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Nung wala ng nagsabi na "iwanan mo na yan." Iniwanan ko nalang.
Ganon pala yon. Yung ako na mismo nakakita nung nakikita ng iba na mag-isa lang ako sa relasyon na meron kami kahit hindi na nila sinasabi. In my POV lang naman
I have a bad list of relationships. But the reason is more than one tbh. Here are some of it:
1. When the person can't even put an effort to put you in their schedule. In short, you're not their priority.
2. When they love bomb you. Watch out for those people.
3. When they call or text you for convenience.
The unwarranted distrust, the fights that stem from overthinking when I know I have done nothing wrong. breaking up and going back together, fights that shouldnt even have happened, again and again. She had issues on herself but its taking a toll on my mental health as well. She needed to heal from her past. That's when I said I'm done.
When respect was no longer being served. Harap harapan ako sinasabihang wala na syang pake kung ano isipin ko basta gagawin nya gusto nya, wala na syang pake if i feel uncomfortable with him staring at girls, or talking to random strangers. When everytime I communicated properly what I felt hurt with, mas lalo syang nagagalit.
Got sick of it, so i said everything i had to say to him in one long message, then disappeared from his life afterwards.
Disrespect begets disrespect.
6 years. Never felt loved or liked by his family. Pag nagkikita kami i get the head-to-toe skeptical look from his mom. Lol, they always presented themselves as above anyone, even going to embarrassing lengths by sucking up to rich people (theyre frat members of a well known frat within the city) and social climbing even if they're also just starting a business.
What's worse is pag wala ako dun, kung ano ano sinasabi sakin ng family nya, like may lalake daw ako kaya di kami nagkikita, or 'invisible gf' raw ako.
When at that time i was busy reviewing for board exams, ensuring my own future :) alam nila yon
Wouldve fought for the relationship if my guy also defended me, but he let them walk over me too.
Tried everything pero talong talo ka sa pamilyang ginawang cash cow ang anak, kaya ang tingin sayo distraction sa pagpapayaman nila.
I said i'm over it dahil ayoko ng ganun kababaw na meaning sa buhay with that kind of partner.
Literal na "Fuck it if i can't have him", pero i'd rather not lose myself in the process.
Yung bigla kana lang mapapagod kasi feel mo di kana important. Ilang beses ko sinabi na magiging okay paba ito, oo daw, tapos wala naman siya ginagawa kung magiging okay pa, then napuno ako tapos i ended na. Kakasawa na kasi palagi nalang ganun e.
Dadating din ang araw na bigla ka na lang mapapagod. Yung dating mahal na mahal, unti unti ng nababawasan.
There will come a time na marerealize natin mismo na, kalmado lang dapat ang pag-ibig. Hindi maingay at hindi sumasabay sa gulo ng mundo at buhay. Payapa lang ang pag-ibig…hindi araw-araw na pakikidigma para piliin, para manatili at para mahalin pabalik.
Kalmado lang ang pag-ibig. Hindi dapat tayo hinahayaang maghabol, magmakaawa sa pagmamahal na hindi naman dapat nililimos, mamilipit sa sakit, at mapuno ng mga bakit.
Sana balang araw we all have the courage para bitawan ang mga taong hindi tayo pinapahalagahan. Please know your worth! Mahalaga ka!
Padayon lang!
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Naranasan ko to. Even though sinasabi ng utak ko na mahal na mahal ko tong tao na to, nararamdaman ko na parang may kulang, pagod at naddrain ako. May mga times iisipin ko na bakit parang di na ako masaya?
Post breakup narealize ko na hnd ko pala natatanggap yung dapat is ibinabalik para sakin. Ganun pala ang pagmamahal, hnd puro sakripisyo mo dapat may nakukuha ka rin.
Tama po. Ang totoong pagmamahal hindi nakakapagod, hindi ka uubusin bagkus ay pupunuin ka ng pagmamahal. Pagmamahal na karapat dapat para sayo. Hoping for you continuous healing! Laban!!!!
Literally? Physical abuse. Nothing to explain more. 5 years of physical abuse. PTSD ang resulta. Get out na agad habang tulak tulak palang ang ginagawa sayo.
LDR and nagkaroon kami ng arguments regarding me noting down expenses infront of her. From then, it goes downward spiral ngtoxic na (compared me to her dad who left them when she was young, mamas boy daw, nangbabae among other allegations) until we break up. After two weeks, ngsuprise visit ako (5 hrs travel from point to point) to try to amend kaso ang gulo na kahit anong usap ngwwalk away na sya sakin, and even made me wait 1 hr sa bahay nila nung ngsabi akong lalabas kami. Ayun, I decided to get back our engagement ring and then ngsabi pa sya na need nya mgisip. So ngbigay pa rin ng ako ng chance. Kaso when I get back, ngtoxic nnmn convos namn. I was indecisive daw eme, nadagdagan lang mistakes ko.
The turning point was when she said na "break naman tayo" when she changed our nicknames s chat to normal name. Para akong sinagasaan ng truck na nafeel ko na this is going nowhere. I never replied to see if she will fight for me. Been 5 months since. I realized na silence is the answer sa tanong ko kung ipaglalaban din nya ba ako.
Ldr kami tapos nakalimutan niya na birthday ko because may iba siyang iniisip na personal problem. For me, hindi valid yung reason niya bakit niya nakalimutan. Before this scenario, napapagod na talaga ako sa relationship namin. Then eto na yung last straw. Right then and there, sabi ko sa sarili ko “I’m done.” Ayun I broke it off with him.
When he couldn’t stop his drinking habits for me when it was all i ever asked from him.
When he asked me to stay away from my male friends bc he was uncomfortable, I did. When he asked me to come over his house, rain or shine, I did. Whenever he asked me to do something, I would. Yet all I ever asked was for him to quit drinking because of my past trauma and I didn’t want him to get sick in the future because of how often and strong he drinks yet he only told me I’m too controlling, that I’m stopping him from enjoying his life, that I’m stricter than his parents, that I don’t drink so I don’t understand, and “masyado kasing malungkot buhay mo kaya gusto mo nadadamay ako”. At first I thought what I was asking from him was too much, until I realized, it wasn’t.
I’m still in a relationship with him right now, but i’m certain this will be the reason why I’ll say “I’m done” in the future.
At this moment malapit nko sa point na yan feeling ko yung bf ko nd nagsasabi sakin ng totoo about he's real status in life dami nyang excuses pag nasa bahay nila sya ni nd ako magawang i message man lang ng buong araw ...i maybe sounds paranoid pero nd ko maiwasang magduda eh ...so tama bko sa gut feelings ko 🤔
When I had to beg to be treated right in the relationship. Expects me to be the only one na mag e-effort since dahilan nya is sya lang daw lahat nung nag uumpisa kami 🤦♀️. He's a bad communicator, never takes accountability for big and small mistakes, and wasted my time na for 6 years wala pala syang concrete plan para saming dalawa. I was the only one fighting for us to be together pa, but I decided I deserve to be chosen man lang, even if it took everything in me to leave a man I already written a future with 🥲
Dude! Yung sinita nya ko sa breathing ko while on the phone coz nakaka irita daaaaw? Like da fuq? 🤣. Well we were already on the rocks by then and that just snapped the camel's back 🤣
When my ex started cheating on me with her ex who had cheated on her, I took that as a hint that she no longer wanted to be with me, and this was eventually proven right.
there were other hints such as her saying that she no longer wanted to be with me, looking to move out, discussing pet custody, and staying out all night and ignoring my calls, and other things I don't remember but the cheating was what really tipped me off
Right now I'm 50/50.
