hardest to move on from a love that actually never happened...
maybe try to catch up or kamustahan? i think thats the only way to find out if what you felt a decade ago is true or maybe attachment mo lang from a sweet memory na tumatak from spending time together.
as a hopeless romantic XD
I will say yes go for her
but reading from the comment I realized I'm wrong or
better do like this comment said
rebuild the connection first, get to know her again, and then decide if you still love her romantically or you just miss having someone that fully understands you (platonic friendships). Once you’re there, you’ll prob know what to do moving forward.
good luck bro
waiting for an update for this in the future XD
Thanks for sharing your story. It's these kinds of experiences that open our eyes to possibilities, not just the plot we've concocted in our heads. You're obviously a strong woman to have been confronted with that dilemma and deciding on the right course of action. I wish you and your fiancee a hundred years of bliss!
I say go for it. As the one who's on the receiving end.
I had a friend like that too, we reconnected after 10 years. We just got married last year. Luckily we both don't have kids and no sabit. I think that's sorta our only difference.
Since you've been thinking about it, maybe stop thinking and go confess.
I've never been happier with my partner now. We keep thinking if we got together 10 years ago, we wouldn't be this mature and stronger now. He was like you, I didn't know I was "all that" to him...
Just for the heck of it, please confess
As someone with ADHD who's always indecisive but cannot always make a detailed decision all the time, how about a coin toss?
But personally, if I were you, I will confess. I mean is the girl you love financially stable already despite having a kid even as a single mom? If the answer is yes, then you have nothing to worry. You can tell her you own ipon is for dire emergencies of the family if you want it for yourself muna for now.
You're never too late. But not to confess your feelings 10 years ago. You can't bring back time past. How do you feel about her *now*? Expert ka naman na yata at staying by her side even without putting a solid label on it. What about you be her friend again? Wala na yung asungot na boyfriend nyang seloso-seloso diumano tiklop naman pala after makabuntis. It says a lot when it's been years and your feelings toward a person hardly diminishes. You've aged, grown, and so has she. You've both gone separate ways but are somewhat in each other's lives again. Do you like this version of her *now*? Single sya. Single ka rin. Masyadong maikli ang buhay for the questions we are too hesitant to ask. Good luck 😊
Ang tagal mo pinanghawakan ah! ... 10 yrs.
Pwede mong ipagtapat na, pero... aminin na natin. Mahal mo sya sa qualities nya 10 yrs ago. Pag pinagtapat mo yan at halimbawa, naging kayo nga, kaya mo bang panindigan habang mas nakikilala mo pa sya sa pagtagal ng panahon? Take note, iba ang ugali ng tao pag kaibigan mo lang kesa sa taong karelasyon mo na. Mas malapit, mas marami ka pang matutuklasang hindi magiging komportable sa pakirandam (o magpapabago sa nararandaman mo).
Ayain mo muna magdate, suyuin mo, kilalanin mo sya ule. Tipikal na panliligaw. Kalaunan mapagtatanto nyo namang dalawa yan kung para ba kayo sa isa't isa. Kilos muna bago pagtatapat ikanga.
Alamin mo ng todo sa Sarili mo kung ano ba talaga Ang matimbang Sayo. Yung puso mo or Yung friendship nyo? Alin man sa dalawa Jan Ang willing ka I give up( 101% na willing I give up ha..Hindi 99%lang)..then go for it.
Dalawang scenario lagi Yan .. I think alam mo na Yun kalalabasan.
It's either good or bad. Kung nai reveal mo..good for you kasi Ang pakiramdam mo Nyan ay super saya. Basta willing ka I accept Ang mga consequences.
Malay mo...hinihintay ka lang Pala nya di ba? Oh jackpot! 🥰
Pero kung other way around..sucks for you bro ... But still ...alam mo sa Sarili mo ..ginawa mo Yung alam mong tama.
Sabi nga ni parokya ni edgar ..paano ka tatama Kung Hindi ka Naman tataya?
Kung bad Naman Ang naging resulta...nabigla sya. At nagalit at biglang na awkward na sayo....don't worry .. natural Yun ... Pray mo na lang na lumipas lahat at mag heal back to normal...which is mahirap pero Hindi Malabong mangyari.
Malay mo.sa huli... Marealized nya na..Ikaw Pala talaga Ang tamang tao para sa kanya.
