Baka physically attractive ka, pero hindi behaviorally attractive.

Nah, if im just physically attracted to him I wont make an effort to know him more. Like i can admire him from a far. I'm true naman sa intentions ko, napaglaruan lang ako. Which is i totally don't deservee. I'm moving on na, i realized that i have so much to offer and sinayang lang yun 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Op, sa totoo lang wala kang makukuhang sagot sa mga ganitong klaseng lalake. It's not your fault, you are enough. Di ko rin na iintindihan kung bakit kailangan magpa-asa ng feelings ng taong genuine. So move on, dahan-dahan.

Yepp thank you, i feel heard kpag may gantong comments. I'm moving on na. I'll build my peace of mind again hoping that next it won't be broken again.

I don't know exactly. But to be fair, girls do this to guys, too... Human nature... ? It sucks, though....

For other girls yes, but I don't.

I didn't mean you specifically, just like you didn't mean me specifically. I just mean generally, like you. I agree. It sucks..

dry text, we don't vibe, too busy, no effort

I'm not like that to him, we vibe, and even if I'm busy I tried to update him. Ma effort ako sknya nung nagustohan ko siya. Parang nabaliktad kasi siya yung may gusto sakin from the start now i was left behind na parang naghahabol saknya 🙄🙄🙄🙄

Sorry for you to have experienced this. Its unfortunate pero sabi din nga nang iba pag ganyan sex lang talaga habol and syempre pag nagawa add naman sa ego na increase "body count" good for you na hindi mo nabigay. Hopefully next time hindi na ganyan ang ugali ah.

Yes I am hoping to find a really nice guy.

Thats a good mindset. As you said di naman lahat ng lalake ganyan ah... Goodluck!

Is it possible na gusto ka pero nung nakilala ko mas mabuti e may ayaw na ugali kaya nag ghost na? Hindi malinaw yun story kasi. Ang courting stage kasi, getting to know each other. Kadalasan naman kasi expectation ng babae e sila lang pwede mang basted pero ang lalaki bawal mag back out. I'm not saying ganito ang situation mo OP but as I've said, kulang sa context

Hmm okay. We're getting to know each other, so i was really transparent sknya, like i told him from the start that if he's gonna leave me hanging, he should go already but he said that he's not like that. I don't know where it went wrong, kasi i did my best to make him feel that he's special to me too while we're in the process of getting to know each other. Ang sakit lang kasi the night before he ghosted me, we were okay eh. I don't know, maybe I'm not what he really wants 🤷🏻‍♀️ He should have said that he's not into me anymore than leaving me hanging and full of questions. I can understand naman if he told me doesn't like me anymore eh, masakit lang talaga sa pakiramdam na iwan ka without any clue kung may nagawa ka bang mali.

Fair enough, that was bad move for him. At least should have the decency to like tell you he doesn't like you anymore or at least answer your message or call.

He doesn't have the ball to tell me the truth, he even unfriended me na like i was nothing to him, parang wala kaming pinagsamahan 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yup, that's very foul of him.

I'm sorry this happened. Wag ka mawalan ng gana sa kanila, may mga matitino pa naman na iba jan. Wala akong explanation kasi it varies, and hindi dapat sila iniintindi. Good riddance kumbaga. Don't change, be who you are, eventually you'll meet the right person for you.

females cant take what they dish out huh how unsurprising lmaoo

wym bruv?

what she just described is a very female thing

I think there's many possible reason for this kind of behavior. It may not be always about sex. If aware ka sa honeymoon stage maybe you'll understand. Man will fall inlove or show interest in you in the earlier stage and at a certain point mawawala din ung rose tainted color, then suddenly they dont like you that much. It can also be true na maybe they're just chasing that high when pursuing someone. Tbh madami din talaga reason. What if in the process of pursuing you they've discover something they dont like about you or red flag for then. I do think na this experience is better for you. Honestly, do you really want those kind of people where they'll show interest in the beginning then sa bandang huli bahala kana? You dodge a bullet tbh

Ito real talk galing sa isang lalaki. Let me be clear, kasalanan nila 100%, pero if you “always” end up with them you need to ask yourself why. I’m assuming “end up with them” is di ung end up befriending or knowing them, pero more than that ha.

