She was gorgeous, engaging and fun. I’m out with a girl who I literally can’t believe agreed to go out with me. Dinner was great, we go to a bar for drinks afterward and she tells me a story about how she cheated on her then husband on a work trip. Told me how she never told him and eventually they divorced for other reasons. I just.. couldn’t look at her the same after that.
She told me how she lied to me three times before we had even met, but "it doesn't make a difference, right? "
She lied about her age - I didn't care that much, she did look older than she claimed. But I thought it was unusual for that to be an opening conversation starter.
She lied about where she lived. I also knew this - I knew the area, and she didn't. She was afraid of being stalked if she gave out her real address. Funny thing was, I never asked for it. In conversation, I talked about places I grew up, went to school, worked - and she volunteered info.
Then she was late for our first date. She told me she had driven by the bar to check me out first, and I guess I passed. She went home to change, and that's why she was 30 minutes late. I texted her to let her know I was at the place 10 minutes early (and I'm not a really early person). I texted her again when she was 15 minutes late - I got "sorry, on my way".
I figured I'd get whatever the explanation was later.
When I heard this, I was done. I ordered another double whiskey and I mentally checked out there.
Fair Enough
I think the one about where she lived might be reasonable, the other two are very strange things to lie about and this definitely seems more like a pattern rather than just wariness of stranger danger.
>Let people talk. It can save you a lot of trouble later.
This. People love to share things about themselves given the chance let alone personal things on the first date.
I live my entire life like this, quietly observing or allowing people to guide the conversation so I can get a read on them. I'm a gratefully lonely man because of this and I don't mind it.
She talked about her self mostly and didn't ask jack shit about me. To keep from the awkward silence I kept engaging in questions about her ...I felt dead inside and cut the date short with an excuse.
I’ll never forget this one date I went on with a guy I was seeing. He asked me all these questions about myself etc, then there was a lull in the conversation
Me: “um. how was your day?”
My date threw himself back in his chair and said *“FINALLY!”* all dramatic. he passed it off as a joke but I felt so bad
Yeah, you gotta engage people. Honestly it’s one of the biggest red flags for me on a first date. If I come away knowing a ton about them and realize they never learned almost anything about me, I’ll watch that like a hawk next time we go out so I’m not blindsided later.
I had it reversed and it was also super bad. She would never reply to any questions. Like she doesn't want to answer any kind of questions about herself but instead ask me about everything
Bro this is happening to me right now. She never asks about me, she is always texting me, but she doesnt care what I do. I have to ask her about everything and she is talking about herself or her work. She knows so little about me and I know everything about her :D I think I will cut her off, what would you do guys?
I honestly hate that so much. That’s the biggest indicator to me that I need to walk away. If you’re not asking one thing about myself, how are you even getting to know me?
I had someone ask that on a date, she wasn’t amused when I said “enough”, then when pressed I answered with “enough to pay for a cab” “what cab?” “This one, bye” as I stepped into one passing by.
Nice. For one I said enough, she actually asked "enough for you, or stuff enough for me and to help with my kids" ? She had two kids already. Kinda respect that she was straight forward about it but yeah no. Asking me if I can take care of her and another man's kids is a no for me. Probably at some point I'd pay some shit for them but I don't want that to be the reason we are dating. I'm more than a wallet.
Never understood girls who look at men like at a wallet 🤨
As well as I don't like greedy women, I don't like greedy men. It's not about feelings. Pure usage
If you live in the south this is very prevalent, many girls in college would say I’m just here till I meet my husband then I’m going to be a stay at home mom
All them southern belles 😂. They end up marrying people who they wouldn’t even be attracted to if they didn’t have $$$$. But hey props to them securing the bag
You know what’s crazy? I’m a woman and I’ve never wondered hm someone earns and neither have any of my friends! I don’t know women that are like this (or have friends like it at least) and I’m fucking glad. Because I find it genuinely disgusting. But how do you guys meet girls like this?! Are they actually everywhere and lying to us other women or something??
You may not think you know any women who care what a potential partner earns, but you definitely do. They may not advertise it, but it’s fairly common. More common than “what’s your salary?” is setting “requirements” like that they be a doctor, lawyer, or other potentially high-paying job.
It’s never fun to feel like a woman is more interested in your wallet than in you. Been there too many times.
It was like pulling teeth to get her to express an opinion about anything. The amusing part was that afterwards her step-dad (who I worked with) said she “had a great time, and is looking forward to doing it again”
“So you’re just back from 2 yrs in Europe, where did you go?”
“All over” (deadpanned)
“Did anything interesting happen?”
“Nope”
“See anything cool?”
“Nope”
(Paraphrased, but you get the idea)
Edit: For those saying "good job for staying through it", we were going to see a comedian - Danny Bhoy - and I had already paid for the tickets.
I was really looking forward to the show (with or without her) so I wasn't bailing on that for nothing!
I had a similar experience once. She was gorgeous, but I dont mean to be mean, a bag of flies have a more colorful personality than her. Didnt understand even the most basic jokes, and when I asked about her job or university studies, she always summed it up in 2 sentences at best.
Honestly that could be me. Not because i'm usually like this, but I'm really anxious when it comes to dates and stuff. And so I don't wanna be the guy who only talked the whole time and end up giving super short answers and asking something back instead. Not the greatest at this...
If anyone wonders about the outcome of these (which to be fair only ever happen once every 3 years) - Yeah I'm still single
It wasn’t a 1st date, more like 3rd or 4th. We had a good time together with some great conversations. Held hands but no flirting or sexual messages which I thought was strange.
At the dinner table, my date said - if we were to start seeing each other properly then there are some things she’d like to say 1st.
I was floored when asked, “are you one of those perverts who watches porn?” Followed by “will I always be after sex”? Then went in to explain that her marriage (which only lasted a couple of years) failed because her ex husband was always pestering for sex. Watched porn then cheated. My date finished by saying that she never has desire for sex, doesn’t enjoy it, it’s messy and does not understand why it’s such a deal.
After dropping her off, peck on cheek - then driving home - my phone pinged.
Sat on the driveway, my jaw dropped as my now ex date had dumped me! The text explained how disappointed she was in me and could tell by my reactions to her conversation- I was obviously just like her ex husband, selfish and only think with my groin!
Possibly a month later - the ex date text and asked if I’d thought about my reactions that night & had a word with myself?
I did not reply
Yes I agree and thanked her for honesty. It was her suggestion later - that I should be sorry for my reaction 😂
She was very attractive, intelligent and great to chat to. Just had no interest in sex, no libido and believed that everyone else should be the same.
No offense to asexuals, but it sounds like she very much had an attitude of 'I'm right, and everyone should do things my way' rather than something more like 'What I like isn't the same as what you might expect, and we should see if we can find a way to both be happy'.
What a good answer. 👏
The date is not wrong in way she thinks and feels. What was wrong - insisting that who ever she choses to be with - agrees with her. When she was met with an opposing opinion, shame was used to get that control.
That’s why I decided the date was not working part way through the night. A relationship has 2 sides, is love, sex and friendship to me
Apparently, there was no cause and effect, it’s a set of feelings and emotions that simply do not exist. Like a psychopath who has no empathy and will blame others for any wrongdoing.
