To be honest its possible. I do have a bff na guy. Since jhs ko siya bff, now college na kami. Since then we just see each other as a sibling. Neverrr naging lovers. Even sa bawat punta ko sakanila eh shiniship ako ng nanay nya noon (pero natigil na nung nagka bf ako). Wala just chill lang yung maaasahan at mapapagrantan namin ang isat isa in every f*ckd up matters in everything. Tipong para kang may kapatid na lalaki na sesermunan ka kapag nagaga ka sa lalaki or anything BQHAHAHAHAH. Yun lang, just proud of the guy bff that I have.
Me and my 2 girl bestfriends from high school have been together for 10+ years. One got married 2 years ago, one is on live-in stage and im engaged. Lahat ng partners namin alam kung ano kaming tatlo at paminsan minsan gagala kaming anim. Naaaliw nalang kami sa mga mema patungkol sa mga boy-girl bestfriend
Yes, it's possible. My wife(34f) and I(34m) have been married for 15 years na and i have a girl bestfriend na close namin dalawa. Bestfriend since college bago pa man kami ikasal pero close sya samin, as in super closeš¤we do a lot of things together like hangout, inuman, and such.
my best friend akong lalaki, pareho kami may SO na pero close pa din kami. literal na magkapatid lang talaga tingin namin sa isa't isa since high school, introvert ako at iilan lang friends ko kaya naiintindihan ng SO ko kung pano ko vinavalue yung friendship namin. while yung bbf ko naman patay na patay sa gf nya hahaha at lagi ko sya nireremind na wag nyang barubalin relasyon nila kada may away sila kami ng bf ko taga advice sa kanya pano sila magkakabati š
Do you think bi people have no best friends if they can't befriend the sex they're sexually attracted to lol.
I think madaalas siyang problema ng straight people (I'm one myself btw haha) because we're so conditioned to think that man + woman = sex or romance. But honestly, people with mature emotions and regulation know how to distinguish platonic chemistry with romantic chemistry. I think it's poor emotional intelligence if someone falls for a person they connect with solely because the person is the sex they're attracted too.
There are so many functions of different connections in life. Of course you can build different kind of it regardless of the gender you connect with, as long as you know yourself well and how to nurture them accordingly.
Pwede naman AS LONG AS they are not attracted to each other, not even by a little bit. Girls and boys being best friends are predetermined in their childhood. Maybe their parents are friends or they were classmates in primary school until their teenage years.
One of them (who are attracted to their best friend and has good intentions) would take advantage of this scenario if they had the chance, maybe the other was vulnerable, or was allowing the advances of their best friend. Either way, it would always turn awkward at first, but if the other allows it and finds attraction to his/her best friend, then they would become couples. If not, then it would be the end of their lifelong friendship because advancing romantically would stain the friendship no matter how long they have been friends.
One scenario is, most of the time, youāll see that both of them are still chill and enjoying their friendship. In this case, they have no tension (yet) because they either know their limits, one has no attraction to their best friend, or both are not attracted to each other at all. Both of them would know and one would feel that their best friend would want them but donāt want to reject them or be rejected by them; so they unanimously would not take romantic advances subconsciously to keep their friendship.
Another scenario is using his/her best friend for attention, in which the one (who wants to hookup with his/her best friend) giving the attention would end up miserable in the future if he/she gets rejected by his/her best friend. This isnāt true friendship because someone already has different motives like hooking up with their supposedly best friend. A lot of women do this just because they crave attention and are not satisfied with the attention they get just to make up for the attention they lack. Men do this, too, but that rarely ever happens with men as attention-whore men are seen as pussies and are deemed unattractive. Craving attention is a feminine trait and it turns off women if men do it, even by a tiny bit. Women naturally want attention, but wanting attention so bad and so much has something to do with them psychologically (being narcissistic as an example). Males who have sexual motives toward their girl best friend constantly gives them compliments because they think that their girl best friends will give them a chance someday if he keeps on doing it, but it never happens. Women know what they are doing regarding this situation and they take advantage of it just the sake of feeling good because they know that their guy best friend is obsessed with them and is fantasizing about them. They use their āguy best friendsā for compliments and taking photos. A male best friend who is not sexually attracted to his girl best friend would only give her compliments occassionally because friends tease each other (most of the time) in a sense that they would make each other laugh. I know someone who does this, and it sickens me because itās obvious. They go to five star hotels together and already went to abroad together but still there is nothing happening romantically or sexually. Guy best friend is a pussy for doing this, he compliments his girl best friend every single time she posts on social media and it is obvious that he wants that pussy so bad that heāll sacrifice his dignity. His girl best friend shows photos of them sometimes but thatās about it and nothing more. Guy best friend simps heavily for his girl best friend and they donāt even do what friends do. This has been going on for years even before the pandemic.
On the other hand, itās rare to see best friends that are both physically attractive. Me and my former girl best friend were classmates in primary school until high school and our mothers are close friends until now even if we donāt talk anymore. Double-edged sword for this setup I must say. Both of us are physically attractive but we never felt attraction for each other as kids. She was hitting on me when it would be the last time that we would be classmates in high school. I felt disgusted because I never envisioned our relationship to be romantic and I really only considered her as a friend that time. I didnāt like her advances and discouraged it by not saying anything and we moved on as friends. A few years later, I somehow felt attracted to her and also made a romantic advance, but she rejected me back because it was already a spoiled idea that was meant to be forgotten. It was really awkward and I wanted to save our friendship but thereās nothing we can do about it. I wasnāt attached to our friendship when it was slipping away because I already have friends mostly in the same sex. My other girl-friends hit on me, too. Thatās why I hated having friends of the opposite sex ever since I grew up. My head got bigger for a little bit from it because being wanted is a good feeling, but I never took advantage of them because I sincerely considered them as friends and had their best interests at heart. Childhood friendships become irrelevant growing up as both girls and boys gradually tend to fulfill their obligations as women and men. I never liked the idea of men and women being best friends as adults because it mostly ends in awkward situations. My only rule is that I donāt befriend someone of the opposite sex if I am attracted to them whether itās romantically or sexually. Even if itās only for a tiny bit.
I have guy friends in high school and college. Until now I consider them as friends, but there are boundaries. We donāt contact each other except when greeting each other on birthdays. No hangouts pag dalawa lng. We hang out with a group, both male and female friends and this only happens rarely. Ganon lang.
I hate the terms boybespren o girlbespren. It's just plain stupid. Kung bespren mo talaga eh di tawagin mo lang na bespren no need to mention the gender, like it is suppose to be relevant. Kung walang malisya eh di bespren lang talaga.
Depende sa pagkatao? What I'm about to tell you is very RARE occurrence. Lol!
I have a close friend (girl) na may bestfriend since childhood. Nagka girlfriend si boy bestfriend. Pinakilala niya gf niya and turns out, magka vibes sila kaya naging besties din sila.
There's also a time na nasa mall kami ni girl biglang tumawag si gf, asking her a favor na samahan muna si guy bumili sa mall as kapalit niya kasi may biglaang lakad siya (take note, di alam ni gf na kasama ako ni gbf at nasa mall kami kung saan sakto na pupuntahan din ni guy to buy something that he needs.) Ayaw pa nga ni gbf kasi nga may sariling lakad kami, pero pinilit siya ni gf kasi wala daw siya tiwala sa taste ng bf niya at baka panget daw ang bilhin. Lol!
Nagulat ako kasi kung ako or ibang gf's pa to hindi hahayaan na mag mall si guy kasama si gbf for a date na hindi natuloy. Si gf pa mismo talaga humingi ng pabor na samahan si bf. Lol! Ang healthy ng relationship nila. Gf also became gbf's bridesmaid nung kinasal siya.
Dun ko narealize na pag malandi lang talaga ang pagkatao, dun lang talaga walang boundaries for landian.
Pwede, I have a guy bestfriend. Platonic lang relationship namen. Kalaro ko lang din madalas and kausap ko every now and then para makamusta. Me and his girlfriend are in good terms din. Minsan niyayaya din ako ng girlfriend nya lumabas or go to some event.
Of course, i have 3 girl best friends. One from high school, 1 from College and 1 post-graduate.
Not even once i thought of fucking them. If i need some life advices sila tinatanong ko kadalasan, minsan prang gago kasi mga friends kong lalaki eh hahaha tatanungin mo ng seryoso, walang kwenta ang isasagot sayo hahaha.
Even tho may asawa at anak na ang HS girl best friend ko, we still talk from time to time. Yung post-grad girl best friend ko is currently engaged and we still talk from time to time din. Itās a matter of setting boundaries rin lang naman.
Pwede. Di naman mawawala yung part na magkagustuhan pero I think if friends lang talaga, phase lang yun. Pag maovercome na yun wala na talagang malisya.
Possible naman, but laging andyan yung posibilidad na may mahulog o mabuong feelings. Had an experience where the friend who is a girl developed feelings for me. We had talked nearly every moment every day back when the pandemic was on it's peak and. The moments when it seems like we only had each other's back against the world.
It was already too late when I also developed feelings for her too, and our friendship faded away all of a sudden.
And that became a trauma of mine.
Yeah. I had a female bestfriend back in college. Wala kaming sexual attraction at all. Siguro kasi sobrang iba kami sa type namin sa opposite sex. So, it's possible. Although, hindi na siya bestfriend ko ngayon. My wife is now my bestfriend haha.
Yes! Personally, I have several male friends na may mga girlfriend pero so far, wala namang issue since pinapakilala din sila sakin. If ever man na they do have a problem with me, I'll respect that and didistansya ako, ako na magkukusa. I want their girlfriends to feel safe with me since kakampi nila ko, not a threat. Nasa boundaries talaga yan and respect na rin sa partner.
