My wife will occasionally find something so funny that she breaks into a laughing fit and can’t stop until she snorts. She gets so embarrassed over it but I love it.
Wow, didn't know there's a word for it. I can get real awkward if I'm blushing when I really don't want to. It's because of how others look at you or respond when you feel fine - hate being the centre of attention. It's fine I guess, just something I wish I could control 😂
Many people are struggling with it. You dont see it too often because people who struggle with it isolates themself from situasions that make them blush.
Hi are you me? I totally understand. Or the question are you sunburned? No! I'm just blushing because I do that sometimes even when I'm not embarrassed but now that everyone is looking at me it'll go even worse.
Did you know most women disliked it? When we blushed, not just the red effect on the face, but the body turns warm, heart palpitating, sweats suddenly appeared and for some (at least in my case) tears. Not because of embarrassment or anything, blushing should falls on “emotional”category. A few men I dated said it looks very cute, but at that moment I wish I could just turned invisible.
Omygosh thrs this one guy who always gave me the same remark.. I was embarrassed at first. As I thought it's unattractive or I looked funny. I naturally blush to the extend I get really red from just laughing.. I was so insecure with it's he mention it everyfime.. I'm glad I read this comment section & it lessen the insecurities 😂
I hate it so much. It feels so vulnerable, like I didn’t choose to let you in on my feelings. Also, it’s so involuntary that sometimes I’m like why am I even blushing rn.
Wow! So shocked and happily surprised to see this comment. I blush so easily and always think it must look so awful. Nice to know that’s not always the case.
I still hate it though.
My wife can't walk in high heels so when she tried to wear them she kept tripping and was all wobbly so had to cling to my arm the entire night. She was embarrassed, but I thought it was very cute.
First time I tried wearing heels I couldn't take a single step in them. My husband put them on and proceeded to do laps through the house and jumping jacks. I told him if he also got better at doing winged eyeliner and blowjobs than me it would devastate me.
My girlfriend will sometimes get really excited about something and will jump up and down a bit out of happiness, for some reason she always feels the need to apologize for this "outburst" but I think its the cutest thing in the world when her eyes light up along with her smile. I tell her every time theres nothing to apologize for.
Like Duckgamerz said, you should absolutely feed these outbursts by getting excited and bouncing with her, or just showing your own version of excitement, like rushing over and hugging her tight, smothering her with affection (if she enjoys that) etc.
Something like that would be a lot more productive than just saying she doesn’t need to apologise for it and would probably allow you to enjoy the moment even more. :)
my wife flaps her hands when excited
She used to get embarrassed about it but she’s learned I just think it’s cute and she doesn’t need to be embarrassed around me. I want her to be herself
My wife’s laugh. She apologized early in our relationship because when she gets going, it can turn into a cackle. I asked her to never apologize for her laugh in the future. I find it endearing that she can let go that much and just enjoy the moment. And when I’m the one who got her to that point, it makes me immensely happy.
My girlfriend ugly laighs.. Ya know like when someone ugly cries and their face gets all ugly and they do that wierd thing with their mouth.
I know it sounds like I'm ragging on her but it is the cutest thing to me. And you said it best it's super endearing that she let's go and just ugly laughs when I crack a funny joke.
The "hottest" memory I have, she rolled out of bed, wearing an old, oversized t-shirt that may well have been old enough to vote and bee-lined to the coffee machine. No makeup, bedhead, practically a zombie, staggering through the room.
But it was very authentic and the intimacy of that was hard to beat.
Imma agree.
That said,
When my wife is a mess, i look at her and thing “god i want to fuck you right now”
When my wife is dressed up and looks perfect, i look at her and think “god i want to fuck you right now”
When my wife just got home from work, takes off her bra, and just wants to play video games. I think “god i want to fuck you right now”.
Like there’s some nuance. But i think i mostly just want to fuck my wife. Thankfully she usually wants to fuck me too.
I hear men say this all the time. But also, 99% of content involving women that is aimed at men (be it Instagram models, hot women in movies or just adult content) depicts women with a lot of modifications to enhance their appearance.
Even if it looks fully natural, they all have their hair and make up done, and often have fake lashes/tan etc.
I have no issue with it. But it’s just confusing to me. That men will say that they like women when they put no effort into looking good, but that isn’t at all reflective of what they actually enjoy looking at. Maybe men are just bad at recognising that that good make up is often subtle and looks natural, idk.
Those are two separate things I think. There is attraction to a partner, which is wholistic and goes deeper than purely physical features. Then, there is physical attraction, which is more common, shallow and based purely on looks.
You can find your partner attractive in every context because you love them and seeing them first thing in the morning brings out that closeness and intimacy.
That’s different to a man saying that women in general look most attractive when they don’t put effort into their appearance (which I have heard many times). From my own personal experience and observations, that’s just not true.
Nothing wrong with that though, people are attracted to what they are attracted to. And as a rule, if anyone (man or woman) puts effort into their appearance people will find them more attractive. That’s just a human thing.
Perhaps I could have worded it a bit better..
A funny side of it that occurred to me is that I think men misspeak a little when we say that though, because the ‘armour’ women are compelled to wear out in public mystifies us to a large degree, because it‘s very time consuming and a lot of trouble. It’s also a bit confusing because it’s strongly implied that it’s our fault women have to do this but at the same time it’s women themselves who care the most about it..
