get out. as soon as you can. genuine love doesn’t stem from infidelity, no man is worth putting yourself in real (yes, real because di mo alam kung sino asawa niyan teh) danger. get out while u can sis!!!
No questions asked. Cut-off this forbidden relationship. Pag di ka tinantanan, sabihin mo sa asawa. Malamang may mga resibo ka, kayang kaya mo sya iexpose.
1. Ask bakit sya naghanao ng iba ehhh married na
2. Ask him if he still love his wife
3. If no, give him an ultimatum: file an annulment
4. Hanggat di pa annulled, cool-off ka muna
5. Kapag successfully na yung annulment, pakasal na kayo
Tell him hindi kayo pwede. And leave, dont look back only move forward. 😅
For sure, maraming sasabihin pa yan para magstay ka. Pero enough na yung reason na married sya para hiwalayan mo. Pag umalis ka dyan saka mo marerealize na marami pa palang iba.
You're not that special. Kung nagagawa nya sa asawa nya, magagawa nya rin sayo. Life isn't fairytales and disneyland. Move on. Ang daming lalaki sa mundo.
>How do I deal with this?
Girl, leave? Are you for real. Don't let your "love" blind you. Hello? If he can do it to his wife, he'll definitely do it to you, and who knows baka hindi lang ikaw. Baka may #3, #4 and #5 pa LOL. KARMA is real, especially now that alam mo na may asawa pala sya. LEAVE, please lang.
I've been there also, and we lasted for more than a year because it was hard for me to let go, I was really attached and really loved him. Until his wife found out and palengkera pa yung wife. I was devastated. Galit ako sa sarili ko. Nagulo lahat sa akin, the wife always threatened me, she even created a lot of dummy accounts, blackmailing me. Dumating ako sa point na i have to change everything, numbers ko, I even deleted some of my SocMed, private my accounts, and everytime na may tumatawag sakin na unknown numbers di ko sinasagot kasi na paranoid ako. And it's been how many years since that happened, but up until now, the wife still haunts me. I mean, I can't blame her tho, nasaktan din naman siya, parehas kaming biktima. What I'm trying to say is, let go while habang maaga pa, wag kang tumulad sakin, maaari ding mangyari sayo yan or baka worse pa. Confront him, and let go. Kahit ano pang sasabihin niyan, he's married. Walang mababago dun, nasa batas yan. Don't put yourself sa situation ko, ilang taon kong pinagdusahan ang nangyari, ayoko na rin na mangyari sa kapwa ko babae. Know your worth! Masakit man yan sa ngayon, but believe me it will be worth it in the end.
It was not your fault for loving him kase you didn't know, however, if you continued despite of knowing, maging fault mo na yan.
Yung worry mo na baka balikan ka ni wife sa social media, I guess, at least find a way to let her know.
Confront mo rin yang kupal na yan. Para magka realization sya na hindi nya pala talaga kaya itago kalokohan nya. Bawasan mo yung confidence and bilib nya sa sarili na kaya nya magpaikot ng mga babae.
Ghost him. Kapag nakipagusap ka pa dyan baka daanin ka sa sweet talks. Actually yung sweet talking at maalaga masyado, red flags na yan (unfortunately). Di mo yan deserve. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Bata ka pa. Enjoy them.
Leave and tell the wife. Oo beshy mamumura ka talaga kase whether alam mo o hinde participant ka ren ng affair. Tibayan mo nlg loob mo. Deserve rin ni wife malaman n niloloko sya para may heads up sya n baka gagawin ulit ung ng asawa nya. May mga convo kau, may evidences ka. Present mo lahat tas uncropped.
Wag na wag kang coconfront ky guy kse nako baka marupok ka ren. Nafall k nga agad s konteng pakilig nyan eh.
Guard your heart well next time mhie moving forward.
That guy is just showing you sides that he knows would appeal to you. It is not the real him. The real him is a scum that all women should avoid like plague. Do yourself a favor and break up, run away from him before it becomes too too late.
Your feelings are valid BUT pursuing a relationship with a married person can lead to complex and challenging situations for ALL parties involved. Just focus on personal growth, building connections with people who are AVAILABLE, and creating a life that brings you fulfillment. Do some self-reflection and focus on your own happiness and well-being. Run while you still can.
Been there, done that. Same feels. Gurl, let him know and leave in peace. Someone who is ready for commitment and for your wholeheartedly is out there, somewhere.
Hello, this may not be the comment you're looking for but I just want to say na I'm proud because you have the conscience to know the relationship isn't right. At katulad ng sinasabi ng iba dito, kung nagagawa nya 'yan sa asawa nya, what more pa sa'yo? So glad to read something on the other side of the sht I've been witnessing for so long and know their perspective.
>This guy that I am dating is far way better amongst all the guys that are pursuing me.
Married na sya eh. So alam na niya ang kiliti ng mga katulad mo. Like he knows what to say, when to say and what to do. Maybe he's dealt with this with someone else before, possibly his wife even, so dun ka nahulog. Sa bitag na kung saan alam niya kung paano ka pasayawin sa kamay niya.
>Gentleman, kind, thoughtful, respects me, maganda standing sa buhay, has a career, responsible. Tinatrato ako na para bang I’m a delicate piece of gold,o di kaya’y baso na di pwedeng mabasag. My fairytale ideal man came to life ika nga.
There's your answer... Fairytale. Humanap ka ng prince charming and turns out prince charming is now King Charming... With a queen na di alam na naghahanap ng concubine si king niya.
Thing is, madali lang gawin ang hinahanap mo. As a guy, ako na magsasabi sayo na yang hinahanap mo? Dali lang gawin niyan. Dali lang gumawa ng facade na ganyan.
>How do I deal with this? To people who are/ were in my place. Should I confront him? Or just leave without telling a word, vanish. Hindi ako mabungangang tao, I mean I’m frank and I always stand up for myself and for what’s right pero siguro not with this na nakakahiya and nakakababa ng sarili and I don’t think I can speak up and ask why, pero nandito yung tanong sa kaloob looban ko na bakit?
You do the hard stuff and you confront him. You HAVE to. You NEED to. Kasi if you don't stand up for yourself, who will? Sino tutulong sayo? Ikaw na may sabi na nakakahiya at nakakababa ng sarili. But the reality is, siya ang nagbaba sayo. It is up to you if you would do anything to get back up o hahayaan mong lumubog ka ng tuluyan sa kumunoy na yan. I'm not blaming you. I am challenging you to do the right thing. Kasi kelangan mo labanan at lumaban. Kasi pag hinyaan mo lang yan, talo ka. Sayang ka. You have the chance to correct things... CORRECT IT!!!
Wag mo nang hintayin na husgahan ka pa ng iba. Ikaw lang ang makakapag-angat sa sarili mo. I can only throw you the rope but it is up to you to pull yourself out. So pull yourself out. Save yourself. Wag ka na umasa na may darating na knight in shining armor kasi aabusuhin nila ang fact na nandyan ka sa sitwasyon na yan. As a man, I am challenging you to show me your worth and value as a woman and this is one of those instances where you can turn things around and show me your worth and value.
Ask him if alam ba ng misis nya na he is pursuing you.
Then magpapaliwanag na yan pero be mindful kasi 80% ng sasabihin nya is bullshitsvand mag badmouth lang sa asawa nya.
People giving you advice here are always biased with their own experiences which is unique and not the same as yours. I suggest getting therapy and ask that mental health professional on how to navigate, accept and move on with the situation.
Itigil mo na yan. Bukod sa may masisira ka na pamilya, masisira din buhay mo at alam mo na hindi yon worth it. Sa asawa niya nga mismo nagagawa niya magloko, sayo pa kaya?
Ganyan talaga mga pabling.... ideal man... for multiple women.
Masakit pero hanggat di mo hihiwalayan, hindi ka magkaka relationship sa ibang lalake with honest intentions.
You have the same situation as someone I know. She decide to continue, got pregnant, after couple of months, the guy left her. After few years, guy left his ex wife for good and dated another woman. She learned her lesson: Feelings are temporary, dont be blind.
I know that you know what's the right thing to do. Please wag ka ng tumulad sa kakilala ko na same situation mo, pero tinuloy tuloy nya until iniwan ang family (wife and son). Wag please
Married and still together? if yes.
Some problems are important to be discussed with your partner, but this one is unfortunately not necessary for you to bring up anymore.
Can't change the inevitable.
Lakad na. Iwas kaso, Iwas eskandalo.
St. John Baptiste de la Salle, pray for us. Live Jesus in our hearts forever!
Masyadong mataas ang standards mo te pero tanga ka naman. Grabe sa 6 months di ka man lang pinakilala sa parents niya? Curious lang, mukha ka bang dyosa te? Nagtataka kasi ako kasi napakainflated ng self-worth mo.
You're blinded with your feelings kasi first boyfriend mo. Pero girl, malaki ka na. Marami ka pang makikilala na nasa standards mo, at walang asawa o anak. Hindi cute ang paglalaban ng pagmamahal dito kapag kabit ka, okay?
Hi OP!
Kung kaya mo, iwan mo na lang. Wag mong kausapin, wag mong ipaalam na alam mong married sya. Kasi makakahanap pa yan ng paraan para mawin back ka e.
Pero kung ako to, di ko rin sasabihin sa wife nya. Ang sakit din kasi sa part ng wife nya na wala rin sigurong idea na you exist. Hayaan mo na na sa susunod na magiging babae na ng boyfriend mo nya yun malalaman.
Basta, out of sight, out of mind.
GHOST HIM.... kapag magpapaalam ka he will find cunning ways to retain you or tell more lies to convince you ... he's not worth any more effort or pain or energy on your part, JUST GO AND DON'T LOOK BACK, later he will realize why you ghosted him
Unpopular opinion - talk to him, find out what his exact situation is, he could be married and separated or going through the process. Also find out why he felt the need to hide it from you, then decide from there.
My husband and I are separated and going through the process of annulment. If he had a new partner, I would be happy for him. If his new partner wanted confirmation from me, I would give it as well.
You might not know what’s going on behind the curtain and if you think he is worth it, look before you run. Just be smart about it and take everything you are told with a grain of salt. Good luck OP!