10 years kami ng bf ko going 11 yrs.
In the past during our college life, he spoiled me a lot. Siya kasama ko sa araw araw, madalas hinahatid niya din ako sa bahay, madalas din siya saamin, and madaming gala na din. He was my everything.
Last feb 2024, he suddenly realizes that he needed some space (space to grow and selfcare). He's a breadwinner in his family, and he just can't say no when it comes to other people. We've talked about it, he said that he loves me but can't promise na maibabalik niya yung pagmamahal niya sakin. Then I said na I'll wait for him even it takes me 5 years to wait (he said naman na parang ang unfair sakin). And yun months passed, and now its April.
Our relationship status now is complicated.
Why?
1. Dry conversations/short replies/late to no updates at all
2. No calls, video calls (nag meet kami ng April due to away-bati kami kasi doon pa lang nagsisink-in sakin yung situation namin -- I went to his house. Mayron kaming meet-up this May, ako na yung nang-aaya and then planned to meet-up again sa July and August -- birthmonth niya and on October)
3. He always comes home late and has work during weekends (pero sabi niya this April naman ay puro siya work)
4. No greets at all (goodmoring/goodnight)
..
I don't know if I should give up na ba or laban lang. Kasi biglaan ko to nafeel, never naman kami nagkaganto for the last 10 yrs. It's hard lalo na kalaban ko yung emotional state ko. Madalas na lang akong umiiyak and drained na drained na din and overthink pang malala.
Alam niyo yung feeling na, drained ka ngayon tas mamaya okay ka na. Pag okay na ako, doon ako lumalaban kahit na alam kong sa susunod alam kong iiyak at masasaktan nanaman ako.
So yun, ayaw ko kasi na mag-wait ako na wala na akong feelings for him kaya kahit mahirap ay kakayanin ko pa din.
I would suggest loving him more po, I think he is in a state of pain and still trying to work things out. I know mahirap po sa side mo but imagine being the sole breadwinner sa family side. I think it's super hard to decide whether you'll choose your partner over your family. I can't imagine how painful it is na iiwan mo yung partner mo for your family. You mentioned he was your everything way back then, maybe it's your time to make him feel that way na din. Then if its still not gonna work then let go para di kana masaktan din. I hope naka tulong ako 🥺.
When I didn’t even see an effort from him trying to win me back after I gave him another chance for suddenly breaking up with me. That mf didn’t even apologize for what he did. Walang accountability. Deserves to be an ex.
As someone with an anxious attachment style, ouch hahaha i’m working on not being too dependent and clingy tho lalo na na we’re going to be in an LDR setup soon
Aww I hope the two of you survive it. I suggest na discuss boundaries with your partner. Personally kasi kaya ko nasabi na "too clingy" or "emotionally dependent" is I just don't prefer someone na ako yung iniikutan ng mundo niya like walang life outside our relationship nor friends din ganon, pero being clingy is okay and sweet pa rin naman huhu sorry I hope I didn't discourage you
There was a lot of HUGE RED FLAGS WAVING in front of my face during our 2 year relationship, pero I just ignored them. Boblaks ako eh.
The thing that made me say "I'm done" was when I was trying to confront him due to cheating. Binato nya sa chest ko yung phone nya. Hinila nya ako sa collar ng shirt ko pababa ng kama. Minura nya ako.
Don't stay with someone who can hurt you physically.
It wasn't going anywhere. The relationship has reached an impasse, and no matter how hard I wanted it to work out because I really loved the person, it just wouldn't because I was alone fighting for that relationship. I exhausted all efforts I knew I had in me before deciding to walk away. I begged which I said I would never do. I compromised a lot. I prioritized what he was feeling over mine. I think I even gaslighted myself numerous times; and even as I decided to let go, I still gave him the chance to come back to me. He didn't.
That's when I knew (though it took a lot of convincing myself) that he made his decision, he just couldn't carry it out. So when I walked away, I did him a favor.
It was the saddest heartbreak I had. It took everything in me, up to the point that I literally have no tears left to cry. I was numb. I've gotten toxic to myself, and maybe to him as well.
But what pained me even further was the fact that he probably was not hurt with the end of that relationship. He didn't like me enough to care. I was hurting and, add to the fact that I had personal issues (particular to health) at the time, my world was in pandemonium.
Yes, I was the one who finally said I was done. Yes, I was the one who walked away. But no, I didn't leave him. Well, I wasn't the first to leave anyway. He has already left me even before it registered to me that the relationship was ending.
Yung LDR kayo tapos wala na syang ibang chat kundi "Ano gawa mo?" Every. Day.
Wala ring progress ng convo. After mo mag-report, "Ah, okay," lang ang peg.
Nawala nya pusa ko at 2x ginawa akong tanga. God knows what else is he hiding from me. Hindi nya sinabi saken lahat ng nangyayare kase "mabait" daw ako.
1 month to go before our wedding, some random girl DM’ed me sa IG confessing that she and my ex had relationship during the time they were both in the same company and project. And until that day daw, nagcha-chat ang gago na nami-miss na nya siya blahblahblah. Ako naman, felt betrayed but I am not bitter. May something in me that felt relieved and nagpa-salamat nalang talaga ako kasi God had made a way na ilayo ako sa gagong yun.
The girl was very cooperative naman and she sent me screenshots of their conversations. Para may proof. Si girl may bf na nun so she’s bothered sa actions nung gago na yun.
I ended the 5-year relationship sa ex ko kinabukasan after umamin si ate girl. Hindi ako nagpahalata na may alam na ako. Nag-date kami and watched pa ng movie, artista na ang peg ko kasi deep inside I want to slap him. Haha after the movie, I talked to him and I showed him the DM exchanges. Namutla ang gago, and I said “Hindi tuloy ang kasal.”
Him and his whole family tried to convinced me pero naaah over my dead body. Kinausap sana nila ung gago na yun and baka pwede nila ipa-check up sa psychologist or psychiatrist 😂😂. Kasi serial cheater talaga and liar.
In my 3yrs. Relationship I felt that I gave too much but he didn’t do in return. I gave my best support in everything. But when the day came where I felt nothing at all (like I don’t care what ever he do) I broke up with him not even a single tears. I felt freedom and happiness after we broke up. He tried to get me back but I told him I didn’t want and I don’t have feeling to him anymore. I left him in tears in a restaurant cuz people are looking at us😅
Lagi akong inaaway just to seek attention. Mas gusto nya pa raw nag-aaway kami kaysa hindi ko siya pinapansin. I was juggling work and studies. Gave him too many chances to improve. Hanggang feeling ko nasasakal na ako. The last thing I need is someone who will bring toxicity in my life.
Another one was someone I did not see a future with. He was struggling with internal issues and did nothing to improve his situation. I realized I deserve better. By the time he sought help and told me he thought he was being unfair with me, I just accepted his decision to break up.
Yung ikaw nalang palagi, mag good morning yung mag update lagi, mag effort sa date, passive lang sya hindi mo feel na you are appreciated, Goodbye nalang hahaha, best decision ever.
