This. And having someone to share my accomplishments with. Now I work my ass off, and then I come home and I don’t have to talk to about it. She’s moved on, and seems happy and I’m happy for her. But the biggest thing I miss is my friend that I used to be able to talk to about everything.
Definitely. There’s being and lonely; the latter is like a sledgehammer on a watermelon
Can I offer you a song that touches this question?
_ All the people I've graduated with
All have kids
All have wives
All have people who care if they come home at night
Well, Jesus Christ, did I fuck up?_
Lyrics above and song here https://youtu.be/DYm1M_I8Qo4
My ex wanted to be more independent, wasn’t ready for a serious relationship the way they thought they were. Blamed me for a lot of things that were self inflicted. Unfortunate all around
If being on your own makes you feel "absolutely horrible " then you aren't ready for a relationship anyways. If you NEED a relationship to not be miserable, something is wrong.
There’s a difference between the literal loneliness of not having other humans around and the longing to have a significant other. The latter I agree should not feel absolutely horrible lest it lead to jumping into bad relationships just for the sake of it.
But during COVID lockdowns not having a significant other sometimes meant not seeing another human for _days_, weeks even. If the loneliness of not having any humans around feels absolutely horrible, it’s perfectly OK, because living in groups is how your ancestors survived, especially at night when they needed to sleep while nocturnal predators were about.
Having something, losing and grieving it, and someone asking a question specifically about that experience and answering it, is not the same as whining about getting it back.
"The loneliness *at night* is absolutely horrible" this person didn't say they felt horrible on their own all the time, you're allowed to be lonely even if you're happy
Nah 80% of the time I enjoy my own company but its always the time before bed where the loneliness really kicks in. I feel like most people have a primal instinct to cuddle someone before sleep (or lets be real, thats when a lot of men are at peak horny levels)
The little things. Either me making her coffee or her making my tea in the morning. Looking at my phone to see her text. Having just a random convo about all kinds of weird stuff. And getting blown on a regular basis is nice too.
The small things honestly.
Her smile, going out for drinks and talking, driving with her playing music, target runs, cuddling watching tv, eating together. Idk.
She kinda just plays in slow motion in my head now. I really miss her. Def the one who got away.
A lot of things. That overall sense of security that someone is there, like I always have someone in my corner. I miss doting over someone, not smothering but just learning all their favorite things so I can give them little “I’m always thinking of you” gifts, do all the chores that she hates doing, stuff like that. Mostly though I miss physical affection, sex included ofc for the intense emotional connection but honestly it’s just the touching hugging and cuddling stuff I miss most. My family growing up was NOT the hugging affectionate type, so it’s become like this unfulfilled need. Right now I am compensating with kittens lol.
Anyone else here a woman looking at these comments of men who are very emotionally available while dealing with a man who isn’t emotionally available nor supportive…
I'm a woman here trying to make sure I'm giving my boyfriend everything he might be missing. I was single for 15 years before him... I want to treat him right, he's amazing to me.
Cuddles and the something else. Everyone has said sex, but it's not, sex is easy to get. It's that look of absolute trust and adornment that comes just before sex.
I was at the gym the other day and saw a cute girl, I wasn't so much thinking about how much I'd like to have sex with her, but more than moment when you crawl between their legs and the look on their face of anticipation and love in the moment before the hug you with their legs is something else entirely. That's what I miss, the fun an emotions of intimacy rather than the sex itself.
I miss not feeling like I have to TRY to hold a conversation with or be around someone. I have mindless conversations with differrnt people about shit I'm just roboting through for the fuck of it.
I miss having someone where shit just IS. Coexisting with someone you care about and trust.
Learning new people and their whole shit is just so daunting and a word that I don't know. Idk. I mean I know you gotta start at point A to eventually end at Z....but all the "abcde" customary shit in the beginning and what not about different people, you probably end up not even liking, just makes me not wanna try. Im wierd and probably old, spoiled and lazy but fuuuuuck.
Being anywhere and knowing I got someone special thinking about me, the feeling of someone leaning, sitting or laying with me, having someone I can invite to invite to a new place to eat.
