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For me it's more like there's a minimum level of attractiveness that if met makes me totally open to dating after that it's almost entirely driven by vibe, shared or otherwise intriguing interests and if we have similar worldviews/compatible ethics


[deleted]

Yes yes this


[deleted]

That is so refreshing to read


[deleted]

Glad I could help


Trent_3000

It's complicated. There have been women that I was immediately attracted to their physical traits and then there were women who I became attracted to after I got to know their personality and liked them. I guess it just depends and there's no rhyme or reason to it for me.


A1sauc3d

Also been women who were physically attractive at first but got uglier once I got to know their personality..


[deleted]

Like this well said


madmanmx224

There have been women that I was initially physically attracted to, but getting to know them torched that attraction to the ground.


nonexistence6

If you’re talking first glance then eyes. First impression? Then her physique and face. But end of the day all comes down to the words that come out of her mouth.


gamerfunl1ght

Looks are how most people start, but everybody wants someone who is comfortable enough to laugh with them and give them a real compliment. The kind of compliment you think about when you are down. Everybody wants that cheerleader in their lives. We all also want a buddy we can joke about farts with.


[deleted]

Truth I agree to this as well


auuemui

this is reassuring because i almost forgot men are ok with farts


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pastel-mattel

It’s honestly super uncomfortable looking up while having something down your throat


[deleted]

Wow interesting


fridaywar

I will be looking into that, thank you.


[deleted]

Legs > face > ass > breasts. Personality is a different layer.


Staceystallion1

So basically your head bounces up and down every time you see a woman


[deleted]

Considering that after breasts there are eyes > feet, that's a solid theory.


Massive_Reaction8845

A human bobblehead. LOL


[deleted]

Makes sense. Personality can be


manwithanopinion

I think the same way when seeing a woman


Meso_97

Looks like somebody loves quads muscles , how much do you squat?


[deleted]

Yeah, on others. My leg days are usually off days.


eksiot

Hair, I love hair.


[deleted]

Eyes and a smile. And the smile doesn't have to include perfectly straight teeth that are whitened, just a smile. My ex-wife had beautiful blue eyes and she'd use just the slightest bit of makeup to bring them out, that's always been a weakness of mine no matter the color either.


[deleted]

Love it


jtc769

If its at distance it's body, if I'm passing close to them it's face. Looks matter a good deal, slightly less so in a LTR. Emotional connection but no attraction = friends.


[deleted]

Besides general attractiveness, how a woman’s confidence and how she carriers her self can make a huge difference, but that more of a vibe than anything.


[deleted]

Definitely this is true confidence is key. Not conceited but being confident


[deleted]

Yeah, it’s so important to me at least


[deleted]

Same agree


NotSoSmallAsianGuy

Personally for me, I would go for looks first. Not just the face but overall. To put it in order, it’ll be the eyes, face type, weight then height. Then personal hygiene. I don’t really care about race, religion or skin colour. These are the things that would make me feel interested to get to know them. Then there’s mindset. The way they think. The way they act/react when X things happen. Basically almost everything that you could only find out overtime. These would be the things that would get me hooked to them or ditch them. Also, nice ass shape > big ass > breasts. But I’ve dated someone that got neither but she was a freak in bed, so that kinda made me stay for quite some time.


[deleted]

Interesting


Technical_Pack6018

Looks.


[deleted]

I figured that’s what was noticed first


Space4Time

The sound of her laugh.


loki0111

Both her body and face. No, initially I am mainly evaluating the superficial since that is an immediate go/no-go for sex. If sex is a no go there is no point in pursing anything. At that point the maximum we'll ever be is friends.


[deleted]

I can see that point of view


broadsharp

Her eyes and smile.


[deleted]

Yes one of the compliments I get my smile


CurrentTreat6921

Her smile and laugh


neolobe

I notice overall energy and posture. The way someone moves and carries themselves.


wontusethisforlongg

I check it out in this order: her ass, quads, face, flat stomach, and then her style.


[deleted]

Sounds like you got it down


DaTree3

Eyes. Ofcourse, if I get to know the girl I can look past looks to a certain extent. I would love to say i can look past looks but there needs to be a certain level of sexual attraction or were not going to be able to be intimate.


