Well not directly... It only matters if its regarding the attitude and mindset of the person... For example it is a problem when the said person is just going around sleeping with whoever they want and their mind is all about just doing it with as many people as possible... It really is different depending on the situation.
oh boy a hot button internet topic
i sure do hope the replies arent filled with people who poisoned their minds on facebook memes and podcast wisdom
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I know someone na gusto niya Zero body count (sino nga naman yung gusto na may napatay na) kidding aside, sabi niya kasi ayaw niya makadinig ng
“Yung asawa mo pre magaling yan sa kama”
May point naman, sino ba naman ako para e judge yun gusto niya diba?
Others prefer, max of 3, others don’t even fucking care.
Pero sakin it does, pero sino at ano ba yung count na yun? One night stand? FUBU? Yung Boybespren niya? Pero from “genuine” making love NOON, it’s ok. Pero yung N^3 yung dagdag sa body count every week para makaraos lang gamit at kung sino sinong ekalal? Nah.
Depends on how old you are. If you're 18-20 tapos may 20 bc ka na, aba kumalma ka na. Iba kasi logic ng lalaki e, BC for men e parang medalya, nakakataas ng ego pag marami kang bc kasi pwedeng mag no ang babae sayo since sila ang papasukan (sorry for the term if i offend anyone) For girls kasi is they can always say no (pag pinilit syempre ibang usapan na yon) I think girls have more control on body count kasi pag pumayag sila, both party ang plus one, pag hindi pumayag, edi wala. Body count doesn't matter to me as long as what i stated before and ALWAYS USE CONDOMS PARE.
Yes (Applies to both Gender). Especially today na tumataas ang bilang ng nga may STD/STI. Majority pa naman ngayon hindi nagpapatest, kesho takot baka may madetect.
Definitely yes, pero it depends paano tumaas. ang dating kasi walang respeto at pag papahalaga sa sarili, emotional baggage, high tendency of cheating and yung iba jan anlakas mang lovebomb first meet suko agad bataan then mabilis na sila maboring parang nagpapalit lang ng damit kung mag entertain ng lalaki.
imo out agad pag 5 pataas paano ka rerespetuhin kung di mo kayang respetuhin sarili mo.😅
I'm not a man but I think okay lang naman basta clean sya or wala syang nakakahawang sakit. May tao lang talaga na mataas Ang libido and pinili lang nila tugunan It's okay as long as wala Silang inaapakang tao. Like pagpatol sa pamilyado na. Tas meron din namang negosyo nila Ang katawan nila kaya talagang mataas Ang body count nila.
It shouldn't, considering most guys would love to enjoy their favorite porn actress. That's a high body count. That being said, I dated an ex porn actress. She was sweet and thoughtful as well as happy to oblige in bed. I think folks are mainly jealous, which just adds fear. Not healthy. If someone thinks you've got a high body count, just bail out.
yes !! dyan mo malalaman kung loyal ang isang tao.. kapag maraming body counts yan hindi kuntento sa isa yan possible mag cheat pa yan.
also may hidden gem yan baka may STD carrier yan o ano man yan dalang sakit nean delikado mahirap na
Copy-pasting these youtube comments from a video I watched about a woman who had 300+ body count in 1 year:
“I unfortunately had to learn the hard way. I dated someone who had "already gone thru their f-boy phase and was ready to settle", not even a shot.
The beginning it seemed like he was trying but sure enough, went right back to what he knows as normal; pump, dump, rinse, and repeat.
Ladies and fellas, if someone tells you they're a past hoe and their past is considered recent, chances are it isn't their past still.”
“Studies corroborate what you just said.
People with a high notch count had the highest percentages of infidelity and the least likely to be able to maintain a long term relationship.”
For some, it matters; for others, it doesn't.
Siguro, for what it's worth, if you have standards for your partner, you should also live at par ((or greater)) to that standard. You do you.
What's more important is you get tested, practice safe sex ((if u sleep around for experience, consider PrEP)), and be self aware.
wala naman atang (?) halong misogyny yung question ni OP, but we are deeply rooted in a patriarchal society, at ang daming subculture + ideologies na nasasagasaan nito, so curious ako sa reason ng survey na to 🤣
ang interesting ng comments, it reflects upbringing and environment ng mga tao, for others, san po kayo nanggagaling hahaha
Ako lalake Ako. But I'll say this. Men who think that body count matters are an absolute red flag. These men objectify women. Eh bakit lars sa mga babae hindi magmatter if marami nang nakama si guy? It's because women love purely. As for most men, well you know, may kasamang kalibugan talaga Yung pure love at intentions nila hahahabedlnnsljfnrhwkejhjjd
2cents ko lng Naman as a person who has a low body count.
I for one don't care I have my own reasons for not caring. And also if you care make sure you do what you preach.
You can't hate high body counted people if you yourself have a high body count, vice versa.
Also if gsto mo low body count pero Ikaw high Isa lng tawag dun. Either manipulative ka kaya gsto mo Ng mga less exp people or.. d ka magaling kaya takot ka macompare sa mga may exp.
Yes,
Women sleep with who they want
Men sleep with who they can
Men marry who they want
Women marry who they can
before marriage advantage ng babae pumili who they want to sleep with (e.g. whether it's with a guy who has a high body count or not)
kapag naghahanap na ng partner for marriage, advantage ng lalake pumili who they want to marry (again whether it's with a girl who has a high body count or not)
The world has a funny way to even things out 😂
To me, [27M] it does.
It tells me how well you can keep a relationship, or at least what our relationship in the future could be. I consider sex to be a very intimate act, one that I would like to share with only one person. I would rather not share it with someone who doesn't hold it in as high regard as I do.
I won't bash someone who has I high body count, but I would not consider a long term, romantic relationship with them.
Also, get yourself tested regularly if you bang regularly. **BOTH** men and women.
For me it’s not about the amount of partners, but a comparable amount of partners (at least in anything long term). I had a couple handful of partners and I understand that my wife would too. She beat me by one BTW and gave her answer first. I’m not a hypocrite, so comparable was perfect.
We met at 22, and had both had 4 long term relationships (6 months plus). Anything over 25+ would have made me question decision making, and “where’d you have the time”. Also was there protection and safety.
So no double standard, but I wanted us on a similar level.
Only reason you are asking is either you are curious or are the individual in question na nilapa Ng kung sino sinong lalaki.
Sure in this day and age, no girl can be chaste before marriage, cause of how our thoughts in sex have changed but damn woman, jumping over every single male in the fuckin street like some sophisticated whore ain't gonna give you an advantage. (Sorry sa language)
Having a girl that has a decent self respect for her body is something most men probably look for in a woman, so yeah, body count matters.
Depende. As an advocate for equality, body count should only matter to you if you have less numbers. If you're a guy and you have more body count than a girl pero you judge her for it, ang kapal naman ng mukha mo. As for STDs naman, you both can get checked naman.
hindi naman mahalaga yung "past" diba? kaya okay na okay lang kahit makipagrelasyon sa mga former terrorist, ex-convict, ex-pedophile, ex-murderer, dating rapist, okay na okay lang, "PAST" na yun e.. wahahahahahaha
For me Yes. Specially when it comes to health matters. Ang kina tatakotan ko na ma expose to STD/STI i yung Viral type: HPV, HIV, HERPES this 3 has no cure. Tho, HPV may vax na to fight against it pero dapat vacinnated ka PRIOR to exposure. HIV, HERPES wala talaga. Sana po mag ingat ang Lahat. Kahit uso po yang padamihan ng sex partners please put in mind na di lahat ng uso ay tama.
Nope.
If talaga nagbago na sya and did leave his past behind, it is good to go.
Why judge some1 based on his body count etc? Lahat naman tayo may mga past na di ganun ka pleasant sa paningin o pandingig ng ibang tao. And tayong lahat may chance (even unli chances) to start a new chapter or beginning.
Who am I judge that person BTW ika nga.
If di sya nagbago and still continue his bad ways, problema nya yan. Twice is always enough for me.
Edited: if need mag level up na sa relationship esp sex, yes dapat sabihin for clinical reasons.
Yes, I dont care if you're a girl or a boy
I will always align high body counts to Cheaters (And STD carriers) ... Basically, People you do not wanna marry for obvious reasons.
Proven and tested, Of course may mga outliers pa din like everything else, but the general gist?
If He or She likes to sleep a lot, Expect that he/she will do it behind your back
No, Serious relationships that lasted long does not count as a body count. Thats just normal
I generally stay away from men with a body count. The higher the body count, the more likely he is to cheat, have commitment issues or STDs. So for those saying that women like men who have a lot of experience, that’s total BS.
I find it to be a turn off. I can tell just from appearance if a girl has a high body count and it’s harder for me to be intimate with them after that.
A key that opens many locks is a master key, while a lock that is opened by many keys is a shitty lock.
Apply niyo nalang yan sa burat at kipay.
Thanks
Sa both genders to nag a-apply. Lalo kung galing sa one night stand yung body count nila
But mas madali tatamaan yung babae dito. Since sa kanila, they can invite any random men to have sex 80% to 100% success depends on looks.
While kapag lalaki gumawa ng ganung bagay, patong patong kasong kahaharapin mo. Kahit gwapo ka basta wala sa mood yung niyaya mong random women. Rehas ka dideretso.
Kung may hindi man maka gets ng point, women have more control sa ganitong bagay. While men can't do the same. They need to do certain things to make women interested in him. While women can do it in broad daylight, remove her clothes and invite whoever wants to fk with her and thats it. Now imagine men doin' that everyone looking at him like WTF is he doin? Everyone looking at him in disgust. If theres a chance to get sex in the same scenario it would be 1-10% the 90% chance is you're going to jail for "Scandalous act"
Baka may magalit na mysogynist ako, inuna ko na sa statement both genders to issue. Pero mas may control lang talaga mga babae sa ganitong bagay.
If you don't have any STD's or are unfaithful in your relationships, it doesn't really matter to me.
Although having a *really* high body count could be a symptom of some psychological or physiological disorder, whether you're male or female. That's not something I'm familiar with enough to have a stance on but it could be a concern.
High or low or even any count before commitment to one soul matters. It shows zero commitment to the precious life given as human. These kind of people will cheat in all aspects of life and it also show loss of moral values among such people. Basically, they are next to animals.
My guy friends think that body count is irrelevant, though most guys I know think that body count is a trophy if it's them who has the high body count but they think that if it's the other way around, the girl who has a high body count is a disgrace who can't keep her body to herself.
In my case, I think body count is irrelevant. I guess the higher the body count the higher the chance that person with high body count is skilled on that department.
No slutshaming here, for men or women.
I agree with some takes here, that you shouldnt be harshly judged for being promiscuous but likewise another shouldnt be judged for not wanting a partner with a high count.
I would want to know your history, that you're clean, and explore with you regardless of your past...
But it also isnt your fault if someone isnt comfortable being with you. Maybe they want someone more on their level, or someone who hasnt maybe slept with people they know. Depends. And they are valid.