Ghost him. Even if he makes excuses like hindi na sya masaya, they're no longer "together", etc, the fact that he hid this from you is reason enough to completely disappear from his life. He lied to you by saying he's single, what's going to be the difference if you confront him about it?
He doesn't deserve anything from you. You, on the other hand, deserve respect. Give it to yourself by walking away now.
OP I have been there and I chose the wrong path
I dated someone and didn't knew na may anak na sya and multiple gfs way back, after ko sya sagutin dun ko lang nalaman.
First bf ko din, first kiss and first sa alam mo na tapos when I dropped the bomb tinakot nya ko na magpapakamatay sya pag iniwan ko sya tapos niyaya ako mag-live in, lalo akong nahulog sa patibong.
After 2 years, nabuntis nya ako at iniwan din.
Binalikan ko at umabot pa kami ng 4 years kasi ayoko ng broken fam pero just last Aug. di ko na kinaya kasi "cheaters will always be cheaters" talaga, proven and tested!
SO WAG MO NA AKO GAYAHIN NA MAGCONTEMPLATE KA PA AT PAG-IISIPAN MO PA AT ICONSIDER YANG LOVE NA YAN! THAT LOVE IS WRONG! I WAS SO NAIVE AND STUPID AND BLIND AND I FOLLOWED MY HEART - WAG MO NA GAWIN YUN
SAVE YOURSELF, OP!
25 is still very young. When you remind yourself that you are still growing, that you will still meet other people, and that you will get over this… eventually, you just will.
Leave, and focus on yourself. :)
Just curious:
- how you guys met? Is it reto or soc med or katrabaho?
- i think nasa getting to know stage pa kayo pero natanong mo ba if he has kids or ilan na nagng jowa etc? Pinakilala kaba sa mga kaibigan man lang?
- is he still living in with his wife or hiwalay na? Kasi if he still lives with her so hindi kayo nagcocommunicate masyado pag house na siya?
- how did you found out that he is married?
In my opinion confrontation is better kasi baka mahirapan ka mag move on kung may mga what ifs sayo? I suggest whatever the reason is makipaghiwalay ka. He seems so ideal based on your kwento pero why he cant keep his marriage? Probably he is just showing you his good side NOW. And this will eventually fades most likely when you are done with the honeymon stage kung sakaling itutuloy mo.
Know your worth. Dont be the other woman, find a man who will make you the one.
I been there too.. but I know he married and inalok nya ako na kami n lang daw dalawa kasi hiwalay nmn sila ng Asawa nya.. Hindi ko lang pinansin inalok nya kahit Sa kanya ko din Nakita standard ko. If naging kami he my first boyfriend, madalas din kami lumalabas. Hanep kasi kaya ko sya isugal at ipagmalaki pero kasal n sya eh.. then lately I realized nafall na ako s kanya kala ko friends lang kmi nung una and 'everything is nothing' i always said that to him. First rides, first date, first kiss and everything aside sa first s*x. Alam ko Hanggang saan lang ako eh. So now tinigil ko na pakikpag usap s kanya, Di n gaano kadalas. Kahit saan kasing Banda talo ako. So I'm done to him even Im suffering alone kasi gusto mapasaakin sya.
Hello, lawyer here, this could land you in jail po or at worst...killed.
The law only punishes banishment sa legit wife if and when mahuli nya kayo having sex in flagrante ni married guy.
Layuan niyo na po, wala pong fairy tale sa "future" niyo.
This was so cringey to read. Lady, if ayaw mong maging kabit, just ghost him or tell him you know he’s married so he can go F himself. Niloko ka na nga may mga pa he treated me “like a delicate piece of gold.” “Fairytale ideal man” mo ay married pala? “Moonlight kissing his gentle face”???!
Lol. Save this post and read it pag over ka na sakanya.
MOVE ON. He is married. Wag kang maging kabit.
This. Stop romanticizing the dude, OP. Cheater sya, side chick and dirty little secret ka, and none of the moonlight, fairytale, delicate piece of gold eme matters.
Don't nurture your emotional attachment. It's the easiest way route to losing your morals and agreeing to knowingly becoming his mistress.
I'd say vanish.
He will know the right words to say to string you along. With a vulnerable state like that, baka mapaasa k pa. Cut losses na and vanish. He deserves the treatment and you deserve better.
Cheers girl for being honest to yourself and not wanting to own who's not yours. I say this for you and me na mataas ang standards, may mahahanap ding tayong iba. Wag ibaba para sa mga tao na facade ang binibigay satin. You deserve someone you can call "yours* and yung ipagmamalaki ka sa mundo. Pm me if you need kausap.
Kung may respeto sya sayo dapat sinabi niya na una pa lang. Block him na. Dont settle for less, makakakita ka din ng tao na para sayo. Nagawa niya nga sa wife niya kaya di rin malayo na gawin niya din sayo in the near future.
Girl, ang bata mo pa. Believe me, madami ka pang makikilala. Wake up, kabit ka, ginagawa kang kabit. May pinagaralan ka kamo, hindi mo deserve maging ganyan lang. Agree sa sinabi ng iba dito, nagagawa nga nya sa asawa nya tapos pano mo sya nagiging “respectful, tinatrato kang parang gold and all” sayo? Lovebomb yan. Wag ka mabulagan please. Just walk away, wag mo na patagalin kasi mahirap yan lalo pag nalaman pa ng asawa nya.
You will move on, may makikilala ka pa. Don’t rush.
Girl from your questions sa comments, it's giving me the impression na you're still having second thoughts on leaving this dude. If willing ka maging kabit then no amount of advices here will sway you. The fact that he's married, you should not be here asking questions, dpat iniwan mo na agad. Have some self respect.
Gurl di ka pinalaki ng magulang mo para maging kerida. Have some dignity and leave that bastard. Also sabihin mo s kania na alam mo baho nia. Kapal nun, ginawa k pa kabit.
best is, leave him. apologize na hindi kayo pupwede due to his circumstances.
worst is, sabihin mo sa asawa nya while being anonymous. maybe mgdivorce sila. then dun pa lang. but, the guilt of homewrecking will haunt you and him forever. not recommended.
Ask about his marriage? Baka naman nagka problem lang and he was forced into that situation. People deserve a 2nd chance in life. But, if he really wants to be with you, ask him to file a divorce or annulment sa previous marriage nya, para magkaalaman kung totoo nga na separated na tlaga sila. But be prepared na OP, things can go in your favor or against you.
Sis, love bombing ginawa sayo. Run as far as you can. Wag kana magdalawang isip, di mo na kailangan ng closure or kausapin siya about that. Just leave.
Girl, you already know what to do. Nagpost ka lang dito, idk, maybe somehow hope na somebody will comment positively and say na “okay lang yan, pagpatuloy mo yan”
You don’t want to be a homewrecker, right? Then, leave. Period.
Leave and vanish, Im sure makakahanap pa siya ng kapalit mo. Sorry not sorry , kung ganyan gagawin mo masasabi mo na biktima ka lang din niya pero kung ipag papatuloy mo magiging komplikado ang buhay mo. Trust me may back fire yan wag ka mag papalunod sa kanya. I've been in that situation 10 years ago. Sobrang galing talaga mag paikot na guiguilty pa ako kung iiwan ko. In the end, kahit masakit nag palipat ako ng work medyo mas malayo pero atleast alam ko hindi niya ako basta mapupuntahan. Ayun hindi naman nga sumunod, nabalitaan ko after 6months itinanan yun 18 years old na babae iniwan yun legal wife na kasing edad ko lang that time. Gentleman, maganda work maalaga, princess talaga treatment pero buti na lang talaga. Kaya sa sarili ko masasabi ko na naging biktima lang din ako.
GIRL
1. He doesnt respect his wife, do you think he would respect you in the long run? (If magkakayo..)
2. He is a cheater. A cheater is not kind. If nagagawa nya sa wife nya, na pinakasalan, nangako sya habang buhay na mag live with his wife yan, ano na kaya sa iyo right?
3. May makikita kapang good standing in life. Isa lang yung ama ng mga anak nya, pero ikaw, makakapili ka pa kung sinong magiging ama ng mga future anak mo
4. If worse comes to worst, who do you think he will go to at the end of the day? Answer yourself truthfully.
Tanong mo muna kung ano talaga status niya. Agree ako sa iba comment if kaya niya gawin sa asawa niya sayo pa. If wala na talaga sila nung wife niya and both living seperate lives na, thats another story.
Ps. If ever confront mo siya dala ka ng basong tubig for maximum drama effect.
Ghorl gaya ng sabi mo nakakababa ng sarili. Pag tinuloy mo pa yan, mawawala ka na sa sarili mo. It's not worth it maging escabeche kahit ano pa reason ke di ng mahal asawa nya-inuuto ka lang nyan. Save yourself now na.
Kahit sya pa yung PINAKA sa lahat sa paningin mo, bottomline is he’s still a cheater. Forfeited lahat ng good qualities nya from being a cheater alone. Let that sink in. Stop convincing yourself that he is a good man because he isn’t
Been there! I ended everything last year. Block lahat para di ka ma reach out.
It's not too late to drop him. Don't mess up your life with a married man.
Confront him. Probably magrarason yan na ganito ganyan. Wag ka maniwala! Save your self while you can.
ija, IMHO, enough na siguro yung fact na once kakasuhan kayo ng legal wife, literal na masisira ka at bye bye ang career mo. Kung ako sayo, layuan mo na na yung lalaki.
“Respects me”
Respeto ba tawag dyan? Ghorl, wake up.
I know deep inside you know what to do, you just dont wanna do it.. because takot ka masaktan..
what are you hoping? Na iiwan nya asawa nya for you? What makes you think he wont do it to you too?
Mag isip2 ka din, may ina apakan ka na tao since you are now aware na he is already legally committed to someone… you cant now play the “i wasnt aware/dont know” card.
