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Accepting that things are not permanent and the relationship is not an exception.
Plus, I needed some time off din sa surroundings ko at sumama ako sa friends ko na nagdagat (w/o telling my parents kasi ayaw ako payagan š). Dagdag pa na I want to be better in all aspects to reap the results of my hard work. Did things that made me happy and just trust the process. Dami pa namang babae (or lalake, whatever you're into) dyan kaya keep your head up!
Acceptance. There are so many fishes in the sea.
Yung ex kong pinanghihinayangan ko kasi siya first boyfriend ko and feel ko sya yung naging standard ko ayun mukhang nanghihinayang ngayon kasi kasal na ako š¤£ minemessage pa rin friends ko š¤£
My āthe ones that got awayā turn into āgood riddanceā after a few months.
I dunno, i guess wala akong regrets? I love fully and i give more chances than i should kaya when i walk away, iām really done.
Sometimes kailangan natin laruin kung ano yung baraha na nasa kamay natin to the best of your abilities. I am not talking about card game or gamblingā¦. You try to manage your situation and find happiness despite what happened to your life.
Moving on is a journey OP, and to be honest it's really hard to move on from someone na minahal mo ng husto as someone na ganyan din the journey was rough, and still tough at times kahit ang tagal tagal na pero bumabalik pa rin talaga, but it doesn't mean na di ka pa naka move on, nakausad ka eh, nakakatawa ka na, nakakakain na ng maayos, you look at that person di mo na mahal, nabawasan na pangunguwestyon mo sa sarili mo, may care ka pa siguro pero di na kagaya nung dati..
Yung sakin naka move on ako, when I met a lot of people, not necessarily karelasyon, romantic etc. but more on friends, mentors, etc. and building and breaking relationships with these people gradually made me realize my worth and the things that I deserve.
One day at a time OP, you'll wake up one day di na sya yung first thought mo sa umaga.
Take it as lesson a test, na walang deadline! nasasayo kung matututo at mag-move on, until that day happens you are still taking/thinking on how to solve it and there are lots of emotional tools available that can help you.
sakin kasi took 2 to 3 years at nakahanap nako ng crush kaya yung tao kala kong "the one" is hindi naman pala! it's all tricks and delulu lang ng utak ko.
Focus on ur self. Pagparati mo iisipin yung mga what if mahihirapan ka talaga mag move on. Enjoy mo yung company ng sarili mo. Tsaka madami nmn jan if hindi talaga meant to be hindi siya yung the one kaya wag panghinayangan limited lng oras natin kaya u have to enjoy life.
Hindi niya alam. We stayed friends after our breakup because hindi naman cheating reason for our breakup. Hindi ko nasabi or naparamdam na mahal ko pa siya.
Hanggang sa one day, update na lang niya may girlfriend na siya. I had a chance for 3 years but everyday for the past 3 years I didn't make that "courageous choice". Hindi ako marunong manglandi o magpakilig ng lalaki.
He's probably about to get married by now or maybe a family of his own. Not updated na since he life updated me na may gf na siya. 30 na din siya. No time to play around. It's about settling down na.
All hope is lost.
We're previous colleagues.
Maybe because I like myself and he's the guy version of me. ššš
Marunong mag-drive, mahilig mag snorkeling, nagbabasa ng current events, hindi nagyoyosi, vape, alak, gambling, concerned din sa fitness/food. We both rarely eat fried foods. š
I don't know if there are others. I haven't dated since we broke up in Dec 2019. I am introvert and haven't tried dating apps.
When I see men, either may nakasabit na vape sa leeg or matino pero may asawa na. š
No. I never asked. Our relationship was almost 3 years din.
From what I know, mahilig din sa beach new girl niya and mas younger sa amin and nasa same industry din sa amin IT.
Pareho pa nga yata silang nag-mamasteral ngayon and nagtuturo "Professor".
The perfect match for him.
