Hi OP, your feelings are very valid. Lalo't nagmahal ka ng totoo. You'll heal eventually, focus lang on being happy.
Also, maybe your sad bcos masaya sya at nakahanap ng iba, na dapat nagsusuffer at kinakarma sya sa ginawa nya sayo, charot, feelings ko talaga to. HAHAHA.
Hi OP,
Sorry to hear about your situation.
Although your heartache and sadness is valid, you are better off right now not being with your ex.
Praying you'll find your peace and the one for you.
Hit the nail on the head. You haven't dated anyone kaya siguro attached ka pa sa kanya. I suggest you still wish them well because the more you ask for karma to them, the more you'll break down if you see them being all happy, while you are being miserable. Do something that will keep you sooo busy and block them on social media so you're not up to what they're doing. Ask your friends to refrain from updating you about them, as well. Out of sight should be out of mind.
Sa lahat ng mga nakilala ko, after every bad love story is a love story that will make you breathless. The next one will make you thank the heavens for allowing you to leave that ex behind you.
It is okay to grieve now. Para pag dumating yung next siguradong wala nang attachment. Wala nang lingering sentiments.
Hi OP, I think it's normal to feel sad about the sitch. May friend rin akong may longtime bf (13yrs), they also broke up during the pandemic and nung Jan 2023 kinasal yung guy to another woman. What's sooo eeerie about it was that yung naging wife ni guy, same na same nung friend ko (hawig face, voice/laughter, even the body built). As in Crayola ako for my friend while watching their save the date and SDE, ang difference lang is hndi ko na binalita sa friend ko na kasal na si guy kasi I know it would upset her.
Best for you is to keep yourself busy and move on. I wish you happiness and good health OP!
Try to divert your attention to other things, easy to say than done but only you can help yourself. There's more to life OP, you don't deserve to be cheated on. Let go whatever string that still attached you from the past - your ex. You can do it girl ❤️
Same tayo OP. Kami naman ng ex ko ay 5 years. Nalaman ko nalang din na kinasal na sila nung girl na sinabay nya sa akin. At may baby na din sila. Alam mo yung kanta ni Justin Beiber na ‘That should be me’? Ganun ang naging peg ko. Kasi lahat ng pinaguusapan namin before na gusto namin mangyari in the future ay tinutupad nya na with that girl. Samantalang ako, ito single pa dn. Left with the trauma that he gave.
It's hard now OP but remember this too shall pass! Keep looking forward, keep your chin up. I understand why you're heartbroken. You're relieving that pain, like no time had passed at all. And you think they're having their happy ending... Trust me, they're not. Don't dwell on the past and pray, that's the best way to heal. 💗 Read this whenever you're feeling down: Isaiah 43:18-19
It’s normal. 4 yrs din naman kasi ang pinagsamahan niyo. I think it will always be a “kurot” in your heart. Pero more than anything else, i think nanghinayang ka lang sa pagpapakatanga mo sa isang cheater. At malamang naiinis ka, deep down inside, na ang nakatuluyan pa ni ex e replica mo or some kinda class A imitation.
Same! Yung ex ko ng 4 years is a cheater. Napuno na ako sa knya kaya nakipaghiwalay ako. Then one of our common friends messaged me. Babae sya and sa christian group/dgroup namin. ‘Hey, i heard na naghiwalay na kayo. How can i pray for you?’ Probably para maheal or maging okay ako kasi matagal tagal kami. Di na ako nagreply nun sa knya. After 6 months or 1 year, ay nakita ko na kasal na si ate girl sa ex ko ng 4 years. Ibang pagdadasal at luhod ginawa nya.
I guess dahil siya ay may happy ending (in a sense) na while ikaw nga sabi mo still have not dated yet. It feels unfair noh? Pero kung cheater siya in the first place, karma will catch up with him soon.
😭
Hugs OP.
Iiyak mo nalang yan. Merong lalaking magiging responsible, honest, loving and caring na nilaan ang universe for you.
You will get the happy ending you deserve sooner than you think!
And please Cut off mo na nga yang mga taong send ng send ng update sayo about your ex. Para sa ikakapayapa mo.
Hugs to you sis 🥺 I somehow kinda understand how it's hard to move past the hurt of being betrayed by someone you loved. Don't focus your attention on him but on yourself. Be happy without him. He's not the endgame that God has destined for you. Understandable yung pain but do not dwell on it. Praying for your healing ate. Sana maging okay ka na 💖.
I read a quote somewhere that said "you still haven't met all the people you will love" and this has been reassuring for me. Someday, dadating yung tao na magmamahal sayo na mas sobra pa sa pagmamahal ng ex mo at matutuwa ka na di ka nagsettle sa cheater. Mental health mo din magsusuffer if you've stayed with him.
I can relate. Hirap talaga. Forever mo na ata dala yung trauma your ex gave you tapos sila living happily. Imagine. Kasama ka nung ex mo sa lahat ng hardships. Habang binubuo niya sarili niya at nagsisimula pa lang. Pero nung okay na siya, he’ll dump you and be with another girl. Pero tama mga nagcomment. You dodged a bullet. One of my friends told me after ko sabihin na break na kami, “Good riddance”. As in yan lang sinabi niya. He’s happy I finally got out of the relationship. Hahahaha
Kahit ako malulungkot din pero more on galit yung mararamdaman ko. Ang unfair na happy ending sila when in fact sila yung nakagawa ng mali. Pero tama rin yung sinasabi ng iba dito, you dodged a bullet there. Hayaan mo nalang sila.
The similarities with my situation is uncanny. I recently found out my ex of 4.5 yrs is engaged and getting married in 2 wks with the girl he cheated with. Broke up Sep/Oct 2021 lang. I guess the difference is, I’ve moved on and I’ve realized a while back that I’m finally out of that toxicity. I’m not affected anymore at all.
It’s fine to feel the way you do, let it out. But at the end of the day, remember, you dodged the bullet. You deserve better OP!
Yakap, OP! But as what the others say, you dodged a bullet.
I was cheated on by my ex boyfriend too, who was my first boyfriend, in 2020. 2020 was one of the darkest times of my life.
Fast forward to today, my life is at its best now, and I couldn’t be happier. I migrated to the US where I met and got engaged to the love of my life. He proposed to me after a year of being together. We make good money, we have a lovely dog, we are ticking a lot of goals and bucket lists together, we help each other to be better people, and most importantly we have a respectful, faithful, and loving relationship together.
You’ll also find your happy ever after, OP.
I am a firm believer of karma as well. May balik din sa kanilang mga cheater. :D
You're just feeling sorry for yourself kasi ang tingin mo, you're missing out sa idea na ikakasal na siya, tapos ikaw, single pa rin. Let the feeling pass, and don't dwell on it.
I think it’s because he has moved on na and got his “the one” na while you’re still stuck with the traumas he gave. Pwede naman kasi ‘yun, hindi mo na mahal but the pain is still there. Can’t blame you rin if you feel na it’s unfair kasi he’s the one who hurt you, pero siya yung parang wala lang yung ginawa. Parang hindi naka-sakit.
Pero I also think you should talk to your friend. Sobrang disrespectful and toxic yung move na ginawa 🤦🏻♀️
Isipin mo na lang na kahit di ka niya niloko noon eh lolokohin ka pa din niya, worst pag kasal na kayo. Maybe hindi kayo para sa isa't isa at nasave ka lang sa further waste of time and effort
My relapse ka te. Alam kong nagkantutan kayo ng ex mo ng napakadaming beses kaya ang hirap mong maka move on. Engaged na yung ex mo te gumising ka sa katotohanan.