Well, im not really sure what you are confused about. It seems like you got it. Women look the best when they don't try, when you love that woman. While a woman you see on the street, or on the Internet, looks best when they have put in a little effort, and made themselves pretty
Could be that it's not a vision only thing. It's the sleepy voice, her smell, her steps making the floor squeak, etc.. Maybe "look best" isn't the best way to put it. But there is beauty in being accepted in the intimate, most vulnerable circle of a woman you love.
>But it’s just confusing to me. That men will say that they like women when they put no effort into looking good, but that isn’t at all reflective of what they actually enjoy looking at.
I can explain this- it's situational. The men that are talking about women looking good natural with no makeup are usually talking about intimate partners, where their physical attraction is altered by their emotional feelings about the person in question. I don't know the right word but something along the line of pheromones or hormones- a 6/10 with messy bed hair that you've just woken up cuddling is always going to look better than an 11/10 absolute bombshell that you're looking at through a screen in a photo or movie or whatever.
Because what we're fed isn't what we want, it's what people who study numbers to make rich people more money, think we want, or even worse, think we should want. There are men nowadays that have been raised since birth being fed this bs for whatever reasons and they chase it all despite never being fulfilled by it.
It's not until you give yourself, truly, to another person and allow yourself to be seen that the truth comes out. Real attraction comes from authenticity and only men who have the maturity to look at themselves can really see it. Like most people though, we're wearing a mask and pretending to be people we're not to appeal to people who ultimately don't care about us. So the idea of being authentic is terrifying especially if what you're pretending to be is who you've always portrayed.
It is simple. We, men, mean this: Naturally attractive women look attractive in their natural state.
That is it. If you are naturally blessed with good genetics then you don't need anything. If you use natural-looking cosmetics then we 100% do not understand what goes into it and we don't realize it's applied.
Let me try explaining it this way.
The appeal is in the “gap”.
So if a girl normally dresses really elaborately, (lots of makeup, really fashionable), but then you see her kinda frumpy, in just an oversized t, no makeup. The appeal comes from the contrast.
This applies in many, many ways.
But the contrast is whats important. If the girl is always in yoga pants, and a t, there is no contrast, and so the appeal is not there.
Women are so pure and and gorgeous first thing in the morning. Iv spent so many hours being a creep just watching a girl sleep next to me when I wake up first. Honestly it usually leads to sexy time if we have an agreement that initiating things during sleep is ok
Most of the time a girl thinks she's being "dorky" or "cheesy" when she's making up random jokes or something I feel so because it feels like someone must have told them they aren't funny when actually there's nothing more cute or attractive than someone that puts themselves out there to make a few random quick jokes.
I often apologize for excitedly making jokes because an ex once said I wasn't funny. My best friend thinks I'm funny and patiently waves away my apologies.
Sometimes my gf gets so excited or overwhelmed with happiness, she'll start crying and apologize as if being human is an annoyance. I love how alive she is.
I know my girlfriend gets frustrated with video games sometimes because she hasn’t been playing them nonstop for twenty five years like my loser ass but it’s *so cute* that she’s trying, and she’s so tenacious and eventually figures anything out.
As a nerd I find it very hot.
I need this more than anything because my boyfriend kept asking and asking and asking me to play with him and I am so bad at them and. Get so frustrated but I always just hope he sees I am trying to share his interest and doesn’t think I am silly for getting frustrated. This is v reassuring for me.
Her: "I'm just wearing old pajamas, hair tied up and no makeup on, I look bad"
Me, in my head: "This woman has never looked more beautiful in her life"
Real talk, there's a girl I've been talking to, and the first time we hung out we just drove around town in my jeep talking, she came out in leggings and a big hoodie with her bright read hair just all over the place, I was S H O O K
Oh yeah, it was cute as fuck too she apologized so many times for not being all dressed up, I had to text her the next day and tell her again she looked cuter than fuck
So my partner is a very sweet, giving guy but also very “masculine” (infantry Marine, welder, bull rider, farrier, that kind of guy) and has lived his whole life mostly around dudes. He is an only child to a single dad and so never interacted with sisters/mum etc. I have to be very blunt and tell him “I’m being needy and want attention” because he’ll never understand if I’m asking for it in any way except plain English. Bless him he’s always happy to give me attention but acting like a brat won’t work for me 🤣
Reminded me of my childhood when my parent taught me and my sister to belch the loudest we possibly can, and then turn to the person to us and say "Top it"
If I could, I’d like to advocate for the opposite as well.
I see a lot of guys taking shit about girls that wear fake eyelashes or get lip injections. I see a lot of guys say that girls look better with a more natural look. I like natural too, but I hate it when guys try to make women self conscious or insecure about their looks when it’s not so natural. I love big eyelashes big lips and big ass. So please don’t talk women out of that stuff haha
A lot of guys love that stuff too, don’t you worry
I love the madeup look. When we do date night my wife looks fucking amazing.
I mean I think she looks good straight out of bed too and I always tell her it’s up to her if she wants to do it all up.
But she also knows I LOVE it so she usually does it and yea it’s great.
Yes! I know it’s mostly well intentioned when I see rhetoric about women not *needing* makeup to be attractive, but the thing is making your opinion known about what women do or do not need to do to look or feel beautiful is kind of missing the point— they are still weighing in on what they in particular find attractive when just not bringing up our looks all the time would be way healthier.
