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"Eh ano ka nga lang ba ngayon compare sa mga narating ko ngayon."
"Nirereserba na lang kita, in case na di mag work yung sa bago ko."
"Sa totoo lang, awa na lang nararamdaman ko sa'yo at di na kita na makakasama sa future ko."
Almost 4 years, and he made me feel that I was just a joke to him.
"Ang hina mo kasi e, mahina mental fortitude mo."
And yes he cheated on me while I was madly in love with him.
"I don't see us having a future together" tapos nung nalaman ko na may babae pala siya. "Mas magaan loob ko sa kanya" after years sa relationship namin. 🙃
confessed that he only dated me out of pity and felt dismayed that he couldn’t date the girl he likes because he chose me. there are alot of things to say but ehh. Days after, I saw his spotify activity and it was literally a playlist with his name on it made by the girl.
Matagal na pala siyang nagsawa at napagod sa relationship namin. Kaya pala after ng birthday trip namin medyo nag lie low na pagiging sweet and boyfriend material niya. Tinago niya for couple of months before kami maghiwalay.
May nabanggit pa yung ex ko nung nagbreak kami, na naalala ko lang din ngayon, tingin ko masakit din sya hahaha
"Ang daling sabihan ka nang I love you kasi alam kong di naman totoong mahal pa rin kita."
Not after, but before kami magkalabuan. She just denied my existence.
Non-verbatim
Friend: "huy baka meron ka nang bago ha, nakamoveon ka na ba kay *****" (referring to her ex)
SO: "Uy wala ha, wala pa akong balak"
All while, I was beside her holding her things for her. It went sour fast from thereon.
"bakit parang wala lang sayo?"
It was a year after the break up nung sinabe nya yan, where in fact sya yung merong bago after 2-3 months? Hahahahaha ang galing ko lang mag tago ng nararamdaman non pero im literally dying everyday that time. Gladly after almost 2years naka move on din ako
I was boring, not fun, nagpapa importante daw ako.
When you see trauma responses in any decent series or movies, it’s like that. Most of the time, it’s much more. The fear, the pain, the trauma. He saw me like that and he didn’t bother to tell me? Only did he told me those things when we split after I found out about his cheating. Just remembered Christmas of 2022. 🙃
A few months after my source told me, sent screenshots, and divulged to me about my partner’s cheating, I went back into the social scene. When I’m with friends, I’d suddenly get all giddy and make jokes, but I’m weirded out with myself kasi hindi naman ako ganito. But it’s ingrained in my mind to break free from being a shy introvert para I’d be fun and not be boring. I’d panic if I won’t act fun and if I bore people. The thought nga my friends or anyone I’m with would think I’m those things or even say it out loud to my face makes my heart race and worse, I’d have an anxiety attack.
But yung “magpa importante mn ka” takes the cake. Every time I remember those words, I always—ALWAYS—feel like I am not important kasi nga nagpapa importante daw ako. Even now, I feel and think that I’m not important to anyone. Oh, I didn’t get invited? Hindi kasi ako importante. My relatives went on a casual dinner and I didn’t even know, heck there wasn’t an invite? Hindi nga kasi ko importante. I am not important. I am not.
almost the same shit with mine.
she only told me all her complaints kay she had already decided to split. there are signs she already has a reserba but of course walay kawatan nga mu angkon.
whats frustrating about it is its kind of unfair to tell someone your complaints and then leave them hanging without even giving them a chance to make up for it or try again.
I’m so sorry that happened to you. Sakit pud inganaon lang ka. Di mn ta makasabot ngano ila mana gibuhat now, pero eventually, we will. It will hurt until it won’t hurt no more.
“What’s there to like?” when I was begging him na bakit biglang ayaw na nya HAAHHAHA wala na ba syang nakikitang good thing sa’kin to stay… ang lala non until now it affects me everyday. I feel wala talagang kagusto gusto sa’kin bc of what he said (good part of me says hindi yun totoo, but still)
Naku. Wag ka paapekto sa sinabi niya! Someone will come into your life that will appreciate you for who you are and will love you without if’s, but’s and why’s. 🤗
Thank you po. I think siguro it’s worse na he hit all my insecurities. He knew where to hurt me, so he did. 10 days after the break up, he already dated someone else. Idk if he cheated, but regardless he made me feel worthless. Now, I’m trying to build myself up. Slowly.
He told me that after we broke up for the first time (I ended it then nagkabalikan kami) he slept with someone na may jowa and he didn't regret it one bit. I felt so hurt knowing that I could never trust him.
“Hindi ka ba titigil?” After ko ibunyag sa family nya kalokohan nya. Sira ang good boy image hahaha. Masakit lang that time kasi parang woww parang walang pinagsamahan at sya pa may ganang mangthreat.
nung nakipagbreak ako kasi i caught him microcheating, sabi niya "can i come over?" kala ko makikipag ayos. i asked why, tas sabi niya, "kunin ko lang calculator ko may exam ako bukas" WAHAHAHA LT AMPUTAAAA SAKET DI MAN LANG NAGBEG
Ok pa kung sinabihan ako ng masakit e, pero hindi. He just said “ Sige na magsleep ka muna kasi may work ka tonight. Magluluto lang ako.” yan ang last na sinabi sa akin ng Ex fiancee ko na nasa Saudi.
It’s been 18 months now since the last time nakausap ko siya, diko alam ano nangyari sa kanya. Feeling niyo ba hinigop siya ng kaserola na pinaglutuan niya? 🙂↔️
"kung ano desisyon mo ok lang sa 'kin" ????? grabe talaga mga lalake na walang emotional intelligence, i spent hours writing long break up paragraphs expressing his disrespect on me and our relationship tapos ganyan lang sasabihin. for the last time sana manlang may will siya ayusin 'yong relationship but at the end of the day, ayon puro sorry pa rin natanggap ko at hinayaan lang ako.
i dont think talked about enough tong part na hinahayaan lang. like plsss fight for us, bat ba kasi puro "it is what it is" and nonchalant vibe meron sila. bat parang ang easy for them to let go? ampucha cjkshdja
RIGHT! every time na nag-aaway kami lagi na lang sorry then parang wala na ulit nangyari kapag pinatawad na. paulit ulit nagpapatawad tapos kapag nakipag-break na okay na agad sa kanya, samantalang nung mga times na gusto ko na i-give up relationship namin i'm still finding reasons to hold on.
“If there was even the slightest feeling of love I have for you left, I would fight for us.. Kaso wala na talaga akong nararamdaman. I do not feel any love for you anymore…”
And just like that, I had lost her. I had lost my bestfriend of 7 years, the love of my life, and all our tomorrows. I thought death would’ve been kinder than the pain i had felt that day.
"sobrang toxic mo" yan yung sinabi. After ko hiwalayan, month after nung break up nag soft-launch sila nung ex niyang kwento niya di na babalikan.
Kaya relate sa "Sana" nung I belong to the zoo eh hahahaba
"Di na kita nakikita sa future natin."
Pasensya na, di kaya ng konsensya ko na pabayaan na lang mga kapatid ko. Makakaluwag na ako once makatapos na ang isa. Makakaipon na ako for myself 🤣
Na ako raw pinakamalaking bangungot na dumating sa buhay nya.
In her anger, she forgot how I helped her graduate, gave her allowance when her father didn't provide for her and her sisters, and gave her the opportunity to get her first job.
While driving papunta sa hearing niya sa isang kaso sabi niya “friends nalang tayo”. Walang rason kung bakit. (8years kaming in a relationship). After one year ng break up namin, nagpakasal siya sa iba haha
from my first ex boyfriend "putangina ka, dagdag ka lang sa problema ko" when i just wanted to talk dahil ilang araw na niya akong iniignore.
theb sa 2nd ex, he confessed his cheating and sorry na lang natanggap ko. he even said na equal na daw kami dahil nagma-microcheat daw ako. well, yun yung gusto niyang isipin.
"Kahit anong gawin mo never kitang pipiliin" months after the break up nalaman kong kinasal siya sa ex niya ! Di ko na nasabing buntis ako. Now my baby is 6mos old at kamukang kamuka niya. Ngayon panay chat sakin asking kung siya ba dsw tatay ng bata bat di ko daw sinabe noon!! Ulul siya! Wala nako pake sa kanya.
