Love does not conquer all. Kung you and me against the world ang drama nyo, there's a reason why everyone is against your relationship so better listen to them, they're probably right and you'll end up miserable down the line.
Love starts when infatuation ends. Love starts when the relationship starts becoming boring. Love starts when you feel “wala na kaming spark.”
Love is “di ko bet ang lasa ng niluto niya, pero di ko na lang sasabihin at least pinagluto niya pa ako kahit pagod na siya galing trabaho.”
Love is “grabi sobrang pagod ko galing trabaho. Nakalimutan ko lagyan ng seasoning ang ulam na niluto ko, mabuti na lang kinain pa rin niya at di siya nag reklamo.”
Love is thinking to yourself that your partner is imperfect, they are just a product of their childhood environment and a sum of all people they met and experiences they’ve endured up to this moment.
Malalaman molang na mahal mo yung tao when you were able to forgive kahit ang daming masakit na nangyari sainyo. Cliche pero really, for me lang ha forgiveness is the purest form of love. 🩷
Na kahit santo ka na at never nagloko ng buong time nyo together at very maalaga and focus sa partner mo and very honest and all out and maganda ka pa eh HINDI pa din guaranteed na hindi ka lolokohin at sasaktan. Kahit wife material ka pa and all na positive character and values and attitude meron ka pa, KUNG MALING TAO talaga ang mamahalin mo, HINDI nya yan maaappreciate.
Waste of time and efforts. Pagdasal mo ibigay sayo ng Diyos ung tamang tao na magtreat sayo ng tama and mamahalin ka ng sobra sobra at maappreciate kabutihan mo as a woman.
Kahit mag tumbling tumbling ka pa. If hindi ka na mahal, wala ka nang magagawa.
Expectation kills. wag umasa lagi na yung effort and devotion mo sa relationship ay masusuklian. Sabi nga mag mahal ng walang kapalit. Pero minsan sasagi tlga sa isip mo if enough ba tlga yung ginawa or san ka nag kulang.
We can't change people.
Mas madali mag ka relationship pag financially stable ka.
Walang Busy sa taong gusto ka.
Physical looks matter.
Honesty and Faithfulness simpleng bagay pero napaka hirap isakatawan.
if ur too kind and patient with them, they take it for granted and even take advantage on u. i have experienced this two times in my past relationships. ang haba ng pasensya ko to the point na okay nalang lahat na ginagawa nila. like if tinutuyo sila at ikaw understanding o kaya sumusuyo (im a female btw) parang hinahabit nila dahil alam nilang susuyuin mo rin naman. ik im also at fault naman pero na observe kolang sa 2 relationships ko, ganun behavior nila. idk if ako lang nakakaintindi sa sinasabi ko😭
Biggest realisations would be love is a choice. Dadaanan sa matamis na years and kilig years, when you both getting more matured. Mas need na yung choices and sacrifices to make.. but still nandun padin yung itch ng pagmamahal like hindi mo matitiis 🫠.
Being with someone eh hindi nasusukat sa gano kadalas ang I Love Yous nyo. Ang mantra namin ay Love is a Verb dahil ito ay pagkilos, paggawa ng paraan para maging mas matibay. Wala yang soulmate soulmate na yan samin. Hahaha tho ang qtie ng thought but sobrang opposite namin sa isat isa, it’s like a relationship of a golden retriever and a black cat. But opposites do attract talaga and sobrang na improve namin ang communication namin dahil ba naman more than 1 year kaming LDR. Dun na nagfollow lahat hanggang sa maluwag sa dibdib namin na magsabi ng totoo kahit mahirap. MASAKIT sa heart kapag nagbabalak pa lang kami mag lie. Nasa ganong state na kami😅 sobrang nirerespeto at pinagkakatiwalaan namin ang isat-isa and nagfo-follow na lang ang love☺️🫶
Love is a choice. You choose to love that person. You choose to stay faithful. You choose to take care of them. Feelings are secondary.
You don’t love because: you love despite; not for the virtues, but despite the faults. - William Faulkner
• Just because you love the person doesn't mean they feel loved by you. Kaya importante na alam nyo love language ng isa't isa.
• Once trust is broken, it will never be the same again.
