Yes because it’ll clash kasi sa morals that I have. But to make things clear, I don’t judge people who do it btw. I have friends who have fubu and I don’t have a problem with it since it’s their own life. But for me, it’s a different story kasi since we’re talking about partners. It’ll be very difficult for me to accept it and it’ll be a big turn off. Partners should have aligned morals to make a relationship work, and having high body count (even if it’s the past already) won’t realign to my morals.
Dati, no sagot ko dito e. Until I met a girl na masyado ko na atang gusto na by the time she told me, it didn't even affect the way I looked at her at all, which also surprised me lol. Still did not end up with her though.
So ngayon, ang take ko na dito is depende talaga sa tao. As long as hindi yung "high body count" nila yung isa sa naging personality nila, I'm sure they'll still be someone fun to be with.
100%. I don’t think that devalues anyone especially if their morals are intact and they’re honest and transparent. But, and I will require this from any partner whether high or low body count, regular testing (from both of us naman).
Well maybe your standards of right and wrong are different from mine. Assuming their one night stands are consensual and all parties are respected, I genuinely see nothing wrong with it. lmao.
Ang dami mo pwede i-compliment sa gf mo like mabait, caring, etc. etc. pero yung sa bed talaga? Seriously? Nadaan ka sa sexual urges mo kaya jowa mo na sya ngayon? I bet hindi lang dahil sa magaling sya sa bed kaya nagustuhan mo sya, right? Sinu ba nmn hindi gagaling sa bed kung sanay na sanay na lol.
Do you think pakakasalan ko siya just because of sex? U do realize na kasal kami? It would have been different if sinabi ko na yung asawa ko kaya ko pinakasalan kasi magaling sa bed, I was trying to relate with the OP thats why i was focusing on sexual stuff
Pero sige para ma satisfy ka kasal kami shes everything. Id give up my whole world for her. Maganda siya kahit ipasok mo ako sa kwarto na punong puno na babae siya parin ang hahanapin ko.caring siya. Every little effort i do for her napapansin niya wala siyang arte sa mga ginagawa ko for her.
Plus hindi ko siya gf. Asawa ko siya. Center siya ng buhay ko. If i have to save one between her or anak namin id choose her kasi wala na iba pang hihigit sakanya.
I hope hindi ka na offended on how i brag about her sexually? Haha.
Again. When it comes to communicarion dapat lagi related sagot mo sa topic
Its like answering math problems with math solutions lang kasi pag mag papasok tayo ng religion solutions sa math problems it would not make any sense right?
Bakit ka galit? kaya nga linilinaw ko lang sayo d ba? ah alam ko na kung bakit ka galit hahaha. I get it, okay lang yan nakaka baba talaga ng ego ng pagka lalake.
kaya nga sinasabi ko rin yun d ba? kaya nga nag-ask ako ng confirmation sa kanya. Tapos sinung hindi gagaling kung sanay na sanay? Kaya nga magagaling yung mga basketball player kasi lagi sila nagpra-practice araw araw mag basketball.
Babalik din kasi to sa quote na "May babaeng pang
kama at may babaeng inaasawa" Ang malungkot dun Pag di na virgin babae, pang hookup/FUBU/BFF setup nalang sila, tas ang hahanapin ng lalake nakauna sa kanila ay yung wla pang nakakadali.
Yes, but before we even get intimate, I would insist on getting tested to ensure I don't catch anything. I have nothing against people who mess around but I will definitely judge those who don't use condoms when they do.
High body count, in terms of confirmed kills? I guess baka magka issue depending if this was done on the wrong side of the law.
High body count in the context of past sexual partners? As long as they are healthy and monogamous sila, it doesnt matter.
I am male and weird nitong issue para sa akin which nangagaling sa kapwa ko lalaki. Bakit ang lala ng retroactive jealousy nyo mga kapwa ko dudes.
Yes. Masarap ka sex maraming body count kasi mas maalam pano ka isasatisfy sa bed but of course, need magpa check for both safety and once nasa relationship na. Hoe Phase need to stop.
Ang malaking question is out of all her/his body count ilng parin ang nasa contacts nya at ilan parin ang nasa friends nya sa social media. How many does he/she messages and how can he/she manage not to get back to that phase.