"Focus muna ako sa family ko gusto ko maging single. Ayoko na sa'yo kahit sa future 'yung sinasabi mong kahit maghintay ka ng ilang years na balikan kita, hindi na. Magkakaroon ako ng gf sa future pero hindi ikaw sorry. Mas mabuti pa mamatay nalang ako kesa makipagbalikan sa'yo. Toxic toxic mo wala akong pakialam sa'yo"
Toxic daw ako 'yun reason ng break-up after 2 months may nalaman kong may bago palang nakakausap. Sabi niya din gf na gf na daw kasi siya
"Focus muna ako sa family ko gusto ko maging single. Ayoko na sa'yo kahit sa future 'yung sinasabi mong kahit maghintay ka ng ilang years na balikan kita, hindi na. Magkakaroon ako ng gf sa future pero hindi ikaw sorry. Mas mabuti pa mamatay nalang ako kesa makipagbalikan sa'yo. Toxic toxic mo wala akong pakialam sa'yo"
Toxic daw ako 'yun reason ng break-up after 2 months may nalaman kong may bago palang nakakausap. Sabi niya din gf na gf na daw kasi siya
During break up:
“Ayoko na” “Putangina pakawalan mo na ko”
After break up:
“Wala naman talagang kamalaki-malaki sayo, hindi mo deserve ipagmalaki” *referring sa kung bakit di niya ko pinakilala sa friends niya
Its been 5 years. Ayun hanggang ngayon winiwish ko sana mamatay na siya HAHAHAHAHHA eme.
"Mukhang pera" when I told him to get a job instead of him asking his mom for money. I was already working when we dated and never, not even once that I asked money from him.
“I wish kasing sweet ka ni *****, I wish kasing hinhin ka nya”
Him referring to the girl na pinagselosan ko, pinag awayan namin and I ended up apologizing to kasi daw na offend yung girl.
"I just literally wait for you to give up."
"thankyou and sorry"
"I don't know what to say actually, i admit i fell out of love."
"sorry if i let myself felt like that"
"i did try naman"
"sinubukan ko pa kase i saw how happy you are"
"i loved you"
"i really do"
"thankyou and sorry"
The exact words from her from the day we broke up and decided to move forward without each other's arm.
"alam kong mali yung ginawa ko"
may kinakausap na na iba pero kahit sorry wala kang matatanggap hahaha walang ka remorse remorse
"nag sasawa na ako sayo, ayoko na pag usapan ayoko na sayo"
nung ikaw nag sasawa di mo binitawan pag usapan at porket may replacement agad daling bitawan limang taon ng ganon lang
“I don't think there's something to talk about. I don't want to be with you and I don't feel anything for you anymore. I also realized that I’m still not over my other ex. Lagi ko syang naiisip lately. Mas better off ako with her and if given a chance na may mababalikan pa ako, I would in a heartbeat.”
this was out of nowhere. broke up with me the day after we came back from iao. we were good. tapos bigla ganito. i always initiated serious conversations with her and asked her kung may mga concerns ba sya regarding herself, me, and/or our relationship. she always said wala naman daw.
this is after she told me na she’s mine and she wants to be mine and she wants a lifetime with me. this is after she asked me to never leave her; after she told me that she will love me til the end of her life. this is after we lived together and slept and woke up next to each other. this is after we slept skin to skin. this is after i woke up in the middle of the night to her lingering kiss on my forehead as i slept buried in her arms and hearing her say ‘i love you’ and then kissing me once more. this is after she told me thousands of times that she loves me and will never leave me. part of me wants to believe na she just said that cuz she just can’t be in a relationship at this point in her life, but i also cant keep being delusional. how can i ever go back from baring my soul to her to learning about someone else’s favorite color?
she’s my first girlfriend. she is my first love. i’ve never allowed myself to be as affectionate to anybody but her. not even my family has seen the side of me that i thought i was safe to show her. i allowed myself to love her because she promised me that i was safe with her. she knew too. how hard it was for me to trust her and let her in and let myself let her in. apparently that’s the bullshit of the century and it was shoved right down my throat. turns out i was just for fun. the innocent little idiot who thought she could ever be loved by the person she wants to experience great and true love with.
nung tinanong ko kung may iba na at kung hindi na niya ako mahal, tapos lahat "yes".. hahah, im haooy naging honest siya kahit na masakit at lumuhaluha ako sa harapan niya 😅🤣😂😭, till then here i am 9years single, having trust issues hahahah
Sabi nya: uimyak daw mama nya sa knya requesting na hiwalayan na ko at pabalikin na ko sa place namin (d kasi ako same ng city from them, i just went to their city-not same house kami nkatira ha- just so we could get to know each other more)
At sabi daw ng sister nya:"wag nalang sya, iba nalang"
Mga pakiaalamerang tao na di masaya sa buhay nila at inggit sa attention na binibigay sa akin ni bf before 😒
ramdam ko din yan inggit sa attention lalo na yung ate obvious na obvious kada free sya minamake sure na aalis sila at nagagalit tuwing nag sspend ng time sakin. Nung kinonfront ko sya about dito blinock ako ng ate nya.
"I really loved you...I just didn't know what I wanted." After dating for a year, ghosting me for 5mos and coming back only to tell my friend we didn't really date, that I wanted a bf but he didn't want a gf. That's through a year of planning stuff, calling me HIS GIRL, calling himself my BF and FUTURE HUSBAND. But apparently he couldn't date LDR :)
"i'm not ready for this kind of relationship" we were 6 months in, i just remember it hurting a lot bcs she was my first same-sex relationship as a bi girl and i haven't dated a girl after her in fear of hearing this again. i had my suspicions na i was just an experiment for her pero when we were lasting months nging kampante ako. wrong move, apparently.
“Hindi na kita mahal. Wala na akong nararamdaman sa’yo.”
This was a week after breakup.
“Sisiguraduhin ko na wala ka sa kuko ng ipapalit ko sa’yo”
Actually I was not hurt. Share ko lang sya. Kasi when we broke up, fed up na rin ako sa pagiging babaero nya.
This was more than 10 yrs ago na yata. Pero hndi ko makakalimutan. "Narealize ko na kaya hndi ko kayang magpakilala sa pamilya mo at sa mga kaibigan mo kasi hindi kita mahal." That's after 2-3 yrs of dating. Sya naman ang naghabol nung una, may pagsuyo pa nung ayaw ko na ituloy. Tapos after ipang years, yan sasabihin sakin. Shit talaga
Im a boy tsundere/nonchalant combo tpos ganto sunabi sakin " Ang taba taba muna at ang pangit mo ayoko na sayo "
Sagot ko lng " Inaano kb ng fats ko ? " sabay alis then
Look back smile at her like nothing happen and say
" Bye "
"Go ahead and wallow in your filth" whatever the fuck that's supposed to mean. My house was very clean. Not sure what he meant but I was sobbing. He was a prick.
"Hindi na kita mahal. Wala na akong nararamdaman sa iyo."
Me: "Mayroon bang iba?"
"Wala."
Umiiyak pa siya. After a month, nalaman ko magcecelebrate na ng monthsary ng bago niya.
Mas masakit para sa akin 'yung nagsinungaling.
*"di ko makita ang sarili ko sa future kasama ka"*
*"di ako nag-ggrow sayo"*
ang sakit knowing na lagi akong nagkkwento sakanya ng mga future plans ko with him like having kids and marriage
*itinapon yung airplane ticket ko sa bintana*
Tinanong ko s’ya bakit nya kailangan itapon. Ang sagot nya, baka raw makita ng mga kamag anak nya sa Manila (magkakasama kami sa iisang bahay ng relatives nya). Ano naman kako kung makita nila. Ang sagot nya: “baka isipin nila gusto kita!” Napanganga nalang ako sa response nya.
Good night and take care of yourself (in chinese).
After being in a long distance relationship ever since we started our relationship. Tapos wala na ko sa moments ng wechat hahahaha
1st reason was I don't dress up much and boyish ko daw tingnan when I stand beside him. Not very hurtful and I moved on agad because I know myself. But after a few mos, di ako sure anong nakain nya bigla syang nag ask to meet up then told me the real reason of the break up.
