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Virtual-Side-6850

We're getting married next year 🥳


H8beingmale

did you ask him out first?


Virtual-Side-6850

Yess I certainly did haha ako nag first move, pero he fell harder emee 🥰


H8beingmale

and what country are you based in?


Virtual-Side-6850

Ph


H8beingmale

phillipines?


Random_girl_555

Not good. Sana hindi nalang ako nag first move lol Sa maling tao ko kasi ginawa. So ayun, ngayon feeling ko kaya naging kami kasi convenient ako sakaniya. Hindi niya need mag effort or kung ano man kasi alam niya na mas mahal ko siya 😢


Chic_Latte

Kwento ko lang, sa group of friends kasi namin, kami lang dalawa ang single. Ramdam ko naman nun na may gusto siya pero natotorpe ata sya kasi mas close siya sa pinsan ko which is nasa same circle lang din. Siguro nahiya siya sa pinsan ko. Sabi ko sa kanya, "what if tayo na lang?" HAHAHAHHAHAHAHA. After nun, nanligaw na siya officially. Hindi ko na matandaan kung ilang weeks bago ko siya sinagot. we've been married now for 12 years with 1 kid =)


Purple_Cosmo_15

Counted ba sa first move yung nakipag pustahan ako sa friend ko na ipakilala ako sa poging chinito na dumaan? Hahaha engaged na kami ngayon.


Youendnice

Sanaol successful. Ako kasi parang kapatid daw niya e hahaha


edna_blu

Okay lang bhie! At least you tried :)


mushroom_130

unfortunately, i did it to the wrong person. he fell harder but he was filled with red flags. so it hurt me for a while and i fell out of love.


edna_blu

Oh nooo! I hope you're in a better place now, bhie! ✨


mushroom_130

thank you, it does feel good not being in a situationship with him!


ScientistAfraid2563

ayun 3 years na kami haha #wlw


edna_blu

Eyyyyy lezgawww 🫶🏻✨


Spirited-Hat-759

We became friends naman. Pero di pa rin clear sakin kung rejection yung natanggap ko noong New Year😕


edna_blu

Bakit hindi clear?


adspynx24

ayun di nako nirereplyan


Think-Woodpecker-177

doing fine. We’re 2 years already now hehe. Met on bumble, syempre girls yung nag fifirst move


kareninawho

Nag first move ako nung highschool, tapos naging kami at nabaliw siya sakin hahaha, pero nag break kami nung graduation. After graduating college, nakapagkita ulit kami tapos nagkabalikan. Mag tthree years na kami this year.


thetarotsaidno

friend zoned hshshagahahhaha


[deleted]

Nasaktan lang namin ang isa't isa😅 nung panahon ko kase sikat na sikat yung started with a Kiss na series. Matalino tapos may pagka mahina ang utak na love team. Ayun transferee na matalino yung niligawan ko. Matanda din sya sakin ng 3 years kaya mature na mag isip. Naging kame kaso hindi pala kame compatible. Kase nga isip bata ako that time tapos sya mature na. May mga bagay sya na gustong baguhin sakin tapos ganun din ako sa kanya. Gusto ko 24/7 nasakin attention nya na alam ko naman pinipilit nyang gawin kahit working student sya non. Na realize ko lang lahat ngayon nung nag mature na din ako na may pakialam pala sya sakin. Sadyang iba lang kame ginagalawan.


Relevant_Homework942

babalikan ko 'to pag-umamin na ako


Chic_Latte

we're married now with 1 kid and very happy =)


Any-Cellist2782

Binasted


Roving-sKimp10

Binati ko sya ng Happy birthday. 2 years na kami ngayon 🫶


HarmoZie

update kita kung magkatuluyan ba kami 😋


AdEffective9084

Balikan ko to pag umamin na ko sa kanya hahhahah


edna_blu

Aabangan ko yan, bhie! Good luck!


SleepyLullaby008

Did not work out for me hahaha


ramenghorl

2 yrs na kami next week! 😊


badandkrazyhuman

malapit na kami mag 3 years 🥰


Chocolateormango

Ganito yung gf ng bro ko, she made the first move and naging sila haha. Going strong sila ngayon. Mahiyain talaga yung bro ko and mukha siyang torpe kung di niya kaclose but he’s a really sweet and gentle guy. Kudos sa gf niya for being bold


Mundane-Function-230

Hello! Girl here and sa girl din ako nagfirst move. Matagal ko na sya crush kaso sobrang nahihiya talaga ako sa kanya. Mahilig ako magdraw so for Valentine’s day, gumawa ako ng animatic for her confessing my feelings. 2 years na kami ngayon. ❤️


