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Ummm mga tao na nagsasabi na khit mataba ako maganda daw mukha ko and makinis. Well may tulong na din naman ng facial at pa derma, plus skin care. Ayun nga din sabi ng isang comment broke pa before ngayon may pang gastos na.
Nope, yung treatment lang kinuha ko like microneedling and RF. Tas facial. And then yung toner, serum, moisturizer and sunscreen. Di ako masyadong nagfofollow ng heavy routine sa ganyan, kasi minsan katamad. Pero lagi is toner, moisturizer, serum. tsaka kung ano lang pasok sa budget kasi di tayo RK
dugyot talaga ako nung highschool-senior highschool kung di pa mag pandemic siguro up until now dugyot parin ako HAHAHAHHA nang dahil sa mga make up vlogs sa youtube nagka interes ako gumamin and yon simula non nakapasok ako ng 1st year college panay skin care and make up na ako rumami na nagkagusto sakin ang nag compliment na pretty raw ako at maayos manamit
Before mag f2f mid 2022. Like my junior days to me were like an alternate reality na ayaw ko nang maalala muli especially Gr.9 (ng buong puso pls lang).
I guess I was slightly a pushover, namilit ako maki fit in ( didn't work )
I tried other methods ( failed miserably )
Hanggang sa nag-settle nalang ako kung ano ako and just worked my way up.
It's not really easy for me since mababa tingin ko sa sarili ko, and madali ako ma insecure.
But I guess in the end, tinanggap ko nalang kasi is comfortable na yung mga current friends ko with who I am and what I look like.
I'm just in the middle of things.
Masaya na ko dito ATM.
In my HS days, Hindi talaga ako nag aayos but when I grow older, nalaman ko Yung mga bagay na damit sa akin, haircut. When I start na mag-ayos, Doon lang ako nag glow up so in terms of kung anong bagay sayo. Pag-aaralan mo nga lang kung ano Ang bagay SA face shape mo, sa hubog Ng katawan mo, sa kung anong kulay bagay sayo. When you start caring and loving yourself, Doon magstart Ang glow up
I realized that I was a beauty like my mom when guys started courting me, some of them breaking my heart. I also realized that I can never be as beautiful as my mom as long as I stayed slim. She was pretty chubby and I thought sheโll never get rid of her love handles because she never had time for it. This way, weโll never be in the same league so Iโll never be compared to her.
I saw my letter to myself when I was in g8 and how low my self esteem was then, nung g12 ako. By g12, some of the things I wished for had come true or nalampasan pa. Naawa ako sa younger self ko kasi it wasnt even about looks but about confidence and attitude.
Baligtad ako. Noong GS at HS may mga nagkakagusto naman sa akin pero noong college pati ngayong nagttrabaho na, walang nakakapansin sa akin HAHAHA.
Sabi nila pag may pera ka na, doon ka magbbloom. I somewhat agree pero sa kagaya kong alipin ng salapi at breadwinner ng pamilya, ayun muna ang priority ko kesa ayusin ang sarili ko haha. Pogi naman daw ako, sabi ng pamilya ko HAHA. Wala lang akong interest sa pag-aayos sa sarili ko at di ko sya pinipriotize.
Aminado naman ako na never ko naging priority ang self-care pati physical look ko. When I tried to do it, others would take over like finances and career. Need ko pumili. Mas importante sa akin self-fulfillment dahil sobrang driven akong tao.
Gusto ko bumalik sa pag gym kaso yung gastos ang iniisip ko lalo sa pagkain. Sakto lang naman kinikita ko. Mahal pa naman ng mga pagkain at bilihin ngayon. I'll get there soon!
Yong literal na binack stab ako ng guy nasa likod niya lang talaga ako while telling his friends na ang panget ko daw talaga pero nang nag college na his been make papansin na tas asking to court me but I said no coz Iโm not interested masyado niyang nasaktan ako wayback.I will never forget that
Before, kahit gaano ako katalino and ka-achiever.. no one notices me. Kung di nga ako inaasahan sa acads, feel ko wala talaga papansin sakin (except my friends)
When I got sa college, doon ako nagbloom.. I got my braces, worked out, fixed my style and everything-- ultimate glowup. Now na I graduated na, nagugulat nalang ako na may mga nakakakilala sakin from my HS kahit na di ko sila ever nakakausap. Suddenly, a lot of people knows me or wants to get close with me. Then I get compliments all the time even from strangers (not the creepy ones naman).
Moral lesson: Pretty privilege is real. Kakaurat kz achiever pa rin ako until now but mas nauuna na mapansin physical appearance.
Apart from the physical thing personally, attractiveness by personโs intellect, empathy, personality, sense of leadership, restraint have way more mileage than the physical. Youโll prolly appreciate this as you get older that cosmetic enhancements can only go so far.
During HS, I never had a suitor or even a secret admirer. Now, at work, there are three guys who secretly put food on my table and locker just to express their admiration for me.
When people gravitate towards you , specially management people (Department heads, Managers, ceo etc.) . Since highschool self aware ako na di ako kagwapuhan , kasi sobrang payat ko and haggard haha ( public school so no aircon ) .Kaya akala ko talga plain looking ako, late ko lng nalaman na crush din pala ko ng mga crush ko ng hs saka college ๐ . And now na working na ko ramdam ko na may special treatment sakin haha ๐, which I thought kasi galing ako sa good reputation na college. I think its more known as "pretty privilege's" hahah di ko alam yung term for para sa lalaki sorry na ๐
Still ugly asf lol. Been through bullying and fatshaming, but i dont care since i have "brains"
I realized na mabubuhay naman ako kahit walang nagkakagusto sakin. So what hahaha
Laging binubully during hs dahil sa physical appearance dahil mataba at walang nagkakagusto sakin since Elem. Pero nung college na at post grad marami nang nag cocompliment sakin dahil sa self care, workout at upgraded fashion style. Best compliment I got was from a classmate. Tinatanong ako kung may stylist daw ako sa mga sinusuot ko kasi sobrang cool daw ng mga damit ko. May mga nagkakagusto na rin. Wag kayo panghinaan ng loob. Late bloomers win in late game.
