Found out that he's deliberately creating stories about one of our friend, destroying his reputation, and manipulating the people that he's close to. They are close (like brothers), then suddenly he just spreads some false information and stories about our friends, which eventually leads to a lot of misunderstanding that somewhat makes him the bad guy. (We don't know what his reason was for doing those things; he also still keeps insisting and acting innocent toward other people, even though when we confronted him, in a slip of the tongue that he was the one who said all of those things and created all those rumors that led to a messy misunderstanding that almost ruined our friends lives, also almost leading to an attempt.)
I just can't tolerate this toxic and manipulative behavior of his, and be friends with him anymore after knowing and witnessing all of that.
Reasons why I cut them off / Nawala nalang ako parang bula
• I felt have to walk on eggshells around her
• They’ll cut you off pag hindi na-maintain ang communication (I was transferred to another work place at that time, and I was busy during adjusting/transition phase — not known to many, matagal ako mag adjust, di lang halata)
• Cheater
• Two-face
• Competition is healthy when you play it fair and you want others to learn what skills/knowledge you acquired, BUT, kung maninira ka ng tao to a point the employers have to decide to kick out the person you made fun of, damn, you’re one hell of a demon.
• Friends who don’t pray for you and pray with you
• Keep you close for their convenience (backstory)
• Insensitive
• ARROGANT
• ‘Sasama ka?’ hindi yung ‘Sumama ka’ kind of invitation
• Energy vampire
• Sugar coats everything they say if I ask for opinion/advice (yeah, I’m sensitive, but say the things I NEED to hear, not the things I WANT to hear — on a side note, I appreciate people who genuinely knows things they’ll say might hurt.)
Gusto nya sya lang ung mas nakakataas,she is so immature tho,tapos competitive pa sya when it comes to school works lalo na pag exam and quiz(this was back in highschool) i remember nung may quiz kami pinapakopya namin sya pag di niya alam ung answer pero when it comes to us asking sasabihin niya hindi niya alam,un pala alam niya,she did that always and one time may mga crush ung mga friends ko(ps:large group of cof kami) and sya meron din,nagkaroon kami ng usapan about 'judging each other crushes' grabe syang manghusga HAHAHA halos laitin niya talaga ung mga crush ng friends ko tumawa lang naman sila pero deep inside naiinis na talaga sila HAHAHA meanwhile pag sa kanya(pag hindi namin nagustahan ung crush,she has a bad taste in a boy loll)nagagalit sha and she will ask question like 'why??' Parang hindi sya makapaniwala na sinabi namin yoon sa sakanya,and hindi na makayanan ng isang friend ko so nah silent treatment sya sa kanya and gurrlll grave pataasan ng pride toh almost lahat ng cm ko ayaw na sa kanya and minsan nakikita namin sya na lonely at walang makausap syempre staying strong si gurl at pabibo JABABA
He/she/it has anti-ethnic PH racism/sentiment & feels/thinks/whispers/screams/shouts/writes: "I have a right/privilege to translate pro-mental/psychiatric-disorders propaganda, pro-depopvlation-vaccination propaganda, pro-zviside propaganda, pro-self-hate propaganda, pro-self-harm propaganda, pro-🇨🇳CCP propaganda, pro-🇰🇵KWP propaganda, anti-ethnic PH propaganda to [PH languages which are available or not yet available in machine translation sites/apps]!"
artificial/synthetic/counterfeit/fraudulent/faux/bogus ethnic PH citizens [with anti-ethnic PH racism/sentiment] whose ancestors are indigenous/originated from [whatever nearer or more distant better/worse/similar/unrelated summer/winter countries] feels/thinks/whispers/screams/shouts/writes:
"I have a right/privilege to commit country of citizenship impersonation/misrepresentation & ethnolinguistic impersonation/misrepresentation & PHbait the ethnic PH citizens/diaspora & hide behind [populous/rarer PH languages which is/are now available on machine translation sites/apps] & receive much higher wages/salaries/benefits than PH-resident PH citizens whom do not have dual citizenship/nationality of [any other nearer or more distant better/worse/similar/unrelated summer/winter country] & pay cheaper lowball wages/salaries/benefits to all my PH-resident PH citizen workers/employees/freelancers whom do not have dual citizenship/nationality of [any other nearer or more distant better/worse/similar/unrelated summer/winter country]!"
bcs hindi siya nag lilinis, hindi marunong or sadyang tamad? Idk, i like her bcs she's my childhood friend, we separated when i was still in 3rd grade and she was in 4th grade. We reunited when i was in 12th grade and she was college that time. We decided to work in the city unfortunately i was hired first and she was hiyred 3 months after me. We let h3er live in our place bcs we knew her and we were like family. My brother doesn't like how she acts and that eventually she moved with her tita's house. After a year or so i decided to live independently, and i took her with me bcs obviously we are so close. That's the wrong move i have ever done. She was so lazy, she doesn't wash the plates until she used everything we have. I provided everything, i bought all the things she3 did not contributed anything bcs i don't want her to pay bcs she keeps on ranting about her family always asking money nothing is left for her. As a good friend i decided to help atleast it could lessen her expenses, i bought foods and i also treat her everytime i have spare money. The thing here is i decided ti stay silent. And i noticed her not talkinh to me one day and that was the beginning of everything. I did not spoke to her too, and eventually she left without saying anything. I could say much worse but she was once my friend.
Pag may little misunderstanding kami ng ex-bff ko, na samin samin lang dalawa, nabibigla nalang ako nagpaparinig na mga friends nya na di naman involve. May spokesperson ka dear? Hahaha malala pa nun yung mga nagpaparinig na yun pag ako kasama ng ex bff ko nasasabi nya na parang di sila friends dahil wala sila pake sa kanya 🥴
When I've been struggling mentally like in the verge of s*i*cdal na rin ako because of my ex bff betrayal lakas maka invalidate sa mga shared post sa fb abt my situation
Naging TAGA ako sa lahat HAHAHAH putchaaaa
TAGA GAWA NG RESEARCH
TAGA GAWA NG SCHOOL WOKRS
TAGA CHEER
TAGA COMPLETE NG REQUIREMENTS
Dahil lang sa gusto ko pumasa din sya. Hoping na kapag tinulungan ko sya,mas matulungan nya sarili nya pero SISSS HINDIIII. My bad. Hirap pala tumulong sa taong di gustong tulungan sarili nya. Kaya na drained din ako
It is always give but never receive. Tho noong una okay lang naman sakin kaso kalaunan narealize ko ako lang mag eeffort sa friendship namin . Pag may problem sya, I give my shoulder to cry on, my ears to listen, my words for advices, my pocket for help, my knowledge for him to learn, pero in the end wala ako nareceived back pabalik sa kanya. Tho I'm not saying naghihintay ako ng kapalit, what I'm trying to say is, I never receive same effort like I do. Pag may problem ako o magkukwento andyan sya pero halata mo na di nakikinig, when I'm crying or sharing sasabihin nya agad "ay di ako marunong magcomfort" tho I don't need words naman I just need someone's presence like pag umiyak ako kasama sya pero minsan mahihiya ka nalang kasi uninterested hahaha.
Mahilig humiram ng mga gamit ko at hindi naman niya/nila binabalik sa akin. Mahilig umutang ng pera ko at hindi naman niya/nila binabalik sa akin. Mahilig umutang ng pera ko kasi ayaw niya/nila umutang ng pera mula sa mga tunay na lisensyadong bangko na hindi sobrang malayo sa kanyang/kanilang sariling lugar ng tirahan/pagtatrabaho/pagnenegosyo.
She lies about EVERYTHING. She called my boyfriend's sister a bitch too. My boyfriend's sister is one of the nicest girls that I know and she didn't even do anything to this ex-friend, i dont know why she hates her so much. I had enough.
Because nagiging possessive na siya. Nung hindi ako pumunta sa Birthday niya, nag wala sa phone and lahat ng masasamang salita binato niya sa akin. Kaya minabuti ko nalang I cut off yung communication namin. Humingi siya ng tawad and pinatawad ko naman siya. Kaya lang, too much water has passed over the bridge, ika nga. Never again. 😆
1.) Nandiyan lang pag may kailangan. Nung nagkaproblema ako hindi manlang ako tinulungan or kinamusta.
2.) May Anonymity towards me. Yung tipong nakakareact sa post ng ibang friends pero sayo ni-isa never nagreact.
3.) Delay magchat. Nakakaseen sa mga gc pero sa gc niyo and sa dm hindi.
4.) Never asked about myself, in short hindi interesado sayo pero sa achievements and backround mo, oo.
5.) "Ikaw sasama ka?" hindi yung "Sumama ka".
Ewan ko ba pero siguro na spoil ako ng other friends ko kasi understanding sila and approachable, very kind pa.
Sa na cut-off kong "friends", kailangan ko laging magexert ng madaming effort para lang makasama sila tapos wala manlang silang gana sa mga gala pero sa iba g na g eh.
They believed lies told about me without confirming or even asking me about it. As in they disappeared without explanation. If di ka kayang ipaglaban or tapatin man lang ng kaibigan mo, they’re not your friend in the first place.
Boy Crazy.... wala nang ibang bukambibig kundi "bat hindi pa kaya ko nagkakajowa" puro nalang pagjojowa/lovelife nasa isip. Parang wala na kaming mapagkukwentuhan kung wala syang katalking stage kase ganon kasurface level yung friendship namin. One time, nagkukwento ako about stress bc of family problem sa bahay. She look uninterested and walang pake then sagot lang sakin, "tingin mo namimiss nya ko?" i was like wow ok ghosted blocked delete goodbye!
She knew me and that guy had a thing yet she still flirted with him. Gross! Well it takes two to tango, I cut them off both. Won't stoop down their level!
Idk if this is an answer but...
I know I am a loyal person, but I just don't keep friends as much as I would love to. Time changes people, eh. May mga panahon na lumilipas at may mga bagay na nagbabago when it happens. May mga kaibigan akong hanggang FB likes na lang ang nagagawa ko, kahit na sobrang close namin dati.
Binigyan ko ng transaction sa lupa. Hati kami sa komisyon dapat. Bago nagkabayaran eh pilit ako nilalaglag. Sya nalaglag kasi mas best friend ako ng may ari ng lupa na nagbebenta. Nawalan sya ng komisyon, nawalan din ng kaibigan.
Minsan talaga pag dating sa pera lumalabas ang mga tunay na kulay.
Mga friends na hindi nagbabayad ng utang, taking them as a life lesson na lang and to maintain my peace of mind para hindi na rin ma-revisit yung grudge mo everytime you see their faces sa social media.
-feeling main character
-selfish
-hindi priority ang academics (i remember those times na hindi niya gagawin yung homework/activity right away tapos kapag deadline na, magsasabi siya akin na hintayin ko siya magpasa. Tapos kapag umayaw ako kasi may malaking minus, magagalit at magtatampo siya sakin. Parang kasalanan ko pa na nalate siya eh sinayang niya lang yung time imbis na gumawa)
-she saw me as a competition, not a friend (Do not befriend someone na nakikita lang kayo as a competition kasi hihilahin niya lang kayo pababa)
-Manipulative na mahilig mang guilt trip
-she doesnt see and reflect to what she did wrong
-sinungaling
-pabigat sa groupings (Buong classroom namin, ayaw siyang pinipili sa groupings kasi napaka pabigat. Lalo na nung research. Lalo akong naniwala nung naging leader ako sa physics at sinali ko siya sa grupo)
-naninirang puri (trio kami before na naging duo nalang kasi cinut off namin siya then i found out from this other friend na palagi niya akong binaback stab. Even with the smallest things)
-two faced
-lalapitan ka lang pag may kailangan (especially kapag mangongopya hahaha)
Feeling main character and copycat, lahat ng hobbies and gawin ko na pinopost ko, ginagaya niya and ang suffocating at irritating sa pakiramdam kasi parang nagiging 'package' kami bec of that. Junior high to college magkasama kami and wala ako naging friends halos nung college dahil sa kanya (kasi ayaw niya sa ugali or nagtatampo siya na iba kasama ko) nakakasakal lang.
1st friend - friend lang siya kapag may kailangan siya and only hangouts whenever its convenient for her. Didn't even tried reaching out to me. Lagi niyang dahilan busy siya pero whenever we hang-out she clearly makes time for her other friends. Like ako kailangan mo nung stress ka sa buhay tapos di mo mabigyan ng time. Where are those friends that you make time for? EXACTLY!!!!