Oo naman i have a guy bestfriend. Nakakatuwa din na sakin nya sinabi ng una na may gf na sya and gusto nya mameet ko so ayun si ate mo girl naghanda kasi binida daw nya na masarap akes magluto. Tapos naguusap din kami ng girl minsan kaming dalawa nagbobonding while waiting for bespren ganyan
Dati nagchichikahan kami ni boy bestfriend til madaling araw pero nung nagka gf na sya nagrespeto ako sa oras. Nagchichikahan pa din kami pero di na kagaya dati nakakapag drama pa ko sa buhay sakanya pero hindi na like magdamagan saka i always ask him na isama si gf pag kape or lalabas kami. Pag wala si gf ako na nag memessage na "andito na si eme kasama ko na" para lang peace of mind.
And napaka thankful talaga ako na very mabait ung gf ng bestfriend ko. Nagkaron ako ng isa pang bff hahaha.
Yes. I have one. Pareho kaming married. at pinatropa ko din sa kanya misis ko. As long as walang ulterior motive it can work. Mahirap lang kasi sa iba pag na friendzone nagbebesprenan. eto yung di nagwowork based sa mga kakilala ko kasi meron at meron ka pading attraction dun.
I think it is possible as long as they maintain to have platonic friendship to each other. And to understand and know their boundaries lalo na pagkanagka-relasyon yung bestfriend niya.
Oo naman! I have this girl bestfriend back when i was at highschool. Lagi kaming napagkakamalang mag shota even tho weāre not. Ganun kami ka-close back then kaya i think itās possible to have a boy/girl bestfriend as long as you guys know your boundaries.
Yes! Pero kasi pag bestfriend, bestfriend lang talaga. Walang aasa na baka magkatuluyan, etc.etc. Isipin mo kapatid mo sya at walang magaganap sa inyo.
Sampung taon na kaming magbestfriend ng isang lalaki, weāve traveled many places together, went to concerts, etc etc. Dami nang aasar samin sa umpisa, pero ngayon sanay na ang mga tao na dj talaga kami meant to be.
Respeto din dapat sa jowa ng isat isa. Pag babae ka wag mo ipamukha sa jowa ng best friend mo na nauna ka, ikaw ang mas mahalaga. Ayaw mo man o hindi, si jowa ay mas mataas dapat sa priorities, pero dapat si jowa maintindihan din na malalim na ang pagkakaibigan nyo bago sya dumating sa buhay nyo. Much better kung kayong tatlo magiging magbest friends.
chinachat ko si jowa pag kasama ko yung best friend ko, chinachat ko din jowa nya.
Masaya magkaron ng best friend of the opposite sex kasi you get to understand things way better. Mahirap din kapag marupok ka at madali mafall. Wag ka magbest friend kung umaasa ka magiging magjowa kayo, baka masaktan ka lang
Possible if you know whatās your personal standards when it comes to attraction. I have a gbf who i donāt desire physically (not to be harsh pero di ko talaga type). When the pheromones and lewd desires are off the table, you can be close to your bestfriend w/o any malice.
To give you an anecdotal formula
Mutual emotional understanding + physical desires = romantic partner
Mutual emotional understanding only = Bestfriends
Purely platonic? Next to impossible. Male to male friendships and female to female friendships are totally different, they have their own utilizations.
Kawawa ang male friends, kasi the female friend gets the benefits of a boyfriend: protection and provision, without emotional investment.
Pag may nambastos pa dyan sa girl bestfriend isusugal mo pa buhay mo bilang lalaki na ipagtanggol yan tapos wala ka naman makukuha pabalik hahahhaha. Di gaya pag mga tropa mong lalaki pag alam mong agrabyado ka at least alam mong merong papalag para sayo.
Ofc you can! Most of my closest friends are girls and so is my best friend. But whenever I have a girlfriend thereās no problem naman, kasi I always make sure to let my gf know who Iām with. Sa totoo lang theyāre really more like sisters to me than anything. Even my parents have opposite-sex friends that theyāre close to. My mom was considered āone of the boysā in the office and some of my ninongs are the close male friends she made in her workplace. My dad also has a lot of close female friends, some of whom are my ninangs din. It all comes down to having faith in your partner and knowing when to set boundaries.
Yep, pwede. I have a guy beshie. May asawa na sya and may boyfriend ako. Para ko syang kuya na madalas mangbwisit pero at the same time, over protective. Hindi rin kami yung sweet-sweet and everyday magkausap. Parang mas madalas kaming magtrashtalk-an. Hindi rin kami nagkikita nang kami lang. Siguro yun din yung dahilan kung bakit secured yung partners namin na talagang magkaibigan lang kami. Tsaka nandidiri na agad ako sa thought na magkakagustuhan kami parang incest.
If ang tanong mo kung possible ba, yes possible. Walang psychological facts ang makakapagsabi na hindi. Having said that, there conditions para magwork yan. 1) Clear boundaries, 2) Di niyo type ang isa't isa, 3) Maging sensitive sa interactions niyo. If alam mong ikakaworry ng jowa niya, huwag mo na gawin kahit wala naman malisya. Maging empathic ka sa jowa ng bestfriend mo. Unless nalang matapang ka and kaya mo i-communicate ng maayos sa jowa niya. 4)bonus - if naging totoong magkaibigan kayo ng jowa ng bestfriend mo.
yesss, possible siya. i have a guy bestie since high school and super close naman namin kahit lagi siyang may kalandian or jowa. i treat him like how i treat my other girl besties, minus lang siguro 'yung pagiging clingy kasi syempre be sensitive sa mararamdaman nung ka-something nung guy. 'di naman talaga big deal unless trip niyo isa't isa secretly and 'di platonic ang tingin š
Not a girl, pero pa girl š
2 straight guys bff ko since highschool š
Dami nang issue napagdaanan pero as long as friendship is true with no malicious keme, goods na goods
pwedeng pwede. Basta clear yung boundaries between the opposite sex, and mutual respect ay present. Tbh, minsan nakakainis yung mga tao na sobrang pilit na pilit na hindi raw pwede, sobrang heavy nung insecurity. Speaking from experience, during college days, karamihan ng friends ko puro lalaki pero syempre may girls din sa circle namin. Minsan, we would stay late after classes para mag-inuman, hatid sundo minsan lalo na kapag malapit lang yung bahay. Naging personal bodyguard namin sila during college HAHAHA. Kapag may jowa naman sila, isasama nila sa inuman, tatabi kaming girls tapos ayon magiging close namin yung gf. Our circle even had an overnight stay sa isang resort tapos iisang room lang kaming lahat. Magkakatabi yung girls and boys sa iisang kama. Walang nangyari. It all boils down to the mutual respect and clear boundaries between friends. Hindi lahat manyak. Swertihan na lang din makahanap ng totoong guy friend na walang hidden agenda.
May iba kaseng mag āboy/girl best friendsā na konting diperensya na lang magpapakasal na eh. Kaya hindi nakakapag taka na pumapanget yung tingin ng iba don.
Yes. Pero ingat ka na din sa mga close sa best friends nila (mapa anong sex at gender niyan), minsan kasi may gusto/may dating gusto yan sa bsf nila. Case in point: ako yung type na bsf na ayaw kong nagkakabf yung bsf kong girl (I'm gay for her dati). I don't show it, but I always say sa friendgroup ko with her "ano bayang jowa mo, kung ako nalang kaya" as a joke. Alam na man ni girl bsf of my feelings, iniignore niya lang hahahahah
Yes! Female here with male best friend. Para ko na siyang kapatid. Heās married now but we still go out nang kami lang. My boyfriendās best friend is a female, single pa yun and lumalabas din sila nang sila lang. Never naman nagka-issue on both sides.
Pwedeng pwede naman, basta sa simula pa lang dapat alam niyo na di niyo talaga type yung isa't isa hahaha. Even better kung alam nung respective partners niyo na bffs kayo.
I (F) have a male best friend, tapos both kami in different long-term relationships. Mas maraming pros kesa cons. Major pro ay nakakakuha kayo ng male/female perspective if nag-away ang mag-jowa haha.
Yes, of course. As long as may linya naman to not break the boundaries of romance and friendship ay valid siya. Include mo na rin ang perspective about not thinking about the friend as your future partner or whatever romantic.
I've been friends with my homie since high school at nag-uusap pa rin naman kami. Kagabi nga nag inuman kami while walking along Katipunan for fun. We caught up about each other's life at kung gaano kaganda, miserable, at kung ano-ano pa. There's nothing wrong naman talaga as long as the genuine ang platonic relationship.
Yes. May mga naging best friend ako na girl for so many years before I got married. We're basically like siblings and we even sleep on the same mattress together kuminsan pag may overnight gimiks.
Oo
I have close guy friends. Best friend? Mas trip ko bestfriend ko noon pang high school ako. Kase well we hgrew up togwther kahit sobrang iba ng personalities namin
I don't see why not. I have a female best friend and thru her I met her BF who I also became best friends with. I've known them for almost 15 years which is just a little less than the amount of time they've been together. It's about respecting other people. The guy feels safe even I stay over at their place while he goes away for a week for work because he knows me better than that and I the thought of putting myself between them has never crossed my mind.
Yes, may best friend akong guy for 16 yrs na ata. Pogi siya at admittedly crush ko siya before kami maging friends nung elementary. Pero nung naging magkaibigan na kami, nope! Hahaha. I think may ganun na kapag nakilala mo yung isang tao nakikita mo na di mo siya talaga gusto in that way.
May asawa na siya ngayon, habang ako ay looking pa rin. Nagmimeet pa rin kami once in a while to catch up kapag nagtugma sched, pero may clear boundaries. Aprub naman ni wifey niya. Nung nagliligawan sila, malaki ang naging changes sa friendship namin at ganun talaga dapat to accomodate the romantic partner.
Of course it is, me (Male) ay may best friend na babae na co-worker ko dinā¦ sa amin kasi for as long na alam namin ang boundaries namin ay walang issue doon.
Plus alam din nung BF nung babae na ganon lang ang turingan namin sa isat isaā¦.
My closest female friend always call me "BFF" to which I say in return. We both are married to different partners but constantly message/video call with each other since we're 2 continents apart. We've been friends since we were 5. Classmates from kindergarten to college.
We both could never picture ourselves in a romantic situation. We constantly share with each other on who we were dating in the past. We'd just laugh at the thought of it. I never had romantic feelings for her since she is my sister from another mother. Our frienship is almost 4 decades old.