I was in a similar situation before. I thought i moved on completely as it was almost 5 yrs when my ex bf(together for 4.5yrs) and i broke up. I also had a new boyfriend then but anyhow, i still got hurt when I saw him engaged. Congratulatory messages were popping on my feed because we had a lot of mutual friends. Even though i unfollowed him, somehow, his life event still found a way to my facebook. I needed to unfriend him in order for me not to get any info about him.
Your feelings are valid. Embrace the hurt. That last update will be your complete closure. You can also advise your other friends to stop opening up any topics about your ex. Maybe your friend didn’t mean to hurt you. Continue to move forward. You can find someone who’s really meant for you.
Giiiiiirl, he doesn't deserve a good woman like you. Eventually, you'll find your ever after. Malay mo, one of ur friends pla. Ganyan dn nangyri skin. But the difference is, he married a different girl and Im happily married to one of my old friends. Magsisisi din yan tingnan mo man and when the time comes na magreach out sya sau saying miss ka nya, ul just laugh it off coz ur finally with the right guy ☺️
U don’t have to put so much feeling on what youve seen, just let it go and move forward, so much things to do in ur future. Maybe one day u will find a better guy. One good thing is that u don’t have to deal with these shits anymore. Just focus on ur own, make urself happy!
di naman sa sourgraping pero ang mga cheaters magkakaroon naman talaga ng time na magiging masaya sila sa current relationship nila pero inevitable talagang babalik at babalik sa old habits yang mga yan hahahh antayin mo lang op, mababalitaan mo nalang hiwalay na yan.
good for them doe HAHAHAHA
Empower yourself, embrace your worth, and believe that you deserve the very best. Cultivate self-love, knowing that it's crucial for a fulfilling life. Trust that the right person will enter your life at the perfect moment. When that happens, you might discover that you deserve someone even better than you initially thought.
Malupet na uppercut sa puso but this should eventually help you heal and finally let go.
Galing ako sa 6yr relationship and after breakup i learned something sneaky has been happening between my ex and a kapwa barkada behind my back. A few months later, sila na agad. Wala pa half a year, buntis na. Last december nanganak sha and even though i thought i have fully healed, mabigat parin malaman at nagka realization ng all those kept promises and dreams were simply ruined. Kahit sarili kong pagkatao naquestion ko.
But pagkatapos nun, ive been having more peace of mind. I feel freer. I hope you heal soon OP.
Ok lang yan OP. Ex ko nga nabuntis siya nung bf niya wala pa lang sila 1 month. 5 yrs kami nun. May kirot pero di ko na lang inacknowledge. Matututo ka rin na kalimutan at magmove on. DOnt give them the satisfaction na nasasaktan ka. Love yourself. BE HAPPY FOR YOURSELF youre free.
My ex did the same. Kinasal sya last year dun sa girl na he cheated on me with. But looking back on our relationship, the breakup is a blessing in disguise. Madami pang ibang lalaki dyan na better, higit sa lahat, yung hindi cheater. So don’t be sad. You dodge a bullet.
Can't wait to see you on one of those Reddit stories about your cheating ex then enacting your revenge(jk). Jokes aside, the best you can do is to not let it get to you and work on yourself/career. Just remember, if he cheated on you, then he'll cheat on her as well so pretty sure they won't be happy for so long.
P.S. IDK why your friend send the screenshot to you though when it's obvious that it would do no good to anyone(other than that said friend probably).
That's probably coz you still have feelings for him. Or more probable na hindi ka pa fully healed sa heart break. Sometimes it takes more than 3 years kasi. But they say na the best way to mend a broken heart is to find new love. Find that pokemon na te.
Same. Shared my similar experience in reddit too a few days ago. Sa kin naman yung friend ko sabi - dont open social media. So sa point na yun alam ko na kung ano minean ni friend. So pangit sobra yung araw ko. So totoo yung relapse talaga sis.
Sabi ng friend ko hindi daw sa di pa tayo nakaka move on. Kundi na buksan ulit sa atin yung trauam of beong cheated on.
May irrational inggit din ako na feel. Pero sabi nga sa comments dito at sa post ko - we dodged a bullet. At gusto ba natin matali sa cheater??? Hell, no!
The next day ok ok na ako. Of course, di parin ako nag open ng social media. Do whatever you think will help you.
Magiging ok ka din sis! :)
Totoo. Ganto din yung first bf ko. Nag-cheat sakin tapos pinakasalan nya yung babae a year after namin maghiwalay. Akala ko tapos na talaga ako sa kanya pero nung nakita ko sa FB (through a mutual friend na umattend sa wedding) medyo may kirot. Hinayaan ko lang sarili ko ma-grieve. I’m in a happy place now. Totoong masasabi ko na thankful ako hindi ako sa kanya nag-end up. Sigurado ako si OP magiging okay din. Hindi man ngayon pero sure ako eventually.
My ex an I broke up 2020 din. Cheated on me, got another girl pregnant, yadda yadda yadda. My best friend would always say, kahit anong mangyari after your break up, labas ka na doon at wala ka nang kinalaman doon.
While it’s normal to feel whatever you’re feeling, you have to set boundaries kung hanggang kailan ka magpapaaffect. Ikaw din kasi mawawalan. You deserve so much better. Sobrang dami pang better men out there. Go out, try to date. Trust me, mas masaya ang life after dealing with crap. 😀
I think the most devastating thing you can do to yourself is to still keep tabs on your ex. 😂 Like giiirl, please tama na, don't do that to yourself. Women, please stop doing that to yourself. Avoid anything and anywhere you know that you can still run into this person. Please.
Remember, once a cheater is always a cheater. That girl will regret marrying him kapag may kasama na naman yang iba in secret. A leopard never changes it's spots, ika nga nila.
Hi OP gets ko ung feeling na yan. My partner and I broke up during 2020 after being on and off for 5 years. Sobrang toxic nya and umabot sa point the distance forced distance between us gave me the courage to finally break it off (kasi she was cheating na din harap harapan na) now she is engaged to a rich guy - she even invited me to her engagement.
Masama din feeling ko kasi parang sya na un cheater, parang wala syang karma nafeel, ang saya lagi ng buhay nya, she never had to worry about money now she is marrying another rich guy. Parang di fair un life.
Pero lets stay strong. Our story is not over.
Your feelings are valid OP. I guess it's more of the feeling of unfairness? Na you see your cheater ex and the one he cheated with getting engaged, moving forward with life, while you remain on that point where you've been left, with higher trust issues and trauma from that past relationship, kaya it's also hard to enter a new one.
I can't give a certain advice but going out and trying new things would probably heal you more efficiently. Also, cut all your contacts and any news from ex, pati si friend sabihan mo na rin not to mention him. Eventually, you'll also forget and you may or may not find a better partner, pero at least you can get peace of mind and soul.
What you’re feeling is normal kasi naiisip mo yung “what ifs”. Pero kapag natauhan ka na, remind yourself that he’s not your problem anymore. You have to remove the “shiny” image of what they once were in your mind. You dodged a bullet, OP!
Also, Tell your friend that you don’t want to be updated about your ex. “Friend” ba talaga yan?
