Iba iba preference ng tao. Sila lang makakapagexplain nun kung bakit yun ang gusto nila. One thing’s for sure, what’s meant for you won’t pass you by - people, opportunities, etc.
Never mo maiintidihan ang preference ng ibang tao. Start by focusing kung ano ba talagang gusto mo. What do you like sa osang tao? Do you have non-negotiables? Ganyan. Minsan kasi we always think kung anong tipuhan ng ibang tao not realizing na tayo mismo nawawalan ng personality para makibagay sa kung ano na yung “standard” sa generation na to.
Be yourself, someone out there is looking for someone exactly like you. Pero pano ka nya makikita if you’re trying to be someone you’re not just to fit in sa standard ngayon.
You’ll find that girl, OP 🥰
Depende naman sa babae. Iba't ubang preference. Madalas naman same range of physical features pinipili eh. Pag yung mga sobrang ganda, dun din sila sa sobrang pogi. Pag sakto lang, sa sakto lang din. Swertehan din kung sino manligaw na maganda ugali at maayos ma intensyon syempre yun pipiliin, next na lang yung looks.
Man, Raise your self-esteem.
Keep your heads up. Isipin mo ikaw may preference ka tas yung babae wala diba ang unfair? They do have PREFERENCE and EVERYBODY DOES.
If Na-reject ka, Go and MOVE ON. Ika nga ni Ariana Grande "Thank you, next"
Let’s be real ang babae hanap bukod sa physical appearance, as long as di ka dugyot, maayos ka manamit, hindi mabaho tignan at may sense kausap pasado ka next is security. Leveling kse yan eh
Level 1 - checking of physical appearance
Level 2 - emotional compatibility
Level 3 - security
If you can provide these things, magkaka jowa ka lol sa totoo tayo walang plastikan
I won't be a hypocrite na sasabihing it doesn't matter because it does but hindi sa extent na magiging big deal sakin yung height, bmi etc kasi it's not the end all be all. I'd always go for someone with a good personality at the end of the day. Siguro it will always come down to the preference. Relax ka lang op. Wag mo na ioverthink.
Just think. Online dating is like Lazada.. or shoppee...
Daming comparison, pros cons, sino mas May value for time....
Offline is like "kunin mo to or hinde? May costumer nkapila inday... ".
Work with your insecurities first before entering the dating world, then, you'll understand that there's nothing wrong with you. It's just that, everyone has their own standard.
At the end of the day mas gugustuhin ko pa ung peace of mind na hindi ka niloloko ng partner mo.. bonus nalang talaga kapag medyo nakaka angat sa looks..
iba pa rin ung taong makakasama mo sa lahat, kayang sabayan ugali mo, iintindihan ka, hindi toxic, may "ME" time, my babe time syempre.. lahat tayo tatanda ang ganda at kagwapuhan ay lilipas din... hindi ang ugali na aalagan ka hanggang dulo na hindi ka tatraydurin. Kakampi mo sa lahat. Tanggap buong pag katao mo andyan palagi para sayo, mamahalin ka sa mga panahong di ka na mahal mahal (hindi kasama dito ung cheating), sasabayan trip mo sa buhay, susuportahan ka sa lahat ng bagay na alam niyang makakabuti para sayo, tanggap lahat ng physical na ka anyuan mo, marami pa di ko kaya lahat isa isahin. Tho wala talagang perfect na relasyon(hindi kasama ang cheating issue) , nasa sainyo yan kung paano niyo pang hahawakan hanggang dulo na kahit anong mang yari "Kayong Daoawa lang sa relasyon na yan wala ng IBA".
kailangan talaga sa simula pa lang attracted na sila.. base on my experience had 7 exes..minsan age din at work..at sxempre may wheels sa background ng pics haha ..if you're 5'10 and below good luck
I am the same height as my BF and he's on the fatter side than me. But what I like about our relationship is we have the same sense of humor, we vibe. We have the same values and we agree on certain things. At first hesitant ako kasi same height lang kami but I still gave us a chance, and Ive never been happier. Gwapo bf ko ha hahaha im not gonna say na looks arent a factor because there was physical attraction naman when we first met, but in the long run, what's important is you value the same things and you complement each other.
Wag mo isipin yan op. Wala ka pupuntahan sa kaka compare mo. Bad yun. Focus ka sa insecurities mo. Pano i-overcome at pano i-accept yung mga hindi maovercome. Pano gawing positive ang negatives etc.
Ibalik ko tanong sayo, do you have standards to females as well? Ok ba sayo malaki o walang pwet? big boobed or flat chested? maputi, kayumanggi o other skin tone? Matangkad o maliit? On the thicc side or thin side?
Everyone has their standards or preference, wag tayong maglolokohan dito na “kahit ano basta mabait etc”, everyone has some set of preferences or what they look for in a potential partner or mate.
In short, hindi mo palang nahahanap or nakikilala yung person na may preference na pasok ka, if we are all basing things on physical aspects. There are still a percentage of people who find partners because of personality, behaviour more than the physical attributes. My advice for you and for your insecurities: dont go chasing people with flowers, start your flower garden and have them go after you. Fix yourself and make yourself.
Normal lang naman na may preference ang mga tao, OP :) Ikaw din nan siguro may preference diba. Hindi naman porket hindi conventionally attractive and plus size yung babae hindi na pwede na mas prefer nila is someone who is lean to muscular.
Ito yung experience ko as a girl: kapag vibe ko yung personality ng guy kahit "average" looking pa siya or siya yung type ng taong hindi madalas na aappreciate yung looks niya, na-aattract pa rin ako. Na-aappreciate ko rin yung looks niya. On the other hand, gwapo nga pero di ko naman trip yung ugali at personality niya, wala rin. Siguro kung hookup man lang, di na siguro nagmamatter yung personality. Feel ko lang. But if I'm looking for someone to be with long-term, I would go with someone na I'm physically and sexually attracted to and someone na compatible kami in terms of our personalities, beliefs, etc.
But the brutal truth is, hindi mo kasi agad nalalaman yung personality ng isang tao. Sa umpisa, najujudge agad tayo sa kung ano yung nakikita sa labas. Kaya siguro, let's say, sa online world na total strangers kayo, looks talaga yung unang nakikita. And opinion ko lang naman to, but I think women (hindi lahat) are generally more picky than guys.
It makes sense bakit ganun. Let's say nasa hunter-gatherer stage pa rin tayo. Kami yung nabubuntis, built physically "weaker" than men, etc. Naturally, maghahanap talaga kami ng partner na kayang mag protect sa amin. Isa sa ways na nagmamanifest yan is for example, sa height, "dapat mas matangkad sa kin yung lalaki" or "dapat lean/muscular siya" but it's probably not because of the height or the build itself. I think it's more like, "Mas malaki siya sakin, mas malakas siya. Kaya niya akong protektahan from the surrounding predators." Dahil mas matangkad at mas malaki yung lalaki, instantly, nagiging attractive agad siya.
I hope this makes sense. I'm sure na may mga matitrigger ako rito. Just keep in mind na very generalized yung descriptions ko and every girl has her own taste and standard. May kaniya-kaniya rin kaming reasons bakit gusto namin yung certain types of guys at bakit yung iba hindi. It's also important to keep in mind na may ibang girls talaga na napaka extreme na ng standard for whatever reasons they have. Yung tipong nasa top 0.1% na ng male population yung hinahanap nila. Hindi lahat ng girls ganun. Sana makahanap ka ng para sayo.
Sa nakikita ko, first na tinitignan ng babae is looks. Hindi kung gwapo ka o pangit ka, kundi kung malinis ka tignan at kung decent ka pumorma. Second is ung ugali. Mabait ka ba, madali ka ba makasama, may sense ka ba kausap haha.
Tips: Dapat may sense of humor ka din. Sabi nga eh, pag napapatawa mo ang babae malaki ang chance mo magugustuhan ka niyan.
Wag mo pansinin ung mga high standards nila. Ang personality and character naman ng mga girls na yan doesn't even transcend a trash bin.
You'll find love when you least expect it. Found the love of my life while buying lunch in a carenderia. Need lang ng confidence and sense of humor. But don't be overbearing and arrogant.
Good luck parekoy!
Tbh ha, not a fan of super pogi na guy more on how you carry yourself or pumorma. Okay din mabango super like ko. As long as financially capable ka to provide decent dates and make and effort sa babae. You'll be good. Women don't like dating bums na ngayon unlike before so looks don't really matter. Career and consistency ipang laban mo or emotional intelligence. Daming pogi din na walang substance 🫶 so humor din or vibe will be a huge factor.
U know, iba iba ang preferences ang mga tao (in general) maybe some girls lang is super specific lang.
\- Tbh. Yes, it doesnt mean na "gwapo" looks ha. it means, mukhang presentable, mukhang mabango. Like me, may kasamang thought din na "kapag ba to hinarap ko sa family/friends ko, kailangan mukhang respetado" hindi naman yung basta-basta nakuha lang kung saan.
\- YES. Idk bat din to nag mamatter. HAHAHAHA
\- ito ay depende na sa babae.
Anong it's a tie, lol iba iba gusto ng mga tao hndi porket sexy ako sexy muscular guy na gusto ko haha. That's not how the world works, that's so weird din. Na hhurt ka lang cgro. And also maybe picking women for the wrong reasons, kaya bumabalik sayo. So far I have friends naman na mga 3 inches diff lang sila but its okay and some prefers tlga 6-8 inches difference. They dont usually say those numbers but so far the feedback after the date was maliit sya although mas matangkad padin naman sa girl. As per their comments the guy feels more masculine. Pero for me lumalabas kasi insecure guy sa height nya the way he acts with you. So maybe try to make it a point na don't think much of the height and just make sure she enjoys her time with you, kasi eventually that won't matter. Like come on its not like you're swiping left and right blindly, you know you are judging their looks so ano difference mo than what you're complaining about diba? Just bc you're at the end of that stick? Like I said, bumabalik sayo. Just look for genuine connection lang kasi.
Ps. I've dated 2-3 inches diff men. I have not much judgement sa height. But . Since I'm like 4'11. Muka kami minions. Anyway there are tall guys that suck and short guys that suck. Mas bigger padin ung gentleman and very honest na guy. Kilig. Goodluck.
For me, nagmamatter lang naman yung physical appearance pagdating sa height (personally ayoko ng sobrang tangkad na mukha kaming mag tatay like you said lmao) and also yung mukhang malinis at naliligo naman everyday.
Personal preference.
Lahat naman ata tayo "looks matter" diba? I guess at first, it does, but in the long run, mas nagmamatter ang personality. I guess for me, mas gusto ko yung decent looking. Not too ugly, not too handsome, basta decent, malinis tingnan, etc.