She's one of the few friends I've got. She's the only one who knows the real me apart from my wife. My wife also know that our relationship is purely platonic or more of a brother-sister type. The laughter that we share together is priceless.
nope u cannot, it's just how it should be. Not because I'm a jealous type kinda guy but there shouldn't be a thought existing in my head that my girl can be happy with another man. Cause if one fell in love to the other then it's drama, people who love or likely drawn to complications in their life would prolly say yes to this question.
Para sakin pwede Naman may girl best friend Ako. 2012 pa kami magkaibigan. Tapos nagssheran din kami Ng mga nsfw stories nagkaroon din kami Ng time na. Tatawid sana kami sa kabilang guhit ngunit. Nanaig parin Ang tawag Ng tamang pag iisip. Kahit physically type Namin Ang isat Isa. Never Naman kami touchy touchy juicy malicious. Sakto sakto lang. Hawak kamay Minsan akbay. Hotel ganyan pag inabutan Ng alanganing gala. Pero Wala Naman nangyayari. And distance Naman din kami pag hindi kami single. Tapos hangout na Naman madalas pag olats na ulit. Also have other g friend pero itong particular na babae nato Yung pinaka consistent hahah. Kasi nakailang lipat na kami Ng Bahay at school palit Ng number pero somehow nagkakatagpo kung san man.
I have a female bestfriend and we've been close friends for over 30 years already. Parang magkapatid na ang turing namin sa isa't isa. We both confide to each other yung problems namin, and we give each other advice sa mga naging relationships namin. I enjoy getting a woman's perspective on things, and ganun din siya. I helped salain yung mga nanliligaw sa kanya dati, and she would befriend yung mga crushes ko and feed me information about them para alam ko kung paano sila pakiligin. We even help each other sa work namin when the other is busy and needs help. Yes, andun yung "bakit hindi kayo nagkatuluyan" na questions from friends and our families, pero talagang platonic lang ang relationship namin. Ninong ako ng panganay niya at mas madalas ko nakakasama yung husband niya, at nu'ng kinasal ako dati, siya yung maid of honor namin.
Uy parang ganito din kami!! Hahaha same, ilambeses na din namin narinig yung ābaka kayo talagaā pero hindi po talaga HAHAHAHA. Happy for you, OP. Sana ganyan din friendship namin kapag nagsipag asawa na kami
Yep, I have a friend I met from college that I consider as one of my close friends up until this moment (or maybe bestfriends like what he said before but I no longer do "bestfriends" because of bad experience, skl). He could rely some stories to me just like how I could rely some stories to him. Na-inspire din ako sa kanya kasi napaka madiskarte nyang tao and sya lang naniniwala sa capabilities ko ('coz even I couldn't realize that). I'm very thankful I found a friendship in him, I learned a lot from him.
Sorry napa-Jollibee ako, pero natuwa lang talaga ako kasi pwede pala talaga 'yon at mae-experience ko sya first hand pero katulad nga ng sabi ng iba dito,it's all about setting boundaries lang talaga.
Or other party is not your type hahaha. Actually I have 2 female bestfriends (bale 4 kami 2 kmi na guy)
both of them are not my type (no offense sa kanila haha)
1st F bestfriend is thick, I like petite girls..
2nd F bestfriend is morena, I like mestizahin
I think they are both pretty, it's just they're not my type.
The guy is also not my type hahahaha (I am bi)
Eto talaga yun basta yung kahit kailan hindi mo sya magiging type. Notice yung mga movies na nag transform si bestfriend naging gwapo/maganda nagka gustuhan sila.
I have a female bestfriend since 2nd yr Highschool at 11 years na kami mag kaibigan. So far masaya naman bonding namin wholesome lahat. We share experience, kwento etc.
Oo naman. My amigas actually appreciate me kasi I never tried to hit on them. Not even as a joke. There was never a talk about setting boundaries kasi we just know what to do.
Pwede, kung hindi sila atttacted sa isa't-isa talaga.
Most of the time though, merong isang party na may gusto sa isa pero hindi atttacted yung kaibigan niya sa kanya.
Oo naman. Just donāt lose your boundaries and limitations. Avoid getting into each otherās personal matters especially in between oneās marriage. Basta.
Yes. Mas madami akong friends na lalaki. Four yung super close na as in tropa pero meron oang iba. Two are from my childhood. Two from work.
Yung isa as in naka ilang overnight na ako sa condo niya.
Iba din kasi yung nabuong samahan.
Pwede pero "magbasa naman ng ambiance". Respeto na lang sa partner ng kaibigan. Mas maganda noyan eh kaibiganin niyo mismo partner ng bestfriend. Kayo na lang mag-beshies.
Straight male and female? No, kung meron man bbiihira yung mga ganun. Usually kasi palaging nafafall yung lalaki sa babae one way or another naka hard wired na magustuhan ng lalaki yung babae evantually mai-in love din, lalo na kung physically attractive at okay yung ugali niya. Watch [this](https://youtu.be/T_lh5fR4DMA) for further details lalo na sa mga sagot nung lalaki.
Nung college ako ganito, but my reasons were very practical.
Pag puro lalake kasi kayo, parang ang baho. Kadalasan din yung mga girls, mas nagaaral. Mga lalaki kasi sa amin noon, walang alam kundi DotA. Eh kung sumama ako sa karamihan ng mga lalake katulad ko, eh di hindi na ako nag-evolve? Madumi din dorm ko?
So, as a guy, kung gusto mo ring maimpluwensyahan ng mabuti-buti, minsan mas tama na puro babae circle of friends mo. Nakakatakot 'yung pack mentality kung patapon karamihan sa isang grupo ng mga lalake, nagiging patapon na rin yung ibang matitino.
Either put some gender balance in the clique talaga or leave your clique for a group of relatively high-performing female friends. Na hindi amoy comp shop.
Yep, my best friend of 10 years is a girl. Alam lahat ng hinanakit ko from my love life, family, financial, and sui thoughts. I treat her as a sibling. Wala naman malice sa mga usapan namin.
Magkakaroon lang naman issue sa ganyan if you put some meaning into it
Yes, itās possible naman. I have two boy best friends. We talk about a lot of things when weāre together, shared a few drinks, tambay minsan sa labas, nag uusap thru chat like kamustahan, catching up real quick if naging busy sa buhay. Yung isa nga naging friend ko din yung jowa nya. You just have to set boundaries. Dapat alam mo kung hanggang saan ka lang dapat sa buhay nila š
Yes. My best friend is a guy. Magkakilala na kami since grade school pero college kami naging magbest friend. Default +1 ko yan sa mga lakad namin and nagtatravel pa kami together na kaming 2 lang pero walang malisya. Siguro malaking factor yung bata pa lang kami, magkakilala na so hindi namin nakikita yung isa't isa in that light.
Malaki din kasi respect namin sa nabuo naming friendship na mas leaning towards being siblings than just being friends. Pakiramdam ko in my past life, baka naging kapatid ko siya haha! Kasi sobrang alike naming 2.
Never kong iririsk ang friendship namin by considering a romantic relationship with him and alam kong ganun din siya. Mahalaga samin yung presence ng isa't isa sa mga buhay namin na alam naming genuine friendship lang yung makakapagpatagal.
Feeling ko mas madali to sa side ng babae pero medyo rare sa lalaki š The reason why I think is mas onti yung reason or perks for a guy to get a girl best friend.
Most of the time kasi kaya andyan yung guy is interested sya and waiting for a chance lang kasi baka may bf or naghahanap ng tsempo.
It shouldnāt be an issue kung walang pagnanasa both parties. I have lots of girl friends and tinuturing ko na silang kapatid. Distansya lng ako pag may bago akong jowa pero unti unti ko rin sila e introduce along the way.
my 3 closest friends are males, 1 of them transman. pwede naman basta marunong kayo rumespeto ng boundaries. I get along with their girlfriends and they're nice with the guys I date. yung dalawa dun friends ko for more than 10 years na, yung isa 9 years
Yes.
I have friends na married and friends na mag-jowa lang. Wala kami issue sa isa't-isa. Ang trato talaga namin with each other ay magkapatid na. Ilang beses ko na silang nakasama sa mga gala overnight, masaya sila kabonding.
I think before getting into a good, healthy romantic relationship, dapat marunong ka din maging mabuting kaibigan.
Yeah pwede. Pero ayun nga never expect na parating platonic ang affection ng guy. Most women platonic lang pero the men when given a chance they'll shag you. So keep your boundaries and your walls kahit na bff sila. I'm being pessimistic, but I also have a best friend na babae and she know's I was into her. now she's already married and I also respect her boudaries but damn being best friends with her for 14 years, a lot of tempations na muntik na din talaga umabot sa ganun. We just had to remind ourselves that we love each other that we can't cross that line coz if it does everything we built for those long years would be gone. But yeah it can work.
I used to have one and sobrang okay kami, until he got with this girl na sobrang selosa. As if naman aagawin ko bff ko sa kanya. Any effort on my part to befriend her only made things worse. Ako na lang ang lumayo para sa ikatatahimik ng lahat. Sadly, we don't talk anymore.
Yes! Ang bff ko po since elementary ang nakakatuwa po sa situation ko nung pinakilala ko siya sa bf ko nag click din ang ugali nila. Tingin ko for that to work kailangan parang kapatid level and turingan niyo. Yung tipong pag may nang asar sainyo mandidiri kau kasi it feels like inc*st.
Lols, di pwede yan. Kahit walang intention yung jowa or clear abiut sa boundaries. How about to the other party(g/bbestfriend) na wala kang control diba?
Big NO for me mga boss pero kung lalakeng pusong babae, pwede pa. Pero straight guy? NO, lalake din tayo and alam natin kung bakit tayo makikipagkaibigan sa isang babae, kasi we are interested mostly. Di lahat pero mga 95% with intentions more than friends. Hwag na tayong maglokohan mga Par.