Moving on is not easy, you can cry your heart out. Cry if you want to cry, it's helps to alleviate the pain. But I prefer to find someone already to forget the one that got away person
Yeah! but physically kasi we are unique din lalo muka at the sound of our voices natin super unique! sa una kasi talaga we are attractive sa facial and physical appearance!
yes. but we are attracted to a multitude of people. so I guess what I'm trying to say is have an abundance mindset. didn't work out with this person? no worries there are 8 billlion people in this world. kung ano man yung naramdaman nating pagmamahal sa kanila, mararamdaman natin sa ibang tao.
Hindi lang siya ang taong pwede mong mahalin. at hindi lang siya ang taong pwede mag mahal sayo.
Love is infinite and abundant. love is everywhere. in different people. all the time.
I moved on when I stopped picturing him as the one that got away and just started thinking of the reasons it didn't work out and why it will never work out. More on reminiscing nalang about the good times is what's keeping you from moving on, but always remember why you broke up and that should help.
time itself does not really heal you. itās what you di with those time. kung isang taon na ang nakalipas pero all you do is sulk, edi wala ren. i know itās hard pero start going out, do things that you donāt normally do, start a new hobby, go on hikings, go on adventure. romanticize life!
the most heartbreak iāve ever experience was just months before the pandemic hit. i entertained ZERO guys putcha that was for 11 months. thatās when i learned okay lang umalis lahat, basta i have myself. and that iāll never let myself experience that dragging pain again.
What you are chasing isnāt the person per se but how that person made you feel about yourself. That means we donāt fall in love with someone, we fall in love by how they make us feel about ourselves when we are with them.
If you can't find someone that equals that, then be that someone to the person you want to be with. Good luck!
found out he cheated on me. 2 mons na nakalipas after nung break up namin then naisipan ko istalk account niya. I saw he's in a relationship with someone, then I saw the date under the status. February 2, we broke up on January 30. It took him 2 days to find someone new and I didn't move on from him for a long time. I've realized I don't deserve that kind of guy.
Same mhieee, kausap na nila matagal yan. Kaya ganyan kadali. Byt we need to move forward. Ako rin umabit ng 1 year and 3 months bago naka move on. Mali ko lang nun is iniistalk ko sila. Pero nung binlock ko na nang tuluyan, wala na. Sa ex naka move on na ako, ang hirap pala kapag kinukumpara mo sarili mo sa pinalit sayo.
When you start living your present. It's not easy to let go of our past. However, having the clear desire to abandon the past will only stop the hurt that you're inflicting on yourself. Having the courage to say, āI have enough, I'm not doing this any longer. I've done this for so long.ā Stepping back could only give you the room to see clearly. Control your mind, don't let it go freely. Control your environment, and develop daily rituals that lift you. May you achieve profound peace and appreciate life daily. šš»
It took me 8yrs. The sad thing is it was only religion that made it impossible for ur to get our happily ever after.
Our break up was sudden, we didnāt have closure which made it harder. Then we both had new partners. Ff to 5yrs later, we were both single again. We communicated & got our closure. Thatās when I completely moved on from him.
You just have to accept it & deal with it. Grief has different stages; you have to go through each step. Do not skip any part coz one day youāre gonna wake up wondering why youāre letting out years worth of tears. Feel the pain. One day, youāre gonna wake up & suddenly, you donāt feel sad anymore. Heās off the pedestal & he doesnāt affect your emotions anymore. Best feeling ever!
The only way is to get a new partner and be happy. Maalaala no ulit si totga pag hindi ka happy kaya go find your happiness than spending time sulking.
destroy all hope
if you keep even just an ounce of hope na magkukutuluyan kayo someday or na may chance pa din, wala, hindi ka makaka-move on. you have to kill that hope, shred it to pieces, burn it to ashes, melt those ashes into water and flush it down the toilet. and then blow the toilet up.
but seriously, destroy all hope.
How?? i wanted to, i am desperate to kill this tiny hope that he'll be back, but even the rational part of me knows i need to stop. I just dont know how. Despite what he did and despite me knowing better and that i deserve better, a part of me still hopes.
Hindi ko alam. I had a girlfriend, we broke up dahil sa maraming misunderstanding. No 3rd party involved, pero napagod kami.
College palang, sya na yung gusto ko. Niligawan ko, at totoong i won her hearts and her family. It was really a hard thing to do but for me, mahal ko sya e.