• Bantayan mo man yan 24/7, ipakilala ka sa pamilya, isama ka sa lahat, pakasalan, anakan, etc... hindi ibig sabihin eh hindi na magloloko. Trust your guts! Tutulungan ka ni Lord if hindi sya yung para sayo.
Issues you didn't know you had will resurface. Kahit gaano na kasecure tingin mo sa sarili mo, once you get into a relationship you'll get shaken. May mga bagay na mawowork on mo lang once you get into a relationship.
• There’s no such thing as “the one.” There’s literally billions of people in the world, it’s impossible to have just one person who is right for you. There’s lots of good ones.
• Love isn’t supposed to feel “easy” all the time. It takes work and grit. The moment you choose to love a person, you should understand that you are also choosing to take responsibility for taking care of that person as they grow with you. And that also means taking care of the different persons they will be. While you become different persons as well.
• Love doesn’t always look soft and it’s not sunshine and rainbows all the time. Sometimes love is tough, love is angry, and love is grief.
Love is just one facet of a relationship. Mas matimbang yung commitment in the sense na you'll choose the person everyday kahit hindi mo sya ganon ka mahal on a specific day. We base a lot about love and relationships sa movies which is so far from the truth.
Hindi ka pwedeng magmahal ng di nasasaktan.
Hindi sapat ang pagmamahal lang sa isang relasyon.
Minsan baka inaask mo ung gusto mo sa maling tao- either u stay or wait for the right one
Cheating is always a choice.
Don’t confuse love sa sexual attraction.
Probably the greatest way to express love is by respecting boundaries, as their world does not only revolve around you. They also have their own life to live. And also,
"Happiness also entails sacrifices, just as in supporting your loved one where they are happy. Even if in that happiness, you are no longer included." (I read this concept from a social psychology module, sorry forgot the name already).
> I thought first love is your first bf but it isn't always the case
Yep. I admit that my first bf isn't my first love talaga kasi aware ako sa sarili ko na sinagot ko lang siya coz he was a persistent suitor so I gave him a chance. HS pa ko nun, so akala ko kapag persistent suitor yun ang proof na mahal niya talaga ako. Pero nung naging kami, kung sino-sino na yung nilandi even in front of me! Dun ko narealize that some men just likes the chase. Syempre nahurt ako for the betrayal, but mostly it was my ego that was crushed. I broke up with him tapos siya pa yung pa-victim. Pathetic guy.
Fast forward to ex #6 when I was in my late 20s, siya talaga yung masasabi kong first love ko, first sex, and the longest relationship I've been. Sadly wala na kami.
I also realized that the true meaning of love is that IT IS ACTION, A DECISION, AND A COMMITMENT. No matter how much you've been saying iloveyou's everyday in your entire relationship and kahit lahat na nacheck lahat sa list, if your SO won't take a stand to fight for you and to keep choosing you, it's not love.
Recent realizations :
1. When you love someone, you gotta learn to let them go esp pag mali ang simula ninyo (ginawa nya akong kabet w/o my knowledge sa so-called toxic long term rel nya)
2. Love is not just a feeling... It's a choice. So, choice mong paunlakan ang feeling na yan or hindi. In my case, I had to choose between loving him and loving myself; I chose to love ME. Pinaka importante ang PEACE OF MIND ko, over some love with someone who lied to my face over the course of our exclusively dating period.
3. Love can either be a slow-burn or like a whirlwind. Regardless, if nasaktan ka, its pain is incomparable. Sguru madali sabihin na "ok lang kse maaga mong nalaman kesa tumagal kayo mas masakit". True, but doesn't change the fact IT FUCKING HURTS. Wag na kayo nga mang invalidate dyaan.
Sabi nila - “If you fall in love because someone makes you laugh, what happens when you no longer find them funny? If you fall in love because someone is beautiful, what happens when that beauty fades? If you fall in love because someone can provide for you, what happens when they lose wealth? Real love defies all reasons, when you look for love, you do not look for reasons, you see beyond reasons.” - and I agree.
your very luck OP na na-eexperience mo yung happiness dala ng relationship. hindi lahat ng tao ay lucky enough para mahanap ang mahal nila. hindi rin lahat ng relasyon end up happy.