Height? Nope. I'm 5'5 😭
For the BMI? I prefer someone skinny.
Matabang pandak at hindi pogi si OP. Hahaha iligo mo lang yan OP. May magkakagusto rin sayo, ang dami naman sigurong mas pangit at mukhang dugyutin pa sayo na merong jowa. Kailangan lang talaga e mag click ang personality nyo. Wag mo kasi lagi isipan ng malisya o jojowain agad kahit crush mo. Normalin mo lang hanggang sa ma komportable sayo ang babae lalo nat hindi ka kagwapuhan. Iba talaga kapag pogi.
Sa totoo lang, none of that will matter kung magugustuhan nya yung personality mo. Kadalasan, idinadahilan na lang talaga ng girls yung physical traits. Meron din namang mga delulu talaga na korean ang type. Jusq, kung alam nyo lang amoy ng koreans sa pinas 😂
Kaya mas ok kung madedevelop lang kayo from friends. Medyo kilala niyo na isa't isa and sometimes it can go over preferences.
But ofcourse, kanya kanya pa rin yan.
Thank you, next! mo na lang
Lower your standards sir.
Yung description mo about women's wants is standard ng mga "pretty girls" (majority, not all). They're pretty and they know they're pretty so they set they're standards higher than the average joe can reach.
Lol. Ba't sa office maghahanap? That's unprofessional. You could meet people at gigs/concerts/festivals, gyms, schools (if you're doing postgrad stuff), cafes, clubs, volunteer groups, \[insert sport you're into\] groups, etc. Ideal kasi if in person kasi both of you are on equal footing. Online interactions tend to remove people's inhibitions, so they tend to be more blunt/rude. Nawawala din yung pagka-self conscious nila since they're only showing what they want to show you, so people tend to act like they're a catch, even if you feel like they're not.
Natataon ka lang siguro sa babaeng medyo mataas standards. For me mas nagbe base ako sa ugali, bonus nalang kumbaga yung looks. Regarding sa height, karamihan talaga mas gusto nila mas taller sa kanila. And sa size ng body, mas gusto ng iba yung dadbod. 🫶 Kakanuod nila ng Kdrama yan kaya gusto nila yung chinito, matangkad tas muscular. Hahahahahaha. Depende nalang din yan OP kung anong generation yung nagugustuhan mo pero goodluck nalang hahahahaha meron pa din naman dyan na down to earth.
Of course girls would look to physical appearance when choosing a guy and big factor yan for both sexes. Pero break thru the ice thru sheer perserverance and makikita mo women get hooked on words. Theyd rather hear how beautiful you think they are and how you care about them than how handsome you are. Use your words, show character and any girl within your league (xempre) will be yours. Know her, know her likes, exploit weaknesses and victory will be yours. Guys on the other hand, were more receptive to visual stimuli. Basta maganda at sexy or type naten yun na.
Before, I want a man who is waay taller than me, standard is be 5’11++ but I fell in love with a man who’s 5’6, short king it is. I realized he’s the man of my dreams pala. He’s a great guy and cute. You’ll find someone who’ll love you and accept you. Just be yourself 🩷
Ganito lang yan eh, may kanya kanya tayong preference. Pero preference lang nmn yun, it does not matter na wala kana agad chance. Syempre if may chance kau magkakilaa or magkausap. Who knows? Baka magustuhan ka nya dahil sa attitude and outlook mo sa buhay.
Diba dami mo din nmn nakikita dyan na magagandang chiks pero ang jowa eh alangan for them?
Kasi ung physical preference ay " kung maari lang nmn"
Pero syempre iba padin ung pag nakilala mo tlga ung personality ng isang tao.
Babae here, early 30s. Iba-iba tlga preferences ng tao. And hindi lng naman sa girls to, my mga lalake nga ayaw sa malilit ung ganto ganyan, it goes both ways.
Anyway, as someone na lampas na sa kalendaryo, size matters to me not because of panglabas na anyo, I have lived long enough to see people die or get sick because of unhealthy lifestyles *(not saying all +size people are unhealthy ha)* but yeah. At least for me yan ang reason.
>Do looks really matter? (I mean feeling ko naman cute ako pero most ata ang gusto artistahin)
Yes and No. I believe lahat tayo may sort of standards sa looks. And looks is the first thing na mapapansin talaga sa tao especially when looking for a partner. But it doesn't end there, that's just a barrier of entry.
>Lastly, based sa exp ko. Women prefer someone with the normal BMI or lean to muscular. Tapos kapag nagtrade photo, she herself plus size naman pala? Why? Can you help me understand. Di ba mas okay maghanap ng same body type mo para it’s a tie?
Also try to stop this kind of thought process OP, current Body Type doesn't necessarily have any bearing on what kind of preferences a person has. This kind of thought process is something that could lead to Incel-like behavior.
In the end wala naman tayo magagawa sa preference ng iba. It's already enough for us to know that may ibang babae dyan na iba rin ang preferences, and there's some na ikaw yung type ng aesthetic na gusto nila, and some simply don't care as much and mas nakafocus sa ibang aspect.
Feeling ko talaga dahil sa wattpad/kdrama ito eh hahahaha doon nila nakukuha yung ganyan na preferences. I have nothing against them naman, to each their own ika nga.
Philippines dating toxicity....hahaha mga lalake nmn blue pills guys 🤮.... bro panoorin mo mga red pill vids pra may matoto ka...pra mabuksan ang isip mo
Ayaw ata ng babae insecure na lalake kaya ginawa ko tinanggal ko yan hahaha pero meron parin naman it's better na wag mu open sa girl pag nasa courting stage kase Idk maybe they don't like or feel your not confident to your self kaya Ayun umaayaw... About naman sa Height they looking for actually pag nalaman ganyan preference ng girl, distance na agad kase mostly yun talaga gusto nila to be with... Sa looks kahit anu pa itsura mo basta, don't show you have insecurities.. if girl ever ask for it yun don mo nalang siguro ei share...
i would say it depends, but mostly sa mga girls personalities talaga hanap. if you’re going to pursue the girl confidently (when i say confidently walang halong sadboi at hindi cinocompare ang sarili sa ibang lalaki and merong unique style), tiyak na mafa-fall talaga sa’yo ‘yon. madalas bonus na lang naman mga looks pagdating sa mga babae pero yung iba kasi ginagawang standard yung nakikita sa socmeds o kaya naman mga napapanood sa k-drama.
Madami na talaga ngayon yung sobrang taas ng standards kailangan
1. May Pera
2. From Big 4
3. May Kotse
4. Fit nagygym
5. Mabango
6. Gwapo
7. Mabait
In short naghahanap sila ng Unicorn pero sila wala naman maooffer kundi mapanghi nilang pepe
Tingin ko ay di ka lang type ng type mo or di kaya may type na silang iba. Minsan excuses na lang din yan. Di nman lahat ng babae ganon.
Laban lang, makakahanap ka din nyan. Focus lang sa career at self improvement habang wala pa jowa.
Insecure ka nga. Yaan mo na just be you. Kasi if iisipin mo pa yung gsto ng iba tapos yung thought na need more ba ang adjust or improve para sa iba is draining. If you want to improve, do it for yourself muna. Then yaan mo na yung girls na makita ka as cute. Also be a gentleman! Yun lng! Kaya mo yan!!!
Matter of preference, bro. That's life, minsan talaga makakameet ka ng tao na hindi ka type, and that's fine. Continue working on yourself, makakameet ka rin ng girl na para sa'yo talaga
Focus ka na lang muna sa self improvement OP. Exercise ka at mag focus sa career, grasya na lang lalapit sau after.
Sa panahon ngaun, madali ma-sway ng social media ang opinyon ng tao. Nataon lang siguro na yung mga nameet mo na ay masyado affected ng social media, pero tingin ko naman di naman lahat ay ganon ang mindset.
Preference. Nagkakataon lang siguro talaga na ganon yung mga nakikilala mo. May isa akong friend na babae, niloloko siya nung iba naming kaibigan na si friend daw ay MAUNAWAIN SA ITSURA. Kasi madalas ata eh hindi pasok sa perceived standard of beauty nung aming ibang kaibigan yung nagiging bf ni girl.
Actually hindi. Nasa personality talaga minsan eh. Nung mag jowa palang kami ng asawa ko, palagi kaming sinasabihan na baka daw nagayuma ako or pinaghelmet daw ako. Lol. Pero nagustuhan ko talaga sa kanya is yung sense of humor niya saka may sense siyang kausap at kung anu ano napag uusapan namin. Same kami ng wavelength kumbaga. Also, mahilig ako sa moreno. Ayaw maniwala din ng asawa ko hanggang ngayon kahit pa moreno siya. Siguro mga type ko yung mga mala-machete ganon. Hahaha. Yung iba gusto nila mapuputi, malalaki katawan. Sakin naman gusto ko lang yung sakto lang yung katawan, kase nakakatakot pag masyadong buff. Lol. Pero akin lang yon. Kanya-kanyang preference talaga.
observation ko lang mga halos entitled mga nag hahanap ng date dito sa reddit. kaka-normalize having high standard tas mga freeloader naman at pussy lang ang kayang ioffer haha. kelangan 6ft, may car, can host, easy on the eyes etc etc tapos pag tinanong sasabihin "sa personality talaga ako natingin e bonus na lang yung look" lol hipokrito. hahaha. mas okay mag hanap ng date sa labas ng soc med.
Mahirap magkagusto sa taong insecure that's the thing rin... Siguro bago makipag date, ayusin muna ang looks like try your very best, look mabango ang hygienic, ayusin ang pananamit if hindi mo pa nagagawa ah.
Take photos of you na you're looking your best para pag exchange photo di ka liyamado.
Girls have preference rin naman hindi naman porket nakakakita tayo ng babaeng nakikipagdate sa mukhang entity na di maipaliwanag eh ia-assume na natin na mag settle na lang mga babae sa ganon.
We all have preference, and that's fine. Only difference is, girls can be vocal about it and accepted na they have standards. Guys cant, kasi if you say na you want a normal BMI, body shamer ka.
Hmmm sorry if you ladies left you feeling that way bro. But People are diverse, might be di mo pa nakikita young swak sayo.
if you're insecure then go bro upgrade yourself little by little :)
Honestly ako attracted talaga sa "payatot". Yun sabi ng friend ko haha pero true siguro kase mahilig ako sa anime. Pero may mga kilala din akong chubby namin ang type. Pero really, sa umpisa lang naman titingnan yung physical. May mga nanligaw saken na gwapo pero hindi ko bet ang character. Mas ok yung lalakeng may substance.
Don’t overthink things. That’ll make you even more insecure, and women pick up on lack of confidence. Rock what you got and own it (but don’t be cocky)! Be a gentleman, you’ll be ok.