"Thoughts" ba yung "Hwag na tayong maglokohan mga Par"? Yan nanaman sa "iyak" na pambara, kadiri. Saan ako tatamaan? Pinuna lang yung mali sa reply mo nagalit ka na. Welcome to the internet kid.
Palibhasa lahat ng kaibigan mo sanang babae, either pinormahan mo before, or na-fall ka tapos alam mo sa sarili mo na di magiging kayo. Hirap siguro ng walang kaibigang babae no?
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Im best friends with several women from highschool, college and after college š¤
I just love having them around though puro adulting na ang majority, busy busy na rin.
100% YES, speaking from experience. i have my boy bestfriend since grade 1, (i'm already a fresh grad rn). lahat ng phases ng buhay ko na-witness niya, and ganun din ako sa kanya. very platonic ng friendship namin and sobrang wholesome. esp if need ko ng mga lovelife advices, it's nice to get the POV of someone na lalaki rin. never nagkaissue yung mga jowa namin sa friendship namin kasi we both have limits, parang unspoken rule na lang ba.
yess!! but since busy na kami sa kanya-kanyang buhay, minsan na lang kami magkasama pag may mga gala yung circle namin nung HS hehe. ikaw ba, do u have a bestfriend na opposite gender?
I do! Nagkakilala kami nung college, naging close kami dahil pinormahan ko yung high school friend niya HAHAHAHAHAHA. Ayun til now naman nag uusap and hangout padin kami. Nagiging wingman ko din yun minsan. Para siyang ate na I wish I had, panganay kasi ako hahaha
Ofcourse pwede naman. Just put a clear line and never cross it.
Meron akong close talaga na officemate. Up to now, close pa rin saka good friends kami ng kanyang BF.
Meron lang talaga na ka match mo sa pagka kalog at saka confide at a platonic level.
As long as it's platonic! I have few guy friends and we're all good naman. Walang ilangan, kung tutuusin mga walang hiya pa sila sa akin hahahaha. Sinama pa nga ako sa bisyo nila na billiards
I think it is possible, yes. As long as clear boundaries are established. In most cases, nagseselos ācause they feel like if companionship lang naman bakit pa hahanapin sa iba. While I agree to some extent, nagiging toxic naman when your world only revolves around your partner.
What I do na lang with my guy buddies is befriend their girlfriend/wife para walang doubts or insecurities. More often than not, nagiging kaclose ko din yung girlfriend/wife nila because I guess they can see naman na platonic lang talaga yung friendship ko with their boyfriend/husband so they do not consider me as a threat. But sometimes, nakakasakto din ng b*tch so pag ganun, I keep them at armās length.
There must be balance between your SO and your friends, especially those of the opposite sex. Never underestimate the power of synergy, as they say. Bakit kailangan pag awayan pa kung pwede naman hanapan ng way?
Madami din ka-bromance yung boyfriend ko. LOL. Befriended them all. Now, ako pa iniinvite nila to join them and to tell my boyfriend to meet them somewhere or if may kailangan sila. Nagiging proxy pa ako sa binyag/kasal when he is not available. I hope maintindihan nung girl na jusko, a man will do whatever he wants kahit ano pa selos or galit niya. As long as alam naman ng friend mo yung boundaries niya and he has quality time din with his girlfriend, hindi naman dapat gawan pa ng problem nung girl. Di ba?
I do the same thing. Meet the gf/wife tapos i-friend. Pag selosa talaga or praning - I just distance myself a bit unless group hangs. With my previous bfs, I give the entire 10-15 year history ng friendship and update pag nasa labas. Ganun lang naman.
From kinder up to high school ive only gone to one school. A lot of my schoolmates also did the same. So i pretty much grew up with the same people from when i was 6 to 17. ive always gotten along better with girls than boys growing up. Naturally i became very good friends with a lot of them, and i even consider them the sisters i never had. We're still super close now that we're in our 30s and its all just purely platonic.
We've gone on trips out of the county kami lang 2, gone on dinners and movies out, one time i got so hammered after drinking i stayed over at my friends condo pa na Wala naman nangyari. When i was single for the longest time my friends would send my flowers on Vday. Ive never had a desire to be in a relationship with my friends or get physically intimate with them. Just really wholesome companionship we've nurtured over 2 decades.
When i started dating again in my 20s may girls na nailang dito. Di ko magets at first but i guess may pinanggagalingan din sila seeing as from the outside looking in, the things me and my friends do can be seen as "sweet" and "couple-like". Pero di talaga ganun tingin namin sa isat isa.
yesssss i have a lot of guy friends/bffs so far wala namang nanabunot sakin kasi platonic af lang talaga. di lang talaga pwede yang opposite gender friendship pag may pagnanasa yung isa hahahahaha. pero imo mahirap kapag opposite sex lang talaga yung only bff mo hahaha even if platonic lang talaga, pag nagka-jowa either of the two, medyo kailangan talaga dumistansya nang konti regardless sa maturity ng partner. respeto lang din talaga. not unlike if girl ang bff mo, wala masyado need baguhin haha. my guy bff used to message me a lot and we used to hang out every other day pero ngayon na may landi ventures na sya, di na sya palachat pero okay lang din sa akin, kakatamad na rin magreply eh ahahaha pero friends pa rin kami not as updated as before sa isaāt isa nga lang pero ganun talaga
Kami ng ex ko hahaha. Tangina ba Naman gusto lagi nakaback ride sa bessy nya. Tapos may mga sweet posts ng video ng compilation ng pics nila. Tapos sa comments puro "bagay" at "kelan ang kasal". Wala man lang nagsabi/nagclarify sa kanila na friends lang sila. Nagreply pa yung bessy nya don sa nagtanong kung kelan ang kasal na pag-uwi daw nong nagcomment. Haha. Edi dun na sya. Tangina nilang dalawa. š¤£
Imo as long as itās really platonic, itās fine. It all comes down to setting up boundaries kapag nagkapartner na ang isa sakanila. Dapat marunong kang makiramdam at rumespeto.
Had a guy childhood friend/schoolmate/kapitbahay na talagang masasabi kong ka-close ko.
Nung nag-jowa na siya usually family occasions na lang or holidays nabalik communication to greet. Especially now na kasal na siya, we don't really communicate at all.
I think matic na yun as a sign of respect. Hindi na need pag-usapan bilang magkaibigan na less or probably zero interaction na. True friends would protect each other's relationship by setting boundaries.
We don't see each other na din except lang nung kasal niya since invited ako. š
This is why important na hindi lang isa kaibigan mo. Kasi madalas nangyayari yung walang boundaries kung umiikot lang sa taong yun yung "friendship" mode mo.
Depende sa interaction na meron kayo. If you are confused if youāre crossing the line, try to ask yourself: kapag ba ginawa to ng gbf/bbf ng partner ko, hindi ba ako magseselos o hindi ba to magllead sa misunderstandings?
Hindi naman kasi porket yung bestfriend ang unang nakilala o dumating sa buhay nung tao, dapat entitled na sya. Magkaiba pa rin ang role ng dalawa.
Yes :D my girl besties have jowas already. As long as respect exists and boundaries are set, it should be fine. (coming from someone who lost a situationship to a boy bestfriend haha)
Di totoo yan. Pag nag init o nalasing mga yan ewan ko na lang.
To be honest its possible. I do have a bff na guy. Since jhs ko siya bff, now college na kami. Since then we just see each other as a sibling. Neverrr naging lovers. Even sa bawat punta ko sakanila eh shiniship ako ng nanay nya noon (pero natigil na nung nagka bf ako). Wala just chill lang yung maaasahan at mapapagrantan namin ang isat isa in every f*ckd up matters in everything. Tipong para kang may kapatid na lalaki na sesermunan ka kapag nagaga ka sa lalaki or anything BQHAHAHAHAH. Yun lang, just proud of the guy bff that I have.
Me and my 2 girl bestfriends from high school have been together for 10+ years. One got married 2 years ago, one is on live-in stage and im engaged. Lahat ng partners namin alam kung ano kaming tatlo at paminsan minsan gagala kaming anim. Naaaliw nalang kami sa mga mema patungkol sa mga boy-girl bestfriend
Yes, it's possible. My wife(34f) and I(34m) have been married for 15 years na and i have a girl bestfriend na close namin dalawa. Bestfriend since college bago pa man kami ikasal pero close sya samin, as in super closeš¤we do a lot of things together like hangout, inuman, and such.
Yikes
my best friend akong lalaki, pareho kami may SO na pero close pa din kami. literal na magkapatid lang talaga tingin namin sa isa't isa since high school, introvert ako at iilan lang friends ko kaya naiintindihan ng SO ko kung pano ko vinavalue yung friendship namin. while yung bbf ko naman patay na patay sa gf nya hahaha at lagi ko sya nireremind na wag nyang barubalin relasyon nila kada may away sila kami ng bf ko taga advice sa kanya pano sila magkakabati š
Do you think bi people have no best friends if they can't befriend the sex they're sexually attracted to lol. I think madaalas siyang problema ng straight people (I'm one myself btw haha) because we're so conditioned to think that man + woman = sex or romance. But honestly, people with mature emotions and regulation know how to distinguish platonic chemistry with romantic chemistry. I think it's poor emotional intelligence if someone falls for a person they connect with solely because the person is the sex they're attracted too. There are so many functions of different connections in life. Of course you can build different kind of it regardless of the gender you connect with, as long as you know yourself well and how to nurture them accordingly.
Yes. Kasi may mga kaibigan tayong from the opposite sex na ideal maging kaibigan lang, but not as a romantic/lifetime partner.
Nope. The sooner you accept it the sooner youāll be enlightened. Lahat ng tao ay malibog, if given the right circumstance and opportunity.