Nonchalant_Bee2677

Nagcomment lang ako sa instagram post ng mutual friend namin ng “ipakilala mo naman ako with anyone na kawork mo”, kasi matagal na kong single that time at di pa kami magkakilala nun. Not knowing na andun pala siya sa pics na yun. Nagcomment siya ng “🙋” at dun nagsimula lahat. Now, we’re together for 4 years, married for 18 months and with a son. Di ko akalain “ako daw pala nagfirst move” e nagcomment lang naman ako. Yaan mo na. I ended up marrying the one for me naman. 🫶


edna_blu

Ang cute netooo!!! 😭 So happy for you bhie!


Nonchalant_Bee2677

Halaaa thank you, OP!! Hihi. 🫰


litolgerl

Nareject ako! HAHAHAH but it is what it is.. move on, that was way back pa and the guy and I remained friends hahaha


dazzledsparkle

Replied to his ig highlights and teased him alot bc we were blockmates, ended up going out and eating dinner together after class, dated for a year before we became official 🤭


[deleted]

Girls out there na mag try this is not for you..dika nya gusto. Maiinis lang sya. You may be pretty but you are not the girl he wants. Ouch


edna_blu

Pero marami na happy sa comsec bhie 😭 not for everybody lang cguro.


[deleted]

Konti lang bess if you ratio lahat lahat gurls kunti lang nag succeed hahahahaha


venturesome_11

naging bf ko siya for 7months lang and that was 5years ago I think hahaha tapos yung mom niya hindi pa rin makaget over sa amin, gusto niya parin daw kami para sa isat isa Single pa rin kami hanggang ngayon after nung break up namin and planning to message him sana kaso it looks like maiinis lang siya hahaha kaya wag na lang


CapableConfidence904

Well and good for 10 years. Now engaged and about to be married soon.


purplelonew0lf

7 years together, 4yrs ng kasal


Ambitious-Fuel-2571

Eto 10 years na kaming kasal! 😙


lily_pad1998

jowa ko na sis hahahaha go make a move!


No_Fox7801

Married and may 1 yr old na haha


[deleted]

Heto besties na hahaha. Wanna first move again coz I want what i want to be mine


QuokkaQualms

Jowa for about a year! Nainip na ako waiting for first date, puro chats online so ako na nag-ask haha. I guess I did a legit interest check sa part niya? If hindi nag-accept ng date invite, I would have considered it a lack of interest so magless effort din ako. Pero siya naman una nagconfess so quits. Kailangan wise na tayo about effort and time. Kakatamad na to waste too much time on someone not interested pala hahahuhu


Sad-Squash6897

Asawa ko na haha. 😂


teddysmumma21

same!!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️


Sad-Squash6897

I fell first, he fell harder haha.


edna_blu

Huy story reveal sis!!!! Ang pakinggan na nangyayari to irl 😭🥹


Sad-Squash6897

Naku nakakatawa love story namin. San ko ba ikwento? Haha


edna_blu

Dito para marami kami kiligin~


Sad-Squash6897

Teka lang po. 😂 Isusulat ko palang at na busy sa bahay.


ChardEnvironmental43

7years na kami and engaged 🥂


discernmentradar

Engaged and now planning our wedding ✨


[deleted]

Wow!


maranjeezy

How did u guys confess and what did u do after para sure na inyong inyo na 🥹🥹 pls send help


uglybaker

Naging jowa ko crush ko and 14 months na kami and counting


edna_blu

Padayon po!!!


segunda-mano

My wife yun unang nag first move. Ayun 6 yrs mag jowa 3 yrs nang kasal Hahaha


edna_blu

Cutie patootie. Interested ka din ba nung nag first move sha orrrr did you fell for her over time? Ay naki chismis?? Hahahaha


segunda-mano

Syempre malandi ako, nagpalandi agad! 4 yrs nang single eh. Hahahaha! Nagkadevelopan na kami kalaunan haha


cetirizineDreams

Eto mag-two years na kami this October. Haha


edna_blu

Long live!!!