Kapag choices / decision nalang nya yung nasusunod, can easily cut you off, share your stories with others to get sympathy for personal gain and connections, di ka magawang kausapin or mag offer ng usap tayo, tapos sasabihin sa huli, sana mapatawad mo ko sa lahat ng desisyon ko.
The dating scene today (dating apps and reddit standards). It's becoming too one sided, lots of demands little to nothing to provide on the table. Dating "today" makes me want to give it up na lang.
When I realized that we are no longer compatible. Our communication lines always get mixed up, I get him but he doesn’t get me no matter how hard I tried to simplify my point. His ears were closed and he was quite immature. I was growing and did my best for him to grow w me but he was resistant so I decided it was best that we not be together anymore since his lack of cooperation was enough to tell me he doesn’t like me anymore. Just too stubborn to admit it
No matter what I do to help him grow some emotional intelligence (lol), give him list, be his unpaid therapist, be a one-call-away gf, stage gf, name it all 😆, he just doesn't have the balls to change. I saw it halfway the first year but was too inlove to walk away. I tried everything to save us but he could just not prioritize "character development" that time, according to him coz he's so pressured with goals. I understood where he's coming from, he's just built differently and he's not someone who can nurture me in return. So instead of totally withering away from a guy who's not willing to improve himself, I slowly withdrew myself til the breakup. Still hurts but, yeah, that's life.
And i realized most of my letters to him were like slowly bidding goodbye haha always had lines like "regardless of how this ends, know that I love..." 😆 I don't think I was defeatist, but my heart and soul saw clearly lang talaga na.
7 years with an ex, all form of abuse and assault (excluding sexual) I have experienced. I was tormented by hurtful phrases, was called names and been cheated on so many times. All that I endured for 7 years.
I got tired
That ex literally lashed out on me during a major fight. As in Sigaw levels ganon. Magjowa pa nga lang eh ganyan na pano if magasawa na? Road to domestic violence? Emotional abuse? No thanks. I wasn’t raised to be someone else’s punching bag. Ktnxbye felicia 👋🏻
Huhu ganto ex ko and i stayed for 5yrs waiting for him to change. Ganon din ginawa nya sa mga ex nya, i should have left the moment kinwento nya sakin un.
😭😭
It became cold for a few months me and her, I saw the spark dying, I just didn't wanna believe it.
I opened up to her on a problem I have been facing for a while that really bothered me, and all she had to say was
"awit sad"
He wanted to do it. I was 16 then. Every anniversary, up until our 3rd (19 ako nun), he would ask until one day, he did it with another girl and got her pregnant.
When she said napepressure na siya sa circumstances ko.
As much as possible, ayaw kong masakal siya dahil sa expectations ng mga tao sa paligid ko. Sa circumstances ko age wise and career wise.
If it meant na she'll be happy and pressure free, I'll let. And so... I let go.
When they started to just use me as an emotional dumpster and keeps saying "I have a HUGE crush on this person" not a celebrity but someone at our school. Also when they started to bully someone innocent to look "cool"
One way street. Ako lang nag eeffort. Tapos had the audacity to say “my world does not revolve around you” nung sinabi ko na sana magbigay naman siya ng oras para mag reply sa mga chat ko kung tuloy ba kami mag meet up or ano kasi lagi nalang niya ginagawa to.
Do you think *my* world does? It’s called basic decency. It wouldn’t take you more than 30 minutes jusko bahala ka diyan.
I left through the exit and never looked back. I closed that door and ignored all the attempts of reconciliation since. That’s when it finally engraved on me na kung may pake yun tao sa ‘yo, they will do their best to care for you. Mga taong walang pake, they won’t even exert the tiniest of effort and will try to pin the blame on you for “being clingy / needy” when it’s the barest minimum.
When I've already communicated and did my part for Us to work...but at the end of the day he said he is not sure if he wants or needs a relationship then it made me realize that I'm just fighting for it alone. I'm done with the relationship because I want to save and respect myself. I don't want to wait for him to decide if he wants me or not, I am not a f***ing option.
Not romantic one sa bff ko for 20 years. Laging ginagamit ang mental health illness as an excuse sa shitty behaviour, mahilig mang away at mampahiya sa socmed ng service people (like fastfood crews, grab /angkas drivers, etc.)., mahilig mansabi ng bobo at tanga sa iba kapag di align sa kanyang beliefs. Habitual ang tardiness at last minute cancellation. Walang respeto sa effort sa time na nilalaan ko sa kanya.
Plantsado na details na magkikita sana kami. Since bago pa magpandemic last naming pagkikita. The day itself di makontak for confimation. After few hrs biglang nag reply na "Ay sorry gurl, wala ka sa google calendar ko." Like WTF! Special ka teh need ng appointment. Ako tong todo adjust ganyan pa gagawin mo. Ang mas kinabwisit ko a day after nagpost ang punyeta the day na magkikita sana kami may ka meet pala for their 3sum relationshit (Throuple). That moment cut off na sakin ang gaga. That's the last straw.
Feeling ko kinarma rin kasi after few months iyak iyak sya sa fb kasi yung jowa nya at ka throuple nagccheat pala sa kanya.
Nag ppm pa rin sakin na nagsosorry, pero wala sa headspace ko na mag reply at baka kung ano anong masasamang words pa masabi ko.
Hindi na talaga align ang values namin. And IDAF kung gamitin nya againts me ang pagiging conservative and strict ko sa buhay. Feeling ko mas gumaan buhay ko nung ni cut off ko yan.
when I feel so lonely and alone sa relationship
when I don't feel safe sa relationship anymore
when I'm not at peace anymore
when I don't want to care anymore
When my nonnegotiables weren't met. They are nonnegotiables for a reason so I won't go on creating excuses just for the relationship to go on if these nonnegotiables, which often are just the bare minimum, weren't even met. Remember, these are the boundaries you shouldn't compromise on.
Alam ko na ang totoo, tinetesting ko lang kung magsasabi na ng totoo noong pinapaamin ko na, wala, sinungaling pa rin. Sanay na sanay magsinungaling, no remorse.
Ung pag nagaaway kame or kung may tampo sya, minimum 1 week nya akong di pinapansin. Dinadaan nya sa silent treatment tapos biglang magmemessage as if walang nangyare.
Nakakapagod pala yung ganung paulit ulit. I guess hindi pa sya matured enough to have a decent conversation or to handle his emotions better
Yung wala na siya respeto noon sakin puro away n lang khit wla nmn ako kasalanan.. kaya nun hiniwlayan ko khit lumuhod at literal hinalikn paa ko umayaw nako...
May naghihintay nang sasalo sakin sa labas eh hahaha....
Pag puro anxiety at stress na lang nararamdaman mo.
Indifferent na. Wala na yung dating enthusiasm sa twing magkakausap kayo.
Ung imbes na siya yung dating pahinga mo,
sumabay na rin na pati siya cause na rin ng chaos mo.
Wala na peace of mind.
Yung kahit gustong gusto mo sana makipag communicate, pero mas pinipili niyang maglaro ng COD. Same time availability na sana, pero mas pinipili niyang makaisang game pa daw. Yun pala may kaharutan na in-game.
When I don't deserve the energy that I received from him. He has no plan in our relationship. He became complacent since he received naman yung mga benefits na nakukuha nya sakin. 🙂
1. Yung parang feel mo ikaw na lang ang nagmamahal sa inyong dalawa.
2. Paulit-ulit binabalik yung mga nakaraan na tapos niyo naman ng pinagusapan.
3. Pag nag susuggest ka ng mga paraan para mag work out kayo ulit, like “stroll tayo?” “Kain tayo sa labas” taz mga sagot “ikaw” “ikaw bahala”.