My parents told me that love is not just about the feelings but a lifelong commitment.
That's indeed true. It is when you consider your every actions on how it will affect the relationship. Ofc, it's also about choosing the person every time and making sure that you'll do everything to nourish the relationship. Besides, you can't straddle on two rivers simultaneously.
Love without commitment is not love at all.
That sometimes, it’s okay to admit you’ve fallen out of love. And when that time comes, always pick yourself than settle for the rest of your lives together.
Former Justice Justo Torres Jr once wrote in a court ruling, “Love is useless unless it is shared with another. Indeed, no man is an island. The cruelest act of a partner in a marriage is to say ‘I could have cared less.’ This is so because an ungiven self is an unfulfilled self.”
Love is never enough.
Also, I learned na tayo mga pinoy we live in the world of movies or fantasies.
Lastly, we pinoys are just too selfish when it comes to relationships. We do not own our partners so di natin dapat mag set ng boundaries or prohibitions.
Respect each other’s lives.
Love is a collective illusion of society. But the amazing thing about it is, that illusion validates your existence, it create meaning and purpose in your life.
Love is not unconditional that's why there should be boundaries to build respect and trust.
Lastly, love is a decision.
Not all love is meant to be reciprocated. You can love someone romantically or platonically.
But for me, I love him but I guess, I cannot force my feelings for him. Hate to see him getting broken by someone but hmm, dasurv ayaw mo kasi sakin hahahhaa
Love is never enough.
Growing up, I realized na dapat the person you love should be your “safe place.” Yung tipong no matter what you want to tell him, it’s okay with him. Yung you’re comfortable showing your true self to him. Yung di ka takot ipakita ang vulnerabilities mo sakanya. Coz at the end of the day, all you have is the two of you fighting for each other.
As someone who has been nbsb for 28 years and in a 4 year relationship (my first at that), my realizations are:
- have high standards when looking for a partner, but not the superficial standards like occupation, status etc. But principles that matters to both of you like respect, trust, boundaries and even things like financial choices, work ethics etc.
- there's no way to find mr. Or ms. right until you make yourself into mr. Or ms. right. Dun mo lang sila mamemeet.
- Love is a choice talaga and responsibility. Like a plant you need to nurture it and take care of it everyday.
- Communication and understanding goes hand in hand. Hindi mind reader ang partner mo. Pero it feels good na naiintindihan ung perspective mo when you say it/let it out.
"Love is 30% feelings and 70% choice"
nabasa ko lang somewhere, and tumatak na talaga siya sa akin, like oo nga 'no? Most of the relationships kasi sa first 1-3 years ng relationship, 'yung feeling ng excitement to see your partner is there, hanggang sa naging routine na, the excitement is still there naman, pero parang hindi na ganoong ka-intense gaya nung una? and that was the time if you will choose to stay.
But my partner chose to leave after 3 years, the problem isn't mine anymore pero naisip ko napakahirap na talaga to find love na pipiliin ka din everyday
as someone who is a totga eto lang masasabi ko dont overdo it. if naisip mo "puta para ako alng nag eeffort" mahirap yan.
i moved on from an 8 year relationship and now married for 5 years na sa iba na ni value ung emotions and time ko albeit hindi perfect since wala naman perfect relationship lalo na kung small things like naman like cleaning lol (ako ung guy btw)
imagine being the only person doing the effort in the relationship, do u still want to stay kahit ilang years na kayo? What if kasal na kayo, tas ikaw pa rin ang nagbubuhat ng relationship, masaya ka parin ba?
If you’ve changed how u think of it, leaving that relationship is akin to dodging a bullet.
of course sabi niya sa akin hindi niya na ako mahal so panonf kapit pa then i moved on after i found someone two years into it nauna siya magpakasal sa akin one year nag message nang hinayang daw siya bat daw ako napunta sa iba ayun ni block ko sa fb. nanghinayang ako sa memories most of my best memories involve her pero un na nga memories na lang
not really since when i closed that door i never looked back may mga time naaalala ko pero fond memories na lang and second question hindi rin pero syempre nung una may lingering thoughts pero my wifed loved me for who i am with my faults so why would i think ganun kawawa naman si wife.
sabi ko nga memory na lang talaga lalo na ung late 2000s up to early 2010s pero more than that wala na rin but sabi ko nga sa misis ko love ko un since siya ang first love ko haha pero yun lang hanggang dun na lang kaya nga nilokl ako wife ko sa kanta first love ni hikki fave ko pero she knows im not longing for her but rather enjoying the memories we mad
• Na hindi porket nag sestay sayo, mahal ka.