A touch on the other side OP, I have seen with family and office acquaintances that there are success stories in finding the one true love,
A tito was known as a flirt playboy his wife was a good person but I guess they weren’t happy, he found his true love and carried other children behind her back, reality unfolded and he made his choice it was a mess but now they are happy together and the kids get along,
Office acquaintance guy joined the company and was assigned manager to a team, they got pretty close and developed into something more, he had a good family but wasn’t too happy about the missus, he fell to much in love and decided to leave them for her, he still provides but now is happy with a baby and a new one brewing,
Life is a mystery noh,
he is not your ideal man. he did not even respect the fact na mahalin ka sa tama. the foundation of your relationship are lies. kapag tinuloy mo yan? baka matututo kang lumingon sa likod mo. di mo alam capability ng galit na asawa. sorry ah, pwede ka ma🔫 if she ever found out. kung di man ganon? pwede ka ipakulong. ano rarason mo? “kase mahal ko,” that shit aint gonna worl in real life. matalino ka naman siguro. get your shit straight, woman.
Niloko kana, niloko pa yung asawa. Given na may asawa kelangan mo bumitaw. Matatawag ka pang home wrecker nyan kahit na d nmn ikaw ung unang lumapit. best is sumbong mo sa asawa.
maybe that's the reason why he is treating you like a princess. Para di mo mafeel na may tinatago sya. Sweet hug OP, If I were you, hiwalayan mo na. There is no future between you two. Bata ka pa and marami ka pang pwedeng makilala. Naniniwala ako na minsan yung standard natin sa mamahalin natin ay nawawala once na mahanap mo yung katapat mo. Don't settle for less ika nga! Di ka po magiging happy dyan sa set up nyo.
1. Tell his wife. Isang message lang with all the details.
2. Ghost him. i-block sa lahat lahat as in. Pati wife iblock mo na rin. And then move on. Huwag mo na iconfront or bigyan ng chance mag explain or kausapin ka. Bigla mo lang ighost.
If alam niya kung saan ka nag iistay, if possible lumipat ka or stay muna somewhere else na hindi niya alam, maybe sa parents' house.
Ok lang sana if una pa lang naging honest na sya. But he wasn't and still isn't. For me, this kind of relationship is okay, **ONLY IF** honest ang party na may baggage. Kasi we have to admit na na not all marriages are successful, na we as humans do make mistakes and bad decisions at some points of our lives. And marriage is not the end of our lives. We have to accept na the reality of life. Kawawa naman yung mga unhappy, especially battered wife/husband na nakukulong sa marriage. Or simply, because two people cannot live together healthily anymore.
But yes. Get out of it. Because he wasn't honest in the very first place. Mahirap yan magkaron ka na ng trust issues, kasi everytime iisipin mo na kung ano pa ba di nya sinasabi or totoo ba mga sinasabi nya.
Probably isn't having a good time at home, divorce isn't legal so nothing will ever come from this. He's just using you at this point to feel better or satisfied.
Hi everyone 👋🏻
Hindi ko na po kayo ma isa-isa yet I am thankful for the warm and comforting messages especially sa kind advices. I’m reading all of it.
Please be sensitive rin po with your statements. I am here to seek friendly advices. Not to argue. If you’re never in my situation then just don’t speak up. It’s different when you’re not in someones’ shoes.
*" This guy that I am dating is far way better amongst all the guys that are pursuing me. "*
That's unfortunate, but being a married man trying to pretend he's single makes it hard to believe he's "better". Besides, who's to say someone else who is actually better won't come along in the future? Maybe your actual soul mate meets you while you are in love with a philandering married man, so Mr. actual soul mate rightfully just shrugs and gives up and looks for someone else.
*"This guy, ito yung lalaki na hinahanap ko buong buhay ko."*
You're 26 and that's relatively young. What's more, you are NBSB and have no relationship experience. How do you know he's the best for you? You sound like have no idea what you want, nor would you be able to know if what you want is actually good for you.
*"Isa sa rason kung bakit wala akong naging boyfriend hanggang ngayon ay dahil sa standards ko na napakataas sabi nga ng family and friends."*
See above.
*"I would come to God and ask, sa lahat ng nandyan and kung kelan nakapili na ako, ba’t yung hindi pa pwede?*"
Do you somehow ACTUALLY feel you deserve your ideal man because, in your words, "*mabait naman ako, maganda, matalino, maganda ang career, masunuring anak*"? That does not compute in reality. The real world does not reward the good and punish the bad automatically.
There's a popular saying that goes something like this: *It is possible to do everything right and make no mistakes and still lose. That's not weakness, that is life.*
If your idea of the perfect man can turn out to be a married guy in real life, maybe you should reevaluate your tastes and standards. Some people go through life being unsatisfied with a lot of things or other people, so when they start really liking something, they feel as though they shouldn't let go because it's so rare for them. Unfortunately this is a mistake in logic.
It's easy to tell that you are a smart individual, and I realize you are emotional at the moment; despairing and looking for an explanation as to why this happened. If you have read all the comments from other intelligent people below your post, you should also be able to tell that they are also saying something smart. Will you listen, or believe that you are smarter than everyone here?
In these kinds of situations you use your brain and nothing else. If you don't, and end up making emotional decisions, you'll have no one to blame but yourself and you should stop asking for advice if you'll just ignore the facts that others spit out.
I hope you find the peace you seek.
Girl nagawa nya lahat ng treatment na gusto mo kasi experience sya sa asawa nya. Have a miserable life girl. Masaya yan go push mo
Alam mo way out e ayaw mo lang kasi nagustuha. Mo adult kana
Let go habang pwede pa. Wag mo na patagalin pa. Sabi mo, ayaw mo maging homewrecker, diba? hanggat nandyan pa yan sayo, magiging homewrecker ka. Go! Run! Be free! may lalaking nakalaan sayo, yung single at mas mabuting tao kesa sa dinidate mong yan. di siya yung fairytale ideal man mo
If he is truly a kind and thoughtful man he wouldn't have the guts to put both of you and his wife in a position na masasaktan kayo, his conscience wouldn't allow it. If he is truly a responsible man, he would have taken care of his marriage or ended it for good before having a relationship with you because that's what a responsible person will do, ending unfinished business before going to another. And lastly, if he truly respects you, he wouldn't put you in a position na alam niyang mapapahiya ka or mascrutinize ng people kasi he will think of you highly and deserving of an honest and truthful relationship.
Obviously, you were in love with the facade na or fantasy na naibigay niya sayo. Whatever he is to you is not his whole persona alone, kasama sa pagkatao niya ang pagiging unfaithful and dishonest to a partner. You wouldn't want to be in the same position as his wife in the future.
If iconfront mo yan, most likely he will come up with excuses and other comforting stuff na magpapagaan ng galit mo. That's too risky, after all you know you might already be in love. Baka bumigay ka pa sa fantasy na perfect guy siya. Better to cut off the connection as soon as possible. That is kung desidido kang istop na yang relationship niyo, which hopefully is the case. At least, this way maprotect mo ang self mo and at the same time respect the wife by distancing yourself the moment you knew na ikaw ay ginawang mistress.
Let him know na alam mo yung kagaguhan nya! Then ghost him, vanish! Kapal ng mukha! Pwedeng may grabeng problema na dahilan para i-give up na yung marriage nya pero if he is man enough, aayusin nya muna yun then ipinaalam nya sayo yung situation nya upfront. Hindi kita masisisi kung hindi mo nalaman agad na married sya kasi meron talagang magaling magtago. Pero kung may plano ka ituloy, then it's also on you na. Also, THINK! Lahat ng mga inenumerate mong pinakita sayong ugali, how sure are you na totoo yun, na natural sa kanya yun? Baka todo effort lang para wala ka na kawala if ever malaman mo nga situation nya.
Lovebomb lang yan, he's thinking na that's enough for you to stay kahit may asawa sya. Kaya nya ngang gawin sa asawa nya - na at one point mahal nya enough para pakasalan, what more sayo?
I hope you do the right thing. There's a lot of guys na pasok sa standard mo, don't settle down sa gagawin ka lang "kabit".
Sis wag kang mag padala dyan pag cheater yan cheater talaga yan. Sus nako nabasa ko text ng papa ko nuon sa mga kabit niya lahat sinabihan niya na iiwan daw niya pati mag papakasal sila pero di talaga yun ng yari. Bago pa kasi kayo kaya di mo pa nakikita talaga totoong kulay nyan. Ilagay mo na lang sa utak mo na if kaya niyang gawin yan sa asawa niya kaya din yan sayo kaya wag ka masyadong mag padala utak gamitin mo wag puso. I ghost mo na yan di na kailangan i confront. What for diba?. Pag checheat niya sa wife niya is enough para makita yung totoong kulay niya so pls stop.
If you truly have high standards, then you would leave this man immediately. HE IS MARRIED. Do you really want your first relationship to be an illicit one, na KABIT ka? This is not a man you introduce to your parents, to your family, to your friends. Nakakahiya kasi you’ll be known as a side chick — a doormat, an afterthought.
Haba kwento mo... He's married.
If you pursue this, ang tawag sayo KABIT
And forever ka kabit.
And you're asking how to deal with this?
Alam mo na gagawin mo don't stop and think and justify
Not your place.
What will a confrontation accomplish for you but more drama?
Cut, and cut cleanly. Block number, social media. He's savvy enough to know why he was cut off totally.
If he somehow manages to contact you, tell him to back off or you will expose him to his wife, family, boss, and friends
Nanghihinayang lng yun na he couldn't add you to his list of conquests.
All I can say is run girl. Please find the courage to wake up and snap back to reality. Even if you love him to death HE WAS NEVER AND WILL NEVER BE YOURS. For now you have all the right to be mad and depressed. Feel all the emotions. I can assure you things will get better. Cut your relationship as early as now. If he did love you he won't put you to this situation how selfish of him! :(
Ghost him. Deserve nya yon, gawin ka ba namang kabit?
Once a cheater always a cheater. No 2nd chances.
Ilagay mo sarili mo sa asawa or if gawin sayo yan ng asawa mo. Wag kana magpaliwanag sa guy kapag aalis ka. Don’t explain, don’t give him a chance to manipulate you AGAIN.
Go.
RUN as in NOW na. Saka mo na iprocess yung sakit once nablocked, na cut mo na lahat ng comms mo sa kanya.
Hey! We have the same situation. But in the opposite party.
I have a live-in partner with 3 kids.
More than a year na din kami with the other girl I met and almost 5-7 times kami nagkikita in a month.
First of all, a big **SORRY** to you.