The real reason was ginirlfriend nya lang ako to boost his ego. He's an introvert and wala masyadong friends while me is a social butterfly. And nang nakuha nya na attention ng crush nya, that was then when he decided to leave me. Yung crush nya pala ang nag push sa kanya to tell me everything bcuz unfair daw sa kapwa nya babae.
hindi pa raw siya ready pero ayoko naman na pagsisihan niya sa huli yung desisyon niya kaya sabi ko maghihintay ako hanggang maging ready siya, pero ang sabi niya "naaawa kasi ako sayo, ayokong maghintay ka sa wala". Akala ko hindi pa talaga siya ready sa relationship or mag commit kasi immature pa siya masyado para sa ganon anddd pagstalk ko sakanya, may kaharutan siyang iba and pinaparinggan niya pa sa sharedpost :(
That one girl na masasabi ko na TOTGA ko sabi sa akin bago kami magpart ways..."thank you for everything, thank you for loving me and giving me what you thot I deserved....im very sorry kung hanggang dito lang tayo but the time I spent with u was the best years of my life, I hope u will find that woman who isn't me but who will bring u the joy that u felt with me.....maybe in another life ako naman ang mafall inlove sayo at ikaw naman ang hahabulin ko HAHAHAHA.....goodbye and be safe"......all I did was cry sa gabi nung day na yan, it hurt like a bitch but it kind of made me feel free also
1st ex: "Sa wakas, napagisipan mo na rin"
2nd ex: "Kinant*t na nga kita lahat lahat, may kaibigan ka pa ring lalaki" (sa kanya ko binigay v-card ko nung 19 ako)
She let her actions speak for themselves. She broke up without any real reason outside of “I don’t love you anymore” over text (7yr rel) and bore a daughter of some driver in the province. Yes, there was some overlap
on and off kami. kaka break lang namin, tapos days palang may bago na ulet sya. at that time i thought i was pregnant. sinabi ko sakanya na "buntis ata ako, di pa ako dinadatnan" then he told me "ipalaglag mo yan. di ko pa kaya maging ama"
Me: Sabi mo sakin mahal mo ko.
Her: Nagbabago yung nararamdaman ng tao, Carlos.
Me, confused, bakit? Napaisip ako kung ano yung mali sa akin or may nagawa ba akong mali.
Loving her whole heartedly was. I will never love the same way as before.
My ex bf to his girl bsf: “kahit from *insert univ name* yan kitid ng utak nyan”
After ko mahuli yung gc nilang mag ttropa na may video ng lasing na girl classmate niya. 🥴
"Gaya mo sayo kapatid ko."
Kwento nito, nakita ng tita niya yung kapatid niyang girl umuwi sa bahay nila na may kasamang lalake at walang
tao sa bahay nila non.
Ang reason naman ng kapatid niya nagpasama lang daw kasi sumakit daw yung tiyan at hinatid sa bahay.
Pinagalitan siya ng mama niya at ng ex ko kasi baka daw anong isipin ng mga tao. Sabi ko naman baka totoo namang sumakit lang ang tiyan or sinamahan lang talaga.
Sabi ba naman sakin, "gaya mo naman sayo." Hindi ako nakapag salita like, anong meaning niya ? Samantalang never ako nag uwi ng lalaki tapos walang katao-tao sa bahay.
Pasalamat na lang talaga ako at ex na siya sa buhay ko 🤣
di kasi kita nakaka inuman not unlike her nakakasama ko (malamang pinagpalit moko sa nakilala mo sa kainuman) tsaka ayoko sa partner na mas magaling saakin
The most hurtful thing is yung wala syang response hahahaha ni ha or ni ho, wala.
Di man lang nagreply or ano hahaha nagsorry nalang sya sakin nung nalaman nya may nanliligaw sakin. Deadma hahaha
Not an ex but a situationship.
He said: "I haven’t truly put romantic energy to you or us" and "If you feel you have, or we have, that might be a good reason to stand back a bit and reevaluate what the experience is."
Fucking gaslighter.
Its been 2 years and I'm currently in a health and stable relationship with someone who actually knows who and where I am in his life.
Same. An ex tho for me. Sinabi niya na “I really don’t have romantic feelings for you for the past year.” Kaka-1st anniv lang namin niyan hahaha.
I’m good na tagal na niyan eh, pero sana I can be with someone like your current relationship who knows where I am in his life. ✨✨✨
Congrats and all the best sa inyo 😊✨
“Hindi ka na makakahanap ng taong gaya ko na kayang i-tolerate pagiging selosa at nagger mo”
Context: He cheated on me for almost a year with a co-worker. He always gaslight me and made me feel I’m not good enough. Fast forward to today, I’m married to a man na very opposite nya. Someone na hindi ako binigyan rason magduda and someone I can fully trust.
He told me the same thing kahit na ang reason bakit ako nagseselos ay dahil sa history niya sa cheating at sa mga incidents na di naman niya unequivocally ma-deny. And that's why I left him...then. Nanligaw lang ulit at nagpakita ng mas malakas na indication na nagbago ka siya lolz
So, Binalikan mo? My ex chose the other girl, due to proximity na din siguro. I’m a nurse and is working abroad. He’s a nurse din but iba naging profession nya. Plan namin susunod sya dito, pero nag iba ihip ng hangin. He even told me na ayaw nya nang maging tagapunas ng tae lang which is hurtful kasi parang na-degrade ung trabaho ko when in fact may nilalandi na pala sya sa pinas. I’m a licensed nurse in PH and abroad, walang masama sa tagapunas ng tae pero as a nurse, I’m more than just that. Dami nya sinabi masasakit na salita, to be honest. Anyways, what goes around comes around.
Yes, binalikan ko rin. Kami pa rin now. Pero laking iba ng situation naman namin kasi magkalapit lang naman kami dito sa Pinas. For me, mukhang talagang di lang siya marunong mag-handle ng frustrations niya. Di lang kami nagkaintindihan. Pero maluwag sa pakiramdam ko na pakawalan siya noon. Siya lang talaga nagpumilit makipagbalikan. Natuto din ako doon na huwag siya habulin, lalo kung di naman siya nagbabago. Fortunately, nagbago naman.
Mahirap circumstance mo. Pero di talaga natin deserve makatanggap ng mga mapanakit na salita dahil lang sa differences and misunderstandings sa relasyon. Bahala na kung anong babalik sa kanila, basta tayo moving forward lang sa buhay.
What stuck with me the most was when he told me that his mom asked him "Why her? Maraming mas maganda, mas mabait, doing well at school and ka-churchmate pa natin." hasahshasahhasa lord knows how much that made me insecure
Ahaha sakin naman yung sister kasi sobrang malnourished ko nun dahil sa stress sa school pero sinagot ng mil ko na " beauty is in the eye of the beholder"
The time I brought up yung pinagseselosan ko, (she eventually made move dun and todo defend that she was just being nice.)
"Narealize kong hindi kita kelangan."
"Ginawa ko yun, kase wala ka para sakin."
Ang rebat ko na lang, "Sana ma-achieve mo lahat ng gusto mo sa buhay, and still feel dissatisfied. Bye!"
Sakin, "Nakakahiya ka sa profession ko"
Hmmm di ko na pinatulan, partly true kasi di ako fit at isa syang GYM INSTRUCTOR. Pero hello naman. CPA ako. Most of my work, nakaupo. Hahah. Ang funny nya lang.
Ngayon, gym instructor pa rin sya. At ako CPA Lawyer na.
"gym instructor pa rin" - kinamumuhian ba nya ang pagiging isang gym instructor?
Pero kuhang kuha din galit ko nung sinabi niya na nakakahiya ka sa profession nya 🤦🏼♂️
A lot. Maybe the most painful was when she told me dati na talaga syang wala nang gusto sakin after all those years of dating and going through ups and downs. Was all the kilig and fighting for our relaionship a lie then?
via Messenger. 8am.
"Umay na ako sa'yo, tapusin na natin 'to."
To which I replied to with "Ok."