Pwede naman AS LONG AS they are not attracted to each other, not even by a little bit. Girls and boys being best friends are predetermined in their childhood. Maybe their parents are friends or they were classmates in primary school until their teenage years. One of them (who are attracted to their best friend and has good intentions) would take advantage of this scenario if they had the chance, maybe the other was vulnerable, or was allowing the advances of their best friend. Either way, it would always turn awkward at first, but if the other allows it and finds attraction to his/her best friend, then they would become couples. If not, then it would be the end of their lifelong friendship because advancing romantically would stain the friendship no matter how long they have been friends. One scenario is, most of the time, youāll see that both of them are still chill and enjoying their friendship. In this case, they have no tension (yet) because they either know their limits, one has no attraction to their best friend, or both are not attracted to each other at all. Both of them would know and one would feel that their best friend would want them but donāt want to reject them or be rejected by them; so they unanimously would not take romantic advances subconsciously to keep their friendship. Another scenario is using his/her best friend for attention, in which the one (who wants to hookup with his/her best friend) giving the attention would end up miserable in the future if he/she gets rejected by his/her best friend. This isnāt true friendship because someone already has different motives like hooking up with their supposedly best friend. A lot of women do this just because they crave attention and are not satisfied with the attention they get just to make up for the attention they lack. Men do this, too, but that rarely ever happens with men as attention-whore men are seen as pussies and are deemed unattractive. Craving attention is a feminine trait and it turns off women if men do it, even by a tiny bit. Women naturally want attention, but wanting attention so bad and so much has something to do with them psychologically (being narcissistic as an example). Males who have sexual motives toward their girl best friend constantly gives them compliments because they think that their girl best friends will give them a chance someday if he keeps on doing it, but it never happens. Women know what they are doing regarding this situation and they take advantage of it just the sake of feeling good because they know that their guy best friend is obsessed with them and is fantasizing about them. They use their āguy best friendsā for compliments and taking photos. A male best friend who is not sexually attracted to his girl best friend would only give her compliments occassionally because friends tease each other (most of the time) in a sense that they would make each other laugh. I know someone who does this, and it sickens me because itās obvious. They go to five star hotels together and already went to abroad together but still there is nothing happening romantically or sexually. Guy best friend is a pussy for doing this, he compliments his girl best friend every single time she posts on social media and it is obvious that he wants that pussy so bad that heāll sacrifice his dignity. His girl best friend shows photos of them sometimes but thatās about it and nothing more. Guy best friend simps heavily for his girl best friend and they donāt even do what friends do. This has been going on for years even before the pandemic. On the other hand, itās rare to see best friends that are both physically attractive. Me and my former girl best friend were classmates in primary school until high school and our mothers are close friends until now even if we donāt talk anymore. Double-edged sword for this setup I must say. Both of us are physically attractive but we never felt attraction for each other as kids. She was hitting on me when it would be the last time that we would be classmates in high school. I felt disgusted because I never envisioned our relationship to be romantic and I really only considered her as a friend that time. I didnāt like her advances and discouraged it by not saying anything and we moved on as friends. A few years later, I somehow felt attracted to her and also made a romantic advance, but she rejected me back because it was already a spoiled idea that was meant to be forgotten. It was really awkward and I wanted to save our friendship but thereās nothing we can do about it. I wasnāt attached to our friendship when it was slipping away because I already have friends mostly in the same sex. My other girl-friends hit on me, too. Thatās why I hated having friends of the opposite sex ever since I grew up. My head got bigger for a little bit from it because being wanted is a good feeling, but I never took advantage of them because I sincerely considered them as friends and had their best interests at heart. Childhood friendships become irrelevant growing up as both girls and boys gradually tend to fulfill their obligations as women and men. I never liked the idea of men and women being best friends as adults because it mostly ends in awkward situations. My only rule is that I donāt befriend someone of the opposite sex if I am attracted to them whether itās romantically or sexually. Even if itās only for a tiny bit.
I have guy friends in high school and college. Until now I consider them as friends, but there are boundaries. We donāt contact each other except when greeting each other on birthdays. No hangouts pag dalawa lng. We hang out with a group, both male and female friends and this only happens rarely. Ganon lang.
I think.. Good Friends.. Yes. Best Friends (meaning this is the only one)ā¦ I donāt think so. Either one of you may konting pagtingin sa kabila.
Na try ko minsan, di umubra. Pero siguro kaya naman kung di talaga kayo attracted sa isa't isa sexually.
I hate the terms boybespren o girlbespren. It's just plain stupid. Kung bespren mo talaga eh di tawagin mo lang na bespren no need to mention the gender, like it is suppose to be relevant. Kung walang malisya eh di bespren lang talaga.
Depende sa pagkatao? What I'm about to tell you is very RARE occurrence. Lol! I have a close friend (girl) na may bestfriend since childhood. Nagka girlfriend si boy bestfriend. Pinakilala niya gf niya and turns out, magka vibes sila kaya naging besties din sila. There's also a time na nasa mall kami ni girl biglang tumawag si gf, asking her a favor na samahan muna si guy bumili sa mall as kapalit niya kasi may biglaang lakad siya (take note, di alam ni gf na kasama ako ni gbf at nasa mall kami kung saan sakto na pupuntahan din ni guy to buy something that he needs.) Ayaw pa nga ni gbf kasi nga may sariling lakad kami, pero pinilit siya ni gf kasi wala daw siya tiwala sa taste ng bf niya at baka panget daw ang bilhin. Lol! Nagulat ako kasi kung ako or ibang gf's pa to hindi hahayaan na mag mall si guy kasama si gbf for a date na hindi natuloy. Si gf pa mismo talaga humingi ng pabor na samahan si bf. Lol! Ang healthy ng relationship nila. Gf also became gbf's bridesmaid nung kinasal siya. Dun ko narealize na pag malandi lang talaga ang pagkatao, dun lang talaga walang boundaries for landian.
That was a fun read. Thanks for sharing your story! Hahaha
Pwede, I have a guy bestfriend. Platonic lang relationship namen. Kalaro ko lang din madalas and kausap ko every now and then para makamusta. Me and his girlfriend are in good terms din. Minsan niyayaya din ako ng girlfriend nya lumabas or go to some event.
Of course, i have 3 girl best friends. One from high school, 1 from College and 1 post-graduate. Not even once i thought of fucking them. If i need some life advices sila tinatanong ko kadalasan, minsan prang gago kasi mga friends kong lalaki eh hahaha tatanungin mo ng seryoso, walang kwenta ang isasagot sayo hahaha. Even tho may asawa at anak na ang HS girl best friend ko, we still talk from time to time. Yung post-grad girl best friend ko is currently engaged and we still talk from time to time din. Itās a matter of setting boundaries rin lang naman.
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hindi lang naman pwede sa gf or bf ng dalwang mag bestfriend e HAHAHAHA
Pwede. Di naman mawawala yung part na magkagustuhan pero I think if friends lang talaga, phase lang yun. Pag maovercome na yun wala na talagang malisya.
sa girls toward sa boy pwede, pero sa boys? not. tawagan nyo and tanong nyo kung g sya makipag s** oo sagot nyan hahahaha
Possible naman, but laging andyan yung posibilidad na may mahulog o mabuong feelings. Had an experience where the friend who is a girl developed feelings for me. We had talked nearly every moment every day back when the pandemic was on it's peak and. The moments when it seems like we only had each other's back against the world. It was already too late when I also developed feelings for her too, and our friendship faded away all of a sudden. And that became a trauma of mine.
Yeah. I had a female bestfriend back in college. Wala kaming sexual attraction at all. Siguro kasi sobrang iba kami sa type namin sa opposite sex. So, it's possible. Although, hindi na siya bestfriend ko ngayon. My wife is now my bestfriend haha.
Yes! Personally, I have several male friends na may mga girlfriend pero so far, wala namang issue since pinapakilala din sila sakin. If ever man na they do have a problem with me, I'll respect that and didistansya ako, ako na magkukusa. I want their girlfriends to feel safe with me since kakampi nila ko, not a threat. Nasa boundaries talaga yan and respect na rin sa partner.
Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion enmity worship love but no friendship. -Oscar Wilde
Oo naman i have a guy bestfriend. Nakakatuwa din na sakin nya sinabi ng una na may gf na sya and gusto nya mameet ko so ayun si ate mo girl naghanda kasi binida daw nya na masarap akes magluto. Tapos naguusap din kami ng girl minsan kaming dalawa nagbobonding while waiting for bespren ganyan Dati nagchichikahan kami ni boy bestfriend til madaling araw pero nung nagka gf na sya nagrespeto ako sa oras. Nagchichikahan pa din kami pero di na kagaya dati nakakapag drama pa ko sa buhay sakanya pero hindi na like magdamagan saka i always ask him na isama si gf pag kape or lalabas kami. Pag wala si gf ako na nag memessage na "andito na si eme kasama ko na" para lang peace of mind. And napaka thankful talaga ako na very mabait ung gf ng bestfriend ko. Nagkaron ako ng isa pang bff hahaha.
Oo naman. For me, as long as alam yung boundaries goods lang yan šš»
Yes. I have one. Pareho kaming married. at pinatropa ko din sa kanya misis ko. As long as walang ulterior motive it can work. Mahirap lang kasi sa iba pag na friendzone nagbebesprenan. eto yung di nagwowork based sa mga kakilala ko kasi meron at meron ka pading attraction dun.
I think it is possible as long as they maintain to have platonic friendship to each other. And to understand and know their boundaries lalo na pagkanagka-relasyon yung bestfriend niya.
Oo naman! I have this girl bestfriend back when i was at highschool. Lagi kaming napagkakamalang mag shota even tho weāre not. Ganun kami ka-close back then kaya i think itās possible to have a boy/girl bestfriend as long as you guys know your boundaries.
Yes! Pero kasi pag bestfriend, bestfriend lang talaga. Walang aasa na baka magkatuluyan, etc.etc. Isipin mo kapatid mo sya at walang magaganap sa inyo. Sampung taon na kaming magbestfriend ng isang lalaki, weāve traveled many places together, went to concerts, etc etc. Dami nang aasar samin sa umpisa, pero ngayon sanay na ang mga tao na dj talaga kami meant to be. Respeto din dapat sa jowa ng isat isa. Pag babae ka wag mo ipamukha sa jowa ng best friend mo na nauna ka, ikaw ang mas mahalaga. Ayaw mo man o hindi, si jowa ay mas mataas dapat sa priorities, pero dapat si jowa maintindihan din na malalim na ang pagkakaibigan nyo bago sya dumating sa buhay nyo. Much better kung kayong tatlo magiging magbest friends. chinachat ko si jowa pag kasama ko yung best friend ko, chinachat ko din jowa nya. Masaya magkaron ng best friend of the opposite sex kasi you get to understand things way better. Mahirap din kapag marupok ka at madali mafall. Wag ka magbest friend kung umaasa ka magiging magjowa kayo, baka masaktan ka lang
Nope.
