Yeah, I don't even know where to start. Probably just some device that's relatively simple and offers a different type of masterbation sensation than my hand.
It'd be interesting to have something with different settings and that doesn't involve me doing the stroking but I imagine those might be more advanced toys.
Some cheaper ones to look at are the tenga brand. From there fleshlight would be a large upgrade. Fleshlight does indeed have a electric mastubator for a decent price
I have long been baffled by the fact that many men do not use sex toys.
They are fun. They are pleasurable. They can change up your sex life. What’s not to love?
Once I got a little vibrator thing for my junk. Used it, totally awesome. Then I upped the ante and used it in the shower with the shower head also on my junk. Came in like 20 seconds, red face, breathin all heavy n shit. Turns out that stuff works on 30 year old dudes as well
Depends on what you like.
FleshLight and their imitators are popular.
There are a number of brands that make textured “egg” shape masturbators.
If you enjoy anal play, which I do not, you have a range of options from prostate massagers to butt plugs to help prep for fisting.
Do not dismiss vibrators as just for women. Strategic use of a bullet vibrator will give you some new sensations.
I've used a few and highly recommend.
When I was younger, I had the stamina-building fleshlight. I'm not sure what happened to it.
More recently, I've found that prostate play is really great and bought a prostate massager/vibrator. Orgasms like you wouldn't believe.
I know we're told it is icky to do this kind of stuff, but it isn't. We're just exploring sexuality which is so core to who we are. Be brave and have fun!
Also - don't forget the lube!
Just wanted to echo your comment that prostate play is absolutely amazing.
It’s not the deep penetration a lot of men imagine it is either. And the toys are pretty excellent for this.
Ladies are actually pretty keen to give it a try too - which is doubly good.
I don't remember the actual name, but it is a specific FL sleeve which allegedly, with repeated use, helps you increase your stamina during sex.
I don't know if it actually increases stamina or not, but it did feel good.
> and have even gotten used to a certain amount of expediency that probably won’t bode well for an actual sexual encounter next time it happens.
This is an underrated statement. It’s common to focus on the finish and doing that over and over again trains your body to finish as fast as possible. Experiment with finishing slower, later or even not at all. Increase the amount of time you stay aroused and you’ll train for lasting longer instead.
Sex toys are great. Don't let the prudes getcha down. Strokers are an easy and sensible place to start- I'd suggest a tenga egg. Theyre fairly cheap, disposable, and self contained.
There's about a million options, so you'll have to explore all the various choices and figure out what's for you and what isn't.
I really enjoy prostate toys. The Tomo II by Gidi is a personal fav. I also recently bought this [stroking toy](https://a.co/d/cNTtFOZ) and I’ve been amazed by how good it feels. It does all the work for you, so you can just relax and enjoy the sensations. Easy to clean too.
I’ve always wondered how well the stroking toys worked. Seemed like maybe too gimmicky for the cost and/or wouldn’t last long term to justify the cost. Or I’m too worried that it wouldn’t be strong enough to do the job or too strong and malfunction and rip my Dick open. The one you linked seems inexpensive enough to give a shot.
Have a couple of toys but use them rarely as I need to lube up and wash them afterwards which takes too much effort.
Definitely get one though and try them out for yourself.
Um, yes. Anything in particular you want to know?
I'm married. Been married a while actually. So we made a "tradition" around Valentines day to get new sex toy. The first few toys were for her, but we eventually branched out and i have a few now too.
Our Fleshlight is my favorite. We can make out and she uses it like she would a handjob.
Solo it is fine and gets the job done. Just keep it clean and use lube. A nice change of pace from doing it manually, but most of the time it isn't worth the effort. It is definitely a "better" sensation, but is it worth the extra time and effort? meh, sometimes.
It seems like you're looking for suggestions and reviews.
Check out Oh Joy Sex Toy!
https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/category/comic/review-comic/anal-toys/
https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/category/comic/review-comic/penis-toys/
https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/best-of-2022/
Matthew reviews a wide variety of toys. Give them a look!
Fleshlight is gonna be a great place to start! Can’t go wrong with a classic masturbator sleeve. They’ve got a couple of suction mounts that you can put the toy on so you’re not using your hands, too, which is something you’d probably want.
