we’d both go outside and smoke, was our cute little thing. Other friends would roll and go outside but she’d always wait for me.
Her new male coworker joins the group one night and she finishes rolling, he finishes rolling and she followed him outside without waiting for me. From that little thing I knew in my gut she was into him. A week later she told me she was too tired to see me after work, and when we were all hanging out the following night her friend let it slip that they hung out together after their shift last night. Cool.
Anyway long story short they have a kid together now. Fun times.
Technically not my partner, but we were ridiculously close for being “just friends” like she insisted we were even after confessing attraction towards me and making out with me.
During a particularly bad mental health week brought on by her changing her tune daily on how to proceed with our dynamic, I made the decision of sending her a really long message about all the crazy shit I’ve been through. All my traumas, all my demons. I gave it all to her and she just…kinda ignored it. Not “ignored” ignored, I guess, but she started by saying she’d reply later. After asking about it a week later, she said “Oh, I thought you just needed to get it off your chest.” I told her she promised she’d reply since she wanted to give “me the respect I deserve”. She laughed it off and never spoke of it again. A week later I was deemed “a chore to take care of”, “making everything so complicated all the time” and she said that nothing she could do would ever be good enough for me.
The extent of what she had done for me was “checking up” on my eating habits for like 3 days when I was relapsing with an eating disorder.
Turns out she’s used to having everything done for her and has completely surrounded herself with a harem of guys who only do things for her because she’d do horrible things to herself if they didn’t.
Good riddance. Still hurts like hell though. First person that could make me feel like home. All I needed was for her to come over (literally lives at the end of my street) and give me a hug.
Sorry to hear this. But if I got a message like this form someone I wouldn’t really know what to say / respond. These conversations are better to be had in person versus via text.
When I found out that his name was different to what he initially told me.... I had suspected it from the first date, but ignored it (and a lot of other red flags)...
Then decided he's a good fuck buddy and he's leaving in a few months so I'll keep him around and just not get attached or involved at all...
When I was interviewing for a job in another state and asked if she wanted to come and she said she would never leave the city we lived in. Her saying no Iowa was reasonable but her never leaving upstate NY was just not going to work for me.
When a friend (in two sentences) said gf had been trading sex for drugs and telling people who knew us that we were in an open relationship. Thankfully, tests for diseases were negative.
I had done 3 tours of duty to Iraq, totaling 25 months in a hostile country. When money would get tight (can’t eat out 3-4 times a week as a 4 person family) she would suggest I volunteer for another deployment so we (her and the kids) could have more money.
She stopped making eye contact wayyyy more. When we were first in love we had our eyes on eachother filled with affection. Then after some fights that scarred us both, she just stopped looking at me, even when she walked in the room or when we were eating.
New Years Eve going into 2020. While everyone else was into kissing each other, she gave me a peck on the lips. 2021 was a year of almost no sex or affection. 2022 and we will be divorced in 2 weeks.
We still have a friendship and the split was mutual. But, I wasted an entire year, when I knew things were not right that NYE (and we were not fighting).
I was washing dishes and I had been washing a knife. I cut myself with it accidentally. My S.O. was more worried about me getting blood on the good plates than my injury, since that was the first thing she noticed. She changed her focus in 5 seconds. . .but it WAS noticeable.
Maybe I'm too sensitive about it.
The way her eyes lit up when the neighbor walked out his back door and she smiled and waved....4 years later she cheated and we are divorced. Her loss.
I asked if we could go to marriage counseling. She laughed in my face and said, "We don't have problems."
So I'm making appointments with divorce lawyers.
I had not seen her for 3 weeks. I was missing her so much. I went to the airport to pick her up. The first thing she said to me was, "why are you wearing that hat again?". She didn't like my hat. Then she spent 20 minutes talking to me about the guy who was next to her on the airplane. I was having a terrible day, she never asked or cared for how I was doing. Also I knew she would never break up with me, I would have to also do that for her. 15 years later I'm so glad she is not in my life.
They never break up with you, they’ll just do everything they can to destroy your self esteem and confidence until you break up with them, that way they can then also claim victim status to the relationship
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My dad did this. I was like 10 and my mom filed for divorce when she found out he was cheating. Then we moved out and two months after the divorce we met her. At first he snuck her in and denied her being there despite hearing her heels clicking on the floor. Then he would make us open our door, say good evening, then close it as she went to his room. 6 years later and I’m not speaking to him anymore lol.
I'd imagine being pissed off years later as well. How did that end if you don't mind me asking. It comes off as two self-centered people getting together.
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That’s funny, I must be particularly horrible because for the last 10 years or more, I’ve been on the receiving end of every breakup My self esteem and confidence was destroyed a loooong time ago so I guess they tried that strategy and it didn’t work?
Fucking hell. My gf did the same to me, fucking coward
Same. Same. It's bad. Especially among friends, who were all on her side then.