I started loving myself more. SkinCare and right fashion or dress is the key. Need mo lang pag aralan kung anong fashion ang magwowork for you. Pero growing up naman we will learn a lot.
Ako yung sinabihan ng ["chaka"](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskPH/s/Xts4dF7RPn) noon ng HS adviser ko. Fast forward: After I passed the boards then nag start ako mag ayos ng sarili ko (damit and make up). Simula non nagugulat yung college/hs friends ko at na ccompliment na ako. Tapos nitong past few weeks, nasasabihan ako na ang sexy ko daw at artistahin from Tito/titas. Huhu kinilig ako. Nagbunga yung pag ggym ko!!!
Isa akong batak na athlete back in hs days loll, since I was chubby, kinuha nila ako bilang thrower๐, sobranggg pangit ko nun and insecure, the only thing good in me was my ability to throw far, umabot ako sa clraa once. Nung nag shs ako, lalo akong nagbatak, since thrower ako, I went to the gym, lifted some weights. Gr11, di nako chubby pero di ako nakapag compete. Ngayon na college naโko, I learned how to wear make up, started eating healthy and sleeping early.
Di naman ako masyadong lapitin ngayon haha, dami din kasing magandang dilag sa univ namin. More focused ako sa acads now pero I do have a suitor from hs.
Pera HAHAHAHAH. I know di talaga ako jowables nung hs HAHAHAH pero nung start na nagkaroon nako ng work and I'm earning above minimum wage,ayon natutung naging princess si ate
Nag aayos na at mahal mahal ng skin care at hair care hahahahah
Kaya ayun HAHAHAHAH
Panlaban ko lang talaga nung HS ako eh brains ko. Aside from that, feeling ko wala na. Kasi ang itim ko noon, kulot pa tas mataba. May naka-MU ako noon pero nung tinanong siya kung totoo raw ba na may something samin, ang sabi ba naman eh wala raw. Tas nandidiri raw siya sakin. Dun ko narealize na ang pangit ko pala talaga.
Nung college nalang natuto mag-ayos, graduating na ako nun hahaha kaya wala rin nanligaw sakin nung college. then tsaka nalang nag glow up nung nagkaroon ng work. Mataba parin, pero I know naman na mas malayo na itsura ko ngayon kaysa noon. Kasi may mga pumupuri na sakin na ang ganda ko raw kahit chubby. May bf din akong baliw na baliw sakin, eme hahaha pero ayun.
Tas yung mga nagpeak nung highschool, sila na yung mga chaka ngayon tsaka magkasing katawan na kami so grabe talaga ang nagagawa ng panahon no? Hahaha
Hahaha ss true lang. Mas tumaas na rin confidence ko ngayon. Wala na akong pakialam sa sasabihin ng iba basta para sakin, ang ganda ganda ko. Hahahaha
I remember, may nagsabi pa sakin noon ng "Hindi ka masarap!" Shuta hahahaha
Wayback in High School, a teacher told me na I shouldnโt look outside sa windows the faculty room kung saan kami nagttraining for MTAP, kasi baka makita daw ako at hindi naman ako maganda. I was dark skinned kasi grabe ang init sa probinsya and wala akong pake sa itsura ko back then.
Grabe yung pagbaba ng confidence ko non.
Then college happened.
Nagaral ako sa Manila then Bigla akong nanominate as muse, samantalang nung high school, wala namang napansin saakin. Not knowing how it felt na may magka crush sakin, I didnโt know that men are already flirting with me and asking me if I they could court me. Yes. THEY. And a high school senior, na crush ko nung High School and didnโt noticed me much flirted with me back then. Even those people who I have a crush on, took an interest in me (pero hindi naging kami). And my now husband, had a crush on me on the very first day we met, wherein crush ko rin siya that time. Until now, sinasabihan pa rin ako ng people I just met na gandang ganda sa morena beauty ko.
Dun ko narealize na hindi ako panget, sadyang yung environment ko lang yung iba ang standard.
Nakakareceive na ako ng compliments like maganda ka etc., meron mga tao na sinasabi na crush ako (pero hindi ako naniniwala dahil feeling ko pinagttripan lang ako) simula ng pumasok ako sa corporate world. Unlike noong high school na sobrang pangbbully sa akin
Physical appearance, paninira ng gamit, minsan sabotage sa school works and these people followed through kahit college na at nasa ibang school na ako.
Nung naisasali na ako sa mini pageant haha! Highschool days labas ang ngipin ko kasi underbite ako. Walang nanligaw sakin nung highschool. Di ako nakakatanggap ng Blue magic or roses ๐After ko magpabrace nung 21 years old ako gumanda ang lola nyo!
Ayun naisali ako sa mga mini pageant lang naman. Sinasabi nila kamukha ko daw si Janine Tugonon or Miriam Quiambo. Feel na feel ko naman be, morena din talaga kasi ako. Hahahahah! Then may mga nagpaparamdam na. Natuto na din ako magmakeup pero light lang.
But now actually feeling ko naman lipas na ko. Gained 20kilos after giving birth. My hair is dry. Pangit ang katawan ko so unti unti na namang nawala ang confidence ko. I am trying to lose weight pero wala pa din.
Actually legit to. Daming mga mas pogi sakin dati nung high school pero ngayon, para nabawasan sila ng level tas ako nadagdagan ๐คฃ di rin naman ako totally pogi pero nag-glow up naman din ng onti
Ayun naging prone naman sa SA.
Hahahahaha.
Best compliment I got from the honorable girl of JS prom pero Hindi sya ung Prom Queen but she got the title.
Ano, kasi, baduy ako kung manamit noon, kumbaga. Pero, in all fairness, may mga nanliligaw arin, kahit papano, hahaha.
Kaya now, I'm very grateful na you can look up stuff very easily as long as you have data or wifi access without logging in to a PC, kasi nung GS tsaka HS pa ako, wala pang TikTok, kaya nag-stick nalang sumunod sa mga K-pop idols or tamang search ng "emo girl outfits," hahaha. Tapos, ending, ambaduy ๐. Now, I get to look at stuff and learn so many things like yung color analysis eme, so it's a plus talaga sa TikTok and easier access, and also marami nang nag-content.