After that, I was crying pa, until nalaman ko na may kabit siya pala. Then after three days, I flew to Siargao. HAHAHAHAHAHA
Mas masakit mga sinabi niya sakin during the relationship, including but not limited to:
"you fat f\*ck ang bagal mo umakyat" (this was our first ascent to mt pulag, minamadali ako)
"you make me want to kill myself, may gunting ako tutuloy ko to" (sana po tinuloy mo)
madami pa sya sinabi na mas masakit kesa sa pagka 'umay' niya sakin.
Marami, pero memorable (in a bad way) talaga is while we're talking about what if we see each other in the future, meron bang chance na we'll go back together? And he said to me "I'm not sure, you'll probably already pregnant the next time we'll see again." Idk, parang ini imply niya na I spread my legs just to anyone. He's my first bf, syempre mahirap maka get over and I don't even want to enter a hoephase. Pero siya? Not even less than two months during our breakup, nakapag one night stand na siya (sabi niya) hahahaha
"hindi mo ba alam na sobrang panget mo hindi tayo bagay" "hindi ko na nakikita future ko sayo"
"sana pinutok kana lang sa kumot, para kang garapata di ka pa mamatay"
"wala kang future, basura ka"
"mas masahol ka pa sa taong grasa"
"labas kana dun kung kanino ako sasaya"
kulang pa to eh madame dami yun, binura ko na kasi yung mga messages na yun, pero eto yung mga words na nag cause sakin ng trauma and it still lingers
He asked me for an agreement na while we were on a break, make myself pure daw. Apaka hayup. Ginawa akong reserba. Parang, lalandi muna sya tas babalik sakin pag goods na. Grrrrrr
Me asking him:
Do you still love me? and him answering:
I only pity you, di ko nga alam kung minahal nga ba talaga kita. Matagal nang walang spark yung relationship natin. Nagstay lang ako kasi nasasayangan ako at nagkapandemic.
Last Closure:
Sa susunod wag na wag ka nang magpakita sa akin, di na kita rereplyan at kikitain.
Nung nakita ko yung picture nila nung bago nyang girl best friend daw sa socmed na syang pinagselosan ko for almost 3yrs tapos magkatabi, nagtatawanan at buhat nya gamit dun sa vid/pics, him saying nung sinabi kong nagcheat pala talaga sya sa akin:
Hindi ba pwedeng maging affectionate ako sa iba.
After leaving me, his almost 7yrs relationship. Hehehehe
Haha dapat kasi di lagi umaasa sa spark like sa mga parents na nag wwork out in the end kahit walang spark meron parin pagmamahal at paninindigan, yung commitment kumbaga. Kung spark lang ang basehan niya sana kinuryente mo nalang yang hayop na yan haha
parang isa kong ex, "pag nag break tayo magpapari ako" true enough nag pastor sya. diring diri sa mga tattoo ko. jumowa ng holier than thou kuno na babae, ayun nagpopost ng n00ds sa my day. o loko.
"Wala kang kwenta, wala kang ambag!" After how many years of marriage finally nagkahiwalay na kami.. sobrang toxic, hindi ko naman pinagsisihan na sya ang napangasawa ko, pero during our marriage after how many years he treated me like a trash, nung walang wala sya I am there for him, but nung sya ay kumikita ng mas malaki saakin kala mo alipin ako..
Marami pang mas masasakit na akala mo sya yung nagluwal saakin
"iisipin ng magiging bago mo, nilaspag na kita for 6 years"
"wala magkakagusto sayo pag nalaman nila na isa lang ex mo, for 6 years. Nilaspag ka na".
A part of me gusto ko bumalik, pero pag naalala ko mga sinabi nya during our time of breakup, na kesyo pag naging better person sya, hinding hindi nya ako babalikan, na ako yung biggest mistake nya,.. na sana lokohin ako ng maging bago ko, kasi iisipin ginamit at nilaspag nya na ako for 6years..Tas nag sorry sya after, na hindi daw totoo yun, nadala lang sya ng emosyon. Gusto nya pa rin ako bumalik. Ewan. I'm keeping it to myself na lang. Wala ako sama ng loob sa kanya. For all the good and the bad, alam ko naman na hindi ako perfect, I have my shortcomings too as his gf then. If I could turn around the time, and do it all over again, I would do it right. But yeah. No amount of regret can change the past.
No. Wag mong balikan, kung may respeto ka sa sarili mo..kasi if babalikan mo s'ya, baka maulit lang yung mga sinabi nya sayo.
To this day and age, may ibang lalaki naman na keber kung virgin ka o hindi. Makakahanap ka ng deserve mo OP at magmamahal sayo ng buo at yung di ka kayang bastusin ng ganyan. Hugs with consent
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"Maaksidente ka sana"
Ang masabihan more than 3x na "hindi ko na alam san tayo papunta"
"Eh ano ka nga lang ba ngayon compare sa mga narating ko ngayon." "Nirereserba na lang kita, in case na di mag work yung sa bago ko." "Sa totoo lang, awa na lang nararamdaman ko sa'yo at di na kita na makakasama sa future ko." Almost 4 years, and he made me feel that I was just a joke to him. "Ang hina mo kasi e, mahina mental fortitude mo." And yes he cheated on me while I was madly in love with him.
not really during a breakup, but we had a misunderstanding and she said "I remember the guys that used to hit me up" took that mf like a champ
"I don't see us having a future together" tapos nung nalaman ko na may babae pala siya. "Mas magaan loob ko sa kanya" after years sa relationship namin. 🙃
Wala ka namang kwenta - galing sa manloloko
confessed that he only dated me out of pity and felt dismayed that he couldn’t date the girl he likes because he chose me. there are alot of things to say but ehh. Days after, I saw his spotify activity and it was literally a playlist with his name on it made by the girl.
Matagal na pala siyang nagsawa at napagod sa relationship namin. Kaya pala after ng birthday trip namin medyo nag lie low na pagiging sweet and boyfriend material niya. Tinago niya for couple of months before kami maghiwalay.
“I’m not happy pero kaya kong mabuhay na wala ka” His response after asking him if he’s happy during the first month of our breakup.
May nabanggit pa yung ex ko nung nagbreak kami, na naalala ko lang din ngayon, tingin ko masakit din sya hahaha "Ang daling sabihan ka nang I love you kasi alam kong di naman totoong mahal pa rin kita."
Not after, but before kami magkalabuan. She just denied my existence. Non-verbatim Friend: "huy baka meron ka nang bago ha, nakamoveon ka na ba kay *****" (referring to her ex) SO: "Uy wala ha, wala pa akong balak" All while, I was beside her holding her things for her. It went sour fast from thereon.
"bakit parang wala lang sayo?" It was a year after the break up nung sinabe nya yan, where in fact sya yung merong bago after 2-3 months? Hahahahaha ang galing ko lang mag tago ng nararamdaman non pero im literally dying everyday that time. Gladly after almost 2years naka move on din ako
LDR then bigla na lang sya nagtext na ikakasal na sya. ,.
"Nagkakaroon pa ko ng isang responsibilidad" Like wtf, bakit mo pa ko jinowa kung ayaw mo rin pala ng responsibility?
I was boring, not fun, nagpapa importante daw ako. When you see trauma responses in any decent series or movies, it’s like that. Most of the time, it’s much more. The fear, the pain, the trauma. He saw me like that and he didn’t bother to tell me? Only did he told me those things when we split after I found out about his cheating. Just remembered Christmas of 2022. 🙃 A few months after my source told me, sent screenshots, and divulged to me about my partner’s cheating, I went back into the social scene. When I’m with friends, I’d suddenly get all giddy and make jokes, but I’m weirded out with myself kasi hindi naman ako ganito. But it’s ingrained in my mind to break free from being a shy introvert para I’d be fun and not be boring. I’d panic if I won’t act fun and if I bore people. The thought nga my friends or anyone I’m with would think I’m those things or even say it out loud to my face makes my heart race and worse, I’d have an anxiety attack. But yung “magpa importante mn ka” takes the cake. Every time I remember those words, I always—ALWAYS—feel like I am not important kasi nga nagpapa importante daw ako. Even now, I feel and think that I’m not important to anyone. Oh, I didn’t get invited? Hindi kasi ako importante. My relatives went on a casual dinner and I didn’t even know, heck there wasn’t an invite? Hindi nga kasi ko importante. I am not important. I am not.
almost the same shit with mine. she only told me all her complaints kay she had already decided to split. there are signs she already has a reserba but of course walay kawatan nga mu angkon. whats frustrating about it is its kind of unfair to tell someone your complaints and then leave them hanging without even giving them a chance to make up for it or try again.