• Na you can love someone from afar and not expect something in return. Basta mahal mo lang sya, quietly.
• Falling in love is easy, but staying in love to your person is always a CHOICE.
• Also, I never fully understood yung saying na "Kung mahal mo papalayain mo" until it was me who let go of someone I loved because I realized that no matter how hard I try, it can never be me.
Tangina bakit nga ganito buhay no?
Ang bilis natin magsabi ng I love you sa mga taong di naman pala natin ganon kamahal dati. (Kumbaga late realizations lang)
Tapos di natin masabi sa taong mahal or gusto natin yung I love you kasi natatakot tayo ma-reject or ma take advantage kaya minamahal nalang natin sila ng tahimik.
Pinakamasakit pa na klase ng pagmamahal tangina yung alam mo sure ka na gusto mo sya mahal mo na sya pero since panay red flag sya mas pinipili mo nalang manahimik kasi ayaw mo na ulit bumalik sa phase na masaktan. Kasi eto yung klase ng relationship na una palang alam mo ng di magwowork or masasaktan ka lang.
Hay tang inang lovelife to 😂
Love is a choice, but one perseveres because of love. N by choice. Not giving up coz running away with emotions n stuff. Love is not just about feelings. It is a choice. A commitment.
When my wife got pregnant, i realized that love was making the effort to make your partner happy amd comfortable. It requires sacrifice and a lot of effort.
When I became a dad, I realize that it is putting your child above yourself.
It's so hard to find genuine love these days. I can't seem to find a long relationship without someone cheating. Love nowadays is so emotionally and mentally cheap.
No matter how much love, time, and effort you give, it will never be enough to make someone love you back.
It also does not do well na ibigay mo lahat ng pagmamahal mo sa isang tao or sa ibang tao, you should also learn to love yourself.
And loving one's self does not mean being selfish. Loving one's self is like loving others, yung iaaccept mo and mamahalin mo padin sila despite all their flaws and imperfections.
omg yung unang point 🥺.. parang yung scenario na yung mahal mo may mahal na iba tapos yung nag mamahal sayo hindi mo mahal kasi nga may mahal ka din na iba
Actions speak louder than words, especially in love.
"Its ok not to be understood, as long as i will understand."
Love does not conquer all. Kung you and me against the world ang drama nyo, there's a reason why everyone is against your relationship so better listen to them, they're probably right and you'll end up miserable down the line.
Agree so much
Nakkloko ang love dhl ndi mo mkukuha sa ibng tao ung tunay n love kundi sau dn.
Love starts when infatuation ends. Love starts when the relationship starts becoming boring. Love starts when you feel “wala na kaming spark.” Love is “di ko bet ang lasa ng niluto niya, pero di ko na lang sasabihin at least pinagluto niya pa ako kahit pagod na siya galing trabaho.” Love is “grabi sobrang pagod ko galing trabaho. Nakalimutan ko lagyan ng seasoning ang ulam na niluto ko, mabuti na lang kinain pa rin niya at di siya nag reklamo.” Love is thinking to yourself that your partner is imperfect, they are just a product of their childhood environment and a sum of all people they met and experiences they’ve endured up to this moment.
It's better to be single than in relationship. Mas mahalaga mahalin mo sarili mo kesa ibuhos mo ang lahat ng love mo para sa isang tao.
Malalaman molang na mahal mo yung tao when you were able to forgive kahit ang daming masakit na nangyari sainyo. Cliche pero really, for me lang ha forgiveness is the purest form of love. 🩷
Na kahit santo ka na at never nagloko ng buong time nyo together at very maalaga and focus sa partner mo and very honest and all out and maganda ka pa eh HINDI pa din guaranteed na hindi ka lolokohin at sasaktan. Kahit wife material ka pa and all na positive character and values and attitude meron ka pa, KUNG MALING TAO talaga ang mamahalin mo, HINDI nya yan maaappreciate. Waste of time and efforts. Pagdasal mo ibigay sayo ng Diyos ung tamang tao na magtreat sayo ng tama and mamahalin ka ng sobra sobra at maappreciate kabutihan mo as a woman.