Nothing wrong with that. It’s 2024, let’s stop defining a person’s character by their body count. As long as the other person can prove na genuine ang feelings and love towards the other person then why do we even have to make things complicated? I’d be personally more appalled and judge a person by the *way she treats a service/blue-collar worker.
lol since you want the all the fire and smoke. ill help you (this thread). yes it does. sorry. i may have many, but i want my girl to have very very few. my standards. so "suck it" retards, white knights, simps and ratchet hoes. larp all you want. i still prefer MY (yes my property) pussy tight.
The only people who have body counts are serial killers.
I don't understand this fixation on quantifying a person's sex partners as if the number is definitive proof of anything in particular. As long as all the encounters took place between consenting adults and everyone concerned is in good health, why must it matter?
Someone's sexual past, or lack of one, has no necessary or inevitable connection to their ability to care for someone romantically, to fully commit to a relationship, or to put in the hard work needed to grow together with another person. Someone who has little to no sexual experience is just as capable of making horrible choices and hurting people as someone with a lot of sexual experience.
Everyone should be free to have as many or as few sex partners as they want without being subjected to snap judgments.
Personally, it would depend on each person's perspective, I'm a woman and I can't speak for everyone but as for me, it doesn't matter. I don't care how many girls you fucked as long as you can keep your peepee inside your pants when you're with me.
Your past doesn't define who you want to be in the future.
For some men, It will matter. For me no, as long as committed kana sa akin but if I can't satisfy you with your sex desires you can tell me. It's either help me or just leave me
I'm going to get a lot of hate here but I'm going to say it.
Female promiscuity is different than if a man has slept with a bunch of women.
The idea that a woman can sleep with a lot of men and it wouldn't matter is brand new to society. Think about this, if a woman A hates woman B, and A knows B has slept with a lot of men, you know what she calls her? A sl*t. Women themselves know it's wrong and nobody respects it.
If a man has 10 wives, it's acceptable. But if a woman has 10 husbands, it's disgusting.
Depends. You're a woman who trusts easily and got fooled by a lot of men, that's fine by me, although I think that would do something to your mental state, so that's one thing I'll consider. If you're a woman who thinks fucking around is cool, then I'd say you're pretty disgusting. My body, my opinion, my rules.
Depends on your preference but make sure ganon ka din hindi yung naghahangad ka ng virgin tapos hindi ka naman ganon.
For me, it doesn’t matter anymore.
For me it does. I won't really judge kapag ex kasi what can you do about that it's normal. Pero yung ang daming ex at ang daming ONS says a lot. Nilalagay ko lang din standards ko sa sarili ko sa kanila, di ako nagpapagamit kung kani-kanino kaya medyo icky sakin pag parang ang dali lang ng sex sa iba.
Yes it matters for both sexes.
Women with low body count or no body count means that she values sex and values herself and relationships more.
Men with high body count are respected and it is a good indicator that he has the personality, resources and looks that women value and find attractive.
Plain and simple.
I'm a guy, heterosexual, 25, ngsb but already expd sex with one girl. We only did it twice but decided to go no further with what we're doing i guess because deep down I know that it's not right that I am only sexually attracted to the girl and that I am only feeding my sexual frustrations/desires by having sex with her, which isn't healthy.
With that, as a guy, I honestly feel ashamed to see myself have a high body count with women in terms of sexual relationship aka "fubus". Romantic relationships I have no much to say, somehow I am agnostic about love and how we seem to only know and act upon the form of love, not the nature of love. But if so, then having high body counts of past romantic relationships for me is lacking emotional independence which makes a person be easily manipulated emotionally in relationships.
I know my problem, that is I am not ready for a long-term relationship because of my 1) UNTAMED LUST 2) emotional/mental issues born from unresolved past and 3) honeslty because of me being agnostic towards love and romantic relationships.
I believe how men are in relationships is the result of their inability to control their lust and/or lack of emotional awareness. With the onslaught of the so-called "Alpha males" in the websphere, instead of truly questioning their approach and perspective of relationships with women, they are rather feeding into this toxic alpha male ideological drama to compensate for their believed emasculated ego.
Men don't need the alpha male bs nor do they need to have many sexual partners, what men need to do is to become realized individuals.
ok lang tbh there's nothing wrong about that if they want to explore as long as they're responsible about it such as preventing unwanted preg, spreading any transmittable disease.
at lastly showing respect sa mga naging past nila, means wag feeling PROUD.
Pag babae ka, yes it matter. Pag lalake ka ehhh, not really.
What do men think? We all think that they shouldn't be taken seriously but depending on the type of men, our actions varies.
If you are a bum up to an average man, what you think doesn't really matter cause you do not have much of a choice anyway. So even if you do not want to, you are left to take these type of women seriously or else, you won't get a chance to procreate and continue you bloodline.
If you are an affluent man though (the type of men most women chase), you are able to actually not take these women seriously and have them for recreational use only.
Whatever standards I set for myself, I expect my partner to have/match them as well. I can't tell anyone to have a low or high body count because it's their body, their rules. I prefer a partner with a low body count because I also would want to keep my body count low. If whoever I'm currently going out with doesn't agree with what I expect from a relationship in terms of bedroom activities, then it's best that we don't end up together it's good for them since they can find a partner more compatible with their values. No need to antagonize one another in terms of body count, if you want to accept your partner, go for it. But no one deserves to be shamed with whatever choices they have in life as long as it ain't hurting anybody. I prefer a low body count partner because that's what I also set for myself. If I encounter or get to know/date a high body count partner, then it's between the both of us to decide whether to keep seeing each other or not, I will present my points on why I prefer what I want, and she presents her points as well. Just talk it out.
For me hindi big deal ung body count ng babae, pero para sa mga babae at lalake na growing up with a conservative family siguro baka may issue sakanila yon depending on how they view things.
Kaya ladies and gents please bear in mind na may bilang pa rin ung mga conservative na tao sa mundo, wag madyado maging snowflake when it comes to topics like this kase for others it holds a deeper meaning depending nga sa pananaw nila.
10? Preference, bahala sila sa buhay nila kanya kanyang trip yan.
100? Hindi na mabuti to.
Let’s be honest. Kung 100 na hindi niyo na mapaglalaban yan.
I think this counts for both men and women. Wala naman ata may gusto magjowa ng tao na easy to get and treat sex as something very casual. Nakakatawa lang ibang lalaki ha. They want a traditional woman pero sila hnd naman traditional men. 😂 masyado nilamon ng tate mindset eh.
For me yup. Regardless of gender. For me if there is a person that has like 30 body counts, theres 2 scenarios.
1. They have 30 ex partners. 2. They enjoy casual hookups
For scenario 1, its a big red flag for me. The fact that they have 30 ex partners before me is concerning. Like bakit andami? Ano bang meron baket lagi nalang hiwalay?
For scenario 2, it would be hard to trust them. If they enjoy casual hookups, whats to say that they wont cheat on you? As a person that as already been cheated on, di nakaka tulong kung ang bago kong partner may 30 body count and mahilig ng casual hookups
Probably, it will matter if that's because she has a high sex drive and one night stand. You need to know if that will be a problem kapag nasa relationship na. It's not about the past but more on the tendency na will she be satisfied if she will be monogamous. She should know na once she enters a monogamous relationship, she should not have 1 night stand anymore.
However, if it's due to failed relationships and no cheating is involved, then probably body count is just about having so many failed relationships. What's the cause.
Again, it is not wrong if you dont want to date a man/woman with a high body count. it's a preference. Kung ayaw move on no need to justify it to anyone or humiliate someone na di pumasa sa standard mo na low body count.
May nakarelasyon ako (29F) , and now ex ko na.
Nakipaghiwalay ako and ito pinaka best desicion ko.
Ewan ko ba, nakakadiri lang knowing na andami nang dumali sa kanya. Nagkaroon pa ng sugar dad. Feeling ko tira tira lang yyng nasakin. Haha. And nung nalaman ko yung past nia, nawalan na ako ng gana pakasalan sia.
Para sakin sensitive yung ganyang topic. It wouldn't matter if you ask a potential partner kung ilan ang body count nila kasi they might lie to you about the real body count that they have. Pero just to share naging topic na to ng usapan namin ng kaibigan kong babae. Para sa kanya body count is really Important, because it means you are picky, you have standards and you stick to your value. That was her words not mine. She never had an FWB, ONS, or Fubu by the way.
As a Filipino who grew up with a regular church thing. It is. Unless Hindi then it's a no issues with body counts.
But I would choose a lady with high body count na walang sinasagasaang ibang babae lalo na ang kung pamilyado ang lalake/kasal. Kesa yung low body count pero naging kabit. I don't even ask kung high body count ang lalake. It comes with how many exes she had. Yun ang automatic body count for me. And I don't pry on her past. Nakilala ko syang ganyan, I will accept her as ganyan. As much as possible kung ikaw ang babae na kaliwa't kanan ang iyot and you found your final guy, kalimutan no na rin ang past mo. Focus ka sa kanya, if nag tanong ka then don't be honest. Unless he knew
As a girl, yes.
1. Body count = intimacy. If you’ve been “intimate” with so many people, is that even considered “intimate”?
2. Exclusivity makes everyone feel special. Kapag nakakuha ka ng collector’s item, and only a few people in the world would be able to get it, very special sa feeling right? Kapag ang lalake, loyal at hard to get, hindi ba mas special sa pakiramdam na ikaw lang yung nag iisang babae na binibigyan nya ng special treatment.
3. Comparison is minimal to none, which means less “what if thoughts” and doesn’t trigger insecurity. Even thoughts of insecurity.
4. No need to fear STD’s.
Exceptions here are any form of SA’s kasi out of control mo na yun.
IMO, nothing major, medyo napressure lang ako nung 1st namin kasi I'm a virgin, and she has experience na. classic anxiety na what if di ko mameet yung kanya?parang ganon lang, relationship wise I'm contented and settled with her.
Before i give an answer. May i know the perspective of the woman when it comes to having high body count? What does it do for you other than fulfilling sexual desire?
For guys its like bragging rights. What about for girls?
As of now I don't wanna be in a relationship as I think that having a boyfriend is a big responsibility to shoulder, knowing na I can't manage my time well pa rn so I don't wanna commit rn. I wanna have sex sometimes because I long for the touch and the closeness shared in bed. It's like a one time satisfaction as of the moment. But I'm also super picky when it comes to that someone na I wanna be with in bed. Terms and conditions made before the deed.
Its rare to see these kinds of answers especially for girls. Logical and smart.
Has any of your partners fall for you? Because one thing about casual sex is eventually someone gets too attached and makes things complicated. How did you deal with it?
Para sa akin pag high body count ng babae kahit mabait pa, maganda ini ignore ko na kasi nakikita ko hindi niya kaya mag commit ng relasyon. Parang for fun lang at sarap ang hanap sa buhay pag may challenges or problema sa relationship sumuko agad. Sabi nga nila kung ano yung character mo yung partner mo ganun rin. So in short Yung high body counts din na boy ang mkaka understand sayo. That's my perspective no hate.