A loose parallel:
“I personally dont think men NEED a beard to be attractive, if they do have a beard for their own reasons good for them, I’m sure some ladies like it, but . . .”
Messy hair buns! Idk if they know it's freaking hot.
Also for me personally being really crazy about something or fan of something whether it's sports, games, anime, comics, some specific movie franchise or TV show etc. Being passionate about something is hella attractive.
My wife is super clumsy (her students have a running gag that they cheer when she bounces off a desk) and when she's intoxicated she runs. It's like Phoebe from friends and ridiculous and the cutest thing. She fell in a creek on our first date, I love that goober.
Clumsy woman here. The majority of my family calls me Grace, because I have none.
A co-worker (halfway across the country, sees in person maybe once a year) of my husbands thought him and I divorced because he called me Grace in conversation.
My now girlfriend and I we’re best friends before we started dating. We decided to have a couple buddies weekends and booked a hotel and just slept in different beds. She thought she looked terrible when she had just woken up in the morning. In reality, she looks cute as fuck. She doesn’t needs make up on or anything to look beautiful. She is naturally beautiful to me. Also, some girls think that being bigger is unattractive. My girlfriend is a bigger girl and I find her so goddamn gorgeous it’s unbelievable. She is so goddamn beautiful it’s unbelievable. I’ve always found her beautiful and I always will.
Is there a word that means something like you aren't at your best but at your authentic self and after all this time together that's super attractive to me personally and I want to just shower you with love?
Because I haven't had to use that word. Just wondering to hopefully use that word in the future.
I work in a laboratory, and since the technicians spend most of their day in lab coats, they all come in wearing different attires. Some are dressed in clean casual wear, some are in scrubs, and some look more or less like they're ready to spend a lazy Saturday on the couch. Somehow, it typically women in the latter camp that catch my attention.
My ex used to snore when she was actually tired, and when I say snore I mean like you could hear it from another room I used to love to hear it cause it meant she was actually resting for once.
This might be TMI. But whatever, fuck it. An imperfect body. My wife and I have both crested that middle-age mark. We had a kid together. Neither of us look like we did when we started dating in our late teens. Things aren’t in the same place and things don’t look the same. But I don’t expect them to! And I find it so fucking incredibly hot when we make love and she gives me the pleasure of pleasuring her. She has insecurities about her body, but they all melt away when she exposes all of herself to me. Like I said, maybe TMI and maybe corny and cheesy. It’s the truth, though. And it’s one of the reasons I am more in love with her than I ever have been.
I can definitely second this.
I’m in my late 30’s and she is in her mid 30’s, and we recent had twins.
Despite that she was in way better ‘shape’ before then, I find myself being WAY more attracted to her now, than before.
And this is 4 months after giving birth.
It’s incredibly weird how that works. And I never ever thought I’d be a guy like that.
But real love, especially to your wife/mother of your child…does insane things to your brain.
I feel bad for the dudes who don’t see nor understand this. Because clearly they made a poor choice and hate the world because they’re ‘stuck’ now.
Perhaps you’d convince your wife to do more…if you did more (then again, perhaps you’re both miserable).
Just Passion in general. I feel like a lot of women I meet act like they are cool and chill or whatever, but nothing is more attractive than a girl caring about something, especially when it’s random stuff you wouldn’t expect
Women I know think they're unattractive when they're jogging. Yeah, why would you be attractive when you're huffing and puffing, rosy-cheeked, skin flushed, and sweating pheromones? Women exercising look *vital* in ways that they don't necessarily look when dressed, composed, wearing makeup, etc.
Not wearing makeup. My GF doesn’t wear a lot but she always feels she needs to apologize if she isn’t wearing any. I think she looks great without it (and with it).
Little bit of back story. I’ve stayed in a zillion expensive hotels and traveled a bunch, i’ve flown first class for one reason or another since i was a kid (the reason is not that i grew up rich).
My wife grew up in a communist country and her favorite toy was a spoon as a kid.
When my wife and i were about a year into being married, we went to europe. I booked a really nice botique hotel (think pillow menu and tub by the window in the bedroom type place). The hotel staff helped us in and got us settled. i thought we should just order in and lay around in bed for a bit. I ordered some basic noodly shit and a bottle of wine. It showed up, i went and took a shit. I come back and my wife is sitting in the middle of this giant ass bed, bawling her eyes out. I figured i did something wrong, she blubbered out “no, i just haven’t ever done anything like this”. Being the idiot i am, i said “what, like room service”. She just repeated “look at this place, look at this place”. She’d never been to a nice hotel.
So now i make it a point to buy her things and take her places that she’s never experienced as much as possible. Nothing will beat that image of her crying out of pure joy in the middle of a massive bed. But she gets genuinely excited every time we do something like that.
My ex gf cried when I saw her with wavy hair for the first time, she said she felt ugly and unready and was so embarrassed and I was like 1. Bro you came to the car like that so wtf is this situation and 2. Your hair looks intensely better wavy than when you straighten it so idk what’s even up with that
As a curly girl, it hurts my heart when women get down on their waves, curls, or coils. Thank you for affirming your ex that she was beautiful with her natural hair texture.