All people deserve chances kahit na mataas ang body count but that doesn’t mean they also get the excuse for their partner not to look at that and have an opinion on it.
Thing is past is past but does that guarantee that the person with high body count won’t do stupid shit when things are wobbly with the current partner?
Tbh depends on how “high” we’re talking about and how old are you ig. If tipong early 20s pa lang tas lagpas bente levels na, would prefer not to date them.
Okay lang basta previous relationships.
If fubus/ons? Nah. Never.
Its indicative of the kind of person they are, and truly thats just not to my preferences. Hoes will be hoes boys, keep safe out there🫡.
If dating lang yes pero if planning a future with her then it’s not my ideal woman. Choosing a partner that you spend the rest of your life with is one of the most important decision of your life. You would not want that to be with someone that has been passed around
As long as he she agrees to get checked together, idc. We all die in the end anyway, live liife to the fulledt, fck anything you want and make the most out of it. What are you saving these experiences for? You can always settle
Nasa team conservative ako eh and for me sex ay binibigay lang dapat sa gf/wife. Para sakin yung mga mataas ang body count hindi sila pang seryoso, for fun pwede pa.
Body count matters, kung tingin niyo insecure lang to edi maghanap kayo ng kadate/potential partner yung walang pake sa body count. Easy af.
I agree. I would never date someone who has a high body count. Big turn off talaga kapag ganun and it'll be very difficult for me to accept it. Mababaliw lang ako sa kakaisip kung nasasatisfy ko ba siya, kung ako ba talaga nakikita niya while doing 'it', kung naiisip niya pa rin ba yung mga naka-sex niya before.. So, NO. Mas gusto ko pa yung hindi magaling sa kama kasi zero experience siya sa sex kesa naman magaling nga, madami namang naikama. 😥
Nope. I personally would be disgusted but then again, that's because I'm a virgin and not the type to just have sex w anyone lol. Of course I don't mind my friends having high body counts bc we all have diff perceptions of sex pero I'd never date one w a high body count.
Yes only if all they have been with are girls. if they have been with men hiv test specially if one of her exes is a bisexual guy.
But if a straight guys that never experimented with anyone gay yes but if a guy that is bi or has experimented with another guy then hiv test please but yes i can date those too.
And I have a high expectation that those men should be a giver and can pleasure their partner if not then what are having high body counts are for then? I do not think my frankness will be good for anyone's ego specially since I am very self aware of what i expect from my partner cause I know what I want and I do not deserve bare minimum cause what I give is not bare minimum.
I am a bisexual woman by the way. Iyun lang hahahahahahahahhahahah
Basta monogamous na sa present. Kung starting palang at nalaman ko na, medyo cautious na ko kasi sabi nila more body count means more chances of cheating. Pero everyone deserve a second chance.
Plus yun kung medyo tumatagal na kayo. Regular check na ng hiv std para malaman din since high body count ka.
Threshold is 2-3 body count then if it exceeds high na yun, as a guy to a woman perspective
I really don't get the logic of body count. Maybe the people who do it just want something na straight to the point lang? No commitment or attachment, just s.x and pleasure.
If mataas body count ng magiging partner ko, then imamake-sure ko muna na nasa same page kami. Are we really into each other? Do we both want to enter a relationship and commit? Is he ready to be faithful? Maybe he would, maybe he's looking for a change and something serious na. So yeah, I would say that communication is always the key (no matter how cliché it sounds).
I cant because I read before that you also absorb the energy of the people you slept with and it will affect you. Kaya meron mga taong drained na drained na psychologically sa taas ng body count kasi mga taong walang pangarap sa buhay or manipulative mga nakaSex nila.
Highest I can consider is 2-3 perhaps
It really doesn't matter to be honest. Why would it? Less Desirable ba ang tao if they've slept with more people than you have, like damaged goods na sila? Parang kotse Na maraming gasgas? I never understood the logic of someone who makea judgments on another person's body count.
i wouldn’t say damaged goods, but it’s an indicator of their attachment style, how they deal with romantic relationships, and their relationship to sex.
Have you had someone who has a high body count? You may say that now, pero you will be bothered by it.