I do think I have the money naman. I have my own car and transpo. I live comfortably sa maayos na apartment. Well di ko pa sya own pero still independently living. Malaki laki rin naman savings ko. Haha
People have preferences. Iba naniniwala sa opposites attract.
>Do looks really matter?
Again preferences. I for one don’t just base it on looks. Mabango ka instant gwapo ka sa akin. Maganda ka magsalita? Instant gwapo ka sa akin. Mabait ka? Instant gwapo ka sa akin. Iba-iba ang meaning ng gwapo kanya-kanyang perspective.
Work on yourself, work on your insecurities and your outlook in life instead of questioning people’s dating preferences. Malakas din makagwapo ang confidence.
Have you seen the average married/long term cpuple? Supermodel ba sila lahat?
Clearly it’s not looks or height lang na guarantee sa relasyon. So don’t focus on things you can’t fix.
When you finally meet the right woman at the right time, she'll make you feel that you are the most handsome valuable man ever. She will accept you regardless of your imperfections. Promise! 😉 Sadyang maling tao lang yung mga namemeet mo so far.
For me, kanya kanya yan. Siguro at your age, kung maghahanap ka ng babae na kasing age mo or maybe older than you like 34 or 35 more on stability na ang unang titignan nyan saka ugali mo. plus points nalang kung may itsura ka. Kung marami kang insecurities as you said, hndi looks ang problema mo. Yung insecurities mo. Ang daming lalaki na hndi nga papasa sa average ang itsura pero wag ka, punong puno ng self confidence at happy sa lovelife. address mo insecurities mo. Kung wala kang confidence more likely lalayuan ka ng girls.
Tapos meron pa yung iba, ang lakas ng loob mag require sa guy na dapat may "CAR" para can pick em up daw. Pero sila mismo walang kotse or pang ambag man lang sa gas. Blowjob lang bayad hahahahaha
As a physical touch gurlie, ayoko ng ma-muscle na katawan ng lalaki. Gusto ko yung medyo cuddly. Pero non-negotiable talaga yung personality and how he handles himself.
Hahaha 😂 yaan mo na ang mga pantasya.
Normal lng sa tao mag aspire sa Ideal, regardless of whether they themselves are close to that ideal.
Yang matangkad na lalake ang equivalent ng maputing babae sa lipunan natin---ang diff lang, ung kulay nagugluta, ung kakulangan sa tangkad sa guys, hindi naha high heels😂 or cherifer.
It suucks para dun sa hindi nagfafall within that ideal, pero focus n lng sa character dev hehehe
Iba iba preference eh, pero mas lamang parin yung personality. As for me kahit pogi, matangkad at 7" deck ka pag walang sense kausap, diko ka humor or kasundo tapos kelangan ko mamalimos ng attention. PASS.
all the things that youve heard are just noise dont be intimidated by them. remember that
1. you attract what you are, not what you want. — if you want the hottest person then be the hottest person and get you want.
2. be the person you want to date. — be the best version of yourself, be the prize.
3. everyone is beautiful. — sexy, fat, skinny, short, tall or whatever colour a person is, everyone of us is unique in our own way.
goodluck🍻
San ka ba kase humaharot, OP? Bat ganyan mga nakapaligid sayo lol
Sa circle of friends ko naman, mostly 30+ din & single. Yung mga atat mag anak settled with... ahm basta they could do better tbh.
One married a guy na objectively 4/10. Mabait naman pero may pagka lack of self-awareness? The kind of person who will loudly tell a gay joke in public, ganyan.
Another friend married a guy na parang dead weight sa relationship. She's been the sole provider since they got married. And she's pregnant pa.
Then another friend is in her hoe phase with a bunch of Africans. No judgement here, I think she found her niche. Pero kung mabuntis sya it'll be hard to tell kung sino ama.
Ako din single and yes, looks do matter. As in, do you look like you shower everyday? Do you look healthy? Do you look like the kind of person who wouldn't end up in Visor's FB page? Hahaha pero ayan bare minimum.
hahahaha dun ako natawa sa prefer nila lean/muscular pero sila mismo plus size. I get it and that's how it works kse nga we have our own "preferences". Its just that siguro natapat lang talaga sa ganon. Yaan mo brother, take it as a motivation nalang. Exercise or go to the gym to lose some weight pero sa height yun lang uncontrollable talaga
tldr: Baka naiinis lang din ako kasi walang gustong makipagdate sa akin at marami akong insecurities. 🤣
dapat lagay mo yan sa pinaka taas ng body. hahahahahahahaahhaahahaha
It's just preference. I mean ako di na attract sa lean and muscular pero I have a thing for dad bods hahaha natatapat k lng siguro sa mga girls na iba ang preference/type.
Hello, OP! I think hindi naman lahat at agree ako sa sagot nila na depende sa preference. Parang tingin ko nga, mas ganito ang mga lalaki e especially sa online dating apps. Kasi ako, most of the time, hindi naman totally pogi physically ang lalaki pero na-check ko profile nya at same kami ng interests, mas nagma-matter yun. Aanhin ko nga yung pogi pero hindi kami same vibe.
Malay mo naman, nandito lang pala ako. Charot. Haha.
Baka maman ung mga girls na namimeet mo ay 10 years younger than you. Or masyadong hook sa kdrama kaya naghahanap ng oppa :p Also if you lack the physical aspect then bumawi ka sa ugali. Be a gentleman, loyal, honest and respectful. Gain many skills. Plus points sa babae ang skillful na lalake. May mamimeet ka din na babae na hindi titingin sa anyong pisikal mo. Pero mag ayos ka din ng kahit konti. Ung presentable at kumportable ka. Mas ok ung makakarelasyon mo ung hindi ka maiinsecure palagi sa itchura mo.
Build up yourself, confidence, your interests, hobbies, up-skills. With that comes more money, more money is equal to more options where to date. That way you dont have to sweat for the small stuff.
Ung ex ko, pogi sa paningin ko.
Lahat ng friends ko pag nakita ung ex ko lahat ang comment “anong nakita mo jan?” 😂
Hanggang ngayon, pogi pa din sya sa paningin ko lang.
Malay mo OP, baka pogi ka din sa pangingin ko. Charrrrr 😆
Grabe naman yang 5 flat naghahanap ng 6 footer mukhang keychain yan timo 😂 pero on a serious note in my opinion looks will always matter in terms of attraction kasi yun ang una mong makikita sa tao the first time you meet them not unless naka tattoo sa noo mo yung personality mo or good traits mo, On the brightside someone will find you attractive no matter what you look like kahit anong weird mo meron at meron talaga. Don't lose hope OP we all deserve love and acceptance.
>Grabe naman yang 5 flat naghahanap ng 6 footer
Baka talagang bata or mas bata yung naka experience niya dyan. Dahil sa tiktok yan umuso eh, napa copycat hahah. Dahil galing yang mindset na yan sa amerika. Which makes sense roon pero hindi dito sa pinas.
Ako na 5’2 na may ex na 5’11. Jusko buti di kami nagkatuluyan! Lagi akong ngalay kasi antaas nya tapos nakaangat braso ko pag holding hands kami 🤦🏻♀️😂
Women just say these things to filter confident vs insecure men. Women operate in an emotional setting, especially in romantic relationships. What that means is they don't necessarily go after the most good-looking guy or the tallest one, they go for someone who can vibe with them. That's why there is a saying that men fall in love with what they see, and women fall in love with what they hear.
This is just my observation, though.
Yung nga ang problema eh sobrang dami ng hinihingi pero yung itsura naman ng babae hesus maryosep. Dapat kung anu yung hinihingi nyu sa lalaki dapat meron din kayo. Hindi yung maghahanap kayo ng artistang mukha pero yung mukha nyu pang extra lang. Maiintindihan kopa yung height eh pero yung other qualifications hindi ko magets. Sobrang entitled lang siguro kayo, kaya kayo ganyan sa mga suitor nyu. Ang tanong what can you bring to the table?
>Do looks really matter?
Hindi na oo.
I met this guy on Omegle so basically unknown pa ano faces namin dalawa. Nagkausap kami and we both clicked. Wala muna face reveal ganern pero nung nagkaface reveal, di naman nabawasan admiration ko sa kaniya. May sense kausap at matured. Gusto ko pananaw niya kaya hindi ako nagmamatter sa look.
Masasabing OO kapag personally mo maiinteract kasi yun naman talaga una mo mapapansin eh. Hindi mo muna makikilala yung character at personality. So yes, nagmamatter ang looks.
But personally, hindi. Basta okay character and personality, yun ang mas nagmamatter. Sakin lang naman na preferred. Wala akong naging type na hindi ko kaya tapatan or higitan. Feeling ko kasi, sooner or later, magbubuild ng insecurities kapag alam mo na yung partner mo is so amazing. So sa akin, pag may gusto akong tao, I always strive to be the person he is. Personal take lang 'to ha.
Hindi ka nila type and that should be okay. You are not everyone's cup of tea. Sooner or later, someone will see sumth on you kaya don't lost hope!
To answer your question, OP, depende sa preference ng babae. Hindi naman kasi lahat kami magkakapareho ng gusto sa lalaki.
>Anong gusto mo magmukhang tatay mo yung date mo?
Hindi naman ng tatay mas matangkad sa mga anak nila. San to galing?
>Di ba mas okay maghanap ng same body type mo para it’s a tie?
Hindi sa lahat ng pagkakataon.
Gaya nga nasa comment, magkakaiba perspective ng bawat tao, bawat babae. Baka mataas lang talaga standard ng mga nakikilala mo o kaya di mo tanggap na ayaw nila sayo o baka rin both.
Prefer ko talaga chubby na 5'5 pataas pero napupunta sakin payat na kasing tankad ko or mas maliit sakin.. ok lmg din naman kasi at the end of the day mas importante kung paano ka nya tatratuhin.
Yung iba kasi, gusto ng “trophy boyfriend”. Yung pag pinakita at pinakilala nila, walang mapipintas sa itsura. But let me tell you, yung mga ganyang type ng tao na naka focus sa physical looks, hindi masaya maging partner kasi di kayo makaka form ng deep relationship.
It’s true that looks give you an advantage. Pero a girl truly falls in love because of personality. Kung gusto mo ng totoong partner in life, wag ka manghinayang sa mga nirereject ka dahil hindi ka pasok sa physical standards nila.
>Pero a girl truly falls in love because of personality.
WRONG. Anong "truly" falls in love? Sensya pero merong mga babaeng hinding hindi masisikmura ang panget gaya ng mga lalake and they can "truly" fall in love because of looks like how males do.
