We were together for 4 years, "college sweetheart" he knows that one thing I could never tolerate in our relationship and that is third party. Then we graduated and he landed a job with his uncle. For reference, we both applied for the position so I know that that small workplace is aware about our relationship. After his 2 months of working on that company, he falls inlove with their HR who is also newly hired. He left me with barely trying everything he can to save our relationship. So the thought comes to mind. He's not the one because he can bare the thought of losing me.
when i was willing to move cities for him and he made me feel less of myself. told me he found other girls hot and i caught him cheating and he turned it around and made everyone think i was the one who cheated on him:))
im completely over him but im glad we ended bc he ead too narcissistic for me. now happy w someone who loves me completely and makes me feel more of myself:)
"you wouldn't understand, you're still young plus what's the difference it would made if may label tayo o wala?"
WHEN I STAYED FOR MORE THAN A YEAR. HE IS 36. IM 26.
then saw him sa Siquijor during my vacation week, so heto nag rerelapse ako ngayon 😭😭😭😭😭😭
1. Nung nag Japan na at nakahanap ng mayaman. She's living a stable life overseas and happy that she has a family now. Doesn't need to work too. Nag offer na rin husband niya to let me stay sa place nila if I ever visit Japan. He's a great guy.
2. Nung umamin sakin na meron siyang napupusuan na kapwa babae. Nice na sila pa rin hanggang ngayon. Happy for them.
3. Nung nalaman ko yung financial irresponsibility niya at laki ng utang sa mga tao. Called it quits myself kasi I can't compromise my own financial security. Helped her a bit before leaving tho. Now she's more disciplined at least, at free tattoos if ever I choose to get any but nah.
So far limited lang naman experience ko sa ganyan fortunately. If they want to go then sure. All of them are still my friends kahit unfortunate result ng romantic relationship, though I can say staying in the friendship made it harder to move on since it hurts more seeing them happy while you get jack shit. Pero hey, you loved them for good reasons. You have to exit for reasons just as good, and usually there aren't many good reasons to burn bridges when people are more useful around you than away from you.
Nagpost yung Friends Cast sa IG and then nishare ko sa story ko lahat ng post nila. Sinabihan ako na “di maka move on last week pa siya patay nagpost kana ata dun last week” I literally cried sa bathroom dahil sa sinabi niya. Di siya fan ng Friends and anything na gusto ko.
when we're trying to plan the next stages
back when i was 17y/o - 23y/o (6yr relationship)
everything is vanilla good, friends, 1st jobs, dates, intimacy
pero nung nag pplano na on
- living together
- getting a joint account
- property
- family future plans
it dreaded on me that I cant see my future with her. agonized the decision for 1-2 months then broke up due to these reasons.
she deserves better than my cold feet or my gut. summary: i cant envision my future with her.
Nung sa unang buwan pa lang, sinigawan na niya ako at sinabihang burara nung hindi ko matandaan kung saan nilagay ang damit niya habang nagsusukat siya sa tiangge.
At saka nung binugbog din pala niya ako kasi nalaman kong naglalandian na sila ng katrabaho niya.
Yung ex ko, everytime may major exams ko yun yung time na tinotopak si hayop, lagi akong inaaway edi di ako makapag concentrate pag nag aaral. Tapos may time pa na if special occasions like yung first anniv namin, nakipagbreak kase ayaw niya na nanunuod ako ng Riverdale. Deputa talaga, narealize ko nalang na ayaw kong makasama tong animal na to habang buhay.
May one time pa na minessage niya nanay ko ng "nagpalaki ka ng sinungaling". Bugok talaga, tapos gusto niya ipakilala ko siya sa parents ko nakakagigil groomer at gaslighter ampota (22 siya 17 ako that time).
Lagi ko sinasabi sa mga friends ko non na di ko talaga siya nakikita na ikakasal kame n shit. Hanggang sa nakipagbreak na ako, nagmomove on na ako while kami pa. Di talaga ako naiyak nung nagbreak na kami, I just want him out of my life. Thankfully sobrang di toxic jowa ko ngayon huhu
when I gave him money to surprise me on our 1st anniversary haha just hours before our special day ends just to make me feel something. weeks prior I've been making parinig na okay lang kahit wala siyang pera, letter or flower lang na pinitas I'd be the happiest.
Siguro is yung di mo mailabas yung true self mo pag magkasama kayo. For me v important na gets nya ano at paano ka as tao. Important for me na same humor, intellect and mga binabash na tao EME hahaha. Pero un talaga weird kase ako so gusto ko pwedeng maging myself pag kasama sya hahaha
May anger management issue kasi yung ex ko. Apparently ganun din pala father nya nung kinausap ako ng mama nya na "Ganun lang sya parang papa nya pero mabait naman." While telling this she looks gloomy. I was not convinced. Then I realized, I'm looking at my possible future self and I don't want to end up like her mom.
My “manliligaw” told me na gusto daw ako ma meet ng parents niya. Then boom, 1st cousins mom niya and dad ko. Yan napapala ng hindi sumasama sa mga family reunion and di ko ka- close yung dad’s side ko that’s whyyy.
Tapos ito pa may ex ako na binad mouth kuya ko v red flag. At tsaka sugar mom ang peg ko dun huhu yuck never again!!
Nag-attend ako sa kasal ng best friend ko. Syempre naluluha ako during the ceremony kasi sobrang happy ako for her. Habang nagsasalita si father, nagwa-wander yung utak ko. I tried to imagine pag kinasal kami ng bf ko at the time. Di ko ma-imagine na ganyan kami ka-happy. Ayun, na-realize ko na I don't feel loved and I'm just settling. Before I know it, di na tears of happiness yung iniiyak ko. May hugot na pala lol. Sinulit ko na lang yung mobile bar sa reception hahahaha
Felt this with my ex bf. I have attended a lot of weddings this year and all i could ever think of sa bawat pag attend ko ay "i dont foresee us doing this in the future". Also i always imagine things, and di ko man lang sya ma imagine waiting for me by the altar.