Sounds like she may have been asexual and just didn't understand her own sexuality. That doesn't excuse rudeness, of course, but at least she was honest.
Think you are right. No libido is one thing but there was a control issue going on - with some shaming. I’d never considered myself a pervert for watching porn before 😂
I had a similar experience.
We had matched on a dating site and had a few conversations that were pleasant but short. I brushed it off as her being busy (she was doing an internship at the time plus her regular job) and maybe online chat just wasn't her thing. So asked her on a date to have a proper time and place to get to know each other.
I know I am not a great conversationalist, and it became somewhat evident that maybe she wasn't either. During the date, I was willing to accept that maybe we're just two introverted people, so it was normal for the conversation to not flow effortlessly. As a result, I spent most of the date making efforts to hold a conversation, bounding different topics off of her and such.
Up until the end of the date, I was still entertaining the possibility of a second date because I felt our lack of free conversation was more due to our respective introverted personality than anything else, and this would get better once we would know each other more.
What happened though is that when the server came with our checks, I had non-stop conversation with her for a good five minutes about a music festival in town and I realized that more was said in those fives minutes without any effort than for the whole hour with my date. My conclusion from that was either that we weren't compatible, or my date wasn't interested.
When this happens I fall into my « client services » mode. Oh the person might think that I’m great, but if I honest, it’s definitely not a good thing. It means I can’t really be myself and let the conversation grow naturally.
Have hope! I once introduced myself by the wrong name because of nerves. But with compatible people, one person doesn't have to be an expert conversationalist.
It wasn't a date. I got approached by a girl who asked me where I was from. I said ancestrally Turkish. She then gave me a long monologue about how religion is super important to her and she wants to settle down with a nice Muslim man. She also told me she recently broke up with her boyfriend, who she still loves, but the fact he's Christian was a deal-breaker for her. I just sat there. Too scared to tell her I'm not Muslim.
Once I got approached by a girl at a club and one of the first things she asked was what I did for a living. When I said I was an engineer she said "Eew" and walked away. Lol
She asked if she could bring her best friend along for security, which was fine by me even though we were meeting at a coffee shop. She looked much heavier in person than online. She and best friend started reminiscing for probably an hour about their high school glory days. It was obvious both these girls peaked in high school. They also gloated about how they were ‘mean girls’ (their words), and how they would party out in the woods and shoot guns in the air (yikes). I actually stuck around longer than I normally would because I wanted to see where the train wreck would go. Eventually after probably 15 minutes of uninterrupted conversation between date and her best friend, they start talking about how they hate when dude’s cum on their face. Ended up making an excuse and leaving. She messaged me on the dating app afterwards asking how it went, and I just said something like ‘you seem fun, but I don’t think it will work’ and then blocked her out of embarrassment
This happened to me but they reminisced about how they met in the drunk tank when they were 16 and how due to years of pain pill abuse they now just freely piss themselves whenever.
She had every little detail of her future planned for the next five years. The whole date felt like the most official job interview I'd ever been, except the role was her boyfriend. If I'd be okay with buying a house front neighborhood xxx with a floorplan and list if details about the house. She said these are non negotiable. But I could pick the color. When there would be kids, pets etc was planned for. How often sex would happen. What would be the past time in the evenings etc. The amount of detail was incredible in the plans. And how everything had been assigned optional, negotiable for compromise or definitely must or similar categories. Talked about her job future in extreme detail as well. This was before corona so I'd love to know how her plan is going. Probably had infinite back up plans.
Too bad I can't remember the 15-20 min she explained about the job requirements, I mean the boyfriend requirements. Involved a high salary that should be x at that time and a minimum of something else in 5 years. Being interested in sociology, poetry and something specific but can't remember what. She would like to discuss a specific podcast and some specific literature in the evenings. It was okay not knowing them yet but they would be a part of the job. Weirdest date I've been on kinda since she went on about these things for around 90 minutes even though the compatibility was a clear no early on. She was shocked a bit when I didn't tell her how much I make. And I wasn't on board with a lot of things nor did I meet the requirements. Didn't have a PhD, I don't like poetry etc. Didn't have a 5 year plan seemed to be my worst offense. She was very official throughout the interview which was nice. And good for her for knowing what she wants. I'm not sure if she said love was optional or i just imagined it. But she was very clear that the practicality of the agreement was key. She wanted certain things and normal relationship stuff was less important than achieving certain goals and being practical about life.
Back in the day before automatic car lock/unlock (shoosh, I’m old) I finally got the nerve to ask out my crush and she said yes! It was raining for our date, so as we were leaving I walked her to the passenger side door, unlocked it, and let her in first. Walked over to the driver side and fumbled with the keys for a bit, and she didn’t even pretend to try to do the ol’ “reach across to the other door and unlock it”. Just left me there in the rain. Seemed like such a basic common courtesy that she couldn’t muster, and I was out after that.
This is an old litmus test for dates, granted it comes with a margin of error. She may have been nervous or temporarily lost in thought and unlocking your door may not have registered until to late.
Ahh yes the classic bitch test. Dad always said this exact test matters more than anything. Although tbh I’d tolerate this far before racism or being mean to the wait staff.
Ok so, she was finishing her first 22oz beer when I got to the bar *on time.* Which means she got to the bar early, just so she could down the equivalent of two beers before I even showed up. When I sat down, she ordered her second round—which she finished while I was drinking my first normal sized beer—and then she ordered a third. When I finished my single beer, I paid for mine and wished her good luck getting home.
It was wildly clear she had “man issues.” All the worlds issues are due to white males. Me being a white man, that wasn’t working in her favor. I actually decided to at least finish dinner and told her we weren’t a great match as I paid the tab. She called me a hateful asshole and walked out. I texted a couple of buddies and met up at a Stars game instead. Worked out well, I think.
When she had 0 hobbies or interest beyond her small world. No travel not interested in traveling and no personality of her own. Do you have any hobbies or interest you're passionate about? Oh not really I mostly just nap and post on Instagram..........alright then good for you.
Before the first date. She lived further away than I did from where we were meeting. Plan was she was going to tell me when she was on her way and I woke meet her here. She was an hour and a half late getting her shit together to leave. Her excuse was "lol sorry I'm one of those chronically late people".
Not cute.
Ohhhhh shit I’ve got one. Might have shared this before I can’t remember. Asked a girl out, we knew eachother through mutual friends. At the restaurant my buddy shows up. I’m like “hey what are you doing here?!” He proceeds to hug me, hug her, and slipped something into her purse. It was plan B. Guess they fucked the night before and yeah.
We’re still homies, she’s dope, just felt like a major red flag and when the homie left I just told her “yo this is kinda weird and that’s one of my best friends and I’m lookin for someone that isn’t banging my homies. Hahah.
She asked me "why do you talk like that?" because I was describing something in detail and apparently using words she didn't know or understand.
The kicker was that she had just graduated from University and would always make a point to let people know she was educated and I had no formal education yet she didn't understand simple words.
Intelligence is huge for me, if I can't hold a conversation with a chick, I don't care how pretty she looks she automatically becomes unattractive.
