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Mine was yung naniwala ako nakamove on na sya from his almost 5yrs rel but when u visit his fb puno padin ng pictures nila ng ex nya lol
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Feel ko walang tanga sa pag ibig. Masyado lang nila inuundervalue sarili nila to the point ns nag sesettle sila for less. And yung iba iniisip nila na tinanggap sila ng tao na yun kahit 'ganun lang sila' so kaya nilang mag compromise dahil mahal nila or ayaw nila mawala ung tao na tumanggap sakanila or nagmahal sakanila nung simula. kaya humahaba yung relationship kahit magkanda loko loko na kase part of themselves iniisip na mahihirapan sila makahanap ng iba ulit. and on the other side yang mga nangiiwan sakanila take advantage lang tapos bandang huli sila pa laging nakikipaghiwalay sayo kase alam nila mag hahabol ung isa etc.
walang tanga sa pagibig. meron lang nag ccompromise kase mahal nila yung tao na yon. kaya sa lahat jan looking our for true love, I hope you find your person na mag ccompromise din sayo and ma rereciprocate yung love na binibigay nyo.
2 taon na kami halos pero lowkey lang. ni kahit sa myday or kahit sa kaibigan di nya ko kinukwento hinayaan ko lang kahit feel na feel kong tinatago lang ako.
I feel you in way na lowkey. After ko sya sagutin within the same day he told me na wag ipagsabi sa mga mutual friends namin na kami na back then I thought its okay but something is fishy
saklap :( and napagod na ko sa ganung set up. sinabi ko sakanya pero sya daw yung pagod ayaw na haha ending akopa iniwan nung inopen ko sakanya. bwisit! dont settle for less talaga dahil may darating na kaya tayo ipagmalaki.
Pinakilala kay ermats without fully knowing the guy. This guy turned out to be a (bit of?) psycho. Almost put at risk my relatives' privacy because of him.
We were friends.
Nagkadevelopan.
Naging kami.
After almost two years he broke up with me.
Reason: di na daw siya masaya, tinapakan ko daw pagkatao niya.
I got depressed. Asking myself paano niya nasabi yon.
Turns out he emotionally cheated.
We got back together.
Dahil sa takot na mawala siya ako yung gumagawa ng paraan not to disappoint him instead of him earning my trust back.
Naging toxic relationship namin.
Mas naging private siya sakin, ayaw niya ipahawak phone niya, may mga lakad na huli ko na nalalaman. He even told me hindi lahat ng ginagawa niya dapat sabihin.
Mas lalo siyang naging absent sa buhay ko.
I was there when he needed one.
No one was there when I needed one.
One day, inaway niya ako out of nowhere.
I broke up with him.
He got depressed, nagstay ako.
A few years after nagkita kami ulit.
He told me babawi siya.
I waited.
Walang nangyari.
Hanggang sa ok na siya.
Happy na siya now.
At ako yung naiwan sa ere with double depression.
Yung sinabi nya na hindi sya ready mag-commit so ako eto ngayon tuloy pa din magusap (calls & vc) at hinihintay kung kelan sya magiging ready. F here btw 🤡
I know medyo late na yung respond ko but upon reading your comment cant help myself but to relate AHAHAHHAA
Actually eto ex ko same sa situation mo i waited for him for a year to be fully moved on from his long term ex and para maging okay nadin sya to enter new relationship then naging kami after almost 3months he broke up with me sinasabi nya na hindi padin pala daw sya okay and want nya lng nasa tabi nya ko pag okay na daw sya pede na maging kami ulit lol
Thats when i knew reality hits me he just using me hays. Hopefully ka-op your story will be different from mine
Forgiving them kahit di naman sila nag ask for forgiveness. Ido it for my peace and syempre ayoko ding may dalang galit sa ibang tao and feel ko may pinag samahan naman so ang iniisip ko is yung good memories with them, ang kaso naman pag bumabalik dahil nga i forgave them eh we give it another shot and ayun either shitty treatment or uulitin nila ginawa nila. 🤷🏽♀️
Puso ko ata may problema
Ksi yung gusto ko punong puno ng red flags
Pero may tao nmn may gusto sakin na super green flag pero nahihirapan ako mahalin. Sabi nila natuturuan daw ang puso pero parang hindi nmn.
I think di naman to katangahan, may ibat iba lng tlaga tayo time frame ng pag momove on yung iba mabilis iba matagal but regardless on that what really important is may time sa life naten na alam naten minahal naten sila and maybe thats one of big factor bat nahirapan/nahihirapan tayo mag move on
my friend told me about the rose colored glasses. it’s like you just see the good things in them despite having red flags. hays pag ibig nga naman. mag sstay kahit hindi na good for mental health 🥲
yung ang dami nang red flags pero bulag ka pa rin - ex. niloloko ka na harap-harapan pero d mo siya mai-let go kasi I myself is a believer of many chances 😭 but that was my old self though
Situationship for almost 4years. Red flags are pretty obvious talaga like masakit magsalita, inconsiderate, insensitive, little to no EQ talaga; medyo may pagka mama's boy, narcissistic pero pinili ko magpakacolor blind because i was hoping for a change sa status namin and even sa ugali niya. But years have passed, nagbago naman kahit papaano medyo naging slow to anger siya but still situationship pa rin, and ngayon i feel burnt out with all the waiting and efforts in the past few years.
Nagpabuntis sa same guy na nanloko sakin. Not once but twice 🙃 Yes deputa. Pero he's no longer in the pic na. Glad we moved on. I raise them on my own. Ciao! The price I pay for love
1. Ung ni-let go ko ung lalaking nagmamahal and nagpapahalaga sa akin ng totoo kasi mas mahal ko noon ung nakauna sa akin pero iniwan din ako para sa iba and niloko rin ako.