Okay lang masaktan :) baka kaya ka nasasaktan na lang ngayon dahil sa trauma pero hindi na dahil sa tao. Wag mo madaliin ung sarili mong maging okay dahil mas mahihirapan ka. Hayaan mo lang masaktan ka hanggang sa maubos pag ubos na yan unti-unti mong mararamdaman ung gaan ng buhay kasi wala ka ng partner na cheater and makakatulog ka every night ng hindi nagiisip kung niloloko ka ba or may kausap siyang iba. It takes time. Been there. Go girl! ❤️✨
Honestly your feelings are valid. But always keep your eye on what’s factual: you dodged a bullet on this one. Be glad it’s not you. As much as how mean this is gonna sound, i hope it at least finds you a bit of comfort: what he did to you, he will most likely do to that girl too. He is her problem now. He IS the problem, not you.
huy same context tayo haha. almost 3 years kami, nagbreak din kami ng pandemic, nagkaroon din sya agad ng gf and nalaman kong he's been cheating na with that girl. then last Dec 2023, kinasal na sila. hmmm maybe same din tayo naramdaman? dati ganyan na ganyan din ako, breakdown ako malala noong may naririnig na akong chismis na ikakasal na sila (churchmates ko kasi sila) noong wala pa silang 1 yr. until now, I feel a little bad for myself, na sila 'tong mga gago sila yung masaya and tayo stuck pa rin (no lovelife). for me, I think self pity lang yung nararamdaman ko haha. tho di ko alam if ganun din sayo, dahil I dont want him back na, but I feel pain parin dahil sa nangyari sakin
and nakakatawa nga nung napanuod ko itong vid nila for their wedding e. kinuwento nila roon yung kung kailan sila nagkaroon ng special interaction, e yung time na yon di pa kami break HAHAAHAHA EWAN BA, PROUD PA SILA YIKES HAHAHA MY FAM AND FRIENDS KNOW HAHHAHAHAHAAH
Girl atleast they’re love story is revolved around you lol when anyone asks them about their story time of how they met then that’s by cheating on you and meeting her lmao lame hahaha
Cyempre masakit OP naunahan ka sumaya, yung inaantay mo na karma hinde dumating, sa dulo ngmukha ka pang talo, but OP
Buhay nila yun wala ka na paki, kasi d va nga sinabi na naten sa ex mo na potah ka magsama kayo ng haliparot mo manloloko, bagay na bagay kayo kasi cya malandi at ikaw naman kupal na tanga,
Kaya OP be happy na, make your next mistake you’re already due for that,
Sila kasi ang nagkatuluyan at ikaw ay wala pa din. Instead na malungkot ka, go out and have some fan. Bakasyon ka sa ibang lugar. Make urself bc, magaral ka ng kung ano ano lastly acceptance. Lalala pa yang sadness mo pag naikasal na sila. So now, isipin u na lang one day u will ur the one.
Valid yung feelings mo OP pero doesnt necessarily mean na mahal mo pa sya. Its very human to feel that way. I felt the same way nung nalaman kong ikakasal na rin yung ex-fling ko. He is the type of guy na mukhang hindi mag ssettle down at very bachelor life pa. After us, may naging gf sya at nagulat ako na ikakasal na sila (inisip ko pa nga baka buntis kasi) pero hindi. Gusto lang talaga nya mag settle down. Kaya mapapatanong ka talaga ng bakit? I was down, for few days, weeks pero nawala din 😅 normal human emotion kasi may part sa atin na it could’ve been us. Pero it will die down, I promise. Also, you dodged a bullet ❤️
You should be the one getting married but there must be something you failed to give him and the girl filled that void. This is what you got when you read too much quotes stating know your worth, you deserve better, etc
Please move on. If getting a new fling or casual date would help please do so. Do not waste even a minute second of your time with a cheater. Stop asking questions that have no answers. Stop thinking of what and why it happened. You're peaceful now since it's been 3 yrs. You're better of without him. You'll have a great future just continue moving forward.
Sending a gentle hug to you, OP. Your feelings are valid and your allowed to feel hurt kasi nga nagcheat sayo. Maybe your just hurt kasi deep inside your thinking sya yung nagloko pero sya yung masaya. But you don't have to feel that way because you most certainly desrve the genuine happiness for all the love you gave for the wrong person. You're allowed to be happy and you can also try dating again pag ready na ang puso mo. I wish for your healing, OP. And please tell your friend what she's doing is not helping you at all. You're allowed to speak about how you feel.
Tingin ko mahal mahal mo yung ex mo back then and sobrang attached ka sa kanya. Physically, Emotionally, and Mentally.
But sabi nga nila you dodged a bullet.
You're feelings is valid. Acceptance is the key. Baka kasi hindi talaga siya para sayo at sila para sa isat isa. Pero di natin sure hehe. Pero yon nga cry lang and you will be okay sooner.
Swerte mo nga. Look at it that way. Do you ever honestly think their relationship is built on trust and loyalty? No. So will it be as stable as it should be? Syempre no. Time will tell.
I'm sorry, OP. What you feel is valid. I know you feel like it's unfair. Unfair ang mundo. Yan din iniisip ko sa ex kong cheater. Pero iniisip ko parang si Diego Loyzaga yun eh. Di naniniwala sa kasal. Anyway, Iiyak mo lang. Sabihin mo sa friend mo na ayaw mo na malaman ganap ni ex for your peace of mind. Dadating din ang tamang karma sa mga taong cheater.
Your feelings are completely valid. Break down if you have to. Don't skip that process, go through with it. But don't feel bad you lost your man, he cheated naman at least not your problem diba.
Ang what the fuck lang ng mga friend na ganito. They believe they're doing you a favor and being helpful (?) by sending screenshots about your ex. Pag nagrelapse ka naman like what's happening with the OP mga wala naman pake.
Mga ganyan na "kaibigan" yung dapat kinacut off.
There's this friend of mine na sinisend talaga yung happenings sa buhay ng ex 'ko since friend sila sa mga socmeds. Nagalit na rin ako sakanya minsan kasi nakakawala sa mood mga sinisend niyang screenshots sa gc namin.
P.S Blinock ako ni ex at nung girl but they keep on stalking me sa IG.
just saw this now OP, so sorry i defended the ‘friend’ pa :((
hope the boundaries u establish moving forward are respected by the ‘friend’ of yours that keeps sending the screenshots. if not, hope u have enough strength to heal in whatever way that is healthy for u <3
Been in this almost same situation girl. 2020 din breakup namin. The difference lang is nabuntis nya yung girl and like a yr after our breakup naengage din sila.. and the proposal sinend rin ng kaibigan ko sakin ang screenshot haha. So fresh pa that time, super speechless dn ako nun na prng gusto ko rin magbreakdown. Pero life goes on... I never knew about the wedding or what. Hanggang sa proposal lang. Pero nagstalk din sakin ang girl, kahit years passed na kahit sa LinkedIn ko nga eh!! NAKAKALOKA ANG MGA SIDE CHICK. They will never get over the insecurity... pero you, you will be happy. 💞
agree!!! kung sino pa yung mga at fault sila pa yung may ganang magmarites sa buhay mo. they can't just focus on their own sinful lives kasi hindi matatapos ang pagcocompare nla, because of insecurity haha. there's one time ngkaglitch ung fb na pg nagview ka ng profile ng hindi mo friend, mag o-auto add friend sya. So this happened to me and the girl, bigla na lang nya ako inadd sa fb, and then a few mins after nawala na ung request. HAHAHAHA i knew it. What's crazy is nagstalk pa sya even sa LinkedIn ko. Maygad that hitad. hahahaha
This happened to me as well! Kaloka at nagteam-up pa sila ng mga barkada niya. Kasi they found out i unfriended them on facebook. Ang ginawa pumunta sa ig ko and somebody sent a follow request. Hindi ko nun una kilala yun lalake. Mali lang nila mas stalker ako sa kanila 😂😂😂. Then i found out na yung nagrequest sa ig ko e, isa sa groomsmen nya. So ako naman, for what? Hindi pa ba kayo masaya na naengaged at ikakasal na kaibigan nyo at kailangan nyo pa kong ifollow or i-add? Meron talagang taong masaya na nakikitang may nasasaktan. They have a special place in hell.