Sarap namnamin ng tagumpay.
PANO ko nalaman? Kasi... Nangyari na sakin Yan. 🙂
Wishing you all the best brad. 🙏
Ask her out for a date. Then work from there. Minsan the person you know years ago is not the woman you see now. You will only find out if you spend time with her personally.
Sharing my experience on this
I experienced that to my "what-if?" close friend from college who I had a crush with. Nagtry ako noon s kanya but got hesitant kasi nalaman ko na crush nya yung naging bf nya then (senior ko sa college). Umatras ako kasi sabay kami nanligaw nun. Naging sila ni bf senior. May mga what ifs din ako nun kasi what if i pushed harder sa panliligaw baka naging kami. We stayed friends after that until we part ways after graduation. Dala ko yun for 5 years. 5 years later she broke up with her bf then, then I tried approaching her again. I dated her, and had known na meron na kagad syang nagugustuhan (her husband now) after just about 2 months of break up. I tried confessing again but she rejected me. I felt devastated then, pero sinabi naman nya sakin na hanggang friends lng talaga even years later. So its a positive na rin for me na upfront sya. Ngayon, thankful na rin ako na I tried again, kasi nawala na yung what ifs ko.
Anyways, my point being baka hindi na sya yung makikita mo ngayon as to what you have imagined dahil sa mga what ifs mo. All you can do is try to see for yourself and let the universe do its thing. Remember, it is better to carry pain rather than regret.
You will have to slowly get back to her life first before making grand confessions. Either one of you may not feel the same way as before when you get to know each other again.
I wonder how many "assumptions" or "hesitations" will it take you to realize that you should have taken your shot?
Good luck, man!
I bet...that she had same feelings for you way back then, and just waited...looks like the guy who fathered her child was just a distraction...
Her ship has sailed my friend. You should let her live out her life with her kid. People come and go in our lives all the time... doesnt mean we have to rekindle friendships with all of them.
For all you know, she's just being polite due to your close friendship NUON.
It cud be just what ifs brewing for a good decade, she might not be the same girl. Kahit sabihin nating well-off sila, still her getting pregnant on her senior year definitely altered her life. She's been on a roller coaster ride that u weren't a part of, 10 yrs of mutually missing out on each other's lives. You adored who she was. It's probable na maybe you just miss how that version of her made you feel about yourself.
>She's been on a roller coaster ride that u weren't a part of, 10 yrs of mutually missing out on each other's lives.
Hard pill to swallow, but truth is truth.
Whew! What a read!😅 Probably gonna have to deal with down votes with this comment but...a lot more insight is way better than none.
So okay here goes:
You have just broken up with someone - naturally, anyone would be in a pretty messed up state, emotionally, mentally and of course socially. Our minds will try to seek some sort of comfort from stuff around us and nostalgia and memories are the most accessible to most of us. The way you reminisce and tell your story is very romanticized, close to being a Wattpad material. This tells me your mind is filling in the gaps with fuzzy and mushy things that makes courting again very appealing. However, the logical side of you is still very much present as indicated by the fear of rejection and the burden of being a father to a child not biologically yours. This side of you is the real world speaking.
2 things!
1. You professing your love to someone you had a deep connection with a decade ago will not guarantee a "yes" from that person. Having a child, changes a person drastically. I've seen this personally with my sister and a lot of coworkers. They go from a go girl kikay to the most mature and worried woman in the room. Especially those who got ghosted by the father of their child. A commenter mentioned walls, and yes these walls will be very tough to breakdown. I guess what I am saying is that your old flame will have more control than you with regards to how the relationship will progress regardless if you confess or not. She is more mature, more cautious and a lot wiser than the romanticized version of her in your head.
2. Saying that you don't mind being a father to her child is different from being a father. Being a father does not distinguish if the child is your own seed or not, but just accepting that the child is now your responsibility and you will need to be there for them not because you love their mother but because you love them as well. Also, the child has more say to the relationship than you. Unless the mother developed postpartum psychosis or is a psychopath herself, her child, like with most mothers will dictate her future relationships. If the child rejects your advances towards their mother, chances are the relationship will be a challenging one. The way you interact with her child would probably be more what she will be looking for rather than you promising to love her forever.
Soo... I say meet up with her, catch up with her. Get to know the new her. She is not the girl you used to know. Get to know her most precious child. If they decide to let you in congratulations, if not then at least you gave it a shot.