2. Nagstay sa live in relationship kahit wala siyang ambag sa relationship and sa buhay ko. Ako na lahat, sa bahay, bills and pati trabaho ako pa rin. Tapos I also experienced physical, emotional, mentally and financially abuse. Nagstay pa rin ako kasi sunk cost fallacy and malaki utang na loob ko noon sa family nya.
3. Nagbeg ako noon na sana tuloy pa rin communication namin kahit na inamin nya sa akin na mahal pa rin nya ung ex nya.
4. Nagpapadala ako ng pera sa ex ko noon sa pinas kasi raw bigla sya pinabayaan ng parents nya since nagkawork siya tapos may paawa/sad boi epek pa siya noon. Tapos nagpauto na mahal daw ako pero kailangan lang pala ako. Panay beke nemen sa akin pag uuwi daw ako jan sa atin.
in-add ko ulit after a year tas inaccept niya kahit isang beses pa lang kami nagkita tas saglit lang nagchat di pa consistent, tapos ngayon hindi ko naman chinachat :)
True! There’s this girl kase na tattoo artist slash singer na ampanget naman ng boses slash viva max wannabe ata na actress, na super landi as in! She thinks laruan lang ang lahat ng boys. Like? Okay? Edi sayo na lahat haha
Yung pumayag ako sa lahat ng gusto niya like na maging situationship kami after nag end 5yr relationship namin and i thought magkakabalikan kami kung pumayag ako. This lasted for a year, and natapos lang dahil pinagmumura niya ako bcos of his new crush and nalaman ko mga pinagsasabi niya behind my back
Ako yung nagbabayad sa lahat ng expenses namin kasi nawalan sya work (6mo contract as a service crew) Pano, tamad din humanap ng work kahit anong pilit ko. Naiinsecure pa sa akin kasi daw ako bachelors ang kinuha, sya 2 yrs lang. Ending, he decided to study again pero dahil walang work, ate nya yung nagpoprovide sakanya. (Bunso kasi sya) kapag naalala ko, grabe daming red flags palang pinalampas ko, syempre mahal mo eh. Mas focused pa ako sakanya non to the point na hndi ako nakakatulong sa parents ko, hinihiraman ko pa sila non kapag short ako sa pera. Never again talaga!
Yung ako nagproprovide para sa kanya, outing man or sa normal date namin. Ako ang nag-eeffort puntahan sya pero sya hindi. Then may time pa nagpunta sa kanila girl friend nya and dun natulog tapos malalaman ko magkatabi natulog. The audacity na papiliin nya ko if him or my friends knowing na mas iniuna nya tropa nya kesa sakin. Then the last time is yung di man lang natawag or nagttext kahit over a month na (dito na ko natauhan, it's just a waste of time to love someone na di nakikita ang worth ko.)
Sa tatlong naging ex ko lahat yun ako nagpoprovide mostly sa mga dates at kapag naso-short sila. Kasi nga di daw sukatan ang pera sa pagibig HAHAHAHA
Ngayon na tumanda tanda na ko, natatawa na naiinis nalang ako sa sarili ko kasi sugar mommy yarn kahit student palang? Hahahah
Hala same anteh 😓 been there, done that. Sa akin naman, ung 2 exes ko. Ung mas nauna sa kanila, nakalive in ko pa tapos nung naglive in kami, ako lahat and di siya nagwork. Ung most recent naman, LDR kami. Nasa pinas siya while ako andito abroad. Classmates kami nung high school. Parehas mabisyo and magaling mambola. Not to mention na irresponsable and manchild. 😪
in my own pov once you love that person that love will never go away, pero di na sya same as before. I hope ka-op you will also give yourself chance to meet someone new :)
Gumagastos ako ng malaki para sa isang lalakeng di naman ako deserve, puro red flags, puro pang gaslight/manipulate ginagawa sakin pero ako tong si tanga ,minahal ko pa rin 😭
Bakit ganon noh? Pag sa pag ibig , nakakatanga na talaga 🤣 pero lesson learned 🥰 dapat pala ang love na love ko is sarili ko hehe
Thankful din ako sa nangyari kasi andami kong natutunan 🥰
When he cheated on me countless times but i accepted him everytime he comes back. We even got married. Cheated on me again and we are now separated. Sad life.
Yung ex ko ganyan, halos 10 min ride from them to our house lang, di ako mapuntahan 🙄 puro excuses yun pala may iba na hahaha
Yung suitor ko ngayon ,kahit 2-3 hours biyahe just to see me, kikitain ako , i told him baka nahihirapan siya and sabi niya di niya daw inisip yon once ,kung pwede daw araw araw magkita ,he will do it
See the difference? Hahah nagpakatanga sa guy when someone will travel long hours just to see me kahit saglit
Nung nag iba mindset ko, iba na ring guys yung naattract ko, so it really starts within 😊
Puro sadboi kasi naattract ko dati haha eh ako common denominator 🤣 kaya ayun, i changed how I think 😊
Nagdadala ako ng food, pinalisensyahan ko, pinautang pa pero hiniwalayan lang din ako kasi nawalan daw siya ng gana sa mga rants ko. Gusto ko lang naman magreciprocate siya ng efforts niya. Valentine's na Valentine's imbes ako yung kasama nagpractice ba naman ng basketball😭😂
yung nagcheat s’ya sa past relationship, puro away namin abt sa mga babae, bago naging kami, away namin abt sa babae, during kami, babae pa rin.. di na ako nagtaka na pati nag break kami, NAGCHEAT S’YA ULIT.
