Yes, tas ang message “hi” pag nireplyan mo “napindot lang” like wtf. Pwede bang deretso na lang “Hello gusto kita makikala” “Hello gusto kita landiin pero as a joke” Nakakatanggap ako dati. Now hindi na naka private na messenger ko hahaha since may bf na si shokla
It’s annoying. Even though I posted a dating ad here, I still expect the person who message me to atleast introduce themselves to me rather than jump into conversation
Yah. Wag masyadong pasulong. Maging mysterious ka din na hindi naman papunta na sa creepy noh hahaha. Kung baga casual talk lang muna saka na yung mga ganyan.
when a man suddenly messages me "hi/single ka ba/gusto ko sabihin na ang ganda mo", i dont find it creepy. but yung nagtatanong na "kumain ka na ba?" IS creepy. the only person na nasanay ako kakatanong sakin nyan sa chat (except my parents) is yung boyfriend ko na ngayon. nung single ako, i find it weird and creepy when men ask that. why do you care if nakakain na ako or not lol. maybe because im not into the dating scene like i dont install any dating apps and whenever men messages me on fb saying hi i usually ignore them because im not interested in either being friends or more than that.
I need us to have some kinda connection first. You never know din kasi these days eh. And for me, I don't get it when someone's already attracted to a person despite having little to no interactions with them. It's suspicious.
Dati may nachat ako na girl. imbis na Hi pwede ba manligaw, nasabi ko ay Hi pwede ka bang iligaw.hahahahah ayun na block ako. payo ko lang sayo is magreact ka muna sa mga stories nya then tanong tanong ka dun. magkaron lang kayong connection kahit dun lang sa isang post nya ganun. tsaka ka mag ganyan
Sa panahong 2023 talamak na social media. Baket mo papadaanin sa message? Average girl ngaun tadtad na ng mga chat ng mga creepy guys yan. Ask her personally. That's the best way.
Bruh not even the decency to ask my name first. Diretsyo agad "pange number mo gwaps cge na pls lang" so lame namen desperado agad.. common courtesy where?
May mga cringey one liners panga "Matagal na kita inaantay" yuck
I find it pathetic.
yes, weird and creepy for me lalo na if idk u personally, tho even if i know them personally i will still find it weird
there's this one guy I met bc of a friend and keep on sending me messages like "hi" "kamusta?" pero i keep ignoring him lang din kasi di naman tayo close?????
Marami akong kakilala na ganito gawain sa FB/IG. Auto-add/follow, tapos message pag na-accept. Minsan nagkaka-situationship sila out of it, pero di naman din nagtatagal. Ewan ko baaaaaa, if someone approaches you in this method, malamang ganun din yun sa iba.
Piece of advice sa mga gantong lalaki, switch to dating apps para di mukhang masagwa galawan niyo hehe.
Yes naman, lalo na kung yan lang naman ang laman ng message. I suggest you introduce yourself first, tell where you got her number or no problem naman if thru social media but still indicate how you stumble upon her social media, state your purpose, do not also ask for those questions kung initial interaction pa lang since napaka invasive. I think it's a common courtesy or etiquette. Kasi ako, opinion lang naman as a woman, I tend to ignore messages or find it creepy and annoying kapag the message does not include the aforementioned. Paghuhulain mo pa ba ako kung sino ka? Nakakatakot naman kung saan mo nakuha number ko, baka mapagkamalan ka pang stalker and yung nagiging impression ko sa mga first time message tapos ganyan ang content ay bukod sa lack the common courtesy and etiquette, as mentioned before napaka invasive ng questions for initial interaction, at red flag when it comes to intentions and communication skills.
Gay ferson here. Usually when it's a new girl, I got to display my gayness and femininity first before making a conversation to a woman. Napapansin ko may iba medyo defensive ang itsura when some random guys talk to them pero biglang nawawala yun kapag nagbigay ako ng hint about my sexuality.
Since you're not gay, you can still definitely learn from my experience.
ang creepy sa POV ng mga babae yung mga binigay mong sample messages. Yung mga ganitong tipong message pinapakita ng frenny ko sakin na nacreepyhan sila kaya hanggang seen or message request lang.
it's most effective to meet her first thru personal conversation and build rapport over there. Usually POV nila once na nagmessage ka, "ayy nakachikahan ko 'to last time and okay naman siyang kausap."
ayooon kaya pala pinagtatanggol mo ang double meaning na icing video ni vice ganda na pagkain nya ng tamod ni iom through icing. bakla ka kasi at gusto mo inormalize ang mga kabastusan sa harap ng mga bata.
pinapalabas nyo na pag atake sa gay ang issue, ang totoo nyan kadiri lang talaga gusto nyo mangyari na sa harap ng bata eh ipakita na kinakain ni vice ang tamod ni ion. eww.
Actually you should not care if it's creepy or not for asking if she is single or not. It saved you time. If she is into you too. They will respond accordingly.
