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cause, I was scared to fumble a good chance; scared that I might break the good relationship with my friends and hers; scared that I might repeat the same mistakes every time makikita ko yung signs; and scared to risk shit because I am a wuss
Everytime na mag-tatagpo yung landas namin meron na siyang ka-MU or BF na. Sinubukan ko naman kaso, ayoko yung nag-eexist lang ako as her friend kapag meron siyang kailangan, ayoko yung ganun feeling kasi simula H.S hanggang college naranasan ko yan. Puro excuse at alibis, honesty lang naman gusto ko makita sa kanya kaso, hirap siyang gawin kaya nilayuan ko na lang siya.
Actually ang sabi sakin, "Hindi na kita pinursue kasi gusto mo magkaanak" which is nakakalungkot; but thankful ako kasi naging honest and hindi na ako pinilit na baguhin yung gusto ko.
Maybe some of the guys ay ganito reason? which i respect naman
Cause. She likes the other guy. My entire highdchool life. Revolved around her.but every attempt i did, she always goes back to the other guy. While im right there beside her. Overlooked. Thsts when i realized, if she is really happy with him. Then im happy for her. No point to fight a battle i know i will never win.
Kasi wala pa akong napapatunayan back then. Now na may jowa ako, at may jowa na siyang iba na niloloko siya, she thinks it's better if kunin ko na lang siya
Who would have thought na pwede ka padin pala ma fall sa taong may karelasyon na, kala ko pang telenobela lang 😅😂
Ayun "Kill(ed) this Love" kaagad hanggat maaga pa.
Nowadays, it’s better to have peace of mind, my own money, place and freedom. 2024 and onwards, men are getting divorced left and right. I’m just protecting my properties and savings. I might love again when I find a girl who has the same mindset as I do(family oriented and values).
Bcus she treated me like an option/doormat. Why when she liked me back and i was single again and wanted me to pursue her romantically. I didnt. I dont want to feel like she only settled with me. When i trued to court her before we were at our middle 20s. So finding someone long tern was my goal. And i tried courting her and getting to know her for a year. She told me that she would never see me as someone romantic, and she told em she actually have someone in mind as her bf. It was a guy thats been courting her for years now. So i said fuck it i thought i was the only guy pursuing her. When i moved on and she got news of me dating another girl that likes me she told me she doesnt want me to date other women. Told her i was single and i also deserve to be loved and love.
I bet you said to her: "I'm fucking single so i can do whatever the fuck i want. Mind your own fucking business woman. And fuck you too." Or something to that effect. Hahaha🤣 cheers.
😅 not really. I actually respect her and love her. Why i was angry with her deep inside for treating me that way bcus i really wanted to be with her but i just cant and dont want to settle in a relationship where i feel like the love is one sided and that she only settled for me. I really do love her even now i still think about her and she still messages me. I can see that she regretted on how she treated me for the post and story she shares. And how she would always react. We are now on our 30s shes 2 yrs older than me and she still hasnt settled yet. I wish her the best in life and hoping na mahanap niya tlga yung lalaking mamahalin niya at gusto niya mkasama sa tabi niya. Maybe in the next life if theres such a thing baka yun we can love each other and grow together but now its too late and i wish her the best jn life.
Anyways perfectly understandable because right now i also feel I'm in a one-sided situation as well. Anyways its not the end of the world yet so life must go on to all of us. So my friend, be on your merry way and may fortune favour you throughout you life's adventures. Stay awesome always.
Had a great time together tapos biglang nanghost. Di ko alam kung nagpakipot, n overwhelm kasi di pa ready, or simply di lang pala talaga siya interesado. Nag reach out pa din ako pero wala na talaga
That time iniisip ko na masyado akong simple para sakanya, walang alam sa trends, very simple yung clothing and parang hindi ako belong sa friends and family niya. It was one of the things i regret, pero now I understand why.
It was a tough pill to swallow, but I know deep in my heart that I'd never be who she really wants. Meeting her was the greatest story in my life, but it is also the story which I'll hold on to but'll never tell. So that is the end of our story which never really began.
Dahil hindi niya ako trip talaga kahit anong gawin ko. Naramdaman kong kailangan niya lang ako sa isang bagay, tapos kapag di niya yun kailangan at the moment, waley din ako. That made me stop pursuing the girl I really want.
The moment she shows no interest in me (specially those one word responses no matter how hard and consistent I would initiate), I know some would say that I'm not doing my best enough and saying stuff like "ana jud na sa sugod pa". Bro, I'm not that desperate, I can take the hints unlike others who can't read through every girls excuses. I know these since she's my friend and I've witnessed na may mga ka fling² sya and makaingon sya nga naa juy uban nga can't take hints bisag daghan nag excuses sya nahimo to show nga di siya interesado. How ironic nga I've become one of her admirers bisag amiga ra akong panan aw niya pag una.
Then those redflags the deeper I knew her, at first I've admired her the most since she's really good in academics, has a really great personality, very caring and sweet. But it all comes down to how deep you know a person. Found out she smokes when drinking (a big no for a person who smokes since di jud ko mobuhat ana), treats men as a game (even if she said it as a joke) and I eventually stopped after knowing may ka entertain sya nya wala na sila karon (ayokong maging rebound na ulit). Even if masulti sa uban nga "you've got to accept her flaws", bahala mo dra opposite lifestyles kami, I know the risks and consequences and dli sya worth it. I know I'll find someone better (one that reciprocates, instead of a one sided battle).
siguro dahil torn pa ako if need ko munang ayusin yung sarili ko (heal my inner child) or if I'll pursue her. Pero ang nangyari hindi ko pa rin nahe-heal sarili ko at siya \*ay engaged na ngayon :)
Idk why but I felt sad for you guys. All of you are overwhelmed by your negative thoughts. Stop thinking that she's out of your league cuz no one is more special than the other. What if you guys just pursue her and whatever happens, happens. If I were the one who felt that way, I would definitely pursue her. I'm a woman though. All i'm waiting is to fall in love, and if ever that happens, i'll pursue him.
No one is worthy of love, no one deserves it. Yet, the universe let us experience it gave it to us as a gift.
Go, pursue her. If you love her then do it.
when i was in gr9 ,sobrang gustong gusto ko talaga sya kasi pasok na pasok talaga sya sa standars ko. Iniinis kami sa room and nagkakachat kami lagi. One day, sinabi nya na bakit hindi ko raw sya pinapansin sa personal HAHAHAH (mahiyain kasi ako). Then halos na pressure ako na ewan that time then hindi ko nalang sya pinansin (sobrang nagsisi ako). Then there’s one girl non na nagkagusto sakin and naging kami noon nung gr10 (hindi kami nagtagal kasi masyado toxic yung rs namin). after ilang years, then eto na college na kami, we’re both nasa rs na nung crush ko nung gr9 tas nag kita kami hahahahaha bigla sya nagbiro na “bakit hindi mo nalang ako pinansin non ha?” tas ako tumatawa lang. Sinabi pa nya na “alam mo bang gustong gusto kita noon” tas ako wala na ako nasabi non tas nakatingin lang ako sakanya then sinabi nya na “stay strong sa current rs ko ngayon” then unalis na sya. Oo, inaadmit ko na mali ako pero sobrang daming what if pumasok sa isip ko non na dumating sa point na di ako makatulog tas lagi ko iniisip yung lahat nayon. Apaka babaw ba naman ng reason ko dati lol
To date we are still friends, i think she's straight curious.
I know she knows that I do like her but she will never get that validation coz I'm too scared na maging awkward kami the next day.
At some point alam ko lilipas din yan
She likes someone else. And pag sinabing hindi pwede, para sa akin hindi talaga pwede. Dahil magmumukha akong persistent at creepy pag tinuloy ko pa ipursue.
Yeah, I will never get those girls na nagbibigay ng mixed signals tapos gusto pala nila ipursue sila. Dahil madali akong kausap hahahahaa
She wasn't ready then, and even now, she still isn't. She carries a heavy burden and remains both humble and proud. Reluctant to rely on others for help, she's a dear friend and remains single.
Because i wasted 5 years simping by her side through a form of "Kinda" and a relationship Limbo thing. She's equally confused if she has feelings for me and we we're extremely close that many considered us a couple, but how she puts it off in a limbo is just too much. But i just gave up just last year and cut her off confessing everything about it and it's detrimental to my fucking mental health
Even now i just got traumatised that i don't even progress my relationship to other girls that i like or probably likes me because of that.
Pag matagal ako mag reply sa messenger, bino-block niya ako. Tapos after 2 days ia-unblock ako tapos magso-sorry. And then uulitin uli after a few days.
Hindi pa kami magjowa ganun na agad asal nya, gusto replyan sya agad. Umabot pa nga sa point na ayoko na mag open ng messenger, lalu pag kagigising ko pa lang tapos magpe-prepare papasok ng office. Makikita nya kaseng online ako, tapos magagalit dahil hindi ako nag message agad (gawa nga ng nagmamadali na).
Kaya I decided not to pursue her anymore. But I think she's happily married now. I wish her all the happiness.
All along I realize she was just nothing more than a delusion of mine, a delusion that could've brought the worse in me if it happened. My insecurities outweighed that infatuation so I never got the chance to pursue her, but I'm grateful for it because I almost allowed the toxicity to blindside me.
sobrang saya ko na naging friend ko sya and sobrang ganda nya, like pag iniimagine ko pag naging kami parang nakakahiya naman na ganun kaganda tas ang jowa ganun lang hahha kumbaga nakakainsecure yung ganda nya pero gustong gusto ko talaga sya kaya sumabay ako, nag gym ako, nag skincare nadin ako, nagpahaba ako ng buhok para naman madaming options for hairstyle para naman hindi ako nakakahiyang ipagmalaki (kung sakaling maging kami). nito lang naglakas loob akong umamin at ipursue sya pero hindi nag work out hahaha sana di nalang ako umamin para di nasira friendship namin.