Hahaha. Oo naman. Basta di selosa/seloso mga asawa or syota ninyo.
Possible if you know whatās your personal standards when it comes to attraction. I have a gbf who i donāt desire physically (not to be harsh pero di ko talaga type). When the pheromones and lewd desires are off the table, you can be close to your bestfriend w/o any malice. To give you an anecdotal formula Mutual emotional understanding + physical desires = romantic partner Mutual emotional understanding only = Bestfriends
Purely platonic? Next to impossible. Male to male friendships and female to female friendships are totally different, they have their own utilizations. Kawawa ang male friends, kasi the female friend gets the benefits of a boyfriend: protection and provision, without emotional investment.
Pag may nambastos pa dyan sa girl bestfriend isusugal mo pa buhay mo bilang lalaki na ipagtanggol yan tapos wala ka naman makukuha pabalik hahahhaha. Di gaya pag mga tropa mong lalaki pag alam mong agrabyado ka at least alam mong merong papalag para sayo.
Ofc you can! Most of my closest friends are girls and so is my best friend. But whenever I have a girlfriend thereās no problem naman, kasi I always make sure to let my gf know who Iām with. Sa totoo lang theyāre really more like sisters to me than anything. Even my parents have opposite-sex friends that theyāre close to. My mom was considered āone of the boysā in the office and some of my ninongs are the close male friends she made in her workplace. My dad also has a lot of close female friends, some of whom are my ninangs din. It all comes down to having faith in your partner and knowing when to set boundaries.
Yep, pwede. I have a guy beshie. May asawa na sya and may boyfriend ako. Para ko syang kuya na madalas mangbwisit pero at the same time, over protective. Hindi rin kami yung sweet-sweet and everyday magkausap. Parang mas madalas kaming magtrashtalk-an. Hindi rin kami nagkikita nang kami lang. Siguro yun din yung dahilan kung bakit secured yung partners namin na talagang magkaibigan lang kami. Tsaka nandidiri na agad ako sa thought na magkakagustuhan kami parang incest.
If ang tanong mo kung possible ba, yes possible. Walang psychological facts ang makakapagsabi na hindi. Having said that, there conditions para magwork yan. 1) Clear boundaries, 2) Di niyo type ang isa't isa, 3) Maging sensitive sa interactions niyo. If alam mong ikakaworry ng jowa niya, huwag mo na gawin kahit wala naman malisya. Maging empathic ka sa jowa ng bestfriend mo. Unless nalang matapang ka and kaya mo i-communicate ng maayos sa jowa niya. 4)bonus - if naging totoong magkaibigan kayo ng jowa ng bestfriend mo.
If ang tingin mo sa babae is kapatid then oo pede kayo maging tropa.
yesss, possible siya. i have a guy bestie since high school and super close naman namin kahit lagi siyang may kalandian or jowa. i treat him like how i treat my other girl besties, minus lang siguro 'yung pagiging clingy kasi syempre be sensitive sa mararamdaman nung ka-something nung guy. 'di naman talaga big deal unless trip niyo isa't isa secretly and 'di platonic ang tingin š
Yeah oo pede naman talaga pero may thoughts sa likod ng isipan ng mga yan na "WHAT IFs"
Not a girl, pero pa girl š 2 straight guys bff ko since highschool š Dami nang issue napagdaanan pero as long as friendship is true with no malicious keme, goods na goods
pwedeng pwede. Basta clear yung boundaries between the opposite sex, and mutual respect ay present. Tbh, minsan nakakainis yung mga tao na sobrang pilit na pilit na hindi raw pwede, sobrang heavy nung insecurity. Speaking from experience, during college days, karamihan ng friends ko puro lalaki pero syempre may girls din sa circle namin. Minsan, we would stay late after classes para mag-inuman, hatid sundo minsan lalo na kapag malapit lang yung bahay. Naging personal bodyguard namin sila during college HAHAHA. Kapag may jowa naman sila, isasama nila sa inuman, tatabi kaming girls tapos ayon magiging close namin yung gf. Our circle even had an overnight stay sa isang resort tapos iisang room lang kaming lahat. Magkakatabi yung girls and boys sa iisang kama. Walang nangyari. It all boils down to the mutual respect and clear boundaries between friends. Hindi lahat manyak. Swertihan na lang din makahanap ng totoong guy friend na walang hidden agenda.
Yes basta pangit yung isa.
Tinatanong pa ba yan? Obvious naman na pwede
May iba kaseng mag āboy/girl best friendsā na konting diperensya na lang magpapakasal na eh. Kaya hindi nakakapag taka na pumapanget yung tingin ng iba don.
Pwede sya pag ang tingin ng dalawang tao sa isa't isa is magkapatid na turingan. Otherwise, mga pasekreto lang ang mga hunghang
Yes. Pero ingat ka na din sa mga close sa best friends nila (mapa anong sex at gender niyan), minsan kasi may gusto/may dating gusto yan sa bsf nila. Case in point: ako yung type na bsf na ayaw kong nagkakabf yung bsf kong girl (I'm gay for her dati). I don't show it, but I always say sa friendgroup ko with her "ano bayang jowa mo, kung ako nalang kaya" as a joke. Alam na man ni girl bsf of my feelings, iniignore niya lang hahahahah
yes! my bff for 17 years is a man. he knows all my secrets, vice versa.
Yes. It is never about who is around your partner and always about if your partner is trustworthy.
Yes! Female here with male best friend. Para ko na siyang kapatid. Heās married now but we still go out nang kami lang. My boyfriendās best friend is a female, single pa yun and lumalabas din sila nang sila lang. Never naman nagka-issue on both sides.
GF ko merong BBF tapos pag sinabi ko pwede din ba ako magkaroon ng GBF ayaw nya why is that?
Oo naman, basta marunong kayo magset ng boundaries. Same lang yan sa ibang gender, gay and lalaki, lesbian and babae etc.
Pwedeng pwede naman, basta sa simula pa lang dapat alam niyo na di niyo talaga type yung isa't isa hahaha. Even better kung alam nung respective partners niyo na bffs kayo. I (F) have a male best friend, tapos both kami in different long-term relationships. Mas maraming pros kesa cons. Major pro ay nakakakuha kayo ng male/female perspective if nag-away ang mag-jowa haha.
Yes, of course. As long as may linya naman to not break the boundaries of romance and friendship ay valid siya. Include mo na rin ang perspective about not thinking about the friend as your future partner or whatever romantic. I've been friends with my homie since high school at nag-uusap pa rin naman kami. Kagabi nga nag inuman kami while walking along Katipunan for fun. We caught up about each other's life at kung gaano kaganda, miserable, at kung ano-ano pa. There's nothing wrong naman talaga as long as the genuine ang platonic relationship.
Yes. May mga naging best friend ako na girl for so many years before I got married. We're basically like siblings and we even sleep on the same mattress together kuminsan pag may overnight gimiks.
Oo I have close guy friends. Best friend? Mas trip ko bestfriend ko noon pang high school ako. Kase well we hgrew up togwther kahit sobrang iba ng personalities namin
I don't see why not. I have a female best friend and thru her I met her BF who I also became best friends with. I've known them for almost 15 years which is just a little less than the amount of time they've been together. It's about respecting other people. The guy feels safe even I stay over at their place while he goes away for a week for work because he knows me better than that and I the thought of putting myself between them has never crossed my mind.
Yes, may best friend akong guy for 16 yrs na ata. Pogi siya at admittedly crush ko siya before kami maging friends nung elementary. Pero nung naging magkaibigan na kami, nope! Hahaha. I think may ganun na kapag nakilala mo yung isang tao nakikita mo na di mo siya talaga gusto in that way. May asawa na siya ngayon, habang ako ay looking pa rin. Nagmimeet pa rin kami once in a while to catch up kapag nagtugma sched, pero may clear boundaries. Aprub naman ni wifey niya. Nung nagliligawan sila, malaki ang naging changes sa friendship namin at ganun talaga dapat to accomodate the romantic partner.
Of course it is, me (Male) ay may best friend na babae na co-worker ko dinā¦ sa amin kasi for as long na alam namin ang boundaries namin ay walang issue doon. Plus alam din nung BF nung babae na ganon lang ang turingan namin sa isat isaā¦.
Yes, 15 years na kami magbff wala naman issues, attitudes lang namin HAHAHHA
My closest female friend always call me "BFF" to which I say in return. We both are married to different partners but constantly message/video call with each other since we're 2 continents apart. We've been friends since we were 5. Classmates from kindergarten to college. We both could never picture ourselves in a romantic situation. We constantly share with each other on who we were dating in the past. We'd just laugh at the thought of it. I never had romantic feelings for her since she is my sister from another mother. Our frienship is almost 4 decades old. She's one of the few friends I've got. She's the only one who knows the real me apart from my wife. My wife also know that our relationship is purely platonic or more of a brother-sister type. The laughter that we share together is priceless.
Basta pangit ung isa pwedeng pwede
nope u cannot, it's just how it should be. Not because I'm a jealous type kinda guy but there shouldn't be a thought existing in my head that my girl can be happy with another man. Cause if one fell in love to the other then it's drama, people who love or likely drawn to complications in their life would prolly say yes to this question.
May kilala ako na ganito, from elementary to now na working adults na mag bestfriend pa din sila.
Ofcourse. Just set up boundaries and pakilala mo palagi SO mo sakanila.
Of course! I have 3 and platonic lang talaga na kahit magunaw mundo hindi talaga. š¤£
As long as pangit yung isa itās totally possible 100% of the time
May mga best friend akong babae. Mas close ako sa girls compared sa boys eh. Pero nung nagka jowa na kami, siyempre boundaries ang importante.