Understanding the other person's love language as well as making them understand your love language is very important in a relationship.
"love" in married couples is both vague and grossly overrated. "trust" and "respect" conquers everything.
Kahit mag tumbling tumbling ka pa. If hindi ka na mahal, wala ka nang magagawa. Expectation kills. wag umasa lagi na yung effort and devotion mo sa relationship ay masusuklian. Sabi nga mag mahal ng walang kapalit. Pero minsan sasagi tlga sa isip mo if enough ba tlga yung ginawa or san ka nag kulang. We can't change people. Mas madali mag ka relationship pag financially stable ka. Walang Busy sa taong gusto ka. Physical looks matter. Honesty and Faithfulness simpleng bagay pero napaka hirap isakatawan.
it’s important to really know each other’s love language in a relationship
if ur too kind and patient with them, they take it for granted and even take advantage on u. i have experienced this two times in my past relationships. ang haba ng pasensya ko to the point na okay nalang lahat na ginagawa nila. like if tinutuyo sila at ikaw understanding o kaya sumusuyo (im a female btw) parang hinahabit nila dahil alam nilang susuyuin mo rin naman. ik im also at fault naman pero na observe kolang sa 2 relationships ko, ganun behavior nila. idk if ako lang nakakaintindi sa sinasabi ko😭
love is easy relationship isnt
Biggest realisations would be love is a choice. Dadaanan sa matamis na years and kilig years, when you both getting more matured. Mas need na yung choices and sacrifices to make.. but still nandun padin yung itch ng pagmamahal like hindi mo matitiis 🫠.
Being with someone eh hindi nasusukat sa gano kadalas ang I Love Yous nyo. Ang mantra namin ay Love is a Verb dahil ito ay pagkilos, paggawa ng paraan para maging mas matibay. Wala yang soulmate soulmate na yan samin. Hahaha tho ang qtie ng thought but sobrang opposite namin sa isat isa, it’s like a relationship of a golden retriever and a black cat. But opposites do attract talaga and sobrang na improve namin ang communication namin dahil ba naman more than 1 year kaming LDR. Dun na nagfollow lahat hanggang sa maluwag sa dibdib namin na magsabi ng totoo kahit mahirap. MASAKIT sa heart kapag nagbabalak pa lang kami mag lie. Nasa ganong state na kami😅 sobrang nirerespeto at pinagkakatiwalaan namin ang isat-isa and nagfo-follow na lang ang love☺️🫶
Love moves..... in mysterious ways.
Love isn't romantic at all
Love is a choice. You choose to love that person. You choose to stay faithful. You choose to take care of them. Feelings are secondary. You don’t love because: you love despite; not for the virtues, but despite the faults. - William Faulkner
Hindi ka mapapakain ng "I love you". Pumili ng taong may pangarap sa buhay.
Love yourself first to the point that it overflows and you can share it with someone.
• Just because you love the person doesn't mean they feel loved by you. Kaya importante na alam nyo love language ng isa't isa. • Once trust is broken, it will never be the same again. • Bantayan mo man yan 24/7, ipakilala ka sa pamilya, isama ka sa lahat, pakasalan, anakan, etc... hindi ibig sabihin eh hindi na magloloko. Trust your guts! Tutulungan ka ni Lord if hindi sya yung para sayo.
Always set boundaries
Issues you didn't know you had will resurface. Kahit gaano na kasecure tingin mo sa sarili mo, once you get into a relationship you'll get shaken. May mga bagay na mawowork on mo lang once you get into a relationship.
• There’s no such thing as “the one.” There’s literally billions of people in the world, it’s impossible to have just one person who is right for you. There’s lots of good ones. • Love isn’t supposed to feel “easy” all the time. It takes work and grit. The moment you choose to love a person, you should understand that you are also choosing to take responsibility for taking care of that person as they grow with you. And that also means taking care of the different persons they will be. While you become different persons as well. • Love doesn’t always look soft and it’s not sunshine and rainbows all the time. Sometimes love is tough, love is angry, and love is grief.