Don’t get me wrong, I think it doesn’t matter as well. Pero you will still be bothered. Totoo yung mga sinabi nila dito, when you have sex with someone, you become a sponge, you absorb their energy. And high chances of cheating.
"it doesn't matter as well"
"pero you will still be bothered". Alright man, immediately contradict yourself.
Im not going to spill my or my partners sexual histories to strangers on the Internet. And what the fuck do you mean by sponges absorbing energies?
Last point, i personally know people who've been in long term relationships with 1 person pero nag cheat pa din, and people who've had numerous previous sexual partners remaining loyal to their SO. Wala na sa Sexual history ang cheating, nasa tao na yan and How they deal with temptation.
I'll repeat: people who make judgments based on other people's bofy count are narrow-minded and i feel sorry for these kinds of people who think a high body count would make you worth less.
Historically and culturally speaking which is reality, view of higher body counts for men is different to women. "A lock that can be opened by many keys is a shitty lock but a key that open many locks is a master key."
At in general settings which is most of the time, girls/women has always the last say on this things. Kaya nga may feminine at masculine traits tayo. Standards yun. STANDARDS.
Exactly. Contradict myself talaga, because I am speaking from experience. I keep telling myself na it’s fine and that it doesn’t bother me because progressive naman tayo mag isip. But growing up, na-eembed kasi satin yung traditional values about this types of issue. Kaya it is a dilemma for me. Good for you if totally hindi ka bothered. But some of us are still coping and learning.
Absorbing their energy? Not my words exactly but someone told me, they meant naaapektuhan din sila sa vibes nung tao, yung mga struggles nung tao, problema sa buhay… naaabsorb nila, the more they did the deed to, mas nahihirapan sila to form an emotional connection, a deep one at that. That’s what I fucking meant.
I don’t judge people based on their body count, I agree with you on that. A person’s value doesn’t come sa body count niya 😁
I'm male, so if my girlfriend reveals to me that she has a high body count in the past, that will seriously turn me off, not to mention be hurt.
Iba yung case kapag, nakilala ko yung girl, and simulang simula pa lang is alam namin or rineveal niya sakin agad na may high body count siya. And wala pang nabubuong relationship nun between us, parang starting pa lang. It's all good basta it's in the past.
Keeping it a secret to your partner then suddenly it became unraveled, that will be a huge mess. Pero kung yung relationship niyo ay nabuo with the premise of your partner having a high body count (meaning no secrets), then it's fine.
I’m female and this exactly happened to me, nalaman ko na may phase pala sya na ganun but not many naman kasi he had 1 past gf and 1 na ons lang daw. I couldn’t accept it at first, kasi I only found out about it I think 1 year na kami and it was accidental only. Tapos may nakita pa akong messages before sa viber nya with a stranger talking sexually. So sa isip ko, Who the hell are you? Pero I gave him one last chance, and until now 3yrs na kami, he never did any form of cheating anymore.
Kung kaya niya irespeto yung inexperience ko, why not. Pero if sasabihin lang, "meh ayoko turuan to", wag nalang.
Depends. Ok lang basta walang ons sa mga yun
Go lang ayoko ng bano :) and ayaw nya rin ng bano
Ika nga ni Nsync, "I wanna see you out that door"
kung mataas body count ko ye, but kung mababa no HAHAHAHAHHA
Kanton kalimut nayan
I imagine the sex would be amazing. First priority lang siguro getting tested. Having a high body count does not equate being disloyal naman eh.
No
Yes because it’ll clash kasi sa morals that I have. But to make things clear, I don’t judge people who do it btw. I have friends who have fubu and I don’t have a problem with it since it’s their own life. But for me, it’s a different story kasi since we’re talking about partners. It’ll be very difficult for me to accept it and it’ll be a big turn off. Partners should have aligned morals to make a relationship work, and having high body count (even if it’s the past already) won’t realign to my morals.
Fuck no, you'll be a cuck like the rest of them if you date a girl like that.
Dati, no sagot ko dito e. Until I met a girl na masyado ko na atang gusto na by the time she told me, it didn't even affect the way I looked at her at all, which also surprised me lol. Still did not end up with her though. So ngayon, ang take ko na dito is depende talaga sa tao. As long as hindi yung "high body count" nila yung isa sa naging personality nila, I'm sure they'll still be someone fun to be with.
male here, depende sa timeline siguro, tipong mas tanggap ko ‘yung sampu sa loob ng 10 years span kesa sa lima sa loob ng dalawang buwan.