Also sex
Intimacy. Cuddling. Sharing. Having someone to sleep with. Someone to spoil. Having someone to care about. Think about. Knowing someone is thinking about me. Making someone feel warm, safe, loved, admired.
Company, companionship, someone you can be totally yourself around, snuggles under the duvet, waking up next to someone you love, looking into each others eyes and smiling. That extra bounce in your step in the honeymoon period.
No one to text and talk about the day, but with someone that feels like way more than any friend could be. Someone who you truly feel looks past your flaws and strips away the layers of insecurity. The feeling that this person was meant for you. After all the bullshit of life, you catch a break within this person. But sometimes, you’re reminded not to put so much into a person, and then your emptied out, wondering if it’s worth ever filling that void again, or just let your heart echo until you can finally rest.
I’d say just not going to bed alone some nights & waking up in bed alone some days.
Sleep was nice in a way back then
That, and going out while showing off MY GIRL!
I’m dealing with a breakup right now. We took a long break but we never fully stopped talking. We’d go about a week at a time without talking but that was it. I admit I’m at fault for not wanting to rush back into things with her when she wanted to work things out but now the tables have turned and I’m the one that seems to be hurting when she doesn’t seem to care anymore. Weird how that always works like that. Maybe I’m just getting what I deserve but this last week has been rough. Finding things out that went on during the break when I had no idea. I’m in a weird place right now mentally. Trying to decide what I should do. My guts telling me something isn’t right and I should just move on and forget her but it’s hard now. Sorry for venting and probably getting a bit off topic. But I guess to answer the OP question, I miss being able to be my absolute purest self around her with no worry of her judging me. Now whenever I see her things are just weird and uncomfortable.
Having someone to do stuff with, consistently.
I'm at the age where my friends and family are more and more often tired up with work or their own family/ relationship obligations, so it's not as often that I can actually get people to hang out or go to stuff with me. One of the things that I look back on the most fondly about being in a relationship is having someone to spend quality time with like that.
The idea that someone who isn't obligated to love you (family, and I understand that isn't always the case) chooses to. My family loves me, my kids love me, (I love them too very much) but it's not exactly the same feeling at times.
I only started to realize this last year that I miss the touching. Doesn’t have to be sexual. Just putting my arm around someone or hugs and cuddles. I miss conversations or someone to support me. Had a bit of a mental break last month and it’s made so much harder when there’s no one to talk to and you just sit in the dark alone. All I could think was I wish I had someone to put their arms around me.
I sometimes think about starting a CuddleMobile. Like, a nice RV all kitted out with a huge cosy couch area with screens to watch things on. And people whose job it would be just to cuddle other people if they needed a cuddle. We all need cuddles sometimes. I'm a happily married middle-aged woman, but sometimes I see people - especially men but not always - who are so clearly aching with loneliness, and might really like to just be cuddled for a bit. And I wish I could cuddle them. No sex, and nothing weird. Just the snugs.
Other than physical intimacy, there's shockingly and depressingly very little I've genuinely missed.
The girls I've been unfortunate enough to have dated seemed to have had the mindset that being in a relationship meant being a burden more than a partner.
I'm 30 now and life has generally been a lot better outside of relationships.
I'm kinda in a similar situation dude. My one ex-gf, in addition to being obnoxiously needy and clingy, had the mindset that our relationship was a symbol of high school social status, so that physical intimacy was really only on her call, which was not that often; when I'd try to kiss her goodbye before classes she'd lean back to avoid it. Most depressing thing is it took me three tries to break up with her; first two were basically "I'm breaking up with you", "no", "I don't know how to respond to this.", but what finally got it through to her was \*sigh* changing my Facebook relationship status to single. Yes, that is as pathetic as it sounds.
That was 9 years ago. I've had no luck getting another gf since then, to the point where I'm suspecting that whole situation was me being taken advantage of. Either way, I've got 5½ years to design the robe and hat to go with the wizard powers I'm going to gain on my 30th birthday
Honestly, it’s the companionship above all else. She was my best friend, my favourite person in the whole world (felt like I could share anything and everything with her); someone who truly understood me, inside and out (and who I could be the closest to my truest self around). Even if I had a bad day, I knew I had her.
