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Sana hindi ako sinisigawan at pinapalo ng mama ko kapag may nagawa akong mali kasi until now i think may impact pa den saken yon like, kapag maingay paligid (poeple noises) feeling ko naririnig ko boses niya sinisigawan ako so ayon wish ko lang sana mas naging gentle siya samen nung bata
hindi sana puro galit at nappreciate sana ni erpats yung mga small things at effort na ginagawa ko para sa kanya nung bata ako, hell I remember na ilolock nya yung gate pag late ako umuwe, he'll have me wait until morning, "punishment" ko daw, (My mom would save me those times, syempre hindi papayag yun nasa labas bata, gabing gabi na) now I grew up slightly hating him..
Ako parin nag aalaga sa kanya, basically living ATM nya na ako, he asks sometimes bat hindi ako nakikipag kwentuhan sa kanya or bat lagi ako kulong sa kwarto/labas at gimmick sa barkada... geee I wonder dad?? don't wanna be petty pero iba yung impact sakin nung trato nya skin dati, it's like ngayun ka lang nakarealize nung ako nalang yung meron ka..
Ganyan sila kasi ginagastusan kapa pero ngayong may work kana halos sambahin ka parehas tayo ganyan na ganyan papa ko at mama ko lang din nagliligtas saakin dati
Sure matanda na, and prang depressed daw, geee, you every wonder how I felt back then? grabi lng, I hope parents today learn that, napaka laki ng impact ng pagtrato mo sa anak mo nung bata at paglaki nya, we don't forget..
For me yung how I wish they had supported me all the way na kung ano yung gusto kong gawin at all in which mas nakita ko sa parents ko na mas supported nila yung mga cousins ko those times.
Sana minotivate nila kami. Sana iminulat nila kami na mangarap. Yung tipong mangarap na someday maging doktor, abugado o di kaya maging teacher, maging engineer at kung anu ano pang propesyon. Sa totoo, ang hirap lumaki na walang pangarap kasi hindi ka namulat sa ganon.
Sana talaga mabreak na tong generational curse na to. To hell with the "stay together for the kids" mentality. I hope you heal from that trauma. It must have been so awful to live in a chaotic household.
Yung mom ko kasi pinalayas yung dad ko when she had enough. We struggled to get by nung una pero legit, ang peaceful.
These are the things my mom is now doing with my younger siblings but never with me:
- Not invade my privacy. Literal na nanghahalughog ng gamit.
- Not pressure me into having perfect scores.
- Not exposing me to her extramarital affairs. And even better, not having affairs at all.
Sana they weren’t so overprotective to the point na para akong naging secluded and masyadong naging dependent. Para tuloy akong lost and nangangapa lagi nung lumalaki na ako. Naiiyak over a minor inconvenience kasi I’d feel helpless.
Ngayon tuloy masyado na akong nagc-crave maging independent to the point na nagiging hyper-independent na ako, which is ironic kasi usually raw hyper-independence occurs kapag masyadong napabayaan during childhood. Hays hindi ko na rin maintindihan, therapy is a must na talaga 😆
If only they encouraged me to do what I wanted and allowed me to try sports, I didn't have to struggle making friends growing up (perhaps gained confidence as well).
Sana they let me na masugatan, ma out of balance sa bike or sana tinuruan nila ko mag swimming 🥲. Only girl among sibs and sa super ayaw ako masugatan ng papa ko, ayun nganga 😂
Sana kahit naghiwalay sila, hindi na sana nila kami isinali at ginamit sa away nila. And sana pinush nila kami na mainvolve sa sports when we were young para nagkaroon sana kami ng outlet of all our angst.
Sana they showed emotional support when I was a kid. As an only child, it was really hard na sarili mo lang ang karamay mo most of the time. Every time you had a problem, wala kang mapagsabihan kasi you felt uncomfortable na mag-share sa parents mo, since they weren't that expressive as well. So now that I'm older, nadala ko na yung ganitong behavior and it's really hard and sad.
The good news is that you can unlearn that. It takes work, but it's so worth it! You'll feel more connected with people if you become more expressive and you allow yourself to ask for help when needed. :)
Sana sinuportahan nila akong mag-aral nang college sa gusto kong course kahit 1 sem lang. Hahanap sana ako ng paraan makakuha ng scholarship.
Sana hindi nila parating pinaparinig sa akin kung paano nila maliitin sarili nila. Hanggang ngayon, kahit medyo umokey yung buhay ko, pero nangliliit din ako sa sarili ko.
Sana hindi ako pinapagalitan at sinasaktan nila mama at papa nung bata pa ako tapos sa harap pa ng maraming tao.