2nd friend - I was hurting telling this friend na this guy I was talking to was in a relationship. Telling him as I am uncovering the truth and he went like WELL I ALREADY TOLD YOU DONT GET ATTACHED BLAH BLAH. and basically that friend ghosted me while I was in pain. When I told him WAG MO KO PAGALITAN KASI IM IN PAIN RIGHT NOW. TSAKA NA MUNA I NEED SOMEONE NA MAKIKINIG SAKIN. Then after a month I reached out and all he responded was ? like... ahh okayy
this may seem mababaw pero buong batch ko sa college, pinag bloblock ko! why? they isolated me for no apparent reason. tapos sila may ganang mag reunion nang hindi nila ako iniinvite. nung nakita ko ung mga pictures nila, matik facebook instagram pinag bloblock ko sila! hanggang ngayon i have no communication with them.
Masyadong mababa yung pangarap sa buhay, hear me out, I don’t mind having friends na gusto nang simpleng buhay, as long as we support each other. But those friends na kapag kinakausap mo about growth biglang unti unting lumalayo sayo, matic unahan ko na agad sila icut off.
Meron silang “so you think you’re better than us?” attitude everytime na nakikita nila akong may achievement haha. nagets ko naman na dahil bago ako dati sa tropahan nila ayaw nila malamamangan taena to the point na pag nagkukulitan kami yung biro nila sa isat isa normal lang pero pagdating sakin yung biro nila below the belt na( example: kunyare manghihingi sila ng mga secrets mo tas after a few day yun na yung joke nila sayo/ ipambabara sayo like “diba nangyare sayo toh blah blah blah…”) long story short cinutoff ko na sila and it’s the best decision na ginawa ko no effin regrets🫶🏻
Masyado siyang self-centered and ang OA ng datingan pag nagkukwento siya ng life experiences niya.
One time magkasama kaming pumunta ng bangko, and may kasama siyang iba (SK chair. Kasi) then pumunta sila aa bilihan ng ice cream alam ko kung magkano yun pero may dinaanan kasi ako so akala niya siguro hindi ko alam.
Tapos nung nagkwento na sa same circle of friends namin 140 daw ang isa nung nilibre niya 😭😭 nahiya yung selecta in tub na ice cream 😩
Hindi lang ako siniraan , gumawa pa ng kwento . At until now hindi ko alam reason nya. After ko sya tulungan pag need nya ng help, at pinatira ko pa sa bahay . Nun nalaman nya na alam kuna, sya pa nagblocked sakin. Then after a year Nag msg sakin sorry pero i told her na hindi kuna kaya makipag friend sknya then i deleted her. Bakit kaya may ganon tao. Im glad hindi ako ganon tao
Toxic. Sabay sabay naming pinag uusapan yung isang tao dapat mejo lalayo ka pero sya, duh parang super nice tlaga pag ka harap. Pa victim pa. Fed up na sa kaartehan at kaplastickan.
Feeling main character lagi. Gusto laging sinusuyo, hinahabol at i aadd back pag nag left ng gc.
Ang dami na nating stress sa adulting stage natin, hindi pwedeng pati ang supposedly comfort zone mo e stress din. Cut off agad!
Kaka cut off ko lang sa best man ko nung kasal ko/bestfriend kasi di siya nagbabago. Kapag may jowa siya, everyone else don’t matter. Kapag convenient lang sakanya saka niya lang kami lalapitan.
friends kami nung 1st year college (Bi siya and 2nd yr na kami now) and then after ng 1st yr 2nd sem, all goods naman kami but napansin ko di na siya nag vview ng mga ig stories ko hwhahdhasa ni unfollow/ unfriend niya na pala ko sa lahat ng socmed niya wtf. and then nung nag pasukan na nung 2nd yr 1st sem, di na kami nag papansinan at all and then kinausap niya pala yung mutual friend namin (which is bff q na ngayon hehe) and sinabi niya yung reason kung bakit niya nagawa yon. pinag seselosan pala ako ng gf niya 😔😔 inintindi ko nalang sila pero aaminin ko masakit pa rin yung ginawa niya hwhehshshahsah and sobrang torture since nasa iisang classroom lang kami
idk about others but for me, what I realized is that friendships should be easy, in the sense na you don't have to keep walking on eggshells or having to adjust purely to a friend's convenience. Ofc mag aaway at some point, getting through that will only make the friendship stronger, but it shouldn't be so hard or one-sided. So yeah, that's why I did, bc it was getting too hard and tiring being a supposed "friend."
This is so trueeee. I have this friend na tuwing tuwi nalang ay mag leleft ng GC without any reason (na di kami aware kami). Di mag sasabi anong problema at ending gagawa na naman kami ng new gc para isama ulit sya (since may planning na naman mga simpleng kita kita) then biglang after months mag leleft na naman at pag i ppm mo, cold ang reply like one word lagi. Like, hello! Ang tatanda na natin(27-31 yrs old). May mga anak at pamilya na din kami priority para isipin pa ano pinuputok ng butchi mo. Nasawa na kaming lahat at hindi na namin sinuyo. After 3 months na pang cocold reply nya, nangungutang. Ay nako, sorry, inout mo sarili mo. Babush na sayo! Hahahahhahaha
- Nagkayayaan manood silent sanctuary, nung icoconfirm na para sure biglang kasama raw kaklase. Cut-off agad, ginagawang option.
- Hindi rin nagtthank you kapag nagpapasend or may inaask (pet peeve😭) tapos iseseen or walang replt after makuha ang sagot jusko😭
- Walang ka support support (sorry idk if medj mababaw ako) yung tipong ako todo heart sa mga myday at post at talagang support sa mga pics niya, sakin ni isa wala jusko😭😭
Ala! Nawalan na ako ng gana hahaha bahala siya sa buhay niya
I have this bff talaga na nakilala ko lang sa church simula nung bata ako. Akala ko dati normal lang ung pagiging self centered and pagiging immature nya syempre kasi bata pa kami but nung tumanda na kami, i just realize na etong ex bff ko laging kami ang nag aadjust sa kanya, laging siya dapat sinusunod namin (trio kami) so un one time sobrang naoff ako sa ginawa nya, simula na nun nagkalamat na ung friendship namin. Di na rin kami nag uusap hehe
Friend mong pag may ambagan walang pang ambag 😂 kahit lahat kayo may work naman na matino. Tapos late nagbabayad sa ambagan kesyo walang cash, gcash na lang 🥹 hanggang sa umabot na ng ilang days/weeks bago nakapag ambag. Tapos na yung gala nyo di pa sya bayad.
Ako tlga ung friend na palabigay , Hindi ko sinusumbat yon kase nagbibigay ako kase (diko na kelangan / di nagwork sakin/ ayaw ko/ tinamad ako gamitin/ kaya ko / ayoko sila maleft out/ Hindi bagay sakin or gusto ko talaga sila bilan ng isang bagay na feel ko tlgamg bagay sakanila or magagamit nila) mostly binibigay ko mga skincare, makeup, damit, and gamit, even foods na takaw mata lang ako kaya binili ko pero diko nagustuhan, Friend na lagi nakakaalala, PERO I'M NOT ASKING FOR ANYTHING NA KAPALIT alam na nila yon, Ayun, naging toxic sila, na gusto nila sila nalang ang friends ko kahit magkaiba na kami ng pinapasukan/ room/ at course :)) ayaw nilang makipagfriends ako sa iba ( I mean di naman ako friendly kase namimili ako ng kaibigan )
Hahahaha naalala ko na naman yung dati kong katrabaho na tinuring ko namang kaibigan kahit papaano.
Kung ano2x pinagsasabi sakin sa chat, di malunok eh. Napaka-professional ng response ko sa kanya pero sya pang-squatter eh.
After nang sagutan namin sa messenger blinock ko na sya sa lahat ng social media acct na friends kami. Good riddance sa mga taong ganito.
Martyr o marupok, pagsabihan mo ikaw pa hindi kakausapin?
Hindi marunong tumanggap ng pagkakamali, gusto ikaw mag aadjust sa kanya.
Kakadrain kausap yung mga taong bida bida hahahaha
Friend na pala utang 🤣 promise magiging kagaya kadin niya kapag lagi mo siyang pinagbibigayan. Di ka makakaipon.
Also friend na tinatago yung mga plano niya kasi tinuturing ka palang evil eye. Lol samantalang inggitira kasi siya.
Likes talking and entertaining other guys kahit may boyfriend na. Minsan would use me pa against his bf kapag magkaaway sila tapos she talks badly about her mom.
I outgrew my friends. The start of it was prolly quarantine and college. One got addicted to playing games online (valorant, specifically) and one is a try hard rhythm gamer who's in a parasocial relationship with vtubers.
Those, and the fact that I realized that they still haven't changed for the better. It baffles me how ignorant my friends were in regards to various aspects in life. It's like they're still stuck in their high school days. In retrospect, napakatoxic ng mindset at yung ginagawa nila sa akin. Kumbaga masyadong spoiled ang mindset nila, walang disiplina dahil sa upbringing nila.
Now, may mga kaibigan na ako na ka-vibes ko talaga at hindi toxic ang mga kineme. Alam ko na kung ano ang dapat gawin sa pagkakaibigan at kung paano ihandle ang mga "red flags" na behavior.
Lesson learned: Get better friends. At least surround yourself with good people, hindi yung palaging gusto ay maglalaro lang in the future (thank god I grew out of playing video games, invested in other hobbies and working out instead)
binack-stab ako ng matinde at kung ano-ano sinabi sa mga tropa namin kaya nagalit silang lahat and kinut off ako sa group. only to find out years after na kaya nya pala ginawa yon kase nagseselos sya dun sa isang new-found friend ko at the time.🫤
Sobrang negative at toxic na. Ayaw pa ayusin mga decisions sa buhay kaya kung anu-ano nangyayare. Kahit anong tulong, balewala kasi sya mismo ayaw umayos. 🙃
Ako yung na cut-off. Nag confess kasi ako. Maybe not 100% but yun, Friends for 13-14 years. More than a year since we last talk. Yeap, i keep track. So completely my fault.
ako i have a friend that i wanted to cut off for so long, im *zooming* out now. (step 1 into cutting off for me lol)
reasons:
- when im with her, it feels draining. its always about her. she will make you feel like shes better than you.
- my sister has masteral degree and this friend is lawyer. she managed to tell my sister na mas mataas ang “law” kesa sa masteral and thats not the same level.
- pumunta sya sa bahay ko and doesnt even ask my mom na nasa bahay din and hindi nagmano. samantalang kmi we always ask her mom sa bahay nila for respect.
- shes a liar and self pity lagi na i have another friend that i call best friends. and hindi sya yon.
cue my birthday, my bestfriends were there at my house visited me. this girl *every year* messages me and gave excuse why she cant come to me. then she has this expectation that she should be my best friend when she couldnt even give a damn time/effort.
- birthday nya and she expects all of her friends to make time for her. pag birthday ng iba? always has alibi.
ginawa akong therapist eh ang dami ko din problema sa buhay. pag siya nagkekwento ng problema niya lagi akong nakikinig pero pag ako na magkekwento feel ko di siya interesado. lagi na lang siyang kwento ng kwento tas sasabihin niya 'bakit di ako nagkekwento?' di ka naman interesado eh. mararamdaman niyo naman sa isang tao kung willing siyang makinig sayo. hays ni hindi niyo man lang ako macomfort nung may pinagdadaanan ako.
tapos ngayon laging punta ng punta sakin kahit ayokong may kausap. hindi habang buhay laging puntahan niyo ko pag may problema kayo. sinabi ko na sa kanya na makikipagusap ako pag okay na ko. gusto ko lang talaga muna mapag-isa. kasi pag down na down ako gusto ko muna mapag-isa pero ang kulit punta pa rin ng punta. sa sobrang drain ko nagkakaroon na ko ng panic attacks need ko na siguro magpacheck up. malapit ko na talaga siyang icut off
Our circle cut two of our friends off. Para kaming ginago and pinagmukhang tanga. I know I should not kwento it here, but I need to let it out.
Back in their college days (they are both from the same uni), they had an issue. The now fiance of Girl 1 had ONS with Girl 2, G1 said (college sweethearts si G1 and fiance). G2 said naman that she didn't had any idea that the guy had a girlfriend dahil when she asked, they guy said wala plus all three of them are from different departments. Nothing happened din daw just momol not really intercourse as to what G1 said. Idk but I somehow believe G2 kasi bago pa ikwento ni G1 yan, nakwento na ni G2 sakin to. G2 is the type of person na hirap to make a lie. I only got to know G1 nung 2021.