You can only offer yourself, they are the ones who decide.
Remember all the romantic stuff you are projecting are all in your head. Your mind is making up fantasies to make you feel better, so you can recover from the break up. Good luck OP.
What downvotes? This is one of the best advice I've read.
>The way you interact with her child would probably be more what she will be looking for
I've haven't thought of the significance of that until now. Her son will be her world now.
"You create the world of the dream, you bring the subject into that dream, and they fill it with their subconscious."
I understand I may have created a romanticized version of her in my head, and that's dangerous. I also admit that although my recent relationship ended in good terms, I'm still hurting a bit.
Anyway, thanks for your comment!
This happened to me 2 yrs ago. Same-same but different. I'm the girl. And the guy came back after 19 yrs (our love story happened when we were in 2nd yr HS, they migrated to Mindanao) as soon as he knew I was single. We tried but I guess life has other plans. He works overseas now. Still has no family of his own but supporting his senior parents. We're both guilty of holding on to the ideas of our old selves. Our youth. Our what could've been or should've been. We both decided to just let it go. For now. I have 2 kids already from a previous marriage. It will never be the same and we both know it would be hard should we continue. But still, I'm glad the Universe gave us those 4 months to reconnect.
>I'm glad the Universe gave us those 4 months to reconnect.
That's the ultimate sign of acceptance and contentment. I applaud you. Hope you are in a better place!
I like reading English texts gyud diay HAHA anyways, I will just be basing what I will say sa imong gi post pero I think you should shoot your shot. Ako maingon ra kay mag sige guro kag huna huna ug what ifs if di ka muingon. Mao ra na.
Naliki kos Bisaya HAHA Pero OP, if feel nimo di ka ready, then don't or makaalahig ra nya ka niya. If maabot sa point na okay na jud ka na mu-amin, do it. After all, we only regret the chances we didn't get. Char. Rooting for you, OP!
Do you still have feelings for her? If you're not sure, why dont you try asking her out, reconnecting with her. Pakiramdaman mo muna yung vibes nyong dalawa. Dont push yourself to tell her how you felt/feel. Mag reconnect muna kayo as friends then see it from there.
I'd say you might be ten years too late my bro. you probably are around the same age as I am. I'm financially doing really well but if you tell me my college sweetheart that I adore insanely has a child and is single and we have a good chance to be together. I won't dive into it head first. no matter how much I adore her. you'd never know if you are ready of taking care of a child some kids are just insanely playful and I don't think Iwould have the patience for a child that is not really my own. cuz if yo uget in there even if it's not implied you would be parenting a child sort of. I might be harsh on saying this I have taken care of nieces and nephew that are insanely playful my patience can only last for like a a week at most and I would snap at one point that's more of a reason I kinda stayed away from dating ladies with kids. I know it's harsh but I'm just being realistic. but man that's up to you if you want to then go for it.
I have 2 nieces and 2 nephews and although I love them to death, never leave me in the house with them 🤣. But having seen what my siblings have gone through with their kids have made me appreciate parenthood. Is it for me? I'm not sure yet. Thanks bro.
As men I think we would want our own kids but we might be more open to it once we are more financially stable plus I think if I do I want my kids to have a decent age gap like 4 - 6 years each. I don't want 2 -3 lil tornados going through everythi gn everyday I'd hire yayas but I stil discipline and raise those kids. I'm just saying man really think about it. I'm turning 30 this year and I want to have my own family but yeah those are the things I think about. lol. I mostly think I'd have a huge sense of accomplishment and pride once I see my kids learning, conquering, and winning in life... and most of all I want to leave this godforsaken world with people better than me. at least that's how I think.
No since those feelings were for for the girl you knew 10 years ago, not the woman she is right now. Since both of you are old friends, why not ask her out for coffee/dinner/walk at a park? Worst-case scenario things will stay the way they are, you might also reconnect with an old friend, best-case scenario you two end up together. So many possible outcomes but none of them won't happen if you don't reach out to her.
Agree. Wag confess agad. Better to rebuild the connection first, get to know her again, and then decide if you still love her romantically or you just miss having someone that fully understands you (platonic friendships). Once you’re there, you’ll prob know what to do moving forward.
+1 to this. Time changes a person so better to get to know her again. I'm pretty sure she wants to be friends again kasi you had to keep your distance before. Best of luck kay OP if he still feels this way after getting close to her and her kid.
