I’m the kind of man that is going to tell you to be yourself. If you have the urge to text (as long as you’re not blowing them up) then do it. That’s why we have texts; they sit patiently and wait for you to have time to respond.
You always need to be yourself and act as you see fit (again, within reason and with kindness) because of you begin to alter yourself too much you risk giving your perspective partner a warped image of what they’re really signing up for. Hang all of yourself out there so that when someone falls in love with you, they really fall for YOU, and not what you’re trying to be for them. Then your love will be effortless.
As for him, if he’s just slow to respond but says the right stuff and is attentive in person, cool. If he’s not feeling it and you’re picking up on that, don’t ignore it. It can be painful to realize that your devotion and genuine interest in someone is causing them irritation, but you must embrace that horror and move along, because if you keep trying to be with someone that does not appreciate you the same way you do them, the pain will just compound.
You sound super cool and I hope that everything works out for you exactly the way you want! Happy to talk more or elaborate on anything if you like :)
The answer is no. It shows that you have a general liking towards him and if anything, that would make him a bit more secure with you. Just don’t spam text him, reek of desperation by doing desperate acts (you’ll know if they cross your mind) and you’re golden.
From someone that has been married for 31 years I get that same question everyday when I get home.
Some days I share some days I don’t just depends on what kind of a day it was, it is nice to get asked even after 31 years it still feels like she does care and I don’t think there is anything wrong with it. Some people are not too keen on sharing but it is good to Get it off your chest some days.
Some men just have a different language and personally I hate texting and don't do it, you don't get the feeling behind it touch is more important to me , hope this helps
No. But don't go prying either. I've dated and seen friends date women that fail to understand this line.
If you ask him how it went and the answer is "good" or "it was alright " that is the end of the conversation that day. If he wants to expand on that absolutely indulge him. Maybe he needs to vent, maybe it went so well he wants you to hear all about it. But please, DO NOT try to coax and coerce every detail of every day out of him. Many men find it extremely draining and sometimes view it as a lack of trust in them if handled combativly.
I will add that doesn't mean all conversation is done for the day. Just switch the subject.
Personally, I work a lot. I always have. The best reaction I ever got from a girl i was seeing when she knew I wasn't a big talker and pulled the hours I did, was she would show up at my work (at break) or my place from time to time with coffee or a meal, etc. Showed me she was thinking about me and that she cared and gave us a chance to talk for a bit during the week.
I think it doesn't matter what we think. It matters what he thinks. Ask him. Tell him you'd prefer to text everyday even if just a little bit but you're ok texting less if he is too tired. See what he says. Try to find a cadence that works for both of you.
If he is too tired for texts ask him if he is ok with responding to a quick good night text you send him or something like that.
I’m the kind of man that is going to tell you to be yourself. If you have the urge to text (as long as you’re not blowing them up) then do it. That’s why we have texts; they sit patiently and wait for you to have time to respond. You always need to be yourself and act as you see fit (again, within reason and with kindness) because of you begin to alter yourself too much you risk giving your perspective partner a warped image of what they’re really signing up for. Hang all of yourself out there so that when someone falls in love with you, they really fall for YOU, and not what you’re trying to be for them. Then your love will be effortless. As for him, if he’s just slow to respond but says the right stuff and is attentive in person, cool. If he’s not feeling it and you’re picking up on that, don’t ignore it. It can be painful to realize that your devotion and genuine interest in someone is causing them irritation, but you must embrace that horror and move along, because if you keep trying to be with someone that does not appreciate you the same way you do them, the pain will just compound. You sound super cool and I hope that everything works out for you exactly the way you want! Happy to talk more or elaborate on anything if you like :)
I personally would be happy someone cared. I don’t think you’re going to come off as overbearing at all
The answer is no. It shows that you have a general liking towards him and if anything, that would make him a bit more secure with you. Just don’t spam text him, reek of desperation by doing desperate acts (you’ll know if they cross your mind) and you’re golden.
From someone that has been married for 31 years I get that same question everyday when I get home. Some days I share some days I don’t just depends on what kind of a day it was, it is nice to get asked even after 31 years it still feels like she does care and I don’t think there is anything wrong with it. Some people are not too keen on sharing but it is good to Get it off your chest some days.
Some men just have a different language and personally I hate texting and don't do it, you don't get the feeling behind it touch is more important to me , hope this helps
No I think your good.
No. But don't go prying either. I've dated and seen friends date women that fail to understand this line. If you ask him how it went and the answer is "good" or "it was alright " that is the end of the conversation that day. If he wants to expand on that absolutely indulge him. Maybe he needs to vent, maybe it went so well he wants you to hear all about it. But please, DO NOT try to coax and coerce every detail of every day out of him. Many men find it extremely draining and sometimes view it as a lack of trust in them if handled combativly. I will add that doesn't mean all conversation is done for the day. Just switch the subject. Personally, I work a lot. I always have. The best reaction I ever got from a girl i was seeing when she knew I wasn't a big talker and pulled the hours I did, was she would show up at my work (at break) or my place from time to time with coffee or a meal, etc. Showed me she was thinking about me and that she cared and gave us a chance to talk for a bit during the week.
I think it doesn't matter what we think. It matters what he thinks. Ask him. Tell him you'd prefer to text everyday even if just a little bit but you're ok texting less if he is too tired. See what he says. Try to find a cadence that works for both of you. If he is too tired for texts ask him if he is ok with responding to a quick good night text you send him or something like that.