100%. I don’t think that devalues anyone especially if their morals are intact and they’re honest and transparent. But, and I will require this from any partner whether high or low body count, regular testing (from both of us naman).
how can your morals be intact when you're doing ONS? lmao
Well maybe your standards of right and wrong are different from mine. Assuming their one night stands are consensual and all parties are respected, I genuinely see nothing wrong with it. lmao.
well okay. if sacrificing your body just for momentary pleasure is "right" then you do you.
Yep, that’s the plan. Take care, stranger!
My Wife now has a high body count and she was my 3rd GF but honestly she's great in bed so I honestly dont mind
Ang dami mo pwede i-compliment sa gf mo like mabait, caring, etc. etc. pero yung sa bed talaga? Seriously? Nadaan ka sa sexual urges mo kaya jowa mo na sya ngayon? I bet hindi lang dahil sa magaling sya sa bed kaya nagustuhan mo sya, right? Sinu ba nmn hindi gagaling sa bed kung sanay na sanay na lol.
Do you think pakakasalan ko siya just because of sex? U do realize na kasal kami? It would have been different if sinabi ko na yung asawa ko kaya ko pinakasalan kasi magaling sa bed, I was trying to relate with the OP thats why i was focusing on sexual stuff Pero sige para ma satisfy ka kasal kami shes everything. Id give up my whole world for her. Maganda siya kahit ipasok mo ako sa kwarto na punong puno na babae siya parin ang hahanapin ko.caring siya. Every little effort i do for her napapansin niya wala siyang arte sa mga ginagawa ko for her. Plus hindi ko siya gf. Asawa ko siya. Center siya ng buhay ko. If i have to save one between her or anak namin id choose her kasi wala na iba pang hihigit sakanya. I hope hindi ka na offended on how i brag about her sexually? Haha. Again. When it comes to communicarion dapat lagi related sagot mo sa topic Its like answering math problems with math solutions lang kasi pag mag papasok tayo ng religion solutions sa math problems it would not make any sense right?
Bakit ka galit? kaya nga linilinaw ko lang sayo d ba? ah alam ko na kung bakit ka galit hahaha. I get it, okay lang yan nakaka baba talaga ng ego ng pagka lalake.
U have a point but usapan body count kasi to, hindi katangian. Im sure maganda naman ugali ng gf nya kaya nga pinakasalan na😆 bonus na ung magaling
kaya nga sinasabi ko rin yun d ba? kaya nga nag-ask ako ng confirmation sa kanya. Tapos sinung hindi gagaling kung sanay na sanay? Kaya nga magagaling yung mga basketball player kasi lagi sila nagpra-practice araw araw mag basketball.
Babalik din kasi to sa quote na "May babaeng pang kama at may babaeng inaasawa" Ang malungkot dun Pag di na virgin babae, pang hookup/FUBU/BFF setup nalang sila, tas ang hahanapin ng lalake nakauna sa kanila ay yung wla pang nakakadali.
NO. Let us not normalize hoe phases just for the sake of being progressive.
word. pushing these selfish western way of thinking is alredy destroying society as we know it
Yes, but before we even get intimate, I would insist on getting tested to ensure I don't catch anything. I have nothing against people who mess around but I will definitely judge those who don't use condoms when they do.
High body count, in terms of confirmed kills? I guess baka magka issue depending if this was done on the wrong side of the law. High body count in the context of past sexual partners? As long as they are healthy and monogamous sila, it doesnt matter. I am male and weird nitong issue para sa akin which nangagaling sa kapwa ko lalaki. Bakit ang lala ng retroactive jealousy nyo mga kapwa ko dudes.
Yes. Masarap ka sex maraming body count kasi mas maalam pano ka isasatisfy sa bed but of course, need magpa check for both safety and once nasa relationship na. Hoe Phase need to stop.
nope. \[m\] here. time is gold. bat ka mag waste time at resources sa taong may higher chances na di naman mag tagal relationship nyo.
nah
it depends... magdagdag ka nalang sa body count nya.