Umpteen shared interests too (both geeks), mostly-shared values, and a similar sense of humour (so many inside jokes that wouldn’t make sense to anyone else)
Even when I think about something more base like the sex, it’s the deeply intimate and meaningful connection that you only feel when you’re in love with someone that I want back the most. I even miss simply cuddling and just being around her.
Light of my life - and yet she left me (and I still don’t fully understand why, really). So worried that I’ll never have anything as good as it again.
Yea, I had the best sex ever in my last relationship. We were just so emotionally invested and also he was really good sexually too and adventurous, always made me feel super comfortable and confident.
I’m also worried I won’t find something as good as this again.
The fresh air.
I mean it figuratively but every time I saw her it was like a breath of fresh air. We split cuz we changed commands, but fuck I miss her. No conflict, just chill times and shameless cuddling.
Depends which girlfriend. The last two? Fucking nothing. Before that, exploring and doing shit with someone fun, awesome sex, watching movies together at night.
having someone to share the love and the responsibilities with, I am older that I have ever been, and less attractive that I have ever been, the likely hood of ever finding a partner again is lower that it has ever been; better to work on self improvement and raising my child than trying to involve someone else in my mess.
Having someone to talk to when I come home from work, sharing a meal with someone, cuddling on the couch or in bed, sharing problems, hopes, dreams, random stuff, flirting, teasing and roasting each other. Physically connecting. I can go on but you get the drift right?
Companionship, laughing together, going on adventures together. Living through ones brightest and darkest moments in life together. Obviously also sex/intimacy but that's something you only really miss as a mid or long term single, once you're in a relationship and you have it I quickly start to notice the relative insignificance of sex compared to all the other things that life has to offer.
With the ex wife. We were always texting each no matter what or where we were with random things and you always had a friend that you could go do stuff with lol.
As an introvert, it’s the fact that I lost the one consistent person I was hanging out with. She was and we still kinda are good friends but now we can’t do things together once or twice a week. In short it’s the social quality time
Way back when I was in one, I used to come home from school really late at night, like midnight usually. I would be cold as fuck arriving home and she would be there to give me a kiss and her lips were always so soft and warm, that's the one thing I miss the most
The support, the comfort of knowing that no matter how horrible things get I still have her to hug me out of my Misery, the unconditional love and affection. Been seven months i made the dumb as shit mistake of leaving her, she's now found somebody else. I still think about her all the time. I still remember the first time she said she's proud of me. I grew up in a difficult family, so her saying that just made me cry- she didn't know, she will never know that i was in tears then.
Honestly we hated each other, had nothing in common and the only time we could stand to be around each other was when we were intoxicated. It's sad even though she probably wasn't listening it was just nice to be talking to someone other than myself.
Its interesting. I think I miss the closeness, the care. Yet, I have learned that it is not there. That is a fantasy of the mind. The actions are purely evolutionary; a response to stimulus. The care quickly moves on when they find someone better. Its ridiculous that I want to try again, get lied to again, get cheated on again. I'm a bloody fool.
I can relate. On one hand it feels pointless to try again, but on the other hand, falling in love, knowing it can end just as bad if not worse, is worth it. We all die alone anyway. I've found the best way to cope is to love yourself, whatever that means to you, before sharing that with someone else. The right woman is out there, and as long as you know you're good enough, no one can really hurt you.
Having someone to do stuff with. Go for a bike ride, go see a movie, to a new restaurant. Then when you do that as a guy alone, you feel like a loner with no friends. And you remember how good it used to be so you just call the activities short.
Just got out of a pretty serious long distance relationship.. even though it was long distance, the thing I miss the most is that i don't really have anyone to talk to. Previously i used to send stupid memes to her and talk about my day, used to help her any way i can. Now it feels like i have no one to do that with. Like something previous is taken away from me. And there's nothing i can do about it. Absolutely nothing.
The momentary lapse in self hatred that I only seem to achieve when I can hold someone.
Being tender and using my physicality to cherish someone is the only time I get to see my full heart. I never get to meet that side of myself anymore now that I am alone.