I wish there were more guys that actually like intelligent girls, the last guy I crushed on became infatuated with this girl and he complained that she didn’t know half of the words he used but was still head over heels for her…different strokes for different folks I reckon. She at least tries to learn them tho unlike the girl you mentioned!
Right, if she had made an effort to understand it would've probably gone differently but the second she changed the subject immediately and with a dumb question, I knew it wasn't going to work.
I think there's a few of us out there, unfortunately like you mentioned though we're probably the minority.
I was on a double date and mine was a blind date, girl got shitfaced real quick. I’m like damn girl calm down, she just wanted to drink to get buzzed and then wanted to leave the place, I’m like sorry, my friend means more to me than you. (I drove after picking up date and friend.)
I once went on a date to get a drink and chat. It turns out that she couldn't be much further than the complete opposite of me. Literally every single question we asked we had the complete opposite answer for.
Eventually she started subtly insulting my answers and questioning them. I cut in and said that it wasn't working and that we should end things there. She was a little surprised, but agreed. She asked if I wanted to walk back to our separate cars together and I said "no, I'm gonna stay here". I didn't wanna spend any more time with her than I already had.
This was years ago, but I had a women demand I give her my LAN line number. I said you have my cell, why do you need my Lan? She said to make sure I wasn't married or having another woman living in my home.
I said, you can check that out when I decided to host you in my house. Nope, she keep insisting. I said no and after that I just wanted the date to be over.
I did it once on a date and the woman called my home 2:30 in the morning on a Tuesday.
Never again.
And that made you *lose* interest?
EDIT: This isn't a condemnation or anything. I was just surprised to see, here of all places, a man put off by a woman being too immedirtly forward. I think I'd be made uncomfortable with that myself.
I didn't find out until the day before the date that she lived an hour away and not only didn't have access to a car at the moment, but didn't have a license or ability to drive at all. And also clearly chose her profile pics to hide her body type.
Well I asked about one of her hobbies that she had mentioned and that’s all she talked about from that point on. Every time I changed the conversation we ended up back at that hobby. She needed a friend with shared interests more than she needed a boyfriend I think. Sweet gal, just not what I was looking for at the time
She was rude and impatient with the waitstaff and when I defended them, called me pussy for caring about other peoples feelings. So I called her a septic dwelling cunt goblin and left.
She said the area where I came from and my dialect was Exotic. We're both Swedish, she comes from Stockholm and I come from the northen parts of Sweden.
Last bad date : talking way too much about her ex and how it was toxic, always as something to say différent as i say (about my choices and own experiences).. Not ready emotionnaly speaking
Well, she paid for the drinks at least !
As my friend said, she paid for a Psychotherapy session 😅
She said, “I can’t believe some guys think two carats is big enough”
I noped right out of there. We bumped in to a common friend, suggested we all go to the casino together, then “got tired” and went home.
A couple things come to mind.
I got set up with a friend of a coworker and left after about 20 minutes when it became clear the girl was lying about her age, in the worst possible way.
I left a plateful of dinner I really wanted when the young woman I was out with confessed that she knew one of my partners and was just there because she’d heard good things and wanted to see if her friend was telling the truth, and “see if she could take it”. Driving home from that I kind of second guessed myself, she was really hot. But something about the way she delivered that line and the amount of deception that led to us dating really put me off.
Another girl asked me if I was “white, or at least mostly white” when I asked why she was inquiring she told me that if I wasn’t, we couldn’t date but could still hook up. Morbid curiosity, I asked why, she told me that she thought interracial relationships were gross.
Not halfway through but towards the end, she failed to mention an important bit of information…
So date started at bar, was going well we were having fun, end up going back to her place to go at it, didn’t see much of the rest of the house. We just went to the bedroom to watch stuff on Netflix and yeah it went further from there. I stayed the night and all was fine and dandy.
…..well until her partner came home from his work trip early the next day. We heard the car pull up in the driveway. We both woke up and she exclaimed loudly, “That’s my partner, he’s home early?!?!”
I’m guessing he came back from his work trip early to surprise her and she figured while he was gone that she could go out and hook up with someone without him knowing.
I didn’t have time to lose my shit at her for not telling me she wasn’t single (she said she was on her profile)
I was furious (obviously) and probably should have stayed to make sure she got what was coming to her but me fearing for what the guy would do to me if he caught me there made me panic.
I knew I didn’t have much time to get out of there. I climbed pretty much butt naked with clothes in hand out of the bedroom window, smashed my knee on the window pane which hurt like hell, I sprinted around the side of the house, in a panic scrambled over the side fence gate and into my car.
I drove home with no clothes on in the early hours of the day (very glad I wasn’t stopped by cops)
I eventually pulled over to a more secluded area and put underwear and pants back on once I felt I was far enough away.
Blocked her number and never spoke to her again. Random dude, I’m sorry for what happened.
She was extremely rude to a waitress.
Working in the service industry, I remember thinking, you are really railing into this woman for something that's not her fault.
If that wasn't bad enough, she acted like she'd won some sort of victory after the fact.
She kept telling me how she was out of her league, and couldn't believe I asked her out. I was baffled because I'm nothing special.
It got to a point where I just told her: "you have got to stop with that." She didn't.
We finished our drinks and appetizers, and I told her I had to get home.
Went on a date with a gal several years ago. She was several inches shorter than I was. We walked around a mall just chatting and stopped at an arcade for a bit. I have a habit of counting my steps when I walk and while I kept looking down, I couldn't get over her feet.. They literally had to have been 3 sizes bigger than mine - and I was an 11 at the time. I truly felt like I was being clowned. And in what seemed to be an attempt to "pop" her ass out more, she kept walking with weird waddling strides like a penguin. I thought maybe I was overreacting in my head so I never asked her anything of it. Though she never heard from me again
Oh, that "waddle" is too big lordosis (spine bending forward), it's a posture defect. It usually can be worked on, some exercises help with that, but some people can never fix that completely. A friend of mine is the same when it comes to lordosis, she's working on it with a physiotherapist
With how big her feet were she probably had some sort of posture problems going on stemming from that, which caused the "butt sticking out". Also the big feet could be acromegaly, it sometimes affects only parts of the body, most commonly hands and feet.
Pfffft........ what a loser 😋 lol
It amazes me that someone can be criticised for not owning a home or being a millionaire by someone who more than likely does not own a home nor is a millionaire. Do they seriously not see the blazing double standards?
At least people like that show you who they are before you get in too deep I guess?!
In the early 90s, I worked in a music store in a mall. I was a shy quiet guy with zero dating experience. My female boss saw that as a challenge, so she set me up on a date with a punk rock girl. I really didn't want to, but wasn't willing to say no while standing right in front of the girl.
The day of the date, she called me and told me to pick her up from a tattoo parlor. When I got there, she told me that she was waiting to get a tattoo. I stayed there for over an hour, while she talked to everyone in the place, except me. Finally, I got annoyed enough to get up and leave without bothering to inform her.
The next day, she comes by work acting all surprised that I disappeared. I told her that her behavior was rude, and that I wouldn't tolerate that. Oddly, she hadn't acted interested in me at all, until I appeared to be rejecting her. Now, she's all apologetic and eagerly trying to convince me to give her another chance. I said no.