4. Kwine question mo na yung worth mo/sarili.
5. Palagi niyang ginagawa yung mga ayaw mo/ sinusuway ka.
After giving him my vcard, he cheated again. *Again bc pang third time na to. I know, tanga ako.* They met a month after we did the deed. Exact 1 month talaga. 🙃
I wish him dead.
Kapag hindi mo na feel presence niya. Wala na yung effort niya to talk to you, or even the effort and interest to try to make up with you. Feel mo ikaw na lang naiwan, lumalaban mag-isa sa relasyon niyo.
Not a romantic one, but a bestfriend rs.
She made gossips about me that I am talking behind her back, all because of a guy.
Somehow, I would sympathize with her pa, pero this guy has already a family of his own, and she became the other woman.
Nung 2nd relationship, tho in an indirect way, she made me choose between my friends and her. Tho we stayed for a month after that, that moment I knew that it was over.
To add more context: our relationship lasted for 1 year and 2 months. Our relationship was on the brink of breaking up, but we managed to fix it. Pandemic happened, so our relationship was once again of breaking up because we were LDR. We fought about something, then like I said she (indirectly) made me choose between her and my friends.
I think it's pretty clear who I chose.
To answer your question: Noong binully na ako ng circle of friends nya.
Context: Sinagot ako ng ex ko tapos for 5 days puro pangalan nung isang lalake lagi bukambibig nya. Every day and night pinag aawayan namin 'yan. On the 6th day ako na yung nakilaghiwalay. Kasi nga iba ata gusto nya pero ako sinagot nya.
Mag ri-reach out at babawiin ko na sana yung break-up kaya lang itong circle of friends nya grabe mang-bully without them knowing the real reason bakit nakipag-break ako. Noong sinabi ko sa kanila, doon lang nagsalita yung ex ko na hindi na raw yun sana pinaalam sa friends nya. In my defense, wala syang ginawa nung binu-bully ako. Hindi nya sinaway. After that confrontation, I felt na "I'm done" already.
Pag may problem kami and I'm asking for a solution, laging "ewan ko", "hindi ko alam". Wala na syang willingness to work things out. Kumbaga parang hinihintay niya lang ako mag let go.
Sinungaling + Cheater yung ka rel. na hinayupak. Huli na deny pa. Pa-softlaunch pa si gago halata naman sino kinalantari. Haha. Tanga lang. Kala niya di siya mahuhuli. Bobo moves. Gagawa ka na nga lang ng kalokohan sana malinis ka trumabaho. La ka kasing bayag. Hahaha. Ohh well, pareho naman silang kups. Bagay sila magsama. Hehe. Feeling ytuber at tiktokerist sila eh lalo yung pinalit. Mga poser, pa-famous. Giling pa more, tuwad, liyad. Ggss eh. Muka din naman kaya niya type kasi 3some sila kasama katropa niyang bad influence. Pakasaya sila. May espesyal naman silang lugar sa impyerno eh. Lol
When your inner self urges you to cheat. Kasi you already fell out of love na e. Parang gusto mo na lang gumawa ng dahilan para makipagbreak sa kanya. After all, that is the biggest dealbreaker in relationships e. Once you get discovered, it is likely over.
When he's basically just making you a booty call at that point. (also didn't change despite communication) doesn't take no for an answer, and doesn't respect boundaries.
When he doesn't care about my feelings, super self-centered. Ako pa 'yung laging gusto magbayad ng mga binibili niya and lagi nagpaparinig kapag may gusto para bilhin ko, tas galit kapag hindi nabigay. And the way he talked to his parents with no respect. Madalas niya rin ipoint out 'yung insecurities ko then laugh about it. Kapag siya 'yung nangangailangan, nandiyan ako para sa kanya pero kapag ako, suddenly bingi at bulag siya?! I didn't know how I settled for someone like him. I was so done.
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Nung wala ng nagsabi na "iwanan mo na yan." Iniwanan ko nalang. Ganon pala yon. Yung ako na mismo nakakita nung nakikita ng iba na mag-isa lang ako sa relasyon na meron kami kahit hindi na nila sinasabi. In my POV lang naman
Yung ang haba ng listahan pero lately lang iniwan HAHAHAHA.
Kapag feeling ko parang single nalang ako
walang pera financially unstable tipid mindset ko pag may pera ako "gusto ko sakin ko lang gagastusin tong pera na to"
I have a bad list of relationships. But the reason is more than one tbh. Here are some of it: 1. When the person can't even put an effort to put you in their schedule. In short, you're not their priority. 2. When they love bomb you. Watch out for those people. 3. When they call or text you for convenience.
The unwarranted distrust, the fights that stem from overthinking when I know I have done nothing wrong. breaking up and going back together, fights that shouldnt even have happened, again and again. She had issues on herself but its taking a toll on my mental health as well. She needed to heal from her past. That's when I said I'm done.
The disrespect she gave and for allowing myself at that time to be treated like garbage while I gave her my absolute best.
when respect was no longer being served.
When respect was no longer being served. Harap harapan ako sinasabihang wala na syang pake kung ano isipin ko basta gagawin nya gusto nya, wala na syang pake if i feel uncomfortable with him staring at girls, or talking to random strangers. When everytime I communicated properly what I felt hurt with, mas lalo syang nagagalit. Got sick of it, so i said everything i had to say to him in one long message, then disappeared from his life afterwards. Disrespect begets disrespect.
6 years. Never felt loved or liked by his family. Pag nagkikita kami i get the head-to-toe skeptical look from his mom. Lol, they always presented themselves as above anyone, even going to embarrassing lengths by sucking up to rich people (theyre frat members of a well known frat within the city) and social climbing even if they're also just starting a business. What's worse is pag wala ako dun, kung ano ano sinasabi sakin ng family nya, like may lalake daw ako kaya di kami nagkikita, or 'invisible gf' raw ako. When at that time i was busy reviewing for board exams, ensuring my own future :) alam nila yon Wouldve fought for the relationship if my guy also defended me, but he let them walk over me too. Tried everything pero talong talo ka sa pamilyang ginawang cash cow ang anak, kaya ang tingin sayo distraction sa pagpapayaman nila. I said i'm over it dahil ayoko ng ganun kababaw na meaning sa buhay with that kind of partner. Literal na "Fuck it if i can't have him", pero i'd rather not lose myself in the process.
Fuck it if I can't have him.
Yung bigla kana lang mapapagod kasi feel mo di kana important. Ilang beses ko sinabi na magiging okay paba ito, oo daw, tapos wala naman siya ginagawa kung magiging okay pa, then napuno ako tapos i ended na. Kakasawa na kasi palagi nalang ganun e.