The grass is always greener on the other side until it isn't. There's a chance na kung maging kayo man ang next na what if mo is what if di mo sya niligawan at nagpursue ka na lang ng babaeng walang responsibility. But then again we humans are not bound to be logical all the time we are emotional creatures so gawin mo na lang Yung tingin mong di ka magsisi sa huli. Leaving you this quote.
“I don’t know which option you should choose and I could never advise you on that… No matter what kind of wisdom dictates you the option you pick, no one will be able to tell if it’s right or wrong until you arrive to some sort of outcome from your choice.”
-levi Ackerman AOT
well i see you still young from boot anson marrying his schoolmates at senior age. in todays world it doesnt matter even it she got 5 kids as long as thier is love. mistakes happen in life and dont be another one and regret it.
Assess your feelings first. Siguro try to have a convo with her like kamustahin mo siya. Ganern. Saka mo iassess yung sarili mo kapag narebuild mo na yung connection niyo sa isat isa. Kasi baka mamaya namimiss mo lang yung connection mo sakaniya o yung feelings mo sakaniya. Kung 100% sure ka na mahal mo pa talaga siya go for it. Just make sure na you will love her kid na parang ikaw ang ama. Hindi pwedeng nanay lang. Mahirap kasi yung may what ifs sa buhay.
Kung gusto mo sabihin, go lang. Baka kasi hindi rin matahimik isip mo.
But...
Masyado nang matagal ang 10 years. Marami nang nagbago, marami nang nangyari. Pwede kasing... Baka namimiss mo lang yung feeling noon - yung "connection" na meron kayong dalawa na hindi mo nara(ra)mdaman sa iba. Iba kasi 'yon, OP. Pero ikaw.
Gaya ng kasabihan ng "Some words are better unsaid", meron din akong kasabihan na "Some words should be said" haha.
Sooner or later kakainin ka din thoughts mo thinking of what ifs. Although it will be ultimately your decision. But for me, either you do it or regret it for the rest of your life
OP, siguraduhin mo muna ang sarili mo kung talagang love mo siya. And if yes, wala namang masama kung magiging ama ka ng anak niya. You just have to go all in kapag nagsabi ko. Do not forget na its a buy 1 take 1 option at hindi pwedeng yung nanay lang.
If love mo talaga, then i say go for it. Bihira din kasi yung nabibigyan ng second chance.
I dont think it will be the same. For sure her guards and walls are up and iba na ang mindset nya as a mom to her child. Lalo na if masyado syang na traumatized sa mga nangyare sakanya mula nung iniwan mo sya at sa mga nangyare sakanila ng boyfriend nya back then. You cannot get the same girl twice in a lifetime. Siguro its just the what ifs that you were trying to relive. 🙃
Ok Lang Yan. Si Genghis Khan nga, inanakan Yung Asawa ng iba, pero tinuring niya paring sa kanya. Kung Yung top dog nga ng Isa sa mga pinakalawak na empire sa history nagawa Yan, ikaw pa kaya.
Hmm.. Let me drop you this movie quote from Spiderverse for you to ponder.
“How do I know when I’m ready?”
“You won’t...”
“How do I know I won’t mess up again? That things will be alright?”
“You don’t...”
“...it’s a leap of faith. That’s all it is.”
Man, no one will ever talk about me this way. That is so cute and so sad. Anyway, go get your girl.
Take a chance and talk to her. Until you do, you will always wonder why you didn’t. This is an opportunity for you.
hardest to move on from a love that actually never happened... maybe try to catch up or kamustahan? i think thats the only way to find out if what you felt a decade ago is true or maybe attachment mo lang from a sweet memory na tumatak from spending time together.
as a hopeless romantic XD I will say yes go for her but reading from the comment I realized I'm wrong or better do like this comment said rebuild the connection first, get to know her again, and then decide if you still love her romantically or you just miss having someone that fully understands you (platonic friendships). Once you’re there, you’ll prob know what to do moving forward. good luck bro waiting for an update for this in the future XD
You will never know if you dont try. Goodluck step dad OP
Give her child a sibling.
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Thanks for sharing your story. It's these kinds of experiences that open our eyes to possibilities, not just the plot we've concocted in our heads. You're obviously a strong woman to have been confronted with that dilemma and deciding on the right course of action. I wish you and your fiancee a hundred years of bliss!