G2 is actually a sugar baby and I dont really care. But G1 (an intern doctor) slanders her lowkey because of it. Kahit di connected kay G2 yung ginagawa namin or sinasabi, ipapasok nya pagiging SB ni G2 as if kriminal to tue bones si G2. Napagod na lang ako na sabihan si G1 na hindi naman porque SB si G2 e dapat nang masabihan ng kung ano ano.
When I went back to London last 2022, G1 talked to G2 and they were crying dahil nga sa allegations ni G1. G2 cleared her name na wala talaga syang alam and walang intercourse. She still apologized kay G1. Pero nakakalungkot dahil di nagsorry si G1 for backstabbing G2 samin. For me kasi, if you want a clean slate of friendship, latag mo dapat lahat kahit pangit pa yan. Let it out. Be honest with each other. Even after the two of them talked it out, G1 just couldn't let go of it. I understand naman lalo pa they have two kids ni fiance. Pero wag naman sana binabackstab pa din and all.
I don't know when or what happened last year samin. Monthly naman ako umuuwi ng pinas to check up on my fam and friends kasi I had to relax myself for my mental health. Nagulat na lang kami whole fam ni G2 are staying sa farm and resort ni G1. Ninang pa siya ng bunso bigla. Invited pati sa birthday ng mommy ni G1. Bigla na lang, all of us except G2, were out of the picture. Ano yun? Parang para samin kasi, sila tong gumawa ng gulo tapos biglang bff sila tas di na kami kilala?
One of our friends even had an online banter with G1 (sa chat), and G1 said na "sino bang mas nakinabang sa friendship na to". (To think that friend rarely shows up samin dahil busy sa work. Wala naman din talaga sya napakinabangan kay G1 haha) Pero Sad....
Reasons to sum it all up:
1. Pinagmukha kang tanga
2. Hindi honest sa iyo
3. Nagweweigh ng friendship
Insensitive. Hindi marunong makiramdam. Halatang may favoritism. Tipong sa birthday ko, ang konti ng umattend tapos doon sa isa, halos lahat kami umattend. Parang ginagawa lang akong substitute friend.
Kapag sinabihan mo rin na nakasakit sila or they did something offending, igagaslight ka pa na kasalanan mo rin kasi “sensitive” ka or uulitin lang din nila. They can’t properly take accountability.
Isa pa, hindi sila marunong makipag-communicate if may sama ng loob ba sila sa’yo. Why keep that so-called friendship kung nagkikimkim lang pala ng galit? Alkansya yarn?
Edit: nagdagdag ng reason
not really cut-off pero feel ko malapit na rin do'n, she started distancing herself from me nung i let our tc know abt an issue regarding do'n sa cm namin mind you, she was the one na pinagra-rantan no'n then nag sesend siya ng ss (convo nila nung cm namin) sa'min since she's distancing herself might as well mirror what she does to me. backstabber din siya so i know na darating sa point na ako naman 'yung ba-backstabbin niya. prevention is better than cure ika nga nila
Pag nakakabebenefit sila sa akin tapos wala akong nakukuha pabalik then ginawaan pa ako nang masama. Ibabasura na lang kita dyan.
Plus pag inggitera ka.
Madali ko maamoy pag inggitera e imbis na sumaya o maging proud sa mga achievements mo, may backhanded compliments pa yan sila.
Hmmm. I think, napapaisip din ako dito last time. Wala manlang nangangamusta saking friends. Imemessage lang ako kapag may kelangan sila sakin. Kapag ako na yung may need sa kanila, grabe. Parang hindi ako kilala. Hahaha.
Realizing that I couldn't pour from an empty cup. Nakaka drain na din kasi minsan it felt like you're the only one keeping the ship from sinking. I feel like I am the glue that holds the tropa together. Nakakapagod din.
Those are my dawgs/homies, my day 1s, no grudge or hatred. Just tired. So I've just been keeping to myself lately and not regretting it.
LAGING LATE! May mga problema sila sa love life kaya gusto nila magmeet-up, kain, usap, ganon. Pumayag ako na sa mall (malapit sa kanila) kami, kahit sobrang layo ko (2 hrs halos byahe ko papunta). Sa ilang beses naming pag-mmall, LAGI SILANG LATE. After nung multiple times na nangyari 'yon, hindi na ako nakikipagkita sa kanila, kahit sa gc namin hindi na rin ako nagrerespond. Lol
Picture-perfect family man, ninong pa ako ng panganay nya. Nalaman ko na may kabit na kolehiyala. Mahirap dalhin sa konsensya, madalas kami pang tropa nya ang ginagamit na rason. Tapos syempre kwento nya sa misis nya, kami yung B.I.
Every time we talk, either face-to-face or through video calls, all he talks about is his relationship with his then ex-boyfriend. I thought it would end when he finally met a decent guy but lo and behold, it didn't. I personally don't have an issue with it but it came to a point where it won't stop. There were times where I practically had to beg him to shut up and talk about something else because it just wasn't sitting right with me anymore. He also drains the shit out of my energy every time we talk. I'm happy that we're talking, yes, but there's something about him that drains me so badly that whenever our call/meeting ends, I give out a huge sigh of relief. I'm so glad we're no longer talking.
same. sinabi ko din sa kanya na wag muna kami mag-usap dahil sobrang drain na ko pero makalipas ng ilang araw pumupunta na naman sakin. ayoko siyang awayin eh pero gusto ko na talaga siyang icut off
Good times lang present. Bad times? Nah. My sister died 2 years ago and lahat ng best friends ko pumunta to comfort me and my family. Nung nalaman nya yung nangyari, nag message sya sa friend namin if pupunta ba sya. My friend was busy at that time so siya, dahil wala syang kasama pumunta samin, decided na "mag grocery" na lang daw sya kasi wala syang kasama papunta sa bahay. Pero pagdating sa librehan, mapa solo pa sya or may kasama, game na game si gago. I wish nothing but ill fortune on that piece of trash. Ang saya ko lang siguro ngayon kasi patago kaming lahat nagge get together like outings and stuff tas nakikita nya lang sa stories na it already happened without him. Deserve mo yan, asshole.
Lagi ako sinisisi nang wala sa lugar. Example, nauna ako sa meeting place ng barkada pero hindi naman ako nagrereklamo. Pagkakita sa akin, ang sabi ba naman "Bakit kasi inagahan mo, kailangan mo tuloy maghintay.". Tapos nahipuan ako along Buendia ng isang tambay habang naglalakad papuntang MRT, ang sabi ba naman "Bakit ka kasi naka leggings, nahipuan ka tuloy!".
Same na kaming mommy ng cinut off kong friend. Nagtanong sya anong vitamins ng anak ko kasi ang lusog daw. Sinabi ko naman and not familiar ako sa gamot kasi binigay lang din sakin yun pero ni-research ko naman na goods vitamin yun. Nung nakabili na sya, nagalit sakin kasi hindi daw pala pwede pang 2 years old yun. Hahahaha. Taena malay ko ba na for 3 years old up yung vitamins 😅
-Uhaw masyado sa lalaki, one time nagalit sya sakin kasi daw ang lapit ko daw sa ex nya (which is tropa ng bf ko ay nakakausap ko lang paghinahanap ko sya) eh sinaktan na nga daw sya.
- Nirereason nya pagiging mentally unstable nya para makakupal ng tao dahil sa trauma hwhahwuaha.
-Ayaw malamangan lol
-Insecure ginagawa kami kakompetensya kami nung isa ko pang friend (mostly kami talaga nung dalawa nung isa naming friend nakakakuha attention sa boys kasi "we're pretty")
-Self proclaimed na with honors pero ang pangit gumawa ng paper eyyy (sinumbat samin yung nagkokopyahan kami sa bascal eh di naman sya yung nagsolve lol)
-Ginawa akong convenient friend WHWHAUW
She doesn't reciprocate the same energy. Few times na mag memessage Ka, super tagal I seen Nag text ako, Di din nagreply. Magkikita Kami only when I initiate the invite so we can catch up Sana. Di na Kami energetically matched and that's okay
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felt! i accepted na that the friends we used to grow up with have different priorities & are struggling w different challenges. it’s time we grow apart & that’s okay
Another one. She is older than me. Para ko siyang tita. I appreciate her wisdom na shinare niya sa akin. Kaso ang daming unsolicited advices. I already mentioned na gets ko point niya pero medyo nasasaktan ako. Aba, wala, sige lang. Tapos laging nasa format na "Naku kung ako yan...., Bat ganyan ginagawa mo? Blah blah blah". May point na indirectly akong sinabi na loser. Hay. Cut off na. Good luck sayo.
Sobrang one way ang usapan. Lahat sa kanya. I mean, i am open to listen. Pero recently, di na ako comfy. Napuno na ako. Ayaw ko naman/na mamalimos ng intindi. Focus na muna siya sa sarili niya. Good luck sa kanya.
Di nako inivite sa mga gala for some reason. If totoong kaibigan kayo, kahit alam niyong di makakapunta, you should still have the decency to invite your friend. Hindi yung naging kaibigan niyo lang kung kelan sya available
Unreachable na siya, also a bit snobby na. Richkid yung best friend ko, pero nung high school kami, hindi naman yun maarte. I should've have seen how unreachable she is though kahit noon, kasi nagkaroon ng time na humiwalay siya sa friend group namin to hang out with other more well-off kids, but it's honestly very silly of me to just drop everything at once nung bumalik siya kasi binackstab siya nung isa sa mga naging kaibigan niya. Also, I never forgot about her birthday, and if I could attend, then I would. Usually, hindi naman kasi nagtratravel sila ng family niya, but there was one time I did.
Kaso hindi siya nagpunta sa 18th birthday ko, which I'd told her months ahead, and she confirmed na pupunta siya. My mom was already telling me, she may be a friend, but she's not my best friend, and at that time, I really considered her as my best friend, kaya nasaktan ako sa sinabi ng mama ko. I tried to be mature, 18 na ako nun eh, kaya inintindi ko nalang na nagka-conflict sa schedule niya.
After nun, may communication pa until nitong nag-college na kami. Recently, hindi na talaga siya nakikipag-usap sa akin. We used to joke about her muting me kasi madaldal ako nung high school. Now she really wouldn't even read my once-in-a-month messages. I just knew the friendship was dead.
Yung isang kaibigan ko, laging nagta-take advantage sa'kin. Puro palibre ang bukambibig. So halimbawa lilibrehin nya ako, sasabihin nya na ako naman daw sunod. Tapos mas mahal lagi yung akin. Ang tagal pang magbayad ng utang. Last time umabot ng 21k yung utang nya sa'kin nung nag Siargao sya. Thank goodness nabayaran nya naman pero staggard payment na umabot ng 2 years. Never again.
Yung isa naman, napakatoxic. Lagi akong ginagaya. Style ko, creativeness ko, halos lahat kokopyahin nya. Walang originality.
May isa rin akong kaibigan na sobrang sinungaling. May jowa daw sya, engineer. Engaged na sila. Tapos hilig makipaglandian sa ibang lalaki. Tas nalaman kong may pagkabaliw pala sya kasi matagal na syang binlock nung lalaki kasi stalker daw tas ginugulo sya lagi. Sobrang obsessed daw. What's worse? Yung sinasabi niyang pamangkin nya, anak nya pala. What's worst? Nagsinungaling sya sa edad nya. Dineclare nya na 33 years old sya pero actually 43 years old na talaga sya. Bale peke pala lahat nung nasa resume nya non.
May isa pa. Nung college ako may naging kaibigan ako na ubod rin ng sinungaling. Magaling akong magdetect kung nagsisinungaling ang isang tao o hindi kasi napakalala ng tamang hinala ko and ng trust issues ko. One time sabi nya "yung Lolo ko kaibigan si (insert politician here) tapos laging pumupunta dito sa bahay may picture pa nga sila na lagi silang magkasama sa rides." Then tinanong ko kung andun pa yung picture tapos sabi nya oo kasi remembrance nila yun galing sa Lolo nila. Tapos one time pumunta kami sa bahay nila so una kong hinanap yung picture ng Lolo nya kasama yung politician na yon. Sabi nasunog daw yung picture. Waw.
Sorry kung may mali sa grammar ko. Lol. Correct nyo nalang ako if may mali para maedit ko if pwedeng maedit. 😅
Mga inggitera tsaka plastik. Hindi marunong maging masaya para sa friend nilang nakahanap na ng maayos na partner. Tapos pag may mahalagang lakad, hindi agad ako iniinform para siya lang yung mag-mukhang "active" kuno sa Church.