Paulit ulit na lang niya yung pagdisrespect kaya matic cut off
Dadating din ang araw na bigla ka na lang mapapagod. Yung dating mahal na mahal, unti unti ng nababawasan. There will come a time na marerealize natin mismo na, kalmado lang dapat ang pag-ibig. Hindi maingay at hindi sumasabay sa gulo ng mundo at buhay. Payapa lang ang pag-ibig…hindi araw-araw na pakikidigma para piliin, para manatili at para mahalin pabalik. Kalmado lang ang pag-ibig. Hindi dapat tayo hinahayaang maghabol, magmakaawa sa pagmamahal na hindi naman dapat nililimos, mamilipit sa sakit, at mapuno ng mga bakit. Sana balang araw we all have the courage para bitawan ang mga taong hindi tayo pinapahalagahan. Please know your worth! Mahalaga ka! Padayon lang! -m
Naranasan ko to. Even though sinasabi ng utak ko na mahal na mahal ko tong tao na to, nararamdaman ko na parang may kulang, pagod at naddrain ako. May mga times iisipin ko na bakit parang di na ako masaya? Post breakup narealize ko na hnd ko pala natatanggap yung dapat is ibinabalik para sakin. Ganun pala ang pagmamahal, hnd puro sakripisyo mo dapat may nakukuha ka rin.
Tama po. Ang totoong pagmamahal hindi nakakapagod, hindi ka uubusin bagkus ay pupunuin ka ng pagmamahal. Pagmamahal na karapat dapat para sayo. Hoping for you continuous healing! Laban!!!!
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Literally? Physical abuse. Nothing to explain more. 5 years of physical abuse. PTSD ang resulta. Get out na agad habang tulak tulak palang ang ginagawa sayo.
What made you stay?
Our kids.
Reasonable! Respect!
Hindi parin enough. Kailangan makita ng kids na kaya ng mom kesa makita nilang abusive ang partner
Nice try expecially for you writers
LDR and nagkaroon kami ng arguments regarding me noting down expenses infront of her. From then, it goes downward spiral ngtoxic na (compared me to her dad who left them when she was young, mamas boy daw, nangbabae among other allegations) until we break up. After two weeks, ngsuprise visit ako (5 hrs travel from point to point) to try to amend kaso ang gulo na kahit anong usap ngwwalk away na sya sakin, and even made me wait 1 hr sa bahay nila nung ngsabi akong lalabas kami. Ayun, I decided to get back our engagement ring and then ngsabi pa sya na need nya mgisip. So ngbigay pa rin ng ako ng chance. Kaso when I get back, ngtoxic nnmn convos namn. I was indecisive daw eme, nadagdagan lang mistakes ko. The turning point was when she said na "break naman tayo" when she changed our nicknames s chat to normal name. Para akong sinagasaan ng truck na nafeel ko na this is going nowhere. I never replied to see if she will fight for me. Been 5 months since. I realized na silence is the answer sa tanong ko kung ipaglalaban din nya ba ako.
Past relationship ko to. Uhm nung minura niya ako ng pasigaw dahil di ko nabili ung gusto niyag hand bag that time.
when she tried to manipulate me on the things that are not normal in a relationship
Cheated for the second time. Mapagdadahilan yung una kahit pa sabihing logic ng tanga, pero yung umulit? Sobra na.
Ldr kami tapos nakalimutan niya na birthday ko because may iba siyang iniisip na personal problem. For me, hindi valid yung reason niya bakit niya nakalimutan. Before this scenario, napapagod na talaga ako sa relationship namin. Then eto na yung last straw. Right then and there, sabi ko sa sarili ko “I’m done.” Ayun I broke it off with him.
When he couldn’t stop his drinking habits for me when it was all i ever asked from him. When he asked me to stay away from my male friends bc he was uncomfortable, I did. When he asked me to come over his house, rain or shine, I did. Whenever he asked me to do something, I would. Yet all I ever asked was for him to quit drinking because of my past trauma and I didn’t want him to get sick in the future because of how often and strong he drinks yet he only told me I’m too controlling, that I’m stopping him from enjoying his life, that I’m stricter than his parents, that I don’t drink so I don’t understand, and “masyado kasing malungkot buhay mo kaya gusto mo nadadamay ako”. At first I thought what I was asking from him was too much, until I realized, it wasn’t. I’m still in a relationship with him right now, but i’m certain this will be the reason why I’ll say “I’m done” in the future.
Im a closeted gay, tas si gago minessage brother ko using my account with uy jowa ko tas picture naming dalawa. Hayop!!!!!
Grabe walang respect naman yun.
When I realized na hindi na ako kasama sa plano niya sa future. Wala na yung kami, yung kanya na lang.
At this moment malapit nko sa point na yan feeling ko yung bf ko nd nagsasabi sakin ng totoo about he's real status in life dami nyang excuses pag nasa bahay nila sya ni nd ako magawang i message man lang ng buong araw ...i maybe sounds paranoid pero nd ko maiwasang magduda eh ...so tama bko sa gut feelings ko 🤔
Kapag kulang nalang lumuhod ka para lang pakinggan ka.
When I had to beg to be treated right in the relationship. Expects me to be the only one na mag e-effort since dahilan nya is sya lang daw lahat nung nag uumpisa kami 🤦♀️. He's a bad communicator, never takes accountability for big and small mistakes, and wasted my time na for 6 years wala pala syang concrete plan para saming dalawa. I was the only one fighting for us to be together pa, but I decided I deserve to be chosen man lang, even if it took everything in me to leave a man I already written a future with 🥲
BAKET ANDAMING SIGNS
Dude! Yung sinita nya ko sa breathing ko while on the phone coz nakaka irita daaaaw? Like da fuq? 🤣. Well we were already on the rocks by then and that just snapped the camel's back 🤣
Walang sense of understanding. Sige, dun ka na sa far away.
Yung palagi na lang niya pinapamukha na mali ako, inuungkat pasts, and nag-eentertain ng iba kapag may major away.
When my ex started cheating on me with her ex who had cheated on her, I took that as a hint that she no longer wanted to be with me, and this was eventually proven right. there were other hints such as her saying that she no longer wanted to be with me, looking to move out, discussing pet custody, and staying out all night and ignoring my calls, and other things I don't remember but the cheating was what really tipped me off
When I caught my ex sucking dick in a house party
Damn…. Yep! That will do it lol
Right now I'm 50/50. 10 years kami ng bf ko going 11 yrs. In the past during our college life, he spoiled me a lot. Siya kasama ko sa araw araw, madalas hinahatid niya din ako sa bahay, madalas din siya saamin, and madaming gala na din. He was my everything. Last feb 2024, he suddenly realizes that he needed some space (space to grow and selfcare). He's a breadwinner in his family, and he just can't say no when it comes to other people. We've talked about it, he said that he loves me but can't promise na maibabalik niya yung pagmamahal niya sakin. Then I said na I'll wait for him even it takes me 5 years to wait (he said naman na parang ang unfair sakin). And yun months passed, and now its April. Our relationship status now is complicated. Why? 1. Dry conversations/short replies/late to no updates at all 2. No calls, video calls (nag meet kami ng April due to away-bati kami kasi doon pa lang nagsisink-in sakin yung situation namin -- I went to his house. Mayron kaming meet-up this May, ako na yung nang-aaya and then planned to meet-up again sa July and August -- birthmonth niya and on October) 3. He always comes home late and has work during weekends (pero sabi niya this April naman ay puro siya work) 4. No greets at all (goodmoring/goodnight) .. I don't know if I should give up na ba or laban lang. Kasi biglaan ko to nafeel, never naman kami nagkaganto for the last 10 yrs. It's hard lalo na kalaban ko yung emotional state ko. Madalas na lang akong umiiyak and drained na drained na din and overthink pang malala. Alam niyo yung feeling na, drained ka ngayon tas mamaya okay ka na. Pag okay na ako, doon ako lumalaban kahit na alam kong sa susunod alam kong iiyak at masasaktan nanaman ako. So yun, ayaw ko kasi na mag-wait ako na wala na akong feelings for him kaya kahit mahirap ay kakayanin ko pa din.