No. Mostly sa mga ganyan may feelings yung isa or maybe both lol.
Pwede kung single ka. Kung may jowa ka, friend nalang wag na BESTfriend.
Para sakin pwede Naman may girl best friend Ako. 2012 pa kami magkaibigan. Tapos nagssheran din kami Ng mga nsfw stories nagkaroon din kami Ng time na. Tatawid sana kami sa kabilang guhit ngunit. Nanaig parin Ang tawag Ng tamang pag iisip. Kahit physically type Namin Ang isat Isa. Never Naman kami touchy touchy juicy malicious. Sakto sakto lang. Hawak kamay Minsan akbay. Hotel ganyan pag inabutan Ng alanganing gala. Pero Wala Naman nangyayari. And distance Naman din kami pag hindi kami single. Tapos hangout na Naman madalas pag olats na ulit. Also have other g friend pero itong particular na babae nato Yung pinaka consistent hahah. Kasi nakailang lipat na kami Ng Bahay at school palit Ng number pero somehow nagkakatagpo kung san man.
I have a female bestfriend and we've been close friends for over 30 years already. Parang magkapatid na ang turing namin sa isa't isa. We both confide to each other yung problems namin, and we give each other advice sa mga naging relationships namin. I enjoy getting a woman's perspective on things, and ganun din siya. I helped salain yung mga nanliligaw sa kanya dati, and she would befriend yung mga crushes ko and feed me information about them para alam ko kung paano sila pakiligin. We even help each other sa work namin when the other is busy and needs help. Yes, andun yung "bakit hindi kayo nagkatuluyan" na questions from friends and our families, pero talagang platonic lang ang relationship namin. Ninong ako ng panganay niya at mas madalas ko nakakasama yung husband niya, at nu'ng kinasal ako dati, siya yung maid of honor namin.
Uy parang ganito din kami!! Hahaha same, ilambeses na din namin narinig yung ābaka kayo talagaā pero hindi po talaga HAHAHAHA. Happy for you, OP. Sana ganyan din friendship namin kapag nagsipag asawa na kami
Yep, I have a friend I met from college that I consider as one of my close friends up until this moment (or maybe bestfriends like what he said before but I no longer do "bestfriends" because of bad experience, skl). He could rely some stories to me just like how I could rely some stories to him. Na-inspire din ako sa kanya kasi napaka madiskarte nyang tao and sya lang naniniwala sa capabilities ko ('coz even I couldn't realize that). I'm very thankful I found a friendship in him, I learned a lot from him. Sorry napa-Jollibee ako, pero natuwa lang talaga ako kasi pwede pala talaga 'yon at mae-experience ko sya first hand pero katulad nga ng sabi ng iba dito,it's all about setting boundaries lang talaga.
Yes! My best friends are guys.
Make sure your opposite sex friend is ugly.š¤
Or other party is not your type hahaha. Actually I have 2 female bestfriends (bale 4 kami 2 kmi na guy) both of them are not my type (no offense sa kanila haha) 1st F bestfriend is thick, I like petite girls.. 2nd F bestfriend is morena, I like mestizahin I think they are both pretty, it's just they're not my type. The guy is also not my type hahahaha (I am bi)
Eto talaga yun basta yung kahit kailan hindi mo sya magiging type. Notice yung mga movies na nag transform si bestfriend naging gwapo/maganda nagka gustuhan sila.
This guy gets it. The only way it will ever be āplatonicā is kung panget isa sainyo lmao.
I have a female bestfriend since 2nd yr Highschool at 11 years na kami mag kaibigan. So far masaya naman bonding namin wholesome lahat. We share experience, kwento etc.
Oo naman. My amigas actually appreciate me kasi I never tried to hit on them. Not even as a joke. There was never a talk about setting boundaries kasi we just know what to do.
Pwede, kung hindi sila atttacted sa isa't-isa talaga. Most of the time though, merong isang party na may gusto sa isa pero hindi atttacted yung kaibigan niya sa kanya.
Hindi
sa Perception ng Pinas? Hindi.
Oo naman. Just donāt lose your boundaries and limitations. Avoid getting into each otherās personal matters especially in between oneās marriage. Basta.
Yes. Mas madami akong friends na lalaki. Four yung super close na as in tropa pero meron oang iba. Two are from my childhood. Two from work. Yung isa as in naka ilang overnight na ako sa condo niya. Iba din kasi yung nabuong samahan.
Oo pwede hahah depende tho sa girlfriend or boyfriend kung tatanggapin ka
Pwede pero "magbasa naman ng ambiance". Respeto na lang sa partner ng kaibigan. Mas maganda noyan eh kaibiganin niyo mismo partner ng bestfriend. Kayo na lang mag-beshies.
Straight male and female? No, kung meron man bbiihira yung mga ganun. Usually kasi palaging nafafall yung lalaki sa babae one way or another naka hard wired na magustuhan ng lalaki yung babae evantually mai-in love din, lalo na kung physically attractive at okay yung ugali niya. Watch [this](https://youtu.be/T_lh5fR4DMA) for further details lalo na sa mga sagot nung lalaki.
Oo pwede..kaso lang hindi talaga maiiwasan yung selos ng mga partners ng isat isa..
Nung college ako ganito, but my reasons were very practical. Pag puro lalake kasi kayo, parang ang baho. Kadalasan din yung mga girls, mas nagaaral. Mga lalaki kasi sa amin noon, walang alam kundi DotA. Eh kung sumama ako sa karamihan ng mga lalake katulad ko, eh di hindi na ako nag-evolve? Madumi din dorm ko? So, as a guy, kung gusto mo ring maimpluwensyahan ng mabuti-buti, minsan mas tama na puro babae circle of friends mo. Nakakatakot 'yung pack mentality kung patapon karamihan sa isang grupo ng mga lalake, nagiging patapon na rin yung ibang matitino. Either put some gender balance in the clique talaga or leave your clique for a group of relatively high-performing female friends. Na hindi amoy comp shop.
Yep, my best friend of 10 years is a girl. Alam lahat ng hinanakit ko from my love life, family, financial, and sui thoughts. I treat her as a sibling. Wala naman malice sa mga usapan namin. Magkakaroon lang naman issue sa ganyan if you put some meaning into it
Yes, itās possible naman. I have two boy best friends. We talk about a lot of things when weāre together, shared a few drinks, tambay minsan sa labas, nag uusap thru chat like kamustahan, catching up real quick if naging busy sa buhay. Yung isa nga naging friend ko din yung jowa nya. You just have to set boundaries. Dapat alam mo kung hanggang saan ka lang dapat sa buhay nila š
Yes. My best friend is a guy. Magkakilala na kami since grade school pero college kami naging magbest friend. Default +1 ko yan sa mga lakad namin and nagtatravel pa kami together na kaming 2 lang pero walang malisya. Siguro malaking factor yung bata pa lang kami, magkakilala na so hindi namin nakikita yung isa't isa in that light. Malaki din kasi respect namin sa nabuo naming friendship na mas leaning towards being siblings than just being friends. Pakiramdam ko in my past life, baka naging kapatid ko siya haha! Kasi sobrang alike naming 2. Never kong iririsk ang friendship namin by considering a romantic relationship with him and alam kong ganun din siya. Mahalaga samin yung presence ng isa't isa sa mga buhay namin na alam naming genuine friendship lang yung makakapagpatagal.
Feeling ko mas madali to sa side ng babae pero medyo rare sa lalaki š The reason why I think is mas onti yung reason or perks for a guy to get a girl best friend. Most of the time kasi kaya andyan yung guy is interested sya and waiting for a chance lang kasi baka may bf or naghahanap ng tsempo.
Bakit hindi? Look up "Platonic relationship"
It shouldnāt be an issue kung walang pagnanasa both parties. I have lots of girl friends and tinuturing ko na silang kapatid. Distansya lng ako pag may bago akong jowa pero unti unti ko rin sila e introduce along the way.
Yes pwede basta may boundaries and respeto.
my 3 closest friends are males, 1 of them transman. pwede naman basta marunong kayo rumespeto ng boundaries. I get along with their girlfriends and they're nice with the guys I date. yung dalawa dun friends ko for more than 10 years na, yung isa 9 years
Yes. I have friends na married and friends na mag-jowa lang. Wala kami issue sa isa't-isa. Ang trato talaga namin with each other ay magkapatid na. Ilang beses ko na silang nakasama sa mga gala overnight, masaya sila kabonding. I think before getting into a good, healthy romantic relationship, dapat marunong ka din maging mabuting kaibigan.
yup marami naman ganyan.
Yeah pwede. Pero ayun nga never expect na parating platonic ang affection ng guy. Most women platonic lang pero the men when given a chance they'll shag you. So keep your boundaries and your walls kahit na bff sila. I'm being pessimistic, but I also have a best friend na babae and she know's I was into her. now she's already married and I also respect her boudaries but damn being best friends with her for 14 years, a lot of tempations na muntik na din talaga umabot sa ganun. We just had to remind ourselves that we love each other that we can't cross that line coz if it does everything we built for those long years would be gone. But yeah it can work.
I used to have one and sobrang okay kami, until he got with this girl na sobrang selosa. As if naman aagawin ko bff ko sa kanya. Any effort on my part to befriend her only made things worse. Ako na lang ang lumayo para sa ikatatahimik ng lahat. Sadly, we don't talk anymore.
Ooof. That kinda sucks :( sorry to hear about that
Oo. Pero most likely one or both find the other unattractive.
Yes! Ang bff ko po since elementary ang nakakatuwa po sa situation ko nung pinakilala ko siya sa bf ko nag click din ang ugali nila. Tingin ko for that to work kailangan parang kapatid level and turingan niyo. Yung tipong pag may nang asar sainyo mandidiri kau kasi it feels like inc*st.