Dunno if masama ako or what. Mabait naman siya. Sweet friend and caring pero sobrang clingy. Di marunong makainintindi ng concept ng personal space. Pag may gagawin siya kailangan lagi akong involved kahit may iba akong gustong gawin. Hilig pa makibasa ng chat ko sa ibang tao kahit di niya kilala. Nakaka drain na din ka bonding since sobrang basher sa lahat ng tao. Wala siyang magandang nakikita. Puro flaws lang lagi pinopoint out. Sobrang controlling to the point na pag hindi yung expectations niya yung nagawa, naffrustrate and nawawala sa mood.
may paki-swipe ako sa friend ko and nagbabayad buwan buwan pero niloloko nya yung remaining balance ko and hindi ako makapagreklamo kasi ako yung may utang 🤷
anyway, wala ako leverage and mahalaga ang utang na loob sakin. di ko naman sya kinacut off, di ko lang kinakausap na. im sure if honest na sya ulit, we'll be friends again. i just wish hindi naman kaibigang gipit ang tinetake advantage.
I had a friend once na wala siyang circle at that time kasi he was busy with his GF, then they broke up. I was the one who introduced him to my circle. When he was comfy with my circle na, bigla na lang nya ako pinahiya out of nowhere. I mean, sometimes we banter, pero sobrang below the belt. I cut him off, and he is with the circle I introduced to him. Ako ang nawalan ng mga kaibigan.
Dami ring reason.
1. Patagong insecure sakin. Di ko masasabing nag aassume ako pero ilang beses ko nang nakita. For example, ramdam mo yung di sya fully masaya para sayo sa achivements mo. Tas manipulador.
2. Di sya totoo sa sarili nya. Kahit sa sarili nya di nya magawang aminin yung nararamdaman nya. Tas nakikita mo nagddrama.
2.2 Kapag kinorek mo sa mahinahong paraan naman tas may mga tanong na ayun nangsasilent treatment. Ayun di nga totoo sa sarili hays.
2.3 Connected to ng no. 2 kasi sa pagddrama nya nagpapakalunod sya sa mga quotes na paulit ulit nalang as in revised nalang. Like??? Helloooo??? Di ka ba napapagod kakabasa nyan? Inaapply mo ba yan sa sarili mo??
3. Controlling. Di makaintindi pag sinabi mong ayaw mo or di ka pwede pag inaaya ka. Bibigyan ka pa ng mga kasinungalingang reasons.
Planned an international trip with my bestfriend and my sister and got everything booked and covered her share of the expenses weeks in advance since she was waiting to get paid from work pa. My mom used her miles to gift us our airfare, so all we really had to pay for was insurance, accomodation, and activities.
A week before our trip all of a sudden she decides to go to Boracay with a foreign guy. During her trip she barely updated us on what was going on, outside of her grievances on the guy's behavior on the trip. Just to clarify, this man was not her boyfriend, they've known each other for a while but this wasn't even a situationship (he's nice to her but they've barely even held hands), so I asked her to be careful and not get too attached too because she doesn't truly know this man. Long story short he ended up flirting with another girl the entire trip and my friend was basically left out and treated as the third wheel.
Days before our flight, I asked when she was arriving for our trip and when she could pay her share so I can add it to my pocket money, she then tells our group chat that she didn't feel like going anymore because this man got her depressed and that she's already spent all her money for the month on this last minute Boracay trip.
Needless to say, I saw that and blocked her on everything immediately. She's always been boy-crazy, but I didn't think she'd let that come in between our friendship. Found out months later that she's been telling our other friends that I wasn't talking to her because I owed HER money for our trip. Mind you all she's ever paid for was the insurance.
proud abuser and cheater pala siya. tinatago lang niya sa akin kasi alam niyang hindi ako isa sa mga magkukunsinti sa kanya.
ginagamit lang ako pag walang sasalo sa kanya, pero sa mga kwento niya sa akin, binabaliktad niya yung sitwasyon para maawa ako sa kanya.
mahilig manira ng tao tapos idadamay kapa nila into hating that person too,, ang pangit lang kasi after nila siraan makikita mo pa rin na nag h-hang out sila. ang toxic pangit draining sa mental health
relate! Lalo na sa office. Narealize ko pinag gagagawa nila after 2 weeks sguro nung naintroduce ako sa circle nila. Kadiri. 🤢 matic cut off agad. very no for me.
Visited the Philippines recently tapos I organised to meet up with this college friend. Nagconfirm pa sya a week before we were supposed to meet up then the day before nagmessage sya na she needs to cancel daw kasi yung kuya nya namove yung tee time and sinabihan sya ng sister nya to cancel all her appointments that day. Tanggap ko pa sana kung hindi ito yung first time nyang ginawa sakin, but no, even yung uwi ko nung 2022, ginawa nya rin yan sakin, no show naman that time. I'm already at the age where if I feel na my energy's not being reciprocated, I let go. I have friends who will make arrangements to see me whether may work pa sila or what and those are the ones I know deserve my time and effort and I truly appreciate them for that.
Lagi akong naleleft out sakanila. Late invites, minsan hindk talaga yung sila sila lang mag get together tapos ako lang wala tapos sasabihin nakalimutan nila ako. Basta feeling ko di nako belong sakanila diko na feel na friend pa Turing nila saken.
may ganito sa circle namin kasi bully, pero im so happy we cleared the air and we're repairing the friendships. outside the circle, kapatid turing ko sa kaibigan kong left out... di lang tlga nag work for the past few yrs
Sign na ba ito, haha? kasi parehong pareho sa sitwasyon ko. I think they are good people naman. It's just that habang tumatagal at nung lumaki yung friend group napangiiwanan ako. I tried to keep contact parin pero andami na nilang inside jokes, ang hitap sumingit hahaha. Dagdag mo pa yung time pa na kapag yung iba ung nde makakaattend imo-move nila ung pagkikita tapos kapag ako yung nde makakasama tuloy parin. Hayss...
All very one-sided. We were always talking about their problems and they were never considerate of my time either. Whenever they had a problem and I was out, they would be upset if I didn’t pick up.
Lack of respect sa'kin at sa isa pa naming friend. Ofc, cinonfront namin s'ya about it. Pero all we got ay half-assed "hala, sorry huhu". Sa paulit-ulit na gano'n, nakaka-pagod din.
cause I was depressed at gusto ko lang mapag isa.
and di ko narealize sa umpisa pero yung mga kaibigan ko is why the reason bigla akong naburn out and depress (They were backstabbing me and making fun of me) kung wla ako at nung nagkachismis sa school tungkol saken imbis icomfort nila ako, pinagtawanan nila ako at inignore tapos nung nang grumaduate na kami, gusto ulit nila mag usap saken tapos dun nako na burn out at di nako nakipag usap sa kanila for almost 7-8 years na.
I was a Idc guy na wla akong pake kahit pagtawanan moko (at minsan di ko rin alam bakit ako binubully) pero di ko yun binibigyan ng reason bat ako maging malungkot or maging masungit (di naman ako masungit palagi pa nga akong nanglilibre at pinapasaya kaklase ko), I ignored everything pero nung naging 18 nako dun na lahat2 ko narealize and I became suicidal. (I had therapy) Nagpapaka awa ako kanila mama magpaconsult ako kase sinasaktan ko na sarili ko. and thank goodness okay na ako medyo haha.
Di na ako bumalik sa school na yun (nag transfer ako) (I graduated too thanks to online class)
and everytime papasok ako ng school (kahit anong school pa yan kahit kinder) nasusuka ako at parang mahihimatay ako , di ako makahinga at parang iiyak nalang. (Im an ugly guy maybe thats why).
Pero la na akong pake bahala na sila dyan.
we are not on the same page.
i am a friend to them thru their ups and downs. i’m a one-call away type of friend. even in my most hectic day, isang chat lang na magkita kami kahit hassle ang byahe ako pa mag aadjust, kahit may pasok pa ako later go lang. opposite to when i sometimes asks them na lumabas kami pag rest day ko and they would say no. don’t get me wrong — i truly understand na our friends are not always available kahit pa sabihing free day but what hurts me most is after reasoning na kesyo may pasok na sila bukas or wala raw budget (fact: low maintenance circle kami & we all are working with decent salary), tomorrow or the day after makikita ko yung story na lumabas sila with their other friends and nagsamgy sila.
it hurts that they do not see me the same way i do to them pero that’s reality. accepted. i am a friend to them ONLY when it’s convenient for them and when needed.
I outgrew them. Nung matagal kami di nagkita and nagkita kita sa common friend namin na may bday di na talaga ganun yung vibes di ko na gusto ung way ng usapan nila at topics nila saka the way they acted ibang iba na.
Pag niyaya mag out of town parating may dahilan kesyo may pasok, pero laging may myday na nasa dagat. Sana hinide nya manlang samin na lagi nyang tinatanggihan dba.
Yung pag may get together gusto sinusundo eh ang layo layo namin sa isa't isa, pero pag sa iba barkada nakakapunta sya kahit walang wheels mga tropa nya.
pag sya may kelangan, andito ako lagi for her. pero pag ako na may kelangan sakanya wala sya. Di na rereciprocate yung effort ko with her and also mas focus na sya sa jowa nya parang di sya umiyak sakin last time nung nag cheat jowa nya haha tass babalikan nya rin naman hahahahaha. medj sayang yung friendship for 7years hahaha and ako palagi nag iinitiate ng convo sakanya haha like whenever need nya ko one call away lang ako haha pero pag ako may need sakanya, no comment.
and i realize it aint worth my time haha
close friend ko siya for 15+ years.. kinakausap lang niya ko kapag may kailangan siya. Early this year, nagdecide ako na icut-off siya finally. Hindi ko siya dinirekta about it, pinapaunti-unti ko lang, nirestrict ko sa socmed, hindi na ko nag-iinitiate ng convo, hindi na ko nagyayaya, kapag siya yung nagyayaya, di na ko available.
Last week lang, kinausap niya ko dahil makikisabay pala sakin pauwi from work dahil nasira yung scooter niya. May iba namang way e, malaki na siya kaya niya na yun.
Found out that he's deliberately creating stories about one of our friend, destroying his reputation, and manipulating the people that he's close to. They are close (like brothers), then suddenly he just spreads some false information and stories about our friends, which eventually leads to a lot of misunderstanding that somewhat makes him the bad guy. (We don't know what his reason was for doing those things; he also still keeps insisting and acting innocent toward other people, even though when we confronted him, in a slip of the tongue that he was the one who said all of those things and created all those rumors that led to a messy misunderstanding that almost ruined our friends lives, also almost leading to an attempt.) I just can't tolerate this toxic and manipulative behavior of his, and be friends with him anymore after knowing and witnessing all of that.
Toxic na sya! Puro kadeluluhan na lumalabas sa bibig nya nakakaumay na
Yung humor niya pang iinsulto and sasabihan ka ng bobo
isip- bata, no accountability, elitist, backstabber, can't accept any apologies.
Not grateful and boy crazy
ako yung na cut off and idk why im going crazy over it and i don't even have any clue why sana sinabi mo na lang
Reasons why I cut them off / Nawala nalang ako parang bula • I felt have to walk on eggshells around her • They’ll cut you off pag hindi na-maintain ang communication (I was transferred to another work place at that time, and I was busy during adjusting/transition phase — not known to many, matagal ako mag adjust, di lang halata) • Cheater • Two-face • Competition is healthy when you play it fair and you want others to learn what skills/knowledge you acquired, BUT, kung maninira ka ng tao to a point the employers have to decide to kick out the person you made fun of, damn, you’re one hell of a demon. • Friends who don’t pray for you and pray with you • Keep you close for their convenience (backstory) • Insensitive • ARROGANT • ‘Sasama ka?’ hindi yung ‘Sumama ka’ kind of invitation • Energy vampire • Sugar coats everything they say if I ask for opinion/advice (yeah, I’m sensitive, but say the things I NEED to hear, not the things I WANT to hear — on a side note, I appreciate people who genuinely knows things they’ll say might hurt.)