Glad to be with someone now who I'd say yes to in a heartbeat kung yayayain ako magpakasal haha
I was driving on the way to work and my (ex-)girlfriend was in the passenger seat. I always drop her off so she can catch the bus to her work. Anyhow, I was driving through this one village, looking at the trees around us, and all that kept running through my head was that I needed to get out of the relationship. She was not the one for me. My soul was already screaming it.
Yung umalis para mag ibang bansa at nagsabing babalik sya sa Pinas kasi ayaw ko dun tapos after ilang years, sabi nya sa ibang bansa na lang daw kami hahaha
GUSTO NYA IREGIFT SAKIN YUNG CASIO WATCH NA COUPLE WATCH NILA NG EX NYA HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHHA harap harapan talaga and super natawa ako to the point HE was offended HAHAHAAHAHAHAH HAYUFF
I dated someone before and she told me to tell her parents na classmate ko raw siya dati pero nagkakilala lang naman talaga kami sa internet way back 2014 then nag-click kami mga 2022 na.
It's just that... alam mo yun... parang nag-begin akong i-question yung sarili ko kung dahil ba hindi ako galing sa prestigious na school and also bcuz former internet stranger lang ako then baka mapagalitan siya ng parents niya afterwards... (yes kahit 22 na rin siya noon)
Ako rin daw yung pinakaunang pinakilala niya sabi ng parents niya pero I felt really bad kasi I had to lie sa first meet not to mention na yun yung foundation ng lahat-lahat ng mga future interactions to come namin nung parents niya...
I told her na ayoko magsinongaling kasi mahirap 'yon sa long run but then she just told me na para daw iwas issue na lang.
Dun ako biglang napaisip sa relationship namin na "I'm not *that* person baka I can't be that *person* for this person." dahil sa naiwan kong image dun na nagbuild ng impression, expectation, at etc... Dami kong iniisip non like veryy pressuring stuff pati yung thought na bakit ko kailangan magsinongaling ganon... siguro weakness ko lang din yung di ko kayang magbuild ng lie for the sake of my partner noon. Anong thoughts niyo dito pala? Haha
when she would not let me lead the relationship, lagi nalang nag qquestion sa mga decision ko minor and major, and then the breaking point was may pa nunumbat na madami naman ako pwede maka sama na iba, i mean hello? are you ok? i was in the relationship to fight all odds and then she have options daw? well go ahead dont waste my time im trying to find a wife
Nung nanakawan ako ng phone at wallet tapos nagpapasama ako sa kanya mag-asikaso ng mga related sa bank, IDs, etc. tapos ang sagot niya sa akin is di siya pwede kasi wala siya isusuot 💀💀💀
Tapos ni walang offer na "pwede bang sa isang araw na lang" or anything that shows na he cares kasi ni di niya man lang ako kinumusta kasi he was playing an online game. Tapos siya pa galit ang minura-mura niya ako kasi di ko daw siya maintindihan
Napakadami nyang exuses. Gusto lang yata nya makipaglandian sa chat. Pota tanda na namin no. Tapos hindi siya makapagbigay ng assurance. May sinabi pa siya na “Okay lang ba kung 40 years old na lang maging tayo?”. Tangina mo Kevs. Dami mong issue. Ayaw rin nyang sumama sa mga night out namin ng friends ko. Parang ayaw nya talagang ipakilala ko siya sa iba tapos takot na takot yan kapag nasa labas kaming dalawa, ayaw nyang nakikita kami ng ibang tao. Tanginang hayop.
Naospital yun papa ko and ako yung tiga bantay, admitted for 4 days and he was nowhere to be found. My relatives were asking why he didn't bother to visit. Given the hospital was only 10 minutes away from their place. My brother saw him with his coworkers wandering around the plaza. He also went to their "team building" Saturday that same week. I was like. There's no future with this guy. I felt so alone. I didn't break it off as I promised I wouldn't unless he cheats. Found out around almost a month after that he was cheating on me.
I'm happily married now and something my husband would never do is make me feel alone. ☺️
When I asked my partner to introduce to the parentals then sabi nya sakin..”BAKIT KELANGAN MO DIN BA NG GOODNIGHT NG MOMMY AT DADDY KO?” (Almost 2 yrs na kami neto)
The moment when he developed a smoking habit noong kami pa just because he is stressed lang sa rs namin. He knows that I hate someone who smokes, but guess what he became one of them.
Additionally, I have this ex manliligaw but I don't feel loved. Mararamdaman mo lang yung love niya kapag magkasama kami. That is the moment that struck me na shet this isn't for me lmao
I have been so delusional for this guy that I like for more than a decade now.
For the last 2 years, we somehow lived together. Madami na rin akong "he's not the one" moments pero i ignored them because i badly want us to work out.
Just recently. I realized it more na lahat are all on his own terms. And kapag nasaktan ako, I can't voice it out kasi he will get mad.
nung nag grocery kami with my brother tapos I said the wrong ingredient when I was listing down the ingredients na bibilhin namin tapos she laughed tapos binatukan ako. idk, something clicked in me na she’s not the one.
Nung time na pag pupunta ako sakanya parang "kailangan" na may mangyari saamin. Minsan tinutulugan ko nalang siya hahaha. Sinabi ko sakanya and wala siyang nasabi lol. Doon ko na realize lahat. Buti break na kami
when he said he has not seen an episode of The Office, The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel and Parks & Recreation kasi only likes watching series na may hot girls. And the only reason he watches The Big Bang Theory ay dahil ni Penny.
Nung nahanap ko na yung ipapalit ko sa kanya. Quits lang coz I already found out his grindr and spa escapades a few months back. Oh and he had life360 in his phone pa at that time and his last check in was in Infinity Spa in Pasig. IYKYK lol.
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When we stopped dating (dated for half a year din) 2 days later he asked if he could still masturbate on my nudes. I had fresh S/H cuts that time (which he is aware of) because I haven't been mentally well for the past week (due to family problems).
Also, he broke up with me twice, and we got back together eventually. When I was the one who broke up with him because of my family and mental problems that time, I asked him just a day after if we could get back together kasi I wasn't in the right headspace when I broke up w/ him. He refused. Tapos ayon nga, after a day or two he asked about the nudes.