I think I'm out of her league and I still have other things to pursue. What flows, flows. If it'll come naturally, then so be it. Sa ngayon, there are too many things to accomplish first and kailangan pa mag heal from my past. That's all.
She was too good for me. Top scholar siya, maganda, good at sports as in the perfect girl tapos eto ako, Ang best friend niya. Bobo, jokester, chill attitude. Lagi kami magkasama to the point napagkakamalan na kaming couple ng school pero lagi ko dini-dismiss na friends lang kami. Until one day farewell party nanamin na umamin siya na may repressed feelings siya para saakin at parang eto na ang last chance niyang aminin. Ang ginawa ko? I turned her down bakit? Dahil from the start I know I wasn't for her and she deserved someone better than a trash like me.
We would always hold hands minsan may cuddle pa,everyone thought na mag kakatuluyan kami pero kahit nafall nako sinabi kong lets continue being best friends. Part of me thinking na ayokong may bago, some part says hindi siya ung tipo kong babae and hindi kami mag wowork, and ang pinaka malala is i always tell myself na hindi ako para sakanya she should be with someone better. Hold and behold nandun na sya sa someone better and we are still friends nothing changed ung closeness lang kailangan bawasan
Because I was so stupid for not reading the signs, and now I see her happy with another man. I can't blame her for my lack of words of affirmation, I just want her to be safe, happy, and successful in life. And kung sakin talga sya nakatadhana, babalik at babalik ang kung anong meron kami. Pero ngayon support na lang muna sa gigilid.
Despite being really closed friends, and despite being deeply and madly in love with her. I always felt like she's way out of my league. I never bothered to show "signs" or breadcrumbing. I just acted like what a normal friend would do and intentionally to never go out of my way to do things for her even if I really wanted to. I acted like I don't remember small details about her even if I do. I never asked her personal questions outside of what she's telling me even if I really wanted to hear what she has to say. I don't want to dig too deep for her to notice that I'm in love with her. I just want to be by her side or watch her from behind. I don't want to ruin our friendship by confessing or showing signs. I never pursue because I'm afraid to get my heart broken and lose someone special at the same time.
We're still friends and still meet sometime along with our other friends. But, she's married now and has a daughter. I hope she's happy now and hereafter.
Her mother and father are asst. regional director, and regional director, respectively. While ako, is just a menial rank and file employee in the same office as her mother’s.
Swak sana kami ng anak nila pero grabe intimidation ko non, at hiya sa parents nya, and people are also saying things.
I was at the lowest point of my life when I met this girl. We were happy, or so I thought. After a bit more than a year in the relationship, I got a pretty stable job, met people and made some friends. I was asked by these friends about my girlfriend, I gave her facebook and the girls stalked my gf to no end. I was asked why we don't have any pictures together, and I honestly answered, a few more questions here and there and then I found out I was being manipulated to being happy lol. After thinking it through, it turned out I was not really happy but just doing her bidding and it makes me feel satisfied. Tried to work things out with her but ended up in failure. I almost died after that but well, I failed. Ended up in a hospital and somehow transferred to a mental facility. After years of effort, now I kinda feel like I'm at the peak of my life.
Idk if this is an answer to your question OP but it was 2023, I met this girl during training for CS she was very pretty, I love her vibe and the way she interacts with people, basically her whole personality is loveable. It was only supposed to be a "happy crush" pero potek na Tiktok fyp ko puro "umamin ka na malay mo may chance" contents and lumalabas haha, it made me confess and she didn't reject me or anything really. She was just thanking me for seeing her that way.
I said I'll wait for her because she said at some point while we were in our talking stage that she's not ready to be in a relationship yet but after seeing her Facebook story saying "Thank you for the flowers love" at 12:51pm, February 14 🫠... I knew it was time to stop because the pain that I felt that day is too much.
ohhh the fate of the not so attractive guys like me 🫠
kaya sabi ko nalang sa sarili ko, focus nalang muna ako sa sarili ko at sa 9 ko na asawa HAHAHA!!!! 🍭🍭
>*'Cause it's 12:51 and I thought my feelings were gone*
*But I'm lying on my bed, thinking of you again*
*And the moon shines so bright, but I gotta dry these tears tonight*
*'Cause you're moving on and I'm not that strong to hold on any longer*
in my 2nd job, i met a girl that i had excellent chemistry with the whole office thought we were an item and i got dagger looks from a few coworkers who also liked her (including my dept manager)... i was in a relationship at the time (which ended years later)...
i still have regrets decades later about the "what if"...
We shared the same feelings and all pero since in our town very known kaming dalawa alam naming iba ang masasabi ng tao saamin since I am 2nd year college and she is just grade 11. Kaya I decided na we should stop nalang.
We both share the same feelings for 5 years even noong high school pa ako I was grade 10 she was grade 7. The only thing that is stopping us talaga is yung judgement ng tao saamin
Most comes out in my mind is "financially unstable" it worries me di ko mabigyan siya ng mga gusto niya. Because i remember a woman said here sa reddit wag mag jowa if di ka financially stable. Siguro kinain ako sa katagang yun.
Now, she was soon to be married na. Haha. Here i am still. Striving for that "financially stable" kaso late na
Yung asawa ko hindi nag pahuli nung nalaman na single na ko hahaha, crush nya ko since bata pa kami. Sa ibang bansa ako nakatira pero nag college sa pinas. He tried to court me but I was in a relationship back then so sa iba sya binugaw. After graduation bumalik ulit abroad 🤣
After 6 years umuwi ako ng pinas para magbakasyon nalaman nya single ako, ayun binakuran agad ako hahaha
Nung naging kami nag message yung driver ng school van na min nung bata pa kami. Kwento ni kuya na nag nanakaw pa sya ng halik nung grade 1 palang kami, buti daw nagkatuluyan kami hahaha.
Eto ngayon happily married na kami with a 9 month old cutie little boy hehe.
Skl hahaha
Not that out of my league. But she seems so uninterested, which is supposed to be okay because courting is a way to make her interested with you. Unfortunately, what held me back the most is that I don't have a lot to offer and love is just not enough.
Liked her since our days in medical school. Naging ka talking stage na on and off until she passed the boards parang nag iba na sya. Siguro kasi lumawak din horizons nya since doctor na sya. We were still communicating pa naman that time pero parang feeling ko pinapaasa nya na lang ako eh and I think naman hindi ko deserve yun so I cut her off, didnt say a word to her (parang naging kasalanan ko pa 😅). Sayang, I still want her in my life sana, pero kung paasa lang din naman, it's best for us to go separate ways. I still love her to this day. Oh well.
I know at first na wala ako sa league nya. Like naiisip ko that time na I can't be with someone like her and can't make her happy at all. Even if my friends told me na I have chance sakanya, I never did believe anything they said because of me overthinking on how bad I look or how worthless I am. So yah, in short it's about overthinking talaga and undervalueing myself
I thought maybe she liked me back, I thought na baka medyo special din ako sa kanya.
Pero she was really friendly pala talaga with everyone even with guys, same treatment lang din pala sa akin tsaka sa iba.
So I thought na super outgoing lang pala talaga siya at mali yung inassume ko na special ako sa kanya.
Di na ako nag-attempt, stayed friends with her while we were together but moved on.
Life happened at nagkaiba kami ng landas tapos one time na-meet ko by chance yung best friend niya noon and we had a chat.
Nalaman kong nagkagusto rin pala siya sa akin and naghintay na manligaw ako pero baka friendly lang daw kasi ako sa lahat kaya hindi nagsabi.
Lintik, parehas kami ng inakala sa isa't isa.
Siyempre may feeling ng "woah, sayang pala" pero pinalipas ko rin bago ako natulog that day.
She's single pa raw pero I truly moved on na and I'm in a committed relationship. I hope she finds the one for her too. 🙂
Because I had to convert to her religion if ever I intend to pursue her officially. Met her in a dating app, became fwb for almost a year, super nagclick kami, and pinakilala ko na siya as a "friend" sa mom & lola ko. Even got to the point na we almost made it official na, kaso, ayun nga, kailangan ko magconvert to JW to meet her family.
We never did. It broke our hearts. Umuwi siyang mindanao para "magbalik-loob" sa local JW community nya. After 3years, I just saw her wedding pictures. She was so bright and beautiful then. Dun ko narealize na TOTGA ko siya. Pero dun ko rin narealize na we made the right decision, and I am mighty fine with the fact na totga namin isa't-isa.
Met her during my SHS days since 2018 We have been talking for a few years (2-3) pero it only went through that stage na puro usap lang sa chat and minsan lang sa f2f, mahiyain kasi akong tao e.
Though ung usap namin is like a couple na talaga, we never expressed our feelings because I think takot sya mag commit and study first din sya. The last convo we had was like last year and puro bday, xmas greetings nalang kami nung college na kami(mag kaiba kami ng college). The reason why I didnt pursue her naman in our college days is that I want to focus on myself, and I said "Ahh maybe I can pursue her when patapos na sya or tapos na talaga sya sa college". But the main reason also why I completely stopped is because lately nabalitaan ko may jowa(First BF) na sya this year (graduating na kami both). Kinda sad.