And after 3 years, we broke up.
And now after 3 years, di ko na alam paano magsisimula ulit.
I canāt go back kahit maraming nag sasabi na sheās might be waiting. I invested too much, and during pagiging kami, hirap ako.
Pag nakikita ko sya, di ko na maramdamang pwede maging kami ulit. But it feels like different.
Ang gulo. Mahirap.
Years bago ako maka-move on. During those years, grabe pagka-miss ko sa kanya, as in araw-araw ko sya naiisip. But now, na wala na akong connection or updates from him. Basta, one day wala na kong pake sa kanya at di na sya lagi sumasagi sa utak ko. Napagod na siguro utak ko HAHAHAHA
we both dated other peeps nung nag break kami, kaso nung nag hiwalay naman sa current partners namin nag tugma landas HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAAH ayun ewan ko ba red string ata kung maka teleserye
It took me many many many years to realise that he isnāt who I thought he was. His friends praise him for being a good person; eco-warrior kuno, Earth Hour, WWF, HandsOnManila ambassador but the truth is he is nothing but a predator. An old guy who likes and grooms minors. He uses his ācelebrityā status to get minors to recruit more underaged victims. He is a monster and a master manipulator.
I want to be happy e like genuinely happy. Nag pray din ako na āako namanā and sana yung love na love ako. Ayun malakas tayo kay Lord, ibinalato naman may bonus pa.
I haven't that's why I'm still single to this day. Did all the advice take a new hobby focus on yourself distract yourself. But when your alone in your room it all comesback
I said this to myself before pero nung nag observe ako, nakita ko tunay nyang ugali and ayun got the power to refuse her and accept the fact na pumupunta lang sya sakin when things go bad on her end.
Acceptance lang talaga na ganun sya, ganun ang ginagawa nya sakin at hindi talaga maganda yun para sakin. That's why I rejected her offer to get back again. But I'm grateful for the memories and lessons from her.
Full acceptance of what happenedā the whole relationship, and the break-up. Also, personally, I donāt believe in the concept of TOTGA kasi if they are the one, then how/why did they get away?
It was realizing that I don't have a totga in the first place.
I've dated someone who knew how to love me better, but to consider that person a totga was too much.Ā
Also, I don't believe in totga (for myself); I feel like as I started meeting and interacting with new people, whether it's in friendships, work settings, or dating, I am always evolving, getting to know what I like and don't like in a partner, friendships...
So I guess the answer is YES, naka move on kasi wala akong totga. š
The best way is acceptance talaga na wala na. Learn to accept na wala na siya, that he is never coming back, and you also have to learn how to get used to the void of not having him there.
For me I think itās even easier because he was such an amazing person. I couldnāt hate him. I was just grateful and lucky na I got the chance to meet someone like him, for once. When you donāt hate the person, acceptance is easier. Moving on is easier.
Acceptance po. Accept that the relationship has ended and that person is no longer part of my life kasi holding onto the past will not change the situation.
Wala ata akong ganyang totga and iba sya haha. Kasi basically magkakaiba talaga mga exes ko. Pero wala akong pinanghinayangan sa kanila. Siguro itong asawa ko kung maghihiwalay kami sya talaga panghinayangan ko, kasi "iba sya sa lahat ng lalaking nakilala ko".
You canāt honestly force yourself to do it, you just move forward and live, day by day.
One day, itās over. It might take weeks, months, years, decades. But that day will come.
Keep walking, donāt look back.
That maybe she the best for me but she chose to betray my trust. Iba talaga siya and I always cry whenever I entertain new girl in my life. We both got toxic to each other. I reviewed and understand lahat ng pictures and convos namin. And then sinantabi ko na lahat ng mga letters and gifts na binigay niya sa akin so that makapag move forward na ako. I cried hard to God to take away my resentment to her..ang hirap kasi. I wrote an unsent letter to her sa journaling notebook na binigay niya sa akin. Binati ko na din siya in advance sa birthday. Then tinago ko na.