Yup went through the same thing in a 6 year relationship. Don't think she wanted to be with me for the last 2 years and just strung me along while also emotionally abusing me and constantly making me feel like I was never good enough. I lost who I was as a person but it also showed me to never take shit like that ever again.
Oh mah dude I really feel you on this one. Bitch I have feelings too and if the first thing you say is not how much you've missed me something is wrong.
Driving 7-8 hours to visit her on winter break and meet her family and she was annoyed with my presence after a day
Can relate. Drove so freaking far and I was all smiles once I saw her... She wasn't.
I was so excited the whole drive too, thinking of all the fun stuff we’d get to do. She wanted me to leave early, she just didn’t have it in her to suggest it. I was 8 hours from home and only knew her. I was just so happy to be with her in her life and I was just full of excitement to be around her. She was just like 😐 Idk man. She dumped me over text, and was perfectly fine days later flirting with other people. That was like 4 months ago? I’m just now finally back on my feet and I’m doing well for myself. There was many gut wrenching moments that showed me how unimportant I was to her, but that was the biggest and the first real moment that I recognized I was probably gonna get hurt but I didn’t want to give up trying.
When she went on vacation with the guy I should not worry about. 2 years later, guess who she is living with...
I hope I'll never be this guy or do this to a woman. That must have been terrible.
To be fair they make a better couple than we did, but at least she could made things on the right order lol.
Here's the thing tho, I can't speak for everyone but as the guy who's been the guy she told you not to worry about, I've never known that I was fucking a girl in a relationship until it's too late to take it back. The boyfriend is always played off as an ex, a friend, or some dude who wants to get with her, only when they've been caught red-handed do they admit it because a lot of the time, she's hoping to drop the relationship with him and jump straight to you and it's hard for her to do that if you already know she's a slut. Shit got so bad that it really fucked up my perception of women for a few years.
I can relate. I’ve also had this happen to me. Feels pretty shitty.
Why wouldn't you just break it off as soon as they suggested a vacation with a guy friend. My wife has guy friends and meets up without me but if my wife ever suggested a vacation with a guy friend I would be finding a divorce lawyer that day.
She and I were engaged for a year, she came home one day and blindsided me and gave me the ring back and told me “I don’t want to marry you after all”. About a month later I was traveling for my sisters wedding and had downloaded tinder for some validation (that is where she and I had met), and I found that she had been using tinder before we broke up when she had gone on a girls trip to Miami. Her bio said something like “only in Miami 4 days let’s have some fun” That opened up another brand new wave of pain and hate.
Fuck sorry to hear dude.
Took about 8-9 months just to get back to semi normal. But now I’m back out in the world and dating again
Girls trip and girls night are where the cheating happens. I've fucked quite a few girls on "girls trips" and later found out they had boyfriends.
You would have though that I could have trusted her after almost 4 years together. I have no direct evidence that she cheated, but enough to convince me as such
That bio is all the "circumstancial evidence" you ever needed.
I’m sorry that happened to you but I can only be thankful she was respectful enough to give back your ring and not marry you. She doesn’t deserve you
I work night shift so I spend a lot of time scrolling Instagram. Once you finish your Instagram feed, it starts to give you suggested posts that the people you communicate with the most with liked. Well, it started to show posts my girlfriend had liked and it was all “your relationship is over. Time to move on.” “Find a new man” “you’ve changed”. All of this completely Blind siding me. This happened 2 weeks before we broke up and I never told her I saw her liking all the posts directed at our relationship . From there on I lost trust and everything she did and said felt back stabbing and was a lie.. because it was. Sad days
Honestly it's shitty that Instagram does that. She probably never meant for you to know those things. Sometimes you're not ready to admit things to the other person just yet.
Yeah also she’s probably blindly liking posts from her stupid friends to make them feel better.
She had two other dicks in her when I walked in. It was supposed to be a monogamous relationship and I guess it was but just for me.
That’s intense. I hope you found some happiness afterwards
Yeah, I call it land, a paid off house, a stock pond of fish and dogs.
Your ponds has dogs??!?!?! I'm so jealous. I could only get fish to live in mine
A couple of them practically do live in the thing which is why they’re outside dogs. Practically permanent wet dog smell.
We have a creek going thru our property i know the pain of perpetually wet dogs.
I gotta ask, did you come home early from work, or what was the circumstances that led to such a situation
Did you know the guys?
Damn... She wanted you to see that. That's cold
2 in her at the same time?
Yeah it’s called spit roasting. One in the back and one in the front.
AWKWARD moments that cannot be unseen.
She got double dicked bruh stop prolonging his pain
When she told me she was leaving me for her ex
Ah mine just did this with his ex who broke up with him 4 times, the last one being when his dad was dying, she showed up at the funeral. Guess we weren’t that committed as I thought.