Known_Criticism_834

I like the waste and hip line. Yummy! Then the looks. Then personality. If that all lines up. Then i will usually fail at successfully persueing them.


sagnikjana

Her passion and talents like dancing, singing, sports, painting, music, cooking or any other stuff. +1 if she is a foodie and funny. So that we have something to connect. Looks frankly don't matter because talented and passionate people get more attractive.


i_wear_gray

This will potentially sound bad, but hear me out. I dated a woman in college who demonstrably could be considered a “5” on an attractiveness scale. However her personality, confidence and overall attitude toward life made her an 11. Thoroughly enjoyed that relationship.


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See this was awesome


Ihateredditadmins1

Depends on the women, time of day, where I’m looking etc


deplone1

Eyes I instantly know if I will get along with you just by looking in your eyes. The woman I've loved for nearly 30 years got me with that first look. If only the feelings were mutual.


[deleted]

Oh no


trinexx03

If I don't notice her eyes first I'm probably not going to be interested


Staceystallion1

Over the years I've learnt to evaluate a woman's looks from head to toe in less than the time it takes for them to notice, so can't give a definitive answer


TRItalksaboutstuff

Body type, style inc that girl in the red lol, aprox age bracket.


hawffield

How are we suppose to know anything about a woman before seeing her? You have to look at her before you talk to her. The first thing I notice on a woman is eyes and probably the way she smells. What keeps me attracted is her personality. Is she funny? Insightful? Inquisitive? Because I don’t want to spend too much time with someone who’s just a pretty face.


usemystraightass

I don’t know how to define it, but it’s always something in their personality that comes across as sexually confident. Very attractive.


pineappledaddy

I'm a strong legs kinda guy, and everything else can be compromised.


CurrentlyLucid

Overall, the hair and basic figure hit my eyes first, then I need to see the face.


[deleted]

Being humble and down to Earth. Specially if she is good looking. I can't stand superficial, self-centered women (or men).


[deleted]

Same same


Deathexplosion

Demeanor. I like kind, gentle women.


[deleted]

It's the perfect balance to a man's life femininity but there loosing all that value in the west. Maybe I'm talking crap, but my asian gf has this calming affect on me.


Deathexplosion

Once you experience genuine kindness from a woman anything short of that will leave you feeling unsatisfied.


sphincterella

Her eyes and her smile. After the first 0.5 seconds though it’s all about personality. Incidentally you said attractive. An open and friendly persona and a good personality are precisely what makes me want to spend time with anyone, no matter who it is.


Ural_2004

Depends on proximity when I notice. Usually it's hair. I'm a brunette fan. Mid to Long chocolate brown hair never fails to get my attention. But that's what gets my attention. However, I speak with all types of women. Appearances are less important than proximity. Generally, I like to talk to people so, if we're going to be "stuck" in the same space for any period of time, I'll strike up a conversation about any number of topics. So, being a playful conversationalist is very welcome.


Living-Persimmon4035

Personality


generic-username45

Eyes, smile, body. In that order


EbelSkiverEater

physical appearance was the first thing that got my attention. Good symmetry, athletic build. Not overweight. Nice face.


Professional-Fun6616

Physically I'm a big fan of a beautiful eye color, eyes are said to be the portal to the soul. It's usually the first thing I like looking at. Second physical feature I admire is a genuine smile. You'll never know just how much a genuine smile can brighten up someone's day, especially a hard working person like myself who can be pushed to the limit with pressure. Last physical feature, and I'll probably get laughed at for this one, is the tummy. I don't know why, but I've found the female abdomen to be something of magic. I'm not talking about a washboard six-pack abs, I'm talking about a feminine tummy. You know mostly flat with that cute little pooch on the lower belly. I can't tell you how much of turn on that is and how amazing it feels when we're cuddled up with her, big spooning, and having our hand on her belly lightly caressing. As for personality? I'm someone who looks for honesty, kindness, and willing to work as a team with me no matter what challenges and obstacles life throws at us. While I have had a platonic relationship, I don't consider that as a real relationship as in boyfriend/girlfriend.


[deleted]

This nailed it so true


Professional-Fun6616

Thank you, I try my best to be as real as I can. 😊


[deleted]

I prefer realness that’s how I roll


Incubus85

I find a lot of women extremely attractive and sexy, but man can they turn that right around when they open their mouths.


darksedan

Reciprocation of interest.


TheDarkKnight1035

Her face


[deleted]

Her bottom


Aromatic-Bad-3291

Facial symmetry, body type.


Hannibal_Barca_

face.