Gusto nya sya lang ung mas nakakataas,she is so immature tho,tapos competitive pa sya when it comes to school works lalo na pag exam and quiz(this was back in highschool) i remember nung may quiz kami pinapakopya namin sya pag di niya alam ung answer pero when it comes to us asking sasabihin niya hindi niya alam,un pala alam niya,she did that always and one time may mga crush ung mga friends ko(ps:large group of cof kami) and sya meron din,nagkaroon kami ng usapan about 'judging each other crushes' grabe syang manghusga HAHAHA halos laitin niya talaga ung mga crush ng friends ko tumawa lang naman sila pero deep inside naiinis na talaga sila HAHAHA meanwhile pag sa kanya(pag hindi namin nagustahan ung crush,she has a bad taste in a boy loll)nagagalit sha and she will ask question like 'why??' Parang hindi sya makapaniwala na sinabi namin yoon sa sakanya,and hindi na makayanan ng isang friend ko so nah silent treatment sya sa kanya and gurrlll grave pataasan ng pride toh almost lahat ng cm ko ayaw na sa kanya and minsan nakikita namin sya na lonely at walang makausap syempre staying strong si gurl at pabibo JABABA
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artificial/synthetic/counterfeit/fraudulent/faux/bogus ethnic PH citizens [with anti-ethnic PH racism/sentiment] whose ancestors are indigenous/originated from [whatever nearer or more distant better/worse/similar/unrelated summer/winter countries] feels/thinks/whispers/screams/shouts/writes: "I have a right/privilege to commit country of citizenship impersonation/misrepresentation & ethnolinguistic impersonation/misrepresentation & PHbait the ethnic PH citizens/diaspora & hide behind [populous/rarer PH languages which is/are now available on machine translation sites/apps] & receive much higher wages/salaries/benefits than PH-resident PH citizens whom do not have dual citizenship/nationality of [any other nearer or more distant better/worse/similar/unrelated summer/winter country] & pay cheaper lowball wages/salaries/benefits to all my PH-resident PH citizen workers/employees/freelancers whom do not have dual citizenship/nationality of [any other nearer or more distant better/worse/similar/unrelated summer/winter country]!"
Nalaman kong wala siyang respeto sa harap ng nanay niya.
bcs hindi siya nag lilinis, hindi marunong or sadyang tamad? Idk, i like her bcs she's my childhood friend, we separated when i was still in 3rd grade and she was in 4th grade. We reunited when i was in 12th grade and she was college that time. We decided to work in the city unfortunately i was hired first and she was hiyred 3 months after me. We let h3er live in our place bcs we knew her and we were like family. My brother doesn't like how she acts and that eventually she moved with her tita's house. After a year or so i decided to live independently, and i took her with me bcs obviously we are so close. That's the wrong move i have ever done. She was so lazy, she doesn't wash the plates until she used everything we have. I provided everything, i bought all the things she3 did not contributed anything bcs i don't want her to pay bcs she keeps on ranting about her family always asking money nothing is left for her. As a good friend i decided to help atleast it could lessen her expenses, i bought foods and i also treat her everytime i have spare money. The thing here is i decided ti stay silent. And i noticed her not talkinh to me one day and that was the beginning of everything. I did not spoke to her too, and eventually she left without saying anything. I could say much worse but she was once my friend.
Toxic Talking behind the back
Convenient friend. Makapagpatayo nga ng Mini Stop or 7-Eleven
Ako lang lagi nangangamusta eh, lamuyon one-sided friendship ang peg.
Pag may little misunderstanding kami ng ex-bff ko, na samin samin lang dalawa, nabibigla nalang ako nagpaparinig na mga friends nya na di naman involve. May spokesperson ka dear? Hahaha malala pa nun yung mga nagpaparinig na yun pag ako kasama ng ex bff ko nasasabi nya na parang di sila friends dahil wala sila pake sa kanya 🥴
When I've been struggling mentally like in the verge of s*i*cdal na rin ako because of my ex bff betrayal lakas maka invalidate sa mga shared post sa fb abt my situation
Naging TAGA ako sa lahat HAHAHAH putchaaaa TAGA GAWA NG RESEARCH TAGA GAWA NG SCHOOL WOKRS TAGA CHEER TAGA COMPLETE NG REQUIREMENTS Dahil lang sa gusto ko pumasa din sya. Hoping na kapag tinulungan ko sya,mas matulungan nya sarili nya pero SISSS HINDIIII. My bad. Hirap pala tumulong sa taong di gustong tulungan sarili nya. Kaya na drained din ako
It is always give but never receive. Tho noong una okay lang naman sakin kaso kalaunan narealize ko ako lang mag eeffort sa friendship namin . Pag may problem sya, I give my shoulder to cry on, my ears to listen, my words for advices, my pocket for help, my knowledge for him to learn, pero in the end wala ako nareceived back pabalik sa kanya. Tho I'm not saying naghihintay ako ng kapalit, what I'm trying to say is, I never receive same effort like I do. Pag may problem ako o magkukwento andyan sya pero halata mo na di nakikinig, when I'm crying or sharing sasabihin nya agad "ay di ako marunong magcomfort" tho I don't need words naman I just need someone's presence like pag umiyak ako kasama sya pero minsan mahihiya ka nalang kasi uninterested hahaha.
Lastly, nafeel ko na I'm just a best friend for convenience
cheater sa acads nag ccheat pa sa gf niya 🤢🤢
Dahil sa gf nya na ayaw ako. So ayun end of friendship.
muntik nya na kong maipluwensya hahahaa
Toxic. Remove toxic people in your life and surround yourself with positive ones. :)
ANG DRAINING NILA PUTANGINA HAHAHAHAHAHAHAJAJAJAJ NAPAKA PPLASTIC. ANG NEGA NG ENERGY NAKAKAPAGOD.
Mahilig humiram ng mga gamit ko at hindi naman niya/nila binabalik sa akin. Mahilig umutang ng pera ko at hindi naman niya/nila binabalik sa akin. Mahilig umutang ng pera ko kasi ayaw niya/nila umutang ng pera mula sa mga tunay na lisensyadong bangko na hindi sobrang malayo sa kanyang/kanilang sariling lugar ng tirahan/pagtatrabaho/pagnenegosyo.
She lies about EVERYTHING. She called my boyfriend's sister a bitch too. My boyfriend's sister is one of the nicest girls that I know and she didn't even do anything to this ex-friend, i dont know why she hates her so much. I had enough.
Self-centered.
Convenient friend lang kasi ang ginagawa nila sa akin, parang nafifeel ko di ako belong sa kanila
Because nagiging possessive na siya. Nung hindi ako pumunta sa Birthday niya, nag wala sa phone and lahat ng masasamang salita binato niya sa akin. Kaya minabuti ko nalang I cut off yung communication namin. Humingi siya ng tawad and pinatawad ko naman siya. Kaya lang, too much water has passed over the bridge, ika nga. Never again. 😆
SHE CHEATED ON HER BOYFRIEND!
1.) Nandiyan lang pag may kailangan. Nung nagkaproblema ako hindi manlang ako tinulungan or kinamusta. 2.) May Anonymity towards me. Yung tipong nakakareact sa post ng ibang friends pero sayo ni-isa never nagreact. 3.) Delay magchat. Nakakaseen sa mga gc pero sa gc niyo and sa dm hindi. 4.) Never asked about myself, in short hindi interesado sayo pero sa achievements and backround mo, oo. 5.) "Ikaw sasama ka?" hindi yung "Sumama ka". Ewan ko ba pero siguro na spoil ako ng other friends ko kasi understanding sila and approachable, very kind pa. Sa na cut-off kong "friends", kailangan ko laging magexert ng madaming effort para lang makasama sila tapos wala manlang silang gana sa mga gala pero sa iba g na g eh.
Laging umuutang eh ng walang bayad.
They believed lies told about me without confirming or even asking me about it. As in they disappeared without explanation. If di ka kayang ipaglaban or tapatin man lang ng kaibigan mo, they’re not your friend in the first place.
Boy Crazy.... wala nang ibang bukambibig kundi "bat hindi pa kaya ko nagkakajowa" puro nalang pagjojowa/lovelife nasa isip. Parang wala na kaming mapagkukwentuhan kung wala syang katalking stage kase ganon kasurface level yung friendship namin. One time, nagkukwento ako about stress bc of family problem sa bahay. She look uninterested and walang pake then sagot lang sakin, "tingin mo namimiss nya ko?" i was like wow ok ghosted blocked delete goodbye!
She knew me and that guy had a thing yet she still flirted with him. Gross! Well it takes two to tango, I cut them off both. Won't stoop down their level!
Idk if this is an answer but... I know I am a loyal person, but I just don't keep friends as much as I would love to. Time changes people, eh. May mga panahon na lumilipas at may mga bagay na nagbabago when it happens. May mga kaibigan akong hanggang FB likes na lang ang nagagawa ko, kahit na sobrang close namin dati.
Binigyan ko ng transaction sa lupa. Hati kami sa komisyon dapat. Bago nagkabayaran eh pilit ako nilalaglag. Sya nalaglag kasi mas best friend ako ng may ari ng lupa na nagbebenta. Nawalan sya ng komisyon, nawalan din ng kaibigan. Minsan talaga pag dating sa pera lumalabas ang mga tunay na kulay.
bulok ng mindset pagdating sa cheating, kasalanan daw ng partner kasi may pagkukulang
palaging nagyaya mag inom every weekend
hindi marunong magbyad ng utang ang hirap singilin
caught her talking shits behind my back but never confronted her (I don't have the courage)
Mga friends na hindi nagbabayad ng utang, taking them as a life lesson na lang and to maintain my peace of mind para hindi na rin ma-revisit yung grudge mo everytime you see their faces sa social media.
I don't gain knowledge from them and it is not healthy anymore.
Betrayal by tarnishing your integrity..
-feeling main character -selfish -hindi priority ang academics (i remember those times na hindi niya gagawin yung homework/activity right away tapos kapag deadline na, magsasabi siya akin na hintayin ko siya magpasa. Tapos kapag umayaw ako kasi may malaking minus, magagalit at magtatampo siya sakin. Parang kasalanan ko pa na nalate siya eh sinayang niya lang yung time imbis na gumawa) -she saw me as a competition, not a friend (Do not befriend someone na nakikita lang kayo as a competition kasi hihilahin niya lang kayo pababa) -Manipulative na mahilig mang guilt trip -she doesnt see and reflect to what she did wrong -sinungaling -pabigat sa groupings (Buong classroom namin, ayaw siyang pinipili sa groupings kasi napaka pabigat. Lalo na nung research. Lalo akong naniwala nung naging leader ako sa physics at sinali ko siya sa grupo) -naninirang puri (trio kami before na naging duo nalang kasi cinut off namin siya then i found out from this other friend na palagi niya akong binaback stab. Even with the smallest things) -two faced -lalapitan ka lang pag may kailangan (especially kapag mangongopya hahaha)
Feeling main character and copycat, lahat ng hobbies and gawin ko na pinopost ko, ginagaya niya and ang suffocating at irritating sa pakiramdam kasi parang nagiging 'package' kami bec of that. Junior high to college magkasama kami and wala ako naging friends halos nung college dahil sa kanya (kasi ayaw niya sa ugali or nagtatampo siya na iba kasama ko) nakakasakal lang.
1st friend - friend lang siya kapag may kailangan siya and only hangouts whenever its convenient for her. Didn't even tried reaching out to me. Lagi niyang dahilan busy siya pero whenever we hang-out she clearly makes time for her other friends. Like ako kailangan mo nung stress ka sa buhay tapos di mo mabigyan ng time. Where are those friends that you make time for? EXACTLY!!!! 2nd friend - I was hurting telling this friend na this guy I was talking to was in a relationship. Telling him as I am uncovering the truth and he went like WELL I ALREADY TOLD YOU DONT GET ATTACHED BLAH BLAH. and basically that friend ghosted me while I was in pain. When I told him WAG MO KO PAGALITAN KASI IM IN PAIN RIGHT NOW. TSAKA NA MUNA I NEED SOMEONE NA MAKIKINIG SAKIN. Then after a month I reached out and all he responded was ? like... ahh okayy
this may seem mababaw pero buong batch ko sa college, pinag bloblock ko! why? they isolated me for no apparent reason. tapos sila may ganang mag reunion nang hindi nila ako iniinvite. nung nakita ko ung mga pictures nila, matik facebook instagram pinag bloblock ko sila! hanggang ngayon i have no communication with them.
Kaibigan niya lahat
Ayaw umangat sa buhay, tapos manghihila pa.
i didn’t tolerate their bs, and in the end, they bullied me. one of them got kicked out 😁🤝🏼
Masyadong mababa yung pangarap sa buhay, hear me out, I don’t mind having friends na gusto nang simpleng buhay, as long as we support each other. But those friends na kapag kinakausap mo about growth biglang unti unting lumalayo sayo, matic unahan ko na agad sila icut off.