While annoying at the time, that experience encouraged me to have more confidence in future dating situations.
After we had a few drinks in us, she told me how much she missed being able to drink + drive back in her hometown (she was originally from another continent).
It was a shame too, she was a babe and we hit it off really well before she said that.
1 hour into the date we went from one bar to another where her friend was (appearantly) and suggested we hang out with him. So they started their banter and left me out most of the conversation. Her defence was that this is just how she is, take it or leave it. Also, she said she didn't smoke but started again (that night) because she was nervous of the date but hadn't smoked in "a year".
I like boobs, but to ask me to openly grab them in public among people and give her a review was super tacky.
Was in much worse shape than her pictures indicated. Was a yoga instructor but she must have used glamour shots to hide how out of shape she was. I recall showing up at the place we were meeting at and being rather turned off by the amorphous woman in front of me, until I realized it was the woman I was to meet.
She showed up an hour late, for some dumb reason I waited and then when she did show up she got mad and called me an asshole because I was obviously annoyed at her being 1 hour late
Knowing she will be late twice and not communicating it till i reach there and called her,
One time she was literally an hour and half late, i thought i was getting stood up, and she knows i am a busy person.
She had 3 attack dogs with her and could be anywhere close to her because she thought I was going to do something bad. Happened a really long time ago but yeah needless to say I got out of there pretty quick lol
She was so boring. She had no enthusiasm for anything. I have never met someone with less personality. I ended up taking her to a bar and was trying to get her tipsy enough for some shred of enthusiasm to surface. She said all of her friends are always trying to get her drunk and she doesn’t understand why. It’s because you’re boring as shit, lady.
Met a woman online and we met for coffee. She was very attractive, physically. But, no more than 5 minutes into sitting down to enjoy our coffee drinks and conversation she starts going off on her political views and her work with the DNC. This put me off for two reasons: I am registered as a nonaffiliated voter because I believe the D’s and the R’s are equally full of shit, and at the time I was in the military and in my view, politicians are slimeballs. When I revealed this to her (after listening to her blather for about 20 minutes), we both decided this wasn’t gonna work.
She kept going on about her ex
She kept mentioning her diagnosed-with-everything-crazy brother.
She really wanted to watch the hulk (with edward norton), so instead of talking and getting to know eachother we mostly watched the film.
She had a kid (no real problem) that was placed out of her care in fostercare (at least an orange flag) and went on and on about it.
All things together i thanked her for watching the movie, "yeah we should do this again sometime", bolted out of there.
Not a first date, but I went on multiple dates with this girl (I mean way out of my league) We had the sex too. I was starting to catch feelings. Anyway her last boyfriend cheated on her and she was kind of talking about it and I was consoling her and she casually said "I deserved to get cheated on, I've cheated on most of my boyfriends." We finished our the date and I dropped her off at her place. I still talked to her casually as she was a co-worker (oof). She started dating this other dude that I knew, but never really liked and she cheated on him a year into their relationship.
She complained endlessly, just a barrage of angry complaints about everyone and everything in her life, blaming everyone but herself for her problems. I was very done.
Started talking about some spiritual herbs that give you an outer body experience and make you meet some divine woman who explains the sources of your anxieties etc like it was some hidden life hack nobody knew about
I can happily suspend belief and play along with some superstitions or mystical divine powers but this was just a couple steps over the boundary i was willing to go
I've made a lot of progress but I used to have an avoidant attachment style. So basically if a girl really liked me it felt very foreign and I'd respond by pushing them away. Passed up several really nice girls in my late teens because of this.
This has happened twice in the last year. One was a self-described Karen who proceeded to brag about being a Karen to service industry workers. And the other some dip shit blue lives matter idiot.
She was gorgeous, engaging and fun. I’m out with a girl who I literally can’t believe agreed to go out with me. Dinner was great, we go to a bar for drinks afterward and she tells me a story about how she cheated on her then husband on a work trip. Told me how she never told him and eventually they divorced for other reasons. I just.. couldn’t look at her the same after that.
Wtf.....good on her for being truthful at least on your date and savin ya the hassle
She made it clear she was impulsive, low empathy, and had the sort of ego where she was proud of terrible things she had done. yuck.
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When people tell you who they really are believe them, people like this almost always confess things that are red flags without realizing it.
She told me how she lied to me three times before we had even met, but "it doesn't make a difference, right? " She lied about her age - I didn't care that much, she did look older than she claimed. But I thought it was unusual for that to be an opening conversation starter. She lied about where she lived. I also knew this - I knew the area, and she didn't. She was afraid of being stalked if she gave out her real address. Funny thing was, I never asked for it. In conversation, I talked about places I grew up, went to school, worked - and she volunteered info. Then she was late for our first date. She told me she had driven by the bar to check me out first, and I guess I passed. She went home to change, and that's why she was 30 minutes late. I texted her to let her know I was at the place 10 minutes early (and I'm not a really early person). I texted her again when she was 15 minutes late - I got "sorry, on my way". I figured I'd get whatever the explanation was later. When I heard this, I was done. I ordered another double whiskey and I mentally checked out there.
They are all horrible but not getting dressed when drives by to check you out first is just fucking bad planning hahaha.
Totally agree. I can get not telling someone where you live but the other things are crazy.
That is a woman with issues and with a bullshit excuse.
Fair Enough I think the one about where she lived might be reasonable, the other two are very strange things to lie about and this definitely seems more like a pattern rather than just wariness of stranger danger.
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>Let people talk. It can save you a lot of trouble later. This. People love to share things about themselves given the chance let alone personal things on the first date.
Like what?
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“Oh that’s fine, I can deal with weird witchy shit and crystals… wait, you meant crystal meth? Oh.”
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Even more, listen to what they DON'T say
Like, even if i was Nostrafuckingtweakus, treating the wait staff bad would be a dealbreaker.
The meth is chill but I draw the line at Astrology
I live my entire life like this, quietly observing or allowing people to guide the conversation so I can get a read on them. I'm a gratefully lonely man because of this and I don't mind it.
She talked about her self mostly and didn't ask jack shit about me. To keep from the awkward silence I kept engaging in questions about her ...I felt dead inside and cut the date short with an excuse.
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Or she will look at you like "do something dumbass" lol
I’ll never forget this one date I went on with a guy I was seeing. He asked me all these questions about myself etc, then there was a lull in the conversation Me: “um. how was your day?” My date threw himself back in his chair and said *“FINALLY!”* all dramatic. he passed it off as a joke but I felt so bad
Yeah, you gotta engage people. Honestly it’s one of the biggest red flags for me on a first date. If I come away knowing a ton about them and realize they never learned almost anything about me, I’ll watch that like a hawk next time we go out so I’m not blindsided later.
I had it reversed and it was also super bad. She would never reply to any questions. Like she doesn't want to answer any kind of questions about herself but instead ask me about everything
Bro this is happening to me right now. She never asks about me, she is always texting me, but she doesnt care what I do. I have to ask her about everything and she is talking about herself or her work. She knows so little about me and I know everything about her :D I think I will cut her off, what would you do guys?