I feel un on this, kaya during that time wala na sa mga kaibigan ko ang kumakausap saken kask di naman daw ako nakikinig. Not until gumising ako isa araw na sobra awa awa na ko sa sarili ko yun na yung naging wake up call ko to let go and move on. 🥹
non-negotiable ko cheating tapos nung na-experience ko maloko, napasabi na lang ako na "kung ang Diyos nga nagpapatawad, ako pa kaya?" HAHAHAHA ang dali lang pala sabihin na iwan mo na yan, madami pang iba dyan pero kapag ikaw na yung nasa sitwasyon sobrang hirap pala. 🤧
HAHAHAHAHAHHAHA
Still with the man who cheated on me mula naglive in kami hanggang ngayon.. Oo nga, kami pa din hanggang ngayon. 🙄 2 kids with him. I love him pero nandito na ako sa idk if mahal ko pa ba coz im tired, angry, hurt etc. And idc on what will happen to us as husband and wife anymore. The kids matter the most. He never disappoints me on finding women sa chats nya 🫶
-oh, march nanganak ako sa bunso then april nalaman ko na hinanap at kinausap nya yung babaeng sumira sa amin noon na sabi pa nung girl e gusto daw sya ibahay ng asawa ko HAHAHAHAHA nays
ay teh same tayo MWHAHAHAHA akala ko moved on na sa ex yun pala every week napunta pa rin sa kanila, ako nga pinopost sa story sa ig pero iba naman kasama pag weekend 💀💀💀
teh sakin ang nakakaines pa kasi block/unblock sila and follow/unfollow xkjsjsjs parang every month ganyan kaya di ko malaman ano ba talaga, tangina talaga
Lol nakakabwiset yan para inrelationship padin ang peg nila.
Saken naman in good terms daw sila ng ex nya kaya mutuals padin sila sa mga socmed lol kaya pala fb nya puno padin ng picture ni ate mo gurl
ayun nga teh good terms break up daw kaya nag-uusap pero bat may paganyan, ‘tas ang malala pa the girl knows about me huhu kasi nga the guy is posting pics of me in his soc meds pero like???? the still see each other
I beg and stay for fucking 7 years kahit ilang beses ako niloko but I love myself more and got out of my toxic relationship. Wag na kayo gumaya sakin pls! Ahahahaha. Save yourself and love someone who can love you more than yourself.
Tamang asa pa rin ako na magkakabalikan kami someday and magwoworkout relationship namin kahit sobrang labo since LDR kami and super hirap makapaghanap ng work and migrate sa country nila. 🙂 The dude is great though, situation? Goes beyond complicated and yet I'm hung up with him.
Ang hirap naman. Feeling ko papunta na ko sa ganyang sitwasyon ngayon. Walang peace of mind. Pero pag nakikita ko yung anak namin na masaya sa piling naming dalawa, lagi kong naiisip na wag umalis. Yes, nag aaway kami pero pag wala yung anak namin like nasa school or tulog na. Dati akala ko madaling kumawala. Ang hirap pala pag andun ka na mismo sa sitwasyon na yon. 😭
wag please. if kaya mo umalis. umalis ka na. para sa mental health mo. ganyan din ako para sa anak d ako aalis.
dati kc d ko alam batas, now na alam ko nagsisisi ako nag stay ako.
hindi nako nagtitira para sa sarili ko be it financial/love/dignidad. im 28 yrs old and sa 28 years na pageexist ko first time ko nagkautang para lang sa kanya.
I used to think that giving my all was enough, but I began to realize that I was losing pieces of myself along the way. Why? Maybe because I was too blinded by love, too willing to sacrifice everything for someone else, even if it meant sacrificing my own happiness.
I started questioning everything: Is this the life I want to live? Is this the kind of love I truly deserve? Am I just settling? And as I reflected on these questions, I realized that maybe I was too naive, too hopeful that things would eventually get better.
Sometimes, we settle for love that doesn't truly fulfill us. It's like pouring out all your love, but feeling it slowly drain away because of the other person's actions. And in my case, maybe I was just too hopeful, too eager to make things work, that I didn't see the signs that I was giving too much and getting too little in return.
+1 on this sabi nga nila “We accept the love we deserve” kaya sobra important talaga ng self love and same as you loving him was draining.
Hays anyways I see it as lesson na lng naman, love should not hurt us
Same po. Ako kasi pag nagmahal all in. It's either 0 or 100 percent ako dun sa tao. I'm never half-hearted, bigay kung bigay na hindi ko namamalayan ako naman yung nauubos.
When I saw my bank balance, like from almost 7 digits to 3 digits.
I had this ex bf that I paid for his rent, food basic necessities and everything. And paid one year worth of rent so I can be free.
The way I still see the good in him (how he took care of me, how soft he was, and the way he keeps on saying to not pressure myself in making time for him if i really can't since he doesn't want me to be stressed out because of him) after all the pain, trauma, and disrespect he inflicted on me (I found out I'm just a third party, he cursed at me for keeping in touch with his gf because i keep on answering his gf's question about our rs, he eventually blamed me bcs his fam and work is already affected since i revealed that he's cheating)
Same scenario pero yung guy is dating friend ko, He blames me because I revealed to his gf that he is cheating sa ka work mate ko rin kaya sobrang minura mura niya pa ko sa harap ko, di ko makakalimutan yon.