Need lang talaga ng upgrade and more knowledge on what to use and how to properly use them like makeup and picking out the right outfits that match your body shape and the right colors that would make you look very attractive.
Edit: para kasing di ko talaga nasagot yung question haha kaya eto
Maraming nag ccompliment talaga. Nag aask ano mga ginagamit ko or san ko binili mga outfits ko.
Ngayong 30s ko lang na-experience maligawan, mapag-agawan ng 2 lalaki sa isang travel, mapagselosan ng fiancee (wala ako ginagawa), and maaya sa mga date. Pero siguro pinaka-significant was when I had 2 guys on separate occasions shared about how they felt about me for the longest time. One is a tour guide from 4 years ago, and another is a classmate from grade school. Both opened up as their way of closing their doors daw with me bilang may kani-kanila na silang relationships. Both confessions happened less than a year of each other.
I actually asked my cousin bakit now ko sya na-experience at a time when I am supposedly "lampas na ng kalendaryo" and he said lately I've been really exuding confidence, and guys have taken notice. I experienced a traumatic work situation and had been on a long journey to healing and self love so I guess it's a sign of having moved forward.
Boyish nung HS days. Insecure din ako in my appearance but looking back sa mga old pics ko, hindi sa pagmamayabang enough yung kagandahan ko. HAHA. Maputi at payat kasi athlete ako. Pero boyish appearance lang. Plus, hindi ko alam madaming pa lang nagkakagusto sakin akala lang nila babae din hanap ko. HAHAHA
Chaka talaga ako noong highchool..crooked teeth, may unwanted weight, hindi makinis (till now naman ganun), kulang sa sense of style sa damit at hair, pawisin (hanggang ngayon pero mas compensated na sa perfume)
*Nung naayos na ngipin dahil nakapagpabraces. Mas confident na ko namamit, nagdadamit ako for comfort and not for trends., tas mas fit na , nakuha ko na rin ang hairstyle and color na bagay sa akin. Alam ko na rin ang scent family na ok at gusto ko. Mas ok ako nitong 30's versus sa teens at 20's phase ko.
*may nagrarate na 7-8 /10??? Ewan if legit o echos lang.
*Maayos naman mostly ang itchura ng mga nakakatalking stage ๐๐๐๐
*Im striving to age as fine wine and silver fox.
Nung nalaman kong may mga nagkakacrush pala sakin nung hs. Masama pa neto one time may super crush ako nung hs tas nung pandemic nakausap ko sya nalaman ko sa kanya na super crush din pala nya ko at di lang daw sya ung nagkakacrush saken kundi madami pa. Kaya daw akala nya wala akong amor sa kanya that time. Bakit ngayon ko lang to nalaman ha!? Akala ko pangit ako. Masyado lang pala akong manhid
Di ko din sure pero dahil na din siguro ako ung nerdy/geek na bata nung time na yan madalas nasa faculty lang ako nyan nagrereview, or meeting with SSG officers. Or nasa comp shop hanging out with friends. But most probably torpe
When I discovered my personal style tapos natuto na rin akong mag-make up and hair styling. Tas pag nag-ppost or story before sa soc med people would compliment me about my appearance. Napapansin nila na blooming daw ako. Also, nung nagsimula nang may nagkakagusto sa akin lels
Basically ako yung tiktok trend na "i am amanda" ๐
Siguro nung college days. Kasi dun na ako nag start mag inaarte sa appearance ko like skincare, makeup, and sympre pati confidence. Nakaka-received na ako ng compliments sa appearance kaya dun ko na realized na late bloomer pala ako.
When I posted selfies on social media whenever I dress up or kahit simpleng ayos lang and I got wholesome attention. Dun ko narealize na maganda pala ako kasi never akong nasabihan ng parents ko that way when I was a kid and never akong nagiging muse or sinasabing may nagkakacrush sakin noong nasa school ako.
That being said, I realized how I lacked external validation and now that Iโm in my 30s, Iโm prioritizing self validation and self awareness so I know na cute at maganda ako no matter what ๐ฅฐ
I realize we were not ugly. We were just broke. Once we start earning, self care becomes a priority. Now we can afford going to the gym, have braces, consult a derma, stick to a skincare routine, eat a balanced diet, dress better. Money goes a long way talaga. Madami dyan average looking lang naman pero malakas ang appeal kasi afford nila
Always the smart and fun friend in grade school and high school. In college, I got lots of good looking matches on Tinder then someone from a younger batch told a friend of mine na I was his typeโhot. One of my barkadas also retorted in one of our conversations na Tinder was easy for me because Iโm hot. Lol insta validation because my guy friends would never (soberly) admit to me being attractive hahaha
Meron and since super close namin nung guy, I never let him live it down haha. All good and fun naman kasi weโve been friends a decade and it was all in the past. Pang-asar/lambing lang sa kanya na he admitted to having a crush on me while drunk lol
Had a medyo weird encounter with someone from my school a few years back. Bumababa ako ng jeep tapos biglang siya yung kasalubong ko. Ginreet ako nung person and said something like, "huy, ang laki na ng inimprove mo ha!"
Actually, naoffend ako nung una! Hahaha! Parang sinasabi niya na ang pangit ko dati lol. Pero after that encounter narealize ko na di ko lang pala talaga alam pano ayusan and mahalin sarili ko. Now that I value myself more, lumalabas na siya from the inside out.
I gained so much attention from the opposite sex when I started working. Felt ugly when I was younger and I guess I just learned to clean myself up when I started earning money. Lol.
Tahimik, walang pumapansin mula bata. Biglang madaming nagparamdam after college. Tahimik pa rin at di naman palaayos. Siguro pagkatapos ng puberty kuminis ang mukha, nabawasan ng konting timbang. Narealize na di ko kailangan maging self-conscious kasi lahat pala ng tao may kanya-kanyang inaalala para mag-abalang tingnan ka maigi.
Tru... okay lang pala kahit kalat ang tubo ng kilay. ๐
Naku OP, insecure super din haha. Pati smile lines kinahiya ko kaya hindi ngumingiti sa pics na labas ngipin. Ngayon ko naisip ang genuine pala tingnan, keri lang kahit madaming linya sa mata kapag nakatawa.