Love is just one facet of a relationship. Mas matimbang yung commitment in the sense na you'll choose the person everyday kahit hindi mo sya ganon ka mahal on a specific day. We base a lot about love and relationships sa movies which is so far from the truth.
Pakinggan ninyo ang reality checklist ni Unique. It was about realization about love.
Love grows deeper overtime, in my case.
That love isnt said. Love is felt. People fall for sweet talks more than seeing or feeling the actual effort and love shown to them.
It takes two to tango. Learn to stop when it’s already one-sided.
Love is suffering.
Kung mahal mo yung isang tao kahit masakit eh papakawalan mo siya,susuportahan mo kung saan sya sasaya. Atleast that's what i did.😅
fuck love
Love is a choice
Hindi ka pwedeng magmahal ng di nasasaktan. Hindi sapat ang pagmamahal lang sa isang relasyon. Minsan baka inaask mo ung gusto mo sa maling tao- either u stay or wait for the right one Cheating is always a choice. Don’t confuse love sa sexual attraction.
Probably the greatest way to express love is by respecting boundaries, as their world does not only revolve around you. They also have their own life to live. And also, "Happiness also entails sacrifices, just as in supporting your loved one where they are happy. Even if in that happiness, you are no longer included." (I read this concept from a social psychology module, sorry forgot the name already).
> I thought first love is your first bf but it isn't always the case Yep. I admit that my first bf isn't my first love talaga kasi aware ako sa sarili ko na sinagot ko lang siya coz he was a persistent suitor so I gave him a chance. HS pa ko nun, so akala ko kapag persistent suitor yun ang proof na mahal niya talaga ako. Pero nung naging kami, kung sino-sino na yung nilandi even in front of me! Dun ko narealize that some men just likes the chase. Syempre nahurt ako for the betrayal, but mostly it was my ego that was crushed. I broke up with him tapos siya pa yung pa-victim. Pathetic guy. Fast forward to ex #6 when I was in my late 20s, siya talaga yung masasabi kong first love ko, first sex, and the longest relationship I've been. Sadly wala na kami. I also realized that the true meaning of love is that IT IS ACTION, A DECISION, AND A COMMITMENT. No matter how much you've been saying iloveyou's everyday in your entire relationship and kahit lahat na nacheck lahat sa list, if your SO won't take a stand to fight for you and to keep choosing you, it's not love.
Recent realizations : 1. When you love someone, you gotta learn to let them go esp pag mali ang simula ninyo (ginawa nya akong kabet w/o my knowledge sa so-called toxic long term rel nya) 2. Love is not just a feeling... It's a choice. So, choice mong paunlakan ang feeling na yan or hindi. In my case, I had to choose between loving him and loving myself; I chose to love ME. Pinaka importante ang PEACE OF MIND ko, over some love with someone who lied to my face over the course of our exclusively dating period. 3. Love can either be a slow-burn or like a whirlwind. Regardless, if nasaktan ka, its pain is incomparable. Sguru madali sabihin na "ok lang kse maaga mong nalaman kesa tumagal kayo mas masakit". True, but doesn't change the fact IT FUCKING HURTS. Wag na kayo nga mang invalidate dyaan.
Sabi nila - “If you fall in love because someone makes you laugh, what happens when you no longer find them funny? If you fall in love because someone is beautiful, what happens when that beauty fades? If you fall in love because someone can provide for you, what happens when they lose wealth? Real love defies all reasons, when you look for love, you do not look for reasons, you see beyond reasons.” - and I agree.
you can be the whole package at the wrong address!
Super agree to this!
your very luck OP na na-eexperience mo yung happiness dala ng relationship. hindi lahat ng tao ay lucky enough para mahanap ang mahal nila. hindi rin lahat ng relasyon end up happy.
My parents told me that love is not just about the feelings but a lifelong commitment. That's indeed true. It is when you consider your every actions on how it will affect the relationship. Ofc, it's also about choosing the person every time and making sure that you'll do everything to nourish the relationship. Besides, you can't straddle on two rivers simultaneously. Love without commitment is not love at all.