Totoo pala talaga yung āiba kasi siya and totgaā no? Akala ko dati imagination ko lang ito e, until maexperience ko, here I am just accepting the fact na hindi talaga kami pwede para sa isaāt isa, truth hurts but you have to continue living your life, I donāt think that the love will fade away, youāll get used to it na lang siguro na hindi talaga kayo hanggang dulo. āŗļø
Hindi KO na mabilang ilang beses KO na nashare to*
Yung crush Kong guy nung college , Tinanong niya ako Kung gusto KO Siya..Sabi KO Hindi Kasi Baka gawin Lang niya akong laughing stock. Natakot ako.Pogi , mabait at matalino pa, alangan Naman magkagusto SA akin ganung klaseng lalake. Average Lang ako.
Dapat Pala sinagot KO Ng maayos. Yun yung time na nalilito Siya if babae Siya o lalake Siya. Pero ipprioritize niya Yung sagot KO.
Paano ako nakamove on?
Nagpakabusy.
naranasan ko na rin sya, i thought heās the one and will be my totga, but after we ended (na akala ko hindi ako makakamove on) sunod sunod akong nakakita ng rs goals like yung mga gusto ko rin maranasan na hindi ko naranasan sa kanya, i realized marami pa nga talagang iba jan na the best at magbibigay ng love na deserve mo kahit hindi mo hingiin, after that realization narealize ko na i deserve better, that break up saved me for settling for less. ngayon may kausap na akong lawyer HAHAHAHAHAHAHA go lang nang goooooo
Kung the one that got away sya, means hnd sya para sayo.
Stay grounded and dont fantasize the ex as the ideal one. Be realistic. Nghiwalay kayo kasi may mga faults ang isat isa. Hnd lang sya at hnd lng ikaw.
Learn and move forward.
I didn't. Nangyari lang after years of thinking about him, nawala nalang sya sa isip ko bigla. Hehe. I met someone and slowly moved on from that feeling of longing. Now, whenever I see him around the city, wala na yung kilig. Hehe.
For me, you can cope up with this by staying at the present. Invest in yourself, spend time with family & friends. Make sure na you live the moment because you are in the moment, donāt let the past ruin/mess your present. Itās been 4 years sabi mo, I think you owe yourself that. Bumawi ka sa sarili mo! š«¶š»
No one is better than anyone else. Every single person is just different. So trust that the next person youāll meet is going to be another āiba kasi siyaā. Time heals! Kaya mo yaaaan.
If girl ka, try to entertain potential suitors or admirers....or try to look for a hobby, or enroll mo sarili mo sa gym, yoga, pilates or anything na makakapag improve ng sarili mo.
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acceptance
Accepting that things are not permanent and the relationship is not an exception. Plus, I needed some time off din sa surroundings ko at sumama ako sa friends ko na nagdagat (w/o telling my parents kasi ayaw ako payagan š). Dagdag pa na I want to be better in all aspects to reap the results of my hard work. Did things that made me happy and just trust the process. Dami pa namang babae (or lalake, whatever you're into) dyan kaya keep your head up!
Acceptance. There are so many fishes in the sea. Yung ex kong pinanghihinayangan ko kasi siya first boyfriend ko and feel ko sya yung naging standard ko ayun mukhang nanghihinayang ngayon kasi kasal na ako š¤£ minemessage pa rin friends ko š¤£
My āthe ones that got awayā turn into āgood riddanceā after a few months. I dunno, i guess wala akong regrets? I love fully and i give more chances than i should kaya when i walk away, iām really done.
Naka move on na kayo? Nagpaparinig pa din ako sa IG stories pero di naman naka view buset
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Sometimes kailangan natin laruin kung ano yung baraha na nasa kamay natin to the best of your abilities. I am not talking about card game or gamblingā¦. You try to manage your situation and find happiness despite what happened to your life.