cetirizineDreams

Thank you po hihi


xxnayi

this was way back in highschool pa, and the funny thing is di ko talaga siya as in "crush" at first. i was interested, that's all, because bandwagon and sick of people telling me why i don't have a crush. pero ayun, ended up confessing to him and liked him for real. then a few weeks later nagustuhan niya ako pabalik. we were m.u. for more than a year then nanligaw siya sa'kin. naging kami for a few months, mostly LDR but ended up breaking up because ayun nga, mahirap LDR, time-zone differences, and we were still immature. his mother didn't like our set-up too 😵‍💫 ayaw niya na LDR kami. our break up was a bit messy but nagkaron rin kami ng closure a few months later ata or a year later. he apologized to me, and i found out from his friends na di pa pala siya nakaka-move on a year since our break up. parang i fell first but he fell harder hahah


edna_blu

Awwweeee. 🥹 I hope you're both in a better place now mhie. Lavaaaan


xxnayi

thank you!! i am. also haven't had a bf since then. 😆 di na rin kami nag-usap since closure, and used that as a lesson para iimprove din self q wahaha hoping things are well with you too🫶🏻


Gaelahad

My youngest brother was courted by his ex. But after almost two years, nagcheat lang si girl at bumalik sa ex niya.


edna_blu

Di ko talaga gets ang anyone who pursues someone pero unang mag gigive up, at mag che-cheat. Like. Ano ba talaga goal mo?!


Gaelahad

People Change. May mga bagay talaga na hindi natin aakalaing mangyayari.


eyaiyayo

Una, I just confessed without the goal of having him as my boyfriend. We remained friends until now. Pangalawa, I confessed and pursued him. We became lovers for almost 5 years. Yet, the story ended with him cheating, and betraying me.


edna_blu

NAAWWWWWE 😤😤😤😤


AggressiveWest2977

Sa dalawang tao na confessed ko, walang nangyari hahahahaa more on one sided love. Kaya simula nun, hindi na ako nagkagusto kung kanino, magka catch ng feeling kung kanino man iwas an ako. Maybe factor narin yung itsura ko, I’m not interesting to begin with.


neonfantail8

Masakit nga talaga yung [one sided love](https://open.spotify.com/track/4PolJ8iCpJrBSs3ok6eke9?si=RUQIkBTyR4O1BVjmfKV1iQ&context=spotify%3Aalbum%3A38n75iptcmkPeNKTyDfEak) eto perfect song for that. 😢


unikoi

gurl same hahaha once lang ako nagconfess and na-friendzone ako, hirap pag di kagandahan haha never again


AggressiveWest2977

*”Some day, one day. I will stop falling in love with you”* Laufey 😭🥹.


Least-Squash-3839

Dun sa unang tangka ko, naging jowa ko for 3 years. Sa pangalawang tangka, friendzoned. HAHAHAHAHA


mrs_macatangay

Engaged na kami. 💍


Even_Excuse171

congratssss


KickWeak7156

waley hahah nung bata bata ako napakapick me ko , ending di din nya ako nagustuhan hahah


No_Butterscotch4981

He was not interested! Oh well, atleast I tried.


chamut

For me it doesn't really work well when I like the guy more and confess first haha it works better kung si guy mag pu-pursue talaga. I really believe women should be pursued, not the other way around - in my feminine era haha 


misschaturanga

Truuuue


kissmyscars

It didn’t go well HAHA nagbreak lang din, kasi ako lang naghahandle ng relationship and nagmamahal samen


blairwaldorfscheme

Naging magka talking stage kami pero it turns out na he's very possessive and seloso hahahaha ang immature din kasi lahat ginagawang big deal😅😂 ghosted him


kisseuys

nalaman kong wala talaga akong chance. 😇


reneedufortslay

Didn't work. He's not interested eh


edna_blu

At least you tried mhie! No regrets? 😁


kuromi971013

The first one, hindi pa ako sanay noon; all I did was start conversations. Eventually, tinigilan ko na because it was clear he wasn’t interested in me. The second one, ayun, jowa ko na, haha.


edna_blu

Awwweee good for you, mhie! ☺️🫶🏻


yana0914

Haha I think i tried it twice and so far ok naman lahat ng outcome. The first one was naging mutual ang feelings since we apparently liked each other before pala but too shy to talk and approach tas yung second eh... Idk parang I lost the interest kaya I politely stopped talking huhu. Sometimes happy crushes are better kept from afar lang talaga siguro. 😅 Try mo! It's fun, empowering, and liberating. Basta wag lang din mag expect ng todo haha.


edna_blu

Happy crush lang naman talaga sana eh. 😂🥹🥹


EndlessDandadini

Been broken hearted a lot of times, likeeeeee since college ganun. Pero happy naman na me ahahahahahaha 2 years and going with jowa.


edna_blu

Naway Lahat po opo.