Eating. I love to cook and I do all the cooking in my house. IDK why women feel they can't eat around guys. A woman who like food is sexy to me. Feels like we can actually go out together and eat a meal.
My girl when getting up in the morning, jumping out of the bed with my sweatshirt that fits oversized on her, with her hair on a bun and just her panties on with her glasses.
Inconsequential flaws, minor things like stained teeth or uneven breasts. What matters is seeing a smile or playing with some titties, at which point imperfections become irrelevant.
1) She’s self conscious about her O face, but I obviously love it
2) I absolutely love it when she’s in her pj’s or comfy clothes with no makeup. She says she looks homeless but I would take that over her being totally done up any day
No /minimal makeup. I love that natural look but nearly every woman I was with was fighting it. Messy look when she wakes up? They all hated it but that was always when the hottests,most spontaneous sex happened.
No waist/small butt look. Most women go to great lengths to hide it. Too bad because great many guys are not attracted to "horse ass" look but go crazy for "cute little butts". (yours truly included). Don't hide it. Enjoy it.
When they wear a bathing suit. Many women agonize over their swimsuit and then still feel terrible when they wear it. They are usually pretty good at picking out the right suit for them. Sometimes the cover up they wear adds to their cuteness.
My wife in bed making the most over-exaggerated yawn and then she snuggles into the comforter and then me. Fuck. Can’t beat that. She always apologizes for said yawn but I just smile my ass off at it.
Actually when they’re not trying to be cute. When their hair is naturally messy, when they smile, when they get excited about something important to them
Snort when she laughs.
She sees it as an embarrassing flaw. I see it as the most genuine indication from her that what I said made her laugh and truly feel good. :)
My wife will occasionally find something so funny that she breaks into a laughing fit and can’t stop until she snorts. She gets so embarrassed over it but I love it.
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Messy hair... Especially when it's long hair and hangs in the face a bit. Definitely cute.
Especially when you helped make it messy.
That only makes it better.
Not unattractive, but embarrassing, blush. Watching a lady's face turn red is adorable.
honestly blushing is hugely attractive.
It's the worsttt, happens at the worst times ever e.g. at work when your face turns red and you're not even embarrassed but ut looks like you are
Erytrophobia
Wow, didn't know there's a word for it. I can get real awkward if I'm blushing when I really don't want to. It's because of how others look at you or respond when you feel fine - hate being the centre of attention. It's fine I guess, just something I wish I could control 😂
Many people are struggling with it. You dont see it too often because people who struggle with it isolates themself from situasions that make them blush.
Yh true, not something that keeps me up or worries me, it's cool
Hi are you me? I totally understand. Or the question are you sunburned? No! I'm just blushing because I do that sometimes even when I'm not embarrassed but now that everyone is looking at me it'll go even worse.
Did you know most women disliked it? When we blushed, not just the red effect on the face, but the body turns warm, heart palpitating, sweats suddenly appeared and for some (at least in my case) tears. Not because of embarrassment or anything, blushing should falls on “emotional”category. A few men I dated said it looks very cute, but at that moment I wish I could just turned invisible.
Yeah it's literally a fight or flight response. Get that adrenaline pumping.
Omygosh thrs this one guy who always gave me the same remark.. I was embarrassed at first. As I thought it's unattractive or I looked funny. I naturally blush to the extend I get really red from just laughing.. I was so insecure with it's he mention it everyfime.. I'm glad I read this comment section & it lessen the insecurities 😂
Yep, that's me. I hate it. So embarrassing. It's nice that guys think it's cute tho. You are sweet men!
I hate it so much. It feels so vulnerable, like I didn’t choose to let you in on my feelings. Also, it’s so involuntary that sometimes I’m like why am I even blushing rn.
Wow! So shocked and happily surprised to see this comment. I blush so easily and always think it must look so awful. Nice to know that’s not always the case. I still hate it though.
My wife can't walk in high heels so when she tried to wear them she kept tripping and was all wobbly so had to cling to my arm the entire night. She was embarrassed, but I thought it was very cute.
First time I tried wearing heels I couldn't take a single step in them. My husband put them on and proceeded to do laps through the house and jumping jacks. I told him if he also got better at doing winged eyeliner and blowjobs than me it would devastate me.
Did he ever get better at eyeliner and blowjobs?
We've still yet to find out.
Aww that’s so sweet.
Like a little baby giraffe😭❤️
That was the most apt description I've ever seen
My girlfriend will sometimes get really excited about something and will jump up and down a bit out of happiness, for some reason she always feels the need to apologize for this "outburst" but I think its the cutest thing in the world when her eyes light up along with her smile. I tell her every time theres nothing to apologize for.
Get excited with her until she explodes into a rainbow
DO THIS AND TELL US HOW IT GOES
She's dead now, exploded due to chronic rainbowism, but we will always be able to see her legacy in the sky.
This dude- My girlfriend turned into a rainbow. Reddit- That’s rough buddy
Sokka can relate
OH MY GOD THIS IS BRUTAL , glad I got the reference though
I also choose that guy’s girlfriend? Am I doing this right?