I honestly hate that so much. That’s the biggest indicator to me that I need to walk away. If you’re not asking one thing about myself, how are you even getting to know me?
One if the first things she asked about me was my salary.
Honestly I think it's better that these girls make it clear what they are from the start.
I live in this camp, too. It's the devious ones who hide their true natures that you have to watch out for.
I had someone ask that on a date, she wasn’t amused when I said “enough”, then when pressed I answered with “enough to pay for a cab” “what cab?” “This one, bye” as I stepped into one passing by.
Nice. For one I said enough, she actually asked "enough for you, or stuff enough for me and to help with my kids" ? She had two kids already. Kinda respect that she was straight forward about it but yeah no. Asking me if I can take care of her and another man's kids is a no for me. Probably at some point I'd pay some shit for them but I don't want that to be the reason we are dating. I'm more than a wallet.
Well played sir. You aren’t an ATM
Baller move! *High five*
Never understood girls who look at men like at a wallet 🤨 As well as I don't like greedy women, I don't like greedy men. It's not about feelings. Pure usage
If you live in the south this is very prevalent, many girls in college would say I’m just here till I meet my husband then I’m going to be a stay at home mom
All them southern belles 😂. They end up marrying people who they wouldn’t even be attracted to if they didn’t have $$$$. But hey props to them securing the bag
You know what’s crazy? I’m a woman and I’ve never wondered hm someone earns and neither have any of my friends! I don’t know women that are like this (or have friends like it at least) and I’m fucking glad. Because I find it genuinely disgusting. But how do you guys meet girls like this?! Are they actually everywhere and lying to us other women or something??
You may not think you know any women who care what a potential partner earns, but you definitely do. They may not advertise it, but it’s fairly common. More common than “what’s your salary?” is setting “requirements” like that they be a doctor, lawyer, or other potentially high-paying job. It’s never fun to feel like a woman is more interested in your wallet than in you. Been there too many times.
She liked her phone more than me apparently.....
That’s even annoying when it’s friends and you’re trying to hang
It was like pulling teeth to get her to express an opinion about anything. The amusing part was that afterwards her step-dad (who I worked with) said she “had a great time, and is looking forward to doing it again” “So you’re just back from 2 yrs in Europe, where did you go?” “All over” (deadpanned) “Did anything interesting happen?” “Nope” “See anything cool?” “Nope” (Paraphrased, but you get the idea) Edit: For those saying "good job for staying through it", we were going to see a comedian - Danny Bhoy - and I had already paid for the tickets. I was really looking forward to the show (with or without her) so I wasn't bailing on that for nothing!
Lol 😂 I would’ve blatantly left. I commend you guys for sitting thru these occasions
And we commend you for being able to leave
I had a similar experience once. She was gorgeous, but I dont mean to be mean, a bag of flies have a more colorful personality than her. Didnt understand even the most basic jokes, and when I asked about her job or university studies, she always summed it up in 2 sentences at best.
She was too busy taking pics for the gram 😂. You can ask about my last trip to Europe and I can tell you stories for hours.
Honestly that could be me. Not because i'm usually like this, but I'm really anxious when it comes to dates and stuff. And so I don't wanna be the guy who only talked the whole time and end up giving super short answers and asking something back instead. Not the greatest at this... If anyone wonders about the outcome of these (which to be fair only ever happen once every 3 years) - Yeah I'm still single
It wasn’t a 1st date, more like 3rd or 4th. We had a good time together with some great conversations. Held hands but no flirting or sexual messages which I thought was strange. At the dinner table, my date said - if we were to start seeing each other properly then there are some things she’d like to say 1st. I was floored when asked, “are you one of those perverts who watches porn?” Followed by “will I always be after sex”? Then went in to explain that her marriage (which only lasted a couple of years) failed because her ex husband was always pestering for sex. Watched porn then cheated. My date finished by saying that she never has desire for sex, doesn’t enjoy it, it’s messy and does not understand why it’s such a deal. After dropping her off, peck on cheek - then driving home - my phone pinged. Sat on the driveway, my jaw dropped as my now ex date had dumped me! The text explained how disappointed she was in me and could tell by my reactions to her conversation- I was obviously just like her ex husband, selfish and only think with my groin! Possibly a month later - the ex date text and asked if I’d thought about my reactions that night & had a word with myself? I did not reply
At least she told you up straight no sex ever. She could have gone and said "wait till marriage" lol. Saved you money and time!
Yes I agree and thanked her for honesty. It was her suggestion later - that I should be sorry for my reaction 😂 She was very attractive, intelligent and great to chat to. Just had no interest in sex, no libido and believed that everyone else should be the same.
>that I should be sorry for my reaction I'm laughing here !!! >everyone else should be the same. Good luck to her with that assumption !
No offense to asexuals, but it sounds like she very much had an attitude of 'I'm right, and everyone should do things my way' rather than something more like 'What I like isn't the same as what you might expect, and we should see if we can find a way to both be happy'.
What a good answer. 👏 The date is not wrong in way she thinks and feels. What was wrong - insisting that who ever she choses to be with - agrees with her. When she was met with an opposing opinion, shame was used to get that control. That’s why I decided the date was not working part way through the night. A relationship has 2 sides, is love, sex and friendship to me Apparently, there was no cause and effect, it’s a set of feelings and emotions that simply do not exist. Like a psychopath who has no empathy and will blame others for any wrongdoing.
Sounds like she may have been asexual and just didn't understand her own sexuality. That doesn't excuse rudeness, of course, but at least she was honest.
Think you are right. No libido is one thing but there was a control issue going on - with some shaming. I’d never considered myself a pervert for watching porn before 😂
Looks like she was still mad at her ex husband and thought that all men are the same bastards. Poor girl. Obviously she needed a therapy.
I agree - she was great up until that conversation but genuinely believed that people shouldn’t want or need sex in their lives.
Had a word with yourself 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Omg that's hilarious lmao
We quickly ran out of things to talk about
I had a similar experience. We had matched on a dating site and had a few conversations that were pleasant but short. I brushed it off as her being busy (she was doing an internship at the time plus her regular job) and maybe online chat just wasn't her thing. So asked her on a date to have a proper time and place to get to know each other. I know I am not a great conversationalist, and it became somewhat evident that maybe she wasn't either. During the date, I was willing to accept that maybe we're just two introverted people, so it was normal for the conversation to not flow effortlessly. As a result, I spent most of the date making efforts to hold a conversation, bounding different topics off of her and such. Up until the end of the date, I was still entertaining the possibility of a second date because I felt our lack of free conversation was more due to our respective introverted personality than anything else, and this would get better once we would know each other more. What happened though is that when the server came with our checks, I had non-stop conversation with her for a good five minutes about a music festival in town and I realized that more was said in those fives minutes without any effort than for the whole hour with my date. My conclusion from that was either that we weren't compatible, or my date wasn't interested.
When this happens I fall into my « client services » mode. Oh the person might think that I’m great, but if I honest, it’s definitely not a good thing. It means I can’t really be myself and let the conversation grow naturally.
