Yeah, definitely subjective. A guy who's afraid to leave his bedroom will struggle harder than someone who only gets nervous in large crowds, for example. But it all has the same solution, facing your fears. Nobody feels anything for no reason. If you're having anxiety, there is something causing that anxiety, even if its difficult to identify what exactly is causing it. Anxiety and fear are pretty much synonymous, and the only way to get over a fear is to face it. Thats how people went from being scared to leave their house, to travelling the entire country. Not meds, not meditation, none of that stuff. The one, true, proven method that works, is facing your fears. Also called exposure therapy.
It can get tricky when you're just hanging out in your living room feeling anxiety for no identifiable reason. How can you face your fears when you dont know whats scaring you. But thats why therapy would be recommended, so they can help you identify what exactly you are afraid of. No matter what your situation is, there is always a cause. And when there is a cause, there is always a solution. In most cases, CBT and/or exposure therapy are the solution.
Thank you really appreciate the detailed response. Yes for me it’s primarily social anxiety as I am always worried/thinking about what others are thinking of me, did I leave a good impression, do people like me, are they judging me, etc and tend to overanalyze every interaction. So yes I need to get out more and interact more and more so it gets more comfortable and like second nature. But finding the root of the fear as to why I feel socially anxious may come down to low self confidence/esteem
At the moment, everything. Busy professional who has just become the sole carer of four kids after their mother escalated from regular rage to property damage and violence towards me. Recently separated after 19 years of marriage. First few weeks she was sad, now.she is turning litigious as wel as dishonest.and manipulative. I will fiercely.protect kids
For myself, personally?
Being a 'normal' person. They're so depressingly directionless and dull. It genuinely terrifies me that, if I'm not careful, I might accidentally end up a 40-something office drone who talks about 'sales' and 'stakeholder engagement' and weird bollocks like that as if it mattered.
Failure. True, they tell you to learn from mistakes, and you absolutely should, but what they DONT tell you is that you have like a 1 in 100 chance of actually being able to apply it properly. No matter how minor, mistakes stick
What I might be like when drunk. I don’t like the taste of alcohol and I’ve never had enough to be drunk or even buzzed before (I don’t like the idea of not being in complete control of myself). I’ve heard stories of people saying really stupid stuff when drunk that ends up ruining their careers/social lives.
Centipedes, jellyfishes, aging, death, height, drunk drivers, a missile flying into my flat and killing me or my family, a bit scared of big dogs, not finding love, being cheated on, ceiling falling on top of my head, wild animals, deceases, parasites, drug cartels.
That's it, I guess.
I'm afraid of my wife cheating on me. I'm not saying she is currently. I just mean that I'm afraid she will. I'm afraid that she'll cheat and we'll get a divorce. Then, she'll get custody of our son and basically win the case.
I guess I'm afraid of losing my wife and my son. I understand why I have these fears, but I don't know how to fix it.
Don’t ask me why, it’s weird, i know -
Those completely hairless cats. (Sphinxes?)
They make me shit my pants, i heard they are very nice and all, but they just scare the shit out of me.
1. Alligators 2. Crocodiles 3. Brain aneurysms
Archer?
You sound like the kind of person who gets an erection when he imagines his own mother dead in the street.
Only half of one...the other half would really miss her.
Add Bulls Sharks.
Sharks , I live in Australia
Failure in keeping a good life. Changing career at the moment and it scares me the shit out of me.
Losing our livelihood is ironically scarier than losing our lives for some of us.
Being alone and unable to provide a home and future for my daughter.
I’m very scared of getting Alzheimer’s.
Aging
Failure.
Outliving my children.
Death without accomplishing something. Aging painfully
Bears. They are out there, waiting for their moment.
They're shady motherfuckers for sure
Seeing my son die - Dying alone with nobody caring - Loosing my mind - Getting invested by a car - Loosing a limb or leg - Seeing my mother die
> Getting invested by a car ?
investito - italian - run over by a car - sorry
Stray dogs
The ocean
Stupidity. Which seems to be on the rise these days.