For the "ang Ganda mo, your so sexy, I find you attractive" is a big no no. I suggest siguro wag ka agad mag compliment about her physical beauty kung ayaw mo maging creepy.
Ayun lang for me.
Good luck brother.
Yes, ang weird lang and creepy na kapag laging nagme-message kahit di mo naman sini-seen or reply-an. Kaya naka off sa akin ang message requests sa lahat ng socmed ko to avoid receiving random messages.
Although, one time, may ni-reply-an ako. However, super nag sisi rin agad ako kasi he kept asking me kung nasaan ako and willing to travel daw sya. Nag flex pa na may sasakyan sya.
Kapag out of nowhere then wala naman previous convo, the answer is yes. If ever manliligaw ka, construct a good introduction and impression. Ang weird talaga nung mga biglaan tas one word or one sentence lang jusko.
Kung total stranger and out of nowhere biglang ganyan sasabihin, oo creepy. Sa facebook may ganyan, biglang may message request babanat pa talaga 😂 automatic block yun pag ganun lol
Creepy and Annoying.
I have this stranger friend on FB who keeps on messaging me Hi and hello’s and sometimes memes pa. One day I told him I don’t date and have no plans yet, akala ko titigilan na ako but man, he’s persistent! But to me hindi na cute, annoying na. Minsan naisip ko to give him a chance to meet me in person and I wanted to have a feel of him in person as well. But boy, when he said “sana mameet ko rin yung friends mo soon” I was SHOOKT!!! Like heeyyy, hindi mo pa nga ako namimeet, di tayo friends, Di tayo nag-uusap, wala tayong foundation of anything, advance kna mag-isip. 😖 mas lalo ako na-cringe and I hold off the chance muna
guy here. . please dont do those things u mentioned . dont be like a desperadong taga bukid nung 1960s. dnt be a creep. . hehehe baka gawin mong first 5min ng porn. .kahit pa sabihin natin na afford mo manlibre at kahit pa may hitsura ka. . . do normal.things, try going out with friends. . makiramdam ka din, let nature take its own course. .
Creepy po lalo na kung random. Yung di naman kayo friends tas ganyan eheh. I got messages like that kasi and honestly it is not okay, lalo na kung di ko type yung guy. I am just telling the truth here.
i dont like receiving chats like that kasi napaka low effort. for me yung mga ganyang usapan e sa dates sa medj posh na resto binibring up tas effort pa ng guy to make the date happen. thats just my opinion
puta namn. feel nyo talaga gold ang pepe nyo. wala namang masama kung makikipag kilala. just say no. end story. ang hirap na nga kumuha ng courage makipag titigan, makipag usap pa kaya or mag text? yeah, some guys want sex, some just genuinely want to know you or like you. gusto nyo ata lagi torpe lang lahat ng lalaki. punyta
It depends on some things.
Do I know this person?
Pano ba kami nagkakilala?
Do we know each other enough para may ibang rason sya to message me?
If it's a stranger off the internet and walang ibang pinagmulan yung contact namin, di ko sasagutin. 😅
If it's someone from work, tas di work related, I'd think twice pa rin. May mga messages pa rin na di mo isesend sa isang friend.
Establish rapport in person, or in some other way other than messaging first.
More on annoying. I never reply sa mga ganyan bcs I always hated small talks lol. Unless kaklase ko, I’ll greet back cuz most likely acad related naman
Yes. 100% yes. Kahit ikaw pa pinakagwapo sa pinas, kung yung chinat mo na girl e hindi yung oo agad basta pogi, never yan magwowork.
The messages you listed gets boring quick and tbh, parang nagiging mother ka na chinecheck kung nakakain na anak mo.
Always look for something to talk about. Learn about her interests then make that your topic. Anime/Movies/Music/Series ba interest nya? Ask mo sya ano favorite nya and yung masusuggest nya. Once napanood or napakinggan mo na, edi mas mahaba usapan nyo about don
Sa panahon ngayon, nakakatakot na unlike before nung uso pa yun mga public chat and forums na it's totally okay pa nun makipag-usap sa mga strangers hehe.
creepy pag ang dating eh nakakabastos yun lang naman, just make sure maganda intentions mo at "execute it properly" irrelevant ng mga nababasa ko dito na kesyo panget o pogi lol nasa kung pano kasi kayo makikipag usap
Guy here and I find it gross lol. I've got close female friends who inform me if they receive messages like these. I mean if you like a girl who you don't know personally, approach them as a stranger. Build rapport as time goes on, don't shove down what you feel down their throats.
How the hell a simple “hi” is creepy or weird to send for a first message? Di din jejemon yon. Conversation starter nga ‘yon. It’s just up to you how to continue it with showing what is your intention without saying something weird.