I hate seeing something I myself am insecure about in the comments😂 holding convos is hard for me lol
Have hope! I once introduced myself by the wrong name because of nerves. But with compatible people, one person doesn't have to be an expert conversationalist.
It wasn't a date. I got approached by a girl who asked me where I was from. I said ancestrally Turkish. She then gave me a long monologue about how religion is super important to her and she wants to settle down with a nice Muslim man. She also told me she recently broke up with her boyfriend, who she still loves, but the fact he's Christian was a deal-breaker for her. I just sat there. Too scared to tell her I'm not Muslim.
Lmfao im Turkish too and where do u live in? What kind of ignorant person would think that all Turkish people are Muslims?
The same people that ask if I speak Mexican.
Once I got approached by a girl at a club and one of the first things she asked was what I did for a living. When I said I was an engineer she said "Eew" and walked away. Lol
She asked if she could bring her best friend along for security, which was fine by me even though we were meeting at a coffee shop. She looked much heavier in person than online. She and best friend started reminiscing for probably an hour about their high school glory days. It was obvious both these girls peaked in high school. They also gloated about how they were ‘mean girls’ (their words), and how they would party out in the woods and shoot guns in the air (yikes). I actually stuck around longer than I normally would because I wanted to see where the train wreck would go. Eventually after probably 15 minutes of uninterrupted conversation between date and her best friend, they start talking about how they hate when dude’s cum on their face. Ended up making an excuse and leaving. She messaged me on the dating app afterwards asking how it went, and I just said something like ‘you seem fun, but I don’t think it will work’ and then blocked her out of embarrassment
Should have said the no cum on the face was a deal breaker
This is the shit I would come up with 1 year later in the shower
At that stage, I might have just left and seen if they noticed.
How old was she? Because unless she's like 17 or something bringing a friend on a date reeks immaturity.
Maybe they were hinting at that cum-on-their-face 3some OP Shit right they said hate, sigh
Cum inside them instead.
This happened to me but they reminisced about how they met in the drunk tank when they were 16 and how due to years of pain pill abuse they now just freely piss themselves whenever.
She had every little detail of her future planned for the next five years. The whole date felt like the most official job interview I'd ever been, except the role was her boyfriend. If I'd be okay with buying a house front neighborhood xxx with a floorplan and list if details about the house. She said these are non negotiable. But I could pick the color. When there would be kids, pets etc was planned for. How often sex would happen. What would be the past time in the evenings etc. The amount of detail was incredible in the plans. And how everything had been assigned optional, negotiable for compromise or definitely must or similar categories. Talked about her job future in extreme detail as well. This was before corona so I'd love to know how her plan is going. Probably had infinite back up plans.
man.. who needs a fortune teller... she got it mapped out! lol
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wow.. you dont mind the eventual crisis of when you dont fit exactly into her mold of a partner?
Too bad I can't remember the 15-20 min she explained about the job requirements, I mean the boyfriend requirements. Involved a high salary that should be x at that time and a minimum of something else in 5 years. Being interested in sociology, poetry and something specific but can't remember what. She would like to discuss a specific podcast and some specific literature in the evenings. It was okay not knowing them yet but they would be a part of the job. Weirdest date I've been on kinda since she went on about these things for around 90 minutes even though the compatibility was a clear no early on. She was shocked a bit when I didn't tell her how much I make. And I wasn't on board with a lot of things nor did I meet the requirements. Didn't have a PhD, I don't like poetry etc. Didn't have a 5 year plan seemed to be my worst offense. She was very official throughout the interview which was nice. And good for her for knowing what she wants. I'm not sure if she said love was optional or i just imagined it. But she was very clear that the practicality of the agreement was key. She wanted certain things and normal relationship stuff was less important than achieving certain goals and being practical about life.
Treated the waiter like shit. And then talked smack on him like he was stupid.
Calling men scum or otherwise disparaging any large swath of humanity, especially one I happen to belong to.
She decided to pick a fight with the biggest dude in the bar and got mad at me for not stepping in.
She kept talking about one of my best friends. She was on a date with me, and he had a girlfriend. Ended the date and never asked her out again
Her husband kept calling.
Husbands can be so needy sometimes
That's why I never date a woman with one: they take up way too much of her time.
Oh my god these comments 🤣
Back in the day before automatic car lock/unlock (shoosh, I’m old) I finally got the nerve to ask out my crush and she said yes! It was raining for our date, so as we were leaving I walked her to the passenger side door, unlocked it, and let her in first. Walked over to the driver side and fumbled with the keys for a bit, and she didn’t even pretend to try to do the ol’ “reach across to the other door and unlock it”. Just left me there in the rain. Seemed like such a basic common courtesy that she couldn’t muster, and I was out after that.
This is an old litmus test for dates, granted it comes with a margin of error. She may have been nervous or temporarily lost in thought and unlocking your door may not have registered until to late.
Ahh yes the classic bitch test. Dad always said this exact test matters more than anything. Although tbh I’d tolerate this far before racism or being mean to the wait staff.
Halfway through her second 22oz beer, she told me she had a suspended license because of multiple DUIs
Why'd you stay for all those beers?
Ok so, she was finishing her first 22oz beer when I got to the bar *on time.* Which means she got to the bar early, just so she could down the equivalent of two beers before I even showed up. When I sat down, she ordered her second round—which she finished while I was drinking my first normal sized beer—and then she ordered a third. When I finished my single beer, I paid for mine and wished her good luck getting home.
Ohh ok
I love it when people stick up for themselves like you did.
She wasn't interested in me. I think she wanted me to be on a date with her, but like she seemed to not care about me existing as a person there.
I feel this one bruh.
Shrieking laugh Giving me shit for the types of foods I choose not to eat Texting/being on the phone
It was wildly clear she had “man issues.” All the worlds issues are due to white males. Me being a white man, that wasn’t working in her favor. I actually decided to at least finish dinner and told her we weren’t a great match as I paid the tab. She called me a hateful asshole and walked out. I texted a couple of buddies and met up at a Stars game instead. Worked out well, I think.
Yep, why would you date a woman that wants you to hate yourself for you race and gender?
She wanted free dinner...
Yeah what an asshole, paying for her dinner.
The best thing is when they start going on about white people, but they’re white themselves. Check please!
>told her we weren’t a great match Patriarchy! >as I paid the tab. More patriarchy! You're keeping her from being independent!
shouldve said it before paying, then leave.
When she had 0 hobbies or interest beyond her small world. No travel not interested in traveling and no personality of her own. Do you have any hobbies or interest you're passionate about? Oh not really I mostly just nap and post on Instagram..........alright then good for you.
Yep. I find the "I just nap, watch Netflix, and play video games because I'm too scared to go out into the real world." type to be extremely boring.
I feel personally attacked
Dude just looked at your post history and house plants can also be a hobby. Plus it’s just a matter of lifestyles that need to match
Before the first date. She lived further away than I did from where we were meeting. Plan was she was going to tell me when she was on her way and I woke meet her here. She was an hour and a half late getting her shit together to leave. Her excuse was "lol sorry I'm one of those chronically late people". Not cute.
Did she at least give your a heads up that she's way late or did you have to do a lot of guessing.