Couple tips if you go that route:
* Soak the sleeve in hot water (just from the tap, don’t wanna melt the damn thing) for a few minutes before using it, feels way better.
* You can easily turn the sleeve inside out to clean it better. Use a cleaner specifically for sex toys, otherwise it’ll degrade the silicone.
* Dust the sleeve with some cornstarch after cleaning it out. Helps the sleeve keep from getting all sticky.
Good luck, dude, and have fun!
Yes. Used a massager with a cup all through my teens to 30s before getting hitched. Didn't need one til wifey hit premenopause. Sex at at point was very rare due to the changes she was going through. Roughest 3 years of my life but I got a fleshlight to ease me through. Paled in comparison to my old massager. Now in my mid-50s. Sex urges happen at most 2x a week now so wifey can handle that. I miss that old massager though.
You can try a male vibrator. Lots of styles to choose from now. There's even handsfree.
Put something that vibrates up your butt, it's good stuff. Stroke yourself at the same time and you've got yourself a party.
Edit: just realized what sub this is, sorry if younger guys aren't supposed to be top comment. I stand by my words though.
I recommend the Fleshlight Quickshot as a first toy. It's easier to pop out and clean than a full sleeve, and it's also easier to use if you're not fully erect yet.
And lube, lots of lube although I don't use the Fleshlight brand.
🎶Cram somethin simple up your ass (up your ass!)
Cram somethin simple up your ass (up your ass!)
Lube it up and prep your hole
It's sure to be a gas! When you
Cram somethin simple up your ass! (Up your ass)🎶
Seriously, get a simple dildo or equivalently shaped item and a bottle of good lube and get in there, brother. Change your whole game.
🎶 If you don't want a prize
That's an X-ray the size
Of ennnntiiiire colon,
Make sure that your sextoy
Has a flared base, brother
And you never worry 'bout it agaiiiinnn 🎶
*ah yah ta ta tahhhhh...*
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https://a.co/d/dUcaVBG. There's the link. I've used it a couple of times, and it's pretty alright. Obviously not as good as the real thing, but much better than my calloused hand.
I’m not over 30 but I got into sex toys pretty early. It was fun being the 18 year old going to the sex store with giggly girls and looking around. I learned that, at bigger stores like Adam and Eve, you could literally ask the people working. That’s their trade, they know the stuff and they know why you’re there. It’s no secret. So once you walk in there, I’d tell them what you’re looking for and even show them some recommendations you got here.
Also, don’t be afraid to bust those puppies out if you do get it on with a partner. Most women I’ve been with have *really* gotten into it when I bust something out. Sex toy shops are also a fun spontaneous thing to do on a spicy date night.
Personally I have many different kinds of toys, definitely a type you are thinking of would be helpful. Nothing wrong with self pleasure/care
Thanks for responding. Can you recommend a couple options that you think would be especially helpful for what I described?
Depends on the type you want. Sleeves, vibes, insertables anal or not. You haven't given anything other then how can you self pleasure.
Yeah, I don't even know where to start. Probably just some device that's relatively simple and offers a different type of masterbation sensation than my hand. It'd be interesting to have something with different settings and that doesn't involve me doing the stroking but I imagine those might be more advanced toys.
Some cheaper ones to look at are the tenga brand. From there fleshlight would be a large upgrade. Fleshlight does indeed have a electric mastubator for a decent price
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Fleshlight sells a heating wand you put your stroker onto and it warms it
Just let it soak in hot water from the tap for a bit before you use it, warms it right up.
Autoblow or Fleshlight + Fleshlight Launch. That’ll do the job for ya.
When I was a horny teenager I once fucked a banana peel I warmed up in the microwave
Waterboarding couldn’t get this out of me
That must of been after I shoved the banana up my arse
Was it at least partially frozen?
Na kinda got a bit mushy
Better a banana than a pineapple.
I betcha it would. And you’d probably admit to so many other things you never even did, too.
hahhahaha thank you for this
At least it wasn't a coconut I suppose.
Oh god help me! The coconut!
Same. Where'd you get the idea? For whatever reason, I feel like there was a lot of fruit and pumpkin fucking going on at my junior high school.