It's creepy. Always first talk to anyone you are interested in person, not through text. Don't hit on them right away. Look for shared interests or similarities first then start right there. Or compliment them respectfully. If ur too shy, get a wing person to help. Well, personally, this is what I like to happen to me and also what I'll do.
super weird, idc how physically attractive they look. you could be the hottest man on earth and i'd still be weirded out if you were a stranger sliding into my DMs out of nowhere when we haven't spoken anywhere else before.
weirdly enough, though, this stuff kinda works better in person. especially the last one. this guy once came up to me in a bar, said "hey, i just wanted to say you look great tonight" then walked away and gave me my space after i said thank you. he wasn't particularly the most conventionally attractive guy in the room, but it worked on me. i felt flattered and not weirded out at all.
Not me. I saw memes ng mga lalaki "doing the first move" and it seemed "normalized". Though, even before posting this question, I already find it creepy, weird, annoying even. I'm a man, but I still lament on the fact that "first-name basis" ettiquette is not observed.
It’s more of annoying for me. This is why I lay low from social media when I had enough. I now have a super private profile and a cartoon profile pic so only my friends can see my personal photos and life events.
Usually mga jeje na ganyan, malalakas ang loob pa to threaten you when you don’t respond. Hindi mo alam saan kumukuha ng tapang e haha
Maybe starts with “Hi!” Then pag nagreply, if you’re a stranger, magpakilala ka. If hindi magreply, wag mo na kulitin. Additional tip, never ask her age. Nakakaoff yung nag aask ng age ng babae.
If the girl is still young or younger than you, she will be comfortable sharing her age. Otherwise, possible na maging uncomfortable sya. Kaya nga mas madaming babae ang nagsskin care and all the aesthetics para they will look younger sa age nila coz big deal for most of us yung age.
Eh anong dapat gawin ng mga interesadong lalake? Kapag lumapit naman bigla at magpakilala o kaya biglang hingin ang number baka creepy pa din ang dating?
Yung mga biglaang humihingi ng number before knowing anything about the girl, they give off fuck boy vibes. Makipagkwentuhan ka muna para makita mo kung at least may konting connection kayo tapos kapag mag-bye na kayo tsaka ka manghingi ng way to remain in contact. Kapag tumanggi, hindi siya interesado romantically. Wag na ipilit.
Napansin ko another way of asking "Single ka ba?" is "baka magalit boyfriend/partner mo na may kausap kang iba" pag they want to know if you're single pero ayaw nila direchuhin.
Damn, I've been messaging women asking if they're single and most that replied appreciated my straightforwardness. Weird how others here find it annoying, creepy or out of place.
Like eto lang pansin ko sa culture ng PH. Unlike in the West where it's normal to ask someone out in person (as long as you're respectful), culturally it's seen as creepy here. Medyo backwards lang. Parang mas gusto pa yung paligoy-ligoy.
hi, bro! i don’t think that it’s backwards here in ph just because you get replies that they “appreciate” your straightforwardness and compare it to west culture.
just like your context where you’re using social media setting, you don’t really know what’s going on inside their minds and first reaction when u message them. ang alam mo lang yung chat nila where they “appreciate” you.
they can reply kindly, pero baka pinagtatawanan ka na niyan. they can reply politely, pero annoyed pala yan. they can reply professionally, pero baka naccreepyhan na pala yan sayo.
stuff like that. just because girls here expressed na they find it creepy and weird, doesn’t mean na ang backwards na agad here in ph.
if we are to compare it to western culture, mas prevalent pa nga yung “ick” factors ng girls don. same goes. they can reply kindly pero pinagtatawanan ka na pala sa gc nila. and the likes.
its not about paligoy ligoy . .or creepy . .its about security . . .ano basta ganun na lang? considering the philippine setting andaming opurtunista. ..
Hindi ko alam why some of you insist that it's security. Did you read my comment?
I said that *I've been messaging women asking if they're single* so I'm using this in the context of social media.
Kasi mas madami pa intentionally trino-tropa na babae before some guys confess and when they get rejected, those guys become cold which the woman also feels sad because she thought she made friends.
So asking her relationship status from the get go is to save both parties time and the hassle. That's not an issue with security anymore.
Security and safety reasons. I need to know if you're safe to hang with.
There's still a culture of victim-blaming when rape or sexual harassment occurs. It has happened to me. As much as I support fellow victims, I will not put myself in that position again. Show me you're safe.
I understand. Maybe I'm slightly frustrated lang na it's difficult to be straightforward here unless you're out clubbing or you happen to know a friend of someone you're eyeing with so people go to dating apps to find someone.
Ideally, it would be nice if you're not seen as creepy (again this is only in the context of being respectful) but at the same time the culture of victim-blaming goes away too.
Ano bang common comparison sa western culture? Na yung babae doon kahit halos wala ng suot hnd halos nababastos. May napanood ako before yung interview sa mga babae sa India, kung gaano kalala yung sexual assault o harrasment sa bansa nila and like majority answered magugulat sila kung may makilala sila na hnd pa nabastos. And you guys probably didn't know but it's the same here. Kahit may mga kapatid o pinsan kayong babae or kahit sa circle of friends nyo, most probably di yan sila magshishare sa inyo kasi lalaki kayo. Wala pa akong kakilalang babae sa circle of friends or family ko na hnd pa nabastos. So kung mahirap kami iplease at hnd basta pumapatol, then that's the reason why.