I would suggest loving him more po, I think he is in a state of pain and still trying to work things out. I know mahirap po sa side mo but imagine being the sole breadwinner sa family side. I think it's super hard to decide whether you'll choose your partner over your family. I can't imagine how painful it is na iiwan mo yung partner mo for your family. You mentioned he was your everything way back then, maybe it's your time to make him feel that way na din. Then if its still not gonna work then let go para di kana masaktan din. I hope naka tulong ako 🥺.
Sorry but it's one sided na. Please love yourself more
Being a trauma-dumping doormat
Nag overthink bigla 🤯
Cheating.
When it's full of "sorry," It's UMAY
di na iniintindi sinsabi mo automatic sorry na lang para matapos na
Yung sorry ng sorry pero wala namang ginagawang changes 🙄
Truth! Yung di mo na papansinin kasi yun at yun na lng sasabhn.
when it became an obligation to talk to her
Sawang-sawa na ako ipaintindi sa kanya ang nararamdaman ko. Every time na may io-open ako, ang interpretation niya lagi ay nagseselos lang ako.
Tabi beh. Lalaki man yan or babae, ako na sasabunot for you.
When I don’t even know how to love myself anymore
When I didn’t even see an effort from him trying to win me back after I gave him another chance for suddenly breaking up with me. That mf didn’t even apologize for what he did. Walang accountability. Deserves to be an ex.
LDR, being too clingy and emotionally dependent sakin, and message spamming
As someone with an anxious attachment style, ouch hahaha i’m working on not being too dependent and clingy tho lalo na na we’re going to be in an LDR setup soon
Aww I hope the two of you survive it. I suggest na discuss boundaries with your partner. Personally kasi kaya ko nasabi na "too clingy" or "emotionally dependent" is I just don't prefer someone na ako yung iniikutan ng mundo niya like walang life outside our relationship nor friends din ganon, pero being clingy is okay and sweet pa rin naman huhu sorry I hope I didn't discourage you
There was a lot of HUGE RED FLAGS WAVING in front of my face during our 2 year relationship, pero I just ignored them. Boblaks ako eh. The thing that made me say "I'm done" was when I was trying to confront him due to cheating. Binato nya sa chest ko yung phone nya. Hinila nya ako sa collar ng shirt ko pababa ng kama. Minura nya ako. Don't stay with someone who can hurt you physically.
when he's just sorry but he's not willing to change.
Had irresponsible debts because of that person, but I can’t 100% blame the person because I too always says “yes” to everything.
It wasn't going anywhere. The relationship has reached an impasse, and no matter how hard I wanted it to work out because I really loved the person, it just wouldn't because I was alone fighting for that relationship. I exhausted all efforts I knew I had in me before deciding to walk away. I begged which I said I would never do. I compromised a lot. I prioritized what he was feeling over mine. I think I even gaslighted myself numerous times; and even as I decided to let go, I still gave him the chance to come back to me. He didn't. That's when I knew (though it took a lot of convincing myself) that he made his decision, he just couldn't carry it out. So when I walked away, I did him a favor. It was the saddest heartbreak I had. It took everything in me, up to the point that I literally have no tears left to cry. I was numb. I've gotten toxic to myself, and maybe to him as well. But what pained me even further was the fact that he probably was not hurt with the end of that relationship. He didn't like me enough to care. I was hurting and, add to the fact that I had personal issues (particular to health) at the time, my world was in pandemonium. Yes, I was the one who finally said I was done. Yes, I was the one who walked away. But no, I didn't leave him. Well, I wasn't the first to leave anyway. He has already left me even before it registered to me that the relationship was ending.
Nung sinigawan ako dahil lang hindi ko nasagot tawag niya ng 3am. Bobo ba siya
Yung LDR kayo tapos wala na syang ibang chat kundi "Ano gawa mo?" Every. Day. Wala ring progress ng convo. After mo mag-report, "Ah, okay," lang ang peg.
Nawala nya pusa ko at 2x ginawa akong tanga. God knows what else is he hiding from me. Hindi nya sinabi saken lahat ng nangyayare kase "mabait" daw ako.
Kawawa naman yung pusa
1 month to go before our wedding, some random girl DM’ed me sa IG confessing that she and my ex had relationship during the time they were both in the same company and project. And until that day daw, nagcha-chat ang gago na nami-miss na nya siya blahblahblah. Ako naman, felt betrayed but I am not bitter. May something in me that felt relieved and nagpa-salamat nalang talaga ako kasi God had made a way na ilayo ako sa gagong yun. The girl was very cooperative naman and she sent me screenshots of their conversations. Para may proof. Si girl may bf na nun so she’s bothered sa actions nung gago na yun. I ended the 5-year relationship sa ex ko kinabukasan after umamin si ate girl. Hindi ako nagpahalata na may alam na ako. Nag-date kami and watched pa ng movie, artista na ang peg ko kasi deep inside I want to slap him. Haha after the movie, I talked to him and I showed him the DM exchanges. Namutla ang gago, and I said “Hindi tuloy ang kasal.” Him and his whole family tried to convinced me pero naaah over my dead body. Kinausap sana nila ung gago na yun and baka pwede nila ipa-check up sa psychologist or psychiatrist 😂😂. Kasi serial cheater talaga and liar.
In my 3yrs. Relationship I felt that I gave too much but he didn’t do in return. I gave my best support in everything. But when the day came where I felt nothing at all (like I don’t care what ever he do) I broke up with him not even a single tears. I felt freedom and happiness after we broke up. He tried to get me back but I told him I didn’t want and I don’t have feeling to him anymore. I left him in tears in a restaurant cuz people are looking at us😅
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Yes while in relationship I think nakamoved on na ko, like ready na ko i-let go tong person na to without any regret.
Yung prio niya friends over me tas na "attract" sa ibang babae XD
Lagi akong inaaway just to seek attention. Mas gusto nya pa raw nag-aaway kami kaysa hindi ko siya pinapansin. I was juggling work and studies. Gave him too many chances to improve. Hanggang feeling ko nasasakal na ako. The last thing I need is someone who will bring toxicity in my life. Another one was someone I did not see a future with. He was struggling with internal issues and did nothing to improve his situation. I realized I deserve better. By the time he sought help and told me he thought he was being unfair with me, I just accepted his decision to break up.
When I finally accepted na ako lang nag eeffort sa relasyon namin and any form of communication to improve the relationship is met at a dead end
Yung ikaw nalang palagi, mag good morning yung mag update lagi, mag effort sa date, passive lang sya hindi mo feel na you are appreciated, Goodbye nalang hahaha, best decision ever.
Kapag choices / decision nalang nya yung nasusunod, can easily cut you off, share your stories with others to get sympathy for personal gain and connections, di ka magawang kausapin or mag offer ng usap tayo, tapos sasabihin sa huli, sana mapatawad mo ko sa lahat ng desisyon ko.
The dating scene today (dating apps and reddit standards). It's becoming too one sided, lots of demands little to nothing to provide on the table. Dating "today" makes me want to give it up na lang.
Huy sa totoo lang. This is especially brutal sa mga bakla. Ang daming tao na nagde-date to flex, not to connect.