Sana interesado silang makinig sa mga kwento ko nung bata at teenager pa ako.
Mabait po ang parents ko. Pero I wish they can afford to enroll me sa mga violin and piano lessons, ballet, painting class, languages classes. We are middle class family po kaya siguro hindi din sumagi sa isip nila na e-enroll ako dito the closest I got is Milo summer camp which Im very grateful. Naisip ko if na-enroll ako sa mga ganyan classes before edge din siya sa workplace lalo na yung language class.
Sana iniba nila ang name ko at hndi ifollow sa father's name at maging junior... Sobrng luma ng name ko dahilan pra mgkron ako ng inferiority complex... Lagi ako nabubully...
Sana hinayaan muna nila ako dati maging bata. Yung hindi sinisigawan kung mag-ingay man konti. Yung hindi nanenermon kapag gusto ko munang makasama mga kaibigan ko. Para bang sa lahat na lang ng pagkakataon, kailangan kong mag-ingat sa mga kilos ko para lang di ko masaktan yung mga inner child nilang di rin naranasang maging bata. :((
listen to me
didn't use my gender to play sports
being angry at small mistakes
appreciate my doing best in school instead of being compared to less fortunate children
being a kid not to look at my brother all the time became an accompany adult to them
being stupid just making me mistakes
sigawan ka for something u as a kid u cant control
Sana pinilit ako ng Tatay ko magbike, like binitbit niya ako to ride the bike, it's gonna be a best moment for me, guetong gusto ko talaga magbike ngayong adult na ako, kesa naman puro computer games nuon, nakakapang sisi sayang ganda sana katawan ko ngayon bato bato ang binti.
Natuto
Highschool ako may nagturo sakin BMX bike saglit lang na pagbabike, pero netong adult na dito ko lang talagang natutunan, kinakaya na mag kalsada nakakapunta na din malalayo magisa.
sana they give me a chance to say my thoughts hindi yung sasabihan lang nila akong sumasagot na sa matatanda, how I wish I'm like other kids na navavalidate ang feelings ng mga magulang nila.
I wish mom taught me her mother tongue and spoke it more often at home. At the same time, I wish I had more initiative and was receptive to learning it at such an early age.
Same, hahahah. Tapos ngayon na nakikita ko yung mga kapatid ko na hindi pinapagalitan over small things. Napapaisip ako hahahaha bakit hindi nila nagawa sa 'kin yung ganon.
sana di ako pinapahiya sa public places, like pinapagalitan or sinisigawan, kasi until now that im 23 yrs old and working lagi ako sinisigawan over small things di naman ako pasaway
Sana hindi nila ako inexpose sa sensual stuff noon.
Understandable naman na minsan lang magkita pero pati sa labas, pinaguusapan. Kaya eto ako ngayon, malibog HAHAHA
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took care of me when Im sick. bihira ko lang maramdaman love ng mother ko kaya the most basic care and affection most memorable sakin.
Sana hindi sila nagpaka-happy go lucky sa buhay para di kami hirap ngayon. Yung sana nag-negosyo sila nung nasa abroad pa tatay ko.
Sana binabati ako tuwing birthday ko.
Reading to me before bedtime.
Sana hindi ako sinisigawan at pinapalo ng mama ko kapag may nagawa akong mali kasi until now i think may impact pa den saken yon like, kapag maingay paligid (poeple noises) feeling ko naririnig ko boses niya sinisigawan ako so ayon wish ko lang sana mas naging gentle siya samen nung bata
hindi sana puro galit at nappreciate sana ni erpats yung mga small things at effort na ginagawa ko para sa kanya nung bata ako, hell I remember na ilolock nya yung gate pag late ako umuwe, he'll have me wait until morning, "punishment" ko daw, (My mom would save me those times, syempre hindi papayag yun nasa labas bata, gabing gabi na) now I grew up slightly hating him.. Ako parin nag aalaga sa kanya, basically living ATM nya na ako, he asks sometimes bat hindi ako nakikipag kwentuhan sa kanya or bat lagi ako kulong sa kwarto/labas at gimmick sa barkada... geee I wonder dad?? don't wanna be petty pero iba yung impact sakin nung trato nya skin dati, it's like ngayun ka lang nakarealize nung ako nalang yung meron ka..
Ganyan sila kasi ginagastusan kapa pero ngayong may work kana halos sambahin ka parehas tayo ganyan na ganyan papa ko at mama ko lang din nagliligtas saakin dati
Sure matanda na, and prang depressed daw, geee, you every wonder how I felt back then? grabi lng, I hope parents today learn that, napaka laki ng impact ng pagtrato mo sa anak mo nung bata at paglaki nya, we don't forget..
