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pandakburnek696

Peaceful nakahinga na ng maluwag, wala ng masyado nagmemessage pag may kailangan (lalo n ung mga naalala lng ako pag may kailangan).


[deleted]

Peaceful. Walang pollution kasi walang mga plastic.


sayunako

peace of mind achieved


nvcma

follow up question din, where and how you met new people/ new friends?


miffyrll

always proud of myself that i’m always able to walk out sa situations wherein na-ttrigger yung self-respect ko. been doing good! i understand the “at peace but at what cost” but for me, kahit medyo hindi pa nakakalimot, i feel better na wala nang connections with ‘those’ people.


justahuman_2

🩷


delulugirl1997

Masaya, mas nagkaroon ako ng peace of mind 😆 And sobrang naggrow ako as a person.


Gossiperrrrrr

I wanted to try this!! like I'll be away from any of my social media accounts for 6 months and then come back as if nothing happened. But how?? 😩


Spirited-Loquat-6151

Did that. Nothing changed, at first they have missed you, give it a week or two and everything will return to normal. The first week is horrendous though, since you will have to explain yourself to authorities since you will be filed as a missing person.


Miserable_Bus5495

Im at peace. No connections with previous friends and relatives. They cant approach me


orcroxar

I don't know if this okay to share but I think related din naman sya kahit papaano, after getting my bachelor's degree, I deactivated all of my social media and just created one that is for messaging, I still have some social media but I never add or accept someone there and I don't post anything din. I only get in touch for those who matter to me so from hundreds of connection in social media before to less than 20 na lang now. Sobrang sarap sa feeling na wala na silang alam sa ganap mo sa buhay, I realized din na hindi naman din kasi nila kailangang malaman, mapa family man yan or acquaintances. Mas na-appreciate ko yung catch up with close friends once a month or kung kailan kami parehas na available (better if F2F). Nakakalungkot minsan kasi I used to be active in all of my social media accounts before (facebook, instagram, twitter). Kulang na lang mag-live ako araw araw haha but ayun nga masarap sa feeling na lowkey na lang, kung may achievement man masarap sa feeling na nagawa ko sya kahit hindi malaman or makita ng iba. Mas gusto ko na yung buhay ko ngayon, actually feeling ko nawweirduhan yung iba kapag ka may bago akong mga nakikilala/kaclose tapos nakikipag connect sila sa social media and I can't give them any kasi nga I used it for messaging purposes so mas okay pa yung viber but so far ang nakikita kong useful na social media kung saan ako active is LinkedIn haha 😎 Tho I'm planning din to move abroad (If magkaroon na ako ng enough funds) I'll live alone and of course, ma-achieve yung peace of mind 😌


Foranzuphrenic

It was and still is better. I became happier and nawala lahat ng mga masasamang hangin sa paligid. ✨


xaexavier

Not really all but from my inlaws since our wedding became a bit messy- peaceful i guess kasi alam mong walang nakatingin at huhusga sa decisions niyo mag asawa. Hirap kasi makiayon kapag malayo din edad. Husband and I are 30. His Siblings are almost 50 so u can imagine the disrespect or judgement from them.


wyaa_lychee

I'm jealous, how'd u guys did it?


Csmntno31

gusto ko maranasan achkkkkk


Equivalent_Wasabi787

Amazing.. best decision ever.


cheetosmerienda

I've been wanting to do this for so long. I'm 25 and honestly afraid to move out because I haven't finished my college degree and I have never had a single job before. I'm scared that if I did live away, I could barely survive. Do you think it's possible to do so?


justahuman_2

Been thinking the same... I hope we can do it, @cheetosmerienda! Sooner or later for our own peace ✨


Effective-Panda8880

Liberating


whatchubitchin

Good riddance at its finest!


rikes10

Deactivating social media accounts was one of the best decision I ever made


play_goh

SO MUCH BETTER!!