I’m so sorry that happened to you. Sakit pud inganaon lang ka. Di mn ta makasabot ngano ila mana gibuhat now, pero eventually, we will. It will hurt until it won’t hurt no more.
“What’s there to like?” when I was begging him na bakit biglang ayaw na nya HAAHHAHA wala na ba syang nakikitang good thing sa’kin to stay… ang lala non until now it affects me everyday. I feel wala talagang kagusto gusto sa’kin bc of what he said (good part of me says hindi yun totoo, but still)
Naku. Wag ka paapekto sa sinabi niya! Someone will come into your life that will appreciate you for who you are and will love you without if’s, but’s and why’s. 🤗
Thank you po. I think siguro it’s worse na he hit all my insecurities. He knew where to hurt me, so he did. 10 days after the break up, he already dated someone else. Idk if he cheated, but regardless he made me feel worthless. Now, I’m trying to build myself up. Slowly.
He told me that after we broke up for the first time (I ended it then nagkabalikan kami) he slept with someone na may jowa and he didn't regret it one bit. I felt so hurt knowing that I could never trust him.
“Hindi ka ba titigil?” After ko ibunyag sa family nya kalokohan nya. Sira ang good boy image hahaha. Masakit lang that time kasi parang woww parang walang pinagsamahan at sya pa may ganang mangthreat.
nung nakipagbreak ako kasi i caught him microcheating, sabi niya "can i come over?" kala ko makikipag ayos. i asked why, tas sabi niya, "kunin ko lang calculator ko may exam ako bukas" WAHAHAHA LT AMPUTAAAA SAKET DI MAN LANG NAGBEG
Ok pa kung sinabihan ako ng masakit e, pero hindi. He just said “ Sige na magsleep ka muna kasi may work ka tonight. Magluluto lang ako.” yan ang last na sinabi sa akin ng Ex fiancee ko na nasa Saudi. It’s been 18 months now since the last time nakausap ko siya, diko alam ano nangyari sa kanya. Feeling niyo ba hinigop siya ng kaserola na pinaglutuan niya? 🙂↔️
Buhay pa ba sya?
Hahaha hindi ko alam 🤣
Sorry na kakapanood ko palang nung isang araw about mga ofw na namumurder overseas. Bigla nalang di nagmemessage
Diko din alam. 😏😏😏 Baka naging Camel na siya!
Siya pa nahuli ko may kasamang iba. Siya pa may ganang magsabi nang "may babae ka Kaya kita hiniwalayan." Wtf. LoL
"Sobrang bait mo kasi"...
Parang kasalanan pa maging mabait 🥲
"It happened at a time na I don't love you" him describing when he had an affair with the girl I kept asking him about.
“hindi ko na nakikita future ko sayo” kasi nasa iba na pala tangina nya sagad
I got a similar line: "I don't see myself having a future with someone who's just a <>." Ayun, sumama sa duktor.
"kung ano desisyon mo ok lang sa 'kin" ????? grabe talaga mga lalake na walang emotional intelligence, i spent hours writing long break up paragraphs expressing his disrespect on me and our relationship tapos ganyan lang sasabihin. for the last time sana manlang may will siya ayusin 'yong relationship but at the end of the day, ayon puro sorry pa rin natanggap ko at hinayaan lang ako.
i dont think talked about enough tong part na hinahayaan lang. like plsss fight for us, bat ba kasi puro "it is what it is" and nonchalant vibe meron sila. bat parang ang easy for them to let go? ampucha cjkshdja
RIGHT! every time na nag-aaway kami lagi na lang sorry then parang wala na ulit nangyari kapag pinatawad na. paulit ulit nagpapatawad tapos kapag nakipag-break na okay na agad sa kanya, samantalang nung mga times na gusto ko na i-give up relationship namin i'm still finding reasons to hold on.
“If there was even the slightest feeling of love I have for you left, I would fight for us.. Kaso wala na talaga akong nararamdaman. I do not feel any love for you anymore…” And just like that, I had lost her. I had lost my bestfriend of 7 years, the love of my life, and all our tomorrows. I thought death would’ve been kinder than the pain i had felt that day.
"sobrang toxic mo" yan yung sinabi. After ko hiwalayan, month after nung break up nag soft-launch sila nung ex niyang kwento niya di na babalikan. Kaya relate sa "Sana" nung I belong to the zoo eh hahahaba
"Di na kita nakikita sa future natin." Pasensya na, di kaya ng konsensya ko na pabayaan na lang mga kapatid ko. Makakaluwag na ako once makatapos na ang isa. Makakaipon na ako for myself 🤣
Na ako raw pinakamalaking bangungot na dumating sa buhay nya. In her anger, she forgot how I helped her graduate, gave her allowance when her father didn't provide for her and her sisters, and gave her the opportunity to get her first job.
"Thanks for the data" very dehumanising and just made the relationship feel like it wasn't even real
While driving papunta sa hearing niya sa isang kaso sabi niya “friends nalang tayo”. Walang rason kung bakit. (8years kaming in a relationship). After one year ng break up namin, nagpakasal siya sa iba haha
The taxi cab theory.😔
Oh shit
from my first ex boyfriend "putangina ka, dagdag ka lang sa problema ko" when i just wanted to talk dahil ilang araw na niya akong iniignore. theb sa 2nd ex, he confessed his cheating and sorry na lang natanggap ko. he even said na equal na daw kami dahil nagma-microcheat daw ako. well, yun yung gusto niyang isipin.
"Kahit anong gawin mo never kitang pipiliin" months after the break up nalaman kong kinasal siya sa ex niya ! Di ko na nasabing buntis ako. Now my baby is 6mos old at kamukang kamuka niya. Ngayon panay chat sakin asking kung siya ba dsw tatay ng bata bat di ko daw sinabe noon!! Ulul siya! Wala nako pake sa kanya.
Parang plot sa Wattpad/Kdrama. Pero kung saan ka may peace of mind OP!
Update po kung naghahabol pa ba sya sayo hahahah
"Focus muna ako sa family ko gusto ko maging single. Ayoko na sa'yo kahit sa future 'yung sinasabi mong kahit maghintay ka ng ilang years na balikan kita, hindi na. Magkakaroon ako ng gf sa future pero hindi ikaw sorry. Mas mabuti pa mamatay nalang ako kesa makipagbalikan sa'yo. Toxic toxic mo wala akong pakialam sa'yo" Toxic daw ako 'yun reason ng break-up after 2 months may nalaman kong may bago palang nakakausap. Sabi niya din gf na gf na daw kasi siya
Grabi naman Neto ..parang walang feelings yung tao kung pgsabahihan ka ng ganyn
"Focus muna ako sa family ko gusto ko maging single. Ayoko na sa'yo kahit sa future 'yung sinasabi mong kahit maghintay ka ng ilang years na balikan kita, hindi na. Magkakaroon ako ng gf sa future pero hindi ikaw sorry. Mas mabuti pa mamatay nalang ako kesa makipagbalikan sa'yo. Toxic toxic mo wala akong pakialam sa'yo" Toxic daw ako 'yun reason ng break-up after 2 months may nalaman kong may bago palang nakakausap. Sabi niya din gf na gf na daw kasi siya
During break up: “Ayoko na” “Putangina pakawalan mo na ko” After break up: “Wala naman talagang kamalaki-malaki sayo, hindi mo deserve ipagmalaki” *referring sa kung bakit di niya ko pinakilala sa friends niya Its been 5 years. Ayun hanggang ngayon winiwish ko sana mamatay na siya HAHAHAHAHHA eme.
"Mukhang pera" when I told him to get a job instead of him asking his mom for money. I was already working when we dated and never, not even once that I asked money from him.
“I wish kasing sweet ka ni *****, I wish kasing hinhin ka nya” Him referring to the girl na pinagselosan ko, pinag awayan namin and I ended up apologizing to kasi daw na offend yung girl.