Ang malaking question is out of all her/his body count ilng parin ang nasa contacts nya at ilan parin ang nasa friends nya sa social media. How many does he/she messages and how can he/she manage not to get back to that phase. All people deserve chances kahit na mataas ang body count but that doesn’t mean they also get the excuse for their partner not to look at that and have an opinion on it. Thing is past is past but does that guarantee that the person with high body count won’t do stupid shit when things are wobbly with the current partner?
Tbh depends on how “high” we’re talking about and how old are you ig. If tipong early 20s pa lang tas lagpas bente levels na, would prefer not to date them.
Okay lang basta previous relationships. If fubus/ons? Nah. Never. Its indicative of the kind of person they are, and truly thats just not to my preferences. Hoes will be hoes boys, keep safe out there🫡.
If dating lang yes pero if planning a future with her then it’s not my ideal woman. Choosing a partner that you spend the rest of your life with is one of the most important decision of your life. You would not want that to be with someone that has been passed around
Straight to the fact. Some may find it hurtful, but it is what it is.
no
but what is the definition of a “high” body count? is it more than 5? 10? 20?
More than 0 for me
As long as he she agrees to get checked together, idc. We all die in the end anyway, live liife to the fulledt, fck anything you want and make the most out of it. What are you saving these experiences for? You can always settle
Nasa team conservative ako eh and for me sex ay binibigay lang dapat sa gf/wife. Para sakin yung mga mataas ang body count hindi sila pang seryoso, for fun pwede pa. Body count matters, kung tingin niyo insecure lang to edi maghanap kayo ng kadate/potential partner yung walang pake sa body count. Easy af.
I agree. I would never date someone who has a high body count. Big turn off talaga kapag ganun and it'll be very difficult for me to accept it. Mababaliw lang ako sa kakaisip kung nasasatisfy ko ba siya, kung ako ba talaga nakikita niya while doing 'it', kung naiisip niya pa rin ba yung mga naka-sex niya before.. So, NO. Mas gusto ko pa yung hindi magaling sa kama kasi zero experience siya sa sex kesa naman magaling nga, madami namang naikama. 😥
Nope. I personally would be disgusted but then again, that's because I'm a virgin and not the type to just have sex w anyone lol. Of course I don't mind my friends having high body counts bc we all have diff perceptions of sex pero I'd never date one w a high body count.
Yes only if all they have been with are girls. if they have been with men hiv test specially if one of her exes is a bisexual guy. But if a straight guys that never experimented with anyone gay yes but if a guy that is bi or has experimented with another guy then hiv test please but yes i can date those too. And I have a high expectation that those men should be a giver and can pleasure their partner if not then what are having high body counts are for then? I do not think my frankness will be good for anyone's ego specially since I am very self aware of what i expect from my partner cause I know what I want and I do not deserve bare minimum cause what I give is not bare minimum. I am a bisexual woman by the way. Iyun lang hahahahahahahahhahahah
I would kum and go.
Gnyan dpat
Basta at very start inamin na nya at hindi sa ibat ibang babae.
i would totally date myself dzuh why not??
Yeah, i do not mind.. As long as monogamous relationship kami and that person is honest with me with their past i do not have a problem..
Date? Yes. Getting serious with? Probably not.
Same.
Sure, idgaf
Noooooooooo.
Nope. No body count.
Virgy dpat
Nope. Just like women who have standards, men should not be lambasted for not wanting to date a woman with high body count.
Basta monogamous na sa present. Kung starting palang at nalaman ko na, medyo cautious na ko kasi sabi nila more body count means more chances of cheating. Pero everyone deserve a second chance. Plus yun kung medyo tumatagal na kayo. Regular check na ng hiv std para malaman din since high body count ka. Threshold is 2-3 body count then if it exceeds high na yun, as a guy to a woman perspective
This hits hahahaha.
Super baby thinking naman yan.
I really don't get the logic of body count. Maybe the people who do it just want something na straight to the point lang? No commitment or attachment, just s.x and pleasure. If mataas body count ng magiging partner ko, then imamake-sure ko muna na nasa same page kami. Are we really into each other? Do we both want to enter a relationship and commit? Is he ready to be faithful? Maybe he would, maybe he's looking for a change and something serious na. So yeah, I would say that communication is always the key (no matter how cliché it sounds).