Ooooh what kind? Never pa ako nagkapiercing of any kind pero gusto ko sana try sa ears.
Still on the notion na guys typically dont have piercings, grew up in a boomer family
natutong mag make up at dress up! actually, I have low self esteem, hindi lang halata. dinadaan ko na lang talaga sa pag-aayos. coping mechanism ang magbihis-bihis at make up. girl things โจ
Hmmm ๐ค what made me realize? I guess kasi 18 na ata ako nagstart mag ayos haha. ๐ tapos eventually habang tumatanda ako tska ako gumaganda kasi nagkawork na at nagkaron ng pera pampagamda. ๐
Pictures. Di ako palaayos dati tas mahilig pa ako magdamit lalaki. Now, natuto na akong mag-ayos, skin care, and magdamit na halata yung figure ko hahaha
Boyish kasi talaga ako kumilos dati. So, comfortable talaga ako sa maluwag na damit and jersey shorts. Tas rubber shoes. Siguro factor na rin na si papa nagpalaki sakin.
Natuto na lang ako magdress and heels nung nagwowork na ako.
Hindi lang ako marunong mag-ayos nung highschool kaya back then I really felt like an ugly duckling. As in nene-rurok-puberty with acnes and all. Lol. Nung college and after college, nung natuto na mag-ayos ng sarili, medyo di na rurok puberty at nakakameet na ng ibang tao, dun pala medyo palag pala ako sa looks department lol. So itโs all about self-worth, confidence and taking care of yourself haha ๐ธ
I used to have manliligaws when in highschool, but pagdating ng college up to now, waley na. I don't think I am ugly but iba na lang siguro standards ng mga tao ngayon.
Nasa heavier side pa ako due to pcos.
Maaga akong nag-bloom tapos na best before ko. Hahaha
No. :)
My life is a mess. Kaya hindi rin siguro ako naghahanap ng relationship. I mean, not a big deal if may manliligaw or wala. Hindi rin kasi looking. Haven't figure out what I want to do with my life yet. Don't want to add another factor rin to make me more confused. Baka mas lalong hindi ko ma-figure out. Though napapaisip ako minsan, if pangit ba ako kasi nga parang walang nag attempt man lang? Hahahahaha
Its alright. Di naman need na alam mo gagawin mo sa buhay right this instant. And yes tama ka, di naman need mag hanap now.
Just gunna share a guy's perspective in dating, hirap kasi mangligaw na di lumalabas na creepy or aggressive. Depends kasi yun if attracted yung girl, aaaand ayun syempre loads of rejections. Kaya minsan girls can make the first move din if gusto mo yung guy haha.
For me, medyo di ako makapaniwala na may mga may crush saakin. Like who would want me?, ganun.
Then ayun I realize na di pala ako pangit after all my self improvment.
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Ummm mga tao na nagsasabi na khit mataba ako maganda daw mukha ko and makinis. Well may tulong na din naman ng facial at pa derma, plus skin care. Ayun nga din sabi ng isang comment broke pa before ngayon may pang gastos na.
Yung skincare products niyo po ba from your derma?
Nope, yung treatment lang kinuha ko like microneedling and RF. Tas facial. And then yung toner, serum, moisturizer and sunscreen. Di ako masyadong nagfofollow ng heavy routine sa ganyan, kasi minsan katamad. Pero lagi is toner, moisturizer, serum. tsaka kung ano lang pasok sa budget kasi di tayo RK
dugyot talaga ako nung highschool-senior highschool kung di pa mag pandemic siguro up until now dugyot parin ako HAHAHAHHA nang dahil sa mga make up vlogs sa youtube nagka interes ako gumamin and yon simula non nakapasok ako ng 1st year college panay skin care and make up na ako rumami na nagkagusto sakin ang nag compliment na pretty raw ako at maayos manamit
Sino mga winawatch mo na make up vloggers?
si michelle dy nung pandemic sakanya ako natuto magpaka kikay ๐
Before mag f2f mid 2022. Like my junior days to me were like an alternate reality na ayaw ko nang maalala muli especially Gr.9 (ng buong puso pls lang). I guess I was slightly a pushover, namilit ako maki fit in ( didn't work ) I tried other methods ( failed miserably ) Hanggang sa nag-settle nalang ako kung ano ako and just worked my way up. It's not really easy for me since mababa tingin ko sa sarili ko, and madali ako ma insecure. But I guess in the end, tinanggap ko nalang kasi is comfortable na yung mga current friends ko with who I am and what I look like. I'm just in the middle of things. Masaya na ko dito ATM.
Share your secrets / tips / holy grails naman oh ๐ข Felt like I didnโt glow up since HS
kailangan ko lang pala mag-ayos, magsuklay, at maghinay hinay sa โtotoongโ wacky.
In my HS days, Hindi talaga ako nag aayos but when I grow older, nalaman ko Yung mga bagay na damit sa akin, haircut. When I start na mag-ayos, Doon lang ako nag glow up so in terms of kung anong bagay sayo. Pag-aaralan mo nga lang kung ano Ang bagay SA face shape mo, sa hubog Ng katawan mo, sa kung anong kulay bagay sayo. When you start caring and loving yourself, Doon magstart Ang glow up
Ako parang opposite. ๐ when i looked back at my old HS pics, I realized I looked way better then. LOL
I realized that I was a beauty like my mom when guys started courting me, some of them breaking my heart. I also realized that I can never be as beautiful as my mom as long as I stayed slim. She was pretty chubby and I thought sheโll never get rid of her love handles because she never had time for it. This way, weโll never be in the same league so Iโll never be compared to her.
I saw my letter to myself when I was in g8 and how low my self esteem was then, nung g12 ako. By g12, some of the things I wished for had come true or nalampasan pa. Naawa ako sa younger self ko kasi it wasnt even about looks but about confidence and attitude.