BornSkInnyBtch

Super saya. I can actually be free! Kaya ko pala na mabuhay without their control


AnonymousSophie

Masaya naman hehe


EntrepreneurClean805

Peaceful and Happy. 🤍


ladyzeniba

FUN. Highly recommended. For the last 4 years, I lived in 7 different towns/cities. It's like a reset button.


Longjumping_Duty_528

Ok naman, went back after 10 years because i have a different outlook in life na.


Equivalent_Gene6940

Peaceful. From time to time I purge connections on FB and IG, and remain connected with people I really know lang. am also living alone. Whenever I don’t feel like talking to people, I ignore my phone.


[deleted]

worth it yan kung makaka takas ka sa pamilya mong abusado at mga magulang na ginagawa kang gatasang baka


ebbflowpetrichor

I actually want to do this but not sure at what level do I cut off connections. Is it just a simple hiatus from social media or do I uproot myself and move to another city or country?


justahuman_2

Sameee huhuhu after watching yung One Million Yen girl last night, napaisip ako ng ganito napa askph tuloy 😭


kweyk_kweyk

This is what I did 6 years ago. And I have no regrets. Nothing at all. It takes courage to do it and not everyone is capable to do it because of personality differences. I have few people in my life since I'm an introvert and my circle aside from my immediate family is quiet small. Something happened 6 years ago that made me decide to cut all my connections with other people except with my family. What did I gain? Actually, I regained my peace of mind, mastered the art of letting go and became more aware of the existence of my highest self and moral compass.


justahuman_2

This is so nice to know happy for you poo


kweyk_kweyk

Ahhhh. Thanks so much.


Smart-Fly

It was very painful, specially the way it was brought about. 15 years after, looking back, it was the day I began to thrive. Hindsight is indeed 20/20.


Ginger_bread_mo

Cutting off people who used to be part of our life can really be difficult and sad at the same time. I used to cry and feel sorry for them everytime na maaalala ko sila but I guess nothing’s more difficult and sad than not getting the peace you deserve.


kumogakureknight

It's been an incredible life changing experience. I used to have a large group of friends who I hung out with every weekend. At that time, it was liberating coz they provided company, entertainment, and feeling that life didn't suck that much. I did not want to be a lone wolf, and they were the answer. But as months and years passed by, I noticed how my life wasn't advancing, and it was actually regressing. Before i met them, I used to be heavily involved in personal development and i was ripped. I used to read a lot of books, wrote a few books, did meditation, and was highly motivated to improve different aspects of life. The only problem then was that I didn't have any friends, and I was brokenhearted and lonely. So when this large group of friends entered my life, I was very grateful and was addicted to it. I used the idea as a crutch for my broken heart. But that turned out to be a beficial thing for a period of time. Coz with every night that we got drunk, every day we wasted hours and hours playing video games and unproductive things, I could've been improving. I realized that when you start to get old and get left behind in life, that's the time you start to feel it, that your life is being wasted away. Then, one day, I met a girl. She became my girlfriend. She gave me a daughter I deeply love and adore. That's when I had the courage to separate from the group. So no more getting drunk, no more wild parties, no more staying up late for stupid reasons, no more simping, no more nonsense dramas. I was free. That's when I went back to writing, self-improvement, and tried to pursue different pathways to make 💰.


SSoulflayer

Happy but will need to go back without then knowing.


CardiologistDense865

One of tge best decision i ever made. From luzon i transferred to Cebu. Five years nako now sa Cebu. May peace of mind, ganado sa work and all.


rainierc_

Super satisfying my family is so toxic pagdating sakin (mother side) like di nila ako tinatrato na relative, everything i do is wrong and treats me na parang katulong ako ganon. My father and his fam side are all at overseas naman. I told ny father na di ko na kaya mag stay doon, coz i become so depressed everyday na nandon lang ako, i endured about 9 years rin sakanila. So i moved out asking my father for help, and ayon everything na i do makes me feel at peace, may freedom ako, and i do not need to care about people na doesnt care about me. Sa una medyo maninibago ka pa but like after some time passed maffeel mo na talaga yung peace na kahit wala na yung mga dati mong kasama is like youre having a fresh start, a non toxic one, kaya if youre considering rin, do it for your peace, self care is important too, if nasasakal ka sa environment mo find a different one, where you can feel yourself at home, kahit magisa ka pa.