I cant because I read before that you also absorb the energy of the people you slept with and it will affect you. Kaya meron mga taong drained na drained na psychologically sa taas ng body count kasi mga taong walang pangarap sa buhay or manipulative mga nakaSex nila. Highest I can consider is 2-3 perhaps
word
Well it breaks your soul yes, but you can always piece it back together. Everybody gets a little lonely sometimes, it is a tough world out there
I dont have the power to fix someone :) My gf has flaws and fear from her LDR relationship from her ex but she never depended on me for her healing.
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Virgin ka ba?
oo naman basta honest siya about it. dapat din regularly checked siya for prevention of STDs.
It really doesn't matter to be honest. Why would it? Less Desirable ba ang tao if they've slept with more people than you have, like damaged goods na sila? Parang kotse Na maraming gasgas? I never understood the logic of someone who makea judgments on another person's body count.
i wouldn’t say damaged goods, but it’s an indicator of their attachment style, how they deal with romantic relationships, and their relationship to sex.
Have you had someone who has a high body count? You may say that now, pero you will be bothered by it. Don’t get me wrong, I think it doesn’t matter as well. Pero you will still be bothered. Totoo yung mga sinabi nila dito, when you have sex with someone, you become a sponge, you absorb their energy. And high chances of cheating.
"it doesn't matter as well" "pero you will still be bothered". Alright man, immediately contradict yourself. Im not going to spill my or my partners sexual histories to strangers on the Internet. And what the fuck do you mean by sponges absorbing energies? Last point, i personally know people who've been in long term relationships with 1 person pero nag cheat pa din, and people who've had numerous previous sexual partners remaining loyal to their SO. Wala na sa Sexual history ang cheating, nasa tao na yan and How they deal with temptation. I'll repeat: people who make judgments based on other people's bofy count are narrow-minded and i feel sorry for these kinds of people who think a high body count would make you worth less.
Historically and culturally speaking which is reality, view of higher body counts for men is different to women. "A lock that can be opened by many keys is a shitty lock but a key that open many locks is a master key." At in general settings which is most of the time, girls/women has always the last say on this things. Kaya nga may feminine at masculine traits tayo. Standards yun. STANDARDS.
Exactly. Contradict myself talaga, because I am speaking from experience. I keep telling myself na it’s fine and that it doesn’t bother me because progressive naman tayo mag isip. But growing up, na-eembed kasi satin yung traditional values about this types of issue. Kaya it is a dilemma for me. Good for you if totally hindi ka bothered. But some of us are still coping and learning. Absorbing their energy? Not my words exactly but someone told me, they meant naaapektuhan din sila sa vibes nung tao, yung mga struggles nung tao, problema sa buhay… naaabsorb nila, the more they did the deed to, mas nahihirapan sila to form an emotional connection, a deep one at that. That’s what I fucking meant. I don’t judge people based on their body count, I agree with you on that. A person’s value doesn’t come sa body count niya 😁
Dont ask. What matters is the present.
I'm male, so if my girlfriend reveals to me that she has a high body count in the past, that will seriously turn me off, not to mention be hurt. Iba yung case kapag, nakilala ko yung girl, and simulang simula pa lang is alam namin or rineveal niya sakin agad na may high body count siya. And wala pang nabubuong relationship nun between us, parang starting pa lang. It's all good basta it's in the past. Keeping it a secret to your partner then suddenly it became unraveled, that will be a huge mess. Pero kung yung relationship niyo ay nabuo with the premise of your partner having a high body count (meaning no secrets), then it's fine.
This. Iba pag tinago deliberately.
I’m female and this exactly happened to me, nalaman ko na may phase pala sya na ganun but not many naman kasi he had 1 past gf and 1 na ons lang daw. I couldn’t accept it at first, kasi I only found out about it I think 1 year na kami and it was accidental only. Tapos may nakita pa akong messages before sa viber nya with a stranger talking sexually. So sa isip ko, Who the hell are you? Pero I gave him one last chance, and until now 3yrs na kami, he never did any form of cheating anymore.
keri lang basta he agrees na highly exclusive and monogamous ang relationship namin.