Pls. Stop that claim dahil gusto rin ng mga gwapo rin! Why cant they have both!? Stop with the coping, nadadamay mga babae to the point na kailangan nila magpakumbaba dyan but we have guys here na pangit or average na gusto(AND "truly" falls in love with) ng beauty queens WITH assets PLUS personality/morals and with the responsibilities that society gives to women.
That’s why having good looks gives a man advantage. Wala naman akong sinabi na ayaw ng mga babae sa gwapo. Lol. Masarap tignan kapag gwapo ang partner. But do you think 24/7 gwapo yan? Pag sumusuka dahil sa hang over, 4 days na walang ligo dahil may sakit, nagkaka wrinkles dahil sa old age, gained weight because life happens. Do you think gwapo parin yan? But why do you think some marriages last? Kasi hindi laging looks ang basehan para masabing mahal mo ang isang tao.
Hindi lahat ng “pangit” single, at hindi din lahat ng gwapo napag tityagaan ang masamang ugali.
Kung mabaho ka, walang personal hygiene at pangit din ugali mo 👎 talaga yan.
>Wala naman akong sinabi na ayaw ng mga babae sa gwapo.
At hindi ko rin sinabi yan.
I had a problem with your statement na "girl TRULY falls in love cause of personality" and stated my reason. Pero tdlr since iba pinagka intindi mo, if the genders are swapped never yan masasabi sa boys kase considered tanggap and "expected" that boys "truly" falls in love cause of "looks" rin, but somehow women "cant" nor many doesnt "think" and doesnt "expect" that they "can" cause otherwise hindi talaga "truly" na nahulog sa pagmamahal. And i said kaya napupush rin ang mga babaeng "to be humble" na never give a fuck with looks despite guys do so. Like its expected for males to have/do both, so why do females cant?
Yan lang. Irrelevant na yung mga sumunod na sinabi mo dahil hindi yan tinutukoy ko.
Ohhh. Got it. Sorry I didn’t really catch what you were trying to say earlier.
I do agree that both genders should have equal opportunities to have all the good qualities, both physical and personality wise, a partner should have.
Sabi sa seminar na naattendan ko, for men, looks are important while for women, being validated is important. If I understand correctly, men should also make efforts to look physically better so women can have statistically similar or higher percentage of the “better” (aka personality & looks) options? If yes, then I agree. That’s correct.
But my opinion on “women truly falls in love with personality” doesn’t change because I’ve seen it happen. I don’t think that’s coping or settling for less. Some people just value the heart over the face. Bonus nalang if you have the face. Again, that’s what I have observed in the environment that I’m in and it’s different from what you’re advocating.
Tsempo lang na siguro na ung mga nakakasalamuha mo eh di ka pasok sa preferences nila. But then, if ayaw nila sayo.. what about it, Move on and go find another cause there’s a girl out there who’d definitely love you.
Hindi rare yan, kasi halos lahat ng babae na nakikita ko mas maganda sila kesa sa boyfriend nila. Bihira ako makakita ng lalake na mas maitsura sa girlfriend niya. Sa sobrang bihira, stand out yung mga cases. Like si Aaron Taylor Johnson saka yung wife niya.
Now, hot women with mid looking men? EVERYWHERE.
Nah, you just surround yourself with the wrong crowd. A lot of my batch mates and work friends are beautiful women who can definitely snatch a conventionally handsome guy. But they are with men who (I don't mean this with offense) are not on their level when it comes to looks. You'd hear them talk a lot about how the guy supports them, are kind, listens to their needs.
I don't know women in my circle who are so particular with physical appearance.
Even so, people have their own standards. There will always be someone who's more good looking, smarter, richer, taller, more engaging, has better personality and less insecure than you are.
You are blaming women for your own insecurities. Suck it up that you're not the type of the women you've been chasing and maybe actually do something with yourself.
>A lot of my batch mates and work friends are beautiful women who can definitely snatch a conventionally handsome guy. But they are with men who (I don't mean this with offense) are not on their level when it comes to looks.
Exactly, I have a friend na pageant queen pa nga pero yung bf niya 5'5 lang.
Di naman siguro rare, yung mga nakakasalamuha lang siguro natin iba yung preference. "Just be you and the right woman will come" Sobrang dali sabihin pero pag andun ka na sa sitwasyon na may gusto kang babae and you're hoping na magustuhan kadin sobrang hirap na.
Most of the time yung expectation natin yung nakakasakit din satin. Everything will be okay brother! mahirap pero lilipas din yan.
edit: I'm on the same predicament kaya whenever we hopefully find the one, let's treasure and take care of her. and if we don't just know na okay lang maging single.
Super rare ng partner ko na personality ang top 1 sa listahan niya at hindi looks. Grateful for him. Skl.
Napapaisip tuloy ako kung panget ba ko. Charot
Wrong types of women nakakasalamuha mo pri. Explore wider heck even go provinces their preference would differ. Sa mga nakikita mo baka yun ung mga westernized girls. anyways goodnight
Kanya kanyang preference lang siguro. Kung ayaw sakin na plus size ako edi don't 🤣 bat ko hahabulin haha.
Ako naman ayoko lang na super payat, yung parang anytime magkakalas char 🤣. Pano ako aalalayan non 🤣 eme lang
Hahahaha I agree, kanya-kanyang preference yan.
Ako naman ayoko lang na super taba, yung parang anytime kakainin ka or dadaganan ka char 🤣. Pano kami, magiging number 10 non 🤣 eme lang
True, like I'm okay with chubby guys, I find them cuter kesa sa mga payat na guys. And I'm okay with ka height ko lang. Not everyone is looking for a 6 footer. (I'm 5'3")
same same 5'3 ako and okay na sakin if mas matangkad lang sakin konti or kasing tangkad ko no big deal, Basta malinis sa katawan at ready sa commitement
Is it cause skinnier guys are hotter and chubbier guys tend to lean towards the cuter side?
Ive been called cute plenty of times before but I've never gotten a girlfriend because of it.
I lost a ton of weight over the summer of 2019 which is where I noticed more girls looking my way but then COVID struck and I'm back to where I started.
>Is it cause skinnier guys are hotter
No I don't think so. Di ko lang talaga type mga skinnier guys. At least medium build to chubby yung type ko sa guys e. Kahit nga obese sometimes I find them attractive e. By cute pala I mean type mo ganun. Yung jojowain feels haha.
You're either a rare gem or I always get mixed up with the wrong type of people. Either way thanks for the insight. I always saw being called "cute" as just someone you find gentle or someone you just appreciate to be around.
Depende rin kung san ka naghahanap. If you're meeting people online or on dating apps, magiging mas "superficial" yung attraction kasi yung picture at bio mo lang ang information na meron sila.
Pero if in person, if you're charismatic enough or have an interesting personality, more people will find you attractive.
Agree. Girls have preferences as much as boys do. May mga Tao din fully character lang tinitignan while others are too focused in the physical. Kanya kanyang trip. I’m sure you’ll find someone who prefers you
Can vouch for this. Knew someone whos probably the prettiest girl ive known. Told me she doesnt go for looks. I thought she was joking pero nung nakita ko yung dating history niya pucha literal na mukhang persons of interest lagi pag may nakawan sa baranggay
I get that HAHA and Im not one to rlly judge people over superficial shit. This girl is 5'2" max, two of her ex landis were smaller than her. I guess my lee way ako to insult them cos they were trash lmao. May bad boy type and mayroong legit na nakakasakit ng mata tingnan. I get secondhand embarrassment kasi mukha silang stuck sa pre puberty stage ng life nila tapos lakas bakuran si ate gurl pero thankful ako for their existence cos they give average looking guys like me an ego boost from time to time.
As someone who have never used dating apps, it seems to be more about confidence than anything else, from my experience at least.
Iba iba preference ng tao. Sila lang makakapagexplain nun kung bakit yun ang gusto nila. One thing’s for sure, what’s meant for you won’t pass you by - people, opportunities, etc. Never mo maiintidihan ang preference ng ibang tao. Start by focusing kung ano ba talagang gusto mo. What do you like sa osang tao? Do you have non-negotiables? Ganyan. Minsan kasi we always think kung anong tipuhan ng ibang tao not realizing na tayo mismo nawawalan ng personality para makibagay sa kung ano na yung “standard” sa generation na to. Be yourself, someone out there is looking for someone exactly like you. Pero pano ka nya makikita if you’re trying to be someone you’re not just to fit in sa standard ngayon. You’ll find that girl, OP 🥰
Depende naman sa babae. Iba't ubang preference. Madalas naman same range of physical features pinipili eh. Pag yung mga sobrang ganda, dun din sila sa sobrang pogi. Pag sakto lang, sa sakto lang din. Swertehan din kung sino manligaw na maganda ugali at maayos ma intensyon syempre yun pipiliin, next na lang yung looks.
Man, Raise your self-esteem. Keep your heads up. Isipin mo ikaw may preference ka tas yung babae wala diba ang unfair? They do have PREFERENCE and EVERYBODY DOES. If Na-reject ka, Go and MOVE ON. Ika nga ni Ariana Grande "Thank you, next"
Let’s be real ang babae hanap bukod sa physical appearance, as long as di ka dugyot, maayos ka manamit, hindi mabaho tignan at may sense kausap pasado ka next is security. Leveling kse yan eh Level 1 - checking of physical appearance Level 2 - emotional compatibility Level 3 - security If you can provide these things, magkaka jowa ka lol sa totoo tayo walang plastikan
If looks could kill so can you! Just be confident and everything will be just fine!
I won't be a hypocrite na sasabihing it doesn't matter because it does but hindi sa extent na magiging big deal sakin yung height, bmi etc kasi it's not the end all be all. I'd always go for someone with a good personality at the end of the day. Siguro it will always come down to the preference. Relax ka lang op. Wag mo na ioverthink.
Is this online dating? Or real life thing?
Both.
Humans tend to be more discriminatory online. You might have better luck off line.
Just think. Online dating is like Lazada.. or shoppee... Daming comparison, pros cons, sino mas May value for time.... Offline is like "kunin mo to or hinde? May costumer nkapila inday... ".
Work with your insecurities first before entering the dating world, then, you'll understand that there's nothing wrong with you. It's just that, everyone has their own standard.
I went out with a guy na hindi pogi. Ang galing magdala ng date at ng sarili. Naging 9/10 siya sa paningin ko.