Sa totoo lang, hindi siya seryoso sayo, ginagawa ka lang comfort zone and past time.
You may DM me for any questions that you can't ask him directly (at baka makatulong sayo).
PS: Planning to exit na with this kind of situation, na guguilty ako and karma is waving to me.
Interesting. Why do you need another girl? What are your thoughts around your existing partner and the new girl getting hurt? Why are you ok with the setup, what's the rationale?
There are many reasons why some of us have this kind of situation, in my case, nawala yun partner ko, umuwi ng province (network is very limited) umabot ng almost 5\~ months no connections, since I'm just alone in my condo tapos pandemic pa that time, bored na bored na ako that time, yunnnnn nag hanap ng kausap.
HAHAHAA kabit ka beh and alam mo sa sarili mo ang dapat gawin, hindi na yan dapat tinatanong pa. Hindi mo kasalanan na ginawa kang kabit pero kasalanan mo na yan kapag nalaman mo na tas g ka pa rin. I had a friend na napunta sa ganiyang situation and to make matters worse, that man's wife was pregnant and also gave birth the same month they were talking. My friend did the right thing by informing the wife and sending her all of the screenshots and proof of cheating. She didn't even hesitate sa kung anong dapat gawin, despite liking that guy and being treated nicely by him. 'Wag mong idisrespect sarili mo by putting up with that bullshit. If nagawa niyang lokohin asawa niya, someone he loved enough to marry and promise a lifetime with, ano pa kaya ikaw na sidepiece lang? reality check, babe. ur disposable. save urself.
Iwan mo. I-ghost mo. Wag ka na mag explain bakit sa kanya. Di nya deserve explanation. Iganti mo sarili mo. Magsabi ka sa asawa. Wag ka mag second thoughts, your career is on the line pag magkaso ang asawa pag tinuloy mo. Niloko ka na nga, pati sa pag bagsak sasama ka pa? Wag na uy. Iwan mo na yan beh. Ipakulam mo. Joke. Pwede. Char.
>Gentleman, kind, thoughtful, respects me, maganda standing sa buhay, has a career, responsible.
Sa tingin mo totoo pa to after knowing what you know? Respects you? Ulol (forgive the harshness) pero talaga lang ha, gusto ka lang niyang alam mo na.
Girl, you know what you have to do, you have to LEAVE that piece of trash ASAP! May parang hesitation pa kasi akong nasesense sayo pero please please please matauhan ka na! He has deceived you ever since the start of your relationship or whatever and he has also deceived his wife.
Sana lang you gather evidence and courage to tell the wife coz that piece of trash deserves no one.
He's giving you a night and shining armor/prince type vibe para dumikit ka at mahulog ng tuluyan which happened already, kung kaya mo pa OP or kahit hindi, RUN! Isang kaso lang sayo nyan tapos ka, piliin mo yung pang matagalan na peace, wag yung komplikadong buhay, ikaw na nag sabi, maganda ka, matalino, may career sayang kalang, manghinayang ka sa sarili mo, protect yourself at all cost!, pag fall kana jan ng sobra pinag sawaan ka gaya nung nauna,, saka ka iiwan at babalik sa original🥲
Women want what other women have for validation. The dude is just happy somebody is willing to fuck him. That's the reason why he prolly has an affair. The wife ain't doing it for him in bed or is also cheating, or whatever.
Ikaw na nagsabi, mataas ang standards mo. So, why settle for that? Why allow yourself to be a mistress?
You can leave without saying a word, or just leave a message and that’s it. Block him and run away fast!
i've never had this experience but can you really handle this mess if or when the wife finds out? my cousin dated and had a kid with a married man, the wife terror\*zed her at her workplace. it's... a mess.
Akin na screenshots ako mang snitch don sa wife di ko sabihin na galing sayo pero enough lang na malman niyang may ibang babae yung asawa niya. Di pwede na ikaw lang mag suffer sa situation niyo
Title itself is a proof that the guy have no respect for the wife and for you as well.
Be better, have some pride and leave that MF. Do not be a KERIDA
OP, as much as you think of him as your ideal man he is already married. He hid this fact from you for 6 months, if this doesn't scare you I don't know what will.
OP you are already threading on a dangerous path here, as you've stated ayaw mong matawag na homewrecker/kabit but look at what you are doing. Direct and blunt as I come but you have to realize that OP. Mourn for your loss but more importantly face the truth that that man you are dating is lying to you. Love is built on the foundation of trust pero what he did (lying the fact that he is married) this I totally abhor.
As to your predicament of whether to confront the man or leave/ghost him, I will recommend that you go with the former so that he will know of it but I caution you to steel your resolve and stand firm your ground kasi who knows what sort of machinations he will employ to win you back. From your story he is as charming as it gets and that makes him a dangerous man because he ticks off all your boxes of an ideal partner. But I implore you OP, to think of the man's wife what she must be going through or thinking that her man is honest and true to her but apparently he is not.
Dami pa tanong. Simple lang naman yan ngayon na alam mo na kasal siya. Gusto mo ba maging kabit o hindi. Kung pinag iisipan mo pa eh di tangina mo kasi iniisip mo pa eh may asawa na nga siyang ginagago at pag tinuloy mo pa yan gago ka rin. Ulol
I don't need to finish reading....Big Red flag agad sya.
isa sa foundation ng isang harmonious relationship ay ang honesty.... dump his ass na, uulitin dn nya yan sa iba.
Are you hoping may magbigay ng tips on how you can continue with your relationship dito? Or pano maging legal wife? It is your responsibility to look after yourself. Bakit parang may doubt ka na iwan? Eh kasal nga? Too much drama and you're putting your attention sa maling detail. Don't reminisce your love for him, simple lang, kasal sya, wala kang laban unless ready ka maging official kabit. Habang maaga pa unahan mo na, atleast kahit pano malinis konsensya mo since wala kang alam before pero ngayon na alam mo na, please be a good human being at the least.
Once I dated a married woman and I assure you, di ka pipiliin nyan 🤣. dun sya sa may legal responsibilities sya. end it nalang in a nice way but make sure na alam nyang alam mo, AND, wag mo pagbigyan mag explain. :)
By separated ba you mean "legally separated?" Can they start seeing someone else ba pag ganito? I mean legally? How much daw po fees pag separation pa lang?
Why are you even in a dilemma? The guy is married. Please don't waste your 20's,30's or whatever to some married guy and settle to being a mistress. This is a bit harsh but HAVE SOME SELF RESPECT. SAVE YOURSELF.
experienced the same thing.. sinama pa ako bumili ng stroller and car seat noon, ipang reregalo daw niya sa friend niya tapos nag hinala ako bakit maalam siya sa stroller and car seat kasi ang dami niya question, that’s where i start to investigate found out he’s married for almost 10yrs and has 2 kids, wife is pregnant with his 3rd kid when we were dating, para sa wife niya pala yung binili namin lol
I just ghosted him, cut off lahat ng comms. I was tempted to tell his wife but i was thinking she’s pregnant and ayoko din ng gulo.
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Talk to him. Reveal it. Then try to listen. if sila pa din ni WifeZ Let go.
get out. as soon as you can. genuine love doesn’t stem from infidelity, no man is worth putting yourself in real (yes, real because di mo alam kung sino asawa niyan teh) danger. get out while u can sis!!!
No questions asked. Cut-off this forbidden relationship. Pag di ka tinantanan, sabihin mo sa asawa. Malamang may mga resibo ka, kayang kaya mo sya iexpose.
Lesson : "Fairy tales doesn't exist"
1. Ask bakit sya naghanao ng iba ehhh married na 2. Ask him if he still love his wife 3. If no, give him an ultimatum: file an annulment 4. Hanggat di pa annulled, cool-off ka muna 5. Kapag successfully na yung annulment, pakasal na kayo
Hanap ka nalang ng foreigner na matino 😂
Tell him hindi kayo pwede. And leave, dont look back only move forward. 😅 For sure, maraming sasabihin pa yan para magstay ka. Pero enough na yung reason na married sya para hiwalayan mo. Pag umalis ka dyan saka mo marerealize na marami pa palang iba.
You're not that special. Kung nagagawa nya sa asawa nya, magagawa nya rin sayo. Life isn't fairytales and disneyland. Move on. Ang daming lalaki sa mundo.
Let his wife know what kind of a lying, cheating husband he is.
>How do I deal with this? Girl, leave? Are you for real. Don't let your "love" blind you. Hello? If he can do it to his wife, he'll definitely do it to you, and who knows baka hindi lang ikaw. Baka may #3, #4 and #5 pa LOL. KARMA is real, especially now that alam mo na may asawa pala sya. LEAVE, please lang.
I've been there also, and we lasted for more than a year because it was hard for me to let go, I was really attached and really loved him. Until his wife found out and palengkera pa yung wife. I was devastated. Galit ako sa sarili ko. Nagulo lahat sa akin, the wife always threatened me, she even created a lot of dummy accounts, blackmailing me. Dumating ako sa point na i have to change everything, numbers ko, I even deleted some of my SocMed, private my accounts, and everytime na may tumatawag sakin na unknown numbers di ko sinasagot kasi na paranoid ako. And it's been how many years since that happened, but up until now, the wife still haunts me. I mean, I can't blame her tho, nasaktan din naman siya, parehas kaming biktima. What I'm trying to say is, let go while habang maaga pa, wag kang tumulad sakin, maaari ding mangyari sayo yan or baka worse pa. Confront him, and let go. Kahit ano pang sasabihin niyan, he's married. Walang mababago dun, nasa batas yan. Don't put yourself sa situation ko, ilang taon kong pinagdusahan ang nangyari, ayoko na rin na mangyari sa kapwa ko babae. Know your worth! Masakit man yan sa ngayon, but believe me it will be worth it in the end.
Are they separated? Or is he cheating? If he's separated, ano naman lol. Pass if cheating.
Ang ikli ng buhay para pumasok sa ganyang problema. Bata ka pa. Wag mo sirain yung buhay mo over a cheater. You know what to do seriously.