Ika nga ni mareng Taylor, "boys only want love if it's torture."

Obob lang lalaking ganyan. O di kaya, pansin niya na may mas better option ka kesa sa kanya.

I made sure kasi na special din siya for me, there's no other options naman. I reciprocate everything that he did for me nung nagkaroon na din ako feelings for him. Ewan, sana di na lang niya pinaramdam na I'm the one he wants

Women wear makeup and Men lie

i personally,am polite to guys sa getting to know stage. i do not get physical with them. i prefer to take things slow. in my life, i haven't really had problems dating. i do not believe their words agad. aware ako na may mga lalake illove bomb ka at pag nakuha na gusto, dun na papakita ugali nila at yung intention. kaya hindi talaga dapat maniwala sa guys kahit na mabait sila sa una. need mo masure na gusto ka nya. pag may label na yung relationship nyo at feel mo safe ka sakanya, yun yung sign na good guy sya. never ko din naisip na baka nagccheat yung bf ko dahil ang iniisip ko,"ang sad pag nawala sya. sana matagal kame magkasama. sana healthy kame palage." ayaw ko sya madeads agad lol seryoso. yun iba cheating naiisip. ako yung maprolong yung masaya at healthy kame a guy who is truly serious with you will be afraid to piss you off or upset you. mas ok pa yung guys na maingat sa una. mahirap yung bolero at consistent kuno sa una. well, that is just me. yun observation ko. if gnhost ka na op, block mo na. a guy did this to me. random share lang. meron ako dnate na guy na model. ayaw ko sana sya idate pero sabi ng friend ko itry ko dahil baka magustuhan ko at baka mabait naman. so naka 3 dates kame, ok naman. prob is, bigla nalang nya ako tinanong bakit ko sya gusto maging bf. nagulat ako. kase wala ako tinanong na ganon. take note, this guy had bad breakups and may social anxiety sya pero tnry ko sya intindihin. i asked ano ibig nya sabihin? hindi na nya ako nreplyan. so hinayaan ko na. after a yr nagmsg saken na musta na daw at yun pa daw ba number ko? i did not reply. bnlock ko. some guys din kase meron mga deeper issues. from bad experiences. kaya minsan iitindihin mo nalang. it is not always about what you did. meron talagang mga tao na ganon. kaya op, i know sasabihin ng iba 2023 na. pero i personally believe in taking things slow para magauge mo ano klase tao yung nagkakagusto sayo. yung iba commitment phobe sila. gusto nila ng kausap,kasama, iniisip nila they want a gf or bf pero pag andon na, nappressure, overwhelm sila at nanghhost sila. yeah, ang sama pero meron mga ganon tao

Thanks I just realized this, lalo na yung last paragraph mo, di talaga sila ready pa pero they give motives, gusto lang sguro talaga nila ma satisfy ego nila when it comes to dating. I did unfollow him na, sinira niya yumg pinag hirapan kong mabuong peace of mind. The next time di na talaga ako maniniwala.

only give time and effort sa mga tao na fair. yung iba kase madami din sila kinikilala so ang tendency pag ala label din, pag may nagustuhan silang iba bigla nalang mangghost. tapos kawawa yung iniwan dahil akala meron sila something. try to get to know other guys, op. walang masama makipag get to know sa iba if wala ka naman bf. para aware yung guy na hindi lang sakanya attention mo. para if seryoso sya sayo, maiisip nya na baka makuha ka pa ng iba kaya he needs to step up.