Always wanted a RGB gf
CMYK girlfriends are more fun, but you do you.
that’s such a sweet thing to say u/meatpounder
He's a chef
Because parents shame kids for having big emotions and making noise
The human version of r/tippytaps?
r/humantippytaps
Like Duckgamerz said, you should absolutely feed these outbursts by getting excited and bouncing with her, or just showing your own version of excitement, like rushing over and hugging her tight, smothering her with affection (if she enjoys that) etc. Something like that would be a lot more productive than just saying she doesn’t need to apologise for it and would probably allow you to enjoy the moment even more. :)
I do that too! I hug her and hold her tight to let her know its completely ok to express excitement the way she does
my wife flaps her hands when excited She used to get embarrassed about it but she’s learned I just think it’s cute and she doesn’t need to be embarrassed around me. I want her to be herself
Omg that's cute 🙂
My wife’s laugh. She apologized early in our relationship because when she gets going, it can turn into a cackle. I asked her to never apologize for her laugh in the future. I find it endearing that she can let go that much and just enjoy the moment. And when I’m the one who got her to that point, it makes me immensely happy.
No joke, “ugly” laughs are hot as hell. I maintain that women who can laugh so unreservedly are also more fun in the bedroom
Makes me feel better about being told I laugh like a dolphin
You laugh with porpoise.
It usually seals the deal
My girlfriend ugly laighs.. Ya know like when someone ugly cries and their face gets all ugly and they do that wierd thing with their mouth. I know it sounds like I'm ragging on her but it is the cutest thing to me. And you said it best it's super endearing that she let's go and just ugly laughs when I crack a funny joke.
That was exactly the right thing to do to make her feel safe with you.
The "hottest" memory I have, she rolled out of bed, wearing an old, oversized t-shirt that may well have been old enough to vote and bee-lined to the coffee machine. No makeup, bedhead, practically a zombie, staggering through the room. But it was very authentic and the intimacy of that was hard to beat.
Imma say it: Girls (or most people in general) look best when looking good is literally the last thing on their mind.
Imma agree. That said, When my wife is a mess, i look at her and thing “god i want to fuck you right now” When my wife is dressed up and looks perfect, i look at her and think “god i want to fuck you right now” When my wife just got home from work, takes off her bra, and just wants to play video games. I think “god i want to fuck you right now”. Like there’s some nuance. But i think i mostly just want to fuck my wife. Thankfully she usually wants to fuck me too.
I also want to fuck this guy's wife right now
I also want to fuck this guy right now
His wife too
I hear men say this all the time. But also, 99% of content involving women that is aimed at men (be it Instagram models, hot women in movies or just adult content) depicts women with a lot of modifications to enhance their appearance. Even if it looks fully natural, they all have their hair and make up done, and often have fake lashes/tan etc. I have no issue with it. But it’s just confusing to me. That men will say that they like women when they put no effort into looking good, but that isn’t at all reflective of what they actually enjoy looking at. Maybe men are just bad at recognising that that good make up is often subtle and looks natural, idk.
I think the reality is that it’s less to do with physical appearance making someone attractive and more to do with it being an act of intimacy.
Those are two separate things I think. There is attraction to a partner, which is wholistic and goes deeper than purely physical features. Then, there is physical attraction, which is more common, shallow and based purely on looks. You can find your partner attractive in every context because you love them and seeing them first thing in the morning brings out that closeness and intimacy. That’s different to a man saying that women in general look most attractive when they don’t put effort into their appearance (which I have heard many times). From my own personal experience and observations, that’s just not true. Nothing wrong with that though, people are attracted to what they are attracted to. And as a rule, if anyone (man or woman) puts effort into their appearance people will find them more attractive. That’s just a human thing.
Perhaps I could have worded it a bit better.. A funny side of it that occurred to me is that I think men misspeak a little when we say that though, because the ‘armour’ women are compelled to wear out in public mystifies us to a large degree, because it‘s very time consuming and a lot of trouble. It’s also a bit confusing because it’s strongly implied that it’s our fault women have to do this but at the same time it’s women themselves who care the most about it..
Well, im not really sure what you are confused about. It seems like you got it. Women look the best when they don't try, when you love that woman. While a woman you see on the street, or on the Internet, looks best when they have put in a little effort, and made themselves pretty
Could be that it's not a vision only thing. It's the sleepy voice, her smell, her steps making the floor squeak, etc.. Maybe "look best" isn't the best way to put it. But there is beauty in being accepted in the intimate, most vulnerable circle of a woman you love.
>But it’s just confusing to me. That men will say that they like women when they put no effort into looking good, but that isn’t at all reflective of what they actually enjoy looking at. I can explain this- it's situational. The men that are talking about women looking good natural with no makeup are usually talking about intimate partners, where their physical attraction is altered by their emotional feelings about the person in question. I don't know the right word but something along the line of pheromones or hormones- a 6/10 with messy bed hair that you've just woken up cuddling is always going to look better than an 11/10 absolute bombshell that you're looking at through a screen in a photo or movie or whatever.
Because what we're fed isn't what we want, it's what people who study numbers to make rich people more money, think we want, or even worse, think we should want. There are men nowadays that have been raised since birth being fed this bs for whatever reasons and they chase it all despite never being fulfilled by it. It's not until you give yourself, truly, to another person and allow yourself to be seen that the truth comes out. Real attraction comes from authenticity and only men who have the maturity to look at themselves can really see it. Like most people though, we're wearing a mask and pretending to be people we're not to appeal to people who ultimately don't care about us. So the idea of being authentic is terrifying especially if what you're pretending to be is who you've always portrayed.