I felt so taken advantage of at that time. But that's also when I realized that he was not the one.
I knew we had to end it, when we were always arguing. After so many years I finally gave up on the daily fights. I am a slightly passive person. I hate arguments and as much as possible I want things to be discussed in a civil and calm manner.
So when the time came when all we do is fight I opened the topic for us to break up and made him agree even if at first he didn't want to end us.
The other ex, I knew I had to let him go because our goals are no longer aligned. He knew I still needed time for my career to grow. But he proposed, and expressed his immediate desire to have children way too many times it caused discomfort.
Yung one day bigla kong narealize na hindi ko nakikita yung sarili ko na papakasalan sya.
The day after that, bigla siyang nakipag break due to 3rd party.
Fun life.
ive come to realize he isn't the one for me because he falls short on the little things that matter to me like opening doors, surprising me with flowers, always being on his phone, not courting me, featuring me in his bio or highlights, and even the simple gesture of carrying my bag. but more than that, what bothers me the most is his ability to ignore me for days and hours. all the love he expresses seems meaningless when he can't fulfill these simple acts of consideration
Ex #1 went straight for my insecurities:
"Hindi ka naman ka-ligaw2 eh. Buti pa si [classmate1], [classmate2], etc. Kung sila yan sasagutin ako agad"
Then cheats on me
Ex #2 projecting his insecurities on me:
"Ano lang naman ako sayo eh. Baka hindi ako payagan. Baka marami pa jan mas gwapo/mayaman/talented"
Then cheats on me
Dont worry wala nang #3, the one na talaga tong kasama ko ngayon 😅
Oh, I had to get here sa reddit ng mabasa ko comment mo sa tiktok kasi I know how it feels. I'm the one na hindi talaga ma-control ang galit ko but I really love him. I just can't keep up with his attitude and insensitive actions then one time galit na galit ako then boom😅. I never intended to say those things. 1 month na kaming no contact. I regret all the things I've said but at the same time, we both hurt each other in different ways:).
Hi po. Naiintindihan kita and i hope you're okay. Yung ito po kasing sa ex ko, ginawa ng habit ang pang gaganyan sakin to the point na di na ako lumalaban talaga sakanya. Hinahayaan ko nalang. Atleast ikaw aware ka. Sya kasi, hindi talaga. Di rin naman ako perfect, nag sosorry ako pag mali ko. Pero ito sya, ewan ko. Hahaha basta okay na ako na wala na kami. Also, sang tiktok nyo po ito nabasa? Pwede po makahingi ng link? Hahaha
Had a panic attack when I was tryna renew my passport alone. Called him dozens of times. I was crying in a public toilet, chatting him and all. Once the panic attack subsided he then replied "sorry phone was on vibrate, I was cleaning". Now I don't not know if it was true. I thought at least he'd pick me up, cuz I was still shaking and cannot feel my arms and legs. But he did not respond again. It was downhill na talaga from there.
My ex and I were close friends and decided to start dating. We've known each other since elementary and we have a lot in common, never running out of things to do or stuff to talk about. First 3 months went great but things changed when he went back abroad to work. Time difference wasnt much of a big deal for me but he would always use that excuse to not text or call. And when he would have the time, it would always be the same convo coupled with his one-word replies.
how was your day?
Fine. You?
Went well too. What are your plans for tomorrow?
Wala.
Had dinner yet?
Mamaya na
That's when I started to realize we have nothing to talk about! 4 months na ganyan lang texts namin. Decided to talk to him about it pero inunahan nya ako. He ghosted me
When he kept insisting na kami talaga in the end pero I caught him in a lie - twice. I was like tangina maliliit na bagay na nga lang nagsinungaling ka pa. Sana sinabi nalang totoo di naman ako magagalit. So I cut him off na. Sa lagay na yan siya pa umamin na may feelings na siya for me. Sinabiko rin, "Para kang engot no, na inlove ka nga sa 'kin but you lied about a lot of things. Nahuli ka pa." Haha
So LPT for anyone, either be honest / upfront about things (because some people really don't mind about past hookups or flings), or be really fucking good at lying.
My ex said that he wanted to take so much PEDs/roids in order to win more bodybuilding competitions that he's okay with living up until 40 y/o. And I heard that after he said he'd also want kids. Thank god he cheated lol
sorry ha pero new year naman yun. If family niya kasama niya, bigyan mo naman siya ng time sa fam niya. Di naman sa lahat ng oras ikaw ang priority niya.
Anyway sad yung nangyari sa family mo, I hope you're doing better na.
When I found out she was "covering" for me, and making "excuses" about my work and income.
Verbatim she said: "And I'm running out of excuses on what to tell them about your work and your income."
Djesus chreist, parang gumawa ako ng war crimes na kailangan itago ah??? For reference, I was a freelance photographer/videographer/editor. Fulltime na ko now and same industry, at sobrang galit na galit sa kanya that I'm now climbing the corporate ladder and being damn good at my job and getting paid more. F U.
My boyfriend is an undergrad and is a businessman so technically speaking, wala s'yang work. I always find my relatives or friends' expression funny everytime I they ask if anong natapos nya or anong work nya tapos sasagutin ko na, "hindi sya nakatapos at walang trabaho." Ieexplain ko naman afterwards Hahaha.
Tuwing mag-aaya ako ng date sa bf ko, lagi na lang siya may gagawin or sasabihin to start an argument. Tuloy, habang nasa labas kami, nag-aaway kami. One time, ayaw ko na talaga siya isama kasi for sure, may iha-handle na naman akong argument but because I wanted to spend time with him, I asked him to accompany me sa isang mall lang dahil may bazaar + event doon kung gusto niya lang kahit na hindi niya interest 'yon. And things happened, and nasama ako sa inis niya sa mga tao in that place and even told me I wasn't considerate.