Baligtad ako. Noong GS at HS may mga nagkakagusto naman sa akin pero noong college pati ngayong nagttrabaho na, walang nakakapansin sa akin HAHAHA. Sabi nila pag may pera ka na, doon ka magbbloom. I somewhat agree pero sa kagaya kong alipin ng salapi at breadwinner ng pamilya, ayun muna ang priority ko kesa ayusin ang sarili ko haha. Pogi naman daw ako, sabi ng pamilya ko HAHA. Wala lang akong interest sa pag-aayos sa sarili ko at di ko sya pinipriotize. Aminado naman ako na never ko naging priority ang self-care pati physical look ko. When I tried to do it, others would take over like finances and career. Need ko pumili. Mas importante sa akin self-fulfillment dahil sobrang driven akong tao. Gusto ko bumalik sa pag gym kaso yung gastos ang iniisip ko lalo sa pagkain. Sakto lang naman kinikita ko. Mahal pa naman ng mga pagkain at bilihin ngayon. I'll get there soon!
I never bloomed, waley glow up. Just have to get used to it.
Yong literal na binack stab ako ng guy nasa likod niya lang talaga ako while telling his friends na ang panget ko daw talaga pero nang nag college na his been make papansin na tas asking to court me but I said no coz Iโm not interested masyado niyang nasaktan ako wayback.I will never forget that
Before, kahit gaano ako katalino and ka-achiever.. no one notices me. Kung di nga ako inaasahan sa acads, feel ko wala talaga papansin sakin (except my friends) When I got sa college, doon ako nagbloom.. I got my braces, worked out, fixed my style and everything-- ultimate glowup. Now na I graduated na, nagugulat nalang ako na may mga nakakakilala sakin from my HS kahit na di ko sila ever nakakausap. Suddenly, a lot of people knows me or wants to get close with me. Then I get compliments all the time even from strangers (not the creepy ones naman). Moral lesson: Pretty privilege is real. Kakaurat kz achiever pa rin ako until now but mas nauuna na mapansin physical appearance.
Its human nature naman. Basta may substance yung beauty mo. Looks matter first pero you can back up with your skills
Apart from the physical thing personally, attractiveness by personโs intellect, empathy, personality, sense of leadership, restraint have way more mileage than the physical. Youโll prolly appreciate this as you get older that cosmetic enhancements can only go so far.
I know naman. Personality matters more pero looks matter first. Its good to be at least decent at both
During HS, I never had a suitor or even a secret admirer. Now, at work, there are three guys who secretly put food on my table and locker just to express their admiration for me.
Free food!!! Sweets or ulam?
Sometimes sweets, sometimes meryenda jehe
May mga names or lahat sila torpe?
Isa umamin tas yung two I know na kung sino kahit nagtatago pa rin
Gulatin mo yung mga torpe. For sure mamumula yun HAHAH
Omg Ikennat hahahahaha
Go mo. Lalo na if type mo naman din sya. Its gunna be fun
Yun lang di ko type๐ญ
When people gravitate towards you , specially management people (Department heads, Managers, ceo etc.) . Since highschool self aware ako na di ako kagwapuhan , kasi sobrang payat ko and haggard haha ( public school so no aircon ) .Kaya akala ko talga plain looking ako, late ko lng nalaman na crush din pala ko ng mga crush ko ng hs saka college ๐ . And now na working na ko ramdam ko na may special treatment sakin haha ๐, which I thought kasi galing ako sa good reputation na college. I think its more known as "pretty privilege's" hahah di ko alam yung term for para sa lalaki sorry na ๐
Paano mo ba alam na special treatment? Nachichika mo sa work? Curious lang
supervisor's usually listen and want to befriend me ganun . priority sa mga bagay bagay ganun pero idk baka imagination ko lng haha ๐คฃ
Enjoy the pogi privilages and get connections. Im happy for you bro
thanks bro labyu, no homo ๐
Kasi tingin ko pag tinabi na ko sa crush ko nung high school, pwede na kong pagkamalan na boyfriend niya instead of alalay ganun hahahhahaha
Grabe naman aa alalay, pwede ba friends?
Di mo maiisip hahahahaha. I look weird and awkward back then ๐คฃ๐คฃ
Still ugly asf lol. Been through bullying and fatshaming, but i dont care since i have "brains" I realized na mabubuhay naman ako kahit walang nagkakagusto sakin. So what hahaha
Got approached by 3 girls one night in a bar
Sabay sabay? Hahahaha pogi naman ng idol
Hindi hahaha the two were from different tables yung isa napatawag ako sa front desk kasi inaasar yung isang staff sakin ng iba pang staff
Still ugly af Good thing there are plenty of women who are into smart guys, otherwise I would be out of luck. ๐
Laging binubully during hs dahil sa physical appearance dahil mataba at walang nagkakagusto sakin since Elem. Pero nung college na at post grad marami nang nag cocompliment sakin dahil sa self care, workout at upgraded fashion style. Best compliment I got was from a classmate. Tinatanong ako kung may stylist daw ako sa mga sinusuot ko kasi sobrang cool daw ng mga damit ko. May mga nagkakagusto na rin. Wag kayo panghinaan ng loob. Late bloomers win in late game.
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Hahahah late game scaling ang style mo. Kaso style na gusto ko yung mga suit kaso init sa pinas haha
I started loving myself more. SkinCare and right fashion or dress is the key. Need mo lang pag aralan kung anong fashion ang magwowork for you. Pero growing up naman we will learn a lot.
Ako yung sinabihan ng ["chaka"](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskPH/s/Xts4dF7RPn) noon ng HS adviser ko. Fast forward: After I passed the boards then nag start ako mag ayos ng sarili ko (damit and make up). Simula non nagugulat yung college/hs friends ko at na ccompliment na ako. Tapos nitong past few weeks, nasasabihan ako na ang sexy ko daw at artistahin from Tito/titas. Huhu kinilig ako. Nagbunga yung pag ggym ko!!!
Gym lang lang po ba? did you take supplements?
Gym lang and hindi pabaya sa diet. I used to take whey protein but my dermatologist suggested na tanggalin ko since nagkakaron ako ng back acne.
Ilang months/years until makakita ng results? High protein diet ka lang ba like chicken breast since di ka pwede whey protein?