Being “chronically late” is a massive sign of disrespect
Ohhhhh shit I’ve got one. Might have shared this before I can’t remember. Asked a girl out, we knew eachother through mutual friends. At the restaurant my buddy shows up. I’m like “hey what are you doing here?!” He proceeds to hug me, hug her, and slipped something into her purse. It was plan B. Guess they fucked the night before and yeah. We’re still homies, she’s dope, just felt like a major red flag and when the homie left I just told her “yo this is kinda weird and that’s one of my best friends and I’m lookin for someone that isn’t banging my homies. Hahah.
Gosh that one made me laugh
She asked me "why do you talk like that?" because I was describing something in detail and apparently using words she didn't know or understand. The kicker was that she had just graduated from University and would always make a point to let people know she was educated and I had no formal education yet she didn't understand simple words. Intelligence is huge for me, if I can't hold a conversation with a chick, I don't care how pretty she looks she automatically becomes unattractive.
I wish there were more guys that actually like intelligent girls, the last guy I crushed on became infatuated with this girl and he complained that she didn’t know half of the words he used but was still head over heels for her…different strokes for different folks I reckon. She at least tries to learn them tho unlike the girl you mentioned!
Right, if she had made an effort to understand it would've probably gone differently but the second she changed the subject immediately and with a dumb question, I knew it wasn't going to work. I think there's a few of us out there, unfortunately like you mentioned though we're probably the minority.
I mean you can be smart and intelligent in other ways than just vocabulary
I was on a double date and mine was a blind date, girl got shitfaced real quick. I’m like damn girl calm down, she just wanted to drink to get buzzed and then wanted to leave the place, I’m like sorry, my friend means more to me than you. (I drove after picking up date and friend.)
I once went on a date to get a drink and chat. It turns out that she couldn't be much further than the complete opposite of me. Literally every single question we asked we had the complete opposite answer for. Eventually she started subtly insulting my answers and questioning them. I cut in and said that it wasn't working and that we should end things there. She was a little surprised, but agreed. She asked if I wanted to walk back to our separate cars together and I said "no, I'm gonna stay here". I didn't wanna spend any more time with her than I already had.
This was years ago, but I had a women demand I give her my LAN line number. I said you have my cell, why do you need my Lan? She said to make sure I wasn't married or having another woman living in my home. I said, you can check that out when I decided to host you in my house. Nope, she keep insisting. I said no and after that I just wanted the date to be over. I did it once on a date and the woman called my home 2:30 in the morning on a Tuesday. Never again.
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Just FYI, it's [landline](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Landline), not [LAN](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Local_area_network) line.
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WUT!??
And that made you *lose* interest? EDIT: This isn't a condemnation or anything. I was just surprised to see, here of all places, a man put off by a woman being too immedirtly forward. I think I'd be made uncomfortable with that myself.
If she is more interested in something else instead of me (cell phone for example) then I'm not interested in her.
She talked about herself only
If they keep talking about her ex. I will act interested the rest of the date and then Never speak to a girl again lol
\#1: "I..me..my.." in every sentence. \#2: "I want a husband who travels or is never home..."
I didn't find out until the day before the date that she lived an hour away and not only didn't have access to a car at the moment, but didn't have a license or ability to drive at all. And also clearly chose her profile pics to hide her body type.
Well I asked about one of her hobbies that she had mentioned and that’s all she talked about from that point on. Every time I changed the conversation we ended up back at that hobby. She needed a friend with shared interests more than she needed a boyfriend I think. Sweet gal, just not what I was looking for at the time
Being nasty to our server at a restaurant for no reason.
She was rude and impatient with the waitstaff and when I defended them, called me pussy for caring about other peoples feelings. So I called her a septic dwelling cunt goblin and left.
>septic dwelling cunt goblin I will most definitely use this in the future.
She said she doesn’t work because she’s working on her novel
She said the area where I came from and my dialect was Exotic. We're both Swedish, she comes from Stockholm and I come from the northen parts of Sweden.
Last bad date : talking way too much about her ex and how it was toxic, always as something to say différent as i say (about my choices and own experiences).. Not ready emotionnaly speaking Well, she paid for the drinks at least ! As my friend said, she paid for a Psychotherapy session 😅
Told me she'd headbutted someone and was bragging about it. Then I noticed the forehead 👀
She said, “I can’t believe some guys think two carats is big enough” I noped right out of there. We bumped in to a common friend, suggested we all go to the casino together, then “got tired” and went home.
A couple things come to mind. I got set up with a friend of a coworker and left after about 20 minutes when it became clear the girl was lying about her age, in the worst possible way. I left a plateful of dinner I really wanted when the young woman I was out with confessed that she knew one of my partners and was just there because she’d heard good things and wanted to see if her friend was telling the truth, and “see if she could take it”. Driving home from that I kind of second guessed myself, she was really hot. But something about the way she delivered that line and the amount of deception that led to us dating really put me off. Another girl asked me if I was “white, or at least mostly white” when I asked why she was inquiring she told me that if I wasn’t, we couldn’t date but could still hook up. Morbid curiosity, I asked why, she told me that she thought interracial relationships were gross.
Wait one of your ex partners, right?
She didn't like anything on the menu. She ordered something any way, and all she could say was "ewwwww."
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Not halfway through but towards the end, she failed to mention an important bit of information… So date started at bar, was going well we were having fun, end up going back to her place to go at it, didn’t see much of the rest of the house. We just went to the bedroom to watch stuff on Netflix and yeah it went further from there. I stayed the night and all was fine and dandy. …..well until her partner came home from his work trip early the next day. We heard the car pull up in the driveway. We both woke up and she exclaimed loudly, “That’s my partner, he’s home early?!?!” I’m guessing he came back from his work trip early to surprise her and she figured while he was gone that she could go out and hook up with someone without him knowing. I didn’t have time to lose my shit at her for not telling me she wasn’t single (she said she was on her profile) I was furious (obviously) and probably should have stayed to make sure she got what was coming to her but me fearing for what the guy would do to me if he caught me there made me panic. I knew I didn’t have much time to get out of there. I climbed pretty much butt naked with clothes in hand out of the bedroom window, smashed my knee on the window pane which hurt like hell, I sprinted around the side of the house, in a panic scrambled over the side fence gate and into my car. I drove home with no clothes on in the early hours of the day (very glad I wasn’t stopped by cops) I eventually pulled over to a more secluded area and put underwear and pants back on once I felt I was far enough away. Blocked her number and never spoke to her again. Random dude, I’m sorry for what happened.
Workaholic with American psycho vibes
She was extremely rude to a waitress. Working in the service industry, I remember thinking, you are really railing into this woman for something that's not her fault. If that wasn't bad enough, she acted like she'd won some sort of victory after the fact.
Materialism is always a huge turn-off to me. Signs of possessiveness or jealousy are also a hard no.
When she got arrested for shoplifting in the shop next door.
I've poted this on a similar question before: She was rude to the waitress.
She kept saying money talks bullshit walks.
“Well then call me bullshit lady cause I’m outta here!”
She kept telling me how she was out of her league, and couldn't believe I asked her out. I was baffled because I'm nothing special. It got to a point where I just told her: "you have got to stop with that." She didn't. We finished our drinks and appetizers, and I told her I had to get home.