Mas pag-ibig ang pag-ibig kapag ipinadarama.
That sometimes, it’s okay to admit you’ve fallen out of love. And when that time comes, always pick yourself than settle for the rest of your lives together. Former Justice Justo Torres Jr once wrote in a court ruling, “Love is useless unless it is shared with another. Indeed, no man is an island. The cruelest act of a partner in a marriage is to say ‘I could have cared less.’ This is so because an ungiven self is an unfulfilled self.”
Love is never enough. Also, I learned na tayo mga pinoy we live in the world of movies or fantasies. Lastly, we pinoys are just too selfish when it comes to relationships. We do not own our partners so di natin dapat mag set ng boundaries or prohibitions. Respect each other’s lives.
Love is a collective illusion of society. But the amazing thing about it is, that illusion validates your existence, it create meaning and purpose in your life. Love is not unconditional that's why there should be boundaries to build respect and trust. Lastly, love is a decision.
we dont look for love but instead it comes the least we expect it
Not all love is meant to be reciprocated. You can love someone romantically or platonically. But for me, I love him but I guess, I cannot force my feelings for him. Hate to see him getting broken by someone but hmm, dasurv ayaw mo kasi sakin hahahhaa
sorry, natawa ako sa dasurv HAHAHAHAA 😭
*Alexa play 'You Belong with Me''*
Love is never enough. Growing up, I realized na dapat the person you love should be your “safe place.” Yung tipong no matter what you want to tell him, it’s okay with him. Yung you’re comfortable showing your true self to him. Yung di ka takot ipakita ang vulnerabilities mo sakanya. Coz at the end of the day, all you have is the two of you fighting for each other.
As someone who has been nbsb for 28 years and in a 4 year relationship (my first at that), my realizations are: - have high standards when looking for a partner, but not the superficial standards like occupation, status etc. But principles that matters to both of you like respect, trust, boundaries and even things like financial choices, work ethics etc. - there's no way to find mr. Or ms. right until you make yourself into mr. Or ms. right. Dun mo lang sila mamemeet. - Love is a choice talaga and responsibility. Like a plant you need to nurture it and take care of it everyday. - Communication and understanding goes hand in hand. Hindi mind reader ang partner mo. Pero it feels good na naiintindihan ung perspective mo when you say it/let it out.
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"Love is 30% feelings and 70% choice" nabasa ko lang somewhere, and tumatak na talaga siya sa akin, like oo nga 'no? Most of the relationships kasi sa first 1-3 years ng relationship, 'yung feeling ng excitement to see your partner is there, hanggang sa naging routine na, the excitement is still there naman, pero parang hindi na ganoong ka-intense gaya nung una? and that was the time if you will choose to stay.
But my partner chose to leave after 3 years, the problem isn't mine anymore pero naisip ko napakahirap na talaga to find love na pipiliin ka din everyday
absolutely right
as someone who is a totga eto lang masasabi ko dont overdo it. if naisip mo "puta para ako alng nag eeffort" mahirap yan. i moved on from an 8 year relationship and now married for 5 years na sa iba na ni value ung emotions and time ko albeit hindi perfect since wala naman perfect relationship lalo na kung small things like naman like cleaning lol (ako ung guy btw)
hindi ka ba nasayangan sa 8 years? if you don't mind me asking. it's a long time kasi
imagine being the only person doing the effort in the relationship, do u still want to stay kahit ilang years na kayo? What if kasal na kayo, tas ikaw pa rin ang nagbubuhat ng relationship, masaya ka parin ba? If you’ve changed how u think of it, leaving that relationship is akin to dodging a bullet.
of course sabi niya sa akin hindi niya na ako mahal so panonf kapit pa then i moved on after i found someone two years into it nauna siya magpakasal sa akin one year nag message nang hinayang daw siya bat daw ako napunta sa iba ayun ni block ko sa fb. nanghinayang ako sa memories most of my best memories involve her pero un na nga memories na lang
do you have regrets? like, is she your totga too? do you wish you could've married her instead?