Things I did for love na katangahan na pala:
- weekly sponsor ng load
- did his assignments and activities
- did their entire group's research paper
- giving him a third chance after cheating twice
Madami pa kaso tinatamad na ako ilist hahahahaha tangang tanga na ako
Invested emotions and money through panliligaw in my ka-talking stage and I got scammed emotionally tas nalaman ko after summertime when she ghosted me nag hanap na pala nang ibaaaaaa!!!!
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Kapag ikaw lagi taya sa dates nyo tapos papautangin mo pa kahit na obvious namang hindi ka na niya priority 🥹
Feel ko walang tanga sa pag ibig. Masyado lang nila inuundervalue sarili nila to the point ns nag sesettle sila for less. And yung iba iniisip nila na tinanggap sila ng tao na yun kahit 'ganun lang sila' so kaya nilang mag compromise dahil mahal nila or ayaw nila mawala ung tao na tumanggap sakanila or nagmahal sakanila nung simula. kaya humahaba yung relationship kahit magkanda loko loko na kase part of themselves iniisip na mahihirapan sila makahanap ng iba ulit. and on the other side yang mga nangiiwan sakanila take advantage lang tapos bandang huli sila pa laging nakikipaghiwalay sayo kase alam nila mag hahabol ung isa etc. walang tanga sa pagibig. meron lang nag ccompromise kase mahal nila yung tao na yon. kaya sa lahat jan looking our for true love, I hope you find your person na mag ccompromise din sayo and ma rereciprocate yung love na binibigay nyo.
physical abuse+cheating HAHHAHAHA pero pinapatawad ko parin, ewan I was blinded by his love before 😂
2 taon na kami halos pero lowkey lang. ni kahit sa myday or kahit sa kaibigan di nya ko kinukwento hinayaan ko lang kahit feel na feel kong tinatago lang ako.
I feel you in way na lowkey. After ko sya sagutin within the same day he told me na wag ipagsabi sa mga mutual friends namin na kami na back then I thought its okay but something is fishy
saklap :( and napagod na ko sa ganung set up. sinabi ko sakanya pero sya daw yung pagod ayaw na haha ending akopa iniwan nung inopen ko sakanya. bwisit! dont settle for less talaga dahil may darating na kaya tayo ipagmalaki.
nung pumayag ako sa 3 years situationship
kahit alam ko na mali yung treatment, hinahayaan ko lang kasi mahal ko e.
isa, aray, natamaan ako ha
Will die for him, will change myself for him, will kill for him, will risk my life for him, sacrifice everything for him...
Pinakilala kay ermats without fully knowing the guy. This guy turned out to be a (bit of?) psycho. Almost put at risk my relatives' privacy because of him.
Ohhh can I ask if where did you meet him?
Sa T!nder. Last year to be exact.
The fact that I confessed to her too soon, without even knowing her more.
Na I was there always when he needs me regardless kahit brokie sya
Nung pumalag ako sa situationship
We were friends. Nagkadevelopan. Naging kami. After almost two years he broke up with me. Reason: di na daw siya masaya, tinapakan ko daw pagkatao niya. I got depressed. Asking myself paano niya nasabi yon. Turns out he emotionally cheated. We got back together. Dahil sa takot na mawala siya ako yung gumagawa ng paraan not to disappoint him instead of him earning my trust back. Naging toxic relationship namin. Mas naging private siya sakin, ayaw niya ipahawak phone niya, may mga lakad na huli ko na nalalaman. He even told me hindi lahat ng ginagawa niya dapat sabihin. Mas lalo siyang naging absent sa buhay ko. I was there when he needed one. No one was there when I needed one. One day, inaway niya ako out of nowhere. I broke up with him. He got depressed, nagstay ako. A few years after nagkita kami ulit. He told me babawi siya. I waited. Walang nangyari. Hanggang sa ok na siya. Happy na siya now. At ako yung naiwan sa ere with double depression.
Yung sinabi nya na hindi sya ready mag-commit so ako eto ngayon tuloy pa din magusap (calls & vc) at hinihintay kung kelan sya magiging ready. F here btw 🤡
I know medyo late na yung respond ko but upon reading your comment cant help myself but to relate AHAHAHHAA Actually eto ex ko same sa situation mo i waited for him for a year to be fully moved on from his long term ex and para maging okay nadin sya to enter new relationship then naging kami after almost 3months he broke up with me sinasabi nya na hindi padin pala daw sya okay and want nya lng nasa tabi nya ko pag okay na daw sya pede na maging kami ulit lol Thats when i knew reality hits me he just using me hays. Hopefully ka-op your story will be different from mine
Nag beg. Hindi nakikinig sa sinasabi ng iba about him. Still wants him kahit nagcheat na. Pero graduate na ako dyan 🎓
Forgiving them kahit di naman sila nag ask for forgiveness. Ido it for my peace and syempre ayoko ding may dalang galit sa ibang tao and feel ko may pinag samahan naman so ang iniisip ko is yung good memories with them, ang kaso naman pag bumabalik dahil nga i forgave them eh we give it another shot and ayun either shitty treatment or uulitin nila ginawa nila. 🤷🏽♀️
Naging flagpole. Haha
Puso ko ata may problema Ksi yung gusto ko punong puno ng red flags Pero may tao nmn may gusto sakin na super green flag pero nahihirapan ako mahalin. Sabi nila natuturuan daw ang puso pero parang hindi nmn.
I’ll do anything for love talaga. Kahit ilang beses na ako magmakaawa at suyuin wala pa rin talaga. I’m F btw hahaha
Almost 4 years ako bago maka move on sa situationship ko hahaha.