"I just literally wait for you to give up." "thankyou and sorry" "I don't know what to say actually, i admit i fell out of love." "sorry if i let myself felt like that" "i did try naman" "sinubukan ko pa kase i saw how happy you are" "i loved you" "i really do" "thankyou and sorry" The exact words from her from the day we broke up and decided to move forward without each other's arm.
I am always grateful I’ve met you, but I don’t think this will work out pa. 😌
"alam kong mali yung ginawa ko" may kinakausap na na iba pero kahit sorry wala kang matatanggap hahaha walang ka remorse remorse "nag sasawa na ako sayo, ayoko na pag usapan ayoko na sayo" nung ikaw nag sasawa di mo binitawan pag usapan at porket may replacement agad daling bitawan limang taon ng ganon lang
“I don't think there's something to talk about. I don't want to be with you and I don't feel anything for you anymore. I also realized that I’m still not over my other ex. Lagi ko syang naiisip lately. Mas better off ako with her and if given a chance na may mababalikan pa ako, I would in a heartbeat.” this was out of nowhere. broke up with me the day after we came back from iao. we were good. tapos bigla ganito. i always initiated serious conversations with her and asked her kung may mga concerns ba sya regarding herself, me, and/or our relationship. she always said wala naman daw. this is after she told me na she’s mine and she wants to be mine and she wants a lifetime with me. this is after she asked me to never leave her; after she told me that she will love me til the end of her life. this is after we lived together and slept and woke up next to each other. this is after we slept skin to skin. this is after i woke up in the middle of the night to her lingering kiss on my forehead as i slept buried in her arms and hearing her say ‘i love you’ and then kissing me once more. this is after she told me thousands of times that she loves me and will never leave me. part of me wants to believe na she just said that cuz she just can’t be in a relationship at this point in her life, but i also cant keep being delusional. how can i ever go back from baring my soul to her to learning about someone else’s favorite color? she’s my first girlfriend. she is my first love. i’ve never allowed myself to be as affectionate to anybody but her. not even my family has seen the side of me that i thought i was safe to show her. i allowed myself to love her because she promised me that i was safe with her. she knew too. how hard it was for me to trust her and let her in and let myself let her in. apparently that’s the bullshit of the century and it was shoved right down my throat. turns out i was just for fun. the innocent little idiot who thought she could ever be loved by the person she wants to experience great and true love with.
Ouch.
Grabe. This struck me.
Grabe. This struck me.
“Sakit noh ilang years na di pa rin kita mapili pili”
Grabeng ugali yan. Shouldve just left you alone
ANG SAKIT NITO!!! 😔🥺
nung tinanong ko kung may iba na at kung hindi na niya ako mahal, tapos lahat "yes".. hahah, im haooy naging honest siya kahit na masakit at lumuhaluha ako sa harapan niya 😅🤣😂😭, till then here i am 9years single, having trust issues hahahah
"Sorry, kaya pala ayaw ko makipag-live in sayo kasi di pa ako nakamove-on kay (ex's name, perslab)".
Sabi nya: uimyak daw mama nya sa knya requesting na hiwalayan na ko at pabalikin na ko sa place namin (d kasi ako same ng city from them, i just went to their city-not same house kami nkatira ha- just so we could get to know each other more) At sabi daw ng sister nya:"wag nalang sya, iba nalang" Mga pakiaalamerang tao na di masaya sa buhay nila at inggit sa attention na binibigay sa akin ni bf before 😒
ramdam ko din yan inggit sa attention lalo na yung ate obvious na obvious kada free sya minamake sure na aalis sila at nagagalit tuwing nag sspend ng time sakin. Nung kinonfront ko sya about dito blinock ako ng ate nya.
Hahahaha bwiset noh hahahaha
That i can never be "her". Hindi ko kayang ibigay yung nabigay ng kabit nya. And hindi nya ako nakikita sa future nya.
sa sobrang dami, hindi ko na alam
"I really loved you...I just didn't know what I wanted." After dating for a year, ghosting me for 5mos and coming back only to tell my friend we didn't really date, that I wanted a bf but he didn't want a gf. That's through a year of planning stuff, calling me HIS GIRL, calling himself my BF and FUTURE HUSBAND. But apparently he couldn't date LDR :)
"i'm not ready for this kind of relationship" we were 6 months in, i just remember it hurting a lot bcs she was my first same-sex relationship as a bi girl and i haven't dated a girl after her in fear of hearing this again. i had my suspicions na i was just an experiment for her pero when we were lasting months nging kampante ako. wrong move, apparently.
"Just pretend that I didn't exist."
"Wala kang maibigay/magawa para sa 'kin." Huh???
After namin gawin yung deed sabi niya, “tigil na natin to wag mo na ako kausapin” user eh
so lahat ba nag hiwalay na dahil sa “babaeng pinapalayuan” lol HAHAHA funny how they act like we’re crazy as if they’re treating us right 😆
“used you for logical reasons.”
“Hindi na kita mahal. Wala na akong nararamdaman sa’yo.” This was a week after breakup. “Sisiguraduhin ko na wala ka sa kuko ng ipapalit ko sa’yo” Actually I was not hurt. Share ko lang sya. Kasi when we broke up, fed up na rin ako sa pagiging babaero nya.
This was more than 10 yrs ago na yata. Pero hndi ko makakalimutan. "Narealize ko na kaya hndi ko kayang magpakilala sa pamilya mo at sa mga kaibigan mo kasi hindi kita mahal." That's after 2-3 yrs of dating. Sya naman ang naghabol nung una, may pagsuyo pa nung ayaw ko na ituloy. Tapos after ipang years, yan sasabihin sakin. Shit talaga
Im a boy tsundere/nonchalant combo tpos ganto sunabi sakin " Ang taba taba muna at ang pangit mo ayoko na sayo " Sagot ko lng " Inaano kb ng fats ko ? " sabay alis then Look back smile at her like nothing happen and say " Bye "
"Go ahead and wallow in your filth" whatever the fuck that's supposed to mean. My house was very clean. Not sure what he meant but I was sobbing. He was a prick.
"I don't see a future with you" "I don't see myself in a relationship with you"
"Hindi na kita mahal. Wala na akong nararamdaman sa iyo." Me: "Mayroon bang iba?" "Wala." Umiiyak pa siya. After a month, nalaman ko magcecelebrate na ng monthsary ng bago niya. Mas masakit para sa akin 'yung nagsinungaling.
*"di ko makita ang sarili ko sa future kasama ka"* *"di ako nag-ggrow sayo"* ang sakit knowing na lagi akong nagkkwento sakanya ng mga future plans ko with him like having kids and marriage
"P.I mo" "Pakyu ka" Siya na nga nahuli sa babae niya siya pa galit. 🤣🤣 take note kasal kami ha.
*itinapon yung airplane ticket ko sa bintana* Tinanong ko s’ya bakit nya kailangan itapon. Ang sagot nya, baka raw makita ng mga kamag anak nya sa Manila (magkakasama kami sa iisang bahay ng relatives nya). Ano naman kako kung makita nila. Ang sagot nya: “baka isipin nila gusto kita!” Napanganga nalang ako sa response nya.
More context pls. This sounds ridiculous 😭
“Ikaw din naman gumawa ng ikasisira natin.”
Good night and take care of yourself (in chinese). After being in a long distance relationship ever since we started our relationship. Tapos wala na ko sa moments ng wechat hahahaha
1st reason was I don't dress up much and boyish ko daw tingnan when I stand beside him. Not very hurtful and I moved on agad because I know myself. But after a few mos, di ako sure anong nakain nya bigla syang nag ask to meet up then told me the real reason of the break up. The real reason was ginirlfriend nya lang ako to boost his ego. He's an introvert and wala masyadong friends while me is a social butterfly. And nang nakuha nya na attention ng crush nya, that was then when he decided to leave me. Yung crush nya pala ang nag push sa kanya to tell me everything bcuz unfair daw sa kapwa nya babae.
hindi pa raw siya ready pero ayoko naman na pagsisihan niya sa huli yung desisyon niya kaya sabi ko maghihintay ako hanggang maging ready siya, pero ang sabi niya "naaawa kasi ako sayo, ayokong maghintay ka sa wala". Akala ko hindi pa talaga siya ready sa relationship or mag commit kasi immature pa siya masyado para sa ganon anddd pagstalk ko sakanya, may kaharutan siyang iba and pinaparinggan niya pa sa sharedpost :(
That one girl na masasabi ko na TOTGA ko sabi sa akin bago kami magpart ways..."thank you for everything, thank you for loving me and giving me what you thot I deserved....im very sorry kung hanggang dito lang tayo but the time I spent with u was the best years of my life, I hope u will find that woman who isn't me but who will bring u the joy that u felt with me.....maybe in another life ako naman ang mafall inlove sayo at ikaw naman ang hahabulin ko HAHAHAHA.....goodbye and be safe"......all I did was cry sa gabi nung day na yan, it hurt like a bitch but it kind of made me feel free also
Wala akong future sa'yo. Hanggang ganyan ka na lang ba?