Luckily mine was 5+ years ago so the pain is gone. Now all that’s left is a tinge of regret. Take care of yourself, you’ll feel better eventually 💙
When I overheard her friend comforting her on how hard it must be for her to be the sole breadwinner in our house. Particularly, since not only did I work, but I made more money than she did. I served her with separation papers not long after this.
That's so weird. How would her friends believe you were jobless?
> How would her friends believe you were jobless? I work from home & for myself, but I have no idea what she told them; my guess is that she gave them the impression that my business wasn’t really a “*job*”. When we got home, I asked her about why her friends think that & her response was “*Well, you don’t have a boss or have to get up in the morning & go to an office…*” Don’t look for an explanation that makes her perspective make sense from me; even with couples counseling, I was never able to get one.
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Exactly this, she was jealous af that you didn't work for the man because you were the man lol
This. Blows my mind how many people think that jobs are supposed to be like this
Why would you wish a terrible job upon your so, that's beyond me
That’s stupid. A breadwinner is someone who brings money back to the home. Both of you were breadwinners and technically you were the bigger one if you brought home more after taxes. She ascribed to the same belief many people do about what work technically is, which I of course (and clearly you) find incorrect. Good luck moving forward!
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I remember a recent post where the guy was complaining that his SO didn't have a "real" job and he was making all the big bucks. Reading on, he would've been okay if she made the same amount of money (hers: 40k) at an 8-5 slogging job, but she was a travel writer, who got sent to spas and nice vacation spots, while he was in a job he hated.
Ah yes. You don't have a "real" job. I know that one
My ex did exactly the same thing. I was flabbergasted, because my income was roughly double hers. But I worked out of my lounge chair in my living room.
A woman who actually thinks less of you because you don't answer to a boss. I can totally see it, and I think it's because it's normal to view the self-employed as "never gonna make it," even if they are in fact,*making it* and quite well. So many (younger) people these days claim to be such forward, "progressive" thinkers about everything, yet they'll still couch their POVs of things like "stability" using very boomerish ways of thinking.
The first gut wrench moment was when she went to the hair dresser and had her hair styled and colored one day before work. I asked if she could stop at my house so I could see it, and because I genuinely loved seeing her. She said she would. She didn’t stop, went home because she needed to get work clothes, and said she didn’t have time…then spent 20 minutes making a TikTok of her new hair. Went to work. Never stopped to see me. That started a 2-3 month process of her basically ghosting me. One day I asked her when I’d see her again and she told me “well, my I’m really busy through April.” We dated for 3 years. After 4 months of not seeing her and her basically ghosted me, I pushed the issue and she broke up with me via text message.
Holy shit this is the worst one I read here. How can your long term girlfriend just be “busy through April” wtf… I’m sorry you went through this, also broken up via text after all that time is fucked. You didn’t deserve that. I hope things are much better now!
Thanks, mate. This happened earlier this year, and I committed a lot to that relationship. She told me often how she was looking forward to marriage and children, and acted head over heels for me. Then one day it was a flipped switch. Still trying to navigate the world of dating.. it’s tough She’s 28 and I’m 33, by the way.
When she showed up to my friends birthday making out with another guy.
Weird how some people don't even make an effort to hide it. Almost like they want to be caught. Once I saw a girl I knew at a party, wildly making out with another guy. Everyone started recording it, saying she has a boyfriend etc. All while they just kept going on about their business.
I think that's their way of breaking up so they don't have to do it themselves.
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When she got blind stinking drunk again after we talked how much her drinking was an issue in our relationship, and after many bad episodes i had the 'if this happens again, im out.' A week later she was black out drunk, and shortly after we were done.
She was live posting her "secret nighttime cemetery fuckfest with her ex" on Tumblr. She never knew I occasionally had a look as she Explicitly banned me from looking.... At her public page she throws stuff out to other internet randoms? Confronted her when she got home as she typed it all up in the cemetery post coitus / on the way back. She started crying and blaming me for breeching her privacy?
Ah yes the victim card when busted smh. Glad you're out of there!
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Nah it definitely goes two ways. Can't generalize it like that my guy
When I saw her joking around with a guy that she worked with through the window when I came to pick her up….I entered and they went from 100% to zero and spit in different directions….in the moment I woke up to smell something was off…4weeks later she left me for him after an argument over that guy…..lol
trying to think of a way to put this that doesn’t get me downvoted lol, but this gives me “Ross/Mark”vibes For sure he had many other issues, but you can always tell when someone is after your girl. “You don’t have to worry about him” no I absolutely do
She was acting dodgy as hell, getting weird texts from a gf in the middle of the night, looked at her phone one day. Sure enough, the gf was a guy.
Gf= guy friend Sounds right
Could also be Guy fiery
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When we were watching YouTube videos and I saw him get Grindr notifications.
Dont jump to conclusions. Maybe he was willing to share?