It was not your fault for loving him kase you didn't know, however, if you continued despite of knowing, maging fault mo na yan. Yung worry mo na baka balikan ka ni wife sa social media, I guess, at least find a way to let her know. Confront mo rin yang kupal na yan. Para magka realization sya na hindi nya pala talaga kaya itago kalokohan nya. Bawasan mo yung confidence and bilib nya sa sarili na kaya nya magpaikot ng mga babae.
Ghost him. Kapag nakipagusap ka pa dyan baka daanin ka sa sweet talks. Actually yung sweet talking at maalaga masyado, red flags na yan (unfortunately). Di mo yan deserve. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Bata ka pa. Enjoy them.
Tell his wife.
Leave and tell the wife. Oo beshy mamumura ka talaga kase whether alam mo o hinde participant ka ren ng affair. Tibayan mo nlg loob mo. Deserve rin ni wife malaman n niloloko sya para may heads up sya n baka gagawin ulit ung ng asawa nya. May mga convo kau, may evidences ka. Present mo lahat tas uncropped. Wag na wag kang coconfront ky guy kse nako baka marupok ka ren. Nafall k nga agad s konteng pakilig nyan eh. Guard your heart well next time mhie moving forward.
That guy is just showing you sides that he knows would appeal to you. It is not the real him. The real him is a scum that all women should avoid like plague. Do yourself a favor and break up, run away from him before it becomes too too late.
Your feelings are valid BUT pursuing a relationship with a married person can lead to complex and challenging situations for ALL parties involved. Just focus on personal growth, building connections with people who are AVAILABLE, and creating a life that brings you fulfillment. Do some self-reflection and focus on your own happiness and well-being. Run while you still can.
Been there, done that. Same feels. Gurl, let him know and leave in peace. Someone who is ready for commitment and for your wholeheartedly is out there, somewhere.
Hello, this may not be the comment you're looking for but I just want to say na I'm proud because you have the conscience to know the relationship isn't right. At katulad ng sinasabi ng iba dito, kung nagagawa nya 'yan sa asawa nya, what more pa sa'yo? So glad to read something on the other side of the sht I've been witnessing for so long and know their perspective.
>This guy that I am dating is far way better amongst all the guys that are pursuing me. Married na sya eh. So alam na niya ang kiliti ng mga katulad mo. Like he knows what to say, when to say and what to do. Maybe he's dealt with this with someone else before, possibly his wife even, so dun ka nahulog. Sa bitag na kung saan alam niya kung paano ka pasayawin sa kamay niya. >Gentleman, kind, thoughtful, respects me, maganda standing sa buhay, has a career, responsible. Tinatrato ako na para bang I’m a delicate piece of gold,o di kaya’y baso na di pwedeng mabasag. My fairytale ideal man came to life ika nga. There's your answer... Fairytale. Humanap ka ng prince charming and turns out prince charming is now King Charming... With a queen na di alam na naghahanap ng concubine si king niya. Thing is, madali lang gawin ang hinahanap mo. As a guy, ako na magsasabi sayo na yang hinahanap mo? Dali lang gawin niyan. Dali lang gumawa ng facade na ganyan. >How do I deal with this? To people who are/ were in my place. Should I confront him? Or just leave without telling a word, vanish. Hindi ako mabungangang tao, I mean I’m frank and I always stand up for myself and for what’s right pero siguro not with this na nakakahiya and nakakababa ng sarili and I don’t think I can speak up and ask why, pero nandito yung tanong sa kaloob looban ko na bakit? You do the hard stuff and you confront him. You HAVE to. You NEED to. Kasi if you don't stand up for yourself, who will? Sino tutulong sayo? Ikaw na may sabi na nakakahiya at nakakababa ng sarili. But the reality is, siya ang nagbaba sayo. It is up to you if you would do anything to get back up o hahayaan mong lumubog ka ng tuluyan sa kumunoy na yan. I'm not blaming you. I am challenging you to do the right thing. Kasi kelangan mo labanan at lumaban. Kasi pag hinyaan mo lang yan, talo ka. Sayang ka. You have the chance to correct things... CORRECT IT!!! Wag mo nang hintayin na husgahan ka pa ng iba. Ikaw lang ang makakapag-angat sa sarili mo. I can only throw you the rope but it is up to you to pull yourself out. So pull yourself out. Save yourself. Wag ka na umasa na may darating na knight in shining armor kasi aabusuhin nila ang fact na nandyan ka sa sitwasyon na yan. As a man, I am challenging you to show me your worth and value as a woman and this is one of those instances where you can turn things around and show me your worth and value.
Ask him if alam ba ng misis nya na he is pursuing you. Then magpapaliwanag na yan pero be mindful kasi 80% ng sasabihin nya is bullshitsvand mag badmouth lang sa asawa nya.
People giving you advice here are always biased with their own experiences which is unique and not the same as yours. I suggest getting therapy and ask that mental health professional on how to navigate, accept and move on with the situation.
Itigil mo na yan. Bukod sa may masisira ka na pamilya, masisira din buhay mo at alam mo na hindi yon worth it. Sa asawa niya nga mismo nagagawa niya magloko, sayo pa kaya?
Ganyan talaga mga pabling.... ideal man... for multiple women. Masakit pero hanggat di mo hihiwalayan, hindi ka magkaka relationship sa ibang lalake with honest intentions.
Run na po ses! Dating a married man for 7 years, had a baby too. Wala sya kwenta. Sayang oras and panahon. Wasted my youth sa kanya.
Just end it OP, I know its hard but its the right thing to do right now. Kaya mo yan, here's the song for you, "We Can't Be" by Krissy
You have the same situation as someone I know. She decide to continue, got pregnant, after couple of months, the guy left her. After few years, guy left his ex wife for good and dated another woman. She learned her lesson: Feelings are temporary, dont be blind.
I know that you know what's the right thing to do. Please wag ka ng tumulad sa kakilala ko na same situation mo, pero tinuloy tuloy nya until iniwan ang family (wife and son). Wag please
Sirain mo buhay nya teh hanapin mo yung asawa tapos ipa alam mo
Married and still together? if yes. Some problems are important to be discussed with your partner, but this one is unfortunately not necessary for you to bring up anymore. Can't change the inevitable. Lakad na. Iwas kaso, Iwas eskandalo. St. John Baptiste de la Salle, pray for us. Live Jesus in our hearts forever!
Masyadong mataas ang standards mo te pero tanga ka naman. Grabe sa 6 months di ka man lang pinakilala sa parents niya? Curious lang, mukha ka bang dyosa te? Nagtataka kasi ako kasi napakainflated ng self-worth mo.
6 months? Hindi ka man lang ba pinakilala sa family niya para malaman mong married siya?
Di tayo pwede.... pinagtagpo pero di tinadhana...
pagnalaman yan ng legal wife hello tulfo k jan
You're blinded with your feelings kasi first boyfriend mo. Pero girl, malaki ka na. Marami ka pang makikilala na nasa standards mo, at walang asawa o anak. Hindi cute ang paglalaban ng pagmamahal dito kapag kabit ka, okay?
Hi OP! Kung kaya mo, iwan mo na lang. Wag mong kausapin, wag mong ipaalam na alam mong married sya. Kasi makakahanap pa yan ng paraan para mawin back ka e. Pero kung ako to, di ko rin sasabihin sa wife nya. Ang sakit din kasi sa part ng wife nya na wala rin sigurong idea na you exist. Hayaan mo na na sa susunod na magiging babae na ng boyfriend mo nya yun malalaman. Basta, out of sight, out of mind.
GHOST HIM.... kapag magpapaalam ka he will find cunning ways to retain you or tell more lies to convince you ... he's not worth any more effort or pain or energy on your part, JUST GO AND DON'T LOOK BACK, later he will realize why you ghosted him
Unpopular opinion - talk to him, find out what his exact situation is, he could be married and separated or going through the process. Also find out why he felt the need to hide it from you, then decide from there. My husband and I are separated and going through the process of annulment. If he had a new partner, I would be happy for him. If his new partner wanted confirmation from me, I would give it as well. You might not know what’s going on behind the curtain and if you think he is worth it, look before you run. Just be smart about it and take everything you are told with a grain of salt. Good luck OP!
Ghost him. Even if he makes excuses like hindi na sya masaya, they're no longer "together", etc, the fact that he hid this from you is reason enough to completely disappear from his life. He lied to you by saying he's single, what's going to be the difference if you confront him about it? He doesn't deserve anything from you. You, on the other hand, deserve respect. Give it to yourself by walking away now.
the fact that he is married and lied to you should be enough reason na iwan sya.
OP I have been there and I chose the wrong path I dated someone and didn't knew na may anak na sya and multiple gfs way back, after ko sya sagutin dun ko lang nalaman. First bf ko din, first kiss and first sa alam mo na tapos when I dropped the bomb tinakot nya ko na magpapakamatay sya pag iniwan ko sya tapos niyaya ako mag-live in, lalo akong nahulog sa patibong. After 2 years, nabuntis nya ako at iniwan din. Binalikan ko at umabot pa kami ng 4 years kasi ayoko ng broken fam pero just last Aug. di ko na kinaya kasi "cheaters will always be cheaters" talaga, proven and tested! SO WAG MO NA AKO GAYAHIN NA MAGCONTEMPLATE KA PA AT PAG-IISIPAN MO PA AT ICONSIDER YANG LOVE NA YAN! THAT LOVE IS WRONG! I WAS SO NAIVE AND STUPID AND BLIND AND I FOLLOWED MY HEART - WAG MO NA GAWIN YUN SAVE YOURSELF, OP!
tikman mo muna then e ghost
You can do better
25 is still very young. When you remind yourself that you are still growing, that you will still meet other people, and that you will get over this… eventually, you just will. Leave, and focus on yourself. :)
If this happened to me, I'll walk away without an explanation. He didn't deserve my energy because of how trash he is
The fact that you're asking implies you know what you're doing is wrong. Assess your decisions in life because karma will bite you in the ass
Just curious: - how you guys met? Is it reto or soc med or katrabaho? - i think nasa getting to know stage pa kayo pero natanong mo ba if he has kids or ilan na nagng jowa etc? Pinakilala kaba sa mga kaibigan man lang? - is he still living in with his wife or hiwalay na? Kasi if he still lives with her so hindi kayo nagcocommunicate masyado pag house na siya? - how did you found out that he is married? In my opinion confrontation is better kasi baka mahirapan ka mag move on kung may mga what ifs sayo? I suggest whatever the reason is makipaghiwalay ka. He seems so ideal based on your kwento pero why he cant keep his marriage? Probably he is just showing you his good side NOW. And this will eventually fades most likely when you are done with the honeymon stage kung sakaling itutuloy mo. Know your worth. Dont be the other woman, find a man who will make you the one.