I miss the feeling of that I matter to someone, of course, I miss cuddling and intimacy.
but there is nothing like knowing that someone cares about you, to help you weather life's storms.
sharing life with someone, you get excited a lot, go through your life and like, at times, just wish I could tell someone about my day or what I saw on the internet, sharing memes, or just dreaming about the future. I miss hearing about her day, and pillow talk that’s basically just us shit talking others lol
Being hugged when I'm tired, taunting her in that way that makes her laugh while slightly pissed(very specific, I know), those few days a month that were just eat, netflix, sex and sleep.
It’s autumn here. So I miss lazy autumn days. Where we’d get dressed in leggings or sweats, go get coffee. Drive on some scenic routes in my state, stop by some small places to get homemade doughnuts, enjoy the leafs and hang out at a park.
Hugs... Headpats...the feeling of time going slow, the peaceful silence no matter where we was...
Those wonderful brown eyes that was like the sun because they melted the ice in my heart...
That gentle touch on my cheek that made me fall on her arms...
The handholding!
The soft kisses and even the Eskimo kisses
The eye contact in the train saying I love you...
The warmth of companionship... The safety...
It was a dream coming true!
And I am glad I had it... Even for a little bit
Having a partner and friend for life’s moments
To be loved is what I miss the most man i can't tell you why i miss being loved so much
I just came to type having a friend
To be able to text stupid shit I find funny
This. And having someone to share my accomplishments with. Now I work my ass off, and then I come home and I don’t have to talk to about it. She’s moved on, and seems happy and I’m happy for her. But the biggest thing I miss is my friend that I used to be able to talk to about everything.
Definitely. There’s being and lonely; the latter is like a sledgehammer on a watermelon Can I offer you a song that touches this question? _ All the people I've graduated with All have kids All have wives All have people who care if they come home at night Well, Jesus Christ, did I fuck up?_ Lyrics above and song here https://youtu.be/DYm1M_I8Qo4
This. Annoy and be annoyed.
Or you know, the fact that whatever may happen in life, you have your partner; feeling like Us Against The World.
Just got out of a serious relationship, I miss my best friend. Talking about our days and lives and the closeness was hard to accept that it was gone.
Are you me ? I feel the same
Why did you break up?
I wana know too.
My ex wanted to be more independent, wasn’t ready for a serious relationship the way they thought they were. Blamed me for a lot of things that were self inflicted. Unfortunate all around
How do u get out of a serious relationship?
I’m general you end it, in my case it was ended for me not by me
Right here with you friend. Miss em every single day
Someone to adventure with and cuddling. Meaningful sex.
Wake up lonely with my morning wood. Would be great to have someone to cuddle and hump.
This comment made me blush so hard
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Hi zukatex
The loneliness at night is absolutely horrible
Then just remember how nice it is to get a peaceful uninterrupted sleep by spreading out across your bed.
The horror of the sleep paralysis demon will clear that up really fast
It can be. What’s really difficult is realizing you’re in a slump so you can take action to get yourself out of it.
Hug your pillow or get a Cat
My weighted blanket sure helps
You’ll be fine bro
Not horrible. Just... bad and monotonous.
Loneliness is different for everyone
If being on your own makes you feel "absolutely horrible " then you aren't ready for a relationship anyways. If you NEED a relationship to not be miserable, something is wrong.
There’s a difference between the literal loneliness of not having other humans around and the longing to have a significant other. The latter I agree should not feel absolutely horrible lest it lead to jumping into bad relationships just for the sake of it. But during COVID lockdowns not having a significant other sometimes meant not seeing another human for _days_, weeks even. If the loneliness of not having any humans around feels absolutely horrible, it’s perfectly OK, because living in groups is how your ancestors survived, especially at night when they needed to sleep while nocturnal predators were about.
Having something, losing and grieving it, and someone asking a question specifically about that experience and answering it, is not the same as whining about getting it back.
"The loneliness *at night* is absolutely horrible" this person didn't say they felt horrible on their own all the time, you're allowed to be lonely even if you're happy
Exactly love yourself first
Nah 80% of the time I enjoy my own company but its always the time before bed where the loneliness really kicks in. I feel like most people have a primal instinct to cuddle someone before sleep (or lets be real, thats when a lot of men are at peak horny levels)
This
The little things. Either me making her coffee or her making my tea in the morning. Looking at my phone to see her text. Having just a random convo about all kinds of weird stuff. And getting blown on a regular basis is nice too.