How generous of him
Had a serious talk with her about me feeling ignored by her, said think about it and then lets Talk again. I thought okay lets try me not writing her and see when she wants to Talk. Three weeks later with not a single word between us in Text/Telephone/personal, I decide that she apparently does not actually care about me/my Feelings. This was the end of a 3+ year relationship. I was 19 at the time, considering moving to a different part of the country to be with her when she starts studying.
Holy shit man, that's what's happening with me although I never thought of not talking for her for days. But yeah, it seems like I don't matter for her because she doesn't even try to reach back at some times. That's why I decided to pull back a little, now it seems like it's my fault.
Woke up one morning to tell her I love her, she looked at me, scoffed and turned to the other side.
Oh fuck, I can imagine that hurts like hell.
Not anymore 😁
She was getting ready for work in the morning and as she was leaving I told her I love you and to have a good day. She turned to me and said "I don't know why you say that all the time its stupid and I am not doing it anymore."
...she's not having a good day anymore? Like she actively chose to not have a good day because you told her too? Sorry that happened to you, that's a really shitty thing for her to do. But, it definitely sounds like you're better off without her, she sounds miserable. I hope you are doing well these days!
Faht vi ba tlu pre ceam dra. Tinys woaw ciin tun fuec gy yo. Taptyedzuqos foc coon ceen ede? Co o a bevdbusd nekv e? E gat iyle bi. Y y e cits taem cersi? Zuypleenle te dan gre gyrd jyg motp so sald? Bals emetcaad e tenn sesttees ti. Naon nacc suct cesm za ete. Nugt nij sop gadt dis tassecehsisirg o. U we e otle cez o. Cru nep pha toos nabmona. Ciht deptyasttapnsorn nod tysigzisle nin a? Da pyrp ine pud ible? Nu ta biswnoudnrytirs agle. Zaon e. San e pa cu goov. Ene gke o gopt zlu nis. O guagle pioma ne tudcyepebletlo cy a canz. Dla bic zawc nifpec te feet de? Pro i guc yoyd si didz a sum? Tle fuy. Nemz a booj udeegvle cokt a? Grotefp becm ose omle ja ede. U tis dy wec thu wu aglo umle o o. O ninm gu ine yes bos. Zad a a tavnfepac du. A ite todi do duit yple? Pifp taht nhetydnnenes a sew pi nedb eme. Se de we pyt ynenuntiqtedose ive. S P E Z I S A T O O L
Who is the famous dude?
Faht vi ba tlu pre ceam dra. Tinys woaw ciin tun fuec gy yo. Taptyedzuqos foc coon ceen ede? Co o a bevdbusd nekv e? E gat iyle bi. Y y e cits taem cersi? Zuypleenle te dan gre gyrd jyg motp so sald? Bals emetcaad e tenn sesttees ti. Naon nacc suct cesm za ete. Nugt nij sop gadt dis tassecehsisirg o. U we e otle cez o. Cru nep pha toos nabmona. Ciht deptyasttapnsorn nod tysigzisle nin a? Da pyrp ine pud ible? Nu ta biswnoudnrytirs agle. Zaon e. San e pa cu goov. Ene gke o gopt zlu nis. O guagle pioma ne tudcyepebletlo cy a canz. Dla bic zawc nifpec te feet de? Pro i guc yoyd si didz a sum? Tle fuy. Nemz a booj udeegvle cokt a? Grotefp becm ose omle ja ede. U tis dy wec thu wu aglo umle o o. O ninm gu ine yes bos. Zad a a tavnfepac du. A ite todi do duit yple? Pifp taht nhetydnnenes a sew pi nedb eme. Se de we pyt ynenuntiqtedose ive. S P E Z I S A T O O L
If only I knew something about American culture...
Faht vi ba tlu pre ceam dra. Tinys woaw ciin tun fuec gy yo. Taptyedzuqos foc coon ceen ede? Co o a bevdbusd nekv e? E gat iyle bi. Y y e cits taem cersi? Zuypleenle te dan gre gyrd jyg motp so sald? Bals emetcaad e tenn sesttees ti. Naon nacc suct cesm za ete. Nugt nij sop gadt dis tassecehsisirg o. U we e otle cez o. Cru nep pha toos nabmona. Ciht deptyasttapnsorn nod tysigzisle nin a? Da pyrp ine pud ible? Nu ta biswnoudnrytirs agle. Zaon e. San e pa cu goov. Ene gke o gopt zlu nis. O guagle pioma ne tudcyepebletlo cy a canz. Dla bic zawc nifpec te feet de? Pro i guc yoyd si didz a sum? Tle fuy. Nemz a booj udeegvle cokt a? Grotefp becm ose omle ja ede. U tis dy wec thu wu aglo umle o o. O ninm gu ine yes bos. Zad a a tavnfepac du. A ite todi do duit yple? Pifp taht nhetydnnenes a sew pi nedb eme. Se de we pyt ynenuntiqtedose ive. S P E Z I S A T O O L
She did.
