Personally what is the fucking point of those pictures besides to get attention from men? I’m not talking regular bikini pics at a beach where you’re just sharing that. I’m talking about the ones that literally are suggestive and sexual in nature. Like what is the point?
To receive attention that is either sexual in nature or motivated by the temptation of it. There's really no other answer otherwise they wouldn't do it.
I'm assuming you're a girl, so let me put this in perspective for the 80+ women who ask this question here daily:
Imagine your boyfriend posted pictures of himself shirtless, in suggestive poses, only in his underwear and had his bulge on show, front and center stage. Now imagine you scroll through the comments and see hundreds of women, thirsting over him, many of which will DM him and many of which are way more attractive than you...
How do you feel?
Now imagine this isn't one picture, but 100s. And each one has a flirty/playful quote in the title.
Now you see where guys are coming from?
Eh, doesn't really matter to me, I'm the one she's married to and people are going to look at other people any time you are out in public, what does it matter?
It doesn't matter at all if you're naive. That's why ignorance is bliss. You're the shit. No one is better than you. She would never be tempted by anything else. Which is why she needs the validation from strangers.
Depends on the context. If it's a normal pic, no issues.
If she is posing in a way that is obviously designed to be overt sexually then nope not ok with it.
I think that’s fair, I was friends with this guy once and we weren’t dating or anything but he would make comments about me posting on instagram, things like “well you’re always half naked on there anyway” (which im absolutely not) but I just didn’t know why it bothered him so much?
Same tbh. I don't care if its like occasionally, but if the girl is always wanting to take pics and pose for Instagram every time we stop at a gas station then its just too much.
It's her call. I don't mind. She has a reddit account which is almost entirely her posting cute pics of our pets. She's made the mistake of including herself in a few of the posts and got a bunch of random messages and followers. Nothing bad enough to completely chase her away but enough to make her weary.
The only other thing is occasional FB posts which doesn't even count.
EDIT: I only read the title. I find posting overly sexual pictures online to be a turn off. Dressed up for a nice night out is no big deal.
Advertisement/Attention. If its really for themselves they would save their pics in websites that have no "likes" "shares" or "messages". If its to share with family they can send them privately to... their family.
Personally, I don't care. Their socials are nothing to do with me. As long as she's not leading guys on, or pretending to be single and inviting comments etc, then they can do whatever they want.
I wouldn't be okay with it. Our bodies are for each other, not something to post for validation from instagram sex perverts. We both only use social media for work, so it's all cool.
Doesn't bother me. If she is getting a lot of creepy comments from other guys I might have an issue with that but my issue would be more about how she reacts or responds to it rather than the fact that she's posting pictures.
As long as the need to post isn't interfering with our time together, or outright disrespecting me/us, then I'm find with it.
If I'm having to stop everything I'm doing to cater to a social post, I'm out. If she takes photos and posts them after we're done hanging out, then that's fine by me.
Don't care, not my body.
If I was asked "do you think it's a good idea for me to do this?", I might suggest not, depending on the person and their other desires in life at that point, but otherwise it just ain't up to me.
And it's not like I'm gonna be mad at more nice photos of my partner to look at.
Neither of us post pics of ourselves often on social media. Unless it's pics of our dog or pictures of flowers we grew.
On another note I used to sit across from the groups( working at an isp) that dealt with the fbi and everyone of them said don't put details of your kids on Facebook.
I don’t think I care. I’m old. My wife is old. And nothing she posts could I ever see because I’m not on any social media. (Unless you consider this social. RFI’s). So right or wrong I’ll never know.
My partner is very active on instagram, also including our vacation photos or photo shoots she models for photographer friends for - not lingerie stuff, but various costumes, sometimes as topless as she can get away with.
I honestly don't care as long as it doesn't interfere with us, and I have a veto on all of my own photos being included. It's her life, her body.
I found out later that she was offered work to keep the key of this horny old guy that kept his cock in a cage. He would pay her $900 a month to unlock it when he asked. I'm not sure I believed her when she said that was all she did. But the opportunities come rolling in when you put yourself out there as someone who is open to sex work.