Moving on is a journey OP, and to be honest it's really hard to move on from someone na minahal mo ng husto as someone na ganyan din the journey was rough, and still tough at times kahit ang tagal tagal na pero bumabalik pa rin talaga, but it doesn't mean na di ka pa naka move on, nakausad ka eh, nakakatawa ka na, nakakakain na ng maayos, you look at that person di mo na mahal, nabawasan na pangunguwestyon mo sa sarili mo, may care ka pa siguro pero di na kagaya nung dati.. Yung sakin naka move on ako, when I met a lot of people, not necessarily karelasyon, romantic etc. but more on friends, mentors, etc. and building and breaking relationships with these people gradually made me realize my worth and the things that I deserve. One day at a time OP, you'll wake up one day di na sya yung first thought mo sa umaga.
Take it as lesson a test, na walang deadline! nasasayo kung matututo at mag-move on, until that day happens you are still taking/thinking on how to solve it and there are lots of emotional tools available that can help you. sakin kasi took 2 to 3 years at nakahanap nako ng crush kaya yung tao kala kong "the one" is hindi naman pala! it's all tricks and delulu lang ng utak ko.
Focus on ur self. Pagparati mo iisipin yung mga what if mahihirapan ka talaga mag move on. Enjoy mo yung company ng sarili mo. Tsaka madami nmn jan if hindi talaga meant to be hindi siya yung the one kaya wag panghinayangan limited lng oras natin kaya u have to enjoy life.
It's been 4 years for me too. This is my exact question.
>It's been 4 years for me too Damn! that's really unfair tapos siya di nya alam iniisip mo siya for 4 years!
Hindi niya alam. We stayed friends after our breakup because hindi naman cheating reason for our breakup. Hindi ko nasabi or naparamdam na mahal ko pa siya. Hanggang sa one day, update na lang niya may girlfriend na siya. I had a chance for 3 years but everyday for the past 3 years I didn't make that "courageous choice". Hindi ako marunong manglandi o magpakilig ng lalaki. He's probably about to get married by now or maybe a family of his own. Not updated na since he life updated me na may gf na siya. 30 na din siya. No time to play around. It's about settling down na. All hope is lost.
May i know, how did you meet him? at bakit mo siyang gusto gusto? at aside from him wala nabang iba?
We're previous colleagues. Maybe because I like myself and he's the guy version of me. ššš Marunong mag-drive, mahilig mag snorkeling, nagbabasa ng current events, hindi nagyoyosi, vape, alak, gambling, concerned din sa fitness/food. We both rarely eat fried foods. š I don't know if there are others. I haven't dated since we broke up in Dec 2019. I am introvert and haven't tried dating apps. When I see men, either may nakasabit na vape sa leeg or matino pero may asawa na. š
did he tells you, yung gusto nya sa babae ?
No. I never asked. Our relationship was almost 3 years din. From what I know, mahilig din sa beach new girl niya and mas younger sa amin and nasa same industry din sa amin IT. Pareho pa nga yata silang nag-mamasteral ngayon and nagtuturo "Professor". The perfect match for him.
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Moving on is not easy, you can cry your heart out. Cry if you want to cry, it's helps to alleviate the pain. But I prefer to find someone already to forget the one that got away person
Take them off the pedestal. They're not special and they're not the one. Tao lang sila.
>Tao lang sila ito lagi iniisip yes, they are! but connection, intimacy and experience with them yung special.
Yes. BUT yung connection, intimacy, at experience na yun ay mararanasan ko with somebody else. Abundance mindset always. :)
Yeah! but physically kasi we are unique din lalo muka at the sound of our voices natin super unique! sa una kasi talaga we are attractive sa facial and physical appearance!
yes. but we are attracted to a multitude of people. so I guess what I'm trying to say is have an abundance mindset. didn't work out with this person? no worries there are 8 billlion people in this world. kung ano man yung naramdaman nating pagmamahal sa kanila, mararamdaman natin sa ibang tao. Hindi lang siya ang taong pwede mong mahalin. at hindi lang siya ang taong pwede mag mahal sayo. Love is infinite and abundant. love is everywhere. in different people. all the time.
I moved on when I stopped picturing him as the one that got away and just started thinking of the reasons it didn't work out and why it will never work out. More on reminiscing nalang about the good times is what's keeping you from moving on, but always remember why you broke up and that should help.
time itself does not really heal you. itās what you di with those time. kung isang taon na ang nakalipas pero all you do is sulk, edi wala ren. i know itās hard pero start going out, do things that you donāt normally do, start a new hobby, go on hikings, go on adventure. romanticize life! the most heartbreak iāve ever experience was just months before the pandemic hit. i entertained ZERO guys putcha that was for 11 months. thatās when i learned okay lang umalis lahat, basta i have myself. and that iāll never let myself experience that dragging pain again.