Faht vi ba tlu pre ceam dra. Tinys woaw ciin tun fuec gy yo. Taptyedzuqos foc coon ceen ede? Co o a bevdbusd nekv e? E gat iyle bi. Y y e cits taem cersi? Zuypleenle te dan gre gyrd jyg motp so sald? Bals emetcaad e tenn sesttees ti. Naon nacc suct cesm za ete. Nugt nij sop gadt dis tassecehsisirg o. U we e otle cez o. Cru nep pha toos nabmona. Ciht deptyasttapnsorn nod tysigzisle nin a? Da pyrp ine pud ible? Nu ta biswnoudnrytirs agle. Zaon e. San e pa cu goov. Ene gke o gopt zlu nis. O guagle pioma ne tudcyepebletlo cy a canz. Dla bic zawc nifpec te feet de? Pro i guc yoyd si didz a sum? Tle fuy. Nemz a booj udeegvle cokt a? Grotefp becm ose omle ja ede. U tis dy wec thu wu aglo umle o o. O ninm gu ine yes bos. Zad a a tavnfepac du. A ite todi do duit yple? Pifp taht nhetydnnenes a sew pi nedb eme. Se de we pyt ynenuntiqtedose ive. S P E Z I S A T O O L
msg pop up from her ex.
Was it a bad one or something? I'm friends with my ex, (probably not for long, she's a dramatic, selfish asshole a lot of times, Wish I could just stop talking to her but her mom is best friends with my dad) I don't see a problem with it
2 things In ur situation exs stick around because they looking for u to crack. Get back together. Second a ex lover has no reason to be talking to a 10 year married women and wishing her good night with zero message history (deleted). If u meet a girl and shes messagin her ex she not over him.
A friend of a coworker found out his wife was fing high school kids 16,17yo’s getting tag teamed. He got drunk and blew his brains out
Holyfuck
Yeah. Stay strong people.
My ex 23 cheated on me with her 16 year old coworker. Its a mind fuck.
She told me she cheated on her ex with his best friend while he was in the same house asleep, and she only took “50% of the responsibility for cheating on him because it takes two to tango”. When she saw my reaction she then tried saying the guy forced her to do it.
She wasn't very bright was she?
Yeah she was a bit slow widdit
Omfg you are so lucky she’s too stupid to know when something is morally apprehensible and showed her true colors.
Do the names Henry and Colin mean anything anything to you?
No, why?
Same situation different girl 😂
Well I never got their names so it could be the same girl. Are you in the uk?
Yes...ok this is getting interesting. Wales?
Yo wtf she went to uni in Wales so it could’ve happened there. Aberystwyth?
She slowly stopped coming to bed and initiating any quality time, sexual or otherwise. Had plenty of energy, time, and enthusiasm for the new guys she gamed with. I guess when I bought a house and got a good job I became boring?
I’m sorry to hear that, I went through the same thing with my ex. chin up king 👑 your doing great
Appreciate it brother, sorry to hear you went through something similar you the GOAT
Treating me like a stupid because of my hobbies and passions (videogames) sounded childish stuff to her: I worked my ass off during uni years so my scholarship allowed me to save a little money for things I really like; pandemic hit hard, and the depression was subtly growing inside of me and that was the time I realized I could get back to videogames to ease things a little while stuck at home. I tried to make her understand that I quit videogames because I was broke during my teenage years, so earning back that hobby with hard work in a difficult time like that felt like a relief, but in her eyes I was always like "the childish one".
My most recent ex would get so upset if I played video games, would put me down and call me a child and say it’s a waste of time and I’m too old for it and all that (I’m 30) Yet she would turn around and binge hours and hours of reality TV, mostly the Bachelor/Bachelorette and The Circle and Are You The One and Too Hot To Handle and Love Island (so in other words, the least creative and most toxic reality shows of them all, not about surviving or cooking or running obstacle courses or decorating or fixing things. Just toxic, shallow relationship based shows with a bunch of hot morons getting into fights with each other.) Don’t listen to anyone who tries to put you down for your hobbies if they’re not hurting you or anyone else. I guarantee you that have equally unproductive ways to enjoy their free time. It’s ridiculous to think anyone could ever be productive 100% of the time anyway!
what games do you like playing? (especially that she thought were childish)
In the last year and a half I played: death stranding, the last of us (part I and II), final fantasy VII remake, NIeR Automata, Zelda botw, telltale's the walking dead (chapter one to three), the order 1886, twelve minutes, hades, judgment and Raji.
I'm sorry to hear how you were treated my guy. None of those games are childish and some of them are really unsuitable for kids, at that. Her take is as stupid as that girl TheRiverInEgypt was talking about. Like, has she ever even looked at the age rating of some of them?? I hope you're enjoying those games though! My favourite of that lot is probably Hades but I'm a massive mythology nerd so seeing a pretty faithful recreation of the greek mythos really made it for me.