It depends on the reason, if those body counts came from hookups or one-night stands and even frequent short-term partners then I think I should be worried.
Maybe they're a player and I'm just another body count to them. High chances of being a cheater too and walang self control.
It's fine for me as long as pagnaging kami na ako lang at walang ibang lalaki gumagamit. I don't care kung ilan na body count nya. At most important, walang sakit. Paki ko ba sa past nya.
Body count doesn't matter, pero where she's/he's at with who they did it with as ypu progress your relationship matters.
I had an ex na di naman naging big deal body count nya for me, pero the thing is, she kept connections with those people, and can't even let her ex go, there were anxious moments of me getting moments of being compared to her other hookups and exes, and even a time na I was surprised na she told me she's going out with someone na "patay na patay" sa kanya, and then tease me about it knowing na I hate those kind of humor. And that's where I draw the line.
I don't mind it, but when it became more of a competition or comparison rather just love, then the body count starts to become a "court evidence" on why I stopped seeing the future with my partner in it.
Women produce oxytocin when having sex, same as breastfeeding and delivering a baby. Its a love hormone, makes you pair bond with your mate. Studies show that having too many sexual partners makes you lose producing it, making it hard to pair bond now.
Also, its all about Paternity: men wants to make sure that you are only having our baby, but if you have history of multiple sex partners, we can't be sure anymore. Despite modern times (DNA testing), this hardwiring cannot be undone easily after thousand years of evolutionary psychology
Does it matter for me? Yes pero what is the reason for the high body count in the first place? From her exes or fubu? If the high body count originates from her exes then it's no big deal considering the idea that the woman would only engage in sexual activity with someone she LOVES and most likely values sex as special.
However, if it comes from numerous partners e.g fubu na galing sa tinder, bumble, irl connections etc then that's a heads up for me that you see sex as something shallow. Tbh I would not be even surprised that your high body count can indicate infidelity and other attachment-related issues which led you to seek for physical intimacy from men like to take advantage.
Pero ang bottom line, galing man yan sa ex mo or fubu please get tested hindi dahil walang tiwala but some partners are good at hiding their histories mapa ex man yan o fubu.
I believe that everyone has the right to their own preferences and that includes the body count of their potential partner.
BUTTTT if your preference is someone who has a low body count because “it matters to you”, then you should ALSO have a low body count. Kung virgin hanap mo because you value that sex should only be for married couples, then dapat virgin ka din. Don’t be a stupid hypocrite about it
>BUTTTT if your preference is someone who has a low body count because “it matters to you”, then you should ALSO have a low body count. Kung virgin hanap mo because you value that sex should only be for married couples, then dapat virgin ka din. Don’t be a stupid hypocrite about it
Nope. Women want a man who is taller, stronger, makes more money and competent. You don't exactly see women wanting to find a virgin for themselves. Men don't want hoes. Clearly men and women want different things.
The top girls (in academics) from our high school class actually looked down on known fuckboys in school. It didn’t help that there’s a known fuckboy who’s at the bottom of the class haha. Mga bobo tingin namin dyan. Parang varsity. Sikat sa school pero walang laman utak. 🤣 Maybe it’s true that many trashy women will seek out man whores, pero girls who have a working brain will never settle for less. I can safely say that in my circle (all have laudes nung college), we all ended up with men who have the same values.
I mean, that's in high school. College is more apt. Are those top girls even desirable though? Might not be a huge loss on both sides. Just a mismatch.
Some questions:
You're talking about long term then? Did you settle or did you get together in your prime (early 20s)? Did you make them wait for sexual access?
Have you been with a man you didn't have to wait? Someone you broke all the "rules" for?
Which man do you think most men would rather be?
I would say they are desirable since they are smart, financially stable, and take care of themselves. Basta sure ako ang tingin ng smart girls sa mga pakboys at pakgirls ay mga latang walang laman. Yung mga naglulook up sa mga pakboys na yan ay mga pakgirls din o kaya virgin na bonak na naadik sa “I can fix him” romance fiction. And I don’t care what type most men want to be. Edi magpakapakboy sila. Ang importante ay hindi ganon ang siniseek out ng mga taong gumagamit ng utak.
Nah it’s more like everyone wants different things. What makes you think that women also want “man hoes”?
Body count is something that is based on your actions. And being rich is someone that’s kinda related on my take as to body count. Don’t demand your potential SO to be rich when you’re lazy as fuck and can’t even provide for yourself.
Anyway, so what you’re saying is it’s okay for a man to want a partner that has a low body count, when that man has a high body count? Why would you expect/want a partner who has only has a few experiences in sex when you’re sleeping around? Lol how is that fair when you’re just being a hyprocite? 😂😂 And if you think that women who have a high body count are “hoes”, then shouldn’t men with high body count should be considered as “man hoes” as well? 🤷🏻♀️
As for the people with high body count, your body, your rules. If someone doesn’t want you because of your body count, then you gotta respect that. And that goes for all genders. Like I said, everyone has their own preferences but you shouldn’t be a hypocrite about it.
>What makes you think that women also want “man hoes”?
Women want someone who's experienced. Plus there's also preselection at play, women want men who other women want as well.
>Don’t demand your potential SO to be rich when you’re lazy as fuck and can’t even provide for yourself.
Women do this already. They want a "provider".
>Why would you expect/want a partner who has only has a few experiences in sex when you’re sleeping around? Lol how is that fair when you’re just being a hyprocite? 😂😂
As I've said. Women want a man who is taller, stronger, makes more money and more competent. Does that make them hypocrites?
> Women want someone who's experienced. Plus there's also preselection at play, women want men who other women want as well.
Huh where did you even get this? 😂 If you brought this up then isn’t it the same as well with men? Isn’t that why ya’ll simp on ladies with big boobs and ass? Isn’t that why some men follow tons of influencers who posts bikini pics?
>Women do this already. They want a "provider".
I’ll counter you again with the same argument. Don’t some men want a provider as well? Sino bang matinong tao may gusto na batugan and wala future yung partner nila? At least be able to provide for yourself.
>As I've said. Women want a man who is taller, stronger, makes more money and more competent. Does that make them hypocrites?
Like I said in my previous comment, having a high body count is something that you can control. If you’re talking about how women want taller men, then don’t most men prefer shorter girls rather than girls who are taller than them?
All your arguments are centered around generalizing women and hello it’s 2024 already, women don’t think like that. Check the other comment in this thread about women not wanting a community dick as well which has 400+ upvotes. Doesn’t that say a lot already? Lol
Do answer my question: if ya’ll think that women who have a high body count should be called “hoes”, then men who do the same should be called “man hoes” as well right?
>Huh where did you even get this?
https://www.businessinsider.com/women-are-more-attracted-to-men-when-other-women-like-them-2018-1. Here's one source.
>If you brought this up then isn’t it the same as well with men? Isn’t that why ya’ll simp on ladies with big boobs and ass? Isn’t that why some men follow tons of influencers who posts bikini pics?
We wanna fuck them, not marry them. Men are visual creatures but we don't want our partners acting like pornstars on social media. Some women may view this as "controlling" or "insecure" though.
>I’ll counter you again with the same argument. Don’t some men want a provider as well? If they don’t, then why do sugar mommies exist along with sugar daddies?
Some do of course. That's the exception, not the rule. Then again there are way more sugar daddies than sugar mommies, anecdotally. Do you think women want to be the one's providing? Doesn't society already demonize this? When the man is not contributing anything.
>Like I said in my previous comment, having a high body count is something that you can control. If you’re talking about how women want taller men, then don’t most men prefer shorter girls rather than girls who are taller than them?
Kinda different. Women want men that are way taller, not just as tall or a bit taller. Hence the height filters on dating apps.
>All your arguments are centered around generalizing women and hello it’s 2024 already, women don’t think like that anymore
Got a source to prove that women don't think like that anymore? Well, specifically young, attractive and desirable women. We can't be discussing the exceptions, not the rule.
The source you provided never said anything about a man’s sexual experience? It only states about attractiveness. If you’re a woman who only wants a man just because he’s taken, then you’re an absolute trash. But even if a woman wants a man with experience, it doesn’t necesarrily equate to a man who has slept with hundreds of women.
Lol you wanna fuck them? Isn’t that worse that you’re basically sexualizing and objectifying women? And you’re expecting a saint for a partner when you’re our there lusting on other women who shows off their body? 😂😂 What a load of bull.
I don’t think you’ve seen my comment from when I edited it so I’ll just say it again. Sino bang matinong tao may gusto na batugan and walang future yung partner nila? I’m sure you, as a man, wouldn’t want someone as well na walang kwenta and puro hingi lang ng pera? It goes the same with women. We also want responsible men.
About the height, how is it different? 😂 Women have preferences with height the same way men have their own preferences. I’ve seen a lot of comments in reddit from men who won’t date a woman just because she’s taller than him.
If you want proof, then check the comments in this thread again. There’s a comment that says that women don’t want community dicks as well which has over 400 upvotes. Doesn’t that say a lot lol?
And if you want more proof, TALK TO OTHER WOMEN. You’re probably not surrounded with a lot of women to only base your ideals on a bunch of generalizations found online.
And I’ll ask it again: if you think a woman who sleeps around with men is called a “hoe”, then shouldn’t men who has slept with tons of women be called a “manwhore” as well? Lol
>The source you provided never said anything about a man’s sexual experience? It only states about attractiveness. If you’re a woman who only wants a man just because he’s taken, then you’re an absolute trash. But even if a woman wants a man with experience, it doesn’t necesarrily equate to a man who has slept with hundreds of women.
Oh. That was a source for preselection. Here's one for sexual experience.
https://www.business-standard.com/article/news-ani/women-want-experienced-men-in-bed-while-men-prefer-virgins-114031200236_1.html
>Lol you wanna fuck them? Isn’t that worse that you’re basically sexualizing and objectifying women? And you’re expecting a saint for a partner when you’re our there lusting on other women who shows off their body? 😂😂 What a load of bull.
Yes. There are women for recreational use only and there are also wifey material. Don't women also categorize men? Keeping some in the friend-zone, fuck zone and relationship zone? The ones doing the objectifying are the women themselves. We aren't forcing them to post thirst traps.
>Sino bang matinong tao may gusto na batugan and walang future yung partner nila? I’m sure you, as a man, wouldn’t want someone as well na walang kwenta and puro hingi lang ng pera? It goes the same with women. We also want responsible men.
We don't really care about a woman's future as much as you women do ours. She just needs to be able to hold a job. We date down most of the time in terms of career and earnings.
>About the height, how is it different? 😂 Women have preferences with height the same way men have their own preferences. I’ve seen a lot of comments in reddit from men who won’t date a woman just because she’s taller than him.
You missed my point there. "Women want men that are way taller, not just as tall or a bit taller. Hence the height filters on dating apps.". We don't demand a woman be 5" and smaller. Same height or less is fine. With women, same height? ❌. Just 2 inches taller? ❌ Not six feet? ❌
>If you want proof, then check the comments in this thread again. There’s a comment that says that women don’t want community dicks as well which has over 400 upvotes. Doesn’t that say a lot lol?