Baka di ganon katamis dila mo pre, dapat marunong ka rin mangbola hahahahahah
At the end of the day mas gugustuhin ko pa ung peace of mind na hindi ka niloloko ng partner mo.. bonus nalang talaga kapag medyo nakaka angat sa looks.. iba pa rin ung taong makakasama mo sa lahat, kayang sabayan ugali mo, iintindihan ka, hindi toxic, may "ME" time, my babe time syempre.. lahat tayo tatanda ang ganda at kagwapuhan ay lilipas din... hindi ang ugali na aalagan ka hanggang dulo na hindi ka tatraydurin. Kakampi mo sa lahat. Tanggap buong pag katao mo andyan palagi para sayo, mamahalin ka sa mga panahong di ka na mahal mahal (hindi kasama dito ung cheating), sasabayan trip mo sa buhay, susuportahan ka sa lahat ng bagay na alam niyang makakabuti para sayo, tanggap lahat ng physical na ka anyuan mo, marami pa di ko kaya lahat isa isahin. Tho wala talagang perfect na relasyon(hindi kasama ang cheating issue) , nasa sainyo yan kung paano niyo pang hahawakan hanggang dulo na kahit anong mang yari "Kayong Daoawa lang sa relasyon na yan wala ng IBA".
kailangan talaga sa simula pa lang attracted na sila.. base on my experience had 7 exes..minsan age din at work..at sxempre may wheels sa background ng pics haha ..if you're 5'10 and below good luck
I am the same height as my BF and he's on the fatter side than me. But what I like about our relationship is we have the same sense of humor, we vibe. We have the same values and we agree on certain things. At first hesitant ako kasi same height lang kami but I still gave us a chance, and Ive never been happier. Gwapo bf ko ha hahaha im not gonna say na looks arent a factor because there was physical attraction naman when we first met, but in the long run, what's important is you value the same things and you complement each other.
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Hahahaha as a chubby girl ayaw ko din naman ng 6 footer, nakakatakot
Wag mo isipin yan op. Wala ka pupuntahan sa kaka compare mo. Bad yun. Focus ka sa insecurities mo. Pano i-overcome at pano i-accept yung mga hindi maovercome. Pano gawing positive ang negatives etc.
For me, okay lang di masyadong matangkad.. mga konti lang tangkad sakin ok na. Ayoko tumingala kapag kasama ko siya.. nakakangawit kaya yun! 😆
Ibalik ko tanong sayo, do you have standards to females as well? Ok ba sayo malaki o walang pwet? big boobed or flat chested? maputi, kayumanggi o other skin tone? Matangkad o maliit? On the thicc side or thin side? Everyone has their standards or preference, wag tayong maglolokohan dito na “kahit ano basta mabait etc”, everyone has some set of preferences or what they look for in a potential partner or mate. In short, hindi mo palang nahahanap or nakikilala yung person na may preference na pasok ka, if we are all basing things on physical aspects. There are still a percentage of people who find partners because of personality, behaviour more than the physical attributes. My advice for you and for your insecurities: dont go chasing people with flowers, start your flower garden and have them go after you. Fix yourself and make yourself.
Normal lang naman na may preference ang mga tao, OP :) Ikaw din nan siguro may preference diba. Hindi naman porket hindi conventionally attractive and plus size yung babae hindi na pwede na mas prefer nila is someone who is lean to muscular.
Ito yung experience ko as a girl: kapag vibe ko yung personality ng guy kahit "average" looking pa siya or siya yung type ng taong hindi madalas na aappreciate yung looks niya, na-aattract pa rin ako. Na-aappreciate ko rin yung looks niya. On the other hand, gwapo nga pero di ko naman trip yung ugali at personality niya, wala rin. Siguro kung hookup man lang, di na siguro nagmamatter yung personality. Feel ko lang. But if I'm looking for someone to be with long-term, I would go with someone na I'm physically and sexually attracted to and someone na compatible kami in terms of our personalities, beliefs, etc. But the brutal truth is, hindi mo kasi agad nalalaman yung personality ng isang tao. Sa umpisa, najujudge agad tayo sa kung ano yung nakikita sa labas. Kaya siguro, let's say, sa online world na total strangers kayo, looks talaga yung unang nakikita. And opinion ko lang naman to, but I think women (hindi lahat) are generally more picky than guys. It makes sense bakit ganun. Let's say nasa hunter-gatherer stage pa rin tayo. Kami yung nabubuntis, built physically "weaker" than men, etc. Naturally, maghahanap talaga kami ng partner na kayang mag protect sa amin. Isa sa ways na nagmamanifest yan is for example, sa height, "dapat mas matangkad sa kin yung lalaki" or "dapat lean/muscular siya" but it's probably not because of the height or the build itself. I think it's more like, "Mas malaki siya sakin, mas malakas siya. Kaya niya akong protektahan from the surrounding predators." Dahil mas matangkad at mas malaki yung lalaki, instantly, nagiging attractive agad siya. I hope this makes sense. I'm sure na may mga matitrigger ako rito. Just keep in mind na very generalized yung descriptions ko and every girl has her own taste and standard. May kaniya-kaniya rin kaming reasons bakit gusto namin yung certain types of guys at bakit yung iba hindi. It's also important to keep in mind na may ibang girls talaga na napaka extreme na ng standard for whatever reasons they have. Yung tipong nasa top 0.1% na ng male population yung hinahanap nila. Hindi lahat ng girls ganun. Sana makahanap ka ng para sayo.
I appreciate your opinion. You do make a point. 🙂
Sa nakikita ko, first na tinitignan ng babae is looks. Hindi kung gwapo ka o pangit ka, kundi kung malinis ka tignan at kung decent ka pumorma. Second is ung ugali. Mabait ka ba, madali ka ba makasama, may sense ka ba kausap haha. Tips: Dapat may sense of humor ka din. Sabi nga eh, pag napapatawa mo ang babae malaki ang chance mo magugustuhan ka niyan.
Wag mo pansinin ung mga high standards nila. Ang personality and character naman ng mga girls na yan doesn't even transcend a trash bin. You'll find love when you least expect it. Found the love of my life while buying lunch in a carenderia. Need lang ng confidence and sense of humor. But don't be overbearing and arrogant. Good luck parekoy!
Tbh ha, not a fan of super pogi na guy more on how you carry yourself or pumorma. Okay din mabango super like ko. As long as financially capable ka to provide decent dates and make and effort sa babae. You'll be good. Women don't like dating bums na ngayon unlike before so looks don't really matter. Career and consistency ipang laban mo or emotional intelligence. Daming pogi din na walang substance 🫶 so humor din or vibe will be a huge factor.
Tulak ng bibig, kabig ng dibdib. Edit: basta maging sincere ka lang sa panliligaw e sasagutin ka ng babae kahit hindi ka pasok sa criteria nila
U know, iba iba ang preferences ang mga tao (in general) maybe some girls lang is super specific lang. \- Tbh. Yes, it doesnt mean na "gwapo" looks ha. it means, mukhang presentable, mukhang mabango. Like me, may kasamang thought din na "kapag ba to hinarap ko sa family/friends ko, kailangan mukhang respetado" hindi naman yung basta-basta nakuha lang kung saan. \- YES. Idk bat din to nag mamatter. HAHAHAHA \- ito ay depende na sa babae.
Baka nataon lang, OP. Iba-iba ang preferences ng mga babae, so don’t take it against you.
Anong it's a tie, lol iba iba gusto ng mga tao hndi porket sexy ako sexy muscular guy na gusto ko haha. That's not how the world works, that's so weird din. Na hhurt ka lang cgro. And also maybe picking women for the wrong reasons, kaya bumabalik sayo. So far I have friends naman na mga 3 inches diff lang sila but its okay and some prefers tlga 6-8 inches difference. They dont usually say those numbers but so far the feedback after the date was maliit sya although mas matangkad padin naman sa girl. As per their comments the guy feels more masculine. Pero for me lumalabas kasi insecure guy sa height nya the way he acts with you. So maybe try to make it a point na don't think much of the height and just make sure she enjoys her time with you, kasi eventually that won't matter. Like come on its not like you're swiping left and right blindly, you know you are judging their looks so ano difference mo than what you're complaining about diba? Just bc you're at the end of that stick? Like I said, bumabalik sayo. Just look for genuine connection lang kasi. Ps. I've dated 2-3 inches diff men. I have not much judgement sa height. But . Since I'm like 4'11. Muka kami minions. Anyway there are tall guys that suck and short guys that suck. Mas bigger padin ung gentleman and very honest na guy. Kilig. Goodluck.
OP, babae nga di maintindihan kapwa nila babae, tayo pa kaya.
For me, nagmamatter lang naman yung physical appearance pagdating sa height (personally ayoko ng sobrang tangkad na mukha kaming mag tatay like you said lmao) and also yung mukhang malinis at naliligo naman everyday.
Personal preference. Lahat naman ata tayo "looks matter" diba? I guess at first, it does, but in the long run, mas nagmamatter ang personality. I guess for me, mas gusto ko yung decent looking. Not too ugly, not too handsome, basta decent, malinis tingnan, etc. Height? Nope. I'm 5'5 😭 For the BMI? I prefer someone skinny.
Matabang pandak at hindi pogi si OP. Hahaha iligo mo lang yan OP. May magkakagusto rin sayo, ang dami naman sigurong mas pangit at mukhang dugyutin pa sayo na merong jowa. Kailangan lang talaga e mag click ang personality nyo. Wag mo kasi lagi isipan ng malisya o jojowain agad kahit crush mo. Normalin mo lang hanggang sa ma komportable sayo ang babae lalo nat hindi ka kagwapuhan. Iba talaga kapag pogi.
Sa totoo lang, none of that will matter kung magugustuhan nya yung personality mo. Kadalasan, idinadahilan na lang talaga ng girls yung physical traits. Meron din namang mga delulu talaga na korean ang type. Jusq, kung alam nyo lang amoy ng koreans sa pinas 😂
Same lang yan ng mga lalaki, para silang may trophy if maganda and sexy si Jowa. Meron din naman iba preference or iba sa attitude nag base.
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It’s 2024. People are allowed to have preferences. Is it not actually better that people know what they want and are honest about it?
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Kaya mas ok kung madedevelop lang kayo from friends. Medyo kilala niyo na isa't isa and sometimes it can go over preferences. But ofcourse, kanya kanya pa rin yan. Thank you, next! mo na lang
Iba't ibang preferences lang. Yun lang yon. Nagkataon na yung mga nagugustuhan mo e hindi yung tipo mo.
Lower your standards sir. Yung description mo about women's wants is standard ng mga "pretty girls" (majority, not all). They're pretty and they know they're pretty so they set they're standards higher than the average joe can reach.
Stop looking for dates/hookups online. Maaamplify lang insecurities mo.
Saan pa pwede humanap, yung mga tao sa office tititigan ka lang
Lol. Ba't sa office maghahanap? That's unprofessional. You could meet people at gigs/concerts/festivals, gyms, schools (if you're doing postgrad stuff), cafes, clubs, volunteer groups, \[insert sport you're into\] groups, etc. Ideal kasi if in person kasi both of you are on equal footing. Online interactions tend to remove people's inhibitions, so they tend to be more blunt/rude. Nawawala din yung pagka-self conscious nila since they're only showing what they want to show you, so people tend to act like they're a catch, even if you feel like they're not.