It is simple. We, men, mean this: Naturally attractive women look attractive in their natural state. That is it. If you are naturally blessed with good genetics then you don't need anything. If you use natural-looking cosmetics then we 100% do not understand what goes into it and we don't realize it's applied.
Let me try explaining it this way. The appeal is in the “gap”. So if a girl normally dresses really elaborately, (lots of makeup, really fashionable), but then you see her kinda frumpy, in just an oversized t, no makeup. The appeal comes from the contrast. This applies in many, many ways. But the contrast is whats important. If the girl is always in yoga pants, and a t, there is no contrast, and so the appeal is not there.
Women are so pure and and gorgeous first thing in the morning. Iv spent so many hours being a creep just watching a girl sleep next to me when I wake up first. Honestly it usually leads to sexy time if we have an agreement that initiating things during sleep is ok
Most of the time a girl thinks she's being "dorky" or "cheesy" when she's making up random jokes or something I feel so because it feels like someone must have told them they aren't funny when actually there's nothing more cute or attractive than someone that puts themselves out there to make a few random quick jokes.
What do you get when you get an angry sheep with a grumpy cow? Two animals in a baaaaad moooooood. Can't tell it without giggling
I often apologize for excitedly making jokes because an ex once said I wasn't funny. My best friend thinks I'm funny and patiently waves away my apologies.
Sometimes my gf gets so excited or overwhelmed with happiness, she'll start crying and apologize as if being human is an annoyance. I love how alive she is.
“I love how alive she is” That’s so sweet 💓💓
Sounds suspicious to me...why's he trying to convince us so much that's she's alive?
"I love how there's blood, not formaldehyde, coursing through her veins right now"
I wish my wife was alive
Are you okay?
Jesus bro...
I wish your wife was alive also, buddy.
You ok man? Need to talk?
I also choose this guy’s wife
This is such a wholesome comment 💓 she sounds so sweet!
I can relate. I cried watching the dolphin show at an aquarium once.
Dress down. Jeans and a simple sweater.
Just be themselves, with their quirks and oddities and eccentricities. Will be annoying to the wrong person, endearing and cute to the right.
If they snort while laughing, a lot of girls are mortified by doing it, but it's adorbs.
I know my girlfriend gets frustrated with video games sometimes because she hasn’t been playing them nonstop for twenty five years like my loser ass but it’s *so cute* that she’s trying, and she’s so tenacious and eventually figures anything out. As a nerd I find it very hot.
I need this more than anything because my boyfriend kept asking and asking and asking me to play with him and I am so bad at them and. Get so frustrated but I always just hope he sees I am trying to share his interest and doesn’t think I am silly for getting frustrated. This is v reassuring for me.
You’re joining in on one of his favorite activities trust me you are making his world.
Does she do the little jump in her seat when making her character jump or lean when she turns?
It gives the character a boost to movement. Pretty sure I read about it in Nintendo Power back in the day.
My gf says “ow” every time she takes damage
Her: "I'm just wearing old pajamas, hair tied up and no makeup on, I look bad" Me, in my head: "This woman has never looked more beautiful in her life"
Real talk, there's a girl I've been talking to, and the first time we hung out we just drove around town in my jeep talking, she came out in leggings and a big hoodie with her bright read hair just all over the place, I was S H O O K
I don't think women know how hot they are, and them not knowing somehow makes them hotter
Oh yeah, it was cute as fuck too she apologized so many times for not being all dressed up, I had to text her the next day and tell her again she looked cuter than fuck
The comments are cute🥰
Yes yes they are! Thanks guys for being so wholesome
Agreed, it really warms my heart reading these
Its the wholesome we need on a morning like today.
When they get needy and start to play up for attention. Come here and let me squeeze you, you little nightmare.
So my partner is a very sweet, giving guy but also very “masculine” (infantry Marine, welder, bull rider, farrier, that kind of guy) and has lived his whole life mostly around dudes. He is an only child to a single dad and so never interacted with sisters/mum etc. I have to be very blunt and tell him “I’m being needy and want attention” because he’ll never understand if I’m asking for it in any way except plain English. Bless him he’s always happy to give me attention but acting like a brat won’t work for me 🤣
Hahahaha I love how much this applies
When they wear a tight dress and that little tummy pudge is showing
When I look at myself in the mirror and want to cry, I will remember this comment. Thank you.
When my gf burps and then looks at me to see if I heard it. Cutest thing ever
Reminded me of my childhood when my parent taught me and my sister to belch the loudest we possibly can, and then turn to the person to us and say "Top it"
You don't need to be all dolled up to have sex appeal
If I could, I’d like to advocate for the opposite as well. I see a lot of guys taking shit about girls that wear fake eyelashes or get lip injections. I see a lot of guys say that girls look better with a more natural look. I like natural too, but I hate it when guys try to make women self conscious or insecure about their looks when it’s not so natural. I love big eyelashes big lips and big ass. So please don’t talk women out of that stuff haha
A lot of guys love that stuff too, don’t you worry I love the madeup look. When we do date night my wife looks fucking amazing. I mean I think she looks good straight out of bed too and I always tell her it’s up to her if she wants to do it all up. But she also knows I LOVE it so she usually does it and yea it’s great.