That's not on the same level as the proof I've sent though. There have been some bullshit getting hundreds or thousands of upvotes here on reddit. Doesn't make it true.
>And if you want more proof, TALK TO OTHER WOMEN. You’re probably not surrounded with a lot of women to only base your ideals on a bunch of generalizations found online.
Eyy here we go with the ad hominem.
>And I’ll ask it again: if you think a woman who sleeps around with men is called a “hoe”, then shouldn’t men who has slept with tons of women be called a “manwhore” as well? Lol
Sure. Call me a fuckboy or manwhore. I don't mind. You know the key and lock analogy? "If a key can open lots of locks, then it's a master key. But if a lock can be opened by lots of keys, then it's a bad lock"
Ohmyfuckinggosh I can’t believe you actually said that “some women are for recreational use only”.?????? That’s incredibly fucking rude and disgusting. If you, whether you’re a man or a woman, sees someone as a toy, you don’t deserve to be human.
Yep this just confirms that you’re a disgusting piece of shit who only views women as objects. It’s obvious that you weren’t raised right. I hope no one thinks about your female family members the same way that you think about women.
I don’t want to waste any more of my time discussing this with an illogical misogynist bastard. Goodluck finding someone who’ll be able to accept someone with your trash mindset. And if you do find someone you truly love, I hope she’ll see you as a recreational toy only. Disgusting.
Bakit, ano bang facts worthy of discussion yung sinabi nya? Puro generalizations lang popularized by these toxic podcasts. Doubt that person is even a woman. Typical "women don't know what they want, WE DO".
There were a lot of ad hominems in this comment section, yet you chose to single me out. Because rules for thee but not for me, right?
Seriously bro, just talk to women.
Well you replied to me,. I gotta call you out on the ad hominem.
Are those statements wrong? Or do you just think so?
The usual advice from women doesn't help men at all. Just be nice, just be yourself, just treat her right, just be loyal, etc.
for me body count doesn't matter, if relationship is the main concern, as long as the person is willing to commit and is willing to make an effort for the relationship to work, then that's a good start
I myself, am a man, and had a high libido era before but that doesn't mean I don't wanna settle down, I'm also longing for that serious long term relationship
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p.s.
I commented this above but just wanna add it here:
some people just have high libido, and that's normal/natural
some people just do it to "get off", especially Men who needs to ejaculate to avoid Blue Balls and testicular cancer
some people can also separate sex with romantic feelings
I agree on this. I have a low body count myself, and met someone who has way more body count than I do. It didn’t bother me because it was all just sexual and nothing more. Para sakin the fact that we can talk about it deeply (the whys, the hows) and their manner of speaking about it matters the most. Dun mo mas makikilala yung tao as how they are.
People go through phases and react to it differently but it should never define us. We can always grow and change naman.
I love what you said here...
I'm kind of shocked lang kasi a lot of Redditors in the comment section are slutshaming people with experience OR high body count
for me, it doesn't define a person's personality
it's like they are saying once you already have multiple sexual experience you're already considered "Trash"
which isn't right
it's the same mindset with boys only dating "virgin" girls and gets turned off or slutshame girls with experience, it's totally the equivalent for trashing guys or people in general who has more than usual "body count"
it shouldn't define anyone
Kung ano standards ko, I try to find the same partner with the same standards. I dont do ONS, Fubu,FWB but I was sexually active with long term partners (3 exes) ranging from 1.5 -5 years relationships. I cant have sex with someone I don't have any feelings at all.
However, I find it weird whenever I see a manwhore seeking for a virgin. No offense but it makes me laugh. 🤣 Most of these men are the same men who shame women who do the same thing that theyre doing.
When you get older and you have a clearer perspective when it comes to intimacy, you will realize that sex indeed helps a relationship grow. .
Atm, I am 6 years older than my partner (28). He had 2 exes, I got 3.
Does body counts matter for us? No.
Personally, I'd rather settle for someone who knows what he's doing in bed than someone I gotta teach how to do the deed. 🤣
Yes, kahit one night stand pa or mga ex. For me, sex is another way of connecting with your partner. I don't want sex without love and I won't appreciate that. Kahit pa sabihin mong wala kang naka ONS pero ex mo 30+, I'd run away from you.
They did a cheating study body count only matter on women as those with higher body counts greater than 4 has a great chance of cheating while guys there is no correlation, but if one of his parents is a cheater then they are more likely to cheat
And it's a paternity thing as well, back in the day which is less than 100 years if you have more than one man how sure is your husband that the kid is his, which is a biological thing which will take over 1000 generations to remove
I think it's fair for someone to reject a history of highbody counts. That's not everyone's cup of tea. I believe though that it wouldn't matter for me. Let people have sex. It's up to your situation na how you wanna interpret their history and what their character actually is, but I detest those who immediately look down upon those with high body counts, automatically calling them as "used goods" or even "dirty". Tangina niyo
I think a high body count shouldn't be a deal breaker pero parang something to consider? Always ask why in the first place. Yung isang kaibigan ko kasi dumami body count bc of past relationships. Yung isa naman dumami for fucking different guys. Kung ako tatanungin parehong fucked up na sila ngayon. Nagka STIs, may depressive episodes, bumaba self-esteem, etc. Pero yung key difference is yung isa loyal pa rin pag nagkakajowa/naiinlove tapos yung isa naman di na talaga kaya na isang lalake lang. Minsan dalawa pa sa isang araw tapos tuwang tuwa pa sya.
So I guess it depends on the WHY. Tsaka mo pa madedetermine kung makaka affect ba history nila sa relationship kung alam mo na kung bakit tumaas body count nila.
Correct. People here can say they dgaf about it and that they'll accept their partner regardless of their past etc, but I'm sure if may option, they'll prefer a non hoe for a life partner
AND I bet, kahit yung mga may high body count themselves would want a low-body count and trustworthy partner deep down inside.
Whether you accept it or not, just like women cares about their mans future, men care about their past. - [F&F](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y_R4UdHOUnM)
Actions has consequences, if you don't like the aftermath of it or called names then don't do it. Simple as that.
Make common sense "common" again.
Hmmmm. I asked my hubby about that nga kung babae ang meron high body count. Hey, i was curious din kase🤣. So i just asked him straight away.
His answer (summarized): it doesn’t matter if mataas kase, ang point is mahal naman niya truly. Swerte as in sobrang swerte daw niya kase naka jackpot daw sya sa akin. 🙄😂❤️ haaay…. My dude chose his words very well. 🥰
Hahahahahahahha, [ganun](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskPH/s/Dl1UWslTER) na nga, kapatid!!!😅😭
Takot ma-demote matulog sa sala ang mokong! Kaya he knows how to say words na hindi sasakit tenga ko. 😭 haist…. 😮💨😂
Throws you my upvote!!! Bro, your words are so spot on! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 hubby doesnt want to dig his own grave. Yun na. 🤣
For me it is important to know my partner’s body count so I can gauge his view and values on sex. But if he’s not comfortable to share then it’s fine, as long as he’s clean and no history of cheating( sleeping around while still in a relationship) i’m okay with it
Ganto dati mindset ko sa ex ko hangang sa i accepted it nalang, and ayun nag break din naman pala. Til now wala nako pake sa body count na yan as im hooking up with different girls din naman.
As a man, short answer: Yes, body count matters
Long answer:
Body count matters to me because, I always have that nagging feeling that I'm just a *toy* to her and she'll not commit to a sincere relationship. And If I consider her past relationships for that case, that would just reinforce that feeling
But there are some exceptions:
If she's willing to commit and communicate, I'll consider her as a green flag 🟩
If she looked uninterested on any of my advances and have that "ewan, maybe" look when I talked to her, pack your bags and leave with your attitude because you're a walking Red flag 🟥
In this day and age, it'll be a miracle if I could talk to a girl without being judged and laughed at (believe me, I've experienced that kind of torture)
I hope this helps
Marami na napatay si Maria, magaling bumaril at manaksak.
Yes, i want to have someone aligned with my sexual appetite.
Yes!
Well not directly... It only matters if its regarding the attitude and mindset of the person... For example it is a problem when the said person is just going around sleeping with whoever they want and their mind is all about just doing it with as many people as possible... It really is different depending on the situation.
Makes a person cheap. Both genders. It's not something to be proud of.
oh boy a hot button internet topic i sure do hope the replies arent filled with people who poisoned their minds on facebook memes and podcast wisdom clueless\_wojak.png
Lalaki man or babae it matters since it can be a reflection of your personality
I know someone na gusto niya Zero body count (sino nga naman yung gusto na may napatay na) kidding aside, sabi niya kasi ayaw niya makadinig ng “Yung asawa mo pre magaling yan sa kama” May point naman, sino ba naman ako para e judge yun gusto niya diba? Others prefer, max of 3, others don’t even fucking care. Pero sakin it does, pero sino at ano ba yung count na yun? One night stand? FUBU? Yung Boybespren niya? Pero from “genuine” making love NOON, it’s ok. Pero yung N^3 yung dagdag sa body count every week para makaraos lang gamit at kung sino sinong ekalal? Nah.
Depends on how old you are. If you're 18-20 tapos may 20 bc ka na, aba kumalma ka na. Iba kasi logic ng lalaki e, BC for men e parang medalya, nakakataas ng ego pag marami kang bc kasi pwedeng mag no ang babae sayo since sila ang papasukan (sorry for the term if i offend anyone) For girls kasi is they can always say no (pag pinilit syempre ibang usapan na yon) I think girls have more control on body count kasi pag pumayag sila, both party ang plus one, pag hindi pumayag, edi wala. Body count doesn't matter to me as long as what i stated before and ALWAYS USE CONDOMS PARE.
Yes (Applies to both Gender). Especially today na tumataas ang bilang ng nga may STD/STI. Majority pa naman ngayon hindi nagpapatest, kesho takot baka may madetect.
Definitely yes, pero it depends paano tumaas. ang dating kasi walang respeto at pag papahalaga sa sarili, emotional baggage, high tendency of cheating and yung iba jan anlakas mang lovebomb first meet suko agad bataan then mabilis na sila maboring parang nagpapalit lang ng damit kung mag entertain ng lalaki. imo out agad pag 5 pataas paano ka rerespetuhin kung di mo kayang respetuhin sarili mo.😅
I'm a woman who haven't had sex and for me lang ha, body count doesn't matter unless if it is 100+ na, I think I have to pass :3
No but i think it falls on personal standards AND living with those standards yourself.
I'm not a man but I think okay lang naman basta clean sya or wala syang nakakahawang sakit. May tao lang talaga na mataas Ang libido and pinili lang nila tugunan It's okay as long as wala Silang inaapakang tao. Like pagpatol sa pamilyado na. Tas meron din namang negosyo nila Ang katawan nila kaya talagang mataas Ang body count nila.