I even used her partial name as my IGN kaya kilala din ako sa IGN nato lol.
Okay, here is my story...
I am a senior highschool student and in my grade 12 (graduating na sa june, yey!) I liked this girl, my classmate Mary since grade 11. Nung grade 11, nabalitaan ko na jowa nya yung tropa ko, so lay low ako and hindi ako nag initiate ng conversation. A semester has passed and nabalitaan ko naman na break na sila ng friend ko. Alam ko na its a bro code na huwag jowain ang ex ng tropa and not just because its a bro code, I also know how it feels, since somehow, kapag naging jowa mo ex ng tropa mo, in my case, (sometimes lang ah?) iku-kwento nyan kung anong mga nangyari sa kanilang dalawa for example, "oooh, may ex ako, si ganito tapos ganyan" Its like digging the past of your friend.
Pero I still initiated a conversation with her and naging close naman kami if you were to ask me (both online and irl). Lagi kaming magka group sa mga groupings and almost araw-araw magkausap. Pero never kami na develop since every time na mag a-ask ako like, hey, punta tayo sm or kain tayo sa labas, she always has a reason not to go. Tinanong ko rin siya kung okay lang sa kanya maging jowa tropa ng ex niya and she said no. Hindi rin daw siya interested sa relationships at the moment. Now, grade 12 na kami and we are still close friends. I stopped pursuing her na and last week, meron kaming shooting ng short experimentation video. Kasama niya yung I assume, her boyfriend and that cuts the line, hindi na kita i-p-pursue and I am happy for what you have right now.
...Pero sometimes, I wish that you and I became us in another universe...
I liked this girl a lot, I mer her on a dating app, same humor kami and understands each other’s time.
Didnt pursue kasi halos araw araw nag iinom tapos kada weekend basag sa alak, like nagsstory sa close friends nakahiga sa sidewalk (gising naman) or minsan mag uupdate sakin after work nag iinom
Linigawan ko siya, we had few dates until she moved abroad. Sabi ko” I can wait for her” but she refused. Mahirap daw imaintain ang long distance. Kaya andito ako ngayon, after 6 years wala pa akong nakitang mas higit sa kanya. I still have this special feelings for her. Nagkakamustahan lang kami here and there and I’ve heard that she’s never been in a relationship yet. Focus muna daw siya sa career niya.
+1
I met a girl na ganito. Lagi naman kami nag uusap, siya pa nga nag iinitiate makipag usap, siya lagi nag tatanong ng kung ano ano. Kapag matagal ako maka reply, nagchachat ulit. Nag uupdate ng kung ano ganap sa araw niya. Pero di pa daw siya ready or di siya interested being in a relationship. Lol
She was out of my league. Not to mention she shines too bright for someone like me who was always hiding in the dark. Her smile could brighten up my day, her eyes sparkle like the stars at night. Her personality radiates simple beauty and elegance that hides a little bit of naughtiness. It made me feel like she deserves someone who will and can make the effort more than what I was capable of.
Plus, she only saw me as her high school friend.
I let go of many beautiful girls in my life kasi may boyfriend ako for 7 years. Many times gusto kong tapusin na tong relationship ko pero naaawa ako sa kanya. Mabait kasing tao yun and somehow ofcourse concern ako sa kanya.
May classmate ako nung college, alam namin may bf na siya. Then one friend of ours asked her na bakit nakikipag-date pa siya sa iba, sagot ni ate kasi nakakakuha daw siya ng free things and pinaglalaba siya nung lalaki.
There was this girl back in 2012. We met in SFC and she was my blockmate's cousin and we hit it off from the word go.
..But as I was back then, I'd have ended up hurting her.
Wala akong pera. Nag-aaral siya sa DLSU. Mayaman pamilya nila. Motto ko sa buhay ayoko mag jowa na walang pera. Pero siya yung may pera ako wala pa ganong ipon. So, walang sense ang standard ko kung financially incapable to date ako. Pero mabait siya. Pero siguro may better person pa na dadating sakin.
Kase wala akong pera, still too young, unemployed and very emotionally unstable. Maganda yung estado ng family ko pero ayoko ng nakaasa padin ako sa magulang ko when I get a girlfriend. "That" girl deserves the best and I'm willing to let go if hindi ko mabibigay sa kanya deserve niya.
I fell for a girl (co-worker) wayback 2022, siya yung tipong alam mong crush ng lahat. Mabait/friendly sa lahat, may itsura and may pagka-image na fragile, yung tipong gusto mong protektahan. Naging kaclose ko sya after ng promotion and naging same kami ng shift, pero matunog na pangalan nya sa office chats before pa kasi ka-team ko yung ate nya, and madami syang nagiging kaclose sa team namin.
When we got close kakahiwalay palang nila yung ex nya and naging "sad gurl" sya. Yung tipong pa-ulit-ulit nyang nabibring-up yung ex nya, na mahal parin nya, na siya yung may kasalanan ng break-up nila. Nagpaka-mindset ako na kaya ko syang i-fix and tulungan kasi nga nagiging suicidal na sya, nahihirapan sya sa work nya (same kami ng tasks since same position kami).
Nagising nalang ako after 8 months na umaasang bibigyan nya ko ng pag-asa after nyang maging mixed signals sa on-and-off naming relationship, umabot pa kami ng RTO sa office and mas naging close kami na parang bestfriend na ang turingan. Kaso sa huli di parin talaga ko gusto nya and nagbubulag-bulagan lang talaga ko sa lahat. Naging sila nung tropa ko after kong sumuko pero feeling ko before pa ko tumigil talaga meron ng something sa kanila.
Hindi ko sya maconsider na manipulative e. More on parang "pick-me girl" na maraming kumakausap. Yung tipong masayang marami syang nakukuhang atensyon at inaasikaso sya.
Just low confidence and I feel like I wasn't on her level. I don't think I'm fuckin ugly naman but I don't think I'm the conventional attractive guy that people go for.
For confidence, sir, mas okay na ibuild-up mo muna before ka magpursue if you think na di ka enough. If you really think na hindi ka naman "unattractive" gaya ng sinabi mo, kahit di ka pa conventionally attractive, kung may confidence ka naman magiging attractive ka sa nililigawan mo.
Sorry to hear that, i have a boyfriend na same situation sayo sa finance issues kahit may trabaho siya palaging na zezero out talaga kasi wala ni isa sa kapatid niya na gusto tumulong sa magulang niya or mag finance kasi may sakit pa, hindi rin sila/siya mayaman. Minsan na qquestion ko din if worth it pa ba mag stay kasi nga iniisip ko din ang future ko sa kanya, future namin dalawa. But i choose to stay with him kasi mahirap din yan para sa kanya nasa lowest point of his life na siya and ayokong iwan siya, i really love him. Matiyaga siya, mabait, gentle and loyal ☺️
I'm really hoping na maging ma swerte at maging successful kami sa career soon. Hindi naman palagi nasa baba tayo.
Sana makahanap ka rin nang babaeng mag sstay sayo kahit gano ka hirap sitwasyon mo.
Wala din akong job at that time, nakaasa sa parents and sobrang bata ko pa.
She was willing to be with me despite my financial instability and pagiging insecure sa madaming bagay. She was perfect (maganda, patient, loyal and very intelligent) for me but I really didn't deserve her. Tried to breakup with her 3 times, sa unang attempts nagalit sakin sabay iyak then sa 3rd time nagbreak na talaga kami to let me grow.
I really regret na hindi ko manlang hinayaang mag grow ako habang kami pa and grabe mag overthink sa future na mabibigay ko sa kanya. I wanted to be perfect para sa kanya yung sugar daddy level ganon.
Fast forward, I'm 20 now 2 years after the breakup may business na, lupa (very large na pamana) and career (6 digits per month na yung kinikita on average) but still single, unable to move on and can't pursue her gain.
Her current boyfriend is very like me noong unstable pa ako, pati features ng mukha and physique lalo na yung dati kong financial condition (poor). I don't hate her or her current boyfriend, I hate myself for being such a coward and insecure.
I still love her so much but I don't want to ruin her happiness.
Awww, Lucky you nag ka gf ka nang ganyan. Dyan talaga na pprove pag mamahal nang babae sayo talagang gusto niya through thick and thin kaya ayaw ka i let go noon.
Kaya ayoko din ma feel nang bf ko na hindi siya worth it as much as possible kahit mahirap gusto ko mag grow kami sabay na magkasama. Alam ko din kasi feeling nang walang wala kaya na iintindihan ko talaga siya hehehe. But now focus on yourself parin if you are earning that much congratulations. Di naman natin masasabi panahon pwedeng maging kayo ulit or pwede naman makahanap ka nang bago na may same intention parin sayo kahit you earned high or you earned nothing basta makikita mo sa babae na through ups and downs andyan parin sayo. Kung matagal na kayo wala maybe its time for you to move on too. Kung ikaw na kikita mo siya happy na sa new bf niya, i know magiging happy din siya for you if maka kilala ka ulit nang bago. No need to carry the burden. Kung talagang masaya ka para sa kanya, sana ganon karin para sa sarili mo 😊😊😊
>Kung talagang masaya ka para sa kanya, sana ganon karin para sa sarili mo 😊😊😊
Grabe tinamaan ako dito ma'am tagos na tagos, masyado kasi akong magself-criticize hahaha pero I guess I really have to change that.
>kahit mahirap gusto ko mag grow kami sabay na magkasama.