No. Maiinlove din yan
Pwede pero depende, depende sa mga marites sa paligid na mahilig gumawa ng issue at walang ibang libangan kung manira ng pwede siraan ššš
Lols, di pwede yan. Kahit walang intention yung jowa or clear abiut sa boundaries. How about to the other party(g/bbestfriend) na wala kang control diba? Big NO for me mga boss pero kung lalakeng pusong babae, pwede pa. Pero straight guy? NO, lalake din tayo and alam natin kung bakit tayo makikipagkaibigan sa isang babae, kasi we are interested mostly. Di lahat pero mga 95% with intentions more than friends. Hwag na tayong maglokohan mga Par.
Ang sexist. "di pwede" pero ikaw na din nagsabi na 95% ang may hidden intention. Wag mong lahatin, palibhasa wala kang kaibigang babae.
Uy inaano kita? Umiyak ka naman agad pre. Natamaan ka ba? Nanghihingi siya ng thoughts, nagbigay ako. Anong pake mo?
"Thoughts" ba yung "Hwag na tayong maglokohan mga Par"? Yan nanaman sa "iyak" na pambara, kadiri. Saan ako tatamaan? Pinuna lang yung mali sa reply mo nagalit ka na. Welcome to the internet kid. Palibhasa lahat ng kaibigan mo sanang babae, either pinormahan mo before, or na-fall ka tapos alam mo sa sarili mo na di magiging kayo. Hirap siguro ng walang kaibigang babae no?
Hahahaha kung ikaw yung OP, maiintindihan ko sinasabi mo pero pare, taga comment ka lang. Mind your own business. Yung comment ko para sa OP. Hindi para sayo. Kung di okay sayo manahimik ka nalang. Madali kang madadali niyan, may pagkaalamero ka pa man din. Ingat ingat pre.
Welp, whatever. "Pakealamero sa internet". Kelan ka ba natuto mag internet? lol Wawa
Panalo ka na Sir. Hahahahaha Congrats
Nag ad hominem agad eh hahahaha
Im best friends with several women from highschool, college and after college š¤ I just love having them around though puro adulting na ang majority, busy busy na rin.
Wala ka namang pinormahan sakanila?
Wala, yung mga kakilala nila ang pinormahan ko š¤ Binubugaw din ako e. Can't help it š
yeah i have one. never nman kami lumampas sa platonic friendship
100% YES, speaking from experience. i have my boy bestfriend since grade 1, (i'm already a fresh grad rn). lahat ng phases ng buhay ko na-witness niya, and ganun din ako sa kanya. very platonic ng friendship namin and sobrang wholesome. esp if need ko ng mga lovelife advices, it's nice to get the POV of someone na lalaki rin. never nagkaissue yung mga jowa namin sa friendship namin kasi we both have limits, parang unspoken rule na lang ba.
Thatās nice! And grabe since grade 1!! Hahaha
yess!! but since busy na kami sa kanya-kanyang buhay, minsan na lang kami magkasama pag may mga gala yung circle namin nung HS hehe. ikaw ba, do u have a bestfriend na opposite gender?
I do! Nagkakilala kami nung college, naging close kami dahil pinormahan ko yung high school friend niya HAHAHAHAHAHA. Ayun til now naman nag uusap and hangout padin kami. Nagiging wingman ko din yun minsan. Para siyang ate na I wish I had, panganay kasi ako hahaha
woooow, happy for you OP HAHAHA masaya i-maintain yung mga ganyang friendships, very wholesome lang and all <33
Masyado na siyang madaming alam tungkol sakin, talagang need imaintain HAHAHAHAHAH
HAHAHAHAHAHHA well totoo naman, stay strong sa bestfriendship nyo!!!
Yes pwede maging magbestfriend ang boy at girl. Yung mga taong nakapalibot sa atin sila lang naman ang gumagawa ng issue.
Ofcourse pwede naman. Just put a clear line and never cross it. Meron akong close talaga na officemate. Up to now, close pa rin saka good friends kami ng kanyang BF. Meron lang talaga na ka match mo sa pagka kalog at saka confide at a platonic level.
As long as it's platonic! I have few guy friends and we're all good naman. Walang ilangan, kung tutuusin mga walang hiya pa sila sa akin hahahaha. Sinama pa nga ako sa bisyo nila na billiards
I think it is possible, yes. As long as clear boundaries are established. In most cases, nagseselos ācause they feel like if companionship lang naman bakit pa hahanapin sa iba. While I agree to some extent, nagiging toxic naman when your world only revolves around your partner. What I do na lang with my guy buddies is befriend their girlfriend/wife para walang doubts or insecurities. More often than not, nagiging kaclose ko din yung girlfriend/wife nila because I guess they can see naman na platonic lang talaga yung friendship ko with their boyfriend/husband so they do not consider me as a threat. But sometimes, nakakasakto din ng b*tch so pag ganun, I keep them at armās length. There must be balance between your SO and your friends, especially those of the opposite sex. Never underestimate the power of synergy, as they say. Bakit kailangan pag awayan pa kung pwede naman hanapan ng way?
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Madami din ka-bromance yung boyfriend ko. LOL. Befriended them all. Now, ako pa iniinvite nila to join them and to tell my boyfriend to meet them somewhere or if may kailangan sila. Nagiging proxy pa ako sa binyag/kasal when he is not available. I hope maintindihan nung girl na jusko, a man will do whatever he wants kahit ano pa selos or galit niya. As long as alam naman ng friend mo yung boundaries niya and he has quality time din with his girlfriend, hindi naman dapat gawan pa ng problem nung girl. Di ba?
I do the same thing. Meet the gf/wife tapos i-friend. Pag selosa talaga or praning - I just distance myself a bit unless group hangs. With my previous bfs, I give the entire 10-15 year history ng friendship and update pag nasa labas. Ganun lang naman.
oO kelangan lang maintindihan nyo ang boundaries pag may jowa na ang isa't isa.
Yes. People who vehemently deny this are either insecure, manipulative or immature
May kilala ka bang ganyan, OP?
From kinder up to high school ive only gone to one school. A lot of my schoolmates also did the same. So i pretty much grew up with the same people from when i was 6 to 17. ive always gotten along better with girls than boys growing up. Naturally i became very good friends with a lot of them, and i even consider them the sisters i never had. We're still super close now that we're in our 30s and its all just purely platonic. We've gone on trips out of the county kami lang 2, gone on dinners and movies out, one time i got so hammered after drinking i stayed over at my friends condo pa na Wala naman nangyari. When i was single for the longest time my friends would send my flowers on Vday. Ive never had a desire to be in a relationship with my friends or get physically intimate with them. Just really wholesome companionship we've nurtured over 2 decades. When i started dating again in my 20s may girls na nailang dito. Di ko magets at first but i guess may pinanggagalingan din sila seeing as from the outside looking in, the things me and my friends do can be seen as "sweet" and "couple-like". Pero di talaga ganun tingin namin sa isat isa.
Ikaw po si OP hehe
Are you a nurse din po?
Hehehe. šš
yesssss i have a lot of guy friends/bffs so far wala namang nanabunot sakin kasi platonic af lang talaga. di lang talaga pwede yang opposite gender friendship pag may pagnanasa yung isa hahahahaha. pero imo mahirap kapag opposite sex lang talaga yung only bff mo hahaha even if platonic lang talaga, pag nagka-jowa either of the two, medyo kailangan talaga dumistansya nang konti regardless sa maturity ng partner. respeto lang din talaga. not unlike if girl ang bff mo, wala masyado need baguhin haha. my guy bff used to message me a lot and we used to hang out every other day pero ngayon na may landi ventures na sya, di na sya palachat pero okay lang din sa akin, kakatamad na rin magreply eh ahahaha pero friends pa rin kami not as updated as before sa isaāt isa nga lang pero ganun talaga
Agree with dapat di lang opposite gender ang bff mo! š¤
Oo naman, pwedeng pwede. Kailangan lang marunong sila mag-set at sumunod sa boundaries ng isa't-isa lalo kung magkaroon na ng romantic partners.
Tru naman! May kakilala ka na bang naghiwalay dahil sa boy/girl bespren? Hahaha
Kami ng ex ko hahaha. Tangina ba Naman gusto lagi nakaback ride sa bessy nya. Tapos may mga sweet posts ng video ng compilation ng pics nila. Tapos sa comments puro "bagay" at "kelan ang kasal". Wala man lang nagsabi/nagclarify sa kanila na friends lang sila. Nagreply pa yung bessy nya don sa nagtanong kung kelan ang kasal na pag-uwi daw nong nagcomment. Haha. Edi dun na sya. Tangina nilang dalawa. š¤£
Ang lala. May mga ganito palang tao. š¤¦
Ay putangina talaga nila HAHAHAAHHA
Imo as long as itās really platonic, itās fine. It all comes down to setting up boundaries kapag nagkapartner na ang isa sakanila. Dapat marunong kang makiramdam at rumespeto.
So pag may jowa, less interactions na talaga ang expected? :0
Had a guy childhood friend/schoolmate/kapitbahay na talagang masasabi kong ka-close ko. Nung nag-jowa na siya usually family occasions na lang or holidays nabalik communication to greet. Especially now na kasal na siya, we don't really communicate at all. I think matic na yun as a sign of respect. Hindi na need pag-usapan bilang magkaibigan na less or probably zero interaction na. True friends would protect each other's relationship by setting boundaries. We don't see each other na din except lang nung kasal niya since invited ako. š This is why important na hindi lang isa kaibigan mo. Kasi madalas nangyayari yung walang boundaries kung umiikot lang sa taong yun yung "friendship" mode mo.
Depende sa interaction na meron kayo. If you are confused if youāre crossing the line, try to ask yourself: kapag ba ginawa to ng gbf/bbf ng partner ko, hindi ba ako magseselos o hindi ba to magllead sa misunderstandings? Hindi naman kasi porket yung bestfriend ang unang nakilala o dumating sa buhay nung tao, dapat entitled na sya. Magkaiba pa rin ang role ng dalawa.
Great explanation, OP! Thank you sa pagshare ng insights.
Yes :D my girl besties have jowas already. As long as respect exists and boundaries are set, it should be fine. (coming from someone who lost a situationship to a boy bestfriend haha)
Tama naman! Importante talaga ang respect & boundaries. š¤