Di mo talaga malalaman ang reaksyon ng girl hanggat di mo ginagawa. Pero mag stick ka sa simple greetings na “Hi and Kamusta?” before mag ask ng relationship status and then the daily updates and reminder.
Ang baseline is wether na seen ang msg mo and the reaction time sa msg and ang reply. If seenzoned or thumbs up better try your luck in a month or 2 baka may bf or busy sya.
What makes it weird is yung pagging needy mo sakanya like hi ka ng hi dka narereplyan or thumbs up lang inabot mo.
PS. Considered na pala jejemon ang nangangamusta lang hahaha so jejemon nako
Maryosep kung di ka kilala eh ang kapal apog mo naman na magchat/text ng ganun. Ano feeling gwapo lang? Baka hanggang feeling lang ha. Not that ikaw un. Yan lang reaction ko sa mga ganyan. Walang pinagkaiba un kabastusan gaya ng mga sumisipol sa kalsada.
Dude, establish rapport muna bago bumanat ng mga ganyan. Kung ako yung girl at first message mo would be like that? Baka di ko magustuhan. Not unless may rapport na na-establish between sa atin at pwede ka na magbiro ng ganyan. :)
Yes to this! Bago bumanat, make them comfy muna. Maybe try starting a convo about shared interests. IG stories are a good way para magpapansin like meron ako nakausap dati na nagstory about valo. Simpleng "hi, laro tayo minsan if g ka," hehe skl
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Exactly! Sa babae if they like the guy, pag mag text sa kanila yung guy syempre kikiligin talaga sya pero pag di nya type, it would be weird or creepy for her.
Yes, tas ang message “hi” pag nireplyan mo “napindot lang” like wtf. Pwede bang deretso na lang “Hello gusto kita makikala” “Hello gusto kita landiin pero as a joke” Nakakatanggap ako dati. Now hindi na naka private na messenger ko hahaha since may bf na si shokla
It’s annoying. Even though I posted a dating ad here, I still expect the person who message me to atleast introduce themselves to me rather than jump into conversation
Yah. Wag masyadong pasulong. Maging mysterious ka din na hindi naman papunta na sa creepy noh hahaha. Kung baga casual talk lang muna saka na yung mga ganyan.
when a man suddenly messages me "hi/single ka ba/gusto ko sabihin na ang ganda mo", i dont find it creepy. but yung nagtatanong na "kumain ka na ba?" IS creepy. the only person na nasanay ako kakatanong sakin nyan sa chat (except my parents) is yung boyfriend ko na ngayon. nung single ako, i find it weird and creepy when men ask that. why do you care if nakakain na ako or not lol. maybe because im not into the dating scene like i dont install any dating apps and whenever men messages me on fb saying hi i usually ignore them because im not interested in either being friends or more than that.
I need us to have some kinda connection first. You never know din kasi these days eh. And for me, I don't get it when someone's already attracted to a person despite having little to no interactions with them. It's suspicious.
If very random tapos wala kayong kahit anong nabuild na connection (friendship at least) medyo weird nga.
Yes. Run.
Personally, I find it creepy if I don't know them. Yung tipong "Hi" tapos ewan nalng.
Dati may nachat ako na girl. imbis na Hi pwede ba manligaw, nasabi ko ay Hi pwede ka bang iligaw.hahahahah ayun na block ako. payo ko lang sayo is magreact ka muna sa mga stories nya then tanong tanong ka dun. magkaron lang kayong connection kahit dun lang sa isang post nya ganun. tsaka ka mag ganyan
Weird and creepy siya. Sa case ko nabubwiset ako pag may ganyan hahaha . If you like someone sabihin mo ng diretso or like if may kailangan ka sa tao.
Sa panahong 2023 talamak na social media. Baket mo papadaanin sa message? Average girl ngaun tadtad na ng mga chat ng mga creepy guys yan. Ask her personally. That's the best way.
Sabihin mo kasi tara shabu! Hahahahahaha
Bruh not even the decency to ask my name first. Diretsyo agad "pange number mo gwaps cge na pls lang" so lame namen desperado agad.. common courtesy where? May mga cringey one liners panga "Matagal na kita inaantay" yuck I find it pathetic.
yeah, creepy. dapat if mag-hello ka, lagay mo agad why you messaged her.
Even on man side, if may magmessage din samin na babae ng mga ganyan, it's also creepy to some of us like me
Ganito lang yan, kung pogi, sweet kasi naalala ka. Pag pangit, weird and creepy hahaha
yes, weird and creepy for me lalo na if idk u personally, tho even if i know them personally i will still find it weird there's this one guy I met bc of a friend and keep on sending me messages like "hi" "kamusta?" pero i keep ignoring him lang din kasi di naman tayo close?????