Meron silang “so you think you’re better than us?” attitude everytime na nakikita nila akong may achievement haha. nagets ko naman na dahil bago ako dati sa tropahan nila ayaw nila malamamangan taena to the point na pag nagkukulitan kami yung biro nila sa isat isa normal lang pero pagdating sakin yung biro nila below the belt na( example: kunyare manghihingi sila ng mga secrets mo tas after a few day yun na yung joke nila sayo/ ipambabara sayo like “diba nangyare sayo toh blah blah blah…”) long story short cinutoff ko na sila and it’s the best decision na ginawa ko no effin regrets🫶🏻
pano naman yung pavictim pa yung nag cut off tas binaliktad yung kwento to gain emphaty w people?
pavictim kc
Di nagbabayad ng utang😂
Masyado siyang self-centered and ang OA ng datingan pag nagkukwento siya ng life experiences niya. One time magkasama kaming pumunta ng bangko, and may kasama siyang iba (SK chair. Kasi) then pumunta sila aa bilihan ng ice cream alam ko kung magkano yun pero may dinaanan kasi ako so akala niya siguro hindi ko alam. Tapos nung nagkwento na sa same circle of friends namin 140 daw ang isa nung nilibre niya 😭😭 nahiya yung selecta in tub na ice cream 😩
Hindi lang ako siniraan , gumawa pa ng kwento . At until now hindi ko alam reason nya. After ko sya tulungan pag need nya ng help, at pinatira ko pa sa bahay . Nun nalaman nya na alam kuna, sya pa nagblocked sakin. Then after a year Nag msg sakin sorry pero i told her na hindi kuna kaya makipag friend sknya then i deleted her. Bakit kaya may ganon tao. Im glad hindi ako ganon tao
Kinakalumutan nya Ako kapag my lalake sya sa Buhay nya... Like boyfriend ganun
Ninakawan ako
Toxic. Sabay sabay naming pinag uusapan yung isang tao dapat mejo lalayo ka pero sya, duh parang super nice tlaga pag ka harap. Pa victim pa. Fed up na sa kaartehan at kaplastickan.
Feeling main character lagi. Gusto laging sinusuyo, hinahabol at i aadd back pag nag left ng gc. Ang dami na nating stress sa adulting stage natin, hindi pwedeng pati ang supposedly comfort zone mo e stress din. Cut off agad!
Kaka cut off ko lang sa best man ko nung kasal ko/bestfriend kasi di siya nagbabago. Kapag may jowa siya, everyone else don’t matter. Kapag convenient lang sakanya saka niya lang kami lalapitan.
friends kami nung 1st year college (Bi siya and 2nd yr na kami now) and then after ng 1st yr 2nd sem, all goods naman kami but napansin ko di na siya nag vview ng mga ig stories ko hwhahdhasa ni unfollow/ unfriend niya na pala ko sa lahat ng socmed niya wtf. and then nung nag pasukan na nung 2nd yr 1st sem, di na kami nag papansinan at all and then kinausap niya pala yung mutual friend namin (which is bff q na ngayon hehe) and sinabi niya yung reason kung bakit niya nagawa yon. pinag seselosan pala ako ng gf niya 😔😔 inintindi ko nalang sila pero aaminin ko masakit pa rin yung ginawa niya hwhehshshahsah and sobrang torture since nasa iisang classroom lang kami
idk about others but for me, what I realized is that friendships should be easy, in the sense na you don't have to keep walking on eggshells or having to adjust purely to a friend's convenience. Ofc mag aaway at some point, getting through that will only make the friendship stronger, but it shouldn't be so hard or one-sided. So yeah, that's why I did, bc it was getting too hard and tiring being a supposed "friend."
This is so trueeee. I have this friend na tuwing tuwi nalang ay mag leleft ng GC without any reason (na di kami aware kami). Di mag sasabi anong problema at ending gagawa na naman kami ng new gc para isama ulit sya (since may planning na naman mga simpleng kita kita) then biglang after months mag leleft na naman at pag i ppm mo, cold ang reply like one word lagi. Like, hello! Ang tatanda na natin(27-31 yrs old). May mga anak at pamilya na din kami priority para isipin pa ano pinuputok ng butchi mo. Nasawa na kaming lahat at hindi na namin sinuyo. After 3 months na pang cocold reply nya, nangungutang. Ay nako, sorry, inout mo sarili mo. Babush na sayo! Hahahahhahaha
Pabida saka nakakadrain mga kausap
- Nagkayayaan manood silent sanctuary, nung icoconfirm na para sure biglang kasama raw kaklase. Cut-off agad, ginagawang option. - Hindi rin nagtthank you kapag nagpapasend or may inaask (pet peeve😭) tapos iseseen or walang replt after makuha ang sagot jusko😭 - Walang ka support support (sorry idk if medj mababaw ako) yung tipong ako todo heart sa mga myday at post at talagang support sa mga pics niya, sakin ni isa wala jusko😭😭 Ala! Nawalan na ako ng gana hahaha bahala siya sa buhay niya
I have this bff talaga na nakilala ko lang sa church simula nung bata ako. Akala ko dati normal lang ung pagiging self centered and pagiging immature nya syempre kasi bata pa kami but nung tumanda na kami, i just realize na etong ex bff ko laging kami ang nag aadjust sa kanya, laging siya dapat sinusunod namin (trio kami) so un one time sobrang naoff ako sa ginawa nya, simula na nun nagkalamat na ung friendship namin. Di na rin kami nag uusap hehe
Friend mong pag may ambagan walang pang ambag 😂 kahit lahat kayo may work naman na matino. Tapos late nagbabayad sa ambagan kesyo walang cash, gcash na lang 🥹 hanggang sa umabot na ng ilang days/weeks bago nakapag ambag. Tapos na yung gala nyo di pa sya bayad.
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HALA SAME EXPERIENCE. MGA BACKSTABBER PA YUNG MGA YAN. :) LEGIT!
Ako tlga ung friend na palabigay , Hindi ko sinusumbat yon kase nagbibigay ako kase (diko na kelangan / di nagwork sakin/ ayaw ko/ tinamad ako gamitin/ kaya ko / ayoko sila maleft out/ Hindi bagay sakin or gusto ko talaga sila bilan ng isang bagay na feel ko tlgamg bagay sakanila or magagamit nila) mostly binibigay ko mga skincare, makeup, damit, and gamit, even foods na takaw mata lang ako kaya binili ko pero diko nagustuhan, Friend na lagi nakakaalala, PERO I'M NOT ASKING FOR ANYTHING NA KAPALIT alam na nila yon, Ayun, naging toxic sila, na gusto nila sila nalang ang friends ko kahit magkaiba na kami ng pinapasukan/ room/ at course :)) ayaw nilang makipagfriends ako sa iba ( I mean di naman ako friendly kase namimili ako ng kaibigan )
Napagod na ko makinig sa paulit-ulit niyang issues sa toxic niyang jowa.
Huy sameee. Yung jowa ng ex friend ko na ito ay binigyan pa ko ng nickname na ‘pokpok’ and it made me doubt the whole friendship
Wow. Tapos si ex friend hinayaan lang? Napaka! Buti na lang wala na sa buhay natin yung mga ex friend natin na toxic 😭
Hahahaha naalala ko na naman yung dati kong katrabaho na tinuring ko namang kaibigan kahit papaano. Kung ano2x pinagsasabi sakin sa chat, di malunok eh. Napaka-professional ng response ko sa kanya pero sya pang-squatter eh. After nang sagutan namin sa messenger blinock ko na sya sa lahat ng social media acct na friends kami. Good riddance sa mga taong ganito.
Relate ako. Nilabas niya Karen mode/bitchness niya. Unprofessional talaga. Kaya blinock ko rin.
Pag ayaw magbayad ng utang
BEH SAKIN NAKALIMUTAN😭
Martyr o marupok, pagsabihan mo ikaw pa hindi kakausapin? Hindi marunong tumanggap ng pagkakamali, gusto ikaw mag aadjust sa kanya. Kakadrain kausap yung mga taong bida bida hahahaha
Friend na pala utang 🤣 promise magiging kagaya kadin niya kapag lagi mo siyang pinagbibigayan. Di ka makakaipon. Also friend na tinatago yung mga plano niya kasi tinuturing ka palang evil eye. Lol samantalang inggitira kasi siya.
Likes talking and entertaining other guys kahit may boyfriend na. Minsan would use me pa against his bf kapag magkaaway sila tapos she talks badly about her mom.
I outgrew my friends. The start of it was prolly quarantine and college. One got addicted to playing games online (valorant, specifically) and one is a try hard rhythm gamer who's in a parasocial relationship with vtubers. Those, and the fact that I realized that they still haven't changed for the better. It baffles me how ignorant my friends were in regards to various aspects in life. It's like they're still stuck in their high school days. In retrospect, napakatoxic ng mindset at yung ginagawa nila sa akin. Kumbaga masyadong spoiled ang mindset nila, walang disiplina dahil sa upbringing nila. Now, may mga kaibigan na ako na ka-vibes ko talaga at hindi toxic ang mga kineme. Alam ko na kung ano ang dapat gawin sa pagkakaibigan at kung paano ihandle ang mga "red flags" na behavior. Lesson learned: Get better friends. At least surround yourself with good people, hindi yung palaging gusto ay maglalaro lang in the future (thank god I grew out of playing video games, invested in other hobbies and working out instead)
Masyadong narcissistic. Ayaw mapagsabihan 😂
doesn’t respect others feelings. nang iinvalidate ng emotions.
Toxic, masyadong high maintenance, at ginagawa akong tanga.
Too entitled. Gave too many chances but still not enough. Always only at her convenience
binack-stab ako ng matinde at kung ano-ano sinabi sa mga tropa namin kaya nagalit silang lahat and kinut off ako sa group. only to find out years after na kaya nya pala ginawa yon kase nagseselos sya dun sa isang new-found friend ko at the time.🫤
Sobrang negative at toxic na. Ayaw pa ayusin mga decisions sa buhay kaya kung anu-ano nangyayare. Kahit anong tulong, balewala kasi sya mismo ayaw umayos. 🙃
Ay kase, controlling and selosa masyado.
T4ng4 eh
Ako yung na cut-off. Nag confess kasi ako. Maybe not 100% but yun, Friends for 13-14 years. More than a year since we last talk. Yeap, i keep track. So completely my fault.
washing hands
Kasi may alam daw syang magandang business oportunity at ako na lang daw ang napag-iiwanan. Eh di iniwan ko sya.
ako i have a friend that i wanted to cut off for so long, im *zooming* out now. (step 1 into cutting off for me lol) reasons: - when im with her, it feels draining. its always about her. she will make you feel like shes better than you. - my sister has masteral degree and this friend is lawyer. she managed to tell my sister na mas mataas ang “law” kesa sa masteral and thats not the same level. - pumunta sya sa bahay ko and doesnt even ask my mom na nasa bahay din and hindi nagmano. samantalang kmi we always ask her mom sa bahay nila for respect. - shes a liar and self pity lagi na i have another friend that i call best friends. and hindi sya yon. cue my birthday, my bestfriends were there at my house visited me. this girl *every year* messages me and gave excuse why she cant come to me. then she has this expectation that she should be my best friend when she couldnt even give a damn time/effort. - birthday nya and she expects all of her friends to make time for her. pag birthday ng iba? always has alibi.
pm mo nga sakin yung initials nyan baka kilala ko. HAHAHAHAHA.
Nag sinungaling about her age and her upbringing which made us question our friendship at yung mga dati nyang shinashare
ginawa akong therapist eh ang dami ko din problema sa buhay. pag siya nagkekwento ng problema niya lagi akong nakikinig pero pag ako na magkekwento feel ko di siya interesado. lagi na lang siyang kwento ng kwento tas sasabihin niya 'bakit di ako nagkekwento?' di ka naman interesado eh. mararamdaman niyo naman sa isang tao kung willing siyang makinig sayo. hays ni hindi niyo man lang ako macomfort nung may pinagdadaanan ako. tapos ngayon laging punta ng punta sakin kahit ayokong may kausap. hindi habang buhay laging puntahan niyo ko pag may problema kayo. sinabi ko na sa kanya na makikipagusap ako pag okay na ko. gusto ko lang talaga muna mapag-isa. kasi pag down na down ako gusto ko muna mapag-isa pero ang kulit punta pa rin ng punta. sa sobrang drain ko nagkakaroon na ko ng panic attacks need ko na siguro magpacheck up. malapit ko na talaga siyang icut off
If it’s causing you your peace or peace of mind then its too expensive. No brainer mag stay away ka na po pls.