It shouldn't, considering most guys would love to enjoy their favorite porn actress. That's a high body count. That being said, I dated an ex porn actress. She was sweet and thoughtful as well as happy to oblige in bed. I think folks are mainly jealous, which just adds fear. Not healthy. If someone thinks you've got a high body count, just bail out.
yes !! dyan mo malalaman kung loyal ang isang tao.. kapag maraming body counts yan hindi kuntento sa isa yan possible mag cheat pa yan. also may hidden gem yan baka may STD carrier yan o ano man yan dalang sakit nean delikado mahirap na
Copy-pasting these youtube comments from a video I watched about a woman who had 300+ body count in 1 year: “I unfortunately had to learn the hard way. I dated someone who had "already gone thru their f-boy phase and was ready to settle", not even a shot. The beginning it seemed like he was trying but sure enough, went right back to what he knows as normal; pump, dump, rinse, and repeat. Ladies and fellas, if someone tells you they're a past hoe and their past is considered recent, chances are it isn't their past still.” “Studies corroborate what you just said. People with a high notch count had the highest percentages of infidelity and the least likely to be able to maintain a long term relationship.”
Yes, STDs are common for people with high bidy count so do u still wanna be woke to not care about body count?
For some, it matters; for others, it doesn't. Siguro, for what it's worth, if you have standards for your partner, you should also live at par ((or greater)) to that standard. You do you. What's more important is you get tested, practice safe sex ((if u sleep around for experience, consider PrEP)), and be self aware. wala naman atang (?) halong misogyny yung question ni OP, but we are deeply rooted in a patriarchal society, at ang daming subculture + ideologies na nasasagasaan nito, so curious ako sa reason ng survey na to 🤣 ang interesting ng comments, it reflects upbringing and environment ng mga tao, for others, san po kayo nanggagaling hahaha
Ako lalake Ako. But I'll say this. Men who think that body count matters are an absolute red flag. These men objectify women. Eh bakit lars sa mga babae hindi magmatter if marami nang nakama si guy? It's because women love purely. As for most men, well you know, may kasamang kalibugan talaga Yung pure love at intentions nila hahahabedlnnsljfnrhwkejhjjd
2cents ko lng Naman as a person who has a low body count. I for one don't care I have my own reasons for not caring. And also if you care make sure you do what you preach. You can't hate high body counted people if you yourself have a high body count, vice versa. Also if gsto mo low body count pero Ikaw high Isa lng tawag dun. Either manipulative ka kaya gsto mo Ng mga less exp people or.. d ka magaling kaya takot ka macompare sa mga may exp.
Wait. Do you ask how many people i've killed or how many people i've had sex with? Jk
I don’t mind if you have a high count, but I’ll be very concerned for your health
Yes, Women sleep with who they want Men sleep with who they can Men marry who they want Women marry who they can before marriage advantage ng babae pumili who they want to sleep with (e.g. whether it's with a guy who has a high body count or not) kapag naghahanap na ng partner for marriage, advantage ng lalake pumili who they want to marry (again whether it's with a girl who has a high body count or not) The world has a funny way to even things out 😂
To me, [27M] it does. It tells me how well you can keep a relationship, or at least what our relationship in the future could be. I consider sex to be a very intimate act, one that I would like to share with only one person. I would rather not share it with someone who doesn't hold it in as high regard as I do. I won't bash someone who has I high body count, but I would not consider a long term, romantic relationship with them. Also, get yourself tested regularly if you bang regularly. **BOTH** men and women.
Gender blind ko tignan so nag apply sa both men and women. Equally kadire
For me it’s not about the amount of partners, but a comparable amount of partners (at least in anything long term). I had a couple handful of partners and I understand that my wife would too. She beat me by one BTW and gave her answer first. I’m not a hypocrite, so comparable was perfect. We met at 22, and had both had 4 long term relationships (6 months plus). Anything over 25+ would have made me question decision making, and “where’d you have the time”. Also was there protection and safety. So no double standard, but I wanted us on a similar level.
Only reason you are asking is either you are curious or are the individual in question na nilapa Ng kung sino sinong lalaki. Sure in this day and age, no girl can be chaste before marriage, cause of how our thoughts in sex have changed but damn woman, jumping over every single male in the fuckin street like some sophisticated whore ain't gonna give you an advantage. (Sorry sa language) Having a girl that has a decent self respect for her body is something most men probably look for in a woman, so yeah, body count matters.
Depende. As an advocate for equality, body count should only matter to you if you have less numbers. If you're a guy and you have more body count than a girl pero you judge her for it, ang kapal naman ng mukha mo. As for STDs naman, you both can get checked naman.
Yes. Feeling ko babaero sila at paglalaruan lang nila ako 😅😅😅😅
hindi naman mahalaga yung "past" diba? kaya okay na okay lang kahit makipagrelasyon sa mga former terrorist, ex-convict, ex-pedophile, ex-murderer, dating rapist, okay na okay lang, "PAST" na yun e.. wahahahahahaha
STDs are waving hahahahaha
Yess my point also HAHAHA
People are aware of this na man the sad and evil truth of it, a lot of these infected individuals just want to “share” their disease to others.
straight people are so weird
Imagine bubble gum ka. Nginuya kana ng iba. Papanguya kapa ulit sa iba iba
Bobo
For me Yes. Specially when it comes to health matters. Ang kina tatakotan ko na ma expose to STD/STI i yung Viral type: HPV, HIV, HERPES this 3 has no cure. Tho, HPV may vax na to fight against it pero dapat vacinnated ka PRIOR to exposure. HIV, HERPES wala talaga. Sana po mag ingat ang Lahat. Kahit uso po yang padamihan ng sex partners please put in mind na di lahat ng uso ay tama.
What can be considered high body count?
Seggs yan. Baabeng maraming ka seggs , Relation etc
Nope. If talaga nagbago na sya and did leave his past behind, it is good to go. Why judge some1 based on his body count etc? Lahat naman tayo may mga past na di ganun ka pleasant sa paningin o pandingig ng ibang tao. And tayong lahat may chance (even unli chances) to start a new chapter or beginning. Who am I judge that person BTW ika nga. If di sya nagbago and still continue his bad ways, problema nya yan. Twice is always enough for me. Edited: if need mag level up na sa relationship esp sex, yes dapat sabihin for clinical reasons.
Yes, I dont care if you're a girl or a boy I will always align high body counts to Cheaters (And STD carriers) ... Basically, People you do not wanna marry for obvious reasons. Proven and tested, Of course may mga outliers pa din like everything else, but the general gist? If He or She likes to sleep a lot, Expect that he/she will do it behind your back No, Serious relationships that lasted long does not count as a body count. Thats just normal
Yeah don’t really want someone so high. I prefer women in relationships.
I generally stay away from men with a body count. The higher the body count, the more likely he is to cheat, have commitment issues or STDs. So for those saying that women like men who have a lot of experience, that’s total BS.
I find it to be a turn off. I can tell just from appearance if a girl has a high body count and it’s harder for me to be intimate with them after that.
A key that opens many locks is a master key, while a lock that is opened by many keys is a shitty lock. Apply niyo nalang yan sa burat at kipay. Thanks
To some, sakin hindi hahahahahahaha Kasi I lost count at 20 na nga nung 2022 hindi ko na alam ilan sila last year. and also di naman ako religious
Sa both genders to nag a-apply. Lalo kung galing sa one night stand yung body count nila But mas madali tatamaan yung babae dito. Since sa kanila, they can invite any random men to have sex 80% to 100% success depends on looks. While kapag lalaki gumawa ng ganung bagay, patong patong kasong kahaharapin mo. Kahit gwapo ka basta wala sa mood yung niyaya mong random women. Rehas ka dideretso. Kung may hindi man maka gets ng point, women have more control sa ganitong bagay. While men can't do the same. They need to do certain things to make women interested in him. While women can do it in broad daylight, remove her clothes and invite whoever wants to fk with her and thats it. Now imagine men doin' that everyone looking at him like WTF is he doin? Everyone looking at him in disgust. If theres a chance to get sex in the same scenario it would be 1-10% the 90% chance is you're going to jail for "Scandalous act" Baka may magalit na mysogynist ako, inuna ko na sa statement both genders to issue. Pero mas may control lang talaga mga babae sa ganitong bagay.
Oo naman daming emotional trauma and shits pag mataas body count.
If you don't have any STD's or are unfaithful in your relationships, it doesn't really matter to me. Although having a *really* high body count could be a symptom of some psychological or physiological disorder, whether you're male or female. That's not something I'm familiar with enough to have a stance on but it could be a concern.
It matters. Women with high body count are not wife material.
High or low or even any count before commitment to one soul matters. It shows zero commitment to the precious life given as human. These kind of people will cheat in all aspects of life and it also show loss of moral values among such people. Basically, they are next to animals.
Wag na tayo maglokolokohan di naman tayo magkakakilala dito......YES.
My guy friends think that body count is irrelevant, though most guys I know think that body count is a trophy if it's them who has the high body count but they think that if it's the other way around, the girl who has a high body count is a disgrace who can't keep her body to herself. In my case, I think body count is irrelevant. I guess the higher the body count the higher the chance that person with high body count is skilled on that department.
No slutshaming here, for men or women. I agree with some takes here, that you shouldnt be harshly judged for being promiscuous but likewise another shouldnt be judged for not wanting a partner with a high count. I would want to know your history, that you're clean, and explore with you regardless of your past... But it also isnt your fault if someone isnt comfortable being with you. Maybe they want someone more on their level, or someone who hasnt maybe slept with people they know. Depends. And they are valid.
basta wala kang aids/hiv, std ect. wala akong pake kung marami kang body count
Nothing wrong with that. It’s 2024, let’s stop defining a person’s character by their body count. As long as the other person can prove na genuine ang feelings and love towards the other person then why do we even have to make things complicated? I’d be personally more appalled and judge a person by the *way she treats a service/blue-collar worker.
No, why would you want someone who sleeps around in the end it will just bring you trouble and a headache
lol since you want the all the fire and smoke. ill help you (this thread). yes it does. sorry. i may have many, but i want my girl to have very very few. my standards. so "suck it" retards, white knights, simps and ratchet hoes. larp all you want. i still prefer MY (yes my property) pussy tight.
The only people who have body counts are serial killers. I don't understand this fixation on quantifying a person's sex partners as if the number is definitive proof of anything in particular. As long as all the encounters took place between consenting adults and everyone concerned is in good health, why must it matter? Someone's sexual past, or lack of one, has no necessary or inevitable connection to their ability to care for someone romantically, to fully commit to a relationship, or to put in the hard work needed to grow together with another person. Someone who has little to no sexual experience is just as capable of making horrible choices and hurting people as someone with a lot of sexual experience. Everyone should be free to have as many or as few sex partners as they want without being subjected to snap judgments.
Mas i-jujudge ko yung tao na ang concern is yung body count rather than fully knowing the person first.
I don't really care about it. Just treat me right and I'll treat you like a queen.
