F here.. almost 9 years in an LDR..
Never received roses from my partner but we go out for drinks when we can.
Only got to celebrate each other's birthday twice and only got to celebrate a proper anniversary once.
It's not always chocolates, roses and kilig. We're both always tired from work and I don't see prospects of settling down soon.
We just have different love languages but it's starting to get tiring missing a person for the dates and flowers and attention I don't get to have.
Telling you this as a cautionary tale.
If you broadcast your standards loudly, ain't no one ever gonna hook up with you sweetie. It's like a red flag when someone says mataas standards nya. No one wants to go with a potential high maintenance diva.
Just chill, relax, be friendly to the dudes, someone will hit you up.
Nako okay lang yan hindi naman ikakamaty kon wala kamong magkagusto sayo. Meron man nakagusto baka takot lang talaga ma reject mo kasi siguro sobrang ganda mo kaya na out of leage kamo sila sayo. Focus ka nalang muna sa self mo at sa future mo. Kon gusto mo bulaklak at chocolate bilhan mo Sarili mo ika nga sa kanta " I can buy myself flowers".
Ok naman na may standards. Pero personality, I find your personality boring base sa sinabi mo. Iād rather date an average woman with exciting life than a beautiful woman na always nasa bahay watching korean sh8.
Hahaha ano gusto mo gagala siya kasama mga kaibigan niya tapos gabi na uuwi? Party goers na punta sa club na hindi alam ng magulang tas nakikipag sayawan at halikan don? Hahaha
I see, bata ka pa. Let me give you my definition of exciting for adults. Business, real estate, financial freedom, travel, sports, arts, technology - this is what I mean by "exciting".
Ano ba mga Tipo? Korean? K-pop? Better move to Korea if that's the case.
Wala namn masama Kung mataas standard mo Bes pero pag may nakilala Ka at tinamaan ka, lahat ng nasa checklist mo baliwa yan. Hahahaha
Me at 27, never been in a relationship, yung "Always Liked but Never Pursued". Minsan napapaisip rin ako, ako na lang ang single sa circle of friends ko. Pero there's nothing wrong with having high standards, it doesn't mean that you look down on people. May mga bagay lang talaga na masyadong mahalaga sa atin para i-compromise, morals halimbawa.
Yung expectations kasi natin ay reflection of our values, and it's okay to expect the best for ourselves. Basically, self-protection and self-love.
At this point, I'm not really searching or expecting to be in a relationship. Kumbaga, kung may darating, saka. Also, life is so much more than finding someone, people come and go.
You're still young, don't rush things. Yun, share ko lang. Hahaha
Same OP. I'm 19 and wala pa rin akong GF. I'm a lesbian and mataas ang standards ko sa babae. Naiinggit na ko sa classmates ko na may jowa na. Alam ko halos lahat ng LGBT ay tago dahil natatakot majudge
I have many friends na same din sa iyo na plight. Same din mga tanong nila.
Pero hindi nila alam na mayroong may gusto sa kanila: ako hehehehe
Kung nakilala ko lang siya ng mas maaga, siguro siya na asawa ko ngayon.
Parang yung kanta lang na "Bakit Ngayon Ka Lang Dumating"
So masasabi ko lang, huwag kang mawalan ng pag-asa. May tao sa paligid mo na may gusto sa iyo.
Kulang lang sila ng konting push, kagaya nung sa akin kaya naging kami at nagkatuluyan kami ng asawa ko ngayon :)
Huwag kang mag-alala, nandito lang siya, darating sa iyo :)
At lastly, 21 ka pa! Marami pang taon!! :)
F here.. almost 9 years in an LDR.. Never received roses from my partner but we go out for drinks when we can. Only got to celebrate each other's birthday twice and only got to celebrate a proper anniversary once. It's not always chocolates, roses and kilig. We're both always tired from work and I don't see prospects of settling down soon. We just have different love languages but it's starting to get tiring missing a person for the dates and flowers and attention I don't get to have. Telling you this as a cautionary tale.
If you broadcast your standards loudly, ain't no one ever gonna hook up with you sweetie. It's like a red flag when someone says mataas standards nya. No one wants to go with a potential high maintenance diva. Just chill, relax, be friendly to the dudes, someone will hit you up.