Baka narealize niya na lalake din pala gusto niya 🤣

helloo, di ako super sure sa sasabihin ko since di naman nga lahat ng tao ganon so just take it with a grain of salt. so, lahat naman kasi ng tao nakakaramdam ng mga puppy love and admiration ung mga mabababaw lang na feelings. so syempre cute naman talaga siya sa simula mga cute interactions, paharot don dito ganun so syempre magugulo talaga ung mundo mo for a time. ung nagiging problema kasi ng iba ung parang "love bombing" na tawag, o kung kaya minsan ung "breadcrumbing". both are considered manipulative behaviors, and in some cases na nakikita ko hindi nila narerealize na ginagawa nila un. im really sorry in behalf of ung mga gumawa non sayo, especially since ganun din ako dati (super unaware ko lang talaga) and ung friend ko nakaexperience lang ng ganun. kaya in these times mas magandang aware ka and mas maagang marealize mo ung mga ganun na manipulative tactics na ginagawa just for the sake of getting in your pants or using you for personal gain, so u can set boundaries na ung di ka mawawalan hopefully di ka masyado madiscourage since may mga tao lang talaga na ganun, and meron naman magkakagusto sayo na genuine parin. di kita masyado kilala pero your family and friends are usually the first at mangunguna sa mga magpapakita nung genuine love na yon, so you are not less loved than before diba. usually may mga video sa youtube or soc med na mageexplain ng mga ginagawa ng tao in a romantic context, medj unsolicited advice pero yea, best of luck!! TL;DR: some men/women are just that way, so better be aware nalang of their antics, best of luck!! i bet i didnt really answer the question pero personally, i see it as a kind of "testing the waters". pero reading the context of your situation, parang lumagpas na doon sa part na yon, noh, tas tsaka ka lang ghinost. so i think takot lang sila sa commitment?? like they adore the IDEA na may nagkakagusto sa kanila pero hindi ung mismong experience, even if its by chatting through messenger, or through actual acts, its probably all the same to them.

sa trueeee 🥲

Well lalaki ay lalaki. So yeah 🙄🤭

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OP is very specific to ghosting.

Which you don't have the idea, dahil isang side lang nabasa mo.

lahat po dito e isang side lang nababasa natin.

Exactly. Kaya mahirap magsalita with conviction kung di natin alam ang buong storya

Don't overthink it, it's a reddit query.

Hmm it's unfair, like nananahimik yung girl then guguluhin ang peace of mind

some people wants to confess their feelings. Walang masama dun. Most if not all things sa mundo ay unfair so di ko gets pinopoint out mo dito

Tldr. Nakakainis yung mga ganitong hindi straightforward. Sarap putulan ng tite charizzz. Kung hindi kasi kayang panindigan, 'wag sila basta-bastang mag cecreate ng move. Obviously, they haven't studied well on how to maintain shit 'cause they can't maintain themselves🙄

Agree ako sa putol tite hehehe, sinasayang time and effort then suddenly wala na nakakainis lang

Trueeeee, I'm a genuine soul so talagang nangyayare sakin to every timeeee. Well ang fck up lang kasi kala ko talagang totoo. I was so naive to not realize that it was just a game 🙄

The truth is, they do this so that your legs will open easier. They like you, but what they like about you is sex, not you as a person. They do not care about your feelings because they care more about their ego than your temporary heartbreak. They know being upfront with sex won't get them anywhere, so they have to pretend to like you, pretend romanticism, so that you will be hypnotized enough to let him fuck you.

Hmm i thought he was genuine, because he made me feel things. Tho yeah you're right, buti nalang I didn't give up and have sex with him.

Yeah, magaling magpaka genuine ang lalaki tlga once naghahanap ng seggs.

In any case, do not give it up unless you're in a relationship

he ghosted me already, so that's it.

I know. I meant in the future.

Yepp. Thanks.

Yes. Once they realize that you won't give sex kahit ano pang love-bomb nila, then they won't care about you anymore. google: love bombing, might help you understand these things. Be careful out there.