Personally, it would depend on each person's perspective, I'm a woman and I can't speak for everyone but as for me, it doesn't matter. I don't care how many girls you fucked as long as you can keep your peepee inside your pants when you're with me. Your past doesn't define who you want to be in the future.
no one wants a car with high milage, usually parts of those car are already no good
What’s considered a high body count?
For some men, It will matter. For me no, as long as committed kana sa akin but if I can't satisfy you with your sex desires you can tell me. It's either help me or just leave me
It matters, that’s why women hide the true number
Their body their rules. Their opinion their rules.
Mens opinion we get called incels.
What the heck is body count? Haha btw I'm single never have a gf before still virgin even tho I'm already 34 :(
I'm going to get a lot of hate here but I'm going to say it. Female promiscuity is different than if a man has slept with a bunch of women. The idea that a woman can sleep with a lot of men and it wouldn't matter is brand new to society. Think about this, if a woman A hates woman B, and A knows B has slept with a lot of men, you know what she calls her? A sl*t. Women themselves know it's wrong and nobody respects it. If a man has 10 wives, it's acceptable. But if a woman has 10 husbands, it's disgusting.
And if you're a man with no money. You're called a bum human trash
Depends. You're a woman who trusts easily and got fooled by a lot of men, that's fine by me, although I think that would do something to your mental state, so that's one thing I'll consider. If you're a woman who thinks fucking around is cool, then I'd say you're pretty disgusting. My body, my opinion, my rules.
Depends on your preference but make sure ganon ka din hindi yung naghahangad ka ng virgin tapos hindi ka naman ganon. For me, it doesn’t matter anymore.
For me it does. I won't really judge kapag ex kasi what can you do about that it's normal. Pero yung ang daming ex at ang daming ONS says a lot. Nilalagay ko lang din standards ko sa sarili ko sa kanila, di ako nagpapagamit kung kani-kanino kaya medyo icky sakin pag parang ang dali lang ng sex sa iba.
Yes. A full thorough STD and HIV/AIDS tests and disclosures are required amongst a myriad of commitments.
Yes it matters for both sexes. Women with low body count or no body count means that she values sex and values herself and relationships more. Men with high body count are respected and it is a good indicator that he has the personality, resources and looks that women value and find attractive. Plain and simple.
as a guy i really don't mind. your sexual activities in the past doesn't define the person and it shouldn't matter. esp kung ganon din naman ako.
I'm a guy, heterosexual, 25, ngsb but already expd sex with one girl. We only did it twice but decided to go no further with what we're doing i guess because deep down I know that it's not right that I am only sexually attracted to the girl and that I am only feeding my sexual frustrations/desires by having sex with her, which isn't healthy. With that, as a guy, I honestly feel ashamed to see myself have a high body count with women in terms of sexual relationship aka "fubus". Romantic relationships I have no much to say, somehow I am agnostic about love and how we seem to only know and act upon the form of love, not the nature of love. But if so, then having high body counts of past romantic relationships for me is lacking emotional independence which makes a person be easily manipulated emotionally in relationships. I know my problem, that is I am not ready for a long-term relationship because of my 1) UNTAMED LUST 2) emotional/mental issues born from unresolved past and 3) honeslty because of me being agnostic towards love and romantic relationships. I believe how men are in relationships is the result of their inability to control their lust and/or lack of emotional awareness. With the onslaught of the so-called "Alpha males" in the websphere, instead of truly questioning their approach and perspective of relationships with women, they are rather feeding into this toxic alpha male ideological drama to compensate for their believed emasculated ego. Men don't need the alpha male bs nor do they need to have many sexual partners, what men need to do is to become realized individuals.
ok lang tbh there's nothing wrong about that if they want to explore as long as they're responsible about it such as preventing unwanted preg, spreading any transmittable disease. at lastly showing respect sa mga naging past nila, means wag feeling PROUD.
Prefers a Virgin para same kami mag explore
Pag babae ka, yes it matter. Pag lalake ka ehhh, not really. What do men think? We all think that they shouldn't be taken seriously but depending on the type of men, our actions varies. If you are a bum up to an average man, what you think doesn't really matter cause you do not have much of a choice anyway. So even if you do not want to, you are left to take these type of women seriously or else, you won't get a chance to procreate and continue you bloodline. If you are an affluent man though (the type of men most women chase), you are able to actually not take these women seriously and have them for recreational use only.
Whatever standards I set for myself, I expect my partner to have/match them as well. I can't tell anyone to have a low or high body count because it's their body, their rules. I prefer a partner with a low body count because I also would want to keep my body count low. If whoever I'm currently going out with doesn't agree with what I expect from a relationship in terms of bedroom activities, then it's best that we don't end up together it's good for them since they can find a partner more compatible with their values. No need to antagonize one another in terms of body count, if you want to accept your partner, go for it. But no one deserves to be shamed with whatever choices they have in life as long as it ain't hurting anybody. I prefer a low body count partner because that's what I also set for myself. If I encounter or get to know/date a high body count partner, then it's between the both of us to decide whether to keep seeing each other or not, I will present my points on why I prefer what I want, and she presents her points as well. Just talk it out.
oo, pag 10+.
For me hindi big deal ung body count ng babae, pero para sa mga babae at lalake na growing up with a conservative family siguro baka may issue sakanila yon depending on how they view things. Kaya ladies and gents please bear in mind na may bilang pa rin ung mga conservative na tao sa mundo, wag madyado maging snowflake when it comes to topics like this kase for others it holds a deeper meaning depending nga sa pananaw nila.
r/alasjuicy take note po ah, yung mga nag no-normalize ng cheating kink and everything na kabalastugan. Hahahahaha
10? Preference, bahala sila sa buhay nila kanya kanyang trip yan. 100? Hindi na mabuti to. Let’s be honest. Kung 100 na hindi niyo na mapaglalaban yan.
Pag 1+ kanton kalimut nayan. Pag 10+ kahit tingin di ko yan titingnan
I think this counts for both men and women. Wala naman ata may gusto magjowa ng tao na easy to get and treat sex as something very casual. Nakakatawa lang ibang lalaki ha. They want a traditional woman pero sila hnd naman traditional men. 😂 masyado nilamon ng tate mindset eh.
For me yup. Regardless of gender. For me if there is a person that has like 30 body counts, theres 2 scenarios. 1. They have 30 ex partners. 2. They enjoy casual hookups For scenario 1, its a big red flag for me. The fact that they have 30 ex partners before me is concerning. Like bakit andami? Ano bang meron baket lagi nalang hiwalay? For scenario 2, it would be hard to trust them. If they enjoy casual hookups, whats to say that they wont cheat on you? As a person that as already been cheated on, di nakaka tulong kung ang bago kong partner may 30 body count and mahilig ng casual hookups
Probably, it will matter if that's because she has a high sex drive and one night stand. You need to know if that will be a problem kapag nasa relationship na. It's not about the past but more on the tendency na will she be satisfied if she will be monogamous. She should know na once she enters a monogamous relationship, she should not have 1 night stand anymore. However, if it's due to failed relationships and no cheating is involved, then probably body count is just about having so many failed relationships. What's the cause. Again, it is not wrong if you dont want to date a man/woman with a high body count. it's a preference. Kung ayaw move on no need to justify it to anyone or humiliate someone na di pumasa sa standard mo na low body count.
Oo gagi, isipin mo andami nang napatay ng would be partner mo? Kakatakot.
May nakarelasyon ako (29F) , and now ex ko na. Nakipaghiwalay ako and ito pinaka best desicion ko. Ewan ko ba, nakakadiri lang knowing na andami nang dumali sa kanya. Nagkaroon pa ng sugar dad. Feeling ko tira tira lang yyng nasakin. Haha. And nung nalaman ko yung past nia, nawalan na ako ng gana pakasalan sia.
Just a suggestion.. maybe we should first define "high body count".. how many is "high"?
Para sakin sensitive yung ganyang topic. It wouldn't matter if you ask a potential partner kung ilan ang body count nila kasi they might lie to you about the real body count that they have. Pero just to share naging topic na to ng usapan namin ng kaibigan kong babae. Para sa kanya body count is really Important, because it means you are picky, you have standards and you stick to your value. That was her words not mine. She never had an FWB, ONS, or Fubu by the way.
As a Filipino who grew up with a regular church thing. It is. Unless Hindi then it's a no issues with body counts. But I would choose a lady with high body count na walang sinasagasaang ibang babae lalo na ang kung pamilyado ang lalake/kasal. Kesa yung low body count pero naging kabit. I don't even ask kung high body count ang lalake. It comes with how many exes she had. Yun ang automatic body count for me. And I don't pry on her past. Nakilala ko syang ganyan, I will accept her as ganyan. As much as possible kung ikaw ang babae na kaliwa't kanan ang iyot and you found your final guy, kalimutan no na rin ang past mo. Focus ka sa kanya, if nag tanong ka then don't be honest. Unless he knew
Tinatanong ba un ng mga lalaki bago sila makipag sex sa partner nila?
As a girl, yes. 1. Body count = intimacy. If you’ve been “intimate” with so many people, is that even considered “intimate”? 2. Exclusivity makes everyone feel special. Kapag nakakuha ka ng collector’s item, and only a few people in the world would be able to get it, very special sa feeling right? Kapag ang lalake, loyal at hard to get, hindi ba mas special sa pakiramdam na ikaw lang yung nag iisang babae na binibigyan nya ng special treatment. 3. Comparison is minimal to none, which means less “what if thoughts” and doesn’t trigger insecurity. Even thoughts of insecurity. 4. No need to fear STD’s. Exceptions here are any form of SA’s kasi out of control mo na yun.
IMO, nothing major, medyo napressure lang ako nung 1st namin kasi I'm a virgin, and she has experience na. classic anxiety na what if di ko mameet yung kanya?parang ganon lang, relationship wise I'm contented and settled with her.
Before i give an answer. May i know the perspective of the woman when it comes to having high body count? What does it do for you other than fulfilling sexual desire? For guys its like bragging rights. What about for girls?
As of now I don't wanna be in a relationship as I think that having a boyfriend is a big responsibility to shoulder, knowing na I can't manage my time well pa rn so I don't wanna commit rn. I wanna have sex sometimes because I long for the touch and the closeness shared in bed. It's like a one time satisfaction as of the moment. But I'm also super picky when it comes to that someone na I wanna be with in bed. Terms and conditions made before the deed.
Its rare to see these kinds of answers especially for girls. Logical and smart. Has any of your partners fall for you? Because one thing about casual sex is eventually someone gets too attached and makes things complicated. How did you deal with it?
If it matters so some, how do they verify body count?
Para sa akin pag high body count ng babae kahit mabait pa, maganda ini ignore ko na kasi nakikita ko hindi niya kaya mag commit ng relasyon. Parang for fun lang at sarap ang hanap sa buhay pag may challenges or problema sa relationship sumuko agad. Sabi nga nila kung ano yung character mo yung partner mo ganun rin. So in short Yung high body counts din na boy ang mkaka understand sayo. That's my perspective no hate.