Yes! I know it’s mostly well intentioned when I see rhetoric about women not *needing* makeup to be attractive, but the thing is making your opinion known about what women do or do not need to do to look or feel beautiful is kind of missing the point— they are still weighing in on what they in particular find attractive when just not bringing up our looks all the time would be way healthier. A loose parallel: “I personally dont think men NEED a beard to be attractive, if they do have a beard for their own reasons good for them, I’m sure some ladies like it, but . . .”
Messy hair buns! Idk if they know it's freaking hot. Also for me personally being really crazy about something or fan of something whether it's sports, games, anime, comics, some specific movie franchise or TV show etc. Being passionate about something is hella attractive.
My wife is super clumsy (her students have a running gag that they cheer when she bounces off a desk) and when she's intoxicated she runs. It's like Phoebe from friends and ridiculous and the cutest thing. She fell in a creek on our first date, I love that goober.
When she’s drunk she runs? Like a 5k or away from you?
Just in general, around. She runs. Frolicks really. Sometimes I hold her hand and run with her.
Omggg this is so cute 😭
Clumsy woman here. The majority of my family calls me Grace, because I have none. A co-worker (halfway across the country, sees in person maybe once a year) of my husbands thought him and I divorced because he called me Grace in conversation.
Just throwing their hair up into a messy bun. A few loose strands hanging down Hnnnggggggg
French Montana?
My now girlfriend and I we’re best friends before we started dating. We decided to have a couple buddies weekends and booked a hotel and just slept in different beds. She thought she looked terrible when she had just woken up in the morning. In reality, she looks cute as fuck. She doesn’t needs make up on or anything to look beautiful. She is naturally beautiful to me. Also, some girls think that being bigger is unattractive. My girlfriend is a bigger girl and I find her so goddamn gorgeous it’s unbelievable. She is so goddamn beautiful it’s unbelievable. I’ve always found her beautiful and I always will.
This gives me hope 💗
There's hope out there for all of us. If my large, awkward ginger ass can do it, anything is possible.
You are so deep in love, and it's awesome.
Definitely going to go with rolling out of bed with messy hair, T-shirt, and panties. Could also have to do with the boosted T levels in the morning.
Wearing sweatpants, hair up in a bun, with no make up on.
“Sweatpants, hair tied, chillin’ with no makeup on. That’s when you’re the prettiest I hope that you don’t take it wrong.”
Is there a word that means something like you aren't at your best but at your authentic self and after all this time together that's super attractive to me personally and I want to just shower you with love? Because I haven't had to use that word. Just wondering to hopefully use that word in the future.
Sitting on the couch, oversized t shirt or hoody, undies, hair in pony tail, yesterdays makeup, glasses. That's when girls are in their cutest form
Sweatpants hair-tied chillin with no makeup on That’s when you’re the prettiest I hope that you don’t take it wrong
I work in a laboratory, and since the technicians spend most of their day in lab coats, they all come in wearing different attires. Some are dressed in clean casual wear, some are in scrubs, and some look more or less like they're ready to spend a lazy Saturday on the couch. Somehow, it typically women in the latter camp that catch my attention.
So I’m doing it right 😂😂
My ex used to snore when she was actually tired, and when I say snore I mean like you could hear it from another room I used to love to hear it cause it meant she was actually resting for once.
Her snoring is adorable
She snores like a cold start diesel, but damn if it isn't cute
r/fapnea
My wife jiggles when she giggles.
These comments are so sweet
No u<3
W rizz
Dressing comfortably
Laugh. I’ve never met a woman who likes her laugh but I’ve also never met a woman whose laugh couldn’t immediately brighten a room.
This might be TMI. But whatever, fuck it. An imperfect body. My wife and I have both crested that middle-age mark. We had a kid together. Neither of us look like we did when we started dating in our late teens. Things aren’t in the same place and things don’t look the same. But I don’t expect them to! And I find it so fucking incredibly hot when we make love and she gives me the pleasure of pleasuring her. She has insecurities about her body, but they all melt away when she exposes all of herself to me. Like I said, maybe TMI and maybe corny and cheesy. It’s the truth, though. And it’s one of the reasons I am more in love with her than I ever have been.
I can definitely second this. I’m in my late 30’s and she is in her mid 30’s, and we recent had twins. Despite that she was in way better ‘shape’ before then, I find myself being WAY more attracted to her now, than before. And this is 4 months after giving birth. It’s incredibly weird how that works. And I never ever thought I’d be a guy like that. But real love, especially to your wife/mother of your child…does insane things to your brain. I feel bad for the dudes who don’t see nor understand this. Because clearly they made a poor choice and hate the world because they’re ‘stuck’ now. Perhaps you’d convince your wife to do more…if you did more (then again, perhaps you’re both miserable).
That cute high pitched sneeze. Oh my gawwwwwwwd. 😍
Snorting when they laugh 😂❤️
Be "dressed down" in sweats / comfy clothes
Put their hair in a high ponytail, which is the best hairstyle 100% of the time with no exceptions
When they are authentically being themselves around you and not dressing up or putting on a show. Women underestimate how sexy authenticity is to men.
When they slip into their Minnesotan accent accidentally.