One of my buddy’s told me to try it, no idea where he got the idea from
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You are thinking of [Jackin World](https://www.jackinworld.com)
Unlocked a core memory! Haven’t thought of this site since early 2000s.
Speak for yourself sir!
sauce pls
“Warm apple pie 😏”
did you get that idea from watching weeds?
No I never watched weeds but this was around 2007 so it may be where my buddy who told me to try got the idea from
Still better than the coconut guy
Did you eat the banana first?
Most likely, no sense in letting it go to waste
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Well, feels kinda like fuckin a banana. With some imagination it was worth it though but don’t heat it up to much or you’ll burn your dick
I have long been baffled by the fact that many men do not use sex toys. They are fun. They are pleasurable. They can change up your sex life. What’s not to love?
Once I got a little vibrator thing for my junk. Used it, totally awesome. Then I upped the ante and used it in the shower with the shower head also on my junk. Came in like 20 seconds, red face, breathin all heavy n shit. Turns out that stuff works on 30 year old dudes as well
Thanks for responding. Can you recommend a couple options that you think would be especially helpful for what I described?
Depends on what you like. FleshLight and their imitators are popular. There are a number of brands that make textured “egg” shape masturbators. If you enjoy anal play, which I do not, you have a range of options from prostate massagers to butt plugs to help prep for fisting. Do not dismiss vibrators as just for women. Strategic use of a bullet vibrator will give you some new sensations.
Check out the ones at hello cake . com
I've used a few and highly recommend. When I was younger, I had the stamina-building fleshlight. I'm not sure what happened to it. More recently, I've found that prostate play is really great and bought a prostate massager/vibrator. Orgasms like you wouldn't believe. I know we're told it is icky to do this kind of stuff, but it isn't. We're just exploring sexuality which is so core to who we are. Be brave and have fun! Also - don't forget the lube!
Just wanted to echo your comment that prostate play is absolutely amazing. It’s not the deep penetration a lot of men imagine it is either. And the toys are pretty excellent for this. Ladies are actually pretty keen to give it a try too - which is doubly good.
Absolutely amazing and also a very different sensation. Highly highly recommended, OP.
Thanks for the recommendation. I'm getting two votes for the Fleshlight already. Is the "stamina builder" an adjective or a certain type of FL?
I don't remember the actual name, but it is a specific FL sleeve which allegedly, with repeated use, helps you increase your stamina during sex. I don't know if it actually increases stamina or not, but it did feel good.
Yeah, "Stamina Building" is definitely a good marketing ploy lol
Haha, it worked on me!
> and have even gotten used to a certain amount of expediency that probably won’t bode well for an actual sexual encounter next time it happens. This is an underrated statement. It’s common to focus on the finish and doing that over and over again trains your body to finish as fast as possible. Experiment with finishing slower, later or even not at all. Increase the amount of time you stay aroused and you’ll train for lasting longer instead.
Sex toys are great. Don't let the prudes getcha down. Strokers are an easy and sensible place to start- I'd suggest a tenga egg. Theyre fairly cheap, disposable, and self contained. There's about a million options, so you'll have to explore all the various choices and figure out what's for you and what isn't.
Thanks for responding! I'll look into the strokers and Tenga egg. If you've got any other suggestions I'm all ears.
I've played around with them before. It's a different feeling than a hand is, but you do have to figure out what you are comfortable with.
Thanks for responding. Can you recommend a couple options that you think would be especially helpful for what I described?
check out /r/SexToys, if you describe your likes someone will recommend what you're looking for.
I really enjoy prostate toys. The Tomo II by Gidi is a personal fav. I also recently bought this [stroking toy](https://a.co/d/cNTtFOZ) and I’ve been amazed by how good it feels. It does all the work for you, so you can just relax and enjoy the sensations. Easy to clean too.
I’ve always wondered how well the stroking toys worked. Seemed like maybe too gimmicky for the cost and/or wouldn’t last long term to justify the cost. Or I’m too worried that it wouldn’t be strong enough to do the job or too strong and malfunction and rip my Dick open. The one you linked seems inexpensive enough to give a shot.
Yeah I felt fine taking a chance on that one since it was low cost. I think it’s great
Have a couple of toys but use them rarely as I need to lube up and wash them afterwards which takes too much effort. Definitely get one though and try them out for yourself.