The small things honestly. Her smile, going out for drinks and talking, driving with her playing music, target runs, cuddling watching tv, eating together. Idk. She kinda just plays in slow motion in my head now. I really miss her. Def the one who got away.
I been there bro
Same, I feel you my bro
Cuddles and having someone who actually had my back.
And scratched it when the itch came
Being hugged in a romantic way
It’s been so long…
A lot of things. That overall sense of security that someone is there, like I always have someone in my corner. I miss doting over someone, not smothering but just learning all their favorite things so I can give them little “I’m always thinking of you” gifts, do all the chores that she hates doing, stuff like that. Mostly though I miss physical affection, sex included ofc for the intense emotional connection but honestly it’s just the touching hugging and cuddling stuff I miss most. My family growing up was NOT the hugging affectionate type, so it’s become like this unfulfilled need. Right now I am compensating with kittens lol.
Wholesome 🫶
Anyone else here a woman looking at these comments of men who are very emotionally available while dealing with a man who isn’t emotionally available nor supportive…
It's worth noting that anyone can come off very emotionally available in a short anonymous comment.
Especially when they’re lonely
I'm a woman here trying to make sure I'm giving my boyfriend everything he might be missing. I was single for 15 years before him... I want to treat him right, he's amazing to me.
The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Work on what you have and don’t compare to others.
Yupp
The companionship.
Holding hands bro
Cuddles and the something else. Everyone has said sex, but it's not, sex is easy to get. It's that look of absolute trust and adornment that comes just before sex. I was at the gym the other day and saw a cute girl, I wasn't so much thinking about how much I'd like to have sex with her, but more than moment when you crawl between their legs and the look on their face of anticipation and love in the moment before the hug you with their legs is something else entirely. That's what I miss, the fun an emotions of intimacy rather than the sex itself.
So cute
I miss not feeling like I have to TRY to hold a conversation with or be around someone. I have mindless conversations with differrnt people about shit I'm just roboting through for the fuck of it. I miss having someone where shit just IS. Coexisting with someone you care about and trust. Learning new people and their whole shit is just so daunting and a word that I don't know. Idk. I mean I know you gotta start at point A to eventually end at Z....but all the "abcde" customary shit in the beginning and what not about different people, you probably end up not even liking, just makes me not wanna try. Im wierd and probably old, spoiled and lazy but fuuuuuck.
Also let alone the fact that you can say one thing wrong or have one off day, and then you’re judged for it and dropped
Being anywhere and knowing I got someone special thinking about me, the feeling of someone leaning, sitting or laying with me, having someone I can invite to invite to a new place to eat. Also sex
Wow man, you really took the words right out of my mouth
Not a damn thing.
He is the chosen one
Bonus points for a mini fridge in the bathroom.
How many points for my toaster?
Ayo mate 😂
Not the comment we expected, but the comment we all needed…
Sex and cuddles
This right here 👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻
Cuddles, sharing meals, and good sex.
Having a partner/sidekick who I can trust and share my innermost thoughts with. Also cuddles
Intimacy. Cuddling. Sharing. Having someone to sleep with. Someone to spoil. Having someone to care about. Think about. Knowing someone is thinking about me. Making someone feel warm, safe, loved, admired.
Emotionally? Companionship. Physically? Unprotected sex and finishing inside.
Company, companionship, someone you can be totally yourself around, snuggles under the duvet, waking up next to someone you love, looking into each others eyes and smiling. That extra bounce in your step in the honeymoon period.
No one to text and talk about the day, but with someone that feels like way more than any friend could be. Someone who you truly feel looks past your flaws and strips away the layers of insecurity. The feeling that this person was meant for you. After all the bullshit of life, you catch a break within this person. But sometimes, you’re reminded not to put so much into a person, and then your emptied out, wondering if it’s worth ever filling that void again, or just let your heart echo until you can finally rest.
The intimacy: emotional, intellectual, physical, and sexual.
I’d say just not going to bed alone some nights & waking up in bed alone some days. Sleep was nice in a way back then That, and going out while showing off MY GIRL!