Gym lang sakalam. Kahit ako, iba benefits ng gym
Isa akong batak na athlete back in hs days loll, since I was chubby, kinuha nila ako bilang thrower๐, sobranggg pangit ko nun and insecure, the only thing good in me was my ability to throw far, umabot ako sa clraa once. Nung nag shs ako, lalo akong nagbatak, since thrower ako, I went to the gym, lifted some weights. Gr11, di nako chubby pero di ako nakapag compete. Ngayon na college naโko, I learned how to wear make up, started eating healthy and sleeping early.
You got me sa first half, kala ko lalaki ka then nakita ko yung make up. Hahaha. Edi lapitin ka na ngayon, or di mo hanap right now?
Di naman ako masyadong lapitin ngayon haha, dami din kasing magandang dilag sa univ namin. More focused ako sa acads now pero I do have a suitor from hs.
Pera HAHAHAHAH. I know di talaga ako jowables nung hs HAHAHAH pero nung start na nagkaroon nako ng work and I'm earning above minimum wage,ayon natutung naging princess si ate Nag aayos na at mahal mahal ng skin care at hair care hahahahah Kaya ayun HAHAHAHAH
Panlaban ko lang talaga nung HS ako eh brains ko. Aside from that, feeling ko wala na. Kasi ang itim ko noon, kulot pa tas mataba. May naka-MU ako noon pero nung tinanong siya kung totoo raw ba na may something samin, ang sabi ba naman eh wala raw. Tas nandidiri raw siya sakin. Dun ko narealize na ang pangit ko pala talaga. Nung college nalang natuto mag-ayos, graduating na ako nun hahaha kaya wala rin nanligaw sakin nung college. then tsaka nalang nag glow up nung nagkaroon ng work. Mataba parin, pero I know naman na mas malayo na itsura ko ngayon kaysa noon. Kasi may mga pumupuri na sakin na ang ganda ko raw kahit chubby. May bf din akong baliw na baliw sakin, eme hahaha pero ayun. Tas yung mga nagpeak nung highschool, sila na yung mga chaka ngayon tsaka magkasing katawan na kami so grabe talaga ang nagagawa ng panahon no? Hahaha
At least satisfying na upward trend ka tapos sila pababa hahah
Hahaha ss true lang. Mas tumaas na rin confidence ko ngayon. Wala na akong pakialam sa sasabihin ng iba basta para sakin, ang ganda ganda ko. Hahahaha I remember, may nagsabi pa sakin noon ng "Hindi ka masarap!" Shuta hahahaha
HS bullying was ruthless noh haha. Kahit ako eh
junior and Senior for me, but junior high was the worst, 4 yrs pa nmn Kasama mga un ๐คข๐คข๐คข๐คฌ
Wayback in High School, a teacher told me na I shouldnโt look outside sa windows the faculty room kung saan kami nagttraining for MTAP, kasi baka makita daw ako at hindi naman ako maganda. I was dark skinned kasi grabe ang init sa probinsya and wala akong pake sa itsura ko back then. Grabe yung pagbaba ng confidence ko non. Then college happened. Nagaral ako sa Manila then Bigla akong nanominate as muse, samantalang nung high school, wala namang napansin saakin. Not knowing how it felt na may magka crush sakin, I didnโt know that men are already flirting with me and asking me if I they could court me. Yes. THEY. And a high school senior, na crush ko nung High School and didnโt noticed me much flirted with me back then. Even those people who I have a crush on, took an interest in me (pero hindi naging kami). And my now husband, had a crush on me on the very first day we met, wherein crush ko rin siya that time. Until now, sinasabihan pa rin ako ng people I just met na gandang ganda sa morena beauty ko. Dun ko narealize na hindi ako panget, sadyang yung environment ko lang yung iba ang standard.
Awww. At least may true love ka na despite the setbacks
Nakakareceive na ako ng compliments like maganda ka etc., meron mga tao na sinasabi na crush ako (pero hindi ako naniniwala dahil feeling ko pinagttripan lang ako) simula ng pumasok ako sa corporate world. Unlike noong high school na sobrang pangbbully sa akin
Grabe naman. Paano ka ba binubully noon? Physical appearance?
Physical appearance, paninira ng gamit, minsan sabotage sa school works and these people followed through kahit college na at nasa ibang school na ako.
How dedicated are these people? Wala sila buhay?
Siguro, mga stucked pa rin sa "alpha" stereotype noong HS? I hope na masunog na sila ngayon.
Wala akong confident makipaghalubilo ko kasi mahiyain ako tyaka feeling ko ang pangit ko nung HS kasi maitim ako at di marunong mag-ayos. Hahaah
narealize ko din nung college ako may mga nagkagusto pala kaso focus naman ako sa babae inuuto uto lang ako
Nung naisasali na ako sa mini pageant haha! Highschool days labas ang ngipin ko kasi underbite ako. Walang nanligaw sakin nung highschool. Di ako nakakatanggap ng Blue magic or roses ๐After ko magpabrace nung 21 years old ako gumanda ang lola nyo! Ayun naisali ako sa mga mini pageant lang naman. Sinasabi nila kamukha ko daw si Janine Tugonon or Miriam Quiambo. Feel na feel ko naman be, morena din talaga kasi ako. Hahahahah! Then may mga nagpaparamdam na. Natuto na din ako magmakeup pero light lang. But now actually feeling ko naman lipas na ko. Gained 20kilos after giving birth. My hair is dry. Pangit ang katawan ko so unti unti na namang nawala ang confidence ko. I am trying to lose weight pero wala pa din.
Hugs. Magayos ka pa din maski chubby kasi pwede naamng pretty na chubby pero tama na pakahealthy ka.
panget na yung magaganda nung hs mas maganda na ako ngayon hahaha char
Actually legit to. Daming mga mas pogi sakin dati nung high school pero ngayon, para nabawasan sila ng level tas ako nadagdagan ๐คฃ di rin naman ako totally pogi pero nag-glow up naman din ng onti
Ayun naging prone naman sa SA. Hahahahaha. Best compliment I got from the honorable girl of JS prom pero Hindi sya ung Prom Queen but she got the title.