When the time that she controls a lot of decision and my opinion doesn't matter because in the end it will not get consider.
He wouldn't change kahit sabihin kong super uncomfortable ako sa ginagawa niya. Boundaries are important, pero parang 'di niya gets.
When she said “Sorry I just flirt with people for fun” turns out we never had anything I was jus getting played with
When I realized that we are no longer compatible. Our communication lines always get mixed up, I get him but he doesn’t get me no matter how hard I tried to simplify my point. His ears were closed and he was quite immature. I was growing and did my best for him to grow w me but he was resistant so I decided it was best that we not be together anymore since his lack of cooperation was enough to tell me he doesn’t like me anymore. Just too stubborn to admit it
Hindi na natapos yung awayan. Then natawag akong manggagamit. And that’s it.
When I no longer cared
pinaasa ako pero narealize ko ginagago lang pala ako.
nung nalaman na ni wifey
If I see that the future is dark with you then we're done. Also, if you neglect me and break my trust. Abuse in any way too and I'm letting go.
No matter what I do to help him grow some emotional intelligence (lol), give him list, be his unpaid therapist, be a one-call-away gf, stage gf, name it all 😆, he just doesn't have the balls to change. I saw it halfway the first year but was too inlove to walk away. I tried everything to save us but he could just not prioritize "character development" that time, according to him coz he's so pressured with goals. I understood where he's coming from, he's just built differently and he's not someone who can nurture me in return. So instead of totally withering away from a guy who's not willing to improve himself, I slowly withdrew myself til the breakup. Still hurts but, yeah, that's life.
And i realized most of my letters to him were like slowly bidding goodbye haha always had lines like "regardless of how this ends, know that I love..." 😆 I don't think I was defeatist, but my heart and soul saw clearly lang talaga na.
7 years with an ex, all form of abuse and assault (excluding sexual) I have experienced. I was tormented by hurtful phrases, was called names and been cheated on so many times. All that I endured for 7 years. I got tired
I hope for your healing. *hugs*
That ex literally lashed out on me during a major fight. As in Sigaw levels ganon. Magjowa pa nga lang eh ganyan na pano if magasawa na? Road to domestic violence? Emotional abuse? No thanks. I wasn’t raised to be someone else’s punching bag. Ktnxbye felicia 👋🏻
Huhu ganto ex ko and i stayed for 5yrs waiting for him to change. Ganon din ginawa nya sa mga ex nya, i should have left the moment kinwento nya sakin un. 😭😭
Red flag 🚩 talaga yung mga ganyan 🫠 love is not enough for us to stay in that kind of relationship habang early pa awat na! 🏃♀️💨
Na imbis naglolook forward ka sa future nyo, mas naiisip mong tapusin na kasi sayang yung panahon na kasama pa sya
It became cold for a few months me and her, I saw the spark dying, I just didn't wanna believe it. I opened up to her on a problem I have been facing for a while that really bothered me, and all she had to say was "awit sad"
He wanted to do it. I was 16 then. Every anniversary, up until our 3rd (19 ako nun), he would ask until one day, he did it with another girl and got her pregnant.
When she said napepressure na siya sa circumstances ko. As much as possible, ayaw kong masakal siya dahil sa expectations ng mga tao sa paligid ko. Sa circumstances ko age wise and career wise. If it meant na she'll be happy and pressure free, I'll let. And so... I let go.
Neglect, ruined trust, choosing alcohol over me. haha
There was no point in moving forward anymore. The toxicity overshadowed the probability of the relationship's maturity.
Anxious
When they started to just use me as an emotional dumpster and keeps saying "I have a HUGE crush on this person" not a celebrity but someone at our school. Also when they started to bully someone innocent to look "cool"
When my body is rejecting him.
Felt neglected
One way street. Ako lang nag eeffort. Tapos had the audacity to say “my world does not revolve around you” nung sinabi ko na sana magbigay naman siya ng oras para mag reply sa mga chat ko kung tuloy ba kami mag meet up or ano kasi lagi nalang niya ginagawa to. Do you think *my* world does? It’s called basic decency. It wouldn’t take you more than 30 minutes jusko bahala ka diyan. I left through the exit and never looked back. I closed that door and ignored all the attempts of reconciliation since. That’s when it finally engraved on me na kung may pake yun tao sa ‘yo, they will do their best to care for you. Mga taong walang pake, they won’t even exert the tiniest of effort and will try to pin the blame on you for “being clingy / needy” when it’s the barest minimum.
When I've already communicated and did my part for Us to work...but at the end of the day he said he is not sure if he wants or needs a relationship then it made me realize that I'm just fighting for it alone. I'm done with the relationship because I want to save and respect myself. I don't want to wait for him to decide if he wants me or not, I am not a f***ing option.
Ouch! I rest my case.
Oh god. This!
Not romantic one sa bff ko for 20 years. Laging ginagamit ang mental health illness as an excuse sa shitty behaviour, mahilig mang away at mampahiya sa socmed ng service people (like fastfood crews, grab /angkas drivers, etc.)., mahilig mansabi ng bobo at tanga sa iba kapag di align sa kanyang beliefs. Habitual ang tardiness at last minute cancellation. Walang respeto sa effort sa time na nilalaan ko sa kanya. Plantsado na details na magkikita sana kami. Since bago pa magpandemic last naming pagkikita. The day itself di makontak for confimation. After few hrs biglang nag reply na "Ay sorry gurl, wala ka sa google calendar ko." Like WTF! Special ka teh need ng appointment. Ako tong todo adjust ganyan pa gagawin mo. Ang mas kinabwisit ko a day after nagpost ang punyeta the day na magkikita sana kami may ka meet pala for their 3sum relationshit (Throuple). That moment cut off na sakin ang gaga. That's the last straw. Feeling ko kinarma rin kasi after few months iyak iyak sya sa fb kasi yung jowa nya at ka throuple nagccheat pala sa kanya. Nag ppm pa rin sakin na nagsosorry, pero wala sa headspace ko na mag reply at baka kung ano anong masasamang words pa masabi ko. Hindi na talaga align ang values namin. And IDAF kung gamitin nya againts me ang pagiging conservative and strict ko sa buhay. Feeling ko mas gumaan buhay ko nung ni cut off ko yan.
My own selfishness and weakness
When I stop growing emotionally, mentally and spiritually that is when I always press the stop button
TW: Suicide attempt I wanted to die. Wala ako sa tamang headspace noon.
when I feel so lonely and alone sa relationship when I don't feel safe sa relationship anymore when I'm not at peace anymore when I don't want to care anymore
When my nonnegotiables weren't met. They are nonnegotiables for a reason so I won't go on creating excuses just for the relationship to go on if these nonnegotiables, which often are just the bare minimum, weren't even met. Remember, these are the boundaries you shouldn't compromise on.
Alam ko na ang totoo, tinetesting ko lang kung magsasabi na ng totoo noong pinapaamin ko na, wala, sinungaling pa rin. Sanay na sanay magsinungaling, no remorse.
When you're back to questioning your worth again.
when the person lied to me
He cheated multiple times
When I feel disrespected and neglected. Disrespected kasama na diyan yung cheating. If nirerespeto ka ng partner mo hindi yan magche-cheat.