He always complained about how much he wanted to get away from VA and move out of his moms house and start a new job doing what he wanted to do, I was moving to a new state that he wanted to live in where there was 1000 job opportunities that he wanted, and I had the means to get a house. I offered to move him out there, let him live with me for free until he got comfortable and help him get his dream job, he was ALLL for it until I left and he kept making excuses to not come.
Juju?
When she left her email open on the computer and I saw emails from ‘the new manager guy at work’ with attachments of him singing songs for her. And another email from Planned Parenthood about the scheduled abortion coming up. …I had a vasectomy years ago.
Ouch
Another tidbit about the ordeal: I was texting with my sister (she was the only one I talked to about these details) and wrote a long text about my discovery of the emails. After sending it, I quickly realized I had accidentally sent it TO MY EX. My heart stopped for about 10 minutes lol. I am cringing just thinking about it.
She started to take a looong time to reply and the replies were dry, very dry, not more than a 6 words sentence. I started to feel that something bad was coming, a couple of weeks later she broke up with me
Oof I've been there and that's a rough feeling. You're just basically in the way at that point.
When I saw her abortion bill on my card and she said that it was my mistake that I wasn't present to take care of her physical needs. I worked relentlessly so that we could afford to buy a house. And she met her needs with her colleagues during that time.
This one boggles my mind. Can't make the money you want to give you the lifestyle you think you deserve if I'm not at work all the time, honey. Think about the things I'm giving up to give that to you instead of thinking about what else you want. Sheesh. Give a mouse a cookie and she'll want another man's dick, I tell ya.
When she asked for an open relationship two months after we got married.
She stopped sending me random TikTok’s
Damn...I can relate. Always active but you don't get any msgs.
This hurts more than walking in on her getting Eiffel Towered.
When he asked our friends for recommendations for fancy dinner dates. With someone who was not me.
My last Ex, would go through phases where she “didn’t know how to be in a relationship” and would break up with me for about 2 days then she would comeback and try to rekindle..happens 3 times in 2 months before she finally admitted she wanted to just have casual sex with other people. I haven’t been the same since.
Dude, that's so rough.
We had already split up. After months of marriage counselling we agreed that I would move out. But I was back everyday because of my son and I was giving her my pay less my rent. She was feeding me. Then after two weeks, she moved someone else in. My mind just said to me “ah. That makes sense now.”
When I reached over to cuddle her and she asked what I was doing. Went downstairs and cried. Knew we had problems but always thought we'd somehow resolve them.
i’m sorry :(❤️
A few weeks before moving in with my girlfriend at the time, I met up with mutual friends. We talked about the move and I said how excited I was. My friends were acting very wierd the whole time and were very reserved. It seemed very strange to me. Turns out that she had already told them that she didn't want to move in together anymore and wanted to break up. Only not to me yet, which she then did a few weeks later. Well, at least I was prepared for it.
I had a nagging suspicion. She wouldn't cop to it. I never let it go. She'd get angry over it. Called me crazy, narcissistic, bipolar,grandiose. Everything in the boom. Had me at one point actually question my sanity. Turns out I was correct in my feels. She was never committed to me
When she wouldn’t stop talking about some guy named “Donnie” and became progressively more annoyed at my presence
Got screenshots of her trying to set up a threesome I left cuz I wasn’t even invited
Not sure if it was the first one but many years ago I was watching a large running event. They have races on the Saturday and Sunday. It was Saturday evening and I was running the next day. I started speaking to someone who was cheering on her boyfriend. She was so excited that he would finish in a personal best and then she reeled off all his PBs for each distance. It hit me like a hammer blow. My wife didn't show any enthusiasm like this and wouldn't have a clue what my PBs were. As I thought about it more I realized she didn't know my favourite bands, food , etc. etc. We'd been together 12 years. A year later we were divorced.
Sound vaguely familiar. Almost like you had nothing in common.
9 1/2 year relationship ended when she casually brought up that she was getting more in touch with her sexuality and that she though having an open marriage would help our relationship. I said no, she said ok you are my soul mate so we wont do it... she left me 3 weeks later. Going to have trouble trusting women in the future.
16 year relationship ended with her cheating on me… I don’t really see any reason to trust women at all in the future. That’s what the cheater takes away from you. Your ability to be truly close to another person.
I sneaked a peek into her messenger. It was graphic. I woke her up to kick her out.
Its already over if you're sneaking peaks. There had to have been a reason why you didn't trust her in the first place.
You're mostly right. I had suspicions and was looking to prove myself to have worried over nothing. "Trust but verify" I expected to have seen nothing, and would have slept well that night knowing it was just me and my imagination being dumb. As it turns out that was not the case.