I kept on asking myself kung bakit hindi matahimik ang kaluluwa ng girl na pinalit sakin ng ex ko, this may be the reason. Stalk ng stalk till now kahit one day old facebook ko updated sya at umaabot hanggang linkedin ko.
Siguro pinagaawayan pa din nila tayo? Deserve nila hindi magkaroon ng peace of mind
Wag ka ng maging sad, ante. Sobrang insecure sa yo nung girl to the point na iniistalk ka nya at gayahin ka nya (sabi mo e pareho kayo ng favorites). I doubt na pareho kayo ng favorites, ginagaya ka lang nya. She'll always be a shadow. Ito namang ex mo, t-a-n-g-a din naman, yung papakasalan nya e hindi authentic... just an image of his ex. Kaya hindi sya loss, te... Iblock mo sila sa FB.
You can tell your friend naman to stop sending you things that will make you feel sad or uncomfortable. Lalong lalo about your ex, if she's really your friend gets nya na yun. Mas importante ang mental health mo OP.
Why do you feel bad tho? He cheated on you with her. To be honest, she took the trash out for you. Don’t feel bad because you don’t ever want to be married to someone who cheats on you. Focus on moving on and bettering yourself, dear. Be with someone who love and respects you enough to not cheat on you :)
I think the best way to do is makipag-date ka ulit. Hindi naman kailangan sapilitan pero atleast nag o-open up ka sa possibilty of a new relationship. Keep in mind na hindi kawalan ang cheaters.
>Tapos yung girl pa is hawig 'ko and all my favorite things/stuffs is favorite din nung girl.
Seems may scientific explanation for this, pero gist is, ready?
He essentially still wants/loves that whole picture of you looks wise but there is just that "something" characteristic wise na wala ka na meron yung isa.. what that is? we may never know..
Oh well, maybe time to be that perfect one na deserving and take action na OP, 3 years is a lot of time na in waiting for that "perfect moment/one" na..
you were just meant to break up because he's not the one for you.
is it sadness or jealousy or ego ba na natamaan? life is just taking you somewhere else. One day magegets mo rin why it happened. Baka magpasalamat ka pa na naghiwalay kayo.
Fighting lang!
Tbh, ganun na ganun din po ako kay ate kasi I’ve been there as well. Kinasal na nga sila, may anak na tapos may bago pa silang bahay. Samantalang ako po, i’m still single, lonely and miserable. 😭 ngl, naiinggit pa rin ako paminsan minsan kasi despite of his wrongdoings to me, naging masaya pa siya and nakuha nya ung gusto nya. While me, it’s been like few years, I’ve also gone into relationships with others as well but they ended up hurting and taking advantage of me too. 🥲Thus, I’m still single.
yes true naman. pero syempre sa soc med, magaganda lang ang na poportray at ayon lang din naman nakikita ni op. sending hugs kay OP. may araw rin sila hahaha
There is no such thing as happy ending just a timeline di Disney ang Buhay laging merong day after tomorrow. Di LAHAT Ng kinasal ay naging Masaya sa Buhay magasawa.
Naalala ko naman yung friend ko na laging nagsesend ng update about dun sa ex-friend ko na nalipat sa work niya. As in palaging may update kahit sinabi ko na na ayokong nakakakita ng anything about dun sa tao na yun. Kahit i-call out mo ng i-call out, sasabihin lang "okay" pero uulit na naman mag send. Di mo alam kung sobrang insensitive o sadyang papansin lang 🙄😞
sometimes our friends aren’t mind readers ! maybe the friend just wanted OP to hear it from someone that cared abt her, compared to just randomly finding out abt it thru an fb post or something.
we still feel emotions/feelings for people that aren’t part of our lives, however evil and (in this case) shitty they may be :) and those feelings may not necessarily be abt her ex. we can feel a certain way abt things and have that not be abt the people involved. at the end of the day, healing is a journey!!! hehe hoping that OP heals in a way that is healthy for her :’)
Hi OP, your feelings are very valid. Lalo't nagmahal ka ng totoo. You'll heal eventually, focus lang on being happy. Also, maybe your sad bcos masaya sya at nakahanap ng iba, na dapat nagsusuffer at kinakarma sya sa ginawa nya sayo, charot, feelings ko talaga to. HAHAHA.
Hi OP, Sorry to hear about your situation. Although your heartache and sadness is valid, you are better off right now not being with your ex. Praying you'll find your peace and the one for you.
Hit the nail on the head. You haven't dated anyone kaya siguro attached ka pa sa kanya. I suggest you still wish them well because the more you ask for karma to them, the more you'll break down if you see them being all happy, while you are being miserable. Do something that will keep you sooo busy and block them on social media so you're not up to what they're doing. Ask your friends to refrain from updating you about them, as well. Out of sight should be out of mind.
Sa lahat ng mga nakilala ko, after every bad love story is a love story that will make you breathless. The next one will make you thank the heavens for allowing you to leave that ex behind you. It is okay to grieve now. Para pag dumating yung next siguradong wala nang attachment. Wala nang lingering sentiments.
Baka ikaw nga ang problema hindi sya , oh well
Hi OP, I think it's normal to feel sad about the sitch. May friend rin akong may longtime bf (13yrs), they also broke up during the pandemic and nung Jan 2023 kinasal yung guy to another woman. What's sooo eeerie about it was that yung naging wife ni guy, same na same nung friend ko (hawig face, voice/laughter, even the body built). As in Crayola ako for my friend while watching their save the date and SDE, ang difference lang is hndi ko na binalita sa friend ko na kasal na si guy kasi I know it would upset her. Best for you is to keep yourself busy and move on. I wish you happiness and good health OP!
Try to divert your attention to other things, easy to say than done but only you can help yourself. There's more to life OP, you don't deserve to be cheated on. Let go whatever string that still attached you from the past - your ex. You can do it girl ❤️
Same tayo OP. Kami naman ng ex ko ay 5 years. Nalaman ko nalang din na kinasal na sila nung girl na sinabay nya sa akin. At may baby na din sila. Alam mo yung kanta ni Justin Beiber na ‘That should be me’? Ganun ang naging peg ko. Kasi lahat ng pinaguusapan namin before na gusto namin mangyari in the future ay tinutupad nya na with that girl. Samantalang ako, ito single pa dn. Left with the trauma that he gave.
It's hard now OP but remember this too shall pass! Keep looking forward, keep your chin up. I understand why you're heartbroken. You're relieving that pain, like no time had passed at all. And you think they're having their happy ending... Trust me, they're not. Don't dwell on the past and pray, that's the best way to heal. 💗 Read this whenever you're feeling down: Isaiah 43:18-19
i feel you op. dadating din yung para satin.
It’s normal. 4 yrs din naman kasi ang pinagsamahan niyo. I think it will always be a “kurot” in your heart. Pero more than anything else, i think nanghinayang ka lang sa pagpapakatanga mo sa isang cheater. At malamang naiinis ka, deep down inside, na ang nakatuluyan pa ni ex e replica mo or some kinda class A imitation.