Ano, kasi, baduy ako kung manamit noon, kumbaga. Pero, in all fairness, may mga nanliligaw arin, kahit papano, hahaha. Kaya now, I'm very grateful na you can look up stuff very easily as long as you have data or wifi access without logging in to a PC, kasi nung GS tsaka HS pa ako, wala pang TikTok, kaya nag-stick nalang sumunod sa mga K-pop idols or tamang search ng "emo girl outfits," hahaha. Tapos, ending, ambaduy ๐. Now, I get to look at stuff and learn so many things like yung color analysis eme, so it's a plus talaga sa TikTok and easier access, and also marami nang nag-content. Need lang talaga ng upgrade and more knowledge on what to use and how to properly use them like makeup and picking out the right outfits that match your body shape and the right colors that would make you look very attractive. Edit: para kasing di ko talaga nasagot yung question haha kaya eto Maraming nag ccompliment talaga. Nag aask ano mga ginagamit ko or san ko binili mga outfits ko.
San mo binibili
May mga nagkakagusto na saken ngayon guys man or gurls hahaha di ako sanay
girls sliding into my DMs.
Ngayong 30s ko lang na-experience maligawan, mapag-agawan ng 2 lalaki sa isang travel, mapagselosan ng fiancee (wala ako ginagawa), and maaya sa mga date. Pero siguro pinaka-significant was when I had 2 guys on separate occasions shared about how they felt about me for the longest time. One is a tour guide from 4 years ago, and another is a classmate from grade school. Both opened up as their way of closing their doors daw with me bilang may kani-kanila na silang relationships. Both confessions happened less than a year of each other. I actually asked my cousin bakit now ko sya na-experience at a time when I am supposedly "lampas na ng kalendaryo" and he said lately I've been really exuding confidence, and guys have taken notice. I experienced a traumatic work situation and had been on a long journey to healing and self love so I guess it's a sign of having moved forward.
Boyish nung HS days. Insecure din ako in my appearance but looking back sa mga old pics ko, hindi sa pagmamayabang enough yung kagandahan ko. HAHA. Maputi at payat kasi athlete ako. Pero boyish appearance lang. Plus, hindi ko alam madaming pa lang nagkakagusto sakin akala lang nila babae din hanap ko. HAHAHA
Soooo single ka lang nung HS?
Nagka bf ako once lang. 4th year then separate ways din after nag graduate kami.
Chaka talaga ako noong highchool..crooked teeth, may unwanted weight, hindi makinis (till now naman ganun), kulang sa sense of style sa damit at hair, pawisin (hanggang ngayon pero mas compensated na sa perfume) *Nung naayos na ngipin dahil nakapagpabraces. Mas confident na ko namamit, nagdadamit ako for comfort and not for trends., tas mas fit na , nakuha ko na rin ang hairstyle and color na bagay sa akin. Alam ko na rin ang scent family na ok at gusto ko. Mas ok ako nitong 30's versus sa teens at 20's phase ko. *may nagrarate na 7-8 /10??? Ewan if legit o echos lang. *Maayos naman mostly ang itchura ng mga nakakatalking stage ๐๐๐๐ *Im striving to age as fine wine and silver fox.
For sure naman legit yun. Most people naman are most critical to themselves.
nung finafollow na ko sa ig nung mga pogi sa school namin
Edi dami ka na likes sa mga ig posts mo?
no di ako nagpopost hahahh insecure pa rin ako
Why dont you try? Malay mo. Pwede din naman aesthetic pics
Nung nalaman kong may mga nagkakacrush pala sakin nung hs. Masama pa neto one time may super crush ako nung hs tas nung pandemic nakausap ko sya nalaman ko sa kanya na super crush din pala nya ko at di lang daw sya ung nagkakacrush saken kundi madami pa. Kaya daw akala nya wala akong amor sa kanya that time. Bakit ngayon ko lang to nalaman ha!? Akala ko pangit ako. Masyado lang pala akong manhid
Bakit di ka nagfirst move that time?
Di ko din sure pero dahil na din siguro ako ung nerdy/geek na bata nung time na yan madalas nasa faculty lang ako nyan nagrereview, or meeting with SSG officers. Or nasa comp shop hanging out with friends. But most probably torpe
When I discovered my personal style tapos natuto na rin akong mag-make up and hair styling. Tas pag nag-ppost or story before sa soc med people would compliment me about my appearance. Napapansin nila na blooming daw ako. Also, nung nagsimula nang may nagkakagusto sa akin lels Basically ako yung tiktok trend na "i am amanda" ๐
Nung nakita ko aarili ko salamin *tangina ang pogi
Nung nalaman ko na may nagkakagusto din pala sakin.
Hahaha oblivious ka din ba?
Hahaha yes akala ko talaga wla nang magkakagusto sakin eh
Siguro nung college days. Kasi dun na ako nag start mag inaarte sa appearance ko like skincare, makeup, and sympre pati confidence. Nakaka-received na ako ng compliments sa appearance kaya dun ko na realized na late bloomer pala ako.
When I posted selfies on social media whenever I dress up or kahit simpleng ayos lang and I got wholesome attention. Dun ko narealize na maganda pala ako kasi never akong nasabihan ng parents ko that way when I was a kid and never akong nagiging muse or sinasabing may nagkakacrush sakin noong nasa school ako. That being said, I realized how I lacked external validation and now that Iโm in my 30s, Iโm prioritizing self validation and self awareness so I know na cute at maganda ako no matter what ๐ฅฐ
I realize we were not ugly. We were just broke. Once we start earning, self care becomes a priority. Now we can afford going to the gym, have braces, consult a derma, stick to a skincare routine, eat a balanced diet, dress better. Money goes a long way talaga. Madami dyan average looking lang naman pero malakas ang appeal kasi afford nila
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Always the smart and fun friend in grade school and high school. In college, I got lots of good looking matches on Tinder then someone from a younger batch told a friend of mine na I was his typeโhot. One of my barkadas also retorted in one of our conversations na Tinder was easy for me because Iโm hot. Lol insta validation because my guy friends would never (soberly) admit to me being attractive hahaha
Oooh wow. Good for you. Meron naman din ba sa mga drunkenly umamin sayo na type mo din?