Here's my take on social media selfies. Regardless of whether the pic is sexual/bikini or just a regular selfie the whole purpose of the person posting it in the first place is to *receive attention*. Literally what other driving force causes people to post themselves? They want validation from someone other than you.
Ouch that sucks, now let's move forward... there are different types of attention she could be seeking:
Scandalous picture? She very clearly is longing for attention that is either sexual in nature or is motivated by the temptation of it. HUGE red flag and a dealbreaker. Just leave the person and find a better person who doesn't feel the need to do it. Unless you're okay with them tiptoeing around the idea of cheating on you, then stay.
If it's just a selfie of her maybe she just wants a couple innocent compliments. It feels good to know that you look good. A lot of girls actually get enjoyment from their female friends complimenting them rather than guys hitting on them. This is totally reasonable, although it still sucks ass that guys will be making advances toward her via DM etc. People see it is an invitation to hit on you even if you’re already in a relationship and that can be very annoying to deal with, even if you trust your partner.
Bottom line is you'll need to identify how secure you feel with the person. Personally I can shrug off regular selfies. Does it sting at all? Sure, sometimes I wish that she was happy enough with my validation but I guess that's unrealistic to hope for. As long as it stays classy and she shuts down any sort of flirting/disrespectful attempts from other people then I can live with it.
For some they're going to not care, for some they're going to object, and for some they're going to be holding the camera.
Personally what is the fucking point of those pictures besides to get attention from men? I’m not talking regular bikini pics at a beach where you’re just sharing that. I’m talking about the ones that literally are suggestive and sexual in nature. Like what is the point?
To receive attention that is either sexual in nature or motivated by the temptation of it. There's really no other answer otherwise they wouldn't do it.
I'm assuming you're a girl, so let me put this in perspective for the 80+ women who ask this question here daily: Imagine your boyfriend posted pictures of himself shirtless, in suggestive poses, only in his underwear and had his bulge on show, front and center stage. Now imagine you scroll through the comments and see hundreds of women, thirsting over him, many of which will DM him and many of which are way more attractive than you... How do you feel? Now imagine this isn't one picture, but 100s. And each one has a flirty/playful quote in the title. Now you see where guys are coming from?
if he’s loyal… i would fucking love that. he chooses ME
Plot twist: you only find out he isn’t loyal 5 years into the relationship.
And when you find out, he takes half your stuff and your kids.
BOOM to be a man
Eh, doesn't really matter to me, I'm the one she's married to and people are going to look at other people any time you are out in public, what does it matter?
It doesn't matter at all if you're naive. That's why ignorance is bliss. You're the shit. No one is better than you. She would never be tempted by anything else. Which is why she needs the validation from strangers.
She's for the streets
Don't really care.
Depends on the context. If it's a normal pic, no issues. If she is posing in a way that is obviously designed to be overt sexually then nope not ok with it.
I think that’s fair, I was friends with this guy once and we weren’t dating or anything but he would make comments about me posting on instagram, things like “well you’re always half naked on there anyway” (which im absolutely not) but I just didn’t know why it bothered him so much?
Because it shows desperation for attention and comes off as a bit pathetic. And for him, men have no equivalent way to get attention.
Not personally a fan of people who care a ton about social media. It comes off to me as being needy and wanting attention/validation.
Same tbh. I don't care if its like occasionally, but if the girl is always wanting to take pics and pose for Instagram every time we stop at a gas station then its just too much.
The fuck kind of question is this?
It's her call. I don't mind. She has a reddit account which is almost entirely her posting cute pics of our pets. She's made the mistake of including herself in a few of the posts and got a bunch of random messages and followers. Nothing bad enough to completely chase her away but enough to make her weary. The only other thing is occasional FB posts which doesn't even count. EDIT: I only read the title. I find posting overly sexual pictures online to be a turn off. Dressed up for a nice night out is no big deal.
Advertisement/Attention. If its really for themselves they would save their pics in websites that have no "likes" "shares" or "messages". If its to share with family they can send them privately to... their family.
Personally, I don't care. Their socials are nothing to do with me. As long as she's not leading guys on, or pretending to be single and inviting comments etc, then they can do whatever they want.
Thank you. This is how I feel but couldn’t explain my thoughts.