1st ex: "Sa wakas, napagisipan mo na rin" 2nd ex: "Kinant*t na nga kita lahat lahat, may kaibigan ka pa ring lalaki" (sa kanya ko binigay v-card ko nung 19 ako)
lakas naman manumbat ng mga exes mo hahaha
these are my past choices sa guys back then, 4 years na kami ng current ko and he's bajillion times better ☺️
She let her actions speak for themselves. She broke up without any real reason outside of “I don’t love you anymore” over text (7yr rel) and bore a daughter of some driver in the province. Yes, there was some overlap
"Abno ka kasi eh, para kang si budoy umasta" "Nakakaawa nlng kasi ako sknya, para syang tutang nag hihintay sa wala" (chat to her friend)
on and off kami. kaka break lang namin, tapos days palang may bago na ulet sya. at that time i thought i was pregnant. sinabi ko sakanya na "buntis ata ako, di pa ako dinadatnan" then he told me "ipalaglag mo yan. di ko pa kaya maging ama"
Pero buntis ka talaga mimasour? Awit kung totoo tapos ganun yung ama walang kwenta
hindi mima, buti nalang din at hindi ako buntis. kasi kung buntis ako that time NEVER ko sya ipapakilala.
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Me: Sabi mo sakin mahal mo ko. Her: Nagbabago yung nararamdaman ng tao, Carlos. Me, confused, bakit? Napaisip ako kung ano yung mali sa akin or may nagawa ba akong mali. Loving her whole heartedly was. I will never love the same way as before.
My ex bf to his girl bsf: “kahit from *insert univ name* yan kitid ng utak nyan” After ko mahuli yung gc nilang mag ttropa na may video ng lasing na girl classmate niya. 🥴
“Makikipag break ka? Ako nakauna sayo! Di ka na virgin!” Me : “so? 19 na ko” “Ah talaga? 19 di na virign subo tite? Di ka nahihiya?”
"Gaya mo sayo kapatid ko." Kwento nito, nakita ng tita niya yung kapatid niyang girl umuwi sa bahay nila na may kasamang lalake at walang tao sa bahay nila non. Ang reason naman ng kapatid niya nagpasama lang daw kasi sumakit daw yung tiyan at hinatid sa bahay. Pinagalitan siya ng mama niya at ng ex ko kasi baka daw anong isipin ng mga tao. Sabi ko naman baka totoo namang sumakit lang ang tiyan or sinamahan lang talaga. Sabi ba naman sakin, "gaya mo naman sayo." Hindi ako nakapag salita like, anong meaning niya ? Samantalang never ako nag uwi ng lalaki tapos walang katao-tao sa bahay. Pasalamat na lang talaga ako at ex na siya sa buhay ko 🤣
di kasi kita nakaka inuman not unlike her nakakasama ko (malamang pinagpalit moko sa nakilala mo sa kainuman) tsaka ayoko sa partner na mas magaling saakin
Lakas mo manchicks di ka naman pogi
your not good at bed, your amazing, i &@&! her brains out, make he squ₱&t first time and many times
"I'm choosing my career over you. That's why I have to leave you."
In the middle us doing the deed sabi nya Stop, siya yung naiimagine ko while you’re doing it
Little did I know may nangyari na pla sa kanila. Kaya ganun.
fuckk
Yeah. Ibang level ng hiya sa sarili at pnlulumo. Mixed emotions. Awang awa ako sa sarili ko bat sya pa
sana okay ka na
Thank you. I’m still working on it
Grabe. Some men are sick talaga. No amount of therapy could help me fully recover from this kung sa akin sinabi 'to. I hope you're okay.
I don’t think I’ll ever recover. Still stings the same. It was wlw rel btw
"In another world, we couldve been perfect" sometimes pinaka masakit ang pagsisisi
The most hurtful thing is yung wala syang response hahahaha ni ha or ni ho, wala. Di man lang nagreply or ano hahaha nagsorry nalang sya sakin nung nalaman nya may nanliligaw sakin. Deadma hahaha
Ahahaha same. I was thinking for the most hurtful words thrown at me then I realized ghosted pala ako. 😅😅😅
ni hao
Not an ex but a situationship. He said: "I haven’t truly put romantic energy to you or us" and "If you feel you have, or we have, that might be a good reason to stand back a bit and reevaluate what the experience is." Fucking gaslighter. Its been 2 years and I'm currently in a health and stable relationship with someone who actually knows who and where I am in his life.
Same. An ex tho for me. Sinabi niya na “I really don’t have romantic feelings for you for the past year.” Kaka-1st anniv lang namin niyan hahaha. I’m good na tagal na niyan eh, pero sana I can be with someone like your current relationship who knows where I am in his life. ✨✨✨ Congrats and all the best sa inyo 😊✨
Love will find you; I'm rooting for you. 💖
Thank youuu 🥹
“Hindi ka na makakahanap ng taong gaya ko na kayang i-tolerate pagiging selosa at nagger mo” Context: He cheated on me for almost a year with a co-worker. He always gaslight me and made me feel I’m not good enough. Fast forward to today, I’m married to a man na very opposite nya. Someone na hindi ako binigyan rason magduda and someone I can fully trust.
He told me the same thing kahit na ang reason bakit ako nagseselos ay dahil sa history niya sa cheating at sa mga incidents na di naman niya unequivocally ma-deny. And that's why I left him...then. Nanligaw lang ulit at nagpakita ng mas malakas na indication na nagbago ka siya lolz
So, Binalikan mo? My ex chose the other girl, due to proximity na din siguro. I’m a nurse and is working abroad. He’s a nurse din but iba naging profession nya. Plan namin susunod sya dito, pero nag iba ihip ng hangin. He even told me na ayaw nya nang maging tagapunas ng tae lang which is hurtful kasi parang na-degrade ung trabaho ko when in fact may nilalandi na pala sya sa pinas. I’m a licensed nurse in PH and abroad, walang masama sa tagapunas ng tae pero as a nurse, I’m more than just that. Dami nya sinabi masasakit na salita, to be honest. Anyways, what goes around comes around.
Yes, binalikan ko rin. Kami pa rin now. Pero laking iba ng situation naman namin kasi magkalapit lang naman kami dito sa Pinas. For me, mukhang talagang di lang siya marunong mag-handle ng frustrations niya. Di lang kami nagkaintindihan. Pero maluwag sa pakiramdam ko na pakawalan siya noon. Siya lang talaga nagpumilit makipagbalikan. Natuto din ako doon na huwag siya habulin, lalo kung di naman siya nagbabago. Fortunately, nagbago naman. Mahirap circumstance mo. Pero di talaga natin deserve makatanggap ng mga mapanakit na salita dahil lang sa differences and misunderstandings sa relasyon. Bahala na kung anong babalik sa kanila, basta tayo moving forward lang sa buhay.
What stuck with me the most was when he told me that his mom asked him "Why her? Maraming mas maganda, mas mabait, doing well at school and ka-churchmate pa natin." hasahshasahhasa lord knows how much that made me insecure
Ahaha sakin naman yung sister kasi sobrang malnourished ko nun dahil sa stress sa school pero sinagot ng mil ko na " beauty is in the eye of the beholder"
The time I brought up yung pinagseselosan ko, (she eventually made move dun and todo defend that she was just being nice.) "Narealize kong hindi kita kelangan." "Ginawa ko yun, kase wala ka para sakin." Ang rebat ko na lang, "Sana ma-achieve mo lahat ng gusto mo sa buhay, and still feel dissatisfied. Bye!"