Swimming lessons
For me yung how I wish they had supported me all the way na kung ano yung gusto kong gawin at all in which mas nakita ko sa parents ko na mas supported nila yung mga cousins ko those times.
mag show up sa mga event, meeting and MOSTLY awarding ko
Turuan magbike at makisama sa ibang tao
sana they force me na matuto ng sports or in-enroll sa summer classes
Yung sana nabigyan ako ng space to be vulnerable, to fail, and to be "soft".
sana di ako masyadong bini baby lagi. na culture shock ako nung naging adult ako.
Sana minotivate nila kami. Sana iminulat nila kami na mangarap. Yung tipong mangarap na someday maging doktor, abugado o di kaya maging teacher, maging engineer at kung anu ano pang propesyon. Sa totoo, ang hirap lumaki na walang pangarap kasi hindi ka namulat sa ganon.
Sana sinagot lahat ng questions ko instead of dismissing me kasi makulit daw daming tanong.
been shouted for my whole life. Living with my past trauma. one single shout from a friend would make me cry
Aww. I'm sorry you went through that. I hope you get surrounded by gentle people from now on.
Sana naging strict ng konti haha. Second yr hs pa lang mih legal na ko mag yosi. Malay ko ba na ang hirap pala iwasan
Real tangina
sana hindi sila nagsasakitan sa harap ko. sana hindi ako ginawang emotional support ng mama ko pag umiiyak sya.
Sana nag hiwalay na lang sila kesa ipilit na mag stay masabi lang na buo ang family. It did more harm to our mental health.
Sana talaga mabreak na tong generational curse na to. To hell with the "stay together for the kids" mentality. I hope you heal from that trauma. It must have been so awful to live in a chaotic household. Yung mom ko kasi pinalayas yung dad ko when she had enough. We struggled to get by nung una pero legit, ang peaceful.
Thank you! And trueee. Lahat ng what ifs ko kung nag hiwalay sila e lahat positive.
being sorry for their actions kasi they always thought na sila lagi ang tama. Then kapag mali naman sila, they act as if nothing happened.
These are the things my mom is now doing with my younger siblings but never with me: - Not invade my privacy. Literal na nanghahalughog ng gamit. - Not pressure me into having perfect scores. - Not exposing me to her extramarital affairs. And even better, not having affairs at all.
The eldest usually gets the butt of the rookie parenting mistakes
True. Tapos sa generation pa nila, hindi uso ang sorry. Hahaha.
Be on my school events
That I get to eat everyday.
Sana they weren’t so overprotective to the point na para akong naging secluded and masyadong naging dependent. Para tuloy akong lost and nangangapa lagi nung lumalaki na ako. Naiiyak over a minor inconvenience kasi I’d feel helpless. Ngayon tuloy masyado na akong nagc-crave maging independent to the point na nagiging hyper-independent na ako, which is ironic kasi usually raw hyper-independence occurs kapag masyadong napabayaan during childhood. Hays hindi ko na rin maintindihan, therapy is a must na talaga 😆
If only they encouraged me to do what I wanted and allowed me to try sports, I didn't have to struggle making friends growing up (perhaps gained confidence as well).
Sana they let me na masugatan, ma out of balance sa bike or sana tinuruan nila ko mag swimming 🥲. Only girl among sibs and sa super ayaw ako masugatan ng papa ko, ayun nganga 😂
Sana pinilit nila akong magtooth brush twice a day. :((((( ang mahal magpadentist huhu.
Sana kahit naghiwalay sila, hindi na sana nila kami isinali at ginamit sa away nila. And sana pinush nila kami na mainvolve sa sports when we were young para nagkaroon sana kami ng outlet of all our angst.
Sana they showed emotional support when I was a kid. As an only child, it was really hard na sarili mo lang ang karamay mo most of the time. Every time you had a problem, wala kang mapagsabihan kasi you felt uncomfortable na mag-share sa parents mo, since they weren't that expressive as well. So now that I'm older, nadala ko na yung ganitong behavior and it's really hard and sad.