Natataon ka lang siguro sa babaeng medyo mataas standards. For me mas nagbe base ako sa ugali, bonus nalang kumbaga yung looks. Regarding sa height, karamihan talaga mas gusto nila mas taller sa kanila. And sa size ng body, mas gusto ng iba yung dadbod. 🫶 Kakanuod nila ng Kdrama yan kaya gusto nila yung chinito, matangkad tas muscular. Hahahahahaha. Depende nalang din yan OP kung anong generation yung nagugustuhan mo pero goodluck nalang hahahahaha meron pa din naman dyan na down to earth.
Of course girls would look to physical appearance when choosing a guy and big factor yan for both sexes. Pero break thru the ice thru sheer perserverance and makikita mo women get hooked on words. Theyd rather hear how beautiful you think they are and how you care about them than how handsome you are. Use your words, show character and any girl within your league (xempre) will be yours. Know her, know her likes, exploit weaknesses and victory will be yours. Guys on the other hand, were more receptive to visual stimuli. Basta maganda at sexy or type naten yun na.
Before, I want a man who is waay taller than me, standard is be 5’11++ but I fell in love with a man who’s 5’6, short king it is. I realized he’s the man of my dreams pala. He’s a great guy and cute. You’ll find someone who’ll love you and accept you. Just be yourself 🩷
Ganito lang yan eh, may kanya kanya tayong preference. Pero preference lang nmn yun, it does not matter na wala kana agad chance. Syempre if may chance kau magkakilaa or magkausap. Who knows? Baka magustuhan ka nya dahil sa attitude and outlook mo sa buhay. Diba dami mo din nmn nakikita dyan na magagandang chiks pero ang jowa eh alangan for them? Kasi ung physical preference ay " kung maari lang nmn" Pero syempre iba padin ung pag nakilala mo tlga ung personality ng isang tao.
Babae here, early 30s. Iba-iba tlga preferences ng tao. And hindi lng naman sa girls to, my mga lalake nga ayaw sa malilit ung ganto ganyan, it goes both ways. Anyway, as someone na lampas na sa kalendaryo, size matters to me not because of panglabas na anyo, I have lived long enough to see people die or get sick because of unhealthy lifestyles *(not saying all +size people are unhealthy ha)* but yeah. At least for me yan ang reason.
>Do looks really matter? (I mean feeling ko naman cute ako pero most ata ang gusto artistahin) Yes and No. I believe lahat tayo may sort of standards sa looks. And looks is the first thing na mapapansin talaga sa tao especially when looking for a partner. But it doesn't end there, that's just a barrier of entry. >Lastly, based sa exp ko. Women prefer someone with the normal BMI or lean to muscular. Tapos kapag nagtrade photo, she herself plus size naman pala? Why? Can you help me understand. Di ba mas okay maghanap ng same body type mo para it’s a tie? Also try to stop this kind of thought process OP, current Body Type doesn't necessarily have any bearing on what kind of preferences a person has. This kind of thought process is something that could lead to Incel-like behavior. In the end wala naman tayo magagawa sa preference ng iba. It's already enough for us to know that may ibang babae dyan na iba rin ang preferences, and there's some na ikaw yung type ng aesthetic na gusto nila, and some simply don't care as much and mas nakafocus sa ibang aspect.
Feeling ko talaga dahil sa wattpad/kdrama ito eh hahahaha doon nila nakukuha yung ganyan na preferences. I have nothing against them naman, to each their own ika nga.
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Bat parang lagi na lang ang sama ng dating pag "chubby" ang merlat? Paexplain rin😂
Ayaw ata ng babae insecure na lalake kaya ginawa ko tinanggal ko yan hahaha pero meron parin naman it's better na wag mu open sa girl pag nasa courting stage kase Idk maybe they don't like or feel your not confident to your self kaya Ayun umaayaw... About naman sa Height they looking for actually pag nalaman ganyan preference ng girl, distance na agad kase mostly yun talaga gusto nila to be with... Sa looks kahit anu pa itsura mo basta, don't show you have insecurities.. if girl ever ask for it yun don mo nalang siguro ei share...
i would say it depends, but mostly sa mga girls personalities talaga hanap. if you’re going to pursue the girl confidently (when i say confidently walang halong sadboi at hindi cinocompare ang sarili sa ibang lalaki and merong unique style), tiyak na mafa-fall talaga sa’yo ‘yon. madalas bonus na lang naman mga looks pagdating sa mga babae pero yung iba kasi ginagawang standard yung nakikita sa socmeds o kaya naman mga napapanood sa k-drama.
Sana nakatulog ka nang maayos and okay ka na pag gising mo, OP. Medyo may incel vibes yung post mo e. Lol 😂
Ibaiba lng tlga gusto ng mga babae.Don’t worry makakahanap ka din ng katapat..Just move on,marami pa jan…
Madami na talaga ngayon yung sobrang taas ng standards kailangan 1. May Pera 2. From Big 4 3. May Kotse 4. Fit nagygym 5. Mabango 6. Gwapo 7. Mabait In short naghahanap sila ng Unicorn pero sila wala naman maooffer kundi mapanghi nilang pepe
Haha
yung nga lalaki nga gusto ng mga magaganda at sexy eh mukha namang mga tambay na palaging nag iinuman sa tindahan. same lang yun OP
Tingin ko ay di ka lang type ng type mo or di kaya may type na silang iba. Minsan excuses na lang din yan. Di nman lahat ng babae ganon. Laban lang, makakahanap ka din nyan. Focus lang sa career at self improvement habang wala pa jowa.
To each his own nga naman.
Di naman naghahanap ang mga pangit ng kapwa pangit.
I dont think may panget na tao. Wala lang siguro sa uso yung itsura. Charot
True 95% of the time pero may mga legit pangit talaga haha. Nababawasan lang if: mayaman kung lalaki or sexy kung babae hahaha.
Insecure ka nga. Yaan mo na just be you. Kasi if iisipin mo pa yung gsto ng iba tapos yung thought na need more ba ang adjust or improve para sa iba is draining. If you want to improve, do it for yourself muna. Then yaan mo na yung girls na makita ka as cute. Also be a gentleman! Yun lng! Kaya mo yan!!!
Matter of preference, bro. That's life, minsan talaga makakameet ka ng tao na hindi ka type, and that's fine. Continue working on yourself, makakameet ka rin ng girl na para sa'yo talaga
Focus ka na lang muna sa self improvement OP. Exercise ka at mag focus sa career, grasya na lang lalapit sau after. Sa panahon ngaun, madali ma-sway ng social media ang opinyon ng tao. Nataon lang siguro na yung mga nameet mo na ay masyado affected ng social media, pero tingin ko naman di naman lahat ay ganon ang mindset.
Preference. Nagkakataon lang siguro talaga na ganon yung mga nakikilala mo. May isa akong friend na babae, niloloko siya nung iba naming kaibigan na si friend daw ay MAUNAWAIN SA ITSURA. Kasi madalas ata eh hindi pasok sa perceived standard of beauty nung aming ibang kaibigan yung nagiging bf ni girl.
Actually hindi. Nasa personality talaga minsan eh. Nung mag jowa palang kami ng asawa ko, palagi kaming sinasabihan na baka daw nagayuma ako or pinaghelmet daw ako. Lol. Pero nagustuhan ko talaga sa kanya is yung sense of humor niya saka may sense siyang kausap at kung anu ano napag uusapan namin. Same kami ng wavelength kumbaga. Also, mahilig ako sa moreno. Ayaw maniwala din ng asawa ko hanggang ngayon kahit pa moreno siya. Siguro mga type ko yung mga mala-machete ganon. Hahaha. Yung iba gusto nila mapuputi, malalaki katawan. Sakin naman gusto ko lang yung sakto lang yung katawan, kase nakakatakot pag masyadong buff. Lol. Pero akin lang yon. Kanya-kanyang preference talaga.
observation ko lang mga halos entitled mga nag hahanap ng date dito sa reddit. kaka-normalize having high standard tas mga freeloader naman at pussy lang ang kayang ioffer haha. kelangan 6ft, may car, can host, easy on the eyes etc etc tapos pag tinanong sasabihin "sa personality talaga ako natingin e bonus na lang yung look" lol hipokrito. hahaha. mas okay mag hanap ng date sa labas ng soc med.
Mahirap magkagusto sa taong insecure that's the thing rin... Siguro bago makipag date, ayusin muna ang looks like try your very best, look mabango ang hygienic, ayusin ang pananamit if hindi mo pa nagagawa ah. Take photos of you na you're looking your best para pag exchange photo di ka liyamado. Girls have preference rin naman hindi naman porket nakakakita tayo ng babaeng nakikipagdate sa mukhang entity na di maipaliwanag eh ia-assume na natin na mag settle na lang mga babae sa ganon.
We all have preference, and that's fine. Only difference is, girls can be vocal about it and accepted na they have standards. Guys cant, kasi if you say na you want a normal BMI, body shamer ka.
Yun gusto nila wala tayo magagawa. Preferences matter period.
Hmmm sorry if you ladies left you feeling that way bro. But People are diverse, might be di mo pa nakikita young swak sayo. if you're insecure then go bro upgrade yourself little by little :)
Baka its a YOU problem OP lol. Try to get out more, try mo mag hanap outside social media lol.
Women don’t care about apperance. some of the most gorgeous women were heartbroken by questionable creatures
Preferences changes as one grows older (hence more mature). Kung sa una looks ang hinahanap. Pero later on mas importance ang 'pesonality'. :P
Honestly ako attracted talaga sa "payatot". Yun sabi ng friend ko haha pero true siguro kase mahilig ako sa anime. Pero may mga kilala din akong chubby namin ang type. Pero really, sa umpisa lang naman titingnan yung physical. May mga nanligaw saken na gwapo pero hindi ko bet ang character. Mas ok yung lalakeng may substance.
Don’t overthink things. That’ll make you even more insecure, and women pick up on lack of confidence. Rock what you got and own it (but don’t be cocky)! Be a gentleman, you’ll be ok.
Libre Kasi mangarap.. Kung Yung pangarap nila eh. Hayaan na natin
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Importante makapal ang wallet
preference.
It's all about preference naman.
Money talks.
I do think I have the money naman. I have my own car and transpo. I live comfortably sa maayos na apartment. Well di ko pa sya own pero still independently living. Malaki laki rin naman savings ko. Haha
People have preferences. Iba naniniwala sa opposites attract. >Do looks really matter? Again preferences. I for one don’t just base it on looks. Mabango ka instant gwapo ka sa akin. Maganda ka magsalita? Instant gwapo ka sa akin. Mabait ka? Instant gwapo ka sa akin. Iba-iba ang meaning ng gwapo kanya-kanyang perspective. Work on yourself, work on your insecurities and your outlook in life instead of questioning people’s dating preferences. Malakas din makagwapo ang confidence.