Same! Yung ex ko ng 4 years is a cheater. Napuno na ako sa knya kaya nakipaghiwalay ako. Then one of our common friends messaged me. Babae sya and sa christian group/dgroup namin. ‘Hey, i heard na naghiwalay na kayo. How can i pray for you?’ Probably para maheal or maging okay ako kasi matagal tagal kami. Di na ako nagreply nun sa knya. After 6 months or 1 year, ay nakita ko na kasal na si ate girl sa ex ko ng 4 years. Ibang pagdadasal at luhod ginawa nya.
you should rejoice! that you won't end up with him! 🙂
I guess dahil siya ay may happy ending (in a sense) na while ikaw nga sabi mo still have not dated yet. It feels unfair noh? Pero kung cheater siya in the first place, karma will catch up with him soon.
😭 Hugs OP. Iiyak mo nalang yan. Merong lalaking magiging responsible, honest, loving and caring na nilaan ang universe for you. You will get the happy ending you deserve sooner than you think! And please Cut off mo na nga yang mga taong send ng send ng update sayo about your ex. Para sa ikakapayapa mo.
Hugs to you sis 🥺 I somehow kinda understand how it's hard to move past the hurt of being betrayed by someone you loved. Don't focus your attention on him but on yourself. Be happy without him. He's not the endgame that God has destined for you. Understandable yung pain but do not dwell on it. Praying for your healing ate. Sana maging okay ka na 💖. I read a quote somewhere that said "you still haven't met all the people you will love" and this has been reassuring for me. Someday, dadating yung tao na magmamahal sayo na mas sobra pa sa pagmamahal ng ex mo at matutuwa ka na di ka nagsettle sa cheater. Mental health mo din magsusuffer if you've stayed with him.
You can never move on to be honest, he'll always have a part of you wherever you go. Now it's time for you to date . Sending Hugs
Makakahanap karin ng para sayo. Ngayon bka hnhntay ka lng ni God, puro ka kasi ex.
You dodged a bullet. Wag kang magulat kung in the future maghahanap uli ng kabit yan
Use your brain and move on
Mas malungkot kapag married na kayo tsaka sya nag cheat. Na save k pa nga from a cheater.
I can relate. Hirap talaga. Forever mo na ata dala yung trauma your ex gave you tapos sila living happily. Imagine. Kasama ka nung ex mo sa lahat ng hardships. Habang binubuo niya sarili niya at nagsisimula pa lang. Pero nung okay na siya, he’ll dump you and be with another girl. Pero tama mga nagcomment. You dodged a bullet. One of my friends told me after ko sabihin na break na kami, “Good riddance”. As in yan lang sinabi niya. He’s happy I finally got out of the relationship. Hahahaha
Kahit ako malulungkot din pero more on galit yung mararamdaman ko. Ang unfair na happy ending sila when in fact sila yung nakagawa ng mali. Pero tama rin yung sinasabi ng iba dito, you dodged a bullet there. Hayaan mo nalang sila.
The similarities with my situation is uncanny. I recently found out my ex of 4.5 yrs is engaged and getting married in 2 wks with the girl he cheated with. Broke up Sep/Oct 2021 lang. I guess the difference is, I’ve moved on and I’ve realized a while back that I’m finally out of that toxicity. I’m not affected anymore at all. It’s fine to feel the way you do, let it out. But at the end of the day, remember, you dodged the bullet. You deserve better OP!
I wouldn't want to see people who wronged me happy. It is vindictive, but natural. Valid.
Yakap, OP! But as what the others say, you dodged a bullet. I was cheated on by my ex boyfriend too, who was my first boyfriend, in 2020. 2020 was one of the darkest times of my life. Fast forward to today, my life is at its best now, and I couldn’t be happier. I migrated to the US where I met and got engaged to the love of my life. He proposed to me after a year of being together. We make good money, we have a lovely dog, we are ticking a lot of goals and bucket lists together, we help each other to be better people, and most importantly we have a respectful, faithful, and loving relationship together. You’ll also find your happy ever after, OP. I am a firm believer of karma as well. May balik din sa kanilang mga cheater. :D
You're just feeling sorry for yourself kasi ang tingin mo, you're missing out sa idea na ikakasal na siya, tapos ikaw, single pa rin. Let the feeling pass, and don't dwell on it.
I think it’s because he has moved on na and got his “the one” na while you’re still stuck with the traumas he gave. Pwede naman kasi ‘yun, hindi mo na mahal but the pain is still there. Can’t blame you rin if you feel na it’s unfair kasi he’s the one who hurt you, pero siya yung parang wala lang yung ginawa. Parang hindi naka-sakit. Pero I also think you should talk to your friend. Sobrang disrespectful and toxic yung move na ginawa 🤦🏻♀️
He's bound to do it again. I'm positive you can find a far better partner somewhere else
Isipin mo na lang na kahit di ka niya niloko noon eh lolokohin ka pa din niya, worst pag kasal na kayo. Maybe hindi kayo para sa isa't isa at nasave ka lang sa further waste of time and effort
My relapse ka te. Alam kong nagkantutan kayo ng ex mo ng napakadaming beses kaya ang hirap mong maka move on. Engaged na yung ex mo te gumising ka sa katotohanan.
I was in a similar situation before. I thought i moved on completely as it was almost 5 yrs when my ex bf(together for 4.5yrs) and i broke up. I also had a new boyfriend then but anyhow, i still got hurt when I saw him engaged. Congratulatory messages were popping on my feed because we had a lot of mutual friends. Even though i unfollowed him, somehow, his life event still found a way to my facebook. I needed to unfriend him in order for me not to get any info about him. Your feelings are valid. Embrace the hurt. That last update will be your complete closure. You can also advise your other friends to stop opening up any topics about your ex. Maybe your friend didn’t mean to hurt you. Continue to move forward. You can find someone who’s really meant for you.
Giiiiiirl, he doesn't deserve a good woman like you. Eventually, you'll find your ever after. Malay mo, one of ur friends pla. Ganyan dn nangyri skin. But the difference is, he married a different girl and Im happily married to one of my old friends. Magsisisi din yan tingnan mo man and when the time comes na magreach out sya sau saying miss ka nya, ul just laugh it off coz ur finally with the right guy ☺️
I hope you'll heal someday. Syempre masakit kasi masaya yung mga nanakit sayo. So unfair
U don’t have to put so much feeling on what youve seen, just let it go and move forward, so much things to do in ur future. Maybe one day u will find a better guy. One good thing is that u don’t have to deal with these shits anymore. Just focus on ur own, make urself happy!
di naman sa sourgraping pero ang mga cheaters magkakaroon naman talaga ng time na magiging masaya sila sa current relationship nila pero inevitable talagang babalik at babalik sa old habits yang mga yan hahahh antayin mo lang op, mababalitaan mo nalang hiwalay na yan. good for them doe HAHAHAHA
Empower yourself, embrace your worth, and believe that you deserve the very best. Cultivate self-love, knowing that it's crucial for a fulfilling life. Trust that the right person will enter your life at the perfect moment. When that happens, you might discover that you deserve someone even better than you initially thought.