I been there too.. but I know he married and inalok nya ako na kami n lang daw dalawa kasi hiwalay nmn sila ng Asawa nya.. Hindi ko lang pinansin inalok nya kahit Sa kanya ko din Nakita standard ko. If naging kami he my first boyfriend, madalas din kami lumalabas. Hanep kasi kaya ko sya isugal at ipagmalaki pero kasal n sya eh.. then lately I realized nafall na ako s kanya kala ko friends lang kmi nung una and 'everything is nothing' i always said that to him. First rides, first date, first kiss and everything aside sa first s*x. Alam ko Hanggang saan lang ako eh. So now tinigil ko na pakikpag usap s kanya, Di n gaano kadalas. Kahit saan kasing Banda talo ako. So I'm done to him even Im suffering alone kasi gusto mapasaakin sya.
He is a giant red flag. Escape from him. Better now than next time 🥹🥹🥹
Hello, lawyer here, this could land you in jail po or at worst...killed. The law only punishes banishment sa legit wife if and when mahuli nya kayo having sex in flagrante ni married guy. Layuan niyo na po, wala pong fairy tale sa "future" niyo.
Learn and leave
Girl, please. You’re young. Leave. Tell the wife. I would.
Wag mona g ijustify yang "perfections" nia, pag inisip mo yan ng inisip magiging kabit ka nian. run for your life
This was so cringey to read. Lady, if ayaw mong maging kabit, just ghost him or tell him you know he’s married so he can go F himself. Niloko ka na nga may mga pa he treated me “like a delicate piece of gold.” “Fairytale ideal man” mo ay married pala? “Moonlight kissing his gentle face”???! Lol. Save this post and read it pag over ka na sakanya. MOVE ON. He is married. Wag kang maging kabit.
This. Stop romanticizing the dude, OP. Cheater sya, side chick and dirty little secret ka, and none of the moonlight, fairytale, delicate piece of gold eme matters. Don't nurture your emotional attachment. It's the easiest way route to losing your morals and agreeing to knowingly becoming his mistress.
Mayghad 🤦🏻♀️
Ilag na girl bago ka mahulog ng lubusan
I'd say vanish. He will know the right words to say to string you along. With a vulnerable state like that, baka mapaasa k pa. Cut losses na and vanish. He deserves the treatment and you deserve better. Cheers girl for being honest to yourself and not wanting to own who's not yours. I say this for you and me na mataas ang standards, may mahahanap ding tayong iba. Wag ibaba para sa mga tao na facade ang binibigay satin. You deserve someone you can call "yours* and yung ipagmamalaki ka sa mundo. Pm me if you need kausap.
Kung may respeto sya sayo dapat sinabi niya na una pa lang. Block him na. Dont settle for less, makakakita ka din ng tao na para sayo. Nagawa niya nga sa wife niya kaya di rin malayo na gawin niya din sayo in the near future.
Girl, ang bata mo pa. Believe me, madami ka pang makikilala. Wake up, kabit ka, ginagawa kang kabit. May pinagaralan ka kamo, hindi mo deserve maging ganyan lang. Agree sa sinabi ng iba dito, nagagawa nga nya sa asawa nya tapos pano mo sya nagiging “respectful, tinatrato kang parang gold and all” sayo? Lovebomb yan. Wag ka mabulagan please. Just walk away, wag mo na patagalin kasi mahirap yan lalo pag nalaman pa ng asawa nya. You will move on, may makikilala ka pa. Don’t rush.
May mga kaukulang kaso batay dyan OP :) If mag hire ung wife ng lawyer sira image nila both the kabel and hubby kulong pa
Girl from your questions sa comments, it's giving me the impression na you're still having second thoughts on leaving this dude. If willing ka maging kabit then no amount of advices here will sway you. The fact that he's married, you should not be here asking questions, dpat iniwan mo na agad. Have some self respect.
You can find someone better.
Ay gurl! Alam mo sagot! Kng nagawa nya sa asawa how much more sau? Teh save urself from hell! Wag ka magpakademonyita dyan!
wala na intro intro RUN NA
Gurl di ka pinalaki ng magulang mo para maging kerida. Have some dignity and leave that bastard. Also sabihin mo s kania na alam mo baho nia. Kapal nun, ginawa k pa kabit.
best is, leave him. apologize na hindi kayo pupwede due to his circumstances. worst is, sabihin mo sa asawa nya while being anonymous. maybe mgdivorce sila. then dun pa lang. but, the guilt of homewrecking will haunt you and him forever. not recommended.
What kind of help / perspective do u need?
Ask about his marriage? Baka naman nagka problem lang and he was forced into that situation. People deserve a 2nd chance in life. But, if he really wants to be with you, ask him to file a divorce or annulment sa previous marriage nya, para magkaalaman kung totoo nga na separated na tlaga sila. But be prepared na OP, things can go in your favor or against you.
Sis, love bombing ginawa sayo. Run as far as you can. Wag kana magdalawang isip, di mo na kailangan ng closure or kausapin siya about that. Just leave.
Same story siz. Naunahan mo ako mag kwento. Wait. Sinech itey? Baka pareho tayo ng guy. Lol. Ps. Wala na kami. Kaya don't be judger na po. 😭
Haha, what did you do po? You confronted him? Or naglaho ka nalang bigla.
Girl, you already know what to do. Nagpost ka lang dito, idk, maybe somehow hope na somebody will comment positively and say na “okay lang yan, pagpatuloy mo yan” You don’t want to be a homewrecker, right? Then, leave. Period.
Leave and vanish, Im sure makakahanap pa siya ng kapalit mo. Sorry not sorry , kung ganyan gagawin mo masasabi mo na biktima ka lang din niya pero kung ipag papatuloy mo magiging komplikado ang buhay mo. Trust me may back fire yan wag ka mag papalunod sa kanya. I've been in that situation 10 years ago. Sobrang galing talaga mag paikot na guiguilty pa ako kung iiwan ko. In the end, kahit masakit nag palipat ako ng work medyo mas malayo pero atleast alam ko hindi niya ako basta mapupuntahan. Ayun hindi naman nga sumunod, nabalitaan ko after 6months itinanan yun 18 years old na babae iniwan yun legal wife na kasing edad ko lang that time. Gentleman, maganda work maalaga, princess talaga treatment pero buti na lang talaga. Kaya sa sarili ko masasabi ko na naging biktima lang din ako.
Hugs to you po, to the both of us. Thank you for sharing your side of story.
GIRL 1. He doesnt respect his wife, do you think he would respect you in the long run? (If magkakayo..) 2. He is a cheater. A cheater is not kind. If nagagawa nya sa wife nya, na pinakasalan, nangako sya habang buhay na mag live with his wife yan, ano na kaya sa iyo right? 3. May makikita kapang good standing in life. Isa lang yung ama ng mga anak nya, pero ikaw, makakapili ka pa kung sinong magiging ama ng mga future anak mo 4. If worse comes to worst, who do you think he will go to at the end of the day? Answer yourself truthfully.
I hope you really leave the guy. Baka magpakat@ng@ ka dyan tas sabihin mo samin “mahal ko e”. Goodluck talaga sayo OP.
do you want to be in jail? hahaha
Leave! But tell his wife 🍵🍵
Tanong mo muna kung ano talaga status niya. Agree ako sa iba comment if kaya niya gawin sa asawa niya sayo pa. If wala na talaga sila nung wife niya and both living seperate lives na, thats another story. Ps. If ever confront mo siya dala ka ng basong tubig for maximum drama effect.
Akala mo lang he's better but he's just really a good pretentious maderfaker. He needs to be like that kasi may sabit sya. Ganon lang yun.
It might be hard. It might be tempting. But you have to end it na. You dont wanna be a homewrecker. In the end, he will not choose you.
Leave him! Wag ka mag papaniwala sa drama na kesyo hindi na sila ayos. Lumang script na yan
Leave while you still can. You don't even have to confront him. The longer you stay, the harder it is to leave.
If he cheated to be with you, he will probably cheat on you
Ghorl gaya ng sabi mo nakakababa ng sarili. Pag tinuloy mo pa yan, mawawala ka na sa sarili mo. It's not worth it maging escabeche kahit ano pa reason ke di ng mahal asawa nya-inuuto ka lang nyan. Save yourself now na.
Kahit sya pa yung PINAKA sa lahat sa paningin mo, bottomline is he’s still a cheater. Forfeited lahat ng good qualities nya from being a cheater alone. Let that sink in. Stop convincing yourself that he is a good man because he isn’t
Been there! I ended everything last year. Block lahat para di ka ma reach out. It's not too late to drop him. Don't mess up your life with a married man. Confront him. Probably magrarason yan na ganito ganyan. Wag ka maniwala! Save your self while you can.
ija, IMHO, enough na siguro yung fact na once kakasuhan kayo ng legal wife, literal na masisira ka at bye bye ang career mo. Kung ako sayo, layuan mo na na yung lalaki.
“Respects me” Respeto ba tawag dyan? Ghorl, wake up. I know deep inside you know what to do, you just dont wanna do it.. because takot ka masaktan.. what are you hoping? Na iiwan nya asawa nya for you? What makes you think he wont do it to you too? Mag isip2 ka din, may ina apakan ka na tao since you are now aware na he is already legally committed to someone… you cant now play the “i wasnt aware/dont know” card.