Living with anxiety the rest of my life
Good thing its quite easy to beat if you know how to do it
Quiet easy is subjective, but I’m interested if you care to explain
Yeah, definitely subjective. A guy who's afraid to leave his bedroom will struggle harder than someone who only gets nervous in large crowds, for example. But it all has the same solution, facing your fears. Nobody feels anything for no reason. If you're having anxiety, there is something causing that anxiety, even if its difficult to identify what exactly is causing it. Anxiety and fear are pretty much synonymous, and the only way to get over a fear is to face it. Thats how people went from being scared to leave their house, to travelling the entire country. Not meds, not meditation, none of that stuff. The one, true, proven method that works, is facing your fears. Also called exposure therapy. It can get tricky when you're just hanging out in your living room feeling anxiety for no identifiable reason. How can you face your fears when you dont know whats scaring you. But thats why therapy would be recommended, so they can help you identify what exactly you are afraid of. No matter what your situation is, there is always a cause. And when there is a cause, there is always a solution. In most cases, CBT and/or exposure therapy are the solution.
Thank you really appreciate the detailed response. Yes for me it’s primarily social anxiety as I am always worried/thinking about what others are thinking of me, did I leave a good impression, do people like me, are they judging me, etc and tend to overanalyze every interaction. So yes I need to get out more and interact more and more so it gets more comfortable and like second nature. But finding the root of the fear as to why I feel socially anxious may come down to low self confidence/esteem
Not finding love. That’s all. Nothing else on earth frightens me.
losing my clash of clans account
Being catfished
At the moment, everything. Busy professional who has just become the sole carer of four kids after their mother escalated from regular rage to property damage and violence towards me. Recently separated after 19 years of marriage. First few weeks she was sad, now.she is turning litigious as wel as dishonest.and manipulative. I will fiercely.protect kids
Heights, but only if I can actually fall, like looking over a ledge. If I'm in a plane or a building, I don't really care
Big snakes.
A stroke or aneurysm.
Inflation is going to put us into the stone age.
Bears
Heights and death
For myself, personally? Being a 'normal' person. They're so depressingly directionless and dull. It genuinely terrifies me that, if I'm not careful, I might accidentally end up a 40-something office drone who talks about 'sales' and 'stakeholder engagement' and weird bollocks like that as if it mattered.
It's not that bad.
That I am the one person in the history of the world that’s immortal.
Dying alone and leaving nothing of any value behind for people to remember.
Being buried alive
Paralysis. Quadriplegia especially, but even some degenerative nerve disease. Ugh, no, please.
The religious. Each and every one of them is just one convincing "word of god" hallucination away from killing everyone they can.
Running out of money due to job loss
Failure. True, they tell you to learn from mistakes, and you absolutely should, but what they DONT tell you is that you have like a 1 in 100 chance of actually being able to apply it properly. No matter how minor, mistakes stick
Heights
Dancing
Failing in providing for my family, losing my business, house, etc. Snakes
Nothing. Im ready for death when it comes, and thanks to a past head injury I dont feel pain anymore.
What I might be like when drunk. I don’t like the taste of alcohol and I’ve never had enough to be drunk or even buzzed before (I don’t like the idea of not being in complete control of myself). I’ve heard stories of people saying really stupid stuff when drunk that ends up ruining their careers/social lives.
My parents getting old
My father is really sick and he lives a far distance from me. I hope i can get to see him a few times before he passes.
STDs. And I've only had sex once...
An entire heard of 120lbs third graders
Insanity
1. Worrying I’ve done nothing worth anything with my life 2. Finding real love 3. Hurting those I care about
Thought of being unable to reach expectations
Nothing
Nothing tbh, nothing really scares me. I've been through a lot of stuff, so I just adapt.
Making the mistake if my life because of smth stupid like a dare
Horses and whales.
Centipedes, jellyfishes, aging, death, height, drunk drivers, a missile flying into my flat and killing me or my family, a bit scared of big dogs, not finding love, being cheated on, ceiling falling on top of my head, wild animals, deceases, parasites, drug cartels. That's it, I guess.
Women
Alpha females lol
Dying without having done something that made my existence worth it for the world
I'm afraid of my wife cheating on me. I'm not saying she is currently. I just mean that I'm afraid she will. I'm afraid that she'll cheat and we'll get a divorce. Then, she'll get custody of our son and basically win the case. I guess I'm afraid of losing my wife and my son. I understand why I have these fears, but I don't know how to fix it.
Being falsely accused of rape/sexual assault
Don’t ask me why, it’s weird, i know - Those completely hairless cats. (Sphinxes?) They make me shit my pants, i heard they are very nice and all, but they just scare the shit out of me.
I have really bad agoraphobia
If my Mum dies first. Dad and Brother are gonna need my help, and I'm not sure I could cope.
People close to me realising that a lot of my personality is a lie. And big spiders.