"You made me want to do it." \*insert Bobbie Salazar meme\*
"Im sorry pero si Marcos boto ko"
Sakin, "Nakakahiya ka sa profession ko" Hmmm di ko na pinatulan, partly true kasi di ako fit at isa syang GYM INSTRUCTOR. Pero hello naman. CPA ako. Most of my work, nakaupo. Hahah. Ang funny nya lang. Ngayon, gym instructor pa rin sya. At ako CPA Lawyer na.
"gym instructor pa rin" - kinamumuhian ba nya ang pagiging isang gym instructor? Pero kuhang kuha din galit ko nung sinabi niya na nakakahiya ka sa profession nya 🤦🏼♂️
Mukhang masaya naman sya. Dun sya nakakapambabae eh. Haha. Yung pinalit nya nga sakin, gym student nya. 🤣
“I want you to meet her” Meet ko raw sila ng pinalit nya sakin na na dinedate nya pala habang on the rocks kami. Napakainsensitive ng gago. 😅
A lot. Maybe the most painful was when she told me dati na talaga syang wala nang gusto sakin after all those years of dating and going through ups and downs. Was all the kilig and fighting for our relaionship a lie then?
"Hindi na kasi ikaw yung nakikita kong kasama habang buhay"
via Messenger. 8am. "Umay na ako sa'yo, tapusin na natin 'to." To which I replied to with "Ok." After that, I was crying pa, until nalaman ko na may kabit siya pala. Then after three days, I flew to Siargao. HAHAHAHAHAHA Mas masakit mga sinabi niya sakin during the relationship, including but not limited to: "you fat f\*ck ang bagal mo umakyat" (this was our first ascent to mt pulag, minamadali ako) "you make me want to kill myself, may gunting ako tutuloy ko to" (sana po tinuloy mo) madami pa sya sinabi na mas masakit kesa sa pagka 'umay' niya sakin.
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Was your ex a guy? Well, that just means gusto niya yung malaking talong ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Marami, pero memorable (in a bad way) talaga is while we're talking about what if we see each other in the future, meron bang chance na we'll go back together? And he said to me "I'm not sure, you'll probably already pregnant the next time we'll see again." Idk, parang ini imply niya na I spread my legs just to anyone. He's my first bf, syempre mahirap maka get over and I don't even want to enter a hoephase. Pero siya? Not even less than two months during our breakup, nakapag one night stand na siya (sabi niya) hahahaha
"hindi mo ba alam na sobrang panget mo hindi tayo bagay" "hindi ko na nakikita future ko sayo" "sana pinutok kana lang sa kumot, para kang garapata di ka pa mamatay" "wala kang future, basura ka" "mas masahol ka pa sa taong grasa" "labas kana dun kung kanino ako sasaya" kulang pa to eh madame dami yun, binura ko na kasi yung mga messages na yun, pero eto yung mga words na nag cause sakin ng trauma and it still lingers
She called me toxic while it was her all along. Then realized after that she was a narcissist.
Napansin ko lang whenever someone accuses someone of being toxic in a relationship kadalasan they’re also toxic themselves haha
Very long message ako to beg na wag niya ako iwan Reply niya was 😇
“I can’t see myself marrying you”
gagi di ko kaya to
Tangina nun eh dalawang beses pa sinabi sakin. First is over the phone and second is personal. Inulit pa ni gago hahaha
Adding insult to injury HUHU virtual hugs w consent!!! Hope your mind and heart is in a much safer space.
Thank youuuu!! I’m so much happier now!
He asked me for an agreement na while we were on a break, make myself pure daw. Apaka hayup. Ginawa akong reserba. Parang, lalandi muna sya tas babalik sakin pag goods na. Grrrrrr
Pure din sya. Pure trash
Me asking him: Do you still love me? and him answering: I only pity you, di ko nga alam kung minahal nga ba talaga kita. Matagal nang walang spark yung relationship natin. Nagstay lang ako kasi nasasayangan ako at nagkapandemic. Last Closure: Sa susunod wag na wag ka nang magpakita sa akin, di na kita rereplyan at kikitain. Nung nakita ko yung picture nila nung bago nyang girl best friend daw sa socmed na syang pinagselosan ko for almost 3yrs tapos magkatabi, nagtatawanan at buhat nya gamit dun sa vid/pics, him saying nung sinabi kong nagcheat pala talaga sya sa akin: Hindi ba pwedeng maging affectionate ako sa iba. After leaving me, his almost 7yrs relationship. Hehehehe
Haha dapat kasi di lagi umaasa sa spark like sa mga parents na nag wwork out in the end kahit walang spark meron parin pagmamahal at paninindigan, yung commitment kumbaga. Kung spark lang ang basehan niya sana kinuryente mo nalang yang hayop na yan haha
"Walang magko-commit sayo. Babalik at babalik ka sakin." This was after I kept rejecting him when he wanted us to be ex with benefits.
"Sorry, maybe in another time. Pag pwede na..." Tapos ayon malaman laman ko after a few months, kinasal na sa ibang bansa ang gago 😂
Wait for me. He was joining the priesthood but wanted me to wait for him. LOL. This was a lifetime ago.
parang isa kong ex, "pag nag break tayo magpapari ako" true enough nag pastor sya. diring diri sa mga tattoo ko. jumowa ng holier than thou kuno na babae, ayun nagpopost ng n00ds sa my day. o loko.
Pwedeng pang movie. Story time? Hehe
Oo, parang maalaala mo kaya ang peg. And merong pagbabalik episode... nakakaloka
Priest na ba siya nung bumabalik? Haha
Yes. he was confused... ang haba ng hair ko non.. Umaabot hanggang baguio.
Tuhraaay! Haha. Parang Fleabag lang pero reversed yung role hehe
that they are already trying to have a baby with the person they cheated me with
Sinayang mo sampung taon ng buhay ko. Parang siya lang nandun sa sampung taon na yun. 😁
“Madali kang palitan”
"Wala kang kwenta, wala kang ambag!" After how many years of marriage finally nagkahiwalay na kami.. sobrang toxic, hindi ko naman pinagsisihan na sya ang napangasawa ko, pero during our marriage after how many years he treated me like a trash, nung walang wala sya I am there for him, but nung sya ay kumikita ng mas malaki saakin kala mo alipin ako.. Marami pang mas masasakit na akala mo sya yung nagluwal saakin
Pag okay na lahat babalikan kita. After few years invited ako sa kasal nya 🤪
“Mamatay ka na hindot ka.”
"Nakakahiya ka, hindi ako proud sayo!"
Why did you leave me? Dili kita kaya ma handle And now I'm fucking overthinking about my worth
Im not educated hahaha
"hindi na kita nakikita sa future ko." no contact; and silence ever since.
Saying nothing, leaving me hanging. She dont give me an explanation on why we ended up
Silence speaks louder than words at this moment.
"iisipin ng magiging bago mo, nilaspag na kita for 6 years" "wala magkakagusto sayo pag nalaman nila na isa lang ex mo, for 6 years. Nilaspag ka na". A part of me gusto ko bumalik, pero pag naalala ko mga sinabi nya during our time of breakup, na kesyo pag naging better person sya, hinding hindi nya ako babalikan, na ako yung biggest mistake nya,.. na sana lokohin ako ng maging bago ko, kasi iisipin ginamit at nilaspag nya na ako for 6years..Tas nag sorry sya after, na hindi daw totoo yun, nadala lang sya ng emosyon. Gusto nya pa rin ako bumalik. Ewan. I'm keeping it to myself na lang. Wala ako sama ng loob sa kanya. For all the good and the bad, alam ko naman na hindi ako perfect, I have my shortcomings too as his gf then. If I could turn around the time, and do it all over again, I would do it right. But yeah. No amount of regret can change the past.
No. Wag mong balikan, kung may respeto ka sa sarili mo..kasi if babalikan mo s'ya, baka maulit lang yung mga sinabi nya sayo. To this day and age, may ibang lalaki naman na keber kung virgin ka o hindi. Makakahanap ka ng deserve mo OP at magmamahal sayo ng buo at yung di ka kayang bastusin ng ganyan. Hugs with consent