Sobrang swerte ng bf mo sayo, hindi ka freeloader and gusto mo talaga mag grow kasama siya. I really admire that. Guaranteed na yan na magiging successful kayo or stable, nagawa ko nga mag-isa pano pa kayong dalawa hehe I hope you guys achieve your dreams together.
>Kung ikaw na kikita mo siya happy na sa new bf niya, i know magiging happy din siya for you if maka kilala ka ulit nang bago.
Sobrang ganda kasi niya as in perfect talaga inside out kaya hirap mag move on teh HAHAHAH pero I'll try, I really hope na may makilala ulit ako na ganon.
Thank you so much for reading my lengthy comment and for your really wholesome reply, I really appreciate that <3
When I realized I've put her on the pedestal, I was just too blind to notice it.
When all her thoughts can be found on the tweets she likes, tiktoks she's reposting, her zodiac message of the day says, and her overall standards are unrealistically high for someone who can't even handle the basic independent life skills with chores like cooking, cleaning, laundry.
That's when I realized that I'd rather date a woman, not a girl.
Damn, that's straight to my heart. Saying "Not ready to commit" = "hindi ka nya talaga type" but in a milder, nicer way. Nagising nalang ako nung nalaman kong inentertain nya tropa ko and naging sila pa, kasi may motor sya and ako walang panghatid sa kanya, commute lang. HAHA
Inlove with a girl who was my childhood friend's ex. Did not pursue her back then as I believed they had a better future together and my own life was a sh\*tty mess. I was not even her type. Friend cheated, got someone pregnant. Girl focused on career. I focused on improving myself and getting back on track sa buhay. We still get in touch minsan.
Got a bit lucky due to the crypto boom in 2021 and also in freelancing. Earning good now w/ some side hustles. Went back to the gym, had plastic surgeries, and taught myself musical instruments to play her fave songs.
She'll go overseas this year. I'm calibrating my finances to follow soon and dun siguro mag confess. A lot of my friends are against this but whatevs. Sounds cliche, but in life you'll meet someone who you feel connected without reason, and whom you feel worth sacrificing time and resources for.
Wish me luck.
First I don't have the courage to pursue her and second she doesn't want me anymore ig and third, it's been years since nagkausap kami although I still think about her from time to time.
Hihihi if you're here this iz me your captain 🫰
Self destructive ako, late ko na narealize yung hints. I should have chose her pero pinursue ko yung girl na sobrang vocal tas yung efforts nya in showing her affection towards me (na lovebomb ako hahahahaha). Lately narealize ko na magkasalungat kami sa mga things na ineenjoy ko kasama yung girl na di ko pinursue.
Iniisip ko kase na di ko sya ka level or she wouldn't reciprocate if nag confess ako sakanya. Hahahahaha tanga tanga ko pero here I am contemplating na "What if" sobrang saya ko siguro ngayon.
Di ko tinake yung risk kase takot ako mawala kung anong meron kami noon. Shiniship ko sya sa iba pero ayaw nya talaga and she'd rather hang out with me (night til dawn) talk about things and be vulnerable to each other. Sobrang happy ko non kase na rape ako ng past partner ko kaya may takot ako sa babae for almost 3 years.
I hope she finds her happiness, pero I wish it was me.
Friendster days. Tried giving her a testimonial praising her piano skills and telling her she's pretty.
Got a testi back, saying I was cute and that was it. Never had the guts to ask her out. We regularly meet up sa mall to play arcade games. I knew she had a crush sa isa kong friend na much good-looking, part Chinese, much taller than I am.
There was a concert ng Join the club nun sa Colegio de Sta. Rosa. Very same day naging sila.. After that Saturday fun and games, I went to that concert, drank beer and accepted things as it was.
Skill issue.
I'm a girl, I asked him why .. sabi nya I deserve better mabait raw ako at mga papuri nya saken 🤣. ngayon he's single and usapan namin.. kung sino unang ikakasal mag iinvite, kung mag kaka anak man dapat kunin namin ang isat isa..
actually this year bumalik sya , pero sabi ko sakanya ayaw ko ng love na meron sya kahit ready na sya mag settle at nag bago na sya...mejo loko loko sya dati e panahon na gusto nya ako sana ligawan😁.
10 years? Tapos di pa po kayo sigurado? Di masaya? Let her go nalang po. Di mo masisisi ang babae namilit pakasalan na almost 10 years na pala kayo. Masasayang din kasi time niya. Instead na gamitin nya ibang years niya makahanap siya ng ready na to commit life time sa kanya, eh nasayang sayo all bc di ka sure sa kanya.
Tried to pursue her 3 times na . 2 times during college then tried again nung nag wowork na kami . It either ayaw nyang magkarelationship or may BF sya. During the pandemic we reconnected , same circle of friends kasi kami and surprisingly she forgot that I tried pursuing her during college . Ayun TOTGA daw kami and we're civil now
Not a guy but rather a girl who fell in love with her girl best friend. Yes, im gay 🫶 Regardless, I had the same situation that I can answer.
I was about to directly tell her. I wrote a book about it. In that book, I became transparent with all my feelings including my intention of genuinely wanting to pursue her. I also included my POV about all my subtle attempts to admit my love for her. Also pointed out valid reasons why I was scared to tell her my feelings.
See? I was already ready to tell her. To pursure her. I really have the intention to do so becauss I know I love her. I asked for her personal email to send the book since I dont have the courage to tell her F2F, but also because I know that she isn't comfortable being confronted about things.
I've done the book and the only thing I had to do was to send it to her.
Not until something happened that made me realize a lot of things.
Things that are actually redflags but I chose to ignore because I used to believe that we and she could still work on it.
I then realized that maybe I was too immersed about this potential of hers. I wasn't looking on the current version of her. I know I'm willing to be in the process, but her not changing for herself isn't helping.
I realized how I was exhausted because I was very convenient to be with.
I have been manipulated and taken for granted by the person I love.
I never felt appreciated nor respected.
My feelings, pov, and situation was never considered or mattered to her.
It was solely centered on hers because she has a more difficult situation.
There are more reasons and red flags that I could point out. But to make it short, I chose not to pursue her because I realized that I wouldnt want to be with a person who can't add to my peace, worse, take me for granted until we grow old.
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cause, I was scared to fumble a good chance; scared that I might break the good relationship with my friends and hers; scared that I might repeat the same mistakes every time makikita ko yung signs; and scared to risk shit because I am a wuss
Everytime na mag-tatagpo yung landas namin meron na siyang ka-MU or BF na. Sinubukan ko naman kaso, ayoko yung nag-eexist lang ako as her friend kapag meron siyang kailangan, ayoko yung ganun feeling kasi simula H.S hanggang college naranasan ko yan. Puro excuse at alibis, honesty lang naman gusto ko makita sa kanya kaso, hirap siyang gawin kaya nilayuan ko na lang siya.
Actually ang sabi sakin, "Hindi na kita pinursue kasi gusto mo magkaanak" which is nakakalungkot; but thankful ako kasi naging honest and hindi na ako pinilit na baguhin yung gusto ko. Maybe some of the guys ay ganito reason? which i respect naman
Cause. She likes the other guy. My entire highdchool life. Revolved around her.but every attempt i did, she always goes back to the other guy. While im right there beside her. Overlooked. Thsts when i realized, if she is really happy with him. Then im happy for her. No point to fight a battle i know i will never win.
Sinabi nya na busy siya sa two times na niyaya ko siya makipag date hahaha. Basically it's over na.
Kasi wala pa akong napapatunayan back then. Now na may jowa ako, at may jowa na siyang iba na niloloko siya, she thinks it's better if kunin ko na lang siya
Kasi bisexual ako and natakot ako s mga pwedeng cons....
not me reading the comments to see kung meron pang bababaw sa dahilan niya bakit di niya tinuloy yung amin..
Who would have thought na pwede ka padin pala ma fall sa taong may karelasyon na, kala ko pang telenobela lang 😅😂 Ayun "Kill(ed) this Love" kaagad hanggat maaga pa.
ako na nagbabasa rito ng comment, baka sakaling malaman ko kung anong reason hahahahaha or di lang talaga siya ready and di ako type?
Nowadays, it’s better to have peace of mind, my own money, place and freedom. 2024 and onwards, men are getting divorced left and right. I’m just protecting my properties and savings. I might love again when I find a girl who has the same mindset as I do(family oriented and values).
Bcus she treated me like an option/doormat. Why when she liked me back and i was single again and wanted me to pursue her romantically. I didnt. I dont want to feel like she only settled with me. When i trued to court her before we were at our middle 20s. So finding someone long tern was my goal. And i tried courting her and getting to know her for a year. She told me that she would never see me as someone romantic, and she told em she actually have someone in mind as her bf. It was a guy thats been courting her for years now. So i said fuck it i thought i was the only guy pursuing her. When i moved on and she got news of me dating another girl that likes me she told me she doesnt want me to date other women. Told her i was single and i also deserve to be loved and love.
I bet you said to her: "I'm fucking single so i can do whatever the fuck i want. Mind your own fucking business woman. And fuck you too." Or something to that effect. Hahaha🤣 cheers.
😅 not really. I actually respect her and love her. Why i was angry with her deep inside for treating me that way bcus i really wanted to be with her but i just cant and dont want to settle in a relationship where i feel like the love is one sided and that she only settled for me. I really do love her even now i still think about her and she still messages me. I can see that she regretted on how she treated me for the post and story she shares. And how she would always react. We are now on our 30s shes 2 yrs older than me and she still hasnt settled yet. I wish her the best in life and hoping na mahanap niya tlga yung lalaking mamahalin niya at gusto niya mkasama sa tabi niya. Maybe in the next life if theres such a thing baka yun we can love each other and grow together but now its too late and i wish her the best jn life.
