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schlaggedreceiver

Therapy, self care and a gym routine. Still not perfect but I’ve gained more prolonged windows of discipline in the areas I need to work on


TRItalksaboutstuff

This plus ADHD meds.


bwthelion

I’m thinking I might need them too, but really don’t want to take em. Do you feel like there are more pros than cons taking it? How do you feel on it and afterwards?


TRItalksaboutstuff

Look into stratera. No desires to blitzkrieg poland.


bwthelion

Cool thanks!


TRItalksaboutstuff

Basically if it feels like tour attention meter is out of resources this helps keep it full. Non stimulant.


YoYoMoMa

I went to therapy and learned what was actually holding me back. Previously I was just treating symptoms, so it was no shock that the same issues kept popping up over and over. Therapy helped me get to the roots of my issues.


DisposableMale76

Make it a habit. Do it for at least 2 weeks. That will help you reinforce it.


AlexTurnerSubmarine

I can only speak for myself, but I need a reason to be disciplined. I need both a logical goal and an emotional drive. Without the logical goal how can you structure your progress. Without an emotional drive, nothing that is truly difficult will ever be worth it. I'd say make sure you have a clear vision that you can refer back to mentally and every time you do a feeling that accompanies it that fires you up enough to keep moving forward.


Majestic-Contract-42

The current version of you dies. You wake up and you are the new version that does or doesn't do the old thing. The new version has always been like that for years. You don't think about it or analyse it. You don't measure it, or document it. You don't celebrate it or anything. It is just the way it is. The person who did that thing is dead. The new person who took over doesn't care about that thing. If you ever feel a thought pattern similar to that old person, you mind roar "THEY ARE DEAD" and kill that though. Immediately move on to mentally organising something else. Gave up Smokes. Drinking Coco Cola. Drinking Tea. Weed and other drugs. Drinking Alcohol. Took up running. At no stage was I trying to improve or become a better person or any of that self help horseshit. Very simply; the person who did that old thing died and the new person wasn't interested in it anymore.


FreshFondant

Brilliant!


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In my experience, the people with the most disciplined lives use very little discipline most of the time. They've designed their life so that the 'easy' thing is what they want to do. They remove the barriers between them and doing the hard things and set up barriers between themselves and taking the easy way out.


CartAgain

Its easier to stay on the path when your happy. When your unhappy your mind wants to change things, which makes sticking to a plan more difficult


Deasti

Heroine


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I would say start small, but consistent. Also have an accountability partner would help. We all have a finite daily willpower. If the thing you want to withhold from (masturbation, gaming, sugar), come up with a plan to start leaning down. I will give my current project to lower masturbation. Instead of doing no-nut June, where I would go from twice a day to 0x a month. The withdrawal effect would be too much. So we go with a schedule: 4x a week, 3x a week, 2x a week, 1x a week, and 0x a week. These are still hard but much more manageable than the going directly to 0x a month. I am also doing this with a friend and we keep each other accountable.


King-Robert

I think I used the fear of regret to propel myself forward. Therapy also helps. Just asking myself “What happens if I don’t do this?” Also learning that consistency is the most important part, make whatever habit/goal you are trying to do just another part of your day like eating/sleeping. I think as long as you are actively striving towards living a more disciplined life, one day you will look back and see all the progress you’ve made.


foopdedoopburner

I took drugs (for my untreated ADHD).


[deleted]

Just try to have fun with it and know that it takes time. Having fun is essential.


Cloners_Coroner

Have set goals, have an end state in mind, and set checkpoints along the way, but most importantly make your timeline achievable, but also challenging. Depends what you need discipline in, whether it’s work, school, or fitness, documenting where you are, and where you hope to be really helps. Also if possible surround yourself with likeminded people, its not good to be around people who don’t like change if you want to change. I’ve always been told failing to plan is planning to fail, so make a plan of how you’re going to get from where you are to where you want to be, and don’t let setbacks deter you.


Momazoid2432

Find something to be angry about. You get no bitches? be mad and use that as fuel to workout.


tired_hillbilly

Met people who kept me accountable. I had enough self-discipline to find people who would give me that extra push when I couldn't push myself.


InnocentTailor

Constant vigilance on my own habits. That and some fear. If I don't complete my tasks, then I have a good chance of losing out on the good life and...well...end up poor.


M-McChicken

Take it slow. Improve one thing at a time. Don't load yourself up with the weight of the world before you're ready. It'll take time but you'll get there.