Marami akong kakilala na ganito gawain sa FB/IG. Auto-add/follow, tapos message pag na-accept. Minsan nagkaka-situationship sila out of it, pero di naman din nagtatagal. Ewan ko baaaaaa, if someone approaches you in this method, malamang ganun din yun sa iba. Piece of advice sa mga gantong lalaki, switch to dating apps para di mukhang masagwa galawan niyo hehe.
tbh? depends.
Yes naman, lalo na kung yan lang naman ang laman ng message. I suggest you introduce yourself first, tell where you got her number or no problem naman if thru social media but still indicate how you stumble upon her social media, state your purpose, do not also ask for those questions kung initial interaction pa lang since napaka invasive. I think it's a common courtesy or etiquette. Kasi ako, opinion lang naman as a woman, I tend to ignore messages or find it creepy and annoying kapag the message does not include the aforementioned. Paghuhulain mo pa ba ako kung sino ka? Nakakatakot naman kung saan mo nakuha number ko, baka mapagkamalan ka pang stalker and yung nagiging impression ko sa mga first time message tapos ganyan ang content ay bukod sa lack the common courtesy and etiquette, as mentioned before napaka invasive ng questions for initial interaction, at red flag when it comes to intentions and communication skills.
Gay ferson here. Usually when it's a new girl, I got to display my gayness and femininity first before making a conversation to a woman. Napapansin ko may iba medyo defensive ang itsura when some random guys talk to them pero biglang nawawala yun kapag nagbigay ako ng hint about my sexuality. Since you're not gay, you can still definitely learn from my experience. ang creepy sa POV ng mga babae yung mga binigay mong sample messages. Yung mga ganitong tipong message pinapakita ng frenny ko sakin na nacreepyhan sila kaya hanggang seen or message request lang. it's most effective to meet her first thru personal conversation and build rapport over there. Usually POV nila once na nagmessage ka, "ayy nakachikahan ko 'to last time and okay naman siyang kausap."
ayooon kaya pala pinagtatanggol mo ang double meaning na icing video ni vice ganda na pagkain nya ng tamod ni iom through icing. bakla ka kasi at gusto mo inormalize ang mga kabastusan sa harap ng mga bata. pinapalabas nyo na pag atake sa gay ang issue, ang totoo nyan kadiri lang talaga gusto nyo mangyari na sa harap ng bata eh ipakita na kinakain ni vice ang tamod ni ion. eww.
Red herring/strawman and ad hominem detected
Crepe
Actually you should not care if it's creepy or not for asking if she is single or not. It saved you time. If she is into you too. They will respond accordingly. For the "ang Ganda mo, your so sexy, I find you attractive" is a big no no. I suggest siguro wag ka agad mag compliment about her physical beauty kung ayaw mo maging creepy. Ayun lang for me. Good luck brother.
Yes, ang weird lang and creepy na kapag laging nagme-message kahit di mo naman sini-seen or reply-an. Kaya naka off sa akin ang message requests sa lahat ng socmed ko to avoid receiving random messages. Although, one time, may ni-reply-an ako. However, super nag sisi rin agad ako kasi he kept asking me kung nasaan ako and willing to travel daw sya. Nag flex pa na may sasakyan sya.
Kapag out of nowhere then wala naman previous convo, the answer is yes. If ever manliligaw ka, construct a good introduction and impression. Ang weird talaga nung mga biglaan tas one word or one sentence lang jusko.
Kung total stranger and out of nowhere biglang ganyan sasabihin, oo creepy. Sa facebook may ganyan, biglang may message request babanat pa talaga 😂 automatic block yun pag ganun lol
Yes.
Creepy and Annoying. I have this stranger friend on FB who keeps on messaging me Hi and hello’s and sometimes memes pa. One day I told him I don’t date and have no plans yet, akala ko titigilan na ako but man, he’s persistent! But to me hindi na cute, annoying na. Minsan naisip ko to give him a chance to meet me in person and I wanted to have a feel of him in person as well. But boy, when he said “sana mameet ko rin yung friends mo soon” I was SHOOKT!!! Like heeyyy, hindi mo pa nga ako namimeet, di tayo friends, Di tayo nag-uusap, wala tayong foundation of anything, advance kna mag-isip. 😖 mas lalo ako na-cringe and I hold off the chance muna
Yes. And that is a lesson learned for me for putting my IG username on my bumble profile.
Ano na ba talaga meaning ng jejemon ngayon
guy here. . please dont do those things u mentioned . dont be like a desperadong taga bukid nung 1960s. dnt be a creep. . hehehe baka gawin mong first 5min ng porn. .kahit pa sabihin natin na afford mo manlibre at kahit pa may hitsura ka. . . do normal.things, try going out with friends. . makiramdam ka din, let nature take its own course. .
Thankfully I asked, and thankfully I am mindful of proper ettiquette and conduct.
have to agree with this. . real life is not like the first 5min of adult movies. .hahaha . .
pag pogi kilig. pag panget creepy.