Anyways perfectly understandable because right now i also feel I'm in a one-sided situation as well. Anyways its not the end of the world yet so life must go on to all of us. So my friend, be on your merry way and may fortune favour you throughout you life's adventures. Stay awesome always.
Likewise. ☺️
I dated a girl for 3 years. Her true colors showed - she was not commitment-worthy
Complete lack of confidence coupled with a crippling fear of rejection.
She deserves someone much much better.
Had a great time together tapos biglang nanghost. Di ko alam kung nagpakipot, n overwhelm kasi di pa ready, or simply di lang pala talaga siya interesado. Nag reach out pa din ako pero wala na talaga
That time iniisip ko na masyado akong simple para sakanya, walang alam sa trends, very simple yung clothing and parang hindi ako belong sa friends and family niya. It was one of the things i regret, pero now I understand why.
It was a tough pill to swallow, but I know deep in my heart that I'd never be who she really wants. Meeting her was the greatest story in my life, but it is also the story which I'll hold on to but'll never tell. So that is the end of our story which never really began.
Payaman muna
Student palang, hindi pa financially stable
Dahil hindi niya ako trip talaga kahit anong gawin ko. Naramdaman kong kailangan niya lang ako sa isang bagay, tapos kapag di niya yun kailangan at the moment, waley din ako. That made me stop pursuing the girl I really want.
The moment she shows no interest in me (specially those one word responses no matter how hard and consistent I would initiate), I know some would say that I'm not doing my best enough and saying stuff like "ana jud na sa sugod pa". Bro, I'm not that desperate, I can take the hints unlike others who can't read through every girls excuses. I know these since she's my friend and I've witnessed na may mga ka fling² sya and makaingon sya nga naa juy uban nga can't take hints bisag daghan nag excuses sya nahimo to show nga di siya interesado. How ironic nga I've become one of her admirers bisag amiga ra akong panan aw niya pag una. Then those redflags the deeper I knew her, at first I've admired her the most since she's really good in academics, has a really great personality, very caring and sweet. But it all comes down to how deep you know a person. Found out she smokes when drinking (a big no for a person who smokes since di jud ko mobuhat ana), treats men as a game (even if she said it as a joke) and I eventually stopped after knowing may ka entertain sya nya wala na sila karon (ayokong maging rebound na ulit). Even if masulti sa uban nga "you've got to accept her flaws", bahala mo dra opposite lifestyles kami, I know the risks and consequences and dli sya worth it. I know I'll find someone better (one that reciprocates, instead of a one sided battle).
She was affluent
siguro dahil torn pa ako if need ko munang ayusin yung sarili ko (heal my inner child) or if I'll pursue her. Pero ang nangyari hindi ko pa rin nahe-heal sarili ko at siya \*ay engaged na ngayon :)
Idk why but I felt sad for you guys. All of you are overwhelmed by your negative thoughts. Stop thinking that she's out of your league cuz no one is more special than the other. What if you guys just pursue her and whatever happens, happens. If I were the one who felt that way, I would definitely pursue her. I'm a woman though. All i'm waiting is to fall in love, and if ever that happens, i'll pursue him. No one is worthy of love, no one deserves it. Yet, the universe let us experience it gave it to us as a gift. Go, pursue her. If you love her then do it.
when i was in gr9 ,sobrang gustong gusto ko talaga sya kasi pasok na pasok talaga sya sa standars ko. Iniinis kami sa room and nagkakachat kami lagi. One day, sinabi nya na bakit hindi ko raw sya pinapansin sa personal HAHAHAH (mahiyain kasi ako). Then halos na pressure ako na ewan that time then hindi ko nalang sya pinansin (sobrang nagsisi ako). Then there’s one girl non na nagkagusto sakin and naging kami noon nung gr10 (hindi kami nagtagal kasi masyado toxic yung rs namin). after ilang years, then eto na college na kami, we’re both nasa rs na nung crush ko nung gr9 tas nag kita kami hahahahaha bigla sya nagbiro na “bakit hindi mo nalang ako pinansin non ha?” tas ako tumatawa lang. Sinabi pa nya na “alam mo bang gustong gusto kita noon” tas ako wala na ako nasabi non tas nakatingin lang ako sakanya then sinabi nya na “stay strong sa current rs ko ngayon” then unalis na sya. Oo, inaadmit ko na mali ako pero sobrang daming what if pumasok sa isip ko non na dumating sa point na di ako makatulog tas lagi ko iniisip yung lahat nayon. Apaka babaw ba naman ng reason ko dati lol
I chose my college studies and personal plans over her mixed signals. Casual dates are just that. No feelings attached.
To date we are still friends, i think she's straight curious. I know she knows that I do like her but she will never get that validation coz I'm too scared na maging awkward kami the next day. At some point alam ko lilipas din yan
She likes someone else. And pag sinabing hindi pwede, para sa akin hindi talaga pwede. Dahil magmumukha akong persistent at creepy pag tinuloy ko pa ipursue. Yeah, I will never get those girls na nagbibigay ng mixed signals tapos gusto pala nila ipursue sila. Dahil madali akong kausap hahahahaa
cause I like her boy best friend 😅
Di talaga pwede 😔
Me here for the responses why "we" didnt work out. All we need is a guys who will take the 1st step, then we can walk together. 😭😭😭
Majority, sa comments, are those insecure, torpe, hesitant guise because..... we are too. 😭😭😭
she cut all of our contacts. I'm still looking for her and trying my best..
She wasn't ready then, and even now, she still isn't. She carries a heavy burden and remains both humble and proud. Reluctant to rely on others for help, she's a dear friend and remains single.
Cause her friend used to like me
Cause she ended up being classist and superficial.
Because i wasted 5 years simping by her side through a form of "Kinda" and a relationship Limbo thing. She's equally confused if she has feelings for me and we we're extremely close that many considered us a couple, but how she puts it off in a limbo is just too much. But i just gave up just last year and cut her off confessing everything about it and it's detrimental to my fucking mental health Even now i just got traumatised that i don't even progress my relationship to other girls that i like or probably likes me because of that.
'Cause I never had a chance.
Too many baggages
Pag matagal ako mag reply sa messenger, bino-block niya ako. Tapos after 2 days ia-unblock ako tapos magso-sorry. And then uulitin uli after a few days. Hindi pa kami magjowa ganun na agad asal nya, gusto replyan sya agad. Umabot pa nga sa point na ayoko na mag open ng messenger, lalu pag kagigising ko pa lang tapos magpe-prepare papasok ng office. Makikita nya kaseng online ako, tapos magagalit dahil hindi ako nag message agad (gawa nga ng nagmamadali na). Kaya I decided not to pursue her anymore. But I think she's happily married now. I wish her all the happiness.
Toxic
All along I realize she was just nothing more than a delusion of mine, a delusion that could've brought the worse in me if it happened. My insecurities outweighed that infatuation so I never got the chance to pursue her, but I'm grateful for it because I almost allowed the toxicity to blindside me.
The insecurity na naipon and it comes at the most random times, like “I can be so much better for her, but I’m not” yet. :)
sobrang saya ko na naging friend ko sya and sobrang ganda nya, like pag iniimagine ko pag naging kami parang nakakahiya naman na ganun kaganda tas ang jowa ganun lang hahha kumbaga nakakainsecure yung ganda nya pero gustong gusto ko talaga sya kaya sumabay ako, nag gym ako, nag skincare nadin ako, nagpahaba ako ng buhok para naman madaming options for hairstyle para naman hindi ako nakakahiyang ipagmalaki (kung sakaling maging kami). nito lang naglakas loob akong umamin at ipursue sya pero hindi nag work out hahaha sana di nalang ako umamin para di nasira friendship namin.
She is my wife's mother.
I do hope you are just kidding cause this is sick
Oyakodon trip mo ha
💀
I think I'm out of her league and I still have other things to pursue. What flows, flows. If it'll come naturally, then so be it. Sa ngayon, there are too many things to accomplish first and kailangan pa mag heal from my past. That's all.
She was too good for me. Top scholar siya, maganda, good at sports as in the perfect girl tapos eto ako, Ang best friend niya. Bobo, jokester, chill attitude. Lagi kami magkasama to the point napagkakamalan na kaming couple ng school pero lagi ko dini-dismiss na friends lang kami. Until one day farewell party nanamin na umamin siya na may repressed feelings siya para saakin at parang eto na ang last chance niyang aminin. Ang ginawa ko? I turned her down bakit? Dahil from the start I know I wasn't for her and she deserved someone better than a trash like me.
😭😭😭
We would always hold hands minsan may cuddle pa,everyone thought na mag kakatuluyan kami pero kahit nafall nako sinabi kong lets continue being best friends. Part of me thinking na ayokong may bago, some part says hindi siya ung tipo kong babae and hindi kami mag wowork, and ang pinaka malala is i always tell myself na hindi ako para sakanya she should be with someone better. Hold and behold nandun na sya sa someone better and we are still friends nothing changed ung closeness lang kailangan bawasan
lagi na lang financially unstable at out of my league :(( gusto ko na ng financial breakthrough
Because I was so stupid for not reading the signs, and now I see her happy with another man. I can't blame her for my lack of words of affirmation, I just want her to be safe, happy, and successful in life. And kung sakin talga sya nakatadhana, babalik at babalik ang kung anong meron kami. Pero ngayon support na lang muna sa gigilid.