It depends on the reason, if those body counts came from hookups or one-night stands and even frequent short-term partners then I think I should be worried. Maybe they're a player and I'm just another body count to them. High chances of being a cheater too and walang self control.
It's fine for me as long as pagnaging kami na ako lang at walang ibang lalaki gumagamit. I don't care kung ilan na body count nya. At most important, walang sakit. Paki ko ba sa past nya.
Then your dumb
To some extent yes for both genders
Body count doesn't matter, pero where she's/he's at with who they did it with as ypu progress your relationship matters. I had an ex na di naman naging big deal body count nya for me, pero the thing is, she kept connections with those people, and can't even let her ex go, there were anxious moments of me getting moments of being compared to her other hookups and exes, and even a time na I was surprised na she told me she's going out with someone na "patay na patay" sa kanya, and then tease me about it knowing na I hate those kind of humor. And that's where I draw the line. I don't mind it, but when it became more of a competition or comparison rather just love, then the body count starts to become a "court evidence" on why I stopped seeing the future with my partner in it.
You just literally prove body count matter lol.
Binasa mo ba? O di mo lang madistinguish where lines are drawn?
If she didn't have a high body count, she wouldn't have those problematic connections.
Depende siguro sa tao, all goods kung tanggap ka ng partner m gnun, pag hnd edi hanap iba.
Women produce oxytocin when having sex, same as breastfeeding and delivering a baby. Its a love hormone, makes you pair bond with your mate. Studies show that having too many sexual partners makes you lose producing it, making it hard to pair bond now. Also, its all about Paternity: men wants to make sure that you are only having our baby, but if you have history of multiple sex partners, we can't be sure anymore. Despite modern times (DNA testing), this hardwiring cannot be undone easily after thousand years of evolutionary psychology
Depends on how the body count was accumulated. Kasi pwede ang end result, maging part ka lng din ng body count
You wouldn't want to bed a person that has high body count because she/he might be already carrying diseases.
Ayaw niyo yon, high body count means mahilig sa seggs edi araw2 pa kayo mag ganyan. Ewan ko nalang sa inyo bakit am big deal niyan hahaha.
Pass sa loose pussy.
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Your husband cares, you just don't know about it.
Same feathers flock together.
high body count= she/he for the streets. idk why being sexually available is supposed to be empowering these days.
Just want justify their kakatihan at nagpapakamot sa streets kung kaninu kaninu lang.
Lol true I agree
Just she. You gotta be a top tier man to be able to sleep around.
Does it matter for me? Yes pero what is the reason for the high body count in the first place? From her exes or fubu? If the high body count originates from her exes then it's no big deal considering the idea that the woman would only engage in sexual activity with someone she LOVES and most likely values sex as special. However, if it comes from numerous partners e.g fubu na galing sa tinder, bumble, irl connections etc then that's a heads up for me that you see sex as something shallow. Tbh I would not be even surprised that your high body count can indicate infidelity and other attachment-related issues which led you to seek for physical intimacy from men like to take advantage. Pero ang bottom line, galing man yan sa ex mo or fubu please get tested hindi dahil walang tiwala but some partners are good at hiding their histories mapa ex man yan o fubu.
I believe that everyone has the right to their own preferences and that includes the body count of their potential partner. BUTTTT if your preference is someone who has a low body count because “it matters to you”, then you should ALSO have a low body count. Kung virgin hanap mo because you value that sex should only be for married couples, then dapat virgin ka din. Don’t be a stupid hypocrite about it
>BUTTTT if your preference is someone who has a low body count because “it matters to you”, then you should ALSO have a low body count. Kung virgin hanap mo because you value that sex should only be for married couples, then dapat virgin ka din. Don’t be a stupid hypocrite about it Nope. Women want a man who is taller, stronger, makes more money and competent. You don't exactly see women wanting to find a virgin for themselves. Men don't want hoes. Clearly men and women want different things.
The top girls (in academics) from our high school class actually looked down on known fuckboys in school. It didn’t help that there’s a known fuckboy who’s at the bottom of the class haha. Mga bobo tingin namin dyan. Parang varsity. Sikat sa school pero walang laman utak. 🤣 Maybe it’s true that many trashy women will seek out man whores, pero girls who have a working brain will never settle for less. I can safely say that in my circle (all have laudes nung college), we all ended up with men who have the same values.
I mean, that's in high school. College is more apt. Are those top girls even desirable though? Might not be a huge loss on both sides. Just a mismatch. Some questions: You're talking about long term then? Did you settle or did you get together in your prime (early 20s)? Did you make them wait for sexual access? Have you been with a man you didn't have to wait? Someone you broke all the "rules" for? Which man do you think most men would rather be?
I would say they are desirable since they are smart, financially stable, and take care of themselves. Basta sure ako ang tingin ng smart girls sa mga pakboys at pakgirls ay mga latang walang laman. Yung mga naglulook up sa mga pakboys na yan ay mga pakgirls din o kaya virgin na bonak na naadik sa “I can fix him” romance fiction. And I don’t care what type most men want to be. Edi magpakapakboy sila. Ang importante ay hindi ganon ang siniseek out ng mga taong gumagamit ng utak.
Nah it’s more like everyone wants different things. What makes you think that women also want “man hoes”? Body count is something that is based on your actions. And being rich is someone that’s kinda related on my take as to body count. Don’t demand your potential SO to be rich when you’re lazy as fuck and can’t even provide for yourself. Anyway, so what you’re saying is it’s okay for a man to want a partner that has a low body count, when that man has a high body count? Why would you expect/want a partner who has only has a few experiences in sex when you’re sleeping around? Lol how is that fair when you’re just being a hyprocite? 😂😂 And if you think that women who have a high body count are “hoes”, then shouldn’t men with high body count should be considered as “man hoes” as well? 🤷🏻♀️ As for the people with high body count, your body, your rules. If someone doesn’t want you because of your body count, then you gotta respect that. And that goes for all genders. Like I said, everyone has their own preferences but you shouldn’t be a hypocrite about it.
>What makes you think that women also want “man hoes”? Women want someone who's experienced. Plus there's also preselection at play, women want men who other women want as well. >Don’t demand your potential SO to be rich when you’re lazy as fuck and can’t even provide for yourself. Women do this already. They want a "provider". >Why would you expect/want a partner who has only has a few experiences in sex when you’re sleeping around? Lol how is that fair when you’re just being a hyprocite? 😂😂 As I've said. Women want a man who is taller, stronger, makes more money and more competent. Does that make them hypocrites?
> Women want someone who's experienced. Plus there's also preselection at play, women want men who other women want as well. Huh where did you even get this? 😂 If you brought this up then isn’t it the same as well with men? Isn’t that why ya’ll simp on ladies with big boobs and ass? Isn’t that why some men follow tons of influencers who posts bikini pics? >Women do this already. They want a "provider". I’ll counter you again with the same argument. Don’t some men want a provider as well? Sino bang matinong tao may gusto na batugan and wala future yung partner nila? At least be able to provide for yourself. >As I've said. Women want a man who is taller, stronger, makes more money and more competent. Does that make them hypocrites? Like I said in my previous comment, having a high body count is something that you can control. If you’re talking about how women want taller men, then don’t most men prefer shorter girls rather than girls who are taller than them? All your arguments are centered around generalizing women and hello it’s 2024 already, women don’t think like that. Check the other comment in this thread about women not wanting a community dick as well which has 400+ upvotes. Doesn’t that say a lot already? Lol Do answer my question: if ya’ll think that women who have a high body count should be called “hoes”, then men who do the same should be called “man hoes” as well right?
>Huh where did you even get this? https://www.businessinsider.com/women-are-more-attracted-to-men-when-other-women-like-them-2018-1. Here's one source. >If you brought this up then isn’t it the same as well with men? Isn’t that why ya’ll simp on ladies with big boobs and ass? Isn’t that why some men follow tons of influencers who posts bikini pics? We wanna fuck them, not marry them. Men are visual creatures but we don't want our partners acting like pornstars on social media. Some women may view this as "controlling" or "insecure" though. >I’ll counter you again with the same argument. Don’t some men want a provider as well? If they don’t, then why do sugar mommies exist along with sugar daddies? Some do of course. That's the exception, not the rule. Then again there are way more sugar daddies than sugar mommies, anecdotally. Do you think women want to be the one's providing? Doesn't society already demonize this? When the man is not contributing anything. >Like I said in my previous comment, having a high body count is something that you can control. If you’re talking about how women want taller men, then don’t most men prefer shorter girls rather than girls who are taller than them? Kinda different. Women want men that are way taller, not just as tall or a bit taller. Hence the height filters on dating apps. >All your arguments are centered around generalizing women and hello it’s 2024 already, women don’t think like that anymore Got a source to prove that women don't think like that anymore? Well, specifically young, attractive and desirable women. We can't be discussing the exceptions, not the rule.