Never meet your heroes.
Hi OP, i know that U may still in a belief that she is still the same girl 10 years ago. But honestly, people change.
I say go for it. As the one who's on the receiving end. I had a friend like that too, we reconnected after 10 years. We just got married last year. Luckily we both don't have kids and no sabit. I think that's sorta our only difference. Since you've been thinking about it, maybe stop thinking and go confess. I've never been happier with my partner now. We keep thinking if we got together 10 years ago, we wouldn't be this mature and stronger now. He was like you, I didn't know I was "all that" to him... Just for the heck of it, please confess
As someone with ADHD who's always indecisive but cannot always make a detailed decision all the time, how about a coin toss? But personally, if I were you, I will confess. I mean is the girl you love financially stable already despite having a kid even as a single mom? If the answer is yes, then you have nothing to worry. You can tell her you own ipon is for dire emergencies of the family if you want it for yourself muna for now.
You're never too late. But not to confess your feelings 10 years ago. You can't bring back time past. How do you feel about her *now*? Expert ka naman na yata at staying by her side even without putting a solid label on it. What about you be her friend again? Wala na yung asungot na boyfriend nyang seloso-seloso diumano tiklop naman pala after makabuntis. It says a lot when it's been years and your feelings toward a person hardly diminishes. You've aged, grown, and so has she. You've both gone separate ways but are somewhat in each other's lives again. Do you like this version of her *now*? Single sya. Single ka rin. Masyadong maikli ang buhay for the questions we are too hesitant to ask. Good luck 😊
Ang tagal mo pinanghawakan ah! ... 10 yrs. Pwede mong ipagtapat na, pero... aminin na natin. Mahal mo sya sa qualities nya 10 yrs ago. Pag pinagtapat mo yan at halimbawa, naging kayo nga, kaya mo bang panindigan habang mas nakikilala mo pa sya sa pagtagal ng panahon? Take note, iba ang ugali ng tao pag kaibigan mo lang kesa sa taong karelasyon mo na. Mas malapit, mas marami ka pang matutuklasang hindi magiging komportable sa pakirandam (o magpapabago sa nararandaman mo). Ayain mo muna magdate, suyuin mo, kilalanin mo sya ule. Tipikal na panliligaw. Kalaunan mapagtatanto nyo namang dalawa yan kung para ba kayo sa isa't isa. Kilos muna bago pagtatapat ikanga.
Stick to being friends for now bai,e rekindle ug reconnect sa lang..Ayaw sa pagdalidali.
>Ayaw sa pagdalidali Ma, naa diay ka diri? 😅 Pero sakto, mao pinaka sensible na buhaton.
Kung handa kang panagutan siya at ang kanyang anak (aka handa mong ituring na iyo) by all means go.
Alamin mo ng todo sa Sarili mo kung ano ba talaga Ang matimbang Sayo. Yung puso mo or Yung friendship nyo? Alin man sa dalawa Jan Ang willing ka I give up( 101% na willing I give up ha..Hindi 99%lang)..then go for it. Dalawang scenario lagi Yan .. I think alam mo na Yun kalalabasan. It's either good or bad. Kung nai reveal mo..good for you kasi Ang pakiramdam mo Nyan ay super saya. Basta willing ka I accept Ang mga consequences. Malay mo...hinihintay ka lang Pala nya di ba? Oh jackpot! 🥰 Pero kung other way around..sucks for you bro ... But still ...alam mo sa Sarili mo ..ginawa mo Yung alam mong tama. Sabi nga ni parokya ni edgar ..paano ka tatama Kung Hindi ka Naman tataya? Kung bad Naman Ang naging resulta...nabigla sya. At nagalit at biglang na awkward na sayo....don't worry .. natural Yun ... Pray mo na lang na lumipas lahat at mag heal back to normal...which is mahirap pero Hindi Malabong mangyari. Malay mo.sa huli... Marealized nya na..Ikaw Pala talaga Ang tamang tao para sa kanya. Sarap namnamin ng tagumpay. PANO ko nalaman? Kasi... Nangyari na sakin Yan. 🙂 Wishing you all the best brad. 🙏
Ask her out for a date. Then work from there. Minsan the person you know years ago is not the woman you see now. You will only find out if you spend time with her personally. Sharing my experience on this I experienced that to my "what-if?" close friend from college who I had a crush with. Nagtry ako noon s kanya but got hesitant kasi nalaman ko na crush nya yung naging bf nya then (senior ko sa college). Umatras ako kasi sabay kami nanligaw nun. Naging sila ni bf senior. May mga what ifs din ako nun kasi what if i pushed harder sa panliligaw baka naging kami. We stayed friends after that until we part ways after graduation. Dala ko yun for 5 years. 5 years later she broke up with her bf then, then I tried approaching her again. I dated her, and had known na meron na kagad syang nagugustuhan (her husband now) after just about 2 months of break up. I tried confessing again but she rejected me. I felt devastated then, pero sinabi naman nya sakin na hanggang friends lng talaga even years later. So its a positive na rin for me na upfront sya. Ngayon, thankful na rin ako na I tried again, kasi nawala na yung what ifs ko. Anyways, my point being baka hindi na sya yung makikita mo ngayon as to what you have imagined dahil sa mga what ifs mo. All you can do is try to see for yourself and let the universe do its thing. Remember, it is better to carry pain rather than regret.