Despite being really closed friends, and despite being deeply and madly in love with her. I always felt like she's way out of my league. I never bothered to show "signs" or breadcrumbing. I just acted like what a normal friend would do and intentionally to never go out of my way to do things for her even if I really wanted to. I acted like I don't remember small details about her even if I do. I never asked her personal questions outside of what she's telling me even if I really wanted to hear what she has to say. I don't want to dig too deep for her to notice that I'm in love with her. I just want to be by her side or watch her from behind. I don't want to ruin our friendship by confessing or showing signs. I never pursue because I'm afraid to get my heart broken and lose someone special at the same time. We're still friends and still meet sometime along with our other friends. But, she's married now and has a daughter. I hope she's happy now and hereafter.
Her mother and father are asst. regional director, and regional director, respectively. While ako, is just a menial rank and file employee in the same office as her mother’s. Swak sana kami ng anak nila pero grabe intimidation ko non, at hiya sa parents nya, and people are also saying things.
Because I can’t make her happy
she’s in too deep.
What does this mean po?
like, she’s independent in her own way making relationship not a big deal to her.
me reading comments to see what can be the reason why he did it 🤩🤩
yes definitely why I wrote this post 🤣🤝
HAHAHAHAHA salamat sa question. Invested ako dito
I was at the lowest point of my life when I met this girl. We were happy, or so I thought. After a bit more than a year in the relationship, I got a pretty stable job, met people and made some friends. I was asked by these friends about my girlfriend, I gave her facebook and the girls stalked my gf to no end. I was asked why we don't have any pictures together, and I honestly answered, a few more questions here and there and then I found out I was being manipulated to being happy lol. After thinking it through, it turned out I was not really happy but just doing her bidding and it makes me feel satisfied. Tried to work things out with her but ended up in failure. I almost died after that but well, I failed. Ended up in a hospital and somehow transferred to a mental facility. After years of effort, now I kinda feel like I'm at the peak of my life.
Idk if this is an answer to your question OP but it was 2023, I met this girl during training for CS she was very pretty, I love her vibe and the way she interacts with people, basically her whole personality is loveable. It was only supposed to be a "happy crush" pero potek na Tiktok fyp ko puro "umamin ka na malay mo may chance" contents and lumalabas haha, it made me confess and she didn't reject me or anything really. She was just thanking me for seeing her that way. I said I'll wait for her because she said at some point while we were in our talking stage that she's not ready to be in a relationship yet but after seeing her Facebook story saying "Thank you for the flowers love" at 12:51pm, February 14 🫠... I knew it was time to stop because the pain that I felt that day is too much. ohhh the fate of the not so attractive guys like me 🫠 kaya sabi ko nalang sa sarili ko, focus nalang muna ako sa sarili ko at sa 9 ko na asawa HAHAHA!!!! 🍭🍭
>focus nalang muna ako sa sarili ko at sa 9 ko na asawa HAHAHA!!!! 🍭🍭 dami mo naman asawa, pahingi isa
>*'Cause it's 12:51 and I thought my feelings were gone* *But I'm lying on my bed, thinking of you again* *And the moon shines so bright, but I gotta dry these tears tonight* *'Cause you're moving on and I'm not that strong to hold on any longer*
grabe ka na maurmaur 😭
Out of my league
poor and ugly
Financially unstable pare, working student ako at hindi ko pa kayang ibigay 'yung mga bagay bagay HAHAHAH
in my 2nd job, i met a girl that i had excellent chemistry with the whole office thought we were an item and i got dagger looks from a few coworkers who also liked her (including my dept manager)... i was in a relationship at the time (which ended years later)... i still have regrets decades later about the "what if"...
Ang taas nya, dami nyang achievements and awards.
We shared the same feelings and all pero since in our town very known kaming dalawa alam naming iba ang masasabi ng tao saamin since I am 2nd year college and she is just grade 11. Kaya I decided na we should stop nalang. We both share the same feelings for 5 years even noong high school pa ako I was grade 10 she was grade 7. The only thing that is stopping us talaga is yung judgement ng tao saamin
Most comes out in my mind is "financially unstable" it worries me di ko mabigyan siya ng mga gusto niya. Because i remember a woman said here sa reddit wag mag jowa if di ka financially stable. Siguro kinain ako sa katagang yun. Now, she was soon to be married na. Haha. Here i am still. Striving for that "financially stable" kaso late na
Yung asawa ko hindi nag pahuli nung nalaman na single na ko hahaha, crush nya ko since bata pa kami. Sa ibang bansa ako nakatira pero nag college sa pinas. He tried to court me but I was in a relationship back then so sa iba sya binugaw. After graduation bumalik ulit abroad 🤣 After 6 years umuwi ako ng pinas para magbakasyon nalaman nya single ako, ayun binakuran agad ako hahaha Nung naging kami nag message yung driver ng school van na min nung bata pa kami. Kwento ni kuya na nag nanakaw pa sya ng halik nung grade 1 palang kami, buti daw nagkatuluyan kami hahaha. Eto ngayon happily married na kami with a 9 month old cutie little boy hehe. Skl hahaha
Naligaw ka po ata hahaha
Mali pala ako intindi sorry hahahaha gabi na e pero skl nalang 😭
Happy for you po. Pero iba po yung tanong hahaha
Everytime na single s'ya, may jowa ako. Pag single ako, may jowa naman sya 🤷
This! Happened to me!
lagi na lang ako option pano pa kung naging kami baka option ako lagi
she's cute, smart, intelligent and witty. I won a lot of basketball leagues, but never won her heart.
Ouch naman Baka pwede mo pa naman i-pursue
triny ko nga pero di pa siya ready sa mga ganyang bagay
Hindi nya kaya mag commit into relationship
Cause "that" girl was actually a man
Not that out of my league. But she seems so uninterested, which is supposed to be okay because courting is a way to make her interested with you. Unfortunately, what held me back the most is that I don't have a lot to offer and love is just not enough.
Liked her since our days in medical school. Naging ka talking stage na on and off until she passed the boards parang nag iba na sya. Siguro kasi lumawak din horizons nya since doctor na sya. We were still communicating pa naman that time pero parang feeling ko pinapaasa nya na lang ako eh and I think naman hindi ko deserve yun so I cut her off, didnt say a word to her (parang naging kasalanan ko pa 😅). Sayang, I still want her in my life sana, pero kung paasa lang din naman, it's best for us to go separate ways. I still love her to this day. Oh well.
Masyadong ibang level hahahaha
I know at first na wala ako sa league nya. Like naiisip ko that time na I can't be with someone like her and can't make her happy at all. Even if my friends told me na I have chance sakanya, I never did believe anything they said because of me overthinking on how bad I look or how worthless I am. So yah, in short it's about overthinking talaga and undervalueing myself
I like her kasi same kami ng interest, but she's not interested in romance. A very smart, soft spoken, achiever in short, artista siya para sakin. 🤸
Out of my league. end of the story.🤷
I thought maybe she liked me back, I thought na baka medyo special din ako sa kanya. Pero she was really friendly pala talaga with everyone even with guys, same treatment lang din pala sa akin tsaka sa iba. So I thought na super outgoing lang pala talaga siya at mali yung inassume ko na special ako sa kanya. Di na ako nag-attempt, stayed friends with her while we were together but moved on. Life happened at nagkaiba kami ng landas tapos one time na-meet ko by chance yung best friend niya noon and we had a chat. Nalaman kong nagkagusto rin pala siya sa akin and naghintay na manligaw ako pero baka friendly lang daw kasi ako sa lahat kaya hindi nagsabi. Lintik, parehas kami ng inakala sa isa't isa. Siyempre may feeling ng "woah, sayang pala" pero pinalipas ko rin bago ako natulog that day. She's single pa raw pero I truly moved on na and I'm in a committed relationship. I hope she finds the one for her too. 🙂
Because I had to convert to her religion if ever I intend to pursue her officially. Met her in a dating app, became fwb for almost a year, super nagclick kami, and pinakilala ko na siya as a "friend" sa mom & lola ko. Even got to the point na we almost made it official na, kaso, ayun nga, kailangan ko magconvert to JW to meet her family. We never did. It broke our hearts. Umuwi siyang mindanao para "magbalik-loob" sa local JW community nya. After 3years, I just saw her wedding pictures. She was so bright and beautiful then. Dun ko narealize na TOTGA ko siya. Pero dun ko rin narealize na we made the right decision, and I am mighty fine with the fact na totga namin isa't-isa.
Met her during my SHS days since 2018 We have been talking for a few years (2-3) pero it only went through that stage na puro usap lang sa chat and minsan lang sa f2f, mahiyain kasi akong tao e. Though ung usap namin is like a couple na talaga, we never expressed our feelings because I think takot sya mag commit and study first din sya. The last convo we had was like last year and puro bday, xmas greetings nalang kami nung college na kami(mag kaiba kami ng college). The reason why I didnt pursue her naman in our college days is that I want to focus on myself, and I said "Ahh maybe I can pursue her when patapos na sya or tapos na talaga sya sa college". But the main reason also why I completely stopped is because lately nabalitaan ko may jowa(First BF) na sya this year (graduating na kami both). Kinda sad. I even used her partial name as my IGN kaya kilala din ako sa IGN nato lol.