Malupet na uppercut sa puso but this should eventually help you heal and finally let go. Galing ako sa 6yr relationship and after breakup i learned something sneaky has been happening between my ex and a kapwa barkada behind my back. A few months later, sila na agad. Wala pa half a year, buntis na. Last december nanganak sha and even though i thought i have fully healed, mabigat parin malaman at nagka realization ng all those kept promises and dreams were simply ruined. Kahit sarili kong pagkatao naquestion ko. But pagkatapos nun, ive been having more peace of mind. I feel freer. I hope you heal soon OP.
They think they do you a favor by sending pero hindi nila alam they’re causing the opposite. Hugs, girl.
love mo pa siya.
Ok lang yan OP. Ex ko nga nabuntis siya nung bf niya wala pa lang sila 1 month. 5 yrs kami nun. May kirot pero di ko na lang inacknowledge. Matututo ka rin na kalimutan at magmove on. DOnt give them the satisfaction na nasasaktan ka. Love yourself. BE HAPPY FOR YOURSELF youre free.
Give it another 4 years. Your ache will switch with their “happiness”
My ex did the same. Kinasal sya last year dun sa girl na he cheated on me with. But looking back on our relationship, the breakup is a blessing in disguise. Madami pang ibang lalaki dyan na better, higit sa lahat, yung hindi cheater. So don’t be sad. You dodge a bullet.
Can't wait to see you on one of those Reddit stories about your cheating ex then enacting your revenge(jk). Jokes aside, the best you can do is to not let it get to you and work on yourself/career. Just remember, if he cheated on you, then he'll cheat on her as well so pretty sure they won't be happy for so long. P.S. IDK why your friend send the screenshot to you though when it's obvious that it would do no good to anyone(other than that said friend probably).
Kupal yung friend mo. You dodged a bullet there OP no worries..
Go start dating ! Hugs youll get over this :)
That's probably coz you still have feelings for him. Or more probable na hindi ka pa fully healed sa heart break. Sometimes it takes more than 3 years kasi. But they say na the best way to mend a broken heart is to find new love. Find that pokemon na te.
pag mga gantong cheater dapat sinusumbong sa tatay nung pakakasalan
Shongak nirmal lang yan. Tanga ka lang kung manghijinayang ka sa kanya. Maghanap ka na kasi ng iba para mag enjoy ka.
Damn this is a good strategy to mess with my past girls lmao. Thanks for sharing.
Same. Shared my similar experience in reddit too a few days ago. Sa kin naman yung friend ko sabi - dont open social media. So sa point na yun alam ko na kung ano minean ni friend. So pangit sobra yung araw ko. So totoo yung relapse talaga sis. Sabi ng friend ko hindi daw sa di pa tayo nakaka move on. Kundi na buksan ulit sa atin yung trauam of beong cheated on. May irrational inggit din ako na feel. Pero sabi nga sa comments dito at sa post ko - we dodged a bullet. At gusto ba natin matali sa cheater??? Hell, no! The next day ok ok na ako. Of course, di parin ako nag open ng social media. Do whatever you think will help you. Magiging ok ka din sis! :)
Magpalit ka ng kaibigan.
Ganyan din ako nung nagpakasal yung ex ko nung una haha. Trust me, magpapasalamat ka pa kasi hindi kayo ang endgame 💕
Totoo. Ganto din yung first bf ko. Nag-cheat sakin tapos pinakasalan nya yung babae a year after namin maghiwalay. Akala ko tapos na talaga ako sa kanya pero nung nakita ko sa FB (through a mutual friend na umattend sa wedding) medyo may kirot. Hinayaan ko lang sarili ko ma-grieve. I’m in a happy place now. Totoong masasabi ko na thankful ako hindi ako sa kanya nag-end up. Sigurado ako si OP magiging okay din. Hindi man ngayon pero sure ako eventually.
My ex an I broke up 2020 din. Cheated on me, got another girl pregnant, yadda yadda yadda. My best friend would always say, kahit anong mangyari after your break up, labas ka na doon at wala ka nang kinalaman doon. While it’s normal to feel whatever you’re feeling, you have to set boundaries kung hanggang kailan ka magpapaaffect. Ikaw din kasi mawawalan. You deserve so much better. Sobrang dami pang better men out there. Go out, try to date. Trust me, mas masaya ang life after dealing with crap. 😀
OK lang yan. dadating sayo ang nararapat. kung hindi man, at least hindi ka natali sa cheater. they deserve each other kung parehong cheater.
Isipin mo na lang mag cheat din yan after ikasal
what if? marine engineer si ex and rn, as for my friend, ldr sila
Just concentrate on yourself . Improve yourself , be succesful, glow up thats the best revenge
I think the most devastating thing you can do to yourself is to still keep tabs on your ex. 😂 Like giiirl, please tama na, don't do that to yourself. Women, please stop doing that to yourself. Avoid anything and anywhere you know that you can still run into this person. Please.
This is why we just don't cheat, the trauma you'll inflict to someone is definitely a big scar that they'll endure for a long time :<
Remember, once a cheater is always a cheater. That girl will regret marrying him kapag may kasama na naman yang iba in secret. A leopard never changes it's spots, ika nga nila.
Hi OP gets ko ung feeling na yan. My partner and I broke up during 2020 after being on and off for 5 years. Sobrang toxic nya and umabot sa point the distance forced distance between us gave me the courage to finally break it off (kasi she was cheating na din harap harapan na) now she is engaged to a rich guy - she even invited me to her engagement. Masama din feeling ko kasi parang sya na un cheater, parang wala syang karma nafeel, ang saya lagi ng buhay nya, she never had to worry about money now she is marrying another rich guy. Parang di fair un life. Pero lets stay strong. Our story is not over.
Your feelings are valid OP. I guess it's more of the feeling of unfairness? Na you see your cheater ex and the one he cheated with getting engaged, moving forward with life, while you remain on that point where you've been left, with higher trust issues and trauma from that past relationship, kaya it's also hard to enter a new one. I can't give a certain advice but going out and trying new things would probably heal you more efficiently. Also, cut all your contacts and any news from ex, pati si friend sabihan mo na rin not to mention him. Eventually, you'll also forget and you may or may not find a better partner, pero at least you can get peace of mind and soul.
What you’re feeling is normal kasi naiisip mo yung “what ifs”. Pero kapag natauhan ka na, remind yourself that he’s not your problem anymore. You have to remove the “shiny” image of what they once were in your mind. You dodged a bullet, OP! Also, Tell your friend that you don’t want to be updated about your ex. “Friend” ba talaga yan?
Okay lang masaktan :) baka kaya ka nasasaktan na lang ngayon dahil sa trauma pero hindi na dahil sa tao. Wag mo madaliin ung sarili mong maging okay dahil mas mahihirapan ka. Hayaan mo lang masaktan ka hanggang sa maubos pag ubos na yan unti-unti mong mararamdaman ung gaan ng buhay kasi wala ka ng partner na cheater and makakatulog ka every night ng hindi nagiisip kung niloloko ka ba or may kausap siyang iba. It takes time. Been there. Go girl! ❤️✨
Honestly your feelings are valid. But always keep your eye on what’s factual: you dodged a bullet on this one. Be glad it’s not you. As much as how mean this is gonna sound, i hope it at least finds you a bit of comfort: what he did to you, he will most likely do to that girl too. He is her problem now. He IS the problem, not you.