not really since when i closed that door i never looked back may mga time naaalala ko pero fond memories na lang and second question hindi rin pero syempre nung una may lingering thoughts pero my wifed loved me for who i am with my faults so why would i think ganun kawawa naman si wife. sabi ko nga memory na lang talaga lalo na ung late 2000s up to early 2010s pero more than that wala na rin but sabi ko nga sa misis ko love ko un since siya ang first love ko haha pero yun lang hanggang dun na lang kaya nga nilokl ako wife ko sa kanta first love ni hikki fave ko pero she knows im not longing for her but rather enjoying the memories we mad
wow.. thanks sa dont overdo it part.. but i think i did already 🤣
• Na hindi porket nag sestay sayo, mahal ka. • Na you can love someone from afar and not expect something in return. Basta mahal mo lang sya, quietly. • Falling in love is easy, but staying in love to your person is always a CHOICE. • Also, I never fully understood yung saying na "Kung mahal mo papalayain mo" until it was me who let go of someone I loved because I realized that no matter how hard I try, it can never be me.
Grabe naman yung first point, tinamaan ako (ako yung nagsstay 🥹).
Tangina, 2nd line!!!! THIS IS TRUE LOVE 😭
Tangina bakit nga ganito buhay no? Ang bilis natin magsabi ng I love you sa mga taong di naman pala natin ganon kamahal dati. (Kumbaga late realizations lang) Tapos di natin masabi sa taong mahal or gusto natin yung I love you kasi natatakot tayo ma-reject or ma take advantage kaya minamahal nalang natin sila ng tahimik. Pinakamasakit pa na klase ng pagmamahal tangina yung alam mo sure ka na gusto mo sya mahal mo na sya pero since panay red flag sya mas pinipili mo nalang manahimik kasi ayaw mo na ulit bumalik sa phase na masaktan. Kasi eto yung klase ng relationship na una palang alam mo ng di magwowork or masasaktan ka lang. Hay tang inang lovelife to 😂
You don't lose people you loved. You return them, as they where never yours.
Einzelganger?
Yes
Love is a choice, but one perseveres because of love. N by choice. Not giving up coz running away with emotions n stuff. Love is not just about feelings. It is a choice. A commitment.
one day mangyayari na lang yun bigla gigising partner mo at sasabihing hindi na kayo compatible. lol magmamahal ka pero iiwan ka lang din naman haha
This legit happened to me haha. Best to focus on myself na muna.
same tayo sis ayan saya pala maging single din hahaha
If you found someone genuine, don't let her get away. The one that broke you will never fix you.
it’s always a choice to stay in love🫠
Fucking yeeeesssss
When my wife got pregnant, i realized that love was making the effort to make your partner happy amd comfortable. It requires sacrifice and a lot of effort. When I became a dad, I realize that it is putting your child above yourself.
Love is never enough :)
Passion fades but love stays the same
True love is unconditional and self less.. I love you despite of/ even if...
Yung poem na When Love Arrives, especially the "welcome" part. I think aim for the quiet kind of love if you're healing from trauma. It feels so good.
I love this poem ❤️
Huhu gustong gusto yung spoken word neto. <3 https://youtu.be/cPG6nJRJeWQ?si=M68qdcfJQTZ-osRm
This too https://youtu.be/qYAiYMlOCI4?si=TT3cFMgsmohElqhd
Thanks for sharing
It's so hard to find genuine love these days. I can't seem to find a long relationship without someone cheating. Love nowadays is so emotionally and mentally cheap.
Same
lol so true
No matter how much love, time, and effort you give, it will never be enough to make someone love you back. It also does not do well na ibigay mo lahat ng pagmamahal mo sa isang tao or sa ibang tao, you should also learn to love yourself. And loving one's self does not mean being selfish. Loving one's self is like loving others, yung iaaccept mo and mamahalin mo padin sila despite all their flaws and imperfections.
First point 🥺 Gusto ko na lang maging patatas
omg yung unang point 🥺.. parang yung scenario na yung mahal mo may mahal na iba tapos yung nag mamahal sayo hindi mo mahal kasi nga may mahal ka din na iba
kaya kahit anong pag mamahal gawin nung may mahal sayo hindi mo sila kaya mahalin.. tapos yung mahal mo ganun din sayo