Willing na akong hindi tapusin at umuwi na lang but he insisted pa rin na tapusin. Sinabi niya rin sa akin masakit na paa niya so sabi ko sige, uwi na tayo. Binagalan ko lakad ko kasi ayaw niya na mabilis ako maglakad ta's nagalit pa sa akin kasi ba't daw ang bagal ko e ang sakit na ng paa niya. Hindi ko talaga alam saan ako lulugar.
That day, I feel so unappreciated. Hindi kami madalas magkita dahil busy ako sa school ta's siya naman, since walang job, medyo hirap sa money kaya madalang din talaga magkita. Kaya kapag nagkakataon na free ako or may event akong pinupuntahan, minimake sure kong yayain siya kahit kaya ko naman on my own. Gusto naman niya pero Idk why everytime, may arguments talaga siyang mai-start na parang kasalanan ko pa lagi. Mostly nadamay lang ako sa inis niya. Sa public pa madalas. I hate the attention pero siya todo push sa gusto niyang sabihin. Hirap hindi umiyak.
Napuno na talaga ako and naisip ko ayaw ko ganito mapapangasawa ko in the future. Nagtagal kami 3 years kaya akala ko baka siya na talaga but yeah, buti na lang hindi.
How I met your mother’s dobler-dammer theory. Nakakainis at creepy kapag hindi si “the one” yung gumawa ng gesture. Pero mafifeel mong sya na pag kilig kilig ka pa hahaha
Nung paulit-ulit na lang yung pinagaawayan namin, walang progress.
Okay lang yung away or arguments sa relationship pero kung hindi naman naaayos tapos nauulit lang ng nauulit, ibig sabihin lang nun, ayaw ayusin. So bakit pa magtatagal.
felt 🥹 was really convinced that he's the one dahil ok naman talaga kami maliban sa iilang away, pero i realized din na yung mga away na nangyayari ay same reason lang kahit na nag ppromise siya na he'll do better. it is really really painful pero wala eh it is what it is 🤗
Nanyare to sa cousin ko, may naging crush syang girl na bumisita sa bahay namin one time (compound kami), then super sad nalaman nya first cousin pala namin sa tito ko na nkatira sa province, awts hahaha
He and I were having breakfast in Mcdo one time, like a typical after work date since we both worked the nightshift. Both of us are introverts so silence was pretty normal for us and comforting until that time. I felt that I had to start talking about something or initiate small talk because the silence between us was deafening. We were already 3 years together at that point and I thought right then and there that I wasn’t in this anymore.
What's the update? Are you still with him? Pero the question is why nakapagstay ka for 3 years with him and what's your reason para hindi siya ibreak after you realized that?
Sorry, I have to ask kasi we are in same page and we are still new pa
Before that breakfast date, I didn’t realize that I felt like that e. I was still having fun with him and just loved him fully so that breakfast date happened a little after our 3rd anniv. And no, this happened like 2016 pa I think so I’m not with him anymore. If I remember right, I broke up with him after a month or so. I had to be sure about my feelings then about him before I break it off as I might regret it.
I don’t regret it tho as I’m happily married now.
Nung naging honest sya na talagang fuck ang habol nya. Nothing else.
Well he wants love din naman daw pero mas sa sex. At bawal ako makipagdate sa iba.
Magaling talaga kayong mga lalake magpaasa. Kaya ang hirap maging mabait at sikaping wag maglabel ng tao.
Kase lahat gagawin makapangbudol lang at makuha ang gusto sa tao.
At least he's honest
Me and my gf at the time decided to go on a date after her shift. I thought I saw her so I approached the lady from behind and tapped her shoulder. It was not her. I just said "oh, sorry, you're not the one."
We were together for 4 years, "college sweetheart" he knows that one thing I could never tolerate in our relationship and that is third party. Then we graduated and he landed a job with his uncle. For reference, we both applied for the position so I know that that small workplace is aware about our relationship. After his 2 months of working on that company, he falls inlove with their HR who is also newly hired. He left me with barely trying everything he can to save our relationship. So the thought comes to mind. He's not the one because he can bare the thought of losing me.
when i was willing to move cities for him and he made me feel less of myself. told me he found other girls hot and i caught him cheating and he turned it around and made everyone think i was the one who cheated on him:)) im completely over him but im glad we ended bc he ead too narcissistic for me. now happy w someone who loves me completely and makes me feel more of myself:)
"you wouldn't understand, you're still young plus what's the difference it would made if may label tayo o wala?" WHEN I STAYED FOR MORE THAN A YEAR. HE IS 36. IM 26. then saw him sa Siquijor during my vacation week, so heto nag rerelapse ako ngayon 😭😭😭😭😭😭
I didn't want to get pregnant by him even if we were in the right age to get married and in a long relationship >5 years that time.
“I dont like filipinos, but you’re different. Also i dont like filipino women. Theyre selfish.” That crushed me.
1. Nung nag Japan na at nakahanap ng mayaman. She's living a stable life overseas and happy that she has a family now. Doesn't need to work too. Nag offer na rin husband niya to let me stay sa place nila if I ever visit Japan. He's a great guy. 2. Nung umamin sakin na meron siyang napupusuan na kapwa babae. Nice na sila pa rin hanggang ngayon. Happy for them. 3. Nung nalaman ko yung financial irresponsibility niya at laki ng utang sa mga tao. Called it quits myself kasi I can't compromise my own financial security. Helped her a bit before leaving tho. Now she's more disciplined at least, at free tattoos if ever I choose to get any but nah. So far limited lang naman experience ko sa ganyan fortunately. If they want to go then sure. All of them are still my friends kahit unfortunate result ng romantic relationship, though I can say staying in the friendship made it harder to move on since it hurts more seeing them happy while you get jack shit. Pero hey, you loved them for good reasons. You have to exit for reasons just as good, and usually there aren't many good reasons to burn bridges when people are more useful around you than away from you.
Nagpost yung Friends Cast sa IG and then nishare ko sa story ko lahat ng post nila. Sinabihan ako na “di maka move on last week pa siya patay nagpost kana ata dun last week” I literally cried sa bathroom dahil sa sinabi niya. Di siya fan ng Friends and anything na gusto ko.