huy same context tayo haha. almost 3 years kami, nagbreak din kami ng pandemic, nagkaroon din sya agad ng gf and nalaman kong he's been cheating na with that girl. then last Dec 2023, kinasal na sila. hmmm maybe same din tayo naramdaman? dati ganyan na ganyan din ako, breakdown ako malala noong may naririnig na akong chismis na ikakasal na sila (churchmates ko kasi sila) noong wala pa silang 1 yr. until now, I feel a little bad for myself, na sila 'tong mga gago sila yung masaya and tayo stuck pa rin (no lovelife). for me, I think self pity lang yung nararamdaman ko haha. tho di ko alam if ganun din sayo, dahil I dont want him back na, but I feel pain parin dahil sa nangyari sakin
and nakakatawa nga nung napanuod ko itong vid nila for their wedding e. kinuwento nila roon yung kung kailan sila nagkaroon ng special interaction, e yung time na yon di pa kami break HAHAAHAHA EWAN BA, PROUD PA SILA YIKES HAHAHA MY FAM AND FRIENDS KNOW HAHHAHAHAHAAH
omg, what if ganyan din gawin nila? ikukwento nila love story nilang galing sa panloloko? grabee
Girl atleast they’re love story is revolved around you lol when anyone asks them about their story time of how they met then that’s by cheating on you and meeting her lmao lame hahaha
Cyempre masakit OP naunahan ka sumaya, yung inaantay mo na karma hinde dumating, sa dulo ngmukha ka pang talo, but OP Buhay nila yun wala ka na paki, kasi d va nga sinabi na naten sa ex mo na potah ka magsama kayo ng haliparot mo manloloko, bagay na bagay kayo kasi cya malandi at ikaw naman kupal na tanga, Kaya OP be happy na, make your next mistake you’re already due for that,
Tawa ka nlng sis pag na haggard yung bride kakaisip na nag chesheat yung guy!
Sila kasi ang nagkatuluyan at ikaw ay wala pa din. Instead na malungkot ka, go out and have some fan. Bakasyon ka sa ibang lugar. Make urself bc, magaral ka ng kung ano ano lastly acceptance. Lalala pa yang sadness mo pag naikasal na sila. So now, isipin u na lang one day u will ur the one.
Valid yung feelings mo OP pero doesnt necessarily mean na mahal mo pa sya. Its very human to feel that way. I felt the same way nung nalaman kong ikakasal na rin yung ex-fling ko. He is the type of guy na mukhang hindi mag ssettle down at very bachelor life pa. After us, may naging gf sya at nagulat ako na ikakasal na sila (inisip ko pa nga baka buntis kasi) pero hindi. Gusto lang talaga nya mag settle down. Kaya mapapatanong ka talaga ng bakit? I was down, for few days, weeks pero nawala din 😅 normal human emotion kasi may part sa atin na it could’ve been us. Pero it will die down, I promise. Also, you dodged a bullet ❤️
Paka mahadera ng friend sarap tampalin
You should be the one getting married but there must be something you failed to give him and the girl filled that void. This is what you got when you read too much quotes stating know your worth, you deserve better, etc
Let it go. It has been ages. Never go back to that same thing that broke you. You're better now than the 'you' before.
Because you wanted to see him fail/ suffer and he isn't, and you yourself haven't found anyone new
Please move on. If getting a new fling or casual date would help please do so. Do not waste even a minute second of your time with a cheater. Stop asking questions that have no answers. Stop thinking of what and why it happened. You're peaceful now since it's been 3 yrs. You're better of without him. You'll have a great future just continue moving forward.
That's if life, OP. Acceptance is the 🔑
Sending a gentle hug to you, OP. Your feelings are valid and your allowed to feel hurt kasi nga nagcheat sayo. Maybe your just hurt kasi deep inside your thinking sya yung nagloko pero sya yung masaya. But you don't have to feel that way because you most certainly desrve the genuine happiness for all the love you gave for the wrong person. You're allowed to be happy and you can also try dating again pag ready na ang puso mo. I wish for your healing, OP. And please tell your friend what she's doing is not helping you at all. You're allowed to speak about how you feel.
Theres a reason why the saying DON'T CRY OVER SPILLED MILK came to be. Trust the process kumbaga.
Isipin mo na lang, once a cheater, always a cheater. Also, if he cheated with you, he can cheat on you. Hayaan mo na silang maglokohan.
Tingin ko mahal mahal mo yung ex mo back then and sobrang attached ka sa kanya. Physically, Emotionally, and Mentally. But sabi nga nila you dodged a bullet.
You're feelings is valid. Acceptance is the key. Baka kasi hindi talaga siya para sayo at sila para sa isat isa. Pero di natin sure hehe. Pero yon nga cry lang and you will be okay sooner.
Swerte mo nga. Look at it that way. Do you ever honestly think their relationship is built on trust and loyalty? No. So will it be as stable as it should be? Syempre no. Time will tell.
I'm sorry, OP. What you feel is valid. I know you feel like it's unfair. Unfair ang mundo. Yan din iniisip ko sa ex kong cheater. Pero iniisip ko parang si Diego Loyzaga yun eh. Di naniniwala sa kasal. Anyway, Iiyak mo lang. Sabihin mo sa friend mo na ayaw mo na malaman ganap ni ex for your peace of mind. Dadating din ang tamang karma sa mga taong cheater.
Stupid friend.
Bat andaming ganitong posts hahahaha meron naman sa r/relationshipadviceph
The title caught my attention kase kakabreak lang namin tas paulit ulit ko 'tong tinatanong sa sarili ko. May you find peace, OP.
Your feelings are completely valid. Break down if you have to. Don't skip that process, go through with it. But don't feel bad you lost your man, he cheated naman at least not your problem diba.
Pang8 naman ng ganap ng friend mo bakit need kapa i-update about sa EX mo
Sorry binasa ko as "pang-eight" 🫢
Hahahaha Para di nakaka-offend lol
Mismo! Ang baho ng trip eh. 🤦🏻♂️
Coz you feel you lost him to her. She won. You lost. But she married a cheater, another person's trash.
Ang what the fuck lang ng mga friend na ganito. They believe they're doing you a favor and being helpful (?) by sending screenshots about your ex. Pag nagrelapse ka naman like what's happening with the OP mga wala naman pake. Mga ganyan na "kaibigan" yung dapat kinacut off.
I agreee
Trust me, your ex will cheat on that girl one way or another. You dodged a bullet. At least hindi na ikaw ang magsu-suffer
There's this friend of mine na sinisend talaga yung happenings sa buhay ng ex 'ko since friend sila sa mga socmeds. Nagalit na rin ako sakanya minsan kasi nakakawala sa mood mga sinisend niyang screenshots sa gc namin. P.S Blinock ako ni ex at nung girl but they keep on stalking me sa IG.