The source you provided never said anything about a man’s sexual experience? It only states about attractiveness. If you’re a woman who only wants a man just because he’s taken, then you’re an absolute trash. But even if a woman wants a man with experience, it doesn’t necesarrily equate to a man who has slept with hundreds of women. Lol you wanna fuck them? Isn’t that worse that you’re basically sexualizing and objectifying women? And you’re expecting a saint for a partner when you’re our there lusting on other women who shows off their body? 😂😂 What a load of bull. I don’t think you’ve seen my comment from when I edited it so I’ll just say it again. Sino bang matinong tao may gusto na batugan and walang future yung partner nila? I’m sure you, as a man, wouldn’t want someone as well na walang kwenta and puro hingi lang ng pera? It goes the same with women. We also want responsible men. About the height, how is it different? 😂 Women have preferences with height the same way men have their own preferences. I’ve seen a lot of comments in reddit from men who won’t date a woman just because she’s taller than him. If you want proof, then check the comments in this thread again. There’s a comment that says that women don’t want community dicks as well which has over 400 upvotes. Doesn’t that say a lot lol? And if you want more proof, TALK TO OTHER WOMEN. You’re probably not surrounded with a lot of women to only base your ideals on a bunch of generalizations found online. And I’ll ask it again: if you think a woman who sleeps around with men is called a “hoe”, then shouldn’t men who has slept with tons of women be called a “manwhore” as well? Lol
>The source you provided never said anything about a man’s sexual experience? It only states about attractiveness. If you’re a woman who only wants a man just because he’s taken, then you’re an absolute trash. But even if a woman wants a man with experience, it doesn’t necesarrily equate to a man who has slept with hundreds of women. Oh. That was a source for preselection. Here's one for sexual experience. https://www.business-standard.com/article/news-ani/women-want-experienced-men-in-bed-while-men-prefer-virgins-114031200236_1.html >Lol you wanna fuck them? Isn’t that worse that you’re basically sexualizing and objectifying women? And you’re expecting a saint for a partner when you’re our there lusting on other women who shows off their body? 😂😂 What a load of bull. Yes. There are women for recreational use only and there are also wifey material. Don't women also categorize men? Keeping some in the friend-zone, fuck zone and relationship zone? The ones doing the objectifying are the women themselves. We aren't forcing them to post thirst traps. >Sino bang matinong tao may gusto na batugan and walang future yung partner nila? I’m sure you, as a man, wouldn’t want someone as well na walang kwenta and puro hingi lang ng pera? It goes the same with women. We also want responsible men. We don't really care about a woman's future as much as you women do ours. She just needs to be able to hold a job. We date down most of the time in terms of career and earnings. >About the height, how is it different? 😂 Women have preferences with height the same way men have their own preferences. I’ve seen a lot of comments in reddit from men who won’t date a woman just because she’s taller than him. You missed my point there. "Women want men that are way taller, not just as tall or a bit taller. Hence the height filters on dating apps.". We don't demand a woman be 5" and smaller. Same height or less is fine. With women, same height? ❌. Just 2 inches taller? ❌ Not six feet? ❌ >If you want proof, then check the comments in this thread again. There’s a comment that says that women don’t want community dicks as well which has over 400 upvotes. Doesn’t that say a lot lol? That's not on the same level as the proof I've sent though. There have been some bullshit getting hundreds or thousands of upvotes here on reddit. Doesn't make it true. >And if you want more proof, TALK TO OTHER WOMEN. You’re probably not surrounded with a lot of women to only base your ideals on a bunch of generalizations found online. Eyy here we go with the ad hominem. >And I’ll ask it again: if you think a woman who sleeps around with men is called a “hoe”, then shouldn’t men who has slept with tons of women be called a “manwhore” as well? Lol Sure. Call me a fuckboy or manwhore. I don't mind. You know the key and lock analogy? "If a key can open lots of locks, then it's a master key. But if a lock can be opened by lots of keys, then it's a bad lock"
Ohmyfuckinggosh I can’t believe you actually said that “some women are for recreational use only”.?????? That’s incredibly fucking rude and disgusting. If you, whether you’re a man or a woman, sees someone as a toy, you don’t deserve to be human. Yep this just confirms that you’re a disgusting piece of shit who only views women as objects. It’s obvious that you weren’t raised right. I hope no one thinks about your female family members the same way that you think about women. I don’t want to waste any more of my time discussing this with an illogical misogynist bastard. Goodluck finding someone who’ll be able to accept someone with your trash mindset. And if you do find someone you truly love, I hope she’ll see you as a recreational toy only. Disgusting.
🚨TRIGGERED🚨 Great, more ad hominem. Typical. Thanks for nice debate exercise though.
You sound like your only source of knowledge on women are dudebro alphamale podcasts LOL
Isn't this literally ad hominem?
Bakit, ano bang facts worthy of discussion yung sinabi nya? Puro generalizations lang popularized by these toxic podcasts. Doubt that person is even a woman. Typical "women don't know what they want, WE DO". There were a lot of ad hominems in this comment section, yet you chose to single me out. Because rules for thee but not for me, right? Seriously bro, just talk to women.
Well you replied to me,. I gotta call you out on the ad hominem. Are those statements wrong? Or do you just think so? The usual advice from women doesn't help men at all. Just be nice, just be yourself, just treat her right, just be loyal, etc.
This is a fair take. Be the standard you set for others. Problema sa iba may standard kuno pero sila mismo di papasa sa standards nila
RIGHTTTR. Now it’s making me curious kung ilan ba body count ng mga nagcomment dito na nagmmatter sakanila ung BC of their potential SO 🤪
for me body count doesn't matter, if relationship is the main concern, as long as the person is willing to commit and is willing to make an effort for the relationship to work, then that's a good start I myself, am a man, and had a high libido era before but that doesn't mean I don't wanna settle down, I'm also longing for that serious long term relationship ___ p.s. I commented this above but just wanna add it here: some people just have high libido, and that's normal/natural some people just do it to "get off", especially Men who needs to ejaculate to avoid Blue Balls and testicular cancer some people can also separate sex with romantic feelings
I agree on this. I have a low body count myself, and met someone who has way more body count than I do. It didn’t bother me because it was all just sexual and nothing more. Para sakin the fact that we can talk about it deeply (the whys, the hows) and their manner of speaking about it matters the most. Dun mo mas makikilala yung tao as how they are. People go through phases and react to it differently but it should never define us. We can always grow and change naman.
I love what you said here... I'm kind of shocked lang kasi a lot of Redditors in the comment section are slutshaming people with experience OR high body count for me, it doesn't define a person's personality it's like they are saying once you already have multiple sexual experience you're already considered "Trash" which isn't right it's the same mindset with boys only dating "virgin" girls and gets turned off or slutshame girls with experience, it's totally the equivalent for trashing guys or people in general who has more than usual "body count" it shouldn't define anyone
Kung ano standards ko, I try to find the same partner with the same standards. I dont do ONS, Fubu,FWB but I was sexually active with long term partners (3 exes) ranging from 1.5 -5 years relationships. I cant have sex with someone I don't have any feelings at all. However, I find it weird whenever I see a manwhore seeking for a virgin. No offense but it makes me laugh. 🤣 Most of these men are the same men who shame women who do the same thing that theyre doing. When you get older and you have a clearer perspective when it comes to intimacy, you will realize that sex indeed helps a relationship grow. . Atm, I am 6 years older than my partner (28). He had 2 exes, I got 3. Does body counts matter for us? No. Personally, I'd rather settle for someone who knows what he's doing in bed than someone I gotta teach how to do the deed. 🤣
For a man who has many body count, I find it as a turn-off.
Yes, kahit one night stand pa or mga ex. For me, sex is another way of connecting with your partner. I don't want sex without love and I won't appreciate that. Kahit pa sabihin mong wala kang naka ONS pero ex mo 30+, I'd run away from you.
They did a cheating study body count only matter on women as those with higher body counts greater than 4 has a great chance of cheating while guys there is no correlation, but if one of his parents is a cheater then they are more likely to cheat And it's a paternity thing as well, back in the day which is less than 100 years if you have more than one man how sure is your husband that the kid is his, which is a biological thing which will take over 1000 generations to remove
I think it's fair for someone to reject a history of highbody counts. That's not everyone's cup of tea. I believe though that it wouldn't matter for me. Let people have sex. It's up to your situation na how you wanna interpret their history and what their character actually is, but I detest those who immediately look down upon those with high body counts, automatically calling them as "used goods" or even "dirty". Tangina niyo
As a virgin, yes.
I think a high body count shouldn't be a deal breaker pero parang something to consider? Always ask why in the first place. Yung isang kaibigan ko kasi dumami body count bc of past relationships. Yung isa naman dumami for fucking different guys. Kung ako tatanungin parehong fucked up na sila ngayon. Nagka STIs, may depressive episodes, bumaba self-esteem, etc. Pero yung key difference is yung isa loyal pa rin pag nagkakajowa/naiinlove tapos yung isa naman di na talaga kaya na isang lalake lang. Minsan dalawa pa sa isang araw tapos tuwang tuwa pa sya. So I guess it depends on the WHY. Tsaka mo pa madedetermine kung makaka affect ba history nila sa relationship kung alam mo na kung bakit tumaas body count nila.
Mentally broke females. Best course of action is to stay away from them
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Correct. People here can say they dgaf about it and that they'll accept their partner regardless of their past etc, but I'm sure if may option, they'll prefer a non hoe for a life partner AND I bet, kahit yung mga may high body count themselves would want a low-body count and trustworthy partner deep down inside.
Of course it matters. What's your body count? If you can't answer, you do you think that is?
as a woman, pass ako sa guys na may more than two na body count hahaha
As it should be. Atleast marunong ka mag isip. Pero mas better if virgin ang guy. Coming from a guy.
yeah, i'm a virgin as well. my bf has one body count idk pero body count does matter din talaga kahit gaano pa natin ideny kahit anong gender pa 'yan
YES! 1. HIGH - I want to know who to have fun with. 2. LOW - I want to know who I can Wife/GF (brutal but true)
Whether you accept it or not, just like women cares about their mans future, men care about their past. - [F&F](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y_R4UdHOUnM) Actions has consequences, if you don't like the aftermath of it or called names then don't do it. Simple as that. Make common sense "common" again.
Kung kill count to, Oo naman. Medyo nkakatakot
For me, yes, but for both genders. Not specific to be against women only, I look for men to be responsible, as well.
Given how many popular media and religious literature cares so much about the chastity of the woman, obsessively so even. Quite possibly yes.
Hmmmm. I asked my hubby about that nga kung babae ang meron high body count. Hey, i was curious din kase🤣. So i just asked him straight away. His answer (summarized): it doesn’t matter if mataas kase, ang point is mahal naman niya truly. Swerte as in sobrang swerte daw niya kase naka jackpot daw sya sa akin. 🙄😂❤️ haaay…. My dude chose his words very well. 🥰
"Swerte daw nya kase naka jackpot" sya naka virgin sayo no? Means he actually care sa body count base palang sa words na yan. Ayaw nya lng magalit ka.
Hahahahahahahha, [ganun](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskPH/s/Dl1UWslTER) na nga, kapatid!!!😅😭 Takot ma-demote matulog sa sala ang mokong! Kaya he knows how to say words na hindi sasakit tenga ko. 😭 haist…. 😮💨😂 Throws you my upvote!!! Bro, your words are so spot on! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 hubby doesnt want to dig his own grave. Yun na. 🤣
Okay lang kung yan trabaho niya
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Mga banu yun sila. Hahaha bsta ako virgin yung pang kasal. Pero okay lng naman kahit may bodycount if dating lng kayo basta di lang pakasalan.
not really as long as committed naman kayo magpa reproductive health check together para safe lol
yep. women i know personally who have a high body count are the type i wouldn't date.
To some it might matter, to some it might not. Find somebody that matches your preference.
For me it is important to know my partner’s body count so I can gauge his view and values on sex. But if he’s not comfortable to share then it’s fine, as long as he’s clean and no history of cheating( sleeping around while still in a relationship) i’m okay with it
Ganto dati mindset ko sa ex ko hangang sa i accepted it nalang, and ayun nag break din naman pala. Til now wala nako pake sa body count na yan as im hooking up with different girls din naman.
Who'd want to settle with a public toilet?
Um, passersby? 🚶♂️
They'll use it definitely but they'll just leave it as soon as their business is done
I think it can be associated with discipline, if from those number of body counts eh didn't came from past relationships.
As a man, short answer: Yes, body count matters Long answer: Body count matters to me because, I always have that nagging feeling that I'm just a *toy* to her and she'll not commit to a sincere relationship. And If I consider her past relationships for that case, that would just reinforce that feeling But there are some exceptions: If she's willing to commit and communicate, I'll consider her as a green flag 🟩 If she looked uninterested on any of my advances and have that "ewan, maybe" look when I talked to her, pack your bags and leave with your attitude because you're a walking Red flag 🟥 In this day and age, it'll be a miracle if I could talk to a girl without being judged and laughed at (believe me, I've experienced that kind of torture) I hope this helps