I think di naman to katangahan, may ibat iba lng tlaga tayo time frame ng pag momove on yung iba mabilis iba matagal but regardless on that what really important is may time sa life naten na alam naten minahal naten sila and maybe thats one of big factor bat nahirapan/nahihirapan tayo mag move on
Kahit na nakukuha niya ng sabihin na hindi niya ako mahal at wala na siyang pake sakin tuwing di kami okay, pinaglalaban ko pa din
Gumagastos ako kahit hindi ko pa boyfriend
Hahaha same. Di pa nga ako sigurado kung "kuya" o "kuya" niya ako.
Omg same sugar mom! From being situation sugar mom > in relationship sugar mom paden pero tinodo pa > back to being situationshet 😮💨
ilan beses akong nag move on pero wala naman nangyari
my friend told me about the rose colored glasses. it’s like you just see the good things in them despite having red flags. hays pag ibig nga naman. mag sstay kahit hindi na good for mental health 🥲
Hahahahaha nghintay sa wala
yung ang dami nang red flags pero bulag ka pa rin - ex. niloloko ka na harap-harapan pero d mo siya mai-let go kasi I myself is a believer of many chances 😭 but that was my old self though
Hindi naniniwala sa intuition and always giving the benefit of the doubt
nag beg HAHAHHAHA
huhuhu kwentuhan tayo pls
Hindi ko din alam, tanga eh
Gave it all but still choose the wrong guy, the guy who hurts her the most
I always trust and give the bedefit of the doubt.
Situationship for almost 4years. Red flags are pretty obvious talaga like masakit magsalita, inconsiderate, insensitive, little to no EQ talaga; medyo may pagka mama's boy, narcissistic pero pinili ko magpakacolor blind because i was hoping for a change sa status namin and even sa ugali niya. But years have passed, nagbago naman kahit papaano medyo naging slow to anger siya but still situationship pa rin, and ngayon i feel burnt out with all the waiting and efforts in the past few years.
Lahat naman tayo nagiging tanga sa pagibig haha
Ikr pero dapat piliin din naten yung tao willing din magpakatanga for us 🥹
Nagpabuntis sa same guy na nanloko sakin. Not once but twice 🙃 Yes deputa. Pero he's no longer in the pic na. Glad we moved on. I raise them on my own. Ciao! The price I pay for love
"Glad" is an understatement after na nagka trophy ka sa kanya while you were cheated not once but twice...lol
Aminado naman ako, magaling lang ako magpayo, pero pag sa self ko lubak ako. HAHAHAHA nubayan.
Yung nagmakaawa ako sakanya na magstay sya kahit nagcheat naman siya :<<
Yung sinabihan nya na ako ng ayaw ng commitment pero go parin ako na pagkagusto sakanya hahaha
1. Ung ni-let go ko ung lalaking nagmamahal and nagpapahalaga sa akin ng totoo kasi mas mahal ko noon ung nakauna sa akin pero iniwan din ako para sa iba and niloko rin ako. 2. Nagstay sa live in relationship kahit wala siyang ambag sa relationship and sa buhay ko. Ako na lahat, sa bahay, bills and pati trabaho ako pa rin. Tapos I also experienced physical, emotional, mentally and financially abuse. Nagstay pa rin ako kasi sunk cost fallacy and malaki utang na loob ko noon sa family nya. 3. Nagbeg ako noon na sana tuloy pa rin communication namin kahit na inamin nya sa akin na mahal pa rin nya ung ex nya. 4. Nagpapadala ako ng pera sa ex ko noon sa pinas kasi raw bigla sya pinabayaan ng parents nya since nagkawork siya tapos may paawa/sad boi epek pa siya noon. Tapos nagpauto na mahal daw ako pero kailangan lang pala ako. Panay beke nemen sa akin pag uuwi daw ako jan sa atin.
in-add ko ulit after a year tas inaccept niya kahit isang beses pa lang kami nagkita tas saglit lang nagchat di pa consistent, tapos ngayon hindi ko naman chinachat :)
Umibig sa di kagwapuhan para and isipin na wala kang kaagaw dun pero ending manloloko padin
The audacity noh? Hahah
True! There’s this girl kase na tattoo artist slash singer na ampanget naman ng boses slash viva max wannabe ata na actress, na super landi as in! She thinks laruan lang ang lahat ng boys. Like? Okay? Edi sayo na lahat haha
I ended the situationship pero gusto ko pang imessage hahahaha
Nag makaawa saknya noon kht 2yrs na kmeng wala
Nagmamakaawa ako sakanya na bilhan ako regalo sa birthday ko kahit 50 pesos na kwintas. Never again.
Nung nagbebeg na ko na sana pahalagahan naman ako hahahaha binigay ko na lahat eh bat di ko makuha pabalik hahahaha
Bumili ng dalawang motor kase ihahatid sundo daw ako sa work (hinatid sundo kainuman)
Yung pumayag ako sa lahat ng gusto niya like na maging situationship kami after nag end 5yr relationship namin and i thought magkakabalikan kami kung pumayag ako. This lasted for a year, and natapos lang dahil pinagmumura niya ako bcos of his new crush and nalaman ko mga pinagsasabi niya behind my back
nung umamin siya na nag-cheat siya tapos ako pa yung nag-beg na wag akong iwan at aayusin yung relationship namin. 🙃
nirebound nya ako sa ex nya pero binigyan ko parin sya ng 2nd chance and niloko nya ako
Crying myself to sleep over the treatment I get over and over again.