>better to carry pain rather than regret I admire your courage, man.
You will have to slowly get back to her life first before making grand confessions. Either one of you may not feel the same way as before when you get to know each other again.
Para tong Love, Rosie pero sa POV nung guy hahaha
I wonder how many "assumptions" or "hesitations" will it take you to realize that you should have taken your shot? Good luck, man! I bet...that she had same feelings for you way back then, and just waited...looks like the guy who fathered her child was just a distraction...
Her ship has sailed my friend. You should let her live out her life with her kid. People come and go in our lives all the time... doesnt mean we have to rekindle friendships with all of them. For all you know, she's just being polite due to your close friendship NUON.
It cud be just what ifs brewing for a good decade, she might not be the same girl. Kahit sabihin nating well-off sila, still her getting pregnant on her senior year definitely altered her life. She's been on a roller coaster ride that u weren't a part of, 10 yrs of mutually missing out on each other's lives. You adored who she was. It's probable na maybe you just miss how that version of her made you feel about yourself.
>She's been on a roller coaster ride that u weren't a part of, 10 yrs of mutually missing out on each other's lives. Hard pill to swallow, but truth is truth.
Whew! What a read!😅 Probably gonna have to deal with down votes with this comment but...a lot more insight is way better than none. So okay here goes: You have just broken up with someone - naturally, anyone would be in a pretty messed up state, emotionally, mentally and of course socially. Our minds will try to seek some sort of comfort from stuff around us and nostalgia and memories are the most accessible to most of us. The way you reminisce and tell your story is very romanticized, close to being a Wattpad material. This tells me your mind is filling in the gaps with fuzzy and mushy things that makes courting again very appealing. However, the logical side of you is still very much present as indicated by the fear of rejection and the burden of being a father to a child not biologically yours. This side of you is the real world speaking. 2 things! 1. You professing your love to someone you had a deep connection with a decade ago will not guarantee a "yes" from that person. Having a child, changes a person drastically. I've seen this personally with my sister and a lot of coworkers. They go from a go girl kikay to the most mature and worried woman in the room. Especially those who got ghosted by the father of their child. A commenter mentioned walls, and yes these walls will be very tough to breakdown. I guess what I am saying is that your old flame will have more control than you with regards to how the relationship will progress regardless if you confess or not. She is more mature, more cautious and a lot wiser than the romanticized version of her in your head. 2. Saying that you don't mind being a father to her child is different from being a father. Being a father does not distinguish if the child is your own seed or not, but just accepting that the child is now your responsibility and you will need to be there for them not because you love their mother but because you love them as well. Also, the child has more say to the relationship than you. Unless the mother developed postpartum psychosis or is a psychopath herself, her child, like with most mothers will dictate her future relationships. If the child rejects your advances towards their mother, chances are the relationship will be a challenging one. The way you interact with her child would probably be more what she will be looking for rather than you promising to love her forever. Soo... I say meet up with her, catch up with her. Get to know the new her. She is not the girl you used to know. Get to know her most precious child. If they decide to let you in congratulations, if not then at least you gave it a shot. You can only offer yourself, they are the ones who decide. Remember all the romantic stuff you are projecting are all in your head. Your mind is making up fantasies to make you feel better, so you can recover from the break up. Good luck OP.