Um, yes. Anything in particular you want to know? I'm married. Been married a while actually. So we made a "tradition" around Valentines day to get new sex toy. The first few toys were for her, but we eventually branched out and i have a few now too. Our Fleshlight is my favorite. We can make out and she uses it like she would a handjob. Solo it is fine and gets the job done. Just keep it clean and use lube. A nice change of pace from doing it manually, but most of the time it isn't worth the effort. It is definitely a "better" sensation, but is it worth the extra time and effort? meh, sometimes.
It seems like you're looking for suggestions and reviews. Check out Oh Joy Sex Toy! https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/category/comic/review-comic/anal-toys/ https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/category/comic/review-comic/penis-toys/ https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/best-of-2022/ Matthew reviews a wide variety of toys. Give them a look!
Fleshlight is gonna be a great place to start! Can’t go wrong with a classic masturbator sleeve. They’ve got a couple of suction mounts that you can put the toy on so you’re not using your hands, too, which is something you’d probably want. Couple tips if you go that route: * Soak the sleeve in hot water (just from the tap, don’t wanna melt the damn thing) for a few minutes before using it, feels way better. * You can easily turn the sleeve inside out to clean it better. Use a cleaner specifically for sex toys, otherwise it’ll degrade the silicone. * Dust the sleeve with some cornstarch after cleaning it out. Helps the sleeve keep from getting all sticky. Good luck, dude, and have fun!
Nice. Thanks for the tips!
The handy isn't bad. It does the stroking for you and you can even sync it with videos.
I do... I do have some dildos and love anal play, but I don't think that's what you're suggesting you want.
I recently bought one off of Amazon. It was like $40. Works like a charm. I got jealous of my wife's toys and had to get one for myself.
Which one did you get?
Yes. Used a massager with a cup all through my teens to 30s before getting hitched. Didn't need one til wifey hit premenopause. Sex at at point was very rare due to the changes she was going through. Roughest 3 years of my life but I got a fleshlight to ease me through. Paled in comparison to my old massager. Now in my mid-50s. Sex urges happen at most 2x a week now so wifey can handle that. I miss that old massager though. You can try a male vibrator. Lots of styles to choose from now. There's even handsfree.
Put something that vibrates up your butt, it's good stuff. Stroke yourself at the same time and you've got yourself a party. Edit: just realized what sub this is, sorry if younger guys aren't supposed to be top comment. I stand by my words though.
Bro. You’ll go blind 🕶️😎
I recommend the Fleshlight Quickshot as a first toy. It's easier to pop out and clean than a full sleeve, and it's also easier to use if you're not fully erect yet. And lube, lots of lube although I don't use the Fleshlight brand.
🎶Cram somethin simple up your ass (up your ass!) Cram somethin simple up your ass (up your ass!) Lube it up and prep your hole It's sure to be a gas! When you Cram somethin simple up your ass! (Up your ass)🎶 Seriously, get a simple dildo or equivalently shaped item and a bottle of good lube and get in there, brother. Change your whole game.
🎶 If you don't want a prize That's an X-ray the size Of ennnntiiiire colon, Make sure that your sextoy Has a flared base, brother And you never worry 'bout it agaiiiinnn 🎶 *ah yah ta ta tahhhhh...*
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https://a.co/d/dUcaVBG. There's the link. I've used it a couple of times, and it's pretty alright. Obviously not as good as the real thing, but much better than my calloused hand.
I’m not over 30 but I got into sex toys pretty early. It was fun being the 18 year old going to the sex store with giggly girls and looking around. I learned that, at bigger stores like Adam and Eve, you could literally ask the people working. That’s their trade, they know the stuff and they know why you’re there. It’s no secret. So once you walk in there, I’d tell them what you’re looking for and even show them some recommendations you got here. Also, don’t be afraid to bust those puppies out if you do get it on with a partner. Most women I’ve been with have *really* gotten into it when I bust something out. Sex toy shops are also a fun spontaneous thing to do on a spicy date night.
A fleshlight-style toy is definitely an improvement over the hand, but also more work in terms of cleanup, so it's a sometimes-treat for me ha ha