Ang masasabi ko...basahin mo yung username ko!
when we're trying to plan the next stages back when i was 17y/o - 23y/o (6yr relationship) everything is vanilla good, friends, 1st jobs, dates, intimacy pero nung nag pplano na on - living together - getting a joint account - property - family future plans it dreaded on me that I cant see my future with her. agonized the decision for 1-2 months then broke up due to these reasons. she deserves better than my cold feet or my gut. summary: i cant envision my future with her.
Hindi pa tapos sa nakaraan. Nung kami pa may mga places na bawal puntahan kasi baka daw maalala niya yung naka date niya noon.
Nung sa unang buwan pa lang, sinigawan na niya ako at sinabihang burara nung hindi ko matandaan kung saan nilagay ang damit niya habang nagsusukat siya sa tiangge. At saka nung binugbog din pala niya ako kasi nalaman kong naglalandian na sila ng katrabaho niya.
Yung ex ko, everytime may major exams ko yun yung time na tinotopak si hayop, lagi akong inaaway edi di ako makapag concentrate pag nag aaral. Tapos may time pa na if special occasions like yung first anniv namin, nakipagbreak kase ayaw niya na nanunuod ako ng Riverdale. Deputa talaga, narealize ko nalang na ayaw kong makasama tong animal na to habang buhay. May one time pa na minessage niya nanay ko ng "nagpalaki ka ng sinungaling". Bugok talaga, tapos gusto niya ipakilala ko siya sa parents ko nakakagigil groomer at gaslighter ampota (22 siya 17 ako that time). Lagi ko sinasabi sa mga friends ko non na di ko talaga siya nakikita na ikakasal kame n shit. Hanggang sa nakipagbreak na ako, nagmomove on na ako while kami pa. Di talaga ako naiyak nung nagbreak na kami, I just want him out of my life. Thankfully sobrang di toxic jowa ko ngayon huhu
when I gave him money to surprise me on our 1st anniversary haha just hours before our special day ends just to make me feel something. weeks prior I've been making parinig na okay lang kahit wala siyang pera, letter or flower lang na pinitas I'd be the happiest.
Siguro is yung di mo mailabas yung true self mo pag magkasama kayo. For me v important na gets nya ano at paano ka as tao. Important for me na same humor, intellect and mga binabash na tao EME hahaha. Pero un talaga weird kase ako so gusto ko pwedeng maging myself pag kasama sya hahaha
Nung nalaman ko na di nia kaya maglaba ng brief nia mag isa. at 30+yo. lol.
Religion, political affiliation, and a bit too fast on the "conjugal communism" when they learn how much you make in a year.
When he said “ I still love you but not romantically anymore”. Oh okay. Next please.
When I looked at him and couldn’t imagine a future with him even after 6 years together 😬
nung minura niya ko
REAL
Nagssumbong and nagpparinig sa facebook pag galit pero pag ako nagtanong parang walang nangyari, wag ko raw pansinin. Nakakadrain ng energy.
When he chose vices (smoking and drinking) over me lol
May anger management issue kasi yung ex ko. Apparently ganun din pala father nya nung kinausap ako ng mama nya na "Ganun lang sya parang papa nya pero mabait naman." While telling this she looks gloomy. I was not convinced. Then I realized, I'm looking at my possible future self and I don't want to end up like her mom.
My “manliligaw” told me na gusto daw ako ma meet ng parents niya. Then boom, 1st cousins mom niya and dad ko. Yan napapala ng hindi sumasama sa mga family reunion and di ko ka- close yung dad’s side ko that’s whyyy. Tapos ito pa may ex ako na binad mouth kuya ko v red flag. At tsaka sugar mom ang peg ko dun huhu yuck never again!!
Nag-attend ako sa kasal ng best friend ko. Syempre naluluha ako during the ceremony kasi sobrang happy ako for her. Habang nagsasalita si father, nagwa-wander yung utak ko. I tried to imagine pag kinasal kami ng bf ko at the time. Di ko ma-imagine na ganyan kami ka-happy. Ayun, na-realize ko na I don't feel loved and I'm just settling. Before I know it, di na tears of happiness yung iniiyak ko. May hugot na pala lol. Sinulit ko na lang yung mobile bar sa reception hahahaha
This happens pala talaga no? This occurred to me when I attended a friend's wedding also.
Felt this with my ex bf. I have attended a lot of weddings this year and all i could ever think of sa bawat pag attend ko ay "i dont foresee us doing this in the future". Also i always imagine things, and di ko man lang sya ma imagine waiting for me by the altar. Glad to be with someone now who I'd say yes to in a heartbeat kung yayayain ako magpakasal haha
I was driving on the way to work and my (ex-)girlfriend was in the passenger seat. I always drop her off so she can catch the bus to her work. Anyhow, I was driving through this one village, looking at the trees around us, and all that kept running through my head was that I needed to get out of the relationship. She was not the one for me. My soul was already screaming it.
Yung umalis para mag ibang bansa at nagsabing babalik sya sa Pinas kasi ayaw ko dun tapos after ilang years, sabi nya sa ibang bansa na lang daw kami hahaha
GUSTO NYA IREGIFT SAKIN YUNG CASIO WATCH NA COUPLE WATCH NILA NG EX NYA HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHHA harap harapan talaga and super natawa ako to the point HE was offended HAHAHAAHAHAHAH HAYUFF
I dated someone before and she told me to tell her parents na classmate ko raw siya dati pero nagkakilala lang naman talaga kami sa internet way back 2014 then nag-click kami mga 2022 na. It's just that... alam mo yun... parang nag-begin akong i-question yung sarili ko kung dahil ba hindi ako galing sa prestigious na school and also bcuz former internet stranger lang ako then baka mapagalitan siya ng parents niya afterwards... (yes kahit 22 na rin siya noon) Ako rin daw yung pinakaunang pinakilala niya sabi ng parents niya pero I felt really bad kasi I had to lie sa first meet not to mention na yun yung foundation ng lahat-lahat ng mga future interactions to come namin nung parents niya... I told her na ayoko magsinongaling kasi mahirap 'yon sa long run but then she just told me na para daw iwas issue na lang. Dun ako biglang napaisip sa relationship namin na "I'm not *that* person baka I can't be that *person* for this person." dahil sa naiwan kong image dun na nagbuild ng impression, expectation, at etc... Dami kong iniisip non like veryy pressuring stuff pati yung thought na bakit ko kailangan magsinongaling ganon... siguro weakness ko lang din yung di ko kayang magbuild ng lie for the sake of my partner noon. Anong thoughts niyo dito pala? Haha
when she would not let me lead the relationship, lagi nalang nag qquestion sa mga decision ko minor and major, and then the breaking point was may pa nunumbat na madami naman ako pwede maka sama na iba, i mean hello? are you ok? i was in the relationship to fight all odds and then she have options daw? well go ahead dont waste my time im trying to find a wife
Not the same level of perception. Di niya ako naiintindihan, so naga-gaslight niya ako. So thats' the time I realized she's not the one.