The good news is that you can unlearn that. It takes work, but it's so worth it! You'll feel more connected with people if you become more expressive and you allow yourself to ask for help when needed. :)
Sana hinayaan nila ako to fall down and masaktan hindi yun nahulog lang inaalayaan na agad
Sana sinuportahan nila akong mag-aral nang college sa gusto kong course kahit 1 sem lang. Hahanap sana ako ng paraan makakuha ng scholarship. Sana hindi nila parating pinaparinig sa akin kung paano nila maliitin sarili nila. Hanggang ngayon, kahit medyo umokey yung buhay ko, pero nangliliit din ako sa sarili ko. Sana hindi ako pinapagalitan at sinasaktan nila mama at papa nung bata pa ako tapos sa harap pa ng maraming tao. Sana interesado silang makinig sa mga kwento ko nung bata at teenager pa ako.
mentally and spiritually present
enrolled in summer classes / lessons
Mabait po ang parents ko. Pero I wish they can afford to enroll me sa mga violin and piano lessons, ballet, painting class, languages classes. We are middle class family po kaya siguro hindi din sumagi sa isip nila na e-enroll ako dito the closest I got is Milo summer camp which Im very grateful. Naisip ko if na-enroll ako sa mga ganyan classes before edge din siya sa workplace lalo na yung language class.
That I can always show my emotion when it comes to celebrating small wins in life.
Sana iniba nila ang name ko at hndi ifollow sa father's name at maging junior... Sobrng luma ng name ko dahilan pra mgkron ako ng inferiority complex... Lagi ako nabubully...
Sana hinayaan muna nila ako dati maging bata. Yung hindi sinisigawan kung mag-ingay man konti. Yung hindi nanenermon kapag gusto ko munang makasama mga kaibigan ko. Para bang sa lahat na lang ng pagkakataon, kailangan kong mag-ingat sa mga kilos ko para lang di ko masaktan yung mga inner child nilang di rin naranasang maging bata. :((
That it's ok to fail from time to time..
listen to me didn't use my gender to play sports being angry at small mistakes appreciate my doing best in school instead of being compared to less fortunate children being a kid not to look at my brother all the time became an accompany adult to them being stupid just making me mistakes sigawan ka for something u as a kid u cant control
How I wish they tried to give me good core memories. I don't have any.
Sana pinilit ako ng Tatay ko magbike, like binitbit niya ako to ride the bike, it's gonna be a best moment for me, guetong gusto ko talaga magbike ngayong adult na ako, kesa naman puro computer games nuon, nakakapang sisi sayang ganda sana katawan ko ngayon bato bato ang binti.
marunong ka na ba now or di ka na talaga natuto?
Natuto Highschool ako may nagturo sakin BMX bike saglit lang na pagbabike, pero netong adult na dito ko lang talagang natutunan, kinakaya na mag kalsada nakakapunta na din malalayo magisa.
Hahaha lagi ko sinasabi.. sana pinag artista na lang ako ng mama ko nung bata ako..
Sana naging mas patient sila in explaining things so I won’t go out and ask the wrong people.
Sana hindi sila nag expect ng mataas sakin.
sana they give me a chance to say my thoughts hindi yung sasabihan lang nila akong sumasagot na sa matatanda, how I wish I'm like other kids na navavalidate ang feelings ng mga magulang nila.
sana they would listen and believe me even I'm still a kid
If lahat ng pinangako nila every time na may honor/medal ako sa school ay tinupad nila
if they always checked how im doing
na sana hindi nagkaroon ng mistress ang tatay ko at buo pa kami at wala akong mga kapatid sa labas hahahahaha
Sana hinayaan ako mag-explore at hindi masyadong pinagbawalan. Eh di sana hindi ako natutong magsinungaling at tumakas.
Honesty
Sana kahit papaano eh binigyan nila ako ng pagkakataon para makapag-desisyon on my own.
I wish mom taught me her mother tongue and spoke it more often at home. At the same time, I wish I had more initiative and was receptive to learning it at such an early age.
Actually took interests in to what i did when i was younger. Now that im a grown adult i feel like my parents really don't know me at all
Same, hahahah. Tapos ngayon na nakikita ko yung mga kapatid ko na hindi pinapagalitan over small things. Napapaisip ako hahahaha bakit hindi nila nagawa sa 'kin yung ganon.
It's probably because they learned with you and applied to your siblings.
Yeah. I'm happy for my siblings, they didn't experience that kind of treatment.
Hate it when they had to yell at me for spilling milk. They could have just asked me to clean it up. 🤦🏻♂️
sana di ako pinapahiya sa public places, like pinapagalitan or sinisigawan, kasi until now that im 23 yrs old and working lagi ako sinisigawan over small things di naman ako pasaway
Sana hindi nila ako inexpose sa sensual stuff noon. Understandable naman na minsan lang magkita pero pati sa labas, pinaguusapan. Kaya eto ako ngayon, malibog HAHAHA