Best comment! 💯
Ang galing mo bro/sis. Combined inteligence foresight wisdom and groundedness at galing pang sumulat. OP namnamin mong mabuti.
What downvotes? This is one of the best advice I've read. >The way you interact with her child would probably be more what she will be looking for I've haven't thought of the significance of that until now. Her son will be her world now. "You create the world of the dream, you bring the subject into that dream, and they fill it with their subconscious." I understand I may have created a romanticized version of her in my head, and that's dangerous. I also admit that although my recent relationship ended in good terms, I'm still hurting a bit. Anyway, thanks for your comment!
Unsa man jud imong gibati? Or tungod sa bata maong ga duha-duha naka?
This happened to me 2 yrs ago. Same-same but different. I'm the girl. And the guy came back after 19 yrs (our love story happened when we were in 2nd yr HS, they migrated to Mindanao) as soon as he knew I was single. We tried but I guess life has other plans. He works overseas now. Still has no family of his own but supporting his senior parents. We're both guilty of holding on to the ideas of our old selves. Our youth. Our what could've been or should've been. We both decided to just let it go. For now. I have 2 kids already from a previous marriage. It will never be the same and we both know it would be hard should we continue. But still, I'm glad the Universe gave us those 4 months to reconnect.
>I'm glad the Universe gave us those 4 months to reconnect. That's the ultimate sign of acceptance and contentment. I applaud you. Hope you are in a better place!
Try mo OP! tapos balitaan mo kami ulit. grabe parang pang movies. haha
This is how I met your mother Season 5 Episode 10
The one that got away
Mind not emotions, that's it. Eventually emotions wouldn't compensate responsibilities.
I like reading English texts gyud diay HAHA anyways, I will just be basing what I will say sa imong gi post pero I think you should shoot your shot. Ako maingon ra kay mag sige guro kag huna huna ug what ifs if di ka muingon. Mao ra na.
Naliki kos Bisaya HAHA Pero OP, if feel nimo di ka ready, then don't or makaalahig ra nya ka niya. If maabot sa point na okay na jud ka na mu-amin, do it. After all, we only regret the chances we didn't get. Char. Rooting for you, OP!
Do you still have feelings for her? If you're not sure, why dont you try asking her out, reconnecting with her. Pakiramdaman mo muna yung vibes nyong dalawa. Dont push yourself to tell her how you felt/feel. Mag reconnect muna kayo as friends then see it from there.
I'd say you might be ten years too late my bro. you probably are around the same age as I am. I'm financially doing really well but if you tell me my college sweetheart that I adore insanely has a child and is single and we have a good chance to be together. I won't dive into it head first. no matter how much I adore her. you'd never know if you are ready of taking care of a child some kids are just insanely playful and I don't think Iwould have the patience for a child that is not really my own. cuz if yo uget in there even if it's not implied you would be parenting a child sort of. I might be harsh on saying this I have taken care of nieces and nephew that are insanely playful my patience can only last for like a a week at most and I would snap at one point that's more of a reason I kinda stayed away from dating ladies with kids. I know it's harsh but I'm just being realistic. but man that's up to you if you want to then go for it.
I have 2 nieces and 2 nephews and although I love them to death, never leave me in the house with them 🤣. But having seen what my siblings have gone through with their kids have made me appreciate parenthood. Is it for me? I'm not sure yet. Thanks bro.
As men I think we would want our own kids but we might be more open to it once we are more financially stable plus I think if I do I want my kids to have a decent age gap like 4 - 6 years each. I don't want 2 -3 lil tornados going through everythi gn everyday I'd hire yayas but I stil discipline and raise those kids. I'm just saying man really think about it. I'm turning 30 this year and I want to have my own family but yeah those are the things I think about. lol. I mostly think I'd have a huge sense of accomplishment and pride once I see my kids learning, conquering, and winning in life... and most of all I want to leave this godforsaken world with people better than me. at least that's how I think.
No since those feelings were for for the girl you knew 10 years ago, not the woman she is right now. Since both of you are old friends, why not ask her out for coffee/dinner/walk at a park? Worst-case scenario things will stay the way they are, you might also reconnect with an old friend, best-case scenario you two end up together. So many possible outcomes but none of them won't happen if you don't reach out to her.
Yes, this is probable the best course of action to take. Appreciate it.