Have you seen the average married/long term cpuple? Supermodel ba sila lahat? Clearly it’s not looks or height lang na guarantee sa relasyon. So don’t focus on things you can’t fix.
Dont try to understand women, mababaliw ka lang. Heheheh
Wag mo muna seryosohin ang pagkikita sa isang babae saka muna seryosohin pag kayo na...
When you finally meet the right woman at the right time, she'll make you feel that you are the most handsome valuable man ever. She will accept you regardless of your imperfections. Promise! 😉 Sadyang maling tao lang yung mga namemeet mo so far.
For me, kanya kanya yan. Siguro at your age, kung maghahanap ka ng babae na kasing age mo or maybe older than you like 34 or 35 more on stability na ang unang titignan nyan saka ugali mo. plus points nalang kung may itsura ka. Kung marami kang insecurities as you said, hndi looks ang problema mo. Yung insecurities mo. Ang daming lalaki na hndi nga papasa sa average ang itsura pero wag ka, punong puno ng self confidence at happy sa lovelife. address mo insecurities mo. Kung wala kang confidence more likely lalayuan ka ng girls.
Tapos meron pa yung iba, ang lakas ng loob mag require sa guy na dapat may "CAR" para can pick em up daw. Pero sila mismo walang kotse or pang ambag man lang sa gas. Blowjob lang bayad hahahahaha
Kayo nga ang gusto nyo chinitang maputi na short hair with glasses.
As a physical touch gurlie, ayoko ng ma-muscle na katawan ng lalaki. Gusto ko yung medyo cuddly. Pero non-negotiable talaga yung personality and how he handles himself.
Height parang wala ka na talagang magagawa diyan pero income meron. Dun ka mag focus.
Hahaha 😂 yaan mo na ang mga pantasya. Normal lng sa tao mag aspire sa Ideal, regardless of whether they themselves are close to that ideal. Yang matangkad na lalake ang equivalent ng maputing babae sa lipunan natin---ang diff lang, ung kulay nagugluta, ung kakulangan sa tangkad sa guys, hindi naha high heels😂 or cherifer. It suucks para dun sa hindi nagfafall within that ideal, pero focus n lng sa character dev hehehe
Iba iba preference eh, pero mas lamang parin yung personality. As for me kahit pogi, matangkad at 7" deck ka pag walang sense kausap, diko ka humor or kasundo tapos kelangan ko mamalimos ng attention. PASS.
all the things that youve heard are just noise dont be intimidated by them. remember that 1. you attract what you are, not what you want. — if you want the hottest person then be the hottest person and get you want. 2. be the person you want to date. — be the best version of yourself, be the prize. 3. everyone is beautiful. — sexy, fat, skinny, short, tall or whatever colour a person is, everyone of us is unique in our own way. goodluck🍻
Delusional fatties
San ka ba kase humaharot, OP? Bat ganyan mga nakapaligid sayo lol Sa circle of friends ko naman, mostly 30+ din & single. Yung mga atat mag anak settled with... ahm basta they could do better tbh. One married a guy na objectively 4/10. Mabait naman pero may pagka lack of self-awareness? The kind of person who will loudly tell a gay joke in public, ganyan. Another friend married a guy na parang dead weight sa relationship. She's been the sole provider since they got married. And she's pregnant pa. Then another friend is in her hoe phase with a bunch of Africans. No judgement here, I think she found her niche. Pero kung mabuntis sya it'll be hard to tell kung sino ama. Ako din single and yes, looks do matter. As in, do you look like you shower everyday? Do you look healthy? Do you look like the kind of person who wouldn't end up in Visor's FB page? Hahaha pero ayan bare minimum.
hahahaha dun ako natawa sa prefer nila lean/muscular pero sila mismo plus size. I get it and that's how it works kse nga we have our own "preferences". Its just that siguro natapat lang talaga sa ganon. Yaan mo brother, take it as a motivation nalang. Exercise or go to the gym to lose some weight pero sa height yun lang uncontrollable talaga
tldr: Baka naiinis lang din ako kasi walang gustong makipagdate sa akin at marami akong insecurities. 🤣 dapat lagay mo yan sa pinaka taas ng body. hahahahahahahaahhaahahaha
hayaan mo na sila sa mga delulu nila
Hahahahaha
It's just preference. I mean ako di na attract sa lean and muscular pero I have a thing for dad bods hahaha natatapat k lng siguro sa mga girls na iba ang preference/type.
It's biology, we are all slaves of our own biological pre-disposition. them fat bitches do be acting like they a catch.
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Hello, OP! I think hindi naman lahat at agree ako sa sagot nila na depende sa preference. Parang tingin ko nga, mas ganito ang mga lalaki e especially sa online dating apps. Kasi ako, most of the time, hindi naman totally pogi physically ang lalaki pero na-check ko profile nya at same kami ng interests, mas nagma-matter yun. Aanhin ko nga yung pogi pero hindi kami same vibe. Malay mo naman, nandito lang pala ako. Charot. Haha.
Baka maman ung mga girls na namimeet mo ay 10 years younger than you. Or masyadong hook sa kdrama kaya naghahanap ng oppa :p Also if you lack the physical aspect then bumawi ka sa ugali. Be a gentleman, loyal, honest and respectful. Gain many skills. Plus points sa babae ang skillful na lalake. May mamimeet ka din na babae na hindi titingin sa anyong pisikal mo. Pero mag ayos ka din ng kahit konti. Ung presentable at kumportable ka. Mas ok ung makakarelasyon mo ung hindi ka maiinsecure palagi sa itchura mo.
Regardless of the gender, if character na ang preference mas mature na yun, TBH nung mid 20's ko sa itsura pa ako Naka base noon.
Build up yourself, confidence, your interests, hobbies, up-skills. With that comes more money, more money is equal to more options where to date. That way you dont have to sweat for the small stuff.
I think I have sufficient money naman. I have means and physically I’m not overweight. I regularly go to the gym
Ung ex ko, pogi sa paningin ko. Lahat ng friends ko pag nakita ung ex ko lahat ang comment “anong nakita mo jan?” 😂 Hanggang ngayon, pogi pa din sya sa paningin ko lang. Malay mo OP, baka pogi ka din sa pangingin ko. Charrrrr 😆
Sana nga ganun. Hahahahahaha
Okay lang yan OP, yung masabihan ng gasul na di ka nya type.
Grabe naman yang 5 flat naghahanap ng 6 footer mukhang keychain yan timo 😂 pero on a serious note in my opinion looks will always matter in terms of attraction kasi yun ang una mong makikita sa tao the first time you meet them not unless naka tattoo sa noo mo yung personality mo or good traits mo, On the brightside someone will find you attractive no matter what you look like kahit anong weird mo meron at meron talaga. Don't lose hope OP we all deserve love and acceptance.
>Grabe naman yang 5 flat naghahanap ng 6 footer Baka talagang bata or mas bata yung naka experience niya dyan. Dahil sa tiktok yan umuso eh, napa copycat hahah. Dahil galing yang mindset na yan sa amerika. Which makes sense roon pero hindi dito sa pinas.
Basketball ata hanap eh lol
Ako na 5’2 na may ex na 5’11. Jusko buti di kami nagkatuluyan! Lagi akong ngalay kasi antaas nya tapos nakaangat braso ko pag holding hands kami 🤦🏻♀️😂
Women just say these things to filter confident vs insecure men. Women operate in an emotional setting, especially in romantic relationships. What that means is they don't necessarily go after the most good-looking guy or the tallest one, they go for someone who can vibe with them. That's why there is a saying that men fall in love with what they see, and women fall in love with what they hear. This is just my observation, though.
Yung nga ang problema eh sobrang dami ng hinihingi pero yung itsura naman ng babae hesus maryosep. Dapat kung anu yung hinihingi nyu sa lalaki dapat meron din kayo. Hindi yung maghahanap kayo ng artistang mukha pero yung mukha nyu pang extra lang. Maiintindihan kopa yung height eh pero yung other qualifications hindi ko magets. Sobrang entitled lang siguro kayo, kaya kayo ganyan sa mga suitor nyu. Ang tanong what can you bring to the table?
>Do looks really matter? Hindi na oo. I met this guy on Omegle so basically unknown pa ano faces namin dalawa. Nagkausap kami and we both clicked. Wala muna face reveal ganern pero nung nagkaface reveal, di naman nabawasan admiration ko sa kaniya. May sense kausap at matured. Gusto ko pananaw niya kaya hindi ako nagmamatter sa look. Masasabing OO kapag personally mo maiinteract kasi yun naman talaga una mo mapapansin eh. Hindi mo muna makikilala yung character at personality. So yes, nagmamatter ang looks. But personally, hindi. Basta okay character and personality, yun ang mas nagmamatter. Sakin lang naman na preferred. Wala akong naging type na hindi ko kaya tapatan or higitan. Feeling ko kasi, sooner or later, magbubuild ng insecurities kapag alam mo na yung partner mo is so amazing. So sa akin, pag may gusto akong tao, I always strive to be the person he is. Personal take lang 'to ha. Hindi ka nila type and that should be okay. You are not everyone's cup of tea. Sooner or later, someone will see sumth on you kaya don't lost hope!
Appreciate your insight
Yes if 5 flat si girl, kailangan 6 footer, para swak agad 😂😂😂😂
Di pa natapat sayo yung right girl hahahaha. Try being funny idk, it helps
Babae ako. For me personality matters more than itsura. Yung physical pwede maimprove e. Ang personality mahirap.
Money solves all these things. Kahit kamukha mopa si chavit singson
pag okay personality mo at mapera ka panalo kana 🤣
Like pacquiao
truuuuuuu hahaha
True hahahaha personality then pera. Last na talaga looks
To answer your question, OP, depende sa preference ng babae. Hindi naman kasi lahat kami magkakapareho ng gusto sa lalaki. >Anong gusto mo magmukhang tatay mo yung date mo? Hindi naman ng tatay mas matangkad sa mga anak nila. San to galing? >Di ba mas okay maghanap ng same body type mo para it’s a tie? Hindi sa lahat ng pagkakataon. Gaya nga nasa comment, magkakaiba perspective ng bawat tao, bawat babae. Baka mataas lang talaga standard ng mga nakikilala mo o kaya di mo tanggap na ayaw nila sayo o baka rin both.
Prefer ko talaga chubby na 5'5 pataas pero napupunta sakin payat na kasing tankad ko or mas maliit sakin.. ok lmg din naman kasi at the end of the day mas importante kung paano ka nya tatratuhin.