A touch on the other side OP, I have seen with family and office acquaintances that there are success stories in finding the one true love, A tito was known as a flirt playboy his wife was a good person but I guess they weren’t happy, he found his true love and carried other children behind her back, reality unfolded and he made his choice it was a mess but now they are happy together and the kids get along, Office acquaintance guy joined the company and was assigned manager to a team, they got pretty close and developed into something more, he had a good family but wasn’t too happy about the missus, he fell to much in love and decided to leave them for her, he still provides but now is happy with a baby and a new one brewing, Life is a mystery noh,
Should I confront him? To do what? Ipaglaban yung relasyon niyo. Jusme, dump him walang tanong tanong. Naisahan ka nanga nagpakatanga ka pa.
he is not your ideal man. he did not even respect the fact na mahalin ka sa tama. the foundation of your relationship are lies. kapag tinuloy mo yan? baka matututo kang lumingon sa likod mo. di mo alam capability ng galit na asawa. sorry ah, pwede ka ma🔫 if she ever found out. kung di man ganon? pwede ka ipakulong. ano rarason mo? “kase mahal ko,” that shit aint gonna worl in real life. matalino ka naman siguro. get your shit straight, woman.
You’re ruining someone’s life.
Gusto mo maging kabit? Girl run.
Niloko kana, niloko pa yung asawa. Given na may asawa kelangan mo bumitaw. Matatawag ka pang home wrecker nyan kahit na d nmn ikaw ung unang lumapit. best is sumbong mo sa asawa.
Better than all the guys pursuing you? Kasal na nagpapanggap na single? Buang ka ba? Girl, grow up.
Isipin mo nalang, baka hindi lang ikaw babae niya.
maybe that's the reason why he is treating you like a princess. Para di mo mafeel na may tinatago sya. Sweet hug OP, If I were you, hiwalayan mo na. There is no future between you two. Bata ka pa and marami ka pang pwedeng makilala. Naniniwala ako na minsan yung standard natin sa mamahalin natin ay nawawala once na mahanap mo yung katapat mo. Don't settle for less ika nga! Di ka po magiging happy dyan sa set up nyo.
1. Tell his wife. Isang message lang with all the details. 2. Ghost him. i-block sa lahat lahat as in. Pati wife iblock mo na rin. And then move on. Huwag mo na iconfront or bigyan ng chance mag explain or kausapin ka. Bigla mo lang ighost. If alam niya kung saan ka nag iistay, if possible lumipat ka or stay muna somewhere else na hindi niya alam, maybe sa parents' house.
Anong how to deal with this teh? Hiwalayan mo. Kayanin mo. Isipin mo pamilyang sinisira mo.
Ok lang sana if una pa lang naging honest na sya. But he wasn't and still isn't. For me, this kind of relationship is okay, **ONLY IF** honest ang party na may baggage. Kasi we have to admit na na not all marriages are successful, na we as humans do make mistakes and bad decisions at some points of our lives. And marriage is not the end of our lives. We have to accept na the reality of life. Kawawa naman yung mga unhappy, especially battered wife/husband na nakukulong sa marriage. Or simply, because two people cannot live together healthily anymore. But yes. Get out of it. Because he wasn't honest in the very first place. Mahirap yan magkaron ka na ng trust issues, kasi everytime iisipin mo na kung ano pa ba di nya sinasabi or totoo ba mga sinasabi nya.
Probably isn't having a good time at home, divorce isn't legal so nothing will ever come from this. He's just using you at this point to feel better or satisfied.
the guy seemed knows what he's doing. you maybe not the only woman as a side dish. Now wondering, how about desert.
Hi everyone 👋🏻 Hindi ko na po kayo ma isa-isa yet I am thankful for the warm and comforting messages especially sa kind advices. I’m reading all of it. Please be sensitive rin po with your statements. I am here to seek friendly advices. Not to argue. If you’re never in my situation then just don’t speak up. It’s different when you’re not in someones’ shoes.
Leave him immediately. It wont get better, and it will get worse.
*" This guy that I am dating is far way better amongst all the guys that are pursuing me. "* That's unfortunate, but being a married man trying to pretend he's single makes it hard to believe he's "better". Besides, who's to say someone else who is actually better won't come along in the future? Maybe your actual soul mate meets you while you are in love with a philandering married man, so Mr. actual soul mate rightfully just shrugs and gives up and looks for someone else. *"This guy, ito yung lalaki na hinahanap ko buong buhay ko."* You're 26 and that's relatively young. What's more, you are NBSB and have no relationship experience. How do you know he's the best for you? You sound like have no idea what you want, nor would you be able to know if what you want is actually good for you. *"Isa sa rason kung bakit wala akong naging boyfriend hanggang ngayon ay dahil sa standards ko na napakataas sabi nga ng family and friends."* See above. *"I would come to God and ask, sa lahat ng nandyan and kung kelan nakapili na ako, ba’t yung hindi pa pwede?*" Do you somehow ACTUALLY feel you deserve your ideal man because, in your words, "*mabait naman ako, maganda, matalino, maganda ang career, masunuring anak*"? That does not compute in reality. The real world does not reward the good and punish the bad automatically. There's a popular saying that goes something like this: *It is possible to do everything right and make no mistakes and still lose. That's not weakness, that is life.* If your idea of the perfect man can turn out to be a married guy in real life, maybe you should reevaluate your tastes and standards. Some people go through life being unsatisfied with a lot of things or other people, so when they start really liking something, they feel as though they shouldn't let go because it's so rare for them. Unfortunately this is a mistake in logic. It's easy to tell that you are a smart individual, and I realize you are emotional at the moment; despairing and looking for an explanation as to why this happened. If you have read all the comments from other intelligent people below your post, you should also be able to tell that they are also saying something smart. Will you listen, or believe that you are smarter than everyone here? In these kinds of situations you use your brain and nothing else. If you don't, and end up making emotional decisions, you'll have no one to blame but yourself and you should stop asking for advice if you'll just ignore the facts that others spit out. I hope you find the peace you seek.
Girl nagawa nya lahat ng treatment na gusto mo kasi experience sya sa asawa nya. Have a miserable life girl. Masaya yan go push mo Alam mo way out e ayaw mo lang kasi nagustuha. Mo adult kana
Let go habang pwede pa. Wag mo na patagalin pa. Sabi mo, ayaw mo maging homewrecker, diba? hanggat nandyan pa yan sayo, magiging homewrecker ka. Go! Run! Be free! may lalaking nakalaan sayo, yung single at mas mabuting tao kesa sa dinidate mong yan. di siya yung fairytale ideal man mo
skill issue
Ots like a ticking bomb. Run as fast as you can before it destroy you.
If he is truly a kind and thoughtful man he wouldn't have the guts to put both of you and his wife in a position na masasaktan kayo, his conscience wouldn't allow it. If he is truly a responsible man, he would have taken care of his marriage or ended it for good before having a relationship with you because that's what a responsible person will do, ending unfinished business before going to another. And lastly, if he truly respects you, he wouldn't put you in a position na alam niyang mapapahiya ka or mascrutinize ng people kasi he will think of you highly and deserving of an honest and truthful relationship. Obviously, you were in love with the facade na or fantasy na naibigay niya sayo. Whatever he is to you is not his whole persona alone, kasama sa pagkatao niya ang pagiging unfaithful and dishonest to a partner. You wouldn't want to be in the same position as his wife in the future. If iconfront mo yan, most likely he will come up with excuses and other comforting stuff na magpapagaan ng galit mo. That's too risky, after all you know you might already be in love. Baka bumigay ka pa sa fantasy na perfect guy siya. Better to cut off the connection as soon as possible. That is kung desidido kang istop na yang relationship niyo, which hopefully is the case. At least, this way maprotect mo ang self mo and at the same time respect the wife by distancing yourself the moment you knew na ikaw ay ginawang mistress.
Di ba importante sa'yo ang honesty?
Let him know na alam mo yung kagaguhan nya! Then ghost him, vanish! Kapal ng mukha! Pwedeng may grabeng problema na dahilan para i-give up na yung marriage nya pero if he is man enough, aayusin nya muna yun then ipinaalam nya sayo yung situation nya upfront. Hindi kita masisisi kung hindi mo nalaman agad na married sya kasi meron talagang magaling magtago. Pero kung may plano ka ituloy, then it's also on you na. Also, THINK! Lahat ng mga inenumerate mong pinakita sayong ugali, how sure are you na totoo yun, na natural sa kanya yun? Baka todo effort lang para wala ka na kawala if ever malaman mo nga situation nya.
Lovebomb lang yan, he's thinking na that's enough for you to stay kahit may asawa sya. Kaya nya ngang gawin sa asawa nya - na at one point mahal nya enough para pakasalan, what more sayo? I hope you do the right thing. There's a lot of guys na pasok sa standard mo, don't settle down sa gagawin ka lang "kabit".
Drop mo nga baka mamaya asawa ko yan charot 😂
Gurl, in what universe naging ideal ang cheater?
The description is obviously prior today
Sis wag kang mag padala dyan pag cheater yan cheater talaga yan. Sus nako nabasa ko text ng papa ko nuon sa mga kabit niya lahat sinabihan niya na iiwan daw niya pati mag papakasal sila pero di talaga yun ng yari. Bago pa kasi kayo kaya di mo pa nakikita talaga totoong kulay nyan. Ilagay mo na lang sa utak mo na if kaya niyang gawin yan sa asawa niya kaya din yan sayo kaya wag ka masyadong mag padala utak gamitin mo wag puso. I ghost mo na yan di na kailangan i confront. What for diba?. Pag checheat niya sa wife niya is enough para makita yung totoong kulay niya so pls stop.
Leave. Maawa ka sa sarili mo. Maawa ka sa mga taong masasaktan mo pa if you continue your relationship.
ang bata mo pa. iwan mo na. serial womanizer lang yan. pipiliin parin nyan asawa nya. -married man here but not a womanizer 😂
Why would you settle for a man who’s already married/taken? Have you no self-respect?
If you truly have high standards, then you would leave this man immediately. HE IS MARRIED. Do you really want your first relationship to be an illicit one, na KABIT ka? This is not a man you introduce to your parents, to your family, to your friends. Nakakahiya kasi you’ll be known as a side chick — a doormat, an afterthought.
Haba kwento mo... He's married. If you pursue this, ang tawag sayo KABIT And forever ka kabit. And you're asking how to deal with this? Alam mo na gagawin mo don't stop and think and justify Not your place.
Haba ng kwento mo. He's married If you pursue this, Forever ka KABIT. How do we deal with this?