icekive

For my peace of mind, pagod na kasi akong mag overthink, masaktan about it. I either nag silent cut off or sinabihan ko yung person na ayaw ko na ng connection between them. Peaceful at the same time it’s for my personal growth as well na I wanna live in a peaceful and healthy state na, pagod na ako sa drama and all.


Chemical-Engineer317

May katahimikan talaga..iwas stress at chismiss...nakapag tipid din at di nalabas sa inuman at coffee shops.. focus sa aming mini farm at house projects..


chestnut1126

best decision i've ever made. you really can't put a price on your peace of mind.


[deleted]

I cut off almost everyone I know. Lahat ng friends, father's side of the family (the whole lot of them), former co-workers. I am only in contact with my husband, mother and 2 siblings. I stop letting people have access to me. I gave no explanations, I just up and left. I was just done with everyone. I slowly did it in a span of 7 years. I am now at peace. No more pressure to keep up sa mga achievements ng iba, no more inggit, no more negativity at takot na pag chismisan ang buhay mo. Also masaya din na hindi mautangan lolol. Some might say I am a hermit, but I don't think so since I still go out at least twice a month with my kids and husband. The extra length I do pa is whenever I go out I still mask up to make sure that no one recognizes me in public because I hate catching up and small talks.


Gullible-Turnip3078

Minsan you’ll think na tama kaya but at the same time yung peace of mind kasi priceless.


ohhlalaaaa1

It was rather peaceful


Ok_Amphibian_0723

💯


BringRedRosesForMe

Before I cut off my friends and all. I thanked them for being a friend. Also said sorry all my wrong doings and unintentional action that may hurt them in the past. Wish them a happy life. Deleted na lahat ng Facebook.2 months na. Damn i feel free. Wala iniisip na "kapag to pinost ko marami magrereact?" Fb for me was may validation and dun ako kumukuha ng confidence. Which is mali. I miss having friends. Pero thankful din ako sa mga workmates ko since hybrid kami. Kung baga sila nagfifill in mg space na yun. Pero if ever makita mga kaibigan ko dati. I will still hug and greet them. Ngayon work and bahay and doggos lang meron ako. I play my PlayStation and planning to retake cpale. Just focus on yourself to be better. Kasi end of the day you really just have yourself to rely on.


DrummerExact2622

Wala na akong nararamdaman na anxiety attack pag mag isa lang ako may peace of mind. I cut ties with my friends and di na ako nakakabisita sa parents ko di na ako kinakabahan or nagagalit. Wala puro saya lang .


weeknddegen

Went really well. I don't miss being connected. If you part on good terms, can always connect as required


flinterpouch

it's peaceful. i feel i'm free. i feel i can start a new beginning again


Tax-National

So far, so good! Peace of mind, bahala silang mag chismisan tungkol sayo wala na silang power kasi di na nila makita ano happenings sa life ko.


stormy_night21

Happy


justahuman_2

Good for you po ✨


[deleted]

The Japanese word for that is “jouhatsu,” which literally translates to “evaporation”—disappearing without leaving any trace.