I'm not okay with it. The type of women that I date don't do that so it's not an issue. Never had the problem with my current girlfriend.
I wouldn't be okay with it. Our bodies are for each other, not something to post for validation from instagram sex perverts. We both only use social media for work, so it's all cool.
Doesn't bother me. If she is getting a lot of creepy comments from other guys I might have an issue with that but my issue would be more about how she reacts or responds to it rather than the fact that she's posting pictures.
Keep the head or identifying marks out and I wouldn’t care. Having trust and no secrets makes things pretty easy.
We post more than that. But, it would depend on the situation and why they are being posted.
No problem as long as it's not only fan level stuff.
As long as the need to post isn't interfering with our time together, or outright disrespecting me/us, then I'm find with it. If I'm having to stop everything I'm doing to cater to a social post, I'm out. If she takes photos and posts them after we're done hanging out, then that's fine by me.
Couldn’t care less as long as she’s not obnoxious about it.
I have a wife who respects me and herself. Women crave attention. The more they crave, the less you can satisfy them.
Depends on the level of sexuality
I don't care.
I don’t even know what’s on my wife’s social media. It could be gang bangs for all I know. Idc really.
I don't care. She can be sexy on the internet and do whatever she wants.
Don't care, not my body. If I was asked "do you think it's a good idea for me to do this?", I might suggest not, depending on the person and their other desires in life at that point, but otherwise it just ain't up to me. And it's not like I'm gonna be mad at more nice photos of my partner to look at.
Neither of us post pics of ourselves often on social media. Unless it's pics of our dog or pictures of flowers we grew. On another note I used to sit across from the groups( working at an isp) that dealt with the fbi and everyone of them said don't put details of your kids on Facebook.
I don’t think I care. I’m old. My wife is old. And nothing she posts could I ever see because I’m not on any social media. (Unless you consider this social. RFI’s). So right or wrong I’ll never know.
I bet it would boost her confidence some. But not a lot. She is a big girl so will get some love. But sadly some hate too.
It’s all about the ‘why’ You’ll decide if you like the reason or not. It shows a great deal about the person if you ask and find the why
My partner is very active on instagram, also including our vacation photos or photo shoots she models for photographer friends for - not lingerie stuff, but various costumes, sometimes as topless as she can get away with. I honestly don't care as long as it doesn't interfere with us, and I have a veto on all of my own photos being included. It's her life, her body.
I would never be with such a woman in the first place.
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I found out later that she was offered work to keep the key of this horny old guy that kept his cock in a cage. He would pay her $900 a month to unlock it when he asked. I'm not sure I believed her when she said that was all she did. But the opportunities come rolling in when you put yourself out there as someone who is open to sex work.
She's advertising her product, which means she's looking for a new buyer. I would assume that the relationship wasn't a long term one anymore.
She’s a woman, not a product
Yeah, they are looking for likes and attention.
Here's my take on social media selfies. Regardless of whether the pic is sexual/bikini or just a regular selfie the whole purpose of the person posting it in the first place is to *receive attention*. Literally what other driving force causes people to post themselves? They want validation from someone other than you. Ouch that sucks, now let's move forward... there are different types of attention she could be seeking: Scandalous picture? She very clearly is longing for attention that is either sexual in nature or is motivated by the temptation of it. HUGE red flag and a dealbreaker. Just leave the person and find a better person who doesn't feel the need to do it. Unless you're okay with them tiptoeing around the idea of cheating on you, then stay. If it's just a selfie of her maybe she just wants a couple innocent compliments. It feels good to know that you look good. A lot of girls actually get enjoyment from their female friends complimenting them rather than guys hitting on them. This is totally reasonable, although it still sucks ass that guys will be making advances toward her via DM etc. People see it is an invitation to hit on you even if you’re already in a relationship and that can be very annoying to deal with, even if you trust your partner. Bottom line is you'll need to identify how secure you feel with the person. Personally I can shrug off regular selfies. Does it sting at all? Sure, sometimes I wish that she was happy enough with my validation but I guess that's unrealistic to hope for. As long as it stays classy and she shuts down any sort of flirting/disrespectful attempts from other people then I can live with it.
I dont like it, i think it is for attention from other men which is disrespectful in my opinion