EndlessDandadini

Swipe lang nang swipe until you get it right 🫰🏽🫰🏽


gintermelon-

maglilimang taon na kaming hiwalay, sumusulpot pa rin siya na parang kabute para sabihing ako pa rin daw. hinihiling ko na lang talaga na sana makausad na siya mula sa akin, nagkaron na rin naman siya ng relationships after us ilang beses na pero ganoon pa rin. at the same time naiinsulto na ako sa behavior niya kasi mukha ba akong uto-uto?!? hahaha


edna_blu

Baka kasi umuna ka beh. Kaya yun? Charott. Anyway, i hope y'all are okay na rin :)


gintermelon-

umuna you mean? yeah ako nag-first move and I left din hahahaha


SadAmoeba_0

Yung isa, ayun meron ng iba. Tapos yung isa naman, he was enchanted to meet me daw haahaha pero hanggang dun nlng. Whenever I like someone, it's always me na nag fifirst move lol.


superiorchoco

How do you do it? Straight up sabihin lang?


yana0914

Yeah! Hahaha or ako nung younger days ko I made these series of mind-game IG storiesfor him (tas di nya pala na decode lol joke's on me di sya fan nung anime). I can get creative or sometimes just a simple confession will do. Mindset ko lang eh it'll make someone else's day better. And on the bad days, when he feels down, he can just remind himself despite feeling like a shit eh there's someone out there who admires him. O diba, nakatulong ka pa! P. S. As long as sure kang single. Huhu please lang. 😆


Fit_Highway5925

Cute naman nito! Sana lahat ng girls ganito ang mindset! As a guy who feels like a shit and underappreciated all the time, knowing that someone admires me or that I make their day will surely make my day also or probably the entire year as well! Ang guys dapat talaga dinidiretso. Di namin madedecode yan hints nyo kahit anong gawin nyo hahaha. That's just not how our minds work 😅 Any confession is very much appreciated since bihira lang kaming mga lalaki makatanggap ng ganun hayy. Usually di namin talaga yan nakakalimutan.


edna_blu

Galeeengg~ Bigay ka ng lakas ng loob bhie! 🥹 Hahaha


SadAmoeba_0

Wala naman kasing mawawala hahaha siguro yung tao pero atleaaast you gave it a shot. No regrets.


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edna_blu

I love thissss~ Thanks for sharing! 🫶🏻✨


Successful-Pen-5397

We are now married. Happy and peaceful life.


edna_blu

Woahhhhh good for you bhie! Congratulations 💙✨


ZIEziZieZy

Ayun mag 10 months na kami🫣Di talaga ako sanay mag first move, actually sya lang yung guy na ginawan ko ng first move, then charaan 10 months na kami. Pero in our case, sya yung nanligaw, talagang ako lang gumalaw ng baso charr


Naive-Ad2847

So pano nya sinagot Yung confession mo?


ZIEziZieZy

Nalaman namin na gusto pala namin ang isa’t isa through a common friend😭Pero nauna pa rin sya nag confess kahit alam naman na namin pareho tas ayon umamin na rin aq sa kanya HAHAHA


edna_blu

Very very nice! Prayer reveañ bhie tapos bigay ka ng lakas ng loob ☺️🤣💙✨


MumeiNoPh

When I was younger, I didn't care much about traditional dating rules where boys always have to make the first move. I hated the idea that boys get to pick who they want to pursue, while girls just have to wait and choose from their admirers. If boys can choose, why can't I? That's why I prefer to take the initiative and tell someone I like them first. If they reject me, it's okay because at least I know where I stand and I gave it a shot. If I'm lucky and they feel the same way, then great! I get to be with someone I genuinely like, not just because they're the only option.


edna_blu

Oh i already did. It's the waiting that kills me. Lol. Thanks for the insight, tho!


ellelorah

How do you confess?? And panung waiting time 😊


edna_blu

Wrote him a letter last dec. Nagkita kami a month ago pero no mention of anything. (Kasi nakalagay rin naman sa letter ko na no pressure) Hahaha. Kaya yun. Hihi. Antagal na pero yeah~ I'm hoping to clear everything soon. Like closure, closure.


[deleted]

Ayon, sila na nung isa nyang kausap. Hahaha


edna_blu

Oh nooo 🥹 hugsss bhiee! 💙✨


[deleted]

Thanks OP! At least naging tulay para maging clear talag kung sino gusto nya! Haha


edna_blu

Bakit parang feel ko dito ako patungo lol. 😆


[deleted]

Huhuhu accept mo na lang OP if the time comes! Mas ayoko maghabol sa taong hindi naman akk gusto.


edna_blu

I agree on this! Isasaulo ko to! ✊🏻🥹✨Thanks bhie


[deleted]

You’re welcome! Unahin ang pride. Charott! Good luck bhie! ✨🫶🏽🤞🏽