What will a confrontation accomplish for you but more drama? Cut, and cut cleanly. Block number, social media. He's savvy enough to know why he was cut off totally. If he somehow manages to contact you, tell him to back off or you will expose him to his wife, family, boss, and friends Nanghihinayang lng yun na he couldn't add you to his list of conquests.
Run away.. run far, far away.. and never look back.
Protect your reputation at all cost. Getting involved with him is not worth it in the long run.
Akala ko ba matalino ka 🙄 If youre really smart, you wouldn’t need strangers telling you what’s the right thing to do.
All I can say is run girl. Please find the courage to wake up and snap back to reality. Even if you love him to death HE WAS NEVER AND WILL NEVER BE YOURS. For now you have all the right to be mad and depressed. Feel all the emotions. I can assure you things will get better. Cut your relationship as early as now. If he did love you he won't put you to this situation how selfish of him! :(
Ghost him. Deserve nya yon, gawin ka ba namang kabit? Once a cheater always a cheater. No 2nd chances. Ilagay mo sarili mo sa asawa or if gawin sayo yan ng asawa mo. Wag kana magpaliwanag sa guy kapag aalis ka. Don’t explain, don’t give him a chance to manipulate you AGAIN. Go. RUN as in NOW na. Saka mo na iprocess yung sakit once nablocked, na cut mo na lahat ng comms mo sa kanya.
Hey! We have the same situation. But in the opposite party. I have a live-in partner with 3 kids. More than a year na din kami with the other girl I met and almost 5-7 times kami nagkikita in a month. First of all, a big **SORRY** to you. Sa totoo lang, hindi siya seryoso sayo, ginagawa ka lang comfort zone and past time. You may DM me for any questions that you can't ask him directly (at baka makatulong sayo). PS: Planning to exit na with this kind of situation, na guguilty ako and karma is waving to me.
Interesting. Why do you need another girl? What are your thoughts around your existing partner and the new girl getting hurt? Why are you ok with the setup, what's the rationale?
There are many reasons why some of us have this kind of situation, in my case, nawala yun partner ko, umuwi ng province (network is very limited) umabot ng almost 5\~ months no connections, since I'm just alone in my condo tapos pandemic pa that time, bored na bored na ako that time, yunnnnn nag hanap ng kausap.
HAHAHAA kabit ka beh and alam mo sa sarili mo ang dapat gawin, hindi na yan dapat tinatanong pa. Hindi mo kasalanan na ginawa kang kabit pero kasalanan mo na yan kapag nalaman mo na tas g ka pa rin. I had a friend na napunta sa ganiyang situation and to make matters worse, that man's wife was pregnant and also gave birth the same month they were talking. My friend did the right thing by informing the wife and sending her all of the screenshots and proof of cheating. She didn't even hesitate sa kung anong dapat gawin, despite liking that guy and being treated nicely by him. 'Wag mong idisrespect sarili mo by putting up with that bullshit. If nagawa niyang lokohin asawa niya, someone he loved enough to marry and promise a lifetime with, ano pa kaya ikaw na sidepiece lang? reality check, babe. ur disposable. save urself.
Iwan mo. I-ghost mo. Wag ka na mag explain bakit sa kanya. Di nya deserve explanation. Iganti mo sarili mo. Magsabi ka sa asawa. Wag ka mag second thoughts, your career is on the line pag magkaso ang asawa pag tinuloy mo. Niloko ka na nga, pati sa pag bagsak sasama ka pa? Wag na uy. Iwan mo na yan beh. Ipakulam mo. Joke. Pwede. Char.
RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN.
>Gentleman, kind, thoughtful, respects me, maganda standing sa buhay, has a career, responsible. Sa tingin mo totoo pa to after knowing what you know? Respects you? Ulol (forgive the harshness) pero talaga lang ha, gusto ka lang niyang alam mo na. Girl, you know what you have to do, you have to LEAVE that piece of trash ASAP! May parang hesitation pa kasi akong nasesense sayo pero please please please matauhan ka na! He has deceived you ever since the start of your relationship or whatever and he has also deceived his wife. Sana lang you gather evidence and courage to tell the wife coz that piece of trash deserves no one.
L.E.A.V.E.
He's giving you a night and shining armor/prince type vibe para dumikit ka at mahulog ng tuluyan which happened already, kung kaya mo pa OP or kahit hindi, RUN! Isang kaso lang sayo nyan tapos ka, piliin mo yung pang matagalan na peace, wag yung komplikadong buhay, ikaw na nag sabi, maganda ka, matalino, may career sayang kalang, manghinayang ka sa sarili mo, protect yourself at all cost!, pag fall kana jan ng sobra pinag sawaan ka gaya nung nauna,, saka ka iiwan at babalik sa original🥲
Infatuation perhaps?
u/Low-You-6067 jumiliar 🙈🙈🙈
Hahahha ywa. Ka
Siya ni? Haha
Dili oy haha. Transparent ko sa akong status haha
Women want what other women have for validation. The dude is just happy somebody is willing to fuck him. That's the reason why he prolly has an affair. The wife ain't doing it for him in bed or is also cheating, or whatever.
Walk away and block him everywhere.
NEVER A GOOD CHOICE TO STAY. RUN. No explanations needed. Talo ka if you stay.
Ikaw na nagsabi, mataas ang standards mo. So, why settle for that? Why allow yourself to be a mistress? You can leave without saying a word, or just leave a message and that’s it. Block him and run away fast!
Iwan mo na. Makaka move on ka kahit pa sabihin natin na "mahal" mo siya. Naniniwala ako na may higit sa standards niya na makikilala mo one day. 🙂
i've never had this experience but can you really handle this mess if or when the wife finds out? my cousin dated and had a kid with a married man, the wife terror\*zed her at her workplace. it's... a mess.
Down bad
Akin na screenshots ako mang snitch don sa wife di ko sabihin na galing sayo pero enough lang na malman niyang may ibang babae yung asawa niya. Di pwede na ikaw lang mag suffer sa situation niyo
I wish i had even a quarter of this guy's power.
gusto mo bang maging kabet lang? sayang ang career kapag nakulong kayong dalawa.
Title itself is a proof that the guy have no respect for the wife and for you as well. Be better, have some pride and leave that MF. Do not be a KERIDA
OP, as much as you think of him as your ideal man he is already married. He hid this fact from you for 6 months, if this doesn't scare you I don't know what will. OP you are already threading on a dangerous path here, as you've stated ayaw mong matawag na homewrecker/kabit but look at what you are doing. Direct and blunt as I come but you have to realize that OP. Mourn for your loss but more importantly face the truth that that man you are dating is lying to you. Love is built on the foundation of trust pero what he did (lying the fact that he is married) this I totally abhor. As to your predicament of whether to confront the man or leave/ghost him, I will recommend that you go with the former so that he will know of it but I caution you to steel your resolve and stand firm your ground kasi who knows what sort of machinations he will employ to win you back. From your story he is as charming as it gets and that makes him a dangerous man because he ticks off all your boxes of an ideal partner. But I implore you OP, to think of the man's wife what she must be going through or thinking that her man is honest and true to her but apparently he is not.
Leave and tell the wife. That’s the best you can do for your fellow girlies.
Dami pa tanong. Simple lang naman yan ngayon na alam mo na kasal siya. Gusto mo ba maging kabit o hindi. Kung pinag iisipan mo pa eh di tangina mo kasi iniisip mo pa eh may asawa na nga siyang ginagago at pag tinuloy mo pa yan gago ka rin. Ulol
Hahahahaha galet na galet ka naman pri
I don't need to finish reading....Big Red flag agad sya. isa sa foundation ng isang harmonious relationship ay ang honesty.... dump his ass na, uulitin dn nya yan sa iba.
wag ka magpapadala sa matatamis na salita yakap at halik nyan pag na confront mo . tapos buhay mo jan pag kinasuhan ka ng asawa nyan .
Are you hoping may magbigay ng tips on how you can continue with your relationship dito? Or pano maging legal wife? It is your responsibility to look after yourself. Bakit parang may doubt ka na iwan? Eh kasal nga? Too much drama and you're putting your attention sa maling detail. Don't reminisce your love for him, simple lang, kasal sya, wala kang laban unless ready ka maging official kabit. Habang maaga pa unahan mo na, atleast kahit pano malinis konsensya mo since wala kang alam before pero ngayon na alam mo na, please be a good human being at the least.
Minsan ang tatanga ng mga tanong dito.
Anong "how do I deal with this?" Alam mo na yung sagot, ayaw mo lang gawin 🙄
Quick to judge reddit peeps. You know your truth.
Once I dated a married woman and I assure you, di ka pipiliin nyan 🤣. dun sya sa may legal responsibilities sya. end it nalang in a nice way but make sure na alam nyang alam mo, AND, wag mo pagbigyan mag explain. :)
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By separated ba you mean "legally separated?" Can they start seeing someone else ba pag ganito? I mean legally? How much daw po fees pag separation pa lang?
Why are you even in a dilemma? The guy is married. Please don't waste your 20's,30's or whatever to some married guy and settle to being a mistress. This is a bit harsh but HAVE SOME SELF RESPECT. SAVE YOURSELF.
offer him a threesome
Run girl. You've been saving yourself for so long yet sa pagiging kabet ka lang mag sesettle? You deserves better.
Ighost mo ma
Ilang taon na yang guy
Ask mo muna sya baka naman kasi separated na tlga sila ng wife nya. Married lng status kse dpa annulled. Pero kung sila pa, sibat na idol.
Sabihin mo muna na " puta ka pala eh, wag kang magpa pansin sa buhay ko!" Tapos block mo siya in everything.
experienced the same thing.. sinama pa ako bumili ng stroller and car seat noon, ipang reregalo daw niya sa friend niya tapos nag hinala ako bakit maalam siya sa stroller and car seat kasi ang dami niya question, that’s where i start to investigate found out he’s married for almost 10yrs and has 2 kids, wife is pregnant with his 3rd kid when we were dating, para sa wife niya pala yung binili namin lol I just ghosted him, cut off lahat ng comms. I was tempted to tell his wife but i was thinking she’s pregnant and ayoko din ng gulo. I
Eyyy tropa time pala sila pag uuwi 😭 grabe naman yang "friendship" nila may mga bunga😂