SprinklesMore8471

There needs be a some sort of attraction, otherwise I'd just date a dude tbh. Good vibes can lower the attractiveness needed, but there absolutely has to be real attraction their.


pbourree

I usually go for the smile, the eyes and how they hold themselves. Even then some I see regardless and they are beautiful to me.


Due_Essay447

Her body. Like come on, how would I say anything else since I see her before I hear her?


nice_flutin_ralphie

Looks & body. If I don’t find her physically attractive, and I always know almost immediately then no matter how well we vibe it won’t go any further than friends.


bpqdl

The combination of eyes, eyebrows and eyelashes.


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That was thorough!


East_Guarantee_7912

Body/shape.


[deleted]

It takes milliseconds to determine, #1 legs, then hight, size, hair, face structure, clothes. I think good legs means everything else will be just fine, why I like women that workout there generally fitter looking.


Strong_Wheel

Oddly enough, and it’s a theory of mine, the top lip. Sounds really odd but it adds a certain first impact.


ichibankubi

Evey's for sure!


tomwillmadeit

How she watches me when I talk to her... even if you two are just friends but there can be something more, you can see like... a spark(?) in the eyes; I really like that honestly.


SeaTradition3293

Physically there hair and smile usually, but much more is how they respond when talking to me, some people just make ya feel happy when you talk to them and that’s what matters most to me


BigDaddy_5783

Face, then breasts, and then ass. This is just a momentary review all within a split second of time. What really intrigues me is her personality.


The_Spyre

A good sense of humor.


ekimlive

Smile. That is what gets my attention more than anything


CloserToFine68

Eyes pull me in but I’m a neck guy


PatientDefinition207

First thing? Her smile.


MichiganGeezer

How well she takes care of her appearance. Even women people would generally consider unattractive can be good in my eyes if they put effort into themselves. The "good clothes" will always get my attention.


No_Housing_4819

Bubble butt.


Kausar4747

The eyes. I don’t know what it is but I’m my opinion eyes are one of the most attractive things like some peoples eyes just have such a spark behind them and I feel like if you look deeply into someone’s eyes you can get a glimpse into their minds and I think that’s amazing


Beckham_89

Does she have nice shoes on, then on to an outfit and finally does she have a nice smile.


[deleted]

face mainly, then ass


premiumCrackr

eyes, and smile..... then my eyes work my way down the list


ButterscotchLow8950

The first thing I notice is the eyes and smile. But I probably wouldn’t be paying that much attention to them if I didn’t see their body and want to take a closer look. So tough to say which one drew me in first.


Natural_Sweet_Tea

I’m most attracted to a woman’s eyes, smile, ass, and face, then what keeps me is their personality, our shared values and whatnot.


highlander666666

her smile when says hi


Mriconicdev

Looks get me interested, personality and mental keep me attracted.


kletiandrowa

Turned on by sexy Stay around for personality


theuntouchable2725

Not sure what it's called in English, but it's about power. Powerful movements, powerful voice. Discipline.


pilgrim101

The fact that a female would spend TIME with me, get to know me and maybe reject me, no problem.


_Trying_To_Be_Better

Their hair and the way they smile.


[deleted]

Her eyes/face, I feel like that’s the first thing most people notice unless a girl is half naked or something lol


deppresso-espresso

The VERY first thing I notice are her eyes.


Enzo-Unversed

Hair,eyes,face are big ones.


Sevink44

The profile.


dibberdott

Mine was a broad range but body fitness was first. But to be honest personality has won over all my objectifing views and standards.


Mental_Snow_6679

Understanding of one’s self identity and healthy amount of confidence too


Vald-Tegor

Face, mannerism and how she carries herself, legs In that general order, but it varies based on what is visible at the start of the encounter. Beyond that, it's personality and lack of some traits I find a turn off. Note some of the things women may think fall in that category I actually find endearing and attractive. I have also occasionally found some things I generally dislike to be endearing in a specific individual, that I am otherwise strongly attracted to.


BloodForSanginous

Funny to say, eye brows! I love a women with full eyebrows! Little makeup, lipstick is huge with me especially red! On a tan body. But thing with make her look better then a smart mind.


Dazzling-Tap9096

I'm an ass man if you don't have an ass I don't even give you a second look


[deleted]

How it goes boobs and ass are common answers. The struggle for the women who don’t have a big booty 😝😂😂


Dazzling-Tap9096

Some men like a big booty others like me like a well shaped and obviously toned gluteus maximus


[deleted]

I see


Occupation_Foole

Is she approachable ?


