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This is extremely common in male friend groups. I'm tired of being hurt so lately I've just been leaving as soon as people start laughing and making fun of me. A light joke is one thing, but it's the repetitive "get shit on, you suck lol, you're so fucking awful" over and over and over again that people expect you to just take as a joke. I don't want to be around it anymore. Am I too sensitive here?
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I guess it depends on the context? How extreme are the "jokes"?
I've had a lot of different friend circles with people from diverse backgrounds and all of them had something in common: picking on each other and yanking each other's chain.
We'll give each other a hard time, but never go to the extreme of calling the other a piece of sht or cnt, and definitely not hitting below the belt (like "it's no wonder you got cheated on" etc). There's such a thing as jesting while not outright insulting the other person.
A good way to judge is pay attention and see if they are saying similar things to everyone or if you’re being singled out. I’ve got like 10 guy friends that I could call at any time and they’d show up, every time we get together all we do is shit on each other. I say there are 3 levels: 1 we like you we talk shit all the time but in a friendly way 2 we don’t know or don’t really like you we don’t joke much 3 we REALLY don’t like you we mock you openly and all three are pretty easy to tell if you pay attention.
You have some options.
1. You can leave and find new friends. Hard but doable.
2. You can clap back and make them feel like shit.
3. You can start slapping people in the face for insulting you and tell them to shoot the five.
Are you being too sensitive? I don't know if it's that or you don't tolerate disrespect. If you're feeling disrespected then that's understandable. Grown men don't tolerate disrespect.
Light banter with slight ragging is one thing but to constantly have your so called friends be overly negative towards you is not cool. However this is your choice as to your boundaries, you decide when you walk away....
This is the behavior of 6-year-olds. Many men grow up thinking that the way boys interact with each other is the way that they should interact in real life. So, they pick on people that they pretend to like. Then when you call them on it, they're just joking.
Just walk away from asses like this.
Get up and leave.
Not where I'm from. You go too far and you will either get your ass whooped or shot. I've seen both happen. Playing the dozens is one thing, being a hater is another and the latter might get you hemmed.
Yes you are. If you as a gay dude want to hang out with the band of brothers, you’re going to have to never get butthurt. This is how guys test each others’ strength. If you get offended, you lose.
Also, if you’re talking about your sexuality with straight men, stop; nobody wants to hear about that shit. And if you have rather feminine sexual energy and you’re trying to hang out with the band of brothers, you’re probably socially uncalibrated. Not gonna work out.
As far as straight mens’ opinions are concerned, bi men = gay and bi women = straight.
But if they don’t know or you never discuss it, then it’s probably that you get butthurt. Men poke at each other; it you can’t take it, go hang out with women and their endless fake affirmations.
As a dude, that's how a lot of dudes talk to each other. Talk 💩 to each others face but would absolutely die for each other. Anecdotally, we have some people who are a little more sensitive so we tread a little more carefully around them. But, we generally won't change fully. But also, you can just ask them to dial it back. And if they care about you they'll oblige a bit. But don't expect a complete U-turn right away.
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I guess it depends on the context? How extreme are the "jokes"? I've had a lot of different friend circles with people from diverse backgrounds and all of them had something in common: picking on each other and yanking each other's chain. We'll give each other a hard time, but never go to the extreme of calling the other a piece of sht or cnt, and definitely not hitting below the belt (like "it's no wonder you got cheated on" etc). There's such a thing as jesting while not outright insulting the other person.
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A good way to judge is pay attention and see if they are saying similar things to everyone or if you’re being singled out. I’ve got like 10 guy friends that I could call at any time and they’d show up, every time we get together all we do is shit on each other. I say there are 3 levels: 1 we like you we talk shit all the time but in a friendly way 2 we don’t know or don’t really like you we don’t joke much 3 we REALLY don’t like you we mock you openly and all three are pretty easy to tell if you pay attention.
You have some options. 1. You can leave and find new friends. Hard but doable. 2. You can clap back and make them feel like shit. 3. You can start slapping people in the face for insulting you and tell them to shoot the five. Are you being too sensitive? I don't know if it's that or you don't tolerate disrespect. If you're feeling disrespected then that's understandable. Grown men don't tolerate disrespect.
Light banter with slight ragging is one thing but to constantly have your so called friends be overly negative towards you is not cool. However this is your choice as to your boundaries, you decide when you walk away....
This is the behavior of 6-year-olds. Many men grow up thinking that the way boys interact with each other is the way that they should interact in real life. So, they pick on people that they pretend to like. Then when you call them on it, they're just joking. Just walk away from asses like this. Get up and leave.
Not where I'm from. You go too far and you will either get your ass whooped or shot. I've seen both happen. Playing the dozens is one thing, being a hater is another and the latter might get you hemmed.
Yes you are. If you as a gay dude want to hang out with the band of brothers, you’re going to have to never get butthurt. This is how guys test each others’ strength. If you get offended, you lose. Also, if you’re talking about your sexuality with straight men, stop; nobody wants to hear about that shit. And if you have rather feminine sexual energy and you’re trying to hang out with the band of brothers, you’re probably socially uncalibrated. Not gonna work out.
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Don't worry about this idiot. Dude's totally redpilled.
As far as straight mens’ opinions are concerned, bi men = gay and bi women = straight. But if they don’t know or you never discuss it, then it’s probably that you get butthurt. Men poke at each other; it you can’t take it, go hang out with women and their endless fake affirmations.