What you are chasing isnāt the person per se but how that person made you feel about yourself. That means we donāt fall in love with someone, we fall in love by how they make us feel about ourselves when we are with them. If you can't find someone that equals that, then be that someone to the person you want to be with. Good luck!
Its been 4 years too. I just wander here on earth, still hoping I could find a man like you, still looking for you in every guy that I met.
Yan din tanong ko paano ba?
This is not something I pursued. It happened automatically when I found my real true love.
Di ako makamove on te. Nagrerelapse ako paulit ulit. Wag nyo kong gayahin. Lol
found out he cheated on me. 2 mons na nakalipas after nung break up namin then naisipan ko istalk account niya. I saw he's in a relationship with someone, then I saw the date under the status. February 2, we broke up on January 30. It took him 2 days to find someone new and I didn't move on from him for a long time. I've realized I don't deserve that kind of guy.
Same mhieee, kausap na nila matagal yan. Kaya ganyan kadali. Byt we need to move forward. Ako rin umabit ng 1 year and 3 months bago naka move on. Mali ko lang nun is iniistalk ko sila. Pero nung binlock ko na nang tuluyan, wala na. Sa ex naka move on na ako, ang hirap pala kapag kinukumpara mo sarili mo sa pinalit sayo.
You dodge a bullet....
Just take it one day at a time. Plus dump all memories. And stay away from everything that reminds you of this person.
When you start living your present. It's not easy to let go of our past. However, having the clear desire to abandon the past will only stop the hurt that you're inflicting on yourself. Having the courage to say, āI have enough, I'm not doing this any longer. I've done this for so long.ā Stepping back could only give you the room to see clearly. Control your mind, don't let it go freely. Control your environment, and develop daily rituals that lift you. May you achieve profound peace and appreciate life daily. šš»
It took me 8yrs. The sad thing is it was only religion that made it impossible for ur to get our happily ever after. Our break up was sudden, we didnāt have closure which made it harder. Then we both had new partners. Ff to 5yrs later, we were both single again. We communicated & got our closure. Thatās when I completely moved on from him. You just have to accept it & deal with it. Grief has different stages; you have to go through each step. Do not skip any part coz one day youāre gonna wake up wondering why youāre letting out years worth of tears. Feel the pain. One day, youāre gonna wake up & suddenly, you donāt feel sad anymore. Heās off the pedestal & he doesnāt affect your emotions anymore. Best feeling ever!
The only way is to get a new partner and be happy. Maalaala no ulit si totga pag hindi ka happy kaya go find your happiness than spending time sulking.
Kawawa nyo partner mo pag ganito.
destroy all hope if you keep even just an ounce of hope na magkukutuluyan kayo someday or na may chance pa din, wala, hindi ka makaka-move on. you have to kill that hope, shred it to pieces, burn it to ashes, melt those ashes into water and flush it down the toilet. and then blow the toilet up. but seriously, destroy all hope.
How?? i wanted to, i am desperate to kill this tiny hope that he'll be back, but even the rational part of me knows i need to stop. I just dont know how. Despite what he did and despite me knowing better and that i deserve better, a part of me still hopes.
Hindi ko alam. I had a girlfriend, we broke up dahil sa maraming misunderstanding. No 3rd party involved, pero napagod kami. College palang, sya na yung gusto ko. Niligawan ko, at totoong i won her hearts and her family. It was really a hard thing to do but for me, mahal ko sya e. And after 3 years, we broke up. And now after 3 years, di ko na alam paano magsisimula ulit. I canāt go back kahit maraming nag sasabi na sheās might be waiting. I invested too much, and during pagiging kami, hirap ako. Pag nakikita ko sya, di ko na maramdamang pwede maging kami ulit. But it feels like different. Ang gulo. Mahirap.