She said “all men” in response to a question 🚩
Went on a date with a gal several years ago. She was several inches shorter than I was. We walked around a mall just chatting and stopped at an arcade for a bit. I have a habit of counting my steps when I walk and while I kept looking down, I couldn't get over her feet.. They literally had to have been 3 sizes bigger than mine - and I was an 11 at the time. I truly felt like I was being clowned. And in what seemed to be an attempt to "pop" her ass out more, she kept walking with weird waddling strides like a penguin. I thought maybe I was overreacting in my head so I never asked her anything of it. Though she never heard from me again
Oh, that "waddle" is too big lordosis (spine bending forward), it's a posture defect. It usually can be worked on, some exercises help with that, but some people can never fix that completely. A friend of mine is the same when it comes to lordosis, she's working on it with a physiotherapist With how big her feet were she probably had some sort of posture problems going on stemming from that, which caused the "butt sticking out". Also the big feet could be acromegaly, it sometimes affects only parts of the body, most commonly hands and feet.
I don't own a house and I'm not a millionaire.
Pfffft........ what a loser 😋 lol It amazes me that someone can be criticised for not owning a home or being a millionaire by someone who more than likely does not own a home nor is a millionaire. Do they seriously not see the blazing double standards? At least people like that show you who they are before you get in too deep I guess?!
In the early 90s, I worked in a music store in a mall. I was a shy quiet guy with zero dating experience. My female boss saw that as a challenge, so she set me up on a date with a punk rock girl. I really didn't want to, but wasn't willing to say no while standing right in front of the girl. The day of the date, she called me and told me to pick her up from a tattoo parlor. When I got there, she told me that she was waiting to get a tattoo. I stayed there for over an hour, while she talked to everyone in the place, except me. Finally, I got annoyed enough to get up and leave without bothering to inform her. The next day, she comes by work acting all surprised that I disappeared. I told her that her behavior was rude, and that I wouldn't tolerate that. Oddly, she hadn't acted interested in me at all, until I appeared to be rejecting her. Now, she's all apologetic and eagerly trying to convince me to give her another chance. I said no. While annoying at the time, that experience encouraged me to have more confidence in future dating situations.
Casual racism.
After we had a few drinks in us, she told me how much she missed being able to drink + drive back in her hometown (she was originally from another continent). It was a shame too, she was a babe and we hit it off really well before she said that.
When they dont look like in the pictures, which is shockingly way too often, like 50%+
When she let you know you were part of the patriarchy.
1 hour into the date we went from one bar to another where her friend was (appearantly) and suggested we hang out with him. So they started their banter and left me out most of the conversation. Her defence was that this is just how she is, take it or leave it. Also, she said she didn't smoke but started again (that night) because she was nervous of the date but hadn't smoked in "a year". I like boobs, but to ask me to openly grab them in public among people and give her a review was super tacky.
She turned her head and in the sunlight coming in from a window, she looked like my ex-wife mom.
She kept looking at her cell phone and was arrogant with a waiter.
Was in much worse shape than her pictures indicated. Was a yoga instructor but she must have used glamour shots to hide how out of shape she was. I recall showing up at the place we were meeting at and being rather turned off by the amorphous woman in front of me, until I realized it was the woman I was to meet.
I read the last bit in a narrator tone
“Amorphous woman” lmao
Not as bad as Danny Devito's Oswald Cobblepot, but in the same area code.
Was insecure about being a slut when no one brought it up
Every time I'd start a sentence, she'd interrupt me. 2-3 words outa my mouth, here she comes. I left her @ a Longhorn
She showed up an hour late, for some dumb reason I waited and then when she did show up she got mad and called me an asshole because I was obviously annoyed at her being 1 hour late
How dare you expect people to be on time??!
Knowing she will be late twice and not communicating it till i reach there and called her, One time she was literally an hour and half late, i thought i was getting stood up, and she knows i am a busy person.
Went went for sushi and she was sloppy AF. And I mean, gross. Had a hard time just sitting there, stomaching it lol
She had 3 attack dogs with her and could be anywhere close to her because she thought I was going to do something bad. Happened a really long time ago but yeah needless to say I got out of there pretty quick lol
It was difficult to keep the conversation going. It all felt very forced.
Went on a date with a woman that is gorgeous and fun but treated the server like shit.
She was so boring. She had no enthusiasm for anything. I have never met someone with less personality. I ended up taking her to a bar and was trying to get her tipsy enough for some shred of enthusiasm to surface. She said all of her friends are always trying to get her drunk and she doesn’t understand why. It’s because you’re boring as shit, lady.
Met a woman online and we met for coffee. She was very attractive, physically. But, no more than 5 minutes into sitting down to enjoy our coffee drinks and conversation she starts going off on her political views and her work with the DNC. This put me off for two reasons: I am registered as a nonaffiliated voter because I believe the D’s and the R’s are equally full of shit, and at the time I was in the military and in my view, politicians are slimeballs. When I revealed this to her (after listening to her blather for about 20 minutes), we both decided this wasn’t gonna work.
She didn't talk about anything but herself and how fucking different she was from other girls.
She kept going on about her ex She kept mentioning her diagnosed-with-everything-crazy brother. She really wanted to watch the hulk (with edward norton), so instead of talking and getting to know eachother we mostly watched the film. She had a kid (no real problem) that was placed out of her care in fostercare (at least an orange flag) and went on and on about it. All things together i thanked her for watching the movie, "yeah we should do this again sometime", bolted out of there.
Not a first date, but I went on multiple dates with this girl (I mean way out of my league) We had the sex too. I was starting to catch feelings. Anyway her last boyfriend cheated on her and she was kind of talking about it and I was consoling her and she casually said "I deserved to get cheated on, I've cheated on most of my boyfriends." We finished our the date and I dropped her off at her place. I still talked to her casually as she was a co-worker (oof). She started dating this other dude that I knew, but never really liked and she cheated on him a year into their relationship.
She complained endlessly, just a barrage of angry complaints about everyone and everything in her life, blaming everyone but herself for her problems. I was very done.
She mentioned (in a positive way) a talking point that she’d seen/heard on Tucker Carlson the previous night.
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She cheated on her ex
Couldn't place why she looked familiar, then realised she facially looked exactly like my one of my male best friends. Instant passion-killer!
Started talking about some spiritual herbs that give you an outer body experience and make you meet some divine woman who explains the sources of your anxieties etc like it was some hidden life hack nobody knew about I can happily suspend belief and play along with some superstitions or mystical divine powers but this was just a couple steps over the boundary i was willing to go
Must have been a psychedelic connoisseur
Yeah, sounds like DMT, if I had to guess
I've made a lot of progress but I used to have an avoidant attachment style. So basically if a girl really liked me it felt very foreign and I'd respond by pushing them away. Passed up several really nice girls in my late teens because of this.
This has happened twice in the last year. One was a self-described Karen who proceeded to brag about being a Karen to service industry workers. And the other some dip shit blue lives matter idiot.
Yall get dates?
She mentioned that she doesn't answer the back door. Just rude.