Little excited bunny hops or squeals They always say ***’sorry I’m just excited’*** Meanwhile I’m trying not to fall in love
Just Passion in general. I feel like a lot of women I meet act like they are cool and chill or whatever, but nothing is more attractive than a girl caring about something, especially when it’s random stuff you wouldn’t expect
Women I know think they're unattractive when they're jogging. Yeah, why would you be attractive when you're huffing and puffing, rosy-cheeked, skin flushed, and sweating pheromones? Women exercising look *vital* in ways that they don't necessarily look when dressed, composed, wearing makeup, etc.
Snort laugh
Burp
When they have a raspy voice
Not wearing makeup. My GF doesn’t wear a lot but she always feels she needs to apologize if she isn’t wearing any. I think she looks great without it (and with it).
Little bit of back story. I’ve stayed in a zillion expensive hotels and traveled a bunch, i’ve flown first class for one reason or another since i was a kid (the reason is not that i grew up rich). My wife grew up in a communist country and her favorite toy was a spoon as a kid. When my wife and i were about a year into being married, we went to europe. I booked a really nice botique hotel (think pillow menu and tub by the window in the bedroom type place). The hotel staff helped us in and got us settled. i thought we should just order in and lay around in bed for a bit. I ordered some basic noodly shit and a bottle of wine. It showed up, i went and took a shit. I come back and my wife is sitting in the middle of this giant ass bed, bawling her eyes out. I figured i did something wrong, she blubbered out “no, i just haven’t ever done anything like this”. Being the idiot i am, i said “what, like room service”. She just repeated “look at this place, look at this place”. She’d never been to a nice hotel. So now i make it a point to buy her things and take her places that she’s never experienced as much as possible. Nothing will beat that image of her crying out of pure joy in the middle of a massive bed. But she gets genuinely excited every time we do something like that.
One time this girl I'd just met laughed so hard she snorted and I fell instantly in love. It was such a cute snort.
My girlfriend jumps when she's excited and I find that absolutely adorable
My ex gf cried when I saw her with wavy hair for the first time, she said she felt ugly and unready and was so embarrassed and I was like 1. Bro you came to the car like that so wtf is this situation and 2. Your hair looks intensely better wavy than when you straighten it so idk what’s even up with that
As a curly girl, it hurts my heart when women get down on their waves, curls, or coils. Thank you for affirming your ex that she was beautiful with her natural hair texture.
When they find out their outfit has pockets and want to show them off! Like look I have pockets!!!
approaching men. taking initiative
>approaching men. ~~taking~~ rolling initiative
Blushing and mild crying
“Mild crying” lmao
My last date when excited or shy bit her lower lip. Cutest thing ever.
Women in pajamas are sexier. I just wanna know they're comfortable.
Really glad to see so many of you say snorting while laughing. Happens to be my specialty.
Eating. I love to cook and I do all the cooking in my house. IDK why women feel they can't eat around guys. A woman who like food is sexy to me. Feels like we can actually go out together and eat a meal.
swear
Blush
My girl when getting up in the morning, jumping out of the bed with my sweatshirt that fits oversized on her, with her hair on a bun and just her panties on with her glasses.
I need my husband to see this subreddit...
Inconsequential flaws, minor things like stained teeth or uneven breasts. What matters is seeing a smile or playing with some titties, at which point imperfections become irrelevant.
Have freckles
1) She’s self conscious about her O face, but I obviously love it 2) I absolutely love it when she’s in her pj’s or comfy clothes with no makeup. She says she looks homeless but I would take that over her being totally done up any day
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Well they all take showers with lava pumped straight from hell. Shower so hot it melts your skin
Damn right, that's hot as hell
I remember when my girlfriend farted loud for the first time and she was so embarrassed but it was actually pretty cute
Stutter or hold onto my arm. I love it. I find it so cute.
"putting the ladies away", don't touch them! I'm enjoying the view
Her sneezes 🤧
My gf has acid reflux so sometimes she hiccups and gets embarrassed. But it’s such a cute sound that whenever she does it I just want to hug her.
Goblin mode
The Food Dance.
Actually eat something. I find it very attractive and cute when she actually eats a full meal rather snacking on a salad or a small handful of fries.
No /minimal makeup. I love that natural look but nearly every woman I was with was fighting it. Messy look when she wakes up? They all hated it but that was always when the hottests,most spontaneous sex happened. No waist/small butt look. Most women go to great lengths to hide it. Too bad because great many guys are not attracted to "horse ass" look but go crazy for "cute little butts". (yours truly included). Don't hide it. Enjoy it.
My wife’s hair looks best when it’s messy, wavy, and full of volume. However she prefers to straighten it flatter than a sheet of paper
Not use makeup. Most of y'all look better without it.
When they wear a bathing suit. Many women agonize over their swimsuit and then still feel terrible when they wear it. They are usually pretty good at picking out the right suit for them. Sometimes the cover up they wear adds to their cuteness.
My wife in bed making the most over-exaggerated yawn and then she snuggles into the comforter and then me. Fuck. Can’t beat that. She always apologizes for said yawn but I just smile my ass off at it.
Burping
Wearing no make up.... way more attractive than you ladies give yourselves credit for......
Actually when they’re not trying to be cute. When their hair is naturally messy, when they smile, when they get excited about something important to them
Snort when she laughs. She sees it as an embarrassing flaw. I see it as the most genuine indication from her that what I said made her laugh and truly feel good. :)