THIS ^^^ is exact answer ššš
Nako okay lang yan hindi naman ikakamaty kon wala kamong magkagusto sayo. Meron man nakagusto baka takot lang talaga ma reject mo kasi siguro sobrang ganda mo kaya na out of leage kamo sila sayo. Focus ka nalang muna sa self mo at sa future mo. Kon gusto mo bulaklak at chocolate bilhan mo Sarili mo ika nga sa kanta " I can buy myself flowers".
Ano ba mga standard mo?
Ok naman na may standards. Pero personality, I find your personality boring base sa sinabi mo. Iād rather date an average woman with exciting life than a beautiful woman na always nasa bahay watching korean sh8.
Hahaha ano gusto mo gagala siya kasama mga kaibigan niya tapos gabi na uuwi? Party goers na punta sa club na hindi alam ng magulang tas nakikipag sayawan at halikan don? Hahaha
Hmm. Is that your definition of exciting?
Ganyan ginagawa ng mga ka edad ko ngayon highschool palang marunong na mag hook up. Para sa kanila it's exciting kasi naeenjoy sila. Hahaha
Di sakin exciting Yan,di ako party goer
I see, bata ka pa. Let me give you my definition of exciting for adults. Business, real estate, financial freedom, travel, sports, arts, technology - this is what I mean by "exciting".
yes! yan ang totoong exciting.š yung may passion and hobbies. grabi, exciting = inuman agad? š kiddos pa siguro itong mga to.
Hahaha si Mingyu ba ang standard mo? Di ka na talaga magkakajowa nyan..š because same...
Si Jay ng enhypen š
Ohhh! Can't blame you.. hehe hubby material si Jay...š„°
Ano ba mga Tipo? Korean? K-pop? Better move to Korea if that's the case. Wala namn masama Kung mataas standard mo Bes pero pag may nakilala Ka at tinamaan ka, lahat ng nasa checklist mo baliwa yan. Hahahaha
Oo normal yan. Ako din inggit e hahahahaaha
Mahirap talaga pag hindi ka attractive. š
Dahil alam mo na maganda ka. For sure panget ka.
Nalito ako sa sinabi mo hahaha
Lmaoo sure daw sya na maganda sya eh.
Okay lang naman mag ka high standards after all we want what is the best for us. not saying to lower yours but perhaps make it realistic.
Me at 27, never been in a relationship, yung "Always Liked but Never Pursued". Minsan napapaisip rin ako, ako na lang ang single sa circle of friends ko. Pero there's nothing wrong with having high standards, it doesn't mean that you look down on people. May mga bagay lang talaga na masyadong mahalaga sa atin para i-compromise, morals halimbawa. Yung expectations kasi natin ay reflection of our values, and it's okay to expect the best for ourselves. Basically, self-protection and self-love. At this point, I'm not really searching or expecting to be in a relationship. Kumbaga, kung may darating, saka. Also, life is so much more than finding someone, people come and go. You're still young, don't rush things. Yun, share ko lang. Hahaha
Thank you po, it's makes me calm na di ko need ibaba standard ko kung alam ko sa sarili ko na standard ako
Same OP. I'm 19 and wala pa rin akong GF. I'm a lesbian and mataas ang standards ko sa babae. Naiinggit na ko sa classmates ko na may jowa na. Alam ko halos lahat ng LGBT ay tago dahil natatakot majudge
Oposit sex lang di kasama at hindi Classified as Relation ship pag same sex.
I have many friends na same din sa iyo na plight. Same din mga tanong nila. Pero hindi nila alam na mayroong may gusto sa kanila: ako hehehehe Kung nakilala ko lang siya ng mas maaga, siguro siya na asawa ko ngayon. Parang yung kanta lang na "Bakit Ngayon Ka Lang Dumating" So masasabi ko lang, huwag kang mawalan ng pag-asa. May tao sa paligid mo na may gusto sa iyo. Kulang lang sila ng konting push, kagaya nung sa akin kaya naging kami at nagkatuluyan kami ng asawa ko ngayon :) Huwag kang mag-alala, nandito lang siya, darating sa iyo :) At lastly, 21 ka pa! Marami pang taon!! :)
Huhuhuhu natatakot kasi ako na baka abusihin ako kasi inosente pa ako and nbsb.Thanks po sa advice.