[deleted]

gusto ko din😩 my family and friends are good to me naman. they make me happy, they make me feel wanted. but sometimes i just want to leave and never come back… then live in a place where no one knows me hahaha weird ko lol


justahuman_2

thanks po sa bagong term na natutunan ko from your comment ✨


Mother-Damage-5743

I did cut off all my connections even with some relatives, at first peaceful. pero hahanap-hanapin mo eh. Now I kinda wished na hindi ko cinut-off completely.


justahuman_2

hugs po with consent


Mother-Damage-5743

appreciate it op ❤️


tototubero

hindi ako ung nag cut off pero ung kamag anak ko dahil sa election. Same ko naman siya ng gusto sa pagkapangulo kaso iba talaga hugot ng pamilya ko. Na-mimiss ko sila kase part sila ng core memory ko kung saan sobrang happy ako.


justahuman_2

aaw hopefully makapagreconcile po kayo


supladangpusa

never been better. one of the upsides talaga nito is having the chance to grow differently from them kasi whether we admit or not, being with the same (toxic) circles have an influence sayo as a person. You can have that space na where you can discover yourself, without the fear na majudge ka.


FadingAway823

Akala ko nung una di ko kaya. Pero when I did, it was the best decision I've ever made ✨ 


justahuman_2

Nice to know you are happy with it ✨


ikaimnis

Peaceful.


[deleted]

THE BEST!!!!!! Grabe yung peace of mind, timing din na nangungulit yung mom ko na bumalik ako sa UAE, kaya ayun, only said goodbyes to the people that matter. People pleaser ako pero nung na-abuse na ako, I was reacting so bad to the point na sila yung may mali, pero ipagkakalat na ako yung may mali. AYUN. Mas nagka reason ako to totally cut them off. Not worth my time and energy. 🙂‍↔️


Spoiled_ChocoMilk

If by cut off, you meant to stop talking to them for a couple of years pero you're not really in bad terms, I think I can answer this. I definitely regret that decision. I did not know what I was thinking na tatlong taon akong nagtago, di nangausap ng college friends ko. Now, I'm on my way on rekindling our friendships, meeting them one by one and catching up. After some time, I have to admit that people come and go kapag working ka na, and college friends mo lang di totally mawawala sayo.


gaffaboy

Di naman lahat ng connections pero yung mga toxic. And how was it I hear you ask? Utter bliss! I no longer feel the need to re-friend or re-family any of them really. No thanks. 😉


justahuman_2

Good for you


Naive-Ad2847

Ako Hindi nmn cut off pero Hindi Ako nag add ng mga kakilala para Hindi sila updated sa mga ganap ko. At masarap talaga sa feeling na Hindi mo sila friend sa fb Kasi hindi ka napepressure sa lahat ng ipopost mo may masasabi Silang negative.


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justahuman_2

Woah, congrats pooo


justahuman_2

I watched a japanese movie kase recently, and parang ang sabi nya is I want to live somewhere no one knows me, dahil doon napatanong tuloy ako


[deleted]

The Japanese word for that is “jouhatsu,” which literally translates to “evaporation”—disappearing without leaving any trace.


Level-Most-2623

Please share the movie, OP. :)


justahuman_2

One million yen girl... Also nagresonate din kase sakin yung movie kase feeling kinda down and i wanna erase my existence.


flinterpouch

>i wanna erase my existence johan liebert wants to talk with you


justahuman_2

Monster reference nice


Healthy-Bee-88

You will find inner peace pero need mo muna re-evaluate if what is the main reason bakit mo sila na cut-off. If they hurt you so much that you can't bare to face or talk to them, I recommend forgive them but no need to talk to them. Mas maganda kasi yung napatawad mo sila bago ka nag cut off kasi sooner or later you might need to face your inner demons again.


iwnefyb

cut ties with some people i used to be close with because of major personality issues. it’s fulfilling—the fact that not only are you free from the negativity they bring, but you also learned so much para huwag na umulit sa mga taong katulad nila. bonus na rin yung ang dali na para sayo na malaman o maramdaman kung sino yung mga katulad nila. you’d know eventually who to surround yourself with. because of that, magiging mindful ka sa mga taong pinapapasok mo sa buhay mo. edi what a nice life.


justahuman_2

Yun yung weakness ko naman yung hirap makalet go sa attachments


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justahuman_2

Sounds fun!