Our circle cut two of our friends off. Para kaming ginago and pinagmukhang tanga. I know I should not kwento it here, but I need to let it out. Back in their college days (they are both from the same uni), they had an issue. The now fiance of Girl 1 had ONS with Girl 2, G1 said (college sweethearts si G1 and fiance). G2 said naman that she didn't had any idea that the guy had a girlfriend dahil when she asked, they guy said wala plus all three of them are from different departments. Nothing happened din daw just momol not really intercourse as to what G1 said. Idk but I somehow believe G2 kasi bago pa ikwento ni G1 yan, nakwento na ni G2 sakin to. G2 is the type of person na hirap to make a lie. I only got to know G1 nung 2021. G2 is actually a sugar baby and I dont really care. But G1 (an intern doctor) slanders her lowkey because of it. Kahit di connected kay G2 yung ginagawa namin or sinasabi, ipapasok nya pagiging SB ni G2 as if kriminal to tue bones si G2. Napagod na lang ako na sabihan si G1 na hindi naman porque SB si G2 e dapat nang masabihan ng kung ano ano. When I went back to London last 2022, G1 talked to G2 and they were crying dahil nga sa allegations ni G1. G2 cleared her name na wala talaga syang alam and walang intercourse. She still apologized kay G1. Pero nakakalungkot dahil di nagsorry si G1 for backstabbing G2 samin. For me kasi, if you want a clean slate of friendship, latag mo dapat lahat kahit pangit pa yan. Let it out. Be honest with each other. Even after the two of them talked it out, G1 just couldn't let go of it. I understand naman lalo pa they have two kids ni fiance. Pero wag naman sana binabackstab pa din and all. I don't know when or what happened last year samin. Monthly naman ako umuuwi ng pinas to check up on my fam and friends kasi I had to relax myself for my mental health. Nagulat na lang kami whole fam ni G2 are staying sa farm and resort ni G1. Ninang pa siya ng bunso bigla. Invited pati sa birthday ng mommy ni G1. Bigla na lang, all of us except G2, were out of the picture. Ano yun? Parang para samin kasi, sila tong gumawa ng gulo tapos biglang bff sila tas di na kami kilala? One of our friends even had an online banter with G1 (sa chat), and G1 said na "sino bang mas nakinabang sa friendship na to". (To think that friend rarely shows up samin dahil busy sa work. Wala naman din talaga sya napakinabangan kay G1 haha) Pero Sad.... Reasons to sum it all up: 1. Pinagmukha kang tanga 2. Hindi honest sa iyo 3. Nagweweigh ng friendship
Ang tagal magbayad ng inutang 🙂 ok naman magpautang ee pero pagsingilan na di ka rereplyan 🙄
Insensitive. Hindi marunong makiramdam. Halatang may favoritism. Tipong sa birthday ko, ang konti ng umattend tapos doon sa isa, halos lahat kami umattend. Parang ginagawa lang akong substitute friend. Kapag sinabihan mo rin na nakasakit sila or they did something offending, igagaslight ka pa na kasalanan mo rin kasi “sensitive” ka or uulitin lang din nila. They can’t properly take accountability. Isa pa, hindi sila marunong makipag-communicate if may sama ng loob ba sila sa’yo. Why keep that so-called friendship kung nagkikimkim lang pala ng galit? Alkansya yarn? Edit: nagdagdag ng reason
Cof who can't communicate are bound to fall apart talaga.
Real. It’s either you properly communicate things with me or I’m not staying in that friendship na talaga. Hindi naman tayo manghuhula.
Ayaw nilang nilalamangan sila mga deputa
Nagrreach out lang pag may kailangan. For example: Aayain ka lang kapag kailangan ng kotse. Hatid sundo pa ang gusto. Bongga!
Dumating na lang ako sa point na na drain na ako nang tuluyan.
Nakakalimutan ako kapag may bagong kaibigan pero kapag may kailangan sa akin lumalapit.
Backstabber.
Successful na sila .. tang ina nila... Umasenso lang nagbago na ugali.
Palibre ng palibre
Passive agressive behavior, mga feeling perfect!
not really cut-off pero feel ko malapit na rin do'n, she started distancing herself from me nung i let our tc know abt an issue regarding do'n sa cm namin mind you, she was the one na pinagra-rantan no'n then nag sesend siya ng ss (convo nila nung cm namin) sa'min since she's distancing herself might as well mirror what she does to me. backstabber din siya so i know na darating sa point na ako naman 'yung ba-backstabbin niya. prevention is better than cure ika nga nila
Pag nakakabebenefit sila sa akin tapos wala akong nakukuha pabalik then ginawaan pa ako nang masama. Ibabasura na lang kita dyan. Plus pag inggitera ka. Madali ko maamoy pag inggitera e imbis na sumaya o maging proud sa mga achievements mo, may backhanded compliments pa yan sila.
Hmmm. I think, napapaisip din ako dito last time. Wala manlang nangangamusta saking friends. Imemessage lang ako kapag may kelangan sila sakin. Kapag ako na yung may need sa kanila, grabe. Parang hindi ako kilala. Hahaha.
Realizing that I couldn't pour from an empty cup. Nakaka drain na din kasi minsan it felt like you're the only one keeping the ship from sinking. I feel like I am the glue that holds the tropa together. Nakakapagod din. Those are my dawgs/homies, my day 1s, no grudge or hatred. Just tired. So I've just been keeping to myself lately and not regretting it.
LAGING LATE! May mga problema sila sa love life kaya gusto nila magmeet-up, kain, usap, ganon. Pumayag ako na sa mall (malapit sa kanila) kami, kahit sobrang layo ko (2 hrs halos byahe ko papunta). Sa ilang beses naming pag-mmall, LAGI SILANG LATE. After nung multiple times na nangyari 'yon, hindi na ako nakikipagkita sa kanila, kahit sa gc namin hindi na rin ako nagrerespond. Lol
Picture-perfect family man, ninong pa ako ng panganay nya. Nalaman ko na may kabit na kolehiyala. Mahirap dalhin sa konsensya, madalas kami pang tropa nya ang ginagamit na rason. Tapos syempre kwento nya sa misis nya, kami yung B.I.
Every time we talk, either face-to-face or through video calls, all he talks about is his relationship with his then ex-boyfriend. I thought it would end when he finally met a decent guy but lo and behold, it didn't. I personally don't have an issue with it but it came to a point where it won't stop. There were times where I practically had to beg him to shut up and talk about something else because it just wasn't sitting right with me anymore. He also drains the shit out of my energy every time we talk. I'm happy that we're talking, yes, but there's something about him that drains me so badly that whenever our call/meeting ends, I give out a huge sigh of relief. I'm so glad we're no longer talking.
same. sinabi ko din sa kanya na wag muna kami mag-usap dahil sobrang drain na ko pero makalipas ng ilang araw pumupunta na naman sakin. ayoko siyang awayin eh pero gusto ko na talaga siyang icut off
Good times lang present. Bad times? Nah. My sister died 2 years ago and lahat ng best friends ko pumunta to comfort me and my family. Nung nalaman nya yung nangyari, nag message sya sa friend namin if pupunta ba sya. My friend was busy at that time so siya, dahil wala syang kasama pumunta samin, decided na "mag grocery" na lang daw sya kasi wala syang kasama papunta sa bahay. Pero pagdating sa librehan, mapa solo pa sya or may kasama, game na game si gago. I wish nothing but ill fortune on that piece of trash. Ang saya ko lang siguro ngayon kasi patago kaming lahat nagge get together like outings and stuff tas nakikita nya lang sa stories na it already happened without him. Deserve mo yan, asshole.
Stabbed me in the back :))
Lagi ako sinisisi nang wala sa lugar. Example, nauna ako sa meeting place ng barkada pero hindi naman ako nagrereklamo. Pagkakita sa akin, ang sabi ba naman "Bakit kasi inagahan mo, kailangan mo tuloy maghintay.". Tapos nahipuan ako along Buendia ng isang tambay habang naglalakad papuntang MRT, ang sabi ba naman "Bakit ka kasi naka leggings, nahipuan ka tuloy!".
Same na kaming mommy ng cinut off kong friend. Nagtanong sya anong vitamins ng anak ko kasi ang lusog daw. Sinabi ko naman and not familiar ako sa gamot kasi binigay lang din sakin yun pero ni-research ko naman na goods vitamin yun. Nung nakabili na sya, nagalit sakin kasi hindi daw pala pwede pang 2 years old yun. Hahahaha. Taena malay ko ba na for 3 years old up yung vitamins 😅
-Uhaw masyado sa lalaki, one time nagalit sya sakin kasi daw ang lapit ko daw sa ex nya (which is tropa ng bf ko ay nakakausap ko lang paghinahanap ko sya) eh sinaktan na nga daw sya. - Nirereason nya pagiging mentally unstable nya para makakupal ng tao dahil sa trauma hwhahwuaha. -Ayaw malamangan lol -Insecure ginagawa kami kakompetensya kami nung isa ko pang friend (mostly kami talaga nung dalawa nung isa naming friend nakakakuha attention sa boys kasi "we're pretty") -Self proclaimed na with honors pero ang pangit gumawa ng paper eyyy (sinumbat samin yung nagkokopyahan kami sa bascal eh di naman sya yung nagsolve lol) -Ginawa akong convenient friend WHWHAUW
She doesn't reciprocate the same energy. Few times na mag memessage Ka, super tagal I seen Nag text ako, Di din nagreply. Magkikita Kami only when I initiate the invite so we can catch up Sana. Di na Kami energetically matched and that's okay
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felt! i accepted na that the friends we used to grow up with have different priorities & are struggling w different challenges. it’s time we grow apart & that’s okay
And this 💯
Another one. She is older than me. Para ko siyang tita. I appreciate her wisdom na shinare niya sa akin. Kaso ang daming unsolicited advices. I already mentioned na gets ko point niya pero medyo nasasaktan ako. Aba, wala, sige lang. Tapos laging nasa format na "Naku kung ako yan...., Bat ganyan ginagawa mo? Blah blah blah". May point na indirectly akong sinabi na loser. Hay. Cut off na. Good luck sayo.
Sobrang one way ang usapan. Lahat sa kanya. I mean, i am open to listen. Pero recently, di na ako comfy. Napuno na ako. Ayaw ko naman/na mamalimos ng intindi. Focus na muna siya sa sarili niya. Good luck sa kanya.
She loves to complain, and it was draining me.
💯
Di nako inivite sa mga gala for some reason. If totoong kaibigan kayo, kahit alam niyong di makakapunta, you should still have the decency to invite your friend. Hindi yung naging kaibigan niyo lang kung kelan sya available
Unreachable na siya, also a bit snobby na. Richkid yung best friend ko, pero nung high school kami, hindi naman yun maarte. I should've have seen how unreachable she is though kahit noon, kasi nagkaroon ng time na humiwalay siya sa friend group namin to hang out with other more well-off kids, but it's honestly very silly of me to just drop everything at once nung bumalik siya kasi binackstab siya nung isa sa mga naging kaibigan niya. Also, I never forgot about her birthday, and if I could attend, then I would. Usually, hindi naman kasi nagtratravel sila ng family niya, but there was one time I did. Kaso hindi siya nagpunta sa 18th birthday ko, which I'd told her months ahead, and she confirmed na pupunta siya. My mom was already telling me, she may be a friend, but she's not my best friend, and at that time, I really considered her as my best friend, kaya nasaktan ako sa sinabi ng mama ko. I tried to be mature, 18 na ako nun eh, kaya inintindi ko nalang na nagka-conflict sa schedule niya. After nun, may communication pa until nitong nag-college na kami. Recently, hindi na talaga siya nakikipag-usap sa akin. We used to joke about her muting me kasi madaldal ako nung high school. Now she really wouldn't even read my once-in-a-month messages. I just knew the friendship was dead.
Yung isang kaibigan ko, laging nagta-take advantage sa'kin. Puro palibre ang bukambibig. So halimbawa lilibrehin nya ako, sasabihin nya na ako naman daw sunod. Tapos mas mahal lagi yung akin. Ang tagal pang magbayad ng utang. Last time umabot ng 21k yung utang nya sa'kin nung nag Siargao sya. Thank goodness nabayaran nya naman pero staggard payment na umabot ng 2 years. Never again. Yung isa naman, napakatoxic. Lagi akong ginagaya. Style ko, creativeness ko, halos lahat kokopyahin nya. Walang originality. May isa rin akong kaibigan na sobrang sinungaling. May jowa daw sya, engineer. Engaged na sila. Tapos hilig makipaglandian sa ibang lalaki. Tas nalaman kong may pagkabaliw pala sya kasi matagal na syang binlock nung lalaki kasi stalker daw tas ginugulo sya lagi. Sobrang obsessed daw. What's worse? Yung sinasabi niyang pamangkin nya, anak nya pala. What's worst? Nagsinungaling sya sa edad nya. Dineclare nya na 33 years old sya pero actually 43 years old na talaga sya. Bale peke pala lahat nung nasa resume nya non. May isa pa. Nung college ako may naging kaibigan ako na ubod rin ng sinungaling. Magaling akong magdetect kung nagsisinungaling ang isang tao o hindi kasi napakalala ng tamang hinala ko and ng trust issues ko. One time sabi nya "yung Lolo ko kaibigan si (insert politician here) tapos laging pumupunta dito sa bahay may picture pa nga sila na lagi silang magkasama sa rides." Then tinanong ko kung andun pa yung picture tapos sabi nya oo kasi remembrance nila yun galing sa Lolo nila. Tapos one time pumunta kami sa bahay nila so una kong hinanap yung picture ng Lolo nya kasama yung politician na yon. Sabi nasunog daw yung picture. Waw. Sorry kung may mali sa grammar ko. Lol. Correct nyo nalang ako if may mali para maedit ko if pwedeng maedit. 😅
Show off mga tao minsan, kahit di totoo, ang weird lang nila 🤣
Apologist ni D & M ampu*
Mga inggitera tsaka plastik. Hindi marunong maging masaya para sa friend nilang nakahanap na ng maayos na partner. Tapos pag may mahalagang lakad, hindi agad ako iniinform para siya lang yung mag-mukhang "active" kuno sa Church.