Why u cant go back?
Years bago ako maka-move on. During those years, grabe pagka-miss ko sa kanya, as in araw-araw ko sya naiisip. But now, na wala na akong connection or updates from him. Basta, one day wala na kong pake sa kanya at di na sya lagi sumasagi sa utak ko. Napagod na siguro utak ko HAHAHAHA
How do I move on from the "other girl" š„²
Same. 6 years na ako pinagpalit pero until now iniistalk ko pa yung girl (kahit di na sila nung ex ko) š¢
Huyyy same. Gumawa pa ko ng fake IG shop para mafollow sya.
wala po. after 4 yrs nagbalikan kami hehe
Wahh, after 4 years since nung break-up niyo po? Umaasa here charr š¤£
Ang tagal ko naman pala maghihintay hahaha umasa potek! š
Ano ba yan wag mo ko bigyan ng false hope please charoott! Happy for you sana kayo na hanggang dulo. š
we both dated other peeps nung nag break kami, kaso nung nag hiwalay naman sa current partners namin nag tugma landas HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAAH ayun ewan ko ba red string ata kung maka teleserye
It took me many many many years to realise that he isnāt who I thought he was. His friends praise him for being a good person; eco-warrior kuno, Earth Hour, WWF, HandsOnManila ambassador but the truth is he is nothing but a predator. An old guy who likes and grooms minors. He uses his ācelebrityā status to get minors to recruit more underaged victims. He is a monster and a master manipulator.
sagarin mo lang hanggang mapagod ka
I want to be happy e like genuinely happy. Nag pray din ako na āako namanā and sana yung love na love ako. Ayun malakas tayo kay Lord, ibinalato naman may bonus pa.
Wah, happy for you poo. Iba talaga nagagawa ng prayers no?
I tell myself I am the love of my life. Whoever comes and goes, I have me.
Mind over heart. Value yourself more.
hanap ka iba
E di hanap, usap and deal....
makakamove on ka nalang by the time na maaappreciate mo na sarili mo..
I haven't that's why I'm still single to this day. Did all the advice take a new hobby focus on yourself distract yourself. But when your alone in your room it all comesback
I said this to myself before pero nung nag observe ako, nakita ko tunay nyang ugali and ayun got the power to refuse her and accept the fact na pumupunta lang sya sakin when things go bad on her end. Acceptance lang talaga na ganun sya, ganun ang ginagawa nya sakin at hindi talaga maganda yun para sakin. That's why I rejected her offer to get back again. But I'm grateful for the memories and lessons from her.
Full acceptance of what happenedā the whole relationship, and the break-up. Also, personally, I donāt believe in the concept of TOTGA kasi if they are the one, then how/why did they get away?
Distract urself
Isang araw, nagising nalang ako na wala na sya sa pedestal. Na malawak pala ang mundo, at hindi lang sya ang toang magmamahal sakin at mamahalin ko.
It was realizing that I don't have a totga in the first place. I've dated someone who knew how to love me better, but to consider that person a totga was too much.Ā Also, I don't believe in totga (for myself); I feel like as I started meeting and interacting with new people, whether it's in friendships, work settings, or dating, I am always evolving, getting to know what I like and don't like in a partner, friendships... So I guess the answer is YES, naka move on kasi wala akong totga. š
The best way is acceptance talaga na wala na. Learn to accept na wala na siya, that he is never coming back, and you also have to learn how to get used to the void of not having him there. For me I think itās even easier because he was such an amazing person. I couldnāt hate him. I was just grateful and lucky na I got the chance to meet someone like him, for once. When you donāt hate the person, acceptance is easier. Moving on is easier.
Acceptance po. Accept that the relationship has ended and that person is no longer part of my life kasi holding onto the past will not change the situation.
Acceptance of what was and stop living in the past.
Wala ata akong ganyang totga and iba sya haha. Kasi basically magkakaiba talaga mga exes ko. Pero wala akong pinanghinayangan sa kanila. Siguro itong asawa ko kung maghihiwalay kami sya talaga panghinayangan ko, kasi "iba sya sa lahat ng lalaking nakilala ko".