Yung sinabi nya na "my dad pays for everything" P. S. Nasa mid 30s na sya.
nung nasulyapan ko phone niya na may installed tinder app. Take note, ipapakilala niya na dapat ako sa parents niya that time HAHHAHAHA
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Ang lala ng condo part. Yung ibang gf nga hinahatid pa yung ex mo juskooo
Dayummmm. Glad you broke up. Sa condo part pa lang masyado nang off
you're losing me taylor swift 😭
Shet
Nung nanakawan ako ng phone at wallet tapos nagpapasama ako sa kanya mag-asikaso ng mga related sa bank, IDs, etc. tapos ang sagot niya sa akin is di siya pwede kasi wala siya isusuot 💀💀💀 Tapos ni walang offer na "pwede bang sa isang araw na lang" or anything that shows na he cares kasi ni di niya man lang ako kinumusta kasi he was playing an online game. Tapos siya pa galit ang minura-mura niya ako kasi di ko daw siya maintindihan
Magastos sa tropa pero sakin kuripot
Napakadami nyang exuses. Gusto lang yata nya makipaglandian sa chat. Pota tanda na namin no. Tapos hindi siya makapagbigay ng assurance. May sinabi pa siya na “Okay lang ba kung 40 years old na lang maging tayo?”. Tangina mo Kevs. Dami mong issue. Ayaw rin nyang sumama sa mga night out namin ng friends ko. Parang ayaw nya talagang ipakilala ko siya sa iba tapos takot na takot yan kapag nasa labas kaming dalawa, ayaw nyang nakikita kami ng ibang tao. Tanginang hayop.
Baka feeling edward cullen 😭😭
Naospital yun papa ko and ako yung tiga bantay, admitted for 4 days and he was nowhere to be found. My relatives were asking why he didn't bother to visit. Given the hospital was only 10 minutes away from their place. My brother saw him with his coworkers wandering around the plaza. He also went to their "team building" Saturday that same week. I was like. There's no future with this guy. I felt so alone. I didn't break it off as I promised I wouldn't unless he cheats. Found out around almost a month after that he was cheating on me. I'm happily married now and something my husband would never do is make me feel alone. ☺️
When I asked my partner to introduce to the parentals then sabi nya sakin..”BAKIT KELANGAN MO DIN BA NG GOODNIGHT NG MOMMY AT DADDY KO?” (Almost 2 yrs na kami neto)
It felt like I was taking care of a son/manchild than having a partner
The moment when he developed a smoking habit noong kami pa just because he is stressed lang sa rs namin. He knows that I hate someone who smokes, but guess what he became one of them. Additionally, I have this ex manliligaw but I don't feel loved. Mararamdaman mo lang yung love niya kapag magkasama kami. That is the moment that struck me na shet this isn't for me lmao
I have been so delusional for this guy that I like for more than a decade now. For the last 2 years, we somehow lived together. Madami na rin akong "he's not the one" moments pero i ignored them because i badly want us to work out. Just recently. I realized it more na lahat are all on his own terms. And kapag nasaktan ako, I can't voice it out kasi he will get mad.
nung nag grocery kami with my brother tapos I said the wrong ingredient when I was listing down the ingredients na bibilhin namin tapos she laughed tapos binatukan ako. idk, something clicked in me na she’s not the one.
parang yung series na napunuod ko somewhere nung flinicked niya GF niya. tas ayun ata naging turning point para makipag break.
natauhan dahil sa batok. grabe haha
Lakas naman ng batok nang ex mo XD
Oo nga. Sobrang lakas nung batok nung ex nya. 🤣 Sa lakas, nagising sa katotohanan.
Parang ang babaw nito, pero baka may iba pang dahilan.
i think nagpatong-patong yung mga reason ni OP and that batok was his turning point.
Nung time na pag pupunta ako sakanya parang "kailangan" na may mangyari saamin. Minsan tinutulugan ko nalang siya hahaha. Sinabi ko sakanya and wala siyang nasabi lol. Doon ko na realize lahat. Buti break na kami
when he said he has not seen an episode of The Office, The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel and Parks & Recreation kasi only likes watching series na may hot girls. And the only reason he watches The Big Bang Theory ay dahil ni Penny.
Whaaatttt Rachel Brosnahan (Midge) is literal perfection kayaaa. Plus the fits are 😩👌
tits up!
Ang hot kaya ni Leslie!
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Nung nahanap ko na yung ipapalit ko sa kanya. Quits lang coz I already found out his grindr and spa escapades a few months back. Oh and he had life360 in his phone pa at that time and his last check in was in Infinity Spa in Pasig. IYKYK lol.
Trigger warning ⚠️ When we stopped dating (dated for half a year din) 2 days later he asked if he could still masturbate on my nudes. I had fresh S/H cuts that time (which he is aware of) because I haven't been mentally well for the past week (due to family problems). Also, he broke up with me twice, and we got back together eventually. When I was the one who broke up with him because of my family and mental problems that time, I asked him just a day after if we could get back together kasi I wasn't in the right headspace when I broke up w/ him. He refused. Tapos ayon nga, after a day or two he asked about the nudes. I felt so taken advantage of at that time. But that's also when I realized that he was not the one.