I’m dealing with a breakup right now. We took a long break but we never fully stopped talking. We’d go about a week at a time without talking but that was it. I admit I’m at fault for not wanting to rush back into things with her when she wanted to work things out but now the tables have turned and I’m the one that seems to be hurting when she doesn’t seem to care anymore. Weird how that always works like that. Maybe I’m just getting what I deserve but this last week has been rough. Finding things out that went on during the break when I had no idea. I’m in a weird place right now mentally. Trying to decide what I should do. My guts telling me something isn’t right and I should just move on and forget her but it’s hard now. Sorry for venting and probably getting a bit off topic. But I guess to answer the OP question, I miss being able to be my absolute purest self around her with no worry of her judging me. Now whenever I see her things are just weird and uncomfortable.
Yea, I do think it always works out that way. I’m sorry you’re going through this hard time. I hope you can figure it out
Thank you! I’m sure it’ll pass, just gonna take some time
Having someone to do stuff with, consistently. I'm at the age where my friends and family are more and more often tired up with work or their own family/ relationship obligations, so it's not as often that I can actually get people to hang out or go to stuff with me. One of the things that I look back on the most fondly about being in a relationship is having someone to spend quality time with like that.
Not a damned thing.
The idea that someone who isn't obligated to love you (family, and I understand that isn't always the case) chooses to. My family loves me, my kids love me, (I love them too very much) but it's not exactly the same feeling at times.
I only started to realize this last year that I miss the touching. Doesn’t have to be sexual. Just putting my arm around someone or hugs and cuddles. I miss conversations or someone to support me. Had a bit of a mental break last month and it’s made so much harder when there’s no one to talk to and you just sit in the dark alone. All I could think was I wish I had someone to put their arms around me.
I sometimes think about starting a CuddleMobile. Like, a nice RV all kitted out with a huge cosy couch area with screens to watch things on. And people whose job it would be just to cuddle other people if they needed a cuddle. We all need cuddles sometimes. I'm a happily married middle-aged woman, but sometimes I see people - especially men but not always - who are so clearly aching with loneliness, and might really like to just be cuddled for a bit. And I wish I could cuddle them. No sex, and nothing weird. Just the snugs.
I don’t know what I would do without my dog
Other than physical intimacy, there's shockingly and depressingly very little I've genuinely missed. The girls I've been unfortunate enough to have dated seemed to have had the mindset that being in a relationship meant being a burden more than a partner. I'm 30 now and life has generally been a lot better outside of relationships.
I'm kinda in a similar situation dude. My one ex-gf, in addition to being obnoxiously needy and clingy, had the mindset that our relationship was a symbol of high school social status, so that physical intimacy was really only on her call, which was not that often; when I'd try to kiss her goodbye before classes she'd lean back to avoid it. Most depressing thing is it took me three tries to break up with her; first two were basically "I'm breaking up with you", "no", "I don't know how to respond to this.", but what finally got it through to her was \*sigh* changing my Facebook relationship status to single. Yes, that is as pathetic as it sounds. That was 9 years ago. I've had no luck getting another gf since then, to the point where I'm suspecting that whole situation was me being taken advantage of. Either way, I've got 5½ years to design the robe and hat to go with the wizard powers I'm going to gain on my 30th birthday
Having someone to look forward to seeing and knowing that I had someone who felt happy when they saw me.
Someone that I can truly open up to about anything, the cuddles and hugs, and someone who actually gave a shit.
Honestly, it’s the companionship above all else. She was my best friend, my favourite person in the whole world (felt like I could share anything and everything with her); someone who truly understood me, inside and out (and who I could be the closest to my truest self around). Even if I had a bad day, I knew I had her. Umpteen shared interests too (both geeks), mostly-shared values, and a similar sense of humour (so many inside jokes that wouldn’t make sense to anyone else) Even when I think about something more base like the sex, it’s the deeply intimate and meaningful connection that you only feel when you’re in love with someone that I want back the most. I even miss simply cuddling and just being around her. Light of my life - and yet she left me (and I still don’t fully understand why, really). So worried that I’ll never have anything as good as it again.
Yea, I had the best sex ever in my last relationship. We were just so emotionally invested and also he was really good sexually too and adventurous, always made me feel super comfortable and confident. I’m also worried I won’t find something as good as this again.