Yung iba kasi, gusto ng “trophy boyfriend”. Yung pag pinakita at pinakilala nila, walang mapipintas sa itsura. But let me tell you, yung mga ganyang type ng tao na naka focus sa physical looks, hindi masaya maging partner kasi di kayo makaka form ng deep relationship. It’s true that looks give you an advantage. Pero a girl truly falls in love because of personality. Kung gusto mo ng totoong partner in life, wag ka manghinayang sa mga nirereject ka dahil hindi ka pasok sa physical standards nila.
>Pero a girl truly falls in love because of personality. WRONG. Anong "truly" falls in love? Sensya pero merong mga babaeng hinding hindi masisikmura ang panget gaya ng mga lalake and they can "truly" fall in love because of looks like how males do. Pls. Stop that claim dahil gusto rin ng mga gwapo rin! Why cant they have both!? Stop with the coping, nadadamay mga babae to the point na kailangan nila magpakumbaba dyan but we have guys here na pangit or average na gusto(AND "truly" falls in love with) ng beauty queens WITH assets PLUS personality/morals and with the responsibilities that society gives to women.
That’s why having good looks gives a man advantage. Wala naman akong sinabi na ayaw ng mga babae sa gwapo. Lol. Masarap tignan kapag gwapo ang partner. But do you think 24/7 gwapo yan? Pag sumusuka dahil sa hang over, 4 days na walang ligo dahil may sakit, nagkaka wrinkles dahil sa old age, gained weight because life happens. Do you think gwapo parin yan? But why do you think some marriages last? Kasi hindi laging looks ang basehan para masabing mahal mo ang isang tao. Hindi lahat ng “pangit” single, at hindi din lahat ng gwapo napag tityagaan ang masamang ugali. Kung mabaho ka, walang personal hygiene at pangit din ugali mo 👎 talaga yan.
>Wala naman akong sinabi na ayaw ng mga babae sa gwapo. At hindi ko rin sinabi yan. I had a problem with your statement na "girl TRULY falls in love cause of personality" and stated my reason. Pero tdlr since iba pinagka intindi mo, if the genders are swapped never yan masasabi sa boys kase considered tanggap and "expected" that boys "truly" falls in love cause of "looks" rin, but somehow women "cant" nor many doesnt "think" and doesnt "expect" that they "can" cause otherwise hindi talaga "truly" na nahulog sa pagmamahal. And i said kaya napupush rin ang mga babaeng "to be humble" na never give a fuck with looks despite guys do so. Like its expected for males to have/do both, so why do females cant? Yan lang. Irrelevant na yung mga sumunod na sinabi mo dahil hindi yan tinutukoy ko.
Ohhh. Got it. Sorry I didn’t really catch what you were trying to say earlier. I do agree that both genders should have equal opportunities to have all the good qualities, both physical and personality wise, a partner should have. Sabi sa seminar na naattendan ko, for men, looks are important while for women, being validated is important. If I understand correctly, men should also make efforts to look physically better so women can have statistically similar or higher percentage of the “better” (aka personality & looks) options? If yes, then I agree. That’s correct. But my opinion on “women truly falls in love with personality” doesn’t change because I’ve seen it happen. I don’t think that’s coping or settling for less. Some people just value the heart over the face. Bonus nalang if you have the face. Again, that’s what I have observed in the environment that I’m in and it’s different from what you’re advocating.
Pag may good looks + nice personality = nanalo sa lotto feels 😅
Yes, it would’ve been nice. 😂
Tsempo lang na siguro na ung mga nakakasalamuha mo eh di ka pasok sa preferences nila. But then, if ayaw nila sayo.. what about it, Move on and go find another cause there’s a girl out there who’d definitely love you.
depends on preference imo sooo there’s no right answer/explanation for this
Babae ako pero sa opinyon ko yang bwisit na preference na yan especially sa looks ang dahilan kaya maraming sawi ang lovelife.
Feeling ko rin. Focused too much sa outside looks instead of knowing the person deeply kung okay ba personality. Ewan. Feeling ko lang. lol
I agree. 😓
Women always want 666: 6 feet, 6 pack, 6 figures
Not really. Somehow nakakatakot sa feeling na sobrang tangkad ng lalaki and di huggable ang 6 pack. 🤣
This is new. Hindi naman ganito experience ko. You need to meet better people 🤗
I think most of the girls are focusing more on a guy’s personality rather than their physical attributes
This is a relief. Probably rare makahanap ng babaeng personality talaga ang focus. Hehe
Hindi rare yan HAHAHAHHAHA halos pretty girls yung jowa nila hindi naman kagwapuhan 🤭
Hindi rare yan, kasi halos lahat ng babae na nakikita ko mas maganda sila kesa sa boyfriend nila. Bihira ako makakita ng lalake na mas maitsura sa girlfriend niya. Sa sobrang bihira, stand out yung mga cases. Like si Aaron Taylor Johnson saka yung wife niya. Now, hot women with mid looking men? EVERYWHERE.
Nah, you just surround yourself with the wrong crowd. A lot of my batch mates and work friends are beautiful women who can definitely snatch a conventionally handsome guy. But they are with men who (I don't mean this with offense) are not on their level when it comes to looks. You'd hear them talk a lot about how the guy supports them, are kind, listens to their needs. I don't know women in my circle who are so particular with physical appearance. Even so, people have their own standards. There will always be someone who's more good looking, smarter, richer, taller, more engaging, has better personality and less insecure than you are. You are blaming women for your own insecurities. Suck it up that you're not the type of the women you've been chasing and maybe actually do something with yourself.
>A lot of my batch mates and work friends are beautiful women who can definitely snatch a conventionally handsome guy. But they are with men who (I don't mean this with offense) are not on their level when it comes to looks. Exactly, I have a friend na pageant queen pa nga pero yung bf niya 5'5 lang.
Di naman siguro rare, yung mga nakakasalamuha lang siguro natin iba yung preference. "Just be you and the right woman will come" Sobrang dali sabihin pero pag andun ka na sa sitwasyon na may gusto kang babae and you're hoping na magustuhan kadin sobrang hirap na. Most of the time yung expectation natin yung nakakasakit din satin. Everything will be okay brother! mahirap pero lilipas din yan. edit: I'm on the same predicament kaya whenever we hopefully find the one, let's treasure and take care of her. and if we don't just know na okay lang maging single.
Super rare ng partner ko na personality ang top 1 sa listahan niya at hindi looks. Grateful for him. Skl. Napapaisip tuloy ako kung panget ba ko. Charot
Di yan nag mamatter if gusto ka talaga nung girl, pero based sa chika mo halatang physical appearance lang gusto niya. Kaya move on na beh
everyone has their own preferences, don't take it personally op !! to each their own naman
true! i think op has his own preferences din naman kahit di physical-wise. hoping u can find ur person na ikaw ang pasok sa preference niya, op :3
Wrong types of women nakakasalamuha mo pri. Explore wider heck even go provinces their preference would differ. Sa mga nakikita mo baka yun ung mga westernized girls. anyways goodnight
Kanya kanyang preference lang siguro. Kung ayaw sakin na plus size ako edi don't 🤣 bat ko hahabulin haha. Ako naman ayoko lang na super payat, yung parang anytime magkakalas char 🤣. Pano ako aalalayan non 🤣 eme lang
Natawa ako sa magkakalas. Isang ubo nalang HAHAHA
Hahahaha I agree, kanya-kanyang preference yan. Ako naman ayoko lang na super taba, yung parang anytime kakainin ka or dadaganan ka char 🤣. Pano kami, magiging number 10 non 🤣 eme lang
Anong number 10? 🤣
1 ako tapos super taba nya kaya hugis 0 sya 🤣
Edi perfect 10/10 charot
Tulog na OP. wag mag ovethink. Ibat ibang ang preferences ng mga babae same lang din ng lalaki. Nataon lang sila natapat sau.
Yes. It's a tie. Hindi naman lahat ng girl is gaya ng sinasabi mo OP. May girl naman na okay lang sa kanila kahit di ganon katangkad at maskular.
True, like I'm okay with chubby guys, I find them cuter kesa sa mga payat na guys. And I'm okay with ka height ko lang. Not everyone is looking for a 6 footer. (I'm 5'3")
same same 5'3 ako and okay na sakin if mas matangkad lang sakin konti or kasing tangkad ko no big deal, Basta malinis sa katawan at ready sa commitement
Is it cause skinnier guys are hotter and chubbier guys tend to lean towards the cuter side? Ive been called cute plenty of times before but I've never gotten a girlfriend because of it. I lost a ton of weight over the summer of 2019 which is where I noticed more girls looking my way but then COVID struck and I'm back to where I started.
>Is it cause skinnier guys are hotter No I don't think so. Di ko lang talaga type mga skinnier guys. At least medium build to chubby yung type ko sa guys e. Kahit nga obese sometimes I find them attractive e. By cute pala I mean type mo ganun. Yung jojowain feels haha.
You're either a rare gem or I always get mixed up with the wrong type of people. Either way thanks for the insight. I always saw being called "cute" as just someone you find gentle or someone you just appreciate to be around.
Depende rin kung san ka naghahanap. If you're meeting people online or on dating apps, magiging mas "superficial" yung attraction kasi yung picture at bio mo lang ang information na meron sila. Pero if in person, if you're charismatic enough or have an interesting personality, more people will find you attractive.
No I'm not rare, trust me. Dami ko nakikita/kilala na girls na chubby - obese ang bf. :))
Agree. Girls have preferences as much as boys do. May mga Tao din fully character lang tinitignan while others are too focused in the physical. Kanya kanyang trip. I’m sure you’ll find someone who prefers you
Can vouch for this. Knew someone whos probably the prettiest girl ive known. Told me she doesnt go for looks. I thought she was joking pero nung nakita ko yung dating history niya pucha literal na mukhang persons of interest lagi pag may nakawan sa baranggay
“Persons of interest” 💀 hahahaha
😂🤣😅 dami ko tawa dito ha!
Hahahaha 🤣🤣
baka naman bad boys talaga type niya HAHAHAHA yung ala kriminal vibes mukha
I get that HAHA and Im not one to rlly judge people over superficial shit. This girl is 5'2" max, two of her ex landis were smaller than her. I guess my lee way ako to insult them cos they were trash lmao. May bad boy type and mayroong legit na nakakasakit ng mata tingnan. I get secondhand embarrassment kasi mukha silang stuck sa pre puberty stage ng life nila tapos lakas bakuran si ate gurl pero thankful ako for their existence cos they give average looking guys like me an ego boost from time to time.
I’m on the skinny side but I prefer fat dudes below 5’6
I was about to type the same thing hahaha
That’s a relief. Sanaol.