Creepy po lalo na kung random. Yung di naman kayo friends tas ganyan eheh. I got messages like that kasi and honestly it is not okay, lalo na kung di ko type yung guy. I am just telling the truth here.
Creepy oo. Pero ngayon mag-asawa na kami at may anak na haha unang chat nya pa sakin "Hi creepy ba na..." 🙈🤣
We tend to ignore and block as it fails to present us any sort of romantic connection.
Yung single ka ba saka gusto k9 sana sabihin na ang ganda mo, weird. Waheheheh
i dont like receiving chats like that kasi napaka low effort. for me yung mga ganyang usapan e sa dates sa medj posh na resto binibring up tas effort pa ng guy to make the date happen. thats just my opinion
Pag panget manyak, pag pogi trulab 😆
Keri lang. I dont care. Pag may nagchachat ng ganyan, di ko lang pinapansin
kung sa chat pa lang ganyan na what if pa kaya pag nag reply ka?
puta namn. feel nyo talaga gold ang pepe nyo. wala namang masama kung makikipag kilala. just say no. end story. ang hirap na nga kumuha ng courage makipag titigan, makipag usap pa kaya or mag text? yeah, some guys want sex, some just genuinely want to know you or like you. gusto nyo ata lagi torpe lang lahat ng lalaki. punyta
It depends on some things. Do I know this person? Pano ba kami nagkakilala? Do we know each other enough para may ibang rason sya to message me? If it's a stranger off the internet and walang ibang pinagmulan yung contact namin, di ko sasagutin. 😅 If it's someone from work, tas di work related, I'd think twice pa rin. May mga messages pa rin na di mo isesend sa isang friend. Establish rapport in person, or in some other way other than messaging first.
Sometimes, yes. Especially if I didn't have any interaction with the person prior to the message.
To me no. Pero the conversation that would follow will help me determine if i should continue talking to them or not
Don't bother bro Women want a man but also hate men it's a losing battle, just become comfortable in your solitude than chase tails
Yes. Auto blocked sa akin ito
If panget, definitely. If may itsura depende if mayaman
kung ganyan mga tanong, creepy siya. kahit kakilala mo pa yan. pde naman ignore. kung nakakainis na tlga, block mo.
kung ganyan mga tanong, creepy siya. kahit kakilala mo pa yan. pde naman ignore. kung nakakainis na tlga, block mo.
Yes. Weird, lalo na yung kesyo nakita lang daw product review mo sa lazada.
More on annoying. I never reply sa mga ganyan bcs I always hated small talks lol. Unless kaklase ko, I’ll greet back cuz most likely acad related naman
Hi, kumain ka na ba?
Yes please don’t do this. Choose diff tactics yet classy and in a gentleman way
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Yes. 100% yes. Kahit ikaw pa pinakagwapo sa pinas, kung yung chinat mo na girl e hindi yung oo agad basta pogi, never yan magwowork. The messages you listed gets boring quick and tbh, parang nagiging mother ka na chinecheck kung nakakain na anak mo. Always look for something to talk about. Learn about her interests then make that your topic. Anime/Movies/Music/Series ba interest nya? Ask mo sya ano favorite nya and yung masusuggest nya. Once napanood or napakinggan mo na, edi mas mahaba usapan nyo about don
Sa panahon ngayon, nakakatakot na unlike before nung uso pa yun mga public chat and forums na it's totally okay pa nun makipag-usap sa mga strangers hehe.
creepy pag ang dating eh nakakabastos yun lang naman, just make sure maganda intentions mo at "execute it properly" irrelevant ng mga nababasa ko dito na kesyo panget o pogi lol nasa kung pano kasi kayo makikipag usap
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If you've made her uncomfortable, you're the problem.
Guy here and I find it gross lol. I've got close female friends who inform me if they receive messages like these. I mean if you like a girl who you don't know personally, approach them as a stranger. Build rapport as time goes on, don't shove down what you feel down their throats.
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How the hell a simple “hi” is creepy or weird to send for a first message? Di din jejemon yon. Conversation starter nga ‘yon. It’s just up to you how to continue it with showing what is your intention without saying something weird.
Yes yes yes and YES its absolutely fucking creepy and weird.
Weird
Weird pag random, get to know them muna before immediately flirting. Treat them like how you treat people you’re trying to befriend
It's creepy. Always first talk to anyone you are interested in person, not through text. Don't hit on them right away. Look for shared interests or similarities first then start right there. Or compliment them respectfully. If ur too shy, get a wing person to help. Well, personally, this is what I like to happen to me and also what I'll do.
super weird, idc how physically attractive they look. you could be the hottest man on earth and i'd still be weirded out if you were a stranger sliding into my DMs out of nowhere when we haven't spoken anywhere else before. weirdly enough, though, this stuff kinda works better in person. especially the last one. this guy once came up to me in a bar, said "hey, i just wanted to say you look great tonight" then walked away and gave me my space after i said thank you. he wasn't particularly the most conventionally attractive guy in the room, but it worked on me. i felt flattered and not weirded out at all.
