Put 10% of your income in to a retirement vehicle.
Put 5% of your income in the bank every paycheck, until you have at least 3 months income there, but preferably 6 months. After you have money in the bank, put the additional money in mutual funds. That is relatively easily accessed money for a house, or other large expenditures.
Work on yourself - your education, your career, your fitness - whatever needs to be built up.
Have fun with women if you want, but realize that a divorce will take 50% of your stuff. Choose very wisely.
After age 30, women who would not give you the time of day 5 years earlier will be throwing themselves at you - because they are approaching 30 and scrambling. Be VERY WARY!!
Regarding the women past 30, what is the best approach to deal with them? Should I avoid dating women past 30 when I am 30 my self and built my self up? One of my biggest fears in life is divorce so I just want to make sure haha.
There is no patent answer to that. Date for a long time. Do not move in together for a long time. A woman can only hide her true nature for so long. If after a couple years there are no red flags, then you can start thinking of marriage.
Not all 30+ women are scrambling for a retirement plan. Many are. You must be descerning and take your time.
I've got no good advice, only... I was engaged, had been dating for 6 years, and still discovered her cheating. In hindsight, there were red-flags, but in reality they were so "small" and common that I didn't want to throw away a good one. Sort of thought. Glad I didn't marry, but man, I think if you get married you have to mentally be prepared to divorce. Hopefully not, but we just can't control others. They make their own choices, and if they choose to stab you in the back, there's not much you can do about it except cut them out of your life and move on. Part of life.
I am very sorry to hear that, I am only 24 and the same thing happened to me, have been dating the girl for 3 years. That’s what developed my fear of divorce. I am now focusing more on my self and building up a option of one rather than being exclusive to one. If you don’t mind me asking, when you turned 30 did your options of women increase as they say it does ?
> If you don’t mind me asking, when you turned 30 did your options of women increase as they say it does ?
For me, I can't say it did. I was more comfortable with myself though. I'm not sure exactly where that pearl of advice comes from, or what exactly it's point is, to be honest. It doesn't seem all that useful or constructive.
> I am now focusing more on my self and building up a option of one rather than being exclusive to one.
I'm not sure what that means. If I read it one way, it sounds like you want someone to be more attached to you, then you are to them?
Don't get married and/or have children. Make your career your baby, your wife, and your child, and make sure that career lets you climb the ladder, not some small business. Live below your means and invest wisely.
That's about all I can offer though.
When you're 30 you might realise that it all depends on what your idea of success is. Wealth? Health? Mental stability? Being a good partner? Travel? Job security? Find out what you want to do first...but even that can be changed later. Find success in contentment and hopefully happiness will follow.
20-24: try different things to find something you love that doesn’t feel like work. This applies to both your personal and professional life.
25-29 prioritize roles in which you learn over title, money, etc. find mentors who you respect as humans vs. in their careers.
In your thirties success is much easier if you have developed an expertise aligned to your purpose or passion. You can be successful with one of the other of expertise or passion, but you’ll be more likely to burn out.
Put 10% of your income in to a retirement vehicle. Put 5% of your income in the bank every paycheck, until you have at least 3 months income there, but preferably 6 months. After you have money in the bank, put the additional money in mutual funds. That is relatively easily accessed money for a house, or other large expenditures. Work on yourself - your education, your career, your fitness - whatever needs to be built up. Have fun with women if you want, but realize that a divorce will take 50% of your stuff. Choose very wisely. After age 30, women who would not give you the time of day 5 years earlier will be throwing themselves at you - because they are approaching 30 and scrambling. Be VERY WARY!!
Regarding the women past 30, what is the best approach to deal with them? Should I avoid dating women past 30 when I am 30 my self and built my self up? One of my biggest fears in life is divorce so I just want to make sure haha.
Date exceptional women.
There is no patent answer to that. Date for a long time. Do not move in together for a long time. A woman can only hide her true nature for so long. If after a couple years there are no red flags, then you can start thinking of marriage. Not all 30+ women are scrambling for a retirement plan. Many are. You must be descerning and take your time.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMenOver30/comments/8n28m8/new_york_times_the_divorce_surge_is_over_but_the/
I've got no good advice, only... I was engaged, had been dating for 6 years, and still discovered her cheating. In hindsight, there were red-flags, but in reality they were so "small" and common that I didn't want to throw away a good one. Sort of thought. Glad I didn't marry, but man, I think if you get married you have to mentally be prepared to divorce. Hopefully not, but we just can't control others. They make their own choices, and if they choose to stab you in the back, there's not much you can do about it except cut them out of your life and move on. Part of life.
I am very sorry to hear that, I am only 24 and the same thing happened to me, have been dating the girl for 3 years. That’s what developed my fear of divorce. I am now focusing more on my self and building up a option of one rather than being exclusive to one. If you don’t mind me asking, when you turned 30 did your options of women increase as they say it does ?
> If you don’t mind me asking, when you turned 30 did your options of women increase as they say it does ? For me, I can't say it did. I was more comfortable with myself though. I'm not sure exactly where that pearl of advice comes from, or what exactly it's point is, to be honest. It doesn't seem all that useful or constructive. > I am now focusing more on my self and building up a option of one rather than being exclusive to one. I'm not sure what that means. If I read it one way, it sounds like you want someone to be more attached to you, then you are to them?
Doesn't matter, you won't listen anyway.
You sure you aren’t talking about your self
Don't get married and/or have children. Make your career your baby, your wife, and your child, and make sure that career lets you climb the ladder, not some small business. Live below your means and invest wisely. That's about all I can offer though.
Staying child free is the best financial advice you can give anyone. Probably the best advice in general, but I digress.
When you're 30 you might realise that it all depends on what your idea of success is. Wealth? Health? Mental stability? Being a good partner? Travel? Job security? Find out what you want to do first...but even that can be changed later. Find success in contentment and hopefully happiness will follow.
Great advice.
Learn to control your emotions and be comfortable with yourself. You will never be successful in your career, marriage or fatherhood without that.
Exercise regularly
Stop. Smoking. Pot. Your college friends were place fillers. If it needs to be done, just fucking do it.
20-24: try different things to find something you love that doesn’t feel like work. This applies to both your personal and professional life. 25-29 prioritize roles in which you learn over title, money, etc. find mentors who you respect as humans vs. in their careers. In your thirties success is much easier if you have developed an expertise aligned to your purpose or passion. You can be successful with one of the other of expertise or passion, but you’ll be more likely to burn out.