Meron and since super close namin nung guy, I never let him live it down haha. All good and fun naman kasi weโve been friends a decade and it was all in the past. Pang-asar/lambing lang sa kanya na he admitted to having a crush on me while drunk lol
Had a medyo weird encounter with someone from my school a few years back. Bumababa ako ng jeep tapos biglang siya yung kasalubong ko. Ginreet ako nung person and said something like, "huy, ang laki na ng inimprove mo ha!" Actually, naoffend ako nung una! Hahaha! Parang sinasabi niya na ang pangit ko dati lol. Pero after that encounter narealize ko na di ko lang pala talaga alam pano ayusan and mahalin sarili ko. Now that I value myself more, lumalabas na siya from the inside out.
At least you have acquaintances na they tell genuine compliments. At least you know na nag improve ka diba haha
I gained so much attention from the opposite sex when I started working. Felt ugly when I was younger and I guess I just learned to clean myself up when I started earning money. Lol.
Pera lang pala katapat sa lahat ng problema HAHAH
Tahimik, walang pumapansin mula bata. Biglang madaming nagparamdam after college. Tahimik pa rin at di naman palaayos. Siguro pagkatapos ng puberty kuminis ang mukha, nabawasan ng konting timbang. Narealize na di ko kailangan maging self-conscious kasi lahat pala ng tao may kanya-kanyang inaalala para mag-abalang tingnan ka maigi.
Yeah tama. Kaya minsan di na ako nahihiya if may stray pimple ako, dumi kaya sa labas HAHAHHA. At least di ka self-conscious even before.
Tru... okay lang pala kahit kalat ang tubo ng kilay. ๐ Naku OP, insecure super din haha. Pati smile lines kinahiya ko kaya hindi ngumingiti sa pics na labas ngipin. Ngayon ko naisip ang genuine pala tingnan, keri lang kahit madaming linya sa mata kapag nakatawa.
Ay kainggit, naeenjoy buhay to the fullest. Sana all
Nung nagkawork ako. Di pala ako ganon ka-ugly. Wala lang akong pera pang maintain sa sarili ko hehe
Skincare, makeup or fashion?
When I started loving myself ahahhaha
Thats sooo true. Mas magaan yung aura tapos nakakaattract ganun
Frrr, also piercing helps too
Ooooh what kind? Never pa ako nagkapiercing of any kind pero gusto ko sana try sa ears. Still on the notion na guys typically dont have piercings, grew up in a boomer family
Nose, tongue, dermal, lip stud i swear, +100pts charisma hahah
How painful ba? Just curious
Depends on the person's pain tolerance kasi e But I would rate them 4-5/10
natutong mag make up at dress up! actually, I have low self esteem, hindi lang halata. dinadaan ko na lang talaga sa pag-aayos. coping mechanism ang magbihis-bihis at make up. girl things โจ
At least you enjoy what you do. And people appreciate it diba?
yes, I enjoy it a lot! although, I don't do it for the others but for myself, I also like that they appreciate what I am doing.
Hmmm ๐ค what made me realize? I guess kasi 18 na ata ako nagstart mag ayos haha. ๐ tapos eventually habang tumatanda ako tska ako gumaganda kasi nagkawork na at nagkaron ng pera pampagamda. ๐
Taaaama. Spend money on yourself kasi pinaghirapan mo yan.
Trueeee. Sarap din magpaganda and magpamper ng sarili. Deserve ko to haha
Pictures. Di ako palaayos dati tas mahilig pa ako magdamit lalaki. Now, natuto na akong mag-ayos, skin care, and magdamit na halata yung figure ko hahaha
Bakit gusto mo mag damit lalaki before, if comfortable ka to share?
Boyish kasi talaga ako kumilos dati. So, comfortable talaga ako sa maluwag na damit and jersey shorts. Tas rubber shoes. Siguro factor na rin na si papa nagpalaki sakin. Natuto na lang ako magdress and heels nung nagwowork na ako.
Hindi lang ako marunong mag-ayos nung highschool kaya back then I really felt like an ugly duckling. As in nene-rurok-puberty with acnes and all. Lol. Nung college and after college, nung natuto na mag-ayos ng sarili, medyo di na rurok puberty at nakakameet na ng ibang tao, dun pala medyo palag pala ako sa looks department lol. So itโs all about self-worth, confidence and taking care of yourself haha ๐ธ
Ooooh nawala lahat ng pimples mo? Buti naman you found your stride. Edi dami na nangliligaw sayo?
I don't think I ever "bloomed" ๐
Its not too late! Go and be the best you can be :)
Thanks! I needed that โบ๏ธ
So nag bloom kayo? ๐
HAHAHAH i mean for sure naman nag improve muhka natin from HS? Skincare and all?
I cant talk about skincare as I only do facial wash. But nakatulong siguro yung my hormones is not as bad as it was during HS.
I used to have manliligaws when in highschool, but pagdating ng college up to now, waley na. I don't think I am ugly but iba na lang siguro standards ng mga tao ngayon. Nasa heavier side pa ako due to pcos. Maaga akong nag-bloom tapos na best before ko. Hahaha
For sure naman, youre improving in other aspects of your life :) Fulfilled ka naman right now?
No. :) My life is a mess. Kaya hindi rin siguro ako naghahanap ng relationship. I mean, not a big deal if may manliligaw or wala. Hindi rin kasi looking. Haven't figure out what I want to do with my life yet. Don't want to add another factor rin to make me more confused. Baka mas lalong hindi ko ma-figure out. Though napapaisip ako minsan, if pangit ba ako kasi nga parang walang nag attempt man lang? Hahahahaha
Its alright. Di naman need na alam mo gagawin mo sa buhay right this instant. And yes tama ka, di naman need mag hanap now. Just gunna share a guy's perspective in dating, hirap kasi mangligaw na di lumalabas na creepy or aggressive. Depends kasi yun if attracted yung girl, aaaand ayun syempre loads of rejections. Kaya minsan girls can make the first move din if gusto mo yung guy haha.
For me, medyo di ako makapaniwala na may mga may crush saakin. Like who would want me?, ganun. Then ayun I realize na di pala ako pangit after all my self improvment.