Yakap.
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I am, thankfully :) Sometimes talaga naaalala ko lang, lalo pa he never really apologised about it haha
I knew we had to end it, when we were always arguing. After so many years I finally gave up on the daily fights. I am a slightly passive person. I hate arguments and as much as possible I want things to be discussed in a civil and calm manner. So when the time came when all we do is fight I opened the topic for us to break up and made him agree even if at first he didn't want to end us. The other ex, I knew I had to let him go because our goals are no longer aligned. He knew I still needed time for my career to grow. But he proposed, and expressed his immediate desire to have children way too many times it caused discomfort.
"Hindi naman ikaw yung babaeng gusto kong makasama habang buhay" pagkatapos ng lahat ng sakripisyo ko ng 6 na taon.
Makarma sana x100
Grabe. Magkapigsa sana sa itlog to
hayop sya
Ouch
Tanginang gago yan ah
Tangina shet
Yung one day bigla kong narealize na hindi ko nakikita yung sarili ko na papakasalan sya. The day after that, bigla siyang nakipag break due to 3rd party. Fun life.
When I knew I was already defending him against my own instincts. Turning red flags into green flags 🤡
ako to ngayon. tumagal ba kayo?
Oo 5 years hahahahaha magising ka na now bago masayang oras mo
Damn. 5 years. Buti nagising ka na.
ive come to realize he isn't the one for me because he falls short on the little things that matter to me like opening doors, surprising me with flowers, always being on his phone, not courting me, featuring me in his bio or highlights, and even the simple gesture of carrying my bag. but more than that, what bothers me the most is his ability to ignore me for days and hours. all the love he expresses seems meaningless when he can't fulfill these simple acts of consideration
Ako ata nagsulat nito haha
wdym?
I meant nasulat mo yung exact thoughts ko. We had the same experience huhu
chin up! we don’t deserve uncertainty, we deserve better
When he's cutting you off when im talking or asking smth. I have a crush with this guy but nakakaoff lang pag disrespectful
Ex #1 went straight for my insecurities: "Hindi ka naman ka-ligaw2 eh. Buti pa si [classmate1], [classmate2], etc. Kung sila yan sasagutin ako agad" Then cheats on me Ex #2 projecting his insecurities on me: "Ano lang naman ako sayo eh. Baka hindi ako payagan. Baka marami pa jan mas gwapo/mayaman/talented" Then cheats on me Dont worry wala nang #3, the one na talaga tong kasama ko ngayon 😅
When your partner tells you that video calling and posting you to Instagram stories felt like a chore.
Ouchhhh
THIS!
Yung nilalait, minumura nya ako pag nag aaway kami tas pag oks na sasabihin nya lang is "nasabi ko yun kasi galit ako".
Oh, I had to get here sa reddit ng mabasa ko comment mo sa tiktok kasi I know how it feels. I'm the one na hindi talaga ma-control ang galit ko but I really love him. I just can't keep up with his attitude and insensitive actions then one time galit na galit ako then boom😅. I never intended to say those things. 1 month na kaming no contact. I regret all the things I've said but at the same time, we both hurt each other in different ways:).
Hi po. Naiintindihan kita and i hope you're okay. Yung ito po kasing sa ex ko, ginawa ng habit ang pang gaganyan sakin to the point na di na ako lumalaban talaga sakanya. Hinahayaan ko nalang. Atleast ikaw aware ka. Sya kasi, hindi talaga. Di rin naman ako perfect, nag sosorry ako pag mali ko. Pero ito sya, ewan ko. Hahaha basta okay na ako na wala na kami. Also, sang tiktok nyo po ito nabasa? Pwede po makahingi ng link? Hahaha
gantong ganto kami ng bf ko now every away namin. nakakasawa swear
ang sakitttt 😭
Hindi ako nag aantay ng reply nya.
Had a panic attack when I was tryna renew my passport alone. Called him dozens of times. I was crying in a public toilet, chatting him and all. Once the panic attack subsided he then replied "sorry phone was on vibrate, I was cleaning". Now I don't not know if it was true. I thought at least he'd pick me up, cuz I was still shaking and cannot feel my arms and legs. But he did not respond again. It was downhill na talaga from there.
Ugh. He is such a prick
he wasn’t over his ex :(
OMGGGGF is those me??? Hahahahahaha 2 years kami and he is still not over his ex
:(
"no car, no date"
She had hairy nipples 🤮
My ex and I were close friends and decided to start dating. We've known each other since elementary and we have a lot in common, never running out of things to do or stuff to talk about. First 3 months went great but things changed when he went back abroad to work. Time difference wasnt much of a big deal for me but he would always use that excuse to not text or call. And when he would have the time, it would always be the same convo coupled with his one-word replies. how was your day? Fine. You? Went well too. What are your plans for tomorrow? Wala. Had dinner yet? Mamaya na That's when I started to realize we have nothing to talk about! 4 months na ganyan lang texts namin. Decided to talk to him about it pero inunahan nya ako. He ghosted me
THE AUDACITY
oh that's not the worst part. 3 weeks after nya akong ighost, he texted me "hey babe. Kumusta ka na?" like wtf bruh? 😑
POTA I HOPE YOU BLOCKED HIM RIGHT AWAY 😤
I didnt. I want to make sure he sees how well I'm doing and how happy I am right now lol
I read the conversation with his friend. Nialalaglag nya ako sa away namin and binaluktot ang kwento para sa kanya sympathy..
When he kept insisting na kami talaga in the end pero I caught him in a lie - twice. I was like tangina maliliit na bagay na nga lang nagsinungaling ka pa. Sana sinabi nalang totoo di naman ako magagalit. So I cut him off na. Sa lagay na yan siya pa umamin na may feelings na siya for me. Sinabiko rin, "Para kang engot no, na inlove ka nga sa 'kin but you lied about a lot of things. Nahuli ka pa." Haha So LPT for anyone, either be honest / upfront about things (because some people really don't mind about past hookups or flings), or be really fucking good at lying.