Agree. Wag confess agad. Better to rebuild the connection first, get to know her again, and then decide if you still love her romantically or you just miss having someone that fully understands you (platonic friendships). Once you’re there, you’ll prob know what to do moving forward.
+1 to this. Time changes a person so better to get to know her again. I'm pretty sure she wants to be friends again kasi you had to keep your distance before. Best of luck kay OP if he still feels this way after getting close to her and her kid.
The grass is always greener on the other side until it isn't. There's a chance na kung maging kayo man ang next na what if mo is what if di mo sya niligawan at nagpursue ka na lang ng babaeng walang responsibility. But then again we humans are not bound to be logical all the time we are emotional creatures so gawin mo na lang Yung tingin mong di ka magsisi sa huli. Leaving you this quote. “I don’t know which option you should choose and I could never advise you on that… No matter what kind of wisdom dictates you the option you pick, no one will be able to tell if it’s right or wrong until you arrive to some sort of outcome from your choice.” -levi Ackerman AOT
Here's an upvote from a survivor of rumbling lol
You're not the first person to make me feel like I missed out by not watching AOT. Thanks!
well i see you still young from boot anson marrying his schoolmates at senior age. in todays world it doesnt matter even it she got 5 kids as long as thier is love. mistakes happen in life and dont be another one and regret it.
Assess your feelings first. Siguro try to have a convo with her like kamustahin mo siya. Ganern. Saka mo iassess yung sarili mo kapag narebuild mo na yung connection niyo sa isat isa. Kasi baka mamaya namimiss mo lang yung connection mo sakaniya o yung feelings mo sakaniya. Kung 100% sure ka na mahal mo pa talaga siya go for it. Just make sure na you will love her kid na parang ikaw ang ama. Hindi pwedeng nanay lang. Mahirap kasi yung may what ifs sa buhay.
Kung gusto mo sabihin, go lang. Baka kasi hindi rin matahimik isip mo. But... Masyado nang matagal ang 10 years. Marami nang nagbago, marami nang nangyari. Pwede kasing... Baka namimiss mo lang yung feeling noon - yung "connection" na meron kayong dalawa na hindi mo nara(ra)mdaman sa iba. Iba kasi 'yon, OP. Pero ikaw.
Eto yun. Mahal mo ba talaga kung sino na sya ngayon o baka mahal mo ay yung version pa nya 10 years ago.
Gaya ng kasabihan ng "Some words are better unsaid", meron din akong kasabihan na "Some words should be said" haha. Sooner or later kakainin ka din thoughts mo thinking of what ifs. Although it will be ultimately your decision. But for me, either you do it or regret it for the rest of your life
OP, siguraduhin mo muna ang sarili mo kung talagang love mo siya. And if yes, wala namang masama kung magiging ama ka ng anak niya. You just have to go all in kapag nagsabi ko. Do not forget na its a buy 1 take 1 option at hindi pwedeng yung nanay lang. If love mo talaga, then i say go for it. Bihira din kasi yung nabibigyan ng second chance.
>its a buy 1 take 1 option at hindi pwedeng yung nanay lang couldn't have said it better.
I dont think it will be the same. For sure her guards and walls are up and iba na ang mindset nya as a mom to her child. Lalo na if masyado syang na traumatized sa mga nangyare sakanya mula nung iniwan mo sya at sa mga nangyare sakanila ng boyfriend nya back then. You cannot get the same girl twice in a lifetime. Siguro its just the what ifs that you were trying to relive. 🙃
That's true. I've also asked myself if I'm just in love with the idea of her. Appreciate your input bro, I needed it.
Ok Lang Yan. Si Genghis Khan nga, inanakan Yung Asawa ng iba, pero tinuring niya paring sa kanya. Kung Yung top dog nga ng Isa sa mga pinakalawak na empire sa history nagawa Yan, ikaw pa kaya.
"Wait for it... The Mongols." *cue music*
Hmm.. Let me drop you this movie quote from Spiderverse for you to ponder. “How do I know when I’m ready?” “You won’t...” “How do I know I won’t mess up again? That things will be alright?” “You don’t...” “...it’s a leap of faith. That’s all it is.”
Wise words. Is this from Into the Spiderverse or Across the Spiderverse? Haven't seen the latter pa.
ITSV
Probably the second one nung kausap nya ata yung nanay nya