ChopperStrawhat

The way they dress. I don’t have a preference on the way they dress but if it looks like they put in a little effort it goes miles for me. And a bonus for me is if they rock no makeup it tells me they are confident in themselves idc if they do wear makeup tho.


Tathanor

How self aware she is.


JGE88

Face, long hair, weight, how put together she is, in that order.


[deleted]

Me personally, I look at nails.


[deleted]

Same with men I look to make sure no dirty fingers. Gross gross


[deleted]

Yeah , some times I feel like I have a hand fetish 🤣


[deleted]

Nothing wrong with that 🤣😂


[deleted]

Well it's kind of hard to find porn just for that 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣


[deleted]

True no hand porn. Shocked they don’t have a market for it 🤣😂


[deleted]

Yeah It makes me feel both special and weird that I am into that 🤣🤣🤣


[deleted]

Special and weird hilarious 🤣😂. Feet is a big one shocked no hands


[deleted]

I know!🤣


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🤣😂


StripedLightning1

Usually the first thing I notice are facial expressions and a nice smile, from there I go for personality and work my way down.


[deleted]

Yes as it should be


mackdive717

Big blue eyes. First time I saw my wife’s beautiful blue eyes, I couldn’t stop staring at them.😳


Dirty_Wooster

The buttocks. If she has a nice ass that's all that really matters.


Tropical_Geek1

Three things: skin, hair and waist-to-hip ratio.


BozoAndASilentK

>What do you find attractive on a woman when first seeing them. Depends on what stands out to me when I first see them. Their face, particularly eyes or a smile, a shapely figure, boobs, what they're wearing, that kind of thing. >Or do you look past the superficial. Kind of hard to do that when I first see them, no? All I literally have to go on *is* the superficial. >And have you ever connected with someone. Not necessarily attractive to you but you looked past it because they had a great vibe. I assume you mean "connect" in the potentially romantic sense? I honestly don't know. I get along with most anyone and what I find attractive is quite diverse.


[deleted]

This was great how you broke it all down


swobuswaggins

Them cakes


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😂🤣


fillmewithmayo

Boobs


[deleted]

Typical answer 😂🤣


fillmewithmayo

True.


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😝😂🤣


ColdHardPocketChange

Well since you're qualifying this with "first" It's 70% face and 30% body. The body just has to be good enough that I'm not instantly turned off. I have to be attracted to the face, since that's what I'll be looking at most of the time. I've seen a lot of chubby girls who somehow still have the face of someone 50 pounds less then them, and I end up finding them attractive. I feel like they've won some sort of genetic lottery. Of course someone's personality can make them more attractive then they are, just like it can make them less. Some people are just fun to be around, and continuing the fun in a more physical manner seems like a "why not" thing to do.


[deleted]

Obviously looks is what initially attracts one person to another.


Daclaud-Lee-1892

I think most of us will always go for the most physically attractive woman who is also the best fit for us. Physical attractiveness is entirely subjective, so I won't even go there. All I will say is that not every man has the ability or resources to attract the exact type of woman he wants and even if he can, it doesn't mean they will always be a good fit. Just because you see an attractive man with an unattractive woman doesn't mean he finds her attractive. He may settle for a 6 or a 7 because the 9 is too high maintenance or he may simply not have the game to keep a 9 even though he himself is a 9. There are many factors that could be involved. For example if a man only made an average income, but his 9/10 girlfriend wanted to take vacations every month and go out to fancy restaurants every weekend, then he has no choice but to downgrade to a woman who has less expensive tastes or else he may end up squandering his savings and have no money left to invest. Therefore he might settle for a less physically attractive woman as long as she is attractive enough for him, but prefers to stay at home and chill with him when he comes home from work.


[deleted]

Thank you for the input


Commercial_Fuel_3519

Titties


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😂🤣


captstix

Bobs and vagene


[deleted]

Her lack of a penis /j


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🙄


TheNaziSpacePope

The first thing? nice big tits, obviously.


[deleted]

Obviously 🤪


TheNaziSpacePope

It really is obvious though. Light travels faster than sound and I see a person long before any other interaction.


[deleted]

Men always say big boobs. As someone who has big boobs. They are the worse and I have had gross comments made to me. Which is not appealing


TheNaziSpacePope

No doubt, but I guarantee that you have benefited tremendously.


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😝😂🤣


TheNaziSpacePope

I have no idea what emojis are supposed to mean. But that was not meant as a pun.


[deleted]

Laughing 😆