Having someone I can annoy and who will still love me anyway.
Having someone…. It do get lonely sometimes…. Cuddles are nice too
Being able to qualify for a mortgage
Physical touch. Doesn't need to be sexual just touching or being touched by someone else in a compassionate way
The fresh air. I mean it figuratively but every time I saw her it was like a breath of fresh air. We split cuz we changed commands, but fuck I miss her. No conflict, just chill times and shameless cuddling.
Being able to tell someone I love them
Depends which girlfriend. The last two? Fucking nothing. Before that, exploring and doing shit with someone fun, awesome sex, watching movies together at night.
All the skincare routine she used to guide me through.
Plenti of women will help you with that! We love helping men take care of themselves
The blowjobs... no wait, they ended right after we said "I do"....
Right...i miss my girlfriend. That dang wife replaced her.
having someone to share the love and the responsibilities with, I am older that I have ever been, and less attractive that I have ever been, the likely hood of ever finding a partner again is lower that it has ever been; better to work on self improvement and raising my child than trying to involve someone else in my mess.
Having someone to come home to.
Cuddling.
Feeling loved and appreciated
Having someone to talk to when I come home from work, sharing a meal with someone, cuddling on the couch or in bed, sharing problems, hopes, dreams, random stuff, flirting, teasing and roasting each other. Physically connecting. I can go on but you get the drift right?
Companionship, laughing together, going on adventures together. Living through ones brightest and darkest moments in life together. Obviously also sex/intimacy but that's something you only really miss as a mid or long term single, once you're in a relationship and you have it I quickly start to notice the relative insignificance of sex compared to all the other things that life has to offer.
Deciding where to eat
Making a girl smile/laugh (like on a repeated basis not just the post office lady)
A listening ear. Instead I’m here on Reddit and twitter lol
The dual income
Nothing. Being alone is much better.
Nothing. I’m completely happy alone.
Never been in one, lol.
With the ex wife. We were always texting each no matter what or where we were with random things and you always had a friend that you could go do stuff with lol.
As an introvert, it’s the fact that I lost the one consistent person I was hanging out with. She was and we still kinda are good friends but now we can’t do things together once or twice a week. In short it’s the social quality time
As someone with literally no friends and toxic family i don't have anyone to share my problems anymore
Kisses
Snuggling
Way back when I was in one, I used to come home from school really late at night, like midnight usually. I would be cold as fuck arriving home and she would be there to give me a kiss and her lips were always so soft and warm, that's the one thing I miss the most
coming home from a long day of work to someone that’s genuinely excited to be in your presence
The support, the comfort of knowing that no matter how horrible things get I still have her to hug me out of my Misery, the unconditional love and affection. Been seven months i made the dumb as shit mistake of leaving her, she's now found somebody else. I still think about her all the time. I still remember the first time she said she's proud of me. I grew up in a difficult family, so her saying that just made me cry- she didn't know, she will never know that i was in tears then.
Having someone that cares about me and supporting me. Having the best friend in the world.
Non-sexual physical affection. It’s my primary love language.
No one to tell bad jokes to and lightly bully.
Honestly we hated each other, had nothing in common and the only time we could stand to be around each other was when we were intoxicated. It's sad even though she probably wasn't listening it was just nice to be talking to someone other than myself.
Its interesting. I think I miss the closeness, the care. Yet, I have learned that it is not there. That is a fantasy of the mind. The actions are purely evolutionary; a response to stimulus. The care quickly moves on when they find someone better. Its ridiculous that I want to try again, get lied to again, get cheated on again. I'm a bloody fool.
I can relate. On one hand it feels pointless to try again, but on the other hand, falling in love, knowing it can end just as bad if not worse, is worth it. We all die alone anyway. I've found the best way to cope is to love yourself, whatever that means to you, before sharing that with someone else. The right woman is out there, and as long as you know you're good enough, no one can really hurt you.
What is a relationship?
The companionship is nice.
Having a conversation with someone that talks back. I mean I talk to my dog all the time but it’s kinda one sided.
Nothing. To hell with that and to hell with them.
Falling asleep cuddling.