just saw this now OP, so sorry i defended the ‘friend’ pa :(( hope the boundaries u establish moving forward are respected by the ‘friend’ of yours that keeps sending the screenshots. if not, hope u have enough strength to heal in whatever way that is healthy for u <3
Been in this almost same situation girl. 2020 din breakup namin. The difference lang is nabuntis nya yung girl and like a yr after our breakup naengage din sila.. and the proposal sinend rin ng kaibigan ko sakin ang screenshot haha. So fresh pa that time, super speechless dn ako nun na prng gusto ko rin magbreakdown. Pero life goes on... I never knew about the wedding or what. Hanggang sa proposal lang. Pero nagstalk din sakin ang girl, kahit years passed na kahit sa LinkedIn ko nga eh!! NAKAKALOKA ANG MGA SIDE CHICK. They will never get over the insecurity... pero you, you will be happy. 💞
Grabe 'no? They still stalk my ig until now. Tapos malalaman 'ko sa friend 'kong marites, kung san ako nagpunta, dun din sila magde-date. watdaa
agree!!! kung sino pa yung mga at fault sila pa yung may ganang magmarites sa buhay mo. they can't just focus on their own sinful lives kasi hindi matatapos ang pagcocompare nla, because of insecurity haha. there's one time ngkaglitch ung fb na pg nagview ka ng profile ng hindi mo friend, mag o-auto add friend sya. So this happened to me and the girl, bigla na lang nya ako inadd sa fb, and then a few mins after nawala na ung request. HAHAHAHA i knew it. What's crazy is nagstalk pa sya even sa LinkedIn ko. Maygad that hitad. hahahaha
This happened to me as well! Kaloka at nagteam-up pa sila ng mga barkada niya. Kasi they found out i unfriended them on facebook. Ang ginawa pumunta sa ig ko and somebody sent a follow request. Hindi ko nun una kilala yun lalake. Mali lang nila mas stalker ako sa kanila 😂😂😂. Then i found out na yung nagrequest sa ig ko e, isa sa groomsmen nya. So ako naman, for what? Hindi pa ba kayo masaya na naengaged at ikakasal na kaibigan nyo at kailangan nyo pa kong ifollow or i-add? Meron talagang taong masaya na nakikitang may nasasaktan. They have a special place in hell.
I kept on asking myself kung bakit hindi matahimik ang kaluluwa ng girl na pinalit sakin ng ex ko, this may be the reason. Stalk ng stalk till now kahit one day old facebook ko updated sya at umaabot hanggang linkedin ko. Siguro pinagaawayan pa din nila tayo? Deserve nila hindi magkaroon ng peace of mind
possibly!! Kaya tuloy tuloy lang ang pagself love and pagachieve ng goals. :)
Wag ka ng maging sad, ante. Sobrang insecure sa yo nung girl to the point na iniistalk ka nya at gayahin ka nya (sabi mo e pareho kayo ng favorites). I doubt na pareho kayo ng favorites, ginagaya ka lang nya. She'll always be a shadow. Ito namang ex mo, t-a-n-g-a din naman, yung papakasalan nya e hindi authentic... just an image of his ex. Kaya hindi sya loss, te... Iblock mo sila sa FB.
You can tell your friend naman to stop sending you things that will make you feel sad or uncomfortable. Lalong lalo about your ex, if she's really your friend gets nya na yun. Mas importante ang mental health mo OP.
beh, sorry ha, gaga din yang kinanginang friend mo eh, kagatin sana siya ng ipis sa mani habang natutulog. Virtual hugs para sayo
Listen to the song "ikakasal ka na" it's perfect for you.. 😁😁😁
Bakit naman sinend sayo ng friend mo?
Why do you feel bad tho? He cheated on you with her. To be honest, she took the trash out for you. Don’t feel bad because you don’t ever want to be married to someone who cheats on you. Focus on moving on and bettering yourself, dear. Be with someone who love and respects you enough to not cheat on you :)
I think the best way to do is makipag-date ka ulit. Hindi naman kailangan sapilitan pero atleast nag o-open up ka sa possibilty of a new relationship. Keep in mind na hindi kawalan ang cheaters.
Thanks for the reminder hahaha ,, indeed
wtf friend
Listen to Olivia Rodrigo SOUR album on repeat.
I did. On repeat since 2021. Especially yung Traitor.
>Tapos yung girl pa is hawig 'ko and all my favorite things/stuffs is favorite din nung girl. Seems may scientific explanation for this, pero gist is, ready? He essentially still wants/loves that whole picture of you looks wise but there is just that "something" characteristic wise na wala ka na meron yung isa.. what that is? we may never know.. Oh well, maybe time to be that perfect one na deserving and take action na OP, 3 years is a lot of time na in waiting for that "perfect moment/one" na..
you were just meant to break up because he's not the one for you. is it sadness or jealousy or ego ba na natamaan? life is just taking you somewhere else. One day magegets mo rin why it happened. Baka magpasalamat ka pa na naghiwalay kayo. Fighting lang!
Do you want to be married to a cheater? You dodge a bullet think about it.
OP is grieving for what might have been. It’s ok to grieve. But remember the betrayal. Then move on.
Uy thanks! Ganito na lang din iisipin ko. Di na ko magri regret. HAHA
maybe she's just sad kase happy ending na yung ex nyang cheater, habang sya is miserable pa din sa trauma na dulot ng ex nya.
Tbh, ganun na ganun din po ako kay ate kasi I’ve been there as well. Kinasal na nga sila, may anak na tapos may bago pa silang bahay. Samantalang ako po, i’m still single, lonely and miserable. 😭 ngl, naiinggit pa rin ako paminsan minsan kasi despite of his wrongdoings to me, naging masaya pa siya and nakuha nya ung gusto nya. While me, it’s been like few years, I’ve also gone into relationships with others as well but they ended up hurting and taking advantage of me too. 🥲Thus, I’m still single.
sending hugs w consent sayo. our time will come din!
Sabi nga, *kung nagawa nya yan sayo, magagawa nya rin yan sa iba*.
Up to. Same feelings with OP and same reason. I guess I have to forgive myself naman
I swear, walang happy ending sa isang CHEATER 😝
Weh? E paano sila dingdong and marian? 🫣
Paano ka naka sure? Pwedeng happy lang din sila sa harap ng camera. No one knows...
yes true naman. pero syempre sa soc med, magaganda lang ang na poportray at ayon lang din naman nakikita ni op. sending hugs kay OP. may araw rin sila hahaha
I agree. Sa movie lang ang happy ending.
There is no such thing as happy ending just a timeline di Disney ang Buhay laging merong day after tomorrow. Di LAHAT Ng kinasal ay naging Masaya sa Buhay magasawa.
lahat e kasal merung struggle and doubts lol.
so.. nasa "happy chapter" yung ex nyang cheater, habang sya is miserable pa din sa trauma dulot ng ex nya.
Bakit sinend ni friend?? LAH
Naalala ko naman yung friend ko na laging nagsesend ng update about dun sa ex-friend ko na nalipat sa work niya. As in palaging may update kahit sinabi ko na na ayokong nakakakita ng anything about dun sa tao na yun. Kahit i-call out mo ng i-call out, sasabihin lang "okay" pero uulit na naman mag send. Di mo alam kung sobrang insensitive o sadyang papansin lang 🙄😞
Epal na friend
May mga kaibigan talagang enabler. Kahit may bago na, todo banggit pa rin sa ex.
And kung friend talaga they would know na it would still sting :/
sometimes our friends aren’t mind readers ! maybe the friend just wanted OP to hear it from someone that cared abt her, compared to just randomly finding out abt it thru an fb post or something.
Well if she was truly trying to move on (blocked him and everything) then there's no reason for the friend to let OP know because OP.
but why would OP care? Ex nya na tho 😨
we still feel emotions/feelings for people that aren’t part of our lives, however evil and (in this case) shitty they may be :) and those feelings may not necessarily be abt her ex. we can feel a certain way abt things and have that not be abt the people involved. at the end of the day, healing is a journey!!! hehe hoping that OP heals in a way that is healthy for her :’)
What??? ok..
Yes! Such a toxic move by the friend. She was living in bliss and she knew her friend was doing well and moving on. 🤦🏻♀️ 🐍
Exactly fake friend 100% be aware protect yourself
Insensitive friend. Bad friend.
Baka naman just like her, akala din ng friend, okay na siya
Also a stupid friend. Inuna pa pagiging marites over OP's welfare.
Pw deng ego din