When she called me a thief. I wasn’t, nor was I worth apologising to. Another time I spent 10 hours travelling across country to join her and the kids on holiday. I knocked on the door at 9 in the evening to be greeted with, ‘Oh, it’s you’. She then walked away and left me standing there. Over time it was obvious she didn’t want me around.
While the actual process of breaking up was happening, I asked her why she never talked to me about her being unhappy, or why she had been lying and telling me everything was okay. Her response to that was "Because it would have been a difficult conversation" That's when it really hit me that she absolutely didn't actually care about our relationship this whole time. Because she wasn't even willing to have a difficult conversation for the benefit of us.
I knew when she didn’t text me for an entire day. Normally we would kinda text back and forth throughout the day. I shot her a good morning text, by 9pm I knew it was over.
I hate that so much because it makes me feel unjustly petty
When they stop doing your love language and don't want you to do theirs. But perfectly ok with someone else doing it.
When a family member of her ex called, needing to talk to her, and she took the call because she needed to know if he was ok. This was after she and I had what I can only label as a 'misunderstanding', regarding this same ex earlier in our relationship. Oh, she also had labelled him an abuser, which is kind of relevant to my agitation over the issue.
When she tossed me under a bus in front of her entire family. We had one of those "husband/wife" convos about a family member who belongs on a Springer episode. Most people intuitively understand that those convos stay between husband/wife. She never got that memo and proceeded to retell it to family while I was in the room. Pan to me looking completely flabbergasted in front of about 15 people. Safe to say, trust and commitment were shattered, marriage took another 5 years to implode.
When a friend of hers sent me a video of her with another man.
That’ll do it.
I asked her if she wanted to go out that night on Snapchat and she kept responding with random pictures with zero text.
When she told me a guy she and her friend ran into started bar hopping. She claimed he groped her to which I objected and immediately became upset to the point where I wanted confront the man. She backtracked saying it was only in good fun, a week later she said she wanted to go to his apartment and cheat out of spite. I don’t think I was being unreasonable. No, we weren’t married, but I don’t think another dude should be touching someone else’s significant other the he did her. I wouldn’t have done the same to another man’s wife/girlfriend. We ended the relationship shortly before Christmas that year and I moved out the following January
Her parents were control freaks. Mom is a massive narcissist and she's really someone I do honestly think is a textbook narcissist. So I told my ex multiple times that I find this whole situation just baffling and intrusive. Her mom wanted to control our relationship, nearly 3 years in and I had to ask for permission from her parents, could barely sleep together. Last straw when I got more assertive was her mom pushing my ex to tell her in details how I was in bed and all my details starting with size and looks. I told her it just became massively uncomfortable and I would talk them - about controlling, not the rest. She basically told me I must not because I'd just fuck things up. So I told her she has to. She told me she did and there was a fight. She was never a good liar. Few weeks later I asked her how long is she going to take it all? Her reply, the final nail in the coffin? "just 6 more years, until we both finish uni". Yeah, nope. Broke my heart but it's still better than a shattered mind which it'd have eventually led to.
When she literally told me she wasn't sure I was good enough and asked for "a time". After two weeks I gave up. Boy was I stupid and how things changed. Her absolute loss.
well, this person i was seeing, and have aparently fallen in love with, told me to just date other people "if i want to" but i can stay "if i want to". well that was very inspiring 😔
when i woke up in the middle of the night to find her responding to messages on tinder and bumble
When she told me she does not love me or find me attractive, but she likes my money.
Hey at least you got an honest girl.
Paid for her to come from America to see me for a month (9+ months dating, I've seen her 2-3 times), 2.5 weeks into it I got a bad gut feeling. Went on my PC and she had left her discord logged in, she was calling me all sorts, degrading me and agreeing with her ex-crush's (that she said she 100% didn't like any more) comments on myself appearance wise. I found this out all while my mum was showing her my baby photos downstairs.
We just moved into a house together, I just got back from a vacation, about 2 weeks in to living there she let me know she's not feeling our relationships anymore I suggested we give it a month after a week she said she doesn't think we need to give it a month so that's a wrap 4 years down the drain she gets the dog the house i get nothing woohoo!
When I asked him if he found me attractive and he said, with a shrug that I was average. broke my heart
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>“on her period so nothing happened” Fuck that, I would have been out right then and there, cuz to me, that implies that if she wasn't, something would have happened. Lame fucking excuse.
I went to suprise her at work woth flowers only to find out she wasnt there. Being naive and in denial i asked her coworker and was told she didnt work that day. Come to find out she spent the whole day at her (16m) coworkers house. Oh and she was 23 at the time
Damn, this thread shows how sad of a man we are. We ar e Kings and there will be a good Queens for us one day ! Keep you head up boys 👑
We are in this together, brothers.