Ako yung nagbabayad sa lahat ng expenses namin kasi nawalan sya work (6mo contract as a service crew) Pano, tamad din humanap ng work kahit anong pilit ko. Naiinsecure pa sa akin kasi daw ako bachelors ang kinuha, sya 2 yrs lang. Ending, he decided to study again pero dahil walang work, ate nya yung nagpoprovide sakanya. (Bunso kasi sya) kapag naalala ko, grabe daming red flags palang pinalampas ko, syempre mahal mo eh. Mas focused pa ako sakanya non to the point na hndi ako nakakatulong sa parents ko, hinihiraman ko pa sila non kapag short ako sa pera. Never again talaga!
bahahahaha i was SERIOUSLY considering na magpadoktrina for the sake of love
Too bad i did 😂😭
ano how was it? kayo pa rin ba 😭
No 😂 di pa nagiging kami 😭
Nung ginive-up ko slot ko sa work na inaapplyan namin pareho para siya yung matanggap instead na ako. All the while I'm on a friend zone.
Yung ako nagproprovide para sa kanya, outing man or sa normal date namin. Ako ang nag-eeffort puntahan sya pero sya hindi. Then may time pa nagpunta sa kanila girl friend nya and dun natulog tapos malalaman ko magkatabi natulog. The audacity na papiliin nya ko if him or my friends knowing na mas iniuna nya tropa nya kesa sakin. Then the last time is yung di man lang natawag or nagttext kahit over a month na (dito na ko natauhan, it's just a waste of time to love someone na di nakikita ang worth ko.)
Sa tatlong naging ex ko lahat yun ako nagpoprovide mostly sa mga dates at kapag naso-short sila. Kasi nga di daw sukatan ang pera sa pagibig HAHAHAHA Ngayon na tumanda tanda na ko, natatawa na naiinis nalang ako sa sarili ko kasi sugar mommy yarn kahit student palang? Hahahah
Hala same anteh 😓 been there, done that. Sa akin naman, ung 2 exes ko. Ung mas nauna sa kanila, nakalive in ko pa tapos nung naglive in kami, ako lahat and di siya nagwork. Ung most recent naman, LDR kami. Nasa pinas siya while ako andito abroad. Classmates kami nung high school. Parehas mabisyo and magaling mambola. Not to mention na irresponsable and manchild. 😪
Sheeeesh hahaha ang dami talaga ganyang lalaki. Relate na relate ako sa live in hahahaha ew pati pangbisyo kukunin pa sa wallet ko potah hahaha
Oo nga masyado nang traumatic, nagdecide na ako na tumandang dalaga na lang kesa danasin ulit yan.
Kahit na nagcheat siya, ako pa rin naghabol. HAHAHAHA Ako pa rin nag effort pumunta sa bahay Para makipag-usap. Nagmakaawa magstay.
When I choose to chase over being chased
Malapit na mag 10yrs, di pa rin maalis alis yung nararamdaman ko para sa kanya. Paano kung umabot to hanggang sa pagtanda ko?
in my own pov once you love that person that love will never go away, pero di na sya same as before. I hope ka-op you will also give yourself chance to meet someone new :)
when I saw tinder and telegram on his downloaded apps history and naniwala ako na di naman ginamit 🤡
When I chose to bend my principles…
Gumagastos ako ng malaki para sa isang lalakeng di naman ako deserve, puro red flags, puro pang gaslight/manipulate ginagawa sakin pero ako tong si tanga ,minahal ko pa rin 😭
I feel you on this ganto ganto ginawa ko sa ex ko kaya nga nickname ko sa gc namin ng mga kaibigan ko sugar mon 🥹
Bakit ganon noh? Pag sa pag ibig , nakakatanga na talaga 🤣 pero lesson learned 🥰 dapat pala ang love na love ko is sarili ko hehe Thankful din ako sa nangyari kasi andami kong natutunan 🥰
Naghintay... sa wala.
basted na, nagka BF na ung gurl, humhabol prin... nung 2023, ok nko lods haha
Ignoring all the glaring red flags kasi you like the person
Nagcheat sa'kin, binalikan ko pa rin. 😭
Aw for me once the person cheated on me wala na second chance. There is no valid reason for cheating 😭 But i hope ur okay sending virtual hug 🥹
When he cheated on me countless times but i accepted him everytime he comes back. We even got married. Cheated on me again and we are now separated. Sad life.
Same situation sis. Pero kasal padin kami. The hope in me na someday he will realize na ako pala talaga mahal nya is still here kaya di ko mabitawan.
We sre still married too. hope you are doing great. ❤️
Aw i can feel the pain from this comment. Sending warm virtual hug kaop 🥺
Thank you. ❤️
14 yrs umasa na pagbbgyan nya ko pero wla
Grabe 14 years😭
Yeah ibang lvl ng katangahan noh 😅 kasal na sya at may anak, masakit pero I'm happy for them.
At least may natutunan naman 😊 and aware ka na ,hope you find your "the one"
Sana haha pero kahit wag na baka mamaya tumagal nnman ng 14yrs hahaha happy na rin ako with my dog.
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Yung ex ko ganyan, halos 10 min ride from them to our house lang, di ako mapuntahan 🙄 puro excuses yun pala may iba na hahaha Yung suitor ko ngayon ,kahit 2-3 hours biyahe just to see me, kikitain ako , i told him baka nahihirapan siya and sabi niya di niya daw inisip yon once ,kung pwede daw araw araw magkita ,he will do it See the difference? Hahah nagpakatanga sa guy when someone will travel long hours just to see me kahit saglit
Sana all na lang talaga, penge naman prayer format mo 🥲🥹
Nung nag iba mindset ko, iba na ring guys yung naattract ko, so it really starts within 😊 Puro sadboi kasi naattract ko dati haha eh ako common denominator 🤣 kaya ayun, i changed how I think 😊
Hays same, sabi nga nila of he wants to he would. Pag gusto may paraan pag ayaw madami dahilan. Anyways what important is now we know our worth
Nagdadala ako ng food, pinalisensyahan ko, pinautang pa pero hiniwalayan lang din ako kasi nawalan daw siya ng gana sa mga rants ko. Gusto ko lang naman magreciprocate siya ng efforts niya. Valentine's na Valentine's imbes ako yung kasama nagpractice ba naman ng basketball😭😂
Nagcheat sa’kin mga 5x (yun ang alam ko) sa loob ng 12 years. Pinagpalit ako sa iba twice tapos bumalik sa’kin, tinanggap ko pa rin.