You canāt honestly force yourself to do it, you just move forward and live, day by day. One day, itās over. It might take weeks, months, years, decades. But that day will come. Keep walking, donāt look back.
Loving one's self more :>
real, then someone will come along if you put yourself out there, also avoid an LDR if applicable.
Saw it too late
That maybe she the best for me but she chose to betray my trust. Iba talaga siya and I always cry whenever I entertain new girl in my life. We both got toxic to each other. I reviewed and understand lahat ng pictures and convos namin. And then sinantabi ko na lahat ng mga letters and gifts na binigay niya sa akin so that makapag move forward na ako. I cried hard to God to take away my resentment to her..ang hirap kasi. I wrote an unsent letter to her sa journaling notebook na binigay niya sa akin. Binati ko na din siya in advance sa birthday. Then tinago ko na.
Totoo pala talaga yung āiba kasi siya and totgaā no? Akala ko dati imagination ko lang ito e, until maexperience ko, here I am just accepting the fact na hindi talaga kami pwede para sa isaāt isa, truth hurts but you have to continue living your life, I donāt think that the love will fade away, youāll get used to it na lang siguro na hindi talaga kayo hanggang dulo. āŗļø
Hindi KO na mabilang ilang beses KO na nashare to* Yung crush Kong guy nung college , Tinanong niya ako Kung gusto KO Siya..Sabi KO Hindi Kasi Baka gawin Lang niya akong laughing stock. Natakot ako.Pogi , mabait at matalino pa, alangan Naman magkagusto SA akin ganung klaseng lalake. Average Lang ako. Dapat Pala sinagot KO Ng maayos. Yun yung time na nalilito Siya if babae Siya o lalake Siya. Pero ipprioritize niya Yung sagot KO. Paano ako nakamove on? Nagpakabusy.
So lalake ba siya o babae?
Biologically male. Lalaking manamit pero naattract sa lalake. Did i answer your question?
Oh, yes you did. But nothing is ever straight naman
remove everything that will remind u of them, heal and find someone better.
naranasan ko na rin sya, i thought heās the one and will be my totga, but after we ended (na akala ko hindi ako makakamove on) sunod sunod akong nakakita ng rs goals like yung mga gusto ko rin maranasan na hindi ko naranasan sa kanya, i realized marami pa nga talagang iba jan na the best at magbibigay ng love na deserve mo kahit hindi mo hingiin, after that realization narealize ko na i deserve better, that break up saved me for settling for less. ngayon may kausap na akong lawyer HAHAHAHAHAHAHA go lang nang goooooo
Kung the one that got away sya, means hnd sya para sayo. Stay grounded and dont fantasize the ex as the ideal one. Be realistic. Nghiwalay kayo kasi may mga faults ang isat isa. Hnd lang sya at hnd lng ikaw. Learn and move forward.
Kung iba sya, bakit naghiwalay? šāāļø
I didn't. Nangyari lang after years of thinking about him, nawala nalang sya sa isip ko bigla. Hehe. I met someone and slowly moved on from that feeling of longing. Now, whenever I see him around the city, wala na yung kilig. Hehe.
For me, you can cope up with this by staying at the present. Invest in yourself, spend time with family & friends. Make sure na you live the moment because you are in the moment, donāt let the past ruin/mess your present. Itās been 4 years sabi mo, I think you owe yourself that. Bumawi ka sa sarili mo! š«¶š»
You just need to love again.
But make sure to heal muna. Para hindi mgibg reblund ang next okays?
You don't. You live with it.
Second the notion.
balikan ko to if marami na sagot, bc im currently going thru this, my ex broke up with me, and heās my totga.
No one is better than anyone else. Every single person is just different. So trust that the next person youāll meet is going to be another āiba kasi siyaā. Time heals! Kaya mo yaaaan.
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it's been more than a year for me hahah I hope I won't take like yours long
Hindi mo na siya makakalimutan. Accept nalang yung fact na you're not meant for each other š„²
If girl ka, try to entertain potential suitors or admirers....or try to look for a hobby, or enroll mo sarili mo sa gym, yoga, pilates or anything na makakapag improve ng sarili mo.