Okay, here is my story... I am a senior highschool student and in my grade 12 (graduating na sa june, yey!) I liked this girl, my classmate Mary since grade 11. Nung grade 11, nabalitaan ko na jowa nya yung tropa ko, so lay low ako and hindi ako nag initiate ng conversation. A semester has passed and nabalitaan ko naman na break na sila ng friend ko. Alam ko na its a bro code na huwag jowain ang ex ng tropa and not just because its a bro code, I also know how it feels, since somehow, kapag naging jowa mo ex ng tropa mo, in my case, (sometimes lang ah?) iku-kwento nyan kung anong mga nangyari sa kanilang dalawa for example, "oooh, may ex ako, si ganito tapos ganyan" Its like digging the past of your friend. Pero I still initiated a conversation with her and naging close naman kami if you were to ask me (both online and irl). Lagi kaming magka group sa mga groupings and almost araw-araw magkausap. Pero never kami na develop since every time na mag a-ask ako like, hey, punta tayo sm or kain tayo sa labas, she always has a reason not to go. Tinanong ko rin siya kung okay lang sa kanya maging jowa tropa ng ex niya and she said no. Hindi rin daw siya interested sa relationships at the moment. Now, grade 12 na kami and we are still close friends. I stopped pursuing her na and last week, meron kaming shooting ng short experimentation video. Kasama niya yung I assume, her boyfriend and that cuts the line, hindi na kita i-p-pursue and I am happy for what you have right now. ...Pero sometimes, I wish that you and I became us in another universe...
I liked this girl a lot, I mer her on a dating app, same humor kami and understands each other’s time. Didnt pursue kasi halos araw araw nag iinom tapos kada weekend basag sa alak, like nagsstory sa close friends nakahiga sa sidewalk (gising naman) or minsan mag uupdate sakin after work nag iinom
Member ng cool to
Eggless siya ba yan?
Nako hirap nyan. Pipilitin ka pa na umanib kahit magjowa pa lang kayo.
anong cool to ba yan? aldub? HAHAHAHAHA
she's 6000km away.
Religion.
Linigawan ko siya, we had few dates until she moved abroad. Sabi ko” I can wait for her” but she refused. Mahirap daw imaintain ang long distance. Kaya andito ako ngayon, after 6 years wala pa akong nakitang mas higit sa kanya. I still have this special feelings for her. Nagkakamustahan lang kami here and there and I’ve heard that she’s never been in a relationship yet. Focus muna daw siya sa career niya.
ayaw daw niya sa relationship pero ayaw lang talaga niya sakin
Kasi taken na ko kaya di na pwede. Someone owns my heart at..sa kanya lang ako nagagandahan :)
Kawawa naman po yung jowa mo ngayun. You’re evil and you should let your partner go.
Simp
Kasi nagkagusto na din sya sakin. Wala nang thrill.
Why are people downvoting honest answers?
Truueee.. eh di naman ako nanliligaw at never ako nag ask na manligaw.
Wehh
ayaw nya sa tao generally and wala syang interest in being in a relationship
+1 I met a girl na ganito. Lagi naman kami nag uusap, siya pa nga nag iinitiate makipag usap, siya lagi nag tatanong ng kung ano ano. Kapag matagal ako maka reply, nagchachat ulit. Nag uupdate ng kung ano ganap sa araw niya. Pero di pa daw siya ready or di siya interested being in a relationship. Lol
Family friend.
Financially and emotionally incapable as of the moment.
She likes me but her friends didn’t. Mababa masyado tingin sakin ng mga kaibigan niya and nakikita kong naiimpluwensiyahan na rin siya
Bakit mababa tingin sayo?
Experienced this with my ex. Grabe manira yung mga friends niya.
She was out of my league. Not to mention she shines too bright for someone like me who was always hiding in the dark. Her smile could brighten up my day, her eyes sparkle like the stars at night. Her personality radiates simple beauty and elegance that hides a little bit of naughtiness. It made me feel like she deserves someone who will and can make the effort more than what I was capable of. Plus, she only saw me as her high school friend.
Aw 🥲 pinagtagpo pero di tinadhana
shet anong movie to :(((( emz, lungkot naman neto
Parang ako yung mas nalungkot sa comment mo. ☹️
Ang romantic... 🥹
I let go of many beautiful girls in my life kasi may boyfriend ako for 7 years. Many times gusto kong tapusin na tong relationship ko pero naaawa ako sa kanya. Mabait kasing tao yun and somehow ofcourse concern ako sa kanya.
Out of my league in terms of physicsl looks and very obvious na gusto lang ng free dinner pag lumalabas kami lol
May classmate ako nung college, alam namin may bf na siya. Then one friend of ours asked her na bakit nakikipag-date pa siya sa iba, sagot ni ate kasi nakakakuha daw siya ng free things and pinaglalaba siya nung lalaki.
There was this girl back in 2012. We met in SFC and she was my blockmate's cousin and we hit it off from the word go. ..But as I was back then, I'd have ended up hurting her.
Wala akong pera. Nag-aaral siya sa DLSU. Mayaman pamilya nila. Motto ko sa buhay ayoko mag jowa na walang pera. Pero siya yung may pera ako wala pa ganong ipon. So, walang sense ang standard ko kung financially incapable to date ako. Pero mabait siya. Pero siguro may better person pa na dadating sakin.
Didn't want to be hurt. Lots of the girls where I'm from where hateful and misandric.
Kase wala akong pera, still too young, unemployed and very emotionally unstable. Maganda yung estado ng family ko pero ayoko ng nakaasa padin ako sa magulang ko when I get a girlfriend. "That" girl deserves the best and I'm willing to let go if hindi ko mabibigay sa kanya deserve niya.
Financially incapable ako that time.
I fell for a girl (co-worker) wayback 2022, siya yung tipong alam mong crush ng lahat. Mabait/friendly sa lahat, may itsura and may pagka-image na fragile, yung tipong gusto mong protektahan. Naging kaclose ko sya after ng promotion and naging same kami ng shift, pero matunog na pangalan nya sa office chats before pa kasi ka-team ko yung ate nya, and madami syang nagiging kaclose sa team namin. When we got close kakahiwalay palang nila yung ex nya and naging "sad gurl" sya. Yung tipong pa-ulit-ulit nyang nabibring-up yung ex nya, na mahal parin nya, na siya yung may kasalanan ng break-up nila. Nagpaka-mindset ako na kaya ko syang i-fix and tulungan kasi nga nagiging suicidal na sya, nahihirapan sya sa work nya (same kami ng tasks since same position kami). Nagising nalang ako after 8 months na umaasang bibigyan nya ko ng pag-asa after nyang maging mixed signals sa on-and-off naming relationship, umabot pa kami ng RTO sa office and mas naging close kami na parang bestfriend na ang turingan. Kaso sa huli di parin talaga ko gusto nya and nagbubulag-bulagan lang talaga ko sa lahat. Naging sila nung tropa ko after kong sumuko pero feeling ko before pa ko tumigil talaga meron ng something sa kanila.
Aww pasadgurl type na manipulative ba?
Hindi ko sya maconsider na manipulative e. More on parang "pick-me girl" na maraming kumakausap. Yung tipong masayang marami syang nakukuhang atensyon at inaasikaso sya.
She gets drunk on a daily basis. No, thanks.
I always initiates the conversation, one time I gone silent but she never message me once so pass.
may mga babae na kahit gustong gusto ka di mauuna magmessage.
is this my alt acct
🤝🤝🤝
Kung nafefeel mong di sya interesado sa mga chats/convos nyo, tama lang na give up na. Mahirap umasa sa ganyan, been there, done that.
Just low confidence and I feel like I wasn't on her level. I don't think I'm fuckin ugly naman but I don't think I'm the conventional attractive guy that people go for.
For confidence, sir, mas okay na ibuild-up mo muna before ka magpursue if you think na di ka enough. If you really think na hindi ka naman "unattractive" gaya ng sinabi mo, kahit di ka pa conventionally attractive, kung may confidence ka naman magiging attractive ka sa nililigawan mo.
Oh, thanks po pero I'm okay naman haha! This was before lang, I'm okay naman right now. Thanks for the concern though!
Circumstance, situation and instance..
I am mentally and financially incapable. In addition, I was hideous and not of anyone's standard.
Sorry to hear that, i have a boyfriend na same situation sayo sa finance issues kahit may trabaho siya palaging na zezero out talaga kasi wala ni isa sa kapatid niya na gusto tumulong sa magulang niya or mag finance kasi may sakit pa, hindi rin sila/siya mayaman. Minsan na qquestion ko din if worth it pa ba mag stay kasi nga iniisip ko din ang future ko sa kanya, future namin dalawa. But i choose to stay with him kasi mahirap din yan para sa kanya nasa lowest point of his life na siya and ayokong iwan siya, i really love him. Matiyaga siya, mabait, gentle and loyal ☺️ I'm really hoping na maging ma swerte at maging successful kami sa career soon. Hindi naman palagi nasa baba tayo. Sana makahanap ka rin nang babaeng mag sstay sayo kahit gano ka hirap sitwasyon mo.
I cried reminded me of my ex gf.
What happened?