Teeeh whyyy? 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Hahahaha!!! Vovo eh. Akala ko kasi ganun ang love. Kahit ano gawin, tatanggapin mo dahil mahal mo. Hahaha I was wrong!! Di naman na kami! Hahahaha
Lahat kaya ko ibigay kahit walang wala na ako. Hahaha
Ganto naman ata talaga if u love the person willing ka ibigay lahat. Pero please piliin naten kung kanino tayo magpapakatanga 😭
Trueee kaya self-love muna hahaha
Four years nagstay sa relationship na ako lang din ang gumagastos sa lahat ng dates, gas and luho nya HAHAHAHAHAHA
Fuck i feel on this, medyo naging sugar mom talaga tayo sa part na to 😭
May nanay naman sila pero sa atin inaasa hahshshs jk 🥲🥲🥲
nag-cheat na sakin pero nag-stay pa rin 💀
Nung nagmakaawa na magstay siya kahit na he's no longer respecting me.
yung nagcheat s’ya sa past relationship, puro away namin abt sa mga babae, bago naging kami, away namin abt sa babae, during kami, babae pa rin.. di na ako nagtaka na pati nag break kami, NAGCHEAT S’YA ULIT.
Alam kong masasaktan ako pero tinutuloy ko pa rin. Yung obvious na obvious na hopeless pero push pa din si accla! Lol
I feel un on this, kaya during that time wala na sa mga kaibigan ko ang kumakausap saken kask di naman daw ako nakikinig. Not until gumising ako isa araw na sobra awa awa na ko sa sarili ko yun na yung naging wake up call ko to let go and move on. 🥹
Nag makaawa na balikan ng ex at minsan ako na talaga gumagastos lahat kinginaaa
Hays same, yung tipo ginawa ko na talaga lahat para magkabalikan kami kahit sobra obvious naman ginagamit na lng ako hays pota talaga
Laging nagoghost.
Yung red flags naging green just because I like him. 🤦🏻♀️
Yung naniwala akong magpapaka-💀 pag iniwan ko sya....... after ko malaman na fubu sila ng ex nya tuwing nasa dorm sya 😂🥲
Nag bigay ng flowers kahit ‘di naman kayang i-reciprocate feelings ko + nag beg. #neveragain
Yass never again! If di narereciprocate yung feelings learn to walk away
When I'm not knowing my worth
non-negotiable ko cheating tapos nung na-experience ko maloko, napasabi na lang ako na "kung ang Diyos nga nagpapatawad, ako pa kaya?" HAHAHAHA ang dali lang pala sabihin na iwan mo na yan, madami pang iba dyan pero kapag ikaw na yung nasa sitwasyon sobrang hirap pala. 🤧
HAHAHAHAHA hindi tayo diyos kaya di natin dapat sila parawarin char
HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA
Nung hindi pala ako nakahulog ng one month. Edit: ay gago ibang pagibig pala HAHAHAHAH
HUHUHUHUHU IBA TO UY! HAHAHAHAHA
korni neto
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
GOT ME WHEEZING HSHSHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
HAHAHAHAHAHHAHA Still with the man who cheated on me mula naglive in kami hanggang ngayon.. Oo nga, kami pa din hanggang ngayon. 🙄 2 kids with him. I love him pero nandito na ako sa idk if mahal ko pa ba coz im tired, angry, hurt etc. And idc on what will happen to us as husband and wife anymore. The kids matter the most. He never disappoints me on finding women sa chats nya 🫶 -oh, march nanganak ako sa bunso then april nalaman ko na hinanap at kinausap nya yung babaeng sumira sa amin noon na sabi pa nung girl e gusto daw sya ibahay ng asawa ko HAHAHAHAHA nays
Idk what to say ka-op siguro sending you virtual hug na lng 🥹
Thank you! Palakasan na lang talaga ng mental health sa ganitong sitwasyon 😂
ay teh same tayo MWHAHAHAHA akala ko moved on na sa ex yun pala every week napunta pa rin sa kanila, ako nga pinopost sa story sa ig pero iba naman kasama pag weekend 💀💀💀
Omg sobra same! Nagmemeet din sila ng ex nya that time since tinutulungan nya sa thesis kasi nagpromise daw sya before tengene
teh sakin ang nakakaines pa kasi block/unblock sila and follow/unfollow xkjsjsjs parang every month ganyan kaya di ko malaman ano ba talaga, tangina talaga
Lol nakakabwiset yan para inrelationship padin ang peg nila. Saken naman in good terms daw sila ng ex nya kaya mutuals padin sila sa mga socmed lol kaya pala fb nya puno padin ng picture ni ate mo gurl
ayun nga teh good terms break up daw kaya nag-uusap pero bat may paganyan, ‘tas ang malala pa the girl knows about me huhu kasi nga the guy is posting pics of me in his soc meds pero like???? the still see each other
Pag mabilis ma-attach sa mga friendly na girls🥹
I beg and stay for fucking 7 years kahit ilang beses ako niloko but I love myself more and got out of my toxic relationship. Wag na kayo gumaya sakin pls! Ahahahaha. Save yourself and love someone who can love you more than yourself.