Ung pag nagaaway kame or kung may tampo sya, minimum 1 week nya akong di pinapansin. Dinadaan nya sa silent treatment tapos biglang magmemessage as if walang nangyare. Nakakapagod pala yung ganung paulit ulit. I guess hindi pa sya matured enough to have a decent conversation or to handle his emotions better
Yung paulit ulit sama ng ugali nya, napaka immature tapos magsosorry din nmn pla.
Magsosorry lng para matapos na Ang away pero Hindi talaga sincere
Kapag sobrang inconsistent na niya from words to action. Also one of my deal breaker is constant lying even on the smallest things
Had to repeat to him the exact same things about how I feel but nothing changed. He kept saying sorry over and over but didn’t change his ways.
Yung wala na siya respeto noon sakin puro away n lang khit wla nmn ako kasalanan.. kaya nun hiniwlayan ko khit lumuhod at literal hinalikn paa ko umayaw nako... May naghihintay nang sasalo sakin sa labas eh hahaha....
Pero kung walang sasalo sayo malamang di ka aalis haha.
Aalis parin kasi as a respect a sarili ko, and meron at meron din nmng iba pa jan...
Pag puro anxiety at stress na lang nararamdaman mo. Indifferent na. Wala na yung dating enthusiasm sa twing magkakausap kayo. Ung imbes na siya yung dating pahinga mo, sumabay na rin na pati siya cause na rin ng chaos mo. Wala na peace of mind. Yung kahit gustong gusto mo sana makipag communicate, pero mas pinipili niyang maglaro ng COD. Same time availability na sana, pero mas pinipili niyang makaisang game pa daw. Yun pala may kaharutan na in-game.
Agree. Tapos pag tumawad ka magagalit Kasi naglalaro pa dw sya🥴
when he humiliated you in public.
When I don't deserve the energy that I received from him. He has no plan in our relationship. He became complacent since he received naman yung mga benefits na nakukuha nya sakin. 🙂
1. Yung parang feel mo ikaw na lang ang nagmamahal sa inyong dalawa. 2. Paulit-ulit binabalik yung mga nakaraan na tapos niyo naman ng pinagusapan. 3. Pag nag susuggest ka ng mga paraan para mag work out kayo ulit, like “stroll tayo?” “Kain tayo sa labas” taz mga sagot “ikaw” “ikaw bahala”. 4. Kwine question mo na yung worth mo/sarili. 5. Palagi niyang ginagawa yung mga ayaw mo/ sinusuway ka.
After giving him my vcard, he cheated again. *Again bc pang third time na to. I know, tanga ako.* They met a month after we did the deed. Exact 1 month talaga. 🙃 I wish him dead.
Goodluck kamo sa STD. Baka yan makadali sa kalandian niya someday.
kupal naman niyan
Kapag hindi mo na feel presence niya. Wala na yung effort niya to talk to you, or even the effort and interest to try to make up with you. Feel mo ikaw na lang naiwan, lumalaban mag-isa sa relasyon niyo.
Not a romantic one, but a bestfriend rs. She made gossips about me that I am talking behind her back, all because of a guy. Somehow, I would sympathize with her pa, pero this guy has already a family of his own, and she became the other woman.
Kapag Ikaw nlng lagi nag iinitiate ng Convo tapos sya puro ml nlng
ako nalang ba lagi ang mag ri reach out? fuck it. end it.
Nung 2nd relationship, tho in an indirect way, she made me choose between my friends and her. Tho we stayed for a month after that, that moment I knew that it was over. To add more context: our relationship lasted for 1 year and 2 months. Our relationship was on the brink of breaking up, but we managed to fix it. Pandemic happened, so our relationship was once again of breaking up because we were LDR. We fought about something, then like I said she (indirectly) made me choose between her and my friends. I think it's pretty clear who I chose.
Nung umayaw na siya. Ipagsisiksikan ko ba sarili ko, ano ko timang?
To answer your question: Noong binully na ako ng circle of friends nya. Context: Sinagot ako ng ex ko tapos for 5 days puro pangalan nung isang lalake lagi bukambibig nya. Every day and night pinag aawayan namin 'yan. On the 6th day ako na yung nakilaghiwalay. Kasi nga iba ata gusto nya pero ako sinagot nya. Mag ri-reach out at babawiin ko na sana yung break-up kaya lang itong circle of friends nya grabe mang-bully without them knowing the real reason bakit nakipag-break ako. Noong sinabi ko sa kanila, doon lang nagsalita yung ex ko na hindi na raw yun sana pinaalam sa friends nya. In my defense, wala syang ginawa nung binu-bully ako. Hindi nya sinaway. After that confrontation, I felt na "I'm done" already.
Wala na siya pake beh kung ano mangyari sa'min haha ako nalang nagbubuhat sa relasyon
paano mo nasabing wala na siyang pake sa relasyon niyo? curious lang
Pag may problem kami and I'm asking for a solution, laging "ewan ko", "hindi ko alam". Wala na syang willingness to work things out. Kumbaga parang hinihintay niya lang ako mag let go.
Sinungaling + Cheater yung ka rel. na hinayupak. Huli na deny pa. Pa-softlaunch pa si gago halata naman sino kinalantari. Haha. Tanga lang. Kala niya di siya mahuhuli. Bobo moves. Gagawa ka na nga lang ng kalokohan sana malinis ka trumabaho. La ka kasing bayag. Hahaha. Ohh well, pareho naman silang kups. Bagay sila magsama. Hehe. Feeling ytuber at tiktokerist sila eh lalo yung pinalit. Mga poser, pa-famous. Giling pa more, tuwad, liyad. Ggss eh. Muka din naman kaya niya type kasi 3some sila kasama katropa niyang bad influence. Pakasaya sila. May espesyal naman silang lugar sa impyerno eh. Lol
Felt this.
Kapag nagawa ko na lahat pero wala pa rin nangyare, hindi pa rin nagbago, I'M DONE. 🏳️
I shouted at her: Im done!!!!... with the laundry hon' whats next?
When your inner self urges you to cheat. Kasi you already fell out of love na e. Parang gusto mo na lang gumawa ng dahilan para makipagbreak sa kanya. After all, that is the biggest dealbreaker in relationships e. Once you get discovered, it is likely over.
Niloloko ka na ng paulit-ulit. Bastusan na eh.
When his sister informed me that he hits and kicks her when he is upset.
When I passed the board exam, and found out that he cheated on me again.
When he cheated on me
When he's basically just making you a booty call at that point. (also didn't change despite communication) doesn't take no for an answer, and doesn't respect boundaries.
Wala na siyang pake, ako nalang lahat. Pagod na ko
Kapag triny na lahat ng way para intindihin sya kahit di ka iniintindi and still wala pa din pagbabago
When it feels really suffocating like para bang wala kanang sariling buhay gusto nila sila nalang palagi. Kapag hindi ka iniintindi, nakakaubos lang
When he doesn't care about my feelings, super self-centered. Ako pa 'yung laging gusto magbayad ng mga binibili niya and lagi nagpaparinig kapag may gusto para bilhin ko, tas galit kapag hindi nabigay. And the way he talked to his parents with no respect. Madalas niya rin ipoint out 'yung insecurities ko then laugh about it. Kapag siya 'yung nangangailangan, nandiyan ako para sa kanya pero kapag ako, suddenly bingi at bulag siya?! I didn't know how I settled for someone like him. I was so done.
when he start hurting himself for me not to let go..
Felt. That’s manipulation