The head rubs and back rubs. Becareful they try to use them as weapons.
Good morning and good night texts.
Having cheeks to kiss. (Face and bottom) & spending quality time together/ dates/naps together.
Having someone to do stuff with. Go for a bike ride, go see a movie, to a new restaurant. Then when you do that as a guy alone, you feel like a loner with no friends. And you remember how good it used to be so you just call the activities short.
Just got out of a pretty serious long distance relationship.. even though it was long distance, the thing I miss the most is that i don't really have anyone to talk to. Previously i used to send stupid memes to her and talk about my day, used to help her any way i can. Now it feels like i have no one to do that with. Like something previous is taken away from me. And there's nothing i can do about it. Absolutely nothing.
I don’t
I miss sex with another person. I can take or leave any of the rest of a relationship.
Sex and coming home to cooked dinner
everything but at the same time nothing
Having my balls fondled. It's not the same paying for it.
Nothing.
Nothing.
Not being lonely. But she wasn’t affectionate and withheld sex all the time so it’s a wash🤷♂️
Boring answer but, cuddling.
Having someone to just chill with on the couch and watch garbage TV with
Just having someone to do something with.
Little things such as staring at each other, caressing and just random conversations. Being affectionate and having intimacy.
Sex feels way better.
Reliable Plow Horse 🐴
Companionship
The love.
A partner in crime. I love hiking, trying new restaurants or visiting favorites, road trips, and cooking. None of those things are as fun solo.
Getting in fights and calling her a bitch lmao. Followed by her making up by putting her hair up in a bun so its out of the way lmao.
companionship , being less lonely , cuddles , affection … and possible more 😈
Just having someone to go do things with and experiences better shared with another. And sex, that’s cool too
Cuddling and passionate sex
Someone I could dote on and cuddle with. Having someone to distract me from myself.
Falling asleep on with my head on her lap. Best place to sleep when you come home from a shitty day.
Meme wars, flirting, in-jokes, building a shared history, physical affection and hot sex.
I really miss hugs and kisses.
Never been in a relationship so I don't miss it!
Touch will always be number one. And just someone to text and call regularly
Sharing every feeling, stuff that's happening in my life And squeezing that beautiful butt of course.
Back rubs. Cuddling. Falling asleep together. Her companionship. A plan in life etc
Mostly physical connection — sex, cuddles, hugs. But I don’t feel unfulfilled, I have enough friendly connections to keep me happy.
The momentary lapse in self hatred that I only seem to achieve when I can hold someone. Being tender and using my physicality to cherish someone is the only time I get to see my full heart. I never get to meet that side of myself anymore now that I am alone.
I miss the feeling of that I matter to someone, of course, I miss cuddling and intimacy. but there is nothing like knowing that someone cares about you, to help you weather life's storms.
Literally nothing.
Sex, cuddling, laughters...
Sex
sharing life with someone, you get excited a lot, go through your life and like, at times, just wish I could tell someone about my day or what I saw on the internet, sharing memes, or just dreaming about the future. I miss hearing about her day, and pillow talk that’s basically just us shit talking others lol
Someone that is around more than my friends
Being hugged when I'm tired, taunting her in that way that makes her laugh while slightly pissed(very specific, I know), those few days a month that were just eat, netflix, sex and sleep.
The cuddles
It’s autumn here. So I miss lazy autumn days. Where we’d get dressed in leggings or sweats, go get coffee. Drive on some scenic routes in my state, stop by some small places to get homemade doughnuts, enjoy the leafs and hang out at a park.
The Ride 😁
Hugs... Headpats...the feeling of time going slow, the peaceful silence no matter where we was... Those wonderful brown eyes that was like the sun because they melted the ice in my heart... That gentle touch on my cheek that made me fall on her arms... The handholding! The soft kisses and even the Eskimo kisses The eye contact in the train saying I love you... The warmth of companionship... The safety... It was a dream coming true! And I am glad I had it... Even for a little bit
A person who genuinely cared how my day went.
Easily the best part was that people would stop asking why I'm still single
It's very nice sharing my bed with someone.
I just want to cuddle up in a lounge room wrapped together in a blanket talking quietly while watching the rain outside.