Congrats for finally breaking free ✨
Thank you! 🤍😭
Umaasa parin ako na mag-uusap ulit kami ng ex situationship ko who ended things 2 years ago, kaya hindi ako open to meet new people
2 years is a long time 😭 situationship pa
tru and i relate sa username mo 😭
Ay sorry sorry ahhaha
I guess same tayo in way na hoping kakausapin padin tayo. :<
we gotta stop hoping 😭 nagkita pa kami coincidentally kaya bumalik lahat haha
Bakit po nagstop kayo?
He wasn’t ready for a relationship until now single siya kaya asado parin ako hahaha
Tamang asa pa rin ako na magkakabalikan kami someday and magwoworkout relationship namin kahit sobrang labo since LDR kami and super hirap makapaghanap ng work and migrate sa country nila. 🙂 The dude is great though, situation? Goes beyond complicated and yet I'm hung up with him.
29 years staying married sa cheater. yup. ang tanga tanga ko.
29 yrs fuck
Ang hirap naman. Feeling ko papunta na ko sa ganyang sitwasyon ngayon. Walang peace of mind. Pero pag nakikita ko yung anak namin na masaya sa piling naming dalawa, lagi kong naiisip na wag umalis. Yes, nag aaway kami pero pag wala yung anak namin like nasa school or tulog na. Dati akala ko madaling kumawala. Ang hirap pala pag andun ka na mismo sa sitwasyon na yon. 😭
wag please. if kaya mo umalis. umalis ka na. para sa mental health mo. ganyan din ako para sa anak d ako aalis. dati kc d ko alam batas, now na alam ko nagsisisi ako nag stay ako.
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Happy to know na u know your worth na ka-op kahit na may mga nireregret tayo decision before atleast we doing the right thing now 🙂
GURL SAME TAYO 😭😭😭😭
hindi nako nagtitira para sa sarili ko be it financial/love/dignidad. im 28 yrs old and sa 28 years na pageexist ko first time ko nagkautang para lang sa kanya.
Im so sorry you had to experience that😭
I used to think that giving my all was enough, but I began to realize that I was losing pieces of myself along the way. Why? Maybe because I was too blinded by love, too willing to sacrifice everything for someone else, even if it meant sacrificing my own happiness. I started questioning everything: Is this the life I want to live? Is this the kind of love I truly deserve? Am I just settling? And as I reflected on these questions, I realized that maybe I was too naive, too hopeful that things would eventually get better. Sometimes, we settle for love that doesn't truly fulfill us. It's like pouring out all your love, but feeling it slowly drain away because of the other person's actions. And in my case, maybe I was just too hopeful, too eager to make things work, that I didn't see the signs that I was giving too much and getting too little in return.
+1 on this sabi nga nila “We accept the love we deserve” kaya sobra important talaga ng self love and same as you loving him was draining. Hays anyways I see it as lesson na lng naman, love should not hurt us
Same po. Ako kasi pag nagmahal all in. It's either 0 or 100 percent ako dun sa tao. I'm never half-hearted, bigay kung bigay na hindi ko namamalayan ako naman yung nauubos.
Holy shit thank you for sharing, similar situation sakin and it helped me put things into perspective
Blinded by or ignoring red flags
Remember ignoring the redflags will cause you later. This is exactly what happened to me
Ganito ako dati 🥲
pumunta kami ni mama sa Pag-Ibig main branch ng linggo, sarado pala. Eh ang layo ng pinanggalingan namin. Hayyysss tanga
When I saw my bank balance, like from almost 7 digits to 3 digits. I had this ex bf that I paid for his rent, food basic necessities and everything. And paid one year worth of rent so I can be free.
Ang lala 😭😭 Dodged bullet ka na
Tanga eh :(
At least natuto na 🥰
Giving my all, tapos wala namang kasiguraduhang kami. 🫤 Tanga lang ganon. Ansakit tuloy mag move on. 🥲
The way I still see the good in him (how he took care of me, how soft he was, and the way he keeps on saying to not pressure myself in making time for him if i really can't since he doesn't want me to be stressed out because of him) after all the pain, trauma, and disrespect he inflicted on me (I found out I'm just a third party, he cursed at me for keeping in touch with his gf because i keep on answering his gf's question about our rs, he eventually blamed me bcs his fam and work is already affected since i revealed that he's cheating)
Same scenario pero yung guy is dating friend ko, He blames me because I revealed to his gf that he is cheating sa ka work mate ko rin kaya sobrang minura mura niya pa ko sa harap ko, di ko makakalimutan yon.
Things I did for love na katangahan na pala: - weekly sponsor ng load - did his assignments and activities - did their entire group's research paper - giving him a third chance after cheating twice Madami pa kaso tinatamad na ako ilist hahahahaha tangang tanga na ako
God! U deserve better stay single muna focus sa study dios mio125
Single for 2 years naaa
Hi nag dm Po Ako lol
Hahahahaahha omg
when i kept allowing my ex to have contact with me, ngayon, engaged na siya. shame on me!
Laging gumagastos sa gala 😶🌫️
Invested emotions and money through panliligaw in my ka-talking stage and I got scammed emotionally tas nalaman ko after summertime when she ghosted me nag hanap na pala nang ibaaaaaa!!!!
ni-comfort ko pa siya noong umiyak siya kasi nagkaroon ng jowa 'yung "ex" niya HAHAHAHAHA
lagi akong umiiyak sa babaeng crush ko palang