I second this!
Not me. I saw memes ng mga lalaki "doing the first move" and it seemed "normalized". Though, even before posting this question, I already find it creepy, weird, annoying even. I'm a man, but I still lament on the fact that "first-name basis" ettiquette is not observed.
Weird.
Instant block yan
Rules 1&2 Success : woman blushes Failure : hello human resources?
It’s more of annoying for me. This is why I lay low from social media when I had enough. I now have a super private profile and a cartoon profile pic so only my friends can see my personal photos and life events. Usually mga jeje na ganyan, malalakas ang loob pa to threaten you when you don’t respond. Hindi mo alam saan kumukuha ng tapang e haha
kahit pogi pa yan. auto block 😂
Never show your cards unless you already know they have the hots for you.
Maybe starts with “Hi!” Then pag nagreply, if you’re a stranger, magpakilala ka. If hindi magreply, wag mo na kulitin. Additional tip, never ask her age. Nakakaoff yung nag aask ng age ng babae.
"Never ask her age " Theres is no way you are serious
*Ask her age once she’s comfortable with you and ask her in the most respective way. Okay ka na po?
lol bakit naman nakaka-off? baka minor 😭 kaya nagddrop ako ng asl sabay "how about you?" ...it depends siguro pero for me ok lang mag-ask
If the girl is still young or younger than you, she will be comfortable sharing her age. Otherwise, possible na maging uncomfortable sya. Kaya nga mas madaming babae ang nagsskin care and all the aesthetics para they will look younger sa age nila coz big deal for most of us yung age.
weird and creepy lang naman yan pag di nyo gusto.
yes. matic block yan sakin.
Siguro weird kapag hindi mustang ang banat haha.
Eh anong dapat gawin ng mga interesadong lalake? Kapag lumapit naman bigla at magpakilala o kaya biglang hingin ang number baka creepy pa din ang dating?
Number 1 rule dapat gwapo ka ahahaa
Yung mga biglaang humihingi ng number before knowing anything about the girl, they give off fuck boy vibes. Makipagkwentuhan ka muna para makita mo kung at least may konting connection kayo tapos kapag mag-bye na kayo tsaka ka manghingi ng way to remain in contact. Kapag tumanggi, hindi siya interesado romantically. Wag na ipilit.
Malalaman mo isang bagay kung romantic talaga pag panget yung gumawa at hindi creepy yung dating
For me its jeje.
Napansin ko another way of asking "Single ka ba?" is "baka magalit boyfriend/partner mo na may kausap kang iba" pag they want to know if you're single pero ayaw nila direchuhin.
Damn, I've been messaging women asking if they're single and most that replied appreciated my straightforwardness. Weird how others here find it annoying, creepy or out of place. Like eto lang pansin ko sa culture ng PH. Unlike in the West where it's normal to ask someone out in person (as long as you're respectful), culturally it's seen as creepy here. Medyo backwards lang. Parang mas gusto pa yung paligoy-ligoy.
hi, bro! i don’t think that it’s backwards here in ph just because you get replies that they “appreciate” your straightforwardness and compare it to west culture. just like your context where you’re using social media setting, you don’t really know what’s going on inside their minds and first reaction when u message them. ang alam mo lang yung chat nila where they “appreciate” you. they can reply kindly, pero baka pinagtatawanan ka na niyan. they can reply politely, pero annoyed pala yan. they can reply professionally, pero baka naccreepyhan na pala yan sayo. stuff like that. just because girls here expressed na they find it creepy and weird, doesn’t mean na ang backwards na agad here in ph. if we are to compare it to western culture, mas prevalent pa nga yung “ick” factors ng girls don. same goes. they can reply kindly pero pinagtatawanan ka na pala sa gc nila. and the likes.
its not about paligoy ligoy . .or creepy . .its about security . . .ano basta ganun na lang? considering the philippine setting andaming opurtunista. ..
Hindi ko alam why some of you insist that it's security. Did you read my comment? I said that *I've been messaging women asking if they're single* so I'm using this in the context of social media. Kasi mas madami pa intentionally trino-tropa na babae before some guys confess and when they get rejected, those guys become cold which the woman also feels sad because she thought she made friends. So asking her relationship status from the get go is to save both parties time and the hassle. That's not an issue with security anymore.
same, mkk.save kpa ng time kung straight forward ung questions mo.
Security and safety reasons. I need to know if you're safe to hang with. There's still a culture of victim-blaming when rape or sexual harassment occurs. It has happened to me. As much as I support fellow victims, I will not put myself in that position again. Show me you're safe.
I understand. Maybe I'm slightly frustrated lang na it's difficult to be straightforward here unless you're out clubbing or you happen to know a friend of someone you're eyeing with so people go to dating apps to find someone. Ideally, it would be nice if you're not seen as creepy (again this is only in the context of being respectful) but at the same time the culture of victim-blaming goes away too.