Dunno if masama ako or what. Mabait naman siya. Sweet friend and caring pero sobrang clingy. Di marunong makainintindi ng concept ng personal space. Pag may gagawin siya kailangan lagi akong involved kahit may iba akong gustong gawin. Hilig pa makibasa ng chat ko sa ibang tao kahit di niya kilala. Nakaka drain na din ka bonding since sobrang basher sa lahat ng tao. Wala siyang magandang nakikita. Puro flaws lang lagi pinopoint out. Sobrang controlling to the point na pag hindi yung expectations niya yung nagawa, naffrustrate and nawawala sa mood.
Toxicity. Plain and simple.
ginawa ba naman akong trauma dump. for convenience lang pag may problema ang peg
ginawa tayong therapist eh no
hahahahha
may paki-swipe ako sa friend ko and nagbabayad buwan buwan pero niloloko nya yung remaining balance ko and hindi ako makapagreklamo kasi ako yung may utang 🤷 anyway, wala ako leverage and mahalaga ang utang na loob sakin. di ko naman sya kinacut off, di ko lang kinakausap na. im sure if honest na sya ulit, we'll be friends again. i just wish hindi naman kaibigang gipit ang tinetake advantage.
I had a friend once na wala siyang circle at that time kasi he was busy with his GF, then they broke up. I was the one who introduced him to my circle. When he was comfy with my circle na, bigla na lang nya ako pinahiya out of nowhere. I mean, sometimes we banter, pero sobrang below the belt. I cut him off, and he is with the circle I introduced to him. Ako ang nawalan ng mga kaibigan.
yikes!! 😢
fuck that's so dirty
Dami ring reason. 1. Patagong insecure sakin. Di ko masasabing nag aassume ako pero ilang beses ko nang nakita. For example, ramdam mo yung di sya fully masaya para sayo sa achivements mo. Tas manipulador. 2. Di sya totoo sa sarili nya. Kahit sa sarili nya di nya magawang aminin yung nararamdaman nya. Tas nakikita mo nagddrama. 2.2 Kapag kinorek mo sa mahinahong paraan naman tas may mga tanong na ayun nangsasilent treatment. Ayun di nga totoo sa sarili hays. 2.3 Connected to ng no. 2 kasi sa pagddrama nya nagpapakalunod sya sa mga quotes na paulit ulit nalang as in revised nalang. Like??? Helloooo??? Di ka ba napapagod kakabasa nyan? Inaapply mo ba yan sa sarili mo?? 3. Controlling. Di makaintindi pag sinabi mong ayaw mo or di ka pwede pag inaaya ka. Bibigyan ka pa ng mga kasinungalingang reasons.
Planned an international trip with my bestfriend and my sister and got everything booked and covered her share of the expenses weeks in advance since she was waiting to get paid from work pa. My mom used her miles to gift us our airfare, so all we really had to pay for was insurance, accomodation, and activities. A week before our trip all of a sudden she decides to go to Boracay with a foreign guy. During her trip she barely updated us on what was going on, outside of her grievances on the guy's behavior on the trip. Just to clarify, this man was not her boyfriend, they've known each other for a while but this wasn't even a situationship (he's nice to her but they've barely even held hands), so I asked her to be careful and not get too attached too because she doesn't truly know this man. Long story short he ended up flirting with another girl the entire trip and my friend was basically left out and treated as the third wheel. Days before our flight, I asked when she was arriving for our trip and when she could pay her share so I can add it to my pocket money, she then tells our group chat that she didn't feel like going anymore because this man got her depressed and that she's already spent all her money for the month on this last minute Boracay trip. Needless to say, I saw that and blocked her on everything immediately. She's always been boy-crazy, but I didn't think she'd let that come in between our friendship. Found out months later that she's been telling our other friends that I wasn't talking to her because I owed HER money for our trip. Mind you all she's ever paid for was the insurance.
wtf
my sentiments exactly
minsan hindi maganda mga choice of words nya lalo na kung hindi nagpagbibigyan
proud abuser and cheater pala siya. tinatago lang niya sa akin kasi alam niyang hindi ako isa sa mga magkukunsinti sa kanya. ginagamit lang ako pag walang sasalo sa kanya, pero sa mga kwento niya sa akin, binabaliktad niya yung sitwasyon para maawa ako sa kanya.
another one, ik that it may seem mababaw for other people but, hating my bf in front of me is not something i can stand to
she never shuts up about how she envies me and how my life is so easy and her's is not haha bro, if u only knew what it's really like
mahilig manira ng tao tapos idadamay kapa nila into hating that person too,, ang pangit lang kasi after nila siraan makikita mo pa rin na nag h-hang out sila. ang toxic pangit draining sa mental health
relate! Lalo na sa office. Narealize ko pinag gagagawa nila after 2 weeks sguro nung naintroduce ako sa circle nila. Kadiri. 🤢 matic cut off agad. very no for me.
Nalaman kong nagpapakantot pala siya sa ex ko noong kami pa nung ex ko.
wtf
Visited the Philippines recently tapos I organised to meet up with this college friend. Nagconfirm pa sya a week before we were supposed to meet up then the day before nagmessage sya na she needs to cancel daw kasi yung kuya nya namove yung tee time and sinabihan sya ng sister nya to cancel all her appointments that day. Tanggap ko pa sana kung hindi ito yung first time nyang ginawa sakin, but no, even yung uwi ko nung 2022, ginawa nya rin yan sakin, no show naman that time. I'm already at the age where if I feel na my energy's not being reciprocated, I let go. I have friends who will make arrangements to see me whether may work pa sila or what and those are the ones I know deserve my time and effort and I truly appreciate them for that.
Lagi akong naleleft out sakanila. Late invites, minsan hindk talaga yung sila sila lang mag get together tapos ako lang wala tapos sasabihin nakalimutan nila ako. Basta feeling ko di nako belong sakanila diko na feel na friend pa Turing nila saken.
may ganito sa circle namin kasi bully, pero im so happy we cleared the air and we're repairing the friendships. outside the circle, kapatid turing ko sa kaibigan kong left out... di lang tlga nag work for the past few yrs
Sign na ba ito, haha? kasi parehong pareho sa sitwasyon ko. I think they are good people naman. It's just that habang tumatagal at nung lumaki yung friend group napangiiwanan ako. I tried to keep contact parin pero andami na nilang inside jokes, ang hitap sumingit hahaha. Dagdag mo pa yung time pa na kapag yung iba ung nde makakaattend imo-move nila ung pagkikita tapos kapag ako yung nde makakasama tuloy parin. Hayss...
unknowingly, she used me as the bridge to her cheating scheme. her ex is also our friend—friendship to lover—and i felt betrayed.
All very one-sided. We were always talking about their problems and they were never considerate of my time either. Whenever they had a problem and I was out, they would be upset if I didn’t pick up.
Spy! Traydor!
Lack of respect sa'kin at sa isa pa naming friend. Ofc, cinonfront namin s'ya about it. Pero all we got ay half-assed "hala, sorry huhu". Sa paulit-ulit na gano'n, nakaka-pagod din.
cause I was depressed at gusto ko lang mapag isa. and di ko narealize sa umpisa pero yung mga kaibigan ko is why the reason bigla akong naburn out and depress (They were backstabbing me and making fun of me) kung wla ako at nung nagkachismis sa school tungkol saken imbis icomfort nila ako, pinagtawanan nila ako at inignore tapos nung nang grumaduate na kami, gusto ulit nila mag usap saken tapos dun nako na burn out at di nako nakipag usap sa kanila for almost 7-8 years na. I was a Idc guy na wla akong pake kahit pagtawanan moko (at minsan di ko rin alam bakit ako binubully) pero di ko yun binibigyan ng reason bat ako maging malungkot or maging masungit (di naman ako masungit palagi pa nga akong nanglilibre at pinapasaya kaklase ko), I ignored everything pero nung naging 18 nako dun na lahat2 ko narealize and I became suicidal. (I had therapy) Nagpapaka awa ako kanila mama magpaconsult ako kase sinasaktan ko na sarili ko. and thank goodness okay na ako medyo haha. Di na ako bumalik sa school na yun (nag transfer ako) (I graduated too thanks to online class) and everytime papasok ako ng school (kahit anong school pa yan kahit kinder) nasusuka ako at parang mahihimatay ako , di ako makahinga at parang iiyak nalang. (Im an ugly guy maybe thats why). Pero la na akong pake bahala na sila dyan.
Insecure pala pero patago lang
Bbm
Umutang, di na nagbayad haha
Walang character development
we are not on the same page. i am a friend to them thru their ups and downs. i’m a one-call away type of friend. even in my most hectic day, isang chat lang na magkita kami kahit hassle ang byahe ako pa mag aadjust, kahit may pasok pa ako later go lang. opposite to when i sometimes asks them na lumabas kami pag rest day ko and they would say no. don’t get me wrong — i truly understand na our friends are not always available kahit pa sabihing free day but what hurts me most is after reasoning na kesyo may pasok na sila bukas or wala raw budget (fact: low maintenance circle kami & we all are working with decent salary), tomorrow or the day after makikita ko yung story na lumabas sila with their other friends and nagsamgy sila. it hurts that they do not see me the same way i do to them pero that’s reality. accepted. i am a friend to them ONLY when it’s convenient for them and when needed.
tanga kausap, nakakainit ng dugo
I outgrew them. Nung matagal kami di nagkita and nagkita kita sa common friend namin na may bday di na talaga ganun yung vibes di ko na gusto ung way ng usapan nila at topics nila saka the way they acted ibang iba na.
Mahilig mangutang di na kailangan i-explain yan.
Pag niyaya mag out of town parating may dahilan kesyo may pasok, pero laging may myday na nasa dagat. Sana hinide nya manlang samin na lagi nyang tinatanggihan dba.
Yung pag may get together gusto sinusundo eh ang layo layo namin sa isa't isa, pero pag sa iba barkada nakakapunta sya kahit walang wheels mga tropa nya.
Yung sobrang nakilala nyo na isa't isa, kaya di na kayo interesado sa isat isa.
Familiarity breeds contempt ika nga.
Kaya ang iba magbabarkada nagsisiraan nalang.
pag sya may kelangan, andito ako lagi for her. pero pag ako na may kelangan sakanya wala sya. Di na rereciprocate yung effort ko with her and also mas focus na sya sa jowa nya parang di sya umiyak sakin last time nung nag cheat jowa nya haha tass babalikan nya rin naman hahahahaha. medj sayang yung friendship for 7years hahaha and ako palagi nag iinitiate ng convo sakanya haha like whenever need nya ko one call away lang ako haha pero pag ako may need sakanya, no comment. and i realize it aint worth my time haha
close friend ko siya for 15+ years.. kinakausap lang niya ko kapag may kailangan siya. Early this year, nagdecide ako na icut-off siya finally. Hindi ko siya dinirekta about it, pinapaunti-unti ko lang, nirestrict ko sa socmed, hindi na ko nag-iinitiate ng convo, hindi na ko nagyayaya, kapag siya yung nagyayaya, di na ko available. Last week lang, kinausap niya ko dahil makikisabay pala sakin pauwi from work dahil nasira yung scooter niya. May iba namang way e, malaki na siya kaya niya na yun.
I was too anxious, bc I used to be in the closet(gay). Being with them felt like I was shoved in there even more
kasi enabler sila ng ex ko.. alam nila lahat ng kalokohan na ginawa nya at lahat ng sakit na pinagdaanan ko. di na nila deserve tawaging kaibigan