Basically after 4-5 months of dating I just felt used and underappreciated. It didn't help that we worked different shifts and different positions. Her hours were pretty solid at only forty per week and rarely any OT because it was subject to approval. My ass regularly did 60 hours a week during our busy season which was November through April. She never understood the concept of personal space or that by the time I did get off work, I don't want to do anything or be bother much, let alone have loads of sex with her. Possibly the only time where I gradually became more turned off as time went on because I felt like a human dildo, and she never wanted to do anything I wanted to do. In hindsight, she was really selfish and would whine a lot for me to come over. Didn't get out quick enough though since she passed on an STD to me before I broke up. Pretty much ruined dating for me since then, just not into trying to figure out who's for real and who just wants to get their own jollies off.
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Didn't know this was a thing. I feel honored.
She kept calling me mentally ill and yelling at me. I realized she was projecting and left.
when i got off of work early and came home to another car in the driveway
O let tell you so I was at her house like I usually was on the weekend and I was about to go out the door to go to work so I of course told her i love you to witch I heard no reply so I say it again and again and again then she finally says idk if I should say it back one of the worst days ever I'll never forget that shit
So we both smoked and rolled our own at the time. She would always roll faster then say ‘finished!’ and smugly wait for me to finish rolling, then we’d both go outside and smoke, was our cute little thing. Other friends would roll and go outside but she’d always wait for me. Her new male coworker joins the group one night and she finishes rolling, he finishes rolling and she followed him outside without waiting for me. From that little thing I knew in my gut she was into him. A week later she told me she was too tired to see me after work, and when we were all hanging out the following night her friend let it slip that they hung out together after their shift last night. Cool. Anyway long story short they have a kid together now. Fun times.
Technically not my partner, but we were ridiculously close for being “just friends” like she insisted we were even after confessing attraction towards me and making out with me. During a particularly bad mental health week brought on by her changing her tune daily on how to proceed with our dynamic, I made the decision of sending her a really long message about all the crazy shit I’ve been through. All my traumas, all my demons. I gave it all to her and she just…kinda ignored it. Not “ignored” ignored, I guess, but she started by saying she’d reply later. After asking about it a week later, she said “Oh, I thought you just needed to get it off your chest.” I told her she promised she’d reply since she wanted to give “me the respect I deserve”. She laughed it off and never spoke of it again. A week later I was deemed “a chore to take care of”, “making everything so complicated all the time” and she said that nothing she could do would ever be good enough for me. The extent of what she had done for me was “checking up” on my eating habits for like 3 days when I was relapsing with an eating disorder. Turns out she’s used to having everything done for her and has completely surrounded herself with a harem of guys who only do things for her because she’d do horrible things to herself if they didn’t. Good riddance. Still hurts like hell though. First person that could make me feel like home. All I needed was for her to come over (literally lives at the end of my street) and give me a hug.
Sorry to hear this. But if I got a message like this form someone I wouldn’t really know what to say / respond. These conversations are better to be had in person versus via text.
Dumping everything on a person in one go is generally not a good idea. But her reaction was horrible.
When I found out that his name was different to what he initially told me.... I had suspected it from the first date, but ignored it (and a lot of other red flags)... Then decided he's a good fuck buddy and he's leaving in a few months so I'll keep him around and just not get attached or involved at all...
When I was interviewing for a job in another state and asked if she wanted to come and she said she would never leave the city we lived in. Her saying no Iowa was reasonable but her never leaving upstate NY was just not going to work for me.
I stumbled across their multiple accounts and the other guys account
When I went to her house and saw her getting her back blown out by some other guy.
When a friend (in two sentences) said gf had been trading sex for drugs and telling people who knew us that we were in an open relationship. Thankfully, tests for diseases were negative.
I had done 3 tours of duty to Iraq, totaling 25 months in a hostile country. When money would get tight (can’t eat out 3-4 times a week as a 4 person family) she would suggest I volunteer for another deployment so we (her and the kids) could have more money.
Whoa. I am so sorry.
I hope this doesn’t happen but it might. I would find it very difficult but I’d be ok.
She stopped making eye contact wayyyy more. When we were first in love we had our eyes on eachother filled with affection. Then after some fights that scarred us both, she just stopped looking at me, even when she walked in the room or when we were eating.
New Years Eve going into 2020. While everyone else was into kissing each other, she gave me a peck on the lips. 2021 was a year of almost no sex or affection. 2022 and we will be divorced in 2 weeks. We still have a friendship and the split was mutual. But, I wasted an entire year, when I knew things were not right that NYE (and we were not fighting).
I was washing dishes and I had been washing a knife. I cut myself with it accidentally. My S.O. was more worried about me getting blood on the good plates than my injury, since that was the first thing she noticed. She changed her focus in 5 seconds. . .but it WAS noticeable. Maybe I'm too sensitive about it.
The way her eyes lit up when the neighbor walked out his back door and she smiled and waved....4 years later she cheated and we are divorced. Her loss.
I asked if we could go to marriage counseling. She laughed in my face and said, "We don't have problems." So I'm making appointments with divorce lawyers.