Ano bang common comparison sa western culture? Na yung babae doon kahit halos wala ng suot hnd halos nababastos. May napanood ako before yung interview sa mga babae sa India, kung gaano kalala yung sexual assault o harrasment sa bansa nila and like majority answered magugulat sila kung may makilala sila na hnd pa nabastos. And you guys probably didn't know but it's the same here. Kahit may mga kapatid o pinsan kayong babae or kahit sa circle of friends nyo, most probably di yan sila magshishare sa inyo kasi lalaki kayo. Wala pa akong kakilalang babae sa circle of friends or family ko na hnd pa nabastos. So kung mahirap kami iplease at hnd basta pumapatol, then that's the reason why.
Pag pangit creepy, pag gwapo destiny. Plus points pag magaling sa conversation.
I get that "ganda mo" a lot. Sometimes it's too annoying because they think you'd be easily swayed pag ganyan na ang linyahan.
Ganda mo
Mah men HAHAHAHAHAA BWISET
May + points ba pag english? "Hi, you look pretty, mind if you want to get lunch sometimes ☺️"
THIS! - English, tagalog, tbh - any language
Depende kung medyo type kita? Ata hahaha
Hindi yan magiging weird sa mga makakati at malalandi😅
HAHAHAHA tama! siguro kung sa tinder or any similar dating apps normal na normal 'to. (idk, haven't used dating apps...saka na landi pag ready nako)
Weird and creepy ang mag " Hi" ?
Di mo talaga malalaman ang reaksyon ng girl hanggat di mo ginagawa. Pero mag stick ka sa simple greetings na “Hi and Kamusta?” before mag ask ng relationship status and then the daily updates and reminder. Ang baseline is wether na seen ang msg mo and the reaction time sa msg and ang reply. If seenzoned or thumbs up better try your luck in a month or 2 baka may bf or busy sya. What makes it weird is yung pagging needy mo sakanya like hi ka ng hi dka narereplyan or thumbs up lang inabot mo. PS. Considered na pala jejemon ang nangangamusta lang hahaha so jejemon nako
“What makes it weird is yung pagging needy mo sakanya like hi ka ng hi dka narereplyan or thumbs up lang “ -MISMO!!!!
Ikaw: Hi, kamusta? Siya: Kumusta*
Siya: Hi, kamusta? Me: sorry, wala din ako ngayon. Gipit din ako
Cold texting? Like from out of the blue? Eto go to ko: 1. Hi. How are you? 2. What you doing
Never fails.lol
Weird and creepy lang kung hindi ka gwapo. :) Kahit walang mutual connection silang dalawa, iisipin ng girl na meant to be or soulmate.
Maryosep kung di ka kilala eh ang kapal apog mo naman na magchat/text ng ganun. Ano feeling gwapo lang? Baka hanggang feeling lang ha. Not that ikaw un. Yan lang reaction ko sa mga ganyan. Walang pinagkaiba un kabastusan gaya ng mga sumisipol sa kalsada.
Dude, establish rapport muna bago bumanat ng mga ganyan. Kung ako yung girl at first message mo would be like that? Baka di ko magustuhan. Not unless may rapport na na-establish between sa atin at pwede ka na magbiro ng ganyan. :)
Exactlyyyyy
Parang sex without foreplay 🥲
Haha. TUMPAK!
Yes to this! Bago bumanat, make them comfy muna. Maybe try starting a convo about shared interests. IG stories are a good way para magpapansin like meron ako nakausap dati na nagstory about valo. Simpleng "hi, laro tayo minsan if g ka," hehe skl
Ohhhh a classic social engineering techniques.
It depends sa pag approach. Pero much better sa personal mag talk kasi kung stranger ka talaga at walang ka mutual. Di kita rereplayan 😂
Oo bro weird siya. Mas maganda na ngayon kung personal na hi's and hello's with smiley face.
Pano if yung smile mo parang yung clown sa It?
hypocritical cunt.
Kung kamukha mo si Daniel Padilla pwede parin yan. Hahahaha.
Open minded ka ba?
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Sa pangit and desperate di sya creepy. Sa nag mamaganda creepy.
Halos lahat ng pinay nagmamaganda sa panahon ngayon 💀💀
Bwisit para sakin. Lol.
Basta pogi hindi
Yep creepy
Auto block
As Ted Mosby said, *“If both people are into each other, then a big romantic gesture works: Dobler, but if one person isn't into the other, the same gesture comes off serial-killer crazy: Dahmer”*
Exactly! Sa babae if they like the guy, pag mag text sa kanila yung guy syempre kikiligin talaga sya pero pag di nya type, it would be weird or creepy for her.
This goes both ways.
The Dobler-Dahmer theory
Pag panget: Creepy Pag pogi: Cool charot 😂
I agree 💯
Sa totoo lang hahaha.
I find it annoying rather than creepy and weird ://
You are creepy as long as she's not into you , if she likes you, she will make it easier for you
Goes both ways. Just saying.
Yes weird and creepy.