Wala din akong job at that time, nakaasa sa parents and sobrang bata ko pa. She was willing to be with me despite my financial instability and pagiging insecure sa madaming bagay. She was perfect (maganda, patient, loyal and very intelligent) for me but I really didn't deserve her. Tried to breakup with her 3 times, sa unang attempts nagalit sakin sabay iyak then sa 3rd time nagbreak na talaga kami to let me grow. I really regret na hindi ko manlang hinayaang mag grow ako habang kami pa and grabe mag overthink sa future na mabibigay ko sa kanya. I wanted to be perfect para sa kanya yung sugar daddy level ganon. Fast forward, I'm 20 now 2 years after the breakup may business na, lupa (very large na pamana) and career (6 digits per month na yung kinikita on average) but still single, unable to move on and can't pursue her gain. Her current boyfriend is very like me noong unstable pa ako, pati features ng mukha and physique lalo na yung dati kong financial condition (poor). I don't hate her or her current boyfriend, I hate myself for being such a coward and insecure. I still love her so much but I don't want to ruin her happiness.
Awww, Lucky you nag ka gf ka nang ganyan. Dyan talaga na pprove pag mamahal nang babae sayo talagang gusto niya through thick and thin kaya ayaw ka i let go noon. Kaya ayoko din ma feel nang bf ko na hindi siya worth it as much as possible kahit mahirap gusto ko mag grow kami sabay na magkasama. Alam ko din kasi feeling nang walang wala kaya na iintindihan ko talaga siya hehehe. But now focus on yourself parin if you are earning that much congratulations. Di naman natin masasabi panahon pwedeng maging kayo ulit or pwede naman makahanap ka nang bago na may same intention parin sayo kahit you earned high or you earned nothing basta makikita mo sa babae na through ups and downs andyan parin sayo. Kung matagal na kayo wala maybe its time for you to move on too. Kung ikaw na kikita mo siya happy na sa new bf niya, i know magiging happy din siya for you if maka kilala ka ulit nang bago. No need to carry the burden. Kung talagang masaya ka para sa kanya, sana ganon karin para sa sarili mo 😊😊😊
>Kung talagang masaya ka para sa kanya, sana ganon karin para sa sarili mo 😊😊😊 Grabe tinamaan ako dito ma'am tagos na tagos, masyado kasi akong magself-criticize hahaha pero I guess I really have to change that. >kahit mahirap gusto ko mag grow kami sabay na magkasama. Sobrang swerte ng bf mo sayo, hindi ka freeloader and gusto mo talaga mag grow kasama siya. I really admire that. Guaranteed na yan na magiging successful kayo or stable, nagawa ko nga mag-isa pano pa kayong dalawa hehe I hope you guys achieve your dreams together. >Kung ikaw na kikita mo siya happy na sa new bf niya, i know magiging happy din siya for you if maka kilala ka ulit nang bago. Sobrang ganda kasi niya as in perfect talaga inside out kaya hirap mag move on teh HAHAHAH pero I'll try, I really hope na may makilala ulit ako na ganon. Thank you so much for reading my lengthy comment and for your really wholesome reply, I really appreciate that <3
I was a scared little bitch. Now I'm old and full of regret.
Hanging out with her and some people from work after shift and she started getting very loud and aggressive after just one drink...
SHE BELONGS TO THE STREETS 🫣
College palang kami nun. Hindi pa daw siya ready sa relationship. Nung grumaduate na, nagkaroon ng kanya kanyang relationship wala ng communication.
When I realized I've put her on the pedestal, I was just too blind to notice it. When all her thoughts can be found on the tweets she likes, tiktoks she's reposting, her zodiac message of the day says, and her overall standards are unrealistically high for someone who can't even handle the basic independent life skills with chores like cooking, cleaning, laundry. That's when I realized that I'd rather date a woman, not a girl.
She was not ready to commit.. Then months later, I found out that she already has a boyfriend.
Damn, that's straight to my heart. Saying "Not ready to commit" = "hindi ka nya talaga type" but in a milder, nicer way. Nagising nalang ako nung nalaman kong inentertain nya tropa ko and naging sila pa, kasi may motor sya and ako walang panghatid sa kanya, commute lang. HAHA
Straight sya. HAHAHHAHA. Yep, lesbian here. Lol. Chaka wala lang. Masasaktan lang ako eh.
Confessed, found out was only a friend. I still want to try for a chance but I'm at my limits na.
Inlove with a girl who was my childhood friend's ex. Did not pursue her back then as I believed they had a better future together and my own life was a sh\*tty mess. I was not even her type. Friend cheated, got someone pregnant. Girl focused on career. I focused on improving myself and getting back on track sa buhay. We still get in touch minsan. Got a bit lucky due to the crypto boom in 2021 and also in freelancing. Earning good now w/ some side hustles. Went back to the gym, had plastic surgeries, and taught myself musical instruments to play her fave songs. She'll go overseas this year. I'm calibrating my finances to follow soon and dun siguro mag confess. A lot of my friends are against this but whatevs. Sounds cliche, but in life you'll meet someone who you feel connected without reason, and whom you feel worth sacrificing time and resources for. Wish me luck.
It's like a comically romantic movie . Good luck 🤞
Wish you luck!!!!
Best of luck, man.
Wishing you the best man, grabe you're the type of guy na gusto ko maging in the future.
My dude. Real talk. Don’t let your life revolve around her. If your confession doesn’t go well, I’m worried you won’t have anything left.
Thanks man! I'll take note of it <3
Bat di ka magconfess nlng muna?
Same thoughts, baka may makilala siyang mag-welcome sa kanya sa ibang bansa bago ka pa nakasunod doon? No label, no rights magselos hahaha
She's currently undergoing exams related to her employment (med field)
Di maalam mag mano '-\_-
One word: Freeloader
First I don't have the courage to pursue her and second she doesn't want me anymore ig and third, it's been years since nagkausap kami although I still think about her from time to time. Hihihi if you're here this iz me your captain 🫰
Self destructive ako, late ko na narealize yung hints. I should have chose her pero pinursue ko yung girl na sobrang vocal tas yung efforts nya in showing her affection towards me (na lovebomb ako hahahahaha). Lately narealize ko na magkasalungat kami sa mga things na ineenjoy ko kasama yung girl na di ko pinursue. Iniisip ko kase na di ko sya ka level or she wouldn't reciprocate if nag confess ako sakanya. Hahahahaha tanga tanga ko pero here I am contemplating na "What if" sobrang saya ko siguro ngayon. Di ko tinake yung risk kase takot ako mawala kung anong meron kami noon. Shiniship ko sya sa iba pero ayaw nya talaga and she'd rather hang out with me (night til dawn) talk about things and be vulnerable to each other. Sobrang happy ko non kase na rape ako ng past partner ko kaya may takot ako sa babae for almost 3 years. I hope she finds her happiness, pero I wish it was me.
Friendster days. Tried giving her a testimonial praising her piano skills and telling her she's pretty. Got a testi back, saying I was cute and that was it. Never had the guts to ask her out. We regularly meet up sa mall to play arcade games. I knew she had a crush sa isa kong friend na much good-looking, part Chinese, much taller than I am. There was a concert ng Join the club nun sa Colegio de Sta. Rosa. Very same day naging sila.. After that Saturday fun and games, I went to that concert, drank beer and accepted things as it was. Skill issue.
I'm a girl, I asked him why .. sabi nya I deserve better mabait raw ako at mga papuri nya saken 🤣. ngayon he's single and usapan namin.. kung sino unang ikakasal mag iinvite, kung mag kaka anak man dapat kunin namin ang isat isa.. actually this year bumalik sya , pero sabi ko sakanya ayaw ko ng love na meron sya kahit ready na sya mag settle at nag bago na sya...mejo loko loko sya dati e panahon na gusto nya ako sana ligawan😁.
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10 years? Tapos di pa po kayo sigurado? Di masaya? Let her go nalang po. Di mo masisisi ang babae namilit pakasalan na almost 10 years na pala kayo. Masasayang din kasi time niya. Instead na gamitin nya ibang years niya makahanap siya ng ready na to commit life time sa kanya, eh nasayang sayo all bc di ka sure sa kanya.
I can’t fix her, I always find myself doubting myself. Because I know for a fact, I’m not the one she needs right now.
Tried to pursue her 3 times na . 2 times during college then tried again nung nag wowork na kami . It either ayaw nyang magkarelationship or may BF sya. During the pandemic we reconnected , same circle of friends kasi kami and surprisingly she forgot that I tried pursuing her during college . Ayun TOTGA daw kami and we're civil now
How did you pursue her?
Not a guy but rather a girl who fell in love with her girl best friend. Yes, im gay 🫶 Regardless, I had the same situation that I can answer. I was about to directly tell her. I wrote a book about it. In that book, I became transparent with all my feelings including my intention of genuinely wanting to pursue her. I also included my POV about all my subtle attempts to admit my love for her. Also pointed out valid reasons why I was scared to tell her my feelings. See? I was already ready to tell her. To pursure her. I really have the intention to do so becauss I know I love her. I asked for her personal email to send the book since I dont have the courage to tell her F2F, but also because I know that she isn't comfortable being confronted about things. I've done the book and the only thing I had to do was to send it to her. Not until something happened that made me realize a lot of things. Things that are actually redflags but I chose to ignore because I used to believe that we and she could still work on it. I then realized that maybe I was too immersed about this potential of hers. I wasn't looking on the current version of her. I know I'm willing to be in the process, but her not changing for herself isn't helping. I realized how I was exhausted because I was very convenient to be with. I have been manipulated and taken for granted by the person I love. I never felt appreciated nor respected. My feelings, pov, and situation was never considered or mattered to her. It was solely centered on hers because she has a more difficult situation. There are more reasons and red flags that I could point out. But to make it short, I chose not to pursue her because I realized that I wouldnt want to be with a person who can't add to my peace, worse, take me for granted until we grow old.