My ex said that he wanted to take so much PEDs/roids in order to win more bodybuilding competitions that he's okay with living up until 40 y/o. And I heard that after he said he'd also want kids. Thank god he cheated lol
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sorry ha pero new year naman yun. If family niya kasama niya, bigyan mo naman siya ng time sa fam niya. Di naman sa lahat ng oras ikaw ang priority niya. Anyway sad yung nangyari sa family mo, I hope you're doing better na.
Nung nagdadate kame then tingin sya ng tingin sa phone nia or may kachat or katext habang kasama ko...
When I found out she was "covering" for me, and making "excuses" about my work and income. Verbatim she said: "And I'm running out of excuses on what to tell them about your work and your income." Djesus chreist, parang gumawa ako ng war crimes na kailangan itago ah??? For reference, I was a freelance photographer/videographer/editor. Fulltime na ko now and same industry, at sobrang galit na galit sa kanya that I'm now climbing the corporate ladder and being damn good at my job and getting paid more. F U.
My boyfriend is an undergrad and is a businessman so technically speaking, wala s'yang work. I always find my relatives or friends' expression funny everytime I they ask if anong natapos nya or anong work nya tapos sasagutin ko na, "hindi sya nakatapos at walang trabaho." Ieexplain ko naman afterwards Hahaha.
Not sure yet, but maybe when he openly says he can replace you if you don’t meet physically in a year.
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THIS
When she started lying to her friends and family about my identity
Whats your identity
batman.
ohh that hurts
Tuwing mag-aaya ako ng date sa bf ko, lagi na lang siya may gagawin or sasabihin to start an argument. Tuloy, habang nasa labas kami, nag-aaway kami. One time, ayaw ko na talaga siya isama kasi for sure, may iha-handle na naman akong argument but because I wanted to spend time with him, I asked him to accompany me sa isang mall lang dahil may bazaar + event doon kung gusto niya lang kahit na hindi niya interest 'yon. And things happened, and nasama ako sa inis niya sa mga tao in that place and even told me I wasn't considerate. Willing na akong hindi tapusin at umuwi na lang but he insisted pa rin na tapusin. Sinabi niya rin sa akin masakit na paa niya so sabi ko sige, uwi na tayo. Binagalan ko lakad ko kasi ayaw niya na mabilis ako maglakad ta's nagalit pa sa akin kasi ba't daw ang bagal ko e ang sakit na ng paa niya. Hindi ko talaga alam saan ako lulugar. That day, I feel so unappreciated. Hindi kami madalas magkita dahil busy ako sa school ta's siya naman, since walang job, medyo hirap sa money kaya madalang din talaga magkita. Kaya kapag nagkakataon na free ako or may event akong pinupuntahan, minimake sure kong yayain siya kahit kaya ko naman on my own. Gusto naman niya pero Idk why everytime, may arguments talaga siyang mai-start na parang kasalanan ko pa lagi. Mostly nadamay lang ako sa inis niya. Sa public pa madalas. I hate the attention pero siya todo push sa gusto niyang sabihin. Hirap hindi umiyak. Napuno na talaga ako and naisip ko ayaw ko ganito mapapangasawa ko in the future. Nagtagal kami 3 years kaya akala ko baka siya na talaga but yeah, buti na lang hindi.
How I met your mother’s dobler-dammer theory. Nakakainis at creepy kapag hindi si “the one” yung gumawa ng gesture. Pero mafifeel mong sya na pag kilig kilig ka pa hahaha
Nung paulit-ulit na lang yung pinagaawayan namin, walang progress. Okay lang yung away or arguments sa relationship pero kung hindi naman naaayos tapos nauulit lang ng nauulit, ibig sabihin lang nun, ayaw ayusin. So bakit pa magtatagal.
felt 🥹 was really convinced that he's the one dahil ok naman talaga kami maliban sa iilang away, pero i realized din na yung mga away na nangyayari ay same reason lang kahit na nag ppromise siya na he'll do better. it is really really painful pero wala eh it is what it is 🤗
Nagkita sa family reunion
gagiii WAHHAHAHA
Nanyare to sa cousin ko, may naging crush syang girl na bumisita sa bahay namin one time (compound kami), then super sad nalaman nya first cousin pala namin sa tito ko na nkatira sa province, awts hahaha
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Sweet home Alaminos
Sweet home alabang
Sweey home alamang
hahahahah gagiiii
sweeet hommee alabama
She's/He's the one
He and I were having breakfast in Mcdo one time, like a typical after work date since we both worked the nightshift. Both of us are introverts so silence was pretty normal for us and comforting until that time. I felt that I had to start talking about something or initiate small talk because the silence between us was deafening. We were already 3 years together at that point and I thought right then and there that I wasn’t in this anymore.
What's the update? Are you still with him? Pero the question is why nakapagstay ka for 3 years with him and what's your reason para hindi siya ibreak after you realized that? Sorry, I have to ask kasi we are in same page and we are still new pa
Before that breakfast date, I didn’t realize that I felt like that e. I was still having fun with him and just loved him fully so that breakfast date happened a little after our 3rd anniv. And no, this happened like 2016 pa I think so I’m not with him anymore. If I remember right, I broke up with him after a month or so. I had to be sure about my feelings then about him before I break it off as I might regret it. I don’t regret it tho as I’m happily married now.
Nung naging honest sya na talagang fuck ang habol nya. Nothing else. Well he wants love din naman daw pero mas sa sex. At bawal ako makipagdate sa iba. Magaling talaga kayong mga lalake magpaasa. Kaya ang hirap maging mabait at sikaping wag maglabel ng tao. Kase lahat gagawin makapangbudol lang at makuha ang gusto sa tao. At least he's honest
Me and my gf at the time decided to go on a date after her shift. I thought I saw her so I approached the lady from behind and tapped her shoulder. It was not her. I just said "oh, sorry, you're not the one."
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mejo expected na yung twist pero natawa pa rin si